@simsxie she is normalizing obesity, for example if i were to walk outside with a top hat on and showing off my top hat I would be normalizing top hats, I'm not hating on her I just think we should promote a healthy society so we can all be prosperous
@@chiefpanda7040but you have to understand that everyone is different genetically. some people have fast metabolism, some have slow metabolism. if eating normally makes you gain more weight than the average person that won’t 100% mean that you’re unhealthy, it’ll just mean that you’re overweight because of your metabolism. this goes the same way when it’s reversed. skinny people may eat like the average person but may still be told to eat more because of how they look. that doesn’t mean that they’re not healthy, it just means that they happen to be underweight due to how their body works. :)
I love that the second lady is fulfilling the need for black haircare products in Japan. Definitely needed! Would you be able to share people's store links? I dont have use for her products but i know people who do.
@@xenaprincess3144"Definitely needed", in this case, isn't by population density, it's the perspective of the person who needs the service. Since there is a lack of options. It's not like there are "zero" ppl w curly hair in Japan.
I have been fat since childhood and being Asian it was horrendous. The name calling and demeaning remarks from family, friends and strangers was very damaging mentally. As an adult thank God I have found to love myself no matter my size. 🥰
I'm japanese male but definitely disagree with those standards. "Chubby" women do care how they look and make so much efforts as well as the others. They are pretty, beautiful and awesome. I sometimes feel like I'm minority here. Wish there'll be no one called ugly.
Chubby women = fat. Fat = unhealthy. Cant believe we in the west are promoting this. Its like promoting drinking alcohol. Oh im not a drunken fool, im just having fun. No , no ,no. It is what it is. Maybe the Japanese are to skinny, wich is also unhealthy. But dont turn it around.
Don't be discouraged. It's like this in every country. The USA has ridiculous beauty standards, too. What's worse about America is it changes every 5 to 7 years.
@@GenerationNextNextNextyeah I think the beauty standard is definitely shifting or already has in the west. Celebrities getting their hands on ozempic all at the same time and suddenly looking like they stepped out of a Tim Burton movie definitely alerted people that the standard has shifted
Yeah, out of the 13 years of being in East Asia, with 8 of them being in Japan, Everything about a person’s experience is scrutinized heavily. That’s partly why there are so many unhappy “marriages,” with husbands saying that they aren’t attracted to their wives anymore or vice versa, having no real connection to have a healthy relationship.
I want to give all these ladies a hug. They're all genuine, and the last woman to speak--I feel bad that she's been told she's not pretty by Japan's standards. She's beautiful and she needs to have more confidence
The more I hear about beauty standards in each country, the more I realize how horrible they are everywhere. 😫 At the end of the day, you have to learn to love and embrace you--all of you--as you are. I used to define my worth by how other men saw me; I don't do that anymore. I love me, and that's enough.
Hello and good day, a standard is a standard, it would be no different than having a financial standard, or a height, education standards. Now the more detailed you are with said standards the more you narrow your options/ fishing hole, but that's called free will.
@@GenerationNextNextNext unfortunately for right now that's how the world works. If there's a car you want, or an apartment complex, maybe even a restaurant you would like to eat at those ie I've mentioned above has standards/ rules/ requirements you must meet in order to enjoy what those things have to ofter.
@@GenerationNextNextNext think about for yourself if your in a relationship your partner had to meet certain requirements / standards and meet certain expectations in order to be with you.
@@Nightcall411 Beauty standards are the least practical reason to be in a relationship. Maybe that's why Japan (and most of East Asia) is experiencing a birth rate crisis. Beauty doesn't guarantee a strong and healthy family. Beauty fades with age. What is the point in having that as a requirement? NONE. Many beauty standards don't even align with HEALTH, like having a "peach butt". What does that have to do with health? What does a small face have to do with health? None of it is important. Until these people understand how wasteful and childish those standards are, they will never build lasting and mature relationships.
All of these women are so beautiful, and it makes me wanna cry that they have ever been told anything the contrary. Thank you for taking the time to let them share their experiences and really listening to what they have to say ❤
I was a fat kid and got bullied for that and that really scared me and was so fixated to my looks that at one point tried to starve myself just to loose weight. Got so depressed that I stopped. I’m 170 cm and 70 kg and I can’t imagine myself being under 50kg, that sounds unhealthy! I’d rather be happy than fitting a ridiculous standard that no one can fit into.
I thought they were all so pretty. It’s so sad that most of us grow up feeling like this regardless where we’re born. I wish we all knew we are enough exactly as we are.
