Social Worker Pretends to be 13-Years-Old and Enrolls in Seventh Grade | Shelby Hewitt Case Analysis
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I have had a recurring nightmare about being back in high school. I don't know why anyone would want to go back.
Same. I remember when I graduated from high school decades upon decades ago, and I kept having nightmares over the following summer. The nightmares had me convinced I had to return to school because of a clerical error that granted me a diploma prematurely. Thank goodness it wasn't true, my school was a war zone. Literally.
@@tron.44this is crazy because this is also my recurring nightmare. Exact same scenario and everything.
I get those too. It's gotta be those people who view their school years as the peak of their lives
Facts I have a recurring nightmare about being in middle school. I can tell I’m an adult but no one else notices and I’m forced to go to classes
Some people peaked in high school
"The students teased her and told her she looked 30, when in fact they were incorrect. She was actually 32." 🤣. Dr Grande is off the hook. LOL.
The kids are definitely smarter than their teachers.
@@brianbagnall3029 I work at X-place, and my supervisor tells me that I'm going to get in trouble for guesstimating people's ages....
She is like, "How do you know she is 30, how do you know he is 50".....
I'm like, I have eyes.
@@curlyhairdudeify eyes and intuition
Dr. Grande comes off with some great one liners....
@@curlyhairdudeifyThere's a guy where I used to work who was brilliant at that, he could guess anyone's age _to the exact year!_ It was so cool!
"Her appearance is caused by a genetic condition."
Yeah. It's called aging.
And worse still, it's terminal!
😂😂😂😂😂
OMG, I can't believe this comment doesn't have more updoots! You're killin' me! Well, here's one more! 🤣🤣🤣
@@madmavericki understand they're still searching for a cure to this common condition among humans.😂
😂😂😂😂
So 13yr old students thought the story didn’t add up, but 2 adults giving her a place to stay didn’t seem alarmed? Hmmmm
The fact they both retained higher powered attorneys leads me to believe something more sinister was afoot. Maybe this couple was into younger girls if you catch my drift, but didn't realize they were being played too. In a way it's poetic justice.
Swinger Role-playing went too far
@@andyygroeTbh it makes sense to me. Like, you're a bleeding heart social worker and you think you're overstepping a professional boundry in an altruistic way by helping a homeless teen, Only to find out she's a 30yr old fraudster making news headlines. I'd lawyer up too.
@@chrw756 doesn't make sense. Even bleeding heart "liberals'" don't just bring underage girls into their homes
They knew she was an adult. @@chrw756
She was pretending to be 13 but drove a car to school and even THAT wasn't enough? Oh my gosh.
Maybe it is not unusual to complete Lower Grade School at 30...
She was pretending to be 16 when she was driving the car to school
I think she was only doing that at the school where she was pretending to be 16.
Hahahaha! Imagine her being 13, smoking a cigarette, diving a Tahoe telling stories about being in Vietnam while sitting in the cafeteria eating a pudding snack!? 😂👏😂👏😂👏😂
It was when she was portraying the INDIGENT 16 y/o. They were surprised she was driving a car because of her socioeconomic status, not her age.
Having to hang out with seventh graders all day would drive me to the brink
To be fair, most kids I went to school with in 7th grade were more well behaved than many adults I’ve had to tolerate.
It did me in, that grade. I'll NEVER teach junior high ever again.
Right what a crazy ass hoooo
Dude, she is already way past the brink.
if she was a guy I'd think "pedo"
She was teased, students saying she looked 30 . . . "The students, of course, were incorrect, she was actually 32". Your penchant for dry humor never ceases to amaze . . .
She has a stronger jawline than me and I'm a couple years younger than her.
@@appletherapy No kidding, I thought she looked pretty damned young. She probably got sick of doormen demanding her ID or not believing she was over 21. Said to herself; "They think I'm underaged? That what they want? FINE, I'll really give them some underage!"
Her hairline is worse than mine and im a 35 yr old male@appletherapy
Crazy how they tried to gaslight the kids who knew she wasn't their age by acting like "stop being mean, you guys! She has a genetic condition and she's very sensitive :(
They've aggressively proclaimed big hulking genetic males with thick beards and deep scary voices as girls. Is it that much more of a leap to proclaim 32 yr old a teen? And enforce the proclamation by threat of cancelation?
What is the idea of pretending to be 13 when you're an adult? I WOULD NOT want to go back to that part of my life if you gave me a billion dollars.
mic-not even if you knew what you do now?
A billion $$$ on damn that’s tempting!
Jokes aside, I think some people just grow weary of the demands of adulthood and want to go back to that carefree part of their lives. Hanging with friends, sitting and sleeping through an inconsequential class, feeling the zest of youth, etc.
The only rationale I can see is if a social worker wanted to find out hidden truths to write a book about or something? There is a story out and about of a female cop who did this as these kids live n such a private world-but this doesn’t sound rational.
This is my literal nightmare.
