She Dumped Me. Should I Break No Contact?

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  • @martinmayfield1932
    @martinmayfield1932 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

    No contact is not a “strategy”. It’s NO CONTACT. It’s moving on with your life for real. Letting the woman come back on her own but not waiting for her either.

    • @grimy2304
      @grimy2304 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Real

    • @ChadOliver-b7y
      @ChadOliver-b7y 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      💯 agree brother

    • @5150pop
      @5150pop 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Simple

    • @michanus1092
      @michanus1092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agree

    • @hern3240
      @hern3240 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      PREACH

  • @5150pop
    @5150pop 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    Consider the free pass once a women allows you to walk away…….she did you a solid

  • @freddied8479
    @freddied8479 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    This guy isn't doing true no contact, he knows all about what his ex is doing on social media. He never moved on, he's still lying to himself... "don't try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you" is such a great quote to always keep in mind. Thanks Corey 🙌

    • @DarkroomMedia007
      @DarkroomMedia007 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      that's right. He want her soo bad and need to persue and attract the right woman, not a bad chica who use and abuse.

    • @lukehart7225
      @lukehart7225 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      10:38 😂😂😂😂

  • @becky7732
    @becky7732 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Hey Coach Corey,
    found your videos about a year ago and your content really helped me to get a better understanding of men and relationships but mostly of myself. I grew up with a guilt inducing family where it was my job to look after everyones emotional needs and this is mostly the type of guy I am attracting… needy, complaining and quickly trying to push me into a relationship and making me feel guilty or like something is wrong with me when I feel a need to pull back because it feels off to me. Just wanting to say thanks for your work, it really helps me to work on my self confidence, not to sell myself short and that I can come from a place of abundance 🙂

  • @m455aker
    @m455aker 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    Delete her number it's the best you can do. She must now chase you back and she starts at 0 again. She has to earn you again, never give her the same spot back. Show Strenght and really don't care about her.

    • @freddied8479
      @freddied8479 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yup. If you can't move on, delete everything. This guy is still thinking of ways to get her back. That's not what no contact is for

  • @jacobkennedy1065
    @jacobkennedy1065 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated!

  • @howtosnatch
    @howtosnatch 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    These videos always pop-up at the right time LOL. Just got dumped but met someone new 3 days later. Mope for 1 day but keep your options open gentlemen.

  • @jroll5858
    @jroll5858 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    This guy is going "No Contact" in order to get her to come to her senses & realize the mistake she made & allow him to have another chance with her. He's still checking all her social media & is probably constantly checking his phone to see if she has reached out. This is all the wrong reasons. You go "No Contact" to move the fuck on. Granted it's easy when you're not the person that was dumped to say this, but it is the only way that works

  • @ricasso777
    @ricasso777 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I’ve been no contact 4 years, she initiated the break up but we ended on good terms . She recently started creeping on my socials but hasn’t reached out. I’ve improved immensely since being single and doing the work . I think she realized it 😎

    • @CGJUGO80
      @CGJUGO80 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      That means it went south with her new dude. So she is slowly trying to get emotional support from you, and treat you as a safety net. Don’t fall for the trap bro

    • @ricasso777
      @ricasso777 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@CGJUGO80 I think you’re right , thanks for the feedback 👍

    • @martinmayfield1932
      @martinmayfield1932 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Waiting four years might be a bit too long 🤷‍♂️

    • @ricasso777
      @ricasso777 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@martinmayfield1932 To clarify I’m not waiting for her , she just happened to be the one I went full no contact after the break up ,and was a pivotal turning point as CW emphasizes I encourage any man who had has his heart broken to do the same.

    • @JL-zo8fo
      @JL-zo8fo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm a little over 4 years now too... I guess I'm dead to her now lol

  • @AbleMike5
    @AbleMike5 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    As a man, who is centered and in his frame...you must not care if she dumps you. Why would you want her or want her back, if she doesn't want you?

    • @kevinglazier8950
      @kevinglazier8950 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      We are human. It is okay to be mournful of a lost romantic relationship. Suppressing your feelings is a good way to drop dead in your fifties

    • @jerryc5743
      @jerryc5743 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Facts

    • @AbleMike5
      @AbleMike5 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No suppressing necessary. I prefer trying with someone new. Less stress, in fact no stress-just be yourself and try again.@@kevinglazier8950

    • @freddied8479
      @freddied8479 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      True, but when you get dumped you're not thinking straight. If it wasn't your decision to end things, you can't help feeling wanting them back. Even though logically what you're saying is right.

