just know that i.. 1 love your hair 1 love your forehead 1 love your eyebrows or lack of I love your eyelashes or lack of I love your eyes 1 love your ears I love your nose I love your cheeks 1 love your mouth 1 love your laugh I love your teeth or lack of 1 love your chin I love your neck 1 love your shoulders 1 love your chest I love your arms 1 love your hands I love your tummy 1 love your hips 1 love your thighs I love your knees I love your shins 1love your feet (not in that way.) l love your moles/marks I love your scars 1 love your voice 1 love what you do 1 love your personality 1 love you on your good days I love you on your bad days 1 love you when you wear makeup I love you when you don't wear makeup. I love vour skin I love you when you're sad 1 love you when you're mad 1 love you when you're happy I love you when you hate me I love you when you love me 1 love you when you forget me I'm proud of you for getting some sleep I'm proud of you for trying to sleep I'm proud of you for waking up I'm proud of you for getting up I'm proud of you for brushing your teeth I'm proud of you for doing your hair I'm proud of you for washing your face I'm proud of you for doing skin care 1 love you for doing your makeup (if you wear it) I'm proud of you that you got out of your room I'm proud of you for getting dressed I'm proud of you TRYING to eat breakfast. I'm proud of you for being clean I'm proud of you for trying to be clean I'm proud of you for being alive I'm proud of you for being a good friend I'm proud of you for trying to be a good friend 1 won't judge you for your looks 1 won't judge you from your race I won't judge you for your life 1 won't judge you for your family I won't judge you for your past/childhood I won't judge you for your body 1 won't judge you for your tears I wont judge you for your age I won't judge you for your sexual orientation 1 wont judge you for your gender 1 wont judge you for your money 1 won’t judge you for your religion I won't judge you for where you come from I won't judge you for your language You aren't ugly You aren't too fat You aren't too skinny You aren't annoying You aren't mean You aren't evil You aren't crazy You aren't weird You aren't worthless You aren't scary You aren't selfish You aren't too feminine You aren't too masculine You aren't too young You aren't too old You aren't disgusting You aren't a doormat You aren't a toy You aren't a monster You are beautiful You are pretty You are handsome You are kind You are cool You are everything you want to be You aren't perfect, nobody is, but you are perfect in my eyes 1 wont judge you for anything Im so proud of you love you this took hours, dont be insecure
Tbh I think the fact that your nose is NOT the 'perfect upturned skinny nose' makes it more beautiful because it's not the same. You remind me of Princess Jasmine, you're literally so stunning ♥🥰
personal notes 👩🏻🏫 # mindsets 🧠 6:02 its okay to be imperfect, it does not and will NEVER take away from your worthiness 6:49 insecurity is a choice. - fixate on how you can make your life better. - 10:00 take it step by step, be gentle with yourself - recognize and switch negative thoughts - "how can i make this day an amazing day?" 10:49 no one is better than u, and u arent better than anyone. - ur opinion about yourself is the ONLY opinion that matters. - detach from any other opinions, good or bad 12:44 stop identifying and associating w the insecure version of u - "this is the first day of my life." - identify and align w ur desired version # lifestyle 🌴 18:01 stop reasoning w the insecurity - learn to validate yourself. - r u not tired of criticizing urself?!?!?! 20:03 achieving goals make u confident - live ur BEST life!!! 23:30 there is so much to life ‼️ - follow influencers that align with ur desired self 25:01 confidence routine - do what u say u were gonna do, when u say were gonna do it - honor your needs. - exposure therapy: doing things that make u scared and anxious (embrace the cringe!!!) # hw 📝 1. build ur p.o.p 2. focus on ur confident LIFE not confident experiences (what make u feel like that girl, not just how to look like one) 3. do shadow work and get to the root problem 4. be kinder and more gentle to yourself 4.
it's so easy for yt influencers to post "glow up tips" and being confident, and so much nowadays is based on appearance and how to look better. i feel like because tam has genuinely had similar experiences and gone through so much as a young adult, she knows what we needed. she really filled the gap in the market. i've always felt strong in my core mentally and have felt the same things tam mentioned in her video. i'm so glad there's someone popular who's getting this to girls our age. been watching her videos since last summer and they're still so thorough!
I seriously can't express my deep gratitude, Tam. You're the big sister I never had. You can't even imagine how much your videos have changed me. Stay amazing, queen 💗💗💫
"I think we are given insecurities for a reason" That is genuinely the most smartest and amazing thing I ever heard. I never thought of it that way! You are seriously a blessing, thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
ur mindset shift helped so much. im convencially attractive and im only confident because i fit a beauty standard. i really need to see myself and think “i look pretty, but not because of standards but because i find myself pretty. plus this is how i look right now and ill deal with it” not this but also with my bone structure. THANK UUU
I've never felt like acne ruins someone's beauty. As a child, in some strange way, I actually thought it made people look prettier with red blush cheeks. Acne definitely doesn't hide people's beautiful smiles, and to be honest, everyone is beautiful in their own way.
