I heard this from my pastor “if you’re the one chasing him, you’re under the curse. Because he who finds a wife finds a good thing”. It doesn’t say “she who finds a husband”.
Remember ladies that God brought Eve to Adam, and when He laid eyes on her He said "Bone of my bones" and "flesh of my flesh". Your husband will know you are his wife the minute he lays eyes on you! Do not chase, but receive what God has for you. Fall in love with JESUS first, and the rest will follow. God will make it known to you, so continue to be patient and trust & wait on the Lord! GOD IS FAITHFUL AND HE WILL DO IT!!! 🙏🌷❤
Mimi it’s honestly so painful to accept the fact we have to let that one person go bc deep down we know he’s not the one, no matter how much you want him to be. In the end, God has us & the right man will come 💕
Letty D yeah, it's really tough sometimes. Especially when all my friends have someone, so I am surrounded around couples. But I'm sure I'll find the right one day.
I was in a similar situation, but letting go of the wrong person can do you wonders! It may not feel so at this point, but later you will realize that you made the right decision. I've been single for almost 3 years, and to be honest, I started thinking that God wants me to be single. Lol, I recently met a man with such a beautiful, caring heart and who has such a strong relationship with the Lord, it made me grow closer to God :)
I completely gave up on men altogether and decided to give God my full attention for 2 solid years. I was devout and studied His word. It was then that He showed me who my husband was... And I was the one who asked him out. I just felt led, after fasting and prayer. Needless to say we have been married for 10 years, and have 2 beautiful boys together. (ages 6 and 7) Our relationship isn't perfect,but we make God the center. Just wanted to give a different perspective.
My husband is a wonderful man of God. He is also extremely introverted. I was the extrovert. I made the first move. We have been married for almost 7 years now and have 3 children. Let's stop putting relationships in a box. God has an individual design for every relationship. He knows what we all need personally. My husband needed that intial push.
In all fairness dear sister Tanya- I do believe there’s a SIGNIFICANT difference between a “push” and a “pursuit”... I actually agree with you on that, in the sense I’ve seen SO MANY beautiful happily married couples (for decades may I add) in a similar story as yours. 😌 I’m actually an extrovert too which is why I understand where you’re coming from. But pursuit I believe is someone who consistently goes “after” a girl. In every way. If I’m wrong- do correct me, but this is what I understand from Ms. Rowe spoke about. 😌
This is soooooo true ladies. I recently started seeing someone...after 5 years of not dating!!! We talked every day, for at least 3 hours! He poured his heart out, as did I! We both have a very, very strong relationship with God! We both agreed our love for God has to take center stage! Then all of a sudden...I did not hear from him! The old younger me would have chased! Instead, I gave it to the Lord. I was looking up at the moon one night and said, "Lord, why?" In my spirit, God said, "Be still...and know that I am God." That was all I needed to know. Three days pasted and he called! He said, he was not looking for love when we met. I said I was not either. He said, he was getting scared! He said,"I have never felt this way, I do not want to loose you." We talked and talked and talked. Bottom line, Allyson is right! If your man is pulling away...let him! If the union, is of God...which my man and I agree we believe ours is...your man will chase you! Hope this helps someone! Allyson, thank you so much! God bless you all.
I'm 34 and believe that the right man will find me. Do I wish I was already married? Of course, but God has a plan. My prayer is he's molding that man for me!
Haha y'all are dumbass's. Ur not just gonna find a man by waiting lmao.... Have fun waiting for nothing, and in the future u will soon realize the time u wasted
I believe 100% in what you say Alysson! at 25 years old, after some wrong relationships, I asked God to teach me about marriage. I told God I didn't want to date anymore, I wanted a husband, a man brave enough to pursue me and who would want to stay with me forever. God is powerful and is able to see the whole picture, I believe He has fashioned a man just perfect for me, and He can do that for anyone who is willing to trust wholeheartedly in Him. At 27 I met and married this man and every single day I glorify God for His faithfulness. My Husband is a blessing from God! respects, honors, cherishes, values and loves me, and that's all because God is the greatest love of His life. Seek God first and foremost, people! if He is the center of your life EVERYTHING ELSE will fall into place.
Being alone for a while with yourself is a gift. So many people haven't had the chance to love themselves by themselves. So many people marry and never even spend at least a year or more getting to really know who they are. People who take the time to have a relationship with themselves first will have better partnerships and marriages. Fall in love with yourself first and you will meet the perfect match based on how much you love yourself💗✨ThAnk you for this video!!!
Caroleéna Zeni what a wonderful name you have get a real good feeling in my spirit about you when you allow him to live through you you can walk in his love and I'm the power of the almighty God so I would say by faith exspect the unexpected to the world this would be called unrealalistic expectations I'm glad all your dreams and hearts desires are coming to pass God bless you may you always be filled with love you and peace walking in complete victory love michael
I can confirm this word. Talking to My God 3 in the morning he had me write down about 5 months ago things that my husband will do that would give me confirmation to know when he does show up and the one thing God kept repeating to be was that my husband will PURSUE me. He repeated it in my spirit. So now God has given me a nugget , that if I meet someone and it's the other way around ITS NOT FROM HIM! GLORY to Jesus!!
I was praying for an answer about my love life, if I was meant to be alone or marry and two years ago, God told me the same thing! He said : "I'm preparing someone for you. Don't try to take the iniative like you did before you knew me. He will be the one to approach you and make his intentions known."
Don't rush yourself in finding someone to love you because love is better when you don't search for it. Love will come when you least expect it, so better take your time and enjoy being with yourself.
God showed me this directly in a dream, "Ladies, be careful who you pick as a boyfriend, be careful who you choose as a mate.".... This dream changed my life... hopefully it can help someone reading this... don't settle for less than you deserve
TIGHTLY TEXTURED very well said. I come out of a three year relationship with an autistic man that left me drained. I had dream that came out regarding him and all came real,like how we met etc. Now I'm left questioning God why why why. Hard to explain but is never date anyone with autism. I am left with low self esteem and need to rebuild my life back with joy. Help in prayers. I feel he was a deception from the enemy.
Yes that is me because I've been divorced I had always picked the abusers since my ex was the same. Then a man with autism which was the most challenging thing in my life. I know it was meant for me to go thru it but I'm a little bitter at God as to why he allowed it. It was a spiritual battle and my faith was tested. Hardest three years of my life. I had learned patience beyond words
Psalm 37:23-24 New Living Translation (NLT) 23 The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. 24 Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.
I love this! I thought for so long that I'd be single forever until God recently brought the love of my life back into my life. Never dated him before but we've been friends since we were 12. He'll be 29 and a few days later I'll be 30. I've been single for around 6-7 years. I never imagined any of this but I thank God every single day because I don't know what I'd do without my future husband. He is like no one I've ever known. He knows that we need to keep God in the center of our relationship and he encourages me to be better.
Can't stress this enough, God is worth waiting for when it comes to a mate. Case in point: I'm only a bit younger than Hugh "Wolverine" Jackman & I am still waiting for mine. Yes, I know it's different for men than women, but not THAT much. I have female friends that gave birth to their first kids well into their 40's, so just stay in prayer & never let the enemy cause you to waiver in your faith.
I suggest a life coach. There may be something wrong you are not aware of and it has nothing to do with waiting in faith. I had the same thoughts as you, Had faith God would bring her, never happened! I am 61 one now. get help while you are still young. I wanted to get married when I was 22.
"GOD IS MY MATCHMAKER"... I read the book and it helped me get my life into perspective. GOD has a soul mate for you ...but we will meet them in God's timing... (Not our own timing)...until then we keep our eyes on our journey God has set for us staying on that path...we want to be equally yoked with the one God has for us so that we can be on the same path together....it is worth waiting!....God will confirm to you when that man comes into your life..and He will confirm to the man in many ways. It's so important to wait for the right one instead of getting involved with so many guys that it causes a lot of unnecessary baggage. I can attest to this by my life experiences. I'm 54 years old...was married at 19..divorced at 24...remarried at 27...divorced again at 30...remarried again at 33...divorced the same year (wolf in sheep's clothing)...remarried to the love of my life at 37..and then he passed away with cancer when I was 50. My heart has always been to please God, but was deceived and lonely throughout my life. Am I proud to say I've been divorced and remarried a few times..no...its humiliating...but what I can advise to others is to wait for the one God has for you who is equally yoked!...read the book..."God is my MATCHMAKER " by Stephanie Herzog. I was told about this book from a gentleman off of a dating site who said God was convicting him to get off the dating sites...so I did! It's a mess out there in the world to have to find a mate through internet services....too many people who are deceiving and looking for other things that are not if God....I don't have time to weed through all the crazies while I'm paying the dating service $$....GOD convicted me to just focus on Him...go about my life as a strong widow in the Lord and help other people...I don't need a husband...but if God puts one in my life that is from Him then Praise God!...However God has told me that He is coming soon...we are in the last of the last days.. Glory Hallelujah!!!!
I’m married to a narcissist and I am codependent I’m a mother with a special needs son I’m opening up my business and things are picking up I pray for strength wisdom and God‘s will in my life
Mary Ann Garcia GOD bless you sweetheart ❤ I know the pain of being married to a narcissist! But know this... This is your SEASON! Walk into it because GOD GOT YOU❤💍👑😁🤗💪
You aren’t alone there beautiful! I married a bipolar narcissist, and I too struggle with codependency issues. Being a nurturer by nature has its struggles. God sees you, and your struggles. God actually told me to leave mine, and showed me through a dream he was cheating. After catching him 3 times I finally decided to obey God, and leave. All this to say no matter the mistakes we make in life, God’s mercy far surpasses. He can work through any and every situation. I’ll be praying for you, your family, and your business.
I watched this video 3yrs ago, I was heartbroken and chasing the guy with all my energy in an attempt to get him back. Look at me now, I sit n watch as they chase me without lifting a finger to get them. Update 2022: I'm married 🥰🥰
I think I've found my best friend! Ive never heard another person have the same thoughts on singleness, dating and marriage! I don't know why people (christians) think God does not want to get involved in who we marry. Why wouldn't He! So He wants to be Lord over every area of our lives, except this one area? Makes no sense to me! Amen sister! Keep declaring the word of the Lord. I'm inspired by your messages.
Exactly.... The Lord has been saying this to his daughters for years.. Be virtuous ladies be villigent.. Know what the will of the Lord is. Great message 👍
PREACH! I was just talking with God about this subject this morning. I said Dad, “I don’t care who He is. If I don’t hear from you that he is my husband, I will not date him!” Guarantee that at the same time God brings you your husband the devil is going to bring a distraction. Ladies, we have to be in prayer at all times about everything!! This is so good!
