She probably was a gold digger waiting for opportunity to get pregnant by a rich guy anyways. And unfortunately the deceased rich man in this story was prime example of a guy who let his downstairs brain dictate his actions too much.
The oldest wasn't being noble, she was tricked by the money-grubbing Mistress. The whole family is suffering because of Dad's selfishness. Noone is obligated to have ANY kind of relationship with AP's kid.
Actually you don't have to pay child support on a dead spouse or parent. There isn't a country out there where if somebody dies their family has to pay child support.
Jr. is damn right, if he doesn't want to let go of that betrayal then good for him. That's the biggest backstab you and your family could ever receive and one does not simply "forgive and forget".
Although I feel bad for the child being born into this mess, no one in that family owes the child a relationship. They will only serve as a reminder of their father's choice to cheat on their mother; usually the response is resentment. Also, the mistress coming out to try to shoehorn her and her child into the family out of nowhere is looking absolutely opportunistic and shady. The eldest daughter screwed herself by getting played. But the father's side is doing too much trying to force a relationship. Damn near no one at all is going to associate with an affair child, let's be honest about this.
If anyone thinks that half sibling will see any of the money the mistress "won" is in denial. She knows she won't be able to get any more money from the mom. So she's trying to sneak her way into the family by speaking and making a relationship with the grandparents.
I’m glad Alex was put in her place because she had no business including herself in the mess that was between her parents, it was completely unfair that her siblings had to lose some of their inheritance because of Alex not minding her own business. It’s Alex’s fault that the husband’s side of the family started saying bad stuff about OP because Alex should have minded her own business for getting her family into this situation.
50% of the inheritance is a lot but Shes right, it isnt fair for the burden to be split equally among all three kids when it was one who solely took that action and caused this financial loss. It's like saying one kid totalled their car so none of them should be allowed to drive. It's harsh but at the end of the day it was her own fault and her mom did explaon to her what would happen if she did that so she has nobody to blame but herself.
Okay now that I've watched the whole thing, i hope the other two kids and OP go no contact with the dad's family and change their names. Money and legalities aside, forcing a connection that isn't there when people are grieving and when the mistress in question is toxic at best is foul. This isn't even putting the very real possibility that the affair child might not want to meet all of them, or is outright being lied too as well When I found out about my half siblings, all of our moms talked privately first and then sef up a meeting because they were aware we'd probably hate each other concidering our feelings on our dad. Forcing those kids to be around each other after finding out that their dad is a piece of shit means that the kids are also going to clock that the grandparents are too
You cant fault this woman for prioritizing her kids resources over a child that isnt even hers. Shes doing exactly what a parent should for their child, its a survival of the fittest world, hahaha! It sucks for the half sibling and mistress, but its not her obligation to clean up her cheating husbands mess. And the oldest is a legal adult, shes responsible for her own choice and will have to follow through with her decision.
I would give her the lowest amount to legally evade challenges and contest the will or decisions of will. Oh, the Mistress sounds like a peach demanding it all. Like, really lady? WTF? So all four children have to pay for what is obviously a good payday she earned on her back. The man who could not keep his zipper up was unscrupulous, amoral, immoral, unethical, serpentine, and cowardly. His mistress is exactly the same, but worse in that, she crossed the line by committing an unconscionable act by bringing it to the eldest instead to get her check. How would she know what OP could and could not afford. How would she know if this money was just as necessary, if not more so. Edit/Note: OP should have put the money in trust for college and emergency funds, which have to be approved by the executor or lawyer or whomever deals with such matters. No money would be placed directly into the mistresses hand. The child is innocent and should pay the price for having 💩 parents. The family should shut up or put up. They are free to put their money where their mouth is. A-holes.
Nta - Alex can be generous with her inheritance since she thought she was smart for helping the bed partner of her father that God literally killed early in a car crash for his infidelity. Reap your sins with grace and a smile.
