aye thanks for watching dude and im glad you figured that out for yourself. tbh i still get those random urges where i don’t feel like im accomplishing enough fast enough, but i think that’s just part of the human condition, always just re-centering yourself and not letting those worst instincts or insecurities win. hope you’re doing well now man and enjoying your path in life. appreciate you again for taking the time to comment, have a great day :)
i think hes wrong, your life does end at 30, i'm less tahn 2 years away and i'm making as much money as i can and getting my shit together, so i can go off in the woods and live the life i want without people telling me what to do with my life
@@introvertedmadness so true ive been feeling it a lot lately, theres this exam im trying to ace but i cant for the past year and im so down , tmr is my last paper, pray for me i qualify this time ❤ love your content btw
literally 15 and i have to decide between "oh should i live for myself rn and enjoy" or 'kill all your feelings until you're older and can do whatever you want" makes me cry fr
please don’t kill all your feelings when you’re young, because realising you don’t know how to feel after a certain age is total crap. feel now, feel all you can. even the shit stuff. it’s just not worth distancing yourself from your emotions and hoping you’ll “get back to it someday”, bc once you get back to it, you may not even remember how to feel.
I realized I did infact kill my feelings after I blundered my 12th grade. It was more to the extent of not being authentic anymore and that I felt I have no right to do what I want (taking away control of my choice) or feel whatever it is I feel. 23 now and I realized a lot, about how much self hate I put on myself and I do feel more authentic now, but looking back at those 5 years I think I was a zombie, just directionless. Glad to see this video too, it's made with so much realness to it. Ik this is a response after 8 months so idk if you'll even see this, but you're incredibly young (as am I too). Whatever you do, connect with yourself and use your emotions as feedback. Stoicism helps me a lot with that (it's a philosophy you can check out if you like). Live your life well man
As a Chinese high school student, I relate to this a lot, the insane involution is killing individuality here. I watched plenty of your videos, and the pacing, the humor, I love the way you have structured everything. Much respect to your ability to articulate your thoughts in a clear and entertaining manner.
aye thank you for the kind words bro!!! it genuinely means a lot, glad you were able to take some stuff away from the vids. i think our society do be trying to mold us down a certain path, and it's up to us to figure out what path is true for ourselves. anyway, thank u for watchin and i hope u have a phenomenal night :)
38 year old here (still 32 in my head) and strongly agree you should stop postponing happiness waiting for the future version of your life situation! It's a brutal trap and I've lost so many opportunities for happiness doing this. Definitely set goals, sacrifice here and there, and stick to those goals but realize that its a gamble every time you focus on some silly arbitrary finish line and ignore everything else. It may not pay off and the cost is whatever blessings you already had that you chose to ignore in the short term.
Great video and definitely hit on something relatable here. Every skill I try to learn in my 20’s my first thought is, I should have started this as a kid/ teenager/ done this in college, it’s too late. The ‘best time to plant a tree’ saying is one I also find useful for putting things in perspective
yeah man. it’s never too late really. i mean it’s not like there’s some big rule lol to life saying you can’t do learn shit once you hit a certain age. deffo a good perspective to keep in mind
This was literally my first thought when I started learning guitar. I think things like “I should have started this when I was younger” and it takes away from my enjoyment of playing guitar. I know these thoughts are pointless but I have them anyway. So I’ve decided to try and let myself be bad at something so that I might be more patient in the future. These sort of thoughts still occur getting lost in a hobby usually helps prevent me from ruminating any further
You’re right. I’m constantly in my head like “I should’ve learned this when I was younger” and it puts me into analysis paralysis and brings back memories of certain things that did hold me back. Just gotta go for it now it’s better now than never
Well said, yeah it does suck. My therapist told me once you start comparing yourself to others, it's all over mentally and you end up spiraling and you can't enjoy whatever you're doing in the moment. I just turned 30 a few months ago and it isn't as bad as I thought it was going to be lmao I feel more independent and self-secure than I did when I was in my early 20s. I think another strategy is to be grateful for what you do have, and know that every experience you've had shapes who you are today and you can learn from your past, esp if you have regrets
i can relate heavily with the last part - there have definitely been some rough moments in my life lol, but i tell myself they helped create the person i am today, and i like who i am :) so the bumps that "slow" us down when we compare ourselves to others aren't bad, just part of our journeys. thanks for sharing your experience, wishing you the best with everything
@@introvertedmadness that's awesome you're accepting of yourself and are able to keep moving forward with your life instead of letting the past hold you back. i've been trying to do that as well. thanks, wishing you the best too!
this is something i've struggled with a lot these past years of my life, im currently 19 and i hate feeling so rotten hearted when i see super talented musicians my age with amazing singing voices or production skills making it big or just making great suff i love listening to, specially when i can barely play guitar and even though i've been singing all my life i still hate my voice. this feeling has had me depressed now for around 3 or so years and i honestly can't shake it off even if i thoroughly understand the reasoning behind this toxic mindset of constant comparison, i hope someday i'll just start doing my own think and i'll just stop caring about what others do but still keeping that love and respect for what my peers are creating.
That is crazy I’m 19 too and I’ve been grinding so hard in music since 16 to become one of these young stars like Jude Bellingham it consumed me at some point to the point I barely had friends, but now I’ve gained so much clarity
Just do what your heart desires don’t let other people’s opinions or what u think other people will say effect you ( harder said then done) I have the same problem but you just gotta do it and commit to whatever your trying to achieve, you can do this !! The only person who can do it is you. I believe in you
Hey, 25 year old here. I had those same thoughts as you when I was your age and still get confronted with them now in our hyper-connected internet world. What has helped me is to direct my attention to why I am doing music in the first place. I create music to pass the torch of inspiration and connection that was gifted to me by those that came before me. When you get caught in those thoughts, look to your reason behind doing it at all like a lighthouse.
something that’s been helpful for me to realize when using social media is that i don’t know what goes on behind the scenes of the media that I consume. some people grow up in families that have connections and access to the entertainment industry. lots of things aren’t disclosed about what you see on social media. therefore you are rarely ever going to know enough about someone on the internet in order to make a fair comparison. it’s a losing battle to even try. if you don’t have the same background and opportunities as someone else, then your journey is going to look different. focus on your own unique journey and what you want out of life.
This is why I love my girlfriend. She is opposite of me in a lot of ways. I get her out of her shell, I encourage her to go for things and shoot for higher, but she reminds me it’s not a race and that rest is important and that it’s ok to stop and smell the roses. I think we both have a lot to learn from eachother and I love that about us
One of my ex girlfriends wants a family, but at her late 20s has felt so rushed to do that while still trying to handle debt and remaining in a low wage job mostly under her family's support. She felt like she was running out of time, that she's missed all these milestones some of her friends already hit, and it didn't help that her mother gave birth to her at 19 while her younger sister gave her nephews at 20ish, and like to nag her about it. On my end, I'd paid off all my loans two years ago, looked back at my college and grad school days (spent mostly idling and taking classes), and realized I'd postponed even thinking about what to do with my life for a whole decade over my parents' expectations. So, last year I decided I was going to go somewhere new and unfamiliar to figure it out. Between the National Guard, the JET Program, and any Cedar Fair park away from home, I chose the third. This inevitably caused conflicts with my girlfriend, her family, and even my grandmother to a smaller degree. In their minds, I should've already been well traveled in college, in some management position years ago, and by now ready to put down for a house and get married. To them, all this exploration and self discovery was for college kids, and at 28 I was simply too old. I couldn't handle the pressure anymore, and lamented knowing my (then) girlfriend and I were going to be much happier without each other. I now live in employee dormitories at Kings Island, doing security for the park. Yes, I stick out being 29 in a dorm primarily occupied by college students (we have people in their 50s and 60s live here though) Yes, I'm not in management at this age. Yes, it's not a permanent place to live. But I make plenty, can save for classes and pay my own bills and insurance, can plan work and housing for the off season, and most importantly I'm learning new skills and enjoying myself! You can't really beat that 😁 Life is indeed short. But... it's a lot longer than people give it credit for, you can set whatever milestones you want, and it's rarely if ever too late to enjoy the moment, change things up, and try something new 🙂 I only lament that I had to lose my favorite person in the world to put that into practice.
ayo this really hit deep, man. even tho I haven’t gone thru what you’ve gone thru i feel like I know exactly how ur feeling. im really glad to hear you’re figuring your own path out now. keep on keepin on bro, you got this. big appreciate you for commenting and hope u have an incredible night
ayy glad that you could relate mate. yeah i think this is a phase we all dip into at various times in our lives, the feeling of being stuck or dissatisfied. but yeah like I said, part of it is just a mindset, and we have the power to live happy awesome lives. just gotta take it one day at a time. we got this bro 👊
That was a great reality check, thank you. I literally related to all the things you said at the beginning. I wasn't satisfied with college all the way until 24, and I started coding only a year ago. For a few months, I just felt really bad because of how late I was compared to everyone else, but a year on I look back and I'm satisfied with my progress, and how approaching life as "you can start anything TODAY" really did make a huge change in mine.
