Who says they don't? We are pussies, sissies, emasculated men without honor or pride because we don't expend every single free moment trying to "spread out seed" and we are a disgrace for our ancestors because they did everything to pass on their genes and we are allowing them to end with us. Of course society, mostly other men, tells us that we are worthless pieces of shit because we lack the "masculine drive" to pass on our genes and family name.
@@Auriior I've heard that before too. Our societies legal system is very bias against men when it comes to divorce especially when 70% of divorces are filed by women according the The Jimenez Law Firm site and other refrences.
So refreshing to hear! While I was still dating I couldn't find a single guy who wasn't crazy about finding a woman in order to have kids! It was a disappointing and frustrating experience. They were focused on finding a woman who is ready to get pregnant rather than a woman who can be their partner and who has a compatible personality.
I'd much prefer to spend my time with the woman I love and be free to be with her and only her without any kids getting in the way. I'd love to be able to do a lot of interesting and fun things with her and have cool hobbies that we both enjoy. There is a deep peace in knowing that it's just the two of us and that we live for each other. No kids for me!
Definitely agree with all points here. Me being a black woman is even more of a issue because by now at 30 I should be a baby mama with 3 children from 2 different men unmarried.Nope I'm educated, fit,and childfree. Also I want to keep my education going and earn as much money as my partner so we can grow together. I don't want to depend on a man for every penny I have.
Yes! 👏👏👏 We are in charge of our paths and choose our ability to be independent! At the end of the day it’s good to be able to rely on ourselves and have our resources and education built up if sh*t hits the fan.
Men know that impregnating a woman restricts her. Being able to restrict women makes toxic men feel powerful. The more women decide to remain childless, the less power these insecure men realize they have. Also, men want to be the center--all the time. So, the thought that some women aren't halting their hopes and dreams to be impregnated enrages them.
It's disgusting knowing how power hungry some people may be and the lengths they will go in order to maintain it. So many are failed by the patriarchy as well, without realizing it and unfortunately instead, choose to blame us as women of course for their struggles.
But you’re not going to mention, the women that baby trap successful/good looking men because of the income?! Do you know it happens way more than men baby trapping a women?! But of course, you’re not going to mention that part right?! I feel this video only explains the small % of men that think like this, and is extremely biased. Not to attack anyone, but that’s just the truth.
@@TypeZero31 your words are such a giveaway that you're male. y'all always claim that awful men are a 'very small percentage' when it's actually vice versa.
Men get upset when you get pregnant and have a child. Men get upset when you refuse to get pregnant and have a child. You just can't win. Do what you will....Just know, you will pay either way.
Some men, say they want kids. They get their girlfriend, pregnant. She has the kid, then the man decides it"s too hard being a parent. Then he leaves his girlfriend. He tells his friends, "she 'baby trapped'' me, I wasn't ready to be a 'Dad". The poor woman is now a single Mum. This happened to a former friend of mine, years ago. This is another way, men get out of being parents, if things get too hard. They walk away & the woman is left holding the baby !
@@diaryofthechildfree Yeah, always about the control! And what about women always going for that one guy who is older and richer than her..... They don't even look at younger or broke guys who might just be a good person to deal with..... If they value equality and independence that much, why they drag themselves in the heap of older, richer and dominent men??!! Don't you think it contradicts on an entirely different level......
I can't stand men who complain about women not having children it's truly ridiculous not all women should have children it's not the end of the world take a look at Chelsea handler or alison brie both are happy being child free
@@drsalkaThat's it ! Some men can't face the fact, women can be independent, as well as childfree & happy. I consider myself to be very handy, fixing things, ( that are not electrical), plumbing, carpentry & basic repairs. My brother is a carpenter, but he lives in another town, kilometres away from me. He's also single, childfree & happy, in his 50s. 😊
It's ALL about control and manipulation. They want a woman to have a child to keep her from leaving when she wants, but they don't want to take care of the child.
@@zebra-kt2gqhow do you know though? Actually I've met more men that hassle women to be mothers and get married then psycho feminists. Psycho feminist is a label that people throw at women to put them in check some how by making it look uncool or unattractive for a woman to be treated as an equal human being there's nothing psycho about it there is something psycho about treating women as inferiors though because it's not natural to enslave another human being and try to make it look sexy. Those blue haired feminists that stand outside trying to get people to sign there petitions and boycott certain businesses and agencies are just extreme examples of them. In this day and age I'll take my chances with being called a feminist over a pick me or trad wife. It's embarrassing to get married because it doesn't help a woman be more feminine it lowers her to the level of a servant or a maid. If a man and woman both want to get married and it makes them both happy good for them but it's safer to assume there all that way so they don't trap anymore women into loveless marriages. They mostly do it to get their papers and when women give men children they make good pawns to use to get out of jail or prison. They want us to bare there children but at the same time they have this mentality we're only we should be responsible for them even though originally it came from their ballsack. So shouldn't the problem become his now too not just hers? They say Things like well I have to pay for this! So does she and that's were the problem starts it's okay to waste her money but not his? How is that fair? Think about it if he didn't want kids he could have saved everyone by wearing condoms, getting a vasectomy or keeping his pants zipped up.
Motherhood is every woman's personal choice, Not an Obligation, no matter what. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Your life, your body, your choice. Stay Strong !
@@Hammerhead137 yeah i wonder what gender tends to attack women. it's men, LOL. gtfo if you think men are "protectors," they are protecting women from OTHER MEN
For a certain number of men, ensuring there are children to care for is a way to assert dominance over her. They may feel their masculinity is threatened by an independent woman who doesn't follow the childbearing rules.
Reproduction was always a way to control women. When a woman is pregnant or with a small child, she is dependent on someone helping her. Some men just want to keep it that way
for those types of men, it's alllll about projection (of their own fears of being "alone" or not "needed") and lack of a sense of "control"....what's also comical is those same men who bash childfree women also wouldn't give a single mom the time of day! make it make sense!
They only want control and view the single mother as the one responsible for her relationship break down with the father of the child as he could never admit it could be the mans fault. This is because he is a man and will then take it personally some how as he is so insecure.
And some women are not meant to have kids. My aunt knew she did not want kids, was not going to have the patience or time with kids....um, so why bring life into this world when you know you cannot handle it?
I am 22. I had my Tubal Ligation last year. Some men have told me they want to end me. The amount of hate I get for make decisions for my own body is really scary. I also find that it's 90% men on social Media who are against abortions. "It's not their body anymore!" is an argument that comes very often. Men just hate that some women reject socueties control over their lives and bodies. #AndrewTate
Im so sorry that you are experiencing this terrifying behavior! 😔 I agree! It is scary and that fact that certain people become so hateful towards a decision someone made for themself is concerning! We don’t belong to anyone but ourselves but I feel like these type of people feel like we owe them something. Doing what we want can lesson that power and I think it makes them feel inferior!
A few years ago, I got some real hate from a former, single, younger than myself, male neighbour. I told him "I've never had kids, I never wanted kids, I don't regret not having any kids". He told me "you're not normal, there's something wrong with a woman, if she doesn't want kids & never had kids". He said he "loves kids". I said "I don't hate kids, just because I never had any kids". He was a 'hypocrite', because a noisy family, lived on the other side of him & he was always whinging about their screaming kids". If he loved kids, he wouldn't whinge about them. He ended up leaving to be with a single Mum, with 3 little kids. He now has a kid of his own. He's miserable. He told me, "she 'baby trapped' me". I said "yeah?! right, you would've told her, you love kids, so you made a kid, together"."Did you get a paternity test done to make sure it's your kid?" He just nodded. He didn't say anything, he just looked shocked.( Too bad !). We were in the supermarket. I just walked away from him.😊
@@EadsB7002 Yes, he definitely got his Karma ! I think he was in his late 30s, maybe early 40s ? He had no right to assume, just because I was childfree, that I hated kids ! I have young cousins, I don't hate them, because they're kids. He hardly knew me, yet he thought he had the right to ridicule me for being childfree ! I hope he has a good life !? He got what he wished for, a kid, maybe more of his own kids & also his girlfriends' 3 kids from her previous relationship.😊
I was pressured by my best GF’s who told me I was selfish for not having kids. It was a lot of social pressure in all directions. As a mother who is finished raising two kids…. While I love my kids, if I could have done it over I would have listened to my inner voice more and never had children. It’s a thankless job with no guarantee that your children will turn out well even with your best efforts. Women take the brunt of children who don’t turn out well. So either way women are blamed and so you might as well live for yourself and not listen to outside opinions.
That’s such a hard thing to go through and it’s just as hard knowing that regardless of whether we have kids or not we get judged or blamed in different ways anyways. I can understand the connection of having a child, because it’s a part of you, but I believe many people forget that those children grow to become their own people. It has to be so hard to guide them in the right direction because there are so many different factors beyond one’s control that play a part in things. Like you said, you might as well just live life for yourself, because no one is ever pleased and we always have people judging.
Yes! Women gets the blame if there is something wrong and it so weird! I’ve seen it in SO many comment sections and real life. It’s always the mothers fault 😒
Thank you for your comment. My child is profoundly autistic and very severe. He's now 22 and is able bodied, but has development of a toddler with practically no verbal ability, but no fear of danger or sign of self-awareness. Was in diapers until 11; took 4 times to finally get him to use toilet regularly. Was single parent doing it all, because ex abandoned us. I would never have chosen this had I even an inkling. I love him more than life itself, but my parenting experience was devastating.
I'm 43 years old I never been married for my experience I noticed that men don't like women being able to do what they want with their bodies with your time and your energy I can wear what I want I can sleep where I want I don't have to do anything besides take care of myself and that's a freedom that a lot of men don't want women to have
That's why most men really hate women that live their lives for themselves, and they also hate the fact that they're not the focus of women's lives and bodies anymore!!!
My former male colleague was jealous of me, being childfree,(he had 2 kids), he would make comments about me "being able to work weekends & he had to take his family out"(we were in different departments, so luckily we didn't work together.). He ended up leaving & going to a better paid job. Good riddance. I get a lot of hate at work, because I'm the only childfree woman there ! However, some of the older staff, have retired, (who hated me) & new staff have come in, who are more friendlier & accepting of my childfree situation. 😊 I'm enjoying my job more now.
