If you are looking not only around, but also within, you never stop noticing what are the magical and therefore important things of life. I'm 74 this year and I'm still finding amazing new experiences all over the place.
I find that you have rather solid existential durability. Solid because it's dynamic. I am about to turn 57. I strive to conduct myself as you have laid out for yourself, and I worked very hard to attain the ability to do so. Many people resent this. They resent that they don't have the ability to hurt me. I am free to speak my mind (but not totally). My son is an adult now and I have helped him steer clear of many of the problems and situations I encountered when I was young.
I know exactly what you mean. I've been surrounded by dysfunctional people with personality disorders my entire life. I can spot a dozen very quickly. They cannot harm, manipulate, coerce or control me. They get bored and move on.
I will be 65 in October and I confirm what Daniel says :) more older I become more happier I am. it's the best time in my life. The only little problem is to find such old people like me to feel happy like I feel :)
Sabina Gatti I will be 58 in September and I feel the same. How liberating and empowering is to feel like the only thing that really matters is how you feel and what you think about yourself. I wish I knew that in my 20s ...30s....40s....:)))) But it is never too late, isn't it? I wish you all the best, Sabina!
Hello Sabina, I am from Romania!! I have been a few times in Poland for work and I loved it! Also, I have worked with Polish officers in Brussels and I enjoyed learning a few words in your language! :)))
I have mixed feelings about becoming more aware of myself and others. I am grateful for the ability to see the world, myself and others clearly. It keeps me safe and happy. However it can be a lonely process at times. There are so few people who are emotionally mature and mentally healthy. It is easy to slip into a state of despondency and bitterness, to withdraw from people and society, to lose hope in humanity and give up on people all together. The ego tells us that we can be self-sufficient that we do not need anybody. That is a Narcissistic defense and is unhealthy. While it is good to be emotionally independent we need friendship and love. They are healthy human needs. It can be very difficult at times meeting our need for intimacy and friendship when healthy people are so rare. We can find ways to love ourselves and do things that are creative and productive, things make us happy. However if we use these things to deny ourselves the love and friendship we need as a defense against rejection, betrayal and abandonment we lock ourselves away in an ivory tower and isolate ourselves. We prevent any opportunity for connecting with others in a healthy way and cheat ourselves of any chance of finding the friendship and support we long for.
Daniel, you’re an inspiration brother. Love you man. PS: I just started journaling, and I’m using your book on the 12 steps from trauma to enlightenment as a guide.. it’s already been helpful. Cheers
Wow! So much value in this video. Most people in your position of not having kids, wife, job etc., would have a pessimistic view on life, but you are giving me a model for the world where you can be so alive and happy and not have all those things society considers normal. I love when you talk about having that childlike wonder of the world, because I just so rarely see that in adults that I meet, maybe because of their own trauma, or how busy their lives get with career, spouse, and kids.
57 and healing. When I get close to traumatic memory, it comes in layers over many years, I alway get extremely creative and energetic. I hope to one day open my specialty coffee shop and serve thru it. I have really exciting ideas, a business plan in my head
Gerhard Symons, yes! Same for me. I was finally able to start writing fiction, something I had wanted to do since college but was never able to. Too many negative inner voices and demons. I also think to make interesting art that speaks to other people you have to do the “emotional homework” Daniel spoke about in this video.
You are spot on mate. Unfortunately I have fallen to alcoholism attributed to ritualistic trauma by peers as a teenager, parental abuse as a child and teenager, and the pressures of society and bad habits within myself as an adult. My creativity and drug use has sent me into psychosis many a time. religion, politics, ethics, philosophy, alcohol, cannabis. My musical achievements have not achieved their greatness. hopefully still got some time left. peace and love bro
Right on, Daniel! I'm 62. I call it Merlin's gift: reverse aging. Born old and becoming young. I had to make all those mistakes just to grow. The purpose of life (to state the obvious) is to grow! If your not awake, you're sleeping. Being aware is to adapt to life's changes in a way that is open enough to be always learning. A thousand likes to you Daniel! I also sometimes feel sad that I wasted so much time. But I laugh sometimes as well. It seems the more I learn, the less I know, there's so much to forget! And the only constant seems to be change! But that's okay. I'm grateful for the lessons. So I must also be blessed with the struggle. I can breathe and be present in this moment, finally. 💟☮️🌎
I love your videos you are the genuine Sun in a gloomy fake world. I agree my older self is far more confident less defensive more courageous but the kid inside of me still yearns to be loved n protected but the best part of being older is to know my likes n dislikes and the confidence I have to speak up.
I agree Daniel. I’m much more self aware but more isolated bc ppl don’t get me bc I’m much more honest than others. I find ppl who are older just get more angry and dysfunctional. Ppl grow old but don’t grow up. No self awareness in most ppl. It’s depressing to see.
"Thou shouldst not have been old till thou hadst been wise", says the Fool to King Lear, in the homonymous Shakespearean play. I think that line sums up what you're saying about the importance of finding and enjoying wisdom before it's too late. I'm 43 years old and I see eye to eye with you there. Most people, however, are unable to do that and wind up falling prey to King Lear's ironical destiny: they get old before they have got wise.
