Exactly! Family and friends can be the worst people in your life because they are emotionally involved with you. Then they use their emotional involvement with you to be manipulative and try to literally sabotage you because you are undergoing personal growth and they are not. I've had to publicly curse out family members and friends with strangers looking because it got so bad. Sad but true!
Being a loner sometimes sucks, but once you step out and meet people and share your dreams and success, you are quick to realize why you choose to be alone. Haters come in all shapes and colors and they will go out of their way to bring you into their misery just so you don't ever get what they can't. Be careful out there.
thanks guys, deep in my mind i always though im a weak cause i choose to be lonely than hang out with people who always critizes me even my the way i talk......
the gentleman who said "it's lonely at the top" couldn't have been more right. I stopped communicating with my friend group who were all good people, but I've been lonely lately, but I know it's for the best for myself, and my success.
I recently got rid of some friends that I felt where dragging me down. I finally snapped when they disrespected me in my own house and I kicked them out. Cut off all toxic people and better yourself
Disrespected you in your own house? If that doesnt make you end a friendship then nothing will. Unless you have zero self worth. Hope you are doing better.
Had the same situation happen to me but I didn’t have the courage to do anything because of the situation (long story) but my friend disrespected my parents in their own house, not to their face but to me and that was the beginning of the end
50 cent and the person before him motivated me very much! What would i gain by talking to ignorant people, maybe helping them, but thats hard. Dont have toxic people in your life too.
There seems to be people who don't understand confidence and arrogance. I try to be a confident person, I never put others Down but I do talk myself up and tell people about what I'm going to accomplish and people like to call me 'arrogant' or 'egotistical'. Why should I have to sink down to other people's level of self esteem to make them feel more comfortable about themselves
You be you. The greatest you, you can be. Don't live for others, live for yourself, and you can be and do anything you want. And for those people that judge you, they are only seeing the lack in themselves.
Hanging out with my weed smoking "friends" out right now Doesnt really feel right They only drink alcohol and smoke all the time, it sucks, I wanna meet successful ppl
Ball is LIfe if you want to meet successful people, you have to change your surroundings. Go to networking events, attend seminars. You have to put in the work, but soon enough, you'll be one of those people .
Been there, got out, worked for a big company for a couple years, now I'm 25 and have a small firm of my own. But the first step; is to realize that you're not where you want to be and start taking the nececcary actions to get yourself going in the right direction. Now a days the only times I hear from my old "friends" are the times I hear some of them have been talking shit behind my back, so it kind of says something about the people I used to hang around with. So do yourself a favor and find the people with the skills and qualities that you seek and aspire to be like, and over time you will develop the habits of these people. Do this and you'll thank yourself down the road. Peace
You have basketball in your profile? Stop smoking shit and drinking and gtfo and play ball dude. You'll meet cool people doing that shit and maybe get recognized. Smoking and drinking won't get you anywhere.
Rex Erection I had those friends and I never really felt comfortable around them like I did with my other friends. I finally realized that they where only holding me back because I always felt their intentions where impure. Simply cut them off. Little by little start hanging out with them or do what I did and simply cut them off completely over night
Whilst it’s important to be aware of this and to leave behind toxic, insecure, pessimistic and average people, it’s also important that you aren’t one of these people yourself. The people you should associate yourself with will leave you behind just as you left others behind. It’s a two way thing. Provide something to a relationship the same as you want to take from it.
One of the hardest thing to do is realizing that your love for someone can actually be enabling them to be stuck in their destructive ways. Sometimes leaving them is the kindest thing you can do for them.
such a good video, completely true! I already cut few relations to people I used to hang out with because I realized that they just drain energy from me, they critize and talk shit and only want me to fail, so I cut off the relationship. And I already feel so much better, there's less negativity in my life now, and it feels good! You are the one in charge of your own life, so stop hanging out with people who just steal your time and energy! Especially get rid of the one's who not only make your life worse, but also do it because they feel better when doing it. Those are the worst, and sometimes it can be our best friends and we dont even realize it. In my case, it actually was my best friend, I've known him for over half a decade and back when we both went to the same boarding school, we actually slept in the same room for 2 years. It's very hard to cut off a relationship like that, but you have to care for yourself more than for them if they dont care about you, ok? Good. Have a nice day :)
Exactly! When people know you are undergoing personal growth and they are not, you will see the DEMON in them! I bullshit you not. They use the fact that they are emotionally involved with you to be manipulative and it's sick! Self reliance is priceless!
I watch videos like this every morning when i wake up so i can start my morning off with the right mindset. Its like a pre workout to me. I just get so pumped with positive energy and its such an adrenaline rush.
Great video. I have a group of "friends" who I constantly trying to motivate and they seem to listen to me because they see how hard working and the things I've accomplished. Sadly they never seem to take action and repeat the same mistakes...I've dealt with these people for over 5 years and they still have nothing to show for. I'm grinding harder for MYSELF I can't waste my energy on people who don't even lift a single finger to better themselves.
knnoneill1016 I can definitely see what you are saying but they maybe happy with their life and don’t see a need to change. At this point it’s just up to you to either accept who they are or leave. You can’t make people see in themselves what they don’t see.
It's really true. Once you choose your friends wisely, you go further in life. I experienced this toxic people at work. Once I quit my job in Germany and went to the USA my eyes simply opened up.
Thank you for this video! I had to let go of 3 Narcissistic, Toxic friends because they were acting Insecure, Jealous and Envious towards me and were hindering my growth as a person. They were older than me by a couple of years and I am so glad I cut them out of my life. I started to surround myself with positive people who are uplifting and want to see every one win in life.
Great video! After coaching people for years and seeing the problems with their mindset this led me to find my voice and begin speaking and coaching people with their mindset, "once you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" Keep up the good work guys!
