The DAD destroying his first wife’s things is a much bigger betrayal than the wife’s actions. She is a stranger to op-but OP’s biological dad owed her loyalty and being a decent dad.
OP didn't just lose her mom at age 8, she lost her dad at age 10. I have absolutely no problem with what OP did to stepmonster. "for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap."
My aunt's first husband died while she was pregnant and she remarried later. She kept photos and and an album of him for my cousin in the house and her second husband never had a problem with that. My cousin always called their step-dad by his first name but consideres him their father. There was never a problem about talking about or looking at pictures of their bio dad. When my cousin was a kid, their step-dad went with them every "day of the dead" to the cemitery to put flowers on their bio dad's grave. Why some people feel jealous of the dad I will never understand.
Seeing the speed, he either took the first one he could find (Trash like that step) or he was already cheating on OP mother (that's usually the case sometimes with just how quickly the living parent "moves on" There's a reason some cultures have a "GRACE" period for the widow to mourn before they have to move on! Cruel sometimes, but they owe it to the deceased to live their life, it's what they would have wanted!) The erasure is also another sign! Likely if they were cheaters, Step just wants to steal everything from OP mother! First her husband, next her home, and finally her daughter! (Some assholes have this thing with wanting someone else's kid calling them Dad/Mom just to get the power trip of having stolen everything and removed them as a memory!) sometimes this shit succeeds, but on occasion it fails HARD! Still remember when a Mother succeed in this with all but ONE of her kids! Even got the other traitors to howler monkey them! Until the family they disowned had inheritance left for that loyal child! Then like the Chicken and the Wheat they DEMANDED to get a share! Concluding that since that OP was not family with that family Bio-wise and they were giving money to her, then they should get something too! And another similar one where the mother tried to DEMAND the money off of that OP and I suspected it was because shit hit the fan and her kids who sided with her were getting resentful because their years with "new dad" didn't pan out once he stopped pretending to care once they called him "Dad and had his last name" especially once he got a baby out of their mother! And not wanting to lose her kids loyalty, believed she could play the Mom card on OP despite having cut her off assuming she'd coming "Crying to be on the winning side" which sure as hell wasn't her! Sure her new husband started cutting off OP siblings financially and they had enough pride...or no way to contact Bio Dad, growing up resentful to New Dad and their new half siblings, and mom was scared the resentment was coming her way next! I was hoping since no update, that OP didn't cave and Mom now has to deal with "being the enemy now" and she no longer gets bothered by that hag again! Hope OP followed that advice and found something, anything of her mother! If she has a profile, I'd say put the picture up! I'm sure Step is stalking around and will see it on her page and do what she seems good at doing, "Crying and whining to OP sperm donor to do something!" And he can HUFF and PUFF and "Go pound sand!"
He missed the fact he was supposed to put his kid first above everyone else. Part of it isn't trying to erase op's mom. I loved op's retaliation too, "Stepmom" got a taste of her own words and it was so bitter
See the husband never loved his first wife... and amazes me why men always say always put the man first in a relationship 🙄 to make things work not ur kids...but death happens and then the wife that picks her husband over her kids ends up removed from her family once she dies...mom should have set up a will for her child with photos!
My dad couldn't bear to part with any of my mom's stuff and said he would give me something someday. Then he started dating a woman he used to work with. Next thing I knew I saw her kids and grandkids walking of his house with my mom's stuff. All they saved for me was an old worn out purse, a broken watch, and one of mom's dentures. My dad passed away a few years ago. His widow wonders why I never visit or call. One of her sons called me saying she cries wondering what she did wrong. I told him to tell her it's because of an old purse, a broken watch and mom's dentures. I haven't heard from any of them since. If anyone wants any kind of relationship with a stepchild don't treat them or their late parent like trash. Don't expect anymore respect than you give them.
Make sure you either take it to a dumpster or do it in trash day. Then when she starts screaming and crying and demanding to know why you did that. Look her dead in the eye and say How else are you going to heal? You shouldn't cry so much. Your dad will want you to start calling his new wife mom. Then when dad starts in yelling. Look at him and ask what you were doing that's so wrong? You were only following their examples. You were taught at an early age that the death of a parent means nothing. That you should get over it quickly and be ready to accept the new partner as your parent. When he or she calls you a heartless monster. Just smile and say I learned it from you. You threw away everything that was my mother's. Not even leaving me so much as a photo. You said it was so I'd get over it and accept her faster. I'm only helping. As for the heartless monster part. You might want to take a long hard look in the mirror. If you're lucky your father's future wife won't destroy everything that belongs to your mother. But I doubt it.
@@RudesMom She should change her surname to her mum's maiden name. She can have something of her mum, and it's a slap in the face for her dad and step-monster.
So it’s OK for the stepmom to completely replace the old Mom after death but when Op how’s her the same thing, she is pretty much the bad guy. Wow, I can see by OP despises her. She’s not only a not great mom nor stepmom, but a hypocrite. I think your dad just married her just to have a new partner or because he wanted to get his balls rocked. But yeah he’s horrible too. And I hate passing find it easy to replace dead parents without consideration for the kids. Seriously people who find it easy to replace my parents and get jealous and insecure over them even if it’s just faint memory are pathetic. After the last that was an epic burn on the stepmom on Op’s part.
I wonder if stepmom is an affair partner who was happy bio-mom died so she did not have to be the other woman anymore and with op around, she did not have to raise a kid from infancy.
Most people don't love their partners they love the companionship, sex, cooking, making babies and hanging out! But they dont love their wives or some cases husband...aka need money from him life support! So when a spouse dies they replace them! Men especially have a habit of telling everyone a wife must choose him over her parents and even kids! But the minute she dies shes replaced! Sometimes all her photos burnt! Step families are the worse! But never put a marriage first over your kids!
Maybe Op should get rid of her “ stepmother’s” things and tell her “Now you’re never going to be my mother you bitcb! You get rid of my mom’s things I’m getting rid of yours!”
@@sailorathena17 or just get rid of her dad and stepmonster ,and never see them again . . That's what I would do,but I did it a long time ago . But your idea was awesome and she should do it!
2nd story: How was OP supposed to know her husband wanted his mother, not his wife, to keep his phone etc safe, telepathy? Anyhow, honestly, he sounds like more trouble to live with, than what he is worth.
His behaviour is SO suspicious. My mind instantly went to affair. Either way, if there are such trust issues, the marriage sounds like it's on the rocks. 100% your wife should be the one person you trust.
Almost always it is the spouse at the hospital and that is where belongings are given. I needed 2 CT scans, an EKG and an MRI and all my belongings were given to my husband, phone included. Because he was there. He is hiding something.
Wow, just Wow. OP how's that reflection going?! Hope you went all the way home to reflect with a glass of whine oh...I meant wine. Hubby was already on whine mode with mummy. 😂😂😂
For sure! Respect is EARNED. No one who treats you badly deserves or is owed your respect. Period. End of story. I'm so proud of OP and I hope they hold their ground!
@@4bibimimi I like your step-evil but I'd put your Evil in front of Step Monster‼ 👹↔EvilStepMonster&SpermDonor↔👺 Address all correspondence this way‼ I Hope whenever she gets married, she gets Great In-Laws‼💖
Story one: op should throw away step moms mother photos and anything that is connected to step moms mother. I would probably be petty by setting up a dating account for step moms dad and ask step mom for a picture of her dad without her mom in them to help find her a new mom.
I lost my mom when I was 12, and I am so heart broken by story 1 OP's story. My mom's things and pictures are what helped get me through my loss. It still helps now almost 11 years later. The step monster had all that and more coming from the way she treated OP. They deserve absolute hell for what they put her through. If my father did that to me I would have cut him off for good, and I hope when OP is 18 she can move away from this toxicity and never see them again.
As a post-high school teen, a group of us were finishing a day at the beach when someone suggested that we hit a restaurant (after going home to freshen up). They selected a local steak house. I had eaten there before with my parents, so I knew how expensive it was, but I suspected that they did not. I dipped into my emergency cash to ensure that I could cover the cost if they had sticker shock. Sure enough, everyone ordered from their least expensive fare. They barely had enough to cover the tab, but did not have enough to leave a proper tip. So, I surreptitiously left a generous tip, without embarrassing them. As a young teen, I didn’t have the social skills to lead them to a different choice of restaurant. But I did know that the tip was a big deal to our waitress.
I know how expensive a Michelin one star restaurant can be. OP and friends are at fault for not warning the guy about prices. Also if he was having trouble reading the menu then why didn't one of the others explain it to him?
Even as an adult, it might be difficult to broach the topic of price. It really depends on your circle of friends and acquaintances. Kudos to your parents for being so considerate.
@@CrochetIsLife54 So the guy who invites himself to their fancy restaurant excursion holds no responsibility for getting himself into this highly avoidable awkward situation?
A mama's boy who is afraid you will snoop through his phone. Don't look now there's a big Chinese dragon sneaking up on you. All the bells and firecrackers might give it away.
Kudos to the first OP with the get to work part. 🤣 Maybe free up some space in the photo albums and roast marshmallows on top of the stepmother’s photos of her mother.
Public indecency 🥴 Becky is the moron in this story. I lost my dad when I was my four and my step dad never tried what OP’s step mom did. What a horrid thing to do.
Oh, and the poor kid with the erased mom... I'd milk the parents for everything I could get (college, etc.), then go zero-contact with 'em. Not that I'd expect such viciously cruel "parents" to give much to the poor kid, but still...
Step-mom is NOT going to LET Dad spend coin on her education. SM is an evil person and dangerous as hell. Do not turn your back on these two. Do you know what it takes to do something that cruel? They are sadists who put the Marquis de Sade to shame. Yikes!
WTF! the Girlfriend NEEDS To read the 'Terms of Service' for the Rideshare companies. It is a violation of the T.O.S. for an unescorted MINOR/Child to be transported by a Rideshare Driver.
