If You're HEARTBROKEN & Can’t MOVE ON - WATCH THIS | Jay Shetty
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“If your not making new memories your old ones will always stay with you”
It is true 🙏🙏
😔😔😔😔
Wow
I really felt this😭😭
Haunt you down
Hugs to everyone going through the toughest to move on. You'll soon get to the end of it and find your happiness 💖💖
😕 okay
Crying.
thank you
Move on karne keliye kuch to chahiye
@@berni18punto1 Me too. My best friend/gf of 14 years just blindsided me. I'm so devastated. It's the worst pain I ever felt in my life. I go through depression/anxiety too. Makes it so much worse. I have a fear of death as well, so her just being gone, and possibly never will see her again in my life is a symbolic death to me. So it's hitting me super hard. It's tough to process. I'm mourning. My heart and soul is with you. You're not alone.
Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” ― Steve Maraboli.
wow that hits hard…
Thanks alot
How do you let go someone whom we love and he left. How to get rid of old memories, its difficult, though i have new memories,but the old one are strong enough to break me in my present.
The same I feel overwhelmed and introverted
Love this
From personal experience, you will eventually get over your ex and find someone who is much more compatible. It seems never ending but I promise it gets easier. Keep your chin up and keep smiling. Everything happens for a reason 🙂❤️
Thanks.
Thanks. Every time I think I’m better, I get worse again. And I’m not over him anymore.
Thank you bro... Appreciated..😇
Thank you!🥺
@@Em-jg3cr 🙂
The pain will leave you once it’s done teaching you.
Yes you are right
Damn smh I don’t want to learn nothing else! I get it! Just make it go away
I like that one! Thank you.
Every family has a person, who breaks the chain of poverty. I hope that you will be that person🤲
Yes 🙏🙏
Thank you. I receive it🙏🏽!
✨
How to heal after a break up th-cam.com/video/waXyTNWMNZE/w-d-xo.html
Amin
When you are ready to let go, you will let go. You aren’t getting over it because you don’t want to let it go.
Dam i never saw it like that
This just hit me hard
When my ex and I first broke up, one of my friends told me to get over my ex, I should toss the things that remind me of him. I told my friend I wasn't ready. So he said put all that stuff in a box then.
how do i let go tho? i’m ready but i don’t know how to do it or what to do
@@kafayahsaad9183 fall in love with something else
No amount of physical pain I've been through has nothing on this I swear. I'm in bits
Yes. I am afraid.
This will also lead to physical pain.
Update??
Hey there! I am so sorry for your loss. This mental pain does feel debilitating. Always remember though, that it does get better everyday. You may not see it now, but eventually you will feel relieved. This reassurance is what I was looking for too, and I hope by now you have found the strength to endure this very painful but very human experience ❤
I understand exactly. I've been divorced 5 years, but my ex remarried on June 25th and I just don't understand how everything has changed for me. I didn't know sadness this deep existed. 😔
It's beyond hard ~ So far beyond.
I wish you everything you need to let go, to move on, to forget.
Everything he said is true. Nostalgia and imagination. Writing my own script. He couldn't get more correct than that
Thank you so much 😊
I'm really having that nostalgia 😢
Facts dude
For those that are going through heartbreak, please take care of your health first. Mental burnout is real. ♥ ♥
thank u ❤ your words means a lot 🥹
Thanks man❤
It is real. I needed professional help. I can't feel anything to any man now, even if they are my type
@@andziagreen4922 i hope you overcome be blessed
@andziagreen4922 me too 😢
Not easy to let go of a person you loved spending time with and whos personality made you so happy because you clicked
📞👆👆👆👆👆👆worried about
Your lover? That he or she is not replying you/you're frustrated when he is Ignoring you or you have doubt about he's her Loyalty
Send your lovers birth date
And get immediately solution
Whatsapp on top given (no)
(LOVE PROBLEM SOLUTION)
Sadly it's true.
