Peaceful Husband Secretly Records Coercive and Controlling Wife | Sheree Spencer Case Analysis
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I was watching a Dr. Phill episode the other day and he was saying something about the wife (episode guest) kicking the crap out of the husband and everyone in the audience started laughing. I was like wtf? If he had said the husband was beating the crap out of his wife, people would be absolutely appalled.
The dbl standard is so sad 😮
Dr Phil has gotten angry at his audience for doing shit like that before.
I think people that go to those shows are all a little bloodthirsty
I have known two men who were abused by their wives. When asked why they put up with it, each said something to the effect of, " If a man defends himself against a woman, he goes to prison."
Shows that people that would claim to care about domestic violence don't really care about domestic violence and even take an enjoyment in some sadistic violence against others. What they only care about is violence against people they relate to for example people of the same gender or skin color.
Retired cop here. This is very common. I’ve been on lots of calls where the female pulls this crazy S and tries to get husband arrested.
And the government makes it that way.
Imagine having a mother like this and having people think you`re a monster because of some invented S.
If it's so common why do police still bias against the man in these domestic cases?
Our DA instructed us to arrest the man when in doubt. I didn't go for that. Often it is just too many officers playing Captain Save a Ho.@@MrAkaacer
It's evil what some women have done to the men they claim to love. Love is respect. 😢
Sheree is a good example of a narcissistic sociopath, whose abuse of her husband was fuelled by alcohol. To call her entitled is a gross understatement. Kudos to Richard's friend for notifying the police without the latter's consent . I honestly hope that Richard is a happier man with his new girlfriend. 🙏🙏🙏🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
I think BPD
My ex wife had many of these devious qualities. And frankly doc, it was enabled and amplified by therapists and family court. All of them never took a minute to hear my side of the story.
Every marriage counselor I went to was a feminist monster, including the male.
The place where men are insignificant and invisible
As a female, I’m also not heard. The narc is so confident that’s why they are believed…
@@CCSophia528 Females get more attention and sympathy than men. Maybe that's why male suicide is so much higher?
Or is it trauma and PTSD from war?
Or the destructive "family" court system?
Been there. My therapist asked ME "what do you think you could have done better" after explaining to her my wife was cheating on me. Gee thanks doc.
Well done to the friend for going to the police without Richard’s consent. Crimes do not need the victims’ permission to be investigated.
that's also why I hate expressions like "he/she isn't pressing charges". Maybe they can choose not to, but the state still should. IT would make sense that someone who's being abused would be intimidated into dropping charges.
Glad the friend went to the police. She lied over and over
@@Aaron-kj8dvThe victims oftentimes are even bullied by others to drop the charges on behalf of the perpetrator.
One hundred percent!!!
@@Aaron-kj8dvgreat point.
My son was the victim of physical abuse by his new wife. It started 3 weeks after the honeymoon.
We found out because when he bent over to pick something up off the floor, we saw bruises on his back. He confessed what was going on, and we helped him move out of their apartment the next day. He was married and divorced within six months and with therapy, he is doing well.
I can understand how that happens. It takes a while for a person's true personality to emerge. Glad to hear your son is doing well. Out of curiosity, how long were they together before marriage?
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They weren't together long enough! It was 8 months. My older son's wife kept telling my husband and I that something was wrong with her but couldn't say what it was. My dil didn't like her at all and she likes everybody. Anyway, hindsight is 20/20 they say. Thanks for your reply!
He’s lucky to have had your love and support. Most people don’t.
She’s crazy! Really really crazy!
At least negroes are open so we erroneously believe we better or different cos we hide our fights.
Only getting 4 years for that level of prolonged abuse is a joke.
I am 54, male and my 2nd wife was an abuser. Anti depression meds and wine was the mix that made her go out of control the worst. She would sometimes say that she enjoyed the feeling, like it gave her power. Nuts, right. I am single now and will probably remain so.
abusers dont change.best thing at the start get away .find another person who deserves you. give no second chance
Why is wine always the drink of choice for the abuser? I had the exact thing happen. Antidepressants + wine = no control
What kind of antidepressant? Apparently Zoloft with alcohol has caused women to be violent
You are a beta my friend sorry
there is hope. isuffered from my 2nd wife for 9 1/2 years of marriage and many years afterward because of our mutual daughter. its been over 24 years since we divorced and i had 2 divorces with American women quick like. but im now married to a Filipina for 13+ years.
"In the beginning of their relationship, Sheree was fine.". They all are...
😂😂 true story 💯🔥
he thought she was hot and that's all that mattered during the courtship.
Yeah, I had 3 most of love bomb. I was shocked, id never experienced anything like it. Then she flipped the fuck out over nothing and was once again shocked. Turns out she has narcissistic personality disorder
they're not really fine, it's just that victim doesn't heed the warning signs because he/she is blinded by infatuation. But there are always signs. It can be concealed amongst playing hard-to-get courting games.
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This is how my mom treated me from about age 6 until I was in my twenties. She never defecated on me, but she did rub my face and hair in dog feces when our dog had diarrhea on the floor. I’ve had my face slammed into the dashboard of her car as she drove. She stapled my curtains to my wall so I couldn’t look outside and made me stay in my room for hours whenever she had guests. She used to wake me up with beatings until I couldn’t stay asleep more than four hours or so. I never weighed more than 108 until I was thirty, despite being 5’7” because I was so anxious I could barely sit still and eat. Watching this documentary really made me ill.
I was so brainwashed that this was normal that I never even realized it was abuse until I was in my thirties. Domestic violence isn’t just between adults.
