I was told I was adopted as soon as my parents thought I could understand it. They told me my birth mom just wasn't in a position to take care of me and they were, so she made the hard decision to let me go. Made a lot of sense to my child brain, and that's probably a good part of the reason why it doesn't bother me today.
To those who had adopted children: now is the best time to tell your child they’re adopted. I was adopted at birth and I don’t remember when my mom told me I was adopted, she said it was from day 1 she said every day “you’re not from by body, but you will get my whole heart”. To withhold that information only leads to distrust and confusion for the kid. Always tell your adopted children they are adopted they can handle the information. The poem of the Adopted Child is one of the best pieces of writing describing the feelings of adoption. ❤ your love and compassion for the adopted child will never change and is as strong and valid as a birth bond
This is how I was raised as well! I'm adopted and from my very first memory I always knew that I was adopted but that I was chosen and picked by my parents. Adoption is absolutely beautiful thing
I'm a proud Christian and if this Halloween wedding allows costumes, I'll take OP's mothers invitation instead! I love Halloween! Those 25 people need to get several grips and have a few extra seats.... just not at the ceremony. Y'all had two years for all that bible thumping and NOW two weeks before y'all wanna cry and pout because "demon holiday ahhh"? Nope.
What's better than such good cheer at your wedding. I'd love the memory. All people mixed with other, heck yes. 💖💘💝💐 👰🧑🤝🧑👩🏼🤝👩🏻 👬👫💃🏼🕺🏼👯♀️ 🌚🦉💀🎃👽 🥂🌿🍻🍞🥗 🍇🤪😀🙂 ✨🦄💫
I'm a Christian, and the best wedding I've ever attended was a costume wedding! It was a blast! I just got my costume in the mail for the anniversary party for the same people. 🥰
Also as a wiccan I want to point out Halloween is not a religious holiday! It falls on the same day as samhain, which is a separate pagan holiday. Halloween may have its roots in samhain but so do most Christian holidays.
Im so glad u went in on that mom about the foster child. Crazy that we live amongst these kinds of ppl they literally only care about themselves and their comfort.
9:50 fun fact! Telling adoptees and donor conceived people from go isn’t even a hot take, it’s the medical recommendation from every American health association and pediatric board. There is no version of where you come from that isn’t appropriate for a kid to know. If it’s hidden as “mature content” or something that they don’t need to know so it won’t hurt them, it always sends the message that “you are dirty, you are shameful”
My family wanted to wait until I was 18 to drop the bomb but I found out by other family members when I was in grade school. props to parents who say it early on. anyway, OP owes the in-laws nothing.
The foster child may also have autism or something similar. Sensory issues and eating limited food is common. I wonder if the foster mom was advised by a professional to have all these kids over at once. It seems like way too much to me and I certainly wouldn't have done it. Maybe meet a few of them one on one then when they have a rapport do a group.
It's not even my money. It's my kids money with a mother you or your kids never met. I don't even understand how it makes sense for someone to think their kids are entitled to money a late spouse left to that person's children. It wouldn't be okay if it was for a life saving procedure, but dance lessons are not even a necessity. If the studio wants her in those lessons that badly they'll get a scholarship for her, fund raiser something. There's always a rich investor or retired artist or something who's got FU money waiting for an opportunity like this to give back. If not paid in full, discounted
I was adopted as a baby and knew. I loved it. I totally feel that story. I stopped telling people to. Cuz ya the questions are so so annoying. I hate the "real" family questions. My real family is the family that raised me. Like duh.
Thank you so much for posting this yesterday and im so happy i didnt catch it bc now i get to deepclean and youre accompanying me in the bathroom zone ty ty !
Hey Isabella! I love both of your channels and your advice. You should cover a video over advice on working with the public and rude people. I have two jobs, and both consist of working with the public. I am a big people person, but I feel so hopeless after each shift and I feel drained, and have also caught myself being more passive aggressive because of it (which I’ve recognized and am learning to correct it) any advice would help!
I am adopted. My two sisters are adopted as well all different mothers. My adopted parents (my real parents ❤) always made sure we knew that we were adopted. They answered all of our questions about our birth mothers, when I turn 16 they were able to get in touch with her and I was able to meet my half-brother. It was a very good relationship and I'm so grateful for the way they handled it. There was a girl I went to school with who was adopted and her parents did not tell her that she was adopted, a kid who went to school with us ended up telling her and she was absolutely devastated.... Her relationship with her adoptive parents was always strained after that. Yes I think you should always be open with your kids about adoption .
