I was watching a Dr. Phill episode the other day and he was saying something about the wife (episode guest) kicking the crap out of the husband and everyone in the audience started laughing. I was like wtf? If he had said the husband was beating the crap out of his wife, people would be absolutely appalled.
I have known two men who were abused by their wives. When asked why they put up with it, each said something to the effect of, " If a man defends himself against a woman, he goes to prison."
Shows that people that would claim to care about domestic violence don't really care about domestic violence and even take an enjoyment in some sadistic violence against others. What they only care about is violence against people they relate to for example people of the same gender or skin color.
that's also why I hate expressions like "he/she isn't pressing charges". Maybe they can choose not to, but the state still should. IT would make sense that someone who's being abused would be intimidated into dropping charges.
My son was the victim of physical abuse by his new wife. It started 3 weeks after the honeymoon. We found out because when he bent over to pick something up off the floor, we saw bruises on his back. He confessed what was going on, and we helped him move out of their apartment the next day. He was married and divorced within six months and with therapy, he is doing well.
I can understand how that happens. It takes a while for a person's true personality to emerge. Glad to hear your son is doing well. Out of curiosity, how long were they together before marriage?
@@humanbeing2420 They weren't together long enough! It was 8 months. My older son's wife kept telling my husband and I that something was wrong with her but couldn't say what it was. My dil didn't like her at all and she likes everybody. Anyway, hindsight is 20/20 they say. Thanks for your reply!
OMG! I met a few Sheree's in my life. In public, they were charming. But the way they treated their significant others was shocking. Kudos to the friend who turned Sheree into the police!
I was married to one exactly like Sheree. She was also very charming in public and everyone thought she was beautiful and kind. Only myself, the kids and a very select few ever saw the real person that she was behind closed doors. Those women are scary and to be honest the system supports them to be this way because they know if they make a claim of domestic abuse that they will be believed as the starting point and the husband would be the one under suspicion. They are manipulative and controlling and extremely dangerous narcissists.
@@shaun34 .... me too - 15 years of hellish emotional abuse and neglect - yet everyone on the outside saw nothing but the polished, narrative that my covert narcissistic ex spouse projected. These types of people are not as rare as we might think.
Met a potential "Sheree" as well. Although the relationship was online, a PI Report taught me that she was lying about her entire life and history to me. She would abuse herself to make her ex's the victim.
This is how my mom treated me from about age 6 until I was in my twenties. She never defecated on me, but she did rub my face and hair in dog feces when our dog had diarrhea on the floor. I’ve had my face slammed into the dashboard of her car as she drove. She stapled my curtains to my wall so I couldn’t look outside and made me stay in my room for hours whenever she had guests. She used to wake me up with beatings until I couldn’t stay asleep more than four hours or so. I never weighed more than 108 until I was thirty, despite being 5’7” because I was so anxious I could barely sit still and eat. Watching this documentary really made me ill. I was so brainwashed that this was normal that I never even realized it was abuse until I was in my thirties. Domestic violence isn’t just between adults.
Yeah, I had 3 most of love bomb. I was shocked, id never experienced anything like it. Then she flipped the fuck out over nothing and was once again shocked. Turns out she has narcissistic personality disorder
I once did a straw poll, amongst all the men that I knew at the time. Every single one of them had been assaulted by a woman. Personally Every single woman I ever had a relationship with physically assaulted me at least once.
I saw my “mother” do this to many a man. She was married 9 times (that I know of). One time the SWAT team got called on her and raided her property no joke. Wish I could’ve been there to see that one but she got the man to recant what he told the cops she had done (which was verified by my teen brother) and the charges were dropped. She’s teflon. Oh and she now forever blames my little brother for why she got arrested that day. He was 13 and told the cops the truth, that she pulled a shotty on her husband tried to pull the trigger before it was wrestled away from her. And claimed she poisoned her husbands coffee.
this is exactly how my second wife of 30 years was.....................I moved countries to get away from her. The Police were not interested in what I had to say. We've been apart 10 years now and she is still expecting me to return to her. Never going to happen
In my home, she never "yelled", she just rose her voice to get my attention, she was never 'angry" she was "frustrated", she was never "violent", she just threw dishes, pounded her fists on tables, and shook things in my face because I "just didn't understand her needs". Like everyone else here has mentioned, flip it around and... I would be labled the abusive husband.
@@RoMed1167I'm happy you got away. I really hope that since the documentary came out on Netflix that it'll educate some people on the subject! A lot of people think that getting out of a situation like that would be easy for them but they've not got a clue what they're talking about!
I am an ER nurse and have witnessed a lot of domestic violence. I have seen some horrible crimes committed by women including castration with a dull knife and attempted murder by a stiletto heel.
Alot of female teachers getting exposed for having sex with underage students. I think there's 12 cases already this year. At this ratio there will be over 30 by the end of the year
They make up a very large portion of the population. We like to pretend that they don't. Go spend a day in family court, and tell me who you see significantly making stuff up more and claiming victim... men or women. The courts encourage them, and almost never do anything about these claims when proven false... Encouraging them even more.
The problem is that other women excuse and in some cased support and promote their behavior, so they never have any accountability for their actions until the Police get involved. This is why I try to avoid social media, it's just full of nasty bitter single women, spreading bad ideas, jumping to wild conclusions, translating mens behavior through a tainted lens, and trying to destroy other peoples relationships, even the sensible ones get involved and share ideas they don't even agree with, just to be part of the group.
My ex wife had many of these devious qualities. And frankly doc, it was enabled and amplified by therapists and family court. All of them never took a minute to hear my side of the story.
@@C.C.Sophia528 Females get more attention and sympathy than men. Maybe that's why male suicide is so much higher? Or is it trauma and PTSD from war? Or the destructive "family" court system?
My wife is not physically violent unless she is very drunk but is often extremely verbally abusive. Years ago I started to record her episodes initially audio but in recent years video. On two occasions now I have left the house to get away from it and she has called the police and made totally unfounded allegations, the first of which meant I was arrested and held in a cell for two nights while they investigated. Once released I was told not to return to my home. But could go with the police to collect some belongings. I collected video evidence of her abuse going back over 12 years, our daughters also gave statements supporting me. The police did not listen to a word I said and continued to spin their questions to make me admit to false allegations. With zero evidence and in spite of my wife sobering up and recanting her statements I was charged. I waited until I was invited in to review my statement and the bail conditions and handed the police woman a copy of the videos, it took a further 6 weeks for the CPS to drop all charges, the system is loaded against men at every opportunity. If you are being abused tell people that you can trust, keep them updated. Protect yourself.
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Had the guy not had this level of overwhelming evidence against her, he’d have ended up in jail. All she has to say is “I felt threatened” and the court would have issued an EPO and most likely slammed him with a DVO.
It amazes me that courts in a separation always give the kids to the mother, I'm sorry but there are far more unhinged women walking about than men, half of them are narcissists on prescription drugs
The system is not set up for men dealing with these types of women. They're very manipulative, which means they know how to look fragile and polite and kind. But once the doors are closed, their true nature comes out and once again, men are left to fend for themselves.
@@AnthonyLeamanyou should watch the documentary, it shows the police videos, even one of the hardest police officers was in tears, the videos show her beating him up in front of their young daughter, the poor child is seen comforting her dad.
My mother is a dangerous, manipulative person. I grew up being told that my father was a drug addict and that he l ft because he couldn't bear the site of me (because I was so repulsive or disappointing). As I got older I realised that she was abusive and I wasn't the cause of her unhappiness. It skewed my view of women and made me reluctant to trust. My Dad was never a drug addict and he left through a ground floor window under attack from my Mum who was frisbee throwing the wedding gift crockery at him while unpacking in their new home. She would threaten suicide periodically and because I believed her and felt totally responsible for her unhappiness - I would be on best behaviour to try and placate her. Angry women can be more damaging than men because they hide it well and society just doesn't look for signs of domestic abuse instigated by women.
The evil wife should have gotten a lot more prison time --and the abused husband should be placed into some form of "Witness Protection" Program when the evil wife gets out of prison 🤨
@8:00 abuse never “gets better” it never “goes away” male on female (as in my own personal experience) or female on male. If anyone reading this is facing abuse, leave! Walk tf away!
@@clqudy4750. There are multiple factors that make it hard for a victim to leave. People who abuse others can be very calculating. I would not assume that anyone likes it.
I can relate to this. My wife punched me several times over an argument about her making me clean everything while she sat around. I called the cops but she told them I threatened her with a gun that I didn’t even have and I ended up in cuffs and the police had m4’s pointed at me. They dismissed everything I told them and they laughed at me even when I had bruises on my arm and scratch marks all over my face. Nothing ever happened to her. The justice system is unfair too.
The justice system is not a system. Is people using emotions to pass judgment. If the judge is having a bad day it will also be a bad day for whomever they come across. The police doesn't really have training or awareness in societal biases. It's unfortunate because they do see actual situations where the worse possible thing is the true but that's not always the case. The uniform does change the mentality and the weird things they see do affect how they think. Remember that it is just a uniform that's wrapped up around a human being that's always on high alert. I hope that monster is not in your life anymore.
My first wife was very abusive, physically and emotionally. I was a kid when I married her. She was 7 years older. Missed a bunch of red flags. Divorced her after about a year. Stayed single, and happily so, for the next 10 years.
It seems that people become acclimated gradually to the escalating abuse. It's like getting ever so slowly sucked under by quick sand...your up to your neck before you realize you're in real trouble. That's when people like Richard's friend are so so important!
This is extremely common, it's just not being recorded on video, and the husband is usually kept from having friends, especially one who would go to police. Had this not been recorded, most likely he would be the one in jail.
I was abused by the mother of my child for many years. She broke my ribs twice, once with a kick and once with a bedside lamp. Women can be crazy monsters, but this is rarely talked about.
Well, if you're weak and passive like that... the fact that you got to impregnate a woman is already a bonus lol. Sometimes, natural selection still happens. If you're weak, people will predate on you. Simple as that. It's a biological imperative. There's no third way. You're either dominating, or being dominated. There's NEVER a third option.
I grew up with an abusive mother and father. It was verbal abuse, mostly, but the point is that women have this mental derangement too and the media never talks about it. I am truly shocked and sorry for what you went through.
I see that glare in almost every person, in different intensities. Yes, narcissists are among the most void. That's really what narcissism is, a lack of emotion, or poorly regulated emotions.
What a repulsive drunk. What she said to her husband is beyond disgusting. The children will always be affected seeing her violence and hearing those insults and vile language. I hope she never gets to hold those little children in her arms again.
Right. F the guy who actually went through all this. Men are so expendable to most women. And it shows in comments like yours. Poor kid helping her mom lie to the neighbors! Even little girls could care less!😂😂
I went out with a woman like this, after punching me several times i put her on the floor and restrained her until she calmed down. She didn't, she just kept screaming until finally the cops turned up, i was arrested and convicted of assault and ordered to do community service and a 6 month anger management course. I've never had anger problems in my life and even had friends testify on my behalf, but the law only sees men as abusive.
that's the way it go's i knew this was coming so left before she could, now i am suing her for my share of the house we bought, guess what she is claiming DV. i have kept al the messages!!! i have a 400 page report of the abuse for court. now shew knows she will lose she want Mediation!!!
