Dating Apps from a Christian's Perspective: My Observations and Experiences (Bumble, Hinge, Upward)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ส.ค. 2024
- Dating apps are a touchy topic for some people (especially Christians), so I wanted to shed some light on the subject and throw my two cents in the mix.
00:00 Intro
00:37 Should Christians use dating apps?
03:22 My observations of dating apps
11:35 My experiences with Bumble, Hinge, and Upward
If this video was helpful for you and you want to hear more of my ramblings on Christian dating and singleness, check out this video where I review five different books on the topics: th-cam.com/video/nkk6kzFbRis/w-d-xo.html
Thanks again for watching!
What are your thoughts on long distance dating?
@@chrissyspointofview9403 I think it can definitely work for some people, but those people need to have very good communication skills. I also think a long distance relationship is much more likely to work out if the two people dating have a pre-existing in-person relationship since starting a relationship from scratch long distance is different than maintaining a relationship long distance. It's not something I would want to do personally, but it works for some people!
What you said was spot on. I completely gave up on dating apps, I just felt like the complete lack of any matches on any app I used must've been a sign from God that it wasn't my avenue lol
It's challenging to stay motivated in singleness. I understand if God wants me off dating apps, but I got nothing going on in real life either, and candidates are far and few between here in upstate NY. I'm the last person in my immediate family to not be in a relationship, and nearly the last of my friends. Watching them all get married one by one is awesome but also kinda sad at the same time. Part of what kept me in high spirits was hanging with my single friends and at least we were able to relate to our situations but now I don't even have that. At least I have God!
Bro, I could have written that comment myself lol. I relate to everything you said. It's tough. I made this channel in order to help others, but I also made it for my own sake with the hopes that I would meet other people through it who are going through the same things I'm going through. I can only offer you my solidarity, but I've learned that that's quite enough sometimes. Also, God sees you and hears your prayers! That feels like such a cop out thing to say sometimes, but if you choose to believe it in your heart instead of just in your head, then it actually is amazingly comforting. Just said a prayer for you my man. Thanks for sharing!
@@JosiahNordquist Thank you man your prayers are greatly appreciated. I pray for great success for you and your channel in the near future in Jesus name, God bless.
@@mermaidman961 same for Female, it's still not easy for us most especially when you're from Africa 😩when you're very close to 30 it seems to our society like you're 80 it's really frustrating,I one time asked God if he really created someone for me 😟 #still single
So true
I just feel weird about dating online. It feels as though you are shopping for a spouse. I feel that meeting people in person is much easier, since you get to know the whole person and not just their profile picture/texts. I've also had some somewhat unpleasant experiences on christian dating sites. I'm praying that God will bring the right man in person and I continue to put myself out there and seek first the Kingdom of God!
Christ will decide if He will bring someone to your life. The only thing you can do is to pray, confess your sins, and be humble and let God [Jesus Christ] navigate your love life. June 29 2021, Tuesday.
AMEN! JESUS IS LORD! GOD IS PERFECT!
AMEN!
Amen....keep focusing on him....I'm also praying for Godly man 🙏
Make sure to also socialize as much as possible--volunteer in church, join a singles ministry, work with friends that love to matchmake. Don't be passive here. I think single women in the church that want marriage are told to be passive, IMO.
For example, I know a Christian woman that found her husband after many years, but she was proactive--she went to church social events, visited other churches that may have had more available men, asked for setups with from her girlfriends. The woman was on a mission.
TLDR: Don't expect a husband to fall on your lap. Especially today. And you can still maintain the more traditional frame while putting yourself in the best position to find a possible spouse. Don't let ill-advised pastors and teachers tell you to that looking for a spouse proactively is idolatry.
Approaching in person and seeing where God leads is what I like the most. If your in an environment where you can constantly meet new ppl it makes being patient easier.
I agree! I feel like those environments are getting tougher and tougher to find, but approaching people in person is definitely the most ideal way to meet people.
@@JosiahNordquistWhats up Josiah I hope all is well. Lol, you were not kidding when you said you will hardly get matches if you mention Jesus its crazy!
Hi Josiah, a new subscriber here :)
Really impressed with the first point you made about respect for each and every person behind the profile as they’re created in the image of God. Never heard anyone mention that. Really solid and biblical point.