That's fucked up..I'm sorry you had to go through that ❤
I’m so sorry :(🥺😞
I’m so sorry you had to live that…😢
I am so, so sorry!! That enrages me!! I pray she's in prison!!!
That’s terrifying.. so messed up. You are strong to have survived that treatment for so long.
"She may not have been pleased with him as a husband but was very pleased with him as a victim." 🔥
Something similar happened to me. She was a nightmare and extremely abusive. I did everything I could to save our family, but the damage was constant and overwhelming and compromising. Gaaslighting was a tacctic she used constantly. Narcissism and socipathy were other factors. She was arrested Christmas night 2001
“Conceited, condescending and arrogant” is a bit of an understatement. More like a narcissistic sociopath
Ya but come on Richard has some problems why would it take that long for him to do something. Never have children with a woman like that
@chadrowe8452 narcissistic abuse made him that way. I'm sure it didn't happen overnight.
@@fragrancememoir2350 I was referring to her
@@Ministry_Of_Silly_Walks huh? I was responding to chadrowe8452
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My belief is that more men are abused than we know, it's just they are never reported like Richard. Abuse of any kind should not be tolerated.
I agree.
A lot of psychological and sociological studies show this, and yes, much of it goes unreported.
I once did a straw poll, amongst all the men that I knew at the time. Every single one of them had been assaulted by a woman. Personally Every single woman I ever had a relationship with physically assaulted me at least once.
My ex abused me but not as bad as this.
She used to attack me to try and get me to hit Her I never did.
I saw my “mother” do this to many a man. She was married 9 times (that I know of). One time the SWAT team got called on her and raided her property no joke. Wish I could’ve been there to see that one but she got the man to recant what he told the cops she had done (which was verified by my teen brother) and the charges were dropped. She’s teflon.
Oh and she now forever blames my little brother for why she got arrested that day. He was 13 and told the cops the truth, that she pulled a shotty on her husband tried to pull the trigger before it was wrestled away from her. And claimed she poisoned her husbands coffee.
Wow
This is my story exactly
Except in my case my wife was arrested for a brutal middle of the night non provoked attack on me
She was removed from the home and my kids went with her as she lied to them
Family court reversed it all
She won
Then lost in the end
My son lives with me now
He got a taste of her madness directed at him
I understand this man very very well
I'm glad you got away and I hope all of your children are healing
@@SpindraicaFessvraumthank you so much yes we are healing now and things are so good now
The truth is now evident to all
This is crazy, I live in Texas. My story is almost exactly like this. I went no contact with her 15 months ago. My wife is currently facing 12 yrs for charges unrelated to me.
Glad you escaped, not everyone does.
@@IOERROR622 it was incredibly hard to break free. Luckily I’m not an impulsive person and she was.
@@ConveyApp I've been there brother. You tell yourself "Well she didn't really hurt me so it's ok" but once you open your eyes you know you made a mistake by putting up with it.
@@IOERROR622 I appreciate the content. Thanks.
Maybe it's better she go to jail than to take half your stuff.
If you've dated a narcissistic person, you know they have the glare of dead eyes, and Sheree Spencer definitely has those eyes.
Exactly
Was married to one and it was a horrible experience to say the least.
I've never dated a narcissist but even I can see there's nothing behind those eyes. Like looking into the eyes of a buffalo or alligator.
I see that glare in almost every person, in different intensities. Yes, narcissists are among the most void. That's really what narcissism is, a lack of emotion, or poorly regulated emotions.
Seems like she was a lot worse than a narcissist..
This poor man was a serious victim of abuse
Imagine he ever hit her back. He probably never would have seen his kids again.
It seems that people become acclimated gradually to the escalating abuse. It's like getting ever so slowly sucked under by quick sand...your up to your neck before you realize you're in real trouble. That's when people like Richard's friend are so so important!
@@jumpinjohnnyrussYes.😔
This is extremely common, it's just not being recorded on video, and the husband is usually kept from having friends, especially one who would go to police. Had this not been recorded, most likely he would be the one in jail.
Richard was a SIMP
The sad part is, just a single video of such an incidence would still have people and the law skeptical on the man's side of the story. He needed multiple recordings of her abusive antics over several years, just to get her jailed for probably two years.
This brought up some very bad memories from when I was married. It took me a long time to get over that experience. Even now, almost three years later, I doubt I’ll ever be in a relationship again. The physical abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting was beyond painful. To the men out there in this position, leave her, it’ll be okay, it’ll get better, and even if it costs you everything you’ve built, you’ll get it back faster than you think.
this is exactly how my second wife of 30 years was.....................I moved countries to get away from her. The Police were not interested in what I had to say. We've been apart 10 years now and she is still expecting me to return to her. Never going to happen
I'm glad you stayed away from her. Never ever given in. Crazy and nasty woman like her.
Stay safe
Amen
Hey Puss...she even really exist?
10 years?😂 Looks like no one else wants her.
What a great friend that called the police on his behalf!
When I was young I almost never heard of women being abusive. Just in my lifetime with the ubiquitous use of cell phones, security systems, DNA and forensics science, and the increased psychological knowledge of human behavior (such as narcissistic personality disorder) women have been reported to be abusive. I'm convinced that that is why many people still refuse to accept it. Traditions and traditional beliefs take a long time to change. There is also a lot of money involved in the criminal, civil and family courts remaining the same.
They are abusive and narcissistic
There's aways been a stigma against men who come out as abuse victims.
Even most men's friends would probably make fun of them for it.