@@Melly16yr10 The old staff were retirement age, 65. Retirement age, here in Australia, for women, is usually around 67, ( depending on what year we were born in). However, they could afford to retire at 65. The former male colleague, was 45. He got a job out in the mines, it pays a lot more than a job, he had, as a gardener. His wife didn't work, because of their 2 kids. The new room attendant staff are 3 women, they range in ages from their 30s, 40s & early 50s, they're also childfree. It's great because I socialise with these women as well. We're close now 😊
I’m so happy that things have taken an upward turn at your work. I can’t imagine the years of annoyance from the now retirees who what a breath of fresh air! I love his use of words he “had” to take his family out as if it were an obligation.
Hate is a strong word. Strangers don't care about you that much to hate you. I always feel wary of people who think so many people"hate" them. When in reality they may not want to live your lifestyle but aren't thinking about you or care about you as much as you think they do.
I'm 37, childfree, fit and have a great career. I finally got my tubes removed last year; such a relief. I have never felt so at peace with my decision. I prefer the quiet life with a childfree partner and a dog where we can build, grow and travel the world together. Much love and support to the childfree women of the world❤
I’m so happy to hear this! It’s not always easy to achieve! ❤️ I’m the same, it’s the life that makes more sense for some! Sending all the love as well!
That word always makes me shiver. I hate knowing they are trying to pass laws to make the age lower for marriages because younger women are easier to “imprint” on. 😵💫
@@diaryofthechildfree it’s sickening. It takes very aware parents raising their children navigating these societal traps and getting the kids to adulthood somewhat unscathed. Glad I am skipping at least that burden.
1:45-2:07 THAT'S IT. Thanks the crux of it. Childfree women can't be controlled, especially not through our wombs, and so many men can't stand it. Great video. BTW, I love the hair and makeup!
@@diaryofthechildfree Ironically, the very fact that so many of these guys exist. Just allows guys with options and resources to have less competition. It's like rather than trying to become better they just rather spend copious amounts of time doing futile shit like trying to lower expectations.
It’s because men can’t control you. How can men do that even if they wanted to? Women unilaterally control reproduction. Men have no reproductive rights and little to no rights over their children. Now that is a fact and what you feel is irrelevant. No child is born unless the woman/mother determines it. Men have to live with the consequences of her decision irrespective of what he wants. I think your mindset needs to move into the twenty first century. This isn’t 1950.
Before I started dating my girlfriend, she had multiple men leave or cheat on her because she chose to be Childfree. I'm dating her because she is Childfree. She's great, and deserves to be treated right.
I’m so happy and thankful to hear that you two found one another! Unfortunately, life sometimes means having experience these hardships in order to bring us to where we were meant to be! Wishing you all the very best and happiest future! 💖
I'm glad your girlfriend is still childfree. It absolutely sucks that childfree people especially women are constantly berated and criticized for not having kids. I just wish that society let us be happy as just the way we are.
It's total projection. Women can and do live single happily with friends and their own peace. Men so often need a mommy forever no friends. They're desperate at the thought of being alone.
Me too. Always hearing early on how men dont want marriage or kids. Cool. Me neither. As a childfree woman Ive often wondered where are all the guys who dont want/dont like kids (like myself) and want a woman who neither has nor wants them? I kept running into the opposite. Either had them (divorce, most often) and thought Id delight in having an instant family dropped on me. Eeeyyuuu. Yuck. Aviided parenthood my entire adult life...why in the world would I want someone else's baggage dumped into my life?! They couldnt understand it. Or, I got grief for not wanting to HAVE kids.
Isn’t this gross? I can’t believe in 2023 we are still dealing with this. Basically women as second class citizens and society doesn’t care. Not having kids is a form of personal protest against this misogyny.
Yeah and in some countries more than 50% of girls are forced to marry when they are still minors just to ensure they never get a chance to live independently. The world is still far from being a good place for girls and women
It’s sad. Sometimes I still feel like it’s some weird dream! Especially considering all these things they want to pass that mainly affect specific communities…but never straight white men. All they do is try to stomp on women rather than try to create a better place. Many of us know the world we live in is no place for children either.
@@Beth1995 feminists are the worst. Literally claiming misogyny because you can’t see some comments 😂 I think this childfree stuff has an expiry date because you lot won’t have children to pass on your ideology or lifestyle or whatever. It’ll be the small ‘c’ conservative families that’ll provide the future population and they won’t be passing on this genetic dead end way of thinking… and before you cry misogyny because you are infected with 4th wave feminism, I’m talking about men and women.
Oh I do have my personal forms of rebellion against the patriarchy but not having kids isn’t really one of them. I just don’t want kids lol I think that narrative is kinda problematic cuz it reinforces the idea that all of a woman’s personal decisions has do to with a man. Not all women want kids and for some of us that decision has absolutely nothing to do with men.
I'm a man who respects that having children is a choice, and that there's nothing wrong with choosing not to have children. I've known the kind of men she discusses in this video, and I never understood how they could be so narrow-minded.
There are some guys out there who probably lump being CF in with "feminism" and there are some guys who are so conditioned to hate feminism that they lash out at CF women. Hard to say.
The feeling is mutual! It’s nice to know there are men out there as well who don’t want children and understand all the reasoning behind the choice! 🙌👏
@@diaryofthechildfree Ofcourse. Your not here to live your life by anyone’s obligations. Keep growing your community & continue making decisions that benefit you.
Ahhh another AMAZING video girl! And YES‼️ Those men are such *how do I put this in a nice way* pieces of trash😅 and as childfree women we can help educate them and also put them in their place to defend our peace and stand our ground!👊
“I don’t have a chance with you, to control you and have a say in all that you do, say and think. A baby and mother would mean I have my own servant and legacy.” Some men are just sick and they expose themselves so easily. Why do you hate a woman for simply not wanting or being able to have kids? Grow tf up 😂
IMO, that’s how I feel the mindset is 99.9% of the time. Many married women parent their spouse in addition to the children and take on so many additional responsibilities and that’s not including the full time job they likely have as well! They really do make it easy!
do not stick your nose into someone's personal business what she does to her body is ONLY up to her If she wants kids then you have no rights to protest same goes fr the opposite to
Or you could have been with someone who didn’t want children. Convincing sounds too much like begging and begging Sounds like I’m trying to change your mind. She probably still wants children. rethink the situation.
A coworker told me I need to have a baby to loosen my “V” up. He was a male and slipped that sentence quickly into a already in-progress sentence upon saying good morning. Like why do you care about my body ?! I said “excuse you”? And he said “nothing” and I said “that’s what I thought”. I work in a area of the hospital with low morale and unchecked bad behavior (the OR).
Ew, who even says that so nonchalantly!? I’m so sorry that you have to deal with such a level of disrespect in a workplace that doesn’t do a whole lot about it. I bet he’d throw a fit if you made a remark about his dick size. Also, such a bizarre thing to say considering so many men want their wives to get “husband stitches” after birth.
yes! exact same men hating on childfree women are also hating on single moms! i have seen it firsthand. these are just insecure dumbasses that NO ONE wants to date and so they deem all "grown" women as horrid, and think they are "entitled" to some young, 18 year old virgin...LOL! It's so maddening, but also hilarious at the same time!
Yeah is discrimination and it’s disgusting. The “men” have nothing better to do put talk down on women because they can’t pick on ones their own size. The amount of cowards these days is appalling.
Facts. They stay picking on women cuz they’re too scared to challenge men while at the same time failing to realize that the fact that they can’t compete with other men is why they’re single. They out here bashing women like they tryna be alpha females instead of competing to be the alpha males that women want 🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣
This is awesome information.. I am a 65 year old child free woman. For the record, I never had any regrets about my decision to remain child free, especially after both my marriages ended in divorce and seem how much suffering people of my generation have gone through from having children. I have never heard any of this discussed until I recently started watching this and some other TH-cams. It feels so great to know how many women now feel the same. However, I have noticed and felt a lot of negative pushback and judgement from both men and women over the years. My main reason for not wanting to have children was to protect the earth from overpopulation. Wish more people had felt the same, because the world population went from less than 3 billion to 7 billion since I was born and we are now experiencing the frightening results of the mass extinctions we humans have caused.
I love how calm and collected you are in expressing the facts and your pov. These are the types of men who will be heroes to their daughters but be villains to their partner's dreams and independence. At the end, they will want their daughter to marry and have children as well. And she will be under the control of another man. This never-ending cycle. They get so insecure if someone choose different path than what deems to be socially needed.
@Lisa Rob that's so ridiculous! ignore the nonsense. Good for you for not choosing to be apart of the struggle life! You should be proud you are able to give yourself and your daughter a healthy upbringing and life. they are just haters and resentful of their own poor decisions.
1:50 soooo on point! Child free women aren’t threatened by whether they are married or not and this threatens men because it’s literally the last carrot that they can dangle. It’s the last thing that they actually have control over so when a woman dosent require it nor have the desire to have children. It’s seen as a threat.😂
It's far worse to be having kids when you really don't want them, the kids lose out on that deal. Not everyone should be a parent. If kids aren't the center of your universe, then don't have them, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some of the most abrasive "you must have kids" fanatics are likely miserable with their own life, stuck with their kids, and now despise anyone that still has an independent life that they secretly wish they could have.
That would be such a horrible realization too because there is no backing out at that point. Children belong in the homes of those who have the means to care for them financially, physically, and mentally. Too many of us out there are the product of having horrible parents and are now having to spend so much time healing ourselves instead because our parents couldn’t be there for us how we needed. I can totally see that! Jealousy is very apparent and often comes through the form of hate!
No, you will not rot by staying away from men, you will bloom and blossom. Trust me, I have seen all men in my family suck the life out of their wives and leave them empty, drained, hollowed out shells.