I agree with all of this. I find the benefits of gaining wisdom outweighs the negative physical aspects of the aging process. Thank you for this video. 👍
At 47 you are still a VERY YOUNG MAN. I will be 59 in less than 2 weeks and i concider myself a very young man! Be careful what you COSIGN and OWN about yourself, especially PHYSICAL things!! They don't necessarily HAVE to be true!! If you WANT to check out Abraham/Hicks on youtube! Very INSIGHTFUL and REVEALING!! All the VERY BEST to you always! 😄😄🎼🎹🎶🎵🎤
I believe it was bell hooks who pointed out that as men get older, they are less expected to be tough and more permitted to be sensitive. Younger men aren't allowed to express their emotions because they're expected to be protectors, and no one feels safe when sensitive men are present. They're perceived as weak. But no one's going to kick the ass of an older man for being weak.
Daniel even your mistakes and pain is wonderful. You give lots of value in a way you speak about your topics. You have many points where you are grateful and that‘s awesome. Some don‘t really appreciate anything nor gratitude. You treasure life now
Sometimes people are so much on the same page than we even realize ! Late forties too and excited about the future too! Thank you for sharing beautiful soul.
I really like that you are focused on the continual process of becoming more healthy and whole throughout your lifetime. I completely resonate with everything you are talking about in this video. I am currently 60 years old and functioning better and healthier than ever in my life. My focus has always been on training my entire being - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in body, mind, and spirit - to become totally healthy, whole, balanced, functional, and complete through the Word of God and a healthy lifestyle. I am excited about enjoying a strong 40 year run from 60 to 100. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
@@dmackler58 Thank you so much! Thank you for your good work! I relate to much of your quality content! I would love to see more people embrace the personal therapeutic process of quality self-exploration and self-examination for resolving their internal issues and problems as you have been doing throughout your journey! I wish you continued success in your process!
Hey Daniel, I've been binge watching your videos since I discovered your channel a few weeks ago. And today I had a realization that I see you as a mentor and kind of like a spirit guide from the future.:) And then it got to me that what you're doing for the humanity is pretty much what our parents are supposed to do for us. They're supposed to guide us and share their life wisdom (and life hacks) to help us grow and navigate life. They rarely succeed in this unfortunately but what's amazing is that we can share out wisdom with each other as we mature. I'm also planning on sharing the wisdom I gained so far with the world when I'm ready. Thank you for setting an example and being an inspiration.❤
Hey Daniel, thank you for this video (and all the others). I hope you'll keep on posting this stuff! PS: Here's something nice I heard once: "It's never too late for a happy childhood." That kind of cheered me up. I'm 41 now and I'm going through kind of a second (much happier) childhood right now. :-)
I could have written every word of this. I’m 49 and my ADHD diagnosis at 46 launched a path of self discovery and new love of learning (back to college for Psychology, hence my finding you). I will definitely be sharing this one. Thank you!
I hope to nurture more of your attitudes as I age. You're a real inspiration to me in how you've handled your trauma and developed yourself psychologically.
I just turned sixty-four and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. A good part of the reason is because, as I watch the world fall apart, I am so thankful that I lived during the best times in this country!
It's interesting. I always thought with age I would find greater meaning or purpose but that hasnt happened. I never found a cause, job, person that I have truly felt a sense of connection with and it's always unusual. I find I simply accumulate more regret and lament. A sense of mass squandering hangs over me, that I made lousy life investments that cant be undone as these things are things of strictly youth. Moving into the other half of life it asks you new questions, essentially it asks who are you really to the world as the fun and games, the masquerading and all that it yields stops. What are you without the gifts of vigor, virility and hope. I have found that I'm no one. I have no skin in the game. Nothing out there is a reflection of anything in me. Youth is a dream like state where life seems like an unending horizon with new things to come. Now we see there's an end to that horizon and it draws quicker with time. I still havent found any catharsis or right of passage. Nothing has unveiled itself to me. The only difference is in youth we had assumptions and naivety to keep us going whereas as an adult you come to terms with the fact that it's pretty much insanity. Impressions, assumptions and approximations of things that remain elusive. A clumsy dance between the mind and the physical.
Well you have a brilliant mind! Your perspectives and experiences are as valuable as any and is a part of the circle of life. You are everything and nothing, just as I am and everyone else is. Nothing more, nothing less, and it is perfectly fine!
How do you make a living now, Daniel? I'd be interested to know what you think about the necessity to work and thoughts about "amounting" to something through "achievement". Absolutely love your videos and so appreciate your wisdom.
The language of “making a living” as meaning “what you do to earn money” is such a strange and unfortunate Western cultural conflation. I need to hear some wise words on this topic to help me heal from overbearing, parental driving forces in my life (I’m 30 btw). How can we get out of “drive” mode without going full-on rogue and moving to a hippie commune? 🤔 I currently feel like there is so little in-between.
In his previous video he actually mentions what he does now. More odd jobs, I believe, he mentioned video editing and even cleaning. I agree with what you say about drive. Before staying home with the kids I worked in an office environment, it was awful, 90% of the time was spent dealing with office politics and bullying. Don’t see myself going back. Would much rather have a simple job.
I know someone that's in their 50s who can't leave the house because of physical breakdown that's compounded with emotional trauma. I know someone else who's in their 70s who's outside working on art projects and lifting heavy building materials every single day. It strikes me that so much of the aging process is psychological; some people can survive approaching 100 and have more energy and life and tenacity than ever, and other people can barely survive to the age of 60 just existing with themself.
