It hurts to watch my ex self destruct but eventually they will hold a mirror up to themselves and realize their pain is caused by their decision. And by then, it will be too late
To everyone who got dumped by their ex and watching this video, please listen to Vincent. He's right. You must respect your ex's decision. At first I know it will be hard for you to internalize it and you'll shrug off the idea of walking away but in time you'll realize, when it's not hurting anymore, that you chose the right decision to preserve your self respect by not chasing the person who doesn't want you in their life anymore.
@@utopiansigma8827 it really depends but when you're hoping for them to come back, that's usually gonna hinder your progress with "moving forward" as how Vincent usually say it. It's best to look at the scenario by just leaving it as: "If it's meant to be, then it's really meant to be" and focus more on self-improvement.
@@utopiansigma8827 In many cases, yes. It usually happens when you are not thinking of them anymore and have gotten to a place where you are having fun and looking forward to the exciting things going on in your life. By then though, you may deem the potential prospects of another partner FAR more attractive than giving your ex that dumped you another chance. Then, it will be their turn to chase and plead.
I chase for a month trying to get her back until one I woke up I said enough. You don't value me. Fine You discard me. FINE I made mistakes and I owned up to it. Fine You used me Fine. Now when I walked away and never look back now I'm FINE. don't let anyone play with your feelings by giving you crumbs and using you for money. Show them you are better then that and why would you want that person. When they are showing you their true colors. Value yourself first Love you first Become a better person Don't take revenge the best revenge is living better and being happy. Good luck everyone
Let your heart speak Then no contact ( maintain it as hard as it is , hopefully you do not slip ) Let go ( the rule of focusing on you and attract without trying hard anymore ) Live life If it happends for the person to come back , you hold the cards
I do not think you should leave the door open. If your Ex has made it clear that it is too late for them and want an out let them go. Why hang on to someone who does not want you. I was married for 9 years with 2 sons and divorced my ex when I found out about the rebound partner.
My ex fiance seemed to completely self destruct and completely ghosted. There were absolutely no problems in our relationship that I was ever made aware of. Hurt worse than anything for months.
Same, she was distant for a couple months but I asked her about it several times and she said it was something she was dealing with. I thought she would be there for me in my bad days, so I should be there for her. Nope, she was just making it easier for herself to move on. Never again.
@@TheFeezy777 yeah, I figured that at the time, pretty sure I know who. never spoken to her since, I've been a lot happier just doing things for myself honestly. she was always in a shitty mood and now I don't have anything dragging me down
Right?! everything was great unless 2 months before the wedding.. She left me and her reasons were such crap. I know she truly has demons she must fight from her past. She has a track record of dating terrible people and when she met me didn't know what to do with a man who was good and didn't need fixing. I am a total mess without my other half and what really sucks is now I have my wall up higher than ever and my trust levels are at 0%. I honestly have no idea how to move forward.. If there was ever a true soulmate she was it..
After he dumped me I beg and plead..and I thought trying to be friends would help. Did this for 4 months and I realized its not helping me...is it too late now to start no contact? Part of me still hopes he comes back...
It's never too late to start doing the right things. Here is a link to a mini series I did to help in this situation - th-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for your honesty. I really feel low. I’ve blocked him on every thing for mental healing and health. I’m so hurt. He just walked out of my life ghost style we lived together for 5 years. I feel low 😞 no contact for almost four months. He use to view my stories. It was messing with my head. He never made contact so I just blocked him. I felt like I was leaving the door open by not blocking him.
Thank you for your comment. You must always put your mental health first. If you feel depressed, please speak with a local doctor. You are currently in a dark, bleak tunnel in your mind. However, if you move forward, you will get through the darkness and into the light of happiness. You will have an exciting and happy future. Keep moving forward :)
@@vincentbos Thank you so much I truly appreciate your kind words. Thank you for the encouragement and motivation. Sending positive vibrations your way and continued success
I am literally watching my dumper regret his decision. As I level up and move on (at his request!) he is watching me improve, not sit down and get fat to validate his decision to dump me, but fitter, healthier and more successful. I can see him wither that he has to face his friends in his depression every day that he did this - it is a sad, sorry thing to watch
How about if your ex is a full blown narcissist? Does this advice even qualify in that situation? I know that term is thrown around alot but this guy is something else.
I chased him but in retrospect it was a small amount. I knew not to from previous times, but it was way less than I did in the past before knowing about it. Still acted in the moment but I snapped out of it after just a few times because the way he interacted with me when I did was jarring. And I remember it from when we last broke up. Did not like it. It shook me out of it.
