Daniel, I think its so important for people to have healthy role models in their lives in order to become healthy themselves. Thank you for being that role model for me. It can be isolating to live in a world full of trauma, but whenever I come back to your videos, I am inspired to follow the same path as you.
Matthew Joy Absolutely And our parents were the worst at least for me. I’ve been reparenting myself forever. Daniel has been such a gift and has helped inspire me to continue on this trajectory of personal growth. I’m so happy for you that u found Daniel. You have good discernment to have chosen Daniel. He is the most authentic person I’ve ever met. I just wish there were more like him. Bless you in ur journey.
Sometimes, the art IS the true self that's coming out, and that's how the artist learns to communicate with the true self. I write stories and I don't know where they come from, and they tend to be extremely symbolic - but it teaches me something new about myself every time. Deciphering it can be frustrating sometimes, but if someone asks me what it MEANS, it's like the deepest parts of me are being put on trial and I get defensive
I want to work on myself heal and grieve and express my gifts too, I wanna be a kinder person a more humble person because I'm the worst person, I don't practice what I say I want to do it's so hard to do it, But I'll get there ❤
Hi Dan ~ thank you for this wonderful post 😍 I am an artist. When I first started to exhibit my paintings, I was attacked by viewers who condemned the work for being too simplistic & naive. Years later, when I became aware of such a thing as “ childhood trauma” , I felt sure my paintings were a proof of my lack of inner development .. And eventually, in the vigorous competition of how to be more & more offensive to the viewers with ones art if one were hoping to be taken seriously, I decided to drop out of public exhibition. And when I engage in artwork now, it’s just for my pleasure & regard. ~ The paintings I loved doing so much were candy paintings. I must have made about a hundred of those. I painted about candy because I love candy, I love the colors of candy & I love the playfulness of candy. ~ In the art world, it’s true, everything has been reduced to symbols & a visitor has to have a host to tell them how to appreciate the exhibit, & or to read a lot of pages of text that explain the meanings of what you are being shown.., So everything is abstracted & symbolic. And usually is connected to a radical protest against something. ~ My work was so simple. I paint what I love & enjoy. I paint things that remind me of my relationships with people I love. The art intellects are not interested in that. They say it lacks intellect, depth & meaning. Because it’s so obvious. They require art to be like algebra in order to be taken seriously. Either that, or a famous celebrity has to like it 😉 Thank you for your warm & kind way of interacting. It restores my heart. ❤️✨👈🏻
Florentina DuQuin As Daniel has pointed out most therapists are inept bc they don’t do their family of origin work and really get help for themselves. My experience has been they are all “rent a friend “ services. I’ve dropped every one of them. Daniel is the antithesis of most therapists bc he has done so much work on himself and his woundedness as a child. I love him for this and that’s why other therapists cannot hold a candle to him. I also have worked so hard on my family of origin issues and have also gone no contact with them. I’m glad u so appreciate Daniel. He is such a gift to all of us. Most authentic person I’ve ever observed and he inspires me to be the same.
H H I knew bc I Knew more than they did bc of all the research i did on myself. They sit there and could not even answer one question. Ask ur therapist if they have done any family of origin work on themselves? They either WILL NOT ANSWER or they will say “no”. Are u being helped/. Probably NOT. IVE DONE SELF THERAPY AND READ NONSTOP BEFORE I EVEN FOUND DANIEL AND DANIEL HAS DONE THE SAME THING.
@@laraoneal7284 Hi Lara, I agree and have since dropped my therapist. I'll do my own inner work for awhile until I find a source like Daniel that I can use to help myself. My therapist was the definition of a "rent a friend" and I'm looking for deeper work and tools to help myself. Good luck on your journey!
Florentina DuQuin Good for you. A great resource is John Bradshaw. I first saw him on his PBS series called ON THE FAMILY. I’ve read all his books also. He is actually here on YT . His whole family series is here. I found him in 1990 and never stopped learning from his lectures. His knowledge is jaw dropping. The lightbulbs just kept turning on in my brain. He’s a great teacher. He just died about 2 years ago. It saddened me but thank God we have his knowledge. Read his original book ON THE FAMILY same title as his PBS SERIES. Just punch in his name . All his lectures are here you will be amazed. Best of luck to you. So glad u dropped ur therapist. Daniel says the same thing . In order to be excellent one has to have done heavy self examination and understand the toxic family dynamic that 70 percent of us come from.
I use art to heal. For instance I painted a self portrait of myself when I was 10 when my sexual trauma started so I could take the time to process my innocence and forgive myself for not having the tools to protect myself. I also collage which allows me to express a snapshot of the emotions I feel or manifest goals I have. Art in general is inner child work for me because I often was not listened to or understood so pursuing an idea is developing the skills to respect myself, my ideas, and that the things I produce and say are a gift to this world instead of a burden.
