4 low-stress lifestyle habits [if you’re easily stressed]
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In this episode of "Big Sis Advice," Elle shares her top 4 strategies for maintaining a low-stress lifestyle. Firstly, she encourages listeners to avoid 'lower-level struggles,' those unnecessary battles that prevent us from tackling bigger, more rewarding challenges. Secondly, she advocates for doing less to be more, suggesting that by reducing commitments, we can enhance our performance and satisfaction in the activities we do engage in. Thirdly, Elle advises listeners to distance themselves from 'crisis people' who constantly find themselves in chaos and stress. Lastly, she discusses the importance of being mindful with money, making thoughtful financial decisions, and ensuring financial peace. Throughout the episode, Elle emphasizes the importance of self-care and making choices that support a healthier, lower-stress lifestyle.
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If you ever talked to a gyno, they would tell you stress is the number one external factor that leads to dysfunction/cancer/hormone imbalances, its really serious ladies! If you think you can handle it now while you're young and healthy, you'll find out how things can change real quick. Please, please, take care of yourselves!
This so much! I put myself through so much stress, stress that did not serve me. During my 20’s my health wasn’t great but I could handle it or at least that’s what I told myself. By my early 30’s I was facing multiple serious health challenges and then at age 47, I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer. No previous family history. I had always eaten well, never drank alcohol, never smoked always tried to take care of myself. But between a very stressful career and 16 years with a narcissistic spouse, the toll was obvious.
Don’t want to see young women going down this same path.
@@sighthoundlady15 wishing you health and happiness for you and your loved ones✨God bless🫶🫶
@@sighthoundlady15hope you are doing and feeling better , praying for a long healthy life for you 🙏🙏🌺🌺🌺
Absolutely! Stress doesn't go away, it just accumulates. Take care of yourself ladies - everything and everyone else in your life will follow *your* lead. 💗
Exactly!
I am a Millionaire Next Door. None of my friends know. I drive a used car, I make or thrift my clothes, I use coupons, live in a small house, my kid goes to public school. I got into Minimalism a few years ago and now I don't even own many things. We do travel a lot, but it's premium economy and Air B&Bs all the way. The biggest luxury in my life is not being in debt, feeling financially secure, and doing what I love. The soft life suits me perfectly.
So proud of you! ❤❤ I love frugal living and minimalism. It’s changed my life.
Key points:
1. Choose High value struggles not low value
2. Do less,be more
3. Ghost crisis people
4. Be smart with money
Thank you! 😊❤
I’m single and child-free, so I’m no stranger to “soft life” living, and it’s about to get even softer.
Why? Because I refuse to stress and struggle about nonsense - of any kind!
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Same!
Same!!
Same 😌🌞🍀🦅✨🧙🏼♀️
love your energy sis! Trying to match it in my own life
Me too! Childfree and sterilized! Its the cheatcode to a much easier life
I have been called useless and lazy by men AND women for choosing to embrace the soft life
Yah I don’t care what these people think. I became a lawyer and I’ve got student loans and am recovering from chronic active EBV bc of it. I’m not afraid to “disappoint” my parents and society anymore. It’s not their life! I’m living slow and writing my novels now (crescent crown saga). I’m a creative and will never deny that of myself ever again!
@@schuylergeery-zink1923omg that’s awesome. I want to go back to it but I feel stuck :(
Those people are probably jealous and want you to struggle like they do
(Instead of changing their lifestyle)
i'm smelling jealousy, but whatever reason that is, their opinions truly don't matter. your life is yours, you get to decide and no one else, period. good luck, babe.
Theyre calling you useless because all they want to do is use (and exploit) you. Being lazy is not a bad thing, women everywhere should strive to be more lazy, it'll help us avoid the kind of men that want to treat us like workhorses, maids, and mules
2024 is the year where I begin to become a spoiled girlie. I am going to treat my 30s better than how I treated my 20s. Wish me luck, besties!
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You got this bestie!!