I’d be getting the dna test done again.. what happens if it was tampered with somehow? Did that mistress send it off or the daughter directly? She could have put the sample from the daughter in and made it out to be her child’s etc.. idek how it works perhaps not because gender could be revealed maybe? But mehhh I just keep a hope that it’s not true because I hate golddiggers and cheaters
I'm sorry but op had no legal obligation to the child, the money from the inheritance would need to be shared but that's just changing up the division of the inheritance. Punishing the daughter was wrong but I don't see how op would be liable to pay for a child that isn't hers.
I think what OP did was fair. Why should the other 2 kids literally pay for the oldests decision. I would be livid if my older sibling did that and I lad to literally pay for it from the money i am supposed to get. I wouldnt even agree to it too. Its a simple case of play stupid games play stupid prizes. The oldest kid has no excuses for what she did and as far as life insurance policy's goes the other woman has no claims cus you have to be the beneficiary.
Also, the mistress should've locked down on that before he died. I'm sure she could've gotten hush money and other benefits or even tried to slick get child support and some other payment (this is on the assumption that she didn't; the way she's operating had me feeling like she did)
I have half siblings I never met on my dads said and when I was younger I always wanted to meet them but now I don't care if I ever met them I grew up without them so it won't affect me if I never met them
This is a tricky one (most family dispute court cases are) since there are so many people affected. I suppose it all comes down to the late father's intentions, and therefore will. It was rather vague in its wording so the argument could be made that it includes all children he fathered. Denying or outright hindering a paternity test is a bit more grey since they can subpeona for the test to be done posthumously if inheritence is in contention. As it was, kind of hard to blame the oldest daughter for doing what she thought was right. When it was found to be the case, and since the will was so vague in its directions, it is then up to the executor of the will to dispence funds at their discretion. Splitting just one of the childrens inheritance as retaliation for doing something that a court would have eventually ordered to do is what we like to call a "dog move" since the money wasnt important enough to you to not use it to punish someone, but important enough that you didnt want to pay the settlement (whih im guessing is court calculated) out of all childrens shares. From a financial standpoint? Smart. Morally? Atleast only one memeber of your family hates you instead of all of them...
I like only the oldest daughter in this story. She did what was right. It is awful that dad cheated, but the half sibling didnot choose that. And dad clearly meant some of his inheritance for the kid. That makes the oldest daughter the only noble one in this family. And mom clearly hates her for it, and sets up the orher two to do so too. Poor girl. Lots of hate going around there
Wasn't a good decision tho. She is a good soul, but just too naive. The mother of the half-sibling will use all of that money for her, so it wasn't a good idea, you're giving money to a cheating AH that got together with a married man. A good option would be separating the money and helping the half-sibling after he turns 18
@@FrutoseDeMorango Yup, this. The affair child will get none of the money regardless, so big sister screwed up. Alls he managed to do was to take a shit-ton of money away from the family, and it will only go to a disgusting adulterer.
That money will all be used up by the trash homewrecker mom, if she really had wanted to help her half sibling she should have waited till they were older.
The comment are kinda sad. If the will of the late husband stated 'his children' then it will be his children, no matter what the wife thinks. Its not her money and not her will and punishing the child for following the will of the husband is cruel.
Like Judge Judy would say, the mistress made no commitment to the wife, so be upset at the dead husband for this whole mess. If he instead left a path of turmoil because he was an alcoholic, would she blame the liquor store? Or if it was because of a gambling problem, would she blame the slot machine? The POS dead husband created a responsibility by having another child, and if that responsibility creates monetary and legal issues for the widow and her kids, then that's just the reality of what can happen when a husband cheats. Everyone says that fathers need to step up, but here is a situation where the father is now dead but has left behind assets, and now the only stepping up can be in the form of distributing those assets. If the distribution of those assets now will include a child that the remaining family never knew existed, then the fact that they don't want her included has no bearing on whether or not she's entitled to her share. "Oh, let's keep it from her, don't give a DNA test. What? You gave a DNA test? You're horrible!" No, lady, you are horrible. If the wife doesn't like that - she's the one who picked the sneaky cheater who had no regard for whether or not protection was used when he went to go use the side piece. The only victim in this whole mess is the illegitimate child.
