Spot on! I walked away after a 2 1/2 year relationship. She started lining up some guy behind my back while at the same time creating the illusion we were in a happy fulfilling relationship. When we broke up, she gave me a hundred reasons of why she was ending it until I calmly interrogated her about another guy being in the background. She finally admitted to it, and after we broke it off i disappeared and went off the radar. The best medication for me was to mourn the situation for 2-3 weeks and then get back out there and start approaching women and accumulating phone numbers. I’m still a bit shell shocked by the circumstances of my breakup, but walking away, disappearing, hitting the gym, and scouting out new women is the best medication for any guy in that situation. My breakup was only a few weeks ago, and it still hurts considering the circumstances, but I got a new gym membership, reconnected with old friends, and bought new clothes and shoes. I completely changed my diet, routines, style, and am pushing forward into new beginnings.
Never beg or tried to get him back, he regret & came back saying he realised he loved u more than he thought, slowly took him back, 5 months later, left again with similar reasons (or excuses). Worst is 3 days after breaking up then texted you again. Gonna ignore forever. If they dump you once, thy will do it again, it's s pattern.
When she pulled the plug, I stopped trying to fix the situation and went no contact. Its been almost one and a half month. I'm finally starting to get over her. I doubt that no contact has had any effect on her. She ditched me for another guy who she has started dating behind my back. I wouldn't even bet on the fact that she remembers that I even exist at all!
I’m in the same boat brother. She did the same thing to me after 2 1/2 years together. The best thing to do is to grieve for a couple of weeks after the horrific experience, and then get back out there and talk to women you see in public. Screw online dating, and just approach women in public places like grocery stores, department stores, etc. Start the game all over again and keep your mind occupied talking to other women. Believe me it pays off and you can move on faster knowing your ex gf is in bed with another guy. It’s a horrifying experience to go through that, but as long as the sun is shining the game ain’t over.
That horrible for you boys But the new guy will flick her over badly .. And she will come back … NEVER TAKE HER BACK if she’s get her back. Lien out it’s by a guy who has a few on the go That means her pussy is now toxic and carrying a disease that will kill you and leave her alive Get to the gym with the boys Get into a new class like dancing .. so much fun and enjoyable and it’s wall to wall women who only get to dance with the gay guys … they will Weldon You with open arms and after you learn to do a waltz or salsa … you’ll never be left alone at a party or wedding .. they flock to you boys trust me … The dancing alone dropped 30 pounds off me without the gym … Do it , get strong we are the prize .. we are MEN
Same boat as you boys. 7 years, raised her daughter from 4-12, and tried to be a role model to her 12 yr old son from ANOTHER relationship. yeah red flags all day, but she was a great woman until she decided she was done with me and left me for another guy, who she had to have cheated with because the guy moved in to the apt 4 days after I was out. it's been just over a month I went no contact immediately. we had a few interactions to gather things and whatnot. Well once I had the last of my things I told her I think its time to cut ties. she didn't react too well and blocked me from social media. but by now I've already moved past her pretty well. there's still some pain but everyday is better. Boys you'll be surprised what the gym, some new clothes, a haircut and a plan will do for you.
lol wtfever I've never all of a sudden grown more attracted to a job that turned me down, nor have I ever become more attracted to someone who throws you away like trash. If anything it makes you feel more disgusted by them and who they really are
@@ThomasP525 dont worry, he stopped to continue watched the video the minutes after dissapointed with the ridicilous job with lost of love analogy, we clicked and watched the video because we seek realistic input
If someone dumps you and you think maybe it could have had potential for a healthy relationship, tell them if they want to reconcile they are more than welcome to initiate that but they shouldn't contact you unless that's the discussion they want to have. Then happily move on with your life.
