Why You Can NEVER be Pretty in JAPAN
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ม.ค. 2024
- I asked people in the streets of Tokyo, why Japanese beauty standards are toxic?
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The first girl is so cute omggg, so positive it makes her shine
Ikr!!! I wish her happiness and prosperity
Yessss
too bad she is promoting a body that will damage the health of others im glad she's happy though
I love that the second lady is fulfilling the need for black haircare products in Japan. Definitely needed! Would you be able to share people's store links? I dont have use for her products but i know people who do.
I love the first two!
Her hair product is called Jigeecurls. The website is in the description, but I think it only ships in Japan at the moment.
It's good to know if I ever have to travel to Japan for work and can't get my hair in order.
2:18 Kurumi-chan's laughter is so contagious and she's so adorable! 💖
Majin Buu??
@@OctavianAsix lmao
The first girl he interviewed is radiating ❤❤❤ I love her energy!!! She is so beautiful!!!
All of them are of course lol
The more I hear about beauty standards in each country, the more I realize how horrible they are everywhere. 😫 At the end of the day, you have to learn to love and embrace you--all of you--as you are. I used to define my worth by how other men saw me; I don't do that anymore. I love me, and that's enough.
Hello and good day, a standard is a standard, it would be no different than having a financial standard, or a height, education standards. Now the more detailed you are with said standards the more you narrow your options/ fishing hole, but that's called free will.
They're horrible, and pointless. Everyone has such different standards, so why try to adhere to just one?
@@GenerationNextNextNext unfortunately for right now that's how the world works. If there's a car you want, or an apartment complex, maybe even a restaurant you would like to eat at those ie I've mentioned above has standards/ rules/ requirements you must meet in order to enjoy what those things have to ofter.
@@GenerationNextNextNext think about for yourself if your in a relationship your partner had to meet certain requirements / standards and meet certain expectations in order to be with you.
@@Nightcall411 Beauty standards are the least practical reason to be in a relationship. Maybe that's why Japan (and most of East Asia) is experiencing a birth rate crisis. Beauty doesn't guarantee a strong and healthy family. Beauty fades with age. What is the point in having that as a requirement? NONE. Many beauty standards don't even align with HEALTH, like having a "peach butt". What does that have to do with health? What does a small face have to do with health? None of it is important. Until these people understand how wasteful and childish those standards are, they will never build lasting and mature relationships.
I want to give all these ladies a hug. They're all genuine, and the last woman to speak--I feel bad that she's been told she's not pretty by Japan's standards. She's beautiful and she needs to have more confidence
I'm japanese male but definitely disagree with those standards. "Chubby" women do care how they look and make so much efforts as well as the others. They are pretty, beautiful and awesome.
I sometimes feel like I'm minority here. Wish there'll be no one called ugly.
Chubby women = fat. Fat = unhealthy. Cant believe we in the west are promoting this.
Its like promoting drinking alcohol. Oh im not a drunken fool, im just having fun. No , no ,no. It is what it is.
Maybe the Japanese are to skinny, wich is also unhealthy. But dont turn it around.
Don't be discouraged. It's like this in every country. The USA has ridiculous beauty standards, too. What's worse about America is it changes every 5 to 7 years.
Damn that called her Majin Bu, I feel bad to have laughed at that lol.
Ohhh I needa look into the products for black hair. It's been a struggle living here for YEARSSS.
Alexis (Japanese-American) is gorgeous
I respect how she doesn't let it phase her. U can't control other ppl's thoughts.
Thanks Jesse for the video! Whatever beauty standards we have, let’s keep healthy gut because it affect overall health and it connects to beauty❤🎉
I really love her confidence and she seems to have a wonderful personality. Bless her!
Great job ladies!! It's very difficult to find quality hair products in Japan for curly hair so drop the second lady's website info please😊
I think it'll be interesting if you can interview someone who "wins" in this (met all the standards) and hear what they think about it.
She will still not believe she is pretty or good enough, trust me.
I once had a student say to me, "Afurika (Africa) people is big" when I worked as an ALT at a junior high school. Loooool 😂😂😂 Meanwhile I was thinking, "Japan people is tiny" 😂😂😂.