    • @asurxh
      @asurxh หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kevinglazier8950 nobody has ever died from holding back feelings...you put that energy into other things

  • @daveblackman816
    @daveblackman816 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    No contact means that…NO CONTACT. Meet new women and move on. Her choice to decide to come back but I wouldn’t even be thinking about it. 8 times out of 10, they always reach back out.

  • @kingslavd661
    @kingslavd661 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I recently got dumped and immediately went into no contact. She kept on reaching out every few days and after about 22 days, she's back as friend with benefits.
    Listen to Corey!

    • @ChadOliver-b7y
      @ChadOliver-b7y 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Good job. But also keep in mind what Coach says about hanging out with other women. She dumped you so don't ever make her a priority.

    • @Onewiththesauce8
      @Onewiththesauce8 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      how did it go? As in so she reached out every few days, what did you do? I'm selfishly curious because I'm going through the same thing right now with a chick I'm dating but she pulled back 100% after we slept together. I got to emotional over the next week after and she realized. Still follows me on the socials and view my shit so im confused.

    • @kingslavd661
      @kingslavd661 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @Onewiththesauce8 I did exactly what Corey said. I explained why I didn't want to be friends. Afterwards, when she would hit me up, I'd assume she wanted to meet up, and I would say when you are free to get together. At first, she wasn't about it, so I would say maybe some other time and hit me up if you change your mind. Then, I wouldn't text her whatsoever. I still don't message or call her. She reaches out when she wants to, and I just call her over, or she says she's on the way to me.

    • @kingslavd661
      @kingslavd661 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ChadOliver-b7y thanks

    • @Onewiththesauce8
      @Onewiththesauce8 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kingslavd661Man thats where i messed up! I didnt say i didnt want to be friends, I left that door open so she probably thinks im weak af emotionally. You killed it though and your situation is different then mine to a degree, we are just dating not a couple. How long were you 2 going out before she decided she wanted to break up?

  • @elasubi_sdsandiego7043
    @elasubi_sdsandiego7043 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m glad I came across this video!!! My 2nd time reading the book. And this is very informative! Thanks Corey! I was about to do the dumbest mistake ever. Again!! You saved me!! 🔥🔥💯💯

    • @ChadOliver-b7y
      @ChadOliver-b7y 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It takes awhile trust me. As you continue to read 3 percent man multiple times and watch the videos you start to develop a much stronger mindset. I've been in no contact for almost 3 months. The more time passes I get stronger and more confident as a man. I also realize that I don't need my ex back anymore. Like Coach Wayne says no contact isn't about getting someone back it's about reclaiming yourself as a man and a person.

    • @germanboi3339
      @germanboi3339 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ChadOliver-b7yfacts

    • @germanboi3339
      @germanboi3339 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      and go out in the world and see the theory in praxis, practice

  • @capela8669
    @capela8669 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Perfect video to send to my friend.

    • @chriscarr7397
      @chriscarr7397 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You could also tell him about SSM. He's got three channels!!

  • @chriscarr7397
    @chriscarr7397 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No!! Don't under any circumstances break the no contact thing with your ex. Don't reach out to or engage with her in anyway shape or form. Keep your ex blocked on everything!! Keeping no contact with your ex, is a very healthy thing for you!! And keep having self-respect for yourself!!

  • @carlrav5660
    @carlrav5660 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    We were friends a long time, we were flirty, we hooked up a couple times. All the whole she said we were just friends even though we would always make out when no one was around. I told her I wanted some more. Then she says maybe but also wants to date other guys. Yet also wants me desperately to stay her friend. I told her I can't watch her fall in love with another man and all that entails. So after 3 weeks of being a chump. I walked away no contact....then found Corey's work. It's been 5 weeks....but this stuff is helping me a lot.

