My motto is quit early and quit often so I'm with you Anwar. I just did this after dating a guy for almost 3 months were he was very enthusiastic and consistent the first half and then very unreliable the second half. Two months after I blocked him he mailed me a letter and then last week (4 months after I blocked him) he left me a voicemail asking me to tell him why I don't want to see him anymore. He should have KTSE when he had my undivided attention. I don't exert energy telling grown men why I don't want to see them anymore, I can only be as serious and considerate as they've been.
My BFF got a car plate that said, "ride or die". I told her to take that off immediately! Bad omen! Her man was FULL of red flags, and one of Omaha's most wanted. I begged her to leave him, or she will end up dead. I got the call one week later. She died, and it looks like foul play! He even was carrying around an obituary of his X, in his bag. 😢 True story. Ladies, if you get a weird feeling, or red flags. Or your friends are warning you, LEAVE! There are plenty of men out there. Value yourself enough to want the best.
It was tough but I had to let him go as soon as I started dating him. The red flag for me was silent treatment and not resolving conflict with communication as a grown adult is expected to. It was the making assumptions and allowing misunderstandings to pile up for me. These decisions are hard bc u recognize someone's trauma is preventing them from loving u fully, but that's never an excuse for poor behavior. Get help.
Wish I would have known terms like silent treatment and gaslighting when I was dating as a young adult. Let alone that they are means of abuse. It would have saved me so much heart ache and disappointment.
@@Tam974eva The ones giving you the trauma excuse, are the ones seeking a free counselor. They are never a good choice. My grandpa told me to never date a man that makes you wanna pity him. That's not a real man. It should be easy to dump him though, if you just started dating. If he's already pulling that crap, imagine what he'd be doing years on in.
This video right here is everything! I just started dating a guy that i realized im not attracted to. However, he treats me so well, and i was second-guessing myself if i should walk away. However, this video gave me the courage to WALK.
Some guys do not react very differently and oddly, they can become violent and will cause you harm. Sadly, this is the reason why many women ghost men. They can respond violently.
I was so quick on the trigger!!! Four months and you were fired if you weren’t marriage material. I judged based on what MY criteria were. I was in my early thirties, so I did not let men play in my face during my child bearing years……
Thank. You!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 You listed all the things I felt in my last relationship and I felt them in the first few months but stayed for 2 years. NOT AGAIN GIRL! ❤❤❤❤
Fairy god brother I feel awful. Took your advice on dating a golden retriever man. We only went on two dates. Talking for two months but the attraction isn't there. August is our birthday month and we already planned two more dates. He's already planning double dates and thinking we'll keep dating until Valentine's Day 😭 I'm going to break his confidence and his heart oof. Thanks for the video love. I needed this. Wish me luck that he takes it well though 🤞
@ He actually ghosted me after the fourth date celebrating his birthday. He had asked about how well the dates are going for me and I was completely honest. It worked out but it shows me a lot of people don't have the emotional capacity to say what's on their mind or their true feelings. Something that is lost thanks to social media and texting. People don't have the courage to have a real conversation face to face. To say the least I dodged a bullet lol.
Not necessarily. If theres a lot of communication about where you’re heading then there should be no issue. and if theres an action plan it really shouldnt take two years…either way if you did stay with them, that was the process the womam needed to go through to learn what not to do and hopefully they reflect take lessons from it. When you get better at trusting yourself it wont take a whole two years with every guy…
🔴➡️👑 🕊️ stay in church _to hear Holy Spirit_read/watch books on Boundaries to sharpen your awareness, discernment to recognize their unaddressed dysfunction and intentions_makes for easier navigation with prospects.
Thank you! I ended a dating connection last night because I didn’t feel attached after a certain amount of time and the guy was thankful I told him. Thanks for making this so easy
Girl I am pushing 30 ! You have lots of time to consider things differently. Dont have your heart set on him at such a tender age. You will date more guys by my age.
Where was this 5 years ago.. probably out there .. but I guess better late than…i find this a bit “funny”.. that I knew all this and yet… I feel like most of us do know this…but like our heart and brain just don’t communicate together 😢 😅
Him not asking you out after a WEEK is a red flag? WTF happened to let yourself get to know him first THEN decide on if you want to move into a relationship?😂
I have a friend that was texting a guy for 3 weeks that she’s never met. I told her that’s too long she disagreed. He turned out to be a catfish. I know another woman that the same guy that was texting her for weeks turned out to be an ex-con…
“If you’ve made a pros and cons list, that’s a con” 😅😂 so true.
