How I Stopped Comparing Myself to Others

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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2177

    “Why can’t you be more like ravioli?” “I’m creamy penne. And while I can improve my recipe, I’ll never be ravioli.” - Lana Blakely. :-)

    • @Charlie-Charlot
      @Charlie-Charlot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      And now I want to eat pasta so bad, thank you Lana 😩

    • @mmoarchives2542
      @mmoarchives2542 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      are you coming on to me?

    • @Lordbeerus101
      @Lordbeerus101 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Everyone loves you

    • @dorahegedus6088
      @dorahegedus6088 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I am going to put this quote on my vision board!! Thank you

    • @Lordbeerus101
      @Lordbeerus101 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Lana is so beautiful to everyone

  • @ecomyazan
    @ecomyazan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3446

    The reality is you can't truly compare yourself to others, because when you do it, you're not actually comparing yourself to others, but you're comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone's highlight reel.

    • @shafshaf2522
      @shafshaf2522 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Such a underrated comment 🤟

    • @user-vb3kn6ur3s
      @user-vb3kn6ur3s 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      That's true but just for experiences and that type of things, not for your physic

    • @aileenvillalta5322
      @aileenvillalta5322 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Period

    • @coolstoolgames8374
      @coolstoolgames8374 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Truth

    • @nadya9947
      @nadya9947 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      What if you know someone’s behind-the-scenes and it’s actually better than yours? 🚶‍♀️

  • @smile-uy7mt
    @smile-uy7mt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3923

    Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +403

      One of my favourite quotes!

    • @flow6014
      @flow6014 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      - jordan peterson

    • @andy_holbrook
      @andy_holbrook 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Main man JP

    • @maxsh545
      @maxsh545 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is so true♥

    • @wolfgangclark5603
      @wolfgangclark5603 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that is true but i also think that competitive thinking makes us improve a lot.

  • @tshiamotaje
    @tshiamotaje 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2837

    “The reason you started comparing is because someone else decided to compare you first” 💘😭 That hit home!

    • @laurensthoughts6920
      @laurensthoughts6920 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @Helga Z Aww no! Being fat is soo cute 🥺❤ maybe he couldn't see it.

    • @adnanhowlader143
      @adnanhowlader143 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@laurensthoughts6920 Being fat is unhealthy and prone to many diseases, not cute lol

    • @arpitshivhare217
      @arpitshivhare217 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@adnanhowlader143 luli

    • @RawMindBody
      @RawMindBody 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Story of my life. I am still damaged by it....and I hate that their voice is in my head.

    • @maiapickup1277
      @maiapickup1277 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@adnanhowlader143 in kindergarten, it’s cute.

  • @atsuyak768
    @atsuyak768 3 ปีที่แล้ว +647

    sometimes I feel like I intentionally add toxicity when I go look at certain accounts on Instagram. It's like an addictive feeling mixed with curiosity despite knowing I end up feeling crappy about myself in the end.

    • @DesignzRUs1
      @DesignzRUs1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      SAME.

    • @MajorElementFilms
      @MajorElementFilms 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Can definitely relate. It reminds me of masochistic epistemology - "whatever hurts, must be true." (gotta love ContraPoints

    • @fiftyzanes
      @fiftyzanes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      SAME!!

    • @parkjoytea6362
      @parkjoytea6362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      the way this is so true

    • @k8h991
      @k8h991 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ME TOO

  • @QuestionEverythingButWHY
    @QuestionEverythingButWHY 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1400

    “If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.”
    --Taylor Swift

    • @sara-antoniabogdan939
      @sara-antoniabogdan939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Joshua D at least her music is good (for me)

    • @2PLUS2FIVE
      @2PLUS2FIVE 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      stop spamming are you indian i have seen you in many videos including that of dhruv rathee if your content has power it will go ahead no need to spam everyone u are making ppl hate you

    • @asifhashmat4529
      @asifhashmat4529 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I came here cos I compare my life to Taylor’s a lot

    • @anayansi_iris
      @anayansi_iris 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@2PLUS2FIVE Who are you replying to, and why are you asking them if they're indian in a way to suggest that only indians spam? Everyone can spam comments. I'd choose better wording next time for the sake of clarity, if this wasn't your original line of thinking.

    • @2PLUS2FIVE
      @2PLUS2FIVE 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@anayansi_iris whoa that escalated quickly i asked if he is Indian 'coz i have seen him spamming in DHruv Rathee's comment section from the beginning that's besides i have no intention of being a racist that too particularly to the ethnicity i belong

  • @QuestionEverythingButWHY
    @QuestionEverythingButWHY 3 ปีที่แล้ว +854

    “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
    ― Lao Tzu

    • @kitchendancepartii7025
      @kitchendancepartii7025 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      always.

