Dealing with Mommy Burnout-some tips and encouragement for y’all
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ค. 2024
- This is a subject that is very close to my heart, having chosen to be a stay-at-home-momma of 7 and homeschooling them and trying to keep that balance of being myself, a wife, and a mom…y’all don’t get too discouraged! There is always something you can do to improve and succeed and be joyful!
In this video, I’m sharing my own thoughts along with one of my grown daughters struggles and experiences. We hope you can get some tips to help and to pass on to others.
Stay beYOUtiful and remember to have grit and to give grace 💖
I can’t get over how lovely and radiant Momma is. Beauty truly shines from the inside out.
Aww 🥰 thank you so much
I agree! Good to know that there are women like this still!
As older women with grown children it's our job to help guide them during stressful times. I would take one weekend a month and keep my grandchild so the parents could just have time for just themselves. It helped everyone. Also just drop by with a meal they like so no one has to cook after a long day at work. Take the kids to the park and enjoy the laughter. My grandson is 23 now and he still remembers it today. I miss those days now because I can't go like I did then.
Thank you for sharing!
Yes. THIS
I am not a morning person , need my hours of sleep too, try to stay in self discipline though , re. relations i found out that chinese astrology is very accurate , that solves many relation difficulties , be as you are , do not fake who you are! Try to find out the element of the chinese birth year , Only then you will be able to be true to your own self ....never play somebody else flute.
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Me too!
I felt like I got a re-do with my grands when I became their daytime caregiver when their momma worked.
It was golden!!!
So happy to read this. In my case no one on either side of our family lends a hand. Kudos to you 👏
From one Momma to another (married almost 30 years), excellent advice!
You certainly don’t look uncomfortable in front of the camera. I had a speech teacher, once tell me that a person appears only one eighth as nervous as they feel. You’re doing great.
Being a Mom is the hardest job. But the most important one.
I recently discovered your and your husband's channels and love them both!! Watching this video as I rock my little one to sleep ❤️
Precious! 🤱🏻
I have never had family support, or much support from my husband. I just got my first ever overnight break and our child is 6!!! If you are a grandma, make it your mission to support your daughter/daughter in law. Having to do everything always is incredibly draining 😓
Only breaks I ever got were due to hospitalizations. My oldest is almost 15. Well, no, I take that back. There was a no children allowed wedding we attended about 6 years ago.
I hope someday if/when my children have children that I can be the mom/gramma they need.
A note to women on times when you can't shut your brain off and you need to process thoughts and emotions: if you politely ask the man in your life to listen, and express what you want from him, if anything, it will help to ameliorate any tension you may be feeling in terms of his response. Broadly speaking, my experience has been that women prefer to process thoughts and emotions by externalizing them, whereas men generally prefer to process thoughts and emotionally internally - especially if it's anger or shame or something that might be alarming for their wife to witness in a raw form. When women externalize, it can sometimes feel intrusive to a man, because he can't get a coherent thought of his own in edgewise, so to speak. When a man "doesn't listen" it might be because it isn't clear to him what you're wanting from him and doesn't see a clear connection between what you're saying and how he can be useful - if you just want him to a be witness for you getting something off your chest, and for you to feel like he's in your corner without him necessarily doing anything, tell him so. When a man "tunes you out" it may be because he is dealing with challenging thoughts and emotions of his own, and he may not have room on his plate for yours until he's cleared a little space in his heart and mind. If this dynamic is present in your marriage, be patient, and try to express a request clearly, if it applies.
omg, this is so accurate and true for myself, as a woman I really do feel that way, sometimes I just want to express myself, and I notice my husband, or my brother, internalize a lot more, and it has been difficult for me to grasp that, but only now do I understand it better.
You are doing well with TH-cam. Love you and your Dwayne ❤😊
I think a video about what you think it means to have grit and give grace would give a better view on your perspective as a FT Mom. You say you’re uncomfortable on camera but seems like you can handle it pretty well!