Secondly is how you reply to almost every comment here. I know it’s manageable but at this early stage of your channel, but I appreciate the fact that you actually offer to say a prayer for them :)
I think this is the kindest TH-camr I’ve ever stumbled upon. Keep up the good work. Blessings,
Thanks for your kind words! And I'm always happy to pray for others! On a small scale, I consider this channel a ministry, so getting to hear other people's stories in the comments, helping guide them in biblical truth, and praying for them are all things I take seriously. I really appreciate your encouragement, and thanks for subscribing!
My advice for Christian singles online dating is "Stay Away". I would strongly recommend having or starting a singles group at your local church instead.
Group dating is where it's at. There's little to no pressure, it a great way for single believers to get together, share your common faith and have a good time.
Pray about it.
Joining a single's group and group dating at church are absolutely solid ways to meet others and date. Unfortunately, not all churches have large populations of single people or are able to host those groups, so I think dating apps can be a good alternative when those options aren't available. They're not for everyone though, which is okay. And you're right; we should pray about it!
I see your point, but when your church is small and and mainly pensioners that is not really an option. And you might say: find a church with more young people, but when you are in the 30-40 age bracket and an introvert it becomes a little more challenging especially when most people in that age bracket are already married and working on their second child. Also, since I am basically as smooth as sandpaper when it comes to approaching women and take every wrong move I make to heart, I would rather it wasn't with someone I would have to face every Sunday in the one place I experience the most peace. But that is just me. There are countless other people who comfortable enough in themselves to expose themselves to those social situations and for them your approach is definitely the way. Different strokes as they say. As for praying about it... That is sound advice indeed.
ah well that's not always possible. At my church, most people around my age are married already, very few to none single who I would consider
There’s only 2 single women at my small church, and I’m not interested.
@@JosiahNordquist you're so right about this
Such great advice! I've only dated one person who I met on a dating app (hinge) and even though it didn't work out it was actually a really positive experience, ironically better than my relationships with people I already knew/met naturally. We were both serious about our faith and took things slow, we parted ways after a couple months but on good terms. It seems to me that a lot of people who are really serious about their faith aren't actually on the apps very long, which makes me want to just be patient because there are genuine Christians there, just don't expect them to come along right away. As long as you go into it with the right intentions and are fully trusting God I think it can be a great option. :)
I'm glad you had a good experience with them! That doesn't seem to be the case for everyone, so I'm happy it was for you lol. And you're right, it's all a patience game and a matter of trusting in God's timing. Thanks for sharing!
Seeing your profile gave me a good impression and the desire to know more about you.
I would like us to talk more and get to know each other
Thanks for the so much clarity you poured out in this video. I think God has given us and He continues to give knowledge about certain things when we ask; and knowing how best to use these apps is certainly one those things we need to learn, not only for us but also guiding the next generations to come.
Thank you for taking the time to give your perspective on online dating sites. You definitely covered most of the important aspects that Christian singles need to consider. One thing that I noticed in my experience with online dating is the fake profiles or bots. So many dating sites use these to entice people to subscribe because they give the appearance of a wide community base. It took me a minute to realise this although I had my suspicions but this added to one of the reasons why I stopped using dating apps.
Thanks for your kind words Maya! And you're definitely right about the fake profiles and bots on dating apps. Although I had more of a problem with them a few years ago than I've had in the past year, they're still prevalent and something to be aware of. Hopefully it's a problem that continues to get fixed!
I’m your 101st sub :D God bless you and your ministry!
Edit: i never used a dating app but I’ve met someone through a music app that could potentially be my future spouse haha and we’re like miles and miles apart but so far we’re going on a strong friendship first before we make it official haha it’s more natural and better that way because you get to grow and know the person without committing to them immediately lol plus you get to grow in God together more too.
Haha thank you so much! I'm excited to see what God has for the future 🙌 And that's exciting! Glad to hear you're taking things slow and allowing time for things to develop naturally. I hope everything comes together in God's timing!
all have sinned and fall short of the glory of GOD and we all deserve eternal condemnation in hell, for the wages of sin is death. the reason for this is that GOD is perfectly just and righteous and because the LORD is perfect, one sin leads to death, but through faith and sacrifice (since there can be no forgiveness of sins without the shedding of blood), and the LORD JESUS CHRIST laid down HIS Life for us, by the FATHER’s grace, men can be saved.