Story 1. OP should make a list of all photo's, monento etc of SM's mother. When her father and SM go out for the day, she should throw EVERYTHING away (where it can't be found)
Story 2: It might just be me, but the husband basically having a paranoid freakout and picking a fight over his wife having access to his phone makes me REAL curious what's on it he doesn't want her to see. Even more interesting is he's OK with his Mom seeing it, especially since the parent's are where people pick up attitudes like that. In other words, he expects his Mom to go through his phone, and is OK with that, that's normal and how he grew up, but he demands privacy from his wife that he won't or doesn't need to demand from his Mom? Seriously weird, and red flags all around here...
I had an ex who is like this. Come to find out he was cheating on me and his mom was his cover. So that’s why he was always comfortable to have his phone out around her but would hide it around me….
Lost my mom at 16 . My dad remarried 3 times since her death . NONE of them are or where my mother ! I have a mom . She may not be here but she is my mom. I have only one cookbook from my mother because my dad's first wife after my mom passed gave it all away to the DI while I was at school.
Last story: The biggest idiot here is the restaurant not putting prices on the menu. I would have taken one look at that, noticed the absence of prices and then say, "I'm gonna wait outside." NGL, OP is an idiot for thinking that a restaurant that complete meals are around $200 is a bit "upscale" (if that is in American Dollars). $200 a meal is "My family makes 6 to 7 figures" money. A bit upscale would be each meal being $30. Though, that'd still be too much for me. If the friend is an idiot, he'd only be slightly if only for not being cautious enough to do some inquiring on the prices of the meals.
No, the restaurant is not the "idiot" for not listing the prices of what is served. It's common for Michelin star restaurants to not list their prices in some cases. And even if the prices were listed, they most likely would've been listed in Euros (€) given assuming that by Op saying that the restaurant was Spanish, they were somewhere in Spain maybe Segovia, Salemenca, Madrid, Barcelona, León, Valencia etc . Maybe some cursory googling beforehand by Op's friend and or op or some one in their group should've forewarned him that each dish coulf be upwards of $100 ( when converted from Euros to USD). That way he could've stopped at the ATM to get out the money or decided the restaurant wasn't in his budget. Even if he would've googled the restaurant, it's possible that the price wouldn't have been listed on Google , instead he could've seen €€€€ or €€€€€ denoting that the restaurant is expensive.
Yeah, went out tonight for the first time in years. Menu for drinks, no prices. So. I. Asked before ordering. And this was not a high class place, I just knew I was out of touch! Not rocket science - doesn’t matter if it’s McDs or the Ritz, if you’re on a limited budget, don’t be ashamed, ask, and be proud of managing it. Few of us are in the higher echelons of earners 😉
@@danielleporter1829 - I've eaten in Michelan Star restaurants, they do actually print prices on the menu. What's more most places with a Michelan Star Chef don't price according to the Michelan Star - because it belongs to the Chef not the restaurant, if the Chef leaves he takes his Michelan Stars with him furthermore the people working under him most likely don't have any Michelan Stars. They price according to quality of ingredients used, location of restaurant and above all reputation of the restaurant. They'll use the Chef's Michelan Stars as a form of marketing, but some are even reluctant to do since the Michelan Stars can go away easily and without warning. I can think of a restaurant where a meal for 5 people cost £300 and their Chef has 2 Michelan Stars.
@@goawayleavemealone2880 Some do and some maynot. I live in LA where we have a fair bit of Michelin star restaurants and while as of yet, I've had the privilege to dine in one ( not in my budget) , I hope one day I will have the chance.
@@clairepruden4974 There’s that old joke that if you go to a restaurant (clothing store, boutique, whatever) that doesn’t list the price and you need to ask, you probably can’t afford it anyway. Lol.
OP should try to take mom's maiden name when they are of age. That would detach the stepmother from even sharing a name with OP. OP might also ransom any of their relationship with dad "You want any part in my life - that will cost you pictures and possessions of my mothers. You'd better start asking around and begging, if anything of her is still around. If not - our relationship is no longer around".
As a paranoid, private type: my wife can go through my phone if she wants. I married her because I had this trust in her. If she get upset by something she finds, then I'm glad we can talk about it as to why.
I was going to say if OP and her Husband don't have trust in each other or their marriage then why did they get married in the first place if I was OP I'd be telling hubby as I'm walking out of the room with MOMMY DEAREST right there " oh by the way enjoy your life ALONE cause I want a DIVORCE you'll be hearing from my LAWYER very soon" and walk away
Exactly. I was wondering how come he stays married to her, if he has so little trust in her... I'm so sorry for OP, but she really should work on getting out of this "marriage".
911 dispatcher here. We love when people like that call us. We laugh for hours at them. We’re all in the neighborhood groups for all our towns (not mentioning our affiliation) just to laugh at the insane sh*t that members post.
I don't blame you for having a good laugh you would think these type of people would realize and understand and have COMMON SENSE that hey of I call 911 I'm wasting their time on something so trivial when they're is someone who actually needs their HEEEEEELP but they can't help that person cause the fist responder's are too busy with IDIOT MEEEE
Story One: She has every right to hate that poor excuse of a dad and his wife! They literally told her that HER mother was replaceable then wanna turn around and cry when she says the same damn thing!!!!!
1st story: OP leave and never look back when you can. Go NC and say that the only way you will ever see either of them is when they return to you all your mother's possessions, they will not be able to do this so enjoy your life without your toxic parents.
That last one I kind of have a familiarity with. My father was a professional chef. Growing up I and my siblings got exposed to a very wide and varied selection of top notch food. We were not privileged in the sense of money or lavish lifestyle, far from it in fact, but we always had fresh and wholesome food. We always had a extensive garden and fruit trees etc. It never dawned on me growing up that this was out of the ordinary, I always assumed people got to eat like this, it was just "normal" to eat top notch food and variety. It wasn't until I moved to the city and on my own, that it began to dawn on me that what was "normal" for me growing up, wasn't for other people. Going to school and subsisting on sandwiches and Ramen for weeks at a time was quite eye opening. When I myself went into a culinary field and I, a white male, knew how to make other cultures foods authentically, enjoy the food myself, fellow co-workers were all the time taken aback.."So you know how to make this, for real? You actually eat and enjoy X? Huh, first white boy I even seen, knew how to make and eat X...you are an unusual guy." So the OP who grew up eating at Michelin dining establishments thinking it was "normal" to pay $100 appetizers and a food check for 4-5 to be $1,100. It isn't. I would have never afforded that growing up...and yet I got to eat that way growing up. So the new guy deserves a little sympathy and god forbid empathy. Don't take the blame by all means, it never dawned on you that he couldn't afford it, because you have a blind spot, you have never had that lack of funds to live like that. But it appears he hasn't been so privileged. You shouldn't be made to feel shame for your fortune but neither should you look down on others for their lack of such largess.
Younger brother story: wtf she wanted him to ditch a child at night for an insult wtf?!?! Op offered a completely logical response an apology and punishment. Girlfriend was way out of line for that bullshit.
Yes, I agree, gf was way the bigger AH here... she seems like the controlling, immature type, with her "requests" and pouting... but I do think the last YTA was right, OP was ah-ish went threatening brother on the way home... so now he has the perfect opportunity to show little brother how you apologise sincerely... and then he can show "gf" the door.
Came to say pretty much the same as both of these. GF total AH!!! Brother is only 13, raging hormones and anger issues at this age. So GF who was supposedly an adult should have dropped the conversation; or either her or OP should have changed the subject before it got out of hand. OP is AH too for not calling GF on her childish behavior, and telling her point blank to drop her BS as his brother was too young to be punished the way she was suggesting. That he'll remember how she deals out consequences and apply accordingly when she pisses him off in the future. Once both of them went to separate rooms and shut the doors, OP should have shouted "And stay there, till you BOTH have thought about what you did wrong. Then you can come out and apologize to me first!" OP, while I agree your brother needs to apologize to GF for what he said, you owe him one for threatening to disown him. That was overboard and uncalled for. Your transgression is way worse than what your brother said to your GF. To traumatize your brother in that way was really cruel.
All three are arseholes in this story. The 13yo knows what sexist remarks are, as they are taught that in school. GF is a whiny self centered brat. OP for trying to solve the problem they way he did. The GF is right about one thing, a forced apology is not an apology.
Really nice the stepmom went to far on op you don't just come in a household thinking that the child will respect you and call you moma that's how it works respect is earned not giving the stepmom don't have the right to remove everything that belongs to ops late mother that's wrong and disrespectful now op doesn't have a picture to remember her mother that's just sad and disturbing and rude
So Op’s friend is clearly new to the university, can’t understand spanish (which nobody helps him with) and Op just…assume’s he would understand that a meal here is over 200$… ya that’s one of the most privileged things i’ve ever read. Sorry OP YTA, in future if someone can’t understand the menu, just translate it for them
I wondered if it was a culture thing like if in Spain it's normal to drop $200 at a restaurant!?!? In the US here it is incredibly rude to not ask if someone is ok with a expensive place before going. And if you invite them, it is just basic manners to offer to cover their meal. Because otherwise you look like a ass for inviting someone somewhere they'd have to refuse because they're poor.
I didn't understand the last comment! "Your privileged upbringing should have taught you better" Why? Do upper class rich people send their kids to classes on "how to navigate in a poorer society"⁉ OP could have used common sense, but everyone else in the group had no clue, so it seems that they either hang with the same social circle or new kid is there on a scholarship & Everyone is clueless as to the gap.
Not only that they didn’t bother helping the poor guy pick an entree! I’ve been to several Michelin star restaurants, heck my family had a “table” at one by my house, and I can tell you $300 per person without alcohol is pretty high, even for high end dining.
Yeah the fact that none of them helped him with menu after realising his spanish was not good enough warrants YTA Sure he should have checked before hand or asked.. probably thought it being normal student budget because they were all studenrs. i really feel bad for the guy. Not to mention in Spain very high chance staff only speaks Spanish. Idk if its common issue in Spain or just Barcelona but everything got super difficult and service sometimes became non-existing once staff realised you don't speak Spanish or Catalani.