She is Sadistic. He isnt nonconfrontational and peaceful, he is Masochistic. Both are mentally ill. He did not try to protect his children from witnessing pure evil, so he isnt the victim. They were.
This story shows the idiocy of American lawmakers, law enforcement agencies, prosecutors, and judges. Not just the American ones but the ones in the UK.
Drinking 3 bottles of wine a day won't help your fertility. That said, this story is horrible. If his friend had not intervened, I think things would have gotten worse - a lot worse, possibly leading to his murder.
I was with a bi-polar gal for awhile and she was similar to Sheree. She would beat me in the face, then call the police and tell them I had threatened her with a knife. The pigs always arrested me, even though I had never hit her, and never ever threatened her with a knife. Cops are incredibly lazy, they always arrest the person that does not call, never bother to even try to figure out how the guys face looks like it was beaten to shit. Every time she did it the prick judges kept raising my bail till i could not afford it. Eventually, she fell in love with one of her crazy cousins and I was free. Even better, she died of natural causes maybe a year later, some virus in her heart. The lesson being, if a woman ever bears false witness against you, you have to get away from her, no exceptions, because the "justice system" is geared towards always making the guy the perp, even when he is not. Do not think I am kidding on this. If dude here did not have video, he would have been put in jail if she ever made a false claim. Cops are lazy, Judges are lazy, and attorneys are lazy, that all works against the man in cases like this.
Yes, she would have killed him and claimed self defense from his years of abuse. She would have been found not guilty, because men are evil. he would be known to us as a serial abuser and disgusting example of toxic masculinity for the 3rd wave feminists to use to justify their hatred of all men.
FOUR YEARS?!?!? That’s sick. Anyone who can dehumanize another person like this (especially someone who has no remorse for their actions) should be kept out of society for as long as possible.
We are conditioned to be illusional and delusional from the youngest age about women. And for some reason we tend to believe that it's Cinderella we got, not one of her sisters.
Yes. Unfortunately it may be extremely dangerous to move in with anybody, either the person you think you know or the ones you don't know. The most dangerous thing ever, far more dangerous than street crime that can happen to you but at least you can take your precautions against such kind of crime. When you live with somebody who is unstable it's a 24/7 danger.
Even if you caught hold of her arms to stop her hitting you with a weapon.police will cart you off to jail and use that defence of yours to prove you laid hands on your atracker.fact.
I had a psycho ex who got abusive when she drank, and she loved her drink. The last straw was when we went on a getaway to a beautiful, secluded bed and breakfast in the mountains and she ruined it by getting drunk and violent. There was huge drama when i told her it was over. It was so messy. But now I'm super happy in life 😁
My mother was like this with us children. Years later, when my dad had dementia, she was like this with him. I could not get him to press charges, so I had to move in with them to protect him until he died.
Abusing someone innocent and helpless like that is absolutely the most disgusting kind of abuse. My wife had early stage dementia so I know what it’s like to care for someone helpless like that. I just wanted to protect and care for her because I loved her so much. She passed away in April after a short illness…
My ex wife, later diagnosed as a psychopath, did many of the same things. Violence, gaslighting, etc. When she did finally file false charges against me, the authorities believed her and I was held for 2 years before things were sorted out.
This programme is a hard watch, after supporting my beloved husband through cancer over the past year, it is beyond my comprehension that someone could treat anyone let alone their husband in this way and expose their longed for children to this abuse. He was so brave to speak out to his lovely neighbours and his loyal friend who did what he couldn’t do and report the abuse to the authorities. I think Richard is a brave man who deserves every happiness in his future life.
I’ve been in an abusive relationship. Because I was depressed being in a divorce with children, I was not immediately able to cope with this situation, but luckily after 2 years I got out of my depression and was able to handle her and finish the relationship. The violence, the alcohol abuse, the humiliation is all recognisable, though it was not that extreme. “Funny” detail, my ex worked on a closed psychiatric ward for children….
Sheree is a good example of a narcissistic sociopath, whose abuse of her husband was fuelled by alcohol. To call her entitled is a gross understatement. Kudos to Richard's friend for notifying the police without the latter's consent . I honestly hope that Richard is a happier man with his new girlfriend. 🙏🙏🙏🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
I can;t stand the term "alcohol-fuelled violence." Alcohol may have exacerbated it, but certainly wasn't the cause. People just use alcohol as an excuse to avoid responsibility.
I often say this after I was put in a rehab facility based on what one person said. Even though when tested for everything under the sun I was negative. I met many addicts. “Some of the addicts I felt that the addiction was the least of their problems. “ If that makes sense to anyone but it did to me. I was eventually released based on no positive test results.
She won't have done it on her own though, she's been supported and emboldened by other women. Probably playing the victim, lying about things, gaining sympathy, and then feeling like she's entitled to do these things.
I hope so too. Eventually she would have turned on her children and abused them. Richard got out on time and I hope him and his daughters live the quiet and happy life they deserve with each other and Richard's new partner.
sorry... society says she will get them back easily... i spent years trying to get mine away from a junkie... she just showed up, and the copper with her would actually help give them back to the junkie... only for her to throw them out again in a few days.... courts waste of time as the judges are all women now... whatever the woman does is ok with a woman judge .. believe me!!!!!....
Thanks for covering this case. Good thing Richard's friend went to the police, instead of just mocking him or saying it's his fault, like a lot of the commenters here are doing
@@travmakesbeats3372. I’ve seen a couple that say a man can just leave, one saying this happened because all he cared about was if she was hot and another that said people stay because they like it.
Many men go through the same thing. I went to 200 plus counseling visits with angry EX wife. We have 2 younger kids and divorce was NEVER part of my plan. I finally told my wife to leave. She did , I been in peace ever since. She has remarried twice. I an still single and loving my life. Most women I meet now are damaged just like here. Some women are ruined at childhood from abuse/ molestation and never recover. I think the number is higher than we all realize!! my ex would hit me in my sleep if I touched her by accident even! I told everyone black eye ,fat lip was from playing racquetball or squash at gym. I never hit her back. I knew that is what she wanted. One night she was yelling as load as she could inch from my face to "HIT ME" !!!! yeah she would get crazy!!
I was abused in a similar way. When I confronted my ex about her new boyfriend she pulled a knife on me and said,"if you say anything to him, you are dead" I encouraged her relationship with her new boyfriend to get her out of my life and it worked. Never been in a relationship since and that was 25 years ago. I have been left with deep distrust of all woman who want more than just friendship.
I think you need to let it go. It's been long enough. Stop torturing yourself over someone else's actions. You have done nothing wrong and not all women are like that. Please take the next step in your life. I am also 8 years without a relationship, now 40 years old. So I am not just saying this to you, but to me as well. Good luck!
dont worry at least you have a calm life and no miserable drama , trust me there are many involved relationships that are pure hell with no escape for some , sadly it takes lots of money to calm meaness down
Went through similar abuse with multiple woman I dated. They did many of the same controlling behaviors. I stopped dating for two years to figure out why it was happening. When I started dating again, I would state I am only dating and am not looking for a girlfriend. They would start calling me their boyfriend after a few dates, became possessive of my time, would insist on controlling what we did and became physically aggressive fairly soon in the relationship. (Usually slapping me if they did not get their way) I would ghost them and move if needed to end any contact. Finally, I met someone who was nice, patient and willing for me to be ready for a relationship. She is the sweetest woman and we have been married for over 30 years. I still distrust most woman, but I know there are some good ones out there.
This poor man. He was in a lose lose situation. If he stood up for himself he’d be seen as the aggressor. If he reported it so one would believe him. I’m so glad he got out.
@@tadcastertory1087 So you know that she hasn't lost custody? He wouldn't loose his children either here in Scandinavia. Unless it was life threatening violence, where the family had to go under ground.
These are reasons why many abused men don't report the abuse against them. My husband's first wife abused him and he felt he couldn't report her bc like this woman, she was a member of law enforcement.
In the 1980’s I was a police officer and married to an abusive wife. It got to the point where I had to lock up my revolver with my handcuffs in the closet so I could get some sleep. She attacked me with some wooden boards one day during an argument she started. I decided to leave her after she grabbed my gun during a conversation about my decision to leave the home because of her behavior. I had to wrestle her away from the gun and decided that it was time to leave her permanently. We had a 2 year old son who was sleeping at the time. So after 7.5 years of marriage I filed for divorce. Unfortunately I only had one day a week visitation with my son. And eventually my ex turned him against me and I didn’t see him for over 20 years. But in time my son realized his mother was wrong about everything. He married and about 6 years ago we were reunited and now have a wonderful relationship and I have a beautiful 3 year old granddaughter! I never gave up hope for him to come back to my life. My prayers were answered. Never lose hope in what God can restore. Unfortunately for my ex, she wants to be a part of his life but he doesn’t have any desire to re-establish his relationship.
Wow. 😮. I’m glad you and your son are back as a family and congratulations on a grandchild. ❤❤❤ and thank you for your service. I wish you and your family all the best in life. Health is the most important. The rest will follow. Much love ❤❤❤
As a man who was married to an abusive alcoholic who had a similar experience with the threats of her doing harm to herself & blaming me , this one hit close to home. Thankfully we did not have any children during our 6 year marriage & I am now happily married to my current wife for 16yrs & we have a 14yr old son, together.
It wasn’t until I was participating in group therapy that I realized I was in a relationship with a narcissist female. As a man it’s kinda hard to admit you’re in an abusive relationship
Women can be extremely abusive too. It's definitely not gender specific 😢. I'm glad you discovered you needed to leave and see it through. WELL DONE!!! Recovery will be slow. But it will come.
I was in a relationship with the most textbook NPD case I've come across back in 2016. All the gaslighting makes you want to confirm your reality by speaking to others but it's very uncomfortable admitting that youve been a victim plus society isn't kind to male victims.
If the man properly defended himself, he would be arrested for domestice violence. It is not that he could not defend himself, it is that if he did so, he would go to jail. The extreme feminazis have brainwashed law enforcement into thinking that only men are abusers.
@@ENIGMAXII2112 why did you feel the need to make it a gendered issue? Women are much less likely to be the perpetrators and suffer more repeated violence and more severe abuse and hospitalizations at the hands of men, is this the argument you wanted to have? Ffs, convictions for abuse and assault are difficult for both genders The belief that courts are more lenient on women is a seriously outdated notion, you’re just being sexist for literally no reason
@@heatherem5690 Oh dear me, what be this..? I just read up to "make it a gendered issue". Then I did not even bother with rest of your ridiculous leftist indoctrination. Bloody Good News is that sort of thing is on the way out. Yes, fads do not last forever. Jolly good stuff that..!!
Abusers always assume their victims will suffer in silence. That assumption gives them power but is also a huge weakness if the victim wakes up and stops accepting victimhood.