You know that mindset where you're trying to stop yourself from speed running, and quietly shaming yourself because you feel like you're stagnant? It's hard to escape man. I get it. We're all in the same boat, as dumb as it sounds. I hope you find your own key, because everyone has their own to break off. It'll come to you, don't try to force it. On another note, I've just found your channel and I feel like it's a mirror of my internal conflicts, but with answers. I love what you do, keep being genuine man, you're good at it.
This video hit hard honestly. Been taking time away from college because my current career choice isn't what I expected and even though I've managed to find other choices there's a lot of self doubt in my mind to go for them that's basically everything you pointed out in the vid. "At this age I should be at x point", "my classmates are probably progressing fast rn", "I should have looked into this sooner", "I'll just make the same mistake". I also feel this hypothetical clock ticking, that I should be working on moving forward all the time, and it makes it hard to try and live the moment. All the advice here is stuff I've heard but honestly need to keep hearing because it's so easy to forget and slip into the rut, and I love how you presented it. It's crazy how easy it is to compare our entire journey to others', when we only see small parts of others' journey at a given time. I discovered your vids through your slander memes and I love how down to earth and honest they are! Definitely going to check some more, keep up the great work :)
aye thank you for checking out the channel, and i'm glad to hear you're being intentional in figuring out your own path! i think for me when i was growing up i was just told by parents/teachers/various adult figures, hey, this is the general life path you have to take, whether you become a doctor or lawyer or cs dude is up to you, but either way, it's gotta follow this general contour. which i feel like is just kinda not true, and i think that mindset unnecessarily boxes a lot of people into specific paths. anywhoooo i relate to the points you made about self-doubt and comparison :) it's just them daily reminders to live my own life that keep me goin. WOW what a long rant. anyway i appreciate you for watching and leaving a comment :) keep goin dude, you'll figure it out and im rooting for you. hope you have a spectacular rest of your day!
Man, really agree with the things you said. A wise thing I learned from someone is to question yourself why you want to be "done" so early. Isn't the coolest thing about life the journey and getting to know yourself over the course of it? There's not a single good novel I know of that starts with the finished and super easy story of a main character that has already achieved everything he ever set out for to do. The beautiful thing about dreams is that they are ever so unattainable - so the story of actually living them just takes its very own time and pace to be written.
that's an awesome way to think about it and something i am gonna use in my life lol. i think what you described is life: going through the ups and downs and just fully experiencing it for its own sake, not just to get to the ending. thank you for sharing and wishing you the best :)
At 24 I felt like I was a failure at life. Now, 5 years later I feel sometimes I'm over-achieving compared to my friends. Life's a marathon but the path is very irregular. Don't compare yourself to specific individuals. It's more than OK to do bad decisions and have fun, just keep in mind every decision matters, the good and the bad ones
Just graduated and literally going thru this, all my life always chasing the next thing and never living in the moment. Thanks for this, excellent content.
As a fellow 23yo- I don’t feel old or think about how I’m ‘almost 30.’ But I think at least some of that has to do with having pretty much all my friends and coworkers be much older than I am. I agree with the part on constantly climbing the next mountain for school, career, etc. Now I’m at a place where I feel good about my career but I wish people would stop asking about my dating life. I don’t need everything to happen at once- it’s not a race and you should do your best to slow down and enjoy the benefits of whatever life stage you are in.
i like what u said about enjoying every part of life: basically every chunk of my life looking back, i wish i had enjoyed a little more bc all the sacrifices in the end didn't guarantee happiness at all. thanks for sharing your perspective + keep on doing you & living life :)
Man. It's like you reached into my brain and explained to me exactly how I think. And you know what? By most of those metrics you listed, I am what they consider successful before 30. But I still look at others around me and feel inadequate. I'm trying to stop, but it's definitely taking some work. It's just hard when I've been thinking like this my entire life. And I don't know where it came from. My parents weren't that pushy about all this. They've always told me life isn't a competition, but I refused to listen
I thought I would need this video later so I saved it to my motivation playlist and it came in absolutely clutch today since I was on the verge of another "I'm not enough" breakdown. Thank you sm for reassuring me that I'm not alone
So, I just turned 26, and I know this video has been out for awhile, but I felt for years (and still feel like this to a somewhat small degree) that I was a failure, and was comparing myself to everyone else my age or younger that was doing WAAAY better than me and was so successful in whatever they were doing, and I WANTED to be them. I didn’t know what it was like to just be me and find out what worked for me. Now, at 26, I’m not making anywhere close to 6 figures, but I’m very financially comfortable, I have an excellent support system, and I’m in a career that I’m constantly in demand for and have the opportunity of going anywhere I want. I have good benefits, and can retire when I get in my 40s. It’s nice to have a direction. It really does get better. Find what works for YOU. Success is entirely self defined. Only YOU can truly decide where you end up.
dude, i am really happy for you that you found your own path in life c: what you said is really true, i feel like sometimes we resort to our monke brain and when we see everyone doing something we feel like we gotta do it too, when in reality we have to go through the process of figuring out what works specifically for us. thank you for this comment, hope u have an awesome rest of your day :)
@@introvertedmadness trust me, it’s taken A LOT to get to this point. I’m a paramedic, and I initially graduated from undergrad in 2018 with a degree in psychology after failing to become a doctor. I’ve been through a lot of mental and emotional growth over the past nearly 4 years, and going into EMS on the eve of this pandemic has had a TREMENDOUS impact on my progression into this career. I’m not close to done with what I want to do, and have more schooling (nursing school, masters, or even PA school) but I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished. I used to hate myself and put myself down at every chance I got. Now I’m like getting interview and jobs offers from agencies from across the country that are literally throwing money at me cause they’re so desperate for medics lol. It does take time but it does get better. Keep it up my dude.
Thank you for this video. I was debating whether taking a gap year would be the right option for me, since I really want to feel more connected with myself spiritually, but afraid I was going to lose out on the rat race once I get to college. What I learnt here is that we all live different lives, and I have the right to pursue my happiness regardless of what everyone around me chooses. As long as I truly believe in the choices I make, I can resist being swept up in the tide of chasing after the pipe dream.
So true, that's probably one of the biggest things I've learnt. average life expectancy is 80 so you have the next few decades of living the life "You" want to live! I'm doing university again after changing course a year after, and i was thinking that i'm gonna be old by time I graduate but there are 30 year old's going back to school. Now I have so much more knowledge and maturity and i'm excited to work hard to graduate with an awesome grade and in a course I love.
