Wow guys..the video is going on a week now and I just can’t keep up with the comments, at all. I apologize, and I will read and respond SOMEDAY. Life, taking care of the boat, myself, this channel...has become so overwhelming that I have to drop doing something, for now. I am going to try to answer these comments for 30 minutes per day, but then I just can’t do any more and get everything in life done. Please keep commenting, and I will get to them one of these days. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT!!! ALSO if you are trying to contact me to crew.....this is really what I need: 1. Offshore sailing experience 2. You can share half the expenses, which I estimate to be $1000-$1500 per month. 3. 6 month to 1 year commitment, more better, if we get along well 4. Mature and peaceful Not sure on destinations yet...Atlantic probably....contact me at www.WhereIsBrickHouse.com
Dear Rebecca your bravery in grief is a shining light that has come from deepest love that you shared with Patrick. It has been my honour as a sailing dummy to listen and learn from him as he put everything across so simple and honestly . Be safe in the knowledge that in his final moments he was at peace as he knew that the strength you have will carry you throughout which ever passage life holds for you. Take it slow breathe in and out , put one foot in front of the other hour by hour day by day and so on. The grieving process is tough but it will ease and with your strength I have no doubt you will get through it. Absolutely carry on with what you both wished to achieve as Patrick would have wanted but also to remember to keep special time in life for yourself. Take care of yourself and heartfelt love from Eamonn in Ireland X ♥️
Hi Rebecca, although I hadn't subscribed to your channel before, I had browsed TH-cam and come across your channel and really liked it. Tonight I opened TH-cam and first item that appeared was this episode, dar I say it but I cried, so so sad for your loss. He came across as such a nice intelligent yachtsman. With regards to your future, if sailing the world is your dream then please continue and keep the channel going. I have now subscribed. If you are looking for crew I'd be happy to. 15 years experience on 32 footer.
Rabecca I can’t tell you how much you and Patrick inspired me. Not just the lessons in sailing but your love for each other. It was clear in each video you both shared. You are an inspiration, sharing this most difficult moment in your life. What’s next for TH-cam videos? We need you in the sailing and boating community- so don’t stop. Find a way. You will find a way. I got you - so do your fans and friends. Yes, you have tons of fans cheering you on.
I can tell you for sure he knew you were by his side. The tear was real. Something similar happened to me with one of my great friends who was in a coma and I was told he could not hear me and was brain dead. He also looked at me briefly and had a tear coming from his eye. I know for sure he heard and understood me. I am so very sorry for your loss... I am crying right along with you.
I'm a night nurse for 25+ years and I can tell you WITHOUT A DOUBT that Patrick heard every word you said and gave you a sign of recognition with the glance of his eyes. I will even say he held on and WAITED for you to come to the hospital. He would not leave without you there. God Bless you and Patrick.
Absolutely concur with you that what Patrick Childess did was what Rebecca Childress saw, felt and believed. Together until death do we part are only the vows of MARRIAGE.... Please cry and mourn your loss for as long as you need to is my humble advice as a retired Doctor who is an ordained Minister. As a solor sailor with a boat pet on board I would hope that you.... Be patient with the world and stay put, follow your heart regarding creative activities and videos.... It's all going to happen as it must as nature herself has seasons. You are so well loved and supported and have the wealth that even billionaires can only wish for. When it is time to untie the lines, I trust you will be responsible and ready to sail on Rebecca! Thanks for reaching out to us but one nagging question is still on my mind. How and where do you think that you contracted the virus?
I must agree with your thoughts on this. Like many people, I have been with close family members during their last hours and am convinced that, even in a coma, or heavily medicated, people are aware of the presence of loved ones and will even appear to hold out until the last of these have come before accepting that it is time to fade.
Cried my eyes out. 😫 Rip Patrick. I think people would love to keep watching how life goes on after a huge love lost. We all have similar fears of losing our partner and your experience of continuing to live your dreams is all that matters. So so sorry for your loss. 🙏 Stay strong and you're amazing. Tight hugs.
@@saylaveenadmearedeadnicely said sir. I'm curious also. Active Private boat sailors generally spend so much time in isolation and with minimum contact with other people. Of course, Often it is in outdoor settings near the ocean. Sailing seems to be one the safest endeavors you can practice to avoid Corvid 19.
Stumbled on this video by accident... and it hit me luke a hammer. When i lived my sailing dream I met my to-be wife in St Maarten.. her dream was a house on Crete, at the beach. I gave away my boat, and moved with her to Crete, and together we build the house and studios to rent. That was 13 years ago, and we have lived her dream, until she died suddenly 5 months ago. All familiar, holding her in my arms while she slowly slipped away. Now, 5 months later, I still don't know what to do. I continue the life we shared, trying to cope with covid, trying to cope... Anyway, all I can say is: don't rush it. For me, trying to continue the life we had before is a means to find out whether i can enjoy this life without my wife, or not. I still don't know, but i sure am happy that I did not make any radical changes yet.
So so sorry for your loss. I hope you are finding life ok. I am finding it ok but I miss my old life. I'm glad to still be sailing, but my partner isn't 100% and we will be ending it when we get back to Grenada. Neither of us ca bear to give up the cruising season.
He looked at you. ' retired surgical charge here. I am so happy they allowed you to be with him at the final time. That is a big blessing that most do not get
Absolutely agree. It's pretty incredible how people are able to communicate when you think they might not be able to. So sorry for your loss. Your story is heartbreaking.
My friend, I am a hospice nurse. He knew You were there, he heard everything you said, an that was his way of saying goodbye. I hope and wish the peace that passes all understanding this time of grief. But, and I assure you, he was communicating his last farewell to you. He will always be with you in your heart. Cherish the memories of your time together, Regards, A stranger that cares
There are so many of us single not by choice that would love to see you evolve and maybe be supportive of each other. I’ll watch even if it’s not as polished and perfect. Please stay
@@RVLifeNOW Hello, I loved what you and Patrick did with this channel. I have been trying to transition away from the rat race and to spend at least a decade traveling the world upon the high seas. I wish I had the means to finance your journey and travels for at least the next year. Please Continue!!! While we saw Patrick mostly in this channel, we all knew and loved your presence and contributions behind the scenes. I absolutely yearn to just get away from it all... and I have been trying to prepare and also get a boat. I will be in touch. 👍🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My wife's name was Ieta. She left here in 2007.Every night, when it is time to sleep for the night, I have a feeling of surprise that she is not here, and activly glance around to find her.. It;s not a sad or lonely feeling - just a surprise that she is not here. Were married the day before Christmas in 1953 and she looked out for me as long as she could. She fell in the bathroom and breast cancer broke out in her body. i feel that she whipped the cancer but that their "cure" attempts finally took her away l'll just hang around here....If I wasn't already almost 86 and covid wasn't around the corner, I would like to tarvel along - but I guess I will just hang around here as long as I can( as she comes by to see me quite often in my dreams.
Hey Jim - you married Leta the year before I was born, shared 54 years together. My girl was Maria - we had 36 years and two beautiful children together. As I look toward a future solo-sailing eastward wherever in the world the wind takes me, I will go with fabulous memories of having been so well-loved . . . take care - best regards to you, Jim.
Oh my, Rebecca, I am so sorry for your loss. The loss of your partner, your captain, your friend... My tears and prayers are with you. Renee & the Z-Crew
Rebecca I’m on my own sitting on the boat in the dock in lockdown as a beautiful dawn comes up on the longest day of the year. I have cried with you all the way through this sad sad tale. It’s so good to know that you have so much support in our wonderful sailing community, you should keep your story going wherever it takes you. We came up Southampton water yesterday in a big chaotic blow followed the normal docking shenanigans now it is quiet and calm. Time to clear up, dry out the foulies, tidy the lockers and get ready for Biscay, a sailors metaphor. I think Patrick would be so proud of you in making this video . I hope you are well after contracting this awful disease and have shaken it off. I can see you are planning for the future and that is brilliant. Every storm has an end and there is always a bright new day.
Yes darling dear he was looking at you. I used to be a nurse and have seen a lot of souls leave this world. This is a legitimate experience. My heart goes out to you 💔. God bless you and be well and cry as much as you need.
My heart breaks for your loss and I’m at a loss for what to say. The world cruising community has lost a great mentor and friend. Take your time deciding your future. The right answer will come in time and you will embrace it and be at peace with your decision. God Bless you.
From my family, to you, we send our. most sincere condolences. Grief is a brutal price we pay for loving someone deeply. Until you find your way, endure.
"What do you think I should do next?" -- I think you should be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to take baby steps towards whatever and wherever your heart thinks you'll be happier than where you are in the moment. Find your voice. Follow your heart. Breathe. Allow yourself the time to determine what it is you want to do from here and then do that without apology to anybody else. Much love to you on your journey.
@@RVLifeNOW I for one have always enjoyed this channel. I will continue to follow as long as its on. Im sorry to hear about Patrick he will be missed. Im sure whatever direction you decide to go it will be great.
Or not. You don't own anything to anyone. Do what you feel like when you feel like. You don't have to keep sailing to honor him, honestly, just find happiness and I'm sure that will be all the honors he would want.