Good luck bestie ♡
Good luck to you, Bestie! Me too, in 2024 becoming one, becoming 36y.o. but with "clean" passport, free heart, child free by choice and that's just amazing❤ my best wishes to you, Bestie ☀️🕊️💎
Me too ❤ love ya, girls
Yes stress is the number one killer! Theres a book called The Body Keeps Score that goes deeply into this. Cut off anything or anyone that stresses you out and only allow those who benefit you and add onto your hard earned peace!
Trigger warning for that book:
The author got fired from his own trauma center for antagonizing his female employees and he writes about sympathy for a PTSD war vet who r-worded Asian women in Vietnam.
Absolutely! Cut it off with the quickness! ✂ - you're future self and life will thank you 💗
I mean how are you supposed to just "cut off anything that stresses you out" when said things are bills and education?
Yes bestie , you're amazing so true .
@@hyacinthe4478 those are things not people , if people stress you out avoid them keep it simple don't engage . If you have to be around others that stress you out , try mediating , try avoiding and forgiving them know Hurt people Hurt people , eating well sleeping well no caffeine that puts you into a stress mode also disturbs sleep .
I'm SO GLAD you said you post when you feel like it. If you only post when the INSPIRATION hits, your content will be QUALITY vs quantity which will stand the test of time. Make no mistake, you're putting Language to what was hiding in corners for generations. Keep 🌟
This is exactly how I operate my vlogs too but it can be a gift and a curse! Btw idk if you’re into nyc vlogs but if so, you might like mine! I’d be sooo grateful if you swung by and took a peek. 🙏 Stick around if you like!
Every single one is a banger
This is so good- I stopped following a podcast after an episode that seemed like she was just chatting off the top of her head. She admitted near the end that she was exhausted, it was late at night, and she didn't even know what she was going to talk about BUT her commitment to posting once a week is what was important. I thought- this is a waste of my time. Delete
This 💯
I have a few channels and set a (very loose) schedule on my main one and don’t set a schedule for my other ones. I might just quit the schedule for the main one (and just post when I want for that too), since it seems one of my other ones is slowly catching up to the main one 😅and also so I could enjoy it more
Easiest way to reduce stress - avoid other people.
I've been doing this but idk if self isolation is the key. Btw idk if you’re into nyc vlogs but if so, you might like mine! I’d be sooo grateful if you swung by and took a peek. 🙏 Stick around if you like!
There’s truth to this. Creating boundaries to keep your vibration in and high and to send the low vibes in the other direction.
That’s not exactly true. Humans are social creatures. I’m sure you think you’re happy but if you find quality friends you’ll realize you need them. What you’re advising is a coping mechanism.
Even healthy introverts (keyword: HEALTHY) need social interaction.
I hear about how important community is but being a hermit who got out into nature gave me the biggest smile for years. There was a time I was socializing that was wonderful but it wasn't financially sustainable.
You will still have stress, esp if you have a depression or anxiety disorder, because stress is everything that effects on our bodies
This millionaire next door point is about my boyfriend 😂. On first impression you’d think he is kind of poor, because he doesn’t like to spend much money on his clothes, cars, luxury things for himself, etc. But he is actually fairly rich. His house (average house in average neighborhood) is mortgage free, he has passive income because of multiple different investments, and his blue collar job pays fairly decent on top of that. I like it this way. We don’t have any worries about money, he can fully provide for me, still have money left every month to invest, and other women don’t try to poach him because we seem poor 😂.