6:35 is so relatable. Funny how time changes how we see things huh? We're always looking for something better, something different, something that is not where we are right now. Yet in a few years, we strive to live our current lives again. It's such a weird concept to wrap my head around, because I can't fathom how I, a stressed teenager, can end up wishing to live the school life again. On some days I want to be an adult, and on others, I wish I don't know how to speak. Life is weird and maybe that's what makes it special. It's the struggling, the pain, and all the memories we make that make one day different from the rest.
dang dude low key your comment hit me hard. you right man, life is this weird crazy unpredictable rollercoaster, and I really think half the battle is just deciding to embrace and enjoy it. like nostalgia is just the human condition, of us realizing that our lives are good enough. and speaking as a college grad, enjoy your life now, cause yeah, you’re gonna end up missing parts of it after you’re done with school lol (which I know sounds crazy). we in this together man, and i believe we got this. let’s gooo 👊
@@introvertedmadness thanks for the reply bro, you don't see this side of youtube often (nowadays it's filled with meaningless drama and clout). For me, I have a hard time "living in the moment" because of the constant worry about the future (you know them - college prep, extracurricular, stuff that I shouldn't be worried about as a barely functioning child. I tell myself I don't give a damn about the expectations society has on us, but my inner asian self is yelling at me and telling me that I have to do something magnificent or my parents put in all that hard work for nothing. I don't really know my purpose in life yet, which is funny because I've always been that kid who has their whole life planned out. But then I realized that's not what I really wanted to be, even though at one point that was my goal (I can't tell if it's my parents influence on me or if I genuinely wanted to do it). Anyways, enough rambling for today and I'm off to procrastinating again because I can't find a single hobby I can enjoy long term. All I do all day is homework and watch anime, maybe occasionally do some social media but yea, compared to my friends who does like 10 sports, I'm the real loser here. Nice job on your videos, I especially appreciate the minecraft therapy ones. also, I should probably get a therapist or something because ayyy, since when did my mental healthy depend on youtube videos 🥲
ayy man sounds like you got big expectations for yourself (even if they’re partially put there by other people). but at the end of the day, as cheesy as it sounds, it’s just life. it is what you make of it and im sure you can live a happy and fulfilling one. we all gotta find our paths and there’s no rush to “find” the end of it - it really is just as much about the journey as the destination. so yeah, maybe we don’t know where we’re going or what we’re doing, but so what? that’s part of the fun of it. and also, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with chilling and watching anime man, I realized that for myself - if I wanna just veg out and enjoy myself, if I’m ENJOYING myself then who tf cares what I’m doing? don’t worry bro - stuff can be stressful, but we just gotta take a step back sometimes. and yeah man, even if you don’t get a therapist, I would highly recommend talking to someone bout this stuff, whether it’s a friend/parents/hell even me. we got this and I appreciate you having this convo with me on the internet, it’s important shit that aint talked about enough 🙏
also I was 100% there with being stressed about college and stuff - and then the second I got to college I was too stressed about internships and getting a job that I didn’t really fully enjoy the thing I worked so hard for. idk if that helps at all but you’re def not alone in that feeling man, I remember the struggle of SAT prep lol. don’t worry it passes, we just gotta enjoy the things outside the struggle :)
Thank you so much, i can relate a lot, specially with the part that everything that was suppose to be fun has become just a race, a competition to see who gets to be the number 1. I've thought about life this way my whole childhood and now I'm suffering the consequences of it, because i feel that no matter what I do and how much i progress or how much i try it's all worthless because there's other people that do the same but 20 times better and with less effort than me. I'm just so tired of comparing myself to others and feeling that i suck, instead of just being proud of who I am now in the present. Anything is never enough, and that's the worst thing about life, we humans can never be satisfied. I'm reconsidering my life right now, maybe I'll stop chasing being a famous classical guitarrist as I've tried to be my whole life, maybe I'll just make chiptune music just for the sake of it and without wanting to be famous, sound like a lot more fun, more humane...
As a 2nd year college student on track to graduate early, I’ve often found myself stressing about not already having thousands in my bank account; but I’ve since realized that the way to “win” so to speak is to enjoy what you do. Grinding long hours ultimately becomes a quest to better yourself, and breaks become an opportunity to socialize, to explore hobbies. After seeing so many rich people with stale personalities my focus has shifted toward long term happiness-that is, strengthening bonds with the people I love and also forcing myself out of the bubbles I’ve shut myself into. Experiencing discomfort in this is normal and takes adjustment but the benefits are motivating beyond belief. It’s a refreshing feeling and thus allows you to enjoy what you do even more. Positive reinforcement goes a long way especially in people as young as us. Having something to look forward to outside of your long term goals is highly important and without it life becomes a disastrous cycle. Glad you could bring this to people’s awareness; I sure have been in such an obsessive position
@@ItIsTheLordWhoKeepsme great! i am not stressed out about college anymore, i am stressed about life and life purpose and how i am going to pay for things. no but seriously, nothing dictates who youre going to be more than yourself, and a name is only a name unless you decide to put meaning to it. excited for college next yr tho! how are you?
This is a message I should hear more often. Stopping mg to compare yourself with successful people is hard. You have to focus on yourself and your own journey.
Love this video and it really hits home as someone going off to undergrad CS next year (lol). Not only is it entertaining, funny, and down to earth, but it really gave me perspective and realize that I’m not the only one who feels this. I’ve been catching up on your whole channel and you really have something special. I hardly, if ever, comment on videos, but your open-ended videos are some of my favorite on the platform. Wish you the best of luck on YT, but also elsewhere because that personality is bound to take you somewhere great.
aye big appreciate you being so kind and having such nice things to say, and im even more glad you could relate to the video :) i think a lot more ~people~ out there are feeling the same type of confused/scared/wtf is going on than we think, so it's kinda comforting to know everyone's going through the same things lol. and also thank you for the support and well wishes, it genuinely means a lot to me :) thanks for watching and leaving a comment, i hope u have a magical rest of your day
Couldn't help but reply considering I just graduated with my Bachelors in CS. There will always be people in your class that are godly at what they do and it can be very intimidated. The most important thing to realize is that the world is a big place. While these people do exist that doesn't mean there isn't a place for you too. Trust the process and focus on growing your skills.
I see the ladder more like climbing a mountain, it IS a struggle to go up, but the view, the adrenaline, the satisfaction of going over this fucking boulder, is worth it
I really appreciate how introspective this video is and I have something to add to the list of things that are important. Finding something you actually enjoy doing. Falling in love with a hobby or passion is very underrated and it seems that once you become an adult everything becomes a soulless job. Staying true to what you actually enjoy doing with your life is super important, even if you can't do it all the time because you got bills to pay. This is something I am coming to terms with right now as I have realized that my job isn't even remotely what makes me happy.
The part about how you’ll look back some day at these moments with nostalgia resonated well with me. It’s so often that our minds get carried into the past or pulled into the future but we need to be more mindful of enjoying what’s right in front of us.
Oh my god, "need to speedrun life" is the feeling I've been having for a while now but I just couldn't describe it properly so no one understood what was making me so anxious.
This has given me much more comfort. Thank you. And thanks for reminding me to live in the moment. As someone about to graduate, I’ve been rushing a bit to see graduation day and I’ve been working really hard to get my grades up while I’m still in school but this video has helped me remember to live in the moment and appreciate what I do have right now.
I'm 29 this year. I'm going through therapy for bipolar disorder but man when my depressive episodes hit its always about how behind I am compared to my peers. Went to pre-med, took 2 years of medicine, fucked that up, worked on and off for 3 years and now back in college/uni hoping to find myself again. Ngl still feel like not existing but doing everything I can to not fuck up again.
You're so right. So many people are zoomed in, and we all care so much about these things like success, attention, money, everything society seems to value. Like you've said, the most important thing is to zoom out, asking yourself "why are we here?" And it's all for fun and happiness! We can only ever live in the moment, so we have to enjoy it! :)
Man, I feel this 100%, like the clock of turning 30 ticking behind me all the time. I guess it’s true everyone’s on their own path and there are no rules. Love the silly drawings btw!
Holy fuck this was much needed. 19 yrs old in college and I’m thinkin I gotta do all this shit before I can enjoy life which makes the present suck. All it has done is made me a fucking potato because of how draining it is mentally. Watching this made me ask myself. If I cant enjoy the present why would I be able to enjoy the future present moments. Thank you for this truly.
Hey, just wanted to say I really appreciate your videos and your thoughts. It’s refreshing to hear someone voice a lot of the feelings that I’ve had in my gut throughout the years, but ignored them because I thought I had to be working my ass off all the fucking time. Hope you are doing well.