I lived with it for 15 years, no one believes a six foot tall physically fit man can be assaulted/abused by a woman. At least that was the case in the late 90's into the 2000's. My ex sliced my arm open as I was trying to get away from her and it took 35 internal stitches (muscle) and around 40 staples (skin) to close the wound. There are two scars on my left arm that go from the top of my shoulder almost down to my elbow, she swung twice cutting both times once almost hitting bone. I lied to the ER when they were going to call the police and told them it happened at work, I wish they would have called.
It’s because men are ‘taught’ to treat woman with respect and never to hit back. As a woman if I am throwing hands at a man I expect it back.. if you are big enough to hot you are but enough to get a smack back. We fought for equality, well here it is!
Can’t happen in my country you say it was done at work and our Worksafe government agency would be following up your employer looking to investigate a work safe issue. If you said you did this at home it’s likely they would still notify the police who might investigate if you had err bad connections or more likely as you don’t they would add a note to your personal government file just in case they or you needed that evidence later.
I believe you , i was a full contact martial arts champ in my youth and you can bet many never would believe my story... see my comment input above mate....
FOURTY STAPLES?! I snapped my elbow in half and had to have metal put in to replace it and part of my ulnar bone and that only took 20 staples. 40!!! She tried to off you dude. Glad you’re ok. Feel bad for anyone else who dated that monster. Edit: Forty not fourty Jesus - I was so astonished I misspelled a simple word. My bad.
This brought up some very bad memories from when I was married. It took me a long time to get over that experience. Even now, almost three years later, I doubt I’ll ever be in a relationship again. The physical abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting was beyond painful. To the men out there in this position, leave her, it’ll be okay, it’ll get better, and even if it costs you everything you’ve built, you’ll get it back faster than you think.
This brings up memories from 30 years ago. We had children together and this person continues now to malign me at every opportunity, So grateful to be away from her and her abuse.
I had a buddy who was 6"5 tall and was the funniest nicest guy. He married a 5"1 redhead that abused him for years. He would sleep in his car. She bit him through the arm. She hit him with any object she could throw. She didn't let him speak to any of his family or friends for years. He finally got away from her after many years as a shell of a man.
Domestic violence is acceptable when women are the perpetrators. They often get off very light or receive no punishment when they victimize their significant other. Law enforcement and the court systems (at least in the U.S.) take the position that a smaller female can’t possibly physically abuse a larger man. If he does defend himself, she’ll cry “domestic violence” and he goes to jail. These women know this and take advantage of the system accordingly.
I listened to a guy talk about tolerating his wife's abuse for years because he was *taught* there's never a reason to lay a hand on a woman. Finally had to put her in a chokehold after she attacked him for the last time to prove a point. She never did it again and the abuse stopped
_"When asked if she could produce photos of her injuries, as Richard had done, she claimed to have deleted them from her phone."_ Anyone who has ever been with a woman in a relationship knows that they delete _nothing_ that they can hold against you, only what you can hold against them.
I found my gf cheating. Took evidence of it in my phone. Confronted her about it and she weep uncontrollably. A few weeks later she went into my phone to delete the evidence without telling me. Her motive was she was ashamed. I'm not saying every woman is a manipulator but I got a similar experience.
Poor guy must have been so broken to put up with her abuse for 20 years! He would have stayed longer just taking that abuse if not for his friend who secretly showed police the video!
The way things were going, poor Richard would have probably ended up a statistic of an abuse victim being killed by their abuser. The fact that he was putting makeup on to cover up the cuts and bruises on his face just makes me feel so sad for him. I hope his life with his new partner is free of abuse. He deserves to find somebody who supports and loves him.
The sad part is, just a single video of such an incidence would still have people and the law skeptical on the man's side of the story. He needed multiple recordings of her abusive antics over several years, just to get her jailed for probably two years.
Any man who cannot defend himself or walk should put up then.if u cannot defend yourself how exactly do u defend your family. I blame Richard. I find him annoying.
@sum1majik598 I ain't paying you for this self awarded award. But why would u wanna give yourself such a demeaning award?self loathing? I know a good psychologist u can see to boost your self esteem
@@ancientwisdom-ty4nb Oh you definitely deserve that award buddy and I find you annoying. And as far as a person needing a good psychologist you should look into seeing one before it is too late.
My 1st wife tried that... But I had recordings on my phone and got out. I stupidly put up with years of abuse, but the false arrest potential finally made me see the light. A good friend of mine, also being abused by his wife did not heed my advice to leave, when she started threatening to falsely report him for assault. He is in year 2 of a 5 year probation and has felony assault on his record.
Thank You for this. The more men that come forward and speak on this kind of abuse, the more that my own personal dignity feels restored. It appears to me that this pattern happens much more than people know or even care to hear about.
❤ I hope you're doing better now. I wasn't physically abused but my marriage hurt me in a lot of ways and I similarly find some healing in realizing that I am not alone in having had a hard time drawing boundaries, deciding to leave, and not blaming myself. I think there's a more automatic support for women in their friends and families, who will encourage scorched earth tactics at the drop of a hat, while for men the advice is often more like "just be patient with her".
I wish Richard a greater future. I think the lesson we can all learn from this gentleman’s experience is to have frame a relationship and to communicate with your partner what you expect of them & vice versa. If they cross that line (e.g. domestic violence), call them out on it. Zero tolerance has to be implemented.
This is crazy, I live in Texas. My story is almost exactly like this. I went no contact with her 15 months ago. My wife is currently facing 12 yrs for charges unrelated to me.
@@ConveyApp I've been there brother. You tell yourself "Well she didn't really hurt me so it's ok" but once you open your eyes you know you made a mistake by putting up with it.
How horrible this man had to put up with her abuse because he knew the police would not believe him. It is time we realize that women are capable of being just as abusive as men. I'm glad this story had a fairytale ending with the villain going to jail and the hero living happily ever after 😍
There's definitely a bias in law enforcement, and society, that works against male victims of abuse like Richard. But I also think it's worth pointing out that the very fact that Richard was able to live happily ever after says something, too. Many women don't get to live on after abuse at all, let alone happily ever after -- women are more likely to be killed by their domestic partner than by anyone else. The system fails victims of all genders far too often, just in different ways. :(
That would be true if he had attempted to report it to law enforcement or to a mandated reporter and been ignored, but that's not what happened. He was just so vulnerable to manipulation that he didn't report it until she started abusing the kids.
My bio mother is like this. She was perfectly normal until I was about three years old, then she became an extreme alcoholic (a 24 case of beer and a bottle of vodka every day), and was terribly abusive to myself, my sister, and our father. I seriously hope more men can get over the stereotype and report abusive behaviour from female partners. My dad didn't report it mainly because he was afraid of getting us taken away by CPS, but that didnt help anyone. I will never have children because of the trauma that woman put us through. I share 50% of her DNA; although I would never harm someone willingly it frightens me that she is a part of me
I don’t want children either because of my childhood. I would never want to put my kids through a minuscule amount of what my brother and I endured. Not that I think I would, but it’s turned me off the thought of being a mother to someone.
If there is one thing that age has taught me, it's that you are not your parents. In fact, you would probably be at less risk of turning into an abusive parent than most. Due to the fact that you are acutely aware of what a person is capable of.
I agree. They mentioned he lived in Yorkshire, but I checked, and it's about 5.5 million, so he might be okay, but I'll still be careful. My mother cursed like a truck driver and was the most hostile abuser, but outside the house, she pretended to be kind & sweet. Inside the house, she was a raving lunatic who beat my head on the floor. (I think she was abused in childhood.)
no, i do not think so, she will probably try to sort her life out, she was not always that monstrous, i believe his weakness and lack of assertiveness had a role in this.
Something similar happened to me. She was a nightmare and extremely abusive. I did everything I could to save our family, but the damage was constant and overwhelming and compromising. Gaaslighting was a tacctic she used constantly. Narcissism and socipathy were other factors. She was arrested Christmas night 2001
As a former infantry marine, and I know for a fact something like this happen to a couple of marine husbands and one was already a sergeant. So you never known who can be the actual victim. 99.99 of the male victims will never tell you.
So sad and so true! I wish SO MUCH that abused men would realize that there is NO SHAME AT ALL in exposing these incalculably weak, incalculably insecure, manipulative nut job females!!! End the cycle of psychological control!!! You deserve joy and freedom!!! There are many nice and secure women out there if you can just run the other way when you see a female who has the same insecurities and controlling traits as your mother.
After seeing the way female victims are treated by investigators and law enforcement, I do not blame them! Also, my own mother is a Sadist - and not in the mutual consent way. IF more male victims speak out THEN real changes can start happening in support resources and public education about IPV. Tell your mates that they're not alone ❤
Especially on military bases where soldiers face criticism from command and coworkers if they report, plus will face NJP if command believes the woman over the servicemen. I saw some fellow Marines get treated terribly by wives, girlfriends, and even one night stand females. The male Marines knew if they reported it, the females would lie and usually be believed. They knew that even if proof showed the female was lying, she would face absolutely no punishment, whereas the serviceman had nothing to gain and could only lose by reporting. Civilian women knew they could run to a Marines CO and tank his career with no proof, just from an accusation. They could basically extort servicemen into handing over entire paychecks, just by threatening to report them for DV or SA.
Oh my gosh this reminds me of my husband’s ex wife. She was horribly abusive. He’s got scars from cigarette burns, she broke his nose when she threw something at his face, and like this woman, forced him to sleep with her almost every day just to exert control. It was so bad that he almost offed himself. He literally had the shotgun in his mouth when he decided to not give up. He put the gun down and checked himself into the hospital. Think she felt bad? Nope. Knowing he was suicidal, she served him divorce papers, and this was after asking if their kids could stay with his mom for a few weeks so that he and she could fix things. She divorced him and kidnapped their daughter to another state. He hasn’t seen his child for 10 yrs. Women can be a particular kind of evil. They often don’t seek to kill you physically opting to destroy you mentally. These women also know that they can use their kids to do it because courts favor them.
@@Desi365 there’s a warrant out of our state but family court said she moved too far away for them to go get her. She’ll be arrested if she ever comes back but she will never do that. Mothers do this all the time and the courts fail the fathers
I went through a similar situation in South Africa between 2013 and 2016...it ended when I found out that she was sleeping with her ex, when I confronted her about it she stabbed me.... These monsters are everywhere lately it seems...
Such a sad case. Narcissists love to gaslight people in addition to all their other horrid behaviors to make someone dependent. Great breakdown again. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
Doesn't Richard bear some of the responsibility for allowing it to continue and get worse around the children? The victim is never held to account for what they allowed to happen. Abuse me once shame on you, abuse me multiple times, and in front of my children shame on me. I'm glad he had a friend that went to the police but why didn't he go to the police?
thanks for exposing cases like this, Dr. Grande. It happens more than we think. I have a friend that was totally manipulated by his ex who is a cheater. She ended the relationship and had the audacity to say (while cheating on him) that she took the decision because he wasn't doing enough for her. Crazy world we live in
My ex wife was a violent alcoholic. The last three years she never had a sober day. Her family laughed it off when it was videod. When we separated she lived with her mom, until she couldn't control her outbursts and attacked her family.