This gave me a lot of hope. And it´s always so moving to see someone who has in big parts freed their inner child again. Sadly it hardly ever happenes. What you said about that emotionally growing and mentally growing is unique to humans as apposed to animals, I dissagree with that, because really humans need to realize that we are not all that different. "Plants", "animals", "humans" (who I actually consider to also be animals on a biological and every other level). The thing with for example wild living mammals, who supposedly are fairly similar to us in many ways is, that they don´t have to heal, they don´t have to free themselves of unhealthy relationships and fight against a fucked up society, because they naturally use their instincts, they never unlearned and were forced to not do that anymore. Therefore in a way many wild animals (not domestic, because they also tend to become very traumatized and emotionally wounded) are in many ways usually much more mature and healthy on a somatopsychological way. Obviously if you have been through a lot and thought your way out of it, you could outgrow that state even, but I haven´t watched or known anyone who ever managed to do that, though some are close to it. You know it´s really nice to grow on a cognitive level and undoubtely humans are one of the cleverest species on the planet, but if it comes to maturing and growing on an emotional level, we (at least talking about North America and Europe) are really WORSE at it not better than most other species on the planet, because if you haven´t even healed all of your traumata, if you haven´t really healed all the wounds of rejection and abandonement and fully opened up all ways of receiving the world and living, there´s no way a big neocortex could ever make up for it, because it can only function in ways of gaining a deeper understanding of the world when the healing is done, otherwise the picture it shows us, the ways our thoughts are shaped are always driven and distorted by our wounds and there is such a big lense in front of our eyes that we can´t really see anymore. However it doesn´t have to be like that. Maybe one day we will change. One day everyone will live to their fullest potential again. Because where intelligence was a doom in the past in so many ways, it can be a part of the way out again as well. We became so clever, that we could protect us and provide food for us, even when we were traumatized and hurt and not living to any potential anymore and so we could avoid facing those things and because we could we did and one day everyone was around us healing had become a weird and hard thing and unknown to people like psychiatrists, DSM writers, psychologists, even therapists and doctors and to ordinary people as well. How will the tale continue?
I will be 66 in 3 weeks an have lived much longer than I had planned.. Know why they call this The Golden Years. Need gold to survive. With my dealing with 16 medical conditions an no cure for 4 of them, I will be going home soon. I have beaten the odds many times already. Praying that I can have a life again before I break on through. Now alone an trying to sale most of my belongings I have discovered that I am stronger than I thought. I have many more challenges now than 10 years ago. My world crashed in Jan 2014
Are you feeling any better now? I had my good cry earlier hearing about you losing your pet. Crying beats having a breakdown. It will take time. Hang in there. I am where you are at. Only that i am dealing with 6 deaths, loss of career and an income.
The days when you do not upload I go back to your old videos and I get so happy finding little gems of wisdom that help me understand ...great work, Daniel!!!
Omg! I was just talking about this very thing w my therapist today about the things I’ve gotten in touch w as I’ve gotten older. Ur spot on! Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone!
Perfect Daniel..I am 63 now and didn’t start to heal my traumas until about 6 years ago. It’s been a very painful and rewarding journey ..and still is being... it’s far more freeing than being stuck in denial. Loved this. 😊 thank you
It's a privilege to age. My niece passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at eighteen years old. I'm three years away from being fifty and when I'm feeling sorry for myself that I'm getting older I think of my niece and how she didn't get the chance to be here from a young age. Be grateful for every single birthday you get because you owe it to others that weren't as lucky.
What a wonderful talk. Perfect timing. I really needed this 🌞 I appreciate all the learning & evolving, that’s for sure. I appreciate the recovery work & process, that’s for sure. 🌞 I am working on body acceptance. I have assorted issues that limit when & how I can interact with others, or how I can have fun by myself. It takes courage to get up with an older body & say, “ I’m ready to enjoy today. “ Especially since society looks at older people as “liabilities”.. I’m older, recovering from Cptsd, and physically disabled. Triple home run 🤩
Wow, that was very profound and valuable. Helped me remind myself what really matters. I experienced getting stuck a lot in the past few months - stuck in details of thoughts about what happened to me, injustices that have been done to me and others, stuck in feelings of dependence on people in my life. This video really turned a switch. Sometimes a small reminder can facilitate a true "reset" - getting back to what's really important: Being the best and healthiest version of myself. And yeah, I am very hopeful to grow even more in the future.
Dear Daniel, I could relate to every word in this video. Often times, I had the feeling that you were reading my mind out loud. How amazing is that and how much does it say about your extra-ordinary talent. Thank you for your work, you are helping me immensely!
I can relate to what you say about being able to see those who are mentally healthy and those not. It can be frustrating and down right stressful (being able to see that ). but at the same time it feels more empowering being sblevto do more, recognise more etc... And yes!I can also relate to wishing I had grown and learned things I know,now,decades sooner. I know its not mostly my own fault. I had childhood trauma and did not have parents to teach me what you preaxh here on TH-cam,as well as what's in the book called boundaries. Noe,better late then never ...I can at least do better for myself now and for my kids.
If I didn't take my vitamins ,do my juicing and other healthful things for my body I would feel the same about my aging body. Instead I feel better and can so more tjan when I was a child. Due to better taking care of myself. But all that other stuff ,yes,I can relate and agree on 💓
Yep, great stuff. The bowel cleansing is pretty important for maintaining a high level of health too, even if it is generally frowned upon in our culture.
@@carl8568 As I've become healthier in many ways, I've begun to notice that our culture frowns upon most things that are good for you. People equate being good with being boring.
