heavy on 15:10 💁♀ALSO SUBTITLES YAY! I've been seeing all your requests and you can now expect subtitles on every one of my videos going forward xoxoxo
Wow, thanks queen for subtitles!! I’m learning English and I love to listen your accent. Your videos been helping me to improve my vocabulary, knowledge and mainly my lifeeee ❤️
Whew this video came at the very right time. As a person who overthinks a lot due to past traumas during childhood, it gets very difficult. I catch myself obsessively thinking about the what ifs, "what if this doesn't work out, what if I don't succeed", it's debilitating. Getting a little vulnerable here, I'm someone who has a severe fear of getting sick and throwing up or watching other people do it (it's called emetophobia, would really like to know if anyone else goes through this as well!) and from the past few days I've been obsessively thinking about what if my fear comes to reality, it truly effects the way a person lives their life due to excessive fear and irrational thoughts. It's like constantly living in a fight-flight mode. We deserve to live rather than just surviving! I hope as we all watch this video, we can calm our mind down a bit. By the way, Tam! You look so divine my goodness!!! 😍❤
I feel this completely. I work on myself so hard and maybe my failures are due to this mindset. But I'm moving forward. I hope you are okay, it's hard, it's okay but we will be loved by ourselves (that child wound) and move forward to succeed.
@@sunvavachi I absolutely love this message, Sunethra!! I am constantly working on myself as much as I can until I get therapy. Some days are just impossible to survive, but we keep pushing forward with faith. Yes, we will be loved, absolutely! We owe ourselves our own love and compassion. 🫂🤧💗
Positive overthinking spiral: "If it doesn't go according to plan, guess what, I ended up having a great time and I learned some great lessons that I'll then be taking as wisdom into the next part of my life. It's a win-win scenario. I am a lucky girl and everything works in my favor. Even if that didn't go to plan, I got wisdom from it. If it didn't go the way I wanted, it's OK it wasn't meant for me and I know the new path I'm redirected on will take me to the place I truly deserve because I am divinely protected. The universe does not work against me. I always get what I want, whether I know it at the time or not." I love this so much! Well said, makes me feel so relieved just listening to this perspective.
I love this channel with my whole heart. Each video title is so relatable and the advice is always on point, I haven't watched this one yet but I already know I am going to walk away with more information than I came in with 💗.
I'm going to watch this video every day. I'm actually in therapy for this. I think of all the worst possible case scenarios since I was very young. It's so hard to change your thought patterns, but not impossible. Thanks for the motivation Tam!
My confidence and self growth after watching your videos go 📈📈 Thank you so much for sharing all this positive thinking to everyone, may God protect you at all cost ✨
Hey Tam 💕☀️ i don’t know if you’ll ever see this. But I just wanted to sincerely thank you, you’re like an internet bestie. I’m pretty confident, but deep down I’ve struggled with self love and truly believing my high self worth. I’m a Christian, and a lot of what you teach are all deeply routed in the Bible like high standards, self love, kindness, not surrounding yourself with “fools” or “low vibrations” as you call it. You’re like an angel sent from the sky to spread awareness to living your BEST LIFE. I literally had to STOP, TAKE NOTES, and RETHINK all of my limitations, which has led to more excitement towards a better life for me and the ones I love. It’s even strengthened my walk with God. I won’t make this any longer, but you’ve helped me out of a dark place by awakening what’s been inside all along. Thank youuu, QUEEN 😁💕👑 🕺🕺🕺
Thank you for this video i appreciate it. Overthinking is just the art of making problems that are not even existing. Sometime we suffer more in imagination then in reality. Always remember we are in control of our life and not the mind for everybody struggling my you will make it❤️💯
Thank you so much, I’m going to download and listen when I’m ruminating. I am trying to be more trusting in myself and the universe and this definitely helped change my mood for the better!
Thanks for what you’re doing. My overthinking tends to manifest when something big is about to happens. Then, my brain switches to the overriding mode as a copying mechanism. It almost cost me my best friend. I got to the point to ask her if I have ever done something to upset her. Her reply was like “you gotta stop overthinking”.
Gosshhh! This video really helps me right now 'cause my exams are soon and I was just overthinking all bad scenarios that could happen. You're my saviour girl 💜
Absolutely great content! Weird thing is I've naturally found myself doing some of those positive things without knowing what I'm doing. I'm definitely a recovering overthinker and it was so cool listening to how you broke this down and described me so well. Thank you!