I'm asexual, single and childfree (I also go to Law School in a great university and have great plans for my career)! I'm especially receive a lot of hate from guys because I don't date and I'm conventionally attractive. I am also fit and exercise a lot because it helps with my anxiety! I am 22, a virgin and just recently understood my own sexuality. I used to think I was straight, because I'd have sex*al fantasies, and bought my first toys at 19 and have enjoyed them a lot. But I didn't enjoy kissing and people touching me. People in my hometown still think I'm a lesbian (a lot of family members too)🤣🤣🤣. I've experimented and didn't enjoy kissing girls either. I've also had romantic fantasies with characters of my favorite TV shows. But IRL, I found out I am not interested in romance either and have broken a few hearts, not because I meant to, but because I would buy into the crap hollywood sold about romance, but I'd start feeling suffocated and didn't enjoy the physical contact at all! I also have a big family (lots of cousins who are as close as simblings to me) ,a brother, who gave me a niece who is in her late teens and a childless sister (I say childless because she does want children, but is close to her mid-thirties now, and while being beautiful, and she has bipolar disorder and Boderline Personality Disorder, depression, anxiety and who knows what else - so she had trouble keeping a boyfriend who can deal with someone with all her issues). I feel bad for her, because she constantly complains about having no children. So, I live with my parents because it's cheaper, while also working a part time job that lets me have enough time for Law School and for leisure activities! I love my life so much since I've come to terms with my asexuality! I also have an aunt who is childless (never managed to conceive) and single (not because she couldn't find men interested in marrying her, but she was always still in love with her first boyfriend and chose after him for a loooong time)! Anyway I've always known I'b be the one to take care of her when she's older, and I still intend to do so, I think I'll put her in a nice retirement home and visit her often, check to see she isn't being abused, etc!
Data shows men are having less sex than ever. The power freedom, education and birth control made women able to choose to avoid men that are assholes, and well, apparently a LOT of men are stinky deadbeat, broke assholes.
I agree. Projection at it's finest - they have to act like they're convincing us meanwhile it's more like they're trying to convince themselves. There are so many things each and every one of us don't agree on or like but it's a waste of time to get consumed in it.
It affects them. More and more women become stronger and have better self esteem. And they hate it because they need somebody they percieve as inferior.
It does. They are forced to reflect their own poor life decisions and don't like the crippling feeling and thought that childfree people thrive more in life. So they try to damage and sabotage them. Us. Who did everything to create a safe place. They lack the capacity to do the same. Really weak and poor souls.
Child free straight women are unicorns. I have never understood the desire to breed, they call me a narcissist for not wanting or liking children. I think the need to send a copies of yourself to annoy future generations is far more narcissistic than my desire to have an enjoyable, quiet, financially secured adult life with the freedom to enjoy everything I work my ass off for.
@darrenm.7980 I know a lot of other straight men after a child free marriage, but a large portion of the women I know that want a child free marriage are not interested in men.
There are way too many people and most are terrible. I don’t like humans, as a whole, enough to want to make one. Being child free seems to be the smart and responsible choice
My mom stayed in a marriage with an abusive alcoholic because she was sure she couldn't raise me and my brother on her own. I refuse to get into that pickle: I'm proudly childfree and stay away from insecure toxic men like my father.
You said it girl! Childfree women are admired and despised at the same time. Men are so fixated on breeding. They don't like not having control and the ability to breed.
Because in their puerile delusions they believe they will gain immortality through procreation. They are so ridiculous, they don’t realise that within 100 years of their death at most no person will be left who knew them or remembered them. I have no idea who my great grandparents were, I don’t even know their names. They might as well have never existed.
Seeing mothers struggle and getting Baches left and right for things that are done TO them by men, society and simply bad luck. A Single mother is an easy target to bash. Not the man who failed her.
That's always so hard to see! If you're a mom, you don't mom hard enough or do things the wrong way and you're a single mom, you didn't do enough and are hurting your child's livelihood. Meanwhile, we know and see from observation, that the women are almost always the ones putting in the most effort, time, and labour compared to their male counterparts who get off scotch free.
@@diaryofthechildfree You tell me about it. This year my coworker had a baby and she visited to show the little angel of (also had to make some copied to provide our boss, so she got maternity leave) and her husband was with her. She wasnt even able to leave him with their daughter for 5 minuts. he was useless. Wasnt even willig to clean her face and pick her up to cuddle. I was an asshole and laughed and told her she is a single mother. She was furious and he too, but later i heard that she saw that its true. I feel so sorry for her now.
I always thought it was strange how some of the ones that criticize those who don't want kids will say they're selfish, immature, insufferable, terrible, etc. So if they think that someone is that terrible, why would they want them to be a parent, ESPECIALLY when they don't even want kids to begin with? It's really strange
I don't know what kind of men you have came across but men that I know love women without kids. Women without kids are more spontaneous and more financially secure As a man that is a blessing
I never realized this. For example, I had a colleague who didn't want children, and he waited until he was well into middle age so that he could marry a post-menopausal woman (which he did). I've never had a real desire for children, and if asked I answered "0 to 1".
There are still many women who actually want to have children, so why don't these haters of childfree women just leave the childfree women alone, and rather build relationships with women who want children? My guess is that women who want children are more careful with choosing the potential father, and these haters have to put more effort in treating women right...
This is a very good observation and honestly I can see this being true! I read an article earlier this year that discussed the idea that the reason we see men like this get so fired up about women not having children or let alone choosing them as partners is because they just see getting married, helping provide income (even though both spouses generally work these days) and creating children as the most effort that could be provided. Meanwhile, so many women out there, want more than that. They want an actual relationship with a genuine connection and less of a controlled borderline business contract. Specifically, with women who don't want children, they would have to work essentially harder because marriage and children isn't really the bargaining chip anymore.
@@diaryofthechildfree Yes, that article makes a lot of sense, humans mainly want emotional and spiritual connection with their partners, and that takes work to cultivate that. I also think that some of these haters were brainwashed into believing that women are biologically programmed to want to have children, and that they are just playing with the children all day long, and that it's an easy job which they logically have to enjoy :D And at the same time some of these haters were also brainwashed to believe that they are weak men if they become stay at home dads, and their wives the one's who generate the income for the family. When I tried to explain to a traditional man that women who devote their lives to only raising children and taking care of the house and trying to satisfy their husbands are risking a lot, as one day their husband can turn into an abuser, and then the woman is basically trapped. He told me that women need to pick a good man :D I then replied that the husband could die, and that without a solid career it could be challenging for the woman to financially manage, and he said, that mothers always find a way :D At that point I knew there was no point in further discussing. But I would bet anything that men would not enjoy being at the mercy of their partner and being potentially trapped in a abusive household, they would not trade :D
I would love to have a childfree wife in the future, the men who hate childfree women probably want to have kids themselves. It isnt selfish to be childfree, at least we thought twice about our decision to opt out of parenthood
Men want women locked down. With a child there are limitations immediately put upon you as a parent. The male just keeps dancing along, generally with no physical or sometimes financial obligations. She is stuck. No “life” 4 her.
Oh yeah. I’ve heard podcasts of men advocating for the mass genocide of women over 15. The Republicans are currently trying to end no fault divorce and there are also men out there advocating for women to be sold into sexual slavery to service the incels. A good amount of men HATE that we have independence and we need to stay very vigilant. There have been societies in the past in which women had the rights we have today and they were revoked. We cannot afford to think that these males are not gonna get frustrated enough to try to take our freedom away again. I’ve also seen comments online of men saying things like this. Shit like “we should just take their rights away again.” And don’t even get me started on the femicide rates in the black community. If white women knew how patriarchal and violent black males are you would be much more aware of how real this threat is. Black men are killing black women every four hours and it’s usually because of a woman trying to break up with him. I am a black lesbian and I’ve had to physically fight males several times in the last few years for refusing to have sex with them. I don’t ever leave my house without weapons anymore. I’ve also had issues with male store workers giving me bad service or refusing to sell to me at all because I won’t flirt with them. Where I live there is a large influx of men from the Middle East and African countries who are used to women playing docile and flirty with them all day and have the nerve to come to OUR country and expect women who are free to behave the same way. All it would take is for this mentality to become dominant in American men and we would have a HUGE safety problem on our hands. If I wasn’t extra vigilant and carried weapons I guarantee i would’ve be killed or graped by now. I say this as a warning to women who live more sheltered lives. You have no idea how much some of the men you walk by everyday on your way to work would kidnap and grape you if there were no witnesses and the threat of the police to stop them. We need to fight back against this rise of misogynistic attitudes in males and we need to fight back HARD because our liberty is in serious danger. And it needs to start with us educating women. We can’t allow these podcasts to brainwash younger women. Younger girls are too removed from the reality of what our grandmothers went through and they are notoriously unprepared for the reality of being a truly independent woman. When I noticed men refusing to commerce with me I immediately began getting into male dominated fields to learn some of these skills for myself. Men have wayyyyy too much of a monopoly on the trades that are necessary for the survival of this current society. And that’s another thing I’ve heard them threaten is to stop taking single female clients in these fields. Literally refusing to take plumbing or mechanical jobs from single women.
I go crazy for kitties lol but babies yeah idk I’ll hold one for a few mins. It’s fun to hold them when they’re tiny then give them to their mom when they start fussing 😂
Very not understandable for people who are peaceful Also, there are already so many women out there all over the world who love children and want to bring them etc why aren't they happy with those? I hate anyone who forces their opinion, lifestyle, emotion, thought whatever it is on someone who clearly doesn't need them and didn't ask for any and they should just look at those that are already like them and leave those different alone! I really don't like such people, they're very much like those religious that feel entitled to convert the whole humans in this world to their religion, just very weird and strange when they can just stay within their group doing what they want, just leave others by themselves, that's why education on such matters the most more than any math class.
I am a single guy who never wanted kids. People should leave us alone on that score. The human race is NOT going to die out. There will ALWAYS be enough drunk/high irresponsible people breeding kids whether they should be parents or not.
I'm 44 Years old I'm childfree by choice and single. If that means I'm an abomination then I guess I'm because at least this abomination have a peace of mind and can enjoy life. So whatever criticism society throws at me I'll accepted for the cost because nobody is not going to stand in the way of my happiness and the way how I feel. Period point blank
Amen!!! I'm 56, single and childfree myself, and I get the same hateful and nasty comments and other bullshit thrown at me as well!!! You're not alone in this, so stay strong in your beliefs and your single and childfree life!!!
Sixty here. Happily kid free. Endured my share if remarks, judgment, and condescending assurances that Id change my mind when I meet the right guy. Met him. No kids either and no regrets.
I don't hate anyone, I don't judge women for being child free, I'm an older man, never been married, no children, long term single, i never wanted or saw myself as making a good husband or parent, it's down to choice rather than what society expects, we only have one life, we have to live it the best way we see fit, I have been told that I have no purpose, that's the opinion of those who judge me, I don't deny them their opinions, I was disowned by one side of my family many years ago, if they hadn't disowned me when they did, they would have done by now because of my status and my not meeting societies expectations, we are all individual, we make our own choices, we may regret them, we might not regret them
A strong stable family and community can make all the difference - too many out there don't get to receive that and trauma can be passed down through generations.