My ex broke up with me through text while I was at work almost two months ago. She blocked me on everything but after going no contact she unblocked my snap but just that
You knkw what out of 10000000 of videos i have watched yours makes the most sense to me and actually makes the most logical reasoning why my ex is behaving the way she is
I hate her, she dumped me then moved a block away from me. I have to run into her all the time. I specifically asked her to move to any other part of the city. Idk why she had to move literally one block from me.
She dumped me multiple times and came crawling back, took her back every time. All I want is for her to do it again so I can say no. But it’s been 6 months this time and I doubt she will. She did reach out and said a bunch of sentimental stuff and apologized. I just said it’s all good wish you well.
I am working with my ex. He is my boss. I thought of leaving but if i would have left his company there would be nibody who could do my job and it would hurt the customers in the end. Plus loosing a love is one thing. Loosing his complete life and future is another thing. I respect his disission and never tried to in touch with him about privat subjects. But still he is angry with me...
Hi Boss hope you are well sir Question If someone isn't getting over losing someone, does it mean they love them so much or they are obsessed? Why don't people get over losing someone ?
I would suggest that "Out of sight, Out of mind" is something which could work in the short-term. 'No Contact' is something which will grow romantic, emotional attraction and if it hits the necessary high point, there is a chance of reconnection.
It's been 4 and a 1/2 months Christmas time The 1st 3 months were hell this last month was OK These last 2 weeks she's been reaching out texting me Facebook direct message and now I don't know if I want her back It's amazing how that works so if you just got dumped and you're filling it trust me 3 4 months from now everything's gonna change work on yourself you're not working start working and trust me it's gonna flip and when it does you might not want her back because I don't think I want her back You fucked up
Hello Vincent, My ex girlfriend broke up with me around 5/6 months ago. I tried to remain on speaking terms with text messages every so often, but was told to move on and to stop wasting my time messaging her! I have been in no contact since then, which was 6 weeks ago. Do I ever message her again or wait for her to reach out to me?! Thanks.
@@kenirwin9536 Hi Ken and thank you for your reply and advice, it is appreciated! I will take what you have said on board and resist the temptation to reach out and initiate any sort of contact. I am sorry to hear about your situation with your ex partner and that you are still grieving badly, it truly is awful and probably worse than death as they are still around. I cannot see us both getting back together as she always used to say she was ‘too good for me’ that she ‘could do better’ and she ‘wasn’t attracted to me’! It is also incredibly hard meeting anyone else at this moment in time with the whole Covid situation going on :(
My main issue is something I know i have no ability to know, but I doubt things will work. I got myself to let go but there were an onslaught of Facebook posts I made one night that I meant to be hidden from him but accidentally didn’t realize he could see them. And I think that ruined it when I could have had the chance to recover
Hi Vincent another good podcast as well I have got it into my head I think I will after do this in my situation but she keeps asking now an then too do jobs for her but am the type of guy that can’t say no because I still have lots of feelings for her even tho it was my actions that caused us too break up an I hurt the main trust core in her even tho it’s been a year an 7 days since we broke up
@@jasonrichardson8012 I really appreciate your kind words. Currently, my schedule is every Monday, Wednesday & Friday - with occasional live streams as well. I also post polls and older videos on my community tab every so often.
First! ... And yes, I'm already starting to let him go mentally and emotionally after 3 months.. it's hard to even expect him to get into contact with me since there's still a lot of us waiting to get vaccinated and it's still scary to go outside for too long..
Why do eveeybody assume and talk about dumpees begging and pleading? In my case, we were having the break up talk in my car, when he told me he loves me, but he is not in love with me, and he also loves what we have, and doesnt wanna lose it... i got so pissed, i quietly told him to get the fuck out of my car, and drove away. And unfriended him on social media, and not contacting him at all since the break up (we are in the 4th week as of now). He texted me a long ass paragraph 2 days after the break up trying to explain himself, the reason behind his decision, which i didnt respond... Three days after that he sent me a message thru a mutual friend saying how incredibly sorry he was, how he didnt want things to be this way, how he still cares about me a lot, blah blah blah. So what now? 🤷😁
Move on Same thing happened to me but it our bedroom. 3 year relationship I stepped up to be a father figure to 3 boys. 5 8 14 Helped her get a new car Rewire her house Pay the bills Fix her credit Took her on vacations I showed the youngest one how to ride a bicycle Graduation Where was the father a Facebook dad. So thats what I got I love you but not in love I tried for a month and one day I woke up and it was enough You don't appreciate it me You don't value me You don't want to try. Ok I walked away never to look back. Best decision ever. Good luck
I always wonder why when someone says that, "I love you just not in love with you" then they come back and say sorry? I'll answer my own question: it's a manipulation tactic. People like that NEVER learned how to be secure in their emotions and actually say and do what they mean. They shouldn't get involved with anyone until they learn how to be emotionally mature. Chances are, all of their partners heard the same line.
