What Men REALLY Want in a Woman

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Do not forget to subscribe to our TH-cam channel.. Click here to subscribe -- th-cam.com/users/switchtvkenya

    • @thapisu
      @thapisu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is still a very valid discussion now as it was earlier in the year. Thank you Joyce

    • @sthembileprecious7045
      @sthembileprecious7045 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think I need help,my man says I have mood swing how to deal with them.

    • @barbz-maz9628
      @barbz-maz9628 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Please can we have subtitles when you speak in your language. I enjoy your shows bt get lost when you switch to your language. Im Zimbabwean.

    • @finashilongo2922
      @finashilongo2922 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      please speak english throughout or at least put subtitles

    • @thefashionmechanic
      @thefashionmechanic 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Please can you speak English please? Or please you can add a subtitle please. This is your Nigerian fan Benjamin Zulu

  • @TimothyMusumba
    @TimothyMusumba 4 ปีที่แล้ว +400

    My answer is date with a purpose. Your relationship with God will define which partner you have.

  • @lailaempressoftheeast9171
    @lailaempressoftheeast9171 4 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    He's right ladies .... Do not tell a man what you want in a man.

  • @anne-mariekosh5010
    @anne-mariekosh5010 4 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    This man is so hilarious yet so wise. I could listen to him all day.

    • @nyaxx38
      @nyaxx38 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Insecurities when a man tracks you and where you are going. And when they judge how you are looking. Woooza

  • @pamojaness2007
    @pamojaness2007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    "True love is jealous but not possessive" good one indeed 👍👌

  • @soledadwangui2921
    @soledadwangui2921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Ati we have learned fools😂😂 this man has wisdom

  • @Alehsam
    @Alehsam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +149

    Good girls are not flattered by your achievements.😊
    we look for character and integrity.

    • @amosleonard1652
      @amosleonard1652 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      2021 ..you said it.. 😍😍😍😍

    • @joycekiarie417
      @joycekiarie417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well no that's wrong achievement is what makes men attractive because high status means He will be able to provide for the family

    • @fatmaabdalla1
      @fatmaabdalla1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      True

    • @a.muchemi4360
      @a.muchemi4360 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes money we make it ourselves, for more than two decade I HV done it

    • @Tia-hc6db
      @Tia-hc6db 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Unfortunately character and integrity alone don’t pay the bills

  • @Busi_Mbasa
    @Busi_Mbasa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    I disovered this channel recently and have been binge watching. I am loving Benjamin's teachings.

  • @TheLilly
    @TheLilly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    After having watched a couple of videos of him here, I can confidently say that this guy is LEGIT!! His advice is very relevant and applicable to both men and women equally. I also like how he goes straight to the point with whatever he has to say🎯. I'm gonna keep listening.

  • @ronnyc3886
    @ronnyc3886 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    As a man, I am motivated to be the best version of myself for myself and for my queens.

  • @sallykimaru953
    @sallykimaru953 4 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    Don't give exclusivity to a man who hasn't earned it.Well taken in.
    Really inspired to start my own TH-cam Channel:)

  • @crochetwithcharity
    @crochetwithcharity 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    A driven man looks for a driven woman..
    Full of energy in this discussion

  • @bethiekitui1920
    @bethiekitui1920 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Wooow "true love is jealous but not possessive" I love it

  • @trishtrish2349
    @trishtrish2349 4 ปีที่แล้ว +297

    AND THAT IS WHY WOMEN ARE ADVISED NOT TO SLEEP WITH MEN UNTIL THEY GET MARRIED.

    • @missliz_
      @missliz_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      💯💯

    • @sallykimaru953
      @sallykimaru953 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree

    • @Austin_ka
      @Austin_ka 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      This is a terrible idea

    • @trishtrish2349
      @trishtrish2349 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Austin_ka why do you say it is a terrible idea?

    • @Austin_ka
      @Austin_ka 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@trishtrish2349 How can you tell if you are sexually compatible to your partner? Sometimes its either you are compatible or not.

  • @bulelwamthembu8839
    @bulelwamthembu8839 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    much love Benjamin from South Africa🇿🇦

    • @pastorkingsleyokonkwo2218
      @pastorkingsleyokonkwo2218 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

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  • @ShiaGirl18
    @ShiaGirl18 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I went on a date with a young man. He knew I have a vehicle the first time we met. We met at the restaurant, but for the rest of the date I parked my car and rode with him in his car to the next location.

  • @MsKanyi
    @MsKanyi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Here representing the "self contained" women 🙋🏻‍♀️ with no apologies. Men should be confident enough to accommodate accomplished women who are go getters but also be ambitious in their own selves. Not trying to downgrade the woman a.k.a #enemiesofprogress 😒

    • @dikeledijane8186
      @dikeledijane8186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maybe this man will be an answer to African countries, cause the mindset of most African men are so limited and they are so self-centered, power eager, stereotypes, selfish autocratic etc.

