I have always had that "needing to be acceptable to others" - as you say it is sad and for me a hopelessness feeling. Be worthy to yourself first, then practice, then we can be worthy to others. I just wrote down (pen and paper) Michael's magic algorithm points. Pretty sure I need to repeat them for a while. I wonder if I wrote them every morning would that send /emphasis the message to my subconscious.
Dang, you just blew my mind a little bit more! Thank you. I always saw myself as a background character in others lives... but this is my life... I’m my main event.. and I’m the star! Michael! That was a game changer. Thank you... sharing this everywhere.
* be a star of your own movie 0:00 * think/mindset change - "how other person can get my approval" * say no to other people * put yourself first * self-love * try to be independent on your own
When I used to be like “how can this person get my approval”, I used to be “an annoying person” or “a person who doesn’t like anyone else”, as someone said a lot to me. 😂
I also think it's very respectful not to "lead people on" by acting like you like them when you don't really. It is maybe a bit painful in the no-phase but down the road it is for the better for both of you. This applies to both romantic and platonic relationships. I find it very sad to imagine my friends hanging out with me just to be kind. I want them to want it either way.
wow!! this really helped me thank you so much.. I just came back from work and I was invited to this event that I really didn't want to go.. and I refused it but I was feeling guilty and felt like I was missing a huge opportunity .. when it was only a normal event that I know deep down I didn't want to attend ... seeing your video cleared things in my mind.. thank u so much... ☺
I think that depends on your standards. If you are a nice person you would naturally like nice people. And I actually kinda like his idea because it means you don't judge yourself, you judge others which is healthy for you because u are filtering the wrong people. And it will also make u drive conversations with other people to get to know them. You don't have to be picky and be a narcissist about it. You just filter out the very few toxic peoole
Man! Been doing that subconsciously for a year and a half now without realising I’ve actually begun to choose myself over others.. good for me I guess!
Love this! Breaking free from people pleasing has changed my life and when I started applying it to business..... I started attracting my DREAM CLIENTS and with so much more ease! 🔥 Awesome video, Michael Dennis!
I have lost who I am. I seek positive responses from people to my posts. I heard that I am here to have a positive impact to the people and the world around me
Wow that was awesome! ♥️ It took me years to change this mindset but still couldn't . This simple yet effective trick was just life changing.. thank you so much 💕
I found this video really helpful. Thank you so much for trying to help others in that way. I actually suffer from really bad social anxiety and even just leaving a comment here is a big deal for me. I'm in the process of getting better about that constant seeking of approval, so everything is okay. Thank you! Greetings from Spain.
I'm so happy to hear the video helped! I'm not sure if you've seen my older videos, but for the first few months the channel was about overcoming social anxiety so maybe some of those could help you out! P.D. Estudié en España 8 meses y hablo español😜
Michael Dennis well i just found out your channel yesterday and i saw one of your other videos talking about social anxiety, which resulted really helpful for me too. Now i will definetely take a deeper look into your videos! Thank you for the content you make. Me alegra saber que sabes español jajajaj, que casualidad!!
This is helpful. I find myself trying to reach out to "friends" who obviously don't care or are too busy to even short reply to me. This frustrates me a lot and I don't want to appear relying on them but then I should also not let it hurt me so bad. Might take a while to get the different mindset for me though. But thank you, it'll be a great help. 😊
Some people are naturally empathetic and others don’t deserve such energies sometimes . The energy of the earth on all continents has been inverted . What people need is to first raise there own unique energies and on top of that stop letting others auras over power your own . You are not just a spec of dust or a monkeys descendent or . Grandson of a slave owner or a slave. You are not your past mistakes . What you are is flesh and blood with impulses and the gift of discernment use your gifts wisely .ase
My personal tip is to just make a mindset that "if they are my friends they should give me a advantage" i mean like a good way not a manipulation type of stuff make sure that the friend comforts u in your bad times helps you out and is a true friend .