As a Christian male that is single and living in the real world , yes God originally designed us to pursue women , but I'll tell you first hand if your not putting effort into chasing a guy back at least 25%, the man will get discouraged and walk away , that's the way it is , you should not just expect him to be the first one to text or call constantly, or he's gonna take this as a sign , your not into him, so chase back ladies just a little bit , it goes a long way , and it will lock him in to knowing you like him back
Yep. There's a girl I KNOW is meant for me, and I pursued her, and she's COMPLETELY ignoring me. I feel in my spirit that, at this moment, her feelings for me have changed due to what I feel God is telling me in my heart. How do I feel at this moment: that I'm not doing ANYTHING anymore to try to get her. I'm waiting on God to make it happen through her because I've given her opportunity after opportunity, and STILL now I'm willing to be with her even though she's broken my heart twice.
Chris Taylor yeah don't let her string you along let her go fir maybe even a few days and see if she messages you or not , texting and stuff in this day and age has ruined dating , in the old days you just got to know each other face to face in dates or in occasion over the phone ya know , maybe just wait a free days and then just call her , I dunno if your blowing her up alot via text , but usually once you go away they miss you even if it's just a few days it a week or something
Chad P. That’s actually the point. She said if the women doesn’t respond then she’s not for you. If she does respond though that also doesn’t mean she’s for you. That’s when you ask God to determine
Sis, most men aren't going to pursue you, unless you let him know that you are interested, please, do us both a favor and make it plain that you are(an obvious smile and making yourself available to be approached, etc. Repeatedly if necessary!) That being said, I LOVE to have a Sister in Christ introduce herself and strike up a conversation with me, this takes the guess work out of weather you like us or not. Godly men will seek after you, if you let us know you want us to!
Absolutely, Keith! I'm a little disgruntled over this topic. I was a faithful Christian and while other girls were out partying or with their boyfriends, I was home waiting for my man to find me. I was an old spinster at my church. I was 27 years old and had never had a boyfriend. I'd had a longtime crush on my brother's friend. One day I let him know in a round about way that I'd had a crush on him. We started dating and in November we'll have been married 18 years! He said that had I not let him know I liked him, he would never have hit on me because I was the sister of his friend. I'm not saying women should chase men. But nothing wrong with deciding you like a guy and letting him know. God never told my husband to pursue me nor did he send him knocking on my door.
Wow. You are messed up in the head and a very weak man. Why don't you grow some balls and say hi to a girl you think is cute and see if she smiles and says hi back? Jeeez.... Your comment turned me off as a woman😒
Hi Allyson, I appreciate the gifting God has placed in you. You will recognize and see your man in a few months. When he is revealed to you, there will be no doubt, fear, or confusion and you will not need any confirmation. He is loved by many. Very gentle he will be and also will be bold as a lion. He is very grounded in the Word. Very grounded in the Word and solid. He will like you just the way you are, so do not change anything. You are more than prepared for him and so is he for you. Because you have been faithful and delighted yourself in God, He is going to give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4. The Lord knows you like that verse and also Jeremiah 29:11-14.
I agree. Divorced after twenty-three years of marriage. Wish I had heard these words when I was younger. I'm 45 years old now , and it's hard because I felt I had no choice. Please remember me, when you pray. In Jesus Name ❤️
Yes please single ladies listen to this!!!! I have married someone that does not love me because I am not what he expected. IF HE PRESSURES YOU IN ANY WAY & THERE IS NO PEACE IN YOUR HEART. PLEASE RUN!!! I am loving Jesus through all of this and my hope is not in my husband; his love will not save me. I am like a single mom, working hard to provide, guide them in Christ and protect my children. A godly man will be patient.
A man should not pursue a woman, and a woman should not pursue a man, pursue is like a form of worship idolizing someone, you are so wonderful I should pursue you, a person like this is hurt insecure or ungodly. Pray lord send me a husband or wife bring us together a partner a helper. This is God's way no games just mutual respect.
@Barry Mohammed Yes but check the context God brought her to the man which shows us that it is God who shows the man his mate and then he pursues her as Adam did thereafter "And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." Genesis 2:23 KJV She didn't tell him "man, I'm here and I want you he was the one who spoke" thus it's Written "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Genesis 2:24 KJV It's the man who leaves and goes after. Bibilically nowhere does a lady pursue in fact proverbs keeps on warning a man about those women who try to lure men because the chasing of a man is actually "luring" them. Quite honestly the word of God is based and developed around the Jewish traditions and the Ladies never went after the men. That been said, for those who went after the men as I can see several people here justifying it by stating they're happy and well, let's not forget that it is by the grace of God that the marriage is flourishing which is as a result of having Christ as the centre. But that in itself does not mean that that is what we should do.
Ladies, Men won't pursue something which seems unobtainable. Men are logical and we don't like to waste our time. So if you think that someone is a good match and god is showing you this, you need to reciprocate the attention and interest the man shows you. If you do not do so and act like you are not interested, you will lose your chance to be with him. I say this because I believe god did not make women to be alone in life.
Rocket Steve929 you didn't listen to anything she said. clearly if that person is the one God had for you everything will fall into place there won't be any second guessing. you will know.
thank you!!!this is so key! a lot of ladies have placed themselves on a pedestal, and that pedestal is cozing them to be unobtainable! the attitude is of them being the prize, compare that with someone who really wants to know you! someone who wants to know you, cares about you and will ask questions about you etc, whereas those other ones who want to be the prize, they want you to 'toil' for them, going through hoops for nothing. reciprocation is the secret sauce, if you want a guy and he is providing you with attention, reciprocate, if he asks you out, you dont have to turn him down 13 thousand times before you say yes. yes, we are logical beings, if you are not reciprocating, we leave, and then sometimes when we leave, the ladies start chasing again, so you can chase her again, no it doesnt work that way; if a guy asks you out, it doesnt get any clearer than that, but for some reasons these ladies want you to 'toil'etc which is crazy.
Also though free will is instilled in ppl. Purposed things are under the influence or control of the Holy Spirit and through it's power that man will be driven to persue u and maintain u and want you in his life... period. Just as a good family member a best friend and a destined lover and spouse that person will remain in your life for life n beyond to paradise and even forever if God wills or allows it. Operate inside God's will n all your desires and plans and rich blessings will manifest in your life for good. USA n Westernized Euro Civilizations be crazy thinking. Destructive liberalism... non traditional and cold homosexual demonic societies with strongholds against God's Order of solid monogamous happy marriages & wedded legitimate childbirth. Counterproductive to perfect love and the family unit. The Lord rebukes all that. He has absolutely used His great active force n certainly moves the mans (my husbands) spirit, mind and heart to come to me. God leads n guides my husband to come to me and conquer every challenge and barrier necessary to be together. He also molds and blossoms me into the loving, supportive, respectful, submissive wife, the gift, companion, helper, and life baring one. The best lover my husband needs me to be. We are born to marry the opposite sex this is instilled from creation anything else is demonic, obsolete and destructive to humanity. If u willingly admit satan controls provokes and manipulates ppl to do things then how dare u not give God the full credit and glory that our Most High Father deserves. Know that He can motivate and always does lead ppl to fulfill things. A man aware of his dominion will persue his wife nothing can stop him. Your minds eye must acknowledge these levels of outward love to comprehend this. Its why satan n the media, evil and this fallen world works hard to keep ppl selfish n narcissistic n full of every deception to destroy all these wonders and blessings from God. But it's all in vain. Anyhow... No matter what occurs in our individual lives. God has already defeated all humanities enemies even death and the world is marching towards Jehovah great day of reckoning and vengeance. All things will be made new. None of our instilled needs will be unmet. God is not so cruel to continue this. Read the Bible it's been worked out since the beginning.
Ruthie hi you're not alone. God loves you and me as well. Never give up as I don't have anyone either and I'm 22. But God knows the right one for you. Pray and put God first. Jesus loves you
Ohh my gosh hey I have a feeling that this is the Ruthie that I know (India. xx) If so Im seriously going to spin out haha ! ... There are no concidences in Christ !!! 💕 call me.. let's catch up. X
Ruthie, Allyson Rowe is lying to you. Ruth was the one who pursued Boaz. She also proposed to him. How can you say you are waiting for Boaz and you haven't even read the book of Ruth
Can't believe how pretty you are and you just keep praising God!!! I'm only 15 and I'm trying not to get into dating Untill I find the right one! This means the world!!!
Amen to this! My boyfriend just kicked me out from one day to the next and he’s already moved on while I’m sitting here crying and it’s only been 8 days. I kept asking me myself how it was possible for him to love me then leave me and move on so quick BUT then I realized it was never love. 9 days today and counting to get my sanity back and love myself but most importantly to fix my relationship with God! Thank you for this video🙏🏽
@ Diane Sanchez🙏🏽🙏🏽 Hold on & Dnt b discouraged!! Thx God ya found out sooner den l8r💃🏽🙌🏽. He may try 2 cme bck but I wldnt take him bck if not led by JC( plus he must & goin 2 put in wrk💪🏽💯). I'm glad dat ya was shwn early on & ya remain strng cuz it AINT NO CKEWLK😊. ALWAYS keep JC 1st & let Him direct ya.
Yes, the man pursues the lady. Of course, in order for this to work properly, the lady must be consistent and showing her interest in him, as well. If the man feels that he has to do all the work (looking for her, doing all the calling, etc.)...then he quickly loses interest. Just some practical information, ladies.
Caroleéna Zeni I didn't follow that quite as you stated. You mean, if you show a man you like him, but another man comes along and tells you that he likes you, too? Is this your question?
Wow, I needed to hear this! Lord speak to me. No more chasing, let him to come to me. I need my broken heart to heal. Please keep me in your prayers. Blessings
Watching this video and reading the comments in this comment section has made me realise that even we Christians have differing opinions on what God expects from us, which is why the best thing we can do for ourselves is to pray. We need to ask God how he wants us to conduct ourselves in our season of single hood.
What a great message! I'm single, 36 years old, never been married, and never had any children. Everyone has told me that I'm such a great catch but always asked me why I haven't found anyone. The answer to that would always be "I don't need anyone" I was lying, I do care. (lol). I never liked listening to sermons about "One day you will find the right one", it just made me even sadder. Lol. Then one day something tragic happened to my family 3 years ago, my sister passed away and I became a mother to my 2 year old (now 5 yrs old) nephew. My heart changed and the way I see life has changed for the better. I trusted Jesus more than ever before, my faith became unshakable and my spiritual relationship with Jesus has been life changing. Yes I still get sad sometimes (I'm only human) but God knows what he is doing. I say a prayer and ask God to help me not to focus finding a man but focus on His word more than ever, trust me it helps. I have no idea when I'll get married or maybe I never will but let me put it this way.......One day we will all stand before God and he will see what our hearts desired on this earth. Did you fully desired to please the Lord or was it something else you desired? Don't let in finding a man be the focus. Love you all be blessed!
azercalicia sorry to hear about your loss...keep up the faith dear,God is truly working on something great for you...just like Abraham had faith in the Lord through all his struggles and got blessed abundantly in the end...so will you my dear,press on!!!