It’s like quitting an habit you choose to live with
I miss being with a lovely woman 💔heartbreaking always runs after me I’m tired of it
💯💯💯 it hurts to know you won’t experience such joyful amazing moments with that person. Like never being able to eat candy again bc it’s really bad for you but knowing it exists & knowing you love it
My boyfriend of 4 years went to work one day last week and just never came home. there was no conversation, there was no fight he just left. He was very affectionate with me that morning wanting sex so badly that he made himself late for work. Which in hindsight looking back I’m very upset about this, but after four years together, I can’t even get over like that. I found out that he quit his job that day and moved. He won’t tell me what state he’s in or if he’s still in Florida. It’s all gaslighting every time I text him. I’m just completely blindsided and devastated. I wish so badly he could have atleast given me the respect of being honest. I feel sick over this and can’t get out of this horrible feeling of emptiness. Plus, he left me with this apartment that we just signed a lease on and I cannot afford by myself. I just feel so sick over this. I wish there was a book to guide me through it.
Love yourself, gain your confidence and find
new passion in your life.
I’m glad I’m not the only one going through this pain. I wish everyone the best luck 💖
All of this actually helped. And me and her are back together again!. Thank you all for helping, god bless every last one of you.
Edit: nevermind
You’re not alone Jon! We’re rooting for each other. One day at a time we will get through this! Focus inward and things will improve.
@@anthonysomilleda7541 yes!
6 years with my ex partner it's been 5 months barley and he's already with someone else 😢
It’s unbearable almost everyday
I’m struggling to accept it’s over and struggling to let go 💔
Heart break is painful, like seriously painful… what has happened can be a blessing in disguise.. when my ex broke up with me I was broken but the reality was that it wouldn’t have been for the best long term… even if I’m just telling myself that, it keeps me at peace with the situation
It's painful... Really painful
Hey Max yes it's painful and sucks.
I honestly don’t wish what I am going through to anyone, not even my ennemies.
But sometimes it's easier said than done. Like when I don't get a job I really wanted, I always find out later I would have hated it. So now I don't feel bad when I don't get a job I wanted. One door shuts, another door opens.
And I told myself this when my ex and I broke up. We had a really, really good relationship. Effortless. But after we broke up, I told myself maybe down the line it would have changed and it's a good thing we broke up before things got deeper. But because it had been a really good relationship, my heart didn't listen to what my brain, my logical side, was telling me.
@@aewtx Hi please remember things happen and decisions are made, sometimes we think we we wrong in making those decisions or not fighting for a person. But they were not meant for us.
It hurts a most when a person whom u loved most is... no..more belongs to u...hurts..still hurting...but everything happens for a reason...that person may left because they don't deserves u..the best one may be waiting for u in future...don't stop for anything...move on...world stops for noone...be yourself achieve ur goals..
Faith is believing love exists and will be in your destiny
My friend is heartbroken and it hurt seeing him like this, I hope he get motivated for life 💯🙌🏻 and who ever is feeling vulnerable and heartbroken. May your heart be healed ❤🥺, Amen
Wish I had at least one friend like you❤️ god bless you both
Ameen
Thank you ❤️!
How to heal after a break up th-cam.com/video/waXyTNWMNZE/w-d-xo.html
@@sakshid12 me too feel the same
She rebounded 3 weeks after a 3 year relationship. The one who loved the most got hurt the most was always the most loyal one in the relationship.
Wow
mine did exactly the same. 2-3 weeks after 3 year relationship. fucking with another guy. Of course she ghosted him as well shortly after. Typical avoidant style.
That's me I'm afraid. I don't like heartbreak. It's hard on me at my age. When I was single I was the happiest ever in my life.
Yeah I work with my Ex girlfriend and she walks around here like I never existed. Smiling, laughing, etc. I'm barely able to hold back the tears. Sometimes I can't even come to work. Not to mention the dude she claims they not fukn but they stay up in each other face. Maaaan this is killing meeee bro. Like 3ys of me doing anything n everything for her. Loving her unconditionally with her flaws n all. How can u just walk away like I/US meant NOTHING. The way she acting around here is like nothing happened. I mean cold hearted AFFF
@@EIGOMAGAZINEleave that job
My dad once told me some people you meet in life are part of your journey but not the destination
Everybody going through it right now. That pandemic focked up so many relationships and made space for so many rebounds its mind boggling. 2020-2022 is the years of the HEARTBROKEN. All the heartbroken people need get together and fix each other's hearts ❤👑
Not when they cheat on you, this pandemic has revealed to me that my boyfriend and best friend was a shitty person. He made me do all the love and I never got any in return. I couldn’t see it but the pandemic opened my eyes when other people could see it. It hurts when someone else chooses someone other than you and wants to love them instead but it’s freeing because the pandemic has opened doors for the better.