I love this reminder. My mom has always been a morning person and I remember the same thing, getting up in the morning as she had been up for hours, doing her devotions making breakfast, having “her” time. I’ve found that for myself too, when I get up with my husband and have some time to myself before our baby wakes up it’s so nice! Just to have a little time to myself is so good for my mindset. I do have to force myself to get up before baby most days but it is so worth it. 😊
100% on the getting up before the kids. It's really tough to be woken up by screaming and demands. I also try to go to bed with the house picked up. Starting a day with a fresh start feels so good.
Reading is huge too. We took the TV out of the living room recently and have read aloud time instead. It's amazing the change in the kids when they realize books ARE in fact more entertaining than TV.
Exercise daily...husband and I did a competition. However many squats I could do he would match in pushups.
I love how watching this video I'm just mentally saying "YES" to all of this.
One new thing I learned how to do this week was pull a calf from my first time heifer. Thankfully TH-cam has some great videos but poor baby died and mama hasn't stood up yet.
When my kid wants to work with my yearling, I tell her to watch a Dwyane video first :) the lunging with a purpose was helpful!
These are great! Thank you so much for sharing!
I am sorry some people chose to be negative, but I will keep it positive and say I did the same thing. We made the choice for me to be at home. So I admire a mom or wife that wants to stay home as her job! Second, you and Duane are a blessing to so many. With society like it is today, so many people
do not have even a glimpse of what reality is! So keep on being you!
Really appreciate you making this content. The fact you don’t want to do it is precisely why you should. ❤
I practiced some of your tips this morning and they helped me get out of a blue mood. Your talks are helping me already!!
Thanks for sharing. I agree. This is a great reminder to take a little time to look after yourself.
I like waking up early and having my devotions. It sets me up for the day.
I enjoy taking the dog for a walk.
Needlework is another thing I do to de stress.
My daughters are 32 and 29. I also have two grandchildren.
YESSSS Absolutely agree to this! Its not mentioned enough in my opinion. Most Mums do tlose their identity and then once the kids head off to school youre left realising.....what do i do? Who am i? I used to ride horses and farm before having my 2 kids and that all stopped in our situation. We have since moved from Australia to Canada (AB) and thats been amazing for me! More people with the same interests in life (western riding). Obviously not everyone can just pack up and move, but Mamas....you need to look after yourselves. If you burn out, the kids burn out too! xxs
My 3 favorite tips: send an encouraging text, learn something new every day, & exercise. I don't know about anybody else but it really helps to know someone else has struggled in these area.. Thankyou so much ♥️💐
My momma passed before I had my kiddos and became a momma myself. It’s so warm and encouraging watching your channel and getting the advice and wisdom I would have surely had if my own momma was still here. Thank you so much for stretching outside of your comfort zone and making these videos for us💛
Keep your head up! You got this! I hope you have a beautiful day sweetheart
@@Last_Chance. Thank you so much for your kind words! I hope you have a lovely day as well 🙂
Great stuff.. keep going. great knowledge and wisdom for a lost generation
Being a parent is the toughest yet satisfying role to play.
I had stopped reading during a season of work and stress. A family member said just read a paragraph.
It got me right back into reading.💜
Yes, as a mother to 8, that time alone in the morning is so important to me. Before the troops rally. 😁
Thank you two for giving out decent and realistic advice for younger people.
The more mentors the world has the better the potential for the future.
Very kind of you to share your experiences how to find a healthy meaningful path in life as a mother, wife, woman, grandmother, family member and of course most of all a human being, a good one. All of your advices
are exemplary at how to find inner peace, which in turn will radiates a humble loving aura.
I feel that you and your husband have such a radiant aura, one each, one in common.
I am not religious but very spirtual.
Greatings from Sweden.
I'm a mom of 5 ages 17 down to 2. I only have one little one. The other 4 are all over 12. I completely agree with all this. I have a short daily cleaning routine and one extra task a day. And my house stays company ready, not perfect but always peaceful and not chaotic. It's amazing what a well organized space will do for you. I wish I was better at organizing when my older kids were younger.
And as hard as it seems, carve out space to just enjoy those babies. Just have fun with them. They won't be little for long. It serves a dual purpose, sometimes just 15min of attention can make them happy for an hour or two.
I love both you and your husband's videos. They are so helpful
Sweet reminder! That's powerful advice every momma needs to hear.
You're awesome and I appreciate your wisdom on this side of the camera!
