Coming Out to My Dad - LIVE REACTION

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  • I came out to my dad as gay. His reaction to my coming out was hard to take. My dad's reaction to me coming out as gay is difficult for me to watch even though it has been more than a year since. To say that his reaction was what I wanted would be inaccurate. He has gotten better about me being gay and about my boyfriend but his reaction is very much representative of how he feels about it. Please let this video be a warning that coming out is not always a pleasant experience.

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  • @jamesstevens9627
    @jamesstevens9627 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3041

    the second i saw that texas shirt i knew he wasn't gonna be okay with it

    • @User87695
      @User87695 7 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      Looool I said the saaaame exact thing as his dad came into the frame!

    • @ismaelvazquez8511
      @ismaelvazquez8511 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      James Stevens haha same and I live in Texas!😂

    • @kajarstedjrgensen4125
      @kajarstedjrgensen4125 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Was just about too comment that...

    • @morenasilvestroni8618
      @morenasilvestroni8618 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      James Stevens sameee bro

    • @jaydah1998
      @jaydah1998 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      James Stevens
      Well, you thought wrong... lol

  • @angiek9539
    @angiek9539 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1653

    Here is a story because why not?
    Daughter: Dad im a lesbian
    Sister: Me too..
    Dad: Wow is there anyone in this house that likes boys?!?
    Brother: I do!

    • @jaydah1998
      @jaydah1998 7 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      K-pop Trashue
      I already know that joke 😂

    • @Gamerbay2017
      @Gamerbay2017 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That is great

    • @paulladd2524
      @paulladd2524 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats a good one

    • @RayRay-zc5sh
      @RayRay-zc5sh 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lmfaoooo thats funny

    • @xazivergomer1438
      @xazivergomer1438 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      angie k lol😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

  • @nickolisingh8423
    @nickolisingh8423 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3113

    i think older people are blind when it comes to noticing the lgbt cuz i took one look at this boy and i done knew he is gay! lol

    • @jessieoo1063
      @jessieoo1063 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      nickoli singh huh hurrrrrr!

    • @nickolisingh8423
      @nickolisingh8423 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Parker Crossing we love gays

    • @andrewcarson6925
      @andrewcarson6925 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      nickoli singh same 😂😂😂😂😂😂I'm gay myself and my mom and her bf accepts me

    • @nickolisingh8423
      @nickolisingh8423 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      soon everyone will realize gay love is the best lol

    • @andrewcarson6925
      @andrewcarson6925 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      nickoli singh Yes So true thxxx for the compliments they really make me happy I'm PROUD TO BE GAY

  • @calderf.1557
    @calderf.1557 7 ปีที่แล้ว +350

    You can feel the disappointment in his eyes

    • @eskrimwatch09
      @eskrimwatch09 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      yes his eye tell different than he said

    • @hervisdaubeny2644
      @hervisdaubeny2644 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I would be hella disappointed i wouldnt talk to my son

    • @overusedcondom581
      @overusedcondom581 6 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      @@hervisdaubeny2644 Then you'd be a shit parent.

    • @thisthat2.623
      @thisthat2.623 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I'd be disappointed asf too if my son was gay. I wouldn't stop talking to him but I'd feel like I failed as a father.

    • @theonionsystem7779
      @theonionsystem7779 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@hervisdaubeny2644 I would hope you don't for being a terrible father and I hope he find better people to be with

  • @croquedead3926
    @croquedead3926 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1949

    Well his reaction wasn't bad, he was just a little shocked. He looked like he would get used to it. I guess that he didn't say much because of the camera.

    • @thevioletskull8158
      @thevioletskull8158 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      RoamingScizor ture

    • @user-hs7ms2qz8q
      @user-hs7ms2qz8q 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      RoamingScizor I mean his reaction was a lot better than my parents' reaction XD

    • @chrizluxio3929
      @chrizluxio3929 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      His dad was so hunky

    • @-adoriquex-5863
      @-adoriquex-5863 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Chriz Luxio nooo he looked like a wierd zombie

    • @Orlanzepol123
      @Orlanzepol123 7 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      His dad's reaction wasn't bad. But I think he was in denial. His son is very feminine . My parents always knew but it was obvious because I played with dolls and did a lot of girly things.

  • @MrXavierRose
    @MrXavierRose 7 ปีที่แล้ว +195

    My parents were ordering pizza when I came out. I was like "Mum, dad I'm gay!"
    They were like "Yeah we know, do you want deep pan or thin crust?"
    I think I had it easy

    • @miramoku5984
      @miramoku5984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      You had it so easy lol

    • @annoynomisviewer3496
      @annoynomisviewer3496 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm a gay man and I recently came out to my mom

    • @ilikefood1662
      @ilikefood1662 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Congratulations, I'm glad it went so well for you. So, what kind of pizza crust did you get?