The last thing we lose is our ability to hear, be sure he heard everything you said, and in that final act, such a simple thing as a glance, he was doing with all that was left to him with all that he had to say that final goodbye. A horrible time indeed - but you have so many things to remember and he will always be with you. The pain doesn't ever truly go away and it can surprise you sometimes just when it rears up - but it becomes easier to manage with time and does become a comfort. Definitely don't do anything big just now, and not for a while yet. The world is going to take some time before going anywhere will be a plan it seems. So sorry for your loss, so happy you found such adventure and joy in the time you had.
Speaking for myself--I want to see how YOU continue making your way sailing through life--knowing how many of us are with you in spirit. Of course we will miss him and his wisdom too.
As a man who has loved in my life, I can assure you that with every ounce of strength and every facet if control I could muster through a morphine haze, I would put my last essence into seeing my love one more time, and shed a tear for her sorrow.
@@RVLifeNOW Sadly, the first video I stumbled into was this video of a grief stricken woman trying to figure out what's coming next. So I will try to help. Get on you tube and type "Reflections of my life by Marmalade". The message I think is that even though it's tough, fighting on is far better than laying down and dying. The next thing to do is get a copy of the Desiderata and just sit on the stern at Sunset and read it out loud. The beautiful voice you hear is yours. So walk on Rebecca, walk on with hope in your heart and you'll never walk alone! (Gerry and the pacemakers)
Dearest Rebecca, I am heartbroken to hear of Patrick’s passing, I knew he was ill and I am not a religious man but I put out my best thoughts to the universe for him every single day. I turned 63 on June 13 and I’m planning to start my cruising life a year from now. You and Patrick together always made me believe that despite my age,it is a possibility and that with love and determination you can make anything happen. Your channel is not just Patrick, it is the both of you and every time I watched I thought how lucky you were to have each other and to be living your dream together. And I was always hopeful that I could find a good woman to share my adventure with, still hopeful :-).Please take time to heal, to breathe, to grieve and to let your heart and spirit rise up once again. The sailing community is an amazing group of people and I think that with their love and support you can continue your dream, And continue to inspire all of us with your courage.❤️🧡💛💚💙
Oh Scott...thank you so much. Im still sailing, though still very much struggling to the point of physical manusfesratuon of the pain and anxiety. I hope you found your partner, and your cruising life.
Rebecca, i've been watching many sailing youtubers, first time i had tears from a real life story. Your partner was exceptional in many ways, but, the good news is, you too. Leave the boat for a few weeks, go and see the world and friends ( meet my family, you have a place to stay in Belgium ) and soon you'll be wanting to go back on the boat, because its the only right place for you to start new adventures. Shouldnt be a problem to find someone joining you for any story. Good luck, you can make it again. Cheers.
This is the most sincere, heartfelt and revealing sharing I have ever experienced. Your story is so full of genuine emotional outpourings, yet shows your immense inner personal strength, I’m sure you’ll pull through this dark and difficult period. Patrick’s contribution to sailing is immense. The depth of his experience was remarkable and will be remembered by thousands.
One day, when i'm sailing on my own boat, i will still be watching and rewatching all those amazing videos you two made. Patrick's sailing wisdom is a priceless gift to the world, and i want you to know how much it means to me, to all of us. And i feel that one day, when i'm sailing with my wife and successfully adapting to boat life, i won't be the only one who remembers and thinks, Thank you Patrick, from the bottom of my heart, may you rest in peace.
One last look at the love he adored . His soul will be with you .as your sole was his life . A look back can give you a smile . He passed being loved to which is a priceless adventure . I’m sure with the community your Adventures take you with ‘ Will set you a Fair wind . God bless
I really admired Patrick’s knowledge & skills, but even more, I admired his positive attitude. I feel like he taught me a lot. I’m surprisingly saddened by his passing. It feels like a friend died. It has made me fully realize the power of social media.
More than 1K comments must be overwhelming. My other half had me watch this...I was familiar but he is a "fan"...I am in a similar position, older man, but don't have the boat! That is his dream. Tears, and more tears for you and your story. Your experience is a large piece of why I am resistant to following his offshore dreams, I don't think I could do the (likely) loss. Couldn't do it on TH-cam, by phone with family or alone. Your courage is amazing. Your faith in the future is from (opinion) a higher power! My Tom loves your channel, my father learned to sail from a great man - VERY similar to Patrick (Ken Wheeler, Seattle). He told my dad, and it has stuck with me and my brother "I can teach you to sail in a weekend; it will take a lifetime for you to become a sailor". It is a VERY true statement. We talked about your immediate and eventual needs. When you are really ready for crew and in need of a new "mate" let us know. Your talents as planner and navigator were key to y'alls cruising success. If you just want to get her (and you) home to regroup, say the word! Other options are always welcome. My comment was "she is devastated (as are we all)! Now is not the time for next steps, but my be the time to play with options. As you process things - I don't envy a second of your grief - keep in touch. You have a huge support group that will get you through the next few months, to the next destination, through Patrick's Viking burial, and introduce you to the next chapter of YOUR adventure. Patrick was very special, he joined YOUR dream. I hope with all my heart your next chapter/dream can use this love-story/tragedy as a springboard to new adventures! It may take a while but you will find your "sailing feet" and reestablish a new version of "True North" be well, and know you are in all of our prayers!
Ah..sorry to be reading and responding to this so late..what a great comment… thank you! I’m still struggling all this time later, but at least I’m still cruising!
What you experienced with his eyes is nearly identical to my experience when my wife was on life support. 😔 the memory of this will remain with me forever and always bring a tear 😢❤️ time will bring peace.
My heart goes out to you. I feel your pain on the loss of the love of your life, but I love your optimism. I too lost my husband when we were cruising in the Caribbean, preparing to go out to the Pacific for a second time. I just want to give you a virtual hug and give you hope that things will turn out better for you. I eventually met a fellow sailor and we buddy boated for a time until he sold his boat and came with me on mine. We enjoyed sailing the Caribbean for 10 more years until old age and medical issues caused us to sell the boat. We are now happily retired and checking out new places in our RV. ( except right now we are quarantined). Take care and follow your dreams.
Listen to this woman. May take a while, may end up with some amazing bad crew stories, but you will get there in the end. Patrick spent the last 13 years helping you too circumnavigate. He taught us all a ton. I will miss him. It was your dream before you met him. He just showed up to help. Someone else will as well. Keep the water on the outside of the boat and rain off the good cameras and you will be fine. I do see some new learning and confidence building in your future though.
The eye movement was to let you know that he could hear you and how much he loved you and that he fully understood how much you loved him. RIP Patrick and be strong brave lady, try to live and enjoy the rest of your life , as I’m sure Patrick would have wished for you.
@@RVLifeNOW - Let me express my deepest condolences for your loss. I'm an ICU nurse with 25 years experience. I know that a patient can still hear even when they are critically ill and heavily sedated. I've seen this many times. I strongly believe he did hear you and was trying to respond to you. Please, please be kind to yourself. I think you should continue your videos.
I just started watching Patrick's videos and thought..."my god, this guy has all the answers and seems like someone I'd want to meet"... I saw this video just after and stared slackjawed. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and Patrick have built a beautiful legacy and I'm excited to see where the wind takes you. Fair winds and following seas
As a father to two daughters and an adventurer, I hope that you find young, female sailors that can be taken under your wing and taught the life in a safe environment.
AWWW MY DEAR .... YOU SOUND LIKE MY WIFE AND I. AFTER WATCHING SEVERAL CLOSE FRIENDS PASS AWAY I HAVE LEARNED ONE THING."DO NOT MAKE ANY MAJOR LIFE DECISIONS FOR THE FIRST YEAR" THAT IS FIRST. SECOND KEEP THE EMOTION AND MAKE YOUR OWN VIDS. FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE. HIS VIDEO WITH JUST YOU IS A GREAT BRIDGE ACROSS TO YOUR NEW LIFE ABOUT YOU. YOUR A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT AND IT COMES OUT WITH YOUR HONESTY. THERE WILL ALWAYS BE A "WE" AND GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL. NO MAJOR DECISIONS FOR A YEAR. YOUR A STRONG WOMAN LOOK UP YOUR GOING TO BE BLESSED. GOD BLESS YOU AND MAY HIS FACE SHINE UPON YOU IN ALL THAT YOU DO. OUR LOVE GOES OUT TO YOU.... AMEN
Hopefully we can see new sailor baby to watch grow and patch the huge hole which Patrick Childress left. This Virus has been so devastating to sailing world, but "Navigatore necesse est"!
Do you know anyone in SA that could help her? I was watching your vid when hers showed up on the side. I hadn't seen their channel before but really want to help her somehow.
Thank you so much 💕 I was surfing and came upon your story. You are very brave & all I can say is ,Keep on saleing. Drydock. No ! Sailing Yes. ! I've surf most of my life go for it😄. If I was him I would want you to. . A LOHA.