Men even in today's society will often times keep quiet. Even when the cops are called you'd better have some video evidence or the man might go to jail even though he called the cops.
It's tragic that some people become so unhinged that they don't just mess up their own lives but all those around them.
Amazing such a wimpy male (not a man) exists too. Realize it's very difficult with children but this was long time in coming.
That man was lucky to have a friend to speak up for him and help get him away from that mad woman.
It takes abuse THIS bad for the “Family Law” system to take men seriously
Had the guy not had this level of overwhelming evidence against her, he’d have ended up in jail. All she has to say is “I felt threatened” and the court would have issued an EPO and most likely slammed him with a DVO.
It is getting better for men. There have been several of these cases in recent years.
@@user-fq8rs7rz3icare to share any?
It amazes me that courts in a separation always give the kids to the mother, I'm sorry but there are far more unhinged women walking about than men, half of them are narcissists on prescription drugs
The system is not set up for men dealing with these types of women. They're very manipulative, which means they know how to look fragile and polite and kind. But once the doors are closed, their true nature comes out and once again, men are left to fend for themselves.
I was married to a woman who was a little bit like this. I refused to have children with her because I thought it would get worse, and eventually harm the future potential children. We got divorced and it was mostly amicable.
You made some great choices. I hope you find a wonderful woman and are able to have children, if you want children
My husband had an ex girlfriend who abused him when they were in their early 20s. He still has scars from her stabbing him with scissors, and I once found Polaroid’s he had taken for proof of his upper torso completely covered in Bruises and bites. He was so ashamed to go for help because he was quite a bit bigger than her and a handsome, well liked guy. He felt ashamed and emasculated. I am so glad he got away from her when he did, and I believe there are so many men who are abused who are scared to speak out. Please go for help if you are being abused no matter which gender you are!!!
Totally agree!!! I'm glad your husband found you. You have empathy and respect for him as a human being
@@SpindraicaFessvraum thank you so much that’s so kind. I honestly feel like both our past experiences really helped each other heal. Not like it’s always perfect, of course! We are all human! But we really care about each other as humans. I have a son now and it makes me so sick to think about a woman treating him this way and he thinks he can’t ask for help. I hope this changes in society!
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I am an ER nurse and have witnessed a lot of domestic violence. I have seen some horrible crimes committed by women including castration with a dull knife and attempted murder by a stiletto heel.
damn!!!!
that sounds hot. I mean, wrong! So wrong.
Yoooooooooo dull knife
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What a repulsive drunk. What she said to her husband is beyond disgusting. The children will always be affected seeing her violence and hearing those insults and vile language. I hope she never gets to hold those little children in her arms again.
Where are the children? Does he have them?
This woman is like a budget Amber Heard.
Right. F the guy who actually went through all this. Men are so expendable to most women. And it shows in comments like yours. Poor kid helping her mom lie to the neighbors! Even little girls could care less!😂😂
Most kids witness this from their mother the overwhelming majority truth be told.
1:09 she's trying to look perfect...but she has a boogie in her nose.
Eeeww! State of it, without make up. That's grounds for divorce right there.
1 Good Back hander, and a throttle, may have been needed to set boundries and rank in that house.
watched half of the documentary, before I was so repulsed and couldn't finish watching. so pleased she is now so exposed all over the planet 🌏
Richard, I am so sorry this happend to you & YOUR daughters.
Thank God you collected evidence.
Wow she’s just straight up evil, abusers never appreciate what they have. Hope Richard’s got a better life now, he seems like a decent dude.
Yes, they just always want more. Some people are different and have insatiable greed.
You know a woman is high maintenance and just not worth it when she defecates on your head and tells you to clean it up. 😧
You mean a typical Woman?
The evil wife should have gotten a lot more prison time --and the abused husband should be placed into some form of "Witness Protection" Program when the evil wife gets out of prison 🤨
@@Dale-jd4nj I thought the same thing. If it were Richard abusing her the sentence would have been much longer.
@8:00 abuse never “gets better” it never “goes away” male on female (as in my own personal experience) or female on male. If anyone reading this is facing abuse, leave! Walk tf away!
It's a hard lesson to learn, especially with deeply sick, manipulative psychopath.
I'll add that, not only does it not get better or go away, it WILL escalate. Get away as soon as it starts.
Yeah, that rarely happens..and some people kinda like it, I guess since they keep going back. 😞
@@clqudy4750. There are multiple factors that make it hard for a victim to leave. People who abuse others can be very calculating. I would not assume that anyone likes it.
I really don't think they like it .@@clqudy4750
Richard has remarkable restraint. I certainly wouldn't in this situation.
"Now she can perform firsthand research through her magical prison journey." LOL. Your cutting comments and jokes, combined with your stoic delivery, always make me literally laugh out loud.
Drinking 3 bottles of wine a day won't help your fertility. That said, this story is horrible. If his friend had not intervened, I think things would have gotten worse - a lot worse, possibly leading to his murder.
She poisons her body and then blames him for not being a man and getting her pregnant.
I was with a bi-polar gal for awhile and she was similar to Sheree. She would beat me in the face, then call the police and tell them I had threatened her with a knife. The pigs always arrested me, even though I had never hit her, and never ever threatened her with a knife. Cops are incredibly lazy, they always arrest the person that does not call, never bother to even try to figure out how the guys face looks like it was beaten to shit. Every time she did it the prick judges kept raising my bail till i could not afford it. Eventually, she fell in love with one of her crazy cousins and I was free. Even better, she died of natural causes maybe a year later, some virus in her heart. The lesson being, if a woman ever bears false witness against you, you have to get away from her, no exceptions, because the "justice system" is geared towards always making the guy the perp, even when he is not. Do not think I am kidding on this. If dude here did not have video, he would have been put in jail if she ever made a false claim. Cops are lazy, Judges are lazy, and attorneys are lazy, that all works against the man in cases like this.
yep he would have been another story on id channel. sad sad!!!