I HEAR MANY PEOPLE ON TH-cam SPEAK AND YOU ARE ONE OF THE BEST. YOU TOUCH ON SO MUCH OF THE TRUTH REGARDING COMMUNICATION, WITH OURSELVES AND OTHERS. I LOVE TALKING TO PEOPLE BUT NOT MANY PEOPLE ARE OPEN TO A FRIENDLY PERSON. PEOPLE LEARN COMMUNICATION FROM CHILDHOOD. I LOVE LISTENING TO YOU.
I feel like I relate to a lot to what you're saying about seeking the connection with my true self and being deprived of it in childhood due to an extremely dissociated parent (another parent was just absent). I like symbolism in art though. I like both, self-expression and symbolism. I think symbolism is just another way of telling something. It's just more convoluted, but sometimes it can feel as genuine as something more spontaneous and straightforward. To me it depends on each artwork. But yeah not all art that exists out there is something 100% or even 80% genuine. As I started *trying* to work on my traumas and as I found out about them in general after I experienced a very emotional breakdown having to do with my first sort of romantic sort of relationship that was filled with nothing but heavy projections from both sides etc, I started to be much more drawn to something that feels very genuine in expression and is filled with as less defense mechanisms as possible. Plus I'm drawn to something that resonates with my internal emotions that feel more genuine. And I started to pay less attention at something I couldn't relate to/feel empathy for.
Daniel, thanks. Ordered from your site one of your books. My God finally YOU who lives our truth, and the courage it takes to be real among wolves spurs me to continue. Well done Daniel
I made a video basically on the same level. Had taken a course at my church and came up with the I Am poem. Why i do what i do, even though it might get some people uptight.
I always thought doing the things i like to do and having my old friends and being with family would make me happy. While I now have the time to do what I like to do, the absence of income is a problem and a big obstacle in allowing me the things i like to do to the fullest. I also no longer have friends (partly my fault, but to a very large extent, its theirs and my family's). I do like and play music (not professionally), but always paid very little to no attention to lyrics. I recently, decided to live a minimalist kind of life, got to get rid of a lot of e-waste from my room (did try in the past, but the people who had to come and collect the e-waste just didn't turn up). With the exception of TH-cam and a quit-smoking site, I am not on any other social media (like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram). As far as owning possessions go, I always thought its just best to buy good quality and few things that will last for a very long time (the problem with tech stuff is, it gets outdated quickly, but again if the old piece of tech you had let you do what you wanted, there's no need to buy new tech). I am a slow thinker and doer. I'm still trying to find myself in a stupid shitty manipulative world. Every time I think I've found myself, I end up getting a kick in my face, but I will persevere because that's how I am (no clue what to do about income though). I am at the moment, trying to get rid of my dependency on psychiatric medication which I take because it has been prescribed to me. Apparently, I have a schizophrenic psychotic disorder or some similar nonsense and have been made out to be some sort of crazy person (and I have a suspicion I'm being administered additional medication without my knowledge). I have to watch some your videos more than once to grasp what is being said. Nevertheless, you are like the therapist I never had and I thank you very much for that. It would be great if you could do videos on gullibility, avoiding bullies, confronting assertively, and having vision.
Your commentary about art reminded me of a question I've had about extreme paintings like the "drip" paintings by Jackson Pollock. He once said, "Painting is self-discovery. Every good artist paints what he is." If that was the case, Pollock must have been very disturbed. On the other hand, I've thought perhaps he was pulling a practical joke on the "legitimate" art community.
I am not a professional artist by any means, however I have exhibited one sculpture, and one stained-glass window. In fact, my profile photos is of one of the sculptures. I must admit I don't like explaining my 'work'. I want people to come to their own conclusions, or just appreciate it at face value. That said, my heart sinks when when I get asked 'how much does it cost?' or 'how much is it worth?'.
Often it’s very hard to be honest about your artwork to a disconnected audience. I found it very scary to actually explain what a work means out of fear of silence. I recently complete a series of works based around sexual trauma and sexual abuse and manifestations of its continued presence in a person’s life. My teachers often didn’t know what to say to that conceptually. And that’s terrifying to explain to a person who doesn’t have to think about that. I’ve had a friend tell me flat out “people don’t think about this stuff the way you do.” So it’s a process someone who makes art has to build themselves up to. It’s not even like the work is veiled to hide anything, it’s that the person does not process ideas in the conventional way. Wonderful video though Daniel, you always get me to think!
If I may offer my perspective, I think that you'll find great value ('value' in the sense of inner growth and maturity and healing/becoming whole) by inquiring into this 'fear of silence' of the audience. It is really the fear of disapproval, isn't it? (and of course, it goes much deeper than that, since the fear of disapproval is actually an expression of deeper movements of the traumatised psyche and nervous system, the painful embedded memories of the withdrawal of love). Much love to you my friend, may the journey take us deep, as deep as need be, to truly befriend all parts of ourselves, to befriend our deepest fears, and the disharmonies that the traumas produced..
