My heart broke for this boy. I'm not a mother yet but if ever any of my future kids were to tell me they were gay, my first instinct would be to take them in my arms and remind them that I love them to the ends of the earth no matter what
@@sarahaconnor5167 I’m so sorry 💔 some people don’t deserve to have children, and your mother is one of them. I’d be so proud of you if you were my daughter ❤️ stay true to yourself. Remember that you’re perfect just the way you are. 🏳️🌈
@@anishussain7093 Okay well I respect your opinion. However, along with Sarah’s mother, I have just added you to the list of people who don’t deserve to have children. I’m longing to be a mother. I’ll love my child just the way he/she is. Have a great day!
JabbaDuhHut Some people are too deep in their way of thinking that they are unable to see things in any other way. I call it being a delusional basket case.
It was difficult to watch; but it’s the route taken by many coming out stories. I think that he loves his son and was ill equipped (in 2016) to hear the message and devise a reply; that the conversation was being recorded didn’t help matters. Mom will help Dad understand. I bet everything was OK after a while- but definitely not THAT afternoon.
My parents were ordering pizza when I came out. I was like "Mum, dad I'm gay!" They were like "Yeah we know, do you want deep pan or thin crust?" I think I had it easy
Well his reaction wasn't bad, he was just a little shocked. He looked like he would get used to it. I guess that he didn't say much because of the camera.
His dad's reaction wasn't bad. But I think he was in denial. His son is very feminine . My parents always knew but it was obvious because I played with dolls and did a lot of girly things.
this kid is scared and nervous, but he's a soldier. he handles it very well, from the moment he hears his dad's steps coming to the room to when the silence hits.
Could tell by the voice and such Could tell the dad had reservations :( but not anger :). Is he ok with it ..... Says doesn't prefer it. Bad answer kinda why u smiling at that hmm Ur lovely tho. Such a gentle voice
So I should assume you're dumb because you're blonde? You cannot base an opinion or label a person off of stereotypes, that's not fair and more than discriminatory.
Ikr. You could cut the tension with a knife. My heart sank the moment I saw the Texas shirt. It's just a dead giveaway that the reaction wasn't going to be good. Although it wasn't ideal, I'm just glad the kid didn't get physically assaulted, rejected, or abandoned (as far as I know).
That wasn't really a bad reaction. More of a neutral one. You could see he was processing and digesting. To put it in perspective, most fathers craft a future in their minds of who/what they want their sons to be. Slightly older generations never really even consider the possibilities of sexuality. That was definitely a reaction that leaves room for discourse and understanding.
Jonta Hall I agree. As a mom, I have this vision of my daughter growing up.....will she get married, have kids? That would all come crashing down if she told me she was gay...that vision I've had for so many years would just blow up in my face. So it would take some time to rework that vision and come down from the shock of it all.
Not exactly a neutral reaction. It's pretty hurtful and stress-inducing when your loved one doesn't see you react positively immediately and give you support and acceptance. Every LGBTQIA+ person wants to be fully accepted by their loved ones when they first come out.
Daughter 1: Dad I'm gay Dad: Well I'm here for you alright Daughter 2: I'm gay too Dad: Well I'm here for both of you Daughter 3: I'm gay too Dad: DOES ANYONE IN THIS HOUSE LIKE BOYS Son: I do!
Honestly, I didn't see anything to complain about in your dad. He is clearly shocked and taken aback. He seems unprepared for the gravity of your revelation and probably also uncomfortable that he is on camera to be seen by thousands of strangers in a private, intimate, family moment. I don't blame him. You kept smiling at him nervously trying to get him to react more, but he gave you the best he could in the moment. He looked a lot more uncomfortable than you tbh.
The problem with your way of thinking is: why would a coming out be a grave situation? Why would your own dad be uncomfortable with other people would think just because they're watching it? Why can't you be a man AND talk about your feelings? This is what you should be asking, and not being sympathetic with this box mindset parent is thinking about.
Why would coming out be grave? Ask Matthew Shepard. A lot of well-meaning parents worry about how difficult their child’s life is going to be, how they will deal with discrimination or worse. It is easier to be straight than gay.
Give your dad some time, i'm sure he has A LOT of questions and in some way may blame himself. It took you a long time to admit it to yourself and it will take him time.
Rob Priestley Rob I agree with you his dad should be so proud of him! Wish his Dad would have hugged him and said he loved him no matter what.It took guts to tell his dad!
That moment at 2:12 when he said "I don't prefer it" and they both laugh breaks my heart so much. He was so brave to tell his father, and all he wanted was to be accepted and his father just joked about it. How disheartening, and cold. I hope his father can open his eyes, and see what a great young man he has. Love and light.
He just needs a minute. He seems to be far more shocked than anything. I'm sure after a few days and some heavy thinking he'll come around. I bet he just finds it awkward to talk about because he never expected it was an issue he'd need to think about, especially about someone so close to him (like a son). It's gotta be tough to have you Dad react like that but don't count him out yet. He might just never mention it again, so just bring it up sometime after the awkwardness goes away if you want to talk about it. (If he doesn't mention it again, that is)
The description says that it's been a year and his dad is pretty much the same way. His dad is a huge douche. They clearly were never close... a real decent father would grow the fuck up an embrace his son after a whole year.
con_ending234 You cannot reproduce with the one you love if the one you love is of the same sex. Two ladies with two sets of ovaries cannot do it together, and neither can two dudes with two sets of testes. It's called biology.
tintinismybelgian We know all that. Not every human on earth needs or wants to be a human cockroach and have more babies and over populate the earth even more.