People will talk trash behind your back. These people don't want to see climb the ladder of success and when you do achieved your dreams. They will only try to pretend to be your friend and secretly want you to failed... trust me these people intentions can revealed in situations
"Toxic relationship are relationship with people that always criticize you, all they can do is to find fought, to exploit your weaknesses, to remind you of the mistakes that you've made in the past." I relate to this so much as I live it on myself. It's just the MOST TRUE THING I've ever heard and it moves me.
I love everyone's commentary. 50 cent was on that old school talk. Nothing personal, I am glad one of my friends put his time above everything. I talk to him once a week and thats ok with me.
You are your worst enemy, sometimes being lonely is the best thing I could do. But my own mind forces me to go back to those who I think are my friends. Because I’m afraid of being alone and what people might think.
Keep to yourself, tender to your own business and you will go very far! I’ve even stopped talking in public and looking at people these days. Too much hatred and negative body language the public like to throw at everyone these days! I stay to myself and to my family......
as a 15 year old who has been bullied since year three (don't think I am looking for reassurance or something lol i'm just sharing my story) I strongly believe that you don't need friends and that if they are toxic remove them out of your life this way you can achieve your dreams. But if you don't let go of those toxic relationships your health will be affected and you won't achieve your dreams, they will only bring you down. I have left those toxic relationships and i'm telling you it doesn't get easier. yes it maybe on one hand, as you can be healed, mentally and spiritually, but on the other hand you will lose most friends, who are toxic, and this would mean you are alone. most people say that you are not alone when you feel alone, but I'm telling you. you are alone. until you find that special somebody. YOU DON'T NEED FRIENDS. YOU NEED FAMILY. MAKE MORE FRIENDSHIPS AND IF THEY DON'T MAKE AN EFFORT DROP THEM. this is the only way you can learn who is toxic and who is not. TOXIC PEOPLE WILL BRING YOU DOWN. DESTROY YOUR FUTURE. reply to this comment if you need any advice. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. DON'T LET ANYONE BRING YOU DOWN. I LOVE YOU. GO GET YOURSELF A GLASS OF WATER. HAVE A SHOWER, HAVE SOME FOOD, CLEAN YOUR TEETH, AND STOP CRYING IF YOU ARE. REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE THAT BISCH. AND YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDSHIPS ON YOUR JOURNEY TOWARDS YOUR DREAMS. CAUSE I HAVE. I LOVE YOU AND GO TO SLEEP IF IT IS LATE X HAVE A GOOD DAY
It sucks that my mom and my parents relationship is the one creating toxicity in my own life. I still live at home and am trying to finish up community college as soon as i can so i can transfer out. I want to get out. I need to get out.
I understand what your going through bro. I’m literally in the same boat. I’m currently talking to a therapist because I suffer from depression too and the sad part is that my family’s negativity makes it 100 times worse. Trying to go hard in college is 1000 times more difficult with no support from your fam and even harder when you live at home. I hope that your able to push through and transfer out. Fuck it friends sometimes are better than family so just do your best to weed out the toxic people, even though it may be hard and become self actualized bro. Your not alone man, keep up the grit and LEVEL UP!
Loner Wolf Don't give up. I know of what u speak. Watch The Secret dvd...buy it even. It's on Netflix too. It will change your mindset. Watch it daily. What u focus on u get. #TRUTH
You can get out. I know that this isn't necessarily the advice you need but just in case please be aware that they might try to get you to stay close. It could be anything from guilting you to them having some kind of an emergency. They may fake health problems, even deadly diseases. I know getting out and being no contact helped me. It helps to get a clear mind without their bs games. Lots of good videos here on YT. Don't try to help them. Just go do your thing. If they ever change time will make it evident. Once you go they may act better but just think back to how they're with non-family members and that'll let you know if they're just keeping you at arm's length. If people don't do right by you as a child then they aren't going to when you're an adult. Harsh but you can be your own loving responsible intelligent "mom" or role model and family. Surround yourself with good friends and take care of yourself.
I’m also in the same situation. But I am succeeding now and still living with parents until I can properly move out, I went from 0 to 100. The key: Control your environment. I get it. It really sucks, and nobody can fathom the amount of BS you have to deal with on the daily. And at the same time you’re trying to be your best. #1 use the Mute technique. Literally filter out what they say and do to you. In one ear out the other. Unless it’s something important. #2 develop your inner voice. If they’re guilting or manipulating you, you need a sense of truth to understand you are not doing anything wrong. #3 develop your confidence. This will help you achieve your goals. Which you should break down into actionable tasks. This is a quick summary, but I hope it helps. You are strong, you can get through this. This will NOT be the rest of your life. YOU are in control
This shit happened to me when I was 12 and ever since I suffered from anxeity, depression, and suicidal thoughts.. and 8 years later I finally realized all I have is myself and you just gotta make it the best of it. It may sounds pretty cliches but if everything that happens that has to do WITH YOUR LIFE, YOU GOTTA MAKE THE BEST OF IT!! lol c:
Agustin you are absolutely right! There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. Self reliance is what it is called. I chose to go to a homeless shelter so that I could get away from friends and family because they were so negative! Just because because people are related to you doesn't mean they have your back. So called friends will use the emotional side of life to be be manipulative and I got tired of it. Keep on keepin' on as the saying goes!
I'm almost 24 with very promising independant careers in physical training and illustration. Removed everyone a couple months ago. Literally everyone because they were nothing but haters. I'm much better off and couldn't be happier 😎😍🤩
For those of you that doubt the words of wisdom from this video, you have no idea how much gold is in these peoples words. I know that it is hard to let go of the people that you call friends, or family or girlfriend/boyfriend, and that you will feel lonely and empty for a while but in the end it will be worth it. The burden will be lifted when you move on to bigger and better things in your life. More importantly, find new people to socialize with and remember not to fall into the trap of hanging around toxic people. If you don't know much about what it means to be toxic, look into it. You yourself may be toxic, for that reason you need to work on becoming a better person.