@@Garoslol I understand but its such a evil trait. give the fault to the father who cheated and the misstress wich slept with a married main. But what does it to do with your half-sibling? Why hate him instead of the father and misstress?
your oldest daughter did what had to be done ,that child was her half sibling and deserved that right ,don't let your anger and bitterness blind you from the truth don't punish her for her father's and mother's actions
@@ShiNijuuAKL she was already given part of her inheritance so she's just not getting the rest since she felt so strongly about betraying her mother and siblings
@@TheAciddragon069 she didn't betray nobody, she did what she had to do because her mother was being a bitch about it. The affair baby doesn't need to be punished because of what his parents did, and if the cheater got a woman pregnant then he needs to pay child support
Nope you're the female dog in this situation. You made it all about money and your daughter was right that child deserved to know who his father was and that he had siblings. You're all being incredibly selfish. You could have just put the money in a trust for the child and it couldn't be touched until they were 18 or 21 but you decided to take the low road. That child had nothing to do with any of this and yet you're all taking it out on them. Shame on you and your kids except for that darling daughter of yours who felt differently.
why? the other kids wouldn't want to have a relationship with the kid nonetheless, they didn't dislike him because of the legal battle but because he was an affair child that was a living reminder of how their father cheated on their mother. it wasn't OP who made it about money as the affair partner wanted more then the kid deserved even if he really is the father's child plus OP didnt say or do anything to the child she fought for HER kids for their inheritance the affair partner was the one who stoop so low as to manipulate the oldest for a proof.
@@pyro7150 yes the affair partner made it about money which they almost always do but the mother that was cheated on also made it about money. If they had just gone to court and got the DNA test from the get-go there's no way the affair partner would have got half of everything as she insisted. Her child was only one of his children, not half of his children. Yes this child may have been a living embodiment of the affair, but the child was an unwilling participant in all of this and shouldn't be punished for the actions of his father. The daughter was tricked and she also got punished for it. I can understand everybody's pain due to the situation, but they all seem to be lashing out at the wrong people. You can be angry at the dad you can be angry at the affair partner but you cannot be angry at the daughter or the child that was a result of the affair. The attempts to try to deny the DNA test just to keep all the money for themselves was pretty unfair.
@@patrickfair9107 dude first of all I dont have enough energy to read all this but you do know the AP didnt get half of all the money right? she got part of it that came from the oldest inheritance.
@@patrickfair9107 now that I had read it all I want to say some things, 1.the kids shouldn't be punished to for the actions of their father and lose on something that could help them in life 2.yea the daughter was punished by losing part of her inheritance but doesn't mean the kids have to forgive her as it was the punishment of OP 3.yes you can be at the daughter as she almost fucked up their plans because of her own stupidity and because she didn't think before doing, I am younger then the sister and even I know that you don't do or say anything in a legal situation without talking to a lawyer or in her situation her mother, op, plus the oldest isn't even a teenager she is a 19 yo ADULT who should think twice before doing something especially when you know your family is having a legal fight in curt 4. in my eyes it wasn't OP doing it for the money but more out of spite that the AP came right after the husband died just to take something that is her kids rightfully, not about the money but on the principle
The gall of the mistress to pull the 'struggling single mother' card. Yeah, maybe if you didn't sleep with a married man you wouldn't be.
She probably was a gold digger waiting for opportunity to get pregnant by a rich guy anyways. And unfortunately the deceased rich man in this story was prime example of a guy who let his downstairs brain dictate his actions too much.
The oldest wasn't being noble, she was tricked by the money-grubbing Mistress. The whole family is suffering because of Dad's selfishness. Noone is obligated to have ANY kind of relationship with AP's kid.
The oldest was being arrogant and stoopid...like many a 19-year-old.
Making decisions for others, yeah that always ends well.
they don't need to, but they should give him the money (or at least when he turns 18)
Actually you don't have to pay child support on a dead spouse or parent. There isn't a country out there where if somebody dies their family has to pay child support.
@@gregoryk.9815 no but you can sue the fathers estate which is what the mistress did
Jr. is damn right, if he doesn't want to let go of that betrayal then good for him. That's the biggest backstab you and your family could ever receive and one does not simply "forgive and forget".