People thought a 30-year-old woman was 13? Her skincare routine must be immaculate.
most people don't understand just how effective social engineering is
I want a tutorial immediately
I mean teenagers are not exactly known for their skin.
Gives hope to all the 40 year old women trying to pass themselves off as 27!😂
Cosmetic companies doesnt want you to know her secret
The scariest part is that she was well educated with a mastered degree?? And was a school counselor. This is why we can never judge a book by its cover. People are CRAZY.
Using the term "crazy" is insensitive and may even trigger some people, with.serious consequences. The preferred 21st Century terminology is "barmy in the crumpet."
@jguenther3049 oh, dang and here I've been using wackadoodle in the noodle! I'm so behind the times.
@@SoulSoundMuisc There's always non compost mentis
Only in Merica
Yep and here I was hesitating to create a website for my art 🤷♀️ 😅 goodness me this lady beyond flipped
If she had pretended to be in grade 10 instead of seventh grade she might have got away with it
…if it weren’t for those meddling kids, right?
@@brandonburum8279 LMFAO! Was just goin to post the same thing. Only gen-x gets the reference.
@@RaptorFromWeegee - Technically, I’m a Millennial, but an older one…
It sounds like she didn't like the amount of homework...
@@brandonburum8279 They still had scooby-do in your day?
DCF hiring people like this makes me understand why they are so incompetent
It explains a lot really,.. a lot of ppl in positions they shouldn’t be in…
Maybe Shelby is just very immatire for her age....
I know a dcfs supervisor who had lost her 2 kids, let time pass, and is now a supervisor there. These jobs attract these kinds of people, they need to do a court background check.
@hanniballecter4454 maybe she got the job for revenge.
@@hanniballecter4454😮😮
This does not make sense to me at all!
She has a masters degree, a state full-time job, and an inheritance, and she goes back to high school?
My brain hurts.😢
And she gets to NOT do her FT job while receiving the salary.
Also, what inheritance if family had money trouble and and filed for bankruptcy several times?
Buy a condo for cash, $377K??????
Bizarre and very successful for someone with a “mental health” problem
It would almost make sense if she was an investigative journalist, or a documentarian, or a writer, although it would still be very Machiavelian and amoral. She must be a very strange person to find attention based on fabrication rewarding, or to enjoy the society of teens as peers.
Middle school, 7th grade
Last year, there was a case involving a Korean postgraduate from Rutdger's. She went to school for a few days before getting caught. She told the judge she missed the time of her life when she felt safer.
She's a special kind of person because I would have been far far away from a high school!
A registered Social Worker with a Masters degree ... yet she invited a client into her home ? Her understanding of professional boundaries and ethical behaviour was abysmal ffs
Sounds very suspicious. Like there was something else going on
@@olliefoxx7165 No, just normal everyday female incompetence and unprofessionalism.
The fact they both separately hired high powered attorneys confirms it.
I think I'll throw a "Now moving to my final thoughts" into every conversation from now on.
Ha
lol
😂
If only people were normally this succinct 😍
Why not, “I’m only speculating about what could be happening in a situation like this”?
School staff: Why is that kid's car nicer than mine?
I think you mean, why is her e-bike better than my car?
Ikr middle school jeez..I don't get it
Also: why is she the only 7th grader that drives to school?
School staff: "Be tolerant and let her compensate, that she is a poor girl with her older look!"
The poor girl card is playable at these chaotic, wannabe modern educators and social workers, school psychologists.
😂😂
😂 the children had more intelligence than their educators.
Right? I was wondering how no adult questioned her or her story.
Like 45 a PATHOLOGICAL liar
To be sure, narcissists move themselves into positions of power: education, politics, law enforcement
Middle schoolers. Remember that age? They notice everything. We saw all kinds of things at that age, and would tell the adults around us...who would tell us we were lying, just like they did with these kids. Mercy. It probably made it a game for them that way.
These days, the concept of the students having more intelligence than the teachers is not that far-fetched at all.
We can be judged for judging others yet mocked for not trusting our gut feelings about something.
I'm 73 years old but could probably get away with claiming to be 72.
😂
Lol
I just turned 47 this month but I think I could probably get away with claiming I was 67. lol
So the kids recognized she was older but none of the adults did?
Yes :'] go figure.
Just another example of why I roll my eyes when people act like teachers are something special and exalted. Lol.
@@mikepalmer2219literally nobody claims that. If you actually talk to educators, they’d let you know that they are all regular people and fallible.
@@Lepordtalonwarrior Ok whatever. We are always told how teachers are somehow special. Lol.
The wokies were too busy Affirming every unicorn flurfie and transchild
Who'd even want to go back to 7th grade? As i recall, it wasn't all that much fun the first time around.
Kindergarten, I could see. 😁
You recall correctly
No literally 😭 that’s like the worst year of school
A sexual predator, obviously. But we can't call a spade a spade, especially when the spade is a woman.
I had a blast in 7th grade
Kids seem to have an intuition when something is 'wrong' with someone who is interacting with them---hunches when someone seems 'pervy' or unsafe to them, or someone not being truthful....