41 year old man here who doesn't have any kids and....never married. I think it's great that women and men decide to be childfree. You take a look at cost of living, inflation, how financially one is better off in the long run to not have children, how people are more educated across the US but not doing well compared to people in the 1950s/60s financially. Add that when you get home from your job you have the ability to do whatever you want to do and or the weekends, and also factoring the environment as well which is also going to cause problems in the long run. I applaud women and men for going this route. Oddly enough, I teach high school but don't have kids.
No not all men are like that, educated liberal men like me believe its more of a personal choice and something that shouldn't be enforced on the contrary i really appreciate the person male or female for being childfree, overpopulation is a scourge that is killing our planet.
And thankfully so! Sadly, it's the voices of hate that shout the loudest. 🙃 Overpopulation is going to become a real bish soon unless nature takes us out first.
It’s so funny what men have to say about childfree women - when a MAJORITY of MEN leave when women are pregnant and can’t handle being a parent 🙈🙈 NO sense. I’m proud of my choices, I don’t want to be tied down.
after abusive childhood I personally had this conversation with my mom: " mom I am so sorry my birth put you through so much pain and suffering " mom: " you have nothing to be sorry for. You are my daughter and I love you " after pedofile dad I have 0 desire to start family or marry. I see it disgusting and burden to me. I keep going at the gym to get jacked and focus on my own goals now sure! call me selfish if you like! I am glad I never had to go through that shit and end up be traumatized again. I also dont want to take risk to pass on my trauma to new generation so yes I am the grand finale :"D Instead of procreating I choose to help my sibling with their kids: cost of living rising and they struggle already. I am alright tho so been helping her financially whenever I can AND will help my mother when she get older. Also considered maybe to start funding child/children in Africa so they can get education and have better life.. once I get my life together from all the shit happened. Smarter to help already existing people!
These men are not business savvy in the slightest. Kids are financial liabilities. If you want to make a profit, you need to reduce your expenses, not add even more. DINK lifestyle is actually quite financially responsible. Also, if a kid is just going to be treated as a problem that everyone gets mad at or does not care about, then why were they even born in the first place? As a male myself, men who hate childfree women will earn my ire for their lack of logic and lack of consideration that leaving women to be single mothers suggests the man did not do research on whether or not being a parent was desirable. Seriously, a woman cannot get pregnant without the involvement of a man in some way, shape, or form.
For me at lest, children are in the category of "baggage." I would have married the love of my life, except for her four kids. I was not ready to take on that burden. When a woman tells me she has no kids, I usually take a deep breath borne of relief.
I’m a straight dude but I’ve always hated children, I get a fight or flight reaction around babies and I think they’re the ugliest things to ever exist, and besides my house is NOT child friendly what with all the venomous arachnids I keep as pets
But what do they interfere with? They are the only selfish ones because it's not they who bear the child, it is the woman who suffers for it! Peace to those who refuse this suffering! 🙏
This be the verse by Philip Larkin They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another's throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don't have any kids yourself
@Diary Of The Childfree I'm Keanna, 28 and childFREEEE but that comes with my own yet extremely frustration on people, both women and guys who pester the hell out of me for choosing NOT to have a kid. I personally take it as a laugh as I find their pestering as a jealousy towards my freedom and quiet time that I have so the more I get pestered to HAVE a baby, the more I actually pull away towards having one. I'm not gonna surrender under the pressure of others! I personally have all the skills to have a baby. Being born in the 90s myself, I have a clear understanding on how the world has become throughout the years. I was brought up with siblings and a large family, going through my own dark times due to certain reasons, but as long as I can remember, I've always said that I'll never have a baby. Not just because of health reasons but I just know the REAL struggles and what really goes into having a baby. But that being said, many women belittle ones who don't have a baby, as I'm the selfish one. NO! I just know it's not all rainbows and the joys of baby showers and gender reveals. It's AFTER the birth, that's when the real fun begins. Still, I'm not going to throw my life away just because others put me down or try to make it seem like nothing will go wrong and evvvverything will be fine with rainbows 'n cupcakes.
I desperately want to mother a kitten. I find them cuter than human babies. If anyone thinks that's weird, I don't blame them. I've always had a thing for cats, and think it will be much easier to raise and also will have a very small carbon footprint. Also, I absolutely love and NEED my downtime, lots and lots of downtime.
I'm a childfree man who prefers dating childfree women. Being childfree and having a partner who is childfree allows you to focus on each other and enjoy experiencing life together.
All my life I felt like the "outsider" for not having children. I'm SOOOOOOOO glad I stuck to my guns bc I'm happier than I've ever been... and I'm at PEACE!! 🙌🏾💆🏾♀🙌🏾 ... 😂
....it's obvious that the "select few" and or the "state" will have it easier to totally, ruthlessly, rule over the "diminishing, free from everything and everyone, many".... :-D :-]
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I wonder why society doesn't look down on childless men. It's like society wants women to be single moms.
Who says they don't?
We are pussies, sissies, emasculated men without honor or pride because we don't expend every single free moment trying to "spread out seed" and we are a disgrace for our ancestors because they did everything to pass on their genes and we are allowing them to end with us.
Of course society, mostly other men, tells us that we are worthless pieces of shit because we lack the "masculine drive" to pass on our genes and family name.
Some men literally tell each other to get women pregnant but don't get married, then complain about single mothers..
@@Auriior I've heard that before too. Our societies legal system is very bias against men when it comes to divorce especially when 70% of divorces are filed by women according the The Jimenez Law Firm site and other refrences.
That’s what it looks like to me. 😳😬💯
They do look down on childfree men tbh. They just aren’t as likely to be treated as demons as cf women are.
Oh, those same men hate women who are parents, too! This is equal opportunity misogyny!
It's the sad reality we live in unfortunately. Nothing any of us do will be good enough in the eyes of some.
The hate for "fatherless homes".
yes! they bash childfree people/women, yet wouldn't give a single mom the time of day!
They are also the ones that would say "You should've chosen a better partner for your children!"
That's so true as women we damned if we do damned if we don't
I think it's hard for some men to love a woman for what she is and not just for what she can give you
I've never ever seen this lol
This comment ❤
This works both way sadly.
yes men feel the same way about women
Literally most men prefer childless women Idk where this is coming from.
Childfree bachelor here. I only date women who don't want kids.
🙌🙌🙌
So refreshing to hear! While I was still dating I couldn't find a single guy who wasn't crazy about finding a woman in order to have kids! It was a disappointing and frustrating experience. They were focused on finding a woman who is ready to get pregnant rather than a woman who can be their partner and who has a compatible personality.
I'd much prefer to spend my time with the woman I love and be free to be with her and only her without any kids getting in the way. I'd love to be able to do a lot of interesting and fun things with her and have cool hobbies that we both enjoy. There is a deep peace in knowing that it's just the two of us and that we live for each other. No kids for me!
@@NoKidsNoProblem sounds like a dream!
@@NoKidsNoProblem That's exactly what I wish for. Your comment gave me hope. I hope there are more men of your sort!
Definitely agree with all points here. Me being a black woman is even more of a issue because by now at 30 I should be a baby mama with 3 children from 2 different men unmarried.Nope I'm educated, fit,and childfree. Also I want to keep my education going and earn as much money as my partner so we can grow together. I don't want to depend on a man for every penny I have.
Yes! 👏👏👏 We are in charge of our paths and choose our ability to be independent! At the end of the day it’s good to be able to rely on ourselves and have our resources and education built up if sh*t hits the fan.
Correct, every other podcast on my page is about how “men” hate bw. I’m so tired of seeing cowards that can’t pick on people their own size….
well done!!! you have the right idea and will always be in charge of your own destiny!
Exactly I hate when ppl assume we get abortions which is not true at all, the hate is real
You are a blessing. I wish more black women would think like that.
Men know that impregnating a woman restricts her. Being able to restrict women makes toxic men feel powerful. The more women decide to remain childless, the less power these insecure men realize they have. Also, men want to be the center--all the time. So, the thought that some women aren't halting their hopes and dreams to be impregnated enrages them.
It's disgusting knowing how power hungry some people may be and the lengths they will go in order to maintain it. So many are failed by the patriarchy as well, without realizing it and unfortunately instead, choose to blame us as women of course for their struggles.
exactly
But you’re not going to mention, the women that baby trap successful/good looking men because of the income?! Do you know it happens way more than men baby trapping a women?! But of course, you’re not going to mention that part right?! I feel this video only explains the small % of men that think like this, and is extremely biased. Not to attack anyone, but that’s just the truth.
@@TypeZero31 your words are such a giveaway that you're male. y'all always claim that awful men are a 'very small percentage' when it's actually vice versa.
@@TypeZero31men can wear condoms or get a vasectomy if they don’t want to be “baby trapped.” Birth control isn’t only a woman’s responsibility
I'll never understand why people give a crap abt what other ppl do with their lives.
Me either!
They hate themselves 🤷🏾♀️
Not a clue either 🤷
Some ppl learn from an early age that having an opinion about everything is a passable substitute for a personality
@@ss-ds2dn but, that people don't have a personality
Men get upset when you get pregnant and have a child. Men get upset when you refuse to get pregnant and have a child. You just can't win. Do what you will....Just know, you will pay either way.
This. ALL of this. 🥰🙌🏾💯
or: Life (as a woman) is hard - choose your hard.
Exactly, just do what you want. The haters will always have shit to say.
yep! they "hate" both types of women...i've seen many a troll diss childfree women as well as single moms just as much-if not more!
Some men, say they want kids. They get their girlfriend, pregnant. She has the kid, then the man decides it"s too hard being a parent. Then he leaves his girlfriend. He tells his friends, "she 'baby trapped'' me, I wasn't ready to be a 'Dad". The poor woman is now a single Mum. This happened to a former friend of mine, years ago. This is another way, men get out of being parents, if things get too hard. They walk away & the woman is left holding the baby !
It was never about the children its about controlling women just like back then
Always about the control! 😫
@@diaryofthechildfree Yeah, always about the control! And what about women always going for that one guy who is older and richer than her..... They don't even look at younger or broke guys who might just be a good person to deal with.....
If they value equality and independence that much, why they drag themselves in the heap of older, richer and dominent men??!!
Don't you think it contradicts on an entirely different level......