I always enjoy listening to your videos! Thank you for sharing. God has used you to help direct my focus on building a stronger relationship with Him. I'm beginning to really cherish my singleness and see how God is using this time as a blessing in my life. I don't want to look back one day and think I took that time alone with just Him for granted. Love you too!
I watched you a year ago and I was crying and broken and what I did was jump right into another relationship. This time- I’ve gotten closer to God. I talk and pray with him everyday. I trust his word over any of my friends when it comes to my inner peace and value and relationships. I’m so glad you popped back up in my suggestions. I didn’t understand your message quite yet a year ago. Now that I have turned toward God and have faith in him your message is loud and clear and it reinforces exactly what I’ve already worked through myself in my own reflection. I am not built to pursue. God is hiding me to prepare me. But I also think it’s wonderful that you point out not everyone is made to marry. Thank you so much
I was truly inspired in church a little while back; we have a reasonably small church (by Australian standards; maybe 80-120 regulars at morning church) and I feel we have a real family and community. One of the older couples would soon be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary (I think it was 50th) and as the man was speaking briefly about it, he said "In a real relationship, there's never two people. I've always felt there was a third and that third is God," I just think this is so true. It makes me sad when I see hollow relationships. I don't think people realise that God isn't something on the side, but what holds everything together. God bless you all, brothers and sisters through Christ. Stay safe and strong ❤️
Brianna Harrison it's not and you're not missing out. A suggestion, focus on yourself and health and future. If you're in school focus and go places in life. And if you're doing other things, focus and go far in places. We are all individuals and belong to no person but our creator. Hope this is some inspiration.
I loved this video thank you for sharing. I am 18 years old and will wait for God to see who will be for me ! Even if the wait might not be on the timing i want it to be on !❤️
I LOVE your makeup!!!! You speaking truth!!! He wants you to marry the right person and will SHO NUFF tell you if someone ain't the one (speaking from experience)!! #LovingFather
Brandy Dawn it's a faith walk. Like I said, I'm speaking from experience. He told me several times of who wasn't the one. At the time I didn't understand but later, things were revealed that confirmed God was "looking out." He loves us so He doesn't want us to be with someone who will hurt us! I think it's good/helpful to bring the one who you are interested in to trusted pastors/leaders in the church so they can evaluate him/her and go to God about that person. I'm still waiting on mine, and I'm sure God will confirm! Please check out my book I Am (Des Taylor) on Amazon, Books-A-Million, and Barnes & Noble. May it bless you!!
Christian young man here, 25 years old. While I was watching the video and listening to the arguments presented, I felt the need to explain this from a male (christian male) perspective. There is a serious problem in today's society with the male-female social dynamic and the current christian dating scene is, in my opinion, a reflection of that dynamic. With all due respect to my sisters here, we need to be honest and say that women are hypergamous and indeed attracted to a man's socioeconomic status and physical appearance ( not blaming you or anything for this, it just is what it is) and even though one cannot fully judge another's status or resources correctly, there are certain behavioral cues that indicate status, or value. Chasing somebody is, unfortunately, a clear sign of lesser value or status and as such women are repulsed by this behavior. I'm not taking about obsessive or needy-style chasing, but just normal approach,texting, whatever, usually christian women do not like this style, as it is, in their own words- too direct. Some may like it,true, but unless you show a clear sign (or set of signs) of social dominance and high status as a man, you are just wasting your time,energy and most likely money. That is what most christian men(from my place of living) feel at this point. I'd like to point out that this is not an attack or vent of rage,hate and frustration, but rather what I hope is an objective and insightful analysis of the situation that most people in christian social circles talk about. Also, I'm not some sort of an ugly loser typing this from whatever emotionally immature reason. I'm 6'1 ft tall, athletically build from years of hard training, full head of hair, not a bad face, I have a lot of friends and a college degree and a good sense of humor(others say). And sorry if I made any grammar mistakes, English is not my 1st language. God bless you!
chetaioo AND most churches have a disparate proportion of more women to men. I’ve seen men in churches work that angle flirting and leading on as well as acting inappropriately. In one church service a married man with his beautiful wife holding his baby next to him turned to stare at me in a suggestive manner for 10 minutes. OR my favourite as soon as a single woman steps through the door getting followed about by unwanted males, harassed every time you go to church etc etc. Add to that social predators disguised as Christians (Religious Narcissists etc) who’s God told they would marry you, or the plain old unsaved who are not saved but want a Christian other. I could go on and on.
+studmalexy. What matters most is confidence and love. We are all perfect by God's design. Embrace the fact that you are a son of God and that His love for you is infinite. Once you allow the love of God fill you up, you will be able to love yourselve and accept the qualities that for this mundane world are described as defects. Believe me, once you love God, and love yourself, you will have a clearer picture of who you are and who can actually improve your life. Singleness is a blessing that allow us to know ourselves better.
You think this was good because you don't know the Bible. Notice she didn't quote a single scripture to substantiate her claim that the man is supposed to be the one to pursue. And please don't quote proverbs 18:22. The word used there is "find" not "pursue." Those two words are not synonyms. Finding can be an effect of pursuing. But pursuit is not the only cause of finding.
I tell you guys. Keep praying and stop searching for. Prepare yourself in self denial and prayer so that when God sends someone you will be prepared to serve them (tbh love is a service). Do you hear me? Families fall apart in west because there is no sacrifice or service, it's mainly on ego and self centred feelings.
My Lord - been single for 7 months. Took my time praying and becoming closer to God. I have someone now pursuing the heck out of me. It's so weird being the one not chasing. God sent me confirmation, but I'm stubborn, so I asked for one more word lol. Stay tuned!
Just bumped into your channel while scrolling on my feed and found one of your videos I'm on a few videos now. You're helping educate men and women keep up the good work. 👏👏
My boyfriend broke up with me in March and I tried to pursue him for three whole months but in vain. My heart was heavy and I probably wasn't prepared, but watching your video today empowers me and reminds me of my worth. Thank you!!! If it's meant to be, It will be and if not it won't, but I will believe in God's word.
JoyProject 2017 Jesus Christ came into the world become like human beings like us i order to reach out for us all Immortal being.. Nothing is permanent in this world except the reality of God's truth that is in Christ Jesus who died for you and me .. Be blessed keep praying n read Word of God daily.. Everyday .. Stay blessed my sister in faith in Christ Jesus our Lord the perfecter & saviour of our soul for eternity amen..
Thank you so much for this video and I agree with it 100 percent. I use to pursue guys, but I also got pursued and one day after realizing that one guy I was chasing wasn't who I thought he was I decided to redo my ways and if God wants me to be with someone, He'll send him my way, but for now I'm enjoying being single and working on myself and I learned that it's okay to turn down men nicely, that you don't have to accept a date with every guy that asks you out, but to look deep into heart and make sure that you're turning them down for the right reasons, not self centered ones like : He's not cute enough, exciting enough, rich enough, etc...because if you turn down a guy for these reasons, you could be saying " No" to the guy that God has sent you.
I pray to God for a proverbs 31 woman because i had suffered so much from past relationships. I didn't understand why Christian women in the past i dated who told me were embedded in the word could do soo much damage emotionally. I was too Naive to figure it out. 3 fail engagements because of cheating and lying tongue. I'm fortunate and very bless to be out. Thank God although the breakups were draining couple with a famliy member death. I prayed and prayed. I think im pretty content with where i am right now. Thanks for the tips. God bless every woman in the forum and God bless your ministry.
Joshua The Giant Slayer I read you’re comment and it really struck me. You know, sometimes heartbreaks come from us not listening to God and leaning into our own understanding. Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us and it’s because he sees further than we do. I have no regrets but I wish a many days I had heeded when the spirit told me no and stay away because each relationship I chose to enter in, they were never the one. I’m battling the same thing now. I’ve been praying for my spouse but also asking God to conform me into the woman I need to be for my husband because a year ago I was a mess. There were things about myself I didn’t even notice would kill our relationship, but I would have never know those qualities and characteristics were there unless I prayed and asked the Lord for correction. Yes it is hard to wait and being content is very important so you just hold on. I’ll be praying for you. God bless you.
you WONT find her.........according to scripture she is extremely extremely rare..........id say less than 1% of all women are these "proverbs 31women"...........even profession Christian women don't fit the criteria of Proverbs 31..................so I'm not pulling any punches here......the red pill truth is....you wont find her
Marriage is not the answer to feelings of emptiness. God is to be the fulfillment. No one can fill you up and make life all better who is a human.Marriage was never designed around romantic love. It was a contract, usually arranged by parents. Romantic love and that “l’m so in love” magical feeling lasts approximately 48 months. There are about 5% of couples lucky enough to retain that for a lifetime. For the rest it becomes a lot of effort and can add to your heartache. If you don’t get your needs met by God and a host of a variety of life’s joys and hobbies- you will be disappointed in married life. Live your life fully with or without a spouse. If you meet a good partner great, if not- so be it. The goal is to be one with God and if you want to marry, pray for a spouse. Just know, that like everything in life- a new car, new clothes, new stuff- the magic wears off and you must have fulfillment through spirituality that renews first. Otherwise, if you marry and times get tough you might not have the skills to travel through that. A happy marriage is a beautiful experience and an unhappy one is a nightmare. ~From one who has experienced both
Was struggling over whether to make another first move with this man with whom things are unclear - I should pray but felt tired from it. Opened TH-cam instead and this was the first video on my feed. Good enough for me ❤🙌
Ladies I have come back to this video to further support Allyson's words of wisdom! As a 24 yr old, single all my life, I struggled to truly embrace this truth and thrive in my season. Finally, God is showing me that a man will indeed PURSUE YOU. There will none of those games, hot & cold, guessing, wondering "well, what are we"...a man who is intentional and interested will make it clear.
Claudia Williams I guess we should. If she is interested. I never rush something no one is into. If someone dosen't comment back I can tell they aren't ready for friendship and waiting on God I am pursuing but this is what I mean when I say a man can pursue a woman but it dosen't always mean that your equally yoked or that the other person wants to know you. Im ready for an open relationship anytime and not use anyone but trust me I know how to treat a woman with respect and love but the thing is not all are ready to go their ways regardless of how they talk. And in the video what she said was correct if she is not responding it means that she is not the one. But anyway still searching for that proverbs woman and be a Boaz but I'll hear from God and choose the right one by pursuing in a godly manner as I'm doing now.
Claudia Williams I know much about friendship and relationships. I've studied both genders and know what they do and been around them in so called friendships many times to understand both genders nearly perfectly to see if someone isthe right one or not. I can pursue but that dosen't mean my lover is ready as of yet.