Watching this nursing my seven week old, so so appreciated!!! Please share all the wisdom❤️
Precious times 🤱🏻
Hey Deeanna, Thanks for sharing
Thanks for your courage in posting this. I think these tips are good for anyone. I certainly learned a lot as a single man. I think having a good routine is important for anyone.
As a grand mother too, you are giving loving and sound advise.
You are very genuine and down to earth on that side of the camera. Please keep sharing this gentle and caring sort of work !!~*
My experience of being married for 50 years. I love my son, he is 44, and my husband was love of my life . I was 21, when we’ve got married. I am an introvert, and all my life I needed time for myself. It could be a walk in a park, reading a book, working in my small garden. Mommy/wife should not feel guilty to have 30 minutes to herself.
Amen
Taking care of yourself is a tall order on occasion. As a 25 year old mother of three, and a sunflower, these are the hardest months of all. My prayer life tanks in the winter months, I stop painting, and I become so despondent! Please pray for me. Wonderful advice. I’ll need to heed it more often during the long dark nights winter has to offer.
I love your and your husband’s videos. Having the feminine side flourish here in TH-cam will be a God send for many.
God bless :)
thank you dry creek momma! I’m not a mommy yet, but I can still relate to feelings of burn out. Your positivity and wisdom is so inspiring!God bless
i found that morning routine helped me the most to get a grip with reality, great advice👍
Been trying to put the phone down and read more often, especially with these short winter days. ‘Hondo’ and ‘Conagher’ are two of my favorites. Real good advice for everyone, not just Momma’s!
Dear Deanna, the simplest things are often the most healing, you said it! Clean your room (something Jordan Peterson used to recommend to his university students, too🙂). It makes so much sense even in the whirlwind of corporate stress with not a little one around: Cleaning our rooms brooms heart & mind in one big swoop also...
I've been waiting for this. I have two little kids and work full time. I also have my husband with me who does his best. No other family or friends around - it's so tough. Thank you momma!
Not long ago I was curious coming from Australia when Dewayne was speaking and saying 'Momma' all the time whether he meant his Mum or his wife. I soon learnt that in your world he meant you Deanna. I was even more excited when I realised how many children you both had and grandchildren. I immediately thought; this couple is worth listening too. I wasn't wrong and want you to know I am sending the very best across the seas to you. Deanna God has a way of shining His light through women who know and have truly carried out their Godly role no matter what pain or heartache they have been through. You were very, very brave to have those twins up in, I think it was PNG and when the 2nd twin was in trouble, say no more. I would have panicked!!
Mom, Sheridan Wyoming here. WE love what you and your husband is doing. We love your cooking shows. And we love your husband's horse u-tubes. Please start posting on Rumble so we don't lose you.
I wish I had a good mother to learn from. My grandma was there for a bit. I hope to be there for my kids when they start a family.
Gread advices!!! As a mom of three I fully agree that kids waking me up is kind of disasterous for me mentaly, especially for mums with bad temper (Im the one of that kind in the morning). You are doing a great job, momma ❤🔥
I love and appreciate you mama ! ✨🌷♥️🌹⭐️
Well, this resonates... i dont have kids, but do have lots of animals to feed/care for, plus my regular job (work from home).. I've gotten out of the habit of gettin up early. We live in an RV at the moment (economy...) so we kinda do things in shifts... i domt get up until he leaves for work but maybe i can get up and sit in bed at least so im out of his way.. i used to get up and hug him goodbye but with time going by things kinda fall short sometimes...I need to do better. I"ve thought about it but not put forth the energy. Thank you for the gentle reminder.
The nothing box 😂❤ yeah us girls definitely need that little place. Thanks your sharing ur advice and another wonderful story with us😊
Hi Deanna from West Virginia. You're offering good, sound advice and encouragement. Keep it up. I'm a grandmother (Mimi) to two grandsons. Second grade/preschool. I've been the caregiver while their parents worked. It seems nothing works perfectly in this life - even though I feel this was an answered prayer. I wanted my grandkids to be close to me and they adore me. I've been here since day one relocating from TN. This yr, my daughter, decided she didn't want to be married. The boys & I miss their dad not being right here with us. He does see them often though.