And the no good adults ignore them!
You don't need any special intuition to tell a woman in her 30's from a 13 yr old.
“The students teased her and said she looks like she’s 30.
They were of course incorrect. Shelby was actually at that time 32.”
I subscribed immediately 😅
I would have falsified my identity to get OUT of high school.
ikr? 🤣
Lol
Same
I had nightmares for years....that I didn't graduate....when I actually had. Something about Biology Class....
Me2
Uuuuugh middle school. If there is a hell, it's all of us waking up in an eternal middle school.
Ugh for real! Both my best friends moved and then we did, what a nightmare.
Proper hellish years.
I wish I knew about Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide while I was in middle school. That show was a hoot, but some of the tips were helpful.
I absolutely hated middle school.
Stop this comment literally gave me chills... Not the eternal middle school 😭😭
I understand wanting to go back to high school, but anyone who wants to go back to middle school is a nutcase
I work at a school with an age range up to grade 12. In my opinion, she clearly looks physically different than any teen I’ve seen. How the adult staff and guidance counselors are unable to see that she’s not a teen is flabbergasting.
Kind of weird for the therapist at the facility took home a (to her knowledge) trafficking victim to her husband and their apartment…
Right.
"We'll save you"...
What kind of "Enemy of the State" lie did she use to stay off book?
"My pimp has an insider at dcf who will find me if you register me..."
Same thought. But my guess is that they have such a big heart to let a 13-year old girl who was a trafficking victim, live with them. This is similar to white parents adopting kids from Africa or Asia.
I don't see the similarities at all. This creepy couple both hired high powered attorneys and have a history of "adopting" young high risk teen girls from the wife's work. Sickos most likely. Lock them up too
The wife was probably hesitant, until the husband got a look at this supposed girl and said“ ohh but honey we have to help this poor girl!” hoping that at some point he would catch her coming out of the shower or something, he had that kind of nasty look in his eye in the picture
Going back to college would be fun. Going back to high school? No.
Right!! I’d have to completely lose my entire mind to even think about doing that!!
Right.
I'd like to go back to elementary so I can really shine with my grades
Plus you don't even have to create a new identity for college.
@@lostsoul1278 I had a good time there but why go back as an ADULT?
I bet lots of people could tell she was older, but didn’t want to offend her by bringing it up.
Yep. Because the world we live in today isn’t friendly to facts or truth. I don’t see how she did anything wrong…if she identifies as a 13 year old then she is a 13 years old…right?
@@melissadunton3534 that wasn't it, it was the fraud and forged documents that got her
@@melissadunton3534 youre a freak for not seeing the clear difference in those two things, thanks.
@@jennyhaslayer1396 in what two things? I don’t see where I mentioned anything specifically… other than someone’s “age”.
@@melissadunton3534so you think that's the problem with today's world not accepting facts? That there are too many people pretending to be a different age.
It's frustrating to see so many comments saying some variation of "why would she do this!?" While Dr. Grande does bring up the possibility of personality disorders (she was never tested or diagnosed), the reality is she is absolutely suffering from serious mental health issues because of a traumatic childhood. Her parents failed to prepare her for the responsibilities of adult life, leaving her unable to navigate the inevitable stress of making her own way in the world, and so she reverted (mentally first then literally) back to a time when her life was more structured and she had less responsibility. While I feel sad for her I want to broaden the conversation out to the larger American society, because there are MANY people that struggle with adult life because they didn't have good models for adult living when they were young. Their parents are abusive and neglectful, emotionally immature and irresponsible in many different ways. While Shelby's case was extreme, I would guess that most Americans long for the structure of grade school. Our society has failed to provide adequate models for living throughout adult life, and many people don't get the teaching and modeling they need in childhood to know *how* to be an adult. Their bodies are grown up but they're still children inside. They then go on to have children of their own, repeating the cycle and passing the trauma onto the next generation. Shelby's parents were themselves children in some way. And again, most of us were raised by adult children that don't teach us how to regulate our emotions or meet our own needs. This is what has to be recognized and confronted if we want to help people like Shelby become productive members of society, instead of perpetual teenagers.
You really wrote a fucking novel sized response to this??? Get your life bro
@@andyygroe Some people can write really fast. I could easily type all that in a minute.
Males sense to me! I was raised by evangelical fundies and was only taught unhelpful practices as a kid to cope. As an adult in my 40s now I am slowly unpacking and learning better behaviors now.
Posing as a middle school student when in your 30s is absolutely insane.
No the fact that anyone believed her is more insane
If I had inherited a million dollars when I was young and single, I certainly wouldn’t go back to my school days. I attended five high schools, four of them in two years (due to family issues and moving a lot). I also attended five elementary schools and one junior high (7-9). I have zero desire to return to those days.
Happy Gilmore
And working a job for $51,000 a year... Ridiculous.
How do you think all that change directed your life as you grew to become an adult?
Billy Madison
Well, that's enough internet for me today 😮. Off to the garden to plant azaleas it is, then.