I feel like if I get over this overthinking mindset, ill be able to better my relationship with my girlfriend and other friendships as well, thank you.
Thanks a lot Tam, I was in dire need of advice. Lately I've been getting anxiety attacks and comparing myself with others. I recently got in 10th grade and it has been hectic. I always top in my class and pretty much my entire personality is based on that. If that one thing is taken away from me, I'm just a piece of crap. A new girl came in my class last month and as much as I hate to admit, she is much more smarter and better than me. Everyone in my class have been saying things like I'll be replaced by her and all. This thought had been really eating me. We have our tests next month and I just can't focus. My mind is always occupied with negativity and various thoughts such as what if I lose to her? What if I fail? Do i even have a chance of beating her? To sum up, I have been struggling and this video of yours had definitely changed my way of perceiving things.
Sincerely thank you for the videos you have posted. I have started watching consciously your videos lately and they have a super positive effect on me, and my subconscious.
You're like a sister I never had. You're so amazing🥺 Thank you so much for existing you've help me a lot. Please always stay safe We love you!!❤❤❤❤❤️❤️
For the fact that i wrote "don't overthink" ona piece of paper so that i would look at it every morning to not over think and then i got this video , its incredibly amazing 🤩 and i just have to say that i luuuv ur confidence❤ also just subscribed😊
This video couldn't have come at a better time. Something just happened recently that have taught me a valuable lesson. Your timing is impeccable I love your channel❤🎉
Omg absolutely loved this. It was an absolute banger🔥🔥 Hey Tam, Can you make a video on How to live alone and Why we should live alone, how we should plan it out. Thanks ❤
TAM I LOVE YOUUU SO MUCH I’m so happy you started posting more on TH-cam I found you on tiktok through your solo dates it was the best thing to ever happen to my mind set ❤❤
Perfect timing Tam!!! Rant: I have been going through a tough time these past 2-3months. I had thought that things got better, but turns out they haven’t. I’ve been at my worse. I’ve been so stressed, anxious, and sad for the past two years since I’ve entered high school. Everything is so hard for me. I’m struggling with my grades, I’ve always been a straight A student, and now things have fallen apart since I haven’t started off strong from the beginning. So now, since then, I’ve always been dwelling on things, I’ve lost motivation to do anything, I’ve lost interest on the things I used to love/d, I’m really lazy, I overthink A LOT, I don’t trust myself etc.. It wasn’t like this at the start of this school year but things switched up now. These past few days I have been crying myself to sleep. It’s getting so worse till the point where I just can’t wait for the night to come so I can secretly go to bed and cry my heart out. I cry till I feel numb. And I wake up with swollen eyes. I’m so stressed especially these weeks since it’s like exams and grades season, and I keep messing up some things. And I give up and loose my concentration when I know something went wrong. I’ve come to the conclusion where I think I know and understand why I feel like this. It’s fear of failure. I fear that I’ll let my parents down and myself, and I won’t get to build the life I wanna live. I feel like the failure of the household. It’s painful to see other people succeed and improve while.. I fail, you get what I mean? And it does create some form of jealousy, I would word it as hatred but yes jealousy. And the second reason is that I’m too caught up in the past. My past decisions. I feel like in some time in life they’re gonna be brought up and ruin my plans & future. I’m too scared of making decisions. “I’m gonna study, but I know I’m not gonna get an A anyways, what if I fail? Is it even worth studying then. Nah, I’m too lazy anyways”. Perfectionism. I grew up being compared to other people. I think parents have this mentality adapted in their mindset that if they say that it will motivate their children to study even more. It might, but I think it does affect them in the future, I hope you understand what I mean, no offense to anyone. I have so much more things I wanna say but I’ll just move on to the other things. This isn’t also JUST about grades. It’s also about the high school in general. The people, the surroundings. Everything has.. changed??? One thing I regret doing as a kid was wanting to grow up. If I could go back in time to relive it again, I would. While we’re at it, yes I might have changed some things in myself back then, things that would help benefit me right now as well I think. As you grow up you understand more. People,, only care about themselves, no offense, cause I also do.. But by what I said I mean like people are selfish, in the WRONG way. They can’t wait to see people fail in life, they can’t wait to crush you completely just so they can get somewhere. I try to be nice, but then I regret, and think “Why am I even being nice, as if they would ever consider it and be thankful?”. THESE PEOPLE WILL LITERALLY PRAY FOR YOUR DOWNFALL. People in high school are like that. I think it’s this specific age 15-19 probably. I don’t know I’m only 16. I have to add that I don’t open up to anyone about the things I’ve been feeling. In school, you can’t trust anyone, I don’t really have a close friend that I trust. I think opening up to my mom or sister, I don’t know if they’d understand. And it’s always “It will get better.” or “You chose to live this lifestyle, why did you choose it if you were gonna cry and be depressed about it.”. I don’t know I just don’t think people will understand, and I’m not good at expressing what I feel. So I’d rather just keep things to myself. 👍🏻 Anyways, I also wanna change specific things in myself, physically, mentally, spiritually. But right now at this specific moment, I’m just busy with school I don’t even have time to worry about myself. Especially mentally, I’m totally destroying myself. That’s all I wanted to share. Tomorrow I have to study, and after tomorrow, and after tomorrow, the cycle continues. I just thought I needed to share this since it was something I’ve been looking for, and it motivated me atm.