People who have lots of money speaks more in their personality and actions versus their clothes and promises
That’s a great point - my husband is like a hot nerd. He dresses a bit better since being with me but he does not look suave or rich and prefers utilitarian clothing. It’s for the best 😅 we’re happy to live well below our means in a small house and invest more 🥰
This is my boyfriend as well, he’s very rich but you’d never know
How do you get all these men? Can yall teach me😅
Oh my good for you both living that soft boujee and minimalistic consumer life which is so smart and good for the planet too !!!
heres one that will immediately lower your day to day stress; stop rushing. be realistic about the stakes; if its not a job or a job interview honestly just let yourself be a little late. obviously not as a rule but just dont try to make up time by rushing. its okay to call people and tell them youre running behind. youll learn to adapt your preparation periods to reduce rushing
Good point! I noticed on my days off I try to rush and do everything but now I just go with the flow and I’m able to still get things done
I've realized the moments when I do less, I've earned more. It's really a silly thing but it always works out the best when I do the least as opposed to when I stress out about things and do extra. 😂
Same :D whenever I decide not to stress somehow I always end up being right in time lol
When you follow the path of least resistance everything works perfectly
♥so true!
Ghosting crisis people changed my life so drastically ❤❤❤
I’ve had to cut my parents out of my life, especially my mother. The amount of stress just the idea of seeing her had on me was unreal. I was so high strung and everything felt hard. It does make me sad but without them I’m so much more calm and have less anxiety attacks and depressive episodes.
I’ve had to cut off my narcissistic parents 3 times, the last being for good seeing that they only got worse and more insidiously abusive over time. Your peace, health and wellbeing are top priority! Here’s to living free of stress and trauma inducing people!
Ghosting your own mother can be so freeing 💕 enjoy your happy, healthy life!
Cut off my abusive family on Christmas Eve, spent the holidays at church and with my dog and pizza ❤
@@afrofaeriespizza it will be next year. Was too stressed not just owning my “no” that I couldn’t enjoy my first real solo
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I literally just got out of the psychiatric hospital because I was so overwhelmed dealing with other people's crises. I'm taking dense notes. Apparently I need them.
I’m so proud that you’re still here with us ❤🎉
I’m proud of u
@@afrofaeries Thank you sooo much! I'm sorry I didn't say it earlier. I've only just caught my breath (doing things for myself, at least). But I hope things are going beautifully for you, and thank you for lifting my spirits!
@@Chicoyo2 Thank you so much! 🫶🫶 I hope you're getting spoiled by life!
As a Haitian immigrant, this hits so hard. My parents are always sending money to family out of the country when they barely have enough to care for themselves. My grandma is always pressuring my mom to, like she doesn't care about the family here but the ones overseas. And they call me selfish when I make sure to take care of myself first.
Tomorrow I have a date with a man I've known for a couple of months. He waited to ask me out. I could sense his interest but I waited on him to make the first move.
He invited me, told me he was going to pick me up (he knows where I'm living because he already drove me home a couple of times), and he has planned the whole afternoon.
I used to EXHAUST myself chasing men. What was I thinking?
Omg have fun babe !!! 🩵🩷 this makes me so happy to see 🥹
update: it was really fun and lots of green flags.
@@christelle9122 so happy for you💟💟
Update?
@@catcat9582 It's going well with him. He's planning romantic dates and is serious about pursuing me. He is fairly young and has little experience with women and I had to explain to him that I won't pay for his drinks or anything else and that I'm expecting him to take care of me. He took it well and I was pleasantly surprised.
Tomorrow he's coming to my place and will make me dinner. ☺
Girl for the fans who are complaining about not knowing when you post that’s literally what TH-cam has notifications for lol set the notification and they’ll know when you post. That’s how I KNOW!
I feel this too as a creative. Best songs, stories, and videos come with inspiration. When I try to force myself to a schedule it doesn’t really work - it just makes me feel bad. I was able to post consistently only when inspired and I have the energy and it wasn’t bc of the schedule. It just worked out that way briefly 😂
Instead I’m doing a tracking system where I “pay” myself in market value for the creative work as if I outsourced it on the tracker. There’s no specific schedule. And that pumps me up a bit more!
Lol for sure! This is the only channel I have notifications for and I like the surprise of never knowing when a bomb of a video will be dropped 😂 love this gal & her authenticity so much
I think a lot of people think that to struggle is equivalent to their value.
Like, if you’re not stressed, you’re not working hard enough. If you are not working hard enough, than you are not valuable or worthy of good things.