Good choice!
I feel you, backyard camping for me.
Nearer to God in a garden than anywhere else on earth...especially Uchoobs!
😂
There's something discomforting about a licensed social worker with a Masters Degree taking in what they believe to be a minor without following the proper procedure.
You couldn't pay me enough to go back to school I've already done. I work with a few high schoolers now, and any time they mention what homework they have, I say "I definitely don't miss high school."
A social worker?! This is....disturbing.
01:37 And she isn't actually one either. 😂
That's not very progressive of you.
I’m not surprised, trust me on this…
There have been accounts of social workers faking their paperwork to make it look like they were doing their job when they really weren't.
The poor kids they are always the victims .
You just said exactly what my conclusion was, Dr. Grande, she had such a lousy life as a 13 and 16yo, she wanted to reconstrut it to make it right, and she was a "social worker" to help others. I feel sadness with this case, who knows how her mind perceived her life at the *actual* ages of 13 and 16... Thank you Dr. G!
I feel sad for her for the same reason, thank you for your comment.
100% agree. I'd add that there was almost certainly a motivation of a cry for help. It does seem like she wanted to be caught. Perhaps seeing the care/sympathy people had for 13 year old who have suffered abuse she wanted that care and attention herself.
No lol she just wanted to prey on teenage boys
Hey zealot your heart is bleeding. She was a sick and twisted bitch. Period.
I hated school but part of me wonders if I'd go back in time, knowing what I know now and do it differently and erase the trauma of it...chances are I'd just embarrass myself in new ways though.
Weird weird weird. Hanging around with 13 year old sounds like the worst day ever
i used to have this nightmare ... in it, i'm a grown man with a career and family and my high school principal knocks on my door and tells me that i didn't finish high school... at first, i feel cool about it cause high school was fun for me and i think i get to do it all again... cool right?... but then when i get there and hanging out with the kids in class, i , then i realize that i'm a grown man hanging out with kids... it's a nightmare... the moral, i suppose, is to study hard and enshrine that diploma and if you see your principal knocking at your door ... don't answer it....
I would be surprised if everyone hasn't had that dream. It's kind of like dreaming about showing up to school or work naked. Not necessarily scary, but just awkward af. LOL
Adam Sandler?
I had a teacher that was rough and I had anxiety so bad. That was 15 years ago and I still dream about him and his class. Nope.
That has to be some kind of shared midlife nightmare because I used to have a similar one where my alarm clock went off and instead of having to get up to go to work at my home, my mother came in and told me to get up and get ready for school in my old bedroom in their home where I proceed to take the bus and sit in a tiny ass desk with my fat gut and I look around like what the hell?
As wacky as this woman's behavior is she's actually wildly creative determined and imaginative.
It's alarming how many people she fooled.
This is most def NETFLIX material.
Thank u, Dr G.
The Orphan (2009) already done this exact plot
I found Netflix “documentaries” biased and sensationalist, never truly getting to the gut of the issues from all possible sides. Just a vehicle to get views. Stopped watching them. Last I watched was the billionaire-Epstein one
It's nice that you're praising her 🙄, smh.
@@maxw5900great takeaway there, champ
Really? But the kids at an urban school were able to see through her in no time. She only fraudulently got passed those same adults who demand that kids don’t have to accept their gender identity from birth.
She didn't hurt anyone. Why are we investigating this case?? I'll give her a A+ for effort. Lot of trouble she went to, to pull this off.
You go girl.
Her efforts were impressive. CIA or FBI needs her.
Cheering on sick liars. This is why the world is the way it is. May God help us all
My goodness, what a bizarre tale! And while I generally enjoy Todd's story-telling, I feel there are a few holes in this reconstruction of events. So Shelby was living with "foster parents" while doing all of this school-swapping, as well as maintaining a full-time job as a social service worker? How could the couple not know something strange was going on, especially when she "time-travelled" not once, but twice, from 13 to 16 to 13 again? Also, I would have liked more discussion as to possible motive, because this just begs the question, "WHY???"
I'm left wishing that the story was longer, and supplied more detail as to how exactly she carried out this deception and was able to get away with it. Not that I want to follow in her footsteps lol. Like many other commenters, high school is the LAST place I'd want to go, if I could time travel, but still....I'm left feeling rather unsatisfied and confused. "Curiouser and curiouser...."
Something similar happened in Fairfax , VA in the year 2000. A 27 y/o man made fake Dreamworks documents, posed as Steven Spielberg’s nephew, “Jonathan Taylor Spielberg,” and enrolled in a Catholic high school for some time. No one asked any questions. It was quite the scandal.
How do they get away with this? It doesn’t make any sense.
Did he give a reason as to why he did it? This stuff is so freaking weird.
Posed as Spielberg’s nephew and enrolled in a Catholic High School? Did they ask him why he wasn’t Jewish like the rest of Spielberg’s family?