If my son turned round and said this to me (assuming by some miracle i didn't already know) the first thing id say back would be "like that fucking matters" lol :')
MrHappyAdjustableSpanners the only thing i'd say about that is you don't wanna make the child feel like u dont care at all... a better response would be 'i still love you'
He handled this so gracefully. The son, that is. The father just looked like he didn't know how to handle it because he's never dealt with such a thing. But omg his son so eloquentally handled it, and I hope that there only lead to more understanding!
Thank you for sharing, it helps to see other people go through the awkwardness and unpleasant experiences too. I am sorry he isn't as supportive and happy as he should be, our parent/s' acceptance is so important to us.
Sweetheart, you are really brave and deserving of approval. Even if he doesn't approve it doesn't matter. I'm sorry he isn't being supportive, but you always have your subscribers and other people in your life. Congratulations 🎉!
Lauren Morgan but he has his subsribers lmfao wtf?! Get real love, if he ends up on the street are his subscribers going to open their door to him and offer him a place to stay? Why did this gay boy even have to film such a pivotal moment in his life? He’s telling his father he enjoys other boys cocks being inserted up his anal passage and the dad is supposed to what...hug him and say it’s normal?!!!
Congrats hun I know its hard but you did it and your aging. I could never tell my parents that I was gay so I waited till they passed away to come out hugs to you hun
Nej nej nej och åter nej I completely agree with you. There is no god. And slowly by surely the world is becoming less and less religious and the number of Atheists are growing. Hopefully it's only a matter of time before religion starts to disappear.
I think it's really fucked up to give people this news and video tape them. This should be a private moment between parent and child. Also, most parents are probably disappointed that their child is gay. They may not hate the child, but it's not their preference.
Nepthu this could inspire other people and help other people in the closet like myself so honestly if you're not here for help or to support it then just leave. Ok that's all.
Nepthu I'm not just talking about myself you idiot I'm talking about thousands or even millions of people who could see this video and be helped. So if you're not here to help or encourage people then please leave. Thanks.
Chloe, I'm here to stand up for the PARENTS, not YOU. You have enough support from the billion LGBTQ organizations out there. If you can't understand that this isn't cool, you're an idiot. Please LEAVE and report to your nearest LGBTQ center for all the support you'll ever need. Meanwhile, no one sticks up for the parents whose privacy is being violated by their own child. Now please LEAVE.
Nepthu The parents don't have to struggle with who they are everyday it's not the parents issue to worry about their kids sexuality. If someone wants to record their parents while telling them they have every right to. The parents don't need anyone to stick up for them this obviously shows how you're trying to hide the fact they you're homophobic and just want to hate on this kid because he's gay. Honestly I've never heard anyone worried because the parents were being filmed in a coming out video. This is a place for support and loving each other so obviously you don't belong here. Also you cant speak for anyone if you're not going through it yourself so shut the fuck up because you sound like an ignorant asshole.
You don't do charity work on the backs of others. Whether other people might benefit from the video is irrelevant when it comes to the father's right for privacy. You don't make a public spectacle out of your parents. And one other thing: "just leave." You don't get to tell people to leave. Who do you think you are?
I could only imagine how much strength and courage this took! Even though his reaction was difficult to accept, you are still honest with who you are and tried to be understanding of how he felt even though close minded. Thank you for being so open and sharing this!
That's a major issue with the lgbt community they always put their business out their for the entire world to hear only to bitch when certain feedback hits them away they don't like it . This should've been something he told his father just between them it was disrespectful of him .
@@stevenjones4059 That's not why they do it dumbo. It's to give other Lgbtq+ a little vision of some sort of experience on what to expect. It can also give other confidence on coming out ASAP instead of having ppl find out on their own. What do you know?? You shouldn't be acting like that.
@@anonymousfish7010 Hey dipshit it's personal for them & like I said they should've told him in private it's not the rest of the world's business what they are so why make it that way .
I love that you are living your truth. I am sorry that you did not seem to get a lot of support from your Dad. I hope with time that he will realize that the only thing that has changed is that he now knows the truth and that he is proud of you for being so brave.
Your a beautiful person. I felt your soul yearning to be comforted by your father and your quench for acceptance. Which you will be. Allow that intimate moment to happen with no camera. Much peace and light 😇
"Are you okay with it?" "Well, I don't prefer it" Well, I'm sure he would prefer you to love him the same, sir. You are a terrible dad here for punishing him for something that isn't bad at all and that he has no control over. Don't let anyone make you feel like it's worse for you to be queer than straight. Because it really isn't.
my brother didn't even really come out to me like we were in my room smoking a bowl and then he was like "hold on gotta text the boyfriend" (not an actual boyfriend but a guy he liked) and i was just like ha alright and that was it lmao it was no big deal
I find it odd that people use their sexuality to try and get attention on the internet. The father in this clip clearly feels that the camera was unnecessary and to be very honest I don't blame him as this is a conversation with his dad that should take much greater importance than TH-cam views.
Im not even homo, I dont know how I ended in this part of TH-cam, but it's called freedom of speech and everyone is entitled to it as long as they don't harm anyone. With your comment, you just gave him more attention. He can do whatever he wants with his youtube channel. Good day.