Alexis is so pretty 😍
as a japanese guy i agree
@@hailhydra8888
Mochiron lol
I was a fat kid and got bullied for that and that really scared me and was so fixated to my looks that at one point tried to starve myself just to loose weight. Got so depressed that I stopped.
I’m 170 cm and 70 kg and I can’t imagine myself being under 50kg, that sounds unhealthy! I’d rather be happy than fitting a ridiculous standard that no one can fit into.
That first girl made me smile! I appreciate your videos, you seem like a great interviewer!
love that you're promoting a product that is meant to support health rather than the junk food most other YT'ers are sponsored by. *chef kiss*
I haverdone the same Interview with Brazilian women. Its so weird How beauty standards affect women ALL around the world in a bad way.
That's misogyny for you. A timeless classic.
I'm not sure, but in my video you can see that they say that the standards are imposed by the fashion industry and are used by women for women and not for men.@@fjdoucet1465
I watched your video and it was very interesting. I subscribed to your channel.
@@cuculain78 Thank you verymuch!
All of the ladies in this interview were amazing.. I would be friends with all of them if I could .. ❤
These ladies are awesome!
I thought they were all so pretty. It’s so sad that most of us grow up feeling like this regardless where we’re born. I wish we all knew we are enough exactly as we are.
1:52 - lol, "puni-puni"😮🤣🤣
I always admire Jesse’s bravery at leaving the comment section open on these types of videos, because you know it’s about to pop-off😂
Jesse liked the half US queen I can tell
Everybody on this video were amazing and wonderful people 🔥
Interesting episode brother. Just one thing, what's up with the deafening music overlay towards the end? lmfao, could barely hear them speak. Other than that, keep it up!
All of these women are so beautiful, and it makes me wanna cry that they have ever been told anything the contrary. Thank you for taking the time to let them share their experiences and really listening to what they have to say ❤
Omg first girl is a joy, i feel the same way about myself, like how can you not love yourself? You're you after all!!
Ngl thats one of the things I'm most scared of, once I'll move to Japan
reminds me of when the lady called Conan OBrien fat. like a teddy bear. and poked his stomach !
Aye YO sis is fucking GORGEOUS! And big ups on her hair care products! Help the sista out!
Man good advice.
I'm japanese living in France, in France I wear XS but in Japan I'm fat 😂 😅
OMG! I knew that Japanese people had very specific beauty standards, but I didn't know they were that rude to people who don't match them! Very interesting video, Thanks!
I didn't know you have Shake Shack in Japan! (her drink has the logo)
1:21 she is a keeper ❤
I would love to know a social media handle of the first girl she was so positive and pretty I want to follow her 😊
Kurumi-Chan.. girl where do i even start🥹 never lose your sparks doll Never!!!✨💫
The first lady is a sweet heart ❤
Nice to see the one girl making products for curly hair. Growing up a minority is no cake walk, and I hope she is around good people now.
The beauty standard in Japan seems similar to the rest of the world to me. If you fit those standards its no problem but if you're everyone else you may want to consider something more attainable...
hi jesse, judging by your camera focus i believe you were using lumix
to stop the camera for hunting the focus, try to use manual focus mode instead of auto focus
since when you were in the middle of interview, you were rarely changing the object to focus on
The first lady is so cuteee
Yes there are beauty standards especially for women in every country, but I felt my confidence plummet in Japan. Prior to that, I lived in Singapore, UK & US and never had a problem not wearing make up. In Japan, I did get kawaii or kawaiirashi comments, but also negative ones especially one comparing me to my white friends & how beautiful they are. It was uncomfortable how very average white/ European people were automatically considered beautiful.
Alexis is super pretty.
That laugh when she says "Yeah i'm fat" she is so cute !
I’d be curious to know if anyone knows where Alexis sells her products. I have curly hair and finding products can be tough in Japan
I think it's in the descriptions. I think it's called Jigeecurls.
Really like the last girl ❤
Damn bro, pop off ig
Everybody wants to be slim im Brazil, but I think the beauty standard for women is what we would call "cavalona", which translates to "big female horse" lol. It's pretty much the way the Kardashians used to look, with long thick hair too. The kawaii aesthetic has never been popular here, so women are expected to be very womanly. We can weight more than 50kg without being bullied, but can't really go very far beyond that number, withought it becoming a source of insecurity and social anxiety.
would have been nice if you interviewed a man about male beauty standards (as they are likely very different from western countries due to less japanese people being muscular) or their thoughts on female beauty standards as well
Loving that Koso sponsor, wanna try it myself now.