hi there, i just read your comment. i'm so sorry for what you're going through rn. it sounds a lot like burnout to me. obvs i don't know the fully story but please take care of yourself. maybe it could just be having one day to yourself? i've been through something a lot similar to what you've mentioned and would be more than happy to help, even if its just for you to vent a bit. things always do get better, i promise. stay strong and you've got this! x
Thank you so much for making this video ❤ It is and it will be so useful for me whenever I am going in my overthinking spiral 🫶🏻 Huge love and appreciation from India 🇮🇳🪷
Оverthinking is really a problem for many people, especially when everyone is broadcasting successful success, and ordinary people are not doing so well😣😔😥
I suffer with it badly! 🤯😖😞 worst of all it’s not like it’s a little nerve feeling. No it absolutely traumatises me and I feel like I’ve lost all the happiness in my life. I really have to sought my mind out
Really nice video. Can you do a video on how you started your business? This video came at perfect timing as I prepare for a really important exam next month. I am going to pass! 🎉
Tam kaur I wanna take this chance to say thank you for this video, I always overthinking these days after a rough week now I learned something new from you and it helps me, god bless you dear🤍
Apuntes: -Sobrepensar es malo, no lo hagas. Soluciones según la causa 🤓☝️ Si es por miedo (a fallar en algo, por ejemplo): •Si ese fuera el caso (lo cual no sabrás hasta intentarlo) pensa en que aprendiste de eso y que probablemente no estaba hecho para vos ¡Que bien que al menos lo intentaste! Tomalo como una lección más que un fracaso ^^ •Hacer Journaling •Action map (buscalo por internet) •Focalizate en el presente (leer "The Power of now") Pone tus energias en un plan de acción, cosas que SÍ podes controlar •Cambia tu mentalidad, mira las cosas que intentas como experimentos, experiencias u oportunidades. No tienes porque tomartelo en serio •Manifesta con visualizaciones y afirmaciones (seria bueno que seas delulu y esperes lo mejor de cada situación, asumiendo que el universo conspira a tu favor) •Distraete con otras actividades en las que centrarte Si es por que hiciste o dijiste algo de lo que te arrepentis o no queres tomar una decisión por miedo: •Detachment (concentrate en que te hace sentir) •Confianza (tenes confianza en las decisiones que tomas). Toma las decisiones vos y no los demás ¡Es tu vida! •Cambia tu mentalidad de escasez a una de abundancia. Mejor hecho que perfecto ¿De donde viene el miedo? Trabajar en la causa y visualiza que todo sale bien •Vivir el presente (no pienses por ejemplo hoy en algo vergonzoso que hiciste hace 2 años) •Tene fé, enamorate de la incertidumbre ¿Y si todo saliera mejor de lo que había mejorado) •Hace un plan de ser necesario para tomar la decisión y llegar a tu resultado deseado Cuando es por relaciones: •Comunicate con la persona, hacelo sin sobrepensarlo •Tene fé (lista de pros y contras de la situación y persona) •VIVIR EN EL PRESENTE. Hace cosas que te gusten •Valorate ❤ •Detach de personas y situaciones
I cried watching this video . Thankyou so much ma'am for making such a masterpiece on this topic. Very much needed 🤍 I hope I work on it as mentioned in the video...haribol
Part 4 relationships : preparing yourself for situations that haven’t even happened 🥲 ouch so real, cuz I self sabotaged not to long ago because I imagined a life that ‘ wasn’t for me in a different country with him ‘ when in reality who knows if that would’ve even happened
affirmations from the video ✨ ~my thoughts do not reflect my reality. i do not identify with my thoughts, they do not represent who i am or what my experience is . ~i am in control of my thoughts. ~i have the power and discipline to choose what i focus my attention on. ~i am safe and nothing bad will happen to me. ~everything works within my best interest. ~i do not have to worry about anything, the universe has my back. ~instead of stressing i am going to trust in divine timing and trust that everything i want is already on its way to me. ~i am enough. ~i only exist and focus on the present moment. ~i am above all my negative thoughts and i am abundantly filled with positivity. ~i am at peace with all that has happened and all that will happen.