👍🏻 Hi, you adorable wise man called Daniel, I believe for people like us that measure our life by internal growth that the key 🔑 may be just cherishing each moment for what it is...having an attitude of , “ I GET to experience , A, B, and C each day, realizing that whatever it is we are experiencing it is because we chose it, realizing that being totally awake can be experienced RIGHT NOW, how we are, THIS MOMENT!!! For me that was the catalyst to more healing during a time I was stuck so to speak and it’s never ceased to be true at least for me. Sending lots 💗 💕 💗 your way Daniel!!!
"rage against the dying of the light!" grow, heal, and repair the body in the same way that you do with the mind and spirit...excellent video -- i love your flat footed responses.
Dandelion...I have experienced occasions when it has felt like my brain too has stopped growing..and it has also managed to start growing again. Right now I feel growth but I also know it can grow or diminish at different times, I try my best not to give myself a hard time about it. For me the feeling can come and go (just like the idea that no emotion can ever be permanent/constant.)
Daniel, we both know there is a deluge of desperation our unconscious defense mechanisms keep at bay. Desperation when we realize we are going to die. What does that even mean, and could there be anything scarier? We can't avoid it, and it's coming. One good thing about getting older is that you don't have to worry about making so many damn important choices. Most important choices are made and now you just have to deal with the consequences and not worry about changing your life around while the clock ticks (baby making rush, anyone?). Nah, the doors have slammed closed long ago and now you just have peace knowing what you are. You might not like it, but at least you can learn how to live with it and finally get some peace.
Although we need a healthy mind to sustain a level of health for the body we also need to do regular maintenance in the way of cleansing if we want to live long lives. In 2018 I met a gentleman in Varanasi India who was 122 years old and in fairly good shape, better than many Australians I have seen @ 80 years old. He was still walking around, without a cane or anything, doing daily yoga and disease free. If we can minimise the amount of toxins in the body, keep the digestive fire stoked and commit to regular movement I don't think living past 110 is all that unreasonable.
Great work! I think you would really enjoy Transcendental Meditation as a tool for self-evolution and personal growth... not to mention the bliss running through your entire body and brain. It's different than all other meditations, not to mention easy and natural.
Thanks Daniel! Can you say more about the way you evolved from having to symbolize your understanding in order to speak more directly? What is the connection between healing and symbolizing?
One fly in the ointment of the idea that we can continue to grow as we get older into our 70s, 80s and 90s. That is to use an example is my father in his 90s with vascular dementia. He is doing nothing of the sort but becoming more childlike. The diseased physical brain puts a limit on what is possible. The key to disease in the elderly is that there is no benefit in reproductive terms in being healthy in terms of evolution.
Lol! I love it, welcome to the old fart world Danny boy! Let’s have a lot of fun with what we can offer to others, and at the same time be childlike and enjoy silliness. You have wise words.
Wow over and over I relate to all that you say. , Here is to me not commenting before a video is completely finished. As the moment I I begin to write the comment I cease to be fully listening. 😉
I hate getting older. Libido diminishes substantially, ergo sexual passion and zest is atenuated. Healthwise new booboos start creeping in, and I don’t have half the energy I had, say when I was in my mid thirties. Yes, I know more than before, yet realistically I would trade my current wisdom for my younger and stupider years in a heartbeat. I am 51.
Im starting to heal from my emotional abusive husband. I believe in diagnosing NPD. I know he was hurt before and then he hurt me. I don't want to be like him. I stopped being the victimized ang codependent. BTW can you marry me someday?
If you are looking not only around, but also within, you never stop noticing what are the magical and therefore important things of life. I'm 74 this year and I'm still finding amazing new experiences all over the place.
@Patient Growth Yeah, I'll be 78 next month. I'm ready to go, but I'm also ready to stick around for another few spins - all the best!
I've struck gold by finding this channel.
I find that you have rather solid existential durability. Solid because it's dynamic. I am about to turn 57. I strive to conduct myself as you have laid out for yourself, and I worked very hard to attain the ability to do so. Many people resent this. They resent that they don't have the ability to hurt me. I am free to speak my mind (but not totally). My son is an adult now and I have helped him steer clear of many of the problems and situations I encountered when I was young.
Kevin Hornbuckle thank you for helping your son, and guiding him as a good parent does... 💯
Crystal Lorree Thanks! He's about to take the stage as a jazz trombone soloist. He's turned out pretty well.
I know exactly what you mean. I've been surrounded by dysfunctional people with personality disorders my entire life. I can spot a dozen very quickly. They cannot harm, manipulate, coerce or control me. They get bored and move on.
I will be 65 in October and I confirm what Daniel says :) more older I become more happier I am. it's the best time in my life. The only little problem is to find such old people like me to feel happy like I feel :)
Sabina Gatti I will be 58 in September and I feel the same. How liberating and empowering is to feel like the only thing that really matters is how you feel and what you think about yourself. I wish I knew that in my 20s ...30s....40s....:)))) But it is never too late, isn't it? I wish you all the best, Sabina!
@@cristinamagurean Where are you from? I am from Poland :) I wish you all the best too and to all people here :)
Hello Sabina, I am from Romania!! I have been a few times in Poland for work and I loved it! Also, I have worked with Polish officers in Brussels and I enjoyed learning a few words in your language! :)))
“Youth is wasted on the young”
I have mixed feelings about becoming more aware of myself and others. I am grateful for the ability to see the world, myself and others clearly. It keeps me safe and happy. However it can be a lonely process at times. There are so few people who are emotionally mature and mentally healthy. It is easy to slip into a state of despondency and bitterness, to withdraw from people and society, to lose hope in humanity and give up on people all together. The ego tells us that we can be self-sufficient that we do not need anybody. That is a Narcissistic defense and is unhealthy. While it is good to be emotionally independent we need friendship and love. They are healthy human needs. It can be very difficult at times meeting our need for intimacy and friendship when healthy people are so rare. We can find ways to love ourselves and do things that are creative and productive, things make us happy. However if we use these things to deny ourselves the love and friendship we need as a defense against rejection, betrayal and abandonment we lock ourselves away in an ivory tower and isolate ourselves. We prevent any opportunity for connecting with others in a healthy way and cheat ourselves of any chance of finding the friendship and support we long for.