The only thing about the last story is I feel like the mom could've just made dinner with food she knew the 9 year old would eat and then made enough to share. Most kids would enjoy some Dino nuggets and it might've made it less like singling out this one child and having to do the extra labor of making the food special. Also it might have helped the 9 year old to not be the only one eating that type of food.
The last story with the Forester family. The person is the asshole for sure. The mom said hey people are hard for this kid. Definitely some trauma there want to try and slowly get her to open up. In a safe environment. This wasn't a hosting a dinner party this was a my kid needs help and support and would you be willing to help. I understand if the kids later was like we had a bad time and it just ended up being to much. And later being like sorry that was a little to stressful maybe we should do something smaller/shorter next time. Or that was a little much for my kids. Only thing I would have said to that mom afterwards would be hey next time whatever the girls favorite or most safe food. That should be one of the main meals. Make it easier on you during meal time. Plus helps when everyone is eating what she likes as well. Seems more normal and all. Maybe I can bring an extra fun treat next time if she really enjoys cookies I could grab some.
Yay!! Just in time for me to have something to listen to on my way to get my mammogram. Happy early 40th birthday to me. Lol. Go get ya boobies checked!!!
As a non-runner in a family of runners, he is not wrong that she can’t just jump into that 12 week program. She could get hurt or just plain overwhelmed. And depending on the race she signed up for, they may not allow her to walk. She could get pulled for being too slow, which would be so disheartening after all that work.
I was told I was adopted as soon as my parents thought I could understand it. They told me my birth mom just wasn't in a position to take care of me and they were, so she made the hard decision to let me go. Made a lot of sense to my child brain, and that's probably a good part of the reason why it doesn't bother me today.
I think pretending and keeping it a secret can be so shocking for the person if they find out later in life. I think your parents did it right. ♥️
To those who had adopted children: now is the best time to tell your child they’re adopted. I was adopted at birth and I don’t remember when my mom told me I was adopted, she said it was from day 1 she said every day “you’re not from by body, but you will get my whole heart”. To withhold that information only leads to distrust and confusion for the kid. Always tell your adopted children they are adopted they can handle the information. The poem of the Adopted Child is one of the best pieces of writing describing the feelings of adoption. ❤ your love and compassion for the adopted child will never change and is as strong and valid as a birth bond
This is how I was raised as well! I'm adopted and from my very first memory I always knew that I was adopted but that I was chosen and picked by my parents. Adoption is absolutely beautiful thing
I'm a proud Christian and if this Halloween wedding allows costumes, I'll take OP's mothers invitation instead! I love Halloween! Those 25 people need to get several grips and have a few extra seats.... just not at the ceremony. Y'all had two years for all that bible thumping and NOW two weeks before y'all wanna cry and pout because "demon holiday ahhh"? Nope.
I know, right? I wanna go! I'll cheer you guys down the aisle and off into your new life!
What's better than such good cheer at your wedding. I'd love the memory. All people mixed with other, heck yes.
💖💘💝💐
👰🧑🤝🧑👩🏼🤝👩🏻
👬👫💃🏼🕺🏼👯♀️
🌚🦉💀🎃👽
🥂🌿🍻🍞🥗
🍇🤪😀🙂
✨🦄💫
I'm a Christian, and the best wedding I've ever attended was a costume wedding! It was a blast! I just got my costume in the mail for the anniversary party for the same people. 🥰
Also as a wiccan I want to point out Halloween is not a religious holiday! It falls on the same day as samhain, which is a separate pagan holiday. Halloween may have its roots in samhain but so do most Christian holidays.
Im so glad u went in on that mom about the foster child. Crazy that we live amongst these kinds of ppl they literally only care about themselves and their comfort.