Although I feel bad for the child being born into this mess, no one in that family owes the child a relationship. They will only serve as a reminder of their father's choice to cheat on their mother; usually the response is resentment. Also, the mistress coming out to try to shoehorn her and her child into the family out of nowhere is looking absolutely opportunistic and shady. The eldest daughter screwed herself by getting played. But the father's side is doing too much trying to force a relationship. Damn near no one at all is going to associate with an affair child, let's be honest about this.
If anyone thinks that half sibling will see any of the money the mistress "won" is in denial. She knows she won't be able to get any more money from the mom. So she's trying to sneak her way into the family by speaking and making a relationship with the grandparents.
I’m glad Alex was put in her place because she had no business including herself in the mess that was between her parents, it was completely unfair that her siblings had to lose some of their inheritance because of Alex not minding her own business. It’s Alex’s fault that the husband’s side of the family started saying bad stuff about OP because Alex should have minded her own business for getting her family into this situation.
That's what the daughter gets. Helping the mistress was taking a stance against her mother. I'm tired of the single mother card being abused.
50% of the inheritance is a lot but Shes right, it isnt fair for the burden to be split equally among all three kids when it was one who solely took that action and caused this financial loss. It's like saying one kid totalled their car so none of them should be allowed to drive. It's harsh but at the end of the day it was her own fault and her mom did explaon to her what would happen if she did that so she has nobody to blame but herself.
💀💀 Tbh the son is a complete mood lmao
I bet you anything that affair baby isn't seeing the money if the mistress has full control
OP has full control till kids are 25 so can give money to affair child directly at 25.
Tricked or not, oldest would get zero inheritance from me after that deliberate betrayal done in secret, powered by stupidity
Okay now that I've watched the whole thing, i hope the other two kids and OP go no contact with the dad's family and change their names. Money and legalities aside, forcing a connection that isn't there when people are grieving and when the mistress in question is toxic at best is foul. This isn't even putting the very real possibility that the affair child might not want to meet all of them, or is outright being lied too as well
When I found out about my half siblings, all of our moms talked privately first and then sef up a meeting because they were aware we'd probably hate each other concidering our feelings on our dad. Forcing those kids to be around each other after finding out that their dad is a piece of shit means that the kids are also going to clock that the grandparents are too
You cant fault this woman for prioritizing her kids resources over a child that isnt even hers. Shes doing exactly what a parent should for their child, its a survival of the fittest world, hahaha! It sucks for the half sibling and mistress, but its not her obligation to clean up her cheating husbands mess. And the oldest is a legal adult, shes responsible for her own choice and will have to follow through with her decision.
I would give her the lowest amount to legally evade challenges and contest the will or decisions of will.
Oh, the Mistress sounds like a peach demanding it all.
Like, really lady?
WTF?
So all four children have to pay for what is obviously a good payday she earned on her back.
The man who could not keep his zipper up was unscrupulous, amoral, immoral, unethical, serpentine, and cowardly.
His mistress is exactly the same, but worse in that, she crossed the line by committing an unconscionable act by bringing it to the eldest instead to get her check.
How would she know what OP could and could not afford.
How would she know if this money was just as necessary, if not more so.
Edit/Note:
OP should have put the money in trust for college and emergency funds, which have to be approved by the executor or lawyer or whomever deals with such matters.
No money would be placed directly into the mistresses hand.
The child is innocent and should pay the price for having 💩 parents.
The family should shut up or put up.
They are free to put their money where their mouth is.
A-holes.
Nta - Alex can be generous with her inheritance since she thought she was smart for helping the bed partner of her father that God literally killed early in a car crash for his infidelity. Reap your sins with grace and a smile.
I’d be getting the dna test done again.. what happens if it was tampered with somehow? Did that mistress send it off or the daughter directly? She could have put the sample from the daughter in and made it out to be her child’s etc.. idek how it works perhaps not because gender could be revealed maybe? But mehhh I just keep a hope that it’s not true because I hate golddiggers and cheaters
In what world are you responsible for your dead husbands affair child?
Husband´s will is talking about "all" his children. Its an inheretence issue.