@@marshawargo7238 or his parents just taught him to be better with money than these spoiled girls. Tbh, all the people at that dinner sound like AHs solely for the fact that in the 20-40 mins they were sitting there deciding, nobody bothered to help him even read the menu. The expense was just the cherry on top. They sound like jerks
First story: absolutely perfect response. I would've provided her information on adult adoption. Jiggle story: I work at a gym. The only rule we have when it comes to attire is work out attire. No jeans, no boots, not opened toed shoes, regular swimwear attire while in the pool and clothes in the sauna. YES WE HAVE A DAY CARE FOR THE CHILDREN and yes they can see the adults walk in. No! We have not had complaints about what people wear.
Mystery dining: They used to make you do the washing up if you couldn't pay the bill. If everyone was studying Spanish, the 'friend' should manage to read a menu. There are signs that a restaurant is upscale, and this will be a lesson for the future for the 'friend'.
Second story: I would expect my husband to have my phone when I got home. I would expect him to take charge of it as I would for him. We both know each other’s password and our friends know their spouses access codes etc too. Certainly none of them would want their mothers to have them. Something strange going on and mom knows.
That guy who was in the hospital sounds like he was cheating on his wife because she got his phone and is afraid she'll find out he was having an affair.
Story 1: NTA moving on from the pain is one thing yet it’s hard doesn’t give the right to threw away the late mother’s stuff This story needs an update
First story: I'd go around the house and start throwing away every picture of step-mom's mom and all of her stuff, just utterly trash it or get rid of it. Then when they ask, just said, What are you talking about? I'm just helping you move on to find your new mom.
Last Story: 75% YTA to the OP and 25% to the classmate. So no prices on the menu, classmate's Spanish isn't good but would it have killed him to tell the classmate the price? Could he have asked? Yes and most likely he was trying not be embarrassed about his lack of knowledge and experience in the situation. That was a poor choice on his part. But OP had no reason why they had to sit there and just watch this go down without saying one single word. He knew EXACTLY what was going on while watching the classmate struggle with understanding the menu. Not to mention this 19 doesn't seem to understand the value of money or that 200 for a meal could be problematic for someone. Sounds like a snob.
My heart goes out to story 1s op. I hope she's able to go no contact with her emotionally abusive father and his wife soon, she will be an adult soon. And please get therapy, because as someone who webt through a similar situation, there will be layers of grief and trauma to unpack in a healthy way
Me: 🗣”😳Excuse me?? 🤨Guess who’ll be washing dishes until he goes home?🤨 don’t worry about what I wash, worry about washing your a$$, musty lil boy,… now watch your mouth 🤨”….. 🤷🏾♀️and we all walk home and bake cookies. That whole little brother situation was blown out of proportion.
I’m sorry. The first story was hilarious to me. The irony… the stepmom is a complete nut bag. They said get to work on finding a new mom 😂😂 I actually laughed out loud. I’m so sorry for OPs loss, I hope she’s able to get away from those terrible people.
Park exercise: "Mommy, there's a lady over there jiggling and now I'm scared! Wah!" said NO. CHILD. EVER. Your mistake was not having some ahole repellant.
So true. While OPs friends took notice of the woman, and probably stared back, like "what are you looking at..?(!)" OP was busy and took no notice of that woman... I guess that's what annoyed that "lady" so much that she came over, they never can stand people Not Noticing them... and especially not people being content in their own life without them in it. And I guess while just living her life, OP did not have a resting b-face or some other AH-repelling attitude on, so the AH "lady" was not deterred from approaching her... it's so sad, but so true, you really do need to have the AH-repellant ready at anytime. I wish I had more of it.
The last story I will say they could have said something. Thats what being a good mate is. Looking out. All they had to say was btw this place on avg cost $200+ per person. We can't pay for you, but we don't mind if you tag along. But yeah I will say you ATA.
Idk why everyone thinks Michelin stars automatically means stupid expensive prices. I went to a Michelin starred ramen place in Tokyo and a dim sum place in Hong Kong and spent less than $20USD at each. So even if OP was familiar with Michelin stars, he wouldn’t have been wrong to not automatically assume $200/dishes. That said, a general tip is: if you have to ask “how much” you probably can’t afford it. 🥲
This is also assuming that everyone knows what Michelin Stars means. You don't know, what you don't know. So until someone explains that, or the fact if the prices aren't on the menu means high prices, a newbie won't know. Also some menus don't have the dollar sign, they do post the amount in lower right corner such as: 25 or 35 in stead of $25.00 or $35.00. But again if you've never been, seen or had it explained to you, you wouldn't know.
I didn't realise families didn't jiggle lol. Next time this queen of a woman should bring a boom box and they should do some extra jiggly zumba 😆 rock that jiggle baby I freaking love it ❤️
OP in the first story needs to talk to her step-grandpa after a few weeks about moving on and getting back out there. Help him make some dating profiles so he can move on with his life. If the stepmom and worthless dad have something to say, then say "Hey he shouldn't have to wallow in sadness about losing his wife, he needs to get back on the horse like you did when my mom died!" Also, let him know he needs to start clearing out his deceased wife's things so his new woman doesn't have to deal with her ghost.
9:43 was in inopportune moment to be drinking some 7UP, because you made me liberally distribute the mouthful over myself, my desk, keyboard, mouse and monitors
Wife with the phone story. I 100% agree with everyone who commented that man is already stepping out or getting into some shady shady stuff Hire a PI now now now
Last Story: Most peeps who were born into wealth have NO IDEA about how the rest of us live. To them a $100 meal is pocket change. To most others, a $20 meal is too much. Most peeps want something below even $10. Most peeps wouldn't even understand the concept of "Michelin Stars". I understand that if I go into a shop or a restaurant and there are no prices, I'm in wealthy person land. OP's companion asked the waiter about the price of the food, the waiter might have been all huffy and said "If you need to ask the price, then you can't afford it." The average yearly income of a US citizen is $40,000 and most likely their cost of living (Rent, utilities, car insurance/payments/gas, groceries and incidentals) will take at least $20,000. Taxes will take $10,000 and the person is stuck with only $10,000 at MOST for anything else, including clothes, health insurance/copays, food/vet bills for pet, etc... for an entire year! That's an average for a person who starts working AFTER college. A college student makes much less. So this college student buddy of OP's maybe had $2,000 to spend on this study abroad program. He was forced to spend almost 10% of the money he has for the ENTIRE stay on just ONE MEAL!!! OP and the others were asshole for not considering that their new found friend may have a budget limit. OP and the others are out of touch when it comes to socializing with the majority of people on Earth.
@@nerdygeekgamer5528 If you are doing an overseas thingy, odds are you don't have the luxury of a kitchen or even a hotplate maybe even no microwave. You are stuck eating out. But everywhere has low cost food. The college student on a budget needs to learn the language better and buy fresh veggies and fruit and dry food stuff from the grocer.
When I read/heard that they had "befriended" him for Three Weeks, and then treated him like this, I felt heartbroken for him, because they were not a friend to him in the least when it mattered him... just shitty AHs.
Op was totally right about the stepmother loss. They must be incredibly stupid to not see how right op was now the same thing was happening to step mum.
I am almost 40. I've lived in many US states and have eaten out at some fancy and expensive restaurants. It's only been in the last 4-5 years that I knew what a "Michelin" rating was.
Michelin stars also don’t automatically mean stupid expensive. I mentioned in another comment, but I went to a ramen place in Tokyo and a dim sum spot in Hong Kong, both with Michelin stars, and both cost me about $15/$20. Neither city is exactly known to be cheap places, either. That said, I probably would not ever order anything from a menu that didn’t have pricing-that’s when you know you’re someplace really chi-chi. Lol
1st story NTA OP if here, absolutely not the A hole. I lost my Mom as an adult, I lost my husband the father of my sons when they were only 9 and 7, It I honestly feel it is sooo much harder to lose a parent as a child. I am not saying you are not close to a parent when you become an adult, but as children you are closer, as young children we are still completely dependent upon our parents, even as teens there is a dependency, as so many changes of life in that time that we depend on our parents to help us go through. That closeness that connection does not just vanish when they are lost to us, and it can not be suddenly replaced and even if someone new comes into your life and steps into the step parent role. It is never right or fair for them to try to cut the lost parent out of the picture like they did not exist. Your step mother attempted to, and you gave her a well deserved dose of reality, by pointing out how vital a Mom is to their child adult or otherwise, and you could not and will not just forget your Mom any more then she has her own. And now she knows how you felt when she tried to write your own mother from your life and memories. She did do the same and worse but trying to do so to you when you were only a child. And both she and your father need to understand this. They are absolute hypocrites, and as adults completely disregarded your feelings for your Mom, did everything possible to make you forget yours, treat you badly when you refuse to, and now have the gal to expect you to sympathize with the step mother now that she lost hers. No OP there is nowhere in this scenario where you are the A hole.
Story 1 - OP NTA - OP tell "Daddy Dearest" that you will apologize to SM when pigs fly, hell freezes over, and SM throws away EVERYTHING that belongs to HER mother. Also, if anyone needs to get over the death of ther mother is your SM, you know since it is NOT important to remember the woman who gave her life... right? Story 2 - OP NTA - OP how many RED FLAGS does it take for you to really see the kind of "man" that you married? Time for you to "reflect" if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life. Story 3 - OP NTA - OP... jiggle away. Screw "Becky" and her fat phobia. Story 4 - OP NTA - OP you need to have a talk with your GF. Yes, your little brother was out of line but he is still a child and your decision to NOT let him go home alone was the correct one. If anything happened to him YOU would've been responsible... end of story. As for your GF while it is understandable that your brother's comment was hurtful she is the adult and should not be behaving like a child herself by ignoring you and refusing to see how stupid her request really was. Also, remember that your brother is only 13 and he still learning what is right and what is wrong. I think your "he can forget that I am his brother" comment was too much because at the end of the day I think he learned his lesson. Sit with him and explain that words have power and how he used them determined how other people see him. Story 5 - OP all you needed to do when he wanted to come was to warn him how expensive the restaurant really was and let him decide if it was within his budget. Not everybody has a mommy and daddy money to pay for their expensive taste in life.
Story 2. The spouse is the legal next of kin so of course the nurse gave op his belongings. I’m more interested to know why he’s so desperate for you not to ’snoop’ on his phone, and what his mother knows that you don’t.