Even though I did some mistakes leading up to the break up and after, I feel like I did ultimately leave the situation from a strong place. Giving them what they want despite them knowing how much you don't want it, is attractive. My ex knew I didn't want to end the relationship at all, which in a sense was unattractive because she gave me plenty of reasons to feel like I should have. That being said, human feelings are real and if you love somebody sometimes you have to realize that real love comes from them being happy, and you being happy. At the point of the break up neither of you were happy. Give success the best chance by letting your loved one go. Two caged animals cannot love in a way that will produce anything good. If you really loved that person, you'd let them be free
@@leratoseretsi5603how is it mean? They dumped you. If they don’t text me something like “hey let’s get together. Or hey let’s talk” they can screw off
Funny my ex continuously contacted me from day one.”bread crumbs “ 8 months of that bs along wth trying to friendzone me ,Until I realized after a few conversations and thought s. Was bs ,so 2months now ive finally decided to let go and walk away zero contact since … Not once over the time i ever reached out was always her !!!
So i finally gave my buddy the rest of my exes things. I was so antsy about it. Now that ive gave it to her, no notes no letter, just not asking for anything in return i feel ok. Not sad but not happy but like a weight has been lifted. I love her still but i think im starting to feel normal again. Not completely but i think im getting there. Will she feel me letting go?
Hell yeah if you never contact her. You know how it is when you love someone so much and then you’re like ah maybe it’s because of this or this imma text her/him but no more. You stop that and then she’s like wow it’s for real now.
My pregnant ex fiancé’s mindset became to block me out of our unborn baby’s life. I don’t care about her anymore there was too much damage done. I only care about the baby.
My dumper hasn’t really changed. It’s been 8 months. He hangs with his guy friends and works all the time. His mother passed after we split in Feb if this year. But prior to that we were together for 5 years. I’m now to the point I want to entirely let go. I love him but this is toxic asf, runner chaser bs. He doesn’t care and only cares when it’s convenient for him. He takes my daughter out to eat every so often. He comes around but acts really mean and irritated with me. It literally messes with my energy every time and I’m left crying and like panicked. He’s a DAvoidant and I’m anxious of course. I’ve been working on my value and my self concepts and choosing myself. I really want to cut him out of my life by letting go.
Thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear of your struggle. The grind of moving forward can feel like a marathon rather than a sprint. Have you considered audio coaching to help you through breakup recovery?
Do not chase them or beg! Trust me! It won't help and you're only cheapening yourself in your ex's eyes and you'll come to realise it yourself in time too. Don't do it!
I'm assuming "letting go" doesn't have much effect if the dumper gets involved/moved in with someone new within a few months of breaking up? Added layer...We're still married, she hasn't filed for divorce yet. It's been 5 months since she left.
Does your advice on this particular subject include the following scenario? Not talking about a rebound or monkey branching. Your ex began an affair about 3 months prior to the official break up date and purports to be very excited and happy. This seems to a scenario most relationship experts avoid. Is it because of its low probability of a couple reuniting and therefor ‘bad business’ for the relationship experts who focus on getting your ex back?
Hello and thank you for your question. No advice works 100% of the time and no advice fails 100% of the time. However, from my research over many years and countless scenarios, there is less chance of reconnecting with a dumper if the dumpee ‘chases them’. If someone ends a relationship, begging, pleading etc is less likely to re-attract that person (whether they are now single or dating someone new).
@@vincentbos well single from the woman he is bk with?( which was also the woman he was separted from, from a MINUTE marriage!, after her he had been dating around for 8 months then met me and we were together for almost 2 years. He jumped rt bk to her (they had a horrible relationship according to everyone). ..now they are acting like no time had passed and he has left me in the dust after a life of plans with me :(
If you're experiencing all this from a dumper there's most likely no real connection. I got this treatment while playing it cool after being dumped. She kept trying to hang around without being in a relationship. Several months later she straight up just blurred out she has no idea how much money I make. All of that was just because she couldn't make an informed decision whether she wants to go back to full fake mode to score big bucks. 😂
Hi Sasi, thanks for your question. A dumper in a rebound will have a clouded mindset due to their current connection. However, the positive impact of a dumpee 'letting go' remains the same.