I'm not sure, but in my video you can see that they say that the standards are imposed by the fashion industry and are used by women for women and not for men.@@fjdoucet1465
Agh, this is infuriating! 50kg or less when some women are 5'1 and others are 5'7 is an insane standard. As I'm raising 2 girls in Japan, I'm super concerned this type of messaging will give them eating disorders or body dysmorphia. And I'm only 2 kg heavier than the stupid standard but I absolutely refuse to accept the idea that I need to lose 5 lbs when my body is perfectly healthy and has probably 5 lbs more muscle on it than the average Japanese woman since they generally don't do resistance training.
I once had a student say to me, "Afurika (Africa) people is big" when I worked as an ALT at a junior high school. Loooool 😂😂😂 Meanwhile I was thinking, "Japan people is tiny" 😂😂😂.
Love that Alexis created a hair product for curly girls. Surprising that mixed chicks or other products haven’t made it over there yet. I use Miele at the moment and love it.
OMG! I knew that Japanese people had very specific beauty standards, but I didn't know they were that rude to people who don't match them! Very interesting video, Thanks!
Nice to see the one girl making products for curly hair. Growing up a minority is no cake walk, and I hope she is around good people now. The beauty standard in Japan seems similar to the rest of the world to me. If you fit those standards its no problem but if you're everyone else you may want to consider something more attainable...
Yes there are beauty standards especially for women in every country, but I felt my confidence plummet in Japan. Prior to that, I lived in Singapore, UK & US and never had a problem not wearing make up. In Japan, I did get kawaii or kawaiirashi comments, but also negative ones especially one comparing me to my white friends & how beautiful they are. It was uncomfortable how very average white/ European people were automatically considered beautiful.
Interesting episode brother. Just one thing, what's up with the deafening music overlay towards the end? lmfao, could barely hear them speak. Other than that, keep it up!
hi jesse, judging by your camera focus i believe you were using lumix to stop the camera for hunting the focus, try to use manual focus mode instead of auto focus since when you were in the middle of interview, you were rarely changing the object to focus on
Everybody wants to be slim im Brazil, but I think the beauty standard for women is what we would call "cavalona", which translates to "big female horse" lol. It's pretty much the way the Kardashians used to look, with long thick hair too. The kawaii aesthetic has never been popular here, so women are expected to be very womanly. We can weight more than 50kg without being bullied, but can't really go very far beyond that number, withought it becoming a source of insecurity and social anxiety.
would have been nice if you interviewed a man about male beauty standards (as they are likely very different from western countries due to less japanese people being muscular) or their thoughts on female beauty standards as well
I feel first impression is very important in Japan 🇯🇵. Hence why, a lot of women look good there. But I think when you add confidence to the mix it enhances your beauty. Don’t forget to add confidence. 🥳🥳🥳
When the first girl said "yes, i'm fat" I heard Million Stylez in the background singing "Hey Miss Fatty fatty you are murda 🎶" she killed that interview, so inspiring.
Hi, Jesse. I enjoy your videos exploring the culture in your homeland. But believe when I say that Japan is just like the majority of countries. Being different is seen as a threat to the norm, because of imperfect humans basing their existence on the visual- what is seen with the eyes and not what's in the heart. Whether it's about being of mixed race, body height, or weight, personal style or religion; it's the same everywhere. Here in the U.S. discrimination against people of color still exists. Also, the culture of 'the more Caucasian you have in your DNA, the better you're accepted', but still separate from the norm, is alive and well. Just stay positive. You have a beautiful smile and personal warmth that makes people feel comfortable.😊
The difference between her and other false body positive women on western social media is that she’s confident in herself but not arrogant. She doesn’t try to make excuses or shames others for not finding her attractive. She loves herself and it naturally makes her more appealing to people in her dating pool.
wow under 98 lbs I would have looked emaciated i was 105 and 5'5 when I was 7 and it was difficult becasue people always thought that I was an teenager acting like a kid when I hit my height of 5'10 when i was 11, I was about 140 lbs and definitely not willowy very different from my mum who was size O-2 when I was a baby and she was 5'10 too. Totally different body shape, she is all legs and I have short legs and a long torso with dense bones (built more like a line backer than a dancer like my brother who were all football players) but I have to admit I have never wanted to be 110 or under as an adult. The first young lady is right you have to love the skin you are in wheher it is thin or big and I appreciate that. Besides Pretty/handsome is personal reaction not everyone looks at people the same way regardless of popular standards. Why fit into any kind of standards just do you and people can either appreicate or get on with their lives or get a life you know. It really irks me when people push people to fit into a particular standard and not allow them to explore their own sense of self.
One of the reasons why i stopped dating Japanese guy was me being not Pettit like other Japanese girls. As a result, i also left Japan and married to a non-Japanese. I remember only japanese media praised how beautiful she became when Nichole Richie lost tons of weight... In the meantime, North American media was concerned about her for losing that much weight and how unhealthy she looked.