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Yep.
If you were good then they’ll be back begging and crying. It’s sad
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They sure did. I'll never forget the pain I felt when he drove away.
It hurts to watch my ex self destruct but eventually they will hold a mirror up to themselves and realize their pain is caused by their decision. And by then, it will be too late
You will find happiness TheOne. Keep striving forward.
Time heals and space creates attraction. Always watching your videos in 🇰🇪
I don't want or need my ex back. I got a new girlfriend, new job, new haircut. I'm feeling great and I'm far better off without her
This is brilliant. I always say you will either get your ex back or find someone even better.
Lol then why are you here? Just curious
@@jd6331 right why would you be looking at this video then it’s not a logical way handling being healed at all sir
That’s because he not really happy like he say he is .. cause he wouldn’t be watching this video if he wasn’t curious or hurt about the relationship
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To everyone who got dumped by their ex and watching this video, please listen to Vincent.
He's right. You must respect your ex's decision. At first I know it will be hard for you to internalize it and you'll shrug off the idea of walking away but in time you'll realize, when it's not hurting anymore, that you chose the right decision to preserve your self respect by not chasing the person who doesn't want you in their life anymore.
Will they revert back ever?
Yes.
@@utopiansigma8827 it really depends but when you're hoping for them to come back, that's usually gonna hinder your progress with "moving forward" as how Vincent usually say it. It's best to look at the scenario by just leaving it as: "If it's meant to be, then it's really meant to be" and focus more on self-improvement.
@@utopiansigma8827
In many cases, yes. It usually happens when you are not thinking of them anymore and have gotten to a place where you are having fun and looking forward to the exciting things going on in your life. By then though, you may deem the potential prospects of another partner FAR more attractive than giving your ex that dumped you another chance. Then, it will be their turn to chase and plead.
You know how hard it is to find someone compatable
Hi Anti, yes it can be very challenging to find your perfect person, but it can be done :)
I chase for a month trying to get her back until one I woke up I said enough.
You don't value me. Fine
You discard me. FINE
I made mistakes and I owned up to it. Fine
You used me Fine.
Now when I walked away and never look back now I'm FINE.
don't let anyone play with your feelings by giving you crumbs and using you for money.
Show them you are better then that and why would you want that person.
When they are showing you their true colors.
Value yourself first
Love you first
Become a better person
Don't take revenge the best revenge is living better and being happy.
Good luck everyone
On pooint
I went through the same exact thing. You are not alone
I admire your consistency and work ethic. You put out such a steady stream of videos. That's a formula for success!
Glad you think so! Thank you for your kind words.
Ok no matter how bad my day may be, that outro song puts a smile on my face
The problem is I am beginning to lose feelings for ex
That's a good thing
Dumpee sounds like he was once a part of the 7 dwarfs 😂
Just let the universe take care of things let it go
Let your heart speak
Then no contact ( maintain it as hard as it is , hopefully you do not slip )
Let go ( the rule of focusing on you and attract without trying hard anymore )
Live life
If it happends for the person to come back , you hold the cards
I do not think you should leave the door open. If your Ex has made it clear that it is too late for them and want an out let them go. Why hang on to someone who does not want you. I was married for 9 years with 2 sons and divorced my ex when I found out about the rebound partner.
My ex fiance seemed to completely self destruct and completely ghosted. There were absolutely no problems in our relationship that I was ever made aware of. Hurt worse than anything for months.
Same
Same, she was distant for a couple months but I asked her about it several times and she said it was something she was dealing with. I thought she would be there for me in my bad days, so I should be there for her. Nope, she was just making it easier for herself to move on. Never again.