It has to be changed around! You have value, and therefore, you don’t “have to” choose struggle when it is a choice.
It took me a long time to realize this.
This has been my problem:( i wasnt stress at work because i feel like i wasnt challenged enough, I like my lazy girl job but at the same time i feel guilty
I feel so much better after distancing myself from my crisis friends. One literally would cause problems if there wasn't any. My final decision came when she would complain about a certain church that visited weekly but I suggested she tell them not to come. Instead she invited me to come visit without warning me they would be there and threw me under the bus with them pointing out all of my different beliefs that were contrary to theirs. Totally disrespectful and I walked out and to the nearest bus stop while blocking her phone number and social media on my phone number. Life is peaceful now
I used to be very anxious and stressed. I just stopped caring so much about others, and only focus on myself, and only keep positive people around me.
Former crisis person here. Gonna leave my 2 cents: If possible, leave that high stress environment/job/relationship/family member and make time to start sleeping properly, getting sunlight and do somatic experiencing. Healing is possible. You deserve to live a joyful life.🙏🏼
The most empowering thing I’ve ever done for myself was get good with money. It’s really so much less stressful knowing I can afford an emergency 🙌🏻 and don’t have to rely on my parents for it… totally agree with your stance on money. More videos about money please!! 💝
Took me TWO YEARS to recover from this nightmare and I’m officially never ever gonna care abt anything Cept love and loving myself into oblivion
Everything you said here is 💯
As childhood trauma survivor I felt call out, who's is currently going thru a high stress period in life, I don't know but your videos calm me down, inspire me and give me hope. Thank you for making this content 💫💗
Sending so much love to you! I feel the same way. Have you ever watched a video from “the crappy childhood fairy”? It’s my other favorite TH-cam creator. Your comment reminded me of myself a few years ago and I think you may find value in some of the videos. Wishing you wellness & light
SHINE SHIMMER GLIMMER.
I relate to you so much. Lately I’ve been working on regulating my nervous system. Meditation, drinking calming teas, creating rituals for myself. For the past two days I’ve been doing 5 minute yoga. All of it is working for me, if you wanna try some.
Horray
I‘m in my soft girl era and it’s amazing. Soon I will leaving my sh*tty job and the toxic environment for better benefits and payment! Never settle for less.
I'm choosing the slightly higher level struggle of gardening, since I have the privilege. My own flowers, herbs, veggies and (let's see about that after my heavy pruning...) some berries. Rewards will be better mental health, better "connection to nature", community building, and more mindfulness about what I put in or on my body. Yes, needs a few starter investments to get going, but I have a financial cushion atm, so that's no biggie. It's not gonna be a "500€-tomato", rather a continuous stream of salad!
Gardening last year already was very rewarding in the regards I mentioned earlier :)
like seeds aren't that expensive, not even organic heirloom varieties! And sunlight is totally free, and "weed tea" for fertilizing pretty much, too (if you make it with rain water)
I’ve turned down literally hundreds of thousands of dollars because I knew the stress that came with those opportunities would kill me. I make low 6 figures and although I do want more to fund my side hustles, nothing is worth my mental health. Since I quit my last stressful job, literally everyone tells me how beautiful I’ve gotten and the fact that I look like a new person lol. Nothing is worth losing my beauty 😂
What work or product makes you money?
@@iamthediapora finance but not client facing
That study about kids developing cardio problems as adults from high stress home summed up my own existence. I am on high blood pressure meds now. My house growing up was walking on egg shells. As a divorced single mom, I can finally live in a calm home. No eggshells. It's wonderful. After my divorce, in my late 20s, I was able to get my driver's license, my early 30s I started and finished my associates in accounting and now i am pursuing my ba; all while raising and creating beautiful memories and adventures with my kids.