I can't stand men who complain about women not having children it's truly ridiculous not all women should have children it's not the end of the world take a look at Chelsea handler or alison brie both are happy being child free
That’s their issue/what angers them - the realization some women don’t need men/them.
did you notice how the right wing shit all over chelsea handler, because she is happy childfree women...... oh the audacity lol
@drsalka those men should wake up from their delusions and stop living as if the world only revolves around them
@@drsalka yes! that's the exact issue - the threat of their lack of control and dominance over a woman terrifies them!
@@drsalkaThat's it ! Some men can't face the fact, women can be independent, as well as childfree & happy. I consider myself to be very handy, fixing things, ( that are not electrical), plumbing, carpentry & basic repairs. My brother is a carpenter, but he lives in another town, kilometres away from me. He's also single, childfree & happy, in his 50s. 😊
It's ALL about control and manipulation. They want a woman to have a child to keep her from leaving when she wants, but they don't want to take care of the child.
no it’s because men want to actually be fathers and have a child. not every man is evil, just like not every woman is a psycho feminist
@@zebra-kt2gqhow do you know though?
Actually I've met more men that hassle women to be mothers and get married then psycho feminists.
Psycho feminist is a label that people throw at women to put them in check some how by making it look uncool or unattractive for a woman to be treated as an equal human being there's nothing psycho about it there is something psycho about treating women as inferiors though because it's not natural to enslave another human being and try to make it look sexy.
Those blue haired feminists that stand outside trying to get people to sign there petitions and boycott certain businesses and agencies are just extreme examples of them.
In this day and age I'll take my chances with being called a feminist over a pick me or trad wife. It's embarrassing to get married because it doesn't help a woman be more feminine it lowers her to the level of a servant or a maid.
If a man and woman both want to get married and it makes them both happy good for them but it's safer to assume there all that way so they don't trap anymore women into loveless marriages. They mostly do it to get their papers and when women give men children they make good pawns to use to get out of jail or prison. They want us to bare there children but at the same time they have this mentality we're only we should be responsible for them even though originally it came from their ballsack.
So shouldn't the problem become his now too not just hers? They say Things like well I have to pay for this! So does she and that's were the problem starts it's okay to waste her money but not his? How is that fair? Think about it if he didn't want kids he could have saved everyone by wearing condoms, getting a vasectomy or keeping his pants zipped up.
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@@selrox879 ?
@@zebra-kt2gq ofc. This is why there's such a small percentage of men who actually stay and a father role. Sure cupcake
Motherhood is every woman's personal choice, Not an Obligation, no matter what. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Your life, your body, your choice. Stay Strong !
@@Hammerhead137 yeah i wonder what gender tends to attack women. it's men, LOL. gtfo if you think men are "protectors," they are protecting women from OTHER MEN
They hate us bc we don’t prioritize them and even childfree women who would pursue and commit to a relationship aren’t going for these types.
Say it!
On behalf of childfree men, we love you and we appreciate you. Childfree women really are the greatest.
Thankyou nice to know not all men a baby fever guys 😊
Hi bro ! Fellow childfree men here !
Thank You
Thank you! ❤
Thanks. ❤
For a certain number of men, ensuring there are children to care for is a way to assert dominance over her. They may feel their masculinity is threatened by an independent woman who doesn't follow the childbearing rules.
Reproduction was always a way to control women. When a woman is pregnant or with a small child, she is dependent on someone helping her. Some men just want to keep it that way
@@KateeAngel wasnt the point to keep the species going?
I know of horror stories how men treat women when they are pregnant too
That’s some fragile masculinity right there.
@@Darthdoodoo for what?
for those types of men, it's alllll about projection (of their own fears of being "alone" or not "needed") and lack of a sense of "control"....what's also comical is those same men who bash childfree women also wouldn't give a single mom the time of day! make it make sense!
It’ll never make sense! Maybe they should just date themselves so they could actually find a likeminded individual!
They only want control and view the single mother as the one responsible for her relationship break down with the father of the child as he could never admit it could be the mans fault. This is because he is a man and will then take it personally some how as he is so insecure.
And some women are not meant to have kids. My aunt knew she did not want kids, was not going to have the patience or time with kids....um, so why bring life into this world when you know you cannot handle it?
@@ocsasha agreed. i knew early in life that i sure as hell wasn't interested in ever trying for finding out! it's simply not for everyone.
I am 22.
I had my Tubal Ligation last year.
Some men have told me they want to end me.
The amount of hate I get for make decisions for my own body is really scary.
I also find that it's 90% men on social Media who are against abortions.
"It's not their body anymore!" is an argument that comes very often.
Men just hate that some women reject socueties control over their lives and bodies.
#AndrewTate
Im so sorry that you are experiencing this terrifying behavior! 😔
I agree! It is scary and that fact that certain people become so hateful towards a decision someone made for themself is concerning! We don’t belong to anyone but ourselves but I feel like these type of people feel like we owe them something. Doing what we want can lesson that power and I think it makes them feel inferior!
@@diaryofthechildfree absolutely THE truth! it's a threat to their poor sense of "masculinity"...
A few years ago, I got some real hate from a former, single, younger than myself, male neighbour. I told him "I've never had kids, I never wanted kids, I don't regret not having any kids". He told me "you're not normal, there's something wrong with a woman, if she doesn't want kids & never had kids". He said he "loves kids". I said "I don't hate kids, just because I never had any kids". He was a 'hypocrite', because a noisy family, lived on the other side of him & he was always whinging about their screaming kids". If he loved kids, he wouldn't whinge about them. He ended up leaving to be with a single Mum, with 3 little kids. He now has a kid of his own. He's miserable. He told me, "she 'baby trapped' me". I said "yeah?! right, you would've told her, you love kids, so you made a kid, together"."Did you get a paternity test done to make sure it's your kid?" He just nodded. He didn't say anything, he just looked shocked.( Too bad !). We were in the supermarket. I just walked away from him.😊
@@alisonb5921 LoL...He got his karma, i see!
@@EadsB7002 Yes, he definitely got his Karma ! I think he was in his late 30s, maybe early 40s ? He had no right to assume, just because I was childfree, that I hated kids ! I have young cousins, I don't hate them, because they're kids. He hardly knew me, yet he thought he had the right to ridicule me for being childfree ! I hope he has a good life !? He got what he wished for, a kid, maybe more of his own kids & also his girlfriends' 3 kids from her previous relationship.😊
I was pressured by my best GF’s who told me I was selfish for not having kids. It was a lot of social pressure in all directions. As a mother who is finished raising two kids…. While I love my kids, if I could have done it over I would have listened to my inner voice more and never had children. It’s a thankless job with no guarantee that your children will turn out well even with your best efforts. Women take the brunt of children who don’t turn out well. So either way women are blamed and so you might as well live for yourself and not listen to outside opinions.
Yeah.. we moms just pray that the kids arent ruined with beauty expectation, social media fake life, and shorts videos
That’s such a hard thing to go through and it’s just as hard knowing that regardless of whether we have kids or not we get judged or blamed in different ways anyways. I can understand the connection of having a child, because it’s a part of you, but I believe many people forget that those children grow to become their own people. It has to be so hard to guide them in the right direction because there are so many different factors beyond one’s control that play a part in things. Like you said, you might as well just live life for yourself, because no one is ever pleased and we always have people judging.
I agree. I would have remained child free.
Yes! Women gets the blame if there is something wrong and it so weird! I’ve seen it in SO many comment sections and real life. It’s always the mothers fault 😒
Thank you for your comment. My child is profoundly autistic and very severe. He's now 22 and is able bodied, but has development of a toddler with practically no verbal ability, but no fear of danger or sign of self-awareness. Was in diapers until 11; took 4 times to finally get him to use toilet regularly. Was single parent doing it all, because ex abandoned us. I would never have chosen this had I even an inkling. I love him more than life itself, but my parenting experience was devastating.
I'm 43 years old I never been married for my experience I noticed that men don't like women being able to do what they want with their bodies with your time and your energy I can wear what I want I can sleep where I want I don't have to do anything besides take care of myself and that's a freedom that a lot of men don't want women to have
That's why most men really hate women that live their lives for themselves, and they also hate the fact that they're not the focus of women's lives and bodies anymore!!!
@C.E.O.007
¿How do you see to about of this mans doesn't like the woman have free time and do a lot of activities?
My former male colleague was jealous of me, being childfree,(he had 2 kids), he would make comments about me "being able to work weekends & he had to take his family out"(we were in different departments, so luckily we didn't work together.). He ended up leaving & going to a better paid job. Good riddance. I get a lot of hate at work, because I'm the only childfree woman there ! However, some of the older staff, have retired, (who hated me) & new staff have come in, who are more friendlier & accepting of my childfree situation. 😊 I'm enjoying my job more now.
Curious what ages were the old staff and the dad who hated you? And what ages are the new staff who like you?
@@Melly16yr10 The old staff were retirement age, 65. Retirement age, here in Australia, for women, is usually around 67, ( depending on what year we were born in). However, they could afford to retire at 65. The former male colleague, was 45. He got a job out in the mines, it pays a lot more than a job, he had, as a gardener. His wife didn't work, because of their 2 kids. The new room attendant staff are 3 women, they range in ages from their 30s, 40s & early 50s, they're also childfree. It's great because I socialise with these women as well. We're close now 😊
I’m so happy that things have taken an upward turn at your work. I can’t imagine the years of annoyance from the now retirees who what a breath of fresh air! I love his use of words he “had” to take his family out as if it were an obligation.
I do agree CF women get a lot of hated at work, and they often gang up 'uk
Hate is a strong word. Strangers don't care about you that much to hate you. I always feel wary of people who think so many people"hate" them. When in reality they may not want to live your lifestyle but aren't thinking about you or care about you as much as you think they do.
I'm 37, childfree, fit and have a great career. I finally got my tubes removed last year; such a relief. I have never felt so at peace with my decision. I prefer the quiet life with a childfree partner and a dog where we can build, grow and travel the world together. Much love and support to the childfree women of the world❤
Your tubes removed? What is the surgery called exactly? Do you still get your period? Does it have side effects?
@@Apricot90 It's called a Tubal ligation. 6 weeks after the surgery, I was back in the gym. My cycle is still normal.
I’m so happy to hear this! It’s not always easy to achieve! ❤️ I’m the same, it’s the life that makes more sense for some! Sending all the love as well!