This was the best iv heard in months. I know now what i need to do with my friends, get rid of them. I havent gotten to be that great with them anround me. They have just made me lost my focus and goals. It makes me angry in a way they are always less grownup then me, sometimes it feels like they are just a bunch of kids that just cares about looks and if your popular or not. I been thinking about it before, but this video made me see it all! We all need to choose friends better. - from a 20 year old student.
I already learning this!!! I cut out toxic people and my life feels so much better! It’s a must for your piece of mind and success! Toxic people are a waste of time and must be avoided!!!!
I'm in college now,I dont have any friends,all of these days,I felt too lonely,and didnt like going to college,but this video has changed everything,I have my family and a few people that are really close to my heart, I dont need to be surrounded by any morons..
nah you gotta aim to lead people and inspire them by your own actions. bring out the best and most loving side of yourself so the people in your life start reflecting that. aim to be a little better person every day and dont be afraid to struck up a conversation with strngers. if you leave out prejudices they make awesome friends sometimes and a 5 minute conversation can be so insightful and sometimes change your life or just make your day. aim to be like this and you will always end up where you need be i guess,. just aim in the direction of your dream and become better at what you do. you WILL attract the right people. some of the advice is nice tho. just my opinion. im high boi
Sometimes in life is best to not hang out with too many friends or try seek approval or opinions of fake friends... because what’s mostly important is approving yourself & listening to your self that’s how you can make your goals & dreams to come true once you listen & believe in yourself not anyone else .
you are who u associate with. it's better to be alone...but ppl get lonely..well, some .i guess the strong ones are the ones who can be alone n work hard n get to the top. I guess that's what separates winners from losers. only the elite...some of us are just out here existing...wanting things to change but not changing are self. this was definty motivational. appreciate the video. But no magic pill or video can make u change n be better. you as a person have to dig deep n want to change. As Tyrese Gibson once said...fuck fitting n and running elbows. time to be a winner. For those who are at a constant battle with themselves, who are trying to find themselves again, and their purpose in this world just know I'm with u 100 % well get there...no matter how times we fall , get back up n try again. N figure out how to stay at the top once u get there. some ppl get there n fall right back down. True winners stay dedicated n consistent, that is what makes them winners. For the ones out there winning, respect! keep doing the damn thing, for the ones not so much winning...we were all meant to shine as children do, it's not just in sum of us it's in everyone . Your time will come. Just keep. peace n love to everybody...i love the LGBzt community's. Fuck what a hater gotta say...
Cut out the toxic and negative people. I don't wanna anyone who is negative. 2 months ago I felt so lonely but I don't feel anymore. I cut out all the colleagues that make me feel so small, that are disrespectful towards me. My dream is going away from Albania.
Team Tactical when you die, you get your own coffin (box) so live your life according to the one to a box theory - dont care about peoples opinions and do what you were put here to do
12:33 "Get all of their conditioning out of you. SHAKE off all the frustration! It doesn't belong to you, it's been given to you. Those negative people have robbed you of the strongest version of yourself, and you've got to peel off layers to get to that."
I feel like only issue with what 50cent said is that someone has to be the person offering something to someone else and sometimes that person has to be you... it’s not all about taking, doesn’t mean you have to give all your time and energy away, but if someone is nice enough to give some to you, then what goes around comes around... Community, tribe, connection is the best thing in this life. Success is just empty af without anyone to share it with...
It's a mistake to let them go because most people are toxic, you should just stay from distance not too close but not disconnected because this is life! life is politics and to find the good in the bad, theres no perfect, even the positive people have faults, they can be too much happy when you want support , they can be none emotional at all...like aphatic, there's so many things you need to consider, so just stay in some circle it's ok it's good slowly to get better friends
Daveon wolf Rector when you find the right person to be your friend you will know, until then follow your dreams, and follow the mantra "it is better to be alone, than to be with bad company".
I realized a while ago that all the people I hang with aren't on the same mission as me. I didn't think less of them, I thought less of me, because we all get what we deserve. So if I have loser friends and a loser woman, what does that make me? But at least by cutting off the people who aren't helping you reach your goals, you have 1 less distraction and hurdle to deal with.
I dont even hangout with my family. I have.no friends and I am happy this way. I love people who are better then me. They teach me things. Insecure people are baggage on your life. They are anchors
Some contradictory stuff in there... One person says hang around good people, another one says eagle's fly alone...so should we hang around good people or should we fly alone? If you're going to take out the simple pleasures of life such as watching a football game or having a beer with friends, then what is the value of whatever success you make? i think the best success is living a well balanced life.
David Abraham You speak like someone that knows he’s wasted time on a bar stool. The men on here sell you their ideas and gimmicks. He never said anything but his opinions. He being Dan Pena. If you want to be successful you won’t find it on a bar stool in less your version of success is being able to sit on a bar stool. The fact that you try to poke holes in the advice of successful wealthy people speaks volumes about you. Now what do you think it actually says to other people about you???
David Abraham Your comment made more sense than the fucking video. What I take from this is, do your own thing. If someone follows you, great. If someone is dragging you down, cut the line with no remorse.
David Abraham To sum up: be yourself, get rid of naysayers, people who aren't fruitful, toxic insecure people. Surround yourself by good positive people, keep healthy relationships with people who share your standards. In a nutshell conduct your life like an eagle, with other eagles by your side. I hope that helped you understand better.
