WOW! I'm a 7 w6 and watching your "7" videos is like having the angel in my head sitting on my shoulder telling me why I do the things I do. These have helped me tremendously. I'm going to make having a quiet time a priority. I'll discipline myself to do 2 whole minutes. Haha! Seriously thank you Dr. LaHue.
I would be so happy if you could make videos on the compatibility of each type! For example, what a healthy friendship between a 9 (me) and a 4 (my close friend) looks like. And the things that strengthen each other and the things that are not good for each other. That would be so nice to hear from you!! Thank you for your videos. They have helped me so much!!
This hit home so many times. Thank you for all you put into this. I found your channel last week and have several videos lined up. Sitting present in the moment is so hard. I’m a 7 who I think might be relatively healthy after quite a bit if work. I can sit with others in their pain fairly regularly, but do have to have an inner monologue with myself simultaneously to remind myself not to jump to “the brighter future” or “lessons from this that can make things better”. Now if I could just teach myself to do that for myself.... Also, I would love a video on how a 7 can discipline themselves to do things they need to. I’m having the worst time trying to develop healthy habits in quarantine without workout people around in person.
Big Kudos to you Mr Tom Lahue, you are the best enneagram creator in the world in my opinion, smart thoughts, good teacher, good knowledge you’re sharing thank you, from a Type 7 who got into the enneagram to better understand a type 4
I used to get so mad at my daughter for bringing movies that were sad....I would be like "How can there not be a happy ending?" Now I know, she's a 4 so that doesn't bother her...it bothers me.
My relative is a 7 and I'm a 4. At life's great moments, I want to bathe in the transcendent feeling of being totally present. He likes to document what's going on using photos/social media. He's ended up with a lot more pics of his past than I have of mine.
As a 7w8 and ESTP in my 40's, I find myself on the mature side of the personality struggles. I am very self aware and always looking to self improve. My biggest struggle right now is knowing where the balance is between intentionally feeling and working through my pain/fear versus crossing the line into obsessing over these things. For example, a break up. Knowing that I'm working through it in a healthy way versus holding on to it for too long. Any suggestions on identifying the difference?
I feel like dealing with it in a healthy way is embracing/acknowledging it then figuring out what the negative emotion (pain, anger, etc) is trying to teach you then moving on from there whereas the unhealthy way would be just dwelling on it without taking anything from it
I am 7 and to be honest I would like to be enneagram 1 wing 9. 7 have a good tendecy to experience happiness but it takes a lot of effort to find your goals, 1s have it automatic and they know what they want in general and in professional.
I thought I was the only one dealing with this! looks like I'm 7w6 but at the same time 1w9. I've noticed that when I under stress I may act like a 1 (organize, clean, to do list, do everything right)... but when I'm focused, Im like a 5. so probably I'm 7! not a 1. because like you guys say 1s really know what they want and go for it, in my case I'm always jumping to different jobs, I'm interested in many many different things and is hard for me to finish my projects, I'm a positive person, , I don't like feeling sad, and when happens and try to do whatever to change my mood
But if I let the impulse pass, I might completely forget I was interested in whatever it was and miss out on the opportunity to learn something new!!! 😭😂 Being healthy is hard.
Wow I'm a 7w6 I grew up in a really bad child hood. I put blame on my mother for a long time. Which yes she did make a few bad choices but was not a bad person.i would always try and avoid pain which was impossible when you're mother was diagnosed with cancer when you were 16 and dies shortly after I was 29. Close to the end I was a main care taker for her and my two younger siblings and was there with her to the end. I was married still am, during this time I would be with my mom during the week and go home to husband on weekend (my mother lived 3 hours away) but everytime I would drive back out for another week I just wanted to keep driving away and not be with my mom during this time. I had to work through this over and over. And tell myself I love my mom, I'm want to be here for her, I will be here for her. Now I avoid anything cancer related topics especially breast cancer (she had that) watch a movie with it? Nope click to funny. Avoid need comedy. Wow 😳
I am a seven and am distracting myself watching this video!
Haha me 2
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SAME!!!
WOW! I'm a 7 w6 and watching your "7" videos is like having the angel in my head sitting on my shoulder telling me why I do the things I do. These have helped me tremendously. I'm going to make having a quiet time a priority. I'll discipline myself to do 2 whole minutes. Haha! Seriously thank you Dr. LaHue.
I would be so happy if you could make videos on the compatibility of each type! For example, what a healthy friendship between a 9 (me) and a 4 (my close friend) looks like. And the things that strengthen each other and the things that are not good for each other. That would be so nice to hear from you!! Thank you for your videos. They have helped me so much!!
Agreed!
Enneagram Institute gives excellent evaluations of types’ compatibility too.
@@trustyourself-ashleyching3646 Is it for just dating relationships or all kinds of relationships (family/friends, etc.)?