Omg!!! Im doing a no buy this year. First month went so well, I literally DO NOT stress about money AT ALL. I LOOOOOOVE frugal living
They program us to be consumers/work harder to buy more stuff.. good for you for getting off the hampster wheel 💯
@@goddess_Kate thank you. And yes so true. Although sometimes its really sad when you are feeling so much better and people try to tell you to go back to this because this is the only way to have fun... Nah my fun comes from knowing I have a couple zeros on my bank account, thanjs
Last year, I was struggling with an illness, every week I'd have to get my blood checked. The doctor told me my blood test came out beautiful and healthy except for one problem. My stress levels were curbing my road to heal from the illness. Realising that I took out a lot of things from my life that were contributing to my stress. Stress not only kills, it also stops you from healing emotionally and physically.
Just a reminder that not everyone necessarily chooses certain things. What’s an easy choice for someone else could be impossible to others. With things like depression, chronic illness, etc, sometimes you can’t just easily choose to get out of bed and exercise and eat well. For me personally, with my ADHD, if I didn’t have meds then I would have continued down a bad road and it would have never been in my control.
Personally, I don't like being frugal. That's not my vibe. I don't overspend because I agree that it is very stressful; Being mindful, not wasting money and spending on things that don't really bring you joy is one thing, but for me there are certain things I love spending on and that brings me so much joy. Some people think it's extravagant but I don't care. I find it much easier to save and avoid mindlessly spending when I have goals for saving. Maybe that's something I need to work on, maybe I need to find joy in just saving for the sake of having money, but I'm not there yet. I need a reason to save, like a holiday I may or may not even go on but in my mind I am saving for it. Every time I think about buying something it's like do I want that, or do I want to go on this holiday? And do I want to be flying economy or business class? And then it's easy to put things in perspective in terms of how much I want to buy something. It helps me break the habit of buying things just for the thrill of buying something. I find this has brought me more peace. I don't miss any of the things I didn't buy and I love buying less, but I will never be 100% frugal and will still splurge when it really matters to me because otherwise what even is the point of having money?
I agree and she does too but see you're still saving your not spending all your money you literally doing what she suggests .If you watch her other videos she most certainly talks about treating yourself . She talked about that billionaire guy having said don't have that latte save and struggle and she's syas you don't need to struggle and make yourself miserable to succeed its not the vibe . She's basically saying here don't spend to look rich and be foolish with money .
I think what your doing is right
I was so stressed at home and in life that I just found soft girl korean vlogs so relieving and refreshing. Deep down, I aspire the life that they have.
If you have some favorites I’d love to know who!! I’m trying to find calming content creators. 🩷🩵🩷🩵
I love the way you articulate this concept of lower level struggles its so helpful to think of it that way 😅
Yeah but I must say... everyone's worse is their worse! Btw idk if you’re into nyc vlogs but if so, you might like mine! I’d be sooo grateful if you swung by and took a peek. 🙏 Stick around if you like!
@@AlexisBeloni love watching blogs. I will definitely check yours out 👍
I'm so tired of financial stress. I've lived with it my whole life.
I actually am strong but ill not put myself in a position where i have to survive. Being a soft girl doesn't mean not having strength. But im not gonna put myself in situations where my softness and patience are tested.
I Cut everyone off last year because my „Friends“ were so toxic and my unhealed Version did Not Stress about it .. but now Im really lonely.. Like I Have Nobody besides my Mom.. its really hard
I feel it… I let all my toxic friends go. I only have 1 long distant friend, my husband, my sister, and my parents + some acquaintances that I do NOT want as friends. It can feel lonely at times but it’s better than losing sleep to toxic friends. Be your own best friend and love yourself well - I believe we’ll find good friends when the time is right 🥰
You are Right thats what gives me faith at the Moment… God has better Plans for us✨
This was great. I keep a low key life, dont take too many risk because I get stressed easily. I don’t keep a lot of friends because I feed off their negative energy. I work a simple job that I love. Yes I don’t make a lot but I live way below my means. I could make more but it will come stress and I don’t want nor need it.