Fax 💯 my pops told me once a woman breaks up with and sleeps with someone else then tries to come back it wouldn't be the same she is tainted let goooooo and move on to greater and better have an abundance mindset
@@alangodfrey3598 I tell you after a while of no contact. Your mind does become clearer. Just keep focusing on yourself little by little it gets easier. This is coming from a guy who is in a 28-year marriage. And she left me for a friend of mine I got a new 35 years. also I was in a 13-year relationship after that. And now she has dumped me. just keep going watch things that make you laugh.
Hi, I’m a big fan of your podcasts and find that it’s helping during my break up. My ex broke up with me almost 5 weeks ago. We were only together about 6 Months I accepted the break up clearly I was upset but I didn’t beg or plead and went straight into no contact and haven’t reached out. I discovered almost two weeks ago she blocked my number on what’s app. Was wondering why she might of done that? Also do you think I will hear from her again? I would never reach out first as I have my pride and dignity. Thanks.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m very sorry to hear of your situation. There is no way of knowing for certain why you were blocked, but it’s likely done as a way to try and focus on moving forward in a new direction. However, I know of many dumpees that have been blocked and then unblocked months later. It’s certainly possible you could hear from your ex again, but nothing can be guaranteed. It’s important you focus on your own journey.
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Spot on! I walked away after a 2 1/2 year relationship. She started lining up some guy behind my back while at the same time creating the illusion we were in a happy fulfilling relationship. When we broke up, she gave me a hundred reasons of why she was ending it until I calmly interrogated her about another guy being in the background. She finally admitted to it, and after we broke it off i disappeared and went off the radar. The best medication for me was to mourn the situation for 2-3 weeks and then get back out there and start approaching women and accumulating phone numbers. I’m still a bit shell shocked by the circumstances of my breakup, but walking away, disappearing, hitting the gym, and scouting out new women is the best medication for any guy in that situation. My breakup was only a few weeks ago, and it still hurts considering the circumstances, but I got a new gym membership, reconnected with old friends, and bought new clothes and shoes. I completely changed my diet, routines, style, and am pushing forward into new beginnings.
I'm 4 months plus NC after 8 years. She threw me out like trash.
I'm now giving her the gift of my absence indefinitely. RIP ex
Never beg or tried to get him back, he regret & came back saying he realised he loved u more than he thought, slowly took him back, 5 months later, left again with similar reasons (or excuses). Worst is 3 days after breaking up then texted you again. Gonna ignore forever. If they dump you once, thy will do it again, it's s pattern.
When she pulled the plug, I stopped trying to fix the situation and went no contact. Its been almost one and a half month. I'm finally starting to get over her.
I doubt that no contact has had any effect on her. She ditched me for another guy who she has started dating behind my back. I wouldn't even bet on the fact that she remembers that I even exist at all!
Update?
I’m in the same boat brother. She did the same thing to me after 2 1/2 years together. The best thing to do is to grieve for a couple of weeks after the horrific experience, and then get back out there and talk to women you see in public. Screw online dating, and just approach women in public places like grocery stores, department stores, etc. Start the game all over again and keep your mind occupied talking to other women. Believe me it pays off and you can move on faster knowing your ex gf is in bed with another guy. It’s a horrifying experience to go through that, but as long as the sun is shining the game ain’t over.
That horrible for you boys
But the new guy will flick her over badly ..
And she will come back … NEVER TAKE HER BACK
if she’s get her back. Lien out it’s by a guy who has a few on the go
That means her pussy is now toxic and carrying a disease that will kill you and leave her alive
Get to the gym with the boys
Get into a new class like dancing .. so much fun and enjoyable and it’s wall to wall women who only get to dance with the gay guys … they will Weldon
You with open arms and after you learn to do a waltz or salsa … you’ll never be left alone at a party or wedding .. they flock to you boys trust me …
The dancing alone dropped 30 pounds off me without the gym …
Do it , get strong we are the prize .. we are MEN
Any updates?