@@diaryofthechildfree Much appreciated ❤️ and thank you for the great content.
thats the life I want too. Sounds so perfect
Because we can decide for ourselves and they like “influencing” us 🙄
so true
That word always makes me shiver. I hate knowing they are trying to pass laws to make the age lower for marriages because younger women are easier to “imprint” on. 😵💫
@@diaryofthechildfree it’s sickening. It takes very aware parents raising their children navigating these societal traps and getting the kids to adulthood somewhat unscathed. Glad I am skipping at least that burden.
@@diaryofthechildfree yep men have been trying to brainwash us and control us sense the dawn of time
AKA: controlling.
1:45-2:07 THAT'S IT. Thanks the crux of it. Childfree women can't be controlled, especially not through our wombs, and so many men can't stand it. Great video. BTW, I love the hair and makeup!
They absolutely hate it! Thank you so much!
@@diaryofthechildfree Ironically, the very fact that so many of these guys exist. Just allows guys with options and resources to have less competition. It's like rather than trying to become better they just rather spend copious amounts of time doing futile shit like trying to lower expectations.
It’s because men can’t control you.
How can men do that even if they wanted to?
Women unilaterally control reproduction. Men have no reproductive rights and little to no rights over their children.
Now that is a fact and what you feel is irrelevant.
No child is born unless the woman/mother determines it.
Men have to live with the consequences of her decision irrespective of what he wants.
I think your mindset needs to move into the twenty first century. This isn’t 1950.
@@diaryofthechildfreeI love dressing like Elmer Fud😂😂😂
Before I started dating my girlfriend, she had multiple men leave or cheat on her because she chose to be Childfree. I'm dating her because she is Childfree. She's great, and deserves to be treated right.
I’m so happy and thankful to hear that you two found one another! Unfortunately, life sometimes means having experience these hardships in order to bring us to where we were meant to be! Wishing you all the very best and happiest future! 💖
I'm glad your girlfriend is still childfree. It absolutely sucks that childfree people especially women are constantly berated and criticized for not having kids. I just wish that society let us be happy as just the way we are.
They will judge us by telling us we are miserable and lonely. Can those guy focus on their own life
Honestly though! Projected insecurities aren’t a good look for them!
@@diaryofthechildfree it seems their insecurities is the reason why they are constantly judging us. I wish them healing that's all I can do
It's total projection. Women can and do live single happily with friends and their own peace. Men so often need a mommy forever no friends. They're desperate at the thought of being alone.
I thought men wanted a woman with no children 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
You would think, but so many beg to differ apparently.
@@diaryofthechildfree see, we’re dammed if we do, dammed if we don’t
Me too. Always hearing early on how men dont want marriage or kids. Cool. Me neither. As a childfree woman Ive often wondered where are all the guys who dont want/dont like kids (like myself) and want a woman who neither has nor wants them? I kept running into the opposite. Either had them (divorce, most often) and thought Id delight in having an instant family dropped on me. Eeeyyuuu. Yuck. Aviided parenthood my entire adult life...why in the world would I want someone else's baggage dumped into my life?! They couldnt understand it. Or, I got grief for not wanting to HAVE kids.
@@lashwithlexyes, the game is rigged so you can never win, and the name of the game is patriarchy. The only way to win is to quit playing.
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they do.
problem is, the women with no children don't want them.
these women are very, very smart.
Isn’t this gross? I can’t believe in 2023 we are still dealing with this. Basically women as second class citizens and society doesn’t care. Not having kids is a form of personal protest against this misogyny.
Yeah and in some countries more than 50% of girls are forced to marry when they are still minors just to ensure they never get a chance to live independently. The world is still far from being a good place for girls and women
It’s sad. Sometimes I still feel like it’s some weird dream! Especially considering all these things they want to pass that mainly affect specific communities…but never straight white men. All they do is try to stomp on women rather than try to create a better place. Many of us know the world we live in is no place for children either.
@@Beth1995 feminists are the worst. Literally claiming misogyny because you can’t see some comments 😂
I think this childfree stuff has an expiry date because you lot won’t have children to pass on your ideology or lifestyle or whatever. It’ll be the small ‘c’ conservative families that’ll provide the future population and they won’t be passing on this genetic dead end way of thinking… and before you cry misogyny because you are infected with 4th wave feminism, I’m talking about men and women.
As guy agreed actually. Most men seems for me really nasty, egocentric, narcissist. And i am all for adequate men and women
Oh I do have my personal forms of rebellion against the patriarchy but not having kids isn’t really one of them. I just don’t want kids lol I think that narrative is kinda problematic cuz it reinforces the idea that all of a woman’s personal decisions has do to with a man. Not all women want kids and for some of us that decision has absolutely nothing to do with men.
I'm a man who respects that having children is a choice, and that there's nothing wrong with choosing not to have children. I've known the kind of men she discusses in this video, and I never understood how they could be so narrow-minded.
There are some guys out there who probably lump being CF in with "feminism" and there are some guys who are so conditioned to hate feminism that they lash out at CF women. Hard to say.
Our world as me know has been spewing out so much hate as well that so many regardless of what it may be, get so easily swept in.
Very frue.
Well as I guy who doesn’t want kids myself. lm glad that there are women that exist who don’t want children. Makes me feel better about my options
The feeling is mutual! It’s nice to know there are men out there as well who don’t want children and understand all the reasoning behind the choice! 🙌👏
@@diaryofthechildfree Ofcourse. Your not here to live your life by anyone’s obligations. Keep growing your community & continue making decisions that benefit you.
never feel sorry for understanding what you wish from life and keep your boundaries c:
Your options are increasing.
@@Maybe-cg2tn ❤️❤️👌😂
Ahhh another AMAZING video girl! And YES‼️ Those men are such *how do I put this in a nice way* pieces of trash😅 and as childfree women we can help educate them and also put them in their place to defend our peace and stand our ground!👊
You’re so kind! Thank you! 🥹💛 Hahaha that’s honestly the only nice way to put it! Yes girl, until our last days! 🙌👏
Ayee Marcella is in the house ❤
“I don’t have a chance with you, to control you and have a say in all that you do, say and think. A baby and mother would mean I have my own servant and legacy.” Some men are just sick and they expose themselves so easily. Why do you hate a woman for simply not wanting or being able to have kids? Grow tf up 😂
IMO, that’s how I feel the mindset is 99.9% of the time. Many married women parent their spouse in addition to the children and take on so many additional responsibilities and that’s not including the full time job they likely have as well!
They really do make it easy!
Sounds like Cyn G show w dusty absentee BM😂😂
I am a man and I respect women who choose to be childfree. Even I convinced my wife to choose the same path.
You rock!
do not stick your nose into someone's personal business
what she does to her body is ONLY up to her
If she wants kids then you have no rights to protest same goes fr the opposite to
Or you could have been with someone who didn’t want children. Convincing sounds too much like begging and begging Sounds like I’m trying to change your mind. She probably still wants children.
rethink the situation.
This sounds like she didn't want it for herself... 🤔🧐
Before I married my wife I told her if she wanted kids she was barking up the wrong tree.
A coworker told me I need to have a baby to loosen my “V” up. He was a male and slipped that sentence quickly into a already in-progress sentence upon saying good morning. Like why do you care about my body ?!
I said “excuse you”? And he said “nothing” and I said “that’s what I thought”. I work in a area of the hospital with low morale and unchecked bad behavior (the OR).
Ew, who even says that so nonchalantly!? I’m so sorry that you have to deal with such a level of disrespect in a workplace that doesn’t do a whole lot about it. I bet he’d throw a fit if you made a remark about his dick size. Also, such a bizarre thing to say considering so many men want their wives to get “husband stitches” after birth.
Sounds like sexual harrassment
I hope you reported him for his creepy behavior. That's just gross!
That was a very inappropriate and crude remark. Hope you told Human Resources.
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you SOOOOOOOO should've reported that bs.
They hate single mom too 😂😂😂😂 its never good
No one is ever safe these days. 😫😅😂😂
@@diaryofthechildfree exactly
yes! exact same men hating on childfree women are also hating on single moms! i have seen it firsthand. these are just insecure dumbasses that NO ONE wants to date and so they deem all "grown" women as horrid, and think they are "entitled" to some young, 18 year old virgin...LOL! It's so maddening, but also hilarious at the same time!
Seems like they just hate women period 😂
Yeah is discrimination and it’s disgusting. The “men” have nothing better to do put talk down on women because they can’t pick on ones their own size. The amount of cowards these days is appalling.
Cowards indeed!
Facts. They stay picking on women cuz they’re too scared to challenge men while at the same time failing to realize that the fact that they can’t compete with other men is why they’re single. They out here bashing women like they tryna be alpha females instead of competing to be the alpha males that women want 🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣
This is awesome information.. I am a 65 year old child free woman. For the record, I never had any regrets about my decision to remain child free, especially after both my marriages ended in divorce and seem how much suffering people of my generation have gone through from having children. I have never heard any of this discussed until I recently started watching this and some other TH-cams. It feels so great to know how many women now feel the same. However, I have noticed and felt a lot of negative pushback and judgement from both men and women over the years. My main reason for not wanting to have children was to protect the earth from overpopulation. Wish more people had felt the same, because the world population went from less than 3 billion to 7 billion since I was born and we are now experiencing the frightening results of the mass extinctions we humans have caused.
I love how calm and collected you are in expressing the facts and your pov. These are the types of men who will be heroes to their daughters but be villains to their partner's dreams and independence. At the end, they will want their daughter to marry and have children as well. And she will be under the control of another man. This never-ending cycle. They get so insecure if someone choose different path than what deems to be socially needed.
You're not in the wrong or weird for trying to put an end to needless suffering. You did the best you can, and your decision is based on compassion.
Wow I thought that single mothers were the most hated. This world is so strange.
Let's just say this patriarchal society has always been hostile towards women and the saddest thing is there are women who shame women for it
Sadly, regardless of what it may be, some people will find a reason to hate almost anything. 😕
they hate BOTH childfree and single moms! LOL! make it make sense! guess they'll just have to resort to dating other dudes!
@@renek2913 women are each other’s worst enemies whereas men always stick together. Shame really.
@Lisa Rob that's so ridiculous! ignore the nonsense. Good for you for not choosing to be apart of the struggle life! You should be proud you are able to give yourself and your daughter a healthy upbringing and life. they are just haters and resentful of their own poor decisions.