Kurumi san kawaii marshmallow girl ❤
wow under 98 lbs I would have looked emaciated i was 105 and 5'5 when I was 7 and it was difficult becasue people always thought that I was an teenager acting like a kid when I hit my height of 5'10 when i was 11, I was about 140 lbs and definitely not willowy very different from my mum who was size O-2 when I was a baby and she was 5'10 too. Totally different body shape, she is all legs and I have short legs and a long torso with dense bones (built more like a line backer than a dancer like my brother who were all football players) but I have to admit I have never wanted to be 110 or under as an adult. The first young lady is right you have to love the skin you are in wheher it is thin or big and I appreciate that. Besides Pretty/handsome is personal reaction not everyone looks at people the same way regardless of popular standards. Why fit into any kind of standards just do you and people can either appreicate or get on with their lives or get a life you know. It really irks me when people push people to fit into a particular standard and not allow them to explore their own sense of self.
”触ったら黒くなる”とかまじでそいつ最低。そんなのこっちから友だち拒否。
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Eh???
Off topic but seeing people that look like me speak japanese is triggering to learn how to speak it myself! Very cool language
Being called Anzai sensei as an insult is craaazy 💀😭😭😭
I feel for the second lady 😢😢😢 even my fair skinned classmates used to say that thing to me 😭😭 in school
I feel first impression is very important in Japan 🇯🇵. Hence why, a lot of women look good there. But I think when you add confidence to the mix it enhances your beauty. Don’t forget to add confidence. 🥳🥳🥳
first impression is very important in every country tho.
@@ALLKASDLLS-mg4lu very true I feel Japan 🇯🇵 takes it to a whole nother level. Someone told me they wore sweats there and got funny looks.
callin somebody gundam is crazy lmaooo
みんなも自分らしさを大事にしようね！
A very passive, aggressive way of saying "YOU should lose weight because if you're fat, it's your fault"
The first girl is so positive and cute i love her attitude she's so beautiful to . Being fat doesn't mean that ure not beautiful 😂
there are many types that men like and nowadays men like them Thicc so its no surprise haha
The beauty standards are no more toxic than anywhere else in Asia and the Western world.
Lol ok Holmes
I mean, in the west we promote, advocate, and worship obesity and being fat which is known to have both short and long term negative health effects.
@@astrayagrarian No one promotes it, educate yourself its embarrassing. if anything its the opposite due to social media.
@@yumesakura23 here in America and in the West, the mainstream narrative is “being fat/obese is perfectly ok because body positivity” also “as long as I’m happy and I feel good in my body”
Not sure what reality or universe you’re living in?
@@astrayagrarian Uh, the fact that there are a lot of fat people in the US doesn’t mean that being fat is the the ideal of beauty now? Are you living in bizarro world or something? If that was the case, people everywhere would be going on diets to gain weight and taking weight gain supplements. Instead, weight loss drugs and things like “flat tummy teas” are still super popular.
Like yeah, in the past 10-15 years the most desired kind of body for women has become “thicker” in the US, but people try to achieve said thickness through working out to build muscle in places like their butts and thighs or through procedures like BBLs. Just look at how many fitness influencers are out there in social media and how many followers they have.
There ARE societies in the world that truly prefer for women to be fat, and they go to the same extreme extents to be fat as women elsewhere go to be thin and/or built. In some places in North Africa, teenage girls are straight up force-fed as many calories as a body builder eats during a day by their families to gain weight because they fear they won’t be able to get married if they’re not fat. This is called Leblouh. Feel free to look it up. That’s as damaging as extreme dieting or extreme exercise is and no one in their right mind would promote anything like that.