Healed. Powerful. In Agreement. WOW! I was just pondering over a past relationship and I was thinking about this with God, then your video appeared in my feed!! Thank you for delivering this message!! Also, I have just subscribed to your channel (My name is Allyson with 2 Ls and a Y too 🤗). Blessings to you my sister in Christ!!!
I have met my husband.I had to pursue him.He had just lost his mom and was in alot of pain.You cant make a blanket statement for everyone.It took him a while to realize that I love him and will walk with him through the pain.
Esther Heydon that's not really the desire of God but I'm glad you have the man that you love but biblically a man is supposed to seek and find you because men are supposed to be the head, the leaders, hes supposed to be out Boaz....a woman going out and being thirsty isn't the desire of God!
But does he love you as much as you do him? Why would it have taken him a while to realize? Sounds like forced love. Please don't take this as a negative comment. I'm only responding to the info that you gave. But honestly in my opinion it sounds like you caught him at a sad time in his life and he was vulnerable and needed someone there for him. But as a friend. Just my opinion of course. But you shouldn't have to convince someone to love you dear. GOD BLESS.
Im 34 second divorce. I will try to wait but feel time is out. I want a family and have no children yet. Im distrubed at myself, i tend to pursue relationships based on intense attraction. I don't know how to date based on moral value first and find it frustrating that im not attracted to the guys that are nice. Maybe I need to stop going on dating apps. I will work on me and pray.
I suggest a life coach. There may be something wrong you are not aware of and it has nothing to do with waiting in faith. I had the same thoughts as you, Had faith God would bring her, never happened! I am 61 one now. get help while you are still young. I wanted to get married when I was 22. You do have an issue that you are not attracted to nice guys! You need to find out why!!!! or you will never change and end up settling for an abusive man. Have kids, then divorce etc..avoid all that and get help now!!! REPLY
Yea stop the dating apps. I really don’t like them so impersonal. Just start having fun with getting to know yourself. Read the 5 love languages and kingdom women there really good books.
Christina Gurrola @ the lord said seek him first and everything else will be added. Ask the Lord what he wants for you and trust him through it. Grace and Peace
Christina Gurrola real love is not about fireworks because it comes softly. You have the wrong perception because you are controlled by your flesh which tells you what your type is which in all truth is of no profit to you on a whole that is why those relationships keep failing. Because of this wrong attitude, you attract the wrong men who are no good for you. It's time you shift your mindset and let God supply what you need because life ain't about wants but is about having what need to be happy and healthy in fulfilling the plan of God. Stop running after man and putting your trust in dating apps when your should be trusting God to supply what you need in his time not yours. The right one will show up when you are good and ready not when you are broken. God has his best waiting in line to overtake you but it is until you get act together, allowing God to heal your heart and tranform your mind to know what you are in him and what you deserve then you will keep going around in circles settling for trash when you deserve a treasure. Know that a person attracts what they reflect on the inside.
Thank you! Confirmation on something I been dealing with. God made sure I seen that I was moving to fast.I have been divorced only a year and suddenly I meet someone and we both fell for each other. She broke my heart but I see now that I was not ready to be with someone. The Lord wants me to spend time with him. I was married for 20yrs and I was moving to fast to be with someone. You just helped me realize I have to give it to God.Thank you and God bless
With the ever increase 3rd and 4th wave feminism, yes, more (good) men are prone to walk away if they don't get positive feedback from pursuing a good woman.
Mascara1980 That is a lie. I am a good man, and I will walk away from you if you do not show me that you are interested. For I do not wish to end up in a prison cell or be called evil or lustful by women. You will chase away many good men if you do not show them that you are interested, but instead flash your anger and contempt for men. God bless you, child.
Rocket Steve929 I'm a very happily married woman. I'm saying that there are plenty of men AND women out there who intentionally waste their partner's time by lying about wanting to get married or cheating on them. All of it is wrong and a person should always walk away if they're being treated like this! Why devalue yourself by staying with a liar? I'm not talking about the good men who have good intentions and who are honest. The man or woman should be upfront and being honest that they want a future with you.
I aspire to be like you, I realised that a lot of people my age have no idea about relationship and stuff and I’ve been wanting to study and share about singleness to my youth group but I’ve never actually taken action upon it. You’re so encouraging, thank God for your good work 🙏🏼💕💕
Pusue does not mean waste our hard earned cash. Men, save that for your wife, save that for the woman that will not waste your time and energy. First, tell the woman your intensions, then do some simple dating - meet at the church - go to functions together - But do not give her the attention and gifts that should be reserved for your future wife. If she is a serious Christian woman and is genuinely interested in You, and is what God wants for you as a Man - Then this "christian woman" will respond appropriately and not waste your time in a long - drawn out - relationship. And "thats the bottom line"!
Yes, Why is it that these ladies think these guys are suppose to buy you all this stuff because he's dating you, all the gifting should come after marriage. Jesus is your maker your husband, he's just your date. Are you sleeping with him to expect all these gifts, if so you're living in sin and he not your husband anyway.
Joseph Torres there is nothing wrong with a man taking a woman out, courting her, taking her to the movies and dinner, or treating her you sound like a pathetic cheap cornball, nobody is saying go out and buy her a house, but it doesn't take much money to do small gestures, buy her flowers on occasion, you guys going out and having a nice evening maybe getting a pedicure and talking or something, all your dates can't be at church, stop being cheap and think of little things you can do that are not costly to show her you care! send her a card, maybe a editable arrangement, it doesn't take much to show her you care but out forth some effort
The world is very different now...but God's word never changes. Many people are in touch with God today in many ways especially in the heart. Thanks for the word...in today's world we need to speak like it is. Women Value Yourselves...You are worth more than you think.
Ladies, the man God has for you will pursue God.
Amen!
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Preach Brotha👑 "i Love Tha Lord dats All i Know🙏"-e40(.WW.)
Amen if you're doing that everything else will come in his time
That's right brother.
What I believe is what GOD says.
I heard this from my pastor “if you’re the one chasing him, you’re under the curse. Because he who finds a wife finds a good thing”. It doesn’t say “she who finds a husband”.
God said its not good for man to be alone..than they took away marriage at a young age n broke up marriages n so on...u better pursue Christ
No, it is ok for a lady to drop a hint
I disagree with your pastor. Women can ask and I for one don't pursue anyone.
Sammy Mandy that’s true girl but see how she wasn’t chasing him she was relying on God :)
Adam chased Eve. The sperm chase's the egg. It's biblical and biological.
Remember ladies that God brought Eve to Adam, and when He laid eyes on her He said "Bone of my bones" and "flesh of my flesh". Your husband will know you are his wife the minute he lays eyes on you! Do not chase, but receive what God has for you. Fall in love with JESUS first, and the rest will follow. God will make it known to you, so continue to be patient and trust & wait on the Lord! GOD IS FAITHFUL AND HE WILL DO IT!!! 🙏🌷❤
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This made me cry because it made me realise that I have to let someone go. But thank you for your video, it's the truth! ❤️
Mimi it’s honestly so painful to accept the fact we have to let that one person go bc deep down we know he’s not the one, no matter how much you want him to be. In the end, God has us & the right man will come 💕
Letty D yeah, it's really tough sometimes. Especially when all my friends have someone, so I am surrounded around couples. But I'm sure I'll find the right one day.
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I was in a similar situation, but letting go of the wrong person can do you wonders! It may not feel so at this point, but later you will realize that you made the right decision. I've been single for almost 3 years, and to be honest, I started thinking that God wants me to be single. Lol, I recently met a man with such a beautiful, caring heart and who has such a strong relationship with the Lord, it made me grow closer to God :)
Simone Jones that’s truly amazing. And yes I understand, it’s on our Father’s time! ❤️
I completely gave up on men altogether and decided to give God my full attention for 2 solid years. I was devout and studied His word. It was then that He showed me who my husband was... And I was the one who asked him out. I just felt led, after fasting and prayer. Needless to say we have been married for 10 years, and have 2 beautiful boys together. (ages 6 and 7) Our relationship isn't perfect,but we make God the center. Just wanted to give a different perspective.
Marie De la Cruz
Great testimony. Thanks for sharing
Marie De la Cruz Great News . Never underestimate God's plan for your life.
I truly thank you for your testimony.
Marie De la Cruz Youre blessed
Marie De la Cruz, love your testimony! You are an inspiration to many!
Awesome! Praise God!!! ☝🏼🙏🏻
My husband is a wonderful man of God. He is also extremely introverted. I was the extrovert. I made the first move. We have been married for almost 7 years now and have 3 children. Let's stop putting relationships in a box. God has an individual design for every relationship. He knows what we all need personally. My husband needed that intial push.
Pursue and (as you wrote) “initial push” are not the same.
ALL men appreciate :
TO BE APPRECIATED • • •
*a little 'gentle' encouragement can go ~
a REAL long way as well...
"FEAR NOT... only calmly believe.
In all fairness dear sister Tanya- I do believe there’s a SIGNIFICANT difference between a “push” and a “pursuit”... I actually agree with you on that, in the sense I’ve seen SO MANY beautiful happily married couples (for decades may I add) in a similar story as yours. 😌 I’m actually an extrovert too which is why I understand where you’re coming from. But pursuit I believe is someone who consistently goes “after” a girl. In every way. If I’m wrong- do correct me, but this is what I understand from Ms. Rowe spoke about. 😌
Yeah I don't agree with what this woman says. People are raised different.
Initial "push" is one thing,but pursuing a man is never wise!!
Don't lose yourself in the process of loving someone.
Juanita - spoken wisely!
Such wise words!!! It is very true. I can not express how true that is!!
do looks matter?..or does inner beauty count more?...if so, can someone explain why me, a short ugly man, cant find any girl who will go out with me?
You becone whole
So true! I can relate to this. I need to re-find myself.
I love this "maybe his hiding you because His preparing you" !! WOW YOU AMAZING WOMAN OF GOD
This is soooooo true ladies. I recently started seeing someone...after 5 years of not dating!!! We talked every day, for at least 3 hours! He poured his heart out, as did I! We both have a very, very strong relationship with God! We both agreed our love for God has to take center stage! Then all of a sudden...I did not hear from him! The old younger me would have chased! Instead, I gave it to the Lord. I was looking up at the moon one night and said, "Lord, why?" In my spirit, God said, "Be still...and know that I am God." That was all I needed to know. Three days pasted and he called! He said, he was not looking for love when we met. I said I was not either. He said, he was getting scared! He said,"I have never felt this way, I do not want to loose you." We talked and talked and talked. Bottom line, Allyson is right! If your man is pulling away...let him! If the union, is of God...which my man and I agree we believe ours is...your man will chase you! Hope this helps someone! Allyson, thank you so much! God bless you all.
Wow, such a powerful testimony. 🙌🏻😁✝️💓
Use pursue. We don't chase women of God.
We pursue them.
I'm 34 and believe that the right man will find me. Do I wish I was already married? Of course, but God has a plan. My prayer is he's molding that man for me!