It's probably worse in South-Korea but yeah it's mostly the people who are ruining it for everyone else not the standards. To me all the ladies in this video are beautiful. If only people would put their energy into giving compliments instead of putting others down...
I always suspected the Japanese weren’t too fond of large rears, but now I finally see it mentioned aloud. It always threw me off how they would draw characters with really large breasts but super flat butts. In America both are valued for the “hourglass” figure
@@yumesakura23 here in America and in the West, the mainstream narrative is “being fat/obese is perfectly ok because body positivity” also “as long as I’m happy and I feel good in my body” Not sure what reality or universe you’re living in?
@@astrayagrarian Uh, the fact that there are a lot of fat people in the US doesn’t mean that being fat is the the ideal of beauty now? Are you living in bizarro world or something? If that was the case, people everywhere would be going on diets to gain weight and taking weight gain supplements. Instead, weight loss drugs and things like “flat tummy teas” are still super popular. Like yeah, in the past 10-15 years the most desired kind of body for women has become “thicker” in the US, but people try to achieve said thickness through working out to build muscle in places like their butts and thighs or through procedures like BBLs. Just look at how many fitness influencers are out there in social media and how many followers they have. There ARE societies in the world that truly prefer for women to be fat, and they go to the same extreme extents to be fat as women elsewhere go to be thin and/or built. In some places in North Africa, teenage girls are straight up force-fed as many calories as a body builder eats during a day by their families to gain weight because they fear they won’t be able to get married if they’re not fat. This is called Leblouh. Feel free to look it up. That’s as damaging as extreme dieting or extreme exercise is and no one in their right mind would promote anything like that. Instead, the reason you see more fat people now than you’d see during the, I don’t know, 50s or the 60s is because being able to have a proper exercise routine and afford healthy food is something that requires both a lot of free time and a considerable amount of money these days. Unlike during most of the story of humanity, where poor = skinny, nowadays poor people are generally able to feed themselves. The issue is, they’re mostly only able to feed themselves with cheap food, and the unhealthiness of cheap food has increased dramatically during the years. If someone has to work three jobs to get by, their diets are probably going to be comprised mostly of cheap, filling food and they won’t have the time to hit the gym either. You’ve probably noticed that, in the US, people who are very fat tend to be lower class. It’s why you see people in mobility scooters in places like Walmart instead of in high-end stores. I feel like people tend to largely misunderstand what body positivity is about. Literally no one wants skinny people to suddenly become fat and, if you find someone saying so, they’re either trolling or have a weight gain fetish. Body positivity is, at its core, just people wanting to live their lives without being mistreated for being “ugly”. That’s why it doesn’t only apply to fat people, but people with deformities, skin conditions, just plain traits that aren’t seen as conventionally beautiful (aquiline noses, for example), etc. All they want is to be able to live without being treated as if they’re subhuman. Is a fat person unhealthy? Who knows! Probably yes, because, as I mentioned above, being perfectly healthy is costly nowadays. But the average thin person is probably not perfectly healthy as well for the same reasons. There are lots of people who look outwardly thin but suffer from things like high cholesterol levels, high blood pressure and heart issues. In fact, if a fat person drops weight too quickly due to extreme dieting or an ED, they’ll often end up much unhealthier than they were in the first place, even if they’re skinnier. But even if someone is unhealthy, they still shouldn’t be bullied. A lot of people are unhealthy because they smoke or drink too much alcohol, but they’re largely left alone. The hate fat people get is because people find them ugly, not because people don’t want them to be unhealthy. “I only treat them like that because they’re unhealthy and I want them to do better” is just an excuse bullies use to feel better about being horrible people. If that wasn’t the case, fat people wouldn’t be treated horribly for doing things like being in public, wanting to wear clothes that fit them or going to the gym. Isn’t that counterintuitive? If you want them to be healthier, then by all means you should encourage them being out and about, exercising and doing so in clothing that allows them to move freely, don’t you? To sum it up, the fact a lot of people are fat in the US doesn’t reflect the “standard of beauty” and it never did. There were already tons of fat people back in the 90s and the 00s when the Kate Moss body was at its most popular. The thick women that are popular now achieve this look through exercise and plastic surgery, not through getting fat. Body positivity is simply about wanting to be able to do completely normal things without being ridiculed for it. If you want to blame something for the fact women want to be thicker now instead of skinny, blame Instagram.
I like your videos but it's really strange to hear people talk about their bad experiences in as being plus sized with upbeat dance music playing over the top.
Being overweight shouldn't be judged or hated and nobody deserves to be treated rudely, but we also must recognize that HEALTH matters first and foremost- and weight is one of the most recognizable symptoms of health. I should know! For the majority of my life, I was between 105-115 lbs at 5'2". Due to certain autoimmune diseases, my health has not only worsened, but my weight. I am now steadily between 145-150- _which is not healthy for my weight, and while my weight gain wasn't the first of hundreds of signs and symptoms, it is most certai my the one that is the highest indicator to those around me that I am in my worst health ever!_ More and more "fat positive/body positive" influencers are dying now than ever before. I could name several.