I'm sorry but op had no legal obligation to the child, the money from the inheritance would need to be shared but that's just changing up the division of the inheritance. Punishing the daughter was wrong but I don't see how op would be liable to pay for a child that isn't hers.
I think what OP did was fair. Why should the other 2 kids literally pay for the oldests decision. I would be livid if my older sibling did that and I lad to literally pay for it from the money i am supposed to get. I wouldnt even agree to it too. Its a simple case of play stupid games play stupid prizes. The oldest kid has no excuses for what she did and as far as life insurance policy's goes the other woman has no claims cus you have to be the beneficiary.
@@dikshithaariyawansa1299 honestly since op is the executor of the trust the other child has no claim to it anyways. The other woman is clearly greedy
Welp gramps gonna lose 2 out of 4 kids
This lady seems to be allergic to obtaining the truth.
Also, the mistress should've locked down on that before he died. I'm sure she could've gotten hush money and other benefits or even tried to slick get child support and some other payment
(this is on the assumption that she didn't; the way she's operating had me feeling like she did)
Holy moly! 😮
I have half siblings I never met on my dads said and when I was younger I always wanted to meet them but now I don't care if I ever met them I grew up without them so it won't affect me if I never met them
This is a tricky one (most family dispute court cases are) since there are so many people affected. I suppose it all comes down to the late father's intentions, and therefore will. It was rather vague in its wording so the argument could be made that it includes all children he fathered. Denying or outright hindering a paternity test is a bit more grey since they can subpeona for the test to be done posthumously if inheritence is in contention. As it was, kind of hard to blame the oldest daughter for doing what she thought was right. When it was found to be the case, and since the will was so vague in its directions, it is then up to the executor of the will to dispence funds at their discretion. Splitting just one of the childrens inheritance as retaliation for doing something that a court would have eventually ordered to do is what we like to call a "dog move" since the money wasnt important enough to you to not use it to punish someone, but important enough that you didnt want to pay the settlement (whih im guessing is court calculated) out of all childrens shares. From a financial standpoint? Smart. Morally? Atleast only one memeber of your family hates you instead of all of them...
Average "struggling single mom" behavior
I like only the oldest daughter in this story. She did what was right. It is awful that dad cheated, but the half sibling didnot choose that. And dad clearly meant some of his inheritance for the kid. That makes the oldest daughter the only noble one in this family. And mom clearly hates her for it, and sets up the orher two to do so too. Poor girl. Lots of hate going around there
Wasn't a good decision tho. She is a good soul, but just too naive. The mother of the half-sibling will use all of that money for her, so it wasn't a good idea, you're giving money to a cheating AH that got together with a married man. A good option would be separating the money and helping the half-sibling after he turns 18
@@FrutoseDeMorango Yup, this. The affair child will get none of the money regardless, so big sister screwed up. Alls he managed to do was to take a shit-ton of money away from the family, and it will only go to a disgusting adulterer.
that half sibling won’t see a dime
That money will all be used up by the trash homewrecker mom, if she really had wanted to help her half sibling she should have waited till they were older.
Agreed the kids sound like they may have been manipulated or they’re just selfish af. Not that the mistress is any better (half?)
The comment are kinda sad. If the will of the late husband stated 'his children' then it will be his children, no matter what the wife thinks. Its not her money and not her will and punishing the child for following the will of the husband is cruel.
Like Judge Judy would say, the mistress made no commitment to the wife, so be upset at the dead husband for this whole mess. If he instead left a path of turmoil because he was an alcoholic, would she blame the liquor store? Or if it was because of a gambling problem, would she blame the slot machine? The POS dead husband created a responsibility by having another child, and if that responsibility creates monetary and legal issues for the widow and her kids, then that's just the reality of what can happen when a husband cheats. Everyone says that fathers need to step up, but here is a situation where the father is now dead but has left behind assets, and now the only stepping up can be in the form of distributing those assets. If the distribution of those assets now will include a child that the remaining family never knew existed, then the fact that they don't want her included has no bearing on whether or not she's entitled to her share. "Oh, let's keep it from her, don't give a DNA test. What? You gave a DNA test? You're horrible!" No, lady, you are horrible. If the wife doesn't like that - she's the one who picked the sneaky cheater who had no regard for whether or not protection was used when he went to go use the side piece. The only victim in this whole mess is the illegitimate child.
