The only thing I truly feel for the ex is pity. She clearly never knew what true love was and had no idea how to love anyone, let alone herself. She sacrificed everything to try and earn the attention of a bunch of enttield, selfish narcissists that didn't care about her even in death. It was a sad life from beginning to end. A part of me feels that she likely came to this conclusion before ending it. The only peope who ever truly cared about her, OP, she had thrown away and abused. Perhaps, deep down, she had come to the realization that she had beoome just like her family. I'm glad OP doesn't want anything to do with the letter. Although I pity the ex, 🦆 her. She was a grown woman and made her choices. OP never really knew this woman. Anything she wrote in that letter would be words from a stranger. How can a stranger give you closure? He's better off cutting all of his losses from this relationship and moving on to find a better life for himself. Let the past stay in the past.
Abuse sucks, especially from family bc they're the foundation and the foundation is trash. I hate that she didn't get a chance to properly heal and that the family will essentially move onto their next victim
This is going to be something AH to be said... But good riddance. She destroyed everything and was as selfish as her family. She bit the hand that was helping her, she was cheating for months and instead of dealing with her BS, she took the easy way out. She failed in life. All thanks to her parents and the never ending cicle of abuse and I can understand if she reflects the same type of abuse, but cheating is another level. She willingly destroyed all her support system.
While she didn't deserve to die she basically threw away everything and anyone she ever cared about. She did this to herself to please people who we can clearly see at the end never cared about her to begin with. She was her own Achilles' heal and downfall.
Part if it comes with some form of love bombing, whether it be attention, or gifts, the person will keep trying to find a way for that bit to be the norm, instead of the reintroduction of narcissistic abuse cycle
I had an overwhelming feeling it would end like that. There's only soo much a person can take before they break, and everyone has a different breaking point.
One thing I'd suggest is to consider being a landing site for Tiffany (the mutual friend that was helping him during the breakup) as she pieces her life back together. This might be starting an FWB relationship with her, taking her out as a wing woman, or just starting a full relationship once they've both recovered from their respective relationships. Either way, if her current support system is crumbling, she's looking to move to a new area, and her own hometown/state isn't an option because of past issues she's escaped or that's where she is, then maybe following OP is a good idea for Tiffany.
Stories like this break my heart, because they’re usually the result of a lot of abuse and mental instability that follows such treatment. At the same time, someone that won’t set healthy boundaries with their toxic family is, in turn, abusive to their partner. The same type of problem occurs when momma’s boys get married and allow the monster-in-law to insult and belittle their wives. Without boundaries, you cannot successfully form your own family.
Meh, no loss here. Clearly she never wanted help. She cheated, and she took an easy way out. She literally is the cause of her whole friend group breaking up because she spread her legs while she was in a relationship. So yeah no loss here.
People tend to be very polarized in how they think about victims and ab*sers, and see the two as mutually exclusive. They're not mutually exclusive, at all. In fact the reality is that most victims eventually become ab*sers themselves. OP's ex was a prime example of this. Even when you look at many of the worst serial k*llers in US history you see exactly the same pattern: they started out in life innocent victims of severe ab*se. Their whole childhoods ruined, and then.. they become ab*sers, villains, themselves.
Honestly that final update sounds like something added for drama by some other party, which has happened many times with these Reddit stories. The whole story up to the second to last update has been around for a long time, so this update just coming out now, yet only being 1.5 months later, is suspicious. Also the drama supposedly happened immediately after he left, which makes the timeline with the second to last update not exactly make sense. Ex’s friends were still relaying info between her and OP, so she was alive and still involved with the friend group. Just smells suspicious. No hint of infidelity previously, but all of a sudden it’s here because it’s the number one drama go to. Ex was desperate to get back with OP, even though supposedly the plan was to leave him anyway. I think at the very least the last update is fake, though likely the whole saga is a work of fiction.
I wonder if she actually did something awful like accidentally kill a sibling, which is why the family abused her so much and why she never tried to escape.
The ex basically had been traumatized to the point where she lacked individual identity. You can’t form a proper relationship with someone with no identity.
You took back your sanity by not reading the letter an whos to say she actually killed herself and her family didnt think about she moved back lost job and family didnt have money but extra mouth to feed
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It’s tragic she took her life and didn’t see anything better. She did do horrible things, but I can tell OP still wished she could have been happy.