Wow! So interesting! You never cease to inspire me and impart wisdom! I want to know more about HOW to sort the true self out so I can express it better. .... I have found myself writing poetry that is so random and disjointed I don’t even understand it. And I don’t know why. And then I had a big idea for a story that I thought was a political commentary/analogy. And I was so excited to write it out. But outside of the general concept/plot, I couldn’t get the words out. Everything came out jumbled and random. But I would still try to write it out. At one point I realized the main character was really myself. As much as I glorified the character, there were flaws I wasn’t ready to admit to myself. Maybe that is why I still can’t get the words out. What an interesting topic. But your videos always leave me wanting MORE! I guess I want you to hand over the answers, but I think you are like Glinda the good witch, and want us to find out for ourselves. (And thus another example of my rambling writing!)
@@threethrushes as did my beloved Emily Dickinson, however, she was, I believe, a more conscious person than Salinger, and therefore she realized that she was better off single, for a variety of reasons
@@marinaBSNRN Daniel is living an authentic life. He isn't play-acting. He isn't wearing a mask. This quality is seen in children and is generally lost as people grow up and learn to be more guarded. If only more people were like Daniel.
Hmm that's an interesting view on art and symbolism. I sometimes draw art and can't figure out what the meaning is behind it right away. I also really enjoy art with lots of symbolism as I find deficering it akin to solving a mystery or puzzle.
I'd love to hear your ideas about how to find our real selves. I mean under all those things that were forced upon us and made us have to hide our real self. I really feel that I don't know who I am and I know it's because I'm so disconnected. What would you suggest to start with, something practical, for someone who doesn't know where to even start? Thank you.
You might be surprised to know that but most people feel these things. Most people feel it often, but some are have become very skillful at hiding it and pretending or pushing that feeling away and locking it up in a basement somewhere where they think it will never get out, at least for the time being, or using myriad of substances to try and make the feeling go away (most common being alcohol, food, drugs, porn, shopping, netflix etc etc). It doesn't seem to me like there is anything inherently wrong or bad about feeling wrong and a failure. Can we allow ourselves to feel that (and anything else that might arise)? Can we allow all aspects of ourselves? Can we befriend all aspects of ourselves? A very large portion of the suffering, it seems, is the non-acceptance and denying and attacking of literally half of ourselves, the half that we label as bad and wrong, the half that we push away. But alas, life is not just the half that we like, life is the whole deal.. (even though media tries to make us believe otherwise, and even though the advertising business and the self-improvement business and large portions of the economy depend for their profits on us hating half of ourselves) PS. I’m not the Daniel Mackler from the video (since people asked me before), just share same first name and some interests :)
@@Daniel-pr4uk interesting. How can you be sure that most of us feel a failure? Sometimes I wonder what distractions or comforts I use for "negative" feelings & thoughts and I worry it's most things I do! Even crossing my legs to some degree.
Will D until you realize that it's not your fault by exploring your childhood traumas and upbringing and maybe even critique of the existing economic system you'll keep feeling this way. Ranking is your thinking pattern and it's neither healthy nor true.
May I ask (with complete respect, absolutely no disrespect meant by this question, but only good intentions) - do you absolutely know that for a fact or is this a repetition of something that you heard someone say/write? On the one hand, the "tone" of your statement sounds very self assured, as if you know that to be absolutely true beyond a shadow of a doubt, YET on the other hand my experience is that people often utter this statement without truly and ACTUALLY knowing that beyond a shadow of a doubt and are simply repeating something they've heard or read, something they'd like to believe is true since it creates inner certainty (and certainty leads to inner comfort).
Daniel I know it by personal experience, witnesses and knowing. Does a fish ask why it is wet? Why is it humanity is always searching for meaning? When you have found the truth that sets you free, you are truly free indeed. Only those who have experienced real physical death or near death through horrible suffering find this truth. It was nothing of what I was taught. It isn’t religion. It is a relationship. I can’t explain the unexplainable but I was lost and ill and now I’m found and well.
