After entering a loving relationship, I realized the confidence I had wasn’t actually there. He is so special and I don’t want to lose him. It’s hard for me to let go and focus on myself. Thank you for your insight.
"If your anchor or house is not in myself and i keep putting it elsewhere im always gonna feel under risk or threat of becoming homeless" so powerful!!
I literally thought I was a normal, secure person until I got into a good relationship. I used to see women who acted like me and thought I would never be like that. When you started off the video, I noticed I've had those thoughts so many times. I really do have low self-worth. thank you for this video.
100% - people aren't possessions and you must let them do what they want and then decide if you want that kind of behavior in your life. To rely on others for your happiness, sense of self, confidence, etc, is so very selfish. Live for yourself and beautiful things start entering your life. :)
Man, this made me cry at several points! And you know how I found the video? Frantically searching for why I'm so constantly jealous of my partner, because the feeling is seriously sickening. You described just about every single thing I am feeling, in a very calm and non judgemental way. Thank you 🙂. Losing your partner to someone else, mentally or physically, would be upsetting no matter what (with or without jealousy...right?), so it's hard to not be anxious about that. 😔
I feel so scared because I didn’t feel safe, seen understood or truly appreciated by my last partner, so now I know I am just bringing baggage, I want to feel Free again, I want to go out with my partner without feeling that he would prefer to be with anyone else but me… I try to soothe myself thinking that whenever we go out, he already decided that nobody else will make him change his feelings for me, otherwise he would be going out alone, I hope that helps someone 😊 sending a hug to everyone here! Thanks for your video!
Absolutely love this!!! I needed this, i feel like not many people talk about this with empathy and its more common to just trash whoever deals with jealousy. It releases some of the shame i carry around
I have been looking all over TH-cam for exactly what you’re talking about. You’re the first person to say what I’m thinking and feeling. Thank you so much!
I'm glad that after you analysed it, you actually acknowledged that knowing it logically and FEELING it are totally seperate. So many self-help videos or literature just tells you what you should be feeling ideally and to somehow bridge that gap without any actionable steps. Thanks Dia
I found your channel yesterday and have been watching non stop. I'm a 35 married female who had overcome a lot in my 20 year relationship. Your topic points resonate with me deeply and its refreshing to hear a very mature and thought provoking individual sharing real advice. Thank you. Would love to see more ❤
I’ve realized this at the start of the year and hated myself for it. To admit to myself that I’m selfish for always waiting for one person to be my source of validation/love but have always been a people pleasure seems so unfair to me. I just wanted people to like me, is that so wrong? In some aspect it is. Since then I’ve taken up a few hobbies trying to “self-improve” like drawing and fishing. I get really inconsistent with any goals I try to achieve but I’m glad I’m still putting in some effort, even tho it’s inconsistent. I’ll probably continue this journey for a long time but I do hope I’ll learn to be more self-fulfilled in the end.
I needed this so much right now. I'm feeling anxious all day long because of my fears and jealousy but have no one to open up. Your words triggered so much in me and I think this is a sign to try everything you said. Thank you for your lovely but realistic words! ❤
Jealousy because you do not grant another person something or want to take something away from the other person, that is never good and one must then work on oneself. Jealousy because someone threatens your partner's love for you is justifiable and not condemnable.
wow i found this video a week into a 2 week break with my boyfriend ~ i have a wonderful partner, but there’s just been a lot of traumatic response for me that only comes with a relationship and anxious attachment, that we had to take time to focus on ourselves ~ for the past week i’ve been working on myself, listening to positive affirmations, been less anxious, been changing my inner perspective, being more mindful and reflective ~ this video helps me make even more sense of the situation that’s been happening, i really resonate with what you said in this video, this is my second video of yours, and i am very much appreciating what you are sharing and the way you are sharing it, thank you so much for being part of my healing journey ♡
I just found this content a few minutes ago, actually, it's my time feeling and understanding my own self by the state of how I am feeling right now. You just spoke the words I've been meaning to hear and I truly... deeply appreciate it 🥹 I want to see more videos like this
Just discovered your channel and have been listening while taking daily walks on my lunch break…You have inspired me to show myself more love and grace. Thank you❤
This popped up on my feed after trying to understand this dilemma within myself for the past days,and you honestly put everything into words so beautifully it made me better understand what's going on.The insight you gave is very simple yet creative and powerful too.Thank you Loved the video,new subscriber!