A friend sent me this video- I love the thoughts and ideas presented here. I wholeheartedly agree with you, even as a person that has found mild success in my 20s. Learning to be grateful in the moment has been incredibly hard for me but I am getting there! Keep it up :)
thank you for the support and glad you could relate! i think learning to appreciate the moment is so huge like you said - no matter what mountain you climb, you'll never be satisfied until you learn to enjoy the peak instead of looking at the next mountain. thank you for watching and i hope you have an incredible rest of your night!
Clearly the strat of being the best at everything from the motivation of feeling dread from falling behind your peers despite having surpassed them all is the best way of going
your honesty and lack of filter remind me a lot of sneako in his earlier days and as long as you don't go down the path he did, i'd say you did p alright man. so, good job on the video, it really struck a chord with me about life and this insane circlejerk we are all a part of. these are thoughts i've often felt and maybe journaled about but to hear them out on a video was validating.
aye im really glad to hear that dude!!! fosho more vids coming soon, and we'll always be keepin it real. thank u x 100000 for watching, and i hope u have an exceptional night :)
I feel the same way sometimes. Comparing yourself is the worst It gets you down hella. Im not as bad comparing myself as I was back then doing that shit is not worth your time, I just do my own thing now.
What helps me is every time I start to overthink or freak out or whatever is I ask myself if I can currently change anything about it? If I can, then let's do it. If I can't, then what am I doing now? Force yourself to focus on what you're currently doing, even if it's hard. I know it is. No worries
I almost died about 6 months back from a truck almost hitting me and the recovery road has been long and miserable. I’ve been struggling a lot with feeling like I’m falling behind. Thank you for helping as much as a TH-cam video could!
As someone with generally less problems than my peers and because of that a greater ability to slow down and smell the flowers (at least I think), this kind of mindset still creeps up to me. I am young, but I gotta think about what I wanna do in the future already. People tell others to enjoy their youth while reminding us that if you don't do x and aren't already sure on y you're falling behind. Kinda hypocritical tbh
Took me a while to learn this and honestly I still do it. Comparison is the thief of joy, and the internet makes it way too easy to see how everyone else is doing.
More people, especially young people, need to see this. Also, a lot of those child stars got there because of rich parents; also also, on the comparing part, you're only 23!!
I learned this with 17. I dont care what People expect of me anymore and i stopped comparing myself to some 5 yr old duche on Instagram who made a startup and then getting rich af over night.
Man I'm a new subscriber to your channel and I feel like we are kindred spirits. I'm in kind of a funk right now and your videos I just what I need to give me through this difficult time.😊
I come back to these videos from time to time whenever I ask my self " what the hell am I gonna do on this earth?" These videos tell me that things will be ok.
Thanks a lot for delivering this awesome video. As an EECS major college grad, I just cared about fulfilling my CV and getting into companies like FAANG. Everytime I saw someone did better than me I just felt I sucked and regretted about that I did not do something I should have done before. Just like you said, I want to speed run all this stuff to get 'something' and be happy. But when I asked myself sometime that if I will finally be satisfied about all I achieve and live a happy life, the answer is obvious. I have watched a lot of your videos, which are filled with interest and positive energy. You deliver your thoughts very well. Keep going!
thank you for the support and kind words bro! I've been exactly there with the obsession with getting into FAANG, but eventually I realized it was kind of a meaningless chase. once you get one thing you've been wanting, it's immediately just: time to get the NEXT thing. glad you're figuring out what works for you dude, i'm rooting for you :) thanks again for watching the video, and hope you have an excellent rest of your night!
I'm 17 (almost 18) and for a few months I though "Oh wow, so many people are doing the things I also want. But I'm just sitting in front of my PC. Life sucks". Just because my thoughs were that I only enjoy life most in teenage year & childhood. But luckly I quit most social media and it made my life better, I also tried to socialize more with my friends (thats what I needed the most) and now I'm thinking that the best time of my life is starting now and everything I want to do will come as long as I try to do it
Comparing yourself to others is such a huge de-motivator for me, and yet I struggle not to do it. There's no doubt that it has affected most of my life decisions, and I can't change that. While we are always looking ahead, I think that it's important to help those behind and so I hope to do the best at that in my life. But yeah, nice video!
amazing video, as long as you’re alive that’s what truly matters in life no matter the age. just keep living your life in your own timeline, progress at your own pace, stop and smell the flowers every once in a while, and most importantly; Enjoy Yourself
I am 23. And this video hits me so much. Gosh, I understand you. I feel like I am loser, because of comparison. Every other person for me seems to be luckier, more successful etc. The pressure from parents, surrounding is unbearable sometimes. Also this partner things. It's hard to figure out what you want. And be sure that it's your desire, not dictated. Bcs smtms subconscious plays trick. So, yeah. Actually I understood that we don't have to take life seriously, comparison ruins me, I have my own set up goals and I am going to get it whatever it takes. And my life partner will come in next chapter of my life, because now I am too young for marraige. These days it's about my journey of finding my way. And it's ok. To take a break, quit a job, study. Be free. But money really matters. Fuuk capitalism. Everything is temporary. One day we will thrive, and get what we want ✨️ 🙏 🙌 💛 Thanks for creative video, and I pressed the Like button.
Bruh, I’m 16 and this is going hard. I’m that guy in high school that tries to plan a lot so everything will come easy, BUT I know the planning won’t end and I can’t plan for everything. Also how I have to be the best at everything just to be useful. Because if I can’t benefit society I ain’t nothing. I can see where this is bad but it’s just innate.
I'm glad you've learned this at 22. It took years of depression and therapy for me to come out of this "life ends after 30" thinking.
aye thanks for watching dude and im glad you figured that out for yourself. tbh i still get those random urges where i don’t feel like im accomplishing enough fast enough, but i think that’s just part of the human condition, always just re-centering yourself and not letting those worst instincts or insecurities win. hope you’re doing well now man and enjoying your path in life. appreciate you again for taking the time to comment, have a great day :)
i think hes wrong, your life does end at 30, i'm less tahn 2 years away and i'm making as much money as i can and getting my shit together, so i can go off in the woods and live the life i want without people telling me what to do with my life
@@Meleeman011 you can do that at 31, 32, 33...
@@introvertedmadness so true ive been feeling it a lot lately, theres this exam im trying to ace but i cant for the past year and im so down , tmr is my last paper, pray for me i qualify this time ❤ love your content btw
@@Sahilwanders How'd the exam go?
literally 15 and i have to decide between "oh should i live for myself rn and enjoy" or 'kill all your feelings until you're older and can do whatever you want" makes me cry fr
aye i don't have the answer to that balance bro but just listen to ur heart man. can't go wrong chasing a dream. im rooting for you dawg, you got this
please don’t kill all your feelings when you’re young, because realising you don’t know how to feel after a certain age is total crap. feel now, feel all you can. even the shit stuff. it’s just not worth distancing yourself from your emotions and hoping you’ll “get back to it someday”, bc once you get back to it, you may not even remember how to feel.
I realized I did infact kill my feelings after I blundered my 12th grade. It was more to the extent of not being authentic anymore and that I felt I have no right to do what I want (taking away control of my choice) or feel whatever it is I feel. 23 now and I realized a lot, about how much self hate I put on myself and I do feel more authentic now, but looking back at those 5 years I think I was a zombie, just directionless. Glad to see this video too, it's made with so much realness to it.
Ik this is a response after 8 months so idk if you'll even see this, but you're incredibly young (as am I too). Whatever you do, connect with yourself and use your emotions as feedback. Stoicism helps me a lot with that (it's a philosophy you can check out if you like). Live your life well man
you’re absolutely right! it’s a decision! choose you every time you can. to feel is to be human
Same feeling when I was 13 when I enter highschool now I'm 17 so many pressure last year and final exam 😢
Needed to hear this rn. I’m 22 and it’s hard to shake that suffocating feeling like I’m behind the curve and running out of time
Yep, same. (I'm 20)
I'm 22 too thought I was the only one with this dread, I was thinking it was because of my career not being in order yet
21 here, we all suffocating
22 too and feel like this
22 nearly 23 and the same
As a Chinese high school student, I relate to this a lot, the insane involution is killing individuality here. I watched plenty of your videos, and the pacing, the humor, I love the way you have structured everything. Much respect to your ability to articulate your thoughts in a clear and entertaining manner.
aye thank you for the kind words bro!!! it genuinely means a lot, glad you were able to take some stuff away from the vids. i think our society do be trying to mold us down a certain path, and it's up to us to figure out what path is true for ourselves. anyway, thank u for watchin and i hope u have a phenomenal night :)
Oh...so you out of the wall
@@TaigiTWeseFormosanDiplomat ur an ass
内卷 innit :(
38 year old here (still 32 in my head) and strongly agree you should stop postponing happiness waiting for the future version of your life situation! It's a brutal trap and I've lost so many opportunities for happiness doing this. Definitely set goals, sacrifice here and there, and stick to those goals but realize that its a gamble every time you focus on some silly arbitrary finish line and ignore everything else. It may not pay off and the cost is whatever blessings you already had that you chose to ignore in the short term.