13 year old brother story: OP overreacted to his brother. He needs to apologise. Why did he threaten to cut him off? As for the girlfriend, I get she was insulted but an apology was enough. Shame on her for trying to get OP to abandon his brother...a 13 year old who has just become a teenager. I don’t think I can be with someone that cruel.
Yeah from experience 13 year olds can be thoughtless little jerks sometimes but wholly crap did he screw it up! I think a sit down and talking to about how “jokes” like that can really hurt some people. The girlfriend was really wrong for her explosive reaction. When my brothers were that age they made “jokes” similar to that and it was always, “apologize to your sister, that was mean” and I would just ignore them for about an hour. Even at 16 I wouldn’t have even thought about leaving them alone! If one of my friends had suggested it they would have been an ex friend!
That reminds me of a waitress that refused to bring me some avocado because I am over weight. I ordered a sandwich which came with avocado. It had 3 tiny slivers of avocado that only covered half of the sandwich. I asked for extra but she kept telling me each time I repeated my request that that was a serving size and they weigh them. I told her I didn't care, but I wanted more avocado. She refused to bring it, and when I asked why she refused to answer. I sent the sandwich back. Ordered something else. It was thrown on the plate like they tossed it from across the room. I complained and walked out without eating anything. It was avocado, It is healthy. People eat it on toast as a snack all the time. I was more than willing to even pay extra for their BS servings for avocado too. But no, she was trying to monitor what I ate because I am fat. Avocado is a good fat too. They put the oil from it in salad dressings. Most salads have more calories than my sandwich. Some people are idiots.
Anytime a restaurant doesn’t put prices on the menu or presents the person paying with a menu with prices one should know that it isn’t Olive Garden prices. Plus it’s a Michelin star restaurant! Also a rule of thumb at these restaurants: if you have to ask the prices chances are you can’t afford to eat there! In situations like this, you order thee salad & an appetizer. Or only a dessert. You could have helped him with translations though.
first story... it was an affair obviously. He was with her while the mom was alive. That was why he just wrote her off as never existed. No man that loved his late wife and mother of his child would do this. He obviously did not love his late wife and was just with her because a kid came from the relationship.
Husband and phone - the husband is having an affair and the mother either knows and approves because she hates OP or she just doesn't care because she hates OP. The husband is DEFINITELY cheating - biggest red flag for that (the size of a continent) is OP saying 'he's always been paranoid/private type' that and he lost his mind at her for having his phone shows that he's a serial cheater too. I should know, I'm the adult daughter of a serial cheater - his cheating on my mum was pre cellphone in the early days. But later on, yeah, he had one for all his (many) mistresses as I found out when he passed away. It certainly explained why he didn't want to move up with me and my family.
Wtf...(?!) Omg, that OP got some strength, to keep up with those AHs...(!) She should just live her life like she wants, and give a rats ass about what they, mil and husband, say...(!) Stay Queen..! 👑 ♥ 💪
4:10)Was it his own phone or a company phone with restricted info? I once worked security in place with a SCIF(Skiff). Sensitive Compartmentalized Information Facility. Industrial espionage is a multi-million dollar international business. If his mother and he work at such a place, then the mother would be the only one authorized to have his phone. 6:47)She is his wife, but does MIL have his Medical Proxy? A medical proxy holder has the only word.
I doubt she has medical proxy because that would have been added to his permanent medical record. I don't think its for security reasons either because that argument would have made sense lol
@@Ashbrash1998 His doctor would have a copy. He was in a hospital. The local VA hospital has almost all of my medical records. Twice I had to be rushed to the nearest civilian emergency room. They had nothing to go by. The second time, I was filled up with O negative blood. My dogtags say A+, but they checked the type. They did send for a priest. I had one foot in the grave and the other on banana peel.
Last story,ge prices before you order food. Don't blame someone else. Yes Op sounds like a rich kid,but it's not her fault the new guy is too stupid to ask about costs.
About the last story, I only wanna say YTA because the friend was clearly struggling and confused, and at no point did OP or any of his friends ask if their friend was okay/knew what he was ordering.
why blame op, the friend could have asked for help and also asked for the price, if they are old enough to go to a restaurant alone they are old enough to ask simple questions
The husband in the hospital one, MIL BLAMES op for the death of op’s son who died of leukaemia. MIL blames her being neglectful and that the reason the child died not the cancer. The husband doesn’t stand up to mummy, and seems to silently blame OP as well
husband an mobile story, he's doing something bad behind her back that's why he freaked out when he found out she got his phone. His mum may or may not know but she's just glad to have a opportunity to put OP down and drive a wedge between them. I would demand the husband show me his phone because that's way too abnormal. My youngest sister did this to me once. She 13 and I was 25 and we shared a room then. Anyway, I was in the bedroom looking for something and I heard her phone buzz so I brought it down intending to take it out to her. I just casually glanced at the screen and saw there were messages but I didn't pay attention as I don't look through people's phone. I had the phone in my hand for like a few seconds then my sister came storming in, snatched the phone away from me and went off on me for invading her privacy. I got pissed off and yelled back at her that I didn't look through her phone and I was just intending to bring it out to her and that I didn't appreciate her attitude. I didn't question her then but not long after we found out she was quasi dating this kid she met on the bus. He was 16 and she was in her first year of high school. My parents didn't know but myself and my other sister (23) did and we made her break it off because she's not allowed to date in high school. We found out because I was paying her phone bill and she'd run up $800 worth of calls. We gave her the phone for her to keep in touch with us whilst she travel too and from school which was a 30 - 1hr minute bus ride from home.
the 13 year old brother and gf story, the brother is wrong for saying that and should apologize and should be grounded (for 3 days max). The gf overreacted and her demands for OP to drop his brother is cruel and vindictive, she's not a nice person. The OP overreacted and went way too harsh on his brother for the small infraction in an attempt to appease his gf. The brother will feel cornered because his parents are not there and he'd have to put up with whatever OP and his gf dish out until his parents comes back for fear of being abandoned. OP threatened his brother with abandonment. Both OP and his gf are big YTAs and the brother is soft YTA for being rude.
I think just because the brother is young doesn't mean he doesn't know what he said. He wanted to shut her up by any means necessary. However, how it all went down, the adults overreacted, and he learned not to trust his brother or the GF, not that his actions are wrong. It's a big fat ESH for me.
First story: [Mortal Kombat announcer] OP Wins. Karmic Brutality. Perfect. Nta. Dad can wonder what happened when you disappear from his life at the first immediate opportunity.
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The DAD destroying his first wife’s things is a much bigger betrayal than the wife’s actions. She is a stranger to op-but OP’s biological dad owed her loyalty and being a decent dad.
OP didn't just lose her mom at age 8, she lost her dad at age 10.
I have absolutely no problem with what OP did to stepmonster. "for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap."
My aunt's first husband died while she was pregnant and she remarried later. She kept photos and and an album of him for my cousin in the house and her second husband never had a problem with that. My cousin always called their step-dad by his first name but consideres him their father. There was never a problem about talking about or looking at pictures of their bio dad. When my cousin was a kid, their step-dad went with them every "day of the dead" to the cemitery to put flowers on their bio dad's grave. Why some people feel jealous of the dad I will never understand.
@@LadyNikitaShark Sounds like a beautiful and respectful life
Seeing the speed, he either took the first one he could find (Trash like that step) or he was already cheating on OP mother (that's usually the case sometimes with just how quickly the living parent "moves on" There's a reason some cultures have a "GRACE" period for the widow to mourn before they have to move on! Cruel sometimes, but they owe it to the deceased to live their life, it's what they would have wanted!)
The erasure is also another sign! Likely if they were cheaters, Step just wants to steal everything from OP mother! First her husband, next her home, and finally her daughter! (Some assholes have this thing with wanting someone else's kid calling them Dad/Mom just to get the power trip of having stolen everything and removed them as a memory!) sometimes this shit succeeds, but on occasion it fails HARD! Still remember when a Mother succeed in this with all but ONE of her kids! Even got the other traitors to howler monkey them! Until the family they disowned had inheritance left for that loyal child! Then like the Chicken and the Wheat they DEMANDED to get a share! Concluding that since that OP was not family with that family Bio-wise and they were giving money to her, then they should get something too! And another similar one where the mother tried to DEMAND the money off of that OP and I suspected it was because shit hit the fan and her kids who sided with her were getting resentful because their years with "new dad" didn't pan out once he stopped pretending to care once they called him "Dad and had his last name" especially once he got a baby out of their mother! And not wanting to lose her kids loyalty, believed she could play the Mom card on OP despite having cut her off assuming she'd coming "Crying to be on the winning side" which sure as hell wasn't her! Sure her new husband started cutting off OP siblings financially and they had enough pride...or no way to contact Bio Dad, growing up resentful to New Dad and their new half siblings, and mom was scared the resentment was coming her way next! I was hoping since no update, that OP didn't cave and Mom now has to deal with "being the enemy now" and she no longer gets bothered by that hag again!
Hope OP followed that advice and found something, anything of her mother! If she has a profile, I'd say put the picture up! I'm sure Step is stalking around and will see it on her page and do what she seems good at doing, "Crying and whining to OP sperm donor to do something!" And he can HUFF and PUFF and "Go pound sand!"
He missed the fact he was supposed to put his kid first above everyone else. Part of it isn't trying to erase op's mom. I loved op's retaliation too, "Stepmom" got a taste of her own words and it was so bitter
Story one: throwing away everything that showed the bio mom was around is disgusting
Absolutely
It's obviously retaliation. Stepmother is the child in this arrangement.
There’s a story there, but what they did was really cruel.
See the husband never loved his first wife... and amazes me why men always say always put the man first in a relationship 🙄 to make things work not ur kids...but death happens and then the wife that picks her husband over her kids ends up removed from her family once she dies...mom should have set up a will for her child with photos!