Daniel, you’re an inspiration brother. Love you man.
PS: I just started journaling, and I’m using your book on the 12 steps from trauma to enlightenment as a guide.. it’s already been helpful. Cheers
I have to get that book. I didn’t even know he had written it. Thank you for sharing.
Where can I find the book?
Can you please post the link?
Rocky AL Gburi
It’s on his website that he has linked in the description of this video.
Click on the books tab. Viola
Rocky AL Gburi www.wildtruth.net
You look in pretty good shape for 47! I think these videos are great! Solid content, engagingly written, well-thought out. Please keep them coming!
Wow! So much value in this video. Most people in your position of not having kids, wife, job etc., would have a pessimistic view on life, but you are giving me a model for the world where you can be so alive and happy and not have all those things society considers normal. I love when you talk about having that childlike wonder of the world, because I just so rarely see that in adults that I meet, maybe because of their own trauma, or how busy their lives get with career, spouse, and kids.
57 and healing. When I get close to traumatic memory, it comes in layers over many years, I alway get extremely creative and energetic. I hope to one day open my specialty coffee shop and serve thru it. I have really exciting ideas, a business plan in my head
It is uncanny how my creative side flourished at the time when I first started to distance myself from the family of origin.
Gerhard Symons yes!
@mike wood The power of simply walking away is immense.
No anger, no rage. Just walk away.
Gerhard Symons, yes! Same for me. I was finally able to start writing fiction, something I had wanted to do since college but was never able to. Too many negative inner voices and demons.
I also think to make interesting art that speaks to other people you have to do the “emotional homework” Daniel spoke about in this video.
You are spot on mate. Unfortunately I have fallen to alcoholism attributed to ritualistic trauma by peers as a teenager, parental abuse as a child and teenager, and the pressures of society and bad habits within myself as an adult. My creativity and drug use has sent me into psychosis many a time. religion, politics, ethics, philosophy, alcohol, cannabis. My musical achievements have not achieved their greatness. hopefully still got some time left. peace and love bro
I love you.
Right on, Daniel! I'm 62. I call it Merlin's gift: reverse aging. Born old and becoming young. I had to make all those mistakes just to grow. The purpose of life (to state the obvious) is to grow! If your not awake, you're sleeping. Being aware is to adapt to life's changes in a way that is open enough to be always learning. A thousand likes to you Daniel! I also sometimes feel sad that I wasted so much time. But I laugh sometimes as well. It seems the more I learn, the less I know, there's so much to forget! And the only constant seems to be change! But that's okay. I'm grateful for the lessons. So I must also be blessed with the struggle. I can breathe and be present in this moment, finally. 💟☮️🌎
Yes! I've started to think of my fear of death, when I have it, as an expression of unhappiness or lack of meaning. So far this has always been true.
well said. more healed = more freedom
I love your videos you are the genuine Sun in a gloomy fake world. I agree my older self is far more confident less defensive more courageous but the kid inside of me still yearns to be loved n protected but the best part of being older is to know my likes n dislikes and the confidence I have to speak up.
I agree Daniel. I’m much more self aware but more isolated bc ppl don’t get me bc I’m much more honest than others. I find ppl who are older just get more angry and dysfunctional. Ppl grow old but don’t grow up. No self awareness in most ppl. It’s depressing to see.
Lara, yeah, sometimes it's hard to find the gems..
"Thou shouldst not have been old till thou hadst been wise", says the Fool to King Lear, in the homonymous Shakespearean play. I think that line sums up what you're saying about the importance of finding and enjoying wisdom before it's too late. I'm 43 years old and I see eye to eye with you there.
Most people, however, are unable to do that and wind up falling prey to King Lear's ironical destiny: they get old before they have got wise.
I agree with all of this. I find the benefits of gaining wisdom outweighs the negative physical aspects of the aging process. Thank you for this video. 👍
At 47 you are still a VERY YOUNG MAN. I will be 59 in less than 2 weeks and i concider myself a very young man! Be careful what you COSIGN and OWN about yourself, especially PHYSICAL things!! They don't necessarily HAVE to be true!! If you WANT to check out Abraham/Hicks on youtube! Very INSIGHTFUL and REVEALING!! All the VERY BEST to you always! 😄😄🎼🎹🎶🎵🎤
I believe it was bell hooks who pointed out that as men get older, they are less expected to be tough and more permitted to be sensitive. Younger men aren't allowed to express their emotions because they're expected to be protectors, and no one feels safe when sensitive men are present. They're perceived as weak. But no one's going to kick the ass of an older man for being weak.
Daniel even your mistakes and pain is wonderful. You give lots of value in a way you speak about your topics. You have many points where you are grateful and that‘s awesome. Some don‘t really appreciate anything nor gratitude. You treasure life now
How beautiful! Thank you!
Sometimes people are so much on the same page than we even realize ! Late forties too and excited about the future too! Thank you for sharing beautiful soul.