I love how she does all the research and gathers the facts for explaining, giving examples and dividing the content into chapters making the content just to the point, but still explaining all the aspects related to it and still not making it TOO OVERWHELMING. Loved the vid. Tam is a genius :') also you look so cute
NEVER CHANGE THE STRUCTURE OF THESE VIDEOS😭 forever grateful for the fact that u state HOW to do things and not just saying the bare minimum without going into depth, that's what separates u from these other TH-camrs xx
I love the fact that you never ever said "be selfish" or anything close to that, instead you want us to be a good person who treats people well with creating boundaries. I love this, this is the real self growth that i am manifesting. Be a good and disciplined person
heavy on 15:10 💁♀ALSO SUBTITLES YAY! I've been seeing all your requests and you can now expect subtitles on every one of my videos going forward xoxoxo
Tam how did you get to know that I was overthinking 🧐
One of the BEST videos ever.
Thank you
Thank you for the subtitles, Tam. It really is mindful and i hope more youtubers start implementing such inclusive practices.
Wow, thanks queen for subtitles!! I’m learning English and I love to listen your accent. Your videos been helping me to improve my vocabulary, knowledge and mainly my lifeeee ❤️
Whew this video came at the very right time. As a person who overthinks a lot due to past traumas during childhood, it gets very difficult. I catch myself obsessively thinking about the what ifs, "what if this doesn't work out, what if I don't succeed", it's debilitating. Getting a little vulnerable here, I'm someone who has a severe fear of getting sick and throwing up or watching other people do it (it's called emetophobia, would really like to know if anyone else goes through this as well!) and from the past few days I've been obsessively thinking about what if my fear comes to reality, it truly effects the way a person lives their life due to excessive fear and irrational thoughts. It's like constantly living in a fight-flight mode. We deserve to live rather than just surviving! I hope as we all watch this video, we can calm our mind down a bit. By the way, Tam! You look so divine my goodness!!! 😍❤
I feel this completely. I work on myself so hard and maybe my failures are due to this mindset. But I'm moving forward. I hope you are okay, it's hard, it's okay but we will be loved by ourselves (that child wound) and move forward to succeed.
@@sunvavachi I absolutely love this message, Sunethra!! I am constantly working on myself as much as I can until I get therapy. Some days are just impossible to survive, but we keep pushing forward with faith. Yes, we will be loved, absolutely! We owe ourselves our own love and compassion. 🫂🤧💗
Me too I also think that only i am like this i am the one who is not doing anything and failing everything despite doing effort
SAME HERE !!! I have a music audition in a week and I have been stressing more than I feel I have been productive, I REALLY NEEDED A BOOST.
Mee too
Positive overthinking spiral: "If it doesn't go according to plan, guess what, I ended up having a great time and I learned some great lessons that I'll then be taking as wisdom into the next part of my life. It's a win-win scenario. I am a lucky girl and everything works in my favor. Even if that didn't go to plan, I got wisdom from it. If it didn't go the way I wanted, it's OK it wasn't meant for me and I know the new path I'm redirected on will take me to the place I truly deserve because I am divinely protected. The universe does not work against me. I always get what I want, whether I know it at the time or not."
I love this so much! Well said, makes me feel so relieved just listening to this perspective.
I love this channel with my whole heart. Each video title is so relatable and the advice is always on point, I haven't watched this one yet but I already know I am going to walk away with more information than I came in with 💗.
Appreciate u 🥺🥺🥺
@@tamkaur We appreciate you 😌💝
You’re the best 🤍 amazing
I'm going to watch this video every day. I'm actually in therapy for this. I think of all the worst possible case scenarios since I was very young. It's so hard to change your thought patterns, but not impossible. Thanks for the motivation Tam!
