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Sour grapes- they wish they had made the choice to be childfree (both men and women). But for a multitude of reasons, they had children and deeply regret it... so many people I've met would not have had children if they could do it all over....

Lets face it parents are full of regret and they hold resentment

I have a child and support the child free. Having a kid is no joke! Heck half of parents are pretty awful 😞. Nobody else gets a vote! Even us one and done sometimes hear it but I tell people some equivalent of GFY 😂

It’s jealousy on their part. Most parents are envious of my freedom since I’m childfree, pet free, and man free at 30.

Spot on

I'm 35. I've always known I didn't want children. Literally since I was a kid. I've moved 24 times . I've thrived in my own instability and somewhat nomadic . I love not having kids. I will continue travelling the country and working at resorts . Who knows ? The world is not the same place as when I grew up - as a parent , I would be living in FEAR. That's no way to live . I also foster animals and I'd be open to fostering a kid or two when I'm settled and own a house . Otherwise , I'm very content being childfree .😅

For a lot of people, life is a competition. Especially those "I need to achieve xyz by xyz age" types. They think marriage and children are the ultimate goal and prize, only to wake up and see that the actual goal and prize is to have some level of contentment, peace and happiness in life. Now they see that childfree people actually have and maintain this level of peace and happiness (by staying childfree) and they feel that they have somehow "lost" this imagined competition of who has it best and who is happiest. It's usually those parents who can't bear to not have the "superior" life that hate on childfree people.

I think there's something to the fact that the childfree have the option to change that reality at any point in time and become a parent. But, those with children do not really have the option to change that reality and become childfree at any point in time. It's a kind of freedom that is irreparably lost once you make that choice to have children, and then you can never go back. And I think those with children absolutely resent that freedom that the childfree have.

Have a punch up then become their friend, nothing like a shared traumatic experience to bond

This video described my experience pretty well. Nothing against having a family, I just have different goals in life.

If I had children not realizing it was a choice I would be maddddd

I can't help but wonder how many boomers who want grandchildren did absolutely nothing to help their adult children out when they were just starting out. Starting adult life with massive student loan debt, high housing costs and a bad job market, especially when boomer parents might be sitting on good amounts of money but have no desire to help doesn't compute. Imagine hearing from your boomer parents that you don't appreciate hard work when you work 80 hours a week or more.

It’s because people take ideas, morphe into their personality. When this happens and you tell them they are wrong about their ideas, they take it as a personal attack against them instead of detaching from the idea & having an open discussion on the topic to not get offended over. Hence why it’s rather difficult in modern times to talk calmly about politics, money, religion, and sexuality.

This was an amazing video essay

I am a mom and the people closest to me chose to be childfree. We all respect and understand that we have different reasons for our choices and know anlot of thought goes into those choices. I don't actually see why it is anyone's business if you are having babies or not.

I'm child free and LOVE IT

Years ago, i was talking with my grandmother about how i didn't want kids, and she said, "What makes you so special? Why do you think you should get to get out of it?" Although she loved her kids and although she would deny it, there was some real resentment showing through there. When i did actually end up on the nest, one great thing about it in her opinion was that now i had to forget about college. She would never admit to being a bitter, jealous woman, but she definitely was, and i think that's also at the heart of these parents who give grief to the childfree.

I love children. I work with children for a living. I love my niece and nephews and all of the children in my family. But for many reasons, not the least of which is an inability to conceive, my wife and I decided not to have children. It is not out of disdain for people who have kids or for kids in general. It is simply a choice that makes the most sense regarding our personal life circumstances. For this reason, I’m not going to spend my whole life pining for what could have been or feeling less than for failing to reproduce. I’m going to strive to live a life as rich and full as possible as a childless person, while also respecting the life and choices of those with children. This shouldn’t be such a radical idea.

I'm a boomer grandmother. I firmly believe people should have children only if those children are truly wanted. All children deserve that. I was happy to see the childfree trend. All children should be wanted and loved, not a societal demand! I told my children to only have children if they want them, and never assumed I had the right to be a grandparent. I wanted to have children, but it is a personal choice.

I love your videos. You’re honestly so inspirational. Parents realize too late that there are other happy paths in life. The one good thing to come from the internet is that young people can share new ideas and challenge the current status quo!