    • @tprnbs
      @tprnbs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      We CARE all the time what people think about us. Our brains evolved this way, if you weren't valued by the tribe back then it meant death

    • @raulquiroz7492
      @raulquiroz7492 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If that ain't the truth.

    • @kyukachan
      @kyukachan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      truth

    • @CG-wr4no
      @CG-wr4no 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I've been a prisoner for way too long..

  • @nourelhouda2908
    @nourelhouda2908 3 ปีที่แล้ว +527

    « You cannot compare a page or two from someone’s book to you entire book and call it fair » i love your way of explaining things

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly ! Love these words

    • @saba4495
      @saba4495 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, I replayed that part of the video

    • @heyitsme4322
      @heyitsme4322 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      THISSS

  • @IlonaBrant
    @IlonaBrant 3 ปีที่แล้ว +480

    As a person, who had been bullied for being chubby, it is so unbelievable to hear, that skinny girls had issues about being skinny... I guess people judge everything. Growing up I always thought that life would be easier if I was thin...and now I hear a person, who has the body type I always dreamed about... Talk about how they tried to be thicker.. This is sad.. Nothing is good enough for society, so we must just love ourselves and show it to the world and those haters.

    • @neximus672
      @neximus672 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      i think ur really gorgeous

    • @IlonaBrant
      @IlonaBrant ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@neximus672 Thank you so much

    • @ThatHonestPerson
      @ThatHonestPerson ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Girl you are so fine and drop dead gorgeous. Like For real!

    • @neximus672
      @neximus672 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@IlonaBrant

    • @IlonaBrant
      @IlonaBrant ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ThatHonestPerson Oh my God thank you! 😳 It's so nice of you to say that! Thank you so much

  • @annarosalyn7372
    @annarosalyn7372 3 ปีที่แล้ว +838

    The best thing I did was unfollow anyone on social media that made me feel like shit. Now, I only follow accounts that inspire me or people I care about. Truly life changing!

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +125

      Me too! The occasional social media purge is very satisfying.

    • @mysteriousm3297
      @mysteriousm3297 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same

    • @colleenwynia
      @colleenwynia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Omg I totally hear you! I just posted a new video on exactly that.. comparing yourself to others and the negative impact like when I look at social media. Love your suggest to unfollow and revisit who you follow to feel good

    • @g.a609
      @g.a609 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I want to do this but i can't 😑

    • @knal7732
      @knal7732 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same and i even delete all my followers

  • @dianaf9997
    @dianaf9997 3 ปีที่แล้ว +680

    I hope there are days when your coffee tastes like magic. Your playlist makes you dance, strangers make you smile, and the night sky touches your soul. I hope there are days when you fall in love with being alive. (From the Internet)

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Thank you so much ! This message was short but powerful !

    • @Dimakatso.K
      @Dimakatso.K 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank you for this 😢

    • @christineburns3041
      @christineburns3041 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Diana F., soooo beautiful to me. Thanks for sharing. Great peace inside out. :)

    • @flamingaish
      @flamingaish 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh wow

    • @wings2769
      @wings2769 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      💙🦋💙🦋💙🦋

  • @celiajayne2453
    @celiajayne2453 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1993

    *skinny shaming is a real thing.*

    • @justme-vj5cc
      @justme-vj5cc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      It truly is

    • @dd-eb3bo
      @dd-eb3bo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      y e s. it killed my self esteem when i was a teenager and i still struggle being a grown woman.

    • @finalfantasy2713
      @finalfantasy2713 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      I'd rather be skinny shamed than fat shamed. I'd actually feel happy lol

    • @dd-eb3bo
      @dd-eb3bo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      @@finalfantasy2713 have You experienced either ?

    • @celiajayne2453
      @celiajayne2453 3 ปีที่แล้ว +145

      @@finalfantasy2713 Both are body shaming and neither would feel good. I've been skinny shamed my whole life and now I have little to no confidence. I hate my body and I don't see my self ever truly loving it. All body shaming is hurtful, cruel and can strongly effect someones life. They are both damaging.

  • @gaurabmohanjoshi525
    @gaurabmohanjoshi525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +291

    *IF YOU COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS YOU'RE INSULTING YOURSELF*
    - Bill gates

    • @humanii9037
      @humanii9037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yeah you're not respecting yourself. Always put yourself first.