I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks, so sorry for your loss Rebecca. Just thinking about Patrick, I can hear his voice in my head. It was a voice that instantly betrayed its kindness and compassion.
First off, to do this publicly took a lot of strength. I hope it was healing and beneficial to voice your thoughts and feelings. That is very important and a major part of the healing process after loosing a loved one. I definitely love the Valiants and have been a fan since I lived in San Francisco and sailed on the bay where I learned and got my 50’ US Sailing certification. You deserve a lot of admiration for buying your Valiant on your own! Let’s keep in touch. I’m working to find a Valiant some day. I guess I fell in love with Sailing and after reading 'Cicumnavigation - Sailing the Trade winds’ really put a nice perspective on life on the seas.
Thanks. It was VERY healing for me to do this video, and even more so to have all of these comments come back to me. It has been so good to be so embraced, and to feel like it wasn’t just Patrick but it was me a little bit too. I cry reading these comments. And crying is good.
Very sad to hear Patrick to be gone. I’m still in disbelief, he was a pillar of the sailing bloggers with his knowledge. My deepest sympathy. The hardest thing in live is processing the loss of a caring loving partner. In this time of grieve it is best to go with the flow and yes, take baby steps. He will still lead you and be with you and I’m sure he will show you the way best for you. Open yourself to gaining the self confidence and all required to continue on what the future has in mind for you and let it happen. I think you will realize there is much more that Patrick taught you, how to do, than you ever anticipated. He was a heck of a good man you always could trust in! I’m certain you will find your calling and will become successful in doing. You are weathering this storm of life, you seem to be a better sailor then you think you are. Wishing you the very best.⛵️
As a person who held the hand of some one i loved very much as she died, I know your pain so well. That lonely walk out of the hospital when its done is just so long.. my heart goes out to you. Your not alone that much I know. Hang in there, do your best. We are so proud of both of you.
I just got this video recommended to me and my heart goes out to you. I don’t have a long time left and the thought about what happens to my wife (and family) is always on my mind. I understand Patrick. I would hope I would have been able to do the same thing.
I don't know how you managed to get through telling us all that. I was in tears relating your story to my girlfriend! Thank you so much for sharing, the journey, managing your way through it. Please keep your channel going, with some of Patrick's pre-recorded material, and also your onward journey, physical and spiritual. You were great on camera. Keep going. I find so much can be learnt, life lessons, from other people's honest experiences. I hope you find a way to continue your voyage.
Cry, cry some more, take your time, come back when your ready. You have thousands of viewers here who will all hit the like button and subscribe. Are thought are with you.
Both one of the most beautiful AND heartbreaking stories I have ever watched.. You make me smile with the love you shared and bawl like a baby to hear the heartbreak. Everyone in life should be loved by someone as much as you loved Patrick. That is his legacy. Thanks for sharing this video with all of us. It was beautiful and touching. Big hugs.
Long medical background, he fought to tell you for the last time that you are the center of his world. He was fighting death to tell you he loved you. My heart is broken as I watched this video. I pray you are united with Patrick in our Fathers time. God bless and keep you dear sister.
Heartbreaking. There are no words. Patrick lived to make you happy, so over time find your way back there. There are clear signs of strength in your voice and in what you are thinking. You will see each other again.
I'm crying my eyes out at this moment. So so sorry for your loss. What I've seen in your and Patricks videos you and him are such nice people. My heart goes out to you and I hope that you can recover a bit and get your life back on track. Patrick was for me an inspiration, a do it yourself kind of guy. The way he was doing the repairs on Brickhouse was just astonishing for me, I'm a guy with 2 left hands so to speak. Also very down to earth and practical. I'm going to miss him. Regarding your question about what to do with the channel and what kind of videos to make. I would definitely like to see what you're experiences are as a sailing woman. There are many channels that focus on the male perspective. On the other hand I can also imagine that you want to have a break from this all at the moment. If I had the time and money to help you get to your next destination I would drop everything right now and fly to South Africa. I'm sure that the sailing community can help you out. At least I hope that with all my heart.
I remember when I started watching you and Patrick's channel, it took quite a while for you to be willing be shown on the channel. You really came out of your shell. Patrick had a wealth of knowledge in maintaining the boat and I looked forward to every episode. Very sad to hear of his passing. God bless and try to continue the channel, Patrick had really come to embrace the youtube concept. BTW, sometimes viewers like to see how a newbie comes to be a good sailor, now is your chance to show the world. You know a lot more than you think you do.
Yeah...I didn’t get involved for a while ..and now look at this. The problem is...I don’t want to emerge in to any great sailor...I already know I don’t want to be out int he elements and struggling with sails in storms, and driving this boat.There is already enough to do without doing that too. I just want to keep traveling and want to find someone to enjoy THAT with...someone who may enjoy the actual sailing part more.
I'm so sorry to hear about Patrick's passing...so sad! Personally, I would love to see you continue the channel. Sending hugs and prayers for strength and comfort for you. Please take care of you.
Your Vlog was recommended on TH-cam, which is how I ended up seeing this. Beyond the obvious emotional content, I think your story may help others comprehend how devastating COVID-19 can be, and has been, for so many people. I’m happy that you are feeling all of the love and support from the viewers of your channel. Bless you🙏❤️
What absolute mountainous strength you’ve shown to endure this tragedy and yet sit down in front of a camera to share your struggle with us all. Wishing you deepest condolences on the loss of your Patrick and the biggest hugs as you carry on.
I always thought “What a cool old dude” He was lucky to have a great woman by his side!! My best wishes to you on your future endeavors, chin up and eyes forward!!!
hi Rebecca, very sad to hear that Patrick passed away. You both were a great inspiration for all sailors all over the world, your experiences translated in your movies mean a lot to all of us. I wish you all the strength to continue your passion of sailing with Patrick as your guardian angel. All the best ! Jean
@My Asian Fame they shared simular goals otherwise she wouldnt be in this situation. His legacy is to live on through her and the people he has touched whole heartedly dingus
I found your channel today. I was searching about fiberglass repair learning what others have had to deal with and actually have no interest in sailboats whatsoever. I am a fisherman and boats make fishing better. The information was very well delivered and of course I went down the rabbit hole with Patrick and watched 8 videos about keel repair, and 500 blisters! even installing a woodstove in the boat. Then I saw this video and I feel like I lost a friend. My heart really goes out to you. Don't quit the videos. Keep going as much or little posting as you feel comfortable with. We will continue to watch. God bless you darlin.
JT 6188 It’s most definitely ok to cry, grieve in your own way in spite of what ANYONE says. Lost my daughter 25 years ago. Still have bad days but fortunately now, most days are ok. Bless you & take care!
Thank you, Rebecca, for sharing your story. You were so very brave to do it. I really appreciated how open you were about Patrick's last days. I am sad that this was the first video I watched of the SV Brick House. I wish I had known him but I am glad there are videos which I can now watch where he shares his knowledge and in which you both shared your experiences together. Thank you again. I wish you fair winds.
God bless you at this difficult time in your life. The advice Patrick “would give you” is what you should do. Follow his heart, and you will find yours. 🌹
Do keep your channel going, I am 48 and just in the process of looking for a boat to buy so it would be lovely watching your journey going forwards. Plus all the hard work that has gone into your channel is a testament to your late husband.
I lost my wife 22 years ago and time does goes on. Live your life and keep living your dream. Keep safe and live your life day by day. May God Bless You and Patrick and looking forward to your videos.
I am a widow so I speak from experience.i also lost the love of my life. Time is your friend , stay busy but reserve time to relax. Love your friends. Tell the lord of your heavy heart. Remember the sunrise and sunsets you shared. Be strong
Keep the Videos coming ! We would love to continue following your journey where ever that may be. lots of love and kind regards! RIP Patrick Childress💖
♥️ I’m glad you were able to see him one last time. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have never been so touched by a TH-cam video. You are a very strong woman and I have no doubt Patrick had a great life with you!
Rebecca! crying is ok! the love of your life has just passed. He loved you dearly and that always showed! There is so much support for you here and everywhere! My heart goes out to you xxx
My deepest condolences. Patrick is a great man! He was my hero! My inspiration to finísh my boat Please keep posting videos. About your life. He was very lucky to have you. I sincerelly admire you. God will show you the way. This is very sad.
Yeah he was so darn passionate about this sailing channel. I’m starting to feel that way if for nothing else than the support and love and care you all embrace me with
@@RVLifeNOW even watching Patrick Childress, was impressed about your skills and experience also. Like this; my sister married Tanzanian guy and they spent Christmas with us, we watched TV-program about Tanzanian nature and I was thinking if it is possible to sail there (because of piracy) and then find out my idol Patrick Childress has been there!