my new affirmation: “it doesn’t define who you are, it’s such an insignificant part in all of the amazing pieces of what makes you, you.” cried at this cus i’ve been battling my insecurities for years and it’s been especially hard this month and i needed this, absolutely love u and what u do, thank you Tam♥️
The concept of the "Portfolio of Proof" has been such a game changer for me. Any time I feel my thoughts and insecurities growing louder, I remind myself I've done scary things before, and this is just another hurdle for me to overcome. Thank you so much for the lesson, Tam! ❤
My insecurities (specially the physical appearence ones) have stopped me from doing so many things, have ruined so many experiences and moments of my life, the habit of finding something wrong every time I look in the mirror was so deeply rooted a year ago. But since I discovered your channel last March I've been working on these insecurities, and it has been a really slow process but this video has confirmed to me that I've made so much progress! A year ago this message felt so unnatural to hear, only your sound logic made me listen, but today I hear you and it feels RIGHT. And with this video I have so much more to learn, so many specific practices to target my insecurities and keep shifting my mindset for the better, I'm so thankfull 😭😭💜 You gave me hope for a better life and your example gave me the bravery to try for real . Thank you Tam, for helping and inspiring so many people 💕
That’s good. But also remember it’s not about how you look or your body. So no need to feel or be insecure or something cause beauty fades over time physically but not within.
My nose is not that big and never in my life I was insecure about it but two girls of my class were talking about big nose and one of the girl said nashra's nose is big and laughed I heard it I went home looked at my nose and felt so insecure about it since then but watching your videos really helped me realised that My nose really fits my face even if it is big it looks good in my face and I am healing because of you as I have more insecurities thank you so much I love you I feel like you are my elder sister ❤
Gurll if that's you in your profile pic then omg you're stunning! I literally have no idea what those girls were on about if I looked like you I would never feel insecure
@@krisha5660 thank you so much this made my day honestly I hope by watching her videos you are feeling good about yourself thank you for uplifting me I genuinely appreciate it:)
The mindset shift part made me realised how much i have grown in past year. Like literally last year changed so much in me in such a good way. OMG. And the credit goes to you.
I literally wanted to hug her ,as i go through alot with my skinny body and brown skintone by my mom's side relatives who literally are fair coz of so called genetics, gives a whole lecture on how to be fair, so i was criticizing myself now that i got u on right time ,I'm starting my journey of self love, still a teenager and turning 18 this month, I'm gonna subscribe u girl coz i needed someone like you THANKYOU SO MUCH ❤
It’s actually crazy bc others don’t even see our own insecurities . For ex. You with your nose I think it fits perfectly to your face when you wouldn’t have said anything about it we wouldn’t even recognized and that’s with all our insecurities 🤍❗️❗️
Who says prayers don't come true!!!! I prayed to God to bring a person in my life who will help me to grow authentically and see Tam is here in my life now 😌💯
You saying you dont think youre nose is the standard was insane to me, because ive done research into getting a nose job to have my nose look just like yours!! Insecurities really are planted into people and are so subjective and person-to-person individual, its insane. Ive had a rough time recently thinking i was not good enough, ive been single for 5 years and everyone i attract is a bad type that i couldn't have a good future with, and listening to this is actually shifting my thinking. Thank you SO much for bashing me over the head with this, because the people around me just affirm the insecurities❤
I've been saying this under every video and I'm gonna say it a million times more... You are the most amazing woman and your videos are a comfort to me everytime I feel bad or stressed. Love from India❤
Heyyy, i've started my health journey or whatever you want to call it 3 months ago. Since then i have deleted all my social media, read a lot of books and warched/listened a lot of content about self growth, but i must say you are the literal best person i've found. I love all of your videos so much and feel like i can feel your spirit and good energy trough the screen. It's crazy haha. Keep up the amazing work and thank you so much💕
YOU SLAY GIRL I found out about your existence a month ago after I felt absolutely devastated by the breakup with my ex but since I'm watching all your videos religiously now I'm feeling so much better about myself 10/10💛💛💛
Told my friend about this channel 2 days back and now she can't stop watching ur videos while studying and sending me screenshots.... I'm sooo gladddddd I could do that. Also she's that one 'manifested' friend I found in this new city I moved into a week back. Haven't met her yet but ah she's so adorable. Can't wait to see her.😄😄
Ngl, watching Jennifer's body and wanting to be like her is what made me confident. ik that sounds weird but i love the way i look and i just applied her mindset to everything.
"only the most insecure empty shell of a human being, sad pathetic people, will find the time and energy to try and bring you down and create insecurities for you" loved that 😍
so many things you say are so true. i am a 22 year old guy, and i had watched enough self improvement videos mainly from male creators and its so refreshing to watch your videos, unlike those videos which always talk about bringing women and wealth into your life you tend to motivate people to improve for themselves without having an ulterior motive of attracting someone or something in your life. those things will come eventually but that thing is not the goal. the goal is the live the most fulfilling life for yourself. thank you tam :)
I used to wear a sweater at school even when it’s so hot because I didn’t like my arms,I started stop doing it because of this video,thank you so much tam!!
Since a very long time I was feeling so insecure of my appearance but when I watched your video and the fact that you didn't used to like the way your nose looks even tho I think it's really pretty I felt happier. I love how you made me realize that how insignifanct our appearance is. Thanks a lot girl.