I'm 24. I have 3 real friends at this point. Most of my old "friends" are going out and getting wasted on weekends, living with their parents, unemployed, and switching between friend groups because they're insecure and weak, etc. I just got a job with a starting salary of $80,000, which will allow me to be DEBT FREE at age 26, after which I'm buying a house and a brand new Audi A4 with a 7-speed manual transmission and the optic black package (my dream car, not much I know). I stayed in on weekends, worked multiple jobs, and lost A LOT in the process. I've worked my hands to the bone to get here and have been only criticized and downgraded by my old "friends" during that process. Look how that ended up!
let me just summarize! people not to hang out with if you are hanging out with these people stop talking them they will get the message. push read more to find out who to talk to. wanna be gang bangers/ wanna be rappers / drug users / people that like making other people feel bad/ people that want to use you with out providing anything in return and people that don't understand why they are alive and don't have dreams they want to accomplish!! people you should hang out with. people that have dreams and life goals people that want to give you something in return for your time. people that push you to be a better person and people that are at peace with the universe with our without any materialistic things. I took my time to right this don't waste my time hope this helps someone out there truly struggling to find out how to improve them selves.
Sometimes it's hard to realize that you are in a toxic relationship. But the main problem is, what if this "toxic relationship" is someone closely related to you? Like your family that lives under the same roof as you?
Amy Santana same here! After 10 years of no communication, I'm finally not emotionally effed up anymore. My sister and I were thick as thieves in my mind as kids and my Mom was my rock, so letting them go was literally the hardest part. I had no idea they were narcissist until my twenties.
My family is toxic asf! I'm planning to move out in two years and finally have my own bedroom, which I never had, and also have my own girlfriend to sleep in the bed with🙂💪🏼
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It hurt's when your closest peapole are toxic..
Exactly! Family and friends can be the worst people in your life because they are emotionally involved with you. Then they use their emotional involvement with you to be manipulative and try to literally sabotage you because you are undergoing personal growth and they are not. I've had to publicly curse out family members and friends with strangers looking because it got so bad. Sad but true!
No it doesn't this just mean that you are not focused enough
Yes. It’s sad that we know that but when they dont
P S yeah I dropped all of them and now I am alone
But I guess it’s for the better
@Rex Erection lol cut them off, stop texting, stop being in groupchats, Just ghost them, I did this and life is much more peaceful
"Eagles fly above, eagles fly alone"
there's a reason why turkeys hang in a crowd and eagles fly alone.
Unfortunately plenty of walking 'eagles' out there too...so full of shit they can't fly!
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i kicked out all the toxic people out of my life and i have no friends now .. but alteast i still have my family :D
David Nepali In some cases theyll be just as toxic, if not more 💯💯 -facts-
Same brother. I kicked all of them out too. ❤️
That's all you need pal
I did the same thing now im changing for the better and i hope i get some good people with goals in my life
All I have is toxic friends and I hate my family so what do I do?
Being a loner sometimes sucks, but once you step out and meet people and share your dreams and success, you are quick to realize why you choose to be alone. Haters come in all shapes and colors and they will go out of their way to bring you into their misery just so you don't ever get what they can't. Be careful out there.
Jackson So so true.
True but keep in mind, being alone is not the same as being lonely
You worded that perfectly
Trust me you should wanna be alone. You can’t achieve anything with someone nagging you
thanks guys, deep in my mind i always though im a weak cause i choose to be lonely than hang out with people who always critizes me even my the way i talk......
It might feel lonely to leave the friends you grew up with but at the end, you will make friends that will make you grow as a person.
If Les Brown doesn't fire you up, I don't know what to tell you. Dude just emanates energy.
That's plain stupid. You have a volume button btw..
Rusu Traian Cristian Perry 😂😂😂😂
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Rusu Traian Cristian Then you don't get how energy works
tyrone - is HE supporting YOU with everything HE has? if not take YOURSELF out of his circle.
the gentleman who said "it's lonely at the top" couldn't have been more right. I stopped communicating with my friend group who were all good people, but I've been lonely lately, but I know it's for the best for myself, and my success.
there is a Rick Ross song that talks about being lonely at the top
Matthew Rieger the way he put it made success look unattractive in my opinion.
@@whitespanish11 what is the song name?
Why cant you weirdos hang out with your friends and also chase your dreams
Matthew Rieger see u either have 2 decisions, be successful in life or find success in others
I hangout with myself, I am myself
The Unraveller Deep.
Same here
The Unraveller You are alone, because there's only one you
RagingThunder we are in some deep philosophy shit 🙃
Me too. I got 3 friends. My wife and 2 kids
I recently got rid of some friends that I felt where dragging me down. I finally snapped when they disrespected me in my own house and I kicked them out. Cut off all toxic people and better yourself
👏👏 same here.
Disrespected you in your own house? If that doesnt make you end a friendship then nothing will. Unless you have zero self worth. Hope you are doing better.
Had the same situation happen to me but I didn’t have the courage to do anything because of the situation (long story) but my friend disrespected my parents in their own house, not to their face but to me and that was the beginning of the end
50 cent and the person before him motivated me very much! What would i gain by talking to ignorant people, maybe helping them, but thats hard. Dont have toxic people in your life too.
RevivedSoul yes all of these people had awesome advice but 50’s spoke to me the most because his tone was like tough love.
That how feel about these females these day
There seems to be people who don't understand confidence and arrogance. I try to be a confident person, I never put others Down but I do talk myself up and tell people about what I'm going to accomplish and people like to call me 'arrogant' or 'egotistical'. Why should I have to sink down to other people's level of self esteem to make them feel more comfortable about themselves
don't my nigga keep pushing
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Too Fresh Too Clean It may be possible that you're representing your values in a fashion that is...... unacceptable to others.
Too Fresh Too Clean exactly
You be you. The greatest you, you can be. Don't live for others, live for yourself, and you can be and do anything you want. And for those people that judge you, they are only seeing the lack in themselves.
Get comfortable in your own skin. 100% truth. Amazing video. crying crying.
It's important to be able to recognize narcissists and avoid them at all costs!