so because the LORD is perfect and HE so loved the world and hates the death of any man, the LORD came into the world in the likeness of man, made manifest in the flesh, and HE came not to be served, but to serve, and to give HIS Life a Ransom for many. the LORD shared in the struggles and life of humanity (making what HE did even greater since HE became poor so we may become rich through HIS poverty and HE temporarily gave up HIS glory in Heaven to give HIS Life as a Ransom for many). the LORD went on that cross after being beaten and struck and mocked, HE was insulted and provoked and humiliated and even through that all, the LORD said, “FATHER, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” and the LORD JESUS CHRIST shed HIS Blood, released HIS SPIRIT, and bodily died so that we may be eternally forgiven.
when the LORD rose 3 days later, a new covenant was established where we are not justified by the law, since the law brings death, but we are justified, cleansed, sanctified, and saved by the grace (unmerited love and favor) of GOD through faith in HIM alone, and not by any of our works. the righteousness of the LORD JESUS CHRIST on the earth (HIS perfect, sinless fulfillment of the law) is accredited to all who are born again (the children of the LORD GOD Almighty) as righteousness on us through our faith and by GOD’s grace.
only JESUS CHRIST saves. please turn away from all of your sins and live all to the glory of the only true and living GOD, YAHWEH, and praise the LORD GOD, the One Who gave all of us life and laid down HIS very own precious Life for us all so that we may be saved by HIS grace through faith in HIM alone.
Awesome video. And you are NOT rambling! It was good inner hindsight reflection on something I would not have thought of...but that likely applies to me...so thanks. Have a blessed day! (And may you find your Loved one soon if you have not already!)
Thanks Darlyne! I'm really glad this video was able to help you out. I'm praying that you have a blessed day as well, and that God provides the loved one He has for you soon too! Thanks for watching!
After posting my experience with Upward I received a lot of people who shared the same feelings. I wish I had found your video sooner than now!
I love how you really process through these things to make sense of and bring logic to it all. This video makes sense of dating apps for Christians and I love that! Good luck JoJo!!
Thanks! I'm glad my words made sense to someone other than just me lol. I appreciate your support as always!
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Yes I agree.
Thank you for positing this video. It is good to see I am not the only one conflicted in this area. I appreciate your honesty on the matter.
Thanks for watching Jonathan! I'm glad my words resonated with you, and I hope the Lord gives you resolution for what's conflicting you!
In for a hookup?
We are many but the Lord is always on our side
Awesome review I’m using dating apps as a believer and you hit on some great key points .
Thank you for your advice, as an introvert I understand exactly what you mean when you feel drained and trusting... For now, I decided to get closer to our Lord and Savior and into the scriptures and let Him find me a wife!
You're welcome! And that sounds like a good plan to me lol. Focusing on your personal relationship with Jesus is the best way to prepare yourself for a future relationship!
I don't find myself particularly obsessed with physical appearance in using dating apps. I jump to words section directly so the looks are secondary to me. Also, when I look at the photos, I focus more on the lifestyles and characters of the person. I don't think that a lot of people necessarily are obsesed with physical attraction; they just use it as a way to prescreen so that they can cut down the number of people with whom they want to have a deeper connection with. It is really not that different from real life.
I suppose everyone's individual experience with dating apps will be different, but reflexively placing a lot of stake in physical appearance was something that I noticed in myself and other people I talked to about the topic. Your approach sounds more balanced and thought-out, so it'd be ideal if more people used dating apps like you do!
@@JosiahNordquist thank you for your feedback! I would trust you more given that you have more experience taking with people about the subject matter!
I’m always hesitant to try dating apps but this was very informative to watch... maybe I’ll try one in the future. Great video!
Thanks man! I'm always here to try and make people think lol
Seeing your profile gave me a good impression and the desire to know more about you.
I would like us to talk more and get to know each other
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I m here for u seriiusely
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Dang, my dating tips for women video scheduled for Saturday talks about the exact same story with Ruth and Boaz lol. We’re definitely on the same page with our advice on that one
Haha nice! I'm excited to hear your take on it!
A word of advice for all Christians. Social media has changed the game. No one and I mean NO ONE in the church or in the world listens for God's leading as far as dating. So my Christian dudes, if you really want a Christian woman to fall for you these days, your dedication to the Lord isn't going to attract them. Trust me. You better focus on making great money and being as fashionable as you can. And believe it or not how many followers you have does matter. In fact, it means everything for some of these women. You can either sit on your butt and pray to God every day for a wife that won't come or use your God given abilities to take the necessary steps to compete with other men. Yes, it is a competition. Don't be upset at me for trying to help you. I wasted 16 years of my life thinking a woman was going to drop from heaven. Never again will I be that guy. And by the way... don't assume marriage is the answer to all of life's issues. It's actually a life issue.