Instead, the reason you see more fat people now than you’d see during the, I don’t know, 50s or the 60s is because being able to have a proper exercise routine and afford healthy food is something that requires both a lot of free time and a considerable amount of money these days. Unlike during most of the story of humanity, where poor = skinny, nowadays poor people are generally able to feed themselves. The issue is, they’re mostly only able to feed themselves with cheap food, and the unhealthiness of cheap food has increased dramatically during the years. If someone has to work three jobs to get by, their diets are probably going to be comprised mostly of cheap, filling food and they won’t have the time to hit the gym either. You’ve probably noticed that, in the US, people who are very fat tend to be lower class. It’s why you see people in mobility scooters in places like Walmart instead of in high-end stores.
I feel like people tend to largely misunderstand what body positivity is about. Literally no one wants skinny people to suddenly become fat and, if you find someone saying so, they’re either trolling or have a weight gain fetish. Body positivity is, at its core, just people wanting to live their lives without being mistreated for being “ugly”. That’s why it doesn’t only apply to fat people, but people with deformities, skin conditions, just plain traits that aren’t seen as conventionally beautiful (aquiline noses, for example), etc. All they want is to be able to live without being treated as if they’re subhuman. Is a fat person unhealthy? Who knows! Probably yes, because, as I mentioned above, being perfectly healthy is costly nowadays. But the average thin person is probably not perfectly healthy as well for the same reasons. There are lots of people who look outwardly thin but suffer from things like high cholesterol levels, high blood pressure and heart issues. In fact, if a fat person drops weight too quickly due to extreme dieting or an ED, they’ll often end up much unhealthier than they were in the first place, even if they’re skinnier.
But even if someone is unhealthy, they still shouldn’t be bullied. A lot of people are unhealthy because they smoke or drink too much alcohol, but they’re largely left alone. The hate fat people get is because people find them ugly, not because people don’t want them to be unhealthy. “I only treat them like that because they’re unhealthy and I want them to do better” is just an excuse bullies use to feel better about being horrible people. If that wasn’t the case, fat people wouldn’t be treated horribly for doing things like being in public, wanting to wear clothes that fit them or going to the gym. Isn’t that counterintuitive? If you want them to be healthier, then by all means you should encourage them being out and about, exercising and doing so in clothing that allows them to move freely, don’t you?
To sum it up, the fact a lot of people are fat in the US doesn’t reflect the “standard of beauty” and it never did. There were already tons of fat people back in the 90s and the 00s when the Kate Moss body was at its most popular. The thick women that are popular now achieve this look through exercise and plastic surgery, not through getting fat. Body positivity is simply about wanting to be able to do completely normal things without being ridiculed for it. If you want to blame something for the fact women want to be thicker now instead of skinny, blame Instagram.
Please do being lgbtq+ in japan😭😭😭
1:09
Ask koreans which has harsher beauty standards.
The second girl is hot as hell dude
One of the reasons why i stopped dating Japanese guy was me being not Pettit like other Japanese girls.
As a result, i also left Japan and married to a non-Japanese.
I remember only japanese media praised how beautiful she became when Nichole Richie lost tons of weight... In the meantime, North American media was concerned about her for losing that much weight and how unhealthy she looked.
You stopped dating the guy bc you weren't skinny enough?!
He dumped you?
4:30
Being overweight shouldn't be judged or hated and nobody deserves to be treated rudely, but we also must recognize that HEALTH matters first and foremost- and weight is one of the most recognizable symptoms of health. I should know! For the majority of my life, I was between 105-115 lbs at 5'2". Due to certain autoimmune diseases, my health has not only worsened, but my weight. I am now steadily between 145-150- _which is not healthy for my weight, and while my weight gain wasn't the first of hundreds of signs and symptoms, it is most certai my the one that is the highest indicator to those around me that I am in my worst health ever!_ More and more "fat positive/body positive" influencers are dying now than ever before. I could name several.
Fat positive/body positive doesn't exist to tell people not to take care of their health. They are telling people not to be cruel and mean to them just because of it. Their doctors can tell them what weight is best for them. No one should be evil to anyone or discriminate against anyone just because they are "unhealthy". If anything, we should treat unhealthy people with more kindness because they need our support. Would you treat someone with cancer cruelly by bullying them because they're "unhealthy"? No. Yet, people do this to people who are of a certain weight. They want to bully them into submission. What is the point in that? No one gets influenced to gain or lose weight, so bullying doesn't solve anything. I feel that your story is made up and you are commenting just to prove a political point. I'm superbly skinny, but my hemoglobin was at 4! I have chronic anemia and have to have a hysterectomy because I can't carry my uterus. Being too skinny can also come with health risks. This is why we don't look at a person to decide health. We talk to our doctors to decide that.