Hanging out with my weed smoking "friends" out right now
Doesnt really feel right
They only drink alcohol and smoke all the time, it sucks, I wanna meet successful ppl
Ball is LIfe if you want to meet successful people, you have to change your surroundings. Go to networking events, attend seminars. You have to put in the work, but soon enough, you'll be one of those people .
Been there, got out, worked for a big company for a couple years, now I'm 25 and have a small firm of my own. But the first step; is to realize that you're not where you want to be and start taking the nececcary actions to get yourself going in the right direction. Now a days the only times I hear from my old "friends" are the times I hear some of them have been talking shit behind my back, so it kind of says something about the people I used to hang around with. So do yourself a favor and find the people with the skills and qualities that you seek and aspire to be like, and over time you will develop the habits of these people. Do this and you'll thank yourself down the road.
Peace
You have basketball in your profile?
Stop smoking shit and drinking and gtfo and play ball dude.
You'll meet cool people doing that shit and maybe get recognized.
Smoking and drinking won't get you anywhere.
Rex Erection I had those friends and I never really felt comfortable around them like I did with my other friends. I finally realized that they where only holding me back because I always felt their intentions where impure. Simply cut them off. Little by little start hanging out with them or do what I did and simply cut them off completely over night
Then meet successful people. What are you doing hanging around them people??
Whilst it’s important to be aware of this and to leave behind toxic, insecure, pessimistic and average people, it’s also important that you aren’t one of these people yourself. The people you should associate yourself with will leave you behind just as you left others behind. It’s a two way thing. Provide something to a relationship the same as you want to take from it.
Very true.
This comment deserves more recognition
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Self- control is one of the most important thing in life!
I always maintain my distance from ppl because the overwhelming majority of them are shit talkers, energy vampires, and opportunists.
This is so true. There has to be some kind of DISTANCE between yourself and others
One of the hardest thing to do is realizing that your love for someone can actually be enabling them to be stuck in their destructive ways. Sometimes leaving them is the kindest thing you can do for them.
Amazing words of wisdom
12:14 most inspirational thing i've ever heard
Yanrey Pernas his name is Elliot hulse, yes he has lots of intellectual things to say in his channel though he is inactive now I think
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such a good video, completely true!
I already cut few relations to people I used to hang out with because I realized that they just drain energy from me, they critize and talk shit and only want me to fail, so I cut off the relationship. And I already feel so much better, there's less negativity in my life now, and it feels good!
You are the one in charge of your own life, so stop hanging out with people who just steal your time and energy!
Especially get rid of the one's who not only make your life worse, but also do it because they feel better when doing it. Those are the worst, and sometimes it can be our best friends and we dont even realize it.
In my case, it actually was my best friend, I've known him for over half a decade and back when we both went to the same boarding school, we actually slept in the same room for 2 years. It's very hard to cut off a relationship like that, but you have to care for yourself more than for them if they dont care about you, ok?
Good.
Have a nice day :)
Exactly! When people know you are undergoing personal growth and they are not, you will see the DEMON in them! I bullshit you not. They use the fact that they are emotionally involved with you to be manipulative and it's sick! Self reliance is priceless!
I watch videos like this every morning when i wake up so i can start my morning off with the right mindset. Its like a pre workout to me. I just get so pumped with positive energy and its such an adrenaline rush.
Great video. I have a group of "friends" who I constantly trying to motivate and they seem to listen to me because they see how hard working and the things I've accomplished. Sadly they never seem to take action and repeat the same mistakes...I've dealt with these people for over 5 years and they still have nothing to show for. I'm grinding harder for MYSELF I can't waste my energy on people who don't even lift a single finger to better themselves.
knnoneill1016 I can definitely see what you are saying but they maybe happy with their life and don’t see a need to change. At this point it’s just up to you to either accept who they are or leave. You can’t make people see in themselves what they don’t see.
You just can’t help people who won’t help themselves😩
"You have to be use to being alone, and not being lonely." deep.
It's really true. Once you choose your friends wisely, you go further in life.
I experienced this toxic people at work. Once I quit my job in Germany and went to the USA my eyes simply opened up.
Advocatus Diaboli Ich will auch unbedingt nach Amerika, kannst du mir Tips geben?
Thank you for this video! I had to let go of 3 Narcissistic, Toxic friends because they were acting Insecure, Jealous and Envious towards me and were hindering my growth as a person. They were older than me by a couple of years and I am so glad I cut them out of my life. I started to surround myself with positive people who are uplifting and want to see every one win in life.
Insecure people are dangerous! Keep them out your life!
I learned that is better being alone. I have only myself and no one else. Only my mind, myself.
You are what you feed yourself. Watching this video and reading all the comments makes me motivation.
Lovely... my inner self is saying that something is wrong and missing in my life
Lonely until thyself is found
Great video! After coaching people for years and seeing the problems with their mindset this led me to find my voice and begin speaking and coaching people with their mindset, "once you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" Keep up the good work guys!
I have one friend. Maybe two. A friend is more than family. A friend will stand in the gap for you. They motivate you because they love you.
People will talk trash behind your back. These people don't want to see climb the ladder of success and when you do achieved your dreams. They will only try to pretend to be your friend and secretly want you to failed... trust me these people intentions can revealed in situations
"Toxic relationship are relationship with people that always criticize you, all they can do is to find fought, to exploit your weaknesses, to remind you of the mistakes that you've made in the past." I relate to this so much as I live it on myself. It's just the MOST TRUE THING I've ever heard and it moves me.
I love everyone's commentary. 50 cent was on that old school talk. Nothing personal, I am glad one of my friends put his time above everything. I talk to him once a week and thats ok with me.
I kicked all the toxic people out of my life and now my life is taking off in a positive direction!
You are your worst enemy, sometimes being lonely is the best thing I could do. But my own mind forces me to go back to those who I think are my friends. Because I’m afraid of being alone and what people might think.
wow.... avoid insecure people at all cost!!! what a wisdom!