I am 'homo'. The point may be that it can appear disrespectful and unfair to the father, not that it is illegal. You are defining this choice to film this and post it as an entitlement. So I suppose it depends on the circumstances under which he got 'Dad's permission to post this and how one defines that noun. I know I would never even consider filming this in the first place. @@greenamogus
They do it because so many out there are struggling with when/how to come out and what the reactions might be and just to see how others have done it. It gives those people strength and courage. Has nothing to do with views but to help others. Have you ever watched a cooking video or a video on how to make or fix something? Sure, it garners views; but it also helps others learn how to do something or makes them more confident doing it.
I'm gay. I told my mom she was ok with it. I don't have to worry about telling my dad he dosn"nt even live with me. my friends are ok with it. my teachers are ok with it. so I'm good oh yah this video inspired me to come out.
I don't get why people say "well why do you say that" or "how do you know". like uhm idk i woke up a flaming homosexual with the desire to be discriminated against. Whatever, good luck man
Since my kids were little I've always told them I don't care who they bring home to meet me as long as that person treats them right and makes them happy. None of my kids have come out as being gay (yet) and I don't think any are, but I always wanted them to know their love would always be accepted in my house.
gotta wonder that dad did not know. still not fair that son choose to film and post it for the world to see. no love given by son. unfair . took my dad a few years to get over his judgement. He did in amazing ways. .You should have done this privately. not gonna watch you ever again.
It makes me so sad to see a parent not look at their child the same after they come out. It's like they think they are an alian and not "normal" to their standards. This is why I've been holding off on telling my parents that I'm bi even though thank god they aren't Christian like my grandma.
I told my dad I liked girls about 2 years ago. He said he would love me no matter what. I tried to tell my mom last year, I knew it was going to be more difficult because she is very religious and doesn't like lgbt people. I mean, she doesn't mind having gay friends, but she doesn't want one in her family. When I told her she started to cry and told me that I didn't know what I was feeling, and at the end I said to her that she was right. But I know what I feel, and I'm gonna wait until I'm out of home and living an independent life, then I'll try to tell her again.
Your dad was clearly shocked and was more put out by the video equip., than your coming out- at least from what you showed us. I think his reaction was ok - no threats, no religious crap, no "you're not longer my son, get out", so.. as he had just been told, on camera, it seemed ok, maybe not the hugs and love you hoped for, remember, parents in this situation are learning and digesting, info you have had months or years to come to terms with - they are getting it 'cold' and may need space to digest... no hate here, just happy for you, that you're safe, and your dad seems ok. As you say above he has 'got better' abt the fact you're gay - all good - stay safe. Just found your channel Oct 2017, catching up. Please keep channel active, would love to watch you grow as you find a new bf and see how your life develops -the good and not so good. Life has its bumps... x
monster en just get it over with, trust me it's a huge weight off your shoulders. Maybe do it in a car near isn to home so if they make you get out and walk it's not to far. If they don't make you get out there's not much else they can do to you in a car. They should be calm enough to discuss it with you by the time you reach the destination! (This is just my opinion)
Well my first suggestion is not to make a youtube video of the scene and plaster it everywhere. It sort of turns this into your 'scene' to exploit as you see fit. No matter how you cut it, that marginalizes them as an actor for you, rather than a parent to you. Other than that, just pick your time carefully and summon some allies for support, if things go poorly, and control the circumstances as best you can.
How about saying “I love you son, unconditionally, no matter what”; how about that??? You know when the camera turned off he probably gay bashed his kid.
Thank you for sharing that. Yes, I had a very different reaction from my dad...and believe me, Japanese dad and dads from the south are pretty similar in their ideas of “being a man”...so I have a lot of friends whose dads weren’t okay with it. But it was really brave of you to share it, and you seem to be happy in your skin...which is all that really matters. 😁
I totally support people who swing the other way, they should be able to be themselves. But filming your fathers reaction? Really? Young guy has a strange smile throughout too.
My first thought when I saw the thumbnail was “ look at you... it’s not a secret honey” but either way good on you for coming out. It’s definitely not an easy thing to do
The parents were shocked??? Give me a break! Nice dad, nice boy, but come on! When Dad said, "Are you serious?" I thought he was going to say, "Are you serious? You really think I didn't already know?"
Well a reaction like this in Egypt would be the best thing that could ever happen , trust me I deeply wish my parents reacted that way , it would have been perfect ... BUT this guy is brave he wasn't hesitant or shaky which is amazing 💙🌷
Unfortunately this is probably pretty typical. The first thing isn't "Don't worry son. I still love you". What a shame men can be a Dad, but never be a "Father" .
That couldn't have been more awkward! I mean, when I came out to my dad, it was very awkward with him as well, but this was much more awkward! I'm very happy for you for coming out! I hope you are happy with yourself and your life! I wish nothing but the best!
even though he might not have liked the fact that you like who you like, but your happiness comes first. Everyone else's opinion is just that, an opinion.
Haha dad's reaction wasn't bad at all! "Why do you say that?" to "I'm Gay" had me burst. "So why all the bright lights?" THE ZINGERS PPL You can see that he's reflecting when you ask him if he's okay. Parents often can feel that it was something they did. So the initial hurt is that they see themselves as having failed. Once they realize that this isn't the case, it's easier to accept. :) My coming out wasn't all butterflies and I'd have to say this one wasn't too bad! I hope your family continues to love.
Can't see what difference it makes to a parent if their child is gay or straight. What my child does in her bed is her business not mine, either way she's still my child that won't wash the dishes, wants money for nothing, and slams the door when she hears the word "NO!" Her sexuality is irrelevant to me.