    • @Ghazihassan.2
      @Ghazihassan.2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@annoynomisviewer3496 🤢🤮🤮

  • @citycat7334
    @citycat7334 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1542

    that was hard to watch

    • @wb_anks2990
      @wb_anks2990 7 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      "you can turn that off,"......"okay"

    • @queend6900
      @queend6900 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      citycat it was

    • @VitalieVisuals
      @VitalieVisuals 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah!

    • @jerrysmith7449
      @jerrysmith7449 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It was difficult to watch; but it’s the route taken by many coming out stories. I think that he loves his son and was ill equipped (in 2016) to hear the message and devise a reply; that the conversation was being recorded didn’t help matters.
      Mom will help Dad understand. I bet everything was OK after a while- but definitely not THAT afternoon.

  • @prodigalus
    @prodigalus 6 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    this kid is scared and nervous, but he's a soldier. he handles it very well, from the moment he hears his dad's steps coming to the room to when the silence hits.

    • @Selfemployedmildautisticperfor
      @Selfemployedmildautisticperfor 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Could tell by the voice and such
      Could tell the dad had reservations :( but not anger :). Is he ok with it .....
      Says doesn't prefer it. Bad answer kinda why u smiling at that hmm
      Ur lovely tho. Such a gentle voice

  • @JabbaDuhHut
    @JabbaDuhHut 7 ปีที่แล้ว +864

    Unexpected? Um, OK.

    • @bacher100
      @bacher100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, right?

    • @bacher100
      @bacher100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      exactly, I was being sarcastic. It was totally expected.

    • @mactastic144
      @mactastic144 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      JabbaDuhHut Some people are too deep in their way of thinking that they are unable to see things in any other way. I call it being a delusional basket case.

    • @graceduncan794
      @graceduncan794 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I want to like your comment but it’s 666

    • @brandonchavez4901
      @brandonchavez4901 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lmao these comments got me ded

  • @rebeccamace1534
    @rebeccamace1534 7 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    My heart broke for this boy. I'm not a mother yet but if ever any of my future kids were to tell me they were gay, my first instinct would be to take them in my arms and remind them that I love them to the ends of the earth no matter what

    • @sarahaconnor5167
      @sarahaconnor5167 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My mother told me I’ve “embarrassed the family”

    • @rebeccamace1534
      @rebeccamace1534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@sarahaconnor5167 I’m so sorry 💔 some people don’t deserve to have children, and your mother is one of them. I’d be so proud of you if you were my daughter ❤️ stay true to yourself. Remember that you’re perfect just the way you are. 🏳️‍🌈

    • @rebeccamace1534
      @rebeccamace1534 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@anishussain7093 Okay well I respect your opinion. However, along with Sarah’s mother, I have just added you to the list of people who don’t deserve to have children. I’m longing to be a mother. I’ll love my child just the way he/she is. Have a great day!

    • @anishussain7093
      @anishussain7093 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sarah she's right

    • @anishussain7093
      @anishussain7093 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well I wasn't replying to you so your obviously hurt. And I have kids

  • @QueenBeeBeautyXO
    @QueenBeeBeautyXO 7 ปีที่แล้ว +277

    How could his parents have not known he was gay? His mannerisms etc... I think they both knew but were in denial.

    • @jakeerney6186
      @jakeerney6186 7 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      So I should assume you're dumb because you're blonde? You cannot base an opinion or label a person off of stereotypes, that's not fair and more than discriminatory.

    • @aviationdylan3353
      @aviationdylan3353 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Jake Erney it’s pretty obvious though, if your son spoke like that wouldn’t you assume he was gay I mean come on

    • @ldanzamariastile3536
      @ldanzamariastile3536 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@aviationdylan3353 yes he's very camp they must have both suspected it

    • @isaacvargas3156
      @isaacvargas3156 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jakeerney6186 dont be a dumbass its the most accurate stereotype so dont be a little bitch about it

    • @j5892000
      @j5892000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly. Its painfully obvious lol

  • @gracekelly2810
    @gracekelly2810 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    My heart breaks for this kid. I'm sitting here screaming at thus video for Dad to just hug him & tell him you love him.

    • @mehobuh1003
      @mehobuh1003 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ikr. You could cut the tension with a knife. My heart sank the moment I saw the Texas shirt. It's just a dead giveaway that the reaction wasn't going to be good. Although it wasn't ideal, I'm just glad the kid didn't get physically assaulted, rejected, or abandoned (as far as I know).

  • @jalamar8161
    @jalamar8161 7 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    That wasn't really a bad reaction. More of a neutral one. You could see he was processing and digesting. To put it in perspective, most fathers craft a future in their minds of who/what they want their sons to be. Slightly older generations never really even consider the possibilities of sexuality. That was definitely a reaction that leaves room for discourse and understanding.