Lovely. Thank you Mama. I’ve not had the blessing of having children come through me, so do not have your experience and wisdom on this so I will gladly share your content. I would love to do and interview some day too! 🙏🏻💖
Thank you so much for your insight!
Thanks for your video. I don’t have kids, but what you shared still applies to me.
When I was a new mommy, reading Laura Ingles Little House books aloud to my little boy was an amazing stress releaver for us both💕!!~*
Thank you for sharing! Those are some of the best books! 📚 💓
@@drycreekmomma
You are kindly welcome💕!!~*
Love it, thank you! Your stuffed bears are too cute. 🐻🌲🐻
As always, thank you so very much for sharing you wisdom and experience. I am raising my 3 kids by myself while my husband is in prison. We are doing our best to co-parent under these circumstances, but after everything is said and done I just want my boys to see that their parents never gave up on that vow. This situation actually brought us closer than ever because it forced us to learn how to communicate and be intimate via letters & phone only! But we are making the most out of everything and taking it as a learning experience!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Momma 💕 I was a stay at home mom to 3 kids ( they're 12, 3 and almost 2 now) and your advice resonates deeply. Looking forward to more of your and your husband's videos!
What an inspiration you are! You've done the hardest job there is and done it well. To guide 7 productive humans to adulthood confirms that. You have my utmost respect. Great advice about self care; I find stroking a cat in my lap lowers BP too! Keep 'em coming Momma👏
Hi Deanna - you and Dewayne have been some of the best TH-cam content I've seen in a long time. I hope both of your channels get to keep going for a long time.
Happy Sunday to you both and your family!
You’re a woman after my own heart. This is such great advice. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, from a stay-at-home homeschooling mama ❤ I’m looking forward to more of your videos.
Thank you for doing the loving labor of sharing your wisdom. These tips really resonate with me and are so positive-focused ✨💚
I so appreciate you. Outwardly, my life is very different than yours. But I watch your videos because I love your authenticity and willingness to be honest and vulnerable. Your courage is true. Even though our lives are very different (never have been a mommy, for example) you go come from a place deeper than the specific experience. You have a true gift. Thank you for sharing it.
Hands down some of the greatest tips for moms I’ve ever heard (especially moms of little kids). I have an almost 4 year old, a 2.5 year old, and an 8mo old, and I can’t agree more on the importance of getting up before the kids wake you up.
Edit: LOVE the quiet corner idea, I think that’s something I really need. Going to implement that today. Just five minutes of silence without the kids after my husband gets home. That sounds glorious and rejuvenating, ha 😅
Retired homeschool momma here too Deanna. I can relate to your experiences. Good advice and good video. I’d love to have a coffee with you some day.
Been following Duane for a few months. Just found your channel. You two are the best. God bless and Merry Christmas
Thank you for sharing this video! As a mama to 3 little ones 3 and under
Including a newborn this was exactly what I needed to hear today. I’ve had a hard time adjusting to being needed by 3 kiddos and not having time for myself. By the end of the day I am exhausted and want to connect with my husband. I know waking up early would be a sacrifice but also know that the way I am currently operating isn’t working.
I am going to try waking up early and see how it changes my mood and the effect on my kids and husband.
Thank you for being a guide and sharing your life lessons!
All so true. Parents, especially moms, need to hear this, and they need to trrrryyyyyto take time for themselves. Thank you.
You have a great soul and a big heart. You and your husband are a true example of a normal family in this strange and aggressive world.
As a dad who alternates stay at home parenting with my wife, this stuff applies to daddies too, when we first started doing it (she got her dream job but it was three days a week), it was super stressful being home alone all day with our son and I feel like I was in a similar mental place to your daughter, short tempered, tired, pessimistic. This stuff is great, you should do a whole video on diet. I want to know more about red 40 or whatever.
Thanks so much, DCM Diana! I live in the opposite side of the globe but still find it so relatable and relevant!
Thank you for all you are sharing. We don't have to be perfect. Everything does not have to be done only one way. If someone can glean just one little nugget from what you have shared and it makes a difference in their life. They, in turn, share and help someone, and it continues. You have helped more than you may ever know. Thank you! Blessings.