@@GenerationNextNextNext you did it to yourself
Like the fats
People are just trying to help y'all
But I think it's a silly notion, why try to save people who literally can't do the right thing
Same as telling people to not smoke, pointless
So this is cathy cat's new bf. they make a cute couple.
Where did you find this information out?
If I am getting paid to learn.... yes. It would be easier. Usually I pay to learn.... takes the fun out.
あ、ありがとうございます
These "beauty standars" are nothing more than discrimating; scrutinizing through a large group of people-be it women or men- in a very, considerably biased and dehumanizing system, in order to appease to narrow-minded-ironically even, insecure people and pervesed men- in order to pressure ordinary REAL people-that make up the larger number of population, into trying to pressure then to conform into an image and or idolize a specific image.
This is certainly capitalization as well in every form.
This technique is certainly a serial network of toxicity and it's NOT natural and realistic point of view.
Realize it's impossible to mirror another's image because by the laws of nature and the cosmos-and I'm not religious, just practical and realistic, that we are Indvidual's and are genetically different by right and man's laws crossing into the fundamental of practicality of being a unique genetic individual is perverse and FANTASY.
Why people waisted so much of their life savings to destroy their bodies and faces for..what?
Who are you trying to be, trying to satisfy and in the end where is the true reward?
It's certainly not self-acceptance.
All of this starts from the ground up when we are infants to adults. Trying wondering, why do we think the way we do and. Where did it start, what where we taught?
I love critical thinking and I have an amazing teacher-who is a horseman where what he teaches is so invaluable is to look in the mirror and question not only yourself but your environment and how to humble yourself and think better and research. Be an observer not a follower because you are your own entity, and the masses equals a group of people that follow one way or person. Be your own follower and never stop learning.
I wish we all had a teacher that can teach you to love you and accept your beautiful flaws because it's meant to be there and have a purpose, just as I research the many merits to having color. Amazing.
Only you can make yourself happy whether there is something you don't like about you are not. We are only human and only you should judge and if you change, do it for you. Self-acceptance.
A true teacher who can raise you to love your own beauty then trying to emulate someone else's is well worth following because they are telling you to follow your own star, guiding you NOT controlling you.
I hope we all find that teacher esp. if it turns out to be you. ^.^
We are only human and flaws what makes us strong and want to keep learning. It's fun to learn and you never stop.
There are a lot of important things in this world though, rather than be blinded by appearances.
I always suspected the Japanese weren’t too fond of large rears, but now I finally see it mentioned aloud. It always threw me off how they would draw characters with really large breasts but super flat butts. In America both are valued for the “hourglass” figure
Bro do china.
Who it's worst with Beauty standars? Korea or Japan
Defiantly Korea
Both
Korea =Pretty privilege
Japan= Cute privilege
Korea by a country mile. I don't know if anyone selling plastic surgery packs to become an air hostess in Japan.
USA
Japan literally follows korean beauty standard
BGM TOO LOUD
I like your videos but it's really strange to hear people talk about their bad experiences in as being plus sized with upbeat dance music playing over the top.
How common is black Japanese mix people are they more common then white Japanese mix people
no
他の東アジアに比べて多いと思いますよ
Japanese guys like the gym? I’m what their body building culture is like
Hearing this makes sense of why Japanese women to me always seemed so small
It's probably worse in South-Korea but yeah it's mostly the people who are ruining it for everyone else not the standards. To me all the ladies in this video are beautiful. If only people would put their energy into giving compliments instead of putting others down...
Korean beauty standards are even more toxic IMO
japans beauty standard is korean beauty standard the young girls worship korean stars
the standards aren't toxic, just the attitude of the people toward the standard
Facts!!
It's one and the same if you ask me.
@@mikiohirata9627was thinking the same thing
Without those ”standards” there would hardly be any attitudes, let alone toxic or non-toxic.
The standards are absolutely toxic. Sub 50kg is a child's weight.