I think the moment of realization for me is that I am insecure and jealous because I fear losing her, but I didn't realize that portraying these unhealthy behaviors of insecurity and jealousy could actually make me lose her
“No matter what happens I will be fine” … I couldn’t agree with you more because … You are sooooooo fine !!! And gorgeous as well. Will I get in trouble for speaking the truth ???
Every word you said resonated deeply with me. Thank you for this incredibly helpful video - it truly shifted my mindset in a positive way. I’d love to see more content like this! ❤
Me being jealous of the guys my girl hangs around has put a toll on my mental health. I would go insane if I see her on a call with one of them I wouldn’t even let her go places and I feel like an obsessive overprotective controlling piece of shit and I just feel horrible. I want to accept but I’m scared of what happened to my last relationship. Hopefully soon I will realize their friendship but for now I shed every ounce of animosity towards him.
It hurts me so much when I see them choosing to spend time somewhere else with some other person doing more fun stuff instead of spending time with me, even if it's just texts. I feel like shit when this happens. Is it wrong to feel this way? I just feel so damn lonely at times man
Have to love yourself before others can find something to move about you. So you think social media has made this more difficult? because personal contact is on the decline and people try to find self worth online instead of in person
My boyfriend is receiving a gift monthly from a woman. It’s a subscription for the National Geographic magazine, maybe one year’s subscription. I am good with the magazine, except for she put her first name in between my boyfriend’s first and last name, and I have to see this creative name every month. I feel uncomfortable every time a new issue comes in. I don’t want to be jealous, and I need help.😢
i was too jealous and started an argument, she has a celebrity crush and she wants to talk about him with me but i dont want her to talk about cc so i dont want her to talk about it because i could get too jealous because of it and the arguments strted and now she is sad, should celebrity crushed be talked about in a relationship?
I used to be a jealous person but I can't tell anymore. I feel like I've worked on myself and I am not. Like what's the line between working on jealousy and allowing disrespect?
I think we’re allowed to have our own unique set of boundaries. Especially within a partnership where each person has subjective preferences. However, I’d tune more into the inner experience of when jealous feelings arise. Does it feel upsetting but I am open to hearing the other person’s story and then determine if the jealousy is called for, or do I immediately panic and feel anxiety ridden, knowing this is tied to a sense of loss and abandonment fears. 🩵
Hey, i dont know what do we call tht feeling. I feel nervous, jealous and filled with endless negative thoughts whn around good looking women. I have a strong feeling and i kno that my husband admires them but i vwant to remind normal at that time. Pls help … pls tell me what does it called???
Hello, the video really helped me. Thank you for this. Can you give me the name of the woman from tiktok clip? She seems very smart and I would love to watch all of the interview. Thank you!
The real problem is women’s jealousy and men’s jealousy is totally different. Men are not insecure when they are jealous, they are disgusted (towards girls) or resentful (towards guys). So because girls are insecure when they are jealous, they project that onto a guy when he’s jealous. So girls constantly pick guys who could not care less about them, as they will not be jealous but the girls will misappropriate the lack of jealousy with high confidence and lack of insecurity. When in reality it is just a lack of territoriality, or because of the level of disgust, pushes her into a place of such a lack of attraction, he then cares so little about her, is happy for her to be a ‘sleeper’.
So if the guys not ‘jealous’ of other guys being around you. i.e. not ‘territorial’ he simply doesn’t find you attractive. And if he is jealous, it is not insecurity. It is disgust and anger. If you make him disgusted and angry enough times. He will lose so much attraction he will no longer want you. And it’s fast. You can be 10/10 attracted to a girl, see her foirt with a guy, immediately goes to 7/10. If he does it again, is about 2/10. The beat example I can think of is meeting a stunning girl, then you find out she’s a ladyboy or single mother. You’re not insecure. You’re immediately disgusted. In exactly the same way as seeing her be promiscuous or flirt with someone else.