    • @alessiasutherberry
      @alessiasutherberry 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      so true cx

    • @jostsomuan8012
      @jostsomuan8012 ปีที่แล้ว

      it was Hitler that said that. sorry to break it to you. no i don’t like hitler. i hate him and what he represents.

  • @aimeejane_writings
    @aimeejane_writings 3 ปีที่แล้ว +562

    Since quitting social media, my life has become the best it has ever been. No more toxic people, no more stupid posts, no more self-comparison. I absolutely love it. I feel like I can properly enjoy life and live it to the full now. My perspective on everything has changed.

    • @ananyaa.x
      @ananyaa.x 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      same here. i've quitted social media since the last 6 months and i feel a LOT better

    • @xdiaz755
      @xdiaz755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      SAME

    • @dadada486
      @dadada486 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I have these comparison issues, but social media never really added to it. Maybe I just don't have these kinds of friends, but noone is really bragging on there and noone is really super impressive.

    • @phuockhailam6763
      @phuockhailam6763 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've been away from social media for 4 months.

    • @remochii
      @remochii 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can't wait to do the same once after I graduate, since a lot of college work is dependent on contacting others and using groups.

  • @mr.gamewatch7547
    @mr.gamewatch7547 3 ปีที่แล้ว +520

    “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not. Remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” Epicurus

  • @NazaNalani
    @NazaNalani 3 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    *”A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” Beautiful video Lana! I’ve been working on a how to stop comparing video on my channel too and excited to create it especially now with this inspiration from you!*

  • @juanfernandomoyanoramirez600
    @juanfernandomoyanoramirez600 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I used to feel sad while surfing through social media until I decide to quit Instagram. Since then I try to not to compare myself and my productivity has increased exponentially.

  • @natemarx4999
    @natemarx4999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1468

    It would be hard to compare Lana to anyone else. This is the only TH-cam channel that legitimately makes me smile while i think.

  • @jesswang1804
    @jesswang1804 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I definitely agree with separating yourself from things that are pulling you into envy. I used to think this made me weak because I couldn't handle certain things without being jealous but honestly once I started removing things from my life, I started to care about them less as well. Just giving things attention is what made them important in my life and once I no longer gave them time, they stopped mattering as much

  • @yongy1133
    @yongy1133 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Recognising who you are and accepting that is as deep as it can get.

  • @ChristaBello
    @ChristaBello 3 ปีที่แล้ว +675

    If you are reading this: YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH. What YOU ARE no one else IS! You are VALUABLE! You are WORTHY of the GREATNESS that you desire.

    • @zahra7755
      @zahra7755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Alina Andreea Ene Awhh honey, I'm sure that there are more people on this planet with the same interests and struggles you have, perhaps you haven't found them yet. You could do some research online and join a community with the same values you uphold. I'm sure that it might be scary at first, especially when you're an introvert but it will be worth it 💕

    • @ThePositivityPrincess
      @ThePositivityPrincess 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christina! Hello! You too are so much more than enough! Have a blessed day!

    • @ThePositivityPrincess
      @ThePositivityPrincess 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      There is some shadow work to be done! Yes. Indeed .. thank you for bringing this all to my attention. I needed to take a good look at myself

    • @jamien.5528
      @jamien.5528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Alina Andreea Ene girl I can literally relate so much to this right now :( You’re not alone!!

    • @ThePositivityPrincess
      @ThePositivityPrincess 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Alina Andreea Ene Alina Andreea Ene you are exactly how you are supposed to be. I used to feel just like this.
      Join my Facebook group. It’s all about love and positivity.
      facebook.com/groups/ehbepositive/
      You would fit in there perfectly.
      You must see that being different means you are being authentically you. I want u to focus on one person. There must be one person that is supportive to you. If there isn’t ... you have me... and I love u just for being you... lastly.... google “dark night of the soul”.. that will help u. Sounds like that is what’s happening to u.

  • @pumpkin2127
    @pumpkin2127 3 ปีที่แล้ว +179

    Confession: I used to compare myself to you alot to the point I became jealous of you. I noticed that I always compare myself to people who have similar personality to me. And usually I would envy everyone, it almost felt like they stole something from me, like if it wasn't for their existence I would have got that position. Jealousy makes us feel like those people we envy took our achievement : I should be the one in that position... Ect. Usually I'm good not comparing myself to others but I cannot help it but fall to the mistake of comparing myself to people who have my type of personality and face? (weird I know hhh). But I forced my self to watch you and instead of hating you, I learned to learn from you. I started Journaling because of your video and by writing more and more, I was no longer in denial with my negative emotions. Admetting i'm jealous was hard but few days later when I got the notification of a new upload: I was no longer holding bad thoughts nor comparing myself t you. It's like with my confession, all the emotions blew away. Thank you Lana for being you and perfectly perfect from your imperfections

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      Wow. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing this!! I love what you wrote about feeling like someone stole something from you, that's truly what it can feel like. I'm also very happy to know that journaling has helped you :-) Lots of love.