My dad couldn't bear to part with any of my mom's stuff and said he would give me something someday. Then he started dating a woman he used to work with. Next thing I knew I saw her kids and grandkids walking of his house with my mom's stuff. All they saved for me was an old worn out purse, a broken watch, and one of mom's dentures. My dad passed away a few years ago. His widow wonders why I never visit or call. One of her sons called me saying she cries wondering what she did wrong. I told him to tell her it's because of an old purse, a broken watch and mom's dentures. I haven't heard from any of them since.
If anyone wants any kind of relationship with a stepchild don't treat them or their late parent like trash. Don't expect anymore respect than you give them.
OP should throw away all of stepmoms stuff about her mum, that's the only real way they might even get the tiniest clue of what they've done
And at 18, OP needs to change her name. Erase daddy as thoroughly as he erased his late wife.
Agree with both of your remedies on handling step mom and dad.
And the dad's seeing as he thought it was perfectly ok too
Make sure you either take it to a dumpster or do it in trash day. Then when she starts screaming and crying and demanding to know why you did that. Look her dead in the eye and say How else are you going to heal? You shouldn't cry so much. Your dad will want you to start calling his new wife mom.
Then when dad starts in yelling. Look at him and ask what you were doing that's so wrong? You were only following their examples. You were taught at an early age that the death of a parent means nothing. That you should get over it quickly and be ready to accept the new partner as your parent.
When he or she calls you a heartless monster. Just smile and say I learned it from you. You threw away everything that was my mother's. Not even leaving me so much as a photo. You said it was so I'd get over it and accept her faster. I'm only helping. As for the heartless monster part. You might want to take a long hard look in the mirror. If you're lucky your father's future wife won't destroy everything that belongs to your mother. But I doubt it.
@@RudesMom She should change her surname to her mum's maiden name. She can have something of her mum, and it's a slap in the face for her dad and step-monster.
So it’s OK for the stepmom to completely replace the old Mom after death but when Op how’s her the same thing, she is pretty much the bad guy. Wow, I can see by OP despises her. She’s not only a not great mom nor stepmom, but a hypocrite. I think your dad just married her just to have a new partner or because he wanted to get his balls rocked. But yeah he’s horrible too. And I hate passing find it easy to replace dead parents without consideration for the kids.
Seriously people who find it easy to replace my parents and get jealous and insecure over them even if it’s just faint memory are pathetic.
After the last that was an epic burn on the stepmom on Op’s part.
I wonder if stepmom is an affair partner who was happy bio-mom died so she did not have to be the other woman anymore and with op around, she did not have to raise a kid from infancy.
Most people don't love their partners they love the companionship, sex, cooking, making babies and hanging out! But they dont love their wives or some cases husband...aka need money from him life support! So when a spouse dies they replace them! Men especially have a habit of telling everyone a wife must choose him over her parents and even kids! But the minute she dies shes replaced! Sometimes all her photos burnt! Step families are the worse! But never put a marriage first over your kids!
Get his balls rocked,lmao ! I laughed a Lil bit to hard,and I'm in a bus,and people looked at me ,,don't care ,but that was funny! 😂😂😂
Maybe Op should get rid of her “ stepmother’s” things and tell her “Now you’re never going to be my mother you bitcb! You get rid of my mom’s things I’m getting rid of yours!”
@@sailorathena17 or just get rid of her dad and stepmonster ,and never see them again . . That's what I would do,but I did it a long time ago . But your idea was awesome and she should do it!
Story 1: OP is an absolute savage and is doing exactly what I would do. I love it
She really is🤣🤣👏👏
2nd story: How was OP supposed to know her husband wanted his mother, not his wife, to keep his phone etc safe, telepathy? Anyhow, honestly, he sounds like more trouble to live with, than what he is worth.
I'm a nurse who has worked same day surgery. We always give the patient's belonging to the spouse.
He needs divorce papers waiting for him when he comes back from Mommy's after emergency care.
His behaviour is SO suspicious. My mind instantly went to affair. Either way, if there are such trust issues, the marriage sounds like it's on the rocks. 100% your wife should be the one person you trust.
Almost always it is the spouse at the hospital and that is where belongings are given. I needed 2 CT scans, an EKG and an MRI and all my belongings were given to my husband, phone included. Because he was there. He is hiding something.
Wow, just Wow. OP how's that reflection going?! Hope you went all the way home to reflect with a glass of whine oh...I meant wine. Hubby was already on whine mode with mummy. 😂😂😂
Story 1 : man nta fuck I love the energy of op and strive to be that petty plus that was years or resentment boiling over
"Yeah, step-evil. It's like losing a pet. Don't you just go to the mom shelter and pick another?"
For sure! Respect is EARNED. No one who treats you badly deserves or is owed your respect. Period. End of story. I'm so proud of OP and I hope they hold their ground!
@@4bibimimi I like your step-evil but I'd put your Evil in front of Step Monster‼
👹↔EvilStepMonster&SpermDonor↔👺 Address all correspondence this way‼
I Hope whenever she gets married, she gets Great In-Laws‼💖
Op hit with a 50 cent level of petty and I am here for all of it.
@@teearat yes that's exactly what I was thinking 🤣 OP has been studying 50 cent 101 🤣
"ARREST HER SHE'S BEING FAT IN PUBLIC" absolutely took me out lmaooooo
Story one: op should throw away step moms mother photos and anything that is connected to step moms mother. I would probably be petty by setting up a dating account for step moms dad and ask step mom for a picture of her dad without her mom in them to help find her a new mom.
Damn. That was stone cold. And completely justified. "Why are you upset? Mother's are forgettable, right?"
She basically did the "Why are you booing me? I'm right!" Meme using stepmum's logic
“Wear an outfit to match your skin tone next time.”
This person right here: I like the way they think.
I lost my mom when I was 12, and I am so heart broken by story 1 OP's story. My mom's things and pictures are what helped get me through my loss. It still helps now almost 11 years later. The step monster had all that and more coming from the way she treated OP. They deserve absolute hell for what they put her through. If my father did that to me I would have cut him off for good, and I hope when OP is 18 she can move away from this toxicity and never see them again.
Loved the first OP. GET TO WORK. HAHAHAHA.
2ND story. Girlllll, he's cheating damn get a clue. Get out now.
isent the norm when people accuse you of cheating they are cheaters themselves? lol
He's cheating & mommy knows it!
As a post-high school teen, a group of us were finishing a day at the beach when someone suggested that we hit a restaurant (after going home to freshen up). They selected a local steak house. I had eaten there before with my parents, so I knew how expensive it was, but I suspected that they did not. I dipped into my emergency cash to ensure that I could cover the cost if they had sticker shock.
Sure enough, everyone ordered from their least expensive fare. They barely had enough to cover the tab, but did not have enough to leave a proper tip. So, I surreptitiously left a generous tip, without embarrassing them.
As a young teen, I didn’t have the social skills to lead them to a different choice of restaurant. But I did know that the tip was a big deal to our waitress.
I know how expensive a Michelin one star restaurant can be. OP and friends are at fault for not warning the guy about prices. Also if he was having trouble reading the menu then why didn't one of the others explain it to him?
Even as an adult, it might be difficult to broach the topic of price. It really depends on your circle of friends and acquaintances. Kudos to your parents for being so considerate.
@@Ambidexter143 Right? They were bad friends, imo.
@@CrochetIsLife54 So the guy who invites himself to their fancy restaurant excursion holds no responsibility for getting himself into this highly avoidable awkward situation?
@@ChrisMaxfieldActs In this instance? No, he doesn't.
The “Working out at the Park” story - the last commenters “wear skin-toned” clothing cracked me up😂
If someone is going to randomly fat shame you the least you could do for them is wear something to give them apoplexy. Go big or go home!
That woman better never take her kids to the beach where there are all body types in swimsuits.
@@raz7573 lets hope those kids never get overweight, she sounds like the type to put them on starving meals because some mommy blog adviced it
@@velvety2006 Yes. I bet she is the kind of stage mom that would put her kids on a stringent diet or give them an eating disorder.
She could at least put on a loose tank top. Fatty could be decent.
Story 2 your husband is 100% cheating thats why he is angry that you have his phone.
A mama's boy who is afraid you will snoop through his phone. Don't look now there's a big Chinese dragon sneaking up on you. All the bells and firecrackers might give it away.
@@4bibimimi 100% the way he overreacted tells u everything u need to know , love your Dragon comment....spot on👍
Or is into something illegal?
Kudos to the first OP with the get to work part. 🤣 Maybe free up some space in the photo albums and roast marshmallows on top of the stepmother’s photos of her mother.
Step evil or evil step? The dad is just as culpable. Expunging one parent from a child's life is cruel and controlling.
Burning photos are toxic. But otherwise a good idea.
OP2's husband out here just blatantly admitting he has stuff to hide on his phone. Bold strategy... let's see how it plays out.
Right! I want an update.
Public indecency 🥴 Becky is the moron in this story.
I lost my dad when I was my four and my step dad never tried what OP’s step mom did. What a horrid thing to do.
Oh, and the poor kid with the erased mom... I'd milk the parents for everything I could get (college, etc.), then go zero-contact with 'em. Not that I'd expect such viciously cruel "parents" to give much to the poor kid, but still...
Step-mom is NOT going to LET Dad spend coin on her education. SM is an evil person and dangerous as hell. Do not turn your back on these two. Do you know what it takes to do something that cruel? They are sadists who put the Marquis de Sade to shame. Yikes!
WTF! the Girlfriend NEEDS To read the 'Terms of Service' for the Rideshare companies. It is a violation of the T.O.S. for an unescorted MINOR/Child to be transported by a Rideshare Driver.
It still happens though.
Story 1. OP should make a list of all photo's, monento etc of SM's mother. When her father and SM go out for the day, she should throw EVERYTHING away (where it can't be found)
i would
Story 2: It might just be me, but the husband basically having a paranoid freakout and picking a fight over his wife having access to his phone makes me REAL curious what's on it he doesn't want her to see. Even more interesting is he's OK with his Mom seeing it, especially since the parent's are where people pick up attitudes like that. In other words, he expects his Mom to go through his phone, and is OK with that, that's normal and how he grew up, but he demands privacy from his wife that he won't or doesn't need to demand from his Mom? Seriously weird, and red flags all around here...