So why are you giving the fault to your half sibling instead of your father and his mistress? What did the half sibling do?
There wouldnt be any drama if half sibling didnt exist. Sounds dumb but thats kinda how it is.
@@Garoslol I understand but its such a evil trait. give the fault to the father who cheated and the misstress wich slept with a married main. But what does it to do with your half-sibling? Why hate him instead of the father and misstress?
@@ComedyPow Affair babies will always be treated different. They are the product of something evil without their own fault.
@@Garoslol half sibling didn't decide to exist tho
@@ShiNijuuAKL They didnt decide to exist but they do exist now. Life is rarely fair to affair babies.
your oldest daughter did what had to be done ,that child was her half sibling and deserved that right ,don't let your anger and bitterness blind you from the truth
don't punish her for her father's and mother's actions
😂😂
the wife had zero obligation to care about the child of a homewrecker
@@TheAciddragon069 and also has zero right to take away that child's inheritance
@@ShiNijuuAKL she was already given part of her inheritance so she's just not getting the rest since she felt so strongly about betraying her mother and siblings
@@TheAciddragon069 she didn't betray nobody, she did what she had to do because her mother was being a bitch about it. The affair baby doesn't need to be punished because of what his parents did, and if the cheater got a woman pregnant then he needs to pay child support
Nope you're the female dog in this situation. You made it all about money and your daughter was right that child deserved to know who his father was and that he had siblings.
You're all being incredibly selfish. You could have just put the money in a trust for the child and it couldn't be touched until they were 18 or 21 but you decided to take the low road. That child had nothing to do with any of this and yet you're all taking it out on them. Shame on you and your kids except for that darling daughter of yours who felt differently.
why? the other kids wouldn't want to have a relationship with the kid nonetheless, they didn't dislike him because of the legal battle but because he was an affair child that was a living reminder of how their father cheated on their mother. it wasn't OP who made it about money as the affair partner wanted more then the kid deserved even if he really is the father's child plus OP didnt say or do anything to the child she fought for HER kids for their inheritance the affair partner was the one who stoop so low as to manipulate the oldest for a proof.
@@pyro7150 yes the affair partner made it about money which they almost always do but the mother that was cheated on also made it about money. If they had just gone to court and got the DNA test from the get-go there's no way the affair partner would have got half of everything as she insisted. Her child was only one of his children, not half of his children. Yes this child may have been a living embodiment of the affair, but the child was an unwilling participant in all of this and shouldn't be punished for the actions of his father. The daughter was tricked and she also got punished for it. I can understand everybody's pain due to the situation, but they all seem to be lashing out at the wrong people. You can be angry at the dad you can be angry at the affair partner but you cannot be angry at the daughter or the child that was a result of the affair. The attempts to try to deny the DNA test just to keep all the money for themselves was pretty unfair.
@@patrickfair9107 dude first of all I dont have enough energy to read all this but you do know the AP didnt get half of all the money right? she got part of it that came from the oldest inheritance.
@@patrickfair9107 now that I had read it all I want to say some things,
1.the kids shouldn't be punished to for the actions of their father and lose on something that could help them in life
2.yea the daughter was punished by losing part of her inheritance but doesn't mean the kids have to forgive her as it was the punishment of OP
3.yes you can be at the daughter as she almost fucked up their plans because of her own stupidity and because she didn't think before doing, I am younger then the sister and even I know that you don't do or say anything in a legal situation without talking to a lawyer or in her situation her mother, op, plus the oldest isn't even a teenager she is a 19 yo ADULT who should think twice before doing something especially when you know your family is having a legal fight in curt
4. in my eyes it wasn't OP doing it for the money but more out of spite that the AP came right after the husband died just to take something that is her kids rightfully, not about the money but on the principle
The oldest is clearly being abused emotionally for actually taking the honest approach. The mother sounds absolutely wretched.