1:50 soooo on point! Child free women aren’t threatened by whether they are married or not and this threatens men because it’s literally the last carrot that they can dangle. It’s the last thing that they actually have control over so when a woman dosent require it nor have the desire to have children. It’s seen as a threat.😂
It's far worse to be having kids when you really don't want them, the kids lose out on that deal. Not everyone should be a parent. If kids aren't the center of your universe, then don't have them, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some of the most abrasive "you must have kids" fanatics are likely miserable with their own life, stuck with their kids, and now despise anyone that still has an independent life that they secretly wish they could have.
That would be such a horrible realization too because there is no backing out at that point. Children belong in the homes of those who have the means to care for them financially, physically, and mentally. Too many of us out there are the product of having horrible parents and are now having to spend so much time healing ourselves instead because our parents couldn’t be there for us how we needed. I can totally see that! Jealousy is very apparent and often comes through the form of hate!
I would rather be alone for the rest of my life and rot than to ever date a man with children. Not happenin' captain.
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No, you will not rot by staying away from men, you will bloom and blossom. Trust me, I have seen all men in my family suck the life out of their wives and leave them empty, drained, hollowed out shells.
Yep I agree. I'm not interested in man with children unless they have fur and a tail. The children I mean, not the man🤣
Just reveals their subconscious vision of how women should be controlled
And they do it acting all tough behind a black screen.
Nearly every childfree single by choice woman I have seen has been absolutely physically stunning.
I'm asexual, single and childfree (I also go to Law School in a great university and have great plans for my career)! I'm especially receive a lot of hate from guys because I don't date and I'm conventionally attractive. I am also fit and exercise a lot because it helps with my anxiety! I am 22, a virgin and just recently understood my own sexuality. I used to think I was straight, because I'd have sex*al fantasies, and bought my first toys at 19 and have enjoyed them a lot. But I didn't enjoy kissing and people touching me. People in my hometown still think I'm a lesbian (a lot of family members too)🤣🤣🤣. I've experimented and didn't enjoy kissing girls either. I've also had romantic fantasies with characters of my favorite TV shows. But IRL, I found out I am not interested in romance either and have broken a few hearts, not because I meant to, but because I would buy into the crap hollywood sold about romance, but I'd start feeling suffocated and didn't enjoy the physical contact at all! I also have a big family (lots of cousins who are as close as simblings to me) ,a brother, who gave me a niece who is in her late teens and a childless sister (I say childless because she does want children, but is close to her mid-thirties now, and while being beautiful, and she has bipolar disorder and Boderline Personality Disorder, depression, anxiety and who knows what else - so she had trouble keeping a boyfriend who can deal with someone with all her issues). I feel bad for her, because she constantly complains about having no children.
So, I live with my parents because it's cheaper, while also working a part time job that lets me have enough time for Law School and for leisure activities! I love my life so much since I've come to terms with my asexuality! I also have an aunt who is childless (never managed to conceive) and single (not because she couldn't find men interested in marrying her, but she was always still in love with her first boyfriend and chose after him for a loooong time)! Anyway I've always known I'b be the one to take care of her when she's older, and I still intend to do so, I think I'll put her in a nice retirement home and visit her often, check to see she isn't being abused, etc!
You are asexual for sure...probably aegosexual.
I don’t understand how it upsets people. It doesn’t affect their lives in anyway, just seems like projecting to me. 😂
Data shows men are having less sex than ever. The power freedom, education and birth control made women able to choose to avoid men that are assholes, and well, apparently a LOT of men are stinky deadbeat, broke assholes.
I agree. Projection at it's finest - they have to act like they're convincing us meanwhile it's more like they're trying to convince themselves. There are so many things each and every one of us don't agree on or like but it's a waste of time to get consumed in it.
It affects them.
More and more women become stronger and have better self esteem.
And they hate it because they need somebody they percieve as inferior.
@@CordeliaWagner true
It does. They are forced to reflect their own poor life decisions and don't like the crippling feeling and thought that childfree people thrive more in life. So they try to damage and sabotage them. Us. Who did everything to create a safe place. They lack the capacity to do the same. Really weak and poor souls.
Child free straight women are unicorns. I have never understood the desire to breed, they call me a narcissist for not wanting or liking children. I think the need to send a copies of yourself to annoy future generations is far more narcissistic than my desire to have an enjoyable, quiet, financially secured adult life with the freedom to enjoy everything I work my ass off for.
@@gregdenys7162 Psycho
i heard childfree men are even more uncommon. i'm a unicorn apparently
@darrenm.7980 I know a lot of other straight men after a child free marriage, but a large portion of the women I know that want a child free marriage are not interested in men.
There are way too many people and most are terrible. I don’t like humans, as a whole, enough to want to make one. Being child free seems to be the smart and responsible choice
Exactly!
My mom stayed in a marriage with an abusive alcoholic because she was sure she couldn't raise me and my brother on her own. I refuse to get into that pickle: I'm proudly childfree and stay away from insecure toxic men like my father.
I had a similar childhood but with 3 younger siblings :/
Get your education/ vocation and get a job which will allow you to provide for yourself!
"The hand that feeds you can also starve you"!
You said it girl! Childfree women are admired and despised at the same time. Men are so fixated on breeding. They don't like not having control and the ability to breed.
Because in their puerile delusions they believe they will gain immortality through procreation. They are so ridiculous, they don’t realise that within 100 years of their death at most no person will be left who knew them or remembered them. I have no idea who my great grandparents were, I don’t even know their names. They might as well have never existed.
Seeing mothers struggle and getting Baches left and right for things that are done TO them by men, society and simply bad luck. A Single mother is an easy target to bash. Not the man who failed her.
That's always so hard to see! If you're a mom, you don't mom hard enough or do things the wrong way and you're a single mom, you didn't do enough and are hurting your child's livelihood. Meanwhile, we know and see from observation, that the women are almost always the ones putting in the most effort, time, and labour compared to their male counterparts who get off scotch free.
@@diaryofthechildfree You tell me about it. This year my coworker had a baby and she visited to show the little angel of (also had to make some copied to provide our boss, so she got maternity leave) and her husband was with her. She wasnt even able to leave him with their daughter for 5 minuts. he was useless. Wasnt even willig to clean her face and pick her up to cuddle. I was an asshole and laughed and told her she is a single mother. She was furious and he too, but later i heard that she saw that its true. I feel so sorry for her now.
Ye as guy i see majority of men as nasty, egocentric and narcissist
@@KompassOhneNadel smh
I always thought it was strange how some of the ones that criticize those who don't want kids will say they're selfish, immature, insufferable, terrible, etc. So if they think that someone is that terrible, why would they want them to be a parent, ESPECIALLY when they don't even want kids to begin with? It's really strange
I don't know what kind of men you have came across but men that I know love women without kids. Women without kids are more spontaneous and more financially secure As a man that is a blessing
The men in many of my comments haha!
I just want to know what's up with the "happy and fulfilled" mothers who hate on childfree women lol
Envy and projection
Some men want kids, some men don't.
Some women want kids, some women don't.
I personally am indifferent.
i'm 71. was married for 40 years and we chose to be childfree. no regrets.
I never realized this. For example, I had a colleague who didn't want children, and he waited until he was well into middle age so that he could marry a post-menopausal woman (which he did). I've never had a real desire for children, and if asked I answered "0 to 1".
I am a man and I absolutely 1000% LOVE LOVE LOVE childfree women! Always have and always will
I love child free women. They are a godsend!
I was born without my consent!!
oh grow up
They feel intimidated by women who don’t need them perhaps
There are still many women who actually want to have children, so why don't these haters of childfree women just leave the childfree women alone, and rather build relationships with women who want children? My guess is that women who want children are more careful with choosing the potential father, and these haters have to put more effort in treating women right...
This is a very good observation and honestly I can see this being true! I read an article earlier this year that discussed the idea that the reason we see men like this get so fired up about women not having children or let alone choosing them as partners is because they just see getting married, helping provide income (even though both spouses generally work these days) and creating children as the most effort that could be provided. Meanwhile, so many women out there, want more than that. They want an actual relationship with a genuine connection and less of a controlled borderline business contract. Specifically, with women who don't want children, they would have to work essentially harder because marriage and children isn't really the bargaining chip anymore.
@@diaryofthechildfree Yes, that article makes a lot of sense, humans mainly want emotional and spiritual connection with their partners, and that takes work to cultivate that. I also think that some of these haters were brainwashed into believing that women are biologically programmed to want to have children, and that they are just playing with the children all day long, and that it's an easy job which they logically have to enjoy :D And at the same time some of these haters were also brainwashed to believe that they are weak men if they become stay at home dads, and their wives the one's who generate the income for the family. When I tried to explain to a traditional man that women who devote their lives to only raising children and taking care of the house and trying to satisfy their husbands are risking a lot, as one day their husband can turn into an abuser, and then the woman is basically trapped. He told me that women need to pick a good man :D I then replied that the husband could die, and that without a solid career it could be challenging for the woman to financially manage, and he said, that mothers always find a way :D At that point I knew there was no point in further discussing. But I would bet anything that men would not enjoy being at the mercy of their partner and being potentially trapped in a abusive household, they would not trade :D
I would love to have a childfree wife in the future, the men who hate childfree women probably want to have kids themselves. It isnt selfish to be childfree, at least we thought twice about our decision to opt out of parenthood
Men want women locked down. With a child there are limitations immediately put upon you as a parent. The male just keeps dancing along, generally with no physical or sometimes financial obligations. She is stuck. No “life” 4 her.
I thought lots of men fear being trapped in a domestic rut with kids? Some want them for sure, but some want their freedom
Camps? I haven’t heard this one. Some men are saying CF women should be in camps?
Yes. 😳 Maybe not to everyone, but it’s a comment I’ve received before.
@@diaryofthechildfree that’s crazy! Tell me you’re an insecure man without telling me.
Seems dystopian to me
Funniest thing I’ve read in a very long time. These men need to be castrated as they’re too stupid to breed.