So if you are a girl and feel jealous, feel free to show the guy. We don’t care at all. But understand the dance you are dancing if you try to make him jealous. If it does, your attraction will forever be dropped in his eyes. It’s almost impossible to gain it back. Just like if a girl said: “I’m a single mother”. There’s almost nothing she can say or do past that to be as attractive again.
I really wanna talk with you for the first time I feel some one knows me who can help me I really appreciate your video 🙏 if you are ok to talk with me please.
I watched this special video every time i got jealous of my partner, and this made me calm and released.❤❤ Thank you for sharing your masterpiece advice🫶
Disclaimer: this is for when you recognized your own pattern. If someone is actually doing shady sh*t, by all means, don’t self-blame. ❤
After entering a loving relationship, I realized the confidence I had wasn’t actually there. He is so special and I don’t want to lose him. It’s hard for me to let go and focus on myself. Thank you for your insight.
Exactly! This was so good video
Yes. When I datedjerks I was totally confident. Now I have a wonderful guy and I feel so stressed
I hate that I get so quite and jealous when my boyfriend talks to other girls.. They're laughing? It hits me hard.. Lets stop it
I'm so tired of hating myself. I don't remember ever loving myself. It's kind of driving me crazy. I feel like hating myself is killing me
Wait same 😢
"If your anchor or house is not in myself and i keep putting it elsewhere im always gonna feel under risk or threat of becoming homeless" so powerful!!
I literally thought I was a normal, secure person until I got into a good relationship. I used to see women who acted like me and thought I would never be like that. When you started off the video, I noticed I've had those thoughts so many times. I really do have low self-worth. thank you for this video.
100% - people aren't possessions and you must let them do what they want and then decide if you want that kind of behavior in your life. To rely on others for your happiness, sense of self, confidence, etc, is so very selfish. Live for yourself and beautiful things start entering your life. :)
It's hard when you don't have a lot of confidence yourself. Healing is hard.
This may or may not help others, but i realize that when i was comparing myself with others, i had a courage/confidence gap i needed to fulfill.
Man, this made me cry at several points! And you know how I found the video? Frantically searching for why I'm so constantly jealous of my partner, because the feeling is seriously sickening. You described just about every single thing I am feeling, in a very calm and non judgemental way. Thank you 🙂. Losing your partner to someone else, mentally or physically, would be upsetting no matter what (with or without jealousy...right?), so it's hard to not be anxious about that. 😔
I finally figured it out.. this video helped me so much. I'm honestly annoyed with how underrated it is. But thank you
The intro questions made me feel like you tapped into my soul 😭
I feel so scared because I didn’t feel safe, seen understood or truly appreciated by my last partner, so now I know I am just bringing baggage, I want to feel
Free again, I want to go out with my partner without feeling that he would prefer to be with anyone else but me… I try to soothe myself thinking that whenever we go out, he already decided that nobody else will make him change his feelings for me, otherwise he would be going out alone, I hope that helps someone 😊 sending a hug to everyone here! Thanks for your video!
Absolutely love this!!! I needed this, i feel like not many people talk about this with empathy and its more common to just trash whoever deals with jealousy. It releases some of the shame i carry around
I’m really glad you found it helpful. And you’re not alone in feeling this way!
I have been looking all over TH-cam for exactly what you’re talking about. You’re the first person to say what I’m thinking and feeling. Thank you so much!