    • @petma5551
      @petma5551 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wah, Kali Ms Kanyi, am raising my daughter to be a bit self contained. This life you never know.

    • @TheTabbym
      @TheTabbym 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      been this unapologetic self contained women. i got married to a man who tried to change who i am n downgrade me, i had to drop his sorry ass

    • @elishafry476
      @elishafry476 ปีที่แล้ว

      I guess according to you women are perfect and changing needs to happen to men only and you call us selfish nkt!! Education needs to happen to both

  • @loicembogo9793
    @loicembogo9793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    I have been listening to advise about relationship from foreigners I am glad finally we have sharp mind in Kenya. I thank God for you sir, keep going.

  • @mariangorety3280
    @mariangorety3280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Your sense of humour kills me Benjamin. Anyway may God bless you for your teachings.
    Joyce,, I just love how calm you are always. Baraka

  • @harrietacquah2545
    @harrietacquah2545 3 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    When a guy asks me what I'm looking for in a man my answer is "he should be who he is"

  • @AtabongMillie
    @AtabongMillie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    I like this guy. Kenyan men describe a wife as a house help.

    • @dikeledijane8186
      @dikeledijane8186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      They are running mad,is there any parents that can raise a daughter to become a nanny,those men they need psychologists

    • @nakamijunic5844
      @nakamijunic5844 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      All African men not only Kenyans

    • @nabulyasumayya5502
      @nabulyasumayya5502 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@nakamijunic5844 not only Africans most men in saudi they have just allowed them to drive a car

    • @dikeledijane8186
      @dikeledijane8186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ag xem!!! That's more African men's small mind set.that's women abuse.

    • @mbrilliB
      @mbrilliB 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      💯

  • @isaacwangai254
    @isaacwangai254 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Shine as the Noonday Sun Sir!!
    You are brilliant!
    May thy rising be evident to all and sundry!!

  • @baryl3969
    @baryl3969 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So true. “Be blank but polite so that you can study him.” I do this all the time, give men space to be himself and I just observe and the answers are always there.

  • @jkedmondjuniormd3708
    @jkedmondjuniormd3708 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Ugandan here too
    Benjamin is just too obsessive
    Cant stop watching, he is someone really inspiring and awareness awakening.

    • @KenyanAtHeart
      @KenyanAtHeart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Obsessive or Addictive?

    • @jkedmondjuniormd3708
      @jkedmondjuniormd3708 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@KenyanAtHeart I think its obsessive
      Addiction not exactly
      Tsup Peris

  • @nancyndichu8088
    @nancyndichu8088 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I have become regular here. Learning each day. Now i know mistakes i have made before. Narcissistic people suffocate you within the 1st week of dating..

  • @MaiWarie05
    @MaiWarie05 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I am from Zimbabwe, I looooove this show. But I feel I loose a lot of important information when you switch from English 😭😭😭

  • @ifeanyimaduegbuna4455
    @ifeanyimaduegbuna4455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +333

    Could you please carry on the conversation in English. Non Swahili speakers are missing out on vital information. Much love.

  • @DandyKenny
    @DandyKenny 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Zulu mentored me when was in form four and since then have liked the guy..Zulu we emea vau

  • @estherannemacharia8282
    @estherannemacharia8282 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Am so getting inspired, am glad I came across this, Benjamin you're so right, thank you for this!

  • @josephinekimaro761
    @josephinekimaro761 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    😂😂😂😂😂😂uuuh! This man though! My ribs are not safe right now

  • @princessmk6552
    @princessmk6552 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Wisdom in this interview is priceless.

  • @irenemaina7197
    @irenemaina7197 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Joyce, how are you not rolling on the floor laughing....😂😂

    • @vivianmurania9459
      @vivianmurania9459 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wonder ,the way this man is funny and wise😄😄😄😄😄

  • @Aritul
    @Aritul 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    12:24-12:25 When you want to know what a man wants, don't describe what you want yourself. Sound advice! Steve Harvey said something similar on his talk show. You have to observe the man to see what his true character is.

  • @fatmanasir6691
    @fatmanasir6691 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Here for the first time and I love Benjamin's advice, tips.. and Joyce's discussions. You are talking to the 40s too. Learning never ends

  • @rebsjoy6892
    @rebsjoy6892 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Im so happy listening to this topic, cause my husband left me when i started making money and we went for counselling but his response was he want a divorce cause everything is done by my wife , the councillor from Zambia asked him did your wife ever say bad things about you he replied he just feel that way. Remember most women have higher positions then men now in Africa ! Please men of Africa accept us.

  • @phidiamaingi399
    @phidiamaingi399 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    🤣🤣🤣 this Zulu is so hilarious and too real!I love it!