Yessssss love this message. Soft life is Easy. I also had the epiphany that if I don't want to do something I just don't do it, its very empowering for me as a FORMER people pleaser. Its ruffled a lot of feathers with people who depend on me emotionally and my labor. I dont care though ❤💅
I need this. Stress doesn't just affect your mind but your body as well. I was in school worrying about everything and I had constant migraines to the point where my grades were dropping. The people around me seemed so loud and it got to the point where I couldn't move and I started seeing double. I took a break from school for a week and felt a little better. After that I just took on homeschool, which is where I'm at now. The year before I was doing great, I only had A's and I was fit and happy. My life was productive until it wasn't. Now my grades are A's again and I'm fairly alright but I don't ever want to go through that again. Don't put too much on your plate at once or you'll end up with even more than when you started. As of now I'm prioritizing my health and living as peacefully as I can. Stress is a free handout in life but you don't need it to make it through. I'd rather live a softer life.
“Ghost crisis people” 🔥
My bank account came with a separate account that is also connected to it, but I cannot pay from that account or be charged on it. It's basically untouchable and invisible to anyone but myself. Any money I have left over at the end of the month (if any), I will put on there as a backup. If I need it, I will take some from it. I also have a payment plan where I pay in a certain amount of money each month that will grow over time. I do not touch that money at all, it basically doesn't exist to me.
Do less. Be more. Words to live by. 💙💙💙💙
Hey Besties!
Piggy backing on what Elle stated, when it comes to stashing extra money for a rainy day I’d highly recommend having a High Yield Savings Account as opposed to your bank/CU.
(Not financial advice 🥰)
Seconded !!
I'm loving your feminine, creative, chaotic era too! No schedule vibe it's just perfect. Thank you for these talks bestie ❤
my goal for this year is to decimate the one toxic part of myself which is my horrible spending habits. building a savings and being frugal! it actually makes me happier knowing i’m saving and not buying things i don’t need. saving it for things that i do and love and brings me joy.
Love your videos 🥰 your life-philosophy suits me so well. Im 31 now and my life gets better and better. Money saved in my 20s really gave my 30s a booming start!
I just came out of the hospital yesterday from a panic attack. My blood pressure was literally so high even though I'm on beta blockers. (The emotional labor of having a family with no emotional regulation/boundaries..) But anyways, I needed to see this today. Thank you queen 🦋🌆
Also just real quick I could and would move away, but I'm a caretaker for a relative so I basically can't. But if you're in a situation like mine and you can leave, I would really encourage it.
I was missing these kinda videos from you , a good break from the ‘reacting to ‘ videos. Your videos have only made me wiser and better 😊❤
I love boffum hehe but this went offff 🔥
Please make a short from the first 46 seconds of this sermon so I can play it on repeat until I overcome my hard life addiction. Thanks 🙏🏾
This cracked me up. The accuracy xD
Great video, and I especially appreciate the part about ditching a high-stress lifestyle. I did it, and it was the best thing I ever did. The physical and mental stress from a toxic career and lifestyle was destroying me.
Girlie, I love your channel so much and appreciate your perspective as a daughter of an immigrant family with no older sister, since I'm the same. I woke up today stressed and feeling dread for no reason, I've had to reflect on what's causing it. You are so right that we think the harder path with give greater rewards when in reality that's not true
This was helpful because it gave me PERMISSION to do all the things that I was doing anyway but struggling with the heavy feeling of Guilt I associated with those feelings...causing more lower level stress!
This describes my millionaire uncle to a T. He lives in a small house in a older humble neighborhood , doesn’t dress up unless he has a business meeting. Has an old fishing boat. The only thing he splurged on was his truck. lol he will go outside and still help work on the cars too lol he doesn’t live to impress anyone but will occasionally throw a little hints out to us. Lolll (family)
I have literally been so stressed and angry today and have been googling anger management tips ❤ thanks for posting, sis!!
Tomorrow my boyfriend’s grandparents coming back. I need tips on how to keep my cool and be more outgoing calmly since I’m the total opposite of that. I can either be very quiet or very loud on the spectrum.