    • @pumpkin2127
      @pumpkin2127 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@LanaBlakely omg! Thank you so much for responding! You made my day :)

    • @pumpkin2127
      @pumpkin2127 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @Niconoclastic Neoc thank you very much for the lovely reply. To be honest I wasn't expecting anyone to read this comment. But I wanted to write this so I can get it out of my chest. Lana has always been transparent in her videos so I wanted to be honest as someone who's been watching her from the very beginning.

    • @TheLoachman
      @TheLoachman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@pumpkin2127 More people read comments than you think.
      A lot of wisdom and knowledge can be found within many of them, including yours.

    • @christineburns3041
      @christineburns3041 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TheLoachman, that is very true and I usually always read others' comments as well. It is great to get more than one persons' outlook on important subjects, ideas, views. etc.. Peace within & out. :)

  • @gsalien2292
    @gsalien2292 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Once a person can objectively set their own goals and standards, the only comparison necessary is against oneself.
    Great video!

  • @TheProdigalMeowMeowMeowReturns
    @TheProdigalMeowMeowMeowReturns 3 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    Lana Blakely has no reason to compare herself to others. She’s a goddess.

  • @jonte6837
    @jonte6837 3 ปีที่แล้ว +455

    Lana, you could just be a model. Pose and use your beauty for money and fame. Yet instead, here you are. Helping people. Spreading wisdom. Being vulnerable for hundreds of thousands of people to see. This is why you're so precious and we will always support you. No offence to models btw.

    • @khaccanhle1930
      @khaccanhle1930 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      She leverages her beauty, she knows it and uses it.

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes! She is such a gem

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      vulture cyclops disagree with you, her content is inspiring !

    • @wolverine974801
      @wolverine974801 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Yeah she is very beautiful and that is definitely a plus in life. Good looking people earn. more money, more likely to get married, and just generally have more opportunities in life. I have known plenty of beautiful girls, and many are entitled snobby, delish creeps. Lana has a nice personality too and she is well spoken, that is why her channel is a success. Best of luck to her.

    • @khaccanhle1930
      @khaccanhle1930 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Niconoclastic Neoc I make no Complaint, just an observation. Stating the facts.

  • @clairwerk9521
    @clairwerk9521 3 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    Honestly, the most sexy Attribute a Person can have is just being themselves. You cant really change peoples Opinions, so just enjoy yourself and be who you are. There are always People who dont like you and always some who like you. No one can be loved by everyone. You may be ashamed of your ears, but i can assure you there are alot of People who exactly Love that about you :)
    We should all stop judging others and start appreciate. Love for all of you

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly ! You can’t change people’s opinion and just be yourself and be happy about yourself ! Well said

    • @MinimalLovin
      @MinimalLovin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      just being youtself won't change shit.

    • @k8h991
      @k8h991 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you

  • @andreagarciarojas6977
    @andreagarciarojas6977 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    It's hard for me to believe you have insecurities (even though I know we all have them). I remember the first time I saw one of your videos in my homepage and I thought "This girl is one of the prettiest girls I've seen"
    The way we percibe ourselves it's way to different from the way people around do. I admire you, you are even prettier inside. ❤️

  • @adeyp3871
    @adeyp3871 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Sorry that you were teased, People can be cruel. They were just jealous.
    Nobody is perfect. Glad you are strong enough to cope.

  • @mosfet987
    @mosfet987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    This goes to show that even very beautiful people can be insecure about themselves. And in before anyone calls me out for being a simp - Yes, Lana's beautiful. No doubt about that.
    But point is, no matter who you are, you will have insecurities. Even if you're 'perfect'.
    And sometimes it can take just one comment to destroy your confidence and self esteem.
    Be kind people!

    • @abby_bit7567
      @abby_bit7567 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Calling someone beautiful, isn't simping bruh.

  • @MisterPol
    @MisterPol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    Everyone has flaws, but few people show them. The problem with comparing yourself to others is that you just pick the "qualities" they show, but omit all other characteristics that make them "them". Start comparing yourself to who you were yesterday, and you'll fall in love with who you are becoming! ❤️

    • @MisterPol
      @MisterPol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      And great video, thank you Lana for all your inspiration!