I was not a subscriber. I will be now. I am a sailor . A sailing friend mentioned your TH-cam channel and your recent tragedy, so the first video I saw was your incredibly moving and courageous video describing Patrick’s loss against covid. My heart goes out to you. In your video you struggle with whether to keep up the channel. Permit some advice from a stranger, please: take some time for yourself and do what feels right and don’t feel pressured to put out new episodes until you’re good and ready, and if that never happens, it’s because your life will take new directions. I and probably many others who had not heretofore heard of you guys will now watch Patrick’s videos and learn stuff from him, so he will live on through his work. And I’m glad you’re keeping the boat. It’s your home, and you should be where you are most comfortable right now. Rip Harwood, SV Zanetia, SW Harbor, Maine
My heart goes out to you. Don't make any plans just yet, take time for you, time to find you again! When you are ready you will know what's right for you.
it's ok to cry. Patrick was one of my great inspirers, which I will forever be grateful for. I want to get up. look at the sunset and drink a beer in Patrick's memory . a big thank you
Our hearts go out to you, everyday matters and you never know what's around the next cove. He was a great man that I learned many things from, watching his videos were like a go to when I was fixing up my boat. You are a strong person and his spirit and memories are with you, you will be okay and I think a strong spirit like his will be making sure of it. God or whatever it is has a plan, I think all of us would like to keep seeing videos and updates and we are not critical on professionally made videos, we just care ❤ Stay strong and cheers to him 🍻
It's ok. Just one day at a time. You don't need to fill his spot and recover every thing right away. It is a big loss but there will also be great times to come. Surprising moments, moments full of love. The love that you still have. Look around. It will settle down. Continue the youtube channel in honour of him. It doesn't have to be the same content. Just be honest about what you're up to, where you're sailing. This is life and we are all supporting you. So sorry for your loss. Love xxx
@@RVLifeNOW You have sailed more than most of us, You are more experiencensed than most of us. Dont you forget that! Learn, adapt, conqueur. Educate us! This is your life if you so chose. This is the way forward. I´m sure Patric would have agreed. Bless his soul.
We are all crying and remembering with you .. He never knew how many guys like me would watch him work and wish we there and could kibitz and find a tool for him .. He became a good friend late at night to a lot of old sailors ... I am watching all the old videos now ... Be strong , stay strong ...
Rebecca, It's so sad to hear the great man has gone, thank you for letting us know what happened. We will all miss him, though not as much as you i'm sure. I can only imagine how hard it would be for you to try and edit footage of him and see his face on the screen knowing you won't see him, I would not want to see you go though that pain. As for the future of the channel, only you can decide what is best for you, but remember your emotional well being is worth far more than this youtube channel, so look after yourself first, and if there is no more videos after this one we will understand. Remember do what is best for you, look after yourself first, your well being is the most important thing.
Thanks. Good advice. Feel a little attached to it, to continue growing what he was so passionate about...something I resisted so much ecspecially in the beginning. He had been saying for months how this channel was for me...for my future..to have a little income on the side. It’s not much for how much work it takes...but how can I let it just die? So that’s how I feel about it right now.
@@RVLifeNOW I understand, but I would also hate to see this become a chore or worse make you stressed. I know not everyone enjoys being in front of a camera, and you only recently started to be able to do it at all. So take your time, finish grieving first, when you are ready then decide, just don't rush into a bad decision. I'm not unsubscribing and will understand if there are no new videos, the videos that Patrick created are still a valuable resource and will remain useful for many people for years to come.
Your first year after Patrick death has been hard, but you have achieved so so much. I just re watched this vid and again, in full, I really felt your loss. All strength to you, or as we say in New Zealand, kia kaha (stay strong)
I can't imagine the heartbreak...you remind me that there are very real stories of loss out there because of Covid 19 and not just numbers. There's over two thousand comments as I type this one and I hope within them there's some sort of comfort in knowing peoples hearts are going out to you. Mine is one. Stay strong and God bless.
the death tole is a bit higher than they tell us. i already have a neighbor that died of corona. think about it, if more and more people started to know someone who had corona, then.... the death numbers are a bit higher than they let us know ? idk
I just stumbled upon Brick House, you are a lady of earth. I pray you keep sailing as long as you want to and that you want to as long as you sail. I only wanted a glimpse into sailing Africa but I got way more. Thank you!
I can't even imagine how you are getting through your days. But you do have a future and so many wonderful memories to bolster you. Everything can be learned, you can do this.💖
This is the 1st video of your channel that I've ever seen. Maybe you should continue the channel by sharing your personal journey forward with us; that would offer you support & inspire others as well? Godspeed ~ 💟 🇺🇸 ✔Subscribed.
"What should I do this channel... filmer, editor, videographer, I don't know how.... All the other logistics, I know how to do those..." I would say: keep doing the part you know how to do. Feel free to do again what you just did today: when you have something to say about Brick House or Patrick, set the camera up, talk to the audience, and upload it. And then keep an eye out for those other facets of Patrick in the world. He's still out there. The editor. The videographer. Invite those people on the boat. Invite them to edit an episode in their own way, and send it to you to upload. Maybe splice one of these intro messages in front or at the end, you already know how to do that. The thing that makes a TH-cam channel survive is the creator doing what they know how to do, and being happy with that.
Wow guys..the video is going on a week now and I just can’t keep up with the comments, at all. I apologize, and I will read and respond SOMEDAY. Life, taking care of the boat, myself, this channel...has become so overwhelming that I have to drop doing something, for now. I am going to try to answer these comments for 30 minutes per day, but then I just can’t do any more and get everything in life done. Please keep commenting, and I will get to them one of these days. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT!!!
ALSO if you are trying to contact me to crew.....this is really what I need:
1. Offshore sailing experience
2. You can share half the expenses, which I estimate to be $1000-$1500 per month.
3. 6 month to 1 year commitment, more better, if we get along well
4. Mature and peaceful
Not sure on destinations yet...Atlantic probably....contact me at www.WhereIsBrickHouse.com
Dear Rebecca your bravery in grief is a shining light that has come from deepest love that you shared with Patrick. It has been my honour as a sailing dummy to listen and learn from him as he put everything across so simple and honestly . Be safe in the knowledge that in his final moments he was at peace as he knew that the strength you have will carry you throughout which ever passage life holds for you. Take it slow breathe in and out , put one foot in front of the other hour by hour day by day and so on. The grieving process is tough but it will ease and with your strength I have no doubt you will get through it. Absolutely carry on with what you both wished to achieve as Patrick would have wanted but also to remember to keep special time in life for yourself. Take care of yourself and heartfelt love from Eamonn in Ireland X ♥️
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Hi Rebecca, although I hadn't subscribed to your channel before, I had browsed TH-cam and come across your channel and really liked it. Tonight I opened TH-cam and first item that appeared was this episode, dar I say it but I cried, so so sad for your loss. He came across as such a nice intelligent yachtsman.
With regards to your future, if sailing the world is your dream then please continue and keep the channel going. I have now subscribed. If you are looking for crew I'd be happy to. 15 years experience on 32 footer.
Rabecca I can’t tell you how much you and Patrick inspired me. Not just the lessons in sailing but your love for each other. It was clear in each video you both shared. You are an inspiration, sharing this most difficult moment in your life. What’s next for TH-cam videos? We need you in the sailing and boating community- so don’t stop. Find a way. You will find a way. I got you - so do your fans and friends. Yes, you have tons of fans cheering you on.
I can tell you for sure he knew you were by his side. The tear was real. Something similar happened to me with one of my great friends who was in a coma and I was told he could not hear me and was brain dead. He also looked at me briefly and had a tear coming from his eye. I know for sure he heard and understood me. I am so very sorry for your loss... I am crying right along with you.
I'm a night nurse for 25+ years and I can tell you WITHOUT A DOUBT that Patrick heard every word you said and gave you a sign of recognition with the glance of his eyes. I will even say he held on and WAITED for you to come to the hospital. He would not leave without you there. God Bless you and Patrick.
Absolutely concur with you that what Patrick Childess did was what Rebecca Childress saw, felt and believed.
Together until death do we part are only the vows of MARRIAGE....
Please cry and mourn your loss for as long as you need to is my humble advice as a retired Doctor who is an ordained Minister.
As a solor sailor with a boat pet on board I would hope that you....
Be patient with the world and stay put, follow your heart regarding creative activities and videos....
It's all going to happen as it must as nature herself has seasons.
You are so well loved and supported and have the wealth that even billionaires can only wish for.
When it is time to untie the lines, I trust you will be responsible and ready to sail on Rebecca!
Thanks for reaching out to us but one nagging question is still on my mind.
How and where do you think that you contracted the virus?
I must agree with your thoughts on this. Like many people, I have been with close family members during their last hours and am convinced that, even in a coma, or heavily medicated, people are aware of the presence of loved ones and will even appear to hold out until the last of these have come before accepting that it is time to fade.
Leon Delgado yes I’ve had that kind of experience too when i lost my wife who died in my arms.
Cried my eyes out. 😫 Rip Patrick. I think people would love to keep watching how life goes on after a huge love lost. We all have similar fears of losing our partner and your experience of continuing to live your dreams is all that matters. So so sorry for your loss. 🙏 Stay strong and you're amazing. Tight hugs.
@@saylaveenadmearedeadnicely said sir. I'm curious also. Active Private boat sailors generally spend so much time in isolation and with minimum contact with other people. Of course, Often it is in outdoor settings near the ocean. Sailing seems to be one the safest endeavors you can practice to avoid Corvid 19.