Same boat as you boys. 7 years, raised her daughter from 4-12, and tried to be a role model to her 12 yr old son from ANOTHER relationship. yeah red flags all day, but she was a great woman until she decided she was done with me and left me for another guy, who she had to have cheated with because the guy moved in to the apt 4 days after I was out. it's been just over a month I went no contact immediately. we had a few interactions to gather things and whatnot. Well once I had the last of my things I told her I think its time to cut ties. she didn't react too well and blocked me from social media. but by now I've already moved past her pretty well. there's still some pain but everyday is better. Boys you'll be surprised what the gym, some new clothes, a haircut and a plan will do for you.
lol wtfever I've never all of a sudden grown more attracted to a job that turned me down, nor have I ever become more attracted to someone who throws you away like trash. If anything it makes you feel more disgusted by them and who they really are
Amen. Never take garbage from trash!!!
Yet here you are watching this video lol. Drop the ego.
He clearly said "most people", not "all people"
@@ThomasP525 exactly the nerve lol..
@@ThomasP525 dont worry, he stopped to continue watched the video the minutes after dissapointed with the ridicilous job with lost of love analogy, we clicked and watched the video because we seek realistic input
After dumping me, I thought I would never come across someone like her. Boy was I wrong!
If someone dumps you and you think maybe it could have had potential for a healthy relationship, tell them if they want to reconcile they are more than welcome to initiate that but they shouldn't contact you unless that's the discussion they want to have. Then happily move on with your life.
Even though I did some mistakes leading up to the break up and after, I feel like I did ultimately leave the situation from a strong place. Giving them what they want despite them knowing how much you don't want it, is attractive. My ex knew I didn't want to end the relationship at all, which in a sense was unattractive because she gave me plenty of reasons to feel like I should have. That being said, human feelings are real and if you love somebody sometimes you have to realize that real love comes from them being happy, and you being happy. At the point of the break up neither of you were happy. Give success the best chance by letting your loved one go. Two caged animals cannot love in a way that will produce anything good. If you really loved that person, you'd let them be free
My dumper monkey branch, I got hurt felt like sh**t , it’s been one year now I feel great, truth is I am quiet certain she regrets dumping me
Hi KG, thanks for your comment. 2022 can be the best year of your life
What happens if we don't respond to their new year wish?
That's mean
@@leratoseretsi5603how is it mean? They dumped you. If they don’t text me something like “hey let’s get together. Or hey let’s talk” they can screw off
You are absolutely right. Women have to stop chasing their dumper. Women need to develop a high self worth.
Funny my ex continuously contacted me from day one.”bread crumbs “ 8 months of that bs along wth trying to friendzone me ,Until I realized after a few conversations and thought s. Was bs ,so 2months now ive finally decided to let go and walk away zero contact since … Not once over the time i ever reached out was always her !!!
I think if relationship was full of serious fights, even if he misses you,he may swear on his mother s grave and force himself to move foward
So i finally gave my buddy the rest of my exes things. I was so antsy about it. Now that ive gave it to her, no notes no letter, just not asking for anything in return i feel ok. Not sad but not happy but like a weight has been lifted. I love her still but i think im starting to feel normal again. Not completely but i think im getting there. Will she feel me letting go?
Hell yeah if you never contact her. You know how it is when you love someone so much and then you’re like ah maybe it’s because of this or this imma text her/him but no more. You stop that and then she’s like wow it’s for real now.
A dumper will always notice if a dumpee 'lets go'. It's a positive action for a dumpee to take from all perspectives.
My pregnant ex fiancé’s mindset became to block me out of our unborn baby’s life. I don’t care about her anymore there was too much damage done. I only care about the baby.
Thank you for your comment Jeffrey. I hope that everything is amicable when the baby is born.
Depends why y’all broke up who is the bad person in this.
My dumper hasn’t really changed. It’s been 8 months. He hangs with his guy friends and works all the time. His mother passed after we split in Feb if this year. But prior to that we were together for 5 years. I’m now to the point I want to entirely let go. I love him but this is toxic asf, runner chaser bs. He doesn’t care and only cares when it’s convenient for him. He takes my daughter out to eat every so often. He comes around but acts really mean and irritated with me. It literally messes with my energy every time and I’m left crying and like panicked. He’s a DAvoidant and I’m anxious of course.