I had an ex who is like this. Come to find out he was cheating on me and his mom was his cover. So that’s why he was always comfortable to have his phone out around her but would hide it around me….
Lost my mom at 16 . My dad remarried 3 times since her death . NONE of them are or where my mother ! I have a mom . She may not be here but she is my mom. I have only one cookbook from my mother because my dad's first wife after my mom passed gave it all away to the DI while I was at school.
Last story: The biggest idiot here is the restaurant not putting prices on the menu. I would have taken one look at that, noticed the absence of prices and then say, "I'm gonna wait outside." NGL, OP is an idiot for thinking that a restaurant that complete meals are around $200 is a bit "upscale" (if that is in American Dollars). $200 a meal is "My family makes 6 to 7 figures" money. A bit upscale would be each meal being $30. Though, that'd still be too much for me. If the friend is an idiot, he'd only be slightly if only for not being cautious enough to do some inquiring on the prices of the meals.
No, the restaurant is not the "idiot" for not listing the prices of what is served. It's common for Michelin star restaurants to not list their prices in some cases.
And even if the prices were listed, they most likely would've been listed in Euros (€) given assuming that by Op saying that the restaurant was Spanish, they were somewhere in Spain maybe Segovia, Salemenca, Madrid, Barcelona, León, Valencia etc . Maybe some cursory googling beforehand by Op's friend and or op or some one in their group should've forewarned him that each dish coulf be upwards of $100 ( when converted from Euros to USD). That way he could've stopped at the ATM to get out the money or decided the restaurant wasn't in his budget. Even if he would've googled the restaurant, it's possible that the price wouldn't have been listed on Google , instead he could've seen €€€€ or €€€€€ denoting that the restaurant is expensive.
Yeah, went out tonight for the first time in years. Menu for drinks, no prices. So. I. Asked before ordering. And this was not a high class place, I just knew I was out of touch! Not rocket science - doesn’t matter if it’s McDs or the Ritz, if you’re on a limited budget, don’t be ashamed, ask, and be proud of managing it. Few of us are in the higher echelons of earners 😉
@@danielleporter1829 - I've eaten in Michelan Star restaurants, they do actually print prices on the menu. What's more most places with a Michelan Star Chef don't price according to the Michelan Star - because it belongs to the Chef not the restaurant, if the Chef leaves he takes his Michelan Stars with him furthermore the people working under him most likely don't have any Michelan Stars.
They price according to quality of ingredients used, location of restaurant and above all reputation of the restaurant. They'll use the Chef's Michelan Stars as a form of marketing, but some are even reluctant to do since the Michelan Stars can go away easily and without warning.
I can think of a restaurant where a meal for 5 people cost £300 and their Chef has 2 Michelan Stars.
@@goawayleavemealone2880 Some do and some maynot. I live in LA where we have a fair bit of Michelin star restaurants and while as of yet, I've had the privilege to dine in one ( not in my budget) , I hope one day I will have the chance.
@@clairepruden4974 There’s that old joke that if you go to a restaurant (clothing store, boutique, whatever) that doesn’t list the price and you need to ask, you probably can’t afford it anyway. Lol.
OP should try to take mom's maiden name when they are of age. That would detach the stepmother from even sharing a name with OP. OP might also ransom any of their relationship with dad "You want any part in my life - that will cost you pictures and possessions of my mothers. You'd better start asking around and begging, if anything of her is still around. If not - our relationship is no longer around".
I want the soap opera ending where 18/19 year old OP intentionally seduces Step-Grandfather and the uno reverse cards Step-Mom about being her Mother.
That's the telanovela we need!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🚩🚩 you get a red card 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmaaaaooo that's 💀
@@thatguyluke242 Seduces your Father, in Spanish. The Meme Dream.
As a paranoid, private type: my wife can go through my phone if she wants. I married her because I had this trust in her. If she get upset by something she finds, then I'm glad we can talk about it as to why.
I was going to say if OP and her Husband don't have trust in each other or their marriage then why did they get married in the first place if I was OP I'd be telling hubby as I'm walking out of the room with MOMMY DEAREST right there " oh by the way enjoy your life ALONE cause I want a DIVORCE you'll be hearing from my LAWYER very soon" and walk away
Exactly. I was wondering how come he stays married to her, if he has so little trust in her... I'm so sorry for OP, but she really should work on getting out of this "marriage".
911 dispatcher here. We love when people like that call us. We laugh for hours at them. We’re all in the neighborhood groups for all our towns (not mentioning our affiliation) just to laugh at the insane sh*t that members post.
I don't blame you for having a good laugh you would think these type of people would realize and understand and have COMMON SENSE that hey of I call 911 I'm wasting their time on something so trivial when they're is someone who actually needs their HEEEEEELP but they can't help that person cause the fist responder's are too busy with IDIOT MEEEE
Story One: She has every right to hate that poor excuse of a dad and his wife! They literally told her that HER mother was replaceable then wanna turn around and cry when she says the same damn thing!!!!!
Hospital phone story: He's cheating. Move along.
2nd story: NTA even if he isn't cheating this isnt a real marriage
A wife is considered next of kin more than a mother.
I agree if OP'S husband can't TRUST HER then what was the point of asking her to marry him
1st story: OP leave and never look back when you can. Go NC and say that the only way you will ever see either of them is when they return to you all your mother's possessions, they will not be able to do this so enjoy your life without your toxic parents.
Not until every last scrap of step monsters memories and photos of her mother have been taken to the nearest dumpster and thrown into it first.
That last one I kind of have a familiarity with. My father was a professional chef. Growing up I and my siblings got exposed to a very wide and varied selection of top notch food. We were not privileged in the sense of money or lavish lifestyle, far from it in fact, but we always had fresh and wholesome food. We always had a extensive garden and fruit trees etc. It never dawned on me growing up that this was out of the ordinary, I always assumed people got to eat like this, it was just "normal" to eat top notch food and variety. It wasn't until I moved to the city and on my own, that it began to dawn on me that what was "normal" for me growing up, wasn't for other people. Going to school and subsisting on sandwiches and Ramen for weeks at a time was quite eye opening. When I myself went into a culinary field and I, a white male, knew how to make other cultures foods authentically, enjoy the food myself, fellow co-workers were all the time taken aback.."So you know how to make this, for real? You actually eat and enjoy X? Huh, first white boy I even seen, knew how to make and eat X...you are an unusual guy."
So the OP who grew up eating at Michelin dining establishments thinking it was "normal" to pay $100 appetizers and a food check for 4-5 to be $1,100. It isn't. I would have never afforded that growing up...and yet I got to eat that way growing up. So the new guy deserves a little sympathy and god forbid empathy. Don't take the blame by all means, it never dawned on you that he couldn't afford it, because you have a blind spot, you have never had that lack of funds to live like that. But it appears he hasn't been so privileged. You shouldn't be made to feel shame for your fortune but neither should you look down on others for their lack of such largess.
Younger brother story: wtf she wanted him to ditch a child at night for an insult wtf?!?! Op offered a completely logical response an apology and punishment. Girlfriend was way out of line for that bullshit.
Yes, I agree, gf was way the bigger AH here... she seems like the controlling, immature type, with her "requests" and pouting... but I do think the last YTA was right, OP was ah-ish went threatening brother on the way home... so now he has the perfect opportunity to show little brother how you apologise sincerely... and then he can show "gf" the door.
Came to say pretty much the same as both of these. GF total AH!!! Brother is only 13, raging hormones and anger issues at this age. So GF who was supposedly an adult should have dropped the conversation; or either her or OP should have changed the subject before it got out of hand. OP is AH too for not calling GF on her childish behavior, and telling her point blank to drop her BS as his brother was too young to be punished the way she was suggesting. That he'll remember how she deals out consequences and apply accordingly when she pisses him off in the future. Once both of them went to separate rooms and shut the doors, OP should have shouted "And stay there, till you BOTH have thought about what you did wrong. Then you can come out and apologize to me first!"
OP, while I agree your brother needs to apologize to GF for what he said, you owe him one for threatening to disown him. That was overboard and uncalled for. Your transgression is way worse than what your brother said to your GF. To traumatize your brother in that way was really cruel.
All three are arseholes in this story. The 13yo knows what sexist remarks are, as they are taught that in school. GF is a whiny self centered brat. OP for trying to solve the problem they way he did. The GF is right about one thing, a forced apology is not an apology.
Story 1: OP is NTA. According to the stepmother's logic, they're even
So they don't get closure for acting like entitled bullies
Really nice the stepmom went to far on op you don't just come in a household thinking that the child will respect you and call you moma that's how it works respect is earned not giving the stepmom don't have the right to remove everything that belongs to ops late mother that's wrong and disrespectful now op doesn't have a picture to remember her mother that's just sad and disturbing and rude
So Op’s friend is clearly new to the university, can’t understand spanish (which nobody helps him with) and Op just…assume’s he would understand that a meal here is over 200$…
ya that’s one of the most privileged things i’ve ever read.
Sorry OP YTA, in future if someone can’t understand the menu, just translate it for them
I wondered if it was a culture thing like if in Spain it's normal to drop $200 at a restaurant!?!?
In the US here it is incredibly rude to not ask if someone is ok with a expensive place before going. And if you invite them, it is just basic manners to offer to cover their meal. Because otherwise you look like a ass for inviting someone somewhere they'd have to refuse because they're poor.
I didn't understand the last comment! "Your privileged upbringing should have taught you better" Why? Do upper class rich people send their kids to classes on "how to navigate in a poorer society"⁉ OP could have used common sense, but everyone else in the group had no clue, so it seems that they either hang with the same social circle or new kid is there on a scholarship & Everyone is clueless as to the gap.
Not only that they didn’t bother helping the poor guy pick an entree! I’ve been to several Michelin star restaurants, heck my family had a “table” at one by my house, and I can tell you $300 per person without alcohol is pretty high, even for high end dining.
Yeah the fact that none of them helped him with menu after realising his spanish was not good enough warrants YTA
Sure he should have checked before hand or asked.. probably thought it being normal student budget because they were all studenrs.
i really feel bad for the guy.