I'm glad that after you analysed it, you actually acknowledged that knowing it logically and FEELING it are totally seperate. So many self-help videos or literature just tells you what you should be feeling ideally and to somehow bridge that gap without any actionable steps. Thanks Dia
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I found your channel yesterday and have been watching non stop. I'm a 35 married female who had overcome a lot in my 20 year relationship. Your topic points resonate with me deeply and its refreshing to hear a very mature and thought provoking individual sharing real advice. Thank you. Would love to see more ❤
Aww thank you so much 🩵🫶
I’ve realized this at the start of the year and hated myself for it. To admit to myself that I’m selfish for always waiting for one person to be my source of validation/love but have always been a people pleasure seems so unfair to me. I just wanted people to like me, is that so wrong? In some aspect it is. Since then I’ve taken up a few hobbies trying to “self-improve” like drawing and fishing. I get really inconsistent with any goals I try to achieve but I’m glad I’m still putting in some effort, even tho it’s inconsistent. I’ll probably continue this journey for a long time but I do hope I’ll learn to be more self-fulfilled in the end.
I needed this so much right now. I'm feeling anxious all day long because of my fears and jealousy but have no one to open up. Your words triggered so much in me and I think this is a sign to try everything you said. Thank you for your lovely but realistic words! ❤
Jealousy because you do not grant another person something or want to take something away from the other person, that is never good and one must then work on oneself.
Jealousy because someone threatens your partner's love for you is justifiable and not condemnable.
wow i found this video a week into a 2 week break with my boyfriend ~ i have a wonderful partner, but there’s just been a lot of traumatic response for me that only comes with a relationship and anxious attachment, that we had to take time to focus on ourselves ~ for the past week i’ve been working on myself, listening to positive affirmations, been less anxious, been changing my inner perspective, being more mindful and reflective ~ this video helps me make even more sense of the situation that’s been happening, i really resonate with what you said in this video, this is my second video of yours, and i am very much appreciating what you are sharing and the way you are sharing it, thank you so much for being part of my healing journey ♡
Thank you for watching and sharing your journey 💗🫶
I just found this content a few minutes ago, actually, it's my time feeling and understanding my own self by the state of how I am feeling right now. You just spoke the words I've been meaning to hear and I truly... deeply appreciate it 🥹 I want to see more videos like this
Just discovered your channel and have been listening while taking daily walks on my lunch break…You have inspired me to show myself more love and grace. Thank you❤
Aw reading this made my day. 🩵
This popped up on my feed after trying to understand this dilemma within myself for the past days,and you honestly put everything into words so beautifully it made me better understand what's going on.The insight you gave is very simple yet creative and powerful too.Thank you Loved the video,new subscriber!
I think the moment of realization for me is that I am insecure and jealous because I fear losing her, but I didn't realize that portraying these unhealthy behaviors of insecurity and jealousy could actually make me lose her
I can't thank you enough! The pacing of the video is great.
“No matter what happens I will be fine” … I couldn’t agree with you more because … You are sooooooo fine !!! And gorgeous as well. Will I get in trouble for speaking the truth ???
Every word you said resonated deeply with me. Thank you for this incredibly helpful video - it truly shifted my mindset in a positive way. I’d love to see more content like this! ❤
Aw I love reading comments like yours. Thank you for taking the time! 🫶
You should try doing some podcast!!!! I love your speaking voice and contents❤
How i love stumbling into gems like this❤
Thanks for helping me understand myself a bit more. Thanks for providing steps on how to tackle my issues!!
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Thank you so much! This video makes so much sense.
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Me being jealous of the guys my girl hangs around has put a toll on my mental health. I would go insane if I see her on a call with one of them I wouldn’t even let her go places and I feel like an obsessive overprotective controlling piece of shit and I just feel horrible. I want to accept but I’m scared of what happened to my last relationship. Hopefully soon I will realize their friendship but for now I shed every ounce of animosity towards him.
this video is really beautiful, thank you
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Thank you sooo much for posting this love you may you have an amazing life
I never experienced all these things, I was happy with whatever I had! Not until he cheated on me!