If this ain’t the fukin truth
@@taquito.duende Same shit happened to me. My girl left me for a guy during the pandemic
Yes my relationship of 4 years broke down he ended it day before Valentine’s and over the phone , I slipped into severe depression and hurt more so that he never respected me enough to come face to face to say it and respected me to Even ask me once after ot ended how I was , I’m done with relationships I’ve realised that over many heartbreaks rejection hurt that maybe being in a relationship is just not good for me
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After six months I'm doing better, the first 3 months I was so depressed, got into hard drugs, but then I realized that it happened for a reason, God had better plans for me. Now I have another opportunitys that I would not gotten into if I was with that person. I still think about her all the time, but it is starting to hit different, now it's more like a nice memory, not something that hurts. God close that door for a reason. I'm loving my self more, now I'm the priority and it feels great!!
Dr Gabriel 🌹 Love manifestations can make your Ex come back begging for a second chance,he saved my broken relationship of 4 years In less than 7 hours..
@@alexs1754 Can I get his mobile number?
3:38 "it's about falling in love with yourself" - this is the best I've heard in a long tme. I needed it!
“I don’t want to accept what is, and I’m trying to accept what if!”
*Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.*
I cannot breathe, i miss him so much. Its just been 24 hours of our breakup and i am already lost in life.
Losing someone with who you loved sincerely and truly is extremely difficult however we have to understand that this is how human relationships and life works. Though it is far easy for me to say fancy lines because I can not even imagine the kind of pain you are experiencing right now. Trust me gradually you will make the process. It will take some time but you can find yourself again. It is quite true that our life would no longer be the same when we lost a person who we loved with all our hearts. There is no cure for pain except to embrace this pain and move forward. I know whatever I am taking here won't make any sense to you. You will be fine. Sending prayers and love sister❤
Stay strong Friend! ❤️
How are you doing now?
I deeply regret saying something totally messed up in my last convesation with my ex, I regret not having more dignity and just letting go with more grace. I love her a lot, I'm still inlove with her but all I can do is move forwards no matter how much it hurts, no matter the fear of being alone, like my devorced parents. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done. Getting to sleep is hard, waking up is harder. Eating feels like a possible option I don't often take. I really thought she was the one. It hurts so so much. I had to throw or give away a lot of things she got for me. I'm trying to get rid of any reminders because I'm a deeply sentimental person who is prone to nostalgia. I have no choice for my own sanity, it's something I have to do.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm going through the same thing with my ex boyfriend who broke up with me a couple months ago and it's difficult to function some days. 😔
I don't care how valid his points are. But This Man speaks and it touches my soul like cold breeze
It’s hard when you are star crossed lovers and you just cannot be together even if you love each other 😔 I miss him. I miss everything about us 💔
Don’t even think of yourself as star crossed lovers. It makes it romantic. You weren’t meant to be together because you weren’t right for each other. If you were, you would have found a way to be together.
You miss the fantasy of what could have been which is never going to be fulfilled and that’s why the longing is your drug
Am going through a break up too and it's really been tough so to anyone else out there going through the same.
Let's just work on us...increasing our self worth and networth.
It will get better.lets first fix us and be the best version we can be.
Let's take our baby steps. Let's love ourselves more and take care for us
This is why I don't stick to the same routines. I'm always doing new things and meeting new people. I'm always creating new memories that my past just ceases to exist anymore. So easy to move on when you're always taking on new adventures. Been doing well for me so far.
This video really helped me. My breakup was yesterday on my bday. I already miss him but watching this gave me a little courage.
To everyone, reading your comments has made me cry.
Your words are so true, the same as the video. Thank you
Love to you all❤
I'm still heartbroken. I miss him .. 😢 😪 I miss his voice. I dont want anyone else. I pray he comes back to me
Better to be single, love yourself and love your family. ❤️
Love our Loving Almighty HEAVENLY FATHER GOD through Loving Dear Sweet Beautiful Almighty Loving Son JESUS CHRIST first then Family then self.