    • @Nichole2228
      @Nichole2228 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Jonta Hall I agree. As a mom, I have this vision of my daughter growing up.....will she get married, have kids? That would all come crashing down if she told me she was gay...that vision I've had for so many years would just blow up in my face. So it would take some time to rework that vision and come down from the shock of it all.

    • @loloreel
      @loloreel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ​@@Nichole2228 Well, even if you're gay you can still get married and have kids

    • @jadorelehockey123
      @jadorelehockey123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Nichole2228 Even if you're straight, you may not want to have children or get married.

    • @mehobuh1003
      @mehobuh1003 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not exactly a neutral reaction. It's pretty hurtful and stress-inducing when your loved one doesn't see you react positively immediately and give you support and acceptance. Every LGBTQIA+ person wants to be fully accepted by their loved ones when they first come out.

  • @AECSRQ
    @AECSRQ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    Honestly, I didn't see anything to complain about in your dad. He is clearly shocked and taken aback. He seems unprepared for the gravity of your revelation and probably also uncomfortable that he is on camera to be seen by thousands of strangers in a private, intimate, family moment. I don't blame him. You kept smiling at him nervously trying to get him to react more, but he gave you the best he could in the moment. He looked a lot more uncomfortable than you tbh.

    • @filippomann
      @filippomann 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your shock is not a problem of mine. I do not have to lighten any heavy situation. Homophoby is not homosexuals' fault

    • @alexandrotorres3239
      @alexandrotorres3239 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The problem with your way of thinking is: why would a coming out be a grave situation? Why would your own dad be uncomfortable with other people would think just because they're watching it? Why can't you be a man AND talk about your feelings?
      This is what you should be asking, and not being sympathetic with this box mindset parent is thinking about.

    • @hothotheat3000
      @hothotheat3000 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why would coming out be grave?
      Ask Matthew Shepard.
      A lot of well-meaning parents worry about how difficult their child’s life is going to be, how they will deal with discrimination or worse. It is easier to be straight than gay.

  • @supersnooker4874
    @supersnooker4874 7 ปีที่แล้ว +677

    But where are his dad's eyebrows sorry i had to ask

    • @zarabukhari6621
      @zarabukhari6621 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      SUper snooKER looool made me crack

    • @peytonketz4857
      @peytonketz4857 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂

    • @thewayofway1
      @thewayofway1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SUper snooKER Too funny 😂

    • @RoseGoldHoneyy
      @RoseGoldHoneyy 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I noticed that too but Honestly his dad looks like sick . Pale in the face , dark rings around his eyes , he may be going through something .

    • @mrjordan7304
      @mrjordan7304 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Fuckig all you guys can do is make fun of others, I bet you have eyebrows but you're ugly af so don't matter

  • @schusterofficial2614
    @schusterofficial2614 7 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Daughter 1: Dad I'm gay
    Dad: Well I'm here for you alright
    Daughter 2: I'm gay too
    Dad: Well I'm here for both of you
    Daughter 3: I'm gay too
    Dad: DOES ANYONE IN THIS HOUSE LIKE BOYS
    Son: I do!

  • @robpriestley1784
    @robpriestley1784 8 ปีที่แล้ว +581

    Your really brave. In time, I think he will be proud of you. He should be.

    • @papasmurf1904
      @papasmurf1904 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes.........indeed! =)

    • @garygary9310
      @garygary9310 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Rob Priestley Rob I agree with you his dad should be so proud of him! Wish his Dad would have hugged him and said he loved him no matter what.It took guts to tell his dad!

    • @abbeskold140
      @abbeskold140 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Rob Priestley you're

    • @kieranpatricklarkin2838
      @kieranpatricklarkin2838 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Rob Priestley why should his dad be proud of him for being into a certain gender. I'm pretty sure my parents shouldnt proud of me for being straight.

    • @abbeskold140
      @abbeskold140 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I belive they meant that they should be proud that he had the courage to come out.

  • @jsizzlemackashizzle8944
    @jsizzlemackashizzle8944 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The dad couldnt tell? I knew the second homeboy came on screen

  • @liversinthefridge
    @liversinthefridge 8 ปีที่แล้ว +314

    He just needs a minute. He seems to be far more shocked than anything. I'm sure after a few days and some heavy thinking he'll come around. I bet he just finds it awkward to talk about because he never expected it was an issue he'd need to think about, especially about someone so close to him (like a son).
    It's gotta be tough to have you Dad react like that but don't count him out yet.
    He might just never mention it again, so just bring it up sometime after the awkwardness goes away if you want to talk about it. (If he doesn't mention it again, that is)

    • @brama100
      @brama100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The description says that it's been a year and his dad is pretty much the same way. His dad is a huge douche. They clearly were never close... a real decent father would grow the fuck up an embrace his son after a whole year.

    • @tintinismybelgian
      @tintinismybelgian 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Knowing that your son will likely never have kids of his own has got to be rough.

    • @jayventi
      @jayventi 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      tintinismybelgian why would his son never have kids of his own ? Being gay automatically means you arent able to reproduce ?