Yeah me too I am a nice person I like others to be happy. I like the strategy of taking responsibility and changing your mind set "this is my movie" "knowing and living my own standards" - this does help to set healthy relational boundaries and expectations 😊
Totally relate. I have issues when people have an opinion of me. And it doesnt fit me. But they make it truth to them I know i should not care. But it bothers me! 😊 Ive been working on this and even watch aaron doughty. He is great. But i have some family members that i for some reason cant get it to go away. I have to be around them once in awhile and when i am they are so negative towards me. And make me feel they dont believe me. Which i dont lie! I cant seem to get past it. I giess looking at it as its their movie. Not mine. Is what i have to try. What they think of me is none of my business 😊
Thank you for this, I’ve been trying to break out of seeking external validation and trying to find tips but nothing I found gave me a straight up method to combat this. A lot of it was “things you need to stop doing” or “love and trust yourself” which is true but HOW to do that? What does it look like?? So thanks for this 😊
This video came across my recommendations today and I haven’t seen your channel since the period of time when you paused it, but I needed to hear this message today. I’ve been having a huge block to my clarity and block to my intuition, which is very unlike me. This was great, thanks.
Thanks for this bro. Seeking approval is something I can be bad for. I did it quite often with my ex-girlfriend in particular unfortunately. "Be the star of your own movie" is an awesome way to look at things.
There are other people who I want nothing to do with. Yet there they are always seeking attention and validation from me only to try and cut me down to there level.
Nice approach. The way I figure this out is by realizing, my need for approval has nothing to do with other people. I’m the one wondering and seeking approval, that is my issue. If you add strong self responsibility on top of that and you are self aware that that is your problem it will change your life forever. If you have the word people in your equation you’ll end up seeking approval, one way or another, even through self confidence or by putting yourself in the position you explained.
Thank you so much for this. Like you said, its good advice that has been shared many times but its good to have a reminder. And so thanks for that reminder. Wishing your channel the best
How can I get their approval to How can this person get my approval? Will this person fit in my life? Will this person fit on my standards? You are the star of your own movie
Seeking validation from others makes me feel ugly and insecure
I just want to be worthy the way I am and the way I lead life
I have always had that "needing to be acceptable to others" - as you say it is sad and for me a hopelessness feeling.
Be worthy to yourself first, then practice, then we can be worthy to others.
I just wrote down (pen and paper) Michael's magic algorithm points. Pretty sure I need to repeat them for a while.
I wonder if I wrote them every morning would that send /emphasis the message to my subconscious.
Dang, you just blew my mind a little bit more! Thank you. I always saw myself as a background character in others lives... but this is my life... I’m my main event.. and I’m the star! Michael! That was a game changer. Thank you... sharing this everywhere.
Yes exactly! I'm glad it resonated so well with you :)
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When you put somebody on a pedestal, you force them to look down you.
Good video as always, man! You’ve really grown as a host and presenter.
* be a star of your own movie 0:00
* think/mindset change - "how other person can get my approval"
* say no to other people
* put yourself first
* self-love
* try to be independent on your own
i'm such a big people pleaser, this video has changed my perspective a bit.
Saying No is saying Yes to yourself! 👏🏾👏🏾
“Be the star of your movie!” This video is 🔥
When I used to be like “how can this person get my approval”, I used to be “an annoying person” or “a person who doesn’t like anyone else”, as someone said a lot to me. 😂
I also think it's very respectful not to "lead people on" by acting like you like them when you don't really. It is maybe a bit painful in the no-phase but down the road it is for the better for both of you. This applies to both romantic and platonic relationships. I find it very sad to imagine my friends hanging out with me just to be kind. I want them to want it either way.
wow!! this really helped me thank you so much.. I just came back from work and I was invited to this event that I really didn't want to go.. and I refused it but I was feeling guilty and felt like I was missing a huge opportunity .. when it was only a normal event that I know deep down I didn't want to attend ... seeing your video cleared things in my mind.. thank u so much... ☺
Well said, living your life as the leading role oscar winner. Got it, THANKS
Exactly!
Man, the last thing I want is to meet a person who's thinking, "how can this guy gain my approval?" That would suck.
I think that depends on your standards. If you are a nice person you would naturally like nice people. And I actually kinda like his idea because it means you don't judge yourself, you judge others which is healthy for you because u are filtering the wrong people. And it will also make u drive conversations with other people to get to know them. You don't have to be picky and be a narcissist about it. You just filter out the very few toxic peoole
Man! Been doing that subconsciously for a year and a half now without realising I’ve actually begun to choose myself over others.. good for me I guess!
Love this! Breaking free from people pleasing has changed my life and when I started applying it to business..... I started attracting my DREAM CLIENTS and with so much more ease! 🔥 Awesome video, Michael Dennis!