@@Weimerica8841 it was someone else in the picture bro
@@TheFeezy777 yeah, I figured that at the time, pretty sure I know who. never spoken to her since, I've been a lot happier just doing things for myself honestly. she was always in a shitty mood and now I don't have anything dragging me down
Right?! everything was great unless 2 months before the wedding.. She left me and her reasons were such crap. I know she truly has demons she must fight from her past. She has a track record of dating terrible people and when she met me didn't know what to do with a man who was good and didn't need fixing. I am a total mess without my other half and what really sucks is now I have my wall up higher than ever and my trust levels are at 0%. I honestly have no idea how to move forward.. If there was ever a true soulmate she was it..
After he dumped me I beg and plead..and I thought trying to be friends would help. Did this for 4 months and I realized its not helping me...is it too late now to start no contact? Part of me still hopes he comes back...
It's never too late to start doing the right things. Here is a link to a mini series I did to help in this situation - th-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for your honesty. I really feel low. I’ve blocked him on every thing for mental healing and health. I’m so hurt. He just walked out of my life ghost style we lived together for 5 years. I feel low 😞 no contact for almost four months. He use to view my stories. It was messing with my head. He never made contact so I just blocked him. I felt like I was leaving the door open by not blocking him.
Thank you for your comment. You must always put your mental health first. If you feel depressed, please speak with a local doctor.
You are currently in a dark, bleak tunnel in your mind. However, if you move forward, you will get through the darkness and into the light of happiness. You will have an exciting and happy future. Keep moving forward :)
@@vincentbos Thank you so much I truly appreciate your kind words. Thank you for the encouragement and motivation. Sending positive vibrations your way and continued success
I am literally watching my dumper regret his decision. As I level up and move on (at his request!) he is watching me improve, not sit down and get fat to validate his decision to dump me, but fitter, healthier and more successful. I can see him wither that he has to face his friends in his depression every day that he did this - it is a sad, sorry thing to watch
Brilliant stuff we'll done you. I'm 4 months NC from my ex and thriving without any of the drama or narc traits.
Yes! I was waiting for this one. Thank you
Hope you like it!
How about if your ex is a full blown narcissist? Does this advice even qualify in that situation? I know that term is thrown around alot but this guy is something else.
These dynamics arise BECAUSE they are a narcissist.
I chased him but in retrospect it was a small amount. I knew not to from previous times, but it was way less than I did in the past before knowing about it. Still acted in the moment but I snapped out of it after just a few times because the way he interacted with me when I did was jarring. And I remember it from when we last broke up. Did not like it. It shook me out of it.
Update?
Im letting go slowly with my mind and heart. And I don't want him to keep repeating this rebound distractions from me then hurt me again.
My ex broke up with me through text while I was at work almost two months ago. She blocked me on everything but after going no contact she unblocked my snap but just that
You knkw what out of 10000000 of videos i have watched yours makes the most sense to me and actually makes the most logical reasoning why my ex is behaving the way she is
Hi Brian, thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you found value in my video :)
Does this work for short term relationships aswell?
This is brilliant!
Thank you :)
I hate her, she dumped me then moved a block away from me. I have to run into her all the time. I specifically asked her to move to any other part of the city. Idk why she had to move literally one block from me.
She dumped me multiple times and came crawling back, took her back every time. All I want is for her to do it again so I can say no. But it’s been 6 months this time and I doubt she will. She did reach out and said a bunch of sentimental stuff and apologized. I just said it’s all good wish you well.
I can feel your pain John. Try and focus on your journey and positive future. You can have a great summer this year.
She knew it would bother you.
dump the dumper and walk away forever because you deserve respect and love.
I am working with my ex. He is my boss. I thought of leaving but if i would have left his company there would be nibody who could do my job and it would hurt the customers in the end. Plus loosing a love is one thing. Loosing his complete life and future is another thing. I respect his disission and never tried to in touch with him about privat subjects. But still he is angry with me...
Hi Boss hope you are well sir
Question
If someone isn't getting over losing someone, does it mean they love them so much or they are obsessed?
Why don't people get over losing someone ?
Can you make a video on what goes through the dumpers mind when they accidentally run into the dumpee after a few months?
That's a great suggestion. I will make a note of that, thank you :)
Goodbye and don’t come back …….
What if I dump her because she is a cheater
Well done 💯
Then you know she can never be with you.
Out of sight, out of mind
No contact
Are they contradicting?
I would suggest that "Out of sight, Out of mind" is something which could work in the short-term. 'No Contact' is something which will grow romantic, emotional attraction and if it hits the necessary high point, there is a chance of reconnection.