I usually just follow the lead of my partner. And usually old people are very good at small talk so it’s gonna be okay. I’m very quiet too and don’t really speak unless I’m spoken to, but it’s nothing to worry about. As long as you’re sweet and polite you can’t go wrong! (Unless they are evil then everything can go wrong, but it wouldn’t be your fault at that point lol) offer them something to drink, eat, make sure they’re comfortable. And let them talk 😂 they love to talk.
Everyone loves to talk about themselves.. ask good questions and you'll find common interests to chat about 🤌💋 you got this bestie.. oh and brag on their Grandson 😘
0:47 That logo is soo dramatic lol😂😂😂
Obsessed also 😍
I'm going to watch this over and over until it fucking sticks. Thank you so much for this. Also Being the eldest daughter fucking sucks😭😭
It really does but I believe in you 🩷🩷
@@spacebar9733 thank you angel 🩷 I believe in you and strongs to you on your journey🥺🫶🏽
I f****** love you, you are an absolute blessing!
My life would not have become this glamorous if I didn't find your videos 💖
You are truly making a difference in women's lives.
Yas 🙌❣️ what many underestimate is that stress can actually unalive ya 😐.. I remember when I woke up one morning with pain in my lower stomach that hurt so bad that I cried and cried short of madness caused by pain. My mom rushed me to the hospital and I got emergency surgery. Later the doctors told me what happened: there is an illness that causes knots in the colon which is deadly. This disease is caused by permanent stress and the doctors told me that mostly girls in their early twenties are affected by it. They said it's a chronic disease and that I have to make immediate drastic changes in my life if I don't want to put my life on the line again. This experience left a mark on me: a scar from the emergency surgery which always reminds me to never overload myself again. If I could tell one thing to all the bb gals out there I'd ask them with all my heart to NEVER FORGET ABOUT HAVING FUN AND CHILL! ❤❤❤
Could you ever do a video for disabled girlies too? It’s sooo hard to have a spoiled girlie lifestyle when you’re dealing with chronic illnesses/pain and people think you’re worth less because you can’t do as much. 😩
Love your videos, I just discovered you a couple weeks ago, and I’ve almost watched all of them!! ❤️
As one of those kids who grew up in a turbulent household. I'm 30 and I've been hospitalized and has many scans due to heart arrhythmia, my heart mimics signs on a panic attack without me actually under stress. Its quite disheartening for me, literally. So even though I live a "soft" life, I am still affected by my childhood in my health. So at work now, I only put myself up for the major tasks which put me at the forefront. I don't stress myself for the little tasks because its low level stress. For major tasks, I'm also learning to ask for help (in the form of scheduling 2 hour meetings as a workshop). So that I learn once and get it forever. I'm also the eldest sibling lol, I wish I had a big sister lol.
I like the no schedule vibe, cause it's like a nice lil surprise gift when you post :)
Love this episode. 😊 I have been working on lessening pointless stress and increasing my tolerance for the tough things that matter, so it's affirming(?) to listen to this rant, haha. ❤
I NEED to have "Bestie Wake Up!" As a ringtone,.alarm, tshirt, *something* 😅💅
One of my co-workers at a past job made so much money. He was always doing OT. He was getting a nursing degree while working more than 40 hours outside of school. None of the money past the cost of his room in a shared apartment when to him. He ate for free at work and took home anything we'd donate to freeze. BUT, all that money not going to him he was sending back to his family overseas who couldn't move, his grams and aunts and uncles (as his mom lived here because she married an American.) That compassion is beautiful but is also why so many hard workers never grow fiscally because they don't also set some aside for themselves to invest :(
i needed this vid. ive been so stressed out lately , getting ill because of it, acne, bad sleep etc. i hope i can reduce it with this help!
Baby girl! The amygdala takes no days of-!!! 😂❤
Yes absolutely. Same I'm not gonna post just to post, it has to feel inspired and in turn its of great quality and I feel good, and because of that my channel has seen exponential growth compared to others in the same category
Your videos really elevated me. I can't thank you enough for what you have done ❤ please, continue.