Same!!!
on the exact same wave
I’m the same and I’m a mom now and it’s worse 😢
My confidence and self growth after watching your videos go 📈📈 Thank you so much for sharing all this positive thinking to everyone, may God protect you at all cost ✨
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"Overthinking can't prepare you better. It's just waisting your time."
New quote of a day 🥺❤
Needed this one! I’ve been overthinking my own TH-cam channel lately. Thanks for always providing valuable content!❤
Hey Tam 💕☀️ i don’t know if you’ll ever see this. But I just wanted to sincerely thank you, you’re like an internet bestie. I’m pretty confident, but deep down I’ve struggled with self love and truly believing my high self worth. I’m a Christian, and a lot of what you teach are all deeply routed in the Bible like high standards, self love, kindness, not surrounding yourself with “fools” or “low vibrations” as you call it. You’re like an angel sent from the sky to spread awareness to living your BEST LIFE. I literally had to STOP, TAKE NOTES, and RETHINK all of my limitations, which has led to more excitement towards a better life for me and the ones I love. It’s even strengthened my walk with God. I won’t make this any longer, but you’ve helped me out of a dark place by awakening what’s been inside all along. Thank youuu, QUEEN 😁💕👑 🕺🕺🕺
This is definitely therapy and healing to the soul. Thank you for putting out content that snaps me where I need to be. 💜
Thank you tam....that's all I need to hear. Your channel is a therapy for me. LOVE YOU 💌
Thank you for this video i appreciate it. Overthinking is just the art of making problems that are not even existing. Sometime we suffer more in imagination then in reality. Always remember we are in control of our life and not the mind for everybody struggling my you will make it❤️💯
Omg Tam WHAT A QUEEN thank youuu for all the work you put into this videos 🙏
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Thank you so much, I’m going to download and listen when I’m ruminating. I am trying to be more trusting in myself and the universe and this definitely helped change my mood for the better!
Thanks for what you’re doing. My overthinking tends to manifest when something big is about to happens. Then, my brain switches to the overriding mode as a copying mechanism. It almost cost me my best friend. I got to the point to ask her if I have ever done something to upset her. Her reply was like “you gotta stop overthinking”.
Gosshhh! This video really helps me right now 'cause my exams are soon and I was just overthinking all bad scenarios that could happen. You're my saviour girl 💜
let’s all take a moment and appreciate how majestic tam looks !!
ur so sweet🥺💕
You, your energy, your wisdom - I LOVE it. I can see how deeply you've thought about your purpose and follow it with your whole being 🙌
I love how every single thing you say make sense. I learned a lot from you that’s why I always look forward on your next video.
Absolutely great content! Weird thing is I've naturally found myself doing some of those positive things without knowing what I'm doing. I'm definitely a recovering overthinker and it was so cool listening to how you broke this down and described me so well. Thank you!
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED!!! You are incredible!! 💋
I feel like if I get over this overthinking mindset, ill be able to better my relationship with my girlfriend and other friendships as well, thank you.
That's insane how I think of something and literally the next time I'm on youtube you made a video on it! I am so grateful
Happy to help!
Girl I am not even kidding when i say this u have changed my life and my perspective towards it
I love you bestieee❤
tam, ilysm! you have helped me so much i cannot thank you enough!
Thanks a lot Tam, I was in dire need of advice. Lately I've been getting anxiety attacks and comparing myself with others. I recently got in 10th grade and it has been hectic. I always top in my class and pretty much my entire personality is based on that. If that one thing is taken away from me, I'm just a piece of crap. A new girl came in my class last month and as much as I hate to admit, she is much more smarter and better than me. Everyone in my class have been saying things like I'll be replaced by her and all. This thought had been really eating me. We have our tests next month and I just can't focus. My mind is always occupied with negativity and various thoughts such as what if I lose to her? What if I fail? Do i even have a chance of beating her? To sum up, I have been struggling and this video of yours had definitely changed my way of perceiving things.
You are enough. Im proud of your achievements
@@shinyflower. Thank youu!! ❤ I also want to say that you're really gorgeous!
@@thisUserIsPro oh. thanks! 😅
omg this helped sm im not even kidding :( btw you were looking SO CUTE like your makeup was adorable! and new sub :>
Yay! Thank you!