    • @tintinismybelgian
      @tintinismybelgian 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      con_ending234 You cannot reproduce with the one you love if the one you love is of the same sex. Two ladies with two sets of ovaries cannot do it together, and neither can two dudes with two sets of testes. It's called biology.

    • @brama100
      @brama100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      tintinismybelgian We know all that. Not every human on earth needs or wants to be a human cockroach and have more babies and over populate the earth even more.

  • @Adam-lt4fx
    @Adam-lt4fx 7 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    If my son turned round and said this to me (assuming by some miracle i didn't already know) the first thing id say back would be "like that fucking matters" lol :')

    • @gokillyoself8461
      @gokillyoself8461 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Adam Cole says a man who live in country where gay is legal

    • @azeavers6039
      @azeavers6039 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      MrHappyAdjustableSpanners the only thing i'd say about that is you don't wanna make the child feel like u dont care at all... a better response would be 'i still love you'

  • @yourtravelswithbruce
    @yourtravelswithbruce 8 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Give your dad some time, i'm sure he has A LOT of questions and in some way may blame himself. It took you a long time to admit it to yourself and it will take him time.

    • @brama100
      @brama100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The video was filmed over a year ago. How much time does a person need? The father is just a dick.

    • @carnault1
      @carnault1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Blame himself for what? He didn’t do anything wrong and he was born that way

    • @Marcopolo1254_
      @Marcopolo1254_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@carnault1 some parents blame themselves for their child being gay

  • @mylifefornick
    @mylifefornick 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That moment at 2:12 when he said "I don't prefer it" and they both laugh breaks my heart so much. He was so brave to tell his father, and all he wanted was to be accepted and his father just joked about it. How disheartening, and cold. I hope his father can open his eyes, and see what a great young man he has. Love and light.

  • @elliotmorgan6142
    @elliotmorgan6142 8 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Sweetheart, you are really brave and deserving of approval. Even if he doesn't approve it doesn't matter. I'm sorry he isn't being supportive, but you always have your subscribers and other people in your life. Congratulations 🎉!

    • @mychemicalromancetrash8673
      @mychemicalromancetrash8673 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lauren Morgan
      This is totally uncalled for, but I fucking love your profile picture-

    • @frostfire5625
      @frostfire5625 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      [My Chemical Romance Trash] sorry but I don't really see how Lauren's comment is uncalled for? Am I missing something?

    • @AppleOfThineEye
      @AppleOfThineEye 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      frostfire
      He said "this" is uncalled for, implying his reply.

    • @Carfilliot
      @Carfilliot 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lauren Morgan but he has his subsribers lmfao wtf?! Get real love, if he ends up on the street are his subscribers going to open their door to him and offer him a place to stay? Why did this gay boy even have to film such a pivotal moment in his life? He’s telling his father he enjoys other boys cocks being inserted up his anal passage and the dad is supposed to what...hug him and say it’s normal?!!!

    • @AppleOfThineEye
      @AppleOfThineEye 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Carfilliot If your son or daughter came out and uploaded the result, I don't think you'd still be a free man.
      Try putting yourself in their shoes.

  • @screamshout
    @screamshout 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He handled this so gracefully. The son, that is. The father just looked like he didn't know how to handle it because he's never dealt with such a thing. But omg his son so eloquentally handled it, and I hope that there only lead to more understanding!

  • @poodlestyle33
    @poodlestyle33 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for sharing, it helps to see other people go through the awkwardness and unpleasant experiences too. I am sorry he isn't as supportive and happy as he should be, our parent/s' acceptance is so important to us.

  • @Nepthu
    @Nepthu 7 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I think it's really fucked up to give people this news and video tape them. This should be a private moment between parent and child. Also, most parents are probably disappointed that their child is gay. They may not hate the child, but it's not their preference.

    • @chloezaffuto6167
      @chloezaffuto6167 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Nepthu this could inspire other people and help other people in the closet like myself so honestly if you're not here for help or to support it then just leave. Ok that's all.

    • @chloezaffuto6167
      @chloezaffuto6167 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Nepthu I'm not just talking about myself you idiot I'm talking about thousands or even millions of people who could see this video and be helped. So if you're not here to help or encourage people then please leave. Thanks.

    • @Nepthu
      @Nepthu 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Chloe, I'm here to stand up for the PARENTS, not YOU. You have enough support from the billion LGBTQ organizations out there. If you can't understand that this isn't cool, you're an idiot. Please LEAVE and report to your nearest LGBTQ center for all the support you'll ever need. Meanwhile, no one sticks up for the parents whose privacy is being violated by their own child. Now please LEAVE.