She is not a victim she needs to be in prison for life
Is pretty rare for abusers to get substantial prison sentences, if any at all
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Especially if they are women...
@@ENIGMAXII2112 why did you feel the need to make it a gendered issue? Women are much less likely to be the perpetrators and suffer more repeated violence and more severe abuse and hospitalizations at the hands of men, is this the argument you wanted to have? Ffs, convictions for abuse and assault are difficult for both genders The belief that courts are more lenient on women is a seriously outdated notion, you’re just being sexist for literally no reason
@heatherem5690 did he hurt your little entitled feelings ? 😂
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Oh dear me, what be this..?
I just read up to "make it a gendered issue".
Then I did not even bother with rest of your ridiculous leftist indoctrination.
Bloody Good News is that sort of thing is on the way out. Yes, fads do not last forever.
Jolly good stuff that..!!
I once rented a room to guy who was escaping domestic violence. When I asked him why he didn't report it, he said "she is a small woman and I am a big man - they will never believe me"
my abuser was 5'3 110lbs and i was 6'1 220lbs
It is the sad truth. Men are prejudged in abuse and custody cases.
Thank you for the upload Brother! I hope this is a lesson that teaches people how to recognise a narcissist & to be cogent enough to have the emotional maturity to not cling to a volatile relationship in order to fulfil emotional desires. Instead fill those holes in your life with love of self & of all others!!!
Peace & Love!
She should be stripped of parental rights.
What a nasty woman, thank you Dr. Grande for showing anyone can be an abuser !
Excellent work as always Dr Grande! I hope her cell mates watch this video.
Nice update in your videos Dr… with excellent hx, bx analysis, and overall psychoanalysis. Thank you.
Imagine all the men that didn't record and have been lied about by their female partners and put in jail That is terrifying.
Any man who cannot defend himself or walk should put up then.if u cannot defend yourself how exactly do u defend your family. I blame Richard. I find him annoying.
@@ancientwisdom-ty4nb dumbest comment of the year award
@sum1majik598 I ain't paying you for this self awarded award. But why would u wanna give yourself such a demeaning award?self loathing? I know a good psychologist u can see to boost your self esteem
@@ancientwisdom-ty4nb Oh you definitely deserve that award buddy and I find you annoying. And as far as a person needing a good psychologist you should look into seeing one before it is too late.
My 1st wife tried that... But I had recordings on my phone and got out. I stupidly put up with years of abuse, but the false arrest potential finally made me see the light.
A good friend of mine, also being abused by his wife did not heed my advice to leave, when she started threatening to falsely report him for assault. He is in year 2 of a 5 year probation and has felony assault on his record.
This poor man. He was in a lose lose situation. If he stood up for himself he’d be seen as the aggressor. If he reported it so one would believe him. I’m so glad he got out.
He could leave.
She would have reported him as the abuser, which would have been believed. He would also lose his children.
@@tadcastertory1087 So you know that she hasn't lost custody? He wouldn't loose his children either here in Scandinavia. Unless it was life threatening violence, where the family had to go under ground.
These are reasons why many abused men don't report the abuse against them. My husband's first wife abused him and he felt he couldn't report her bc like this woman, she was a member of law enforcement.
Indeed. People like his wife is proof that you can't be kind all of the time. Some people take advantage of that.
Thanks for sharing this video. "Very satisfied with him as a victim" is quite the description of this woman's attitude, and behavior, toward her (then) husband.
Does this guy know about divorce
He can file doesn’t mean he’ll get it.
Regardless of gender, leaving psychotic abusive people isn't easy. Even more so for married men with children. Abusive women usually will cry abusive and SAssault even manipulate the children . As a social worker I have seen plenty of men loose everything when they were indeed innocent. Rarely do woman get reprimanded justly unfortunately women usually get away with abuse when they are the abusers especially if they are considered conventionally attractive. Seen it too many times
Divorce doesn't resolve the she said he said. In the cases of spousal abuse the burden of proof is always supposed to be on the accuser. Social mores are not in favor of the males reporting their partners as abusers in straight or gay relationships. Men may fear being judged as weak or feel already feel shame, fear they will retaliated against with counter claims, experience adverse outcomes in child custody settings, etc... You also can't account for how people discount violence and abuse in general in the face of other positive reinforcements.
I lived with it for 15 years, no one believes a six foot tall physically fit man can be assaulted/abused by a woman. At least that was the case in the late 90's into the 2000's. My ex sliced my arm open as I was trying to get away from her and it took 35 internal stitches (muscle) and around 40 staples (skin) to close the wound. There are two scars on my left arm that go from the top of my shoulder almost down to my elbow, she swung twice cutting both times once almost hitting bone. I lied to the ER when they were going to call the police and told them it happened at work, I wish they would have called.
It’s because men are ‘taught’ to treat woman with respect and never to hit back. As a woman if I am throwing hands at a man I expect it back.. if you are big enough to hot you are but enough to get a smack back. We fought for equality, well here it is!
Can’t happen in my country you say it was done at work and our Worksafe government agency would be following up your employer looking to investigate a work safe issue. If you said you did this at home it’s likely they would still notify the police who might investigate if you had err bad connections or more likely as you don’t they would add a note to your personal government file just in case they or you needed that evidence later.