@@tamkaur your welcome!! ty for replying omg you made me even happier now
Girl it's like you know how much I've been overthinking lately
Sincerely thank you for the videos you have posted. I have started watching consciously your videos lately and they have a super positive effect on me, and my subconscious.
so am i the only one who overthink about my past
Nope sadly we in this together 🥲😔
Thank youuu for this video, it's so timely. I'm overthinking right now 😞
this was exactly what i needed thank you so much
The hair with the earrings and top, u look like a fairy princess😍❤️🌸 always love ur messages Tam!!
😊 thank you
You're like a sister I never had. You're so amazing🥺 Thank you so much for existing you've help me a lot. Please always stay safe We love you!!❤❤❤❤❤️❤️
For the fact that i wrote "don't overthink" ona piece of paper so that i would look at it every morning to not over think and then i got this video , its incredibly amazing 🤩 and i just have to say that i luuuv ur confidence❤ also just subscribed😊
This video couldn't have come at a better time. Something just happened recently that have taught me a valuable lesson. Your timing is impeccable I love your channel❤🎉
It's better to be done than to make perfection .......❤
Girl this is so good, you changed my life rn
Omg absolutely loved this. It was an absolute banger🔥🔥
Hey Tam,
Can you make a video on How to live alone and Why we should live alone, how we should plan it out.
Thanks ❤
You have helped me so much with my self love. I’m so great full for you!
Thank you for this. I am so thankful you are here.
TAM I LOVE YOUUU SO MUCH I’m so happy you started posting more on TH-cam I found you on tiktok through your solo dates it was the best thing to ever happen to my mind set ❤❤
I LOVE U SO MUCH
Perfect timing Tam!!!
Rant:
I have been going through a tough time these past 2-3months. I had thought that things got better, but turns out they haven’t. I’ve been at my worse. I’ve been so stressed, anxious, and sad for the past two years since I’ve entered high school. Everything is so hard for me. I’m struggling with my grades, I’ve always been a straight A student, and now things have fallen apart since I haven’t started off strong from the beginning. So now, since then, I’ve always been dwelling on things, I’ve lost motivation to do anything, I’ve lost interest on the things I used to love/d, I’m really lazy, I overthink A LOT, I don’t trust myself etc.. It wasn’t like this at the start of this school year but things switched up now. These past few days I have been crying myself to sleep. It’s getting so worse till the point where I just can’t wait for the night to come so I can secretly go to bed and cry my heart out. I cry till I feel numb. And I wake up with swollen eyes. I’m so stressed especially these weeks since it’s like exams and grades season, and I keep messing up some things. And I give up and loose my concentration when I know something went wrong. I’ve come to the conclusion where I think I know and understand why I feel like this. It’s fear of failure. I fear that I’ll let my parents down and myself, and I won’t get to build the life I wanna live. I feel like the failure of the household. It’s painful to see other people succeed and improve while.. I fail, you get what I mean? And it does create some form of jealousy, I would word it as hatred but yes jealousy. And the second reason is that I’m too caught up in the past. My past decisions. I feel like in some time in life they’re gonna be brought up and ruin my plans & future. I’m too scared of making decisions. “I’m gonna study, but I know I’m not gonna get an A anyways, what if I fail? Is it even worth studying then. Nah, I’m too lazy anyways”. Perfectionism. I grew up being compared to other people. I think parents have this mentality adapted in their mindset that if they say that it will motivate their children to study even more. It might, but I think it does affect them in the future, I hope you understand what I mean, no offense to anyone. I have so much more things I wanna say but I’ll just move on to the other things. This isn’t also JUST about grades. It’s also about the high school in general. The people, the surroundings. Everything has.. changed??? One thing I regret doing as a kid was wanting to grow up. If I could go back in time to relive it again, I would. While we’re at it, yes I might have changed some things in myself back then, things that would help benefit me right now as well I think. As you grow up you understand more. People,, only care about themselves, no offense, cause I also do.. But by what I said I mean like people are selfish, in the WRONG way. They can’t wait to see people fail in life, they can’t wait to crush you completely just so they can get somewhere. I try to be nice, but then I regret, and think “Why am I even being nice, as if they would ever consider it and be thankful?”. THESE PEOPLE WILL LITERALLY PRAY FOR YOUR DOWNFALL. People in high school are like that. I think it’s this specific age 15-19 probably. I don’t know I’m only 16. I have to add that I don’t open up to anyone about the things I’ve been feeling. In school, you can’t trust anyone, I don’t really have a close friend that I trust. I think opening up to my mom or sister, I don’t know if they’d understand. And it’s always “It will get better.” or “You chose to live this lifestyle, why did you choose it if you were gonna cry and be depressed about it.”. I don’t know I just don’t think people will understand, and I’m not good at expressing what I feel. So I’d rather just keep things to myself. 👍🏻 Anyways, I also wanna change specific things in myself, physically, mentally, spiritually. But right now at this specific moment, I’m just busy with school I don’t even have time to worry about myself. Especially mentally, I’m totally destroying myself. That’s all I wanted to share. Tomorrow I have to study, and after tomorrow, and after tomorrow, the cycle continues. I just thought I needed to share this since it was something I’ve been looking for, and it motivated me atm.