Even tho I don't think that anyone should be discrimated against because how much you weight, I do think that the beauty standards "shouldn't change"... With that, I'm saying that the goal should always to be the best version of yourself, which I don't think being overweight is nor extremly skinny. But then again, it's just my opinion!
That's not a beauty standard, that's a health standard. I think people should always strive to be healthy. Beauty fades with age, health is always of value.
2:59 jesse jelly? gay confirmed kekw
The comments section is filled with people denying the reality.
They complain about not being acepted, yet they themselves only moved to rich countries and want men from rich countries. Would they give normal South-East Asi'an men a chance? They expect others to lower their standards for them, but not lower their standards for others.
It look like East Asian people are discovering this world which is a diverse one. Europeans who seem to be the models for many of them are a tiny fraction of it. Please, accept this God-created diversity.
人間の在り方として太っている痩せているに善悪はないと思いますが、健康の観点から周囲の人間には標準的な体型であってほしいと思います。
草 プラスサイズってこと日本にもあるっか
東京しかないよね
It's just their preference tho.
My god... All the western simps are gushing out.
Yea you think these healthy beauty standards are toxic until you realize in America there’s an obesity epidemic in American women and the average weight is 171 lbs (78 kgs). That first woman he interviewed is actually “underweight” by American beauty standards.
American beauty standards still prefer slimmer women, although there is a lot of preference for curves or muscular builds, too. She would still be considered overweight or obese in the US. There is a very vocal and trendy "body positivity movement" that would make you think Americans typically find obese people attractive, but it's really not as typical. The obesity epidemic is mostly due to car-based infrastructure and culture, and our food industry. It's all very dystopian.
@@barubary4477 Tbf when the average American woman chooses to be obese and 171 lbs then it’s safe to assume that the beauty standard is obesity for American women. Saying that it isn’t is like seeing majority of men choose to wear skinny jeans and then make the false assertion that skinny jeans isn’t the correct fashion standard.
@@ebllrd American woman choose to be 171 pounds? Where did you read this?
@@ebllrdA rise in weight and obesity does not make it a beauty standard otherwise Weight gain supplements would be skyrocketing. People take them, but the market is not nearly as big as the diet and weight loss industry, so no it is not a beauty standard.
@ebllrd I don't think most women here want to be overweight, and I don't think most men select intentionally for obese women here. Yes, obese people still get into relationships, but that's because weight and attractiveness aren't everything when it comes to dating, and people will settle for less on appearance if they get enough out of it otherwise, or if they think they can't "do better." IMO, the "beauty standard" is what people aspire to and strive for, or select for when dating.
Why do you do interviews outside every time?
なんでいちいち外でインタビューするの？
外でするべきじゃない理由が有るんですか❓
@@mikiohirata9627
自分の家に呼ぶわけにもいかないし
スタジオ借りるにも金かかるから外なのかな
A lot of places have a policy of not allowing filming and photography inside and sometimes right outside the storefront.
@@mindexpansionpuzzles
なら尚更 外じゃなく室内の方が良いよね
そんなに 「街でゲリラで聞いてます」って設定を大事にしたいのかな
@@DJIdntkwtwict 日本人ですか？
I’m sorry, but we shouldn’t be normalizing obesity or unhealthy lifestyles, or as some like to put it “plus size”
Agreed. You end up having issues down the line being obese.
"Normalizing" is just another way of saying we should be evil to people who are different. It's always the same "types" that say this, too. The spoiled, rich, entitled folks whose parents paid for their university fees, cars, helped signed their homes, and take care of all of their children. If someone is unhealthy, that shouldn't be a license to be evil to them. I'm skinny. But I have chronic anemia and have to have a hysterectomy because my organs are too big for my body. Is that healthy? By looking at me, you wouldn't know this if you think skinny means healthy. Only a doctor can tell you the correct BMI and weight for your health, not some rando on the internet. You people say "I'm only saying this because it's unhealthy" to excuse yourselves for being shitty people. If I noticed someone was sick or unhealthy, the last thing I would be is evil to them. I would be kind and encouraging. IF someone has cancer, do you think we shouldn't "normalize" that, either? You're pathetic. I'm quite sure you are not dating and have no friends with this attitude. I'm turned off already.
So basically as a guy i need to be brad pitt
And if i were a woman i need to look like tomie