There was a 24 year old guy that went to my high school for a minute in the nineties. Turned out he was wanted for murder in another state and was pretending to be a school kid to evade the law
Why? Was he making a documentary or something?
You couldn't PAY me to go to school as a 7th grader! 😳
Reminds me of the Twilight franchise: superpowered young-adult looking immortals that perpetually attend highschool for some reason.
With the Pinterest inspired graduation cap art?
The reason was to pick up jailbait. Which is probably what this broad was up to.
They are all old enough looking to at least go to college, If I had the choice of either being in Uni/College or HighSchool Perpetually High School does not even come close to college I would always choose college and at least I could take different courses and there is enough to learn that my mind wont go insane, could do post graduate studies as well.
This was explained in the books and movies, though. The Cullen family would pick an area to live and try to start out there appearing to be as young as possible in order to stay in the area for a longer period of time. Carlisle and Esme most importantly could claim to be much younger if the kids were starting high school than if they were college age. It also helped cement them as a family of adopted children and keep any eyebrows from being raised on that front. That was the explanation given, at least.
@@inpropriapaislee You could do university/college undergrad, post grad and work, 10 years, Highschool is only 5,
As a person who tries to help honest in most of my life, I can’t help but feel that we are living in a age of liars. The truth will set you free people, and it so much easier to keep your story straight when you tell the truth
When one knows the truth, and isn't gaslit to another dimension, sure. It could be true it's an age of liars. At that point, the truth has already become harder to anchor to. It's not a simple task of questioning one's own beliefs and biases.
I've had nightmares where I'm adult and am back in high school. Not because of bullying or threats, but because it was just so boring and required so much class-work and home-work.
Nice to see a case that doesn't involve a hideous crime. This one did relatively little harm to anyone but it's remarkable the amount of effort Shelby put into this scheme with a weak or unclear motive..
At the start of the video, I was worried she was a child predator or something. This case is even weirder with no apparent motive.
Maybe she just missed being a kid
She simply failed at starting a relationship with a minor but that’s obviously what she was really there for
Maybe she is doing a high school study 🤷🏽♀️ watch her come out with a book 😂
Like Annie Lennox said, they either want to use you, or want to be used...
Which one was she?
As a retired LCSW Social Worker, educated in that field, this sickens me. I can only imagine she was hired with no background check. That seems incredible.
I'm an LCSW and I spent my supervision years working for a state agency. I couldn't imagine working full time while pretending to be a kid. It would be an impossibility considering the workload and micromanagement...
That's not very progressive of you.
@@zach4677 Seems like she didn't work much if at all.
She was hired before she actually committed the crime so they probably did do a background check but nothing showed up
I’m a social worker of 15yrs. Thank you for making clear that she had no social work training or credentials. THIS is why title protection is SO important.
This whole situation and her struggles are quite unfortunate.
Normal person inherits a million dollars:
i'm going to disneyland!
Crazy person inherits a million dollars:
i'm going back to high school!
Oh this needs an interview. I mean why? Just to do it? Was it a dare?
School was tough enough first time round.....
Right! Who in their right mind would want to go back
Ikr
For me, college and university was so much better than high school. A different mindset. High school was boring and mandatory.
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@@Cinder_311 popular kids? (coming from a non-popular kid who never wants to go back)
Dr. Grande is the hardest working man on TH-cam!
I agree
He's good and I enjoy his videos but not as good as Pat Brown criminal profiler's channel
In Scotland a man went back to school to pass exams to get in to medical school to be a Doctor.
There's not an alternative route for adults to do that in Scotland? It's either when you're 17 or never? Or was he just a weirdo that wanted to go back to high school?
I mean-
That's understandable
@@Air_Serpent lol I think this story needs more details
I remember that story. It was in the late 80's or early 90's as I remember.
@@Janellabelle
I'm English, but I remember it, it was decades ago. I don't know what the rules were in Scotland then, but nowadays there are Access courses for adults who want to go to university but lack the qualifications.
He must have wanted the teaching more than just the qualifications suppose, because he would have needed to forge documents to go through with his plan, so he could have just forged certificates.
I had a housemate named Shelby. She was a pathological liar. She promised a couple her baby and took payments, housing and food from them, then reneged after three months. She stole from me, lied about having a job, and and and. Sh stayed with me 2 months. Very scary person.
Weird, I got kicked out of obedience school almost immediately. Took only a few minutes to realize I wasn't really a dog. Some people on the internet take longer than that to figure it out.
Woof, woof! Arf!
@@jguenther3049Good point
In today's world it doesn't matter at all that you are not physically a dog - it only matters that you say that you IDENTIFY as a dog. I'm sure there's a crafty salivating lawyer out there who would be happy to sue the obedience school for discrimination.
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Try passing as a fish
there’s not enough money on this planet that could send me back to grade 7.
Lol 😂
7 & 8 were my worst years in school. I absolutely hated every minute.
she wanted to have a family, so she went back to HS? she had a job, creating identities, going back to HS, why not just go out on dates? that seems like an easier way to have a family.