Keep to yourself, tender to your own business and you will go very far! I’ve even stopped talking in public and looking at people these days. Too much hatred and negative body language the public like to throw at everyone these days! I stay to myself and to my family......
This is probably the most effective advice I've ever heard, awesome vid! Subscribing :)
TakeNote Production go get yours bro💯
TakeNote Production :same here peeps..good stuff.
#MeToo
This Just saved my life...thank you so much
Ruben Hernandez watch The Secret dvd too. It's online...and on Netflix too. Good luck :)
as a 15 year old who has been bullied since year three (don't think I am looking for reassurance or something lol i'm just sharing my story) I strongly believe that you don't need friends and that if they are toxic remove them out of your life this way you can achieve your dreams. But if you don't let go of those toxic relationships your health will be affected and you won't achieve your dreams, they will only bring you down. I have left those toxic relationships and i'm telling you it doesn't get easier. yes it maybe on one hand, as you can be healed, mentally and spiritually, but on the other hand you will lose most friends, who are toxic, and this would mean you are alone. most people say that you are not alone when you feel alone, but I'm telling you. you are alone. until you find that special somebody. YOU DON'T NEED FRIENDS. YOU NEED FAMILY. MAKE MORE FRIENDSHIPS AND IF THEY DON'T MAKE AN EFFORT DROP THEM. this is the only way you can learn who is toxic and who is not. TOXIC PEOPLE WILL BRING YOU DOWN. DESTROY YOUR FUTURE. reply to this comment if you need any advice. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. DON'T LET ANYONE BRING YOU DOWN. I LOVE YOU. GO GET YOURSELF A GLASS OF WATER. HAVE A SHOWER, HAVE SOME FOOD, CLEAN YOUR TEETH, AND STOP CRYING IF YOU ARE. REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE THAT BISCH. AND YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDSHIPS ON YOUR JOURNEY TOWARDS YOUR DREAMS. CAUSE I HAVE. I LOVE YOU AND GO TO SLEEP IF IT IS LATE X HAVE A GOOD DAY
I go beyond the fears and limitations of others
It sucks that my mom and my parents relationship is the one creating toxicity in my own life. I still live at home and am trying to finish up community college as soon as i can so i can transfer out. I want to get out. I need to get out.
I understand what your going through bro. I’m literally in the same boat. I’m currently talking to a therapist because I suffer from depression too and the sad part is that my family’s negativity makes it 100 times worse. Trying to go hard in college is 1000 times more difficult with no support from your fam and even harder when you live at home. I hope that your able to push through and transfer out. Fuck it friends sometimes are better than family so just do your best to weed out the toxic people, even though it may be hard and become self actualized bro. Your not alone man, keep up the grit and LEVEL UP!
Loner Wolf Don't give up. I know of what u speak. Watch The Secret dvd...buy it even. It's on Netflix too. It will change your mindset. Watch it daily. What u focus on u get. #TRUTH
You can get out. I know that this isn't necessarily the advice you need but just in case please be aware that they might try to get you to stay close. It could be anything from guilting you to them having some kind of an emergency. They may fake health problems, even deadly diseases. I know getting out and being no contact helped me. It helps to get a clear mind without their bs games. Lots of good videos here on YT. Don't try to help them. Just go do your thing. If they ever change time will make it evident. Once you go they may act better but just think back to how they're with non-family members and that'll let you know if they're just keeping you at arm's length. If people don't do right by you as a child then they aren't going to when you're an adult. Harsh but you can be your own loving responsible intelligent "mom" or role model and family. Surround yourself with good friends and take care of yourself.
I’m also in the same situation. But I am succeeding now and still living with parents until I can properly move out, I went from 0 to 100. The key: Control your environment. I get it. It really sucks, and nobody can fathom the amount of BS you have to deal with on the daily. And at the same time you’re trying to be your best. #1 use the Mute technique. Literally filter out what they say and do to you. In one ear out the other. Unless it’s something important. #2 develop your inner voice. If they’re guilting or manipulating you, you need a sense of truth to understand you are not doing anything wrong. #3 develop your confidence. This will help you achieve your goals. Which you should break down into actionable tasks. This is a quick summary, but I hope it helps. You are strong, you can get through this. This will NOT be the rest of your life. YOU are in control
I know, its hard but you will get through it 💕
i love this!!! i learned this lesson the hard way. i wanted to be everybodys friend. literally thee biggest mistake in my life, seriously!!!!
This shit happened to me when I was 12 and ever since I suffered from anxeity, depression, and suicidal thoughts.. and 8 years later I finally realized all I have is myself and you just gotta make it the best of it. It may sounds pretty cliches but if everything that happens that has to do WITH YOUR LIFE, YOU GOTTA MAKE THE BEST OF IT!! lol c:
Agustin you are absolutely right! There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. Self reliance is what it is called. I chose to go to a homeless shelter so that I could get away from friends and family because they were so negative! Just because because people are related to you doesn't mean they have your back. So called friends will use the emotional side of life to be be manipulative and I got tired of it. Keep on keepin' on as the saying goes!
So brave. All the best in everyway
Please watch what you say bless you
i meet him every week, cant escape this life til im finally 18
I'm almost 24 with very promising independant careers in physical training and illustration. Removed everyone a couple months ago. Literally everyone because they were nothing but haters. I'm much better off and couldn't be happier 😎😍🤩
GET OFF MY BACK
Hugh Jass haha that wad a good one... fuk off fuuuk off...
Dr. Minority wut
You forgot F.U. 3x. It wont work without it hehe
all of that FUSHTRASHON
Lmao
I so agree. If you change the way you look 👀 at things, the things you look 👀 at will change.... Surround yourself with positive people!