Such respect for you Daniel. You help me do much bc I’m still dealing with depression.
I really like that you are focused on the continual process of becoming more healthy and whole throughout your lifetime.
I completely resonate with everything you are talking about in this video.
I am currently 60 years old and functioning better and healthier than ever in my life.
My focus has always been on training my entire being - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in body, mind, and spirit - to become totally healthy, whole, balanced, functional, and complete through the Word of God and a healthy lifestyle.
I am excited about enjoying a strong 40 year run from 60 to 100.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
Wishing you only the best!
@@dmackler58
Thank you so much!
Thank you for your good work!
I relate to much of your quality content!
I would love to see more people embrace the personal therapeutic process of quality self-exploration and self-examination for resolving their internal issues and problems as you have been doing throughout your journey!
I wish you continued success in your process!
Hey Daniel, I've been binge watching your videos since I discovered your channel a few weeks ago. And today I had a realization that I see you as a mentor and kind of like a spirit guide from the future.:) And then it got to me that what you're doing for the humanity is pretty much what our parents are supposed to do for us. They're supposed to guide us and share their life wisdom (and life hacks) to help us grow and navigate life. They rarely succeed in this unfortunately but what's amazing is that we can share out wisdom with each other as we mature. I'm also planning on sharing the wisdom I gained so far with the world when I'm ready. Thank you for setting an example and being an inspiration.❤
Hey Daniel, thank you for this video (and all the others). I hope you'll keep on posting this stuff!
PS: Here's something nice I heard once: "It's never too late for a happy childhood." That kind of cheered me up. I'm 41 now and I'm going through kind of a second (much happier) childhood right now. :-)
I could have written every word of this. I’m 49 and my ADHD diagnosis at 46 launched a path of self discovery and new love of learning (back to college for Psychology, hence my finding you). I will definitely be sharing this one. Thank you!
I hope to nurture more of your attitudes as I age. You're a real inspiration to me in how you've handled your trauma and developed yourself psychologically.
You're an inspiration
I just turned sixty-four and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. A good part of the reason is because, as I watch the world fall apart, I am so thankful that I lived during the best times in this country!
It's interesting. I always thought with age I would find greater meaning or purpose but that hasnt happened. I never found a cause, job, person that I have truly felt a sense of connection with and it's always unusual. I find I simply accumulate more regret and lament. A sense of mass squandering hangs over me, that I made lousy life investments that cant be undone as these things are things of strictly youth. Moving into the other half of life it asks you new questions, essentially it asks who are you really to the world as the fun and games, the masquerading and all that it yields stops. What are you without the gifts of vigor, virility and hope. I have found that I'm no one. I have no skin in the game. Nothing out there is a reflection of anything in me. Youth is a dream like state where life seems like an unending horizon with new things to come. Now we see there's an end to that horizon and it draws quicker with time.
I still havent found any catharsis or right of passage. Nothing has unveiled itself to me. The only difference is in youth we had assumptions and naivety to keep us going whereas as an adult you come to terms with the fact that it's pretty much insanity. Impressions, assumptions and approximations of things that remain elusive. A clumsy dance between the mind and the physical.
Well you have a brilliant mind! Your perspectives and experiences are as valuable as any and is a part of the circle of life. You are everything and nothing, just as I am and everyone else is. Nothing more, nothing less, and it is perfectly fine!
...the true ground at our clay feet. The grain of beauty...
Daniel, wise as ever. do you ever do a Q&A session?
How do you make a living now, Daniel? I'd be interested to know what you think about the necessity to work and thoughts about "amounting" to something through "achievement". Absolutely love your videos and so appreciate your wisdom.
Love that topic suggestion!
The language of “making a living” as meaning “what you do to earn money” is such a strange and unfortunate Western cultural conflation. I need to hear some wise words on this topic to help me heal from overbearing, parental driving forces in my life (I’m 30 btw). How can we get out of “drive” mode without going full-on rogue and moving to a hippie commune? 🤔 I currently feel like there is so little in-between.
In his previous video he actually mentions what he does now. More odd jobs, I believe, he mentioned video editing and even cleaning.
I agree with what you say about drive. Before staying home with the kids I worked in an office environment, it was awful, 90% of the time was spent dealing with office politics and bullying. Don’t see myself going back. Would much rather have a simple job.
Yes...and working to live versus living to work.
I know someone that's in their 50s who can't leave the house because of physical breakdown that's compounded with emotional trauma. I know someone else who's in their 70s who's outside working on art projects and lifting heavy building materials every single day. It strikes me that so much of the aging process is psychological; some people can survive approaching 100 and have more energy and life and tenacity than ever, and other people can barely survive to the age of 60 just existing with themself.