hi there, i just read your comment. i'm so sorry for what you're going through rn. it sounds a lot like burnout to me. obvs i don't know the fully story but please take care of yourself. maybe it could just be having one day to yourself? i've been through something a lot similar to what you've mentioned and would be more than happy to help, even if its just for you to vent a bit. things always do get better, i promise. stay strong and you've got this! x
thank you ❤
Thank you for helping me ❤ you are the best ❤
Okay now I'm shedding tears of joyyyy😭😭❤❤️
Girl you're helping us❤❤ lots of love
IM OBSESSED W U OMG UR SO HELPFUL
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Tam your videos heal me💗 thank you
this video is worth gold ✨
u gave me motivation to journal, thank you 🩷
Thank you so much for making this video ❤ It is and it will be so useful for me whenever I am going in my overthinking spiral 🫶🏻 Huge love and appreciation from India 🇮🇳🪷
i am a man and i madly look up to you and your thoughts !
I love that!! Thank you
Sis went to see her therapist and is now throwing gems at us 💖
Thank you! I don’t go to therapy though (yet) 💕
this is so true its sooo me 😭😭
omg thank you for the subtitles
Оverthinking is really a problem for many people, especially when everyone is broadcasting successful success, and ordinary people are not doing so well😣😔😥
i LOVE ur videos listen to them at work, and when i workout 🙌🏻💖
Love that!
Thank you for the advices sis❤
You are so welcome c
@@tamkaur oh gosh... You made my day. Love you ❤️🍀✨
I suffer with it badly! 🤯😖😞 worst of all it’s not like it’s a little nerve feeling. No it absolutely traumatises me and I feel like I’ve lost all the happiness in my life. I really have to sought my mind out
Tam Kaur ❌ queen ✅
Really needed this❣
Me this is my big problem at work and I want to be promoted. I did learn that I have to also express myself as well too.
Really nice video. Can you do a video on how you started your business? This video came at perfect timing as I prepare for a really important exam next month. I am going to pass! 🎉
Aanam you k i l l e d i t ! What even. I just thought during eid video, that you should make it with mridul and omg loved it
You look so pretty Tam!
Thank you so much🥰
Love you tam ❤
Thank you so much for this xx
No problem 😊
bro' s better than my therapist...
thanks for the video. and your arms are beautiful 🥰
I feel I should pay you after watching this lol amazing video omg😮so good😭 thank you!
Thank you so much!
loved this videoooo
Gurl! Let me confess you`re the best❤😅
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Love the content. It's super amazing
needed this one! thanks
hope it helps!
Tam kaur I wanna take this chance to say thank you for this video, I always overthinking these days after a rough week now I learned something new from you and it helps me, god bless you dear🤍
First time watching your video loved it ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ lots of love from Pakistan ❤️🇵🇰
Tam i love youu
Apuntes:
-Sobrepensar es malo, no lo hagas.
Soluciones según la causa 🤓☝️
Si es por miedo (a fallar en algo, por ejemplo):
•Si ese fuera el caso (lo cual no sabrás hasta intentarlo) pensa en que aprendiste de eso y que probablemente no estaba hecho para vos ¡Que bien que al menos lo intentaste! Tomalo como una lección más que un fracaso ^^
•Hacer Journaling
•Action map (buscalo por internet)
•Focalizate en el presente (leer "The Power of now") Pone tus energias en un plan de acción, cosas que SÍ podes controlar
•Cambia tu mentalidad, mira las cosas que intentas como experimentos, experiencias u oportunidades. No tienes porque tomartelo en serio
•Manifesta con visualizaciones y afirmaciones (seria bueno que seas delulu y esperes lo mejor de cada situación, asumiendo que el universo conspira a tu favor)
•Distraete con otras actividades en las que centrarte
Si es por que hiciste o dijiste algo de lo que te arrepentis o no queres tomar una decisión por miedo:
•Detachment (concentrate en que te hace sentir)
•Confianza (tenes confianza en las decisiones que tomas). Toma las decisiones vos y no los demás ¡Es tu vida!