@@ivribalko. I didn’t think my ex was attractive, but accepted a date, because I felt guilty about judging someone based on attractiveness. Turns out it was his insides that repulsed me, all along.
My ex wife taught me to record any conflict with a woman that may lead to police involvement. They'll take the woman's side almost every time without it.
My ex wife spit on me and hit me once. I told her that I did that to her I would end up in jail. She agreed! I immediately left her and filed for divorce. She did it once and it cost her everything. She got nothing. We were married for 22 years. Now she is alone with the cats She got to be physically abusive just ONE time. These stories of men letting this crap go on for years is very disappointing.
You must live on an island by yourself. Children are abused physically and mentally all the time all over the world. Spouses of both sexes and elder abuse is everywhere as well. You don't want to know what the people you think you know do behind closed doors.
I’m a counselor for male perpetrators of DV. I run a group for court mandated batterer intervention program for men who have been charged with domestic violence. I will admit that, going into the role, I had a bias because I am a survivor myself-I’ve had two abusive partners in the past. However, upon hearing my clients’ stories, I came to realize that there is a LOT of unreported violence on men, much of which is due to mental health exasperated by substance abuse. I’m not saying my clients are all saints-they absolutely all played a role in their violence but many of them ended up in my classes because of self-defense and the police had to arrest someone and of course it ended up being the large man. While it could be a lie, yes, I am very good at reading emotion and these men break down crying and are genuinely hurting at the position they are in. Sure, some are straight up violent men. But some are also victims themselves.
watched half of the documentary, before I was so repulsed and couldn't finish watching. so pleased she is now so exposed all over the planet 🌏 Richard, I am so sorry this happend to you & YOUR daughters. Thank God you collected evidence.
I have been through a very similar situation. The lady that I was with was diagnosed with manic, bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder. This sounds like a cut-and-dry mental illness case and without proper treatment this lady will never change.
I am 54, male and my 2nd wife was an abuser. Anti depression meds and wine was the mix that made her go out of control the worst. She would sometimes say that she enjoyed the feeling, like it gave her power. Nuts, right. I am single now and will probably remain so.
there is hope. isuffered from my 2nd wife for 9 1/2 years of marriage and many years afterward because of our mutual daughter. its been over 24 years since we divorced and i had 2 divorces with American women quick like. but im now married to a Filipina for 13+ years.
Wow This is my story exactly Except in my case my wife was arrested for a brutal middle of the night non provoked attack on me She was removed from the home and my kids went with her as she lied to them Family court reversed it all She won Then lost in the end My son lives with me now My step daughter has moved on He got a taste of her madness directed at him I understand this man very very well
I was physically abused by girlfriend in Colorado. Hit across face w phone, strangled and arm bruises. She was arrested at my home and taken to jail. I had to go to a mandated victim program. Still hard to believe.
@@jellybean6778 at the program I sat across the desk from a lady interviewing me. She noticed these like nickel sized bruises on my inside upper arms. And asked me. I hadn’t really ever thought about it but then realized the girlfriend had always pinched and twisted me… I understood later it was a learned societal or cultural behavior to just take it from a woman Men are bigger stronger brutish in behavior shouldn’t complain certainly not cry This coupled with the growing cultural hash tag believe all women society I was adopted by paternal grandparents at about 3 Father gave me away to protect me mother had broken my arm and shoulder There were no arrests or apologies for what it’s worth only years of trying to recover I guess if my candor here can save one person or kid from abuse it’s worth this thread Monsters can come in pretty packages Boys and men are not disposable
I was watching a Dr. Phill episode the other day and he was saying something about the wife (episode guest) kicking the crap out of the husband and everyone in the audience started laughing. I was like wtf? If he had said the husband was beating the crap out of his wife, people would be absolutely appalled.
The dbl standard is so sad 😮
Dr Phil has gotten angry at his audience for doing shit like that before.
I think people that go to those shows are all a little bloodthirsty
I have known two men who were abused by their wives. When asked why they put up with it, each said something to the effect of, " If a man defends himself against a woman, he goes to prison."
Shows that people that would claim to care about domestic violence don't really care about domestic violence and even take an enjoyment in some sadistic violence against others. What they only care about is violence against people they relate to for example people of the same gender or skin color.
Well done to the friend for going to the police without Richard’s consent. Crimes do not need the victims’ permission to be investigated.
that's also why I hate expressions like "he/she isn't pressing charges". Maybe they can choose not to, but the state still should. IT would make sense that someone who's being abused would be intimidated into dropping charges.
Glad the friend went to the police. She lied over and over
@@Aaron-kj8dvThe victims oftentimes are even bullied by others to drop the charges on behalf of the perpetrator.
One hundred percent!!!
@@Aaron-kj8dvgreat point.
My son was the victim of physical abuse by his new wife. It started 3 weeks after the honeymoon.
We found out because when he bent over to pick something up off the floor, we saw bruises on his back. He confessed what was going on, and we helped him move out of their apartment the next day. He was married and divorced within six months and with therapy, he is doing well.
I can understand how that happens. It takes a while for a person's true personality to emerge. Glad to hear your son is doing well. Out of curiosity, how long were they together before marriage?
@@humanbeing2420
They weren't together long enough! It was 8 months. My older son's wife kept telling my husband and I that something was wrong with her but couldn't say what it was. My dil didn't like her at all and she likes everybody. Anyway, hindsight is 20/20 they say. Thanks for your reply!
He’s lucky to have had your love and support. Most people don’t.
She’s crazy! Really really crazy!
At least negroes are open so we erroneously believe we better or different cos we hide our fights.
OMG! I met a few Sheree's in my life. In public, they were charming. But the way they treated their significant others was shocking. Kudos to the friend who turned Sheree into the police!
Psychopaths
I was married to one exactly like Sheree. She was also very charming in public and everyone thought she was beautiful and kind. Only myself, the kids and a very select few ever saw the real person that she was behind closed doors. Those women are scary and to be honest the system supports them to be this way because they know if they make a claim of domestic abuse that they will be believed as the starting point and the husband would be the one under suspicion. They are manipulative and controlling and extremely dangerous narcissists.
@@shaun34 .... me too - 15 years of hellish emotional abuse and neglect - yet everyone on the outside saw nothing but the polished, narrative that my covert narcissistic ex spouse projected. These types of people are not as rare as we might think.
Met a potential "Sheree" as well. Although the relationship was online, a PI Report taught me that she was lying about her entire life and history to me. She would abuse herself to make her ex's the victim.
@@NA-ud6qm anyone who doesn't run a full background check on a potential relationship partner is playing with fire. It's $25.00 typically
This is how my mom treated me from about age 6 until I was in my twenties. She never defecated on me, but she did rub my face and hair in dog feces when our dog had diarrhea on the floor. I’ve had my face slammed into the dashboard of her car as she drove. She stapled my curtains to my wall so I couldn’t look outside and made me stay in my room for hours whenever she had guests. She used to wake me up with beatings until I couldn’t stay asleep more than four hours or so. I never weighed more than 108 until I was thirty, despite being 5’7” because I was so anxious I could barely sit still and eat. Watching this documentary really made me ill.
I was so brainwashed that this was normal that I never even realized it was abuse until I was in my thirties. Domestic violence isn’t just between adults.
That's fucked up..I'm sorry you had to go through that ❤
I’m so sorry :(🥺😞
I’m so sorry you had to live that…😢
I am so, so sorry!! That enrages me!! I pray she's in prison!!!
That’s terrifying.. so messed up. You are strong to have survived that treatment for so long.
"In the beginning of their relationship, Sheree was fine.". They all are...
😂😂 true story 💯🔥
he thought she was hot and that's all that mattered during the courtship.
Yeah, I had 3 most of love bomb. I was shocked, id never experienced anything like it. Then she flipped the fuck out over nothing and was once again shocked. Turns out she has narcissistic personality disorder
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If you don't believe that women are never wrong then you are a sexist .. :^)
My belief is that more men are abused than we know, it's just they are never reported like Richard. Abuse of any kind should not be tolerated.
I agree.
A lot of psychological and sociological studies show this, and yes, much of it goes unreported.
I once did a straw poll, amongst all the men that I knew at the time. Every single one of them had been assaulted by a woman. Personally Every single woman I ever had a relationship with physically assaulted me at least once.
My ex abused me but not as bad as this.
She used to attack me to try and get me to hit Her I never did.
I saw my “mother” do this to many a man. She was married 9 times (that I know of). One time the SWAT team got called on her and raided her property no joke. Wish I could’ve been there to see that one but she got the man to recant what he told the cops she had done (which was verified by my teen brother) and the charges were dropped. She’s teflon.
Oh and she now forever blames my little brother for why she got arrested that day. He was 13 and told the cops the truth, that she pulled a shotty on her husband tried to pull the trigger before it was wrestled away from her. And claimed she poisoned her husbands coffee.
Posting this video is a serious public service. Thank you Dr. Grande
this is exactly how my second wife of 30 years was.....................I moved countries to get away from her. The Police were not interested in what I had to say. We've been apart 10 years now and she is still expecting me to return to her. Never going to happen
I'm glad you stayed away from her. Never ever given in. Crazy and nasty woman like her.
Stay safe
Amen
Hey Puss...she even really exist?
10 years?😂 Looks like no one else wants her.
What a great friend that called the police on his behalf!
a gullible friend who he manipulated to take part in his plan...
@@AnthonyLeamanhuh?
Retired cop here. This is very common. I’ve been on lots of calls where the female pulls this crazy S and tries to get husband arrested.
And the government makes it that way.
Imagine having a mother like this and having people think you`re a monster because of some invented S.
If it's so common why do police still bias against the man in these domestic cases?
Our DA instructed us to arrest the man when in doubt. I didn't go for that. Often it is just too many officers playing Captain Save a Ho.@@MrAkaacer
It's evil what some women have done to the men they claim to love. Love is respect. 😢
In my home, she never "yelled", she just rose her voice to get my attention, she was never 'angry" she was "frustrated", she was never "violent", she just threw dishes, pounded her fists on tables, and shook things in my face because I "just didn't understand her needs". Like everyone else here has mentioned, flip it around and... I would be labled the abusive husband.
Why did you stay aftrr the first incident?
I had two kids to be there for. One therapist told me she could sell drugs and turn tricks in the front yard and the court would still side with her.
@@RoMed1167I'm happy you got away. I really hope that since the documentary came out on Netflix that it'll educate some people on the subject! A lot of people think that getting out of a situation like that would be easy for them but they've not got a clue what they're talking about!
I am an ER nurse and have witnessed a lot of domestic violence. I have seen some horrible crimes committed by women including castration with a dull knife and attempted murder by a stiletto heel.
damn!!!!
that sounds hot. I mean, wrong! So wrong.
Yoooooooooo dull knife
in brazil we have the assassin of the spoon
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It’s about time abusive women start getting exposed
Alot of female teachers getting exposed for having sex with underage students. I think there's 12 cases already this year. At this ratio there will be over 30 by the end of the year
Never happens, men always get falsely accused and go to jail.