I should’ve skipped school more often…
@mandoh why? What happened?
@mandoh yes I’m curious also?
@@moneybagsmandohdon’t tell them what happened
@@trevor4835 😂😂
As a guy at 31, you still feel this, except it's louder. You have a career. You have hobbies. You have maturity, but it's still there.
You have a job, not a career
You are legit the most genuine and high-quality producer on youtube. Respect.
ayeeee thank you so much for the kind words, you a real way. thanks for enjoying the vids and i hope u have a magical night
Great video and definitely hit on something relatable here. Every skill I try to learn in my 20’s my first thought is, I should have started this as a kid/ teenager/ done this in college, it’s too late. The ‘best time to plant a tree’ saying is one I also find useful for putting things in perspective
yeah man. it’s never too late really. i mean it’s not like there’s some big rule lol to life saying you can’t do learn shit once you hit a certain age. deffo a good perspective to keep in mind
This was literally my first thought when I started learning guitar. I think things like “I should have started this when I was younger” and it takes away from my enjoyment of playing guitar. I know these thoughts are pointless but I have them anyway. So I’ve decided to try and let myself be bad at something so that I might be more patient in the future. These sort of thoughts still occur getting lost in a hobby usually helps prevent me from ruminating any further
You’re right. I’m constantly in my head like “I should’ve learned this when I was younger” and it puts me into analysis paralysis and brings back memories of certain things that did hold me back. Just gotta go for it now it’s better now than never
Well said, yeah it does suck. My therapist told me once you start comparing yourself to others, it's all over mentally and you end up spiraling and you can't enjoy whatever you're doing in the moment. I just turned 30 a few months ago and it isn't as bad as I thought it was going to be lmao I feel more independent and self-secure than I did when I was in my early 20s. I think another strategy is to be grateful for what you do have, and know that every experience you've had shapes who you are today and you can learn from your past, esp if you have regrets
i can relate heavily with the last part - there have definitely been some rough moments in my life lol, but i tell myself they helped create the person i am today, and i like who i am :) so the bumps that "slow" us down when we compare ourselves to others aren't bad, just part of our journeys. thanks for sharing your experience, wishing you the best with everything
@@introvertedmadness that's awesome you're accepting of yourself and are able to keep moving forward with your life instead of letting the past hold you back. i've been trying to do that as well. thanks, wishing you the best too!
I understand the feeling dude. I barely remember to shower every day too.
lmao glad we in this together bro. don’t forget to floss too lol
this is something i've struggled with a lot these past years of my life, im currently 19 and i hate feeling so rotten hearted when i see super talented musicians my age with amazing singing voices or production skills making it big or just making great suff i love listening to, specially when i can barely play guitar and even though i've been singing all my life i still hate my voice. this feeling has had me depressed now for around 3 or so years and i honestly can't shake it off even if i thoroughly understand the reasoning behind this toxic mindset of constant comparison, i hope someday i'll just start doing my own think and i'll just stop caring about what others do but still keeping that love and respect for what my peers are creating.
i can honestly relate so much to this
That is crazy I’m 19 too and I’ve been grinding so hard in music since 16 to become one of these young stars like Jude Bellingham it consumed me at some point to the point I barely had friends, but now I’ve gained so much clarity
Just do what your heart desires don’t let other people’s opinions or what u think other people will say effect you ( harder said then done) I have the same problem but you just gotta do it and commit to whatever your trying to achieve, you can do this !! The only person who can do it is you. I believe in you
Hey, 25 year old here. I had those same thoughts as you when I was your age and still get confronted with them now in our hyper-connected internet world. What has helped me is to direct my attention to why I am doing music in the first place. I create music to pass the torch of inspiration and connection that was gifted to me by those that came before me. When you get caught in those thoughts, look to your reason behind doing it at all like a lighthouse.
something that’s been helpful for me to realize when using social media is that i don’t know what goes on behind the scenes of the media that I consume. some people grow up in families that have connections and access to the entertainment industry. lots of things aren’t disclosed about what you see on social media. therefore you are rarely ever going to know enough about someone on the internet in order to make a fair comparison. it’s a losing battle to even try. if you don’t have the same background and opportunities as someone else, then your journey is going to look different. focus on your own unique journey and what you want out of life.
This is why I love my girlfriend. She is opposite of me in a lot of ways. I get her out of her shell, I encourage her to go for things and shoot for higher, but she reminds me it’s not a race and that rest is important and that it’s ok to stop and smell the roses. I think we both have a lot to learn from eachother and I love that about us
My parents brutalized me into believing i wasnt worthy of much, including their love or really anybody elses
One of my ex girlfriends wants a family, but at her late 20s has felt so rushed to do that while still trying to handle debt and remaining in a low wage job mostly under her family's support. She felt like she was running out of time, that she's missed all these milestones some of her friends already hit, and it didn't help that her mother gave birth to her at 19 while her younger sister gave her nephews at 20ish, and like to nag her about it.
On my end, I'd paid off all my loans two years ago, looked back at my college and grad school days (spent mostly idling and taking classes), and realized I'd postponed even thinking about what to do with my life for a whole decade over my parents' expectations. So, last year I decided I was going to go somewhere new and unfamiliar to figure it out. Between the National Guard, the JET Program, and any Cedar Fair park away from home, I chose the third.
This inevitably caused conflicts with my girlfriend, her family, and even my grandmother to a smaller degree. In their minds, I should've already been well traveled in college, in some management position years ago, and by now ready to put down for a house and get married. To them, all this exploration and self discovery was for college kids, and at 28 I was simply too old. I couldn't handle the pressure anymore, and lamented knowing my (then) girlfriend and I were going to be much happier without each other.
I now live in employee dormitories at Kings Island, doing security for the park. Yes, I stick out being 29 in a dorm primarily occupied by college students (we have people in their 50s and 60s live here though) Yes, I'm not in management at this age. Yes, it's not a permanent place to live. But I make plenty, can save for classes and pay my own bills and insurance, can plan work and housing for the off season, and most importantly I'm learning new skills and enjoying myself! You can't really beat that 😁
Life is indeed short. But... it's a lot longer than people give it credit for, you can set whatever milestones you want, and it's rarely if ever too late to enjoy the moment, change things up, and try something new 🙂 I only lament that I had to lose my favorite person in the world to put that into practice.
ayo this really hit deep, man. even tho I haven’t gone thru what you’ve gone thru i feel like I know exactly how ur feeling. im really glad to hear you’re figuring your own path out now. keep on keepin on bro, you got this. big appreciate you for commenting and hope u have an incredible night
This hits a spot that I am absolutely stuck at right now. I love the new format.
ayy glad that you could relate mate. yeah i think this is a phase we all dip into at various times in our lives, the feeling of being stuck or dissatisfied. but yeah like I said, part of it is just a mindset, and we have the power to live happy awesome lives. just gotta take it one day at a time. we got this bro 👊
That was a great reality check, thank you. I literally related to all the things you said at the beginning. I wasn't satisfied with college all the way until 24, and I started coding only a year ago. For a few months, I just felt really bad because of how late I was compared to everyone else, but a year on I look back and I'm satisfied with my progress, and how approaching life as "you can start anything TODAY" really did make a huge change in mine.
thats legit beautiful dude, im glad you took those first steps and are at a good place for yourself :) keep on going!!!!