Tam ♡, you have no idea of how much your words have enriched in my life, your words are always comforting, inspiring and full of wisdom. THANK YOU so much, love you 🩷🫂✨️ and I wish you the best of best in life 🫶
This video has helped me a lot , so really thanks , from the deep of my heart❤, I’m finally healing after years of being people pleasing and rejecting my opinions and desires over someone else opinion, I hardly could say “no” , and feel anything that happens it’s my fault , and nobody will accept me for who I’m and how I look, but watching your videos I realized that’s true, like it’s just my perception that’s how I see things to be and I have the potential to change it altogether, I’m still healing, it’s been a hard processes but I trust I’ll embrace all these negative emotions that I feel
I HAVE TO SAY THIS!! I'm sure we've all seen those self love gurus, confidence builders, saying "you are beautiful as you are and you don't need to change anything" while looking like an epitome of these days beauty standards [it's like a really fair skinned person saying to a colored person, don't be insecure about your skin, i used to be too but now i'm confident, you could be too. when being white was use to be considered superior and the other colors as inferior obviously the superiors don't get the problem], but my girl tam, i'm not saying she's not pretty cause she is, its just that she shows her insecurities not for the popularity but she actually turned them into her confidence, and i wanna believe her.
Tam you are one of the bravest soul who can talk about so boldly and fearlessly about all the things you are talking in this video. May god bless you ❤
Hi Tam!!❤ I just wanted to tell you how much you and your videos mean to me and so many other other women, but not only that, you helped me as a teen who has a big problem with my body image, as well as many other teenage girls. Im at an age where all I see in a mirror are my flaws, things I'm bad at and things I can't change. It's the age where you sometimes have no control over your own thoughts and actions and I want you to know that you are one of the reasons why I was able to be at peace with myself. You're words and actions made me question this time that we live in and made my realise that am not the problem. Now I'm 16 and i quit sugar for good and I take care of what i eat, how i look, who I spend my time with and what i focus on in my day to day life. So thank you from the depth of my soul for breaking this sick and made up picture of self worth that was pushed on us!!! Love you girll❤🎉 Nika
This video will prove to be a game changer!! Your are literally saving the mental health of so many women. You have no idea! Keep your good work up!👍❣️
i have watched this video so many times, you are speaking directly to my soul. whenever i start to feel myself retreat i think about this. you have no idea how much of a big help you’ve been in my life Tam. Thanks for all that you do!!
I was always insecure of my bf's ex because i always thought she is much prettier than me. I always had been insecure of my looks. i always thought that it was my boyfriends downgrade in dating me after her. after times i realized that I'm me, she is her. thanks tam this video opened my brain even more and changed my thoughts even much more than before
I’m actually going to cry. I never realised how bad I am talking to myself about my body and how I look like. I’ve been struggling with my weight since I was a child and was taking several hormonal tablets which never helped in the end. Now I’m close to 30 and I’ve gained weight again over the years and everytime I look in the mirror I question why is my partner even with me. I look ugly. So of course my body never changes because I don’t appreciate it. I am never kind to myself and acknowledge everything my body went through and it’s still keeping me alive. Thank you Tam, for making us realise that we need to be kind and appreciate the body we are in. I will practice the self talk in front of the mirror every morning and be grateful that I am in a healthy body, I can move, I can get up each morning and it is keeping me alive. ❤
What’s crazy is that I think your absolutely STUNNING, and the fact that you have had insecurities about your nose makes me think that my insecurities may not be all that unattractive after all!
I needed this- sometimes we are so fixated on appearances that we forget that it’s merely a speck of the beauties in life. There is *so* much more to a person than how they look.
When this was recommended I was looking at a girl's insta. I lost a role I wanted to her, i convinced my self it didn't matter, but internally, it still hurt bc, well, let's say she wasn't the nicest person. But honestly, this video put into perspective that it TRULY doesn't matter. Thank you for bringing that confidence inward.
Also, I love shoulders. I feel like it’s not too wide for you it just fits you so well. They’re angular as well. You look like you have very good posture ♡♡
Omg! Thank you! I’ve been keeping up with this channel since August and my insecurities were long GONE! But just gaining some new knowledge was very helpful and peaceful for me. I especially enjoyed the part where you mentioned that we should see every day as our “Day 1”. It’s actually so amazing! I’m all about improving myself and loving myself and I feel like this advice will help me achieve more on my journey, Ty! Now, I gotta admit, something you pointed out on the lifestyle shifts chapter, about doing what you said you’ll do….I promise you! I do DO the things I plan, all except my studies 🫠. And a homework that I would need to complete is to set boundaries with myself, have some self respect, and do the damn work at the time that I plan to. Lmao! Ty for reading my rant. Love you Tam! (Also, ur actual name is SO PRETTY! Tamara is so cute! But I respect your current name and love how you decided to be your own person). I pray for many blessings to come your way 🧸💕
i love you and thank you so much, gurl... thanks a lot... u made my day.. i was struggling through insecurities and some shit... but u made me feel like i am the one.. who matters the most... with or without any insecurities... lots of genuine love to you.. may god bless you and everyone reading this... ❤
Thank you so much, Tam. As someone possibly about twice your age, coming out of a divorce, your videos are so, so valuable. You’re teaching me things I should’ve always realized myself. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
In the beginning itself I could see the hard truth that we all know about but couldn't insist it... You are just amazing Tam you don't know how much you have helped me boost my confidence love your presentation so much... Keep going, everyone!
I'm so glad you share all this. I feel more enough as I am and content and like I don't have to get somewhere to feel ok but to think I already am and I can always improve a little everyday instead
Tam, your videos are truely spscial. I've been taking so much inspiration from them and have started to adapt things you talk about one by one. I can't wait to come back to these videos and see how I've changed my life
'she is more precious than jewls, nothing u desire can compare with her..' this is a verse I learn from a long way of many years of being insecure, and mind u wat attracts is not ur body its ur confidence, authentic self, ur energy, how you love your self, and ur achievements, so who ever insecure person reading this wat we should fix the inside and our souls. after that we look in the mirror and observe if u will see any flaws..no gal u wont since ur more than that... thanks tam for this vid.