  • @RedRoyce
    @RedRoyce 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So funny CW. I'm an older man now 64 and found your show a week or so ago. I've learned many of the things you are talking about the hard way. I agree with most of what you say and even at my age I still can learn so I ordered your book. So good you are helping men in a big way. I have taken younger men under my wings from time to time to help but your doing it big time. I agree with you on this guy. Why would you want someone that doesn't want you?? Move on and keep the "next" mind set. Not to be a dick but know if she isn't what your looking for or giving you what you want move on. We want what we can't have and we can't fix everything. I always have said I will not force myself onto anyone and I mean no one. I have family I haven't talk to in years even. I will do my part and try but at a point it's time to say goodby have a great life. Keep up the good work and guys it's not all about being the BIG ALPHA prick all the time, It's about finding the one that makes your life much better and you make hers much better. As the bible says the two shall become one.

  • @LulaRoberts
    @LulaRoberts 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This was a great video.

  • @Champ1988
    @Champ1988 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    In my experience, no contact is even more effective if you're running into the other person constantly. If you're unfazed and improving yourself, she and other women will notice. It's only a matter of time.

    • @chrislong8559
      @chrislong8559 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's much more effective if there not running into you but your improving naturally and showing it as receipts online. Via pictures Facebook or updates. Also if you have some of the same friends group and your improving they'll let her know or she'll ask. Constantly running into them is kinda tricky because they can't know for sure if your doing it on purpose and I'm a courteous guy so I can't ignore people when I run into someone.

    • @Champ1988
      @Champ1988 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chrislong8559 for example, I managed at a major company six years ago. There was a woman next door whom I got her number from the first week she started. She had a lot of guys chasing and would leave me on read until she'd run into me at work; then text me later in the day. Eventually, I stopped responding and started talking to one of her colleagues, who fell for me hard. This worked in my favor as she would gush about me to the woman next door. Then, the OG girl started pursuing me hard, but I was already moving on. We went out a few times before she moved back to her home state. By that time, I went out with her just to get it out of my system. And once I knew she was moving, it amade me feel better that we never got serious. My point is, not only did other women talk me up to her unwittingly, but she saw me still improving. So I didn't even have to do anything to get her to come back.

  • @robertdemiro4076
    @robertdemiro4076 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Couch, I am reading your book and it's really good. Thank you for your work! ❤

  • @darrenfullmer8062
    @darrenfullmer8062 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Perfect Timing

  • @CrimsonStrider
    @CrimsonStrider 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think the double NC thought is worth expanding on.
    Considering how often people misinterpret NC, I can definitely imagine the woman in a situation like this mis-applying NC.
    My best answer to that is, NC is about bettering yourself and your situation, not about winning someone back through attrition and “punishment”.
    If the other partner is the one that needs to be reaching out, and instead they're trying to play a game to get you to reach out, then they're not actually interested in having something healthy.
    This applies to anyone using NC in that way obviously. So if A is in NC to better themselves as it should be used, and B is using it thinking they'll get A to reach out but withholding, it's in As best interest to acknowledge that B might want to reconnect, but it won't be a healthy outcome.
    Additionally if A is using NC to “punish” then you *might* get the desired short term outcome but it won't last and you're basically a douche.

  • @terrodar19
    @terrodar19 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    i cant maintain no contact since my ex wife and i share kids. It pains me to say this but i would never go back to her again, she lost me, forever

  • @RoosterRaw
    @RoosterRaw 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good video Corey mate. Keep them coming cheers.

  • @viktorhg6529
    @viktorhg6529 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for this one Corey

  • @CoachSteveJandS
    @CoachSteveJandS 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The delulu of action 😮🎉

  • @jerryc5743
    @jerryc5743 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    0:37 - also the need to fix things.

    • @jerryc5743
      @jerryc5743 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      0:42 - fix things..there it is. 😂

  • @discountmorty213
    @discountmorty213 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Even tho there are some stuffs I may dun agree with coach but I can say most of the things he said is correct.

  • @giovannipantorno884
    @giovannipantorno884 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I broke the no contact. It didn't work but believe or not helped me move on. Because waiting for someone to come back is pointless. If she ever asks to come back ima tell her hell to the nahh.

    • @giovannipantorno884
      @giovannipantorno884 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@vermithor51acI got other women. I took my shot who cares life moves on

  • @amanjonheyp9689
    @amanjonheyp9689 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    @Coach Corey Wayne IF she is NOT an ex and she is a women who rejected you must be wait from her to reach out or you must be the one who try after sometime to initiate?