This video was helpful. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing this with us. I’m traditional and using dating apps takes me out of my comfort zone. It truly scares me. I’m giving it a try before I just give up (if I do). “Guard you heart” and treat the other person as Imago Dei, that’s it! Obrigada! Deus te abençoe! 😊
+ pray about it.
Dating apps were a weird adjustment for me too when I first started using them. I was similar to you though; I wanted to see what they were about before writing them off completely. Guarding your heart, honoring everyone you meet on them, and praying about it are the three best ways to set yourself up for success, so I really hope they work out for you! Obrigado por assistir!
Seeing your profile gave me a good impression and the desire to know more about you.
I would like us to talk more and get to know each other
Great video!
This is a great video and spot on!
Thank you!
Hi Josiah thanks for this video I really appreciate it. I just got off bumble and glad I did its hard finding single Christians in my area.
You're welcome Audrey! Yeah finding single dateable Christians definitely feels like finding a needle in a haystack sometimes. I hope you find the one God has for you soon!
@@JosiahNordquist thanks ☺️ God bless you and your channel.
hello there!positive vibes😄 thanks for this video😊
Hello Adeflor! You're welcome!
@@JosiahNordquist I can find my soulmate here😊
New subscriber here! Thank you for making this video!!
Thanks so much for subscribing!
I tried Christian Mingle. It seemed like all of the womens profiles I engaged in conversation with, were managed by the same Nigerian man, lurking in his scam dungeon. Copy and pasting the same corny, broken English one liners across all profiles. Personally, I do not believe that anyone I chatted with were who they claimed to be. It was a very exhausting experience. In the end, I feel like I jumped ahead of God. I have since withdrew my membership, and deleted my profile. Dating apps aren't for me.
Thank you for enlightenment sir
Very wise words brother, great video! My experience with online dating has been a mixed bag over the years but I have learned quite a bit through the experiences. One thing in particular that I've experienced is that finding local connections on dating apps can be quite elusive. Most of my "matches" tend to be hundreds of miles away. And to your point, it is highly unlikely to form a solid connection with someone long distance without first having a solid foundation of friendship/knowing each other. I also go to a very small church, which I love, but there is not one single woman within my age range there. But I press on, understanding that God is sovereign through it all. I think it's important to be honest about unwanted singleness as an affliction but not one that produces despair in the Christian, rather an opportunity to see what the Lord is working on in our lives. Affliction can be an important part of the sanctification process of God the Holy Spirit, so we have to put our full faith and trust in Him that He's working it all out for the good of those who love Him. Soli Deo Gloria! ✝🙏
Id say ive had the same mixed bag experience. I have met tons from the apps over time, but never got anywhere close to meeting any of the right ones. Knowing that ive had better conversations from cashiers at grocery stores, id suggest talking to people just about anywhere else that isnt a dating app. Even the grocery store lol
This was helpful thank you.
You're welcome Lauren! I'm glad you were able to take something away from it!
You had me at introvert. Lol. I just can't with someone that's super extroverted.
Lol I feel it. They definitely spice things up at least
@@JosiahNordquist definitely lol.
Hey Josiah thanks for the video! Question about the apps you mentioned - do any of these let you filter people based on how they answer specific questions?
Reason why I ask - my older brother (30 years old, tall, decent looking, introverted) had spent his twenties pursuing God but had never had a single date.
He joined OKcupid and didn't filter based on religion but on the "are you waiting to have sex before marriage" questionnaire which cut out all of the non serious "christians". He went on two first dates which led nowhere, and then met a wonderful Christian woman who also loves God and they got married the next year.
IF I give dating apps a try I think I wanna do something similar. Does hinge or bumble allow this?
Thanks for this video.
You're welcome! Glad it was helpful!
Wooow, Thanks alot for this, God bless you big time..well said,i guess your vidoe is a confirmation for what God told me..Thank you!!
Thank you! I'm glad I was able to help you out in some way. God bless you as well!
@@JosiahNordquist amen amen..thanks
@Peter best great and you?
Seeing your profile gave me a good impression and the desire to know more about you.