I believe you , i was a full contact martial arts champ in my youth and you can bet many never would believe my story... see my comment input above mate....
FOURTY STAPLES?! I snapped my elbow in half and had to have metal put in to replace it and part of my ulnar bone and that only took 20 staples. 40!!! She tried to off you dude. Glad you’re ok. Feel bad for anyone else who dated that monster.
Edit: Forty not fourty Jesus - I was so astonished I misspelled a simple word. My bad.
Wow. How did you finally get away from her?
I had a buddy who was 6"5 tall and was the funniest nicest guy. He married a 5"1 redhead that abused him for years. He would sleep in his car. She bit him through the arm. She hit him with any object she could throw. She didn't let him speak to any of his family or friends for years. He finally got away from her after many years as a shell of a man.
Can confirm that Redheads are schizo.
Those red heads are dangerous😂
Domestic violence is acceptable when women are the perpetrators. They often get off very light or receive no punishment when they victimize their significant other. Law enforcement and the court systems (at least in the U.S.) take the position that a smaller female can’t possibly physically abuse a larger man. If he does defend himself, she’ll cry “domestic violence” and he goes to jail. These women know this and take advantage of the system accordingly.
@@user-ql6qg7bh3pYeah, real funny.
@@aeromedical6776this is sadly often true
My mother was like this with us children. Years later, when my dad had dementia, she was like this with him. I could not get him to press charges, so I had to move in with them to protect him until he died.
My then fiancé became angry with me and punched me in the face, now I’m 6’6” weighed about 220lbs at the time. I knew if I “protected” myself I would definitely be going to jail. I guided her out of my house and on the way out I advised her that if that ever happened again, she will be getting hit like a man. That was 15 years ago and it’s never been a thought in my now wife’s brain.. and is still an understanding even today.. now she’s been upset with me plenty of times since but understood the consequences. My point is that if you make it clear what’s going to happen, most people will not do it again..
What a classy lady!
‘Defecating on his head’ summed her up pretty well. 🙄
I think he has to sit pretty still to allow that. That might have been agreed upon.
What is it with these women and crapping in beds?
@@2008israelramosUnless he was asleep.. which he apparently wasn’t allowed to sleep in the bed from time to time..
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now we know where amber heard got her ideas from.
It wasn’t until I was participating in group therapy that I realized I was in a relationship with a narcissist female.
As a man it’s kinda hard to admit you’re in an abusive relationship
It can happen to anyone. Good for you for realizing it and getting out.
I could see that being the case here too
Wasn't until after the breakup and talking to others I realised I was in a relationship with a narcissist male. Best wishes to all of us going through this.
Women can be extremely abusive too. It's definitely not gender specific 😢. I'm glad you discovered you needed to leave and see it through. WELL DONE!!! Recovery will be slow. But it will come.
I was in a relationship with the most textbook NPD case I've come across back in 2016. All the gaslighting makes you want to confirm your reality by speaking to others but it's very uncomfortable admitting that youve been a victim plus society isn't kind to male victims.
My Mother abused my Dad emotionally until he died, they where divorced eventually but it was awful hearing her put him down & he took it.😢
The end statement... had me dying with laughter. props to the friend who helped this man. stay safe out their err'body.
Hopefully she is allowed no contact with the children.
I hope so too. Eventually she would have turned on her children and abused them. Richard got out on time and I hope him and his daughters live the quiet and happy life they deserve with each other and Richard's new partner.
I wonder if she ever abused the kids too. It seems likely.
sorry... society says she will get them back easily... i spent years trying to get mine away from a junkie... she just showed up, and the copper with her would actually help give them back to the junkie... only for her to throw them out again in a few days.... courts waste of time as the judges are all women now... whatever the woman does is ok with a woman judge .. believe me!!!!!....
It seems like she doesn't get her "kicks" from children. It is men. She clearly has deep-seated issues with men. Specifically, a hatred for "spineless" types of men. I've known women like her: First testing a man out, to see if he has "a spine". It starts small: little disrespectful comments, or overstepping her bounds. If the man stands up for himself, she will have some respect, (at the time). Her respect is not permanent. She is usually in a state of emotional turmoil, egomania, and imbalance. These are the Amber Heard types: Entitled, Arrogant, Narcs, Borderline, and Sociopaths. Moreover, obviously, when she sees the man "show weakness", or capitulate to her tests, she will strike. Disrespect, verbal abuse, overstepping boundaries, psychological abuse, and physical abuse.
@@TiffWafflesI usually don’t like the word partner. But it applies to this situation. Because women are definitely this guys equal!😂😂😂
Thanks for covering this case. Good thing Richard's friend went to the police, instead of just mocking him or saying it's his fault, like a lot of the commenters here are doing
Yes, Very hard for someone to extract themselves from such abuse. The friend goes beyond just friendship. To a big brother.
I don't see any comments saying it was his fault at all
@@travmakesbeats3372. I’ve seen a couple that say a man can just leave, one saying this happened because all he cared about was if she was hot and another that said people stay because they like it.
I don't mock him, but he should have left her long before. Perhaps he was able to get out without alimony in this scenario.
My mum abused my dad for their whole marriage. Everyone thought my mum was wonderful. She abused me too. They were married for 60 years. My dad said that in his day, you never left.