I was child free for 10 years and now I'm a new mom in my 30s , I feel incredibly lied to and have deep seated resentment and anger but love my son .. not only child free people tell me I chose this but other parents ( mostly fathers and older gen mothers ) , however childfree people give me the most grief . Despite I didn't choose the miserable pregnancy' and postpartum depression, I didn't choose my family gaslighting and abusing me , I didn't choose to be jobless or homeless, I didn't choose fighting my own trauma and reparenting myself so I won't pass generational abuse, i didnt choose to have my body completely destroyed - i have to have surgery to get rid of it , that doesn't include the lifelong surgery and injuries that saved my life and my childs .. I chose to be a mom and it's difficult and a major change - I don't want my child to ever feel he is unwanted despite him being a little twit at times . I support child free woman

Yes. Some leftovers DO taste better the next day. Pizza not so much. But some dishes like casseroles, very much so❤

Most of my friends are child free. We just kind of naturally gravitated towards each other over time.

You two look great.

It’s very simple. People who have children know it’s a sacrifice, one they make for the next generation, and they also know that people who didn’t make that sacrifice will still rely on the children of people who did in their old age.

I'm mom, but I completely understad that someone can chose life without having child. Life is a chain of choices. Live without child isn't worse that choice of having child. Btw I love my son and can't imagive life without him but... In my case antyconception doesn't worked. I was one of those who wanted to be childless maybe that is why I have such a pov of this matter.

Oh my God, I'm child free by choice and I don't like kids generally, but calling parents "breeders" is gross, mean spirited, bully behavior, and also marks us as a stereotype as anti natalists. Just ew.... The owner of this channel @Diaryofthechildfree should delete these abhorant comments. We can talk about this stuff, and make our own choices, without being total A-holes

damn this looks boring as sh/t, I thought you childless couples would be dropping acid and listening to old vinyl

My mother use to tell me Tommy you're an asshole never have children.I had children turns out my mother was right my children are assholes a emotional and financial sink hole.Hey it's not that hard being an asshole when both your parents are assholes.

I think a lot of women get married young and the next step is to have kids. Once you have a child you can't undo it. You are bound for life. You miss out on so many things while you are young (20's). I'm 75 and child free by choice. I've seen so many friends get married and have kids right out of high school. They will never admit they made a mistake. My opinion is to wait til 30s to marry and have kids if you must. That time after h s is a time to discover yourself. Go to college, find a job, have fun and then settle down. This rush to marry and have kids doesn't serve anyone.

I was one and done. My husband having affairs when I was pregnent after telling me right before I got pregnant that he was sure he was happy and couldnt wait to be a dad and saying hed be there for me and the child. I didnt find out about the affairs until 2 weeks after giving birth. 15 years later and Ive raised my son without one dime in child support. Ive bad some great times with my boy and he used to seem so happy in apite of the fact that hes very noticeably autistic. Now that hes a teen hes really angry and rude to me. I think hes struggling with how his autism makes him so different. Idk if he will be able to work, ever get a date, or drive. I feel like the good times are over and there is nothing to look forward to. Its hard to think I have brought him here and he may feel life long loneliness and feel lost and I cant even die in peace because I may not ever see hes able to take care of himself. The world is cruel. I am happy for child free ladies

How about looking at this from the other end. As someone who was an accident in a long line of accidents to people who not only didnt want me, but never should have been parents. This is a great video on people not wanting children but there is a lot of people who are convinced that they are required to be parents but shouldnt be. Education and society shouldnt be teaching our children they need to grow up to be parents. Religion plays a huge part in this. Each one has the goal of outbreeding the other. We need to teach our children to keep an open mind about reproducing. Lots and lots and lots of sex education and the mechanics of childbirth and child raising. My parents were complete idiots. They were raised to be idiots. They were told lots of bad information about reproduction on purpose so they would have lots of kids. And yes they were very, very very religious. And toxic parents. A terrible combination that I will pay for the rest of my life. Think about the children. Do you really want to raise idiots like yourself?

I plan on being one and done 10 years from now but I'm already expecting the influx of "oh your kid might be lonely" when they have no idea how traumatic pregnancy can be. If I feel inclined there's always adoption or fostering. I think these pro natal people are weirdos and misery loves company that's why they're so pressed.

59, never married, child free high school teacher. Still no regrets.

As a parent I tell people two things either you haven’t left the right one yet for those that basic off of a bad relationship or that good for them to know what they want in life. We are all trying to figure it out.

What city do you live in? Because in Seattle, this rhetoric is outdated and completely out of touch. It’s completely acceptable here amongst people your age and younger to want to be childfree.

To me it's plain and simple: they secretly envy the life of childfree people and probably regret and hate their current life as a parent. It doesn't make any sense to me that a person who is happy with their choices feel so bothered by other people's choices. Plain and simple: they envy that we (childfree) had the courage to go against the "breeder cult culture".