  • @gideonalechebichy4732
    @gideonalechebichy4732 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    When did relationship discussions become this interesting and fun. Lol Benjamin Zulu.

  • @caramel9244
    @caramel9244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I just love this show. Thank u Benjamin...so much truth here!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾

  • @hellengitahi8979
    @hellengitahi8979 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 “even on earth 🌍 you can’t tell who is for real , who is fake” Benjamin Zulu is here to keep it real. This been a fun show👍👍👍

  • @patsyaspinall-urrows3836
    @patsyaspinall-urrows3836 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love listening to Benjamin Zulu. A valuable message to all, humorous too!

  • @richild3967
    @richild3967 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I need this guy as my mentor 😩❤️😂

  • @joyceoyedele3705
    @joyceoyedele3705 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love the hair Joyce! Yasssss!!! On the topic though, be very aware of narcissists and sociopaths! Insecurity hubs.
    Loving the conversation... more English please for your audience in England 🙏🏾

  • @annalisekathomi2336
    @annalisekathomi2336 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This man says it as it is! I love it

  • @lucieserero7475
    @lucieserero7475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Gatta love this talk.. Wow.. Wish I knew this 20 years ago🤔It is well. Thank you Benjamin 🙏

  • @annnjambi6811
    @annnjambi6811 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    New sub ..I can’t get enough of Benjamin

  • @joskyshams4758
    @joskyshams4758 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My goodness thanks for this show.

  • @KenyanAtHeart
    @KenyanAtHeart 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    🤣🤣🤣🤣very educational and funny!! I can hear Mr Zulu for hours and hours....👍👍

  • @ruthmimi2364
    @ruthmimi2364 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I should HV learnt to listen to you like immediately I was a teen.nevertheless its never too late!

  • @wendydiana9347
    @wendydiana9347 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am so in love with Benjamin Zulu,I am glad I found you just when am preparing for this journey may God bless you and continue giving you wisdom.

  • @daphnekemunto8420
    @daphnekemunto8420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Benjamin and Joyce thank you so much

  • @PhiloLutta
    @PhiloLutta 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My goodness listening to Benjamin is like therapy for me..thanks sooo much for this program and your expertise in relationships.

  • @FM-bk4mg
    @FM-bk4mg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for being so informative ,you are the best .

  • @harrietacquah2545
    @harrietacquah2545 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I can listen to this man all day

  • @b.m709
    @b.m709 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I really enjoy what I learn from these conversations! I even love it when you switch to Swahili, it reminds me of the power of being African, our languages are so beautiful. I personally don’t understand Swahili but I feel like I understand 🤣 when you talk, I make up my understanding as I go along!

    • @Terryn_Wangui
      @Terryn_Wangui 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Swahili is so beautiful

    • @DevotionsWithSiwe
      @DevotionsWithSiwe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too 🤣🤣🤣 I'm even willing to learn Swahili through TH-cam tutorials

  • @pollynkirote9097
    @pollynkirote9097 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow... Good point,my goodness am glad to be here❤ God bless you guys

  • @mercynjunge8428
    @mercynjunge8428 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow!wow! Incredible wisdom there

  • @sandrakasina5214
    @sandrakasina5214 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    M nw obsessed about watching yo interviews....Mr Benjamin....great advicer....love frm Zimbabwe🇿🇼

  • @suenjuki468
    @suenjuki468 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Am so enlightened... thank you guys

  • @tinnahflower3720
    @tinnahflower3720 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Benjamin is everything I swear🤣🤣🤣🤣 thanks Joyce en Zulu for ths educative topic

  • @jovybaky6848
    @jovybaky6848 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can say that all people who have come a cross your teachings are so so blessed.....am blessed too 👍👍👍👍

  • @elizabethmuoki4455
    @elizabethmuoki4455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great wisdom..I really love it

  • @paulinekamau7618
    @paulinekamau7618 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Eti 70% is the Best you can get in this WORLD. Very TRUE 🤣😂

  • @marywambua8795
    @marywambua8795 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I used to dislike Benjamin but my opinion changed after a heartbreak and I realized what he was saying was right. I was just blinded ...

  • @mwametallic7668
    @mwametallic7668 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I like this man already...

  • @auneabed6982
    @auneabed6982 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like this kid of talk, this is gorgeous, thanks for being not selfish🤗be blessed guys🇳🇦 from Namibia.

  • @sikhengamlana1610
    @sikhengamlana1610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this programme. Thank you Benjamin

  • @blessedmercy3036
    @blessedmercy3036 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Benjamin.. I love your wisdom!!! Taking notes for the future.
    I love this show!

  • @kihiuwanjira6921
    @kihiuwanjira6921 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is so DEEEEP!!! Wow! Wisdom at its best, more blessings Zulu.

  • @marionchebet3770
    @marionchebet3770 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is dooope meeeen!How was i so blind that i couldn't see this channel long ago.Anyways, it isn't late at all,infact the right time to learn.Thank you for this lessons.