    • @chloezaffuto6167
      @chloezaffuto6167 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Nepthu The parents don't have to struggle with who they are everyday it's not the parents issue to worry about their kids sexuality. If someone wants to record their parents while telling them they have every right to. The parents don't need anyone to stick up for them this obviously shows how you're trying to hide the fact they you're homophobic and just want to hate on this kid because he's gay. Honestly I've never heard anyone worried because the parents were being filmed in a coming out video. This is a place for support and loving each other so obviously you don't belong here. Also you cant speak for anyone if you're not going through it yourself so shut the fuck up because you sound like an ignorant asshole.

    • @Timrath
      @Timrath 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You don't do charity work on the backs of others. Whether other people might benefit from the video is irrelevant when it comes to the father's right for privacy. You don't make a public spectacle out of your parents.
      And one other thing:
      "just leave."
      You don't get to tell people to leave. Who do you think you are?

  • @papasmurf1904
    @papasmurf1904 8 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    That had to be tough. =/ Be strong, live your life, and be the **Awesome** person that God created......just as you are! *Hugs!*

    • @sumagillyrian6593
      @sumagillyrian6593 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That "God" created you lol, God is goung to burn him.

    • @brianmccarthy1738
      @brianmccarthy1738 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      go shit in your hat.

    • @countdooku6320
      @countdooku6320 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nej nej nej och åter nej its okay, I understand you're confused

    • @savannahgamble1410
      @savannahgamble1410 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nej nej nej och åter nej I completely agree with you. There is no god. And slowly by surely the world is becoming less and less religious and the number of Atheists are growing. Hopefully it's only a matter of time before religion starts to disappear.

    • @maximusdellaporta6444
      @maximusdellaporta6444 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Gods not real. Sorry to break it to you now. Everything points to the fact that "it" does not exist

  • @petec6159
    @petec6159 7 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    This should have been a private conversation. IMHO.

    • @stevenjones4059
      @stevenjones4059 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's a major issue with the lgbt community they always put their business out their for the entire world to hear only to bitch when certain feedback hits them away they don't like it . This should've been something he told his father just between them it was disrespectful of him .

    • @MariaObama89
      @MariaObama89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Maybe just in case sometimes Parents go While so is an assurance for them.

    • @anonymousfish7010
      @anonymousfish7010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@stevenjones4059 That's not why they do it dumbo. It's to give other Lgbtq+ a little vision of some sort of experience on what to expect. It can also give other confidence on coming out ASAP instead of having ppl find out on their own.
      What do you know?? You shouldn't be acting like that.

    • @stevenjones4059
      @stevenjones4059 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@anonymousfish7010 Hey dipshit it's personal for them & like I said they should've told him in private it's not the rest of the world's business what they are so why make it that way .

    • @ZanDoEnergyArts
      @ZanDoEnergyArts 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Steven Jones So why do you watch it, dipshit?

  • @camrynversace269
    @camrynversace269 7 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    i wish you all the best, and OMG your like smile is so damn cute!!

  • @arsaeterna4285
    @arsaeterna4285 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I cry for every man who has to act straight
    can't wait for the day the majority of gay kids can just be themselves

  • @jamjames1971
    @jamjames1971 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Congrats hun I know its hard but you did it and your aging. I could never tell my parents that I was gay so I waited till they passed away to come out hugs to you hun

  • @ramaisdazzling4474
    @ramaisdazzling4474 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    oh my gosh, he was so shocked. hey but you are a strong person to say this to your parents. good job!

  • @kateballiya1776
    @kateballiya1776 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Stay strong! Lots of love !

  • @kevinbriegel7292
    @kevinbriegel7292 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I commend you for your strength, you put yourself out there in a vulnerable situation, that takes a courage!

  • @papasmurf1904
    @papasmurf1904 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    That was a really, really, really *awesome* video dude! I wish you a very long, prosperous, and fulfilling LIFE!!! *Hugs!* =)

  • @scottm8285
    @scottm8285 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Since my kids were little I've always told them I don't care who they bring home to meet me as long as that person treats them right and makes them happy. None of my kids have come out as being gay (yet) and I don't think any are, but I always wanted them to know their love would always be accepted in my house.

  • @afunkymonkey8448
    @afunkymonkey8448 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    my brother didn't even really come out to me like we were in my room smoking a bowl and then he was like "hold on gotta text the boyfriend" (not an actual boyfriend but a guy he liked) and i was just like ha alright and that was it lmao it was no big deal

    • @musiq3109
      @musiq3109 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      m dwsn you guys must be that cool with each other lol

  • @l56700
    @l56700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He slowly dying inside and asking himself , WHY ? Why did it happen to my son ?
    And i totally understand him. What a brutal and sad shock...

  • @cb034
    @cb034 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    wow no lead up, just ripped the bandaid right off. i'm so proud that you had the courage to do that (i'm still too nervous to do it/0

  • @jburnley9234
    @jburnley9234 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I could only imagine how much strength and courage this took! Even though his reaction was difficult to accept, you are still honest with who you are and tried to be understanding of how he felt even though close minded. Thank you for being so open and sharing this!