I would like us to talk more and get to know each other
I'm currently on upward
22, going on my very first date on Friday from Bumble. He lives an hour away. Putting myself out there cause people at my church are older. Made it clear on my bio that God is my priority. I told him my boundaries and have been praying about it. After this I'll delete it for good. I have my guard up. I think he's talking to other girls as well but I'm okay with it as long as we aren't together. Also, I won't get my feelings too attached, I'm still young if it didn't work oh well 😂
I'm a little late here, but I hope the date went well! Sounds like you went into it with wisdom and a prayerful heart. Whatever the outcome was, I hope God taught you something through the whole experience. Thanks for sharing!
all have sinned and fall short of the glory of GOD and we all deserve eternal condemnation in hell, for the wages of sin is death. the reason for this is that GOD is perfectly just and righteous and because the LORD is perfect, one sin leads to death, but through faith and sacrifice (since there can be no forgiveness of sins without the shedding of blood), and the LORD JESUS CHRIST laid down HIS Life for us, by the FATHER’s grace, men can be saved.
so because the LORD is perfect and HE so loved the world and hates the death of any man, the LORD came into the world in the likeness of man, made manifest in the flesh, and HE came not to be served, but to serve, and to give HIS Life a Ransom for many. the LORD shared in the struggles and life of humanity (making what HE did even greater since HE became poor so we may become rich through HIS poverty and HE temporarily gave up HIS glory in Heaven to give HIS Life as a Ransom for many). the LORD went on that cross after being beaten and struck and mocked, HE was insulted and provoked and humiliated and even through that all, the LORD said, “FATHER, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” and the LORD JESUS CHRIST shed HIS Blood, released HIS SPIRIT, and bodily died so that we may be eternally forgiven.
when the LORD rose 3 days later, a new covenant was established where we are not justified by the law, since the law brings death, but we are justified, cleansed, sanctified, and saved by the grace (unmerited love and favor) of GOD through faith in HIM alone, and not by any of our works. the righteousness of the LORD JESUS CHRIST on the earth (HIS perfect, sinless fulfillment of the law) is accredited to all who are born again (the children of the LORD GOD Almighty) as righteousness on us through our faith and by GOD’s grace.
only JESUS CHRIST saves. please turn away from all of your sins and live all to the glory of the only true and living GOD, YAHWEH, and praise the LORD GOD, the One Who gave all of us life and laid down HIS very own precious Life for us all so that we may be saved by HIS grace through faith in HIM alone.
This perspective was helpful! It was also nice to hear a guys perspective on dating apps. Thanks for making this video :)
Glad you were able to take something away from it! My two cents might only be worth two cents, but I'm glad they were still of value to you lol. Thanks for watching!
all have sinned and fall short of the glory of GOD and we all deserve eternal condemnation in hell, for the wages of sin is death. the reason for this is that GOD is perfectly just and righteous and because the LORD is perfect, one sin leads to death, but through faith and sacrifice (since there can be no forgiveness of sins without the shedding of blood), and the LORD JESUS CHRIST laid down HIS Life for us, by the FATHER’s grace, men can be saved.
so because the LORD is perfect and HE so loved the world and hates the death of any man, the LORD came into the world in the likeness of man, made manifest in the flesh, and HE came not to be served, but to serve, and to give HIS Life a Ransom for many. the LORD shared in the struggles and life of humanity (making what HE did even greater since HE became poor so we may become rich through HIS poverty and HE temporarily gave up HIS glory in Heaven to give HIS Life as a Ransom for many). the LORD went on that cross after being beaten and struck and mocked, HE was insulted and provoked and humiliated and even through that all, the LORD said, “FATHER, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” and the LORD JESUS CHRIST shed HIS Blood, released HIS SPIRIT, and bodily died so that we may be eternally forgiven.
when the LORD rose 3 days later, a new covenant was established where we are not justified by the law, since the law brings death, but we are justified, cleansed, sanctified, and saved by the grace (unmerited love and favor) of GOD through faith in HIM alone, and not by any of our works. the righteousness of the LORD JESUS CHRIST on the earth (HIS perfect, sinless fulfillment of the law) is accredited to all who are born again (the children of the LORD GOD Almighty) as righteousness on us through our faith and by GOD’s grace.
only JESUS CHRIST saves. please turn away from all of your sins and live all to the glory of the only true and living GOD, YAHWEH, and praise the LORD GOD, the One Who gave all of us life and laid down HIS very own precious Life for us all so that we may be saved by HIS grace through faith in HIM alone.