This gave me a lot of hope. And it´s always so moving to see someone who has in big parts freed their inner child again. Sadly it hardly ever happenes. What you said about that emotionally growing and mentally growing is unique to humans as apposed to animals, I dissagree with that, because really humans need to realize that we are not all that different. "Plants", "animals", "humans" (who I actually consider to also be animals on a biological and every other level). The thing with for example wild living mammals, who supposedly are fairly similar to us in many ways is, that they don´t have to heal, they don´t have to free themselves of unhealthy relationships and fight against a fucked up society, because they naturally use their instincts, they never unlearned and were forced to not do that anymore. Therefore in a way many wild animals (not domestic, because they also tend to become very traumatized and emotionally wounded) are in many ways usually much more mature and healthy on a somatopsychological way. Obviously if you have been through a lot and thought your way out of it, you could outgrow that state even, but I haven´t watched or known anyone who ever managed to do that, though some are close to it. You know it´s really nice to grow on a cognitive level and undoubtely humans are one of the cleverest species on the planet, but if it comes to maturing and growing on an emotional level, we (at least talking about North America and Europe) are really WORSE at it not better than most other species on the planet, because if you haven´t even healed all of your traumata, if you haven´t really healed all the wounds of rejection and abandonement and fully opened up all ways of receiving the world and living, there´s no way a big neocortex could ever make up for it, because it can only function in ways of gaining a deeper understanding of the world when the healing is done, otherwise the picture it shows us, the ways our thoughts are shaped are always driven and distorted by our wounds and there is such a big lense in front of our eyes that we can´t really see anymore. However it doesn´t have to be like that. Maybe one day we will change. One day everyone will live to their fullest potential again. Because where intelligence was a doom in the past in so many ways, it can be a part of the way out again as well. We became so clever, that we could protect us and provide food for us, even when we were traumatized and hurt and not living to any potential anymore and so we could avoid facing those things and because we could we did and one day everyone was around us healing had become a weird and hard thing and unknown to people like psychiatrists, DSM writers, psychologists, even therapists and doctors and to ordinary people as well. How will the tale continue?
I love your perspective ❤️
I will be 66 in 3 weeks an have lived much longer than I had planned.. Know why they call this The Golden Years. Need gold to survive. With my dealing with 16 medical conditions an no cure for 4 of them, I will be going home soon. I have beaten the odds many times already. Praying that I can have a life again before I break on through. Now alone an trying to sale most of my belongings I have discovered that I am stronger than I thought. I have many more challenges now than 10 years ago. My world crashed in Jan 2014
Are you feeling any better now? I had my good cry earlier hearing about you losing your pet. Crying beats having a breakdown. It will take time. Hang in there. I am where you are at. Only that i am dealing with 6 deaths, loss of career and an income.
Randy R it sounds like you really are stronger than you'd thought..awesome! You sound a really cool person. Wishing you all the best. :)
Keep the content coming, it has been very consistent recently and I'm really enjoying it. You should think about starting a podcast.
The days when you do not upload I go back to your old videos and I get so happy finding little gems of wisdom that help me understand ...great work, Daniel!!!
Omg! I was just talking about this very thing w my therapist today about the things I’ve gotten in touch w as I’ve gotten older. Ur spot on! Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone!
I don't think any of us can critisise older people for not liking being old, we don't know what it's like to be in their shoes.
Perfect Daniel..I am 63 now and didn’t start to heal my traumas until about 6 years ago. It’s been a very painful and rewarding journey ..and still is being... it’s far more freeing than being stuck in denial. Loved this. 😊 thank you
For some reason I can t get this to play. Please don’t take it down
I really love you. Thank you so much for what you are doing.
It's a privilege to age. My niece passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at eighteen years old. I'm three years away from being fifty and when I'm feeling sorry for myself that I'm getting older I think of my niece and how she didn't get the chance to be here from a young age. Be grateful for every single birthday you get because you owe it to others that weren't as lucky.
What a wonderful talk. Perfect timing. I really needed this 🌞 I appreciate all the learning & evolving, that’s for sure. I appreciate the recovery work & process, that’s for sure. 🌞 I am working on body acceptance. I have assorted issues that limit when & how I can interact with others, or how I can have fun by myself. It takes courage to get up with an older body & say, “ I’m ready to enjoy today. “ Especially since society looks at older people as “liabilities”.. I’m older, recovering from Cptsd, and physically disabled. Triple home run 🤩
Wow, that was very profound and valuable. Helped me remind myself what really matters. I experienced getting stuck a lot in the past few months - stuck in details of thoughts about what happened to me, injustices that have been done to me and others, stuck in feelings of dependence on people in my life.
This video really turned a switch. Sometimes a small reminder can facilitate a true "reset" - getting back to what's really important: Being the best and healthiest version of myself. And yeah, I am very hopeful to grow even more in the future.
What a great message!
Fantastic perspective. Yea sometimes i wish i knew better earlier
Yes yes yes. Absolutely thumbs up 👍🏻
Dear Daniel, I could relate to every word in this video. Often times, I had the feeling that you were reading my mind out loud. How amazing is that and how much does it say about your extra-ordinary talent. Thank you for your work, you are helping me immensely!
I can relate to what you say about being able to see those who are mentally healthy and those not. It can be frustrating and down right stressful (being able to see that ). but at the same time it feels more empowering being sblevto do more, recognise more etc... And yes!I can also relate to wishing I had grown and learned things I know,now,decades sooner. I know its not mostly my own fault. I had childhood trauma and did not have parents to teach me what you preaxh here on TH-cam,as well as what's in the book called boundaries. Noe,better late then never ...I can at least do better for myself now and for my kids.
You are such a blessing!! Thank you so much for your videos❤️
This has to be my favorite one, sure hope Daniel Mackler is exploring self and YouTubing at 57 and 67, how about 77 and 87.
Hi Daniel, thank you for sharing this
Great video! Thanks for sharing your experiance!
Thank you! ☺️☺️
If I didn't take my vitamins ,do my juicing and other healthful things for my body I would feel the same about my aging body. Instead I feel better and can so more tjan when I was a child. Due to better taking care of myself. But all that other stuff ,yes,I can relate and agree on 💓
Yep, great stuff. The bowel cleansing is pretty important for maintaining a high level of health too, even if it is generally frowned upon in our culture.