My dad's the same my feminist mother (every so called feminist I meet is this way towards men) I keep meeting women now kike my mom. And I run 🏃♂️ fast. When women tell me women need equality I think of these relationships and think women have more then equality they have the law on their side more then men do. They make as much h or more then men, and they are generally more angry and aggressive then men. My ex dod alot of these things to me and still to this day tries ti work her way into my life again
My mother was the same. My dad passed in 2020. She is still alive, and from what I hear, sleeping with a married man. She is 77.
my late wife was very similar, controlling violent etc. She died suddenly of peritonitis septicaemia. ~After her death we discovered from her family (we did not know they existed) Schizophrenia was rampant, her Mother and two Aunties were all ill, she had also been diagnosed at some time with Bipolar disorder. I lived like a prisoner for 25 years in this relationship and all our 'friends' blamed me, I was responsible for everything that happened.
After her death our 16 year old daughter exclaimed 'so that explains her behaviour' she left home shortly after and I have had no contact in 7 years now.
Charming, intelligent, witty she was always the centre of attention while I was ignored, I merely paid the bills, how she took even very clever people in I do not understand. I could go on there is so much I still do not know about her life before me, her non existent family and why it turned out she was not even a British citizen, no records of her exist!
My eyes have been abused after seeing that mug shot.
The ugliness that she hid from the world was finally uncovered and her true self revealed.
lol,I agree,ouch.
I felt all my tights violated 😂😂😂 just for watching the pic
glad i'm not the only one who feels that way... rough
Dude that shit scared me! It looks like she went on a 3 year meth bender.
The summation was pure gold. "Now she can conduct first hand research through her magical prison journey." I about lost my cookies!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Dr Grande, please do a video on why victims struggle to leave abusive relationships 🙏
Another sad take really of a person who loved the person who was abusing them. Thank you Dr. Grande. A great presentation.
How horrible this man had to put up with her abuse because he knew the police would not believe him. It is time we realize that women are capable of being just as abusive as men. I'm glad this story had a fairytale ending with the villain going to jail and the hero living happily ever after 😍
Sadly, she'll be out in two years and she has the potential to re-enter his life in a dangerous fashion. I'm glad he can relax for 2 years, but I'd imagine he'll be very much on guard when she gets out.
There's definitely a bias in law enforcement, and society, that works against male victims of abuse like Richard. But I also think it's worth pointing out that the very fact that Richard was able to live happily ever after says something, too. Many women don't get to live on after abuse at all, let alone happily ever after -- women are more likely to be killed by their domestic partner than by anyone else. The system fails victims of all genders far too often, just in different ways. :(
@@andoletube• When she gets out, she will still be Bat Shit Crazy 🤔
That’s the patriarchy for you. Hurts both men and women.
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My bio mother is like this. She was perfectly normal until I was about three years old, then she became an extreme alcoholic (a 24 case of beer and a bottle of vodka every day), and was terribly abusive to myself, my sister, and our father. I seriously hope more men can get over the stereotype and report abusive behaviour from female partners. My dad didn't report it mainly because he was afraid of getting us taken away by CPS, but that didnt help anyone. I will never have children because of the trauma that woman put us through. I share 50% of her DNA; although I would never harm someone willingly it frightens me that she is a part of me
My mom was alcoholic but now she's fine. Except when she drinks😂😂😂
I'm so sorry you and your sisters suffered from her abuse. I hope you're excelling in life and have been able to heal (as much as possible). 💜💜💜
@@Rebecca-hc5ju thank you for your kind words! Have an excellent day, year, life, all of it! 🖤
I don’t want children either because of my childhood. I would never want to put my kids through a minuscule amount of what my brother and I endured. Not that I think I would, but it’s turned me off the thought of being a mother to someone.
If there is one thing that age has taught me, it's that you are not your parents. In fact, you would probably be at less risk of turning into an abusive parent than most. Due to the fact that you are acutely aware of what a person is capable of.
Geeeeez, it is amazing how women "catfish"........the makeup pictures look nothing like her without makeup.
Right?!, almost like you can see the mess she is upstairs by what she looks like without makeup
That's not a catfish. Women have been wearing makeup for decades. If you really think the girl you've just met naturally has naturally red lips or or shadowed eyes perfectly matching their eye color - you need lots of help.
That's your takeaway?
@@VIII_Royalty_VIII Just because someone can discern a lie doesn't mean everyone can. Fake eyelashes, wigs, makeup, plastic body parts, fillers, and botox are deception.
I married at 27 a girl who was 19 , I soon found out that she was bipolar.
She would not seek help , would have extreme mood swings and would become very violent striking me on several occasions. The one time that I struck her back, she went ape accusing me of violence . Luckily we never had children. We split up after seven years .
Poor guy must have been so broken to put up with her abuse for 20 years! He would have stayed longer just taking that abuse if not for his friend who secretly showed police the video!
Nobody would believe him, she played the victim to everyone. She’s probably all quiet and meek in public, ive been there
The way things were going, poor Richard would have probably ended up a statistic of an abuse victim being killed by their abuser. The fact that he was putting makeup on to cover up the cuts and bruises on his face just makes me feel so sad for him. I hope his life with his new partner is free of abuse. He deserves to find somebody who supports and loves him.
@@willywokeup9112he had video evidence and bruises sooo…
@cfayek probably for the kids but who knows. There's more forms of control than just financial ya bell end.
@@dickjohnson9582 Imagine leaving her and her boyfriends alone with your kids...
Hopefully the psychopathy won't be passed down to the daughters. Poor guy.
Very informative and excellent final analysis.
My heart goes out to Richard and the pain and trauma he must have endured. I pray for him and his family, so grateful for the friend who loved him enough to report when he couldnt.