Not to mention in Spain very high chance staff only speaks Spanish.
Idk if its common issue in Spain or just Barcelona but everything got super difficult and service sometimes became non-existing once staff realised you don't speak Spanish or Catalani.
@@marshawargo7238 or his parents just taught him to be better with money than these spoiled girls. Tbh, all the people at that dinner sound like AHs solely for the fact that in the 20-40 mins they were sitting there deciding, nobody bothered to help him even read the menu. The expense was just the cherry on top. They sound like jerks
First story: absolutely perfect response. I would've provided her information on adult adoption.
Jiggle story: I work at a gym. The only rule we have when it comes to attire is work out attire. No jeans, no boots, not opened toed shoes, regular swimwear attire while in the pool and clothes in the sauna. YES WE HAVE A DAY CARE FOR THE CHILDREN and yes they can see the adults walk in. No! We have not had complaints about what people wear.
Mystery dining: They used to make you do the washing up if you couldn't pay the bill. If everyone was studying Spanish, the 'friend' should manage to read a menu. There are signs that a restaurant is upscale, and this will be a lesson for the future for the 'friend'.
Second story: I would expect my husband to have my phone when I got home. I would expect him to take charge of it as I would for him. We both know each other’s password and our friends know their spouses access codes etc too. Certainly none of them would want their mothers to have them. Something strange going on and mom knows.
That guy who was in the hospital sounds like he was cheating on his wife because she got his phone and is afraid she'll find out he was having an affair.
For the first story the OP should try to find his mothers maiden name and change it to that to spite the dad when he turns 18
Stepmom: OP has served step a portion of Karma that was richly deserved.
OP, just refer to your step parent like how Cotton Hill refers to his Daughter in law. She’s not your stepmom, she’s “Dad’s Wife”.
Story 1: NTA moving on from the pain is one thing yet it’s hard doesn’t give the right to threw away the late mother’s stuff
This story needs an update
First story: I'd go around the house and start throwing away every picture of step-mom's mom and all of her stuff, just utterly trash it or get rid of it. Then when they ask, just said, What are you talking about? I'm just helping you move on to find your new mom.
Story one. I love the advice the daughter gave to her “new maw”.
Last Story: 75% YTA to the OP and 25% to the classmate. So no prices on the menu, classmate's Spanish isn't good but would it have killed him to tell the classmate the price? Could he have asked? Yes and most likely he was trying not be embarrassed about his lack of knowledge and experience in the situation. That was a poor choice on his part.
But OP had no reason why they had to sit there and just watch this go down without saying one single word. He knew EXACTLY what was going on while watching the classmate struggle with understanding the menu. Not to mention this 19 doesn't seem to understand the value of money or that 200 for a meal could be problematic for someone. Sounds like a snob.
That was my first thought in the hospital story too. Dude must be cheating if he's that upset about his wife having his phone.
My heart goes out to story 1s op. I hope she's able to go no contact with her emotionally abusive father and his wife soon, she will be an adult soon. And please get therapy, because as someone who webt through a similar situation, there will be layers of grief and trauma to unpack in a healthy way
Story 2: Sounds like hubby has something to hide.
OP in the first story is an absolute charm. Keep it going OP. Make the father's wife beg to be left alone.
Me: 🗣”😳Excuse me?? 🤨Guess who’ll be washing dishes until he goes home?🤨 don’t worry about what I wash, worry about washing your a$$, musty lil boy,… now watch your mouth 🤨”….. 🤷🏾♀️and we all walk home and bake cookies. That whole little brother situation was blown out of proportion.
Agreed. This would have been a more appropriate punishment. He learned the wrong lesson that day.
This could have been a moment for the stepmother and the father to recognize what they had done, andake amends. Instead, they double down.
I’m sorry. The first story was hilarious to me. The irony… the stepmom is a complete nut bag. They said get to work on finding a new mom 😂😂 I actually laughed out loud. I’m so sorry for OPs loss, I hope she’s able to get away from those terrible people.
Park exercise: "Mommy, there's a lady over there jiggling and now I'm scared! Wah!" said NO. CHILD. EVER. Your mistake was not having some ahole repellant.
So true. While OPs friends took notice of the woman, and probably stared back, like "what are you looking at..?(!)" OP was busy and took no notice of that woman... I guess that's what annoyed that "lady" so much that she came over, they never can stand people Not Noticing them... and especially not people being content in their own life without them in it. And I guess while just living her life, OP did not have a resting b-face or some other AH-repelling attitude on, so the AH "lady" was not deterred from approaching her... it's so sad, but so true, you really do need to have the AH-repellant ready at anytime. I wish I had more of it.
Anyone who orders in a restaurant without checking the price, and then gets upset is automatically TA.
The last story I will say they could have said something. Thats what being a good mate is. Looking out. All they had to say was btw this place on avg cost $200+ per person. We can't pay for you, but we don't mind if you tag along. But yeah I will say you ATA.
Exactly. Glad so many others saw it for what it was, a group privileged white kids mocking the naive middle/working class kid.
Idk why everyone thinks Michelin stars automatically means stupid expensive prices. I went to a Michelin starred ramen place in Tokyo and a dim sum place in Hong Kong and spent less than $20USD at each.
So even if OP was familiar with Michelin stars, he wouldn’t have been wrong to not automatically assume $200/dishes.
That said, a general tip is: if you have to ask “how much” you probably can’t afford it. 🥲
This is also assuming that everyone knows what Michelin Stars means. You don't know, what you don't know. So until someone explains that, or the fact if the prices aren't on the menu means high prices, a newbie won't know. Also some menus don't have the dollar sign, they do post the amount in lower right corner such as: 25 or 35 in stead of $25.00 or $35.00. But again if you've never been, seen or had it explained to you, you wouldn't know.
Story 1 once you can find yourself a new home and went no contact with this monsters.
The heifer from the park wasn't fat shaming the OP. She was upset because the OP had a large chest. I'd put my next paycheck on it.
Accident husband: Ditch this man, as he is clearly projecting. Check your own phone for trackers.
I didn't realise families didn't jiggle lol. Next time this queen of a woman should bring a boom box and they should do some extra jiggly zumba 😆 rock that jiggle baby I freaking love it ❤️
Is that woman has a problem with jiggling flesh I might recommend she just go blind. It would save a lot of aggravation.
Story 1: your dad and stepmom should shut the hell up. After all, they taught you how to treat them.
1st story: OP NTA, and step mom, karma's a b word, b word.
OP in the first story needs to talk to her step-grandpa after a few weeks about moving on and getting back out there. Help him make some dating profiles so he can move on with his life. If the stepmom and worthless dad have something to say, then say "Hey he shouldn't have to wallow in sadness about losing his wife, he needs to get back on the horse like you did when my mom died!" Also, let him know he needs to start clearing out his deceased wife's things so his new woman doesn't have to deal with her ghost.
9:43 was in inopportune moment to be drinking some 7UP, because you made me liberally distribute the mouthful over myself, my desk, keyboard, mouse and monitors
The story about OP/GF/OP’s brother…….. I would have had the brother wash, dry, and put away all the dishes used until his parents came and got him.
Wife with the phone story.
I 100% agree with everyone who commented that man is already stepping out or getting into some shady shady stuff
Hire a PI now now now
Last Story: Most peeps who were born into wealth have NO IDEA about how the rest of us live. To them a $100 meal is pocket change. To most others, a $20 meal is too much. Most peeps want something below even $10. Most peeps wouldn't even understand the concept of "Michelin Stars". I understand that if I go into a shop or a restaurant and there are no prices, I'm in wealthy person land. OP's companion asked the waiter about the price of the food, the waiter might have been all huffy and said "If you need to ask the price, then you can't afford it." The average yearly income of a US citizen is $40,000 and most likely their cost of living (Rent, utilities, car insurance/payments/gas, groceries and incidentals) will take at least $20,000. Taxes will take $10,000 and the person is stuck with only $10,000 at MOST for anything else, including clothes, health insurance/copays, food/vet bills for pet, etc... for an entire year!
That's an average for a person who starts working AFTER college. A college student makes much less. So this college student buddy of OP's maybe had $2,000 to spend on this study abroad program. He was forced to spend almost 10% of the money he has for the ENTIRE stay on just ONE MEAL!!! OP and the others were asshole for not considering that their new found friend may have a budget limit. OP and the others are out of touch when it comes to socializing with the majority of people on Earth.
Very true if I can't afford to eat out then I don't eat out or I find a much cheaper place to go eat or stay home and cook a home cooked meal
@@nerdygeekgamer5528 If you are doing an overseas thingy, odds are you don't have the luxury of a kitchen or even a hotplate maybe even no microwave. You are stuck eating out. But everywhere has low cost food. The college student on a budget needs to learn the language better and buy fresh veggies and fruit and dry food stuff from the grocer.
When I read/heard that they had "befriended" him for Three Weeks, and then treated him like this, I felt heartbroken for him, because they were not a friend to him in the least when it mattered him... just shitty AHs.
Op was totally right about the stepmother loss. They must be incredibly stupid to not see how right op was now the same thing was happening to step mum.
I am almost 40. I've lived in many US states and have eaten out at some fancy and expensive restaurants. It's only been in the last 4-5 years that I knew what a "Michelin" rating was.
Michelin stars also don’t automatically mean stupid expensive. I mentioned in another comment, but I went to a ramen place in Tokyo and a dim sum spot in Hong Kong, both with Michelin stars, and both cost me about $15/$20. Neither city is exactly known to be cheap places, either. That said, I probably would not ever order anything from a menu that didn’t have pricing-that’s when you know you’re someplace really chi-chi. Lol
Story 1 tell them you get what you give. You made all the right decisions. Story 2 you need to give hubby back to mommy and file for a divorce.
1st story NTA OP if here, absolutely not the A hole. I lost my Mom as an adult, I lost my husband the father of my sons when they were only 9 and 7, It I honestly feel it is sooo much harder to lose a parent as a child. I am not saying you are not close to a parent when you become an adult, but as children you are closer, as young children we are still completely dependent upon our parents, even as teens there is a dependency, as so many changes of life in that time that we depend on our parents to help us go through. That closeness that connection does not just vanish when they are lost to us, and it can not be suddenly replaced and even if someone new comes into your life and steps into the step parent role. It is never right or fair for them to try to cut the lost parent out of the picture like they did not exist.