To click the like button seemed so wrong for this video, where the heck is the HUGS button!!!!
You're not alone thinking that.
Second that
I third that !
Exactly what I was thinking. Thx for expressing that.
Was thinking the exact same thing 😥
Stumbled on this video by accident... and it hit me luke a hammer. When i lived my sailing dream I met my to-be wife in St Maarten.. her dream was a house on Crete, at the beach. I gave away my boat, and moved with her to Crete, and together we build the house and studios to rent. That was 13 years ago, and we have lived her dream, until she died suddenly 5 months ago. All familiar, holding her in my arms while she slowly slipped away.
Now, 5 months later, I still don't know what to do. I continue the life we shared, trying to cope with covid, trying to cope...
Anyway, all I can say is: don't rush it. For me, trying to continue the life we had before is a means to find out whether i can enjoy this life without my wife, or not. I still don't know, but i sure am happy that I did not make any radical changes yet.
God bless brother!
Please everyone bump (thumbs-up and/or reply to) this comment so Rebecca sees it.
God bless indeed!
I'm so moved by your story! Love is: listening to your partner and to your own heart too.
So so sorry for your loss. I hope you are finding life ok. I am finding it ok but I miss my old life. I'm glad to still be sailing, but my partner isn't 100% and we will be ending it when we get back to Grenada. Neither of us ca bear to give up the cruising season.
He looked at you. ' retired surgical charge here. I am so happy they allowed you to be with him at the final time. That is a big blessing that most do not get
Thank you..that is true…
Dr. Here. Him looking at you and a tear coming out was voluntary response. In essence, he wanted to communicate and it seems he did.
Absolutely agree. It's pretty incredible how people are able to communicate when you think they might not be able to. So sorry for your loss. Your story is heartbreaking.
Doctor here too, and agree. Also, it may not seem like it, but his grieving roller coaster will end. My deepest sympathy. Hang in there!
My friend, I am a hospice nurse. He knew You were there, he heard everything you said, an that was his way of saying goodbye. I hope and wish the peace that passes all understanding this time of grief. But, and I assure you, he was communicating his last farewell to you. He will always be with you in your heart. Cherish the memories of your time together,
Regards,
A stranger that cares
This comment brought me comfort o hope she saw it too.
Thanks so much…only seeing it now… he is definitely in my heart forever and ever.
There are so many of us single not by choice that would love to see you evolve and maybe be supportive of each other. I’ll watch even if it’s not as polished and perfect. Please stay
Yeah - I know i have to do it a bit by myself for a while. But i hope I can find a friend or 2 that want this same kind of life, for real.
@@RVLifeNOW Hello, I loved what you and Patrick did with this channel. I have been trying to transition away from the rat race and to spend at least a decade traveling the world upon the high seas. I wish I had the means to finance your journey and travels for at least the next year. Please Continue!!! While we saw Patrick mostly in this channel, we all knew and loved your presence and contributions behind the scenes. I absolutely yearn to just get away from it all... and I have been trying to prepare and also get a boat. I will be in touch. 👍🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
what a good neighbor wondering not lost I really think the boat and the water are
both of your homes. be encourage and we will say a prayer for you .
Sorry for your loss. I'd love to see you continue and keep it real. Something for us single ladies to be inspired by.
Aayyatta R'von Mustafa Thank you
My wife's name was Ieta. She left here in 2007.Every night, when it is time to sleep for the night, I have a feeling of surprise that she is not here, and activly glance around to find her..
It;s not a sad or lonely feeling - just a surprise that she is not here. Were married the day before Christmas in 1953 and she looked out for me as long as she could. She fell in the bathroom and breast cancer broke out in her body. i feel that she whipped the cancer but that their "cure" attempts finally took her away l'll just hang around here....If I wasn't already almost 86 and covid wasn't around the corner, I would like to tarvel along - but I guess I will just hang around here as long as I can( as she comes by to see me quite often in my dreams.
I’ll share my next glass of rum with Rebecca, Patrick, Leta and all us Old Salts.
Jim, want anyone to talk to brother? What’s your contact info
For Jim and Rebecca and all who have lost your loves....May God give you comfort tonight and may your dreams be sweet.💕🙏
Hey Jim - you married Leta the year before I was born, shared 54 years together. My girl was Maria - we had 36 years and two beautiful children together. As I look toward a future solo-sailing eastward wherever in the world the wind takes me, I will go with fabulous memories of having been so well-loved . . . take care - best regards to you, Jim.
Oh my, Rebecca, I am so sorry for your loss. The loss of your partner, your captain, your friend... My tears and prayers are with you.
Renee & the Z-Crew
Rebecca I’m on my own sitting on the boat in the dock in lockdown as a beautiful dawn comes up on the longest day of the year. I have cried with you all the way through this sad sad tale. It’s so good to know that you have so much support in our wonderful sailing community, you should keep your story going wherever it takes you. We came up Southampton water yesterday in a big chaotic blow followed the normal docking shenanigans now it is quiet and calm. Time to clear up, dry out the foulies, tidy the lockers and get ready for Biscay, a sailors metaphor. I think Patrick would be so proud of you in making this video . I hope you are well after contracting this awful disease and have shaken it off. I can see you are planning for the future and that is brilliant. Every storm has an end and there is always a bright new day.
Can always count on the Z crew to reach out.
I just finished watching Zatara and come across Rebecca and I can hardly text for tears. 😧😥
Yes darling dear he was looking at you. I used to be a nurse and have seen a lot of souls leave this world. This is a legitimate experience. My heart goes out to you 💔. God bless you and be well and cry as much as you need.
My heart breaks for your loss and I’m at a loss for what to say. The world cruising community has lost a great mentor and friend. Take your time deciding your future. The right answer will come in time and you will embrace it and be at peace with your decision. God Bless you.
So sorry for your loss.
From my family, to you, we send our. most sincere condolences. Grief is a brutal price we pay for loving someone deeply. Until you find your way, endure.
Thank you very much
"What do you think I should do next?" -- I think you should be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to take baby steps towards whatever and wherever your heart thinks you'll be happier than where you are in the moment. Find your voice. Follow your heart. Breathe. Allow yourself the time to determine what it is you want to do from here and then do that without apology to anybody else. Much love to you on your journey.
Thanks Trane. Yeah...I’m not that patient sometimes. Immigration may force some big steps but I hope not.
@@RVLifeNOW I for one have always enjoyed this channel. I will continue to follow as long as its on. Im sorry to hear about Patrick he will be missed. Im sure whatever direction you decide to go it will be great.
The counselling I got was, "don't let one tragedy turn into two." Follow your heart.
Gord Campbell thats good advice.
Tr5&89vvvzPatrick Childress Sailing huh I’ll we’re
Gord. How are you doing these days and how are you living these days ? take care now.
Rebeca , keep cruising , keep living , keep filming and keep smiling.
In honor off Patrick wonderful heritage .
Or not. You don't own anything to anyone. Do what you feel like when you feel like. You don't have to keep sailing to honor him, honestly, just find happiness and I'm sure that will be all the honors he would want.
The last thing we lose is our ability to hear, be sure he heard everything you said, and in that final act, such a simple thing as a glance, he was doing with all that was left to him with all that he had to say that final goodbye. A horrible time indeed - but you have so many things to remember and he will always be with you. The pain doesn't ever truly go away and it can surprise you sometimes just when it rears up - but it becomes easier to manage with time and does become a comfort. Definitely don't do anything big just now, and not for a while yet. The world is going to take some time before going anywhere will be a plan it seems. So sorry for your loss, so happy you found such adventure and joy in the time you had.
Speaking for myself--I want to see how YOU continue making your way sailing through life--knowing how many of us are with you in spirit. Of course we will miss him and his wisdom too.
I will try to do that,with all of you helping. Thanks for all the support.
As a man who has loved in my life, I can assure you that with every ounce of strength and every facet if control I could muster through a morphine haze, I would put my last essence into seeing my love one more time, and shed a tear for her sorrow.
Brian Meskanen Beautiful.
Such a beautiful thing to say
Brian Meskanen thank you very much Brian. Thank you for saying that. Now ya got me crying again!!!
This, and only this... is what happened.
@@RVLifeNOW Sadly, the first video I stumbled into was this video of a grief stricken woman trying to figure out what's coming next. So I will try to help. Get on you tube and type "Reflections of my life by Marmalade". The message I think is that even though it's tough, fighting on is far better than laying down and dying. The next thing to do is get a copy of the Desiderata and just sit on the stern at Sunset and read it out loud. The beautiful voice you hear is yours. So walk on Rebecca, walk on with hope in your heart and you'll never walk alone! (Gerry and the pacemakers)
Dearest Rebecca, I am heartbroken to hear of Patrick’s passing, I knew he was ill and I am not a religious man but I put out my best thoughts to the universe for him every single day. I turned 63 on June 13 and I’m planning to start my cruising life a year from now. You and Patrick together always made me believe that despite my age,it is a possibility and that with love and determination you can make anything happen. Your channel is not just Patrick, it is the both of you and every time I watched I thought how lucky you were to have each other and to be living your dream together. And I was always hopeful that I could find a good woman to share my adventure with, still hopeful :-).Please take time to heal, to breathe, to grieve and to let your heart and spirit rise up once again. The sailing community is an amazing group of people and I think that with their love and support you can continue your dream, And continue to inspire all of us with your courage.❤️🧡💛💚💙
Oh Scott...thank you so much. Im still sailing, though still very much struggling to the point of physical manusfesratuon of the pain and anxiety. I hope you found your partner, and your cruising life.