I get enough of children just being around my niece occasionally. The thought of attempting to raise a child who acts like she does at times is part of the reason that "wanting a child" is an absolute deal breaker for me in a partner no matter where we are in a relationship.

I knew as a child that I didn't want children. By my late 20s, marriage became a no as well. My parents raised me and my siblings to live life based on our own personal ambitions regardless of the "herd." So, I never really bothered to address the critics. I just say, " I chose my way of life, and you chose yours." You don't need to explain or justify. It's no one's business.

I am a parent who wholeheartedly supports the childfree movement, as it gets the word out about the validity of ALL choices and points out the problematic elements of idealizing and worshipping parenthood. I do, however, object to the pejorative labeling of parents as “breeders” (see some of the comments here), as it is purposefully dismissive, hurtful and sows division. Please think: would childfree people appreciate being called “the desiccated?” It’s this kind of language and attitude (and similarly, the cattier videos throwing money and vacations and other things that parents miss out on, in their faces) that does the movement no favors and makes some childfree folks come off as mean and hateful. It would be better if we could all respect each other and our individual choices, and be mindful of how we treat each other while increasing awareneas.

Children deserve to be brought into the world because they’re truly wanted. When you’re having children because you have to then it’s admitting that you don’t love your children. “I had you simply because I had to as a woman “ vs “I had you because I loved you and I wanted to experience the joy you bring into the world” Which phrase do you think is abhorrent and damaging? I don’t have the capacity to love a child right now as my own much like I’m allowed to be single because I don’t have the mental space to love another adult human. Children and all humans deserve to be in relationships where the reason they’re there is because the person that wanted them simply wanted to love and not “fill some duty/ have a purpose/ take care of me when I’m in the nursing home” Children and all humans are not things to be used ! They are beings worthy of love and they don’t deserve to be forced into relationships with a person that’s not ready to love them.

I’m a parent and fully support you all!! I loved not having kids, it was so fun and free

Actually the biggest life choice that others are jealous of and, thus, condemn is marriage. I realize statistically childfree people are happier, but statistically the happiest women are those who don't get married.

I thought the people in my life were accepting of it being a choice, until they had children. Now they don't seem to have any empathy for others. When you're unwell they don't show much concern, instead it's seen as an inconvenience and you're treated with distrust. I can't have bad days because they have it worse. I can't have good days either because they don't get that anymore. Days that are special to me are made to be all about them (including my wedding day 😞.) I also suspect the kids are being used to control others, through guilt and withdrawing them when you disagree on things. The way I've been treated has made me feel isolated and self conscious for having a life that looks different. I'm not sure if they had kids for the wrong reasons or if they're unhappy with their choice. Before having kids they use to tell me that they didn't understand parents that complained about it, but it wasn't long until they started doing the same. In a way I think I had a better understanding as I don't think parents should have to pretend to love every moment of it. It's ok for them to have an outlet so long as it doesn't affect their children or get taken out on people that don't have them.

Sadly there're still people who are so against of child free people like their life depends on🙄

Let's all remember that people are responsible for picking their own partners and the high divorce rates indicates many of us do a piss poor job of that. Then add kids to that situation. Many people get divorced after having kids.

I have seen that having kids ruined my brothers and some cousins relationships with their spouses. Especially my middle brother…. Who is now divorced. Everyone looks tired, miserable and BROKE!!! I LOVE all of my nieces and nephews and I see them as my own kids….. BUT MY GOD am I so incredibly happy and at peace knowing I don’t have that major responsibility! I’m selfish with my time and that’s ok!

Antinatalists are like atheists; always broadcasting their belief systems when nobody asked, and acting like victims for having to "justify themselves" at every turn. Yawn. It's hard to imagine in a culture where birth rates are so low and expected to go even lower, that people who don't want kids are being persecuted all the time. Fuck outta here. by the way this video was recommended to me even though I never watch this kind of content. Before anyone says it...

This is very similar to society hatred of child free single women 30 and over. I don't get it with this at all, they aren't harming anyone else, just living their lives. Also I've always said "Better to be single alone then in a Domestic Voilence 😡 relationship at all" and "Better to he childfree then a single struggling mum".

I think jealousy is big issue and have seen it with my coworkers and friends with children. It’s the comments they make to me about what I am able to do and places I visit. It’s a reminder to them of what they are missing out but they never once asked me my personal reasons to be child free. Why can’t we have an open discussion about it?? Thank you again for your channel!!