I needed this, I am currently having a controversy with my "friend". I realized we are not of the same caliber anymore.
I hang around with John Cena everyday...
Shreyas Vitankar yeah and I date the queen of england
Soul of Cinder is england your city ??
Shreyas Vitankar no. I live on California. It was just sarcasm
Shreyas Vitankar Meme expert spotted
For those of you that doubt the words of wisdom from this video, you have no idea how much gold is in these peoples words. I know that it is hard to let go of the people that you call friends, or family or girlfriend/boyfriend, and that you will feel lonely and empty for a while but in the end it will be worth it. The burden will be lifted when you move on to bigger and better things in your life. More importantly, find new people to socialize with and remember not to fall into the trap of hanging around toxic people. If you don't know much about what it means to be toxic, look into it. You yourself may be toxic, for that reason you need to work on becoming a better person.
This video changed how I view my self.
This was the best iv heard in months.
I know now what i need to do with my friends, get rid of them. I havent gotten to be that great with them anround me. They have just made me lost my focus and goals. It makes me angry in a way they are always less grownup then me, sometimes it feels like they are just a bunch of kids that just cares about looks and if your popular or not.
I been thinking about it before, but this video made me see it all!
We all need to choose friends better.
- from a 20 year old student.
I already learning this!!! I cut out toxic people and my life feels so much better! It’s a must for your piece of mind and success! Toxic people are a waste of time and must be avoided!!!!
I'm in college now,I dont have any friends,all of these days,I felt too lonely,and didnt like going to college,but this video has changed everything,I have my family and a few people that are really close to my heart,
I dont need to be surrounded by any morons..
It's better to be alone then to be with bad association.
nah you gotta aim to lead people and inspire them by your own actions. bring out the best and most loving side of yourself so the people in your life start reflecting that. aim to be a little better person every day and dont be afraid to struck up a conversation with strngers. if you leave out prejudices they make awesome friends sometimes and a 5 minute conversation can be so insightful and sometimes change your life or just make your day. aim to be like this and you will always end up where you need be i guess,. just aim in the direction of your dream and become better at what you do. you WILL attract the right people. some of the advice is nice tho. just my opinion. im high boi
I just got rid of so many toxic people in my life. I know that I deserve better, so I moved on and I know I will attract better.
A good friend helps you when you fall
A best friend laughs and trips you again.
Absolutely
And a fake stupid friend will follow your advice blindly
Love the video! The Strength Camp speaker had me cracking up. Exercise is an amazing outlet to channel anger and frustration.
About to cut some people out for a bit time to get my shit together and go back to school
Do it
Ale St How did it go?
Red Face I’m wondering too
YOU CAN DO IT
I am thankful I have realized who toxic friends are and how they affected myself the past few years. I am gonna take charge and have a steady life 👌
Sometimes in life is best to not hang out with too many friends or try seek approval or opinions of fake friends... because what’s mostly important is approving yourself & listening to your self that’s how you can make your goals & dreams to come true once you listen & believe in yourself not anyone else .
you are who u associate with. it's better to be alone...but ppl get lonely..well, some .i guess the strong ones are the ones who can be alone n work hard n get to the top. I guess that's what separates winners from losers. only the elite...some of us are just out here existing...wanting things to change but not changing are self. this was definty motivational. appreciate the video. But no magic pill or video can make u change n be better. you as a person have to dig deep n want to change. As Tyrese Gibson once said...fuck fitting n and running elbows. time to be a winner. For those who are at a constant battle with themselves, who are trying to find themselves again, and their purpose in this world just know I'm with u 100 % well get there...no matter how times we fall , get back up n try again. N figure out how to stay at the top once u get there. some ppl get there n fall right back down. True winners stay dedicated n consistent, that is what makes them winners. For the ones out there winning, respect! keep doing the damn thing, for the ones not so much winning...we were all meant to shine as children do, it's not just in sum of us it's in everyone . Your time will come. Just keep. peace n love to everybody...i love the LGBzt community's. Fuck what a hater gotta say...
Thank you for your comment !
E. chance respect man stay focused on your shit
I'm going to be a winner and make you so proud .
Note to self
Please watch what you say bless you
Cut out the toxic and negative people. I don't wanna anyone who is negative. 2 months ago I felt so lonely but I don't feel anymore. I cut out all the colleagues that make me feel so small, that are disrespectful towards me. My dream is going away from Albania.
I have a lot of friends but one of them is the one who is best. I got to church with him he is the most positive man I ever met
51 people watching this with their homies!! Lol
Eric Sandoval lol hell yah like " fuck these videos homies for life gee "
I roll by myself
I believe in a 1 to box theory.
Shannon Nefra Care to explain?
Team Tactical when you die, you get your own coffin (box) so live your life according to the one to a box theory - dont care about peoples opinions and do what you were put here to do
That's actually very similar to how I live.
Be yourself we all end up the same
True friends are very rare. I don't have anyone i can call a true friend.
12:33 "Get all of their conditioning out of you. SHAKE off all the frustration! It doesn't belong to you, it's been given to you. Those negative people have robbed you of the strongest version of yourself, and you've got to peel off layers to get to that."
Sucks when the most insecure and dangerous person is your own mom
Kat K i feel bad for you...
I hate to say this but toxic parents are extremely common. Take heart and go your own way.
I can relate 💯 stay strong! Don’t let her get you down.
Get over it and leave you’ll find ur way
Get used to being alone and NOT being lonely! WORD!
My only friend is my girl, shes smart and fun, i learn allot from here.
she probably had an abortion by now (rip your son).
That can be dangerous once you breakup.
Take care, i ve been there.
I feel like only issue with what 50cent said is that someone has to be the person offering something to someone else and sometimes that person has to be you... it’s not all about taking, doesn’t mean you have to give all your time and energy away, but if someone is nice enough to give some to you, then what goes around comes around...