I may not understand all your words but through your emotions that you showed i know that you're so happy and positive about your thoughts in life. You wanna share those to everyone who is still insecure about themself and i am one of them. This is a meaningful video to me. I hope you will alway be happy in your life. I and everyone too
Thank you for this detailed video tam!! I like how you mentioned the change of name helps with the change of mindset shift!! For me I used "the sims" game this year and made another version of myself and it helped me sooo much because I agree on the part where you said "it's just a silly avatar we can customize; try new outfits"; it also helped me so much on the body positivity and the possibilities i could have done and be!!
i am 17 and i look forward to you as my mentor and i literally think you're so pretty that's what i thought in all your videos that she's gorgeous and stunning i never knew you had all these insecurities.
Hey Tam, I'd just like to say how much you've helped me over the past few months, I'm working on being a better person, I'm more confident and I don't feel lonely anymore, and I know there are a lot more good things coming my way, so thank you so much
i love how you include homework for us and my fave lesson was definitely the not looking at the mirror so often and showering while thinking how i can better my day instead of shaming myself and all the examples youve used to show how i can take baby steps like talking to a stranger for whom i held the door
1. Reframe your insecurities 2. Shift Focus on your life not others negative opinions. - When negative thoughts arise acknowledge them without judgment and let them go don't give in. 3. Acknowledge not everyone's going to like you - Others' opinions about yourself don't matter your opinion only does - Shift from external to self-validation - Only insecure empty people will actually judge you 4. Stop identifying with the insecure version of you: - Let go of past negative experiences your insecure self-experienced * When you wake up think this is the first day of my life and act like it.
I just want to say your one of the few TH-camrs I have ever felt so inspired from , on days that are so hard for me listening to your videos makes me remember who I am and what goals I am trying to reach and achieve . I literally look up to you and you inspire me to keep pushing even on my hardest days thank you❤
The reason I am confident and secure and this happy is tam I literally adore her so much seeing you talking about things that really a person need it's just ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thanku so much tam for making my life even better ❣️
Tam you have changed my life!!!! I recently had gotten out of a situationship when I found your channel and I’ve noticed such change in my everyday life. I am THAT GIRL and working towards the best version of me every day 🥰💞❤️✨💕💘🌷 Sending love 💅🏻
I know you always say don't put people in a pedestal and yes I need to use that advice more but you are literally healing a part of me that you never broke like a sister thank you tam❤
i just love the fact that she just gets to the point and does not add anything extra in her vedios which is not helpfull at all and this vedio has litterally healped me so must i used to litterally not even take pics of myself even when i wanted to but now people are prazing me for being this confident
If you're reading this I pray something amazing happens for you today.🙏🏼💗
sweet❤️🧋🫶
Aww love this 🙏🏼💗 Right back at you!! 💕❤️
@@JourneywithGigi thanks be-you-tiful soul 💕🌸🎀
Likewise ❤
Thnk you 😭🫂
just know that i..
1 love your hair
1 love your forehead
1 love your eyebrows or lack of
I love your eyelashes or lack of
I love your eyes
1 love your ears
I love your nose
I love your cheeks
1 love your mouth
1 love your laugh
I love your teeth or lack of
1 love your chin
I love your neck
1 love your shoulders
1 love your chest
I love your arms
1 love your hands
I love your tummy
1 love your hips
1 love your thighs
I love your knees
I love your shins
1love your feet (not in that way.)
l love your moles/marks
I love your scars
1 love your voice
1 love what you do
1 love your personality
1 love you on your good days
I love you on your bad days
1 love you when you wear makeup
I love you when you don't wear makeup.
I love vour skin
I love you when you're sad
1 love you when you're mad
1 love you when you're happy
I love you when you hate me
I love you when you love me
1 love you when you forget me
I'm proud of you for getting some sleep
I'm proud of you for trying to sleep
I'm proud of you for waking up I'm proud of you for getting up
I'm proud of you for brushing your teeth
I'm proud of you for doing your hair
I'm proud of you for washing your face
I'm proud of you for doing skin care
1 love you for doing your makeup (if you wear it)
I'm proud of you that you got out of your room
I'm proud of you for getting dressed
I'm proud of you TRYING to eat breakfast.
I'm proud of you for being clean
I'm proud of you for trying to be clean
I'm proud of you for being alive
I'm proud of you for being a good friend
I'm proud of you for trying to be a good friend
1 won't judge you for your looks
1 won't judge you from your race
I won't judge you for your life
1 won't judge you for your family
I won't judge you for your past/childhood
I won't judge you for your body
1 won't judge you for your tears
I wont judge you for your age
I won't judge you for your sexual orientation
1 wont judge you for your gender
1 wont judge you for your money
1 won’t judge you for your religion
I won't judge you for where you come from
I won't judge you for your language
You aren't ugly
You aren't too fat
You aren't too skinny
You aren't annoying
You aren't mean
You aren't evil
You aren't crazy
You aren't weird
You aren't worthless
You aren't scary
You aren't selfish
You aren't too feminine
You aren't too masculine
You aren't too young
You aren't too old
You aren't disgusting
You aren't a doormat
You aren't a toy
You aren't a monster
You are beautiful
You are pretty
You are handsome
You are kind
You are cool
You are everything you want to be
You aren't perfect, nobody is, but you are perfect in my eyes
1 wont judge you for anything
Im so proud of you
love you
this took hours, dont be insecure
This made me smile & almost cry this is so pure n cute ! Tysm 🤍
Thank you soo much for this
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Thank you!Just as you said, you too!
mother always knows exactly what we need 😭😭❤️
FRRRR
She is 🥰🩷
Why did u use this word "mother" a333 she still in her 20 u can't say that just say that she's amazing..ect 🤦🏻♀️
@@daliafina gurl chill it aint that serious
@@daliafinacoz of her maturity and not her age
Tbh I think the fact that your nose is NOT the 'perfect upturned skinny nose' makes it more beautiful because it's not the same. You remind me of Princess Jasmine, you're literally so stunning ♥🥰
Oh thank you!