Your step mother attempted to, and you gave her a well deserved dose of reality, by pointing out how vital a Mom is to their child adult or otherwise, and you could not and will not just forget your Mom any more then she has her own. And now she knows how you felt when she tried to write your own mother from your life and memories. She did do the same and worse but trying to do so to you when you were only a child. And both she and your father need to understand this. They are absolute hypocrites, and as adults completely disregarded your feelings for your Mom, did everything possible to make you forget yours, treat you badly when you refuse to, and now have the gal to expect you to sympathize with the step mother now that she lost hers. No OP there is nowhere in this scenario where you are the A hole.
Story 1 - OP NTA - OP tell "Daddy Dearest" that you will apologize to SM when pigs fly, hell freezes over, and SM throws away EVERYTHING that belongs to HER mother. Also, if anyone needs to get over the death of ther mother is your SM, you know since it is NOT important to remember the woman who gave her life... right?
Story 2 - OP NTA - OP how many RED FLAGS does it take for you to really see the kind of "man" that you married? Time for you to "reflect" if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life.
Story 3 - OP NTA - OP... jiggle away. Screw "Becky" and her fat phobia.
Story 4 - OP NTA - OP you need to have a talk with your GF. Yes, your little brother was out of line but he is still a child and your decision to NOT let him go home alone was the correct one. If anything happened to him YOU would've been responsible... end of story. As for your GF while it is understandable that your brother's comment was hurtful she is the adult and should not be behaving like a child herself by ignoring you and refusing to see how stupid her request really was. Also, remember that your brother is only 13 and he still learning what is right and what is wrong. I think your "he can forget that I am his brother" comment was too much because at the end of the day I think he learned his lesson. Sit with him and explain that words have power and how he used them determined how other people see him.
Story 5 - OP all you needed to do when he wanted to come was to warn him how expensive the restaurant really was and let him decide if it was within his budget. Not everybody has a mommy and daddy money to pay for their expensive taste in life.
Story 1 NTA proud of OP for giving back the medication she was given
She's jealous. Keep jiggling girl. Love you girl.
Story 2. The spouse is the legal next of kin so of course the nurse gave op his belongings. I’m more interested to know why he’s so desperate for you not to ’snoop’ on his phone, and what his mother knows that you don’t.
He might be cheating with someone that the mom preferred that he'd marry instead of OP
OP should go through the house and remove all traces of her Step Evils mothers existence. Throw out everything her Mother gave to StepEvil.
The father is more cruel, as if he had no feelings for his late wife, mother of his daughter.
13 year old brother story: OP overreacted to his brother. He needs to apologise. Why did he threaten to cut him off? As for the girlfriend, I get she was insulted but an apology was enough. Shame on her for trying to get OP to abandon his brother...a 13 year old who has just become a teenager. I don’t think I can be with someone that cruel.
Yeah from experience 13 year olds can be thoughtless little jerks sometimes but wholly crap did he screw it up! I think a sit down and talking to about how “jokes” like that can really hurt some people. The girlfriend was really wrong for her explosive reaction. When my brothers were that age they made “jokes” similar to that and it was always, “apologize to your sister, that was mean” and I would just ignore them for about an hour. Even at 16 I wouldn’t have even thought about leaving them alone! If one of my friends had suggested it they would have been an ex friend!
Story 1) As someone who had many stepmoms who acted this way, nta but i wish i had the same courage op did
That reminds me of a waitress that refused to bring me some avocado because I am over weight. I ordered a sandwich which came with avocado. It had 3 tiny slivers of avocado that only covered half of the sandwich. I asked for extra but she kept telling me each time I repeated my request that that was a serving size and they weigh them. I told her I didn't care, but I wanted more avocado. She refused to bring it, and when I asked why she refused to answer. I sent the sandwich back. Ordered something else. It was thrown on the plate like they tossed it from across the room. I complained and walked out without eating anything. It was avocado, It is healthy. People eat it on toast as a snack all the time. I was more than willing to even pay extra for their BS servings for avocado too. But no, she was trying to monitor what I ate because I am fat. Avocado is a good fat too. They put the oil from it in salad dressings. Most salads have more calories than my sandwich. Some people are idiots.
Anytime a restaurant doesn’t put prices on the menu or presents the person paying with a menu with prices one should know that it isn’t Olive Garden prices. Plus it’s a Michelin star restaurant! Also a rule of thumb at these restaurants: if you have to ask the prices chances are you can’t afford to eat there!
In situations like this, you order thee salad & an appetizer. Or only a dessert.
You could have helped him with translations though.
Shouldn't the student already have a basic understanding of Spanish if he's studying in Spain?
first story... it was an affair obviously. He was with her while the mom was alive. That was why he just wrote her off as never existed. No man that loved his late wife and mother of his child would do this. He obviously did not love his late wife and was just with her because a kid came from the relationship.
Husband and phone - the husband is having an affair and the mother either knows and approves because she hates OP or she just doesn't care because she hates OP. The husband is DEFINITELY cheating - biggest red flag for that (the size of a continent) is OP saying 'he's always been paranoid/private type' that and he lost his mind at her for having his phone shows that he's a serial cheater too. I should know, I'm the adult daughter of a serial cheater - his cheating on my mum was pre cellphone in the early days. But later on, yeah, he had one for all his (many) mistresses as I found out when he passed away. It certainly explained why he didn't want to move up with me and my family.
You missed the part from that hospital phone story where the husbands mom blames her for their child dying from Lukemia saying her neglect killed him.
Sad about the child, but it makes it easier for the wife to send her husband back to Mommy.
Wtf...(?!) Omg, that OP got some strength, to keep up with those AHs...(!) She should just live her life like she wants, and give a rats ass about what they, mil and husband, say...(!) Stay Queen..! 👑 ♥ 💪
You really need to see his phone NOW. He's scheming with someone about something. Probably his momma. What's he planning. Protect yourself.
4:10)Was it his own phone or a company phone with restricted info? I once worked security in place with a SCIF(Skiff). Sensitive Compartmentalized Information Facility. Industrial espionage is a multi-million dollar international business. If his mother and he work at such a place, then the mother would be the only one authorized to have his phone.
6:47)She is his wife, but does MIL have his Medical Proxy? A medical proxy holder has the only word.
I doubt she has medical proxy because that would have been added to his permanent medical record. I don't think its for security reasons either because that argument would have made sense lol
@@Ashbrash1998 His doctor would have a copy. He was in a hospital. The local VA hospital has almost all of my medical records. Twice I had to be rushed to the nearest civilian emergency room. They had nothing to go by. The second time, I was filled up with O negative blood. My dogtags say A+, but they checked the type. They did send for a priest. I had one foot in the grave and the other on banana peel.
Story 1: Daaaaaaamn, OP was ice cold brutal, and I LOVE that.
Last story,ge prices before you order food. Don't blame someone else. Yes Op sounds like a rich kid,but it's not her fault the new guy is too stupid to ask about costs.
About the last story, I only wanna say YTA because the friend was clearly struggling and confused, and at no point did OP or any of his friends ask if their friend was okay/knew what he was ordering.
why blame op, the friend could have asked for help and also asked for the price, if they are old enough to go to a restaurant alone they are old enough to ask simple questions
Husband in story 2 is definitely cheating for doing weird stuff on his phone
You should have asked him what he was hiding that was so devastating.
The husband in the hospital one, MIL BLAMES op for the death of op’s son who died of leukaemia. MIL blames her being neglectful and that the reason the child died not the cancer. The husband doesn’t stand up to mummy, and seems to silently blame OP as well
husband an mobile story, he's doing something bad behind her back that's why he freaked out when he found out she got his phone. His mum may or may not know but she's just glad to have a opportunity to put OP down and drive a wedge between them. I would demand the husband show me his phone because that's way too abnormal.
My youngest sister did this to me once. She 13 and I was 25 and we shared a room then. Anyway, I was in the bedroom looking for something and I heard her phone buzz so I brought it down intending to take it out to her. I just casually glanced at the screen and saw there were messages but I didn't pay attention as I don't look through people's phone. I had the phone in my hand for like a few seconds then my sister came storming in, snatched the phone away from me and went off on me for invading her privacy. I got pissed off and yelled back at her that I didn't look through her phone and I was just intending to bring it out to her and that I didn't appreciate her attitude. I didn't question her then but not long after we found out she was quasi dating this kid she met on the bus. He was 16 and she was in her first year of high school. My parents didn't know but myself and my other sister (23) did and we made her break it off because she's not allowed to date in high school. We found out because I was paying her phone bill and she'd run up $800 worth of calls. We gave her the phone for her to keep in touch with us whilst she travel too and from school which was a 30 - 1hr minute bus ride from home.
the 13 year old brother and gf story, the brother is wrong for saying that and should apologize and should be grounded (for 3 days max). The gf overreacted and her demands for OP to drop his brother is cruel and vindictive, she's not a nice person. The OP overreacted and went way too harsh on his brother for the small infraction in an attempt to appease his gf. The brother will feel cornered because his parents are not there and he'd have to put up with whatever OP and his gf dish out until his parents comes back for fear of being abandoned. OP threatened his brother with abandonment. Both OP and his gf are big YTAs and the brother is soft YTA for being rude.
I think just because the brother is young doesn't mean he doesn't know what he said. He wanted to shut her up by any means necessary. However, how it all went down, the adults overreacted, and he learned not to trust his brother or the GF, not that his actions are wrong. It's a big fat ESH for me.
OP at the park? Tell the Karen you don't jiggle, jiggle. You fold.🤣😂🤣
First story: [Mortal Kombat announcer] OP Wins. Karmic Brutality. Perfect.
Nta. Dad can wonder what happened when you disappear from his life at the first immediate opportunity.
2. Story:
the ONLY reason he should've been "angry" is if he was super bored without his phone