5 things that you can see
4 things that you can touch
3 things that you can hear
2 things that you can smell
1 thing that you can taste
its okay everyone. we will get through it. it hurts and it takes time. use your friends, journal it down, stay in the fight
Sorry just had to take a minute to appreciate how beautiful Ashley looks??? omg idk but she’s freaking gorgeous, especially while being pregnant here. She’s literally one of my role models to loving yourself, body, & having that confidence. She’s ✨✨🙌🏽🙌🏽
If someone choose you over anything… that should be your biggest turn off for that person…if they say they want to have a life without you, just say good bye in a polite way and ensure you have their no. Deleted/social media deleted & all pics deleted… try blocking them for 21 days … it will be difficult but eventually you will move on with respect and dignity… most of the time they will come back when their honey moon period is over. Remember:- they left you… it’s a pattern. Once a liar always one, similarly if they left u once they will do it again when they find something better.
For your self respect & dignity , just cut them off forever!
And what if you do that you block them but it takes just a name mentioned and you back from zero you know well the person did choose another one but you still feel that's what you had wanted and it's 3 years ago 🥲
@@joycatieno2317 I hope you find the peace, happiness & love that you deserve 🤍 May God bless you. I will pray for you🙂
@@Free_spirit_07 thanks feeling better now 🙏🥹its the best decision ever
I had a love story, and it definitely was true to me. I valued every step we took, and treated her like a queen. I held her in my mind as a future wife and loved all of the little things to the big things. We fell in love after she saw me singing in her local theater. My band was super ecstatic for the gig we were about to play. My drummer almost made the show not happen by getting really sea sick with his nerves and puking. The woman I would date for the next 6 years was almost late to the show her mother bought tickets for. Her job wasn’t going to let her off in time and she was really tired. The show went on and she found me.. In a time where I was ready for love she found me. We had our ups and downs, and I grew for her, but one day she stopped. She went cold, and I never knew why. She had gone through some life changes and I was there for her and loved her through everything. Randomly seeing me less and less, and last month ended the relationship after a year of me begging for her presence. I will have such a hard time with this. I need prayers, and I know that if she never comes back that I will be fine, but I just am in a place where I am very scared. :/
I pray for you to be healed and love again. 😍
Everything will be fine. Be strong.
How are you holding up now?
How are u now? I'm in that dark place right now.. 💔
This has really touched me...because even down to the time spans, our stories are similar. I ray got you because i am afraid too... God be with you!❤
Heart break is painful. It takes time to move on. But it’s so right that it will only work if both of you speak the same love language
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
🙏🏻
Thank you!!!
Thank you
Break the negative thoughts to avoid a broken heart.
I keep photos of my ex-husband with our children around the house. It doesn’t affect me . Why their Dad was a huge part of our lives for nearly 20 years and because I have moved on . 🙏🏿❤️
You’re a very strong person I admire you
I get fed up of people saying ‘move on’, ‘get new friends, new hobbies , meet someone else’. I am 65 in poor health, tell me what I’m meant to do. I am beyond heartbroken, my whole life and future were with him and he left me for a younger fitter mode. I can’t get past it. It’s always younger people in these examples that can rebuild their lives.
Workout if u can....
Sending you love and healing
Some people are in your for a reason, some a season and some a lifetime ❤
To me, I think the hardest part about moving on is the thoughts of who your ex is talking to or rebounding with… you have no ground to stand on, but it still bothers you. It feels like cheating in a way and I think that shows how weird the brain is sometimes.
In my case, it’s been 3 months since the breakup. A lot of begging and pleading on my part, some no contact, and we’ve met up a couple times and hooked up once. It’s weird because she comes back and starts being civil with me and then gets mad whenever I mention anything about the relationship. At this point, I’m blocked and I’m giving up on trying to get her back. I love her, and I know that there is no shame in that. But the best thing for my physical, mental and emotional health is to move on as best I can. If she comes back, then I have a decision to make. But I bet it would feel really good to actually maybe say no.
If she comes back my advice would be to say no bro. You don’t need her and you’re better than lowering yourself to be with her after the way she has treated you. Speaking from experience, it can never truly work out after a break up. Hope you’re doing alright.
My 9 year just left me with his 2 kids. I wish I didn't have to see or talk to him. But I do for the kids. He left me for someone he's only known 3 months. Lied to me for 2 months
He moved on just after one day after we broke up :)
👍🙌💪 1:10 "I like getting rid of visual triggers" What a great piece of advice--proactive yet also demonstrates the deeper awareness that environment does play a role--you can't always freely push your mind around like a shopping cart
Today, I deleted the chat, calls history, photos, screenshots also blocked everywhere.. it was very hard at first..