    • @mayinea8037
      @mayinea8037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👏👏

    • @gabrielgrigore526
      @gabrielgrigore526 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's so true. A true comparison is only valid if you know everything about the person. And the only person that you can truly know everything about is yourself :)

    • @MisterPol
      @MisterPol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@gabrielgrigore526 100%!

    • @nicimie
      @nicimie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Dude you’re commenting on like every video I watch 😂

  • @hazelgreen024_
    @hazelgreen024_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It's like everyone goes through these things but only few of them have the courage to speak up and make us aware.

  • @classyme7533
    @classyme7533 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I remember when I was young, I had a “friend” who would called me fat because of how my belly stood out. I didn’t realize until a few years later that she was a horrible friend. I started to eat less and constantly do exercises just to lose weight. I think I did had a lil eating disorder in that time. I’m glad I don’t that anymore (I still exercise time to time thou) I feel better but yes I do still compare myself to others and I need to work on not doing that anymore.

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I can totally feel your pain , my ex best friend did that to me

    • @sugarmilk28
      @sugarmilk28 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I tend to always praise my friends curvy body. They would always say they were self conscious about some part of their body, but I would always reassure them they looked fine. I'm skinny and sadly some of them started build their confidence by putting me down. I had to let them go.
      Body positivity all the way!

    • @Taxxpy
      @Taxxpy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      he motivated you to workout so you should thank him

  • @ibnamin9388
    @ibnamin9388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +213

    Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
    “Look at those who have less than you and do not look at those who have more, lest you should belittle the blessings of Allah (that you already possess).”
    Hadith in Ibn Majah

    • @faizaseptania4532
      @faizaseptania4532 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Thanks for sharing beautiful hadith. May Allah always bless you :)

    • @iliveinarichgirlsdream
      @iliveinarichgirlsdream 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Allah don't be talking about nothing tell him to dm me

    • @cuvvm8067
      @cuvvm8067 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      iowegodmoney Allah means god

    • @marwaaaa420
      @marwaaaa420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ibn Amin yeah , I'm Muslim and was always told to be thankful when I was feeling anything negative now I feel unheard and feel horrible bcz I feel bad about myself when I'm not feeling good :)

    • @user-if5me6kl5q
      @user-if5me6kl5q 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Beautiful

  • @justokaykk9123
    @justokaykk9123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +179

    This video is coming at a great time since during this year most people are probably staying home and scrolling through their social media more often than not and comparing their lives to everyone else that's posting their absolute best and most filtered stories. great video as always! 😊

    • @justokaykk9123
      @justokaykk9123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Alina Andreea Ene agreed!!

    • @kitchendancepartii7025
      @kitchendancepartii7025 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      very true!

    • @mariego2068
      @mariego2068 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      True!!!!!!

    • @SteAndRach
      @SteAndRach 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      totally agree, social media can be so toxic for comparison! We actually made a video about it recently and our take is that if we want to be happy this is one of the major habits to drop! We should only be comparing ourselves to ourselves . That's the best way to improve: focus on our path, do our best and block the rest!

  • @susmitapatro3082
    @susmitapatro3082 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "I'm grateful to Lana Blakely." - This is what I write in my journal everyday .Thank you for your valuable lessons :))

  • @MALOsstuff
    @MALOsstuff 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Hey! I'd definitely like more in depth videos on this topic since this is my biggest problem and the reason I am feeling down everyday. I started going to therapy for this but it would help me so much to see/ hear your videos, your experience and your thoughts since you are speaking out of your own experience! Thank you so much xx

  • @inesmonteiro6047
    @inesmonteiro6047 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I had to leave social media because I was so insecure and I couldn't stop comparing me to others. It was physically painful to look at the mirror and sometimes it still is.
    Comparing ourselves to others is the worst we can do. No one is the same and we're all made in our own way. We just need to be good people and be a better person than u were yesterday. Focus on yourself not others to be happy.

  • @nazeemafarisha7956
    @nazeemafarisha7956 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I love when lana blakely posts something like she's been following me around the whole time

  • @sydney9912
    @sydney9912 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just finished crying about the way I look & telling myself I’m ugly and that I’ll never be loved or enough. Thank you for making this video and sharing. I know it’s gonna take some time but I definitely feel like one day I’ll stop comparing myself to others & start feeling confident. 💕

  • @joshuathinkingoutloud
    @joshuathinkingoutloud 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your style, which I resonate with, has inspired me to take a different turn with my TH-cam channel. Embracing my introverted, aesthetic-seeking, bibliophile tendencies...we shall see how this progresses. Thank you for being a calm and soothing voice while offering us a reprieve from modernity's over stimulation.