Fat positive/body positive doesn't exist to tell people not to take care of their health. They are telling people not to be cruel and mean to them just because of it. Their doctors can tell them what weight is best for them. No one should be evil to anyone or discriminate against anyone just because they are "unhealthy". If anything, we should treat unhealthy people with more kindness because they need our support. Would you treat someone with cancer cruelly by bullying them because they're "unhealthy"? No. Yet, people do this to people who are of a certain weight. They want to bully them into submission. What is the point in that? No one gets influenced to gain or lose weight, so bullying doesn't solve anything. I feel that your story is made up and you are commenting just to prove a political point. I'm superbly skinny, but my hemoglobin was at 4! I have chronic anemia and have to have a hysterectomy because I can't carry my uterus. Being too skinny can also come with health risks. This is why we don't look at a person to decide health. We talk to our doctors to decide that.
@@GenerationNextNextNext you did it to yourself Like the fats People are just trying to help y'all But I think it's a silly notion, why try to save people who literally can't do the right thing Same as telling people to not smoke, pointless
The first girl is so cute omggg, so positive it makes her shine
Ikr!!! I wish her happiness and prosperity
Yessss
too bad she is promoting a body that will damage the health of others im glad she's happy though
@simsxie she is normalizing obesity, for example if i were to walk outside with a top hat on and showing off my top hat I would be normalizing top hats, I'm not hating on her I just think we should promote a healthy society so we can all be prosperous
@@chiefpanda7040but you have to understand that everyone is different genetically.
some people have fast metabolism, some have slow metabolism.
if eating normally makes you gain more weight than the average person that won’t 100% mean that you’re unhealthy, it’ll just mean that you’re overweight because of your metabolism. this goes the same way when it’s reversed.
skinny people may eat like the average person but may still be told to eat more because of how they look. that doesn’t mean that they’re not healthy, it just means that they happen to be underweight due to how their body works. :)
That laugh when she says "Yeah i'm fat" she is so cute !
she is so cute and very confident i love her 🥹
Omg first girl is a joy, i feel the same way about myself, like how can you not love yourself? You're you after all!!
I love that the second lady is fulfilling the need for black haircare products in Japan. Definitely needed! Would you be able to share people's store links? I dont have use for her products but i know people who do.
I love the first two!
Her hair product is called Jigeecurls. The website is in the description, but I think it only ships in Japan at the moment.
It's good to know if I ever have to travel to Japan for work and can't get my hair in order.
Hardly "definitely needed" as there are so few blacks in Japan!
@@xenaprincess3144"Definitely needed", in this case, isn't by population density, it's the perspective of the person who needs the service. Since there is a lack of options. It's not like there are "zero" ppl w curly hair in Japan.
I have been fat since childhood and being Asian it was horrendous. The name calling and demeaning remarks from family, friends and strangers was very damaging mentally. As an adult thank God I have found to love myself no matter my size. 🥰
I'm japanese male but definitely disagree with those standards. "Chubby" women do care how they look and make so much efforts as well as the others. They are pretty, beautiful and awesome.
I sometimes feel like I'm minority here. Wish there'll be no one called ugly.
Chubby women = fat. Fat = unhealthy. Cant believe we in the west are promoting this.
Its like promoting drinking alcohol. Oh im not a drunken fool, im just having fun. No , no ,no. It is what it is.
Maybe the Japanese are to skinny, wich is also unhealthy. But dont turn it around.
Don't be discouraged. It's like this in every country. The USA has ridiculous beauty standards, too. What's worse about America is it changes every 5 to 7 years.
@@GenerationNextNextNextyeah I think the beauty standard is definitely shifting or already has in the west. Celebrities getting their hands on ozempic all at the same time and suddenly looking like they stepped out of a Tim Burton movie definitely alerted people that the standard has shifted
Yeah, out of the 13 years of being in East Asia, with 8 of them being in Japan, Everything about a person’s experience is scrutinized heavily. That’s partly why there are so many unhappy “marriages,” with husbands saying that they aren’t attracted to their wives anymore or vice versa, having no real connection to have a healthy relationship.
2:18 Kurumi-chan's laughter is so contagious and she's so adorable! 💖
Majin Buu??
@@OctavianAsix lmao
The first girl he interviewed is radiating ❤❤❤ I love her energy!!! She is so beautiful!!!
All of them are of course lol
That first girl made me smile! I appreciate your videos, you seem like a great interviewer!
Damn that called her Majin Bu, I feel bad to have laughed at that lol.