The jasmine girl who has a TH-cam channel?
@@BlowYourMindd Nah disney princess
@@SudhaBairagi-yz6rk ohk😂 i thought jazmine
@@BlowYourMinddoh that jazzy is good too
I pray every woman that sees this video changes into her best self as soon as possible❤❤
you are so keuoot!
Please like this comment, so i can watch this over and over again.
These tips are liquid gold.
What's mine is mine, what's yours is yours. I don't want what's yours and I am content with what's mine.
personal notes 👩🏻🏫
# mindsets 🧠
6:02 its okay to be imperfect, it does not and will NEVER take away from your worthiness
6:49 insecurity is a choice.
- fixate on how you can make your life better.
- 10:00 take it step by step, be gentle with yourself
- recognize and switch negative thoughts
- "how can i make this day an amazing day?"
10:49 no one is better than u, and u arent better than anyone.
- ur opinion about yourself is the ONLY opinion that matters.
- detach from any other opinions, good or bad
12:44 stop identifying and associating w the insecure version of u
- "this is the first day of my life."
- identify and align w ur desired version
# lifestyle 🌴
18:01 stop reasoning w the insecurity
- learn to validate yourself.
- r u not tired of criticizing urself?!?!?!
20:03 achieving goals make u confident
- live ur BEST life!!!
23:30 there is so much to life ‼️
- follow influencers that align with ur desired self
25:01 confidence routine
- do what u say u were gonna do, when u say were gonna do it
- honor your needs.
- exposure therapy: doing things that make u scared and anxious (embrace the cringe!!!)
# hw 📝
1. build ur p.o.p
2. focus on ur confident LIFE not confident experiences
(what make u feel like that girl, not just how to look like one)
3. do shadow work and get to the root problem
4. be kinder and more gentle to yourself
4.
it's so easy for yt influencers to post "glow up tips" and being confident, and so much nowadays is based on appearance and how to look better. i feel like because tam has genuinely had similar experiences and gone through so much as a young adult, she knows what we needed. she really filled the gap in the market. i've always felt strong in my core mentally and have felt the same things tam mentioned in her video. i'm so glad there's someone popular who's getting this to girls our age. been watching her videos since last summer and they're still so thorough!
I seriously can't express my deep gratitude, Tam. You're the big sister I never had. You can't even imagine how much your videos have changed me. Stay amazing, queen 💗💗💫
"I think we are given insecurities for a reason"
That is genuinely the most smartest and amazing thing I ever heard. I never thought of it that way! You are seriously a blessing, thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Tam is literally the older sister I always wished to have. I love you Tam
ur mindset shift helped so much. im convencially attractive and im only confident because i fit a beauty standard. i really need to see myself and think “i look pretty, but not because of standards but because i find myself pretty. plus this is how i look right now and ill deal with it” not this but also with my bone structure. THANK UUU
I've never felt like acne ruins someone's beauty. As a child, in some strange way, I actually thought it made people look prettier with red blush cheeks. Acne definitely doesn't hide people's beautiful smiles, and to be honest, everyone is beautiful in their own way.
my new affirmation: “it doesn’t define who you are, it’s such an insignificant part in all of the amazing pieces of what makes you, you.” cried at this cus i’ve been battling my insecurities for years and it’s been especially hard this month and i needed this, absolutely love u and what u do, thank you Tam♥️
The timing of the video 😭💗💗
EXACTLY HONEYY CUZ THERES THIS GIRL THAT MADE ME FEEL INVALID AT SCHOOL SO THIS WAS DEFINITELY GOOD TIMING 💗
ikrr
ig we all are similar and experience this,i am glad these feelings are normal !
It's perfect
Yaaaaa
The concept of the "Portfolio of Proof" has been such a game changer for me. Any time I feel my thoughts and insecurities growing louder, I remind myself I've done scary things before, and this is just another hurdle for me to overcome. Thank you so much for the lesson, Tam! ❤
My insecurities (specially the physical appearence ones) have stopped me from doing so many things, have ruined so many experiences and moments of my life, the habit of finding something wrong every time I look in the mirror was so deeply rooted a year ago. But since I discovered your channel last March I've been working on these insecurities, and it has been a really slow process but this video has confirmed to me that I've made so much progress! A year ago this message felt so unnatural to hear, only your sound logic made me listen, but today I hear you and it feels RIGHT.
And with this video I have so much more to learn, so many specific practices to target my insecurities and keep shifting my mindset for the better, I'm so thankfull 😭😭💜
You gave me hope for a better life and your example gave me the bravery to try for real . Thank you Tam, for helping and inspiring so many people 💕
That’s good. But also remember it’s not about how you look or your body. So no need to feel or be insecure or something cause beauty fades over time physically but not within.