Oh my gosh this reminds me of my husband’s ex wife. She was horribly abusive. He’s got scars from cigarette burns, she broke his nose when she threw something at his face, and like this woman, forced him to sleep with her almost every day just to exert control. It was so bad that he almost offed himself. He literally had the shotgun in his mouth when he decided to not give up. He put the gun down and checked himself into the hospital. Think she felt bad? Nope. Knowing he was suicidal, she served him divorce papers, and this was after asking if their kids could stay with his mom for a few weeks so that he and she could fix things. She divorced him and kidnapped their daughter to another state. He hasn’t seen his child for 10 yrs.
Women can be a particular kind of evil. They often don’t seek to kill you physically opting to destroy you mentally. These women also know that they can use their kids to do it because courts favor them.
What the name of the kidnapper ? This has to be made public by the FBI right ? There is a search warranty on her isn't there ?
@@Desi365 there’s a warrant out of our state but family court said she moved too far away for them to go get her. She’ll be arrested if she ever comes back but she will never do that. Mothers do this all the time and the courts fail the fathers
She probably still thinks she never did anything wrong and was always a victim of her crazy, suicidal husband.
That is the most hard working makeup I've ever seen.
I almost made the exact same comment lol!
😂💯🔥👍
😂😂😂 Fugly on the inside. Fugly on the outside.
She could be the cover girl who makes the most sales for that brand, for different reasons than most. I know I’d buy it!
Omg! I had the vid paused at 6:25 on her mugshot when I read your comment 😂
The documentary about this case had me sobbing. The wife was an absolute monster and Richard very clearly suffered from battered victim syndrome. Honestly, he’s lucky to have made it out alive. Thank God he had proof of his serious injuries and her emotional abuse, as well as a great friend who spoke up. I’m so happy to hear that he’s found another partner. I hope he and the children are getting the treatment they would’ve needed for the trauma they all endured.
Interesting insights!
This programme is a hard watch, after supporting my beloved husband through cancer over the past year, it is beyond my comprehension that someone could treat anyone let alone their husband in this way and expose their longed for children to this abuse. He was so brave to speak out to his lovely neighbours and his loyal friend who did what he couldn’t do and report the abuse to the authorities. I think Richard is a brave man who deserves every happiness in his future life.
The fact that three kids had to witness this, is heartbreaking.
More concern for the children than for the op. Terrible.
@@davidwheatley2283Men are disposable cannon fodder to these fembots.
@@davidwheatley2283 I was thinking the same thing.
Ditto about the children! Who has custody?
Doesn't Richard bear some of the responsibility for allowing it to continue and get worse around the children? The victim is never held to account for what they allowed to happen. Abuse me once shame on you, abuse me multiple times, and in front of my children shame on me. I'm glad he had a friend that went to the police but why didn't he go to the police?
My ex wife taught me to record any conflict with a woman that may lead to police involvement. They'll take the woman's side almost every time without it.
So glad Richard is doing well now.
A stand up guy and one of life's good guys.
She was from the Amber Heard club, no only with her violence but the whole potty training issues 🤢
Are you a member?
Asking for a friend.
@stephencarter744 well you and your friend have issues
Ambder would still be doing her thing if she did it to an average guy. Because it was Johnny depp she was called out.
I'm glad that the trial showed society that women can be abusers as well. It seems since then, people have looked more closely at some of these crazy women.
@@Bess9779Men have always experienced this, just like women, but the awareness of this is decades behind the awareness of abuse against women. It's only recently, that studies have shown that men are only slightly more likely to be psychopaths than women. Men and women will never be equal until we accept that we are human beings first and are capable of everything another human being is capable of, good and bad, woman or man.
This is one of the worst abusers that I have ever heard of.
You must live on an island by yourself. Children are abused physically and mentally all the time all over the world. Spouses of both sexes and elder abuse is everywhere as well. You don't want to know what the people you think you know do behind closed doors.
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Even worse than individuals who delete their entire families 🤔
I wish I could say the same.
She had
👉'CRAZY’👈 bursting out of her, like explosive diarrhea
I love your analysis of all of your videos. So inciteful. Btw, I always try to count all of the cacti and in this one, I counted 10. Who agrees?
Omg that’s one of the worst ones I’ve heard- that poor guy and kids! Thanks Dr. Grande to watch out for these type of people!
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I was physically abused by girlfriend in Colorado.
Hit across face w phone, strangled and arm bruises.
She was arrested at my home and taken to jail.
I had to go to a mandated victim program. Still hard to believe.
Looking back now, what were the signs you missed? They are always there.
@@jellybean6778 at the program I sat across the desk from a lady interviewing me. She noticed these like nickel sized bruises on my inside upper arms. And asked me.
I hadn’t really ever thought about it but then realized the girlfriend had always pinched and twisted me…
I understood later it was a learned societal or cultural behavior to just take it from a woman
Men are bigger stronger brutish in behavior shouldn’t complain certainly not cry
This coupled with the growing cultural hash tag believe all women society
I was adopted by paternal grandparents at about 3
Father gave me away to protect me
mother had broken my arm and shoulder
There were no arrests or apologies for what it’s worth only years of trying to recover
I guess if my candor here can save one person or kid from abuse it’s worth this thread
Monsters can come in pretty packages
Boys and men are not disposable
I am so sorry!
"She was arrested at my home and taken to jail"
YAAAY!
Was the program helpful?
Such a sad case. Narcissists love to gaslight people in addition to all their other horrid behaviors to make someone dependent. Great breakdown again. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
I'm glad she was caught. I was married to one that didn't need alcohol to be that way. We have long since been divorced while she indoctrinated my kids against me. She's been married and divorced multiples of times and one her exes that I had almost come to blows with hunted me down to apologize while saying I was right. As far as I know she's never been caught. 🤨
What a monster. How awful.