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Probably should count for 3 consecutive on the list
“if you’re a ride or die YOU’RE GONNA DIE!” 😂😂😂 I could never be a ride or die, I ask too many questions…where we riding to? And why I gotta die?! 😩
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Welp no dating for me then 😅😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂 the way I laugh in the middle of the nail salon I can’t 😂
This strangely correlates with workplaces and leaving your job
Girrrrl👀🙌🏽
Not in this economy, girl😅😅😅😅
Thank you for the reminder. I’m on my way out soon ❤
Say that again, it’s the same thing honestly.
My motto is quit early and quit often so I'm with you Anwar. I just did this after dating a guy for almost 3 months were he was very enthusiastic and consistent the first half and then very unreliable the second half. Two months after I blocked him he mailed me a letter and then last week (4 months after I blocked him) he left me a voicemail asking me to tell him why I don't want to see him anymore. He should have KTSE when he had my undivided attention. I don't exert energy telling grown men why I don't want to see them anymore, I can only be as serious and considerate as they've been.
My BFF got a car plate that said, "ride or die". I told her to take that off immediately! Bad omen! Her man was FULL of red flags, and one of Omaha's most wanted. I begged her to leave him, or she will end up dead. I got the call one week later. She died, and it looks like foul play! He even was carrying around an obituary of his X, in his bag. 😢 True story. Ladies, if you get a weird feeling, or red flags. Or your friends are warning you, LEAVE! There are plenty of men out there. Value yourself enough to want the best.
So very sorry about your friend. I had to warn my friend too. Luckily, she got away.
So sorry for your loss
Thank you for your sympathy, ladies. 🙏
self curses
@@seabreeze4559yes. It sure was.
It was tough but I had to let him go as soon as I started dating him. The red flag for me was silent treatment and not resolving conflict with communication as a grown adult is expected to. It was the making assumptions and allowing misunderstandings to pile up for me. These decisions are hard bc u recognize someone's trauma is preventing them from loving u fully, but that's never an excuse for poor behavior. Get help.
The trauma victims are a problem too. It's always an excuse why they can't fully love or commit. We deserve better than a half ass commitment!
Wish I would have known terms like silent treatment and gaslighting when I was dating as a young adult. Let alone that they are means of abuse. It would have saved me so much heart ache and disappointment.
@@Tam974eva The ones giving you the trauma excuse, are the ones seeking a free counselor. They are never a good choice. My grandpa told me to never date a man that makes you wanna pity him. That's not a real man. It should be easy to dump him though, if you just started dating. If he's already pulling that crap, imagine what he'd be doing years on in.
I wish I had this straightforward information years ago. It would have saved self-doubt, heartache and frustration.
This is the only video so many of us needed collectively for real. This covers it. For realllll
I blocked him for his words and his actions were incongruent plus the lack of communication made me feel stressed out. I gave him 4 weeks too long!
This video right here is everything! I just started dating a guy that i realized im not attracted to. However, he treats me so well, and i was second-guessing myself if i should walk away. However, this video gave me the courage to WALK.
I'm here. It's three months but not much chemistry on my part! He's such a good guy
Some guys do not react very differently and oddly, they can become violent and will cause you harm. Sadly, this is the reason why many women ghost men. They can respond violently.
That’s exactly what he meant when he said differently and oddly.
@@missx6230Exactly! 😢
I was so quick on the trigger!!! Four months and you were fired if you weren’t marriage material. I judged based on what MY criteria were. I was in my early thirties, so I did not let men play in my face during my child bearing years……
LADIES BOOKMARK THIS AND REPEAT PLAYYYYY VIDEO EVERY MONTH 💯
Agreed! But I want to save all the videos.
And the truth shall set you free. This video is filled with truth’s.
This is so brutal. I LOVE IT.
🇵🇸 yessir!!!! And the advice!!
This is the BEST BOUNDARY advice/help/step by step knowledge I ever received!!!! Thank you
Thank. You!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 You listed all the things I felt in my last relationship and I felt them in the first few months but stayed for 2 years. NOT AGAIN GIRL! ❤❤❤❤
We all make mistakes.
Forgive yourself, and don’t repeat the cycle.
Fairy god brother I feel awful. Took your advice on dating a golden retriever man. We only went on two dates. Talking for two months but the attraction isn't there. August is our birthday month and we already planned two more dates. He's already planning double dates and thinking we'll keep dating until Valentine's Day 😭 I'm going to break his confidence and his heart oof. Thanks for the video love. I needed this. Wish me luck that he takes it well though 🤞
So what's the update 😮
@ He actually ghosted me after the fourth date celebrating his birthday. He had asked about how well the dates are going for me and I was completely honest. It worked out but it shows me a lot of people don't have the emotional capacity to say what's on their mind or their true feelings. Something that is lost thanks to social media and texting. People don't have the courage to have a real conversation face to face. To say the least I dodged a bullet lol.