@@karlhurley5199 it's almost like you have to wear a body cam if you're a man these days
They make up a very large portion of the population. We like to pretend that they don't. Go spend a day in family court, and tell me who you see significantly making stuff up more and claiming victim... men or women.
The courts encourage them, and almost never do anything about these claims when proven false... Encouraging them even more.
The problem is that other women excuse and in some cased support and promote their behavior, so they never have any accountability for their actions until the Police get involved. This is why I try to avoid social media, it's just full of nasty bitter single women, spreading bad ideas, jumping to wild conclusions, translating mens behavior through a tainted lens, and trying to destroy other peoples relationships, even the sensible ones get involved and share ideas they don't even agree with, just to be part of the group.
My ex wife had many of these devious qualities. And frankly doc, it was enabled and amplified by therapists and family court. All of them never took a minute to hear my side of the story.
Every marriage counselor I went to was a feminist monster, including the male.
The place where men are insignificant and invisible
As a female, I’m also not heard. The narc is so confident that’s why they are believed…
@@C.C.Sophia528 Females get more attention and sympathy than men. Maybe that's why male suicide is so much higher?
Or is it trauma and PTSD from war?
Or the destructive "family" court system?
Been there. My therapist asked ME "what do you think you could have done better" after explaining to her my wife was cheating on me. Gee thanks doc.
My wife is not physically violent unless she is very drunk but is often extremely verbally abusive. Years ago I started to record her episodes initially audio but in recent years video. On two occasions now I have left the house to get away from it and she has called the police and made totally unfounded allegations, the first of which meant I was arrested and held in a cell for two nights while they investigated. Once released I was told not to return to my home. But could go with the police to collect some belongings. I collected video evidence of her abuse going back over 12 years, our daughters also gave statements supporting me. The police did not listen to a word I said and continued to spin their questions to make me admit to false allegations. With zero evidence and in spite of my wife sobering up and recanting her statements I was charged. I waited until I was invited in to review my statement and the bail conditions and handed the police woman a copy of the videos, it took a further 6 weeks for the CPS to drop all charges, the system is loaded against men at every opportunity. If you are being abused tell people that you can trust, keep them updated. Protect yourself.
Go to ALANON dude
Your mistake was not getting an attorney and taking the videos to him first.
Where was this?
“Conceited, condescending and arrogant” is a bit of an understatement. More like a narcissistic sociopath
Ya but come on Richard has some problems why would it take that long for him to do something. Never have children with a woman like that
@chadrowe8452 narcissistic abuse made him that way. I'm sure it didn't happen overnight.
@@fragrancememoir2350 I was referring to her
@@Ministry_Of_Silly_Walks huh? I was responding to chadrowe8452
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It takes abuse THIS bad for the “Family Law” system to take men seriously
Had the guy not had this level of overwhelming evidence against her, he’d have ended up in jail. All she has to say is “I felt threatened” and the court would have issued an EPO and most likely slammed him with a DVO.
It is getting better for men. There have been several of these cases in recent years.
@@Roz-y2dcare to share any?
It amazes me that courts in a separation always give the kids to the mother, I'm sorry but there are far more unhinged women walking about than men, half of them are narcissists on prescription drugs
The system is not set up for men dealing with these types of women. They're very manipulative, which means they know how to look fragile and polite and kind. But once the doors are closed, their true nature comes out and once again, men are left to fend for themselves.
That man was lucky to have a friend to speak up for him and help get him away from that mad woman.
a gullible friend who he manipulated to take part in his plan...
@@AnthonyLeamanyou should watch the documentary, it shows the police videos, even one of the hardest police officers was in tears, the videos show her beating him up in front of their young daughter, the poor child is seen comforting her dad.
My mother is a dangerous, manipulative person.
I grew up being told that my father was a drug addict and that he l ft because he couldn't bear the site of me (because I was so repulsive or disappointing).
As I got older I realised that she was abusive and I wasn't the cause of her unhappiness.
It skewed my view of women and made me reluctant to trust.
My Dad was never a drug addict and he left through a ground floor window under attack from my Mum who was frisbee throwing the wedding gift crockery at him while unpacking in their new home.
She would threaten suicide periodically and because I believed her and felt totally responsible for her unhappiness - I would be on best behaviour to try and placate her.
Angry women can be more damaging than men because they hide it well and society just doesn't look for signs of domestic abuse instigated by women.
Wow she’s just straight up evil, abusers never appreciate what they have. Hope Richard’s got a better life now, he seems like a decent dude.
Yes, they just always want more. Some people are different and have insatiable greed.
You know a woman is high maintenance and just not worth it when she defecates on your head and tells you to clean it up. 😧
You mean a typical Woman?
The evil wife should have gotten a lot more prison time --and the abused husband should be placed into some form of "Witness Protection" Program when the evil wife gets out of prison 🤨
@@Dale-jd4nj I thought the same thing. If it were Richard abusing her the sentence would have been much longer.
@8:00 abuse never “gets better” it never “goes away” male on female (as in my own personal experience) or female on male. If anyone reading this is facing abuse, leave! Walk tf away!
It's a hard lesson to learn, especially with deeply sick, manipulative psychopath.
I'll add that, not only does it not get better or go away, it WILL escalate. Get away as soon as it starts.
Yeah, that rarely happens..and some people kinda like it, I guess since they keep going back. 😞
@@clqudy4750. There are multiple factors that make it hard for a victim to leave. People who abuse others can be very calculating. I would not assume that anyone likes it.
I really don't think they like it .@@clqudy4750
I can relate to this. My wife punched me several times over an argument about her making me clean everything while she sat around. I called the cops but she told them I threatened her with a gun that I didn’t even have and I ended up in cuffs and the police had m4’s pointed at me. They dismissed everything I told them and they laughed at me even when I had bruises on my arm and scratch marks all over my face. Nothing ever happened to her. The justice system is unfair too.
Keep strong bro 👍
It doesn’t have to be physical!
The justice system is not a system. Is people using emotions to pass judgment. If the judge is having a bad day it will also be a bad day for whomever they come across.
The police doesn't really have training or awareness in societal biases. It's unfortunate because they do see actual situations where the worse possible thing is the true but that's not always the case. The uniform does change the mentality and the weird things they see do affect how they think. Remember that it is just a uniform that's wrapped up around a human being that's always on high alert.
I hope that monster is not in your life anymore.
So sorry to hear that. I hope you’re in a safe place and happier now.
Did you leave her? I hope so.
My first wife was very abusive, physically and emotionally. I was a kid when I married her. She was 7 years older. Missed a bunch of red flags. Divorced her after about a year. Stayed single, and happily so, for the next 10 years.
This poor man was a serious victim of abuse
Imagine he ever hit her back. He probably never would have seen his kids again.
It seems that people become acclimated gradually to the escalating abuse. It's like getting ever so slowly sucked under by quick sand...your up to your neck before you realize you're in real trouble. That's when people like Richard's friend are so so important!
@@jumpinjohnnyrussYes.😔
This is extremely common, it's just not being recorded on video, and the husband is usually kept from having friends, especially one who would go to police. Had this not been recorded, most likely he would be the one in jail.
Richard was a SIMP
I was abused by the mother of my child for many years. She broke my ribs twice, once with a kick and once with a bedside lamp. Women can be crazy monsters, but this is rarely talked about.
Well, if you're weak and passive like that... the fact that you got to impregnate a woman is already a bonus lol. Sometimes, natural selection still happens. If you're weak, people will predate on you. Simple as that. It's a biological imperative. There's no third way. You're either dominating, or being dominated. There's NEVER a third option.
so sorry that happened to you Aaron xo🫂
That's appalling 😢 Sorry.
I grew up with an abusive mother and father. It was verbal abuse, mostly, but the point is that women have this mental derangement too and the media never talks about it. I am truly shocked and sorry for what you went through.
Disgusting
If you've dated a narcissistic person, you know they have the glare of dead eyes, and Sheree Spencer definitely has those eyes.
Exactly
Was married to one and it was a horrible experience to say the least.
I've never dated a narcissist but even I can see there's nothing behind those eyes. Like looking into the eyes of a buffalo or alligator.
I see that glare in almost every person, in different intensities. Yes, narcissists are among the most void. That's really what narcissism is, a lack of emotion, or poorly regulated emotions.
Seems like she was a lot worse than a narcissist..
Learn to identify narcissists. Avoid them-very cruel people.
A very obvious one: Trump.
They're more common than people realize
If you smell a lot of shit everywhere you go it might also be you.
Narcissist isn’t interchangeable with abuser. Multiple different mental health disorders can cause this kind of behaviour
What a repulsive drunk. What she said to her husband is beyond disgusting. The children will always be affected seeing her violence and hearing those insults and vile language. I hope she never gets to hold those little children in her arms again.
Where are the children? Does he have them?
This woman is like a budget Amber Heard.
Right. F the guy who actually went through all this. Men are so expendable to most women. And it shows in comments like yours. Poor kid helping her mom lie to the neighbors! Even little girls could care less!😂😂
Most kids witness this from their mother the overwhelming majority truth be told.
1:09 she's trying to look perfect...but she has a boogie in her nose.
I went out with a woman like this, after punching me several times i put her on the floor and restrained her until she calmed down. She didn't, she just kept screaming until finally the cops turned up, i was arrested and convicted of assault and ordered to do community service and a 6 month anger management course. I've never had anger problems in my life and even had friends testify on my behalf, but the law only sees men as abusive.
that's the way it go's i knew this was coming so left before she could, now i am suing her for my share of the house we bought, guess what she is claiming DV. i have kept al the messages!!! i have a 400 page report of the abuse for court. now shew knows she will lose she want Mediation!!!
Whole system is ridiculous. U are Cannon fodder for the front line of what ever war they have next and women the middle managers to control u.
She is Sadistic. He isnt nonconfrontational and peaceful, he is Masochistic. Both are mentally ill. He did not try to protect his children from witnessing pure evil, so he isnt the victim. They were.
Yep
This story shows the idiocy of American lawmakers, law enforcement agencies, prosecutors, and judges. Not just the American ones but the ones in the UK.
Drinking 3 bottles of wine a day won't help your fertility. That said, this story is horrible. If his friend had not intervened, I think things would have gotten worse - a lot worse, possibly leading to his murder.
She poisons her body and then blames him for not being a man and getting her pregnant.
I was with a bi-polar gal for awhile and she was similar to Sheree. She would beat me in the face, then call the police and tell them I had threatened her with a knife. The pigs always arrested me, even though I had never hit her, and never ever threatened her with a knife. Cops are incredibly lazy, they always arrest the person that does not call, never bother to even try to figure out how the guys face looks like it was beaten to shit. Every time she did it the prick judges kept raising my bail till i could not afford it. Eventually, she fell in love with one of her crazy cousins and I was free. Even better, she died of natural causes maybe a year later, some virus in her heart. The lesson being, if a woman ever bears false witness against you, you have to get away from her, no exceptions, because the "justice system" is geared towards always making the guy the perp, even when he is not. Do not think I am kidding on this. If dude here did not have video, he would have been put in jail if she ever made a false claim. Cops are lazy, Judges are lazy, and attorneys are lazy, that all works against the man in cases like this.
yep he would have been another story on id channel. sad sad!!!