My nose is not that big and never in my life I was insecure about it but two girls of my class were talking about big nose and one of the girl said nashra's nose is big and laughed I heard it I went home looked at my nose and felt so insecure about it since then but watching your videos really helped me realised that My nose really fits my face even if it is big it looks good in my face and I am healing because of you as I have more insecurities thank you so much I love you I feel like you are my elder sister ❤
Gurll if that's you in your profile pic then omg you're stunning! I literally have no idea what those girls were on about if I looked like you I would never feel insecure
@@krisha5660 omg thank you so much this made my day
@@krisha5660 thank you so much this made my day honestly I hope by watching her videos you are feeling good about yourself thank you for uplifting me I genuinely appreciate it:)
The mindset shift part made me realised how much i have grown in past year. Like literally last year changed so much in me in such a good way. OMG. And the credit goes to you.
I literally wanted to hug her ,as i go through alot with my skinny body and brown skintone by my mom's side relatives who literally are fair coz of so called genetics, gives a whole lecture on how to be fair, so i was criticizing myself now that i got u on right time ,I'm starting my journey of self love, still a teenager and turning 18 this month, I'm gonna subscribe u girl coz i needed someone like you THANKYOU SO MUCH ❤
Girl!
I’m 43 I have been watching you & your on point with all your videos and you give me confidence to rebuild me
Keep the videos coming
It’s actually crazy bc others don’t even see our own insecurities . For ex. You with your nose I think it fits perfectly to your face when you wouldn’t have said anything about it we wouldn’t even recognized and that’s with all our insecurities 🤍❗️❗️
Who says prayers don't come true!!!! I prayed to God to bring a person in my life who will help me to grow authentically and see Tam is here in my life now 😌💯
You saying you dont think youre nose is the standard was insane to me, because ive done research into getting a nose job to have my nose look just like yours!! Insecurities really are planted into people and are so subjective and person-to-person individual, its insane. Ive had a rough time recently thinking i was not good enough, ive been single for 5 years and everyone i attract is a bad type that i couldn't have a good future with, and listening to this is actually shifting my thinking. Thank you SO much for bashing me over the head with this, because the people around me just affirm the insecurities❤
Love this, Tam! No one is perfect so we have to stop thinking we have to be. Time to be confident in our imperfections!
I've been saying this under every video and I'm gonna say it a million times more... You are the most amazing woman and your videos are a comfort to me everytime I feel bad or stressed.
Love from India❤
You are so beautiful
@@inmyhotgirlera4ever thanku and so are you
Sach me inke videos bhot amazing hote h .. she is like my elder sister ❤😊
Heyyy, i've started my health journey or whatever you want to call it 3 months ago. Since then i have deleted all my social media, read a lot of books and warched/listened a lot of content about self growth, but i must say you are the literal best person i've found. I love all of your videos so much and feel like i can feel your spirit and good energy trough the screen. It's crazy haha.
Keep up the amazing work and thank you so much💕
i was feeling super insecure yesterday and mother delivers at the perfect timee
The people doesn't how much grateful I am for find her and watch her videos
💕When Timestamps start💕
1:Mindset Shifts: 4:13
2: Lifestyle Shifts: 16:10 - 23:18
3: Bio Sites Link: 21:59
4: HOMEWORK: 28:32
This is not just surface level advice, this hits deep. You broke the code of healing girl. 🎉❤ Thank you for all the amazing content !
Tam is literally growing me...I'm so grateful that I found this channel
YOU SLAY GIRL I found out about your existence a month ago after I felt absolutely devastated by the breakup with my ex but since I'm watching all your videos religiously now I'm feeling so much better about myself 10/10💛💛💛
Told my friend about this channel 2 days back and now she can't stop watching ur videos while studying and sending me screenshots.... I'm sooo gladddddd I could do that. Also she's that one 'manifested' friend I found in this new city I moved into a week back. Haven't met her yet but ah she's so adorable. Can't wait to see her.😄😄
She is the best honestly,she helped me with my social awkwardness
Ngl, watching Jennifer's body and wanting to be like her is what made me confident. ik that sounds weird but i love the way i look and i just applied her mindset to everything.
"only the most insecure empty shell of a human being, sad pathetic people, will find the time and energy to try and bring you down and create insecurities for you" loved that 😍
so many things you say are so true. i am a 22 year old guy, and i had watched enough self improvement videos mainly from male creators and its so refreshing to watch your videos, unlike those videos which always talk about bringing women and wealth into your life you tend to motivate people to improve for themselves without having an ulterior motive of attracting someone or something in your life. those things will come eventually but that thing is not the goal. the goal is the live the most fulfilling life for yourself. thank you tam :)
I used to wear a sweater at school even when it’s so hot because I didn’t like my arms,I started stop doing it because of this video,thank you so much tam!!
Since a very long time I was feeling so insecure of my appearance but when I watched your video and the fact that you didn't used to like the way your nose looks even tho I think it's really pretty I felt happier. I love how you made me realize that how insignifanct our appearance is. Thanks a lot girl.