It's been 4 and a 1/2 months Christmas time The 1st 3 months were hell this last month was OK These last 2 weeks she's been reaching out texting me Facebook direct message and now I don't know if I want her back It's amazing how that works so if you just got dumped and you're filling it trust me 3 4 months from now everything's gonna change work on yourself you're not working start working and trust me it's gonna flip and when it does you might not want her back because I don't think I want her back You fucked up
Hello Vincent,
My ex girlfriend broke up with me around 5/6 months ago. I tried to remain on speaking terms with text messages every so often, but was told to move on and to stop wasting my time messaging her!
I have been in no contact since then, which was 6 weeks ago.
Do I ever message her again or wait for her to reach out to me?!
Thanks.
@@kenirwin9536 Hi Ken and thank you for your reply and advice, it is appreciated! I will take what you have said on board and resist the temptation to reach out and initiate any sort of contact. I am sorry to hear about your situation with your ex partner and that you are still grieving badly, it truly is awful and probably worse than death as they are still around. I cannot see us both getting back together as she always used to say she was ‘too good for me’ that she ‘could do better’ and she ‘wasn’t attracted to me’! It is also incredibly hard meeting anyone else at this moment in time with the whole Covid situation going on :(
Hi Mountain, here is the link to a video which explains my thoughts in detail - th-cam.com/video/yqhFDP_4308/w-d-xo.html
No offense but guys move on please be a better you
Stop thinking about them
Go to the gym
Out by yourself
Buy a new car
Take trips
Find a new girl
My main issue is something I know i have no ability to know, but I doubt things will work. I got myself to let go but there were an onslaught of Facebook posts I made one night that I meant to be hidden from him but accidentally didn’t realize he could see them. And I think that ruined it when I could have had the chance to recover
Believe in yourself. With or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
Hi Vincent another good podcast as well I have got it into my head I think I will after do this in my situation but she keeps asking now an then too do jobs for her but am the type of guy that can’t say no because I still have lots of feelings for her even tho it was my actions that caused us too break up an I hurt the main trust core in her even tho it’s been a year an 7 days since we broke up
Hi Jason, thank you for your support. You've had a very tough time, but getting stronger little by little, day by day. Keep on track.
@@vincentbos thanks Vincent you are giving me hope an really love your podcast thanks again really can’t wait for your next one cheers jason
@@jasonrichardson8012 I really appreciate your kind words. Currently, my schedule is every Monday, Wednesday & Friday - with occasional live streams as well. I also post polls and older videos on my community tab every so often.
First!
... And yes, I'm already starting to let him go mentally and emotionally after 3 months.. it's hard to even expect him to get into contact with me since there's still a lot of us waiting to get vaccinated and it's still scary to go outside for too long..
You are doing very well Jann in your progress and also very well in always being first! :)
How... how did you beat me again?
@@xMikeyHardyx magic 😉🤣
Hi Anthony, she's very quick isn't she!
I’ll get her 😤
Why do eveeybody assume and talk about dumpees begging and pleading? In my case, we were having the break up talk in my car, when he told me he loves me, but he is not in love with me, and he also loves what we have, and doesnt wanna lose it... i got so pissed, i quietly told him to get the fuck out of my car, and drove away. And unfriended him on social media, and not contacting him at all since the break up (we are in the 4th week as of now). He texted me a long ass paragraph 2 days after the break up trying to explain himself, the reason behind his decision, which i didnt respond... Three days after that he sent me a message thru a mutual friend saying how incredibly sorry he was, how he didnt want things to be this way, how he still cares about me a lot, blah blah blah. So what now? 🤷😁
Move on
Same thing happened to me but it our bedroom.
3 year relationship
I stepped up to be a father figure to 3 boys. 5 8 14
Helped her get a new car
Rewire her house
Pay the bills
Fix her credit
Took her on vacations
I showed the youngest one how to ride a bicycle
Graduation
Where was the father a Facebook dad.
So thats what I got
I love you but not in love
I tried for a month and one day I woke up and it was enough
You don't appreciate it me
You don't value me
You don't want to try.
Ok I walked away never to look back.
Best decision ever.
Good luck
I always wonder why when someone says that, "I love you just not in love with you" then they come back and say sorry? I'll answer my own question: it's a manipulation tactic. People like that NEVER learned how to be secure in their emotions and actually say and do what they mean. They shouldn't get involved with anyone until they learn how to be emotionally mature. Chances are, all of their partners heard the same line.
"I love you but I'm not in love with you" is a very weird American phrase.... Wtf does it mean?
Get on with it.
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