Community, tribe, connection is the best thing in this life. Success is just empty af without anyone to share it with...
Thank you for making this advice for me. I'm changing my mind, my people and my environment.
I learnt alot just now, I think I love company too much, instant change. Eagles fly above, Eagles fly alone, one box theory.
3:41 50's grandpa's advice is profound. Very true.
I go beyond the frustration & fears of everyone else
I go beyond the fears and limitations of other people
It's a mistake to let them go because most people are toxic, you should just stay from distance not too close but not disconnected because this is life! life is politics and to find the good in the bad, theres no perfect, even the positive people have faults, they can be too much happy when you want support , they can be none emotional at all...like aphatic, there's so many things you need to consider, so just stay in some circle it's ok it's good slowly to get better friends
It sucks when your down low and your honest with yourself and people just like to look down on you for anything
I like the background music, but it could be not so loud.
ADEMILSON SILVA hey do u know the name of the background music ?
At the end of the day our family is the only thing that gives us joy...
Remember, Life is short and you have only one life left to spend, So spend it wisely!
What if you have no friends at all 😞😕
Daveon wolf Rector I'm in the same boat
Daveon wolf Rector lmao
Daveon wolf Rector than all the better! Become who YOU want to be!
Daveon wolf Rector when you find the right person to be your friend you will know, until then follow your dreams, and follow the mantra "it is better to be alone, than to be with bad company".
I guess in that case you are a nobody
The subconscious is very deep man. Only feed it what you want it to feed off of.
I realized a while ago that all the people I hang with aren't on the same mission as me. I didn't think less of them, I thought less of me, because we all get what we deserve. So if I have loser friends and a loser woman, what does that make me? But at least by cutting off the people who aren't helping you reach your goals, you have 1 less distraction and hurdle to deal with.
I dont even hangout with my family. I have.no friends and I am happy this way. I love people who are better then me. They teach me things. Insecure people are baggage on your life. They are anchors
This advice has a limit. Some of these "advisors" are snake oil salesmen. Having healthy relationships is key. Balance is the key.
Sleaz Harvey very true. Be careful what relationships you get.
Not true, you get to the top thru insane unreasonable work ethic. That work-life balance thing doesnt cut it.
Some contradictory stuff in there... One person says hang around good people, another one says eagle's fly alone...so should we hang around good people or should we fly alone? If you're going to take out the simple pleasures of life such as watching a football game or having a beer with friends, then what is the value of whatever success you make? i think the best success is living a well balanced life.
David Abraham well Dan Pena has also been exposed for fabricating his ultra wealthy image. He's shady haha
David Abraham you just answered your own question 👌🏼
David Abraham You speak like someone that knows he’s wasted time on a bar stool. The men on here sell you their ideas and gimmicks. He never said anything but his opinions. He being Dan Pena. If you want to be successful you won’t find it on a bar stool in less your version of success is being able to sit on a bar stool. The fact that you try to poke holes in the advice of successful wealthy people speaks volumes about you. Now what do you think it actually says to other people about you???
David Abraham Your comment made more sense than the fucking video.
What I take from this is, do your own thing. If someone follows you, great. If someone is dragging you down, cut the line with no remorse.
David Abraham To sum up: be yourself, get rid of naysayers, people who aren't fruitful, toxic insecure people.
Surround yourself by good positive people, keep healthy relationships with people who share your standards.
In a nutshell conduct your life like an eagle, with other eagles by your side.
I hope that helped you understand better.
Your channel is very different from others..Your videos have high value content and no bullshit. You deserve millions of subs. Bro. Keep it up
I'm 24. I have 3 real friends at this point. Most of my old "friends" are going out and getting wasted on weekends, living with their parents, unemployed, and switching between friend groups because they're insecure and weak, etc. I just got a job with a starting salary of $80,000, which will allow me to be DEBT FREE at age 26, after which I'm buying a house and a brand new Audi A4 with a 7-speed manual transmission and the optic black package (my dream car, not much I know). I stayed in on weekends, worked multiple jobs, and lost A LOT in the process. I've worked my hands to the bone to get here and have been only criticized and downgraded by my old "friends" during that process. Look how that ended up!
My man kirked out at the end lol
let me just summarize! people not to hang out with if you are hanging out with these people stop talking them they will get the message. push read more to find out who to talk to.
wanna be gang bangers/ wanna be rappers / drug users / people that like making other people feel bad/ people that want to use you with out providing anything in return and people that don't understand why they are alive and don't have dreams they want to accomplish!!
people you should hang out with. people that have dreams and life goals people that want to give you something in return for your time. people that push you to be a better person and people that are at peace with the universe with our without any materialistic things.
I took my time to right this don't waste my time hope this helps someone out there truly struggling to find out how to improve them selves.
KingLegg iNc lol wanna be rappers?
Sometimes it's hard to realize that you are in a toxic relationship. But the main problem is, what if this "toxic relationship" is someone closely related to you? Like your family that lives under the same roof as you?
Gabriel Castro you move or they move
Gabriel Castro my mother and my sister. I had to move and disconnect.
Gabriel Castro thats exactly what i was thinking
Amy Santana same here! After 10 years of no communication, I'm finally not emotionally effed up anymore. My sister and I were thick as thieves in my mind as kids and my Mom was my rock, so letting them go was literally the hardest part. I had no idea they were narcissist until my twenties.
My family is toxic asf! I'm planning to move out in two years and finally have my own bedroom, which I never had, and also have my own girlfriend to sleep in the bed with🙂💪🏼
I have a VERY toxic friend and this video helped me so much all this person does is point out my flaws its annoying but I know what to do know
If you can be happy alone, nothing can stop you
you only get as far as the people you talk to for no reason- 50cent
Fly with the crows shot with the crows! I took this advice I now have an empty phone book 🤦♂️🤣 well nearly 💯