@@marinaBSNRN Just to be sure that I understand your question correctly - why does what concern me? The fact that people utter similar statements without truly and ACTUALLY knowing these things beyond a shadow of a doubt and are simply repeating something they've heard or read, something they'd like to believe is true since it creates inner certainty (and certainty leads to inner comfort). Is that what you are asking? (and just to be clear, I am not saying that the original commenter was doing that. She made it clear that her statement is based on personal experience and is not a blind religious belief) If this is what you are asking, then thank you for asking this, it is indeed a very important question and one that has the potential for inner illumination and maturity.. Let me see, I think that what disturbs me when people do such things is that these sort of unfounded blind beliefs are usually NOT reserved only for the person but often are formed into religions, religions that have profound implications on social and political action, action that often ends up being the exact opposite of what the beliefs claim, including coercion and suppression and imposing on others (all in the name of supposedly beautiful ideals as expressed in the beliefs). I think this distortion of religion happens because often the religiosity of a person is based on an IDEA, a BELIEF, and NOT on a true first hand experience and inner knowing (knowing of true love and unity, which seems extremely rare in this world). And when people who call themselves religious base their religion on such repetition of what they heard others say/write, on believing some ideas without truly knowing for themselves the truthfulness of those ideas from personal experience and true inner knowing, then this creates a ripe setting for all the madness that very often goes hand in hand with belief-based religion as I mentioned above (such as coercion, suppression, imposing on others, and dividing the world into camps, those who believe in the same ideas as we do and those who don’t, and creating a war, physical or psychological, against those “enemies” who do not believe in the same ideas as we do). When I close my eyes and look right now, this seems to be what concerns me about such statements, when they are based not on inner knowing and experience but on repetition of things heard (unlike the commenter who assured us that it is based on inner experience and not a blind religious belief)
"And so, the endless circle of life comes to an end, meaningless and grim. Why did they live, and why did they die? No reason." - Narrator, Futurama, "Naturama" Don't you think there is a limit what you can find out yourself about your self ? Even if you put in the hours and establish an honest relationship with you, yourself and daniel ................ somehow sounds like a hermit training course to me. wich is totally fine and everybody should take it if they can't exist or have any meaningful interactions with other people without it. But wouldn't we know after taking it that all we now know ourselfes? wouldn't we not be realising that what defines us are our interactions and our thoughts? or is it just my thinking ?
I love most of your videos, but actually really disagree with this one. As an artist and musician, I believe the main purpose of art is to communicate things that are too subtle and deep to be conveyed by regular language, and very often symbols serve to point towards something completely ineffable. A lot of the time, the power of a piece of creative work lies in its ambiguity and capacity to communicate many complex meanings, and I think that to try to impose one meaning on it, or ask what it means is to suck the life right out of it. There is great power in symbolism and ambiguity, and it goes way deeper than we can ever go by "speaking clearly and directly." Honestly, I find a lot of art with a simple/clear message to be trite and boring, though it does depend on the context. But I think it's very misguided to say that symbolism, etc, are signs of a disconnected and unhealed creative. I couldn't disagree more.
If I say what my art means, I open myself to judgement, which is dangerous especially in this highly competitive society. If I get judged it will traumatize me and block my creative channels.
Daniel, could you please do a video on repressed anger? Where it comes from and what we can do about it? I keep wanting to destroy things and other people :( I, and I think many others, struggle with this.
Pardon me for butting in but you might want to have a look at the book by Pete Walker called CPTSD, From Surviving to Thriving, if you haven't already seen it. Best wishes.
@@feedmysoul-withlove143 Well ok - demanding that someone make videos to teach you specifically how to deal with yourself, without having any knowledge about who you are, is not a realistic thing to ask. Too vague, too broad, too little information. That said, there are countless ways to do inner work, and countless self-help videos on youtube. Which method would work for you, again, impossible to say without knowing what you're dealing with. Best bet: start a daily meditation practice, if you haven't already.
@@epictetus9221 I did and nothing helps. I can't study. I make situiation only worse when I go to work. Meditation doesn't help. In psychosis you can't meditate.
@@feedmysoul-withlove143 If you are indeed psychotic, you need to seek help from trained professionals, not youtube comment section. This isn't the time to work on the relationship with yourself; it's a serious psycho-physical emergency that has to be dealt with first.
Daniel, I think its so important for people to have healthy role models in their lives in order to become healthy themselves. Thank you for being that role model for me. It can be isolating to live in a world full of trauma, but whenever I come back to your videos, I am inspired to follow the same path as you.
Matthew Joy Absolutely And our parents were the worst at least for me. I’ve been reparenting myself forever. Daniel has been such a gift and has helped inspire me to continue on this trajectory of personal growth. I’m so happy for you that u found Daniel. You have good discernment to have chosen Daniel. He is the most authentic person I’ve ever met. I just wish there were more like him. Bless you in ur journey.
Love this. Thank you. I want to validate, as someone in her 70’s, that you are on the right track.
Sometimes, the art IS the true self that's coming out, and that's how the artist learns to communicate with the true self. I write stories and I don't know where they come from, and they tend to be extremely symbolic - but it teaches me something new about myself every time. Deciphering it can be frustrating sometimes, but if someone asks me what it MEANS, it's like the deepest parts of me are being put on trial and I get defensive
i really like listing to you... thank you for sharing.. I find your videos very valuable... keep them coming!