Yess exactly, I'm glad you resonated with this!
I have lost who I am. I seek positive responses from people to my posts. I heard that I am here to have a positive impact to the people and the world around me
You dont need my approval...but this is the best video I've seen on this topic!
He has got my approval as well.
Facts man, I always reminded myself that it's not worth it to get approved by other people no matter how hard you try to be cool with them.
Wow that was awesome! ♥️ It took me years to change this mindset but still couldn't . This simple yet effective trick was just life changing.. thank you so much 💕
Glad it was helpful!
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I’ve heard this advise before & it’s just now really clicking for me. I get it. I agree & I alike it! Thank you for sharing 😊
Your hack has been life improving
I found this video really helpful. Thank you so much for trying to help others in that way. I actually suffer from really bad social anxiety and even just leaving a comment here is a big deal for me. I'm in the process of getting better about that constant seeking of approval, so everything is okay. Thank you! Greetings from Spain.
I'm so happy to hear the video helped! I'm not sure if you've seen my older videos, but for the first few months the channel was about overcoming social anxiety so maybe some of those could help you out!
P.D. Estudié en España 8 meses y hablo español😜
Michael Dennis well i just found out your channel yesterday and i saw one of your other videos talking about social anxiety, which resulted really helpful for me too. Now i will definetely take a deeper look into your videos! Thank you for the content you make.
Me alegra saber que sabes español jajajaj, que casualidad!!
I'm 50 years old and I know I have always done this...but I was just able to put it in a thought phrase today...so I looked it up..o
This is helpful. I find myself trying to reach out to "friends" who obviously don't care or are too busy to even short reply to me. This frustrates me a lot and I don't want to appear relying on them but then I should also not let it hurt me so bad. Might take a while to get the different mindset for me though. But thank you, it'll be a great help. 😊
this is an awesome lifehack! thank you for the video!
This video can change my life
i learned to not care on what other people think of me the important is im enjoying my life and thats it no drama
I am a people pleaser but now micheal will make me a bad ass dude 😁
Haha glad to hear it!!
U don't know this but u played a big role I changing my life
You just made my day. Thanks.
Some people are naturally empathetic and others don’t deserve such energies sometimes . The energy of the earth on all continents has been inverted . What people need is to first raise there own unique energies and on top of that stop letting others auras over power your own . You are not just a spec of dust or a monkeys descendent or . Grandson of a slave owner or a slave. You are not your past mistakes . What you are is flesh and blood with impulses and the gift of discernment use your gifts wisely .ase
My personal tip is to just make a mindset that "if they are my friends they should give me a advantage" i mean like a good way not a manipulation type of stuff make sure that the friend comforts u in your bad times helps you out and is a true friend .
you helped vocalize all the feelings ive been having, thank you haha made it easier to understand myself
Glad to hear it! :)
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Short. Straight to the point. Practical. Thank you❤ I will try this from now on and pretty sure it’s gonna work!
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Yeah me too I am a nice person I like others to be happy. I like the strategy of taking responsibility and changing your mind set "this is my movie" "knowing and living my own standards" - this does help to set healthy relational boundaries and expectations 😊
Totally relate. I have issues when people have an opinion of me. And it doesnt fit me. But they make it truth to them
I know i should not care. But it bothers me! 😊 Ive been working on this and even watch aaron doughty. He is great. But i have some family members that i for some reason cant get it to go away. I have to be around them once in awhile and when i am they are so negative towards me. And make me feel they dont believe me. Which i dont lie! I cant seem to get past it. I giess looking at it as its their movie. Not mine. Is what i have to try. What they think of me is none of my business 😊
Thank you so much! This is really helpful!! 😊
The best video I have listened to so far!
Thank you for this, I’ve been trying to break out of seeking external validation and trying to find tips but nothing I found gave me a straight up method to combat this. A lot of it was “things you need to stop doing” or “love and trust yourself” which is true but HOW to do that? What does it look like?? So thanks for this 😊
I'm so glad to hear I helped you find what you were looking for!
Thank you, i wasn't being honest to myself in respect to my opinions of other people and things and i think i should do my own things too
This video came across my recommendations today and I haven’t seen your channel since the period of time when you paused it, but I needed to hear this message today. I’ve been having a huge block to my clarity and block to my intuition, which is very unlike me. This was great, thanks.