Rebecca, i've been watching many sailing youtubers, first time i had tears from a real life story.
Your partner was exceptional in many ways, but, the good news is, you too.
Leave the boat for a few weeks, go and see the world and friends ( meet my family, you have a place to stay in Belgium ) and
soon you'll be wanting to go back on the boat, because its the only right place for you to start new adventures.
Shouldnt be a problem to find someone joining you for any story.
Good luck, you can make it again.
Cheers.
I am usually a pretty tough guy, this video was more than I could handle though. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for watching…
This is the most sincere, heartfelt and revealing sharing I have ever experienced. Your story is so full of genuine emotional outpourings, yet shows your immense inner personal strength, I’m sure you’ll pull through this dark and difficult period. Patrick’s contribution to sailing is immense. The depth of his experience was remarkable and will be remembered by thousands.
Yea..he will be remembered by so many people. A great great sailor and husband.
One day, when i'm sailing on my own boat, i will still be watching and rewatching all those amazing videos you two made. Patrick's sailing wisdom is a priceless gift to the world, and i want you to know how much it means to me, to all of us. And i feel that one day, when i'm sailing with my wife and successfully adapting to boat life, i won't be the only one who remembers and thinks, Thank you Patrick, from the bottom of my heart, may you rest in peace.
Ah wow…what a nice comment..,thank you. Sorry I missed it earlier…I’m still trying to answer all of these unbelievable comments!
Truly..thank you!
One last look at the love he adored . His soul will be with you .as your sole was his life . A look back can give you a smile . He passed being loved to which is a priceless adventure . I’m sure with the community your Adventures take you with ‘ Will set you a Fair wind . God bless
I can’t imagine the strength it took to make this video. RIP Patrick.
Actually very healing for me :) Thanks for watching
I really admired Patrick’s knowledge & skills, but even more, I admired his positive attitude. I feel like he taught me a lot. I’m surprisingly saddened by his passing. It feels like a friend died. It has made me fully realize the power of social media.
More than 1K comments must be overwhelming.
My other half had me watch this...I was familiar but he is a "fan"...I am in a similar position, older man, but don't have the boat! That is his dream.
Tears, and more tears for you and your story. Your experience is a large piece of why I am resistant to following his offshore dreams, I don't think I could do the (likely) loss. Couldn't do it on TH-cam, by phone with family or alone.
Your courage is amazing. Your faith in the future is from (opinion) a higher power!
My Tom loves your channel, my father learned to sail from a great man - VERY similar to Patrick (Ken Wheeler, Seattle). He told my dad, and it has stuck with me and my brother "I can teach you to sail in a weekend; it will take a lifetime for you to become a sailor". It is a VERY true statement.
We talked about your immediate and eventual needs.
When you are really ready for crew and in need of a new "mate" let us know. Your talents as planner and navigator were key to y'alls cruising success. If you just want to get her (and you) home to regroup, say the word! Other options are always welcome.
My comment was "she is devastated (as are we all)! Now is not the time for next steps, but my be the time to play with options. As you process things - I don't envy a second of your grief - keep in touch. You have a huge support group that will get you through the next few months, to the next destination, through Patrick's Viking burial, and introduce you to the next chapter of YOUR adventure.
Patrick was very special, he joined YOUR dream. I hope with all my heart your next chapter/dream can use this love-story/tragedy as a springboard to new adventures!
It may take a while but you will find your "sailing feet" and reestablish a new version of "True North" be well, and know you are in all of our prayers!
@@deborahcarr5943 getting the boat home to re-group would be her best option.
I know…so many people have said that… he was a great great guy.
Ah..sorry to be reading and responding to this so late..what a great comment… thank you! I’m still struggling all this time later, but at least I’m still cruising!
Boat is home…wherever she is. She is home.
What you experienced with his eyes is nearly identical to my experience when my wife was on life support. 😔 the memory of this will remain with me forever and always bring a tear 😢❤️ time will bring peace.
Yeah. It was the most amazing thing to have him give one more gesture to me. One more effort.
My heart goes out to you. I feel your pain on the loss of the love of your life, but I love your optimism. I too lost my husband when we were cruising in the Caribbean, preparing to go out to the Pacific for a second time. I just want to give you a virtual hug and give you hope that things will turn out better for you. I eventually met a fellow sailor and we buddy boated for a time until he sold his boat and came with me on mine. We enjoyed sailing the Caribbean for 10 more years until old age and medical issues caused us to sell the boat. We are now happily retired and checking out new places in our RV. ( except right now we are quarantined). Take care and follow your dreams.
Sounds like your life turned out pretty marvelously! I can only hope mine turns out as well,a
Listen to this woman. May take a while, may end up with some amazing bad crew stories, but you will get there in the end. Patrick spent the last 13 years helping you too circumnavigate. He taught us all a ton. I will miss him.
It was your dream before you met him. He just showed up to help. Someone else will as well.
Keep the water on the outside of the boat and rain off the good cameras and you will be fine. I do see some new learning and confidence building in your future though.
The eye movement was to let you know that he could hear you and how much he loved you and that he fully understood how much you loved him. RIP Patrick and be strong brave lady, try to live and enjoy the rest of your life , as I’m sure Patrick would have wished for you.
Richard Wood thanks Richard. I do hope he knows that. He was better at showing it than I was, and I pray he knows it!!!
@@RVLifeNOW - Let me express my deepest condolences for your loss. I'm an ICU nurse with 25 years experience. I know that a patient can still hear even when they are critically ill and heavily sedated. I've seen this many times. I strongly believe he did hear you and was trying to respond to you.
Please, please be kind to yourself. I think you should continue your videos.
I just started watching Patrick's videos and thought..."my god, this guy has all the answers and seems like someone I'd want to meet"... I saw this video just after and stared slackjawed. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and Patrick have built a beautiful legacy and I'm excited to see where the wind takes you. Fair winds and following seas
Ah thanks so much Matt. Hope you are still watching…I’m still sailing…but it’s not the same in any way..that’s for sure.
As a father to two daughters and an adventurer, I hope that you find young, female sailors that can be taken under your wing and taught the life in a safe environment.
great idea!!
Very good, great reply
Thanks…but really want to sail with a man. But will always consider that in the future.
AWWW MY DEAR .... YOU SOUND LIKE MY WIFE AND I. AFTER WATCHING SEVERAL CLOSE FRIENDS PASS AWAY I HAVE LEARNED ONE THING."DO NOT MAKE ANY MAJOR LIFE DECISIONS FOR THE FIRST YEAR" THAT IS FIRST.
SECOND KEEP THE EMOTION AND MAKE YOUR OWN VIDS. FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE. HIS VIDEO WITH JUST YOU IS A GREAT BRIDGE ACROSS TO YOUR NEW LIFE ABOUT YOU.
YOUR A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT AND IT COMES OUT WITH YOUR HONESTY.
THERE WILL ALWAYS BE A "WE" AND GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL. NO MAJOR DECISIONS FOR A YEAR.
YOUR A STRONG WOMAN LOOK UP YOUR GOING TO BE BLESSED.
GOD BLESS YOU AND MAY HIS FACE SHINE UPON YOU IN ALL THAT YOU DO.
OUR LOVE GOES OUT TO YOU....
AMEN
wise words, it takes about a couple of years to adjust to the new you after experiencing grief.
Yes, he was looking at you one last time and I am sorry for your loss.
Thank you
Sending you soo much love from Nahoa. Our heart breaks watching this.
Hopefully we can see new sailor baby to watch grow and patch the huge hole which Patrick Childress left. This Virus has been so devastating to sailing world, but "Navigatore necesse est"!
Love your channel. I’m so glad you folks stopped by to say this.
Fam Poysti- SUBSCRIBE please I believe it is navigare, but yes to the sentiment!!
Do you know anyone in SA that could help her? I was watching your vid when hers showed up on the side. I hadn't seen their channel before but really want to help her somehow.
Thank you so much 💕 I was surfing and came upon your story. You are very brave & all I can say is ,Keep on saleing. Drydock. No ! Sailing Yes. ! I've surf most of my life go for it😄. If I was him I would want you to. . A LOHA.
I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks, so sorry for your loss Rebecca. Just thinking about Patrick, I can hear his voice in my head. It was a voice that instantly betrayed its kindness and compassion.
Mostyn Gale His is definitely a kind voice
I think you meant to say “portrayed” 😊
First off, to do this publicly took a lot of strength. I hope it was healing and beneficial to voice your thoughts and feelings. That is very important and a major part of the healing process after loosing a loved one.