This hit home so many times. Thank you for all you put into this. I found your channel last week and have several videos lined up. Sitting present in the moment is so hard. I’m a 7 who I think might be relatively healthy after quite a bit if work. I can sit with others in their pain fairly regularly, but do have to have an inner monologue with myself simultaneously to remind myself not to jump to “the brighter future” or “lessons from this that can make things better”. Now if I could just teach myself to do that for myself....
Also, I would love a video on how a 7 can discipline themselves to do things they need to. I’m having the worst time trying to develop healthy habits in quarantine without workout people around in person.
Big Kudos to you Mr Tom Lahue, you are the best enneagram creator in the world in my opinion, smart thoughts, good teacher, good knowledge you’re sharing thank you, from a Type 7 who got into the enneagram to better understand a type 4
Great information, thank you! Would love to listen to your podcast soon :)
I used to get so mad at my daughter for bringing movies that were sad....I would be like "How can there not be a happy ending?" Now I know, she's a 4 so that doesn't bother her...it bothers me.
Ok; I haven't even watched this video yet. I'd like to say that "Growing up with a 7 Dad" is the Best. Video. Ever!
Wang Chung! I love that my favorite 80s song made an appearance ❤️❤️❤️
😂 I am type 9 married with 7
Changed 4 countries, move to a new house nearly each year ......HELP😂😂😂
Yikes
I would love to listen to you on Podcast!
Have you thought of doing that?
My relative is a 7 and I'm a 4. At life's great moments, I want to bathe in the transcendent feeling of being totally present. He likes to document what's going on using photos/social media. He's ended up with a lot more pics of his past than I have of mine.
It's important to find a balance between living in the moment and capturing memories for later.
You are simply the best Tom!!! Thank you!
As a 7w8 and ESTP in my 40's, I find myself on the mature side of the personality struggles. I am very self aware and always looking to self improve. My biggest struggle right now is knowing where the balance is between intentionally feeling and working through my pain/fear versus crossing the line into obsessing over these things. For example, a break up. Knowing that I'm working through it in a healthy way versus holding on to it for too long. Any suggestions on identifying the difference?
I feel like dealing with it in a healthy way is embracing/acknowledging it then figuring out what the negative emotion (pain, anger, etc) is trying to teach you then moving on from there whereas the unhealthy way would be just dwelling on it without taking anything from it
Great video! This resonates so much ❤. Both my BF and mom are sevens and they drive me crazy sometimes hahaha Thanks for the perspective
You are so welcome!
I am 7 and to be honest I would like to be enneagram 1 wing 9.
7 have a good tendecy to experience happiness but it takes a lot of effort to find your goals, 1s have it automatic and they know what they want in general and in professional.
Funny you say that bc I am tested as a 1 w 9 and now I think I’m a 7. I don’t know what I want for a profession.
I thought I was the only one dealing with this! looks like I'm 7w6 but at the same time 1w9. I've noticed that when I under stress I may act like a 1 (organize, clean, to do list, do everything right)... but when I'm focused, Im like a 5. so probably I'm 7! not a 1. because like you guys say 1s really know what they want and go for it, in my case I'm always jumping to different jobs, I'm interested in many many different things and is hard for me to finish my projects, I'm a positive person, , I don't like feeling sad, and when happens and try to do whatever to change my mood
COME ON MARTY, NOT ON SATURDAYS! So recognizable.
But if I let the impulse pass, I might completely forget I was interested in whatever it was and miss out on the opportunity to learn something new!!! 😭😂 Being healthy is hard.
Thank you for this!! Can you keep doing 7 videos?
Wow I'm a 7w6 I grew up in a really bad child hood. I put blame on my mother for a long time. Which yes she did make a few bad choices but was not a bad person.i would always try and avoid pain which was impossible when you're mother was diagnosed with cancer when you were 16 and dies shortly after I was 29. Close to the end I was a main care taker for her and my two younger siblings and was there with her to the end. I was married still am, during this time I would be with my mom during the week and go home to husband on weekend (my mother lived 3 hours away) but everytime I would drive back out for another week I just wanted to keep driving away and not be with my mom during this time. I had to work through this over and over. And tell myself I love my mom, I'm want to be here for her, I will be here for her. Now I avoid anything cancer related topics especially breast cancer (she had that) watch a movie with it? Nope click to funny. Avoid need comedy. Wow 😳
Thank you for that Doc! It couldn’t be more accurate.
Very helpful video! Thanks!
Great information in this video!
I wish I could be a 3! This FOMO thing is not fun. I want to accomplish more. See i said it More.
You got this! Keep hustling and reaching for those goals!
Love your anecdotal story at the end. Can u share more to shed more light on life as a 7? Thanks.
Good information for this 7.
What’s the name of the book you’re referring to?
Honestly, I don't remember... Maybe, The Wisdom Of The Enneagram
Sounds very ADHD…and most 7s apparently test as such!
Still probably moving to Spain for 6+ months, leaving the best bf ever ._.
Obsession
Surface relationships
Comes off as shallow
Pursue fun to avoid pain
Get miserable trying to be happy
Want to, feels good in moment