  • @ofeliamicewicz7861
    @ofeliamicewicz7861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    As always - perfect timing. I needed this so badly

  • @mildadreyer
    @mildadreyer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    Speaking honestly, I would never think and even notice that there is something odd about your ears (if you wore your hair up). Perhaps it's only how you see (used to see) them? You are beautiful, Lana.

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Thank you Milda! It depends on the angle, too, and I think it's more apparent when I wear a tight ponytail. I never pay attention to it anymore though.

    • @loveoneanother-yt
      @loveoneanother-yt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lana Blakely my beautiful daughter has the cutest little ears that stick out. It makes her uniquely her. Like you she is beautiful inside and out. As a mother, I am most proud of her inner beauty. 🌸

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, I agree, maybe bcoz in most videos her hair are not tied up

    • @mildadreyer
      @mildadreyer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@missrelaxed3872 Right, but I didn't notice anything even when she had it tied up, for example, in the video "How I stopped being judgemental". Simply normal, cute ears :)

  • @leannlai1762
    @leannlai1762 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thankyou so much Lana, I was having a really bad day. I have a sleepover at my friends' place. I keep comparing my self to them and I'm jealous that they have so many luxury stuff and all other stuff are just better than mine. I know this was so toxic. I''m slowing but surely training myself to not compare to others.

    • @SteAndRach
      @SteAndRach 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love that you opened up about it, that's the first step to let go of anything! One of our favorite quotes is "comparison is the thief of joy", we actually made a spoken word poetry video about it on our channel! We hope it helps and enjoy the sleepover 💛☺️

  • @paulinalinalina
    @paulinalinalina 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    When I see some person having, being or doing something I think I want, it is so motivated and I am like : O, if someone can do, be, or have this and that, than this is possible, and I can too.

  • @maricarmenbaldeonsilva217
    @maricarmenbaldeonsilva217 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I really needed this, I see people my age or younger who are successful and have a lot of the things i wish i have. All of this things have been so bad for my mental health and the way I express myself to the world. I need to have more confidence and stop comparing myself to others (even though its hard). Thank you Lana for this amazing video, as always :). Its nice to know Im not the only one dealing with this.

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm glad you found it useful Mari. Thank you

  • @FemaleRapGuru
    @FemaleRapGuru 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I just want to say. Thank you. As an introvert your videos keep me sane and encouraged.

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      This put a smile on my face :-)

  • @Howlite__
    @Howlite__ ปีที่แล้ว +4

    8:42 Wow. This really hit me. I've been comparing myself to these unrealistic standards that I see and thinking I'm not good enough but the realisation that there is more to it than can be seen is just so reassuring

  • @KiranKumarYT
    @KiranKumarYT 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are amazing and this video is amazing as always. Keep up the good work.

  • @Patricia-fi9zo
    @Patricia-fi9zo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    So many encouraging thoughts, we're all so different so there is really no point at comparing yourself to others all the time. I have to say your openness and vunerability is inspiring Lana!

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you Patricia

  • @mynameisliana
    @mynameisliana 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    My friend and I were just talking about this yesterday. About how if you start to feel jealous, don’t resent that person. Let them inspire you and let them know that. It makes me feel better when I compliment and/or like photos of people I may feel envy towards. It feels like I’m rejecting my insecurity, but it’s still hard. Just gotta remember no ones life is perfect, and be thankful for what I have. Cliche... but yeah.

  • @ChrissyZayas
    @ChrissyZayas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don’t know how anyone could dislike your videos, you are so sweet and encouraging. Keep doing what you are doing! 👏

  • @hermionecutiepie
    @hermionecutiepie 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just found your channel yesterday accidentally and I am glad I found it. Your videos are so relatable. I am going through all of them ever since (anxiety, lack of confidence, negative thoughts, etc) I was a teen. I wish I am just like you. I envy how calm and confident you are. Your voice is relaxing that it makes me wonder how you are when you are angry. You seem smart and kind. You are also really pretty!

  • @aboundinggrace7029
    @aboundinggrace7029 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full." Psalm 139:14
    Thank Jesus 😊

  • @nazeemafarisha7956
    @nazeemafarisha7956 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    This is the most relatable youtube channel ever

  • @redtulippie
    @redtulippie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is your second video that i am watching consecutively. thank you for filming this video and saying the things you did.