  • @johnjoe6291
    @johnjoe6291 7 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I find it odd that people use their sexuality to try and get attention on the internet. The father in this clip clearly feels that the camera was unnecessary and to be very honest I don't blame him as this is a conversation with his dad that should take much greater importance than TH-cam views.

    • @greenamogus
      @greenamogus 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Im not even homo, I dont know how I ended in this part of TH-cam, but it's called freedom of speech and everyone is entitled to it as long as they don't harm anyone. With your comment, you just gave him more attention. He can do whatever he wants with his youtube channel. Good day.

    • @BTURNER1961
      @BTURNER1961 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am 'homo'. The point may be that it can appear disrespectful and unfair to the father, not that it is illegal. You are defining this choice to film this and post it as an entitlement. So I suppose it depends on the circumstances under which he got 'Dad's permission to post this and how one defines that noun. I know I would never even consider filming this in the first place. @@greenamogus

    • @jkoneman
      @jkoneman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They do it because so many out there are struggling with when/how to come out and what the reactions might be and just to see how others have done it. It gives those people strength and courage. Has nothing to do with views but to help others. Have you ever watched a cooking video or a video on how to make or fix something? Sure, it garners views; but it also helps others learn how to do something or makes them more confident doing it.

  • @mazzmatta
    @mazzmatta 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your a beautiful person. I felt your soul yearning to be comforted by your father and your quench for acceptance. Which you will be. Allow that intimate moment to happen with no camera. Much peace and light 😇

  • @sara.4140
    @sara.4140 7 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    How did he take it? Like, is he okay with it now? I wish you the best darling

  • @christinej.4404
    @christinej.4404 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I told my dad I liked girls about 2 years ago. He said he would love me no matter what. I tried to tell my mom last year, I knew it was going to be more difficult because she is very religious and doesn't like lgbt people. I mean, she doesn't mind having gay friends, but she doesn't want one in her family. When I told her she started to cry and told me that I didn't know what I was feeling, and at the end I said to her that she was right. But I know what I feel, and I'm gonna wait until I'm out of home and living an independent life, then I'll try to tell her again.

  • @juswuzz8929
    @juswuzz8929 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    bless ya dad but surprised? how could u not know. hope all goes well for u both.

  • @ngman5545
    @ngman5545 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You can see the total disbelief and disappointment in the dads face. All those years of hope , just taken away from him by a selfish son , I feel so sorry for this man and how let down he must feel that he grew up a gay!!

  • @NotusedaccountIwasborn
    @NotusedaccountIwasborn 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm gay. I told my mom she was ok with it. I don't have to worry about telling my dad he dosn"nt even live with me. my friends are ok with it. my teachers are ok with it. so I'm good oh yah this video inspired me to come out.

    • @TheBoyfriendChannel
      @TheBoyfriendChannel  7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Awesome! I'm so happy I could inspire someone! Glad everything went well for you :)

  • @lisalovell4144
    @lisalovell4144 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love that you are living your truth. I am sorry that you did not seem to get a lot of support from your Dad. I hope with time that he will realize that the only thing that has changed is that he now knows the truth and that he is proud of you for being so brave.

  • @thathappyrat
    @thathappyrat 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As soon as I saw that TEXAS shirt, I knew where this was going.

  • @seancollins6598
    @seancollins6598 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My first thought when I saw the thumbnail was “ look at you... it’s not a secret honey” but either way good on you for coming out. It’s definitely not an easy thing to do

  • @TheJakobRose
    @TheJakobRose 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I don't get why people say "well why do you say that" or "how do you know". like uhm idk i woke up a flaming homosexual with the desire to be discriminated against. Whatever, good luck man

  • @rickmora1977
    @rickmora1977 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    good for you mate..your parents will need time to digest that... but im hoping they still love you as their son...

  • @democratliberal833
    @democratliberal833 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Poor dad. That's terrible news.

  • @guidoromani4703
    @guidoromani4703 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    i told my dad yesterday and it was completely normal to him, i was terrified and i admire your bravery by doing this, it gets better! always

  • @skyrimesplorer
    @skyrimesplorer 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Holy fuuck...
    That akward silence killed me

  • @were-all-human9427
    @were-all-human9427 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your dad was clearly shocked and was more put out by the video equip., than your coming out- at least from what you showed us. I think his reaction was ok - no threats, no religious crap, no "you're not longer my son, get out", so.. as he had just been told, on camera, it seemed ok, maybe not the hugs and love you hoped for, remember, parents in this situation are learning and digesting, info you have had months or years to come to terms with - they are getting it 'cold' and may need space to digest... no hate here, just happy for you, that you're safe, and your dad seems ok. As you say above he has 'got better' abt the fact you're gay - all good - stay safe. Just found your channel Oct 2017, catching up. Please keep channel active, would love to watch you grow as you find a new bf and see how your life develops -the good and not so good. Life has its bumps... x

  • @dcd274
    @dcd274 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If you were truly looking for the "Shocked" reaction,, you should have told him you were straight. 🤣

  • @bharathikathireson3273
    @bharathikathireson3273 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This dad is more surprised and taken a back more than anything. He has a sense of humour and his reaction seems gentle. He handled it pretty well if u ask me. We have to understand too how he feels, he will need to take time to digest this and i think the camera/idea of TH-cam is what made it uncomfortable for him more than his son coming out. Give him time, he'll come around.