This dad is more surprised and taken a back more than anything. He has a sense of humour and his reaction seems gentle. He handled it pretty well if u ask me. We have to understand too how he feels, he will need to take time to digest this and i think the camera/idea of TH-cam is what made it uncomfortable for him more than his son coming out. Give him time, he'll come around.
Your Dad handled it pretty well, seeing as how it was a complete surprise to him. And he probably didn't like being recorded - but that's a natural generation thing, I think. I'm gay and wish that his response had been more accepting but everyone's response will be different. So long as he hasn't been abusive, I' call this a "win" for you. We viewers don't anything about you or your parents backgrounds so it's hard for me to judge his reaction. Bottom line - I hope that things are OK now. Take care and best wishes for happiness!!
Wow, "dad" really had his 'head in the sand' if he didn't know the son was gay. It's hard to believe that some parents are so freaking clueless. I hope things are better with your parents. They were "Okay" with your hair and eye color, why not with your sexuality? I hope they have become more educated by 2019!
the second i saw that texas shirt i knew he wasn't gonna be okay with it
Looool I said the saaaame exact thing as his dad came into the frame!
James Stevens haha same and I live in Texas!😂
Was just about too comment that...
James Stevens sameee bro
James Stevens
Well, you thought wrong... lol
My heart broke for this boy. I'm not a mother yet but if ever any of my future kids were to tell me they were gay, my first instinct would be to take them in my arms and remind them that I love them to the ends of the earth no matter what
My mother told me I’ve “embarrassed the family”
@@sarahaconnor5167 I’m so sorry 💔 some people don’t deserve to have children, and your mother is one of them. I’d be so proud of you if you were my daughter ❤️ stay true to yourself. Remember that you’re perfect just the way you are. 🏳️🌈
@@anishussain7093 Okay well I respect your opinion. However, along with Sarah’s mother, I have just added you to the list of people who don’t deserve to have children. I’m longing to be a mother. I’ll love my child just the way he/she is. Have a great day!
Sarah she's right
Well I wasn't replying to you so your obviously hurt. And I have kids
i think older people are blind when it comes to noticing the lgbt cuz i took one look at this boy and i done knew he is gay! lol
nickoli singh huh hurrrrrr!
Parker Crossing we love gays
nickoli singh same 😂😂😂😂😂😂I'm gay myself and my mom and her bf accepts me
soon everyone will realize gay love is the best lol
nickoli singh Yes So true thxxx for the compliments they really make me happy I'm PROUD TO BE GAY
Here is a story because why not?
Daughter: Dad im a lesbian
Sister: Me too..
Dad: Wow is there anyone in this house that likes boys?!?
Brother: I do!
K-pop Trashue
I already know that joke 😂
That is great
Thats a good one
Lmfaoooo thats funny
angie k lol😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
Unexpected? Um, OK.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, right?
exactly, I was being sarcastic. It was totally expected.
JabbaDuhHut Some people are too deep in their way of thinking that they are unable to see things in any other way. I call it being a delusional basket case.
I want to like your comment but it’s 666
Lmao these comments got me ded
You can feel the disappointment in his eyes
yes his eye tell different than he said
I would be hella disappointed i wouldnt talk to my son
@@hervisdaubeny2644 Then you'd be a shit parent.
I'd be disappointed asf too if my son was gay. I wouldn't stop talking to him but I'd feel like I failed as a father.
@@hervisdaubeny2644 I would hope you don't for being a terrible father and I hope he find better people to be with
that was hard to watch
"you can turn that off,"......"okay"
citycat it was
yeah!
It was difficult to watch; but it’s the route taken by many coming out stories. I think that he loves his son and was ill equipped (in 2016) to hear the message and devise a reply; that the conversation was being recorded didn’t help matters.
Mom will help Dad understand. I bet everything was OK after a while- but definitely not THAT afternoon.
My parents were ordering pizza when I came out. I was like "Mum, dad I'm gay!"
They were like "Yeah we know, do you want deep pan or thin crust?"
I think I had it easy
You had it so easy lol
I'm a gay man and I recently came out to my mom
Congratulations, I'm glad it went so well for you. So, what kind of pizza crust did you get?
@@annoynomisviewer3496 🤢🤮🤮
Well his reaction wasn't bad, he was just a little shocked. He looked like he would get used to it. I guess that he didn't say much because of the camera.
RoamingScizor ture
RoamingScizor I mean his reaction was a lot better than my parents' reaction XD
His dad was so hunky
Chriz Luxio nooo he looked like a wierd zombie
His dad's reaction wasn't bad. But I think he was in denial. His son is very feminine . My parents always knew but it was obvious because I played with dolls and did a lot of girly things.
this kid is scared and nervous, but he's a soldier. he handles it very well, from the moment he hears his dad's steps coming to the room to when the silence hits.
Could tell by the voice and such
Could tell the dad had reservations :( but not anger :). Is he ok with it .....
Says doesn't prefer it. Bad answer kinda why u smiling at that hmm
Ur lovely tho. Such a gentle voice
How could his parents have not known he was gay? His mannerisms etc... I think they both knew but were in denial.
So I should assume you're dumb because you're blonde? You cannot base an opinion or label a person off of stereotypes, that's not fair and more than discriminatory.
Jake Erney it’s pretty obvious though, if your son spoke like that wouldn’t you assume he was gay I mean come on
@@aviationdylan3353 yes he's very camp they must have both suspected it
@@jakeerney6186 dont be a dumbass its the most accurate stereotype so dont be a little bitch about it
Exactly. Its painfully obvious lol
My heart breaks for this kid. I'm sitting here screaming at thus video for Dad to just hug him & tell him you love him.