Tam ♡, you have no idea of how much your words have enriched in my life, your words are always comforting, inspiring and full of wisdom. THANK YOU so much, love you 🩷🫂✨️ and I wish you the best of best in life 🫶
"No one can make you inferior without your consent"
This video has helped me a lot , so really thanks , from the deep of my heart❤, I’m finally healing after years of being people pleasing and rejecting my opinions and desires over someone else opinion, I hardly could say “no” , and feel anything that happens it’s my fault , and nobody will accept me for who I’m and how I look, but watching your videos I realized that’s true, like it’s just my perception that’s how I see things to be and I have the potential to change it altogether, I’m still healing, it’s been a hard processes but I trust I’ll embrace all these negative emotions that I feel
I HAVE TO SAY THIS!! I'm sure we've all seen those self love gurus, confidence builders, saying "you are beautiful as you are and you don't need to change anything" while looking like an epitome of these days beauty standards [it's like a really fair skinned person saying to a colored person, don't be insecure about your skin, i used to be too but now i'm confident, you could be too. when being white was use to be considered superior and the other colors as inferior obviously the superiors don't get the problem], but my girl tam, i'm not saying she's not pretty cause she is, its just that she shows her insecurities not for the popularity but she actually turned them into her confidence, and i wanna believe her.
Tam you are one of the bravest soul who can talk about so boldly and fearlessly about all the things you are talking in this video. May god bless you ❤
You are the definition of THAT GIRL!!!!
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH TAM❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hi Tam!!❤
I just wanted to tell you how much you and your videos mean to me and so many other other women, but not only that, you helped me as a teen who has a big problem with my body image, as well as many other teenage girls. Im at an age where all I see in a mirror are my flaws, things I'm bad at and things I can't change. It's the age where you sometimes have no control over your own thoughts and actions and I want you to know that you are one of the reasons why I was able to be at peace with myself. You're words and actions made me question this time that we live in and made my realise that am not the problem. Now I'm 16 and i quit sugar for good and I take care of what i eat, how i look, who I spend my time with and what i focus on in my day to day life. So thank you from the depth of my soul for breaking this sick and made up picture of self worth that was pushed on us!!!
Love you girll❤🎉
Nika
your videos are genuinely changing my life thank you so much Tam
Being confident not because of how I look, but because of how I live is an important lesson. Thank you! 🥺💘
This video will prove to be a game changer!!
Your are literally saving the mental health of so many women. You have no idea!
Keep your good work up!👍❣️
i have watched this video so many times, you are speaking directly to my soul. whenever i start to feel myself retreat i think about this. you have no idea how much of a big help you’ve been in my life Tam. Thanks for all that you do!!
I like the videos without background music it really emphasizes your message!
I was always insecure of my bf's ex because i always thought she is much prettier than me. I always had been insecure of my looks. i always thought that it was my boyfriends downgrade in dating me after her. after times i realized that I'm me, she is her. thanks tam this video opened my brain even more and changed my thoughts even much more than before
I’m actually going to cry. I never realised how bad I am talking to myself about my body and how I look like. I’ve been struggling with my weight since I was a child and was taking several hormonal tablets which never helped in the end. Now I’m close to 30 and I’ve gained weight again over the years and everytime I look in the mirror I question why is my partner even with me. I look ugly. So of course my body never changes because I don’t appreciate it. I am never kind to myself and acknowledge everything my body went through and it’s still keeping me alive. Thank you Tam, for making us realise that we need to be kind and appreciate the body we are in. I will practice the self talk in front of the mirror every morning and be grateful that I am in a healthy body, I can move, I can get up each morning and it is keeping me alive. ❤
What’s crazy is that I think your absolutely STUNNING, and the fact that you have had insecurities about your nose makes me think that my insecurities may not be all that unattractive after all!
I needed this- sometimes we are so fixated on appearances that we forget that it’s merely a speck of the beauties in life. There is *so* much more to a person than how they look.
YESS ON THE RIGHT TIME AS ALWAYS! Universe is by our side and Tam posted ♥️!!
seriosuly!!! every video she posts always boosts my mood exponentially 😁✨🌟
Wake up girliesss TAM POSTED!!
You are AMAZING! I love how you teach, what you have to say, your authenticity. You're info is so different from the usual. So real. Thank you!
This video was absolutely beautiful. Really needed this rn thanks tam❤
When this was recommended I was looking at a girl's insta. I lost a role I wanted to her, i convinced my self it didn't matter, but internally, it still hurt bc, well, let's say she wasn't the nicest person. But honestly, this video put into perspective that it TRULY doesn't matter. Thank you for bringing that confidence inward.
Your videos always brighten my day! Keep up the fantastic work.
When your self concept speaks out gracefully,every thing shifts authentically❤
Stay gorgeious Tam
I love how you built your self💯
I'm so thankful every single time I think of something and at the same time "the queen" showed up everytime 🙌 ❤
Also, I love shoulders. I feel like it’s not too wide for you it just fits you so well. They’re angular as well. You look like you have very good posture ♡♡
Omg! Thank you!
I’ve been keeping up with this channel since August and my insecurities were long GONE! But just gaining some new knowledge was very helpful and peaceful for me.
I especially enjoyed the part where you mentioned that we should see every day as our “Day 1”. It’s actually so amazing! I’m all about improving myself and loving myself and I feel like this advice will help me achieve more on my journey, Ty!
Now, I gotta admit, something you pointed out on the lifestyle shifts chapter, about doing what you said you’ll do….I promise you! I do DO the things I plan, all except my studies 🫠.
And a homework that I would need to complete is to set boundaries with myself, have some self respect, and do the damn work at the time that I plan to.
Lmao! Ty for reading my rant. Love you Tam! (Also, ur actual name is SO PRETTY! Tamara is so cute! But I respect your current name and love how you decided to be your own person).