All that money at 30 years old.... and chooses to go to high school
I have this as a reoccurring dream. I’m always back in high school and remembering it doesn’t matter cause I’ve graduated college so I skip a bunch of classes.
Same here. I thought I was the only one.
recurring
@@egoborder3203 oh, thank you! I never realized that before
You should start taking piano lessons in your dreams.
Same here! Or I'm in highschool without a shirt or something and I get embarrassed lol in the dream
So strange. She had a job but stopped going to work so she could do school AGAIN.
I’m from Boston and have been following this story for some time. She was essentially moonlighting with social services. There is absolutely no accountability on their part as to how she was collecting a salary as well as not knowing she wasn’t doing her job.
@BluejThompson Now that's scary, getting a salary as a social worker and having no accountability for your time on the job. 😮
She was (is?) reasonably attractive, too. If she just didn't want to work for a living, she could have found a husband to provide for her.
@@alexhauser5043people shame women for wanting that lifestyle now.
@@Respectfully_ Who cares? Working is for ugly women.
Chronic liars often use lying to remove themselves from a past that torments them. The lying feels good and even opens doors of opportunity, so like a drug, it becomes habitual.
Your type of humor is so funny. The delivery is even better.
Love it 😀 ❤
his delivery is 👌🏻
the writing is hit or miss. sometimes its pretty corny
Smarmy midwit? He comes across as the rare Redditor who managed to acquire a post-graduate degree.
What interests me is how did she get along with her class mates? Was she an outsider? How could she stand hanging out with 13-year-olds?
I'm curious about this too. I'd imagine andry parents would speak out about this but maybe not. Also, the school owes an apology to the kids who could tell she was 30!
Did she do her homework 😂
Sad part is she got away with it. I hold BSW and worked Child Protective Services. One very big problem with Social Work is, government will hire ANYONE as a Social Worker! NASW has done NOTHING to fix this. Until this done ,no one will take Social Work seriously. She was a very sick person and should have never been able to get this far along in her lies.
There's lots of comments questioning why someone would want to go back to high school, yet the reason seams obvious to me. As someone who was a loser in junior high & high school, I understand the temptation to want to go back & rewrite history & change who I was. I'm sane enough to know that moving forward is my only option, but I still get it.
Just to provide a different perspective, let me say that, although HS was awful, I would never go back to rewrite history. I became successful as an adult, and that was my way of setting the record right. Additionally, some of the people who made HS hell turned out to be losers in life. That’s all I need to know.
I think it could also be a desire to go back to a simpler time. Adult life is hard
Will we find you on some sex offender registry somewhere?
High and middle school worst years of my life!!! Would never want to relive it from a student’s POV! 🤦🏽♀️
I don’t get it. There are obvious differences in a child than an adult that age. I’ve always looked younger for my age but I never get mistaken for a child. People must not pay attention or something
Yes, but there are outliers. Ralph Macchio in Karate Kid was older than Cole Hauser in Dazed and Confused.
I agree. I still look younger for my age, but there is no way I at age 30 could pretend to be age 13, I definitely looked way different at age 13 than age 30!
I have also looked younger. Last time I was carded was when I was 45. At 74, it is amusing.
It happens. A co-worker and her mother went out to eat, and the server brought my co-worker a coloring book and crayons. She was furious, lol!
@@lyndahadley2352 Who knows, perhaps the co-worker was actually a 13 y/o impersonating a 32 y/o xD always be vigilant after this story
If I wanted to pretend to go back to school, I'd choose kindergarten. No homework, and naptime. Though, I think it would be a bit hard to pull it off at 65. Oh, damn ... I'm retired, everyday is naptime 😀
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And if a guy had done this, he would have been seen immediately as a predator, among other things.
High school was the worst time in my life.
Adulthood is way worse.
It was a nonstop party for me.
@@Janellabelle for me it was torture. It didn't help that my parents were dead and I was living with my grandmother. She was a domineering abusive b****. Made me wear clothes she liked and all my clothes were at least two sizes too big. It sucks when everyone was wearing jeans and t shirts and I had to wear polyester pantsuits. Polyester is so hot to wear in the summer. And I looked like I was wearing a tent. The shoes I had to wear she thought were very cute but they were hard and dug into my heels causing bone growths. Finally the doctor told her to stop making me wear them due to my foot problems. But it was too late. Can't wear regular shoes now because it's so painful. Can't wear socks either unless they are very very loose. They make my feet cramp up. Until this day more than 50 years later my grandmother put so much damage on me I still feel it. No fun at all
@@Job.Well.Done_01 after getting away from my abusive grandmother when I turned 18, adulthood has been better for me. Not great but a lot better. She had plans that I was going to slave for her the rest of my life. Yeah, she had it all planned out. I ran away at 18, when she couldn't legally have me dragged back. And even then I waited until I married and had two kids before letting her know where I was. She dragged my mom back when she was 19, so I knew I had to have some kids so she couldn't do that to me. Hell,no. I was not going back to that woman.
@@susanfarley1332 how did grandma die ?