I want to work on myself heal and grieve and express my gifts too, I wanna be a kinder person a more humble person because I'm the worst person, I don't practice what I say I want to do it's so hard to do it, But I'll get there ❤
Daniel I'm glad I found you here. I found an article of yours then this month found your videos...perfect timing. Thanks
Hi Dan ~ thank you for this wonderful post 😍 I am an artist. When I first started to exhibit my paintings, I was attacked by viewers who condemned the work for being too simplistic & naive. Years later, when I became aware of such a thing as “ childhood trauma” , I felt sure my paintings were a proof of my lack of inner development .. And eventually, in the vigorous competition of how to be more & more offensive to the viewers with ones art if one were hoping to be taken seriously, I decided to drop out of public exhibition. And when I engage in artwork now, it’s just for my pleasure & regard. ~ The paintings I loved doing so much were candy paintings. I must have made about a hundred of those. I painted about candy because I love candy, I love the colors of candy & I love the playfulness of candy. ~ In the art world, it’s true, everything has been reduced to symbols & a visitor has to have a host to tell them how to appreciate the exhibit, & or to read a lot of pages of text that explain the meanings of what you are being shown.., So everything is abstracted & symbolic. And usually is connected to a radical protest against something. ~ My work was so simple. I paint what I love & enjoy. I paint things that remind me of my relationships with people I love. The art intellects are not interested in that. They say it lacks intellect, depth & meaning. Because it’s so obvious. They require art to be like algebra in order to be taken seriously. Either that, or a famous celebrity has to like it 😉 Thank you for your warm & kind way of interacting. It restores my heart. ❤️✨👈🏻
Thanks for sharing that. You rock ( candy)!!
please keep creating
You’re videos help me better than my therapist.
Florentina DuQuin As Daniel has pointed out most therapists are inept bc they don’t do their family of origin work and really get help for themselves. My experience has been they are all “rent a friend “ services. I’ve dropped every one of them. Daniel is the antithesis of most therapists bc he has done so much work on himself and his woundedness as a child. I love him for this and that’s why other therapists cannot hold a candle to him. I also have worked so hard on my family of origin issues and have also gone no contact with them. I’m glad u so appreciate Daniel. He is such a gift to all of us. Most authentic person I’ve ever observed and he inspires me to be the same.
Lara O'neal I’m not sure about my current therapist. At what point did you decide yours was not working out?
H H I knew bc I Knew more than they did bc of all the research i did on myself. They sit there and could not even answer one question. Ask ur therapist if they have done any family of origin work on themselves? They either WILL NOT ANSWER or they will say “no”. Are u being helped/. Probably NOT. IVE DONE SELF THERAPY AND READ NONSTOP BEFORE I EVEN FOUND DANIEL AND DANIEL HAS DONE THE SAME THING.
@@laraoneal7284 Hi Lara, I agree and have since dropped my therapist. I'll do my own inner work for awhile until I find a source like Daniel that I can use to help myself. My therapist was the definition of a "rent a friend" and I'm looking for deeper work and tools to help myself. Good luck on your journey!
Florentina DuQuin Good for you. A great resource is John Bradshaw. I first saw him on his PBS series called ON THE FAMILY. I’ve read all his books also. He is actually here on YT . His whole family series is here. I found him in 1990 and never stopped learning from his lectures. His knowledge is jaw dropping. The lightbulbs just kept turning on in my brain. He’s a great teacher. He just died about 2 years ago. It saddened me but thank God we have his knowledge. Read his original book ON THE FAMILY same title as his PBS SERIES. Just punch in his name . All his lectures are here you will be amazed. Best of luck to you. So glad u dropped ur therapist. Daniel says the same thing . In order to be excellent one has to have done heavy self examination and understand the toxic family dynamic that 70 percent of us come from.
I use art to heal. For instance I painted a self portrait of myself when I was 10 when my sexual trauma started so I could take the time to process my innocence and forgive myself for not having the tools to protect myself. I also collage which allows me to express a snapshot of the emotions I feel or manifest goals I have. Art in general is inner child work for me because I often was not listened to or understood so pursuing an idea is developing the skills to respect myself, my ideas, and that the things I produce and say are a gift to this world instead of a burden.
I HEAR MANY PEOPLE ON TH-cam SPEAK AND YOU ARE ONE OF THE BEST. YOU TOUCH ON SO MUCH OF THE TRUTH REGARDING COMMUNICATION, WITH OURSELVES AND OTHERS. I LOVE TALKING TO PEOPLE BUT NOT MANY PEOPLE ARE OPEN TO A FRIENDLY PERSON. PEOPLE LEARN COMMUNICATION FROM CHILDHOOD. I LOVE LISTENING TO YOU.
You’re such a great role model and inspiration to me Daniel, thank you so much.
Thank you for making these videos and sharing your wisdom and insight. It really helps 🙏🏻♥️
Thank you Daniel ❤❤
You are a blessing to your Audience.