Oh yeah. I’ve heard podcasts of men advocating for the mass genocide of women over 15. The Republicans are currently trying to end no fault divorce and there are also men out there advocating for women to be sold into sexual slavery to service the incels. A good amount of men HATE that we have independence and we need to stay very vigilant. There have been societies in the past in which women had the rights we have today and they were revoked. We cannot afford to think that these males are not gonna get frustrated enough to try to take our freedom away again. I’ve also seen comments online of men saying things like this. Shit like “we should just take their rights away again.” And don’t even get me started on the femicide rates in the black community. If white women knew how patriarchal and violent black males are you would be much more aware of how real this threat is. Black men are killing black women every four hours and it’s usually because of a woman trying to break up with him. I am a black lesbian and I’ve had to physically fight males several times in the last few years for refusing to have sex with them. I don’t ever leave my house without weapons anymore. I’ve also had issues with male store workers giving me bad service or refusing to sell to me at all because I won’t flirt with them. Where I live there is a large influx of men from the Middle East and African countries who are used to women playing docile and flirty with them all day and have the nerve to come to OUR country and expect women who are free to behave the same way. All it would take is for this mentality to become dominant in American men and we would have a HUGE safety problem on our hands. If I wasn’t extra vigilant and carried weapons I guarantee i would’ve be killed or graped by now. I say this as a warning to women who live more sheltered lives. You have no idea how much some of the men you walk by everyday on your way to work would kidnap and grape you if there were no witnesses and the threat of the police to stop them. We need to fight back against this rise of misogynistic attitudes in males and we need to fight back HARD because our liberty is in serious danger. And it needs to start with us educating women. We can’t allow these podcasts to brainwash younger women. Younger girls are too removed from the reality of what our grandmothers went through and they are notoriously unprepared for the reality of being a truly independent woman. When I noticed men refusing to commerce with me I immediately began getting into male dominated fields to learn some of these skills for myself. Men have wayyyyy too much of a monopoly on the trades that are necessary for the survival of this current society. And that’s another thing I’ve heard them threaten is to stop taking single female clients in these fields. Literally refusing to take plumbing or mechanical jobs from single women.
Show me an animal and I'm happy . Show me a baby and I go into convulsions .
Pretty much! 😂
I wanted to give you a thousand thumbs up, but TH-cam won't let me. : )
Same here. Babies are so boring.
@@mmt123mimi3and so loud and require all your attention, patience, money. No thanks
I go crazy for kitties lol but babies yeah idk I’ll hold one for a few mins. It’s fun to hold them when they’re tiny then give them to their mom when they start fussing 😂
I just love the younger Generation! y'all keep it up!
Thank you so much! 🥹
Some females try to pressure CF women into rethinking their position but don't let them! Middle finger to then too!
Very not understandable for people who are peaceful
Also, there are already so many women out there all over the world who love children and want to bring them etc why aren't they happy with those? I hate anyone who forces their opinion, lifestyle, emotion, thought whatever it is on someone who clearly doesn't need them and didn't ask for any and they should just look at those that are already like them and leave those different alone! I really don't like such people, they're very much like those religious that feel entitled to convert the whole humans in this world to their religion, just very weird and strange when they can just stay within their group doing what they want, just leave others by themselves, that's why education on such matters the most more than any math class.
I am a single guy who never wanted kids. People should leave us alone on that score. The human race is NOT going to die out. There will ALWAYS be enough drunk/high irresponsible people breeding kids whether they should be parents or not.
And passing on their trauma to them
Those men are bitter and will spend their lives bitter and alone
I don't see many child free influencers talking on this nonsense. Thanks for addressing.
I'm 44 Years old I'm childfree by choice and single. If that means I'm an abomination then I guess I'm because at least this abomination have a peace of mind and can enjoy life. So whatever criticism society throws at me I'll accepted for the cost because nobody is not going to stand in the way of my happiness and the way how I feel. Period point blank
Amen!!! I'm 56, single and childfree myself, and I get the same hateful and nasty comments and other bullshit thrown at me as well!!! You're not alone in this, so stay strong in your beliefs and your single and childfree life!!!
Sixty here. Happily kid free. Endured my share if remarks, judgment, and condescending assurances that Id change my mind when I meet the right guy. Met him. No kids either and no regrets.
Add me to the "abomination" category! 64 yr-old!
I don't hate anyone, I don't judge women for being child free, I'm an older man, never been married, no children, long term single, i never wanted or saw myself as making a good husband or parent, it's down to choice rather than what society expects, we only have one life, we have to live it the best way we see fit, I have been told that I have no purpose, that's the opinion of those who judge me, I don't deny them their opinions, I was disowned by one side of my family many years ago, if they hadn't disowned me when they did, they would have done by now because of my status and my not meeting societies expectations, we are all individual, we make our own choices, we may regret them, we might not regret them
Only those with strong stable families and community should have kids. I’m not the Antichrist I choose decency above anything.
A strong stable family and community can make all the difference - too many out there don't get to receive that and trauma can be passed down through generations.
Correct
41 year old man here who doesn't have any kids and....never married. I think it's great that women and men decide to be childfree. You take a look at cost of living, inflation, how financially one is better off in the long run to not have children, how people are more educated across the US but not doing well compared to people in the 1950s/60s financially. Add that when you get home from your job you have the ability to do whatever you want to do and or the weekends, and also factoring the environment as well which is also going to cause problems in the long run.
I applaud women and men for going this route.
Oddly enough, I teach high school but don't have kids.
I was not aware of that. I personally love childfree women as a man.
I'm sure in retrospect, it's a small demographic, but they all seem to to linger, especially on TH-cam. 😂
As a selfish immature big boss career woman myself I totally get what you're saying. You go queen.
I'm 4B. So what men thinks, can NOT touch me at all.
No not all men are like that, educated liberal men like me believe its more of a personal choice and something that shouldn't be enforced on the contrary i really appreciate the person male or female for being childfree, overpopulation is a scourge that is killing our planet.
And thankfully so! Sadly, it's the voices of hate that shout the loudest. 🙃 Overpopulation is going to become a real bish soon unless nature takes us out first.
It’s so funny what men have to say about childfree women - when a MAJORITY of MEN leave when women are pregnant and can’t handle being a parent 🙈🙈 NO sense. I’m proud of my choices, I don’t want to be tied down.
Of course! 🙄 They love to preach but never listen to their own words and often run from the consequences.
after abusive childhood I personally had this conversation with my mom:
" mom I am so sorry my birth put you through so much pain and suffering "
mom: " you have nothing to be sorry for. You are my daughter and I love you "
after pedofile dad I have 0 desire to start family or marry. I see it disgusting and burden to me.
I keep going at the gym to get jacked and focus on my own goals now
sure! call me selfish if you like! I am glad I never had to go through
that shit and end up be traumatized again. I also dont want to take risk
to pass on my trauma to new generation so yes I am the grand finale :"D
Instead of procreating I choose to help my sibling with their kids:
cost of living rising and they struggle already. I am alright tho so
been helping her financially whenever I can AND will help my mother when she get older.
Also considered maybe to start funding child/children in Africa so they can
get education and have better life.. once I get my life together from
all the shit happened.
Smarter to help already existing people!
These men are not business savvy in the slightest. Kids are financial liabilities. If you want to make a profit, you need to reduce your expenses, not add even more. DINK lifestyle is actually quite financially responsible. Also, if a kid is just going to be treated as a problem that everyone gets mad at or does not care about, then why were they even born in the first place? As a male myself, men who hate childfree women will earn my ire for their lack of logic and lack of consideration that leaving women to be single mothers suggests the man did not do research on whether or not being a parent was desirable. Seriously, a woman cannot get pregnant without the involvement of a man in some way, shape, or form.
....:-D :-D :-D :-D :-] :-}.....
For me at lest, children are in the category of "baggage." I would have married the love of my life, except for her four kids. I was not ready to take on that burden. When a woman tells me she has no kids, I usually take a deep breath borne of relief.
I never understood WHY men want to be with a woman that has like 5 kids and the REAL father is absent.
It beats me! But I suppose they could genuinely love the person enough to consider the thought…other than that, no idea!
You ROCK girly!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
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I’m a straight dude but I’ve always hated children, I get a fight or flight reaction around babies and I think they’re the ugliest things to ever exist, and besides my house is NOT child friendly what with all the venomous arachnids I keep as pets
We don’t hate babies
We choose to focus on our selves
God
Who told you we hate babies
Childfree Women ?? 🧐
That’s a Green Flag !!
I Dnt get it 🤷🏾♂️✌🏾
Thankfully for all the people against being childfree there are many who see it as a green flag! 🙌💛
Because they think that we are products, and you can't have valuable product wasting away on the shelf.
They are simply mad they can’t get laid. But if they made the effort to learn how to be a better lover, they might find a little success.
Every man that I know LOVES childfree women
But what do they interfere with? They are the only selfish ones because it's not they who bear the child, it is the woman who suffers for it! Peace to those who refuse this suffering! 🙏
This be the verse by Philip Larkin
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself
@Diary Of The Childfree
I'm Keanna, 28 and childFREEEE but that comes with my own yet extremely frustration on people, both women and guys who pester the hell out of me for choosing NOT to have a kid. I personally take it as a laugh as I find their pestering as a jealousy towards my freedom and quiet time that I have so the more I get pestered to HAVE a baby, the more I actually pull away towards having one. I'm not gonna surrender under the pressure of others!
I personally have all the skills to have a baby. Being born in the 90s myself, I have a clear understanding on how the world has become throughout the years. I was brought up with siblings and a large family, going through my own dark times due to certain reasons, but as long as I can remember, I've always said that I'll never have a baby. Not just because of health reasons but I just know the REAL struggles and what really goes into having a baby. But that being said, many women belittle ones who don't have a baby, as I'm the selfish one. NO! I just know it's not all rainbows and the joys of baby showers and gender reveals. It's AFTER the birth, that's when the real fun begins. Still, I'm not going to throw my life away just because others put me down or try to make it seem like nothing will go wrong and evvvverything will be fine with rainbows 'n cupcakes.
I desperately want to mother a kitten. I find them cuter than human babies. If anyone thinks that's weird, I don't blame them. I've always had a thing for cats, and think it will be much easier to raise and also will have a very small carbon footprint. Also, I absolutely love and NEED my downtime, lots and lots of downtime.
Same!!💯💯💯
Agreed!
I'm a childfree man who prefers dating childfree women. Being childfree and having a partner who is childfree allows you to focus on each other and enjoy experiencing life together.
All my life I felt like the "outsider" for not having children. I'm SOOOOOOOO glad I stuck to my guns bc I'm happier than I've ever been... and I'm at PEACE!! 🙌🏾💆🏾♀🙌🏾 ... 😂
....it's obvious that the "select few" and or the "state" will have it easier to totally, ruthlessly, rule over the "diminishing, free from everything and everyone, many".... :-D :-]
Do you explain more?, please
Good one!
Thanks for listening! 💛