I used to have nightmares of being back in High School. It would either be me at my locker and not remembering my code to open the locker and freaking out or I would be at the end of the lunch line and forget my lunch code. I do NOT want to repeat any portion of my school days.
id dream i had a year long project due the next day. Wake up and took me a min to realise im in my 30s
In my nightmares, I couldn’t remember where my locker was and I couldn’t find my class schedule so I had no idea where I was supposed to be. Nobody should ever have much stress while trying to have a good night’s sleep!
Lol
Some people are just insane, and we have to stop making excuses for them, and deal with the situation as it is. Ms. Hewitt has mental issues, and needs help. Why that govt agency hired her is beyond belief.
This reminds me: in 21 Jump street or Beverly Hills 90210 everyone in high school looked 30 AND WAS 30! We all just suspended disbelief
She must have been traumatized during this time in her life and is trying to relive it, or correct it. It’s sad she definitely needs counseling.
Think about it, this takes such meticulous planning, lying, interactions over such a LONG period of time- there is no way she is a victim, she's bored out of her mind and wondered how far she could take her dupe. She must've felt pretty smart duping everyone into living an entire second life and I guess that was her motivation. Perhaps there was a s--ual fantasy involved.
@@Auxius. "Perhaps there was a s--ual fantasy involved."
DING DING DING. Were a man to do the same thing, everyone would immediately assume that he's a diddler.
Teacher: I notice your history grades are dropping.
13 year old: Let's talk about your retirement portfolio. How do you afford that Tesla out there on a teacher's salary?😂
WOW, I would never want to be 13 years old and stuck at school at the age of 30. Clearly, this is beyond bizarre.
I so appreciate you making the distinction between job title and actual credentials of the employee
Ok! Ok! 6:25 "Shelby was not motivated to learn anything in school....she was doing a pretty good job of impersonating a typical high school student." ROFL! Well done, Dr. G! It's why we love to listen to your analysis...best wishes from Florida.
that was a good one 😂
Ha! HA!! Couldn't Agree MORE..From Jax, FL...🤔🤩🎯💯🇺🇸🏛🗽💗
Noted.
I can't understand why somebody would want to do this.Thank you doctor😮
Especially after inheriting about a million dollars liars 🤔
I feel like that for a lot of the cases Dr Grande discusses. 😁
Arrested development
Illegal immigrants have pulled this stunt in the UK.
@@smokeythebear6689 the states too. Be like 25 pretending to be a teenager 🤣
Im lost, why would someone pretend to be a teenager again and go to school, what benefits are there doing that,i dont get it
This makes us so uncomfortable, especially the parents out there, because it proves there’s very little stopping full adults from getting dangerously close to your children. Granted teens have more critical thinking on average than a middle school child… but this tactic could be so heinous in the hands of a predator
When i was 30 i was asked for ID when going to a club or pub. There was a club frequented by young students, i was moonlighting as a cocktail waitress and working in a bank by day, a weekend job. I became friendly with some of the patrons, one of the giys asked me if i would like to come party and stay at his parents house for the weekend as they were going away, he wouldn't believe me that i had my own flat, car a mother of a 4 year old, or my age. Was fun being in that environment as i had a grim childhood, and was my mothers slave girl. I didn't really want to grow up on many levels, and had a baby face so i fitted in..
Yeah, I remember being carded at 31. Alas, those days are far behind me at 85! I've retained only the silliness of youth and a memory like one of those big grey animals.
Omg, mother's slave girl here too. I waited until I was 29 to have a child even though I got married at 20. I just spent those 9 straight years partying constantly and working as a bottle girl and cocktail waitress.
I am a mom and I would had lost it if I find out that there is a grown adult in my kid's class. Those institutions that didn't pick up on this right away have a lot of explaining to do! Like how does anyone let this happen?!
Ironically, it's your type that is the problem. Teachers are mortified these days of offending any parent. They'd be sued for suggesting a student is actually an adult. Weird things happen. Sometimes people look old. They can't risk being called out for discriminating against a student.
@@alukuhito nobody. checked her paperwork ? Background check ?
@@castorkat4868 She played the system. She was able to enroll due to a technicality, so she didn't have to provide that information. Again, if the school started to seek out information, assuming she was lying, they could get into trouble. She moved from school to school when people got too suspicious.
Truth and tbh in elementary i went to school with a girl that did look 16-20 in 6th grade. She definitely looked like an adult when we toured the high school people mocked her when we walked by their classes. How extra mortifying if the school would have accused her of being an adult. Shed probably be so horrified. She just blossomed early 😭😭@alukuhito
Give your kid some credit for bring able to see through BS and trust your own parenting
This is sad, in a way. Seems she just wanted to “belong” but just didn’t know how
If enrolling in a school and pretending to be 13 was all she did, then 14 years in prison is ridiculous when serial rapists and pedophiles get community service and no jail or suspended sentences.
I was told that my comment here would generate an interesting dialogue.
They always do😊
Sometimes.