Glad she didn't get pregnant. The child would have had fetal alcohol syndrome.
Yes, she would have killed him and claimed self defense from his years of abuse. She would have been found not guilty, because men are evil. he would be known to us as a serial abuser and disgusting example of toxic masculinity for the 3rd wave feminists to use to justify their hatred of all men.
FOUR YEARS?!?!? That’s sick. Anyone who can dehumanize another person like this (especially someone who has no remorse for their actions) should be kept out of society for as long as possible.
Some men don’t realize how much a crazy lady can ruin your life.
I do
These days most of them are.
We are conditioned to be illusional and delusional from the youngest age about women. And for some reason we tend to believe that it's Cinderella we got, not one of her sisters.
Men do know. Society just doesn’t care. If men mention they have been abused by women society laughs and ridicules them.
@@ToddiGreat-le2qu so do i
Unfortunately, if Richard ever tried to defend himself in any way, he'd be in jail....
Yes. Unfortunately it may be extremely dangerous to move in with anybody, either the person you think you know or the ones you don't know. The most dangerous thing ever, far more dangerous than street crime that can happen to you but at least you can take your precautions against such kind of crime. When you live with somebody who is unstable it's a 24/7 danger.
definitely
Even if you caught hold of her arms to stop her hitting you with a weapon.police will cart you off to jail and use that defence of yours to prove you laid hands on your atracker.fact.
not necessarily he had video evidence they literally had cameras in the home
Not true. Get the police involved earlier. Pretty easy to tell who the abuser is
What a nasty woman, thank you Dr. Grande for showing anyone can be an abuser !
I had a psycho ex who got abusive when she drank, and she loved her drink. The last straw was when we went on a getaway to a beautiful, secluded bed and breakfast in the mountains and she ruined it by getting drunk and violent. There was huge drama when i told her it was over. It was so messy. But now I'm super happy in life 😁
My mother was like this with us children. Years later, when my dad had dementia, she was like this with him. I could not get him to press charges, so I had to move in with them to protect him until he died.
You could have called Adult Protective Services and the courts would have removed him and punished her.
I’m sorry. Hope you’re well. ✌️
That's awful. I am so sorry that you and your Dad had to go through that.
Your account made me cry.
We need God, such are life’s knocks to help convince us to repent to God.
“Living Waters” hosted by Ray Comfort.
Abusing someone innocent and helpless like that is absolutely the most disgusting kind of abuse. My wife had early stage dementia so I know what it’s like to care for someone helpless like that. I just wanted to protect and care for her because I loved her so much. She passed away in April after a short illness…
My ex wife, later diagnosed as a psychopath, did many of the same things. Violence, gaslighting, etc. When she did finally file false charges against me, the authorities believed her and I was held for 2 years before things were sorted out.
How absolutely horrible for you. Hope you are in a good place now.
Authorities are supposed to do an investigation.Not believe 1 person over the other.Soothe the hell out of em
@@VG-rj8pn Soothe them!
You would've died at her hands if you had been with her during that two year period.
@greentooth3097 yes, you're probably right
This programme is a hard watch, after supporting my beloved husband through cancer over the past year, it is beyond my comprehension that someone could treat anyone let alone their husband in this way and expose their longed for children to this abuse. He was so brave to speak out to his lovely neighbours and his loyal friend who did what he couldn’t do and report the abuse to the authorities. I think Richard is a brave man who deserves every happiness in his future life.
So many screwed up people these days, men and women. Be careful out there and cherish what you got. It's not to be taken for granted.
I’ve been in an abusive relationship. Because I was depressed being in a divorce with children, I was not immediately able to cope with this situation, but luckily after 2 years I got out of my depression and was able to handle her and finish the relationship. The violence, the alcohol abuse, the humiliation is all recognisable, though it was not that extreme. “Funny” detail, my ex worked on a closed psychiatric ward for children….
Sheree is a good example of a narcissistic sociopath, whose abuse of her husband was fuelled by alcohol. To call her entitled is a gross understatement. Kudos to Richard's friend for notifying the police without the latter's consent . I honestly hope that Richard is a happier man with his new girlfriend. 🙏🙏🙏🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
I think BPD
I can;t stand the term "alcohol-fuelled violence." Alcohol may have exacerbated it, but certainly wasn't the cause. People just use alcohol as an excuse to avoid responsibility.
@@MusiCatsKing In vino veritas
I often say this after I was put in a rehab facility based on what one person said. Even though when tested for everything under the sun I was negative. I met many addicts. “Some of the addicts I felt that the addiction was the least of their problems. “ If that makes sense to anyone but it did to me. I was eventually released based on no positive test results.
She won't have done it on her own though, she's been supported and emboldened by other women. Probably playing the victim, lying about things, gaining sympathy, and then feeling like she's entitled to do these things.
Hopefully she is allowed no contact with the children.
I hope so too. Eventually she would have turned on her children and abused them. Richard got out on time and I hope him and his daughters live the quiet and happy life they deserve with each other and Richard's new partner.
I wonder if she ever abused the kids too. It seems likely.
sorry... society says she will get them back easily... i spent years trying to get mine away from a junkie... she just showed up, and the copper with her would actually help give them back to the junkie... only for her to throw them out again in a few days.... courts waste of time as the judges are all women now... whatever the woman does is ok with a woman judge .. believe me!!!!!....
@@TiffWafflesI usually don’t like the word partner. But it applies to this situation. Because women are definitely this guys equal!😂😂😂
@@TiffWaffles She already was abusing them with gaslighting.
Thanks for covering this case. Good thing Richard's friend went to the police, instead of just mocking him or saying it's his fault, like a lot of the commenters here are doing
Yes, Very hard for someone to extract themselves from such abuse. The friend goes beyond just friendship. To a big brother.
I don't see any comments saying it was his fault at all
@@travmakesbeats3372. I’ve seen a couple that say a man can just leave, one saying this happened because all he cared about was if she was hot and another that said people stay because they like it.
I don't mock him, but he should have left her long before. Perhaps he was able to get out without alimony in this scenario.
Many men go through the same thing. I went to 200 plus counseling visits with angry EX wife. We have 2 younger kids and divorce was NEVER part of my plan. I finally told my wife to leave. She did , I been in peace ever since. She has remarried twice. I an still single and loving my life. Most women I meet now are damaged just like here. Some women are ruined at childhood from abuse/ molestation and never recover. I think the number is higher than we all realize!! my ex would hit me in my sleep if I touched her by accident even! I told everyone black eye ,fat lip was from playing racquetball or squash at gym. I never hit her back. I knew that is what she wanted. One night she was yelling as load as she could inch from my face to "HIT ME" !!!! yeah she would get crazy!!
I was abused in a similar way. When I confronted my ex about her new boyfriend she pulled a knife on me and said,"if you say anything to him, you are dead" I encouraged her relationship with her new boyfriend to get her out of my life and it worked. Never been in a relationship since and that was 25 years ago. I have been left with deep distrust of all woman who want more than just friendship.
Tony: You're not alone Bud. I'm in exactly the same boat. Never again will I get involved with a Vagina.
I think you need to let it go. It's been long enough. Stop torturing yourself over someone else's actions. You have done nothing wrong and not all women are like that. Please take the next step in your life. I am also 8 years without a relationship, now 40 years old. So I am not just saying this to you, but to me as well. Good luck!
dont worry at least you have a calm life and no miserable drama , trust me there are many involved relationships that are pure hell with no escape for some , sadly it takes lots of money to calm meaness down
Went through similar abuse with multiple woman I dated. They did many of the same controlling behaviors. I stopped dating for two years to figure out why it was happening. When I started dating again, I would state I am only dating and am not looking for a girlfriend. They would start calling me their boyfriend after a few dates, became possessive of my time, would insist on controlling what we did and became physically aggressive fairly soon in the relationship. (Usually slapping me if they did not get their way) I would ghost them and move if needed to end any contact. Finally, I met someone who was nice, patient and willing for me to be ready for a relationship. She is the sweetest woman and we have been married for over 30 years. I still distrust most woman, but I know there are some good ones out there.
It's a shame that 25 years have passed alone because of 1 woman. Woman r the same as men. Some good some bad
This poor man. He was in a lose lose situation. If he stood up for himself he’d be seen as the aggressor. If he reported it so one would believe him. I’m so glad he got out.
He could leave.
She would have reported him as the abuser, which would have been believed. He would also lose his children.
@@tadcastertory1087 So you know that she hasn't lost custody? He wouldn't loose his children either here in Scandinavia. Unless it was life threatening violence, where the family had to go under ground.
These are reasons why many abused men don't report the abuse against them. My husband's first wife abused him and he felt he couldn't report her bc like this woman, she was a member of law enforcement.
Indeed. People like his wife is proof that you can't be kind all of the time. Some people take advantage of that.
In the 1980’s I was a police officer and married to an abusive wife. It got to the point where I had to lock up my revolver with my handcuffs in the closet so I could get some sleep. She attacked me with some wooden boards one day during an argument she started. I decided to leave her after she grabbed my gun during a conversation about my decision to leave the home because of her behavior. I had to wrestle her away from the gun and decided that it was time to leave her permanently. We had a 2 year old son who was sleeping at the time. So after 7.5 years of marriage I filed for divorce. Unfortunately I only had one day a week visitation with my son. And eventually my ex turned him against me and I didn’t see him for over 20 years. But in time my son realized his mother was wrong about everything. He married and about 6 years ago we were reunited and now have a wonderful relationship and I have a beautiful 3 year old granddaughter! I never gave up hope for him to come back to my life. My prayers were answered. Never lose hope in what God can restore. Unfortunately for my ex, she wants to be a part of his life but he doesn’t have any desire to re-establish his relationship.
She must’ve really cared about you
Good on ya'. I'm in your corner friend; life is the school, love is the lesson.
❤
Wow. 😮. I’m glad you and your son are back as a family and congratulations on a grandchild. ❤❤❤ and thank you for your service. I wish you and your family all the best in life. Health is the most important. The rest will follow. Much love ❤❤❤
@@kisulya2999 That’s so sweet of you! Thank God for people like you ❤️
"First hand research." The way you delivered that burn so calmly was godlike, sir.
As a man who was married to an abusive alcoholic who had a similar experience with the threats of her doing harm to herself & blaming me , this one hit close to home.
Thankfully we did not have any children during our 6 year marriage & I am now happily married to my current wife for 16yrs & we have a 14yr old son, together.
Wish you well 👍
It wasn’t until I was participating in group therapy that I realized I was in a relationship with a narcissist female.
As a man it’s kinda hard to admit you’re in an abusive relationship
It can happen to anyone. Good for you for realizing it and getting out.
I could see that being the case here too
Women can be extremely abusive too. It's definitely not gender specific 😢. I'm glad you discovered you needed to leave and see it through. WELL DONE!!! Recovery will be slow. But it will come.