  • @firstnamelastname9955
    @firstnamelastname9955 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if she ended it becauss you have different timelines in mind and you weren't ready to settle down and have kids? Our relationship was awesome, literally no fights or problems, but we had different goals at the end of the day. How do you treat this situation when she reaches out after no contact? Is it worth the 3 H's, or am I setting myself up for disappointment if she hasn't changed her timeline (wanting to have kids in a year or two).

  • @GiopoloMtl
    @GiopoloMtl 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He's doing no contact, but with the hope that she wants back with him. He didn't move on with his life, got better and enjoyed life, didn't understand that the "There are other fish in the sea" theory is real. Neediness is also real for some people. If you landed her, you should be aware that you can land anybody else, provided that you apply the good advice that's being given in this video.

  • @punerebel
    @punerebel 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your videos come at the right time. What a coincidence from God!

  • @problemslayer3538
    @problemslayer3538 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My ex got into a rebound and continued to contact me. My responses were absolute minimum. Even now 4 months later she rang twice but i didnt reply. Not sure i did the right thing but im not going to engage with her whilst she is in a rebound.

  • @djcaly84
    @djcaly84 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In other words, you should use the time you have apart to focus on you. Get better at your body language, get better at your tonality and how you talk, get better with your social interactions. Get better in every area of your life. And read the book 10-15 times.

  • @ACTHEMOGUL
    @ACTHEMOGUL 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He dumped me.. I’ve started no contact for 12 days now.. feel like shh

  • @allhailzamasu69
    @allhailzamasu69 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ok it all sounds good. But what if she not only dumped me. But she blocked me on the phone and Instagram. I can't see her post nor she mine because she got me on block on everything. Having spoken to me in 4 months after. I admit I been trying reach out. (Mostly because it the 14 years friendship) before we dated last year. But what if she never unblock me and reach out?

    • @crnivuk7092
      @crnivuk7092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Then u know that she don't want the same thing u want. Accept the situation that are u in at the moment. It's hard but focus on yourself and date other women

  • @theshawndavisshow
    @theshawndavisshow 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The thing is when you live in a rural area and there's no women and what women there is don't want you. It doesn't really matter she knows you're not going to move on and she knows that she can have her pick of any man in town. When you're stuck in a small rural area and I know people are not trees but yes we are when you have roots down. Need one great book which is totally true like 3% man cannot help you find a woman. The only thing you can help to do is somehow another make a million bucks what you're not going to do in a small town

  • @average_joe8905
    @average_joe8905 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No contact means what it says

  • @loveforall5257
    @loveforall5257 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if I said the words and dumped her, but she was the one that ended it with her lack of effort? My ex moved for work. We were dating 2 months official which she asked for. She said she ws looking for work here too but ultimately accepted the offer back home 1.5hrs away.
    SInce she wasn't making much effort while we were in the same city (which maybe her job search played a part) my gut said she would just let the relationship die due to the distance and new job.
    All she said when I ended it over text due to distance was "Thanks for your honesty!" I gave her excuses for being introverted. but interest level is a real thing so hopefully she realizes what she had. fighting the urge to reach out but idk

  • @BerserkNBA
    @BerserkNBA 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What about if your ex is trying to get your attention? I fucked up today and broke no contact but honestly just because i could see she’s going through our old chats and keeping messages since i got notified and thought id make the move as the man
    The difference is we broke up at our height, the girl was very in love but said i need to get my shit together and she needs to do the same, she went to spain for 3 months to finish her degree.

    • @Somebody-Man
      @Somebody-Man 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That sucks that you broke it off, bro. You could have improved yourself while still being with her. That being said, if your ex is trying to get your attention, it means she misses you.
      HOWEVER, when a girl goes overseas for any length of time, be aware that she has been physical with other men - Especially women in college.
      I don't know what to tell you other than you shouldn't have broken up with her - What I can say is if you take her back, you must know she's been with other men. But if you don't, then find another girl.
      Since you've already broken up, I'd recommend that you continue improving yourself and you will find another girl that's better for you.
      Don't give up, bro.