You know that mindset where you're trying to stop yourself from speed running, and quietly shaming yourself because you feel like you're stagnant? It's hard to escape man. I get it.
We're all in the same boat, as dumb as it sounds. I hope you find your own key, because everyone has their own to break off. It'll come to you, don't try to force it.
On another note, I've just found your channel and I feel like it's a mirror of my internal conflicts, but with answers. I love what you do, keep being genuine man, you're good at it.
This video hit hard honestly. Been taking time away from college because my current career choice isn't what I expected and even though I've managed to find other choices there's a lot of self doubt in my mind to go for them that's basically everything you pointed out in the vid. "At this age I should be at x point", "my classmates are probably progressing fast rn", "I should have looked into this sooner", "I'll just make the same mistake". I also feel this hypothetical clock ticking, that I should be working on moving forward all the time, and it makes it hard to try and live the moment.
All the advice here is stuff I've heard but honestly need to keep hearing because it's so easy to forget and slip into the rut, and I love how you presented it. It's crazy how easy it is to compare our entire journey to others', when we only see small parts of others' journey at a given time.
I discovered your vids through your slander memes and I love how down to earth and honest they are! Definitely going to check some more, keep up the great work :)
aye thank you for checking out the channel, and i'm glad to hear you're being intentional in figuring out your own path! i think for me when i was growing up i was just told by parents/teachers/various adult figures, hey, this is the general life path you have to take, whether you become a doctor or lawyer or cs dude is up to you, but either way, it's gotta follow this general contour. which i feel like is just kinda not true, and i think that mindset unnecessarily boxes a lot of people into specific paths. anywhoooo i relate to the points you made about self-doubt and comparison :) it's just them daily reminders to live my own life that keep me goin.
WOW what a long rant. anyway i appreciate you for watching and leaving a comment :) keep goin dude, you'll figure it out and im rooting for you. hope you have a spectacular rest of your day!
Man, really agree with the things you said. A wise thing I learned from someone is to question yourself why you want to be "done" so early. Isn't the coolest thing about life the journey and getting to know yourself over the course of it? There's not a single good novel I know of that starts with the finished and super easy story of a main character that has already achieved everything he ever set out for to do. The beautiful thing about dreams is that they are ever so unattainable - so the story of actually living them just takes its very own time and pace to be written.
that's an awesome way to think about it and something i am gonna use in my life lol. i think what you described is life: going through the ups and downs and just fully experiencing it for its own sake, not just to get to the ending. thank you for sharing and wishing you the best :)
At 24 I felt like I was a failure at life. Now, 5 years later I feel sometimes I'm over-achieving compared to my friends. Life's a marathon but the path is very irregular.
Don't compare yourself to specific individuals. It's more than OK to do bad decisions and have fun, just keep in mind every decision matters, the good and the bad ones
Just graduated and literally going thru this, all my life always chasing the next thing and never living in the moment. Thanks for this, excellent content.
aye i think us generation of college grads is really goin thru a rough patch, but we got this c: thanks for watching and good luck on your journey :)
As a fellow 23yo- I don’t feel old or think about how I’m ‘almost 30.’ But I think at least some of that has to do with having pretty much all my friends and coworkers be much older than I am.
I agree with the part on constantly climbing the next mountain for school, career, etc. Now I’m at a place where I feel good about my career but I wish people would stop asking about my dating life. I don’t need everything to happen at once- it’s not a race and you should do your best to slow down and enjoy the benefits of whatever life stage you are in.
With 24 you are as far away from 18 as you are from 30. Good luck with that thought. I'm 26 dying on the inside
i like what u said about enjoying every part of life: basically every chunk of my life looking back, i wish i had enjoyed a little more bc all the sacrifices in the end didn't guarantee happiness at all. thanks for sharing your perspective + keep on doing you & living life :)
Man. It's like you reached into my brain and explained to me exactly how I think. And you know what? By most of those metrics you listed, I am what they consider successful before 30. But I still look at others around me and feel inadequate. I'm trying to stop, but it's definitely taking some work. It's just hard when I've been thinking like this my entire life. And I don't know where it came from. My parents weren't that pushy about all this. They've always told me life isn't a competition, but I refused to listen
I thought I would need this video later so I saved it to my motivation playlist and it came in absolutely clutch today since I was on the verge of another "I'm not enough" breakdown. Thank you sm for reassuring me that I'm not alone
@@introvertedmadness luv u sm ❤
as someone who feels anxious about the future all the time, watching this video felt like a warm hug. thank you :)
So, I just turned 26, and I know this video has been out for awhile, but I felt for years (and still feel like this to a somewhat small degree) that I was a failure, and was comparing myself to everyone else my age or younger that was doing WAAAY better than me and was so successful in whatever they were doing, and I WANTED to be them. I didn’t know what it was like to just be me and find out what worked for me.
Now, at 26, I’m not making anywhere close to 6 figures, but I’m very financially comfortable, I have an excellent support system, and I’m in a career that I’m constantly in demand for and have the opportunity of going anywhere I want. I have good benefits, and can retire when I get in my 40s. It’s nice to have a direction. It really does get better. Find what works for YOU. Success is entirely self defined. Only YOU can truly decide where you end up.
dude, i am really happy for you that you found your own path in life c: what you said is really true, i feel like sometimes we resort to our monke brain and when we see everyone doing something we feel like we gotta do it too, when in reality we have to go through the process of figuring out what works specifically for us. thank you for this comment, hope u have an awesome rest of your day :)
@@introvertedmadness trust me, it’s taken A LOT to get to this point. I’m a paramedic, and I initially graduated from undergrad in 2018 with a degree in psychology after failing to become a doctor. I’ve been through a lot of mental and emotional growth over the past nearly 4 years, and going into EMS on the eve of this pandemic has had a TREMENDOUS impact on my progression into this career. I’m not close to done with what I want to do, and have more schooling (nursing school, masters, or even PA school) but I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished. I used to hate myself and put myself down at every chance I got. Now I’m like getting interview and jobs offers from agencies from across the country that are literally throwing money at me cause they’re so desperate for medics lol. It does take time but it does get better. Keep it up my dude.
Arrrrrre you an electrician?
Thank you for this video. I was debating whether taking a gap year would be the right option for me, since I really want to feel more connected with myself spiritually, but afraid I was going to lose out on the rat race once I get to college. What I learnt here is that we all live different lives, and I have the right to pursue my happiness regardless of what everyone around me chooses. As long as I truly believe in the choices I make, I can resist being swept up in the tide of chasing after the pipe dream.
So true, that's probably one of the biggest things I've learnt. average life expectancy is 80 so you have the next few decades of living the life "You" want to live! I'm doing university again after changing course a year after, and i was thinking that i'm gonna be old by time I graduate but there are 30 year old's going back to school. Now I have so much more knowledge and maturity and i'm excited to work hard to graduate with an awesome grade and in a course I love.
6:35 is so relatable. Funny how time changes how we see things huh? We're always looking for something better, something different, something that is not where we are right now. Yet in a few years, we strive to live our current lives again. It's such a weird concept to wrap my head around, because I can't fathom how I, a stressed teenager, can end up wishing to live the school life again. On some days I want to be an adult, and on others, I wish I don't know how to speak. Life is weird and maybe that's what makes it special. It's the struggling, the pain, and all the memories we make that make one day different from the rest.
dang dude low key your comment hit me hard. you right man, life is this weird crazy unpredictable rollercoaster, and I really think half the battle is just deciding to embrace and enjoy it. like nostalgia is just the human condition, of us realizing that our lives are good enough. and speaking as a college grad, enjoy your life now, cause yeah, you’re gonna end up missing parts of it after you’re done with school lol (which I know sounds crazy). we in this together man, and i believe we got this. let’s gooo 👊
@@introvertedmadness thanks for the reply bro, you don't see this side of youtube often (nowadays it's filled with meaningless drama and clout). For me, I have a hard time "living in the moment" because of the constant worry about the future (you know them - college prep, extracurricular, stuff that I shouldn't be worried about as a barely functioning child. I tell myself I don't give a damn about the expectations society has on us, but my inner asian self is yelling at me and telling me that I have to do something magnificent or my parents put in all that hard work for nothing. I don't really know my purpose in life yet, which is funny because I've always been that kid who has their whole life planned out. But then I realized that's not what I really wanted to be, even though at one point that was my goal (I can't tell if it's my parents influence on me or if I genuinely wanted to do it). Anyways, enough rambling for today and I'm off to procrastinating again because I can't find a single hobby I can enjoy long term. All I do all day is homework and watch anime, maybe occasionally do some social media but yea, compared to my friends who does like 10 sports, I'm the real loser here. Nice job on your videos, I especially appreciate the minecraft therapy ones.