That was just someone speculating, not an actual diagnosis
I was expecting to hear she’d nonced up some teenage boy!
She definitely has issues
Hear-say testimony is not allowed. 😅😊😂
If I was running a non-violent yet successful criminal enterprise, I'd hire her immediately. She could easily fill three openings.
Cannot tell what you are trying to say.
She’s in the Peter Sellers acting league.
@@eadweard. She fakes social worker identities
There was a sex scandal in my highschool. The principal was pork'n everything. Kids, female teachers, security guards. When they came to arrest him there was a big'ol ruckus
Your former principal has a wild sausage 🌭
Some people get stuck early in their childhood, psychological trauma combined with a mild cognitive disability? The older someone like that gets, the more their life as an adult would become overwhelming and unfulfilling. Both the desire to live in the therapist's house and the fact that she must have been extremely happy with the challenges of a 13-year-old girl give me the impression that she was trying to build a fantasy world for herself in which she could emotionally function.
I think so too and agree with everything you said even though I think there’s other motives too. I’m actually afraid this could happen to a step son of mine. His mother emotionally and mentally disconnected from him early on and they never taught him anything. Zero rules or structure. No morals or values in life, addicted to control and manipulation and can’t read or write at 10 years old. Just neglected and abused but was spoiled rotten and given no rules by the grandparents. He’s so attracted to the younger things and hanging around very small and younger children than him but abuses them because he likes to control and manipulate them because he can’t get away with it with kids his own age and older. As life goes on and he gets older in age and in looks the harder it is for him but he’s still refusing to do any under work and over work. Doesn’t want to trace letters or anything. And not listen to any rules or authoritative figures. But he navigates with excellence. He has predatory tendencies and his father keeps babying him all the time and give him no responsibilities or how to be independent just clingy, dominant, and lazy. I think he might grow up and try to lie or sneak in with the younger kids because he can’t control his environment or people around him anymore.
@@elnoor3392 Sorry to hear that. Every human has more than one side and is also changing more often than not. Maybe no one can help such parents/kids unless they seek help? guess one hast to accept what they are and what they are not and still try to be respectful and hope for better times (and that nobody is harmed).
@@noahifiv another downside is that he is still having predatory tendancies and attracted to seeking and playing with kids younger than him so that he can control and manipulate them. There is no lasting connections without him inserting his control which is why I think he lies to be around younger kids because he can get away without having responsibilities of life he can't emotionally handle and get away with things. His parents and family definitely doomed him for not changing and I have honestly exhausted all my efforts to help him. He's been hitting the younger children too and purposelt ignore their social cues of not wanting him so close in their face. He's a major boundary stepper. He knows what he's doing
@@elnoor3392 If you are part of the family, sometimes a way to go is to make sure that the people/kids around him are not too naive. Maybe you talk to a friend? But if you are in for the long run, take it slow. I am no health professional and can neither advice nor help you here.
@@noahifiv I plan on existing this toxic complicated situations. My husband is enabling a lot and only putting all of his and the absent mothers responsiblities on me all while they continue to enable the destructions and undermine a lot. I have to protect our own baby we have away from all their negativity. Thank you for listening.
I have a step daughter, she is 40 now but could actually pass as a 25 year, she is a special agent for the ABC in Va. and will often bust tellers not asking for id,s 🤣 but usually investigates drunk related crimes when they occur at bars. As you can expect she has a hard time getting the respect a 40 year old would.
Idk I actually find it kind of fun to punk people, the look of shock on their faces when I tell them my age (also after talking for a while I get the "how old are you" question) feels like I pulled a funny prank on them without trying, or maybe I'm just a clown 🤡 lol
Yuck. Narcs are the most detestable of all government employees.
Hard to believe anyone could have fallen for her being 13
I mean it Is ridiculous but thinking about it if I ever met a 13 year old who looks 30 I also wouldn't say a thing. Kids who teased her for looking 30 got into trouble and I'm sure the adults told them off but I know deep inside they were like they are not wrong tho
Or 16!
This is a crazy sequence of events to pretend to be a child. Like a social experiment that she completely lost track of.
A Social Worker, someone who graduated College, yet has the intellect of a 13 years old.
You don't get to do all that if you're a dummy.
Couldn’t she pretend to be a 17-year-old student? 13 was pushing too far… and how did she buy the two-store house with cash??!
They said she had an inheritance over over 1 million dollars from her grandfather and mother's deaths.
Condo within the building
exactly right , why didnt she say she was 17 she would have got away with it , the money was a inheritance but from who i do not know .
Yeah 17-18 senior at least !
I spent some time around a pathological liar during an extended stay at a large Victorian building, I had been detained by spoilsports. I got the impression that she didnt really care whether people believed her tales which were outrageous in nature, it seemed like she just liked hearing herself saying these things. One evening she claimed she was getting ready to be picked up to perform at a big concert venue, later that night she was asked why she was still on the ward, she just shrugged, adopted a blasé expression and dismissively twirled her hand as if to say "who cares?"
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