Mari Mayn don’t worry. I’m 44 and still haven’t found the one.. just have faith it will happen at the right time❤️
Mari Mayn come on now Jesus Christ ..Jesus bless and loves you
Charlotte Hemingway lol, you never know what people are going through. Don't be quick to judge. Be quick to love :D
Haha y'all are dumbass's. Ur not just gonna find a man by waiting lmao.... Have fun waiting for nothing, and in the future u will soon realize the time u wasted
Don't worry my mon married at 37
I believe 100% in what you say Alysson! at 25 years old, after some wrong relationships, I asked God to teach me about marriage. I told God I didn't want to date anymore, I wanted a husband, a man brave enough to pursue me and who would want to stay with me forever. God is powerful and is able to see the whole picture, I believe He has fashioned a man just perfect for me, and He can do that for anyone who is willing to trust wholeheartedly in Him. At 27 I met and married this man and every single day I glorify God for His faithfulness. My Husband is a blessing from God! respects, honors, cherishes, values and loves me, and that's all because God is the greatest love of His life. Seek God first and foremost, people! if He is the center of your life EVERYTHING ELSE will fall into place.
Ketziah rose amen glory to God
I hope that'll be my story. I'm just struggling with giving everything to God even though I want what he has for me.
Ketziah rose wow thank you for this I’m encouraged
Thanks for the encouragement and hope and for braving it out when you had to :)
I'm going with this method I don't want to date I rather wait on the LORD to show me my wife. Are you Haitian?
“Maybe He’s hiding you on purpose” I felt that! 🙌🏾
Being alone for a while with yourself is a gift. So many people haven't had the chance to love themselves by themselves. So many people marry and never even spend at least a year or more getting to really know who they are. People who take the time to have a relationship with themselves first will have better partnerships and marriages. Fall in love with yourself first and you will meet the perfect match based on how much you love yourself💗✨ThAnk you for this video!!!
That is absolutely true!!! :)
Agree! I'm single now and loving me.
Candace Dawn Good for you- you get to have a brand new adventure with the new you 🏹✨
Sunflowershowers you are so right love you love michael
Caroleéna Zeni what a wonderful name you have get a real good feeling in my spirit about you when you allow him to live through you you can walk in his love and I'm the power of the almighty God so I would say by faith exspect the unexpected to the world this would be called unrealalistic expectations I'm glad all your dreams and hearts desires are coming to pass God bless you may you always be filled with love you and peace walking in complete victory love michael
I can confirm this word. Talking to My God 3 in the morning he had me write down about 5 months ago things that my husband will do that would give me confirmation to know when he does show up and the one thing God kept repeating to be was that my husband will PURSUE me. He repeated it in my spirit. So now God has given me a nugget , that if I meet someone and it's the other way around ITS NOT FROM HIM! GLORY to Jesus!!
you sure he wasnt saying pursue me.
I am SO jealous that you can hear God...I backslid because I just could never hear from Him!!!
You know you can get medication for those voices, right?....
I was praying for an answer about my love life, if I was meant to be alone or marry and two years ago, God told me the same thing! He said : "I'm preparing someone for you. Don't try to take the iniative like you did before you knew me. He will be the one to approach you and make his intentions known."
Jorge Janson why did you say such a mean Thing like that? If you don't believe it, you can just not say anything at all.
Don't rush yourself in finding someone to love you because love is better when you don't search for it. Love will come when you least expect it, so better take your time and enjoy being with yourself.
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@Dennis Orvis if you chase love continuously it won’t come to you.
@@sk-uh1xv where’d u get that from? You think that love is just going to fall in ur lap. 😭laziness.
God showed me this directly in a dream, "Ladies, be careful who you pick as a boyfriend, be careful who you choose as a mate."....
This dream changed my life... hopefully it can help someone reading this... don't settle for less than you deserve
What dream did you have?
TIGHTLY TEXTURED very well said. I come out of a three year relationship with an autistic man that left me drained. I had dream that came out regarding him and all came real,like how we met etc. Now I'm left questioning God why why why. Hard to explain but is never date anyone with autism. I am left with low self esteem and need to rebuild my life back with joy. Help in prayers. I feel he was a deception from the enemy.
Yes that is me because I've been divorced I had always picked the abusers since my ex was the same. Then a man with autism which was the most challenging thing in my life. I know it was meant for me to go thru it but I'm a little bitter at God as to why he allowed it. It was a spiritual battle and my faith was tested. Hardest three years of my life. I had learned patience beyond words
otilia ESTERA D. Don't let it make you bitter...work on switching those letters....from BiTTER to BeTTER...change i to e
T.T great super advice. Thank you. I'm trying to accept it and built up my joy. Yes change bitter to better. Hallelujah .😅😍😊
Psalm 37:23-24 New Living Translation (NLT)
23 The Lord directs the steps of the godly.
He delights in every detail of their lives.
24 Though they stumble, they will never fall,
for the Lord holds them by the hand.
Jacob Cham Question answered -period.
Qt 💓
Thank you Jacob
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Jacob Cham Amen
I love this! I thought for so long that I'd be single forever until God recently brought the love of my life back into my life. Never dated him before but we've been friends since we were 12. He'll be 29 and a few days later I'll be 30. I've been single for around 6-7 years. I never imagined any of this but I thank God every single day because I don't know what I'd do without my future husband. He is like no one I've ever known. He knows that we need to keep God in the center of our relationship and he encourages me to be better.
Can't stress this enough, God is worth waiting for when it comes to a mate. Case in point: I'm only a bit younger than Hugh "Wolverine" Jackman & I am still waiting for mine. Yes, I know it's different for men than women, but not THAT much. I have female friends that gave birth to their first kids well into their 40's, so just stay in prayer & never let the enemy cause you to waiver in your faith.
Caleb Williams That's encouraging, especially coming from a guy.Thanks!
I suggest a life coach. There may be something wrong you are not aware of and it has nothing to do with waiting in faith. I had the same thoughts as you, Had faith God would bring her, never happened! I am 61 one now. get help while you are still young. I wanted to get married when I was 22.
Jesus is my life coach. :-)
he was mine too, still is
Thank you Caleb Williams!!! I'm almost 38 so I needed to hear that!!
I believe God is in control and I will trust Him.
Wanda Santillo yes God will never fail you in Jesus name amen
“Run into marriage healed and in agreement “ , I love that !!!
"GOD IS MY MATCHMAKER"... I read the book and it helped me get my life into perspective. GOD has a soul mate for you ...but we will meet them in God's timing... (Not our own timing)...until then we keep our eyes on our journey God has set for us staying on that path...we want to be equally yoked with the one God has for us so that we can be on the same path together....it is worth waiting!....God will confirm to you when that man comes into your life..and He will confirm to the man in many ways. It's so important to wait for the right one instead of getting involved with so many guys that it causes a lot of unnecessary baggage. I can attest to this by my life experiences. I'm 54 years old...was married at 19..divorced at 24...remarried at 27...divorced again at 30...remarried again at 33...divorced the same year (wolf in sheep's clothing)...remarried to the love of my life at 37..and then he passed away with cancer when I was 50. My heart has always been to please God, but was deceived and lonely throughout my life. Am I proud to say I've been divorced and remarried a few times..no...its humiliating...but what I can advise to others is to wait for the one God has for you who is equally yoked!...read the book..."God is my MATCHMAKER " by Stephanie Herzog. I was told about this book from a gentleman off of a dating site who said God was convicting him to get off the dating sites...so I did! It's a mess out there in the world to have to find a mate through internet services....too many people who are deceiving and looking for other things that are not if God....I don't have time to weed through all the crazies while I'm paying the dating service $$....GOD convicted me to just focus on Him...go about my life as a strong widow in the Lord and help other people...I don't need a husband...but if God puts one in my life that is from Him then Praise God!...However God has told me that He is coming soon...we are in the last of the last days.. Glory Hallelujah!!!!
I’m married to a narcissist and I am codependent I’m a mother with a special needs son I’m opening up my business and things are picking up I pray for strength wisdom and God‘s will in my life
Mary Ann Garcia GOD bless you sweetheart ❤ I know the pain of being married to a narcissist! But know this... This is your SEASON! Walk into it because GOD GOT YOU❤💍👑😁🤗💪
You aren’t alone there beautiful! I married a bipolar narcissist, and I too struggle with codependency issues. Being a nurturer by nature has its struggles. God sees you, and your struggles. God actually told me to leave mine, and showed me through a dream he was cheating. After catching him 3 times I finally decided to obey God, and leave. All this to say no matter the mistakes we make in life, God’s mercy far surpasses. He can work through any and every situation. I’ll be praying for you, your family, and your business.
I'll be praying for you ❤
Leave his ass as soon as you can
Good luck in everything!
I watched this video 3yrs ago, I was heartbroken and chasing the guy with all my energy in an attempt to get him back. Look at me now, I sit n watch as they chase me without lifting a finger to get them.
Update 2022: I'm married 🥰🥰
😆😆😆😆 Good!!
Amen!! I gave up of chase someone to god show me
I think I've found my best friend! Ive never heard another person have the same thoughts on singleness, dating and marriage! I don't know why people (christians) think God does not want to get involved in who we marry. Why wouldn't He! So He wants to be Lord over every area of our lives, except this one area? Makes no sense to me! Amen sister! Keep declaring the word of the Lord. I'm inspired by your messages.
I agree...i think the same thing
Exactly.... The Lord has been saying this to his daughters for years.. Be virtuous ladies be villigent.. Know what the will of the Lord is. Great message 👍
PREACH! I was just talking with God about this subject this morning. I said Dad, “I don’t care who He is. If I don’t hear from you that he is my husband, I will not date him!” Guarantee that at the same time God brings you your husband the devil is going to bring a distraction. Ladies, we have to be in prayer at all times about everything!! This is so good!
As a Christian male that is single and living in the real world , yes God originally designed us to pursue women , but I'll tell you first hand if your not putting effort into chasing a guy back at least 25%, the man will get discouraged and walk away , that's the way it is , you should not just expect him to be the first one to text or call constantly, or he's gonna take this as a sign , your not into him, so chase back ladies just a little bit , it goes a long way , and it will lock him in to knowing you like him back
Chad P. Wow men are lazy today guess having women readily available online a man doesnt know anymore how to be well.... a man!
Yep. There's a girl I KNOW is meant for me, and I pursued her, and she's COMPLETELY ignoring me. I feel in my spirit that, at this moment, her feelings for me have changed due to what I feel God is telling me in my heart. How do I feel at this moment: that I'm not doing ANYTHING anymore to try to get her. I'm waiting on God to make it happen through her because I've given her opportunity after opportunity, and STILL now I'm willing to be with her even though she's broken my heart twice.