I was in a relationship with the most textbook NPD case I've come across back in 2016. All the gaslighting makes you want to confirm your reality by speaking to others but it's very uncomfortable admitting that youve been a victim plus society isn't kind to male victims.
If the man properly defended himself, he would be arrested for domestice violence. It is not that he could not defend himself, it is that if he did so, he would go to jail. The extreme feminazis have brainwashed law enforcement into thinking that only men are abusers.
She is not a victim she needs to be in prison for life
Is pretty rare for abusers to get substantial prison sentences, if any at all
@@heatherem5690
Especially if they are women...
@@ENIGMAXII2112 why did you feel the need to make it a gendered issue? Women are much less likely to be the perpetrators and suffer more repeated violence and more severe abuse and hospitalizations at the hands of men, is this the argument you wanted to have? Ffs, convictions for abuse and assault are difficult for both genders The belief that courts are more lenient on women is a seriously outdated notion, you’re just being sexist for literally no reason
@heatherem5690 did he hurt your little entitled feelings ? 😂
@@heatherem5690
Oh dear me, what be this..?
I just read up to "make it a gendered issue".
Then I did not even bother with rest of your ridiculous leftist indoctrination.
Bloody Good News is that sort of thing is on the way out. Yes, fads do not last forever.
Jolly good stuff that..!!
Abusers always assume their victims will suffer in silence. That assumption gives them power but is also a huge weakness if the victim wakes up and stops accepting victimhood.
I lived with it for 15 years, no one believes a six foot tall physically fit man can be assaulted/abused by a woman. At least that was the case in the late 90's into the 2000's. My ex sliced my arm open as I was trying to get away from her and it took 35 internal stitches (muscle) and around 40 staples (skin) to close the wound. There are two scars on my left arm that go from the top of my shoulder almost down to my elbow, she swung twice cutting both times once almost hitting bone. I lied to the ER when they were going to call the police and told them it happened at work, I wish they would have called.
It’s because men are ‘taught’ to treat woman with respect and never to hit back. As a woman if I am throwing hands at a man I expect it back.. if you are big enough to hot you are but enough to get a smack back. We fought for equality, well here it is!
Can’t happen in my country you say it was done at work and our Worksafe government agency would be following up your employer looking to investigate a work safe issue. If you said you did this at home it’s likely they would still notify the police who might investigate if you had err bad connections or more likely as you don’t they would add a note to your personal government file just in case they or you needed that evidence later.
I believe you , i was a full contact martial arts champ in my youth and you can bet many never would believe my story... see my comment input above mate....
FOURTY STAPLES?! I snapped my elbow in half and had to have metal put in to replace it and part of my ulnar bone and that only took 20 staples. 40!!! She tried to off you dude. Glad you’re ok. Feel bad for anyone else who dated that monster.
Edit: Forty not fourty Jesus - I was so astonished I misspelled a simple word. My bad.
Wow. How did you finally get away from her?
This brought up some very bad memories from when I was married. It took me a long time to get over that experience. Even now, almost three years later, I doubt I’ll ever be in a relationship again. The physical abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting was beyond painful. To the men out there in this position, leave her, it’ll be okay, it’ll get better, and even if it costs you everything you’ve built, you’ll get it back faster than you think.
Me too, except it was 30 years ago. I'm still trying to get over it.
Same here.
Same here mate
This brings up memories from 30 years ago. We had children together and this person continues now to malign me at every opportunity, So grateful to be away from her and her abuse.
I had a buddy who was 6"5 tall and was the funniest nicest guy. He married a 5"1 redhead that abused him for years. He would sleep in his car. She bit him through the arm. She hit him with any object she could throw. She didn't let him speak to any of his family or friends for years. He finally got away from her after many years as a shell of a man.
Can confirm that Redheads are schizo.
Those red heads are dangerous😂
Domestic violence is acceptable when women are the perpetrators. They often get off very light or receive no punishment when they victimize their significant other. Law enforcement and the court systems (at least in the U.S.) take the position that a smaller female can’t possibly physically abuse a larger man. If he does defend himself, she’ll cry “domestic violence” and he goes to jail. These women know this and take advantage of the system accordingly.
@@Nick-b7b9sYeah, real funny.
@@aeromedical6776this is sadly often true
I listened to a guy talk about tolerating his wife's abuse for years because he was *taught* there's never a reason to lay a hand on a woman. Finally had to put her in a chokehold after she attacked him for the last time to prove a point. She never did it again and the abuse stopped
_"When asked if she could produce photos of her injuries, as Richard had done, she claimed to have deleted them from her phone."_
Anyone who has ever been with a woman in a relationship knows that they delete _nothing_ that they can hold against you, only what you can hold against them.
Excellent point 👏
Can we not make blanket statements against entire groups of ppl?
@@laurapichon7623Exactly
If she was really cunning, she would have said that her husband had made her delete the photos
I found my gf cheating. Took evidence of it in my phone. Confronted her about it and she weep uncontrollably. A few weeks later she went into my phone to delete the evidence without telling me. Her motive was she was ashamed.
I'm not saying every woman is a manipulator but I got a similar experience.
Poor guy must have been so broken to put up with her abuse for 20 years! He would have stayed longer just taking that abuse if not for his friend who secretly showed police the video!
Nobody would believe him, she played the victim to everyone. She’s probably all quiet and meek in public, ive been there
The way things were going, poor Richard would have probably ended up a statistic of an abuse victim being killed by their abuser. The fact that he was putting makeup on to cover up the cuts and bruises on his face just makes me feel so sad for him. I hope his life with his new partner is free of abuse. He deserves to find somebody who supports and loves him.
@@willywokeup9112he had video evidence and bruises sooo…
@cfayek probably for the kids but who knows. There's more forms of control than just financial ya bell end.
@@dickjohnson9582 Imagine leaving her and her boyfriends alone with your kids...
The sad part is, just a single video of such an incidence would still have people and the law skeptical on the man's side of the story. He needed multiple recordings of her abusive antics over several years, just to get her jailed for probably two years.
She got four years which was Def not enough
It never ceases to amaze me to hear stories of someone trying to make someone elses life a living hell.
Imagine all the men that didn't record and have been lied about by their female partners and put in jail That is terrifying.
Any man who cannot defend himself or walk should put up then.if u cannot defend yourself how exactly do u defend your family. I blame Richard. I find him annoying.
@@ancientwisdom-ty4nb dumbest comment of the year award
@sum1majik598 I ain't paying you for this self awarded award. But why would u wanna give yourself such a demeaning award?self loathing? I know a good psychologist u can see to boost your self esteem
@@ancientwisdom-ty4nb Oh you definitely deserve that award buddy and I find you annoying. And as far as a person needing a good psychologist you should look into seeing one before it is too late.
My 1st wife tried that... But I had recordings on my phone and got out. I stupidly put up with years of abuse, but the false arrest potential finally made me see the light.
A good friend of mine, also being abused by his wife did not heed my advice to leave, when she started threatening to falsely report him for assault. He is in year 2 of a 5 year probation and has felony assault on his record.
What a classy lady!
‘Defecating on his head’ summed her up pretty well. 🙄
I think he has to sit pretty still to allow that. That might have been agreed upon.
What is it with these women and crapping in beds?
@@2008israelramosUnless he was asleep.. which he apparently wasn’t allowed to sleep in the bed from time to time..
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now we know where amber heard got her ideas from.
Thank You for this. The more men that come forward and speak on this kind of abuse, the more that my own personal dignity feels restored. It appears to me that this pattern happens much more than people know or even care to hear about.
❤ I hope you're doing better now.
I wasn't physically abused but my marriage hurt me in a lot of ways and I similarly find some healing in realizing that I am not alone in having had a hard time drawing boundaries, deciding to leave, and not blaming myself. I think there's a more automatic support for women in their friends and families, who will encourage scorched earth tactics at the drop of a hat, while for men the advice is often more like "just be patient with her".
I wish Richard a greater future. I think the lesson we can all learn from this gentleman’s experience is to have frame a relationship and to communicate with your partner what you expect of them & vice versa. If they cross that line (e.g. domestic violence), call them out on it. Zero tolerance has to be implemented.
This is crazy, I live in Texas. My story is almost exactly like this. I went no contact with her 15 months ago. My wife is currently facing 12 yrs for charges unrelated to me.
Glad you escaped, not everyone does.
@@IOERROR622 it was incredibly hard to break free. Luckily I’m not an impulsive person and she was.
@@ConveyApp I've been there brother. You tell yourself "Well she didn't really hurt me so it's ok" but once you open your eyes you know you made a mistake by putting up with it.
@@IOERROR622 I appreciate the content. Thanks.
Maybe it's better she go to jail than to take half your stuff.
How horrible this man had to put up with her abuse because he knew the police would not believe him. It is time we realize that women are capable of being just as abusive as men. I'm glad this story had a fairytale ending with the villain going to jail and the hero living happily ever after 😍
There's definitely a bias in law enforcement, and society, that works against male victims of abuse like Richard. But I also think it's worth pointing out that the very fact that Richard was able to live happily ever after says something, too. Many women don't get to live on after abuse at all, let alone happily ever after -- women are more likely to be killed by their domestic partner than by anyone else. The system fails victims of all genders far too often, just in different ways. :(
@@andoletube• When she gets out, she will still be Bat Shit Crazy 🤔
That’s the patriarchy for you. Hurts both men and women.
@@Duskdog717😔
That would be true if he had attempted to report it to law enforcement or to a mandated reporter and been ignored, but that's not what happened. He was just so vulnerable to manipulation that he didn't report it until she started abusing the kids.
My bio mother is like this. She was perfectly normal until I was about three years old, then she became an extreme alcoholic (a 24 case of beer and a bottle of vodka every day), and was terribly abusive to myself, my sister, and our father. I seriously hope more men can get over the stereotype and report abusive behaviour from female partners. My dad didn't report it mainly because he was afraid of getting us taken away by CPS, but that didnt help anyone. I will never have children because of the trauma that woman put us through. I share 50% of her DNA; although I would never harm someone willingly it frightens me that she is a part of me
My mom was alcoholic but now she's fine. Except when she drinks😂😂😂
I'm so sorry you and your sisters suffered from her abuse. I hope you're excelling in life and have been able to heal (as much as possible). 💜💜💜
@@Rebecca-hc5ju thank you for your kind words! Have an excellent day, year, life, all of it! 🖤
I don’t want children either because of my childhood. I would never want to put my kids through a minuscule amount of what my brother and I endured. Not that I think I would, but it’s turned me off the thought of being a mother to someone.
If there is one thing that age has taught me, it's that you are not your parents. In fact, you would probably be at less risk of turning into an abusive parent than most. Due to the fact that you are acutely aware of what a person is capable of.
I got divorced in 2001 and have never lived with a woman since. I learned my lesson.
Everyone needs a friend like Richard had in this very dire time.
Holy s, is this the real John Lithgow?
Yes, when you got a friend like Richard his more like a brother 😊
He needs to be very careful when she is released from prison.
Perhaps she'll 'put her foot in it' and find herself back inside quite quickly.