Ikr. You could cut the tension with a knife. My heart sank the moment I saw the Texas shirt. It's just a dead giveaway that the reaction wasn't going to be good. Although it wasn't ideal, I'm just glad the kid didn't get physically assaulted, rejected, or abandoned (as far as I know).
That wasn't really a bad reaction. More of a neutral one. You could see he was processing and digesting. To put it in perspective, most fathers craft a future in their minds of who/what they want their sons to be. Slightly older generations never really even consider the possibilities of sexuality. That was definitely a reaction that leaves room for discourse and understanding.
Jonta Hall I agree. As a mom, I have this vision of my daughter growing up.....will she get married, have kids? That would all come crashing down if she told me she was gay...that vision I've had for so many years would just blow up in my face. So it would take some time to rework that vision and come down from the shock of it all.
@@Nichole2228 Well, even if you're gay you can still get married and have kids
@@Nichole2228 Even if you're straight, you may not want to have children or get married.
Not exactly a neutral reaction. It's pretty hurtful and stress-inducing when your loved one doesn't see you react positively immediately and give you support and acceptance. Every LGBTQIA+ person wants to be fully accepted by their loved ones when they first come out.
Daughter 1: Dad I'm gay
Dad: Well I'm here for you alright
Daughter 2: I'm gay too
Dad: Well I'm here for both of you
Daughter 3: I'm gay too
Dad: DOES ANYONE IN THIS HOUSE LIKE BOYS
Son: I do!
LMAS
But where are his dad's eyebrows sorry i had to ask
SUper snooKER looool made me crack
😂
SUper snooKER Too funny 😂
I noticed that too but Honestly his dad looks like sick . Pale in the face , dark rings around his eyes , he may be going through something .
Fuckig all you guys can do is make fun of others, I bet you have eyebrows but you're ugly af so don't matter
Honestly, I didn't see anything to complain about in your dad. He is clearly shocked and taken aback. He seems unprepared for the gravity of your revelation and probably also uncomfortable that he is on camera to be seen by thousands of strangers in a private, intimate, family moment. I don't blame him. You kept smiling at him nervously trying to get him to react more, but he gave you the best he could in the moment. He looked a lot more uncomfortable than you tbh.
Your shock is not a problem of mine. I do not have to lighten any heavy situation. Homophoby is not homosexuals' fault
The problem with your way of thinking is: why would a coming out be a grave situation? Why would your own dad be uncomfortable with other people would think just because they're watching it? Why can't you be a man AND talk about your feelings?
This is what you should be asking, and not being sympathetic with this box mindset parent is thinking about.
Why would coming out be grave?
Ask Matthew Shepard.
A lot of well-meaning parents worry about how difficult their child’s life is going to be, how they will deal with discrimination or worse. It is easier to be straight than gay.
Give your dad some time, i'm sure he has A LOT of questions and in some way may blame himself. It took you a long time to admit it to yourself and it will take him time.
The video was filmed over a year ago. How much time does a person need? The father is just a dick.
Blame himself for what? He didn’t do anything wrong and he was born that way
@@carnault1 some parents blame themselves for their child being gay
The dad couldnt tell? I knew the second homeboy came on screen
Your really brave. In time, I think he will be proud of you. He should be.
Yes.........indeed! =)
Rob Priestley Rob I agree with you his dad should be so proud of him! Wish his Dad would have hugged him and said he loved him no matter what.It took guts to tell his dad!
Rob Priestley you're
Rob Priestley why should his dad be proud of him for being into a certain gender. I'm pretty sure my parents shouldnt proud of me for being straight.
I belive they meant that they should be proud that he had the courage to come out.
That moment at 2:12 when he said "I don't prefer it" and they both laugh breaks my heart so much. He was so brave to tell his father, and all he wanted was to be accepted and his father just joked about it. How disheartening, and cold. I hope his father can open his eyes, and see what a great young man he has. Love and light.
He just needs a minute. He seems to be far more shocked than anything. I'm sure after a few days and some heavy thinking he'll come around. I bet he just finds it awkward to talk about because he never expected it was an issue he'd need to think about, especially about someone so close to him (like a son).
It's gotta be tough to have you Dad react like that but don't count him out yet.
He might just never mention it again, so just bring it up sometime after the awkwardness goes away if you want to talk about it. (If he doesn't mention it again, that is)
The description says that it's been a year and his dad is pretty much the same way. His dad is a huge douche. They clearly were never close... a real decent father would grow the fuck up an embrace his son after a whole year.
Knowing that your son will likely never have kids of his own has got to be rough.
tintinismybelgian why would his son never have kids of his own ? Being gay automatically means you arent able to reproduce ?
con_ending234 You cannot reproduce with the one you love if the one you love is of the same sex. Two ladies with two sets of ovaries cannot do it together, and neither can two dudes with two sets of testes. It's called biology.
tintinismybelgian We know all that. Not every human on earth needs or wants to be a human cockroach and have more babies and over populate the earth even more.
If my son turned round and said this to me (assuming by some miracle i didn't already know) the first thing id say back would be "like that fucking matters" lol :')
Adam Cole says a man who live in country where gay is legal
MrHappyAdjustableSpanners the only thing i'd say about that is you don't wanna make the child feel like u dont care at all... a better response would be 'i still love you'
i wish you all the best, and OMG your like smile is so damn cute!!
