It’s unbelievable that I heard this today. I was messed up last night over exactly this! I am/was struggling with the hurt of her trauma bonding and my loneliness. I’ve listened to a lot of podcasts and most of them are just knowledge of narcs, but this addresses our pain and how to deal with it! Donielle I know you hear this a lot, because it’s true. You are the most encouraging coach of all cause we can hear it in your voice and it’s incredible how accurate you are. Thank you… I really, really needed this right now!
Soooo happy you didn’t disable our channel. I hope your ok ❤️ Thank you for sharing, you’re helping me and I’m sure everyone who listens. Been free 2 months, my mind is more free !!
I love the momentum of your speaking pattern. Glad I found your channel. I've finally taken the power away from my covert narcissist wife of ten years. It's been three weeks since I broke out of the trauma bond cycle and as you suggested, I changed my perspective and perceive this change as a gain rather than a loss. I used to feel lonely when she stonewallwd and neglected me when I would cause her a narcissistic injury. Then I realized that I'm more lonely with her than without her. I'm grateful for my strong self esteem and that really pissed her off over the years. She failed at devaluing me, just like sje failed as a wife. All she has is her exterior good looks, which I perceive as fake and unattractive. It's a great feeling to be thriving without her grips. Sorry for the rant, but this video really hit home. ✌🏻
My friend, that's a great start. Furthermore, never take anything ' personal ' with them, as nobody is inside them in the first place. Narcissists don’t know how to love; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissists value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. Loads of them brag about being a good parent and seek compliments for that only to hide their masks... When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing... They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have close personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain.. .. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection., . And, Moreover, if you think They are the one that 'made' you feel then you're still under their control/spell, you're still wrapped up in their neverending inner delusions/dar-kness, and you learned nothing. Truth is, you were loving YOURSELF the entire time you were interacting with them as they were doing nothing more than mirroring you, as there is nobody inside them in the first place, therefore there was nobody for you to love but yourself (as they themselves are incapable of true empathy/love). Stating that they made you feel is like saying an empty robot made you feel, or an empty soda can made you feel. And in the same way it's completely ridiculous to think a Narc made you feel anything...As they were doing nothing more than mirroring you in the beginning. Based on a lie and you cannot truly feel for lies. They are completely incapable of processing their emotions, they don't know how to. And that is why when you state that you love them they greatly resent it, they turn you into an enemy and play their games. Because inside they ask themselves- " how can you possibly love this ? ' Unless you get over these massive hurdles and understand the bigger picture of Universal spiritual truths in your relationships then you will never be the truly empathic powerful loving spirit being you truly are to love the world/heal the world. .. Much love !..
@@LouieShowers You're infinitely beautiful my friend !! The infinite multi-dimensional Universe and all the heavens are deep within you !! However the ego-mind (where narcissists operate from) can only look outwardly in the low vibration of fear of going deep within and to control the outer world (other people). Simply drink a lot of Ayahuasca that takes you deep within millions of times deeper within you that the ego-mind of thoughts is terrified of...And you'll instantly see that all I say on my vids on my channel is Truth !! Much love !!! :- )
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for making these videos. You have helped me immensely. I'm glad you decided to keep your channel going. I am recovering thanks to you! All the best.
Thank you. “It’s just a trauma bond.” Making the team is a beautiful way of describing a good relationship. Being alone is a gift- love it. I’m free! I hope you’re okay. Please keep producing content because it helps me live a better life. Speak good things to myself is so needed. I’d rather have nothing and be free than be a slave to a master.
After my ex left me she wanted to be friends with me, then I called her out for something that hurt me and she couldn’t take any accountability or apologise. She even said I can see it’s hurt you but I’m not apologising. Then she said I do care about you, then said I did value you, then told me I was the problem and it was my insecurities and I needed to deal with it! I ended up wishing her all the best and she said it’s my loss if I didn’t want a friendship.
God Bless you my friend....if you new the story I went through lol....but after I completely crushed their pathetic little ego...now 3 years with not a peep from them
Thanks so much i really needed this message , none of my fam and friends really dont understand and this is the best advice i needed , im free xxx god love the next women that wont have a clue until its too late ,god bless you new subscriber ❤
Most people think everyone is a narcissist however their are worse mental disorders. psychopathic behaviours are much worse In my experience with abusive friendships.