@@carl8568 As I've become healthier in many ways, I've begun to notice that our culture frowns upon most things that are good for you. People equate being good with being boring.
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Yes, correct. I find most people pretty boring to be honest.
i love you and your videos so much!!!
👍🏻 Hi, you adorable wise man called Daniel, I believe for people like us that measure our life by internal growth that the key 🔑 may be just cherishing each moment for what it is...having an attitude of , “ I GET to experience , A, B, and C each day, realizing that whatever it is we are experiencing it is because we chose it, realizing that being totally awake can be experienced RIGHT NOW, how we are, THIS MOMENT!!! For me that was the catalyst to more healing during a time I was stuck so to speak and it’s never ceased to be true at least for me. Sending lots 💗 💕 💗 your way Daniel!!!
"rage against the dying of the light!" grow, heal, and repair the body in the same way that you do with the mind and spirit...excellent video -- i love your flat footed responses.
I love your message have watched you many years, So cool that you hitched around the world that’s amazing , just a wonderful message.
I'm 30 life just keeps getting better and better.
I just turned 32, I hated being younger, I like getting older lol
Great video thanks
I’m ashamed to say that : my mind stopped growing......
Dandelion...I have experienced occasions when it has felt like my brain too has stopped growing..and it has also managed to start growing again. Right now I feel growth but I also know it can grow or diminish at different times, I try my best not to give myself a hard time about it. For me the feeling can come and go (just like the idea that no emotion can ever be permanent/constant.)
Oh when will society see the value of an older woman? Maybe individuals finding value in themselves will shift the culture.
Daniel, we both know there is a deluge of desperation our unconscious defense mechanisms keep at bay. Desperation when we realize we are going to die. What does that even mean, and could there be anything scarier? We can't avoid it, and it's coming.
One good thing about getting older is that you don't have to worry about making so many damn important choices. Most important choices are made and now you just have to deal with the consequences and not worry about changing your life around while the clock ticks (baby making rush, anyone?). Nah, the doors have slammed closed long ago and now you just have peace knowing what you are. You might not like it, but at least you can learn how to live with it and finally get some peace.
Although we need a healthy mind to sustain a level of health for the body we also need to do regular maintenance in the way of cleansing if we want to live long lives. In 2018 I met a gentleman in Varanasi India who was 122 years old and in fairly good shape, better than many Australians I have seen @ 80 years old. He was still walking around, without a cane or anything, doing daily yoga and disease free. If we can minimise the amount of toxins in the body, keep the digestive fire stoked and commit to regular movement I don't think living past 110 is all that unreasonable.
Great work! I think you would really enjoy Transcendental Meditation as a tool for self-evolution and personal growth... not to mention the bliss running through your entire body and brain. It's different than all other meditations, not to mention easy and natural.
Thanks Daniel! Can you say more about the way you evolved from having to symbolize your understanding in order to speak more directly? What is the connection between healing and symbolizing?
Our body fails as we age because we hold onto negative emotional. Your body could return to its prime if you released all your emotional pain
Being old gives you status. People respect you more when you are older.
Life is weird, you live the first 40 years hurting, then if you got the chance, you decay more happier.
But how do you deal with regrets over the years or mistakes? You lose a lot of time to that and it directs your life in a different direction.
As Bob Dylan famously wrote, "I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now."
Wise man you are :)
One fly in the ointment of the idea that we can continue to grow as we get older into our 70s, 80s and 90s. That is to use an example is my father in his 90s with vascular dementia. He is doing nothing of the sort but becoming more childlike. The diseased physical brain puts a limit on what is possible. The key to disease in the elderly is that there is no benefit in reproductive terms in being healthy in terms of evolution.
Lol! I love it, welcome to the old fart world Danny boy! Let’s have a lot of fun with what we can offer to others, and at the same time be childlike and enjoy silliness. You have wise words.
Thanks Josie!
“Without forgetting it is quite impossible to live at all.” - Frederick Nietzsche
47?! I thought you were like 32 or something
You are too hard on yourself. You look great, very handsome ;)
I wanted to say that too but thought he might get creeped out by it. He's very attractive IMO.
@@island661 I hesitated as well. I am not a creeper :) but, do tell the truth, he is handsome :)
@@tnt01 Agreed. 🤣
Wow over and over I relate to all that you say. , Here is to me not commenting before a video is completely finished. As the moment I I begin to write the comment I cease to be fully listening. 😉
I hate getting older. Libido diminishes substantially, ergo sexual passion and zest is atenuated. Healthwise new booboos start creeping in, and I don’t have half the energy I had, say when I was in my mid thirties. Yes, I know more than before, yet realistically I would trade my current wisdom for my younger and stupider years in a heartbeat. I am 51.
I’m 24 and I feel like my life is ending cos I don’t want to hit 30
I am not convinced that processing your traumas and becoming wiser has anything to do with age.
I really want you to have children because I think you would be one of the best parents in the world.
How old are you?
51, but I was 47 when I made that video.
@@dmackler58 Thanks
Im starting to heal from my emotional abusive husband. I believe in diagnosing NPD. I know he was hurt before and then he hurt me. I don't want to be like him. I stopped being the victimized ang codependent. BTW can you marry me someday?
Do you watch Aubrey De Grey? He is about to cure aging.
You look 30!!!
He does!!
Wasn't it Bette Davis who said "old age ain't for sissies". ????
It is time to wash this shirt.
Good reminder of another benefit of getting older: you stop giving a fuck about the opinion of others!