What do I do about my wedding dress
I wave to sell my engagement ring or do I hold onto it
@@burberryclaretred6676 If it were me, I might ask myself, What's the most good that can come of this? in order to generate ideas
I’m wearing my exes shorts rn and keep reading our last messages this stuffs hard man
I’m trying to let go of someone who left me after 17 years and everything you said made total sense. I usually don’t watch these videos but this one hit home. Idk if I’m ready to take these steps since it’s so recent but I’m hoping I will soon. Thank you
Much love and support to you, do watch Matthew husseys vida too
It's been 2months for U,is it helping? Mine is 13yrs and am going crazy and soo hurtful
@@oforisandrina451 unfortunately no…we got back together and I know it’s the wrong choice 😕
I’m sorry that you’re still hurting I totally get it.
@@marylopez2844 any update?are you still together?
Are you together? Mine was after 14 years.
This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do in life, and in any other space, I can overcome any challenge. But here, I have never been more vulnerable. It feels like it will never get better, and I will never forget her and what we had together. Even with removing all the physical memories, I see and hear things all day every day that remind me of her. It's impossible. On another note, Ashley is almost distracting enough to help me move on... at least I still have some sense of humor in my sadness
This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat
I'm in a state where we where in 4 years relationship and she broke up 7 months ago but we are friends. But, main issue I'm facing is that She made new boy (friend) & I'm every possessive I can't see her with anybody and I'm not able to tell her that just because we are friends
❤️
It's hard for me even after a year. Still the old memories hunt me.. 😔
Love this
🙏🏾🌻
I have new memories. I changed my entire life. This person that hasn’t been in my life for 3 years now is still missed.. I will always long for them. I wish them well every day ❤ v good person I took for granted in my life. I don’t blame them for moving on. It doesn’t stop me from loving them from afar. I’ve had many stages in this process & I’m glad I’ve gotten to the point that I’ve accepted they are better off without me & I can appreciate them being in my life anyway. (Without returning to the past like I use to)
Even when there's a deep connection, and warm feeling in your hearts, Sometimes even then, when one or both of you are unhealed from past trauma, one or both of you can ruin the relationship
Going through a divorce. I needed this ❤❤❤❤ Thank you!
New memories, new beginnings
We didn’t even date, just talked on and off for a limited amount of time. I want to get over them and just move on with my life but it’s hard fr fr. They just woke up one day and said they lost interest and want nothing else to do with me. I hate how it ended. They don’t even want to be my friend. This situation is mad depressing.
Nostalgia and imagination... they are powerful!! Unreal fantasies.
We ended up 8 years of our relationship. Ending up couldn't have hurt me but she cheated on me which hurt me alot. If she was really not interested on me then she could have told me. People ending relationship to, not working out get less hurt than those who get cheated. It cuts so deep. It's been more than a year. Still can't find way to get on my track. It complete made me lost. It hurts so much. God should show her karma. Thank you for everything we share.
Update
Nostalgia about exes is no joke!!! I created a world of “memories” around my relationship with my ex, (there really was no relationship) as I discovered more females he cheated with, oddly they were all creating those Nostalgia moments too!! There were no special memories just game! 😩🤦🏽♀️😆That was my aha moment to move. The pain is crazy when you’re coming back to reality about your choice to do that. I’m so grateful to have learned the 54321 thanks so much Jay. ❤️ staying present is key
*#*Hi dear| if you seriously want help to get your ex back or a specific person I know of a man| who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you*#*
I broke up with my ex a month ago and it still hurts so much 😢 we weren’t compatible, that’s why I made the decision. But my god, I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I miss him.
I don’t have visual triggers. I have a whole new apartment. It was just my birthday and I created some lovely new memories. And I still miss him soooo goddamn much.
Pihilip neo how can i contact him?
U cheat on him? If u,,u will suffer till ur death...if ur fake love/ commitment fall down in front of ur ego....
@@arrowmax6189 no, I didn’t.