  • @speciozaayieko59
    @speciozaayieko59 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Everytime I come to TH-cam I must watch benjamin speak...pure wisdom.

  • @hgffhhbty3053
    @hgffhhbty3053 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wao wao..am lucky am not married but already 30 ..but i look young my body is small...i can now make the right decesions..bless joyce & zulu.

  • @oluwaseunodunsi8142
    @oluwaseunodunsi8142 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I used to feel bad when I turned down short guys. I'm relatively tall as a lady so I've always wanted someone taller than me so thank you Zulu for not making me feel bad about this.

    • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
      @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      My dear dont ever feel bad cos men dont feel bad about whatever they prefer in women, whether it is a particular complexion, breast size, bum size etc 😂😂 1,65 meter which is not short and also not so tall but I want to be able to wear heels and still not look down on a man.

    • @oluwaseunodunsi8142
      @oluwaseunodunsi8142 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@durbansaladyinaccra2173 yes o thank you ma. This so so true and I can totally relate.

    • @shodapad07
      @shodapad07 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me I like tall girl ladies o. Where are you based in fine tall lady?

    • @sharonbenson8120
      @sharonbenson8120 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@shodapad07 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @shawnrandallbutler33
    @shawnrandallbutler33 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    He's is so refreshing!

  • @dianeat_the_beach3741
    @dianeat_the_beach3741 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love what you are saying, brimming with wisdom and sound advice, THANK YOU!!!

  • @Africangyal
    @Africangyal 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Wow. I am immensely impressed by Benjamin. He is life smart and manages to deliver serious psychological truths with a sense of humour. I need to binge watch his other interviews.

  • @rahabnyambura2459
    @rahabnyambura2459 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this guy for free, he is so real.

  • @dorothynamukwaya682
    @dorothynamukwaya682 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Perfect show I really love both of u guys, u inspire us so much

  • @gracemohaulegwale1351
    @gracemohaulegwale1351 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Im first listening here, I'm learning a lot thank you, please translate down with English when you speak your language so we can understand everything please thanx, Benjamin Zulu and everyone thank You

  • @starpressprinters6393
    @starpressprinters6393 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Them: what do you love doing while free,
    Me: i Listen and repeat all Benjamin zulu's Convos period.
    This man is wise

  • @beforeido6265
    @beforeido6265 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for blessing us with such wisdom

  • @tosinoyegunsen
    @tosinoyegunsen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I love how they switch from English and Swahili even though I dont understand a word from the later.

  • @marywambui9132
    @marywambui9132 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Congratulations Mr Benjamin for good teaching I cant get enough for your teaching may God continue giving more wisdom

  • @christinamwongeli
    @christinamwongeli ปีที่แล้ว

    Eeeish very knowledgeable, I really feel wow. Wise words to us

  • @marykibunja1912
    @marykibunja1912 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I fell you benja like you talking the whole truth am even lacking words so hot en straight points

  • @kevinwanyama5820
    @kevinwanyama5820 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    wow i have learned alot just from benjamin's conversation

  • @sanyuable
    @sanyuable 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    say it again , there r a lot of narcissist looking for women they can control . its very frightening.

  • @noreenduke8410
    @noreenduke8410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this topic very good advice God bless you my brother

  • @masebabatsoinnocentia176
    @masebabatsoinnocentia176 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    "date a person who fulfills your appetite" Wow

  • @sylviahmbithi4683
    @sylviahmbithi4683 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    so educative.kip it up,honestly have learned something

  • @fayahmummahafrika9188
    @fayahmummahafrika9188 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    True talk...

  • @Meaw687
    @Meaw687 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Ladys don't switch off your dignity!

  • @truemindstv142
    @truemindstv142 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Jst lestening to this dude once, i cant stop lestening to u. Find aman not a bull 🤣🤣🤣
    Philosophical very realistic articulative and so intelligent etc❤❤

  • @fridahkuria5478
    @fridahkuria5478 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Sir. You've confirmed a lot to me through this video.

  • @namboozeruth5125
    @namboozeruth5125 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your a gift for us dear. God bless you.

  • @everlynemose9477
    @everlynemose9477 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wooow your words are full of facts and wisdom

  • @lifenuggetswithfafa957
    @lifenuggetswithfafa957 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my God, this is so wonderful.

  • @christinegono9442
    @christinegono9442 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such profound wisdom Mr Zulu!! Love from Zimbabwe

  • @emillykyokusiima9531
    @emillykyokusiima9531 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish I watched this like two years back. Thanks Benjamin .

  • @faglaha388
    @faglaha388 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Choose you ruler that's powerful

  • @charitykawira8927
    @charitykawira8927 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Am loving this lol.. Ati prey ikichanuka itatoroka hahahahha lol