This is the best explanation of frame control i have ever heard.
Hell yeah that means a lot! Glad it helped
Am subscribing night now. Honesty and good advice is enough for me..good job brother and it was hepful.
I really appreciate that! Glad it helped
Yeh.. this is so 🆒
Love this analogy, gonna try it I like scary movies 😆
Thanks for this insight and way of thinking about it! I'm going to try and implement this for future interactions 😊
Glad you found it helpful! Best of luck :)
Thanks for this bro. Seeking approval is something I can be bad for. I did it quite often with my ex-girlfriend in particular unfortunately. "Be the star of your own movie" is an awesome way to look at things.
Absolutely man, glad you found it helpful! It's definitely a trap that can be easy to fall into if you're not careful
Thankyou so much, this is exactly what I needed.
I love you.
Thanks to your video I'm a NPC no more
There are other people who I want nothing to do with. Yet there they are always seeking attention and validation from me only to try and cut me down to there level.
I am going to practice Michaels Magic Algorithm.
Very underrated channel, I think you should upload +10 min video to improve your game.
Thank you so much! Yeah I usually try to, this was a rough week though haha
Nice approach. The way I figure this out is by realizing, my need for approval has nothing to do with other people. I’m the one wondering and seeking approval, that is my issue. If you add strong self responsibility on top of that and you are self aware that that is your problem it will change your life forever. If you have the word people in your equation you’ll end up seeking approval, one way or another, even through self confidence or by putting yourself in the position you explained.
*The thing is, you are special*
We all are!
Thanks dude this is fr what I wanted.
Very cool video, we should always be grounded in our own validation, no one cn approve or dissaprove of u
Exactly, life's a lot better that way!
Wow, this is just a game changer
the vibes in this video are: 😍😍😍🥰
Wow! This just blew my mind
Thanks for the great advice, this mindset will help me a lot
My best video ever❤
Wow. I had to rewind this video. Amazing content. I needed your advice. I appreciate it.
Thank you so much for this. Like you said, its good advice that has been shared many times but its good to have a reminder. And so thanks for that reminder. Wishing your channel the best
Thank you so much 🙏
God bless you! Thank you so much for this!
Great video this advice definitely helped me out
Good video. Thanks. Yeah i agree somewhat, but i don't understand it how it works fully... but then again. What do i know? Nothing, kinda.
Great advice. Except for what if with the mindset, I never interact with any person from here on out more than 1 time?
It’s so trueee, I really agree
Glad you liked it :)
New sub, really needed this, and thank you for sharing 🙏🏻
Appreciate it man🙏
Thank you broo this really helped me.keep up the good work.!!
So glad to hear it man thank you!
im becoming the mc with this one
Woah!!!!!!!...thank u bro👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I liked this Michael.... good one
Thank you for this video!
Subscribed straight away after the song interruption 😂🥰🤍
Solid advice! Ty brother and stay healthy
Thanks! And a little late for that haha, pretty certain I got corona😬 it's okay though it wasn't too bad and I'm mostly better already
@@MichaelDennis1234 yeah did a test myself on thursday... You better get well again!
2:58 #facts; it's exhausting, but it's very true.
Exactly!
Damn! That’s good.
How can I get their approval to How can this person get my approval? Will this person fit in my life? Will this person fit on my standards? You are the star of your own movie
Well earned like, thanks mate
Great Frame!
This made me shift my perspective ..tysm ❤️
So glad to hear it!
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Thank you so much man!
saw this video, and subscribed right awayyy!
Glad it was helpful! I'm not posting anymore but hopefully some of my old videos are just as good :)
@@MichaelDennis1234 haven't seen all of them, but I surely will, when in need of life advice. Your videos has the power of good influence.
@@MichaelDennis1234 hey why? you should continue making more videos like these
Thank you very very helpful the way you demonstrated it more clear
Glad I could help!💪
Side note: you have lovely eyes ❤️
I love this
Awesome video.
This was really helpful, thanks man.
Glad to hear it!
Lovely
Thank you so much bro!
Love the message. Do you happen to provide one on one coaching? Would absolutely be interested.
very inciteful thanks a lot
I tried everything and nothing help. But to act is one thing but the other thing is to heal from rots my own insecurity
That’s right.
Thank you this has helped a bunch! I listen the Aaron as well amd he has helped me and its nice to see the awareness spread theoughout the community.