Yes!! This really needs to be heard. I became so sick from constantly struggling. I choose my high struggle/ high reward job & cut back on everything else (smaller home - less cleaning - no kids & currently single) it is such a relief!
i looove this big sister advice thing even though i have a big sister ❤
PREACH IT BIG SISTER!!!!! you’re doing amazing things for the community!!!! please keep doing what you’re doing!!!!
I’m very easily stressed too and keep a low-key life, I work for myself in a job I enjoy; I don’t make loads but enough to get by and have small luxuries. I’ve lowered contact with people I find draining, have drawn clear boundaries with an ex-situationship which has regulated my emotions, made me feel stronger and happier and am working on meeting new friends atm. Hopefully by next year I will have someone to go on holidays with and when the weather warms up I will be out on the water paddleboarding most of the time 😊
All of my favorite creators post when they want to. Their content is always high quality and I like it that way.
GATHER ME ❤ Honestly the low stress life is for me! My mind, body, and heart are all in agreement.
I love your videos! I'm trying put my sisters on your videos. As the oldest sister I love your videos because it helps me give sound advice to my younger sisters. ❤❤❤
My mum kept saying exactly the same thing about money my entire life, now I get it!
quickest ive ever seen one of her videos, and i already have a feeling i neeed whats in this one
I love the topic! I wonder whether you could elaborate on the 'girl-code' and connecting with other women - forming friendships with spoiled girlies.
I would also like to know your opinion on choosing between cosexual and female only spaces (i.e. gyms).
"I am not strong... I don't need to prove that I'm resilient. Don't test me, don't try me, I am not... I will fail."
Preeeeach!
This is so true 😭❤️ thank you
The stress showing on skin is sooo true! Because of my study I stress sooo much sometimes I don't even realise it. I had a month of freedom from my study at december and my skin healed up so fast, I don't even remember when was the last time it looked this good. And then I had to go back for an intens study period because of my final, and it breaked me out like hell. And I couldn't figure out why, because I was sooo used to stress from my uni that I didn't even realised anymore I were stessing, I had to check what changed between the mounths to find out. Luckily I'll finish and get my diploma in february, but it's sooo true, my skin knows my mental state better than I do and I need to do changes.
People want you to post _more_ ? Girl you're already on my timeline like crazy. I like that you post whenever you feel like, and you're churning out quality. I don't care about a schedule, if you post I'll see it cuz that's what a subscription is for.
BTW, just a video idea I'd be interested in -- what workouts do you do? You mentioned off hand that trying to workout the same as a man can lead to hormonal imbalance (and I've personally experienced a lot of swelling and pain from doing so) , so I'm curious what you do?
I LOVE THE BIG SISTER AND HER ADVICE ❤
I discovered your channel 3 months back and girl , you are a life saver!❤
I love your videos and the fact that you don’t have a posting schedule bc it’s so relatable
love your vids girl! hope you continue sharing with us ❤
Thank you for saying that out loud! Wow, that is so pleasant to hear that there is another way, lower stress way.
I choose this path again and again, and it truly leads to a better quality of life. Thank you, sister, your advice is so valuable ❤
We love you Elle ❤!
Thank you for this valuable information, it’s much appreciated. 😁
I feel like this video literally saved my life, thank you
thankyou sm for all your amazing videos it really helped alot🙏💖
People look at me crazy when I say I LOVE saving money. Like I love low spending, it truly brings me joy. I know a woman who has a steady income and has no savings account... that's insane!
You have a way to be so wise and funny at the same time!!!
Loved this ❤
exactly when i need it
This is very true and helpful. Great vid Elle ❤
You’re amazing, thank you 😇
This video is so valuable. Thank you Elle! You are my support in taking care of my own wellbeing by going against the grain and refusing to burn out. Even If I am smart I still don’t have to end myself with work.