  • @Wyaldisthebestapostle
    @Wyaldisthebestapostle 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i have homophopic parent's and i am scared to death of coming out tbh any tips?

    • @julianvsrc
      @julianvsrc 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The Official Coming Out Song

    • @elementofsass8404
      @elementofsass8404 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      monster en just get it over with, trust me it's a huge weight off your shoulders. Maybe do it in a car near isn to home so if they make you get out and walk it's not to far. If they don't make you get out there's not much else they can do to you in a car. They should be calm enough to discuss it with you by the time you reach the destination! (This is just my opinion)

    • @Wickedthtz
      @Wickedthtz 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wait!!!!! Your folks have a fear of homosexuals????? 😲😲😲😲😲

    • @BTURNER1961
      @BTURNER1961 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well my first suggestion is not to make a youtube video of the scene and plaster it everywhere. It sort of turns this into your 'scene' to exploit as you see fit. No matter how you cut it, that marginalizes them as an actor for you, rather than a parent to you. Other than that, just pick your time carefully and summon some allies for support, if things go poorly, and control the circumstances as best you can.

  • @suzy-qtravels9202
    @suzy-qtravels9202 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awe the poor sweet man!! He was genuinely shocked!!

  • @ellenarchambault8526
    @ellenarchambault8526 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    gotta wonder that dad did not know. still not fair that son choose to film and post it for the world to see. no love given by son. unfair . took my dad a few years to get over his judgement. He did in amazing ways. .You should have done this privately. not gonna watch you ever again.

  • @adamweishaupt2846
    @adamweishaupt2846 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Surprised" "shocked" and "unexpected" were certainly not the words I expected to come out of the father's mouth!

  • @kingmobile7180
    @kingmobile7180 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Lol I saw the Texas shirt and that definitely made me click

  • @abbieangel1871
    @abbieangel1871 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is why having expectations of a person can be damaging to yourself and others. People have children and plan there lives out for them thinking they know how life will plan out.. If this was one of my children I wouldn't be shocked my children can grow up to be who they are and not be ashamed of it. as long as there not hurting/ harming anyone they are free to be who they want and know they are always wanted and loved.

  • @alexavasicek453
    @alexavasicek453 7 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Why was his reaction bad?

    • @thevioletskull8158
      @thevioletskull8158 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Alexa V because people are unepceting and not willing to listing but it didn't matter you just be yourself, you be better!

    • @Sulfen
      @Sulfen 7 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Markonah there are thousands of animals that are gay. Also, marriage isn't normal in the animal kingdom but we do it as humans.

    • @hellaawesome842
      @hellaawesome842 7 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Markonah honey the only thing that is "not normal" is your crazy ass, swamp water makeup.

    • @like-icecream
      @like-icecream 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey dad, I love dick...that's why. lol

    • @AppleOfThineEye
      @AppleOfThineEye 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The14thApostle
      Are you sure about that? I'd check your facts right quick.

  • @SeanShimamoto
    @SeanShimamoto 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing that. Yes, I had a very different reaction from my dad...and believe me, Japanese dad and dads from the south are pretty similar in their ideas of “being a man”...so I have a lot of friends whose dads weren’t okay with it. But it was really brave of you to share it, and you seem to be happy in your skin...which is all that really matters. 😁

  • @saelaird
    @saelaird 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I totally support people who swing the other way, they should be able to be themselves. But filming your fathers reaction? Really? Young guy has a strange smile throughout too.

  • @richierichnumber1
    @richierichnumber1 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So proud of you dude I never got the chance to tell my dad because he was an absent parent when it came to feelings or anything that personal.

  • @rebeccahopkins9522
    @rebeccahopkins9522 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    How about saying “I love you son, unconditionally, no matter what”; how about that??? You know when the camera turned off he probably gay bashed his kid.

    • @MrResources
      @MrResources 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Or you can not make assumptions like an idiot about what possibly happened?

    • @rebeccahopkins9522
      @rebeccahopkins9522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Vibe Lord Jae I wrote “probably”. Which makes it a hypothetical theory, NOT an assumption. Idiot.

  • @coraf2728
    @coraf2728 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I mean how did he not know? Literally one second of hearing him talk and I knew instantly tbh. My love and support goes out to you :) ❤️❤️

  • @donnieraveling188
    @donnieraveling188 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is a private matter and you make it public.