He handled this so gracefully. The son, that is. The father just looked like he didn't know how to handle it because he's never dealt with such a thing. But omg his son so eloquentally handled it, and I hope that there only lead to more understanding!
Thank you for sharing, it helps to see other people go through the awkwardness and unpleasant experiences too. I am sorry he isn't as supportive and happy as he should be, our parent/s' acceptance is so important to us.
I cry for every man who has to act straight
can't wait for the day the majority of gay kids can just be themselves
Sweetheart, you are really brave and deserving of approval. Even if he doesn't approve it doesn't matter. I'm sorry he isn't being supportive, but you always have your subscribers and other people in your life. Congratulations 🎉!
Lauren Morgan
This is totally uncalled for, but I fucking love your profile picture-
[My Chemical Romance Trash] sorry but I don't really see how Lauren's comment is uncalled for? Am I missing something?
frostfire
He said "this" is uncalled for, implying his reply.
Lauren Morgan but he has his subsribers lmfao wtf?! Get real love, if he ends up on the street are his subscribers going to open their door to him and offer him a place to stay? Why did this gay boy even have to film such a pivotal moment in his life? He’s telling his father he enjoys other boys cocks being inserted up his anal passage and the dad is supposed to what...hug him and say it’s normal?!!!
+Carfilliot If your son or daughter came out and uploaded the result, I don't think you'd still be a free man.
Try putting yourself in their shoes.
Congrats hun I know its hard but you did it and your aging. I could never tell my parents that I was gay so I waited till they passed away to come out hugs to you hun
That had to be tough. =/ Be strong, live your life, and be the **Awesome** person that God created......just as you are! *Hugs!*
That "God" created you lol, God is goung to burn him.
go shit in your hat.
Nej nej nej och åter nej its okay, I understand you're confused
Nej nej nej och åter nej I completely agree with you. There is no god. And slowly by surely the world is becoming less and less religious and the number of Atheists are growing. Hopefully it's only a matter of time before religion starts to disappear.
Gods not real. Sorry to break it to you now. Everything points to the fact that "it" does not exist
good for you mate..your parents will need time to digest that... but im hoping they still love you as their son...
I just came out to my mom as gay and it’s a huge weight off my shoulders....I can’t wait to introduce my bf to her
I commend you for your strength, you put yourself out there in a vulnerable situation, that takes a courage!
That was a really, really, really *awesome* video dude! I wish you a very long, prosperous, and fulfilling LIFE!!! *Hugs!* =)
How can the father not know his son was gay? He’s as camp as anything.
Stay strong! Lots of love !
Poor dad. That's terrible news.
I think it's really fucked up to give people this news and video tape them. This should be a private moment between parent and child. Also, most parents are probably disappointed that their child is gay. They may not hate the child, but it's not their preference.
Nepthu this could inspire other people and help other people in the closet like myself so honestly if you're not here for help or to support it then just leave. Ok that's all.
Nepthu I'm not just talking about myself you idiot I'm talking about thousands or even millions of people who could see this video and be helped. So if you're not here to help or encourage people then please leave. Thanks.
Chloe, I'm here to stand up for the PARENTS, not YOU. You have enough support from the billion LGBTQ organizations out there. If you can't understand that this isn't cool, you're an idiot. Please LEAVE and report to your nearest LGBTQ center for all the support you'll ever need. Meanwhile, no one sticks up for the parents whose privacy is being violated by their own child. Now please LEAVE.
Nepthu The parents don't have to struggle with who they are everyday it's not the parents issue to worry about their kids sexuality. If someone wants to record their parents while telling them they have every right to. The parents don't need anyone to stick up for them this obviously shows how you're trying to hide the fact they you're homophobic and just want to hate on this kid because he's gay. Honestly I've never heard anyone worried because the parents were being filmed in a coming out video. This is a place for support and loving each other so obviously you don't belong here. Also you cant speak for anyone if you're not going through it yourself so shut the fuck up because you sound like an ignorant asshole.
You don't do charity work on the backs of others. Whether other people might benefit from the video is irrelevant when it comes to the father's right for privacy. You don't make a public spectacle out of your parents.
And one other thing:
"just leave."
You don't get to tell people to leave. Who do you think you are?
I could only imagine how much strength and courage this took! Even though his reaction was difficult to accept, you are still honest with who you are and tried to be understanding of how he felt even though close minded. Thank you for being so open and sharing this!
He can’t tell you’re gay from your voice? 😂
oh my gosh, he was so shocked. hey but you are a strong person to say this to your parents. good job!
This should have been a private conversation. IMHO.
That's a major issue with the lgbt community they always put their business out their for the entire world to hear only to bitch when certain feedback hits them away they don't like it . This should've been something he told his father just between them it was disrespectful of him .
Maybe just in case sometimes Parents go While so is an assurance for them.
@@stevenjones4059 That's not why they do it dumbo. It's to give other Lgbtq+ a little vision of some sort of experience on what to expect. It can also give other confidence on coming out ASAP instead of having ppl find out on their own.
What do you know?? You shouldn't be acting like that.
@@anonymousfish7010 Hey dipshit it's personal for them & like I said they should've told him in private it's not the rest of the world's business what they are so why make it that way .
Steven Jones So why do you watch it, dipshit?
I love that you are living your truth. I am sorry that you did not seem to get a lot of support from your Dad. I hope with time that he will realize that the only thing that has changed is that he now knows the truth and that he is proud of you for being so brave.
bless ya dad but surprised? how could u not know. hope all goes well for u both.