•Cambia tu mentalidad de escasez a una de abundancia. Mejor hecho que perfecto ¿De donde viene el miedo? Trabajar en la causa y visualiza que todo sale bien
•Vivir el presente (no pienses por ejemplo hoy en algo vergonzoso que hiciste hace 2 años)
•Tene fé, enamorate de la incertidumbre ¿Y si todo saliera mejor de lo que había mejorado)
•Hace un plan de ser necesario para tomar la decisión y llegar a tu resultado deseado
Cuando es por relaciones:
•Comunicate con la persona, hacelo sin sobrepensarlo
•Tene fé (lista de pros y contras de la situación y persona)
•VIVIR EN EL PRESENTE. Hace cosas que te gusten
•Valorate ❤
•Detach de personas y situaciones
hey...can u give some ideas on what to do when you're alone and how to enjoy your own company?
I talk about this in my ‘solo date advice’ video 💕
@@tamkaur ok....thenks ❤
I'll check it rn 💗
I cried watching this video . Thankyou so much ma'am for making such a masterpiece on this topic. Very much needed 🤍 I hope I work on it as mentioned in the video...haribol
tam!! I'm having a very bad time..I need your help..😭
I'll tell ya my problem if u're willing to listen😭❤
You look like sonam Kapoor from prem ratan dhan payo ❤❤
Your videos are best
thank you so much!
What books did you read for this knowledge?
You are a goddess ❤
Hehe perfect timing
i gotchuuuu x
Omg I think my mindset completely changed with this thanks I learned how to have confidence and how to deal with overthinking❤🤍
Part 4 relationships : preparing yourself for situations that haven’t even happened 🥲 ouch so real, cuz I self sabotaged not to long ago because I imagined a life that ‘ wasn’t for me in a different country with him ‘ when in reality who knows if that would’ve even happened
Ok but you saying how you still thought about your ex after 8 months hit me because I’m in that situation rn 🥲
I feel u but it gets better xx
affirmations from the video ✨
~my thoughts do not reflect my reality. i do not identify with my thoughts, they do not represent who i am or what my experience is .
~i am in control of my thoughts.
~i have the power and discipline to choose what i focus my attention on.
~i am safe and nothing bad will happen to me.
~everything works within my best interest.
~i do not have to worry about anything, the universe has my back.
~instead of stressing i am going to trust in divine timing and trust that everything i want is already on its way to me.
~i am enough.
~i only exist and focus on the present moment.
~i am above all my negative thoughts and i am abundantly filled with positivity.
~i am at peace with all that has happened and all that will happen.
Thankyouu❤️
Thank you so much
These helped me
Thank you❤
Thankyou
Thank you tam....that's all I need to hear. Your channel is a therapy for me. LOVE YOU 💌
I love how she does all the research and gathers the facts for explaining, giving examples and dividing the content into chapters making the content just to the point, but still explaining all the aspects related to it and still not making it TOO OVERWHELMING. Loved the vid.
Tam is a genius :') also you look so cute
AHHH FAV COMMENT 🥰🥰🥰
@@tamkaur 🥹🫶🏻
Yes. She’s genius.
NEVER CHANGE THE STRUCTURE OF THESE VIDEOS😭 forever grateful for the fact that u state HOW to do things and not just saying the bare minimum without going into depth, that's what separates u from these other TH-camrs xx
I love the fact that you never ever said "be selfish" or anything close to that, instead you want us to be a good person who treats people well with creating boundaries. I love this, this is the real self growth that i am manifesting. Be a good and disciplined person
A couple years ago, I was going through and I kept overthinking about my outcome and I told myself “you can’t hope for the best, thinking the worst”
I was overthinking for the past few days but your video really helped me out . Thanks a lot sis .
Anytime 🫶🏽
such a clever young woman. yes the Power of Now is an amazing book.