Chris Taylor yeah don't let her string you along let her go fir maybe even a few days and see if she messages you or not , texting and stuff in this day and age has ruined dating , in the old days you just got to know each other face to face in dates or in occasion over the phone ya know , maybe just wait a free days and then just call her , I dunno if your blowing her up alot via text , but usually once you go away they miss you even if it's just a few days it a week or something
Gospel Ninja facts
Chad P. That’s actually the point. She said if the women doesn’t respond then she’s not for you. If she does respond though that also doesn’t mean she’s for you. That’s when you ask God to determine
Real love flows easily.
no. that is lust.
Anne Couldn't of said it any better
YES
maunder01 huh? Explain.
No, it just as often doesn't.
Sis, most men aren't going to pursue you, unless you let him know that you are interested, please, do us both a favor and make it plain that you are(an obvious smile and making yourself available to be approached, etc. Repeatedly if necessary!) That being said, I LOVE to have a Sister in Christ introduce herself and strike up a conversation with me, this takes the guess work out of weather you like us or not. Godly men will seek after you, if you let us know you want us to!
Amen
Keith Brannan Amen I think it's true
Absolutely, Keith! I'm a little disgruntled over this topic. I was a faithful Christian and while other girls were out partying or with their boyfriends, I was home waiting for my man to find me. I was an old spinster at my church. I was 27 years old and had never had a boyfriend. I'd had a longtime crush on my brother's friend. One day I let him know in a round about way that I'd had a crush on him. We started dating and in November we'll have been married 18 years! He said that had I not let him know I liked him, he would never have hit on me because I was the sister of his friend. I'm not saying women should chase men. But nothing wrong with deciding you like a guy and letting him know. God never told my husband to pursue me nor did he send him knocking on my door.
Keith Brannan uhmmm yayyayaya 50/50,, I agree...signals do matter as well to ease the process
Wow. You are messed up in the head and a very weak man. Why don't you grow some balls and say hi to a girl you think is cute and see if she smiles and says hi back? Jeeez.... Your comment turned me off as a woman😒
Hi Allyson, I appreciate the gifting God has placed in you. You will recognize and see your man in a few months. When he is revealed to you, there will be no doubt, fear, or confusion and you will not need any confirmation. He is loved by many. Very gentle he will be and also will be bold as a lion. He is very grounded in the Word. Very grounded in the Word and solid. He will like you just the way you are, so do not change anything. You are more than prepared for him and so is he for you. Because you have been faithful and delighted yourself in God, He is going to give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4. The Lord knows you like that verse and also Jeremiah 29:11-14.
I agree. Divorced after twenty-three years of marriage. Wish I had heard these words when I was younger.
I'm 45 years old now , and it's hard because I felt I had no choice.
Please remember me, when you pray.
In Jesus Name ❤️
Kimberly Renee i believe God can restore marriage after divorce. Seek God about what he wants for you.
Kimberly Renee I'm right there with you. 23 years together...19 married. 5 years divorced
18 yrs married, 2 months divorced. Does it get easier??
Cherry Lollipop it does get better....takes time and work.
I work a lot
same here..have faith. everything will be alright, in fact it can be better than before if you let it be. With or without a partner.
I love watching these back and seeing where you are now. God fulfilled the promise in your life. Be Blessed.
Yes please single ladies listen to this!!!! I have married someone that does not love me because I am not what he expected. IF HE PRESSURES YOU IN ANY WAY & THERE IS NO PEACE IN YOUR HEART. PLEASE RUN!!! I am loving Jesus through all of this and my hope is not in my husband; his love will not save me. I am like a single mom, working hard to provide, guide them in Christ and protect my children. A godly man will be patient.
A man should not pursue a woman, and a woman should not pursue a man, pursue is like a form of worship idolizing someone, you are so wonderful I should pursue you, a person like this is hurt insecure or ungodly. Pray lord send me a husband or wife bring us together a partner a helper. This is God's way no games just mutual respect.
Genesis 2.22....God brought her to the man...
wow! lol.. so biblical and funny!!
And Genesis 6..1 to 3...explain what happens when children of God chose.
@Barry Mohammed Yes but check the context God brought her to the man which shows us that it is God who shows the man his mate and then he pursues her as Adam did thereafter "And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." Genesis 2:23 KJV
She didn't tell him "man, I'm here and I want you he was the one who spoke" thus it's Written "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Genesis 2:24 KJV
It's the man who leaves and goes after. Bibilically nowhere does a lady pursue in fact proverbs keeps on warning a man about those women who try to lure men because the chasing of a man is actually "luring" them. Quite honestly the word of God is based and developed around the Jewish traditions and the Ladies never went after the men. That been said, for those who went after the men as I can see several people here justifying it by stating they're happy and well, let's not forget that it is by the grace of God that the marriage is flourishing which is as a result of having Christ as the centre. But that in itself does not mean that that is what we should do.
Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Ladies,
Men won't pursue something which seems unobtainable. Men are logical and we don't like to waste our time. So if you think that someone is a good match and god is showing you this, you need to reciprocate the attention and interest the man shows you. If you do not do so and act like you are not interested, you will lose your chance to be with him. I say this because I believe god did not make women to be alone in life.
Rocket Steve929 you didn't listen to anything she said. clearly if that person is the one God had for you everything will fall into place there won't be any second guessing. you will know.
thank you!!!this is so key! a lot of ladies have placed themselves on a pedestal, and that pedestal is cozing them to be unobtainable! the attitude is of them being the prize, compare that with someone who really wants to know you! someone who wants to know you, cares about you and will ask questions about you etc, whereas those other ones who want to be the prize, they want you to 'toil' for them, going through hoops for nothing. reciprocation is the secret sauce, if you want a guy and he is providing you with attention, reciprocate, if he asks you out, you dont have to turn him down 13 thousand times before you say yes. yes, we are logical beings, if you are not reciprocating, we leave, and then sometimes when we leave, the ladies start chasing again, so you can chase her again, no it doesnt work that way; if a guy asks you out, it doesnt get any clearer than that, but for some reasons these ladies want you to 'toil'etc which is crazy.
Yes!!!
Very accurate assessment. Moreover if a man pursues, he will be arrested and locked up. Men know this.
Also though free will is instilled in ppl. Purposed things are under the influence or control of the Holy Spirit and through it's power that man will be driven to persue u and maintain u and want you in his life... period. Just as a good family member a best friend and a destined lover and spouse that person will remain in your life for life n beyond to paradise and even forever if God wills or allows it. Operate inside God's will n all your desires and plans and rich blessings will manifest in your life for good.
USA n Westernized Euro Civilizations be crazy thinking. Destructive liberalism... non traditional and cold homosexual demonic societies with strongholds against God's Order of solid monogamous happy marriages & wedded legitimate childbirth. Counterproductive to perfect love and the family unit. The Lord rebukes all that. He has absolutely used His great active force n certainly moves the mans (my husbands) spirit, mind and heart to come to me. God leads n guides my husband to come to me and conquer every challenge and barrier necessary to be together. He also molds and blossoms me into the loving, supportive, respectful, submissive wife, the gift, companion, helper, and life baring one. The best lover my husband needs me to be. We are born to marry the opposite sex this is instilled from creation anything else is demonic, obsolete and destructive to humanity. If u willingly admit satan controls provokes and manipulates ppl to do things then how dare u not give God the full credit and glory that our Most High Father deserves. Know that He can motivate and always does lead ppl to fulfill things. A man aware of his dominion will persue his wife nothing can stop him. Your minds eye must acknowledge these levels of outward love to comprehend this. Its why satan n the media, evil and this fallen world works hard to keep ppl selfish n narcissistic n full of every deception to destroy all these wonders and blessings from God. But it's all in vain. Anyhow... No matter what occurs in our individual lives. God has already defeated all humanities enemies even death and the world is marching towards Jehovah great day of reckoning and vengeance. All things will be made new. None of our instilled needs will be unmet. God is not so cruel to continue this. Read the Bible it's been worked out since the beginning.
I’m 24 and single, never been in a relationship. I look forward to meeting my Boaz and being pursued one day!
Ruthie hi you're not alone. God loves you and me as well. Never give up as I don't have anyone either and I'm 22. But God knows the right one for you. Pray and put God first. Jesus loves you
Ruthie her
Ohh my gosh hey I have a feeling that this is the Ruthie that I know (India. xx) If so Im seriously going to spin out haha ! ... There are no concidences in Christ !!! 💕 call me.. let's catch up. X
Ruthie,
Allyson Rowe is lying to you. Ruth was the one who pursued Boaz. She also proposed to him. How can you say you are waiting for Boaz and you haven't even read the book of Ruth
Ruthie u will find ur Boaz who will love and respect u in Jesus matchless name!! Amen!!!!
KNOW YOUR WORTH!!
yes!
A woman of God knows her worth !! Amen 🙏
Can't believe how pretty you are and you just keep praising God!!! I'm only 15 and I'm trying not to get into dating Untill I find the right one! This means the world!!!
Amen to this! My boyfriend just kicked me out from one day to the next and he’s already moved on while I’m sitting here crying and it’s only been 8 days. I kept asking me myself how it was possible for him to love me then leave me and move on so quick BUT then I realized it was never love. 9 days today and counting to get my sanity back and love myself but most importantly to fix my relationship with God! Thank you for this video🙏🏽
Keep praying and keep your faith in God. He will heal you. I am praying for you, be blessed.
@@itiswell thank you! God bless you! 🙏🏽
@ Diane Sanchez🙏🏽🙏🏽 Hold on & Dnt b discouraged!! Thx God ya found out sooner den l8r💃🏽🙌🏽. He may try 2 cme bck but I wldnt take him bck if not led by JC( plus he must & goin 2 put in wrk💪🏽💯). I'm glad dat ya was shwn early on & ya remain strng cuz it AINT NO CKEWLK😊. ALWAYS keep JC 1st & let Him direct ya.
Yes, the man pursues the lady. Of course, in order for this to work properly, the lady must be consistent and showing her interest in him, as well. If the man feels that he has to do all the work (looking for her, doing all the calling, etc.)...then he quickly loses interest. Just some practical information, ladies.
Very True.. Two wrongs dont make a right. Men... Sigh ..
Caroleéna Zeni I didn't follow that quite as you stated. You mean, if you show a man you like him, but another man comes along and tells you that he likes you, too? Is this your question?
Wow, I needed to hear this! Lord speak to me. No more chasing, let him to come to me. I need my broken heart to heal. Please keep me in your prayers. Blessings
Watching this video and reading the comments in this comment section has made me realise that even we Christians have differing opinions on what God expects from us, which is why the best thing we can do for ourselves is to pray. We need to ask God how he wants us to conduct ourselves in our season of single hood.