also, I should probably get a therapist or something because ayyy, since when did my mental healthy depend on youtube videos
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ayy man sounds like you got big expectations for yourself (even if they’re partially put there by other people). but at the end of the day, as cheesy as it sounds, it’s just life. it is what you make of it and im sure you can live a happy and fulfilling one. we all gotta find our paths and there’s no rush to “find” the end of it - it really is just as much about the journey as the destination. so yeah, maybe we don’t know where we’re going or what we’re doing, but so what? that’s part of the fun of it. and also, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with chilling and watching anime man, I realized that for myself - if I wanna just veg out and enjoy myself, if I’m ENJOYING myself then who tf cares what I’m doing? don’t worry bro - stuff can be stressful, but we just gotta take a step back sometimes. and yeah man, even if you don’t get a therapist, I would highly recommend talking to someone bout this stuff, whether it’s a friend/parents/hell even me. we got this
and I appreciate you having this convo with me on the internet, it’s important shit that aint talked about enough 🙏
also I was 100% there with being stressed about college and stuff - and then the second I got to college I was too stressed about internships and getting a job that I didn’t really fully enjoy the thing I worked so hard for. idk if that helps at all but you’re def not alone in that feeling man, I remember the struggle of SAT prep lol. don’t worry it passes, we just gotta enjoy the things outside the struggle :)
Thank you so much, i can relate a lot, specially with the part that everything that was suppose to be fun has become just a race, a competition to see who gets to be the number 1. I've thought about life this way my whole childhood and now I'm suffering the consequences of it, because i feel that no matter what I do and how much i progress or how much i try it's all worthless because there's other people that do the same but 20 times better and with less effort than me. I'm just so tired of comparing myself to others and feeling that i suck, instead of just being proud of who I am now in the present. Anything is never enough, and that's the worst thing about life, we humans can never be satisfied.
I'm reconsidering my life right now, maybe I'll stop chasing being a famous classical guitarrist as I've tried to be my whole life, maybe I'll just make chiptune music just for the sake of it and without wanting to be famous, sound like a lot more fun, more humane...
As a 2nd year college student on track to graduate early, I’ve often found myself stressing about not already having thousands in my bank account; but I’ve since realized that the way to “win” so to speak is to enjoy what you do. Grinding long hours ultimately becomes a quest to better yourself, and breaks become an opportunity to socialize, to explore hobbies. After seeing so many rich people with stale personalities my focus has shifted toward long term happiness-that is, strengthening bonds with the people I love and also forcing myself out of the bubbles I’ve shut myself into. Experiencing discomfort in this is normal and takes adjustment but the benefits are motivating beyond belief. It’s a refreshing feeling and thus allows you to enjoy what you do even more. Positive reinforcement goes a long way especially in people as young as us. Having something to look forward to outside of your long term goals is highly important and without it life becomes a disastrous cycle. Glad you could bring this to people’s awareness; I sure have been in such an obsessive position
Been stressing out about college apps, this vid rly helps put everything into perspective and let me see the big picture again. Thank you
aye im really glad to hear that bro. you got this x 10000000
How are things now?
@@ItIsTheLordWhoKeepsme great! i am not stressed out about college anymore, i am stressed about life and life purpose and how i am going to pay for things.
no but seriously, nothing dictates who youre going to be more than yourself, and a name is only a name unless you decide to put meaning to it.
excited for college next yr tho!
how are you?
This is a message I should hear more often. Stopping mg to compare yourself with successful people is hard. You have to focus on yourself and your own journey.
Love this video and it really hits home as someone going off to undergrad CS next year (lol). Not only is it entertaining, funny, and down to earth, but it really gave me perspective and realize that I’m not the only one who feels this. I’ve been catching up on your whole channel and you really have something special. I hardly, if ever, comment on videos, but your open-ended videos are some of my favorite on the platform. Wish you the best of luck on YT, but also elsewhere because that personality is bound to take you somewhere great.
aye big appreciate you being so kind and having such nice things to say, and im even more glad you could relate to the video :) i think a lot more ~people~ out there are feeling the same type of confused/scared/wtf is going on than we think, so it's kinda comforting to know everyone's going through the same things lol. and also thank you for the support and well wishes, it genuinely means a lot to me :) thanks for watching and leaving a comment, i hope u have a magical rest of your day
Couldn't help but reply considering I just graduated with my Bachelors in CS. There will always be people in your class that are godly at what they do and it can be very intimidated. The most important thing to realize is that the world is a big place. While these people do exist that doesn't mean there isn't a place for you too. Trust the process and focus on growing your skills.
I see the ladder more like climbing a mountain, it IS a struggle to go up, but the view, the adrenaline, the satisfaction of going over this fucking boulder, is worth it
Holy hell I needed to hear this today… nailed it
Thank you really needed this. Can't believe we live in age where we have to realise just to relax and live without comparing to others
I really appreciate how introspective this video is and I have something to add to the list of things that are important. Finding something you actually enjoy doing. Falling in love with a hobby or passion is very underrated and it seems that once you become an adult everything becomes a soulless job. Staying true to what you actually enjoy doing with your life is super important, even if you can't do it all the time because you got bills to pay. This is something I am coming to terms with right now as I have realized that my job isn't even remotely what makes me happy.
IT'S NEVER LATE, it is just social media that makes you feel so much pressure about the things you want to do in your life
The part about how you’ll look back some day at these moments with nostalgia resonated well with me.
It’s so often that our minds get carried into the past or pulled into the future but we need to be more mindful of enjoying what’s right in front of us.
Oh my god, "need to speedrun life" is the feeling I've been having for a while now but I just couldn't describe it properly so no one understood what was making me so anxious.
This has given me much more comfort. Thank you. And thanks for reminding me to live in the moment. As someone about to graduate, I’ve been rushing a bit to see graduation day and I’ve been working really hard to get my grades up while I’m still in school but this video has helped me remember to live in the moment and appreciate what I do have right now.
I'm 29 this year. I'm going through therapy for bipolar disorder but man when my depressive episodes hit its always about how behind I am compared to my peers. Went to pre-med, took 2 years of medicine, fucked that up, worked on and off for 3 years and now back in college/uni hoping to find myself again. Ngl still feel like not existing but doing everything I can to not fuck up again.
Thank you so much for making videos like these. They're really comforting. I hope we can all figure things out and be happy in our lives. Take care.
You're so right. So many people are zoomed in, and we all care so much about these things like success, attention, money, everything society seems to value. Like you've said, the most important thing is to zoom out, asking yourself "why are we here?" And it's all for fun and happiness! We can only ever live in the moment, so we have to enjoy it! :)
Man, I feel this 100%, like the clock of turning 30 ticking behind me all the time. I guess it’s true everyone’s on their own path and there are no rules. Love the silly drawings btw!
Holy fuck this was much needed. 19 yrs old in college and I’m thinkin I gotta do all this shit before I can enjoy life which makes the present suck. All it has done is made me a fucking potato because of how draining it is mentally. Watching this made me ask myself. If I cant enjoy the present why would I be able to enjoy the future present moments. Thank you for this truly.
Hearing someone's point of view about world, competitions and envy that is the same as mine and which people identify as "weak" really calms down.
Hey, just wanted to say I really appreciate your videos and your thoughts. It’s refreshing to hear someone voice a lot of the feelings that I’ve had in my gut throughout the years, but ignored them because I thought I had to be working my ass off all the fucking time. Hope you are doing well.