I definitely love the Valiants and have been a fan since I lived in San Francisco and sailed on the bay where I learned and got my 50’ US Sailing certification. You deserve a lot of admiration for buying your Valiant on your own! Let’s keep in touch. I’m working to find a Valiant some day. I guess I fell in love with Sailing and after reading 'Cicumnavigation - Sailing the Trade winds’ really put a nice perspective on life on the seas.
Thanks. It was VERY healing for me to do this video, and even more so to have all of these comments come back to me. It has been so good to be so embraced, and to feel like it wasn’t just Patrick but it was me a little bit too. I cry reading these comments. And crying is good.
Very sad to hear Patrick to be gone. I’m still in disbelief, he was a pillar of the sailing bloggers with his knowledge. My deepest sympathy.
The hardest thing in live is processing the loss of a caring loving partner. In this time of grieve it is best to go with the flow and yes, take baby steps. He will still lead you and be with you and I’m sure he will show you the way best for you. Open yourself to gaining the self confidence and all required to continue on what the future has in mind for you and let it happen. I think you will realize there is much more that Patrick taught you, how to do, than you ever anticipated. He was a heck of a good man you always could trust in! I’m certain you will find your calling and will become successful in doing. You are weathering this storm of life, you seem to be a better sailor then you think you are. Wishing you the very best.⛵️
This is devastating news, so very sad. Take care wherever the wind takes you.
Thank you
As a person who held the hand of some one i loved very much as she died, I know your pain so well. That lonely walk out of the hospital when its done is just so long.. my heart goes out to you. Your not alone that much I know. Hang in there, do your best. We are so proud of both of you.
Yeah..that was a tough walk out of that hospital. I can’t even drive by it without crying
I just got this video recommended to me and my heart goes out to you. I don’t have a long time left and the thought about what happens to my wife (and family) is always on my mind. I understand Patrick. I would hope I would have been able to do the same thing.
I don't know how you managed to get through telling us all that. I was in tears relating your story to my girlfriend!
Thank you so much for sharing, the journey, managing your way through it.
Please keep your channel going, with some of Patrick's pre-recorded material, and also your onward journey, physical and spiritual. You were great on camera. Keep going.
I find so much can be learnt, life lessons, from other people's honest experiences.
I hope you find a way to continue your voyage.
Cry, cry some more, take your time, come back when your ready. You have thousands of viewers here who will all hit the like button and subscribe. Are thought are with you.
Both one of the most beautiful AND heartbreaking stories I have ever watched.. You make me smile with the love you shared and bawl like a baby to hear the heartbreak. Everyone in life should be loved by someone as much as you loved Patrick. That is his legacy. Thanks for sharing this video with all of us. It was beautiful and touching. Big hugs.
Thank you...so much. I did love him so freaking much...and always will
My prayers go out to you
Long medical background, he fought to tell you for the last time that you are the center of his world. He was fighting death to tell you he loved you. My heart is broken as I watched this video. I pray you are united with Patrick in our Fathers time. God bless and keep you dear sister.
Thanks so much
Heartbreaking. There are no words. Patrick lived to make you happy, so over time find your way back there. There are clear signs of strength in your voice and in what you are thinking.
You will see each other again.
I think we will see eachother too. Someday I will have a storm, and see him on the other side of that storm
I'm crying my eyes out at this moment. So so sorry for your loss. What I've seen in your and Patricks videos you and him are such nice people. My heart goes out to you and I hope that you can recover a bit and get your life back on track.
Patrick was for me an inspiration, a do it yourself kind of guy. The way he was doing the repairs on Brickhouse was just astonishing for me, I'm a guy with 2 left hands so to speak. Also very down to earth and practical.
I'm going to miss him.
Regarding your question about what to do with the channel and what kind of videos to make. I would definitely like to see what you're experiences are as a sailing woman. There are many channels that focus on the male perspective. On the other hand I can also imagine that you want to have a break from this all at the moment. If I had the time and money to help you get to your next destination I would drop everything right now and fly to South Africa. I'm sure that the sailing community can help you out. At least I hope that with all my heart.
Thanks so much. Thanks.
I always enjoyed Patrick’s resourcefulness and his passion for sailing,
He will be missed by us all.
Thank you
So sorry The next time I feel the wind in my face I will have a moment of silence for Patrick.
I remember when I started watching you and Patrick's channel, it took quite a while for you to be willing be shown on the channel. You really came out of your shell. Patrick had a wealth of knowledge in maintaining the boat and I looked forward to every episode. Very sad to hear of his passing. God bless and try to continue the channel, Patrick had really come to embrace the youtube concept. BTW, sometimes viewers like to see how a newbie comes to be a good sailor, now is your chance to show the world. You know a lot more than you think you do.
Yeah...I didn’t get involved for a while ..and now look at this. The problem is...I don’t want to emerge in to any great sailor...I already know I don’t want to be out int he elements and struggling with sails in storms, and driving this boat.There is already enough to do without doing that too. I just want to keep traveling and want to find someone to enjoy THAT with...someone who may enjoy the actual sailing part more.
I'm so sorry to hear about Patrick's passing...so sad! Personally, I would love to see you continue the channel. Sending hugs and prayers for strength and comfort for you. Please take care of you.
Your Vlog was recommended on TH-cam, which is how I ended up seeing this. Beyond the obvious emotional content, I think your story may help others comprehend how devastating COVID-19 can be, and has been, for so many people. I’m happy that you are feeling all of the love and support from the viewers of your channel. Bless you🙏❤️
Yes...if only more people knew
Much, much love, from Kim and I, Rebecca. Our hearts are with you.
Thanks so much
What absolute mountainous strength you’ve shown to endure this tragedy and yet sit down in front of a camera to share your struggle with us all. Wishing you deepest condolences on the loss of your Patrick and the biggest hugs as you carry on.
Oh Sean..thanks so much…bring tears to my eyes.
Ahh my heart and love is with you Rebecca - we will miss him - and he is still with us. love to you
Thanks Dirk - yes - I miss him every minute, and so touched that so many join me in that
I always thought “What a cool old dude” He was lucky to have a great woman by his side!! My best wishes to you on your future endeavors, chin up and eyes forward!!!
Thanks..yea…
hi Rebecca, very sad to hear that Patrick passed away. You both were a great inspiration for all sailors all over the world, your experiences translated in your movies mean a lot to all of us. I wish you all the strength to continue your passion of sailing with Patrick as your guardian angel. All the best ! Jean
Yes...he is my guardian angel, for sure.
Patrick would like you continue his legacy. Don't give up. It is heart breaking
@My Asian Fame they shared simular goals otherwise she wouldnt be in this situation. His legacy is to live on through her and the people he has touched whole heartedly dingus
Obituary reads, simply: "Boat for sale."
Thanks. Sorry for the late reply. Im trying to reply to everyone still, 18 months later!
Nope...still sailing her
I'm not a doctor or in the medical field but i firmly believe Patrick was saying goodbye to you with his eyes and tear.
Does it realy matter what doctors say about Patrick's eyes?
He looked at you!
Seconded. Take it that he looked at you as he knew this was his time.
Yes!!
I found your channel today. I was searching about fiberglass repair learning what others have had to deal with and actually have no interest in sailboats whatsoever. I am a fisherman and boats make fishing better. The information was very well delivered and of course I went down the rabbit hole with Patrick and watched 8 videos about keel repair, and 500 blisters! even installing a woodstove in the boat. Then I saw this video and I feel like I lost a friend. My heart really goes out to you. Don't quit the videos. Keep going as much or little posting as you feel comfortable with. We will continue to watch. God bless you darlin.
Ah...thanks for watching... appreciate your kindness....
"Fair winds and following seas" for Patrick and "fair winds and following seas" for you. I wish the best
It's OK to cry. I lost my only son 10 years ago, and I still weep.
😞 I’m so sorry for your loss
JT 6188 It’s most definitely ok to cry, grieve in your own way in spite of what ANYONE says. Lost my daughter 25 years ago. Still have bad days but fortunately now, most days are ok. Bless you & take care!
Oh that's horrible - you have my deepest and most sincere sympathy xx
same here but 8 years. i feel you
Thank you…I still weep too.
Whatever you decide know that sailors everywhere are thinking about you.
Thank you, Rebecca, for sharing your story. You were so very brave to do it. I really appreciated how open you were about Patrick's last days. I am sad that this was the first video I watched of the SV Brick House. I wish I had known him but I am glad there are videos which I can now watch where he shares his knowledge and in which you both shared your experiences together. Thank you again. I wish you fair winds.
Thanks so much Tim
I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he said his goodbye with that tear to me.
God bless you at this difficult time in your life. The advice Patrick “would give you” is what you should do. Follow his heart, and you will find yours. 🌹
I am so sorry. I did not know any of this, and started crying as soon I realized Rebecca was only referring to Patrick in the past tense.
Ditto I didn’t realise where the story was going...
Thank you. Yeah…it sucked.
Do keep your channel going, I am 48 and just in the process of looking for a boat to buy so it would be lovely watching your journey going forwards. Plus all the hard work that has gone into your channel is a testament to your late husband.