  • @juleniita199
    @juleniita199 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm sorry.
    I don't unterstand how People can have a Problem with that... And it's really brave that you stand to Who you Are :)

  • @polotwelv
    @polotwelv 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Give him time

  • @DJmetro1994
    @DJmetro1994 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    DUDE you can literally see the disappointment in his eyes, but then again he must be blind to not have seen it earlier😂

  • @anonymous-cx7ng
    @anonymous-cx7ng 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He can’t tell you’re gay from your voice? 😂

  • @deepblue1909
    @deepblue1909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    dad should've said " tell me some thing I don't know"

  • @ThatOneWeirdGal
    @ThatOneWeirdGal 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    how did he not figure out his child is gay? ....lol. I mean look at him...listen to him! I mean yes I know, some don't fit the stereotype but cmon

  • @reviewscentralchannel4162
    @reviewscentralchannel4162 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    “Shocked” “surprised”

  • @fob1xxl
    @fob1xxl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Unfortunately this is probably pretty typical. The first thing isn't "Don't worry son. I still love you". What a shame men can be a Dad, but never be a "Father" .

  • @antoniamills3000
    @antoniamills3000 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel sad for him... I hope his dad got over his shock and supports his son

  • @jeannejorgensen1230
    @jeannejorgensen1230 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “Why do you say that?” Is he kidding??

  • @marvingarciaiv1242
    @marvingarciaiv1242 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey, hang in there! I'm proud of you for being who you are and owning up to it enough to say it to your father.

  • @sophiaclaxton9865
    @sophiaclaxton9865 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Dude you are creepy af

  • @daniellasanchez5830
    @daniellasanchez5830 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    On the bright side.... your outro song is life

  • @sandibraymer5840
    @sandibraymer5840 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I watched this for 3 seconds and I knew. How is dad shocked??? All will be well. I think Dad took it quite well. Good luck and best wishes.😊😊

  • @jerrysmith7449
    @jerrysmith7449 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your Dad handled it pretty well, seeing as how it was a complete surprise to him. And he probably didn't like being recorded - but that's a natural generation thing, I think. I'm gay and wish that his response had been more accepting but everyone's response will be different. So long as he hasn't been abusive, I' call this a "win" for you. We viewers don't anything about you or your parents backgrounds so it's hard for me to judge his reaction. Bottom line - I hope that things are OK now. Take care and best wishes for happiness!!

  • @amymamabear5227
    @amymamabear5227 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    How could they not know? I don’t even know him and I would know he was! But good job, you were strong and confident!

  • @sewbee5222
    @sewbee5222 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t know any parent that want that for their child ..but I hope they all continue to show and give their flesh and blood love. That’s a rough one.

  • @cleondelmavros734
    @cleondelmavros734 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well a reaction like this in Egypt would be the best thing that could ever happen , trust me I deeply wish my parents reacted that way , it would have been perfect ... BUT this guy is brave he wasn't hesitant or shaky which is amazing 💙🌷

  • @zackpoling9662
    @zackpoling9662 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    That couldn't have been more awkward! I mean, when I came out to my dad, it was very awkward with him as well, but this was much more awkward! I'm very happy for you for coming out! I hope you are happy with yourself and your life! I wish nothing but the best!

  • @RFDeStefano
    @RFDeStefano 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This kid has such a cute face and beautiful eyes. He is a cutie. I hope he has a happy life.

  • @allenrobin6900
    @allenrobin6900 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As a parent and grandmother I just don't get it! My family is so close that I knew my childrens sexual orientation before they did.. and now the new generation as well. We accept each other and love each other no matter what. Thank God above that none in this family have ever felt such fear over a family members reaction to any sexual issue. My heart breaks for kids growing up with fear over a reaction to something that is such a big part of them and who they are and what makes them happy.

  • @mads4674
    @mads4674 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "I don't prefer it" WHAT DO YOU MEAAANNNNNN

  • @curtisyue182
    @curtisyue182 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    His reaction was hard to watch, but a chill went through my body when you told him you were recording it for TH-cam.

  • @1piece473
    @1piece473 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why do i love watching these coming out videos?

  • @dylandunn1059
    @dylandunn1059 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    for his circumstances he handled that better than most people would

  • @moonmoon8636
    @moonmoon8636 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm youre 900 subscriber! and hey! don't worry about it be strong you are the bravest ! you were able to tell youre parent! great job! don't worry!

  • @sohappyicoulddie8038
    @sohappyicoulddie8038 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I Hope My Dad was as Open Minded as his dad seemed to be 😭😭💘

  • @THE_CRYPT0_C0LLECT0R
    @THE_CRYPT0_C0LLECT0R 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    even though he might not have liked the fact that you like who you like, but your happiness comes first. Everyone else's opinion is just that, an opinion.

  • @jcooley2475
    @jcooley2475 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Be strong my beautiful person!!