So much gratitude that I found your channel!💗Your words of truth are tremendously encouraging to all of us who are trying to rewrite the negativity that the narcissist has brainwashed us with. Thank you for reaffirming this.
Hi Donielle Thankyou so much for your wonderful channel. You help me so much I have one question I hope you can answer. I married my ex covert narcissist and only stayed with him a year. I would have left sooner but was financially dependent on him, but it only took me a couple months to see that there was majorly something wrong. However he was married twice before once 13 years second 11 years and they both still want him. How was they able to stay with him so long and I couldn't even last a year? This makes me feel like it was me even though it wasn't. How could they stay so long?
I am free!!!!!!!!!!!
It’s unbelievable that I heard this today. I was messed up last night over exactly this! I am/was struggling with the hurt of her trauma bonding and my loneliness. I’ve listened to a lot of podcasts and most of them are just knowledge of narcs, but this addresses our pain and how to deal with it! Donielle I know you hear this a lot, because it’s true. You are the most encouraging coach of all cause we can hear it in your voice and it’s incredible how accurate you are. Thank you… I really, really needed this right now!
Stay strong. It will fade over time. We will be happier and wiser in due time.
Please do not go away.. I just discovered your channel, and for that Im greatful!
Yeshua amazingly uses Donielle to heal God's chosen ones 😅 praise be the Christ!
Soooo happy you didn’t disable our channel. I hope your ok ❤️ Thank you for sharing, you’re helping me and I’m sure everyone who listens. Been free 2 months, my mind is more free !!
We all need your input on this as it helps each of us to make our decisions on our lives
Thank you so much for your time and your help
I’ve been healing for almost 3 years and been on TH-cam almost as long. Your the Cherry on top, please keep up your work
I love the momentum of your speaking pattern. Glad I found your channel. I've finally taken the power away from my covert narcissist wife of ten years. It's been three weeks since I broke out of the trauma bond cycle and as you suggested, I changed my perspective and perceive this change as a gain rather than a loss. I used to feel lonely when she stonewallwd and neglected me when I would cause her a narcissistic injury. Then I realized that I'm more lonely with her than without her. I'm grateful for my strong self esteem and that really pissed her off over the years. She failed at devaluing me, just like sje failed as a wife. All she has is her exterior good looks, which I perceive as fake and unattractive. It's a great feeling to be thriving without her grips. Sorry for the rant, but this video really hit home. ✌🏻
My friend, that's a great start. Furthermore, never take anything ' personal ' with them, as nobody is inside them in the first place. Narcissists don’t know how to love; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else.
Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissists value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. Loads of them brag about being a good parent and seek compliments for that only to hide their masks...
When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing... They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves.
When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have close personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain..
.. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection., .
And, Moreover, if you think They are the one that 'made' you feel then you're still under their control/spell, you're still wrapped up in their neverending inner delusions/dar-kness, and you learned nothing. Truth is, you were loving YOURSELF the entire time you were interacting with them as they were doing nothing more than mirroring you, as there is nobody inside them in the first place, therefore there was nobody for you to love but yourself (as they themselves are incapable of true empathy/love).
Stating that they made you feel is like saying an empty robot made you feel, or an empty soda can made you feel. And in the same way it's completely ridiculous to think a Narc made you feel anything...As they were doing nothing more than mirroring you in the beginning. Based on a lie and you cannot truly feel for lies.
They are completely incapable of processing their emotions, they don't know how to. And that is why when you state that you love them they greatly resent it, they turn you into an enemy and play their games. Because inside they ask themselves- " how can you possibly love this ? '
Unless you get over these massive hurdles and understand the bigger picture of Universal spiritual truths in your relationships then you will never be the truly empathic powerful loving spirit being you truly are to love the world/heal the world. ..
Much love !..
@@robertdemeter5793 I appreciate these words. Thanks my friend
@@LouieShowers You're infinitely beautiful my friend !! The infinite multi-dimensional Universe and all the heavens are deep within you !! However the ego-mind (where narcissists operate from) can only look outwardly in the low vibration of fear of going deep within and to control the outer world (other people). Simply drink a lot of Ayahuasca that takes you deep within millions of times deeper within you that the ego-mind of thoughts is terrified of...And you'll instantly see that all I say on my vids on my channel is Truth !! Much love !!! :- )
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for making these videos. You have helped me immensely. I'm glad you decided to keep your channel going. I am recovering thanks to you! All the best.