It hurts me so much when I see them choosing to spend time somewhere else with some other person doing more fun stuff instead of spending time with me, even if it's just texts. I feel like shit when this happens. Is it wrong to feel this way? I just feel so damn lonely at times man
Every word that came out of your mouth is my reality omg iam speechless thank you❤
Have to love yourself before others can find something to move about you. So you think social media has made this more difficult? because personal contact is on the decline and people try to find self worth online instead of in person
Sure a great knowledge filled video. Thank you. Keep up the good work
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My boyfriend is receiving a gift monthly from a woman. It’s a subscription for the National Geographic magazine, maybe one year’s subscription. I am good with the magazine, except for she put her first name in between my boyfriend’s first and last name, and I have to see this creative name every month. I feel uncomfortable every time a new issue comes in. I don’t want to be jealous, and I need help.😢
I loved this. Thank you ❤❤
i was too jealous and started an argument, she has a celebrity crush and she wants to talk about him with me but i dont want her to talk about cc so i dont want her to talk about it because i could get too jealous because of it and the arguments strted and now she is sad, should celebrity crushed be talked about in a relationship?
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I used to be a jealous person but I can't tell anymore. I feel like I've worked on myself and I am not. Like what's the line between working on jealousy and allowing disrespect?
I think we’re allowed to have our own unique set of boundaries. Especially within a partnership where each person has subjective preferences. However, I’d tune more into the inner experience of when jealous feelings arise. Does it feel upsetting but I am open to hearing the other person’s story and then determine if the jealousy is called for, or do I immediately panic and feel anxiety ridden, knowing this is tied to a sense of loss and abandonment fears. 🩵
I love you thank you
Hey, i dont know what do we call tht feeling. I feel nervous, jealous and filled with endless negative thoughts whn around good looking women. I have a strong feeling and i kno that my husband admires them but i vwant to remind normal at that time. Pls help … pls tell me what does it called???
I can’t help but compare myself to her ( his ex) 😢
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Hello, the video really helped me. Thank you for this. Can you give me the name of the woman from tiktok clip? She seems very smart and I would love to watch all of the interview. Thank you!
Are you single?
Hey Dia , i have send you the email have you received it ?
The real problem is women’s jealousy and men’s jealousy is totally different. Men are not insecure when they are jealous, they are disgusted (towards girls) or resentful (towards guys). So because girls are insecure when they are jealous, they project that onto a guy when he’s jealous. So girls constantly pick guys who could not care less about them, as they will not be jealous but the girls will misappropriate the lack of jealousy with high confidence and lack of insecurity. When in reality it is just a lack of territoriality, or because of the level of disgust, pushes her into a place of such a lack of attraction, he then cares so little about her, is happy for her to be a ‘sleeper’.
So if the guys not ‘jealous’ of other guys being around you. i.e. not ‘territorial’ he simply doesn’t find you attractive. And if he is jealous, it is not insecurity. It is disgust and anger. If you make him disgusted and angry enough times. He will lose so much attraction he will no longer want you. And it’s fast. You can be 10/10 attracted to a girl, see her foirt with a guy, immediately goes to 7/10. If he does it again, is about 2/10.
The beat example I can think of is meeting a stunning girl, then you find out she’s a ladyboy or single mother. You’re not insecure. You’re immediately disgusted. In exactly the same way as seeing her be promiscuous or flirt with someone else.
So if you are a girl and feel jealous, feel free to show the guy. We don’t care at all. But understand the dance you are dancing if you try to make him jealous. If it does, your attraction will forever be dropped in his eyes. It’s almost impossible to gain it back. Just like if a girl said: “I’m a single mother”. There’s almost nothing she can say or do past that to be as attractive again.
I really wanna talk with you for the first time I feel some one knows me who can help me I really appreciate your video 🙏 if you are ok to talk with me please.
Hi! feel free to DM me on Instagram “diajin”
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Watching this trying to figure women out
Maybe talk to your partner, because not all women are the same.
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This video helped me SO much. I’m so grateful to have watched this tonight. Thank you ❤️🩹
I watched this special video every time i got jealous of my partner, and this made me calm and released.❤❤ Thank you for sharing your masterpiece advice🫶
I’m so glad you find it helpful 🥹💗
Hey… what exactly does this uneasiness called??? I did u heal ??? Pls help
The way you word things is amazing!! helps my perspective shift so easily. Thank you Dia!!!! 🤎
I’m so glad to hear that! 🩵
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