  • @strawwberryyy
    @strawwberryyy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    your channel is literally a blessing! you're covering such important video topics

  • @wi1468
    @wi1468 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    It's crazy how much I relate to all of your past stories. I used to be bullied by friends and family for being too skinny to the point that I developed an ed in order to look "normal". But even after that they still point at my body and criticize it... I also still don't wear my hair up because I also got teased for having big ears and a bigger looking head but I feel like what you said about looking like an elf will make me love them :)

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      People will try to put you down regardless of what you look like! Some people will just scan you in the hopes of finding something that they can make you feel bad about. I hope you'll start accepting your ears too, fellow elf :-)

    • @pondy3490
      @pondy3490 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m skinny and had an eating disorder Muscle Dysmorphia. In which I would force feed myself to gain weight. I’m recovered now and eat because I’m hungry, not because I hate myself 💕

  • @sabinaeinstein
    @sabinaeinstein 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    You're a truly magical human being, Lana!

  • @demarcomya
    @demarcomya 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, I love you sm. Thank u for making me feel at peace everytime my heads gonna explode from all the thoughts that keeps on confusing me. You're like the big sister I never had. Thank you for existing and sharing your calming thoughts. Love you, Lana!

  • @BenDover-fo5os
    @BenDover-fo5os 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This really helped me clear my head! Thank you Lana you’re honestly so inspiring

  • @sheila.elizabeth
    @sheila.elizabeth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    It's crazy how this video came at perfect timing, I was struggling with these thoughts yesterday.....BTW 3 jeans that's insane 😯

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Yep! Can only imagine what I looked like walking around like I got cement in my pants! Kids can really be cruel.

    • @sheila.elizabeth
      @sheila.elizabeth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@LanaBlakely Tell me about it, time to unfollow people that triggers the Dobby Level for my own good. Thanks for all your videos Lana, very inspiring 🕊

  • @davidbone3314
    @davidbone3314 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Shes been on my mind and motivating me since i found her channel. Completely random in my youtube home. I just read finished her favorite book Stoner last night. This pandemic has made me kind of a loner tbh so its been nice burying myself in books especially the ones she recommends and its been helping me..

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      How is the stoner? Thinking of buying this!

    • @davidbone3314
      @davidbone3314 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@missrelaxed3872 Its good and worth a read. I havent read any fiction either for a quite a while so this was the first fiction book i read all the way through since lord of the rings fellow ship, and the first 2 harry potters

  • @farzadazimzadehmilani9993
    @farzadazimzadehmilani9993 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for your video. It starts with accepting that we are comparing ourselves to others. It’s actually the terrible feeling of catching ourselves while doing it. But there is nothing u can’t change if u want it bad enough.

  • @YasLove111
    @YasLove111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Huge, huge thank you Lana, you have talked about many subjects I have struggled with, your videos are so comforting and helpful and you made me aware of journaling which I now do allot thank you!💗💗

  • @sarahasklegod6922
    @sarahasklegod6922 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You Always choose the best subjects I just love ur videos

  • @dorothypoon5360
    @dorothypoon5360 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    the topics of your videos .. read. my mind. thank you lana, i love you.

  • @Alice-lp8lu
    @Alice-lp8lu 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have just found your channel randomly,and trust me,I'm in a need of such talks,I love it and carry on!!!!💕

  • @trippytrappy4282
    @trippytrappy4282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow, wasn't expecting a video like this from a beautiful person like you. Now I can relate my situation with you and understand better. Thank you so much for making this video, it will help me a lot.

  • @hard2kill16
    @hard2kill16 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    it doesn't matter how someones body look like everyone is unique in their own ways, if you have a beautifull heart that is much more than a body and a beatifull heart is rare these days! and don't forget the smile :) Amen

  • @anushkasingh7136
    @anushkasingh7136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I literally took notes from this video to be reminded again and again, that is how helpful it is. Thank you so much.

  • @marianapenalopez7060
    @marianapenalopez7060 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really enjoy these talks with you. You let me many wise advices and I feel they allow me to grow a lot and become a stronger woman. I have my struggles with self comparison. I'm still on the way of overcoming it, these topic really help me.

  • @stephanienabweteme5522
    @stephanienabweteme5522 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lana out here saving my soul. No but for real. You've really helped me out in so many ways

  • @MerryOlSoulGigglesmith
    @MerryOlSoulGigglesmith 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Missed you lana.
    Nice cup of tea & Lana Blakey on a Sunday evening, divine.
    Body image and peer pressure is a psychological mine field.
    Glad you are happy 🤘🤓

  • @RebelReine
    @RebelReine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    CONGRATULATIONS on 361K , Lana!
    You have motivated me everyday for the past 6 months and I am truly grateful for that! Watching you grow this fast makes me really happy.
    And my channel is growing too!! I have just passed a 300 subs and I am really proud to tell you that!
    You are the type of person I aspire to be, everyday!