I want to give all these ladies a hug. They're all genuine, and the last woman to speak--I feel bad that she's been told she's not pretty by Japan's standards. She's beautiful and she needs to have more confidence
The more I hear about beauty standards in each country, the more I realize how horrible they are everywhere. 😫 At the end of the day, you have to learn to love and embrace you--all of you--as you are. I used to define my worth by how other men saw me; I don't do that anymore. I love me, and that's enough.
Hello and good day, a standard is a standard, it would be no different than having a financial standard, or a height, education standards. Now the more detailed you are with said standards the more you narrow your options/ fishing hole, but that's called free will.
They're horrible, and pointless. Everyone has such different standards, so why try to adhere to just one?
@@GenerationNextNextNext unfortunately for right now that's how the world works. If there's a car you want, or an apartment complex, maybe even a restaurant you would like to eat at those ie I've mentioned above has standards/ rules/ requirements you must meet in order to enjoy what those things have to ofter.
@@GenerationNextNextNext think about for yourself if your in a relationship your partner had to meet certain requirements / standards and meet certain expectations in order to be with you.
@@Nightcall411 Beauty standards are the least practical reason to be in a relationship. Maybe that's why Japan (and most of East Asia) is experiencing a birth rate crisis. Beauty doesn't guarantee a strong and healthy family. Beauty fades with age. What is the point in having that as a requirement? NONE. Many beauty standards don't even align with HEALTH, like having a "peach butt". What does that have to do with health? What does a small face have to do with health? None of it is important. Until these people understand how wasteful and childish those standards are, they will never build lasting and mature relationships.
Ohhh I needa look into the products for black hair. It's been a struggle living here for YEARSSS.
I really love her confidence and she seems to have a wonderful personality. Bless her!
love that you're promoting a product that is meant to support health rather than the junk food most other YT'ers are sponsored by. *chef kiss*
All of the ladies in this interview were amazing.. I would be friends with all of them if I could .. ❤
I think it'll be interesting if you can interview someone who "wins" in this (met all the standards) and hear what they think about it.
She will still not believe she is pretty or good enough, trust me.
Alexis (Japanese-American) is gorgeous
I respect how she doesn't let it phase her. U can't control other ppl's thoughts.
All of these women are so beautiful, and it makes me wanna cry that they have ever been told anything the contrary. Thank you for taking the time to let them share their experiences and really listening to what they have to say ❤
I was a fat kid and got bullied for that and that really scared me and was so fixated to my looks that at one point tried to starve myself just to loose weight. Got so depressed that I stopped.
I’m 170 cm and 70 kg and I can’t imagine myself being under 50kg, that sounds unhealthy! I’d rather be happy than fitting a ridiculous standard that no one can fit into.
Great job ladies!! It's very difficult to find quality hair products in Japan for curly hair so drop the second lady's website info please😊
Alexis is so pretty 😍
@hailhydra8888
Mochiron lol
I thought they were all so pretty. It’s so sad that most of us grow up feeling like this regardless where we’re born. I wish we all knew we are enough exactly as we are.
Thanks Jesse for the video! Whatever beauty standards we have, let’s keep healthy gut because it affect overall health and it connects to beauty❤🎉
I haverdone the same Interview with Brazilian women. Its so weird How beauty standards affect women ALL around the world in a bad way.
That's misogyny for you. A timeless classic.
I'm not sure, but in my video you can see that they say that the standards are imposed by the fashion industry and are used by women for women and not for men.@@fjdoucet1465
I watched your video and it was very interesting. I subscribed to your channel.
@@cuculain78 Thank you verymuch!
Agh, this is infuriating! 50kg or less when some women are 5'1 and others are 5'7 is an insane standard. As I'm raising 2 girls in Japan, I'm super concerned this type of messaging will give them eating disorders or body dysmorphia. And I'm only 2 kg heavier than the stupid standard but I absolutely refuse to accept the idea that I need to lose 5 lbs when my body is perfectly healthy and has probably 5 lbs more muscle on it than the average Japanese woman since they generally don't do resistance training.
Lmao I see this man on yt shorts like 4 times a day it’s about time I subbed
I always admire Jesse’s bravery at leaving the comment section open on these types of videos, because you know it’s about to pop-off😂
These ladies are awesome!
1:52 - lol, "puni-puni"😮🤣🤣
Ngl thats one of the things I'm most scared of, once I'll move to Japan
Kurumi-Chan.. girl where do i even start🥹 never lose your sparks doll Never!!!✨💫
I once had a student say to me, "Afurika (Africa) people is big" when I worked as an ALT at a junior high school. Loooool 😂😂😂 Meanwhile I was thinking, "Japan people is tiny" 😂😂😂.
U should’ve said that lmao
Love that Alexis created a hair product for curly girls. Surprising that mixed chicks or other products haven’t made it over there yet. I use Miele at the moment and love it.