@Morphoglow you dodged a bullet sis...
If you're not engaged or married after two years? Two years down the drain.
Yup lol
You can leave earlier if you like
Not necessarily. If theres a lot of communication about where you’re heading then there should be no issue. and if theres an action plan it really shouldnt take two years…either way if you did stay with them, that was the process the womam needed to go through to learn what not to do and hopefully they reflect take lessons from it. When you get better at trusting yourself it wont take a whole two years with every guy…
🔴➡️👑 🕊️ stay in church _to hear Holy Spirit_read/watch books on Boundaries to sharpen your awareness, discernment to recognize their unaddressed dysfunction and intentions_makes for easier navigation with prospects.
Someone else will come along who cares.. why stay for no reason. Plenty of men re fish in the sea
This is gold.
I'm out! 🏃🏾♀️
This is the bible of information for dating and relationships! Thank you for this! ❤
You are🤗 the best dating coach on youtube💞
Love the hoodie ❤
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I've watched this 4x, best advice ever ❤
Thank you for RECOGNIZING OUR SAFETY❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are the big brother we all need.
"If you're ride or die in relationships. You're going to die" period!
I wish i met you long before i married the wrong guy😢
Thank you! I ended a dating connection last night because I didn’t feel attached after a certain amount of time and the guy was thankful I told him. Thanks for making this so easy
Lemme gon head and save this video!
“Get outta there!”😂😂😂
3 years, i’m 20, he’s 21. i kind of want engagement in the next year because this is a lot of my youth wasted if he doesn’t hurry up.
Girl don't be in a rush please ❤
Sis you’re literally 20. This is no where your youth.
Not saying you should stay with him but just something to consider
Girl I am pushing 30 ! You have lots of time to consider things differently. Dont have your heart set on him at such a tender age. You will date more guys by my age.
I needed to hear this thank u🙏
A refreshing truth.
Super helpful 🙏🏽
This is so true…
Fairy God Brother... THANK YOU!!!
Love the hoodie 🇵🇸
💯💯💯 correct!!!!!!!!
❤ bless you brother ❤
You are amazing & love your shirt❤ bless you! Free Palestine 🍉
That is important information, thanks!
He’s absolutely RIGHT!
Omg I love ur sweater ❤❤❤
Love the sweater and love your videos ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
💯 🎯 ALL FACTS!!!!!
He’s so right
This helped a lot!
this is awesome!
Excellent! Concise as always!!
Hi Anwar,
Your content is fantastic.
Have you done any videos on dating colleagues?
Should you date in the workplace?
I can’t see any…
Don't
We are in long distance and he keeps asking when I will visit his town again I'm thinking I'm out of there.
SUCH GOOD ADVICE
Where was this 5 years ago.. probably out there .. but I guess better late than…i find this a bit “funny”.. that I knew all this and yet… I feel like most of us do know this…but like our heart and brain just don’t communicate together 😢 😅
Yep
This really helped me, as I'm at these points, to break up with a guy
I Love Everything about this! Thank you 😊
So good!!
Hoodie ❤ 🍉🇵🇸❤
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FREE PALESTINE! Thank you! for the advice 💗🇵🇸
I have done great quick to fire slow to hire
I need to download this video to my brain
This sounds like something I would do... Needed this
Also love the palestine hoodie! Free Palestine! ❤
Leave them all is the answer
Anwar, exclusive within 2/3 months. But not an official boyfriend girlfriend title is that the same?
I want to book
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What if he’s always five minutes late for a date?
OOH = out of here if being on time is important to you. You could suggest a time where you bake that 5 minutes in, but whew, sounds like work.😊
Ask why? If one always late could be dangerous in traffic with rushing to make movie, event
I love your hoodie! 🇵🇸 Free Palestine. You just got a subscriber outta me.
Him not asking you out after a WEEK is a red flag? WTF happened to let yourself get to know him first THEN decide on if you want to move into a relationship?😂
He meant not asking you out on a date. If a man is texting,
chatting, and calling…but not asking you on a date…it’s a red flag.
I have a friend that was texting a guy for 3 weeks that she’s never met. I told her that’s too long she disagreed. He turned out to be a catfish. I know another woman that the same guy that was texting her for weeks turned out to be an ex-con…
So are you going to know him over text messages???😂😂😂😂
Im so sad i wish i had this advice 10 years ago.
I’m gonna die for sure 😭😖💔
that hoodie!! luv u ❤
You are so helpful, thank you good man.🇨🇦🙏🏼💖🫶🏼👏🏼
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