The only thing I truly feel for the ex is pity. She clearly never knew what true love was and had no idea how to love anyone, let alone herself. She sacrificed everything to try and earn the attention of a bunch of enttield, selfish narcissists that didn't care about her even in death. It was a sad life from beginning to end. A part of me feels that she likely came to this conclusion before ending it. The only peope who ever truly cared about her, OP, she had thrown away and abused. Perhaps, deep down, she had come to the realization that she had beoome just like her family. I'm glad OP doesn't want anything to do with the letter. Although I pity the ex, 🦆 her. She was a grown woman and made her choices. OP never really knew this woman. Anything she wrote in that letter would be words from a stranger. How can a stranger give you closure? He's better off cutting all of his losses from this relationship and moving on to find a better life for himself. Let the past stay in the past.
Abuse sucks, especially from family bc they're the foundation and the foundation is trash. I hate that she didn't get a chance to properly heal and that the family will essentially move onto their next victim
Her family will find out there's a problem: no more source of money. Too bad for her.
This is going to be something AH to be said... But good riddance.
She destroyed everything and was as selfish as her family. She bit the hand that was helping her, she was cheating for months and instead of dealing with her BS, she took the easy way out.
She failed in life. All thanks to her parents and the never ending cicle of abuse and I can understand if she reflects the same type of abuse, but cheating is another level. She willingly destroyed all her support system.
If there is a silver lining to this story, it means her shitty family won't have their Meal Ticket anymore.
Her family drove her into madness. Sad.
While she didn't deserve to die she basically threw away everything and anyone she ever cared about. She did this to herself to please people who we can clearly see at the end never cared about her to begin with. She was her own Achilles' heal and downfall.
I recently heard that narcissistic abuse can be addicting. This very much looks like that case.
Part if it comes with some form of love bombing, whether it be attention, or gifts, the person will keep trying to find a way for that bit to be the norm, instead of the reintroduction of narcissistic abuse cycle
I had an overwhelming feeling it would end like that. There's only soo much a person can take before they break, and everyone has a different breaking point.
One thing I'd suggest is to consider being a landing site for Tiffany (the mutual friend that was helping him during the breakup) as she pieces her life back together. This might be starting an FWB relationship with her, taking her out as a wing woman, or just starting a full relationship once they've both recovered from their respective relationships. Either way, if her current support system is crumbling, she's looking to move to a new area, and her own hometown/state isn't an option because of past issues she's escaped or that's where she is, then maybe following OP is a good idea for Tiffany.
You can't fix people.
I had a feeling that the self-sabotage wouldn't end there, but this is her own fault. The family will rot for what they've done.
Stories like this break my heart, because they’re usually the result of a lot of abuse and mental instability that follows such treatment. At the same time, someone that won’t set healthy boundaries with their toxic family is, in turn, abusive to their partner. The same type of problem occurs when momma’s boys get married and allow the monster-in-law to insult and belittle their wives. Without boundaries, you cannot successfully form your own family.
I hope he read the letter
This is such a sad story. Poor girl….
Meh, no loss here. Clearly she never wanted help. She cheated, and she took an easy way out. She literally is the cause of her whole friend group breaking up because she spread her legs while she was in a relationship. So yeah no loss here.
100% bipolar disorder, I don't think anything else can explain this whole mess.
People tend to be very polarized in how they think about victims and ab*sers, and see the two as mutually exclusive. They're not mutually exclusive, at all. In fact the reality is that most victims eventually become ab*sers themselves. OP's ex was a prime example of this. Even when you look at many of the worst serial k*llers in US history you see exactly the same pattern: they started out in life innocent victims of severe ab*se. Their whole childhoods ruined, and then.. they become ab*sers, villains, themselves.
I knew that outcome was going to happen.
After four years, you still hadn't;t smelled the coffee? Better late than never!
Honestly that final update sounds like something added for drama by some other party, which has happened many times with these Reddit stories. The whole story up to the second to last update has been around for a long time, so this update just coming out now, yet only being 1.5 months later, is suspicious.
Also the drama supposedly happened immediately after he left, which makes the timeline with the second to last update not exactly make sense. Ex’s friends were still relaying info between her and OP, so she was alive and still involved with the friend group.
Just smells suspicious. No hint of infidelity previously, but all of a sudden it’s here because it’s the number one drama go to. Ex was desperate to get back with OP, even though supposedly the plan was to leave him anyway. I think at the very least the last update is fake, though likely the whole saga is a work of fiction.
I only feel pity for the ex I have seen this before without fifth update and I thought she can get back on track. Rest in peace
I wonder if she actually did something awful like accidentally kill a sibling, which is why the family abused her so much and why she never tried to escape.
The ex basically had been traumatized to the point where she lacked individual identity. You can’t form a proper relationship with someone with no identity.
Dang I feel bad for op
You took back your sanity by not reading the letter an whos to say she actually killed herself and her family didnt think about she moved back lost job and family didnt have money but extra mouth to feed
Bro these stories are f ed up :|
First pin pls ❤