Also I am feeling much better now. But still miss him
Going thru this one yr after
Some memories have such a big weight… nothing can make u forget them
True love is when a person was loyal, and shows that even after the break up he tries to get her back.. not because just of the feelings, but because of the soul they were... or maybe are (behind a wall)
true
Ideally, but it takes 2 to make it work and frequently there is only 1
Thank you Jay after listening not even halfway through this video I went ahead and deleted the text message I had with my ex and kept his number blocked. I’m the only one who can help and free myself from the pain, I shouldn’t be the one experiencing heartbreak and anxiety when I’m the one who’s been there for him while he continues to treat me poorly. Hopefully I will regain my peace and happiness soon, I deserve to give myself that.
But In My Case Bcz Of Family We Have To Part Ways He Did His Best To Get Marriage With Me.... One Member Of Family paralysed Bcz Of Tension Bcz Of Our Love...... Why God Didn't Help Us.... He Loves Me Lot But.... How Can I Forgot Everything...... We Both Planed Very Beautiful Future Together.... We See So many Dreams Together.... How Can I Forgot
I'm going through the same thing.I did nothing wrong but he started putting up some strange attitude and used another girl on his dp.
He never asked for a breakup but his actions said it all.
When you text him it'll take him days to reply.
Great message
I deleted mine to early , time is slow
Same here was gonna to but I guess enough is enough. My lied for 2 months and drug me thru an extra stage.
@@ivylandtv3190in my case my ldr relationship was for only 5 month and in those 5 months he made me cried hundred times, not a single time did efforts to talk with me take days and hours to just reply me even never asked if I'm fine or not, when I asked him he used to asked same question to me.. I was fucking tired of all those things... But still I was not able to live without him he always treated me poorly like I'm just an option. And after five months he said let be friend I don't want relationship right now I just want to focus on my career,You are best person I've ever met blah blah... I begged him don't leave me like that... It's been already one year of breakup I used to talk with him as a friend till today I haven't move on from him😢knowing that he never loved me he was just doing his time pass I was really fool and till today I'm fool and I blame myself why I am so crazy for him why my mind and heart miss him... The person who hurted me most. I feel anxiety when I think all those things😢I just want to move on in my life, but I'm finding it's really hard since more than one year
After my last longterm relationship, I struggled to find myself for a few years, it was horrible! Hands down, I owe it all to being kinder to myself (emotionally) & finding a new hobbie (physically) that I now swear by.... Aqua Aerobics 😍 I have always been a water baby but hated intense gym workouts so this was perfect! And 2years later I continue to attend aqua as there is nothing more soothing than the buoncy in water & the company of our elders whom always make me feel safe 😍😍❤ These are the new memories I have created for my life & those I will never forget!
Trouble is I already know what I like to do, I’m 59 and love the things I love. That’s why I loved being with him, he and I shared the same wide range of interests and dreams and plans for our lives. So trying something new? I could travel to new places but I don’t have the money. I’ve started a new job yes. But here I am in the same house he came to and lived in. There are limited places locally to go, and we traveled all the roads round here because we loved riding our motorcycles all over the place. He lives a mile away. I feel like I can’t escape. In fact I make myself go to our old places so I know the last town I went wasn’t with him. I push myself to face those things and then leave. But home? I can’t leave here. So much reminds me of him and what we had. I’ve been pushing myself to look at the negative aspects of my relationship and his not so good side. But the sadness is here still and the void, and the memories. I do take care of me and see friends and keep busy when I enjoy it and have started new projects in my home. But I’m left with my own thoughts. I just don’t know what else I can do.
Wow it is like he is speaking out of my heart. I never would be able to describe it the way he does but it matches so perfectly.
Honestly, getting rid of visual triggers is tough but a blessing.
Yes
It's so tough. I can't do it yet 😢
@@ieshallure it's definately tough. Throw away or delet all the visual triggers with some courage. After its done, you can't go back anyway. Cry as much as you want before that but do it :)
@@lilliepad24 yes Lillie. It's difficult. Change the place you stay in in you can maybe? Should help to an extent. But I'm sure you'll get through this. Stay strong ❤️
@@harshithas1318 I'm so scared to do that because we have a daughter together and I want her to have all those pictures where we had special amazing times together before she was born and after. I would regret it if I was to delete all of that. But I do plan on getting a new iPhone soon and I'll just create a new icloud to keep them out of the new phone. Think that's a good alternative?
For me, going over text messages was my attempt to try and better understand what happened- though invariably it would just make me feel sad.
Thanks Jay - relationships can be so difficult for so many people to navigate...your videos provide such useful information for so many. Heart break is a topic we have all battled with at one time or another....