Your a beautiful person. I felt your soul yearning to be comforted by your father and your quench for acceptance. Which you will be. Allow that intimate moment to happen with no camera. Much peace and light 😇
wow no lead up, just ripped the bandaid right off. i'm so proud that you had the courage to do that (i'm still too nervous to do it/0
"Are you okay with it?"
"Well, I don't prefer it" Well, I'm sure he would prefer you to love him the same, sir. You are a terrible dad here for punishing him for something that isn't bad at all and that he has no control over.
Don't let anyone make you feel like it's worse for you to be queer than straight. Because it really isn't.
my brother didn't even really come out to me like we were in my room smoking a bowl and then he was like "hold on gotta text the boyfriend" (not an actual boyfriend but a guy he liked) and i was just like ha alright and that was it lmao it was no big deal
m dwsn you guys must be that cool with each other lol
i told my dad yesterday and it was completely normal to him, i was terrified and i admire your bravery by doing this, it gets better! always
I find it odd that people use their sexuality to try and get attention on the internet. The father in this clip clearly feels that the camera was unnecessary and to be very honest I don't blame him as this is a conversation with his dad that should take much greater importance than TH-cam views.
Im not even homo, I dont know how I ended in this part of TH-cam, but it's called freedom of speech and everyone is entitled to it as long as they don't harm anyone. With your comment, you just gave him more attention. He can do whatever he wants with his youtube channel. Good day.
I am 'homo'. The point may be that it can appear disrespectful and unfair to the father, not that it is illegal. You are defining this choice to film this and post it as an entitlement. So I suppose it depends on the circumstances under which he got 'Dad's permission to post this and how one defines that noun. I know I would never even consider filming this in the first place. @@greenamogus
They do it because so many out there are struggling with when/how to come out and what the reactions might be and just to see how others have done it. It gives those people strength and courage. Has nothing to do with views but to help others. Have you ever watched a cooking video or a video on how to make or fix something? Sure, it garners views; but it also helps others learn how to do something or makes them more confident doing it.
I'm sorry.
I don't unterstand how People can have a Problem with that... And it's really brave that you stand to Who you Are :)
I'm gay. I told my mom she was ok with it. I don't have to worry about telling my dad he dosn"nt even live with me. my friends are ok with it. my teachers are ok with it. so I'm good oh yah this video inspired me to come out.
Awesome! I'm so happy I could inspire someone! Glad everything went well for you :)
His parents are blind! How could you not tell this kid is gay?!
How did he take it? Like, is he okay with it now? I wish you the best darling
sara. same
sara.
he took it in the ass
He slowly dying inside and asking himself , WHY ? Why did it happen to my son ?
And i totally understand him. What a brutal and sad shock...
I don't get why people say "well why do you say that" or "how do you know". like uhm idk i woke up a flaming homosexual with the desire to be discriminated against. Whatever, good luck man
Since my kids were little I've always told them I don't care who they bring home to meet me as long as that person treats them right and makes them happy. None of my kids have come out as being gay (yet) and I don't think any are, but I always wanted them to know their love would always be accepted in my house.
As soon as I saw that TEXAS shirt, I knew where this was going.
Surprised?...the only surprise is that his parents didn’t know...
gotta wonder that dad did not know. still not fair that son choose to film and post it for the world to see. no love given by son. unfair . took my dad a few years to get over his judgement. He did in amazing ways. .You should have done this privately. not gonna watch you ever again.
It makes me so sad to see a parent not look at their child the same after they come out. It's like they think they are an alian and not "normal" to their standards. This is why I've been holding off on telling my parents that I'm bi even though thank god they aren't Christian like my grandma.
This is a private matter and you make it public.
I told my dad I liked girls about 2 years ago. He said he would love me no matter what. I tried to tell my mom last year, I knew it was going to be more difficult because she is very religious and doesn't like lgbt people. I mean, she doesn't mind having gay friends, but she doesn't want one in her family. When I told her she started to cry and told me that I didn't know what I was feeling, and at the end I said to her that she was right. But I know what I feel, and I'm gonna wait until I'm out of home and living an independent life, then I'll try to tell her again.
Give him time
Your dad was clearly shocked and was more put out by the video equip., than your coming out- at least from what you showed us. I think his reaction was ok - no threats, no religious crap, no "you're not longer my son, get out", so.. as he had just been told, on camera, it seemed ok, maybe not the hugs and love you hoped for, remember, parents in this situation are learning and digesting, info you have had months or years to come to terms with - they are getting it 'cold' and may need space to digest... no hate here, just happy for you, that you're safe, and your dad seems ok. As you say above he has 'got better' abt the fact you're gay - all good - stay safe. Just found your channel Oct 2017, catching up. Please keep channel active, would love to watch you grow as you find a new bf and see how your life develops -the good and not so good. Life has its bumps... x
i have homophopic parent's and i am scared to death of coming out tbh any tips?
The Official Coming Out Song
monster en just get it over with, trust me it's a huge weight off your shoulders. Maybe do it in a car near isn to home so if they make you get out and walk it's not to far. If they don't make you get out there's not much else they can do to you in a car. They should be calm enough to discuss it with you by the time you reach the destination! (This is just my opinion)
Wait!!!!! Your folks have a fear of homosexuals????? 😲😲😲😲😲
Well my first suggestion is not to make a youtube video of the scene and plaster it everywhere. It sort of turns this into your 'scene' to exploit as you see fit. No matter how you cut it, that marginalizes them as an actor for you, rather than a parent to you. Other than that, just pick your time carefully and summon some allies for support, if things go poorly, and control the circumstances as best you can.