I feel like I relate to a lot to what you're saying about seeking the connection with my true self and being deprived of it in childhood due to an extremely dissociated parent (another parent was just absent).
I like symbolism in art though. I like both, self-expression and symbolism. I think symbolism is just another way of telling something. It's just more convoluted, but sometimes it can feel as genuine as something more spontaneous and straightforward. To me it depends on each artwork.
But yeah not all art that exists out there is something 100% or even 80% genuine. As I started *trying* to work on my traumas and as I found out about them in general after I experienced a very emotional breakdown having to do with my first sort of romantic sort of relationship that was filled with nothing but heavy projections from both sides etc, I started to be much more drawn to something that feels very genuine in expression and is filled with as less defense mechanisms as possible. Plus I'm drawn to something that resonates with my internal emotions that feel more genuine. And I started to pay less attention at something I couldn't relate to/feel empathy for.
wow, you're really on point about artists and obscurity
Your perception as an artist about artists speaks to my truest Self- clamouring to break free. Thanks for all you are and what you do.
"Be yourself as fully as you can, by following your passion, your joy, your excitement..." as BASHAR (Daryl Anka) said.
Daniel, thanks. Ordered from your site one of your books. My God finally YOU who lives our truth, and the courage it takes to be real among wolves spurs me to continue. Well done Daniel
Your videos have been helping me so much and are incredibly validating with how I was raised growing up too. Thank you so much 🧡
I made a video basically on the same level. Had taken a course at my church and came up with the I Am poem. Why i do what i do, even though it might get some people uptight.
Love to hear your refreshingly wise insights!
I always thought doing the things i like to do and having my old friends and being with family would make me happy. While I now have the time to do what I like to do, the absence of income is a problem and a big obstacle in allowing me the things i like to do to the fullest. I also no longer have friends (partly my fault, but to a very large extent, its theirs and my family's). I do like and play music (not professionally), but always paid very little to no attention to lyrics. I recently, decided to live a minimalist kind of life, got to get rid of a lot of e-waste from my room (did try in the past, but the people who had to come and collect the e-waste just didn't turn up). With the exception of TH-cam and a quit-smoking site, I am not on any other social media (like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram). As far as owning possessions go, I always thought its just best to buy good quality and few things that will last for a very long time (the problem with tech stuff is, it gets outdated quickly, but again if the old piece of tech you had let you do what you wanted, there's no need to buy new tech).
I am a slow thinker and doer. I'm still trying to find myself in a stupid shitty manipulative world. Every time I think I've found myself, I end up getting a kick in my face, but I will persevere because that's how I am (no clue what to do about income though). I am at the moment, trying to get rid of my dependency on psychiatric medication which I take because it has been prescribed to me. Apparently, I have a schizophrenic psychotic disorder or some similar nonsense and have been made out to be some sort of crazy person (and I have a suspicion I'm being administered additional medication without my knowledge). I have to watch some your videos more than once to grasp what is being said. Nevertheless, you are like the therapist I never had and I thank you very much for that. It would be great if you could do videos on gullibility, avoiding bullies, confronting assertively, and having vision.
You are so good, thank you so much!
Thank you for this❤️
Your commentary about art reminded me of a question I've had about extreme paintings like the "drip" paintings by Jackson Pollock. He once said, "Painting is self-discovery. Every good artist paints what he is." If that was the case, Pollock must have been very disturbed. On the other hand, I've thought perhaps he was pulling a practical joke on the "legitimate" art community.
I am not a professional artist by any means, however I have exhibited one sculpture, and one stained-glass window. In fact, my profile photos is of one of the sculptures.
I must admit I don't like explaining my 'work'. I want people to come to their own conclusions, or just appreciate it at face value.
That said, my heart sinks when when I get asked 'how much does it cost?' or 'how much is it worth?'.
YES.
Often it’s very hard to be honest about your artwork to a disconnected audience. I found it very scary to actually explain what a work means out of fear of silence. I recently complete a series of works based around sexual trauma and sexual abuse and manifestations of its continued presence in a person’s life. My teachers often didn’t know what to say to that conceptually. And that’s terrifying to explain to a person who doesn’t have to think about that. I’ve had a friend tell me flat out “people don’t think about this stuff the way you do.” So it’s a process someone who makes art has to build themselves up to. It’s not even like the work is veiled to hide anything, it’s that the person does not process ideas in the conventional way. Wonderful video though Daniel, you always get me to think!
If I may offer my perspective, I think that you'll find great value ('value' in the sense of inner growth and maturity and healing/becoming whole) by inquiring into this 'fear of silence' of the audience. It is really the fear of disapproval, isn't it? (and of course, it goes much deeper than that, since the fear of disapproval is actually an expression of deeper movements of the traumatised psyche and nervous system, the painful embedded memories of the withdrawal of love).