You and Pops channels are the best thing on TH-cam …. Thank you for keeping things simple and genuine
genuinely really good advice, not even just for mothers but people in general. i'm not a mother but i enjoy your videos and i got some great ideas from this one
Thank You !
I am hoping to be a mother one day, this video was so encouraging! Thank you!
Wonderful great advice
I'm a mama that's your age and homeschooled
Mom of 4 here and I value your wisdom, anything you offer I'll be here to listen! Thanks for being that Titus woman sharing with the rest of us!
Momma D, you are a blessing, I applaud your efforts to reject the negativity, but even more so I applaud your desires to keep pushing your kindness, knowledge and experience out into our world. I don’t have children, not because I don’t want them, only because I cannot. However, I truly empathize for the families that do and I’m sure at the very least one of them will benefit from your tips here. If it just helps 1 that’s still enough a positive impact that is capable of being profound for not just that mother but her children also, thank you
I think you are doing great. I love the looking back advice. It’s hard remember that you aren’t alone sometimes. Thank you. ❤
This might be the best mother advice ive ever heard AND so simply spoken
even better coming from a SAHMother with many children! thank you Momma,
your compassion and beauty shines so bright when you speak.
#wifegoals #godblessyourfamily
I have been watching for the next video. You did not disappoint. I am 63 today :) been there and done that.... and totally understand everything you shared. I was blessed by listening how you handled the start of your days and your tips and tricks you used years ago. D.C.M....I am you cheerleader. You were made for this time.
Happy birthday! 🎂 🥳
Thank you so much for your kind words!
Have a very blessed day💝
We Love you Mama!!
Thank you so much for sharing, I was in a car accident 20 year's ago and I have a serious spinal cord injury and your videos help me get through my day, thanks
Thank you ❤
Godbless you Dry Creek Momma
I am SO excited about the home school videos to come. 🎉 Congratulations on your awesome channel!
Thank you so much for sharing your wise words ❤️
Thank you ☘️
Love you videos. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hey Deanna! LOVE what you’re doing. Keep it up!
Thank you Momma for your videos, a fresh breeze every time ❤️❤️ would be wonderful if you can share what tests/resources your daughter looked into to specify her and the kids diet. Thank you again, God bless. (:
God bless you and your family! This was really what I needed to hear
Your tips were helpful. Your suggestions seem easy, and I think I will get more out of my day. I will try them. Thanks!
Your channel was recommended to me this morning and I’m very glad it was. 🤗 By far this video has helped me the most as I’ve struggled with daily motivation amidst new health challenges this year.
God bless dear. Keep going! 💟✝️
Awesome, thank you! And yay to homeschooling videos! I'm so excited. Homeschooling has been one of my biggest challenges yet. God bless you Deanna!
Love this!
This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you Momma!
Yes food dyes were terrible for our son. We moved from Aus to Canada and In the first 2 weeks in Canada our sons attitude was terrible. Like a switch flipped and he would act violently! We ddidnt realise how much dyes are in foods in Canada compared to Australia....We altered his food and he is back to his normal!
I don not have children and this helped me. Your right it is so hard for woman to shut off there brain. I always feel guilty when I take time for myself.
I’m so thankful for your videos. I needed your advice in my life. Your homeschooling video encouraged me immensely (sahm, home school mama, homestead mama). God bless you💙
Thank you for the wonderful advice you give. I love yours and Dewayne's channel.Thank you both for sharing your lives Goe bless you both.
A quiet space is absolutely necessary. Even the Bible has various people going off to a quiet place, even Jesus…
Now to another topic: it seems to be a characteristic tell among human beings, that no matter what a person says or does, no matter how kind and informed they may be, there are always the “ naysayers” who find fault, degrade the person, and speak truth to their own inner failings and smallness in doing so. Unfortunately, there is little chance these folk will ever find joy or inner peace in their lives. “Hating” is their only life value - it allows them to appear bigger than they truly are.
Speaking as an old man, life is too short. Naysayers seldom live long enough to escape their narcissism…
Thanks, great video🥰
Wow, that was good! I think your tips will really help me and I forwarded this on to my niece who is a young military wife and mom! Thanks for sharing!