What a great message! I'm single, 36 years old, never been married, and never had any children. Everyone has told me that I'm such a great catch but always asked me why I haven't found anyone. The answer to that would always be "I don't need anyone" I was lying, I do care. (lol). I never liked listening to sermons about "One day you will find the right one", it just made me even sadder. Lol. Then one day something tragic happened to my family 3 years ago, my sister passed away and I became a mother to my 2 year old (now 5 yrs old) nephew. My heart changed and the way I see life has changed for the better. I trusted Jesus more than ever before, my faith became unshakable and my spiritual relationship with Jesus has been life changing. Yes I still get sad sometimes (I'm only human) but God knows what he is doing. I say a prayer and ask God to help me not to focus finding a man but focus on His word more than ever, trust me it helps. I have no idea when I'll get married or maybe I never will but let me put it this way.......One day we will all stand before God and he will see what our hearts desired on this earth. Did you fully desired to please the Lord or was it something else you desired? Don't let in finding a man be the focus. Love you all be blessed!
azercalicia try christian dating for free. Their a good christian males there.
azercalicia sorry to hear about your loss...keep up the faith dear,God is truly working on something great for you...just like Abraham had faith in the Lord through all his struggles and got blessed abundantly in the end...so will you my dear,press on!!!
I always enjoy listening to your videos! Thank you for sharing. God has used you to help direct my focus on building a stronger relationship with Him. I'm beginning to really cherish my singleness and see how God is using this time as a blessing in my life. I don't want to look back one day and think I took that time alone with just Him for granted. Love you too!
Girl, I asked the Lord the other day for help and I do reckon this is exactly what He wanted me to hear. Thank for that!
Gorgeous woman of God, may God keep using You mightily!
You have the most beautiful eyes 😍💕
I watched you a year ago and I was crying and broken and what I did was jump right into another relationship. This time- I’ve gotten closer to God. I talk and pray with him everyday. I trust his word over any of my friends when it comes to my inner peace and value and relationships. I’m so glad you popped back up in my suggestions. I didn’t understand your message quite yet a year ago. Now that I have turned toward God and have faith in him your message is loud and clear and it reinforces exactly what I’ve already worked through myself in my own reflection. I am not built to pursue. God is hiding me to prepare me. But I also think it’s wonderful that you point out not everyone is made to marry. Thank you so much
I was truly inspired in church a little while back; we have a reasonably small church (by Australian standards; maybe 80-120 regulars at morning church) and I feel we have a real family and community. One of the older couples would soon be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary (I think it was 50th) and as the man was speaking briefly about it, he said "In a real relationship, there's never two people. I've always felt there was a third and that third is God,"
I just think this is so true. It makes me sad when I see hollow relationships. I don't think people realise that God isn't something on the side, but what holds everything together.
God bless you all, brothers and sisters through Christ. Stay safe and strong ❤️
Infinity Turtle i love this. Thanks for sharing
I'm 19. I've never thought about marriage or dating because I never thought about it being a big deal.
Brianna Harrison it's not and you're not missing out. A suggestion, focus on yourself and health and future. If you're in school focus and go places in life. And if you're doing other things, focus and go far in places. We are all individuals and belong to no person but our creator. Hope this is some inspiration.
Im 21 and feel the same way..I wonder if this is normal lol
Yal may have the gift of singleness. That's a blessing just as much as having a spouse is. Have fun being single if that's what you enjoy:)
Brianna Harrison Lucky you
No, you're smart. Don't ruin your life.
I loved this video thank you for sharing. I am 18 years old and will wait for God to see who will be for me ! Even if the wait might not be on the timing i want it to be on !❤️
You are so right on. You are stunning and wise. God Bless and grow your ministry. I was raised to be a lady. Ladies never pursue men. 💗
I LOVE your makeup!!!! You speaking truth!!! He wants you to marry the right person and will SHO NUFF tell you if someone ain't the one (speaking from experience)!! #LovingFather
I know riiiii...
😉😉
How do you know for sure?
Brandy Dawn it's a faith walk. Like I said, I'm speaking from experience. He told me several times of who wasn't the one. At the time I didn't understand but later, things were revealed that confirmed God was "looking out." He loves us so He doesn't want us to be with someone who will hurt us! I think it's good/helpful to bring the one who you are interested in to trusted pastors/leaders in the church so they can evaluate him/her and go to God about that person. I'm still waiting on mine, and I'm sure God will confirm! Please check out my book I Am (Des Taylor) on Amazon, Books-A-Million, and Barnes & Noble. May it bless you!!
Thank you.
Brandy Dawn no problem 😊
I’m completely tearing up while watching this! I’m going through a heartbreak right now and this gives me so much hope.
Yes!!! I Agree!!!!!! And your make up is flawless!!!!
Ashley-Nicole Williams rightttttttt????? Flawless!!!!
Her fake-up is flawless. Anything made up isn't real.
Christian young man here, 25 years old. While I was watching the video and listening to the arguments presented, I felt the need to explain this from a male (christian male) perspective. There is a serious problem in today's society with the male-female social dynamic and the current christian dating scene is, in my opinion, a reflection of that dynamic. With all due respect to my sisters here, we need to be honest and say that women are hypergamous and indeed attracted to a man's socioeconomic status and physical appearance ( not blaming you or anything for this, it just is what it is) and even though one cannot fully judge another's status or resources correctly, there are certain behavioral cues that indicate status, or value. Chasing somebody is, unfortunately, a clear sign of lesser value or status and as such women are repulsed by this behavior. I'm not taking about obsessive or needy-style chasing, but just normal approach,texting, whatever, usually christian women do not like this style, as it is, in their own words- too direct. Some may like it,true, but unless you show a clear sign (or set of signs) of social dominance and high status as a man, you are just wasting your time,energy and most likely money. That is what most christian men(from my place of living) feel at this point. I'd like to point out that this is not an attack or vent of rage,hate and frustration, but rather what I hope is an objective and insightful analysis of the situation that most people in christian social circles talk about. Also, I'm not some sort of an ugly loser typing this from whatever emotionally immature reason. I'm 6'1 ft tall, athletically build from years of hard training, full head of hair, not a bad face, I have a lot of friends and a college degree and a good sense of humor(others say). And sorry if I made any grammar mistakes, English is not my 1st language. God bless you!
I have to agree with you on this. Wish we could have more of such conversation. Am gonna say that praying for God's discernment is really important.
chetaioo AND most churches have a disparate proportion of more women to men. I’ve seen men in churches work that angle flirting and leading on as well as acting inappropriately. In one church service a married man with his beautiful wife holding his baby next to him turned to stare at me in a suggestive manner for 10 minutes. OR my favourite as soon as a single woman steps through the door getting followed about by unwanted males, harassed every time you go to church etc etc. Add to that social predators disguised as Christians (Religious Narcissists etc) who’s God told they would marry you, or the plain old unsaved who are not saved but want a Christian other. I could go on and on.
Regardless of any religion, this holds true for everyone. Great message!
This was so good. Found this randomly. But it was so good. So many girls need to hear this. Thank you!
do looks matter?..or does inner beauty count more?...if so, can someone explain why me, a short ugly man, cant find any girl who will go out with me?
+studmalexy. What matters most is confidence and love. We are all perfect by God's design. Embrace the fact that you are a son of God and that His love for you is infinite. Once you allow the love of God fill you up, you will be able to love yourselve and accept the qualities that for this mundane world are described as defects. Believe me, once you love God, and love yourself, you will have a clearer picture of who you are and who can actually improve your life. Singleness is a blessing that allow us to know ourselves better.
You think this was good because you don't know the Bible. Notice she didn't quote a single scripture to substantiate her claim that the man is supposed to be the one to pursue. And please don't quote proverbs 18:22. The word used there is "find" not "pursue." Those two words are not synonyms. Finding can be an effect of pursuing. But pursuit is not the only cause of finding.
I tell you guys. Keep praying and stop searching for. Prepare yourself in self denial and prayer so that when God sends someone you will be prepared to serve them (tbh love is a service). Do you hear me? Families fall apart in west because there is no sacrifice or service, it's mainly on ego and self centred feelings.
My Lord - been single for 7 months. Took my time praying and becoming closer to God. I have someone now pursuing the heck out of me. It's so weird being the one not chasing. God sent me confirmation, but I'm stubborn, so I asked for one more word lol. Stay tuned!
I LOVE your makeup girl!!!! So true that if a man is sent by God u will not seek attention, respect, love and so on
Allyson I could tell you love the Lord and that's from a women who knows the Lord for years
I am 73years
G-d bless you
You are always glowing lady I love your messages I appreciate your time.
But fellas...if you purse a woman and she aint feeling you....don't keep pressing. It's not worth it.
Brandon Allen true
Brandon Allen i pesued after a break up and got called a weirdo stalker ive never been closer to satan to be honest
Just bumped into your channel while scrolling on my feed and found one of your videos I'm on a few videos now. You're helping educate men and women keep up the good work. 👏👏
My boyfriend broke up with me in March and I tried to pursue him for three whole months but in vain. My heart was heavy and I probably wasn't prepared, but watching your video today empowers me and reminds me of my worth. Thank you!!! If it's meant to be, It will be and if not it won't, but I will believe in God's word.
pray for me sis.... very sad and depressed today😢..... I feel forgotten
Todi Bankole thank you so much 💛😇💛
JoyProject 2017 Jesus Christ came into the world become like human beings like us i order to reach out for us all Immortal being.. Nothing is permanent in this world except the reality of God's truth that is in Christ Jesus who died for you and me .. Be blessed keep praying n read Word of God daily.. Everyday .. Stay blessed my sister in faith in Christ Jesus our Lord the perfecter & saviour of our soul for eternity amen..
JoyProject 2017 i mean rather we as mortal beings And God being immortal one .. Go back to the source
JoyProject 2017 god has plans for you, he is depending on you staying plugged in
2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear , but of power n of love n of a sound mind .
"Baby girl that is called DESPERATION" 😂 Sighh I know women like this
Shhhhh!!!!
Thank you so much for this video and I agree with it 100 percent. I use to pursue guys, but I also got pursued and one day after realizing that one guy I was chasing wasn't who I thought he was I decided to redo my ways and if God wants me to be with someone, He'll send him my way, but for now I'm enjoying being single and working on myself and I learned that it's okay to turn down men nicely, that you don't have to accept a date with every guy that asks you out, but to look deep into heart and make sure that you're turning them down for the right reasons, not self centered ones like : He's not cute enough, exciting enough, rich enough, etc...because if you turn down a guy for these reasons, you could be saying " No" to the guy that God has sent you.
I pray to God for a proverbs 31 woman because i had suffered so much from past relationships. I didn't understand why Christian women in the past i dated who told me were embedded in the word could do soo much damage emotionally. I was too Naive to figure it out. 3 fail engagements because of cheating and lying tongue. I'm fortunate and very bless to be out. Thank God although the breakups were draining couple with a famliy member death. I prayed and prayed. I think im pretty content with where i am right now. Thanks for the tips. God bless every woman in the forum and God bless your ministry.