He, at least, should try and get a restraining order in place, active upon release or some such.
I agree. They mentioned he lived in Yorkshire, but I checked, and it's about 5.5 million, so he might be okay, but I'll still be careful.
My mother cursed like a truck driver and was the most hostile abuser, but outside the house, she pretended to be kind & sweet. Inside the house, she was a raving lunatic who beat my head on the floor. (I think she was abused in childhood.)
no, i do not think so, she will probably try to sort her life out, she was not always that monstrous,
i believe his weakness and lack of assertiveness had a role in this.
@@yasedky I hope you're right; revenge is a poor choice.
Yep, his lack of assertiveness exacerbated her issues.
She should be stripped of parental rights.
Muted & disabled at the very least.
(not physically)
@@300mphmartyr imprisoned
Thank god for the friend. My brother was abused at this level and unalived himself to escape.
I'm so so sorry to hear that😢😢😢
"She may not have been pleased with him as a husband but was very pleased with him as a victim." 🔥
Something similar happened to me. She was a nightmare and extremely abusive. I did everything I could to save our family, but the damage was constant and overwhelming and compromising. Gaaslighting was a tacctic she used constantly. Narcissism and socipathy were other factors. She was arrested Christmas night 2001
As a former infantry marine, and I know for a fact something like this happen to a couple of marine husbands and one was already a sergeant. So you never known who can be the actual victim. 99.99 of the male victims will never tell you.
So sad and so true! I wish SO MUCH that abused men would realize that there is NO SHAME AT ALL in exposing these incalculably weak, incalculably insecure, manipulative nut job females!!! End the cycle of psychological control!!! You deserve joy and freedom!!! There are many nice and secure women out there if you can just run the other way when you see a female who has the same insecurities and controlling traits as your mother.
After seeing the way female victims are treated by investigators and law enforcement, I do not blame them!
Also, my own mother is a Sadist - and not in the mutual consent way.
IF more male victims speak out THEN real changes can start happening in support resources and public education about IPV.
Tell your mates that they're not alone ❤
Especially on military bases where soldiers face criticism from command and coworkers if they report, plus will face NJP if command believes the woman over the servicemen. I saw some fellow Marines get treated terribly by wives, girlfriends, and even one night stand females. The male Marines knew if they reported it, the females would lie and usually be believed. They knew that even if proof showed the female was lying, she would face absolutely no punishment, whereas the serviceman had nothing to gain and could only lose by reporting. Civilian women knew they could run to a Marines CO and tank his career with no proof, just from an accusation. They could basically extort servicemen into handing over entire paychecks, just by threatening to report them for DV or SA.
Coercive and controlling is the biggest understatement I’ve heard!
Oh my gosh this reminds me of my husband’s ex wife. She was horribly abusive. He’s got scars from cigarette burns, she broke his nose when she threw something at his face, and like this woman, forced him to sleep with her almost every day just to exert control. It was so bad that he almost offed himself. He literally had the shotgun in his mouth when he decided to not give up. He put the gun down and checked himself into the hospital. Think she felt bad? Nope. Knowing he was suicidal, she served him divorce papers, and this was after asking if their kids could stay with his mom for a few weeks so that he and she could fix things. She divorced him and kidnapped their daughter to another state. He hasn’t seen his child for 10 yrs.
Women can be a particular kind of evil. They often don’t seek to kill you physically opting to destroy you mentally. These women also know that they can use their kids to do it because courts favor them.
What the name of the kidnapper ? This has to be made public by the FBI right ? There is a search warranty on her isn't there ?
@@Desi365 there’s a warrant out of our state but family court said she moved too far away for them to go get her. She’ll be arrested if she ever comes back but she will never do that. Mothers do this all the time and the courts fail the fathers
She probably still thinks she never did anything wrong and was always a victim of her crazy, suicidal husband.
I went through a similar situation in South Africa between 2013 and 2016...it ended when I found out that she was sleeping with her ex, when I confronted her about it she stabbed me....
These monsters are everywhere lately it seems...
South afirca breeds them.
Such a sad case. Narcissists love to gaslight people in addition to all their other horrid behaviors to make someone dependent. Great breakdown again. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
I love your videos and I am so thankful for your creative efforts. Keep it up!
The fact that three kids had to witness this, is heartbreaking.
More concern for the children than for the op. Terrible.
@@davidwheatley2283Men are disposable cannon fodder to these fembots.
@@davidwheatley2283 I was thinking the same thing.
Doesn't Richard bear some of the responsibility for allowing it to continue and get worse around the children? The victim is never held to account for what they allowed to happen. Abuse me once shame on you, abuse me multiple times, and in front of my children shame on me. I'm glad he had a friend that went to the police but why didn't he go to the police?
Hopefully the psychopathy won't be passed down to the daughters. Poor guy.
thanks for exposing cases like this, Dr. Grande. It happens more than we think. I have a friend that was totally manipulated by his ex who is a cheater. She ended the relationship and had the audacity to say (while cheating on him) that she took the decision because he wasn't doing enough for her. Crazy world we live in
My ex wife was a violent alcoholic. The last three years she never had a sober day. Her family laughed it off when it was videod. When we separated she lived with her mom, until she couldn't control her outbursts and attacked her family.
Wow. We sure can't tell what people are truly like by their external appearance. Thanks for another incredible video, Dr. Grande!
She's not even pretty 😂
Some people can. My friend always disliked my wife, mostly based just on her looks, turns out he was right to feel so.
? she looks like a monster
@@ivribalko. I didn’t think my ex was attractive, but accepted a date, because I felt guilty about judging someone based on attractiveness. Turns out it was his insides that repulsed me, all along.
She has the empty eyes of a narcissist. She looks exactly how I would imagine her after hearing this.
My ex wife taught me to record any conflict with a woman that may lead to police involvement. They'll take the woman's side almost every time without it.
Only getting 4 years for that level of prolonged abuse is a joke.
shut up you misogynist! (s/)
I guess she was just striking a blow for the "oppressed sisterhood"...
She probably cried and the judge felt sorry for her!
Crazy - a man would get 3 times
as much for doing 10% of what she did…
The court system is a joke
My ex wife spit on me and hit me once. I told her that I did that to her I would end up in jail. She agreed! I immediately left her and filed for divorce. She did it once and it cost her everything. She got nothing.
We were married for 22 years. Now she is alone with the cats
She got to be physically abusive just ONE time. These stories of men letting this crap go on for years is very disappointing.
That is the most hard working makeup I've ever seen.
I almost made the exact same comment lol!
😂💯🔥👍
😂😂😂 Fugly on the inside. Fugly on the outside.
She could be the cover girl who makes the most sales for that brand, for different reasons than most. I know I’d buy it!
Omg! I had the vid paused at 6:25 on her mugshot when I read your comment 😂
The summation was pure gold. "Now she can conduct first hand research through her magical prison journey." I about lost my cookies!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is one of the worst abusers that I have ever heard of.
You must live on an island by yourself. Children are abused physically and mentally all the time all over the world. Spouses of both sexes and elder abuse is everywhere as well. You don't want to know what the people you think you know do behind closed doors.
Even worse than individuals who delete their entire families 🤔
I wish I could say the same.
She had
👉'CRAZY’👈 bursting out of her, like explosive diarrhea
You never heard of my ex
I’m a counselor for male perpetrators of DV. I run a group for court mandated batterer intervention program for men who have been charged with domestic violence. I will admit that, going into the role, I had a bias because I am a survivor myself-I’ve had two abusive partners in the past. However, upon hearing my clients’ stories, I came to realize that there is a LOT of unreported violence on men, much of which is due to mental health exasperated by substance abuse. I’m not saying my clients are all saints-they absolutely all played a role in their violence but many of them ended up in my classes because of self-defense and the police had to arrest someone and of course it ended up being the large man. While it could be a lie, yes, I am very good at reading emotion and these men break down crying and are genuinely hurting at the position they are in. Sure, some are straight up violent men. But some are also victims themselves.
You would be surprised how incredibly prevalent this exact behavior is played out.
watched half of the documentary, before I was so repulsed and couldn't finish watching. so pleased she is now so exposed all over the planet 🌏
Richard, I am so sorry this happend to you & YOUR daughters.
Thank God you collected evidence.
She sounds nice. Gee that poor man and their children. Thank God his friend went to the police on his behalf.
I have been through a very similar situation. The lady that I was with was diagnosed with manic, bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder.
This sounds like a cut-and-dry mental illness case and without proper treatment this lady will never change.
I am 54, male and my 2nd wife was an abuser. Anti depression meds and wine was the mix that made her go out of control the worst. She would sometimes say that she enjoyed the feeling, like it gave her power. Nuts, right. I am single now and will probably remain so.
abusers dont change.best thing at the start get away .find another person who deserves you. give no second chance
Why is wine always the drink of choice for the abuser? I had the exact thing happen. Antidepressants + wine = no control
What kind of antidepressant? Apparently Zoloft with alcohol has caused women to be violent
You are a beta my friend sorry
there is hope. isuffered from my 2nd wife for 9 1/2 years of marriage and many years afterward because of our mutual daughter. its been over 24 years since we divorced and i had 2 divorces with American women quick like. but im now married to a Filipina for 13+ years.
Wow
This is my story exactly
Except in my case my wife was arrested for a brutal middle of the night non provoked attack on me
She was removed from the home and my kids went with her as she lied to them
Family court reversed it all
She won
Then lost in the end
My son lives with me now
My step daughter has moved on
He got a taste of her madness directed at him
I understand this man very very well
I'm glad you got away and I hope all of your children are healing
@@SpindraicaFessvraumthank you so much yes we are healing now and things are so good now
The truth is now evident to all
I'm sorry this happened to you and your son but now he knows he can be safe.
@@intelligentcat192 thank you I C !!
All is well
Some trauma
Of course
But he’s very eager to heal
I appreciate your response
And kind words
Glad you made it out. Glad your son is with you. Hope the other kids are OK.
I was physically abused by girlfriend in Colorado.
Hit across face w phone, strangled and arm bruises.
She was arrested at my home and taken to jail.
I had to go to a mandated victim program. Still hard to believe.
Looking back now, what were the signs you missed? They are always there.
@@jellybean6778 at the program I sat across the desk from a lady interviewing me. She noticed these like nickel sized bruises on my inside upper arms. And asked me.
I hadn’t really ever thought about it but then realized the girlfriend had always pinched and twisted me…
I understood later it was a learned societal or cultural behavior to just take it from a woman
Men are bigger stronger brutish in behavior shouldn’t complain certainly not cry
This coupled with the growing cultural hash tag believe all women society
I was adopted by paternal grandparents at about 3
Father gave me away to protect me
mother had broken my arm and shoulder
There were no arrests or apologies for what it’s worth only years of trying to recover
I guess if my candor here can save one person or kid from abuse it’s worth this thread
Monsters can come in pretty packages
Boys and men are not disposable
I am so sorry!
"She was arrested at my home and taken to jail"
YAAAY!
Was the program helpful?
Only 4 years for being that much of a sociopathic nightmare?