Thanks friend!!
You're welcome friend!!
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Great video
Thanks man!
@@JosiahNordquist yeah man of course keep doing your thing, God bless and stay safe 🙏🏾
The only reason I consider apps or websites or dating services is because everybody is on the same page about wanting serious relationships and if they aren't it's usually made clear vs Church hoping in the area and cold approaching people who may or may be interested in a serious relationship in that period of their life or may already be seeing somebody. I find this to be more time consuming and apps websites and services to be more efficient. But I'm not really looking right now I was just curious.
Yeah there are definitely pros and cons to using dating apps, and intentionality about looking for a relationship is one of the biggest pros. They're a good option if other avenues haven't worked. Thanks for sharing!
Thank u 👏
You’re welcome 🙌
I've recently tried to use Upward, and my phone wouldn't verify even after reinstalling multiple times. maybe it's a sign?
That's weird, but it definitely could be God closing that door for you. I hope you gain greater clarity with it in time!
Godspeed 🙏
Hey bro, thanks for sharing your experience..so I wanted to get your take on this, I just turned 31, I'm an introvert, and I do understand to trust God faithfully in patiently for your significant other; however, since I'm using these dating apps, I sometimes question whether I'm a little anxious, still being single at 31, or doing an "act of faith" because "faith without works dead"?..
I think it all comes down to where your heart is. If by using dating apps, you feel like you're taking matters into your own hands in finding a significant other and ignoring God's timing, then that anxiety you're feeling could be the Holy Spirit telling you to take a step back. But if you've prayed about it and feel like God might be encouraging you to step out of your comfort zone and take a step of faith by getting on dating apps, then the anxiety might just be nerves (online dating is a whole new terrain, especially for introverts, so it takes some getting used to). I think the only person who can really tell you whether or not you should be on dating apps is you, and the only way to know for yourself whether they're something you should be on is by praying about it. Good advice in general is to pray about everything lol. I hope that answers your question!
I've been swiping for a few months and met 3 very nice people. I think it's worth it but you have to deal with a lot of BS.
Thanks for these wise advice. I did try on a non christian app. I got many likes even though I specifically wrote I wanted christian who really believe in Jesus. Maybe they liked because they only found I am good looking and didn't check well my criteria or they are really christian. Anyway I will try more and take more faith steps. Thank you
Interesting! Well hopefully among all the people you match with, at least a few of them will be God-honoring men. I'm glad you're taking steps of faith! Thanks for sharing!
@Peter best Hello. Thank God everything is fine. How about you?
@Peter best yes still single. haha
@Peter best yes still single
Peter best better to know each other first. Send me your contact and let’s see
Very informative information. I've been involved with a loving, nice & caring man for 12 Years. But he's not a Born Again Believer nor does he want to be. My mistake of staying longer with a Unbeliever partner. So many obstacle things has drained our relationship. Neither of us just can't be involved anymore! I've always preferred a God fearing man but honestly they are hard to find. I am fresh out of my relationship. Jeez now I have to go the whole Summer of being single. I am also Celibate, until marriage. Whelp I guessed I'll be single for Years, because the majority of men wants sex while dating people🤦🏾♀️
Sounds like a tough spot to be in. Leaving a twelve year relationship doesn't sound easy, but if it means finding a godly man who will support you then we know it'll be worth it. Praying that God gives you peace and patience during this time and that He soon blesses you with the man He has for you!
@@JosiahNordquist ,thank you Sir.
@Peter best ,after my Hiking earlier today. I feel wonderful.
@Peter best ,I'm still single. I've rededicated my Spirit back towards God way. This time around I'll wait on God to send the Born Again Husband. I'm praying to God to helped me with spreading the End Time Message. That is what I was doing way before my Flesh began lusting after the unbeliever man for 12 Years.
The thing is young people in there 20s and 30s aren't going to church . So it's hard to meet a spouse . So what choices do you have. 🤔
I'm sorry, but whether you think you know someone cuz you're aquatinted/ familiar or not, You never truly know someone that deeply outside of close relationships, and that's what communication and spending time is for. You don't just know someone because you've met them or hung out before, or automatically. All relationships take time, effort, and commitment. So I really don't understand this logic of not knowing someone. The only reason we don't know people is because we don't make an effort to know them, whether it's one person or the others lack of effort, or both. Familiarity and acquaintances doesn't equal really knowing someone.