A friend sent me this video-
I love the thoughts and ideas presented here. I wholeheartedly agree with you, even as a person that has found mild success in my 20s. Learning to be grateful in the moment has been incredibly hard for me but I am getting there!
Keep it up :)
thank you for the support and glad you could relate! i think learning to appreciate the moment is so huge like you said - no matter what mountain you climb, you'll never be satisfied until you learn to enjoy the peak instead of looking at the next mountain. thank you for watching and i hope you have an incredible rest of your night!
I’m glad I found this video. I have been struggling with that mentality throughout my life and it’s hard to not compare yourself to others.
Clearly the strat of being the best at everything from the motivation of feeling dread from falling behind your peers despite having surpassed them all is the best way of going
your honesty and lack of filter remind me a lot of sneako in his earlier days and as long as you don't go down the path he did, i'd say you did p alright man. so, good job on the video, it really struck a chord with me about life and this insane circlejerk we are all a part of. these are thoughts i've often felt and maybe journaled about but to hear them out on a video was validating.
This was a really great video and summed up a lot of my feelings. Thank you for making it and making everyone else who relates feel less alone.
yeah it’s like he read our minds😂 majority of ppl are feeling like this
Brilliant video. Well articulated af.
And the animations allow this perfect balance between hilarity and cynicism.
Very talented.
dude ur srsly so underrated. ive been binging your videos and they bring a sense of comfort and humor so thats super cool. pls keep making vids!!
aye im really glad to hear that dude!!! fosho more vids coming soon, and we'll always be keepin it real. thank u x 100000 for watching, and i hope u have an exceptional night :)
I feel the same way sometimes. Comparing yourself is the worst It gets you down hella. Im not as bad comparing myself as I was back then doing that shit is not worth your time, I just do my own thing now.
This is like free therapy to me. The videos and the comments. Thank you everybody❤
Bro why u only got 5k subs tf
Literally the realest man out here with the highest value content.
You earned a sub today.
aye i really appreciate the kind words and support dude!!! means more than you know :') big thank you for watching and i hope you're doing well
Sure existentialism but *HISTORICAL MATERIALISM*
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time was today.” I love that.
This video brings me comfort every time I watch it. Thanks for making it :)
The things we choose to focus on in our day to day life can either bring you up or take you down before you've even started
Man, just feels amazing to know others think the same way :)
What helps me is every time I start to overthink or freak out or whatever is I ask myself if I can currently change anything about it? If I can, then let's do it. If I can't, then what am I doing now? Force yourself to focus on what you're currently doing, even if it's hard. I know it is. No worries
Thank you for the dark background, its so nice to be able to watch these at night
I almost died about 6 months back from a truck almost hitting me and the recovery road has been long and miserable. I’ve been struggling a lot with feeling like I’m falling behind. Thank you for helping as much as a TH-cam video could!
As someone with generally less problems than my peers and because of that a greater ability to slow down and smell the flowers (at least I think), this kind of mindset still creeps up to me. I am young, but I gotta think about what I wanna do in the future already. People tell others to enjoy their youth while reminding us that if you don't do x and aren't already sure on y you're falling behind. Kinda hypocritical tbh
i agree, we put way too much emphasis into ambitions. It's OK not to dream big.
Took me a while to learn this and honestly I still do it.
Comparison is the thief of joy, and the internet makes it way too easy to see how everyone else is doing.
Things that should be fun aren't fun anymore.. because of pressure added to it............ Felt that
This video is nothing but facts. It's the constant feeling of not enough, fast enough, good enough that plagues every second and action.
More people, especially young people, need to see this. Also, a lot of those child stars got there because of rich parents; also also, on the comparing part, you're only 23!!
I was so low when I clicked to watch this video and ngl this is exactly what I needed right now thank you sm
I learned this with 17. I dont care what People expect of me anymore and i stopped comparing myself to some 5 yr old duche on Instagram who made a startup and then getting rich af over night.
Man I'm a new subscriber to your channel and I feel like we are kindred spirits. I'm in kind of a funk right now and your videos I just what I need to give me through this difficult time.😊
I come back to these videos from time to time whenever I ask my self " what the hell am I gonna do on this earth?" These videos tell me that things will be ok.
We live in an impatient world, when patience is the key to everything
This sums up my anxiety so well
Thanks a lot for delivering this awesome video. As an EECS major college grad, I just cared about fulfilling my CV and getting into companies like FAANG. Everytime I saw someone did better than me I just felt I sucked and regretted about that I did not do something I should have done before. Just like you said, I want to speed run all this stuff to get 'something' and be happy. But when I asked myself sometime that if I will finally be satisfied about all I achieve and live a happy life, the answer is obvious. I have watched a lot of your videos, which are filled with interest and positive energy. You deliver your thoughts very well. Keep going!
thank you for the support and kind words bro! I've been exactly there with the obsession with getting into FAANG, but eventually I realized it was kind of a meaningless chase. once you get one thing you've been wanting, it's immediately just: time to get the NEXT thing. glad you're figuring out what works for you dude, i'm rooting for you :) thanks again for watching the video, and hope you have an excellent rest of your night!
Lovely video. Very genuine and felt like the first ‘TH-cam video’ I had watched in a while
Thinking about the next thing to accomplish and constantly being occupied with a goal is what makes life fun - me personally 😭
I'm 16 and always feel as though I'm not productive enough. This is exactly what I needed, thank you
Thank you so much! I don't ever think you'll ever know how much this has helped me. :)
I'm 17 (almost 18) and for a few months I though "Oh wow, so many people are doing the things I also want. But I'm just sitting in front of my PC. Life sucks". Just because my thoughs were that I only enjoy life most in teenage year & childhood. But luckly I quit most social media and it made my life better, I also tried to socialize more with my friends (thats what I needed the most) and now I'm thinking that the best time of my life is starting now and everything I want to do will come as long as I try to do it
I was already feeling like this for quite a while then I cane across this video. Thank you.
so glad it isnt just me feeling this way- i am doing ok but there is SO much pressure to be doing even better
I know this video is a year old, but it just popped up for me. And I really needed it. Thanks man
I low key really enjoy the jazz sax music in the background 😂
I stumbled on this video at random and I just got to say, thanks man, I needed this
"Comparison is the thief to joy." -Theodore Roosevelt
Im 31 and I’m just starting to figure it out. Don’t worry. Everyone has their own journey.
Comparing yourself to others is such a huge de-motivator for me, and yet I struggle not to do it. There's no doubt that it has affected most of my life decisions, and I can't change that. While we are always looking ahead, I think that it's important to help those behind and so I hope to do the best at that in my life. But yeah, nice video!
your artstyle is hilarious. great video bro
amazing video, as long as you’re alive that’s what truly matters in life no matter the age. just keep living your life in your own timeline, progress at your own pace, stop and smell the flowers every once in a while, and most importantly; Enjoy Yourself
I feel you man, for what it’s worth, I hope you’re okay
i am exactly 22 and i identified with literally everything, thank you for this
Totally me. You nailed my life in 8 minutes basically
I am 23. And this video hits me so much. Gosh, I understand you. I feel like I am loser, because of comparison. Every other person for me seems to be luckier, more successful etc. The pressure from parents, surrounding is unbearable sometimes. Also this partner things.
It's hard to figure out what you want. And be sure that it's your desire, not dictated. Bcs smtms subconscious plays trick. So, yeah. Actually I understood that we don't have to take life seriously, comparison ruins me, I have my own set up goals and I am going to get it whatever it takes. And my life partner will come in next chapter of my life, because now I am too young for marraige. These days it's about my journey of finding my way. And it's ok. To take a break, quit a job, study. Be free. But money really matters. Fuuk capitalism.
Everything is temporary. One day we will thrive, and get what we want ✨️ 🙏 🙌 💛
Thanks for creative video, and I pressed the Like button.
Jesus man, you hit the nail on the head
Bruh, I’m 16 and this is going hard. I’m that guy in high school that tries to plan a lot so everything will come easy, BUT I know the planning won’t end and I can’t plan for everything. Also how I have to be the best at everything just to be useful. Because if I can’t benefit society I ain’t nothing. I can see where this is bad but it’s just innate.
Feel the same way just don’t give up on ur goals