1:21 she is a keeper ❤
OMG! I knew that Japanese people had very specific beauty standards, but I didn't know they were that rude to people who don't match them! Very interesting video, Thanks!
I'm japanese living in France, in France I wear XS but in Japan I'm fat 😂 😅
Nice to see the one girl making products for curly hair. Growing up a minority is no cake walk, and I hope she is around good people now.
The beauty standard in Japan seems similar to the rest of the world to me. If you fit those standards its no problem but if you're everyone else you may want to consider something more attainable...
Jesse liked the half US queen I can tell
Everybody on this video were amazing and wonderful people 🔥
Yes there are beauty standards especially for women in every country, but I felt my confidence plummet in Japan. Prior to that, I lived in Singapore, UK & US and never had a problem not wearing make up. In Japan, I did get kawaii or kawaiirashi comments, but also negative ones especially one comparing me to my white friends & how beautiful they are. It was uncomfortable how very average white/ European people were automatically considered beautiful.
The first lady is so cuteee
reminds me of when the lady called Conan OBrien fat. like a teddy bear. and poked his stomach !
I would love to know a social media handle of the first girl she was so positive and pretty I want to follow her 😊
The first girl is so positive and cute i love her attitude she's so beautiful to . Being fat doesn't mean that ure not beautiful 😂
I didn't know you have Shake Shack in Japan! (her drink has the logo)
Interesting episode brother. Just one thing, what's up with the deafening music overlay towards the end? lmfao, could barely hear them speak. Other than that, keep it up!
The first lady is a sweet heart ❤
hi jesse, judging by your camera focus i believe you were using lumix
to stop the camera for hunting the focus, try to use manual focus mode instead of auto focus
since when you were in the middle of interview, you were rarely changing the object to focus on
Everybody wants to be slim im Brazil, but I think the beauty standard for women is what we would call "cavalona", which translates to "big female horse" lol. It's pretty much the way the Kardashians used to look, with long thick hair too. The kawaii aesthetic has never been popular here, so women are expected to be very womanly. We can weight more than 50kg without being bullied, but can't really go very far beyond that number, withought it becoming a source of insecurity and social anxiety.
Off topic but seeing people that look like me speak japanese is triggering to learn how to speak it myself! Very cool language
みんなも自分らしさを大事にしようね！
A very passive, aggressive way of saying "YOU should lose weight because if you're fat, it's your fault"
would have been nice if you interviewed a man about male beauty standards (as they are likely very different from western countries due to less japanese people being muscular) or their thoughts on female beauty standards as well
The last girl is gorgeous omg:( So sad she doesn’t see herself as such she’s so beautiful
I love Kurumi so much! 🖤🖤🖤🖤
Alexis is super pretty.
I feel first impression is very important in Japan 🇯🇵. Hence why, a lot of women look good there. But I think when you add confidence to the mix it enhances your beauty. Don’t forget to add confidence. 🥳🥳🥳
first impression is very important in every country tho.
@@ALLKASDLLS-mg4lu very true I feel Japan 🇯🇵 takes it to a whole nother level. Someone told me they wore sweats there and got funny looks.
Man good advice.
I’d be curious to know if anyone knows where Alexis sells her products. I have curly hair and finding products can be tough in Japan
I think it's in the descriptions. I think it's called Jigeecurls.
When the first girl said "yes, i'm fat" I heard Million Stylez in the background singing "Hey Miss Fatty fatty you are murda 🎶" she killed that interview, so inspiring.
Hi, Jesse. I enjoy your videos exploring the culture in your homeland. But believe when I say that Japan is just like the majority of countries. Being different is seen as a threat to the norm, because of imperfect humans basing their existence on the visual- what is seen with the eyes and not what's in the heart. Whether it's about being of mixed race, body height, or weight, personal style or religion; it's the same everywhere. Here in the U.S. discrimination against people of color still exists. Also, the culture of 'the more Caucasian you have in your DNA, the better you're accepted', but still separate from the norm, is alive and well. Just stay positive. You have a beautiful smile and personal warmth that makes people feel comfortable.😊
Being called Anzai sensei as an insult is craaazy 💀😭😭😭
The second girl is hot as hell dude
Damn bro, pop off ig
Kurumi san kawaii marshmallow girl ❤
The difference between her and other false body positive women on western social media is that she’s confident in herself but not arrogant. She doesn’t try to make excuses or shames others for not finding her attractive. She loves herself and it naturally makes her more appealing to people in her dating pool.