This is one of THE BEST platforms on narcissism HANDS DOWN!!!!
Took me 10 years to break free. Once you see it and know what you are dealing with, missing them ends. Freedom
You are on fire.💪💪💪💞💞
Took me almost 24 yrs to finally break, i started hating him more and more ....i tried so hard.....for nothing half my life.....smh...
Please, keep your channel. Thank you for what you share.
You are great! Thank you for speaking the truth!❤
Thank you. “It’s just a trauma bond.” Making the team is a beautiful way of describing a good relationship. Being alone is a gift- love it. I’m free! I hope you’re okay. Please keep producing content because it helps me live a better life. Speak good things to myself is so needed. I’d rather have nothing and be free than be a slave to a master.
❤amen ❤ truth ❤
Thank You , for your program
Soooo true I needed this
Listening to this video today and I realized last night that I will be joyful w/o the estranged Narc husband. I am blessed and highly favored
Thank you ❤
Amen ❤ so true
Awesome message! Exactly right , and I'm glad that you changed your mind about the channel ❤️
So on point,,it is best thing that happend to me ,when he discared me..amen,,it hurted me,but now after a year i am happy he is out of my life.
After my ex left me she wanted to be friends with me, then I called her out for something that hurt me and she couldn’t take any accountability or apologise. She even said I can see it’s hurt you but I’m not apologising. Then she said I do care about you, then said I did value you, then told me I was the problem and it was my insecurities and I needed to deal with it! I ended up wishing her all the best and she said it’s my loss if I didn’t want a friendship.
Still love ya!!! Keep it coming! 😊
God Bless you my friend....if you new the story I went through lol....but after I completely crushed their pathetic little ego...now 3 years with not a peep from them
May God continue to protect and guide you through. Blessings.❤️🙏🏽
Please keep the channel ❤i just found you ❤
Your sharing is priceless to us all , God bless you and keep you amen
your words sooth my ached tired heart!! 💙❤️😃Thanks for this. Greetings from 🇲🇽
This is good, thank you🙏🥰
God… I needed this, thank you 🙏 your words are so helpful and uplifting ❤
I just found your channel. I'm glad you are here. Thank you so much.
Saving this one! Thank you for the inspiration! 🙏
Thank you sis for sharing your video it's educational and informative. ❤
Thank you so much for these videos. You’re saving people’s lives. Literally! Thank you.
Your amazing! 😘
You are an awesome cheerleader🎉
I can hear the hurt in your voice!! I'm in your situation right now..I understand..its the worse
I rocks with you and this message❤
Thanks so much i really needed this message , none of my fam and friends really dont understand and this is the best advice i needed , im free xxx god love the next women that wont have a clue until its too late ,god bless you new subscriber ❤
Thank God for your Chanel and the truth you are brave enough to share, you are so encouraging to us who have been so damaged by these nars
Thank you for sharing your experience to educate those of us who are finally escaping the Narcs claws. 🙏🏼. Bless you!
Most people think everyone is a narcissist however their are worse mental disorders. psychopathic behaviours are much worse In my experience with abusive friendships.
So much gratitude that I found your channel!💗Your words of truth are tremendously encouraging to all of us who are trying to rewrite the negativity that the narcissist has brainwashed us with. Thank you for reaffirming this.
Once they Exit your Life,see it as the Blessing it is, and God's Intervention 😏🚩🏃♀️ ......I'm sorry they tried doing that to you, hope your ok ❤
Excellent channel 👏. Yours and Sam Vaknin are my go to's for understanding narcissism
IM FREE
what about when you have children? He is hurting his son and not sure how to navigate that. my son is 15
Hi Donielle
Thankyou so much for your wonderful channel. You help me so much
I have one question I hope you can answer. I married my ex covert narcissist and only stayed with him a year. I would have left sooner but was financially dependent on him, but it only took me a couple months to see that there was majorly something wrong. However he was married twice before once 13 years second 11 years and they both still want him. How was they able to stay with him so long and I couldn't even last a year? This makes me feel like it was me even though it wasn't. How could they stay so long?
How do you know if you are the narcissist or if your husband is the narcissist?
They told you that on purpose
They knew it wasn’t true
Calling me a liar making up stories that I lied about
Hell NO you wont be happy with their asses in YOUR life!
For some reason your voice reminds me of Shelley Duvall