I pray for many blessings to come your way 🧸💕
i love you and thank you so much, gurl... thanks a lot... u made my day.. i was struggling through insecurities and some shit... but u made me feel like i am the one.. who matters the most... with or without any insecurities... lots of genuine love to you.. may god bless you and everyone reading this... ❤
it makes me feel so good when u say things that im already doing!!
Hands down, the most healing , helpful, authentic, structured, uplifting channel I’ve ever come across ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much, Tam. As someone possibly about twice your age, coming out of a divorce, your videos are so, so valuable. You’re teaching me things I should’ve always realized myself. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
I learned from you that even the focus on the compliments people are giving I shouldn’t focus on it and it’s a really good lesson from you thankyou
In the beginning itself I could see the hard truth that we all know about but couldn't insist it... You are just amazing Tam you don't know how much you have helped me boost my confidence love your presentation so much... Keep going, everyone!
Back to back videos, so grateful for the frequent uploads!!
i love your videos 🥹, the part about “would you talk to your younger self like that” made me cry.
I'm so glad you share all this. I feel more enough as I am and content and like I don't have to get somewhere to feel ok but to think I already am and I can always improve a little everyday instead
Tam, your videos are truely spscial. I've been taking so much inspiration from them and have started to adapt things you talk about one by one.
I can't wait to come back to these videos and see how I've changed my life
Loving all the women out here looking out for each other and ourselves. Love you hottie and intelligent babes ❤
GURL!!!!!! THIS CHANNEL IS MY COMFORT ZONE!!!!!! IM 16 ND YOU ARE AN ABSOLUTE ANGEL 💗💗💗💗
I actually cried to this one. Your videos help me sm, I feel like I’m healing my child self. Thank you
'she is more precious than jewls, nothing u desire can compare with her..' this is a verse I learn from a long way of many years of being insecure, and mind u wat attracts is not ur body its ur confidence, authentic self, ur energy, how you love your self, and ur achievements, so who ever insecure person reading this wat we should fix the inside and our souls. after that we look in the mirror and observe if u will see any flaws..no gal u wont since ur more than that... thanks tam for this vid.
Got to admit, Finch's involvement in 4RA made me a regular. Can't miss out on his match insights!
I may not understand all your words but through your emotions that you showed i know that you're so happy and positive about your thoughts in life. You wanna share those to everyone who is still insecure about themself and i am one of them. This is a meaningful video to me. I hope you will alway be happy in your life. I and everyone too
the "you see the diffrence??" woke me up!
Thank you for this detailed video tam!!
I like how you mentioned the change of name helps with the change of mindset shift!!
For me I used "the sims" game this year and made another version of myself and it helped me sooo much because I agree on the part where you said "it's just a silly avatar we can customize; try new outfits"; it also helped me so much on the body positivity and the possibilities i could have done and be!!
i am 17 and i look forward to you as my mentor and i literally think you're so pretty that's what i thought in all your videos that she's gorgeous and stunning i never knew you had all these insecurities.
This is what I’ve been needing so badly lately omg!!! Tam u rlly changed my life u have no idea 💗💗
Hey Tam, I'd just like to say how much you've helped me over the past few months, I'm working on being a better person, I'm more confident and I don't feel lonely anymore, and I know there are a lot more good things coming my way, so thank you so much
i love how you include homework for us and my fave lesson was definitely the not looking at the mirror so often and showering while thinking how i can better my day instead of shaming myself and all the examples youve used to show how i can take baby steps like talking to a stranger for whom i held the door
girl i think you literally just saved my life
1. Reframe your insecurities
2. Shift Focus on your life not others negative opinions.
- When negative thoughts arise acknowledge them without judgment and let them go don't give in.
3. Acknowledge not everyone's going to like you
- Others' opinions about yourself don't matter your opinion only does
- Shift from external to self-validation
- Only insecure empty people will actually judge you
4. Stop identifying with the insecure version of you:
- Let go of past negative experiences your insecure self-experienced
* When you wake up think this is the first day of my life and act like it.
I just want to say your one of the few TH-camrs I have ever felt so inspired from , on days that are so hard for me listening to your videos makes me remember who I am and what goals I am trying to reach and achieve . I literally look up to you and you inspire me to keep pushing even on my hardest days thank you❤
I was just rewatching how to radiate feminine energy then I see a notification, I love you... thank you for thisss❤
The reason I am confident and secure and this happy is tam I literally adore her so much seeing you talking about things that really a person need it's just ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thanku so much tam for making my life even better ❣️
At first I didn’t have any high expectations about this video .. but girl you’re amazing your using logic and practical ideas thank you so much ❤️
Tam you have changed my life!!!! I recently had gotten out of a situationship when I found your channel and I’ve noticed such change in my everyday life. I am THAT GIRL and working towards the best version of me every day 🥰💞❤️✨💕💘🌷 Sending love 💅🏻
i'm 15 and you are the big sister i need. thank u so much tam, i don't think i can ever explain how much you help me ❤
I know you always say don't put people in a pedestal and yes I need to use that advice more but you are literally healing a part of me that you never broke like a sister thank you tam❤
This is literally EXACTLY what I needed😭 idk how you always manage to post the perfect videos at the perfect time
i just love the fact that she just gets to the point and does not add anything extra in her vedios which is not helpfull at all and this vedio has litterally healped me so must i used to litterally not even take pics of myself even when i wanted to but now people are prazing me for being this confident