My girlfriend dumped me almost 30 years ago and I can’t say I truly ever got over it. I’ve moved on and even gotten married since, but my old girlfriend’s memory still lingers. When she dumped me she permanently damaged my soul and fundamentally changed the course for the person I became. In many ways I’m still broken hearted all these years later. Part of me died in that summer of 1994, the light dimmed in me never to glow as brightly again. I shouldn’t have let her have that kind of control, but I did and it’s a mistake I will live with forever.
Lord Have Mercy
She Is Your Soulmate??? If She your SoulMate you Can both see each other Again
Yep I feel stuck from 7 years ago I can feel it and it's still sitting there I feel like I have lost a loved one I agree that people can be so deeply affected it essentially becomes permanent I've tried loads of different things but nothing is touching how I still feel towards that person so I wonder if I'm caught in a similar situation I stupidly gave my heart away and had so much love and respect and adoration I also just feel broken hearted and like other long term commitments to me are just operating with a 'numb' and hollow or swallowed out aspect of myself it's honestly ridiculous It's like there's been a mistake and I feel like I'm in the wrong time line just semi-apathetic it's so strange. There must be so many other people living like this yet where can you even come out to say such things
I honestly just think it's true heartbreak. I'm not over it and that was 2016 for me the feelings just sit there I have tried to let go move on accept it but still they sit there unchanged I feel the exact same towards that person I expect it is unhealthy but I don't think it's my fault I'm a victim of love or limerance I don't know maybe I'm just a simp ?? So much Admiration and I never feel that way about people I usually just feel so disappointed I've been so impressed and hurt I love the inner word of my special person amazing - I still almost feel there must have been some mistake. Who knows ladies if an Engineer breaks your heart huh. 'WOW' is all I can think to describe them. I can't see myself getting over it at all. I won't budge so I'm stuck with it.
Very sorry this happened to you. I truly understand your pain. It has never gone away for me. She never even told me why she left me. Everything seemed fine and then she just stopped answering the phone. That was it. It’s one of the cruelest things anyone could do, to just disappear without a word. It led to a lifetime of self destructive behavior and depression. It’s a minor miracle that I’ve become successful in spite of it all. But I’m hollowed out inside.
A person with a broken heart often has episodes of sobbing, rage, and despair. They may not eat or sleep for days and may also neglect their personal hygiene.☹☹☹ Can you relate?
yes, slowly ull realise that u cannot do this to urself forever, u realise that u deserve everything good and thats why the bad part of ur life has left u
@@madhurimabasak7168 wow that hit me re that's why the bad part is gone. Thank you 🙏🏽
Its been a month he left me 😭😭 its so hard ..im still holding on ..still waiting for hin to come back 😭
Absolutely n totally.
yes. been there.
spend time with yourself, discover how awesome you are.
I did the same thing with people pleasing and I understand it more and more that I need to fill my own cup first and then help others from that place and not from place of always saying yes to everything and not caring enough for myself
I’ve been struggling bad over my ex. Been broken up for 4 years. I’m in A new relationship but I still find and feel that my heart still hurts. I feel like that relationship was karmic. I learned, and this video confirmed that I need to love myself like I loved him, be kinder to myself , and definitely create new memories. I think ultimately what hurt was that I was too loyal to a fault.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back. Also attracting SP, soulmate, and removing Third parties which works within 48hours....
Whatsaap him"**.
Be patient and trust your journey❤
To be Frank, comment section is the one who helps me
You are great thanks for bringing. back my separated, husband? th-cam.com/users/shortsxy2q4fkipsg?feature=share
I will always treasure the great memories I had with my ex so I won't destroy our photos and things I will just store them out of site, she was someone I was supposed to meet for a reason and when I see anything that reminds me of her I will remember that and remind myself the great benefits of growth obtained from the break up and how much of a better person from it. The break up should not be forgotten its motivation to keep on working on yourself, the pain will eventually go. It took me 8 weeks to get over the worst part of the break up and I am on my way to a better future.
I have been through so many moving on videos lately but this is just something else 😍
everything explained in such a simple way but its the best.
I think this technique won't just help with anxiety, but help my mom with her dementia to relax and to remember the moment. 5,4,3,2,1!
27 years... of missing him 😢💔 It's soul crushing.