So proud of you dude I never got the chance to tell my dad because he was an absent parent when it came to feelings or anything that personal.
How about saying “I love you son, unconditionally, no matter what”; how about that??? You know when the camera turned off he probably gay bashed his kid.
Or you can not make assumptions like an idiot about what possibly happened?
Vibe Lord Jae I wrote “probably”. Which makes it a hypothetical theory, NOT an assumption. Idiot.
Thank you for sharing that. Yes, I had a very different reaction from my dad...and believe me, Japanese dad and dads from the south are pretty similar in their ideas of “being a man”...so I have a lot of friends whose dads weren’t okay with it. But it was really brave of you to share it, and you seem to be happy in your skin...which is all that really matters. 😁
Lol I saw the Texas shirt and that definitely made me click
I mean how did he not know? Literally one second of hearing him talk and I knew instantly tbh. My love and support goes out to you :) ❤️❤️
I totally support people who swing the other way, they should be able to be themselves. But filming your fathers reaction? Really? Young guy has a strange smile throughout too.
My first thought when I saw the thumbnail was “ look at you... it’s not a secret honey” but either way good on you for coming out. It’s definitely not an easy thing to do
If you were truly looking for the "Shocked" reaction,, you should have told him you were straight. 🤣
Lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I watched this for 3 seconds and I knew. How is dad shocked??? All will be well. I think Dad took it quite well. Good luck and best wishes.😊😊
Why was his reaction bad?
Alexa V because people are unepceting and not willing to listing but it didn't matter you just be yourself, you be better!
Markonah there are thousands of animals that are gay. Also, marriage isn't normal in the animal kingdom but we do it as humans.
Markonah honey the only thing that is "not normal" is your crazy ass, swamp water makeup.
Hey dad, I love dick...that's why. lol
The14thApostle
Are you sure about that? I'd check your facts right quick.
The parents were shocked??? Give me a break! Nice dad, nice boy, but come on! When Dad said, "Are you serious?" I thought he was going to say, "Are you serious? You really think I didn't already know?"
how did he not figure out his child is gay? ....lol. I mean look at him...listen to him! I mean yes I know, some don't fit the stereotype but cmon
I'm youre 900 subscriber! and hey! don't worry about it be strong you are the bravest ! you were able to tell youre parent! great job! don't worry!
Holy fuuck...
That akward silence killed me
Well a reaction like this in Egypt would be the best thing that could ever happen , trust me I deeply wish my parents reacted that way , it would have been perfect ... BUT this guy is brave he wasn't hesitant or shaky which is amazing 💙🌷
Unfortunately this is probably pretty typical. The first thing isn't "Don't worry son. I still love you". What a shame men can be a Dad, but never be a "Father" .
That couldn't have been more awkward! I mean, when I came out to my dad, it was very awkward with him as well, but this was much more awkward! I'm very happy for you for coming out! I hope you are happy with yourself and your life! I wish nothing but the best!
Oi yes
“Why do you say that?” Is he kidding??
Stay strong! Be you and don't let anyone stop you!!! ❤️❤️
Dude you are creepy af
DUDE/WOMAN, you're an asshat!
even though he might not have liked the fact that you like who you like, but your happiness comes first. Everyone else's opinion is just that, an opinion.
I knew he was gay the moment he spoke.
Haha dad's reaction wasn't bad at all!
"Why do you say that?" to "I'm Gay" had me burst.
"So why all the bright lights?"
THE ZINGERS PPL
You can see that he's reflecting when you ask him if he's okay. Parents often can feel that it was something they did. So the initial hurt is that they see themselves as having failed. Once they realize that this isn't the case, it's easier to accept. :)
My coming out wasn't all butterflies and I'd have to say this one wasn't too bad!
I hope your family continues to love.
Can't see what difference it makes to a parent if their child is gay or straight. What my child does in her bed is her business not mine, either way she's still my child that won't wash the dishes, wants money for nothing, and slams the door when she hears the word "NO!" Her sexuality is irrelevant to me.
This dad is more surprised and taken a back more than anything. He has a sense of humour and his reaction seems gentle. He handled it pretty well if u ask me. We have to understand too how he feels, he will need to take time to digest this and i think the camera/idea of TH-cam is what made it uncomfortable for him more than his son coming out. Give him time, he'll come around.
you're very brave - hope things get better for you
Your Dad handled it pretty well, seeing as how it was a complete surprise to him. And he probably didn't like being recorded - but that's a natural generation thing, I think. I'm gay and wish that his response had been more accepting but everyone's response will be different. So long as he hasn't been abusive, I' call this a "win" for you. We viewers don't anything about you or your parents backgrounds so it's hard for me to judge his reaction. Bottom line - I hope that things are OK now. Take care and best wishes for happiness!!
Off camera 📷
His reaction was hard to watch, but a chill went through my body when you told him you were recording it for TH-cam.
Awe the poor sweet man!! He was genuinely shocked!!
Wow, "dad" really had his 'head in the sand' if he didn't know the son was gay. It's hard to believe that some parents are so freaking clueless. I hope things are better with your parents. They were "Okay" with your hair and eye color, why not with your sexuality? I hope they have become more educated by 2019!
I mean he has to be blind to not see you’re 100% gay
How could they not know? I don’t even know him and I would know he was! But good job, you were strong and confident!
This kid has such a cute face and beautiful eyes. He is a cutie. I hope he has a happy life.
Why do i love watching these coming out videos?
you're very brave and differences make you who you are 💚