I feel for the second lady 😢😢😢 even my fair skinned classmates used to say that thing to me 😭😭 in school
Please do being lgbtq+ in japan😭😭😭
Really like the last girl ❤
wow under 98 lbs I would have looked emaciated i was 105 and 5'5 when I was 7 and it was difficult becasue people always thought that I was an teenager acting like a kid when I hit my height of 5'10 when i was 11, I was about 140 lbs and definitely not willowy very different from my mum who was size O-2 when I was a baby and she was 5'10 too. Totally different body shape, she is all legs and I have short legs and a long torso with dense bones (built more like a line backer than a dancer like my brother who were all football players) but I have to admit I have never wanted to be 110 or under as an adult. The first young lady is right you have to love the skin you are in wheher it is thin or big and I appreciate that. Besides Pretty/handsome is personal reaction not everyone looks at people the same way regardless of popular standards. Why fit into any kind of standards just do you and people can either appreicate or get on with their lives or get a life you know. It really irks me when people push people to fit into a particular standard and not allow them to explore their own sense of self.
I'm 5'8 (guy) 120 lbs and people say I'm super skinny here in America, but they would probably think I'm at least chubby there haha
One of the reasons why i stopped dating Japanese guy was me being not Pettit like other Japanese girls.
As a result, i also left Japan and married to a non-Japanese.
I remember only japanese media praised how beautiful she became when Nichole Richie lost tons of weight... In the meantime, North American media was concerned about her for losing that much weight and how unhealthy she looked.
You stopped dating the guy bc you weren't skinny enough?!
He dumped you?
@@OctavianAsix it’s „guys“.
callin somebody gundam is crazy lmaooo
So this is cathy cat's new bf. they make a cute couple.
Where did you find this information out?
Loving that Koso sponsor, wanna try it myself now.
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there are many types that men like and nowadays men like them Thicc so its no surprise haha
I have curly hair. I’d be pissed if I were expected to straighten it to fit in.
”触ったら黒くなる”とかまじでそいつ最低。そんなのこっちから友だち拒否。
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Eh???
Yes many mixed kids growing up in Japanese kindergarten got to hear that…
Ask koreans which has harsher beauty standards.
Does the first girl - the plus influencer - have an Instagram? I want to follow her so I know where to shop when I visit someday 😍
It's probably worse in South-Korea but yeah it's mostly the people who are ruining it for everyone else not the standards. To me all the ladies in this video are beautiful. If only people would put their energy into giving compliments instead of putting others down...
music is too loud at 8:36
If I am getting paid to learn.... yes. It would be easier. Usually I pay to learn.... takes the fun out.
Kurumi doesn’t know she’s talking to a Nigerian man 👀👀😂
I always suspected the Japanese weren’t too fond of large rears, but now I finally see it mentioned aloud. It always threw me off how they would draw characters with really large breasts but super flat butts. In America both are valued for the “hourglass” figure
あ、ありがとうございます
The beauty standards are no more toxic than anywhere else in Asia and the Western world.
Lol ok Holmes
I mean, in the west we promote, advocate, and worship obesity and being fat which is known to have both short and long term negative health effects.
@@astrayagrarian No one promotes it, educate yourself its embarrassing. if anything its the opposite due to social media.
@@yumesakura23 here in America and in the West, the mainstream narrative is “being fat/obese is perfectly ok because body positivity” also “as long as I’m happy and I feel good in my body”
Not sure what reality or universe you’re living in?
@@astrayagrarian Uh, the fact that there are a lot of fat people in the US doesn’t mean that being fat is the the ideal of beauty now? Are you living in bizarro world or something? If that was the case, people everywhere would be going on diets to gain weight and taking weight gain supplements. Instead, weight loss drugs and things like “flat tummy teas” are still super popular.
Like yeah, in the past 10-15 years the most desired kind of body for women has become “thicker” in the US, but people try to achieve said thickness through working out to build muscle in places like their butts and thighs or through procedures like BBLs. Just look at how many fitness influencers are out there in social media and how many followers they have.
There ARE societies in the world that truly prefer for women to be fat, and they go to the same extreme extents to be fat as women elsewhere go to be thin and/or built. In some places in North Africa, teenage girls are straight up force-fed as many calories as a body builder eats during a day by their families to gain weight because they fear they won’t be able to get married if they’re not fat. This is called Leblouh. Feel free to look it up. That’s as damaging as extreme dieting or extreme exercise is and no one in their right mind would promote anything like that.
Instead, the reason you see more fat people now than you’d see during the, I don’t know, 50s or the 60s is because being able to have a proper exercise routine and afford healthy food is something that requires both a lot of free time and a considerable amount of money these days. Unlike during most of the story of humanity, where poor = skinny, nowadays poor people are generally able to feed themselves. The issue is, they’re mostly only able to feed themselves with cheap food, and the unhealthiness of cheap food has increased dramatically during the years. If someone has to work three jobs to get by, their diets are probably going to be comprised mostly of cheap, filling food and they won’t have the time to hit the gym either. You’ve probably noticed that, in the US, people who are very fat tend to be lower class. It’s why you see people in mobility scooters in places like Walmart instead of in high-end stores.