You added many good points..however you christian and introvert as you said..you went as far as being bf/gf but because you are introvert you pulled back..and you preferred Bumble where women" message first# I would encourage you to work on this point if you prefer meeting people online or offline
I think I see the point you're making. If a guy strictly uses Bumble because it relinquishes any responsibility to message first, then maybe he's not ready for online dating. With that being said, I don't view messaging someone first on dating apps as "taking charge of the relationship," and I don't see anything wrong with women messaging first (guys actually find that attractive!). As long as you're being intentional and responsible with how you use dating apps, then the specific app(s) you use doesn't necessarily matter. I hope that clarifies things!
@@JosiahNordquist you may look to it different but from experience..guys that uses online dating don't like to pursue..they want the women to do the pursue..many of them are not welling to put effort even when they like the person..you know why..the idea of many options..with that being said..online dating became a major turn off for many of the girls I know and also myself..waste of time...why would I put time and effort to meet "a stranger" as you called it that has several other options and that is online simply because it's easier and is not even sure if online dating is the way to go..I mean..online dating is not for everyone
I'm sorry to hear that you had that experience. I'd probably feel the same frustration towards dating apps if that happened to me. You're right though, online dating isn't for everyone. I hope your future experiences with them are better than your past ones, or if you choose to stay off of them, I pray that the men you do meet honor you and honor God in a way the other men didn't!
@@JosiahNordquist thank you ❤
I wouldn't want to meet her family or introduce her to mine until we are engaged. Just me. Family is important to me and I'd rather not bring somebody into that space whom I do not trust fully am completely comfortable with or feel good enough about putting a ring on that finger. It's an emotional investment it gets awkward when things don't work out and I don't really care to explain every failed suitor to my family. I prefer to keep it private even from friends and social media until I'm ready.
Yeah introducing your significant other to your family is a big step in a relationship that can sort of backfire if you're not smart about when and how you do it. But you also want to make sure you're not shutting out wise council in your life who can come alongside you in your relationship. Maybe that's your family, or maybe that's someone else. Either way, I do agree that it's best to take those steps in a relationship slowly
True Christian men are hard to come by, the ones I know are still working out their salvation so I guess it's dating apps for me😅😅😅😋
I get that lol. Glad dating apps are an option!
I'm not thinking to use any app but I will keep trusting the Lord to give me a Godly man whom he thinks he's mine...I know we mess up but God is a merciful one n forgives if you pray n ask for forgiveness
Russian cupid and Christian mingle were ones I had most sucess
Haven't heard of Russian Cupid, but I've never used Christian Mingle. Glad to hear you've had some success with them!
@@JosiahNordquist the thought that people talk to multiple people... I don't like that.. I know God wants to protect my heart. Maybe some people can handle that.. maybe God wants to protect my heart bc He knows me very well. Slower is also better... friends first. I remember a long time I tried a christian singles group... im 32 with a 10 year old and knowing how those groups are... I'm praying for a marriage soon bc two heads are better than one... however with the christian singles groups I've noticed that they're mainly for younger, early twenties never divorced....
Maybe that is why ruth HAD to be bold..how ELSE would she have gained favor from Boaz? She took initiative when gleaning in the fields and also when she laid at Boazs feet and asked him to cover her..God bless you..I pray that you find the woman who is your match made in heaven.
I'm available for relationship
Lol..
I want to meet woman from another country but I'm afraid to meet fake people
You just need to be careful other people pretend to be Christians yet they are not, and others just want to have fun....so if you are a Christian keep praying ,you will get your wife .....
@@catherinekabasiita9800 thanks God bless you
Finding a person online vs in person has no difference. One way or another you meet a person with the intention of dating. It's only sinful if your thought or action is sinful. Pray and be open to online dating. My friend who is a Christian got married to a man whom she met online.
Karens. ASSEMBLE.
I would suggest men get off dating apps in general. Women have too many options which has caused them to not only be extra picky, but also have an over-inflated ego. Not to mention in today's world where female promiscuity is encouraged and having a high body count constitutes "female empowerment"
Why does this guy look like someone at my YA 😂
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What are you using dating apps for, checking out girls ?
I thought you would just pick a girl, meet her and marry her.
Yet all I see is people sleep around.
Dating APPS are from the devil.
Amen brother