Much love to you my friend, may the journey take us deep, as deep as need be, to truly befriend all parts of ourselves, to befriend our deepest fears, and the disharmonies that the traumas produced..
Yes you are right
Wow! So interesting! You never cease to inspire me and impart wisdom! I want to know more about HOW to sort the true self out so I can express it better. .... I have found myself writing poetry that is so random and disjointed I don’t even understand it. And I don’t know why. And then I had a big idea for a story that I thought was a political commentary/analogy. And I was so excited to write it out. But outside of the general concept/plot, I couldn’t get the words out. Everything came out jumbled and random. But I would still try to write it out. At one point I realized the main character was really myself. As much as I glorified the character, there were flaws I wasn’t ready to admit to myself. Maybe that is why I still can’t get the words out. What an interesting topic. But your videos always leave me wanting MORE! I guess I want you to hand over the answers, but I think you are like Glinda the good witch, and want us to find out for ourselves. (And thus another example of my rambling writing!)
Makes me think of the author of "Catcher in the Rye"
JD Salinger. Lived a reclusive lifestyle. Quite an interesting literary phenomenon.
@@marinaBSNRN I believe so
@@threethrushes as did my beloved Emily Dickinson, however, she was, I believe, a more conscious person than Salinger, and therefore she realized that she was better off single, for a variety of reasons
@@marinaBSNRN yeah, Daniel is super savvy when it comes to injustice
@@marinaBSNRN Daniel is living an authentic life.
He isn't play-acting. He isn't wearing a mask.
This quality is seen in children and is generally lost as people grow up and learn to be more guarded.
If only more people were like Daniel.
Love watching your videos here in ireland
Hmm that's an interesting view on art and symbolism. I sometimes draw art and can't figure out what the meaning is behind it right away. I also really enjoy art with lots of symbolism as I find deficering it akin to solving a mystery or puzzle.
I'd love to hear your ideas about how to find our real selves. I mean under all those things that were forced upon us and made us have to hide our real self. I really feel that I don't know who I am and I know it's because I'm so disconnected. What would you suggest to start with, something practical, for someone who doesn't know where to even start? Thank you.
i would like a video recommending other youtube chanels and books.
without a mask.
Some days I feel like a failure at life and just wrong.
You might be surprised to know that but most people feel these things. Most people feel it often, but some are have become very skillful at hiding it and pretending or pushing that feeling away and locking it up in a basement somewhere where they think it will never get out, at least for the time being, or using myriad of substances to try and make the feeling go away (most common being alcohol, food, drugs, porn, shopping, netflix etc etc).
It doesn't seem to me like there is anything inherently wrong or bad about feeling wrong and a failure. Can we allow ourselves to feel that (and anything else that might arise)? Can we allow all aspects of ourselves? Can we befriend all aspects of ourselves?
A very large portion of the suffering, it seems, is the non-acceptance and denying and attacking of literally half of ourselves, the half that we label as bad and wrong, the half that we push away. But alas, life is not just the half that we like, life is the whole deal.. (even though media tries to make us believe otherwise, and even though the advertising business and the self-improvement business and large portions of the economy depend for their profits on us hating half of ourselves)
PS. I’m not the Daniel Mackler from the video (since people asked me before), just share same first name and some interests :)
@@Daniel-pr4uk interesting. How can you be sure that most of us feel a failure? Sometimes I wonder what distractions or comforts I use for "negative" feelings & thoughts and I worry it's most things I do! Even crossing my legs to some degree.
Will D until you realize that it's not your fault by exploring your childhood traumas and upbringing and maybe even critique of the existing economic system you'll keep feeling this way. Ranking is your thinking pattern and it's neither healthy nor true.
Daniel, what did you do for a career after you decided to no longer be a counsellor?
Brillant!
Why am I only creative when on drugs?
Can you do a live video???
Purpose is a word and words are not real
We were created to create because we are made in the image of the great Creator with unique gifts to serve others.
May I ask (with complete respect, absolutely no disrespect meant by this question, but only good intentions) - do you absolutely know that for a fact or is this a repetition of something that you heard someone say/write?
On the one hand, the "tone" of your statement sounds very self assured, as if you know that to be absolutely true beyond a shadow of a doubt, YET on the other hand my experience is that people often utter this statement without truly and ACTUALLY knowing that beyond a shadow of a doubt and are simply repeating something they've heard or read, something they'd like to believe is true since it creates inner certainty (and certainty leads to inner comfort).
Daniel I know it by personal experience, witnesses and knowing. Does a fish ask why it is wet? Why is it humanity is always searching for meaning? When you have found the truth that sets you free, you are truly free indeed. Only those who have experienced real physical death or near death through horrible suffering find this truth. It was nothing of what I was taught. It isn’t religion. It is a relationship. I can’t explain the unexplainable but I was lost and ill and now I’m found and well.