Thank You for this. The more men that come forward and speak on this kind of abuse, the more that my own personal dignity feels restored. It appears to me that this pattern happens much more than people know or even care to hear about.
❤ I hope you're doing better now.
I wasn't physically abused but my marriage hurt me in a lot of ways and I similarly find some healing in realizing that I am not alone in having had a hard time drawing boundaries, deciding to leave, and not blaming myself. I think there's a more automatic support for women in their friends and families, who will encourage scorched earth tactics at the drop of a hat, while for men the advice is often more like "just be patient with her".
She sounds nice. Gee that poor man and their children. Thank God his friend went to the police on his behalf.
I went through a similar situation in South Africa between 2013 and 2016...it ended when I found out that she was sleeping with her ex, when I confronted her about it she stabbed me....
These monsters are everywhere lately it seems...
Man. I relate to this dynamic so, so much. I was in a relationship like this.
That mugshot was uncalled for 😂😂😂
Oh, yes it was.
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That frightened me! Was so unprepared for it. Literally yelped lol
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thanks for exposing cases like this, Dr. Grande. It happens more than we think. I have a friend that was totally manipulated by his ex who is a cheater. She ended the relationship and had the audacity to say (while cheating on him) that she took the decision because he wasn't doing enough for her. Crazy world we live in
One word “Narcissist”
may God give this man this husband this father the strength and Love He Deserves!❤
Had a similar exwife. Struck on ear hard while sleeping twice. toasters thrown. Beat up while driving and people staring.
Current wife is a blessing!
I had a knife waving ex. I left immediately and don't cohabite with women anymore. I really enjoy being single now. Best of luck.
My x beat me while i was the designated driver for her at her friends bday party, she was drunk and me sober, i was amazed we didnt crash that night as it was a long way from home and a nightmare drive .
Glad you were able to move on. I have been on my own for 7 years now after my experience. I just don't trust anyone anymore.
No matter what gender/age you are, the beating people when theyre asleep is the most evil sht. Im female, and my ex used to wake me up by ripping my blankets off me and screaming an inch from my face "how dare you sleep away from me" when id sleep in the spare room or couch to get away. Hed throw things, never let a hand on me though, I told him if he hit me Id end him in his sleep lol.
Im sorry you delt with that. I never experienced an "abusive" relationship till I was 28, and I was too embrassed to ask for help by the time he had stayed over night and refused to go home. If I told him I wanted out, he would threaten to off himself and lock himself in my bathroom cutting till I said id stay. I asked him one day what it would take for him to leave me, and he said if I got fat. I put on over 60lbs in under 6 months, I gorged myself to the point of being sick till he was no longer interested in me and went home.
Im glad youve found love again! And that your new wife is awesome! I havent looked since 2018, but seeing comments like yours have me hopeful should I decide to look again! ❤
I lived this exact experience. My now ex wife is an alcoholic, drug user who did the same things to me. We have 2 daughters, who stay home with me. Their mom went and got pregnant with another man while we were married, had the baby and never came home. I remained loyal to our marriage and family, but divorced so I wouldn't be paying for another dudes kid. She blames me for everything and projects just like Sharee did to Richard. Though I would love to find a life partner I can never trust any woman ever again. But I'm at least free from the reign of terror. Cannot stand drunks, and neither should anyone else. Great analysis, Dr Grande!
I hear you. I use to be so trusting until my last partner's emotional abuse and betrayal. Now I trust no one. All I wanted was someone kind to grow old with. Doubtful that will ever happen now. I hope you heal and can trust again. Like everyone tells me, there's still good ones out there, I'll tell you the same. Now we just have to believe it.
@flipdiva0007 I was with an abusive spouse for 23 years. Now I'm with the exact opposite spouse for 8 years, it's beautiful. There can be someone out there, just be careful and have faith (and look with a learned eye!). Wishing the best and love. 😊❤
@@flipdiva0007 Never. Trust no one, ever. Ruined forever. And why? Because women are never happy. Peace, love, and joy in paradise with beautiful children? Nope. Not good enough. So F it. I'm only here to see if tRump goes to prison or not. Beyond that, I'm good. Cremate me and flush the ashes. No one cares, nothing matters, donald trump! Ugh..
@@chrisgrill6302 Thx. All good, tho. I still have our beautiful spot of peace, love, and joy in paradise to share with our kids most all of the time. And OFF is the direction in which she effed!
So many of us have been through this kind of thing. The problem is that there are so rarely consequences for a woman who behaves this way, and she knows it.
The story is always the same, "I'm the victim, you're 'unsupportive', the problem isn't that I assault you, the problem is that you don't deal with my emotions", or whatever.
I have a friend who experienced it also, it only stopped for him when she injured him quite seriously. Last time he'd heard of her? She'd got a new boyfriend, and had broken his nose within 2 weeks of living with him.
My experience of female violence, I was punched, kicked, bludgeoned with things, had things thrown at me, once had to sit on her to restrain her, and once had to barricade myself in a room to keep her away from me (which she was outraged about, naturally). Never did I retaliate, and never did I do anything that any sane person would recognise as provocation. But still, she never accepted any fault. As far as she was concerned, it was all me.
Do NOT have kids with such a person. Never have kids with someone unless you're absolutely certain they're not a loon. Everything else can be undone, but once you've got a kid, your co-parent is in your life forever.
Her magical prison journey! LOL I'm subbing just so I can catch these little gems in every video!