    • @BerserkNBA
      @BerserkNBA 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry bro didnt see you replied. She finished it and not me and no we’re both late twenties. I’m already improving drastically and tbh it didnt hit me so bad. But definitely left me confused.
      Now yesterday i had her best friend phone me out of the blue (who i’ve never spoken to outside of us all being together) about some bullshit.
      Tbh i’m not worried about other men because if there does come one, i wouldn’t touch her again.
      Thanks for your input dude

  • @aarono3548
    @aarono3548 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The best way to handle a breakup:
    "If you want to go, that's totally cool 👍"
    Don't forget the thumbs up. It's the most important part.

  • @martinmayfield1932
    @martinmayfield1932 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think Coach likes this Tom Petty song 😂. It is a classic

    • @grazydine2
      @grazydine2 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dude I used to play that song all the time. When I was with an ex. She didn't like the song...

  • @benhugh3s5
    @benhugh3s5 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's really hard to not break no contact when she still lives with me

  • @Mac_Kymera
    @Mac_Kymera 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Guy is using No Contact as a mind game tactic... and that never works out in anyone's favor. Women can smell that sh*t a mile away. No contact is a method of moving on from the other person.

  • @TheMancaveMMA
    @TheMancaveMMA 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Im waiting for my ex to unblock me and hmu so i can hang out have fun hook up. Left me 2 months ago & got with someone else😞

    • @crnivuk7092
      @crnivuk7092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And you are still waiting while someone else is getting it for free?

    • @Digitalizedx
      @Digitalizedx 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dang bro. How you dealing with the instrusive thoughts?

    • @craggyexplores3070
      @craggyexplores3070 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Leave her to it.

    • @TheMancaveMMA
      @TheMancaveMMA 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It sucks but im dating other girls in the process. It helps and eventually it comes to the point if she hmu i won't feel the need to see her again.

  • @JB-tv1fx
    @JB-tv1fx 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Im sure there's someone out there who's searching for a book named 10 to 15 times😅😂

  • @TheNtg3399
    @TheNtg3399 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I dont agree with all of these points. I mean it can be sometimes very easy to reattract an ex by reaching out rather than just no contact. You really just gotta play the game rather than "trying to get them back". Many times exes have difficulty moving on when the other ex tries texting them if done appropriately.

  • @starseed855
    @starseed855 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A 3% man doesn't ask a question like this after she dumped him, c’mon man… Read the book bro🤦🏻‍♂️

  • @Zanith113
    @Zanith113 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ty

  • @avenue.central
    @avenue.central 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The question I always ask when guys act like this: Can you honestly look yourself in the mirror with pride and say "I had to chase her into loving me" or "I had to argue her into loving me"? It's about Self Respect which is also a kep component to Self Love

  • @guyhomutezki7230
    @guyhomutezki7230 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if it was an on and off situationship?

  • @sundew23
    @sundew23 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If you stay out of their radar the fading effect bias kicks in.

    • @schylerjohnson9216
      @schylerjohnson9216 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly, go total radio silence

  • @G0oNi.E
    @G0oNi.E หลายเดือนก่อน

    The scientific answer: No.

  • @macioluko9484
    @macioluko9484 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Marge: You Evil man! Stay away from my son!
    Sideshow Bob: Oh I’ll stay away all right! Stay away forever!!!
    No. Wait. Marge. Say stay away from my son again.

  • @ROCKSTAR123620
    @ROCKSTAR123620 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nope don't answer her calls nor call her

  • @dimetriwatt7334
    @dimetriwatt7334 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Greetings coach, have you ever thought about a paid community (subscription)
    For us men?
    Plenty to be said on this but I don’t want to blast your yt. How can we have a short talk?

    • @seropserop
      @seropserop 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m sure he has and doesn’t care to waste time on that when he has private coaching, he’s not an onlyfans star to subscribe to, you get him privately.

    • @palkisakumi8595
      @palkisakumi8595 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you can chat with him for $1,000 / hour, pretty good deal huh ?

  • @SignedAdam
    @SignedAdam 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Women are so different from the 1980s, they are like men…

  • @charlesthomas3367
    @charlesthomas3367 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The Farther Away The Magnet...The Less Away The Attraction 🧲.