  • @tazadams7931
    @tazadams7931 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It’s awesome seeing how you put yourself out there and show the world the things we all go through and add value to others walk in life. Love your work😊

  • @DishikaTrivedi
    @DishikaTrivedi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I am just coming out of ED and being comfortable in my own body & mind has been my top priority lately. There is so much we learn about ourselves once we stop comparing and start looking within, the potential we have and the core of our truth. There will always be fall backs but with every fall, we discover a strength that was previously unknown. I hope all of you find that love and acceptance within yourself, that you truly ARE. (:

  • @dagmarh2583
    @dagmarh2583 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Woah, I just started going down the comparison spiral and then I saw your video. Talk about perfect timing! Thank you so much for this ❤

  • @GuledM1
    @GuledM1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    my fav youtube channel ; thank u lana for this update , you really changing more lives :)

  • @rakhimahajan5384
    @rakhimahajan5384 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every single person is unique individual so let not compare yourself with others...no one could be you but only you

  • @VASUNTHARAI
    @VASUNTHARAI 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just recently found your channel. I’m so glad that I did!! I love your thoughtfulness, you really inspire me and a lot of people here!! Great work!❤️❤️

  • @jacks.7579
    @jacks.7579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love this channel so much

  • @aminedk2830
    @aminedk2830 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for all the lessons you give me

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you for being here.

  • @juliebaker2195
    @juliebaker2195 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your feelings on your younger self. This is just a powerful message for other people, I love that.

  • @fractalmandelbrot8021
    @fractalmandelbrot8021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You look stunning...forget what people say, most people aren’t happy with themselves, so they look to destroy other peoples ego/ esteem/ image. Keep your chin up, I love listening to you, and you’re a breath of fresh air looking at you...adorable!!

  • @chanteblight2850
    @chanteblight2850 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your channel is just so amazing

  • @dariakovalchuk251
    @dariakovalchuk251 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I came here because my heart told me, not the bell

  • @JessicaGrey
    @JessicaGrey 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh my god it's so crazy how I have seen a lot of your videos and never once noticed your ears even in the video where you said that your ears are glowing I swear I never noticed that until you just said it now!

  • @luviamartinez7195
    @luviamartinez7195 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lana, your honesty makes you so powerful! You are unique and beautiful!

  • @anthonypc1
    @anthonypc1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    👂 I Love those glowing fairy ears 👂

  • @danielaaguilar9783
    @danielaaguilar9783 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi lana, i want to say that your videos really inspire me and i am really hoping to change my life and become a better version of myself❤ love your channel and youre doing great, have a nice day

  • @AnnieGirlVlogs
    @AnnieGirlVlogs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your videos pushed me to actually do better videos. I am soooooooo happy I found your channel! I hope you keep doing what you do! You're gonna be so much influential !

  • @nmnYT
    @nmnYT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is one of the most 'Complete' videos I've seen online, As a content creator, how do you go about making videos that are honest, unfiltered and on point? I'm happy I discovered your channel 😊

  • @Ross-ve9ww
    @Ross-ve9ww 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’ve only been watching your channel for about 2 weeks now and you’re already an inspiration to me!!

    • @RebeccaAbraxas
      @RebeccaAbraxas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know .. just found her a few days ago .. after watching her here in some way feel more permission to be ME ON MY CHNNEL .. she is such a lovely bride g😊🦋

  • @tithisrivastava9067
    @tithisrivastava9067 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You are an angel lana... I'm 17 and really so much inspired by you ❤

  • @notavailable2527
    @notavailable2527 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i'm barely able to make it through a video where a person just sits and talks but i felt bad when this video ended. whatever Lana says hold so much value, i could keep listening to her for days

  • @itsangelajane
    @itsangelajane 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was enjoying her whole talk when she said that was all for today's video. I have something to look forward to every week & it really makes me happy, thank you for this! Sending you lots of love & good things!! ❤

  • @anndiee88
    @anndiee88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for this video, It is really helpful for me, you always make me feel so calmed, I never miss your videos 🤍 sending love from Chihuahua Mexico 🇲🇽

  • @michaelwiebe4282
    @michaelwiebe4282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Amazing video, Lana! Very deep insights.

  • @vdsoibwe
    @vdsoibwe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The best thing I ever did during this pandemic is watch your video. Now, one video left then I can comfortably keep up with your new videos and rewatch them to suit my struggle in the future. Thank you so much for making these kinda video, it's more than helpful! ♡♡♡

  • @keiswift7637
    @keiswift7637 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You’re a very genuine person! We need more like you 🥺✨💎