Oh God I'm only since 2016 myself I'm exhausted I don't think my feelings are moving at all either I've tried loads of stuff but it just sits there Heartbroken And leaves me all sorts of baggage feelings I was foolishly blindsided
I think this interview/ chat is so important. It makes me think so much about all big relationships of the past and even current ones. I’m certainly finding me and my own inner love and expressing it in an open way.
Thank you endlessly. Every single word is such a breakthrough 🙏❤️❤️
Thank you for your powerful words, Jay!
Thank you so much for this word of encouragement. I am not in a good place of mind right now, I cry my heart out to God so he can give me strength to accept the things I can not change. Heartbreak is really one hell I wouldn't wish even my worst enemy. I pray I get through this soon
I hope you are finding support. Moment by moment 🙏
It's been over a month for me, even with therapy, throwing away all reminders, and i still cry myself to sleep sometimes. 3 year relationship but the last year was out of pity. Lied everytime I knew she didn't want to be with me and I asked her I was told she still wants to grow old with me and have my daughter feel like her own. Said the same thing 2 weeks before she disowned us both and kicked us out without warning with nowhere to go.. I now know she was emotionally immature but I thought we meant more than what we got. It's incredibly hard getting over betrayal as well as the illusion of someone you thought you knew and revolved your future around.
How are you doing now? It’s been a month for me in a similar situation.
Oh My Good Lord!!!! Thank you. I needed this for so long.
How can someone know so much and that much sounds so true and powerful?!😭😭
I have gone through hell and still recovering. I got totally crushed mentally and I think many people had taken their lives to not deal with the pain, but instead I chose to fight, I chose to rise from the ashes. I changed my life completely and took care of my mind, body and soul and Im doing progress every day, slowly. I have learned to observe the pain and the guilt and surrender to it. The universe is the judge and the jury and sees it all, trust it and follow the path is has chosen for you and be grateful and live in the present. I need now to start making new memories. Thank you for a good video clip. #lifeisbeatuful #letthepastgo
Hi guys, just come to an end of a 10 year marriage with my Wife, 14 years together in total. Absolutely heart broken and that sinking feeling I've never felt before. Right down to my gut, it's still so raw so hoping next couple days I start to at least sleep. Been less than 48 hours. Very amicable break up with no children involved but think the spark has gone, we have a house togethor. Never thought of writing on something like this or ever having the need to, but reading some of the comments is also gut wrenching
Your in my prayers brother. 🙏 Stay focused on the positive and keep busy. Try to start eating better exercising and having some new time with friends as well as prayer time
I feel you Richard, you're going to go through a lot of emotions, believe me a lot! Best advice I can give you is to be strong. Go ahead and cry it out bro. Prayer helps too. I was in a 9 year relationship, we both owned a house together, both have children of our own. She chose to leave, it's tough to swallow but I've learned a lot from that relationship. I hold no resentment or bitterness towards her. Things happen for a reason...Now is the time to be a better you. I know you feel lost, but work on yourself. Look better, feel better! Try new things by yourself or with some good friends. Things will get better, don't sit in that funk for too long. You got this!!.. my prayers go out to you and your wife.
Hey friend I got my relationship fixed back with the help of a man brought my partner back in 48 hours After 8 months of separation.❤❤
There are so many other feelings that can't express it
the feeling of nostalgic is real. i am happy with my state now, but I cant help thinking about his advice and our moment.
How is it so easy for yah to move forward so strong
I need help please help remove the pain
Love 5-4-3-2-1 and kindness!
I need to learn how to serve myself more. 🍒
I have told myself “I’m over him, I’m letting go” so many times. I’ve lived life to the fullest since he left. Kept myself busy every second possible with people I love. I’ve found new loves, I’ve learned to cope, but I would be lying if I said that when the front door closes and it’s just me, I don’t still lose it. I feel my happiest when I am alone, remembering him. It’s been 8 years. I don’t think I’m getting over him, and I don’t think I want to. I’m just trying to be grateful I got to have him while I did.
I love Ashley and I really enjoyed this exchange. Her questions were thoughtful and her receiving the answers you gave was so great to watch.
It's difficult when you have a child/children with that special person and the kids remind you of them.
Thank you for helping me, I will always support you and your work
You are a really a good person and good friend ☺️
My favourite speaker Jay genius. I love all your programs.
Thank you very much for this, Jay. I learned a lot and will definitely use these to move on and live a better life for myself and others.