I’ve been working on my value and my self concepts and choosing myself. I really want to cut him out of my life by letting go.
Thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear of your struggle. The grind of moving forward can feel like a marathon rather than a sprint. Have you considered audio coaching to help you through breakup recovery?
What if we’ve been together for almost 6 years with a child.
Do not chase them or beg! Trust me! It won't help and you're only cheapening yourself in your ex's eyes and you'll come to realise it yourself in time too.
Don't do it!
I'm assuming "letting go" doesn't have much effect if the dumper gets involved/moved in with someone new within a few months of breaking up? Added layer...We're still married, she hasn't filed for divorce yet. It's been 5 months since she left.
Move on
Does your advice on this particular subject include the following scenario? Not talking about a rebound or monkey branching.
Your ex began an affair about 3 months prior to the official break up date and purports to be very excited and happy.
This seems to a scenario most relationship experts avoid. Is it because of its low probability of a couple reuniting and therefor ‘bad business’ for the relationship experts who focus on getting your ex back?
Hello and thank you for your question. No advice works 100% of the time and no advice fails 100% of the time. However, from my research over many years and countless scenarios, there is less chance of reconnecting with a dumper if the dumpee ‘chases them’.
If someone ends a relationship, begging, pleading etc is less likely to re-attract that person (whether they are now single or dating someone new).
My ex is bk wih his ex i doubt he cares anymore
Hi Kris, how long was your ex single before you got together?
@@vincentbos well single from the woman he is bk with?( which was also the woman he was separted from, from a MINUTE marriage!, after her he had been dating around for 8 months then met me and we were together for almost 2 years. He jumped rt bk to her (they had a horrible relationship according to everyone). ..now they are acting like no time had passed and he has left me in the dust after a life of plans with me :(
It may work temporarily but after that you just say oh well. Your loss!
If you're experiencing all this from a dumper there's most likely no real connection. I got this treatment while playing it cool after being dumped. She kept trying to hang around without being in a relationship. Several months later she straight up just blurred out she has no idea how much money I make. All of that was just because she couldn't make an informed decision whether she wants to go back to full fake mode to score big bucks. 😂
She dump you because she wasnt happy with you, let go. There is somebody else new for you.
I love your videos but would you consider changing your background from white to black? It hurts my eyes , thank you
What if they're in a rebound?
Hi Sasi, thanks for your question. A dumper in a rebound will have a clouded mindset due to their current connection. However, the positive impact of a dumpee 'letting go' remains the same.
Fax 💯 my pops told me once a woman breaks up with and sleeps with someone else then tries to come back it wouldn't be the same she is tainted let goooooo and move on to greater and better have an abundance mindset
@@alangodfrey3598 I tell you after a while of no contact. Your mind does become clearer. Just keep focusing on yourself little by little it gets easier. This is coming from a guy who is in a 28-year marriage. And she left me for a friend of mine I got a new 35 years. also I was in a 13-year relationship after that. And now she has dumped me. just keep going watch things that make you laugh.
I need a doomper
Somewhere somehow i think this dumper/ dumpy scenario glamorize the dumper too much which is Bull ishhh, 😢 people are people
Another great podcast! However, what if the dumper broke up with you because he already had found a woman for himself.
Hi, I’m a big fan of your podcasts and find that it’s helping during my break up.
My ex broke up with me almost 5 weeks ago. We were only together about 6 Months I accepted the break up clearly I was upset but I didn’t beg or plead and went straight into no contact and haven’t reached out. I discovered almost two weeks ago she blocked my number on what’s app. Was wondering why she might of done that? Also do you think I will hear from her again? I would never reach out first as I have my pride and dignity. Thanks.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m very sorry to hear of your situation. There is no way of knowing for certain why you were blocked, but it’s likely done as a way to try and focus on moving forward in a new direction. However, I know of many dumpees that have been blocked and then unblocked months later. It’s certainly possible you could hear from your ex again, but nothing can be guaranteed. It’s important you focus on your own journey.
The dumper never considers that maybe while they're dumping someone the dumper has already noticed the dumper has been an annoying asshole anyway. 😂
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