@@sonseraedesigns I understand. Thank you.
@@marinaBSNRN Just to be sure that I understand your question correctly - why does what concern me? The fact that people utter similar statements without truly and ACTUALLY knowing these things beyond a shadow of a doubt and are simply repeating something they've heard or read, something they'd like to believe is true since it creates inner certainty (and certainty leads to inner comfort). Is that what you are asking?
(and just to be clear, I am not saying that the original commenter was doing that. She made it clear that her statement is based on personal experience and is not a blind religious belief)
If this is what you are asking, then thank you for asking this, it is indeed a very important question and one that has the potential for inner illumination and maturity..
Let me see, I think that what disturbs me when people do such things is that these sort of unfounded blind beliefs are usually NOT reserved only for the person but often are formed into religions, religions that have profound implications on social and political action, action that often ends up being the exact opposite of what the beliefs claim, including coercion and suppression and imposing on others (all in the name of supposedly beautiful ideals as expressed in the beliefs).
I think this distortion of religion happens because often the religiosity of a person is based on an IDEA, a BELIEF, and NOT on a true first hand experience and inner knowing (knowing of true love and unity, which seems extremely rare in this world).
And when people who call themselves religious base their religion on such repetition of what they heard others say/write, on believing some ideas without truly knowing for themselves the truthfulness of those ideas from personal experience and true inner knowing, then this creates a ripe setting for all the madness that very often goes hand in hand with belief-based religion as I mentioned above (such as coercion, suppression, imposing on others, and dividing the world into camps, those who believe in the same ideas as we do and those who don’t, and creating a war, physical or psychological, against those “enemies” who do not believe in the same ideas as we do).
When I close my eyes and look right now, this seems to be what concerns me about such statements, when they are based not on inner knowing and experience but on repetition of things heard (unlike the commenter who assured us that it is based on inner experience and not a blind religious belief)
Daniel Thank you for trying to see things from all perspectives. Bless you!!
5:05 - 5:10 that's how I feel.
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"And so, the endless circle of life comes to an end, meaningless and grim. Why did they live, and why did they die? No reason."
- Narrator, Futurama, "Naturama"
Don't you think there is a limit what you can find out yourself about your self ?
Even if you put in the hours and establish an honest relationship with you, yourself and daniel ................ somehow sounds like a hermit training course to me.
wich is totally fine and everybody should take it if they can't exist or have any meaningful interactions with other people without it.
But wouldn't we know after taking it that all we now know ourselfes?
wouldn't we not be realising that what defines us are our interactions and our thoughts?
or is it just my thinking ?
I love most of your videos, but actually really disagree with this one. As an artist and musician, I believe the main purpose of art is to communicate things that are too subtle and deep to be conveyed by regular language, and very often symbols serve to point towards something completely ineffable. A lot of the time, the power of a piece of creative work lies in its ambiguity and capacity to communicate many complex meanings, and I think that to try to impose one meaning on it, or ask what it means is to suck the life right out of it. There is great power in symbolism and ambiguity, and it goes way deeper than we can ever go by "speaking clearly and directly." Honestly, I find a lot of art with a simple/clear message to be trite and boring, though it does depend on the context. But I think it's very misguided to say that symbolism, etc, are signs of a disconnected and unhealed creative. I couldn't disagree more.
I would add to this, imposing clear meaning on art is just as distasteful as explaining a joke. The magic is in the mystery.
If I say what my art means, I open myself to judgement, which is dangerous especially in this highly competitive society. If I get judged it will traumatize me and block my creative channels.
Daniel, could you please do a video on repressed anger? Where it comes from and what we can do about it? I keep wanting to destroy things and other people :(
I, and I think many others, struggle with this.
Pardon me for butting in but you might want to have a look at the book by Pete Walker called CPTSD, From Surviving to Thriving, if you haven't already seen it. Best wishes.
And how do you work on your relationship with yourself? I can't use/learn from your videos because you never teach how...
He's not you, you know?
@@epictetus9221 not helpful
@@feedmysoul-withlove143 Well ok - demanding that someone make videos to teach you specifically how to deal with yourself, without having any knowledge about who you are, is not a realistic thing to ask. Too vague, too broad, too little information.
That said, there are countless ways to do inner work, and countless self-help videos on youtube. Which method would work for you, again, impossible to say without knowing what you're dealing with.
Best bet: start a daily meditation practice, if you haven't already.
@@epictetus9221 I did and nothing helps. I can't study. I make situiation only worse when I go to work. Meditation doesn't help. In psychosis you can't meditate.
@@feedmysoul-withlove143 If you are indeed psychotic, you need to seek help from trained professionals, not youtube comment section. This isn't the time to work on the relationship with yourself; it's a serious psycho-physical emergency that has to be dealt with first.
The movie split sucks.
If you don't know what the art means that's about your own disconnection, not the artist's.