9:50 fun fact! Telling adoptees and donor conceived people from go isn’t even a hot take, it’s the medical recommendation from every American health association and pediatric board. There is no version of where you come from that isn’t appropriate for a kid to know. If it’s hidden as “mature content” or something that they don’t need to know so it won’t hurt them, it always sends the message that “you are dirty, you are shameful”
new wife would literally not be there if passed wife was still here....therefor not the her money?????? THE AUDACITY
i am aggressively against parents not telling their kids they’re adopted
My family wanted to wait until I was 18 to drop the bomb but I found out by other family members when I was in grade school. props to parents who say it early on. anyway, OP owes the in-laws nothing.
The foster child may also have autism or something similar. Sensory issues and eating limited food is common. I wonder if the foster mom was advised by a professional to have all these kids over at once. It seems like way too much to me and I certainly wouldn't have done it. Maybe meet a few of them one on one then when they have a rapport do a group.
I was thinking the same thing. It sounds like she should be in contact with a counselor/therapist to assist her
It's not even my money. It's my kids money with a mother you or your kids never met. I don't even understand how it makes sense for someone to think their kids are entitled to money a late spouse left to that person's children. It wouldn't be okay if it was for a life saving procedure, but dance lessons are not even a necessity. If the studio wants her in those lessons that badly they'll get a scholarship for her, fund raiser something. There's always a rich investor or retired artist or something who's got FU money waiting for an opportunity like this to give back. If not paid in full, discounted
I was adopted as a baby and knew. I loved it. I totally feel that story. I stopped telling people to. Cuz ya the questions are so so annoying. I hate the "real" family questions. My real family is the family that raised me. Like duh.
That wedding sounds like it would be so awesome. I love how OP said, nah, then don't come.
Thank you so much for posting this yesterday and im so happy i didnt catch it bc now i get to deepclean and youre accompanying me in the bathroom zone ty ty !
Hey Isabella! I love both of your channels and your advice. You should cover a video over advice on working with the public and rude people. I have two jobs, and both consist of working with the public. I am a big people person, but I feel so hopeless after each shift and I feel drained, and have also caught myself being more passive aggressive because of it (which I’ve recognized and am learning to correct it) any advice would help!
I am adopted. My two sisters are adopted as well all different mothers. My adopted parents (my real parents ❤) always made sure we knew that we were adopted. They answered all of our questions about our birth mothers, when I turn 16 they were able to get in touch with her and I was able to meet my half-brother. It was a very good relationship and I'm so grateful for the way they handled it. There was a girl I went to school with who was adopted and her parents did not tell her that she was adopted, a kid who went to school with us ended up telling her and she was absolutely devastated.... Her relationship with her adoptive parents was always strained after that. Yes I think you should always be open with your kids about adoption
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The only thing about the last story is I feel like the mom could've just made dinner with food she knew the 9 year old would eat and then made enough to share. Most kids would enjoy some Dino nuggets and it might've made it less like singling out this one child and having to do the extra labor of making the food special. Also it might have helped the 9 year old to not be the only one eating that type of food.
TGIF
I’m finishing up some interior renders for my clients and listening to you spoon-feed me all the insanity. ❤
This is one of my favorite parts of a Friday
The last story with the Forester family. The person is the asshole for sure. The mom said hey people are hard for this kid. Definitely some trauma there want to try and slowly get her to open up. In a safe environment.
This wasn't a hosting a dinner party this was a my kid needs help and support and would you be willing to help.
I understand if the kids later was like we had a bad time and it just ended up being to much. And later being like sorry that was a little to stressful maybe we should do something smaller/shorter next time. Or that was a little much for my kids.
Only thing I would have said to that mom afterwards would be hey next time whatever the girls favorite or most safe food. That should be one of the main meals. Make it easier on you during meal time. Plus helps when everyone is eating what she likes as well. Seems more normal and all. Maybe I can bring an extra fun treat next time if she really enjoys cookies I could grab some.
Did you make all those paintings? So pretty! 😻
Yay!! Just in time for me to have something to listen to on my way to get my mammogram. Happy early 40th birthday to me. Lol.
Go get ya boobies checked!!!
First! So excited for AITA stories!
I felt that eye roll in my soul 😂
My girl Isabella bringing the tea
I am a Christian and I would love to go to a Halloween wedding. It sounds awesome.
As a non-runner in a family of runners, he is not wrong that she can’t just jump into that 12 week program. She could get hurt or just plain overwhelmed. And depending on the race she signed up for, they may not allow her to walk. She could get pulled for being too slow, which would be so disheartening after all that work.