Thanks..really…
I lost my wife 22 years ago and time does goes on. Live your life and keep living your dream. Keep safe and live your life day by day. May God Bless You and Patrick and looking forward to your videos.
Thanks. Sorry for your loss. Going to March onwards
I am a widow so I speak from experience.i also lost the love of my life. Time is your friend , stay busy but reserve time to relax. Love your friends. Tell the lord of your heavy heart. Remember the sunrise and sunsets you shared. Be strong
Thanks so much Owen.
Keep the Videos coming ! We would love to continue following your journey where ever that may be. lots of love and kind regards! RIP Patrick Childress💖
Thanks…only saw your comment now…still trying to answer all the comments! So glad to still be sailing… though it’s soooo different now!
♥️ I’m glad you were able to see him one last time. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have never been so touched by a TH-cam video. You are a very strong woman and I have no doubt Patrick had a great life with you!
Thank you. We had a super great life together. I will miss him forever. But yes, life will have to goon...
Rebecca! crying is ok! the love of your life has just passed. He loved you dearly and that always showed! There is so much support for you here and everywhere! My heart goes out to you xxx
My deepest condolences. Patrick is a great man! He was my hero! My inspiration to finísh my boat
Please keep posting videos. About your life.
He was very lucky to have you. I sincerelly admire you.
God will show you the way. This is very sad.
Thanks so much Armando
Rebecca!!!!! " just stay the course" sound familiar?????
⛵S T A Y T H E C O U R S E⛵
KEEP THE CHANNEL
Patrick will be happy you did .
Yeah he was so darn passionate about this sailing channel. I’m starting to feel that way if for nothing else than the support and love and care you all embrace me with
@@RVLifeNOW even watching Patrick Childress, was impressed about your skills and experience also. Like this; my sister married Tanzanian guy and they spent Christmas with us, we watched TV-program about Tanzanian nature and I was thinking if it is possible to sail there (because of piracy) and then find out my idol Patrick Childress has been there!
I was not a subscriber. I will be now. I am a sailor . A sailing friend mentioned your TH-cam channel and your recent tragedy, so the first video I saw was your incredibly moving and courageous video describing Patrick’s loss against covid. My heart goes out to you. In your video you struggle with whether to keep up the channel. Permit some advice from a stranger, please: take some time for yourself and do what feels right and don’t feel pressured to put out new episodes until you’re good and ready, and if that never happens, it’s because your life will take new directions. I and probably many others who had not heretofore heard of you guys will now watch Patrick’s videos and learn stuff from him, so he will live on through his work. And I’m glad you’re keeping the boat. It’s your home, and you should be where you are most comfortable right now.
Rip Harwood, SV Zanetia, SW Harbor, Maine
Thanks so much for joining, watching and commenting.
My heart goes out to you. Don't make any plans just yet, take time for you, time to find you again! When you are ready you will know what's right for you.
So sorry to hear, he was so knowledgeable. A chapter has closed, but life still has beauty in it.
I am so sorry for your loss. I had the greatest respect for Patrick and you, one of a handful of sailing channels actually worth watching.
Thank you
Dear Rebecca,
Christina and Patrick from Sweden here. We have just recently found your channel. So sad to hear about Patrick 😢Keep up sailing./❤️
Thank you
it's ok to cry. Patrick was one of my great inspirers, which I will forever be grateful for. I want to get up. look at the sunset and drink a beer in Patrick's memory .
a big thank you
Our hearts go out to you, everyday matters and you never know what's around the next cove. He was a great man that I learned many things from, watching his videos were like a go to when I was fixing up my boat. You are a strong person and his spirit and memories are with you, you will be okay and I think a strong spirit like his will be making sure of it. God or whatever it is has a plan, I think all of us would like to keep seeing videos and updates and we are not critical on professionally made videos, we just care ❤
Stay strong and cheers to him 🍻
Thank you for that card…I feel it every day.
It's ok. Just one day at a time. You don't need to fill his spot and recover every thing right away. It is a big loss but there will also be great times to come. Surprising moments, moments full of love. The love that you still have. Look around. It will settle down.
Continue the youtube channel in honour of him. It doesn't have to be the same content. Just be honest about what you're up to, where you're sailing.
This is life and we are all supporting you. So sorry for your loss. Love xxx
It’s always inspiring to see strong women working their way through impossible situations. Wishing you nothing but the best on your journey.
Thanks so much Lacy.
Keep Sailing. Keep filming. Keep Living. Learn. Adapt. Conqeur. You can do anything!
Thanks for your confidence in me :)
@@RVLifeNOW You have sailed more than most of us, You are more experiencensed than most of us. Dont you forget that! Learn, adapt, conqueur. Educate us! This is your life if you so chose. This is the way forward.
I´m sure Patric would have agreed. Bless his soul.
🙏
We are all crying and remembering with you ..
He never knew how many guys like me would watch him work and wish we there and could kibitz and find a tool for him ..
He became a good friend late at night to a lot of old sailors ... I am watching all the old videos now ...
Be strong , stay strong ...
Charlesr Brandichjr thanks for watching. Appreciate your loyalty ;)
I think he realized his end was very soon and he shed a tear knowing he was going to be without you for too long. I wish I could crew for you.
So sorry for your situation. Please keep posting whatever is happening with your life and boat.
Thanks…will do!
Rebecca, It's so sad to hear the great man has gone, thank you for letting us know what happened. We will all miss him, though not as much as you i'm sure. I can only imagine how hard it would be for you to try and edit footage of him and see his face on the screen knowing you won't see him, I would not want to see you go though that pain. As for the future of the channel, only you can decide what is best for you, but remember your emotional well being is worth far more than this youtube channel, so look after yourself first, and if there is no more videos after this one we will understand.
Remember do what is best for you, look after yourself first, your well being is the most important thing.
Thanks. Good advice. Feel a little attached to it, to continue growing what he was so passionate about...something I resisted so much ecspecially in the beginning. He had been saying for months how this channel was for me...for my future..to have a little income on the side. It’s not much for how much work it takes...but how can I let it just die? So that’s how I feel about it right now.
@@RVLifeNOW I understand, but I would also hate to see this become a chore or worse make you stressed. I know not everyone enjoys being in front of a camera, and you only recently started to be able to do it at all. So take your time, finish grieving first, when you are ready then decide, just don't rush into a bad decision. I'm not unsubscribing and will understand if there are no new videos, the videos that Patrick created are still a valuable resource and will remain useful for many people for years to come.
You are one gutsy sailing lady, just watched this with my wife, we where both in tears. Just keep going you are so tough. Our heart goes out to you
Thanks so much.
Your first year after Patrick death has been hard, but you have achieved so so much. I just re watched this vid and again, in full, I really felt your loss. All strength to you, or as we say in New Zealand, kia kaha (stay strong)
I can't imagine the heartbreak...you remind me that there are very real stories of loss out there because of Covid 19 and not just numbers. There's over two thousand comments as I type this one and I hope within them there's some sort of comfort in knowing peoples hearts are going out to you. Mine is one. Stay strong and God bless.
the death tole is a bit higher than they tell us. i already have a neighbor that died of corona. think about it, if more and more people started to know someone who had corona, then.... the death numbers are a bit higher than they let us know ? idk
I just stumbled upon Brick House, you are a lady of earth. I pray you keep sailing as long as you want to and that you want to as long as you sail. I only wanted a glimpse into sailing Africa but I got way more. Thank you!
Sorry..what a video to find when wanting to just see a video about sailing africa ;)
I lost my wife of 30 years, if you ever feel no one understands you can contact me any time. Love your channel.
ThaNks so much. Sorry I didn’t see this sooner…still trying to catch up on comments!
He was communicating with you the only way he could ,with his eyes. And he was probably saying I love you, and I'll see you in a little while .
Thank you
Hey Rebecca, sorry for your lost! I'm sure whatever you decide to do next it doesn't matter for us, we still follow your Adventure.
I am a hospice RN. He heard you, he saw you, he felt you and you got there in time to help him secure that sail...
Thank you...good way of saying that
I can't even imagine how you are getting through your days. But you do have a future and so many wonderful memories to bolster you. Everything can be learned, you can do this.💖
This is the 1st video of your channel that I've ever seen.
Maybe you should continue the channel by sharing your personal journey forward with us; that would offer you support & inspire others as well?
Godspeed ~ 💟 🇺🇸
✔Subscribed.
M CC Exactly... great advice!😊
"What should I do this channel... filmer, editor, videographer, I don't know how.... All the other logistics, I know how to do those..."
I would say: keep doing the part you know how to do. Feel free to do again what you just did today: when you have something to say about Brick House or Patrick, set the camera up, talk to the audience, and upload it. And then keep an eye out for those other facets of Patrick in the world. He's still out there. The editor. The videographer. Invite those people on the boat. Invite them to edit an episode in their own way, and send it to you to upload. Maybe splice one of these intro messages in front or at the end, you already know how to do that. The thing that makes a TH-cam channel survive is the creator doing what they know how to do, and being happy with that.
Good advice....thank you