Joshua The Giant Slayer I read you’re comment and it really struck me. You know, sometimes heartbreaks come from us not listening to God and leaning into our own understanding. Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us and it’s because he sees further than we do. I have no regrets but I wish a many days I had heeded when the spirit told me no and stay away because each relationship I chose to enter in, they were never the one. I’m battling the same thing now. I’ve been praying for my spouse but also asking God to conform me into the woman I need to be for my husband because a year ago I was a mess. There were things about myself I didn’t even notice would kill our relationship, but I would have never know those qualities and characteristics were there unless I prayed and asked the Lord for correction. Yes it is hard to wait and being content is very important so you just hold on. I’ll be praying for you. God bless you.
Never too late to GYOW and focus on Jesus. Best wishes.
you WONT find her.........according to scripture she is extremely extremely rare..........id say less than 1% of all women are these "proverbs 31women"...........even profession Christian women don't fit the criteria of Proverbs 31..................so I'm not pulling any punches here......the red pill truth is....you wont find her
Great video. Couldn't come at a better time. Thanks for your encouraging words of wisdom!!!!!!
Same here!!!
I cannot help but notice your immaculate makeup/look here!
Wow some how I clicked on this video & I know I was definitely meant to see this thank you so much 😊
Amara Amour Give me a break 😝
Me too
Marriage is not the answer to feelings of emptiness. God is to be the fulfillment. No one can fill you up and make life all better who is a human.Marriage was never designed around romantic love. It was a contract, usually arranged by parents. Romantic love and that “l’m so in love” magical feeling lasts approximately 48 months. There are about 5% of couples lucky enough to retain that for a lifetime. For the rest it becomes a lot of effort and can add to your heartache. If you don’t get your needs met by God and a host of a variety of life’s joys and hobbies- you will be disappointed in married life. Live your life fully with or without a spouse. If you meet a good partner great, if not- so be it. The goal is to be one with God and if you want to marry, pray for a spouse. Just know, that like everything in life- a new car, new clothes, new stuff- the magic wears off and you must have fulfillment through spirituality that renews first. Otherwise, if you marry and times get tough you might not have the skills to travel through that. A happy marriage is a beautiful experience and an unhappy one is a nightmare.
~From one who has experienced both
Julia Park amen
Julia Park absolutely
YOU CHINESE..YOU DO MATH HOMEWORK!
Was struggling over whether to make another first move with this man with whom things are unclear - I should pray but felt tired from it. Opened TH-cam instead and this was the first video on my feed. Good enough for me ❤🙌
There are some men who persue you. Some basically stalk you are psychopaths.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 “maybe God is hiding you”
Lol, I hope so🙏🏽
Carliss Brown maybe you’re just not attractive.
Ladies I have come back to this video to further support Allyson's words of wisdom! As a 24 yr old, single all my life, I struggled to truly embrace this truth and thrive in my season. Finally, God is showing me that a man will indeed PURSUE YOU. There will none of those games, hot & cold, guessing, wondering "well, what are we"...a man who is intentional and interested will make it clear.
I needed this so much!! Thank you very much!!
Your literally beautiful. 😍👏 Jesus did you well.
Leah Renee she looks like a clown.
You are the most beautiful girl! Inside and out! God bless you! From one sister to another 🙏🏼❤️
I agree. I say the good girls in the bible did not pursue.😊The man that findth a wife have favor of the Lord. Pray ladies and stay Holy🙏
Claudia Williams Amen!
Claudia Williams but how the man know you love him back though?
Josiah Blackstock , The both of you have that conversation. The both of you should share your feelings toward each other...I love you!
Claudia Williams I guess we should. If she is interested. I never rush something no one is into. If someone dosen't comment back I can tell they aren't ready for friendship and waiting on God I am pursuing but this is what I mean when I say a man can pursue a woman but it dosen't always mean that your equally yoked or that the other person wants to know you. Im ready for an open relationship anytime and not use anyone but trust me I know how to treat a woman with respect and love but the thing is not all are ready to go their ways regardless of how they talk. And in the video what she said was correct if she is not responding it means that she is not the one. But anyway still searching for that proverbs woman and be a Boaz but I'll hear from God and choose the right one by pursuing in a godly manner as I'm doing now.
Claudia Williams I know much about friendship and relationships. I've studied both genders and know what they do and been around them in so called friendships many times to understand both genders nearly perfectly to see if someone isthe right one or not. I can pursue but that dosen't mean my lover is ready as of yet.
Healed. Powerful. In Agreement. WOW! I was just pondering over a past relationship and I was thinking about this with God, then your video appeared in my feed!! Thank you for delivering this message!!
Also, I have just subscribed to your channel (My name is Allyson with 2 Ls and a Y too 🤗). Blessings to you my sister in Christ!!!
You are hauntingly beautiful ( in a good way) I haven't seen someone as beautiful as you in a long time. You shine bright for Christ too.
I have met my husband.I had to pursue him.He had just lost his mom and was in alot of pain.You cant make a blanket statement for everyone.It took him a while to realize that I love him and will walk with him through the pain.
Esther Heydon THANK YOU!
That's touching to hear, Esther.
YES! Another example of MEN being the prize.
Esther Heydon that's not really the desire of God but I'm glad you have the man that you love but biblically a man is supposed to seek and find you because men are supposed to be the head, the leaders, hes supposed to be out Boaz....a woman going out and being thirsty isn't the desire of God!
But does he love you as much as you do him? Why would it have taken him a while to realize? Sounds like forced love. Please don't take this as a negative comment. I'm only responding to the info that you gave. But honestly in my opinion it sounds like you caught him at a sad time in his life and he was vulnerable and needed someone there for him. But as a friend. Just my opinion of course. But you shouldn't have to convince someone to love you dear. GOD BLESS.
Im 34 second divorce. I will try to wait but feel time is out. I want a family and have no children yet. Im distrubed at myself, i tend to pursue relationships based on intense attraction. I don't know how to date based on moral value first and find it frustrating that im not attracted to the guys that are nice. Maybe I need to stop going on dating apps. I will work on me and pray.
I suggest a life coach. There may be something wrong you are not aware of and it has nothing to do with waiting in faith. I had the same thoughts as you, Had faith God would bring her, never happened! I am 61 one now. get help while you are still young. I wanted to get married when I was 22. You do have an issue that you are not attracted to nice guys! You need to find out why!!!! or you will never change and end up settling for an abusive man. Have kids, then divorce etc..avoid all that and get help now!!!
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Yea stop the dating apps. I really don’t like them so impersonal. Just start having fun with getting to know yourself. Read the 5 love languages and kingdom women there really good books.
Christina Gurrola @ the lord said seek him first and everything else will be added. Ask the Lord what he wants for you and trust him through it.
Grace and Peace
Christina Gurrola real love is not about fireworks because it comes softly. You have the wrong perception because you are controlled by your flesh which tells you what your type is which in all truth is of no profit to you on a whole that is why those relationships keep failing. Because of this wrong attitude, you attract the wrong men who are no good for you. It's time you shift your mindset and let God supply what you need because life ain't about wants but is about having what need to be happy and healthy in fulfilling the plan of God. Stop running after man and putting your trust in dating apps when your should be trusting God to supply what you need in his time not yours. The right one will show up when you are good and ready not when you are broken. God has his best waiting in line to overtake you but it is until you get act together, allowing God to heal your heart and tranform your mind to know what you are in him and what you deserve then you will keep going around in circles settling for trash when you deserve a treasure. Know that a person attracts what they reflect on the inside.
Christina Gurrola please please study NARCISSISM and co-dependant
GOD is our only hope !
If he pursues her with a phone call(s) and she doesn't answer or call him back, he's not pursuing her anymore.
You’re so sweet. Thank you for your words!
Thank you! Confirmation on something I been dealing with. God made sure I seen that I was moving to fast.I have been divorced only a year and suddenly I meet someone and we both fell for each other. She broke my heart but I see now that I was not ready to be with someone. The Lord wants me to spend time with him. I was married for 20yrs and I was moving to fast to be with someone. You just helped me realize I have to give it to God.Thank you and God bless
You are absolutely Beautiful. Thank you for this excellent God led advice, I'm glade I watched your video for the first time.🍎🍎🍎🍎
yes!!!! I wasted so much time and heartbreak chasing after losers who didn't value my worth. Make sure the man chases you!
Men won't chase anymore than the amount of interest you show them. They get tired of that and leave.
Rocket Steve929 The right man won't! My husband didn't. A man who just wants a good time will leave easily, and good riddance.
With the ever increase 3rd and 4th wave feminism, yes, more (good) men are prone to walk away if they don't get positive feedback from pursuing a good woman.
Mascara1980
That is a lie. I am a good man, and I will walk away from you if you do not show me that you are interested. For I do not wish to end up in a prison cell or be called evil or lustful by women. You will chase away many good men if you do not show them that you are interested, but instead flash your anger and contempt for men. God bless you, child.
Rocket Steve929 I'm a very happily married woman. I'm saying that there are plenty of men AND women out there who intentionally waste their partner's time by lying about wanting to get married or cheating on them. All of it is wrong and a person should always walk away if they're being treated like this! Why devalue yourself by staying with a liar? I'm not talking about the good men who have good intentions and who are honest. The man or woman should be upfront and being honest that they want a future with you.
I aspire to be like you, I realised that a lot of people my age have no idea about relationship and stuff and I’ve been wanting to study and share about singleness to my youth group but I’ve never actually taken action upon it. You’re so encouraging, thank God for your good work 🙏🏼💕💕
This was made for me. Thank
you so much.
Pusue does not mean waste our hard earned cash. Men, save that for your wife, save that for the woman that will not waste your time and energy. First, tell the woman your intensions, then do some simple dating - meet at the church - go to functions together - But do not give her the attention and gifts that should be reserved for your future wife. If she is a serious Christian woman and is genuinely interested in You, and is what God wants for you as a Man - Then this "christian woman" will respond appropriately and not waste your time in a long - drawn out - relationship. And "thats the bottom line"!
its not about the money, its about love,trust and honesty
Yes, Why is it that these ladies think these guys are suppose to buy you all this stuff because he's dating you, all the gifting should come after marriage. Jesus is your maker your husband, he's just your date. Are you sleeping with him to expect all these gifts, if so you're living in sin and he not your husband anyway.
Amen Brother!!!
Joseph Torres there is nothing wrong with a man taking a woman out, courting her, taking her to the movies and dinner, or treating her you sound like a pathetic cheap cornball, nobody is saying go out and buy her a house, but it doesn't take much money to do small gestures, buy her flowers on occasion, you guys going out and having a nice evening maybe getting a pedicure and talking or something, all your dates can't be at church, stop being cheap and think of little things you can do that are not costly to show her you care! send her a card, maybe a editable arrangement, it doesn't take much to show her you care but out forth some effort
Joseph Torres ... Any biblical scriptures relative to your comment?
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