I feel like people tend to largely misunderstand what body positivity is about. Literally no one wants skinny people to suddenly become fat and, if you find someone saying so, they’re either trolling or have a weight gain fetish. Body positivity is, at its core, just people wanting to live their lives without being mistreated for being “ugly”. That’s why it doesn’t only apply to fat people, but people with deformities, skin conditions, just plain traits that aren’t seen as conventionally beautiful (aquiline noses, for example), etc. All they want is to be able to live without being treated as if they’re subhuman. Is a fat person unhealthy? Who knows! Probably yes, because, as I mentioned above, being perfectly healthy is costly nowadays. But the average thin person is probably not perfectly healthy as well for the same reasons. There are lots of people who look outwardly thin but suffer from things like high cholesterol levels, high blood pressure and heart issues. In fact, if a fat person drops weight too quickly due to extreme dieting or an ED, they’ll often end up much unhealthier than they were in the first place, even if they’re skinnier.
But even if someone is unhealthy, they still shouldn’t be bullied. A lot of people are unhealthy because they smoke or drink too much alcohol, but they’re largely left alone. The hate fat people get is because people find them ugly, not because people don’t want them to be unhealthy. “I only treat them like that because they’re unhealthy and I want them to do better” is just an excuse bullies use to feel better about being horrible people. If that wasn’t the case, fat people wouldn’t be treated horribly for doing things like being in public, wanting to wear clothes that fit them or going to the gym. Isn’t that counterintuitive? If you want them to be healthier, then by all means you should encourage them being out and about, exercising and doing so in clothing that allows them to move freely, don’t you?
To sum it up, the fact a lot of people are fat in the US doesn’t reflect the “standard of beauty” and it never did. There were already tons of fat people back in the 90s and the 00s when the Kate Moss body was at its most popular. The thick women that are popular now achieve this look through exercise and plastic surgery, not through getting fat. Body positivity is simply about wanting to be able to do completely normal things without being ridiculed for it. If you want to blame something for the fact women want to be thicker now instead of skinny, blame Instagram.
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BGM TOO LOUD
I like your videos but it's really strange to hear people talk about their bad experiences in as being plus sized with upbeat dance music playing over the top.
Japanese guys like the gym? I’m what their body building culture is like
Korean beauty standards are even more toxic IMO
japans beauty standard is korean beauty standard the young girls worship korean stars
Hearing this makes sense of why Japanese women to me always seemed so small
Being overweight shouldn't be judged or hated and nobody deserves to be treated rudely, but we also must recognize that HEALTH matters first and foremost- and weight is one of the most recognizable symptoms of health. I should know! For the majority of my life, I was between 105-115 lbs at 5'2". Due to certain autoimmune diseases, my health has not only worsened, but my weight. I am now steadily between 145-150- _which is not healthy for my weight, and while my weight gain wasn't the first of hundreds of signs and symptoms, it is most certai my the one that is the highest indicator to those around me that I am in my worst health ever!_ More and more "fat positive/body positive" influencers are dying now than ever before. I could name several.
Fat positive/body positive doesn't exist to tell people not to take care of their health. They are telling people not to be cruel and mean to them just because of it. Their doctors can tell them what weight is best for them. No one should be evil to anyone or discriminate against anyone just because they are "unhealthy". If anything, we should treat unhealthy people with more kindness because they need our support. Would you treat someone with cancer cruelly by bullying them because they're "unhealthy"? No. Yet, people do this to people who are of a certain weight. They want to bully them into submission. What is the point in that? No one gets influenced to gain or lose weight, so bullying doesn't solve anything. I feel that your story is made up and you are commenting just to prove a political point. I'm superbly skinny, but my hemoglobin was at 4! I have chronic anemia and have to have a hysterectomy because I can't carry my uterus. Being too skinny can also come with health risks. This is why we don't look at a person to decide health. We talk to our doctors to decide that.
@@GenerationNextNextNext you did it to yourself
Like the fats
People are just trying to help y'all
But I think it's a silly notion, why try to save people who literally can't do the right thing
Same as telling people to not smoke, pointless
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Can anyone share her social media profiles? ❤
How common is black Japanese mix people are they more common then white Japanese mix people
no
他の東アジアに比べて多いと思いますよ
The comments section is filled with people denying the reality.
the standards aren't toxic, just the attitude of the people toward the standard
Facts!!
It's one and the same if you ask me.
@@mikiohirata9627was thinking the same thing
Without those ”standards” there would hardly be any attitudes, let alone toxic or non-toxic.
The standards are absolutely toxic. Sub 50kg is a child's weight.