Is No Contact The Only Way To Get Your Ex Back?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ค. 2024
- Coach Lee answers the question, "Is the No Contact Rule the only way to get an ex back after a breakup?"
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There are many good reasons for using no contact and it's for more than only getting an ex back but is also best for you after a breakup. The no contact rule is a strategy that is often used after a breakup or during a period of intense conflict in a relationship. It involves cutting off all contact with the other person for a certain amount of time. While it may seem simple on the surface, there are a number of factors to consider when implementing the no contact rule.
Is no contact the only way to get your ex back?
The first thing to keep in mind is that the no contact rule should be a deliberate decision. It's important to take some time to reflect on your goals and motivations before cutting off contact. Are you trying to win the other person back? Are you hoping to move on and start a new chapter in your life? Whatever your reasons, it's important to be honest with yourself about what you hope to achieve through the no contact rule.
Once you've decided to implement the no contact rule, it's important to stick to it. This can be difficult, especially if you have strong feelings for the other person or if you are used to talking to them on a regular basis. However, breaking the no contact rule can be counterproductive and prevent a runion or rekindling of the relationship.
During the no contact period, it's important to take care of yourself. This might involve focusing on your physical health, such as by getting regular exercise and eating a healthy diet. It could also mean taking care of your emotional well-being, such as by spending time with supportive friends or engaging in activities that bring you joy. The key is to focus on your own needs and to use the time away from the other person to heal and grow.
One of the benefits of the no contact rule is that it can provide clarity and perspective. When you are no longer in regular contact with the other person, it can be easier to step back and see the relationship in a new light. This can help you to identify patterns of behavior that may have contributed to the breakup or conflict, and to consider how you might approach future relationships differently.
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Another benefit of the no contact rule is that it can help to reestablish boundaries. There are also important reasons for using the no contact rule if you truly want your ex back and are willing to be disciplined enough to stick to it.
It's worth noting that the no contact rule may not be appropriate for everyone. For example, if you have children with the other person, you may need to maintain some level of contact in order to co-parent effectively. Coach Lee has a video about this called "Strategic Contact." Similarly, if you work with the other person or are part of the same social circle, it may be difficult to completely cut off contact. In these cases, it's important to find ways to manage contact in a way that is healthy and productive for both parties.
No contact also stops the continuing development of limerence tolerance which is where the chemicals and hormones associated with limerence no longer have the same impact. Continuing contact can make it even worse and delay or completely prevent it from ever coming back.
In summary, the no contact rule can be a helpful strategy for those who are struggling with the aftermath of a breakup or intense conflict. It involves cutting off all contact with the other person for a certain amount of time or permanently. While it can be challenging to implement, the no contact rule can provide clarity and perspective, help to reestablish boundaries, allow for personal growth and healing, and help two people consider getting back together after some healing has taken place. - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
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My wife separated from me and took my kids. We filed for legal separation and I was devastated. I came across coach Lee's get your ex back workshop and followed his advice. Within 4 weeks my wife and kids were back at home and the legal separation was dissolved. I can't tell you enough how much coach lee's content has helped me. Keep doing God's work coach Lee!
My ex broke up with me 2 years ago in February 2021 I found Coach Lee, started no contact, got her back 2 months later in April 2021, everything was going good but she broke up with me again September 2022, I went no contact again but this time I no longer want her back and I’m happier than I’ve been in years… I still watch Coach Lees videos because they helped keep me sane through what felt like the hardest time in my life and helped me find myself again… but just because I didn’t get to keep my ex doesn’t mean any of you can’t, keep your head up ladies and dudes you’re gonna be alright 👍🏽
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Yeah never take them back because they will just leave again ❤ glad your doing well mate
@@benhartart9487 I’d say only take them back if you both are willing to make changes to better the relationship and if they’re not then yeah move on and keep your peace… I made that mistake one too many times with my ex
I had a similar experience. He broke up with me in 2019. I didn't handle it well. Then we saw each other in January of this year(2023), then we both stopped responding to each other after a month. I felt relieved. It's long distance btw.
Thank you for sharing your experience and I'm thrilled to see that you're thriving now despite all that's transpired. I like the mentality you have in approaching this situation and the support you offer to others. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
My ex reached out after almost 3 months of no contact, not taking the breadcrumbs, and not carrying the conversations when he’d make excuses to reach out during that time. He eventually cracked and said he missed me and we met up and things went great. He wants another meeting but here’s the kicker: I do not want him anymore. I must have scanned the internet a million times searching for articles to give me hope, watched every video, etc. and it’s crazy how now that he’s back, I realized how much better I’m doing. He has done 0 work on himself and I have improved SO much. I really think he only wanted to get back in touch because he saw me starting to move on. I do hope someday we can be together again but if not, I’m totally cool with either outcome.
That’s an incredible story and good for you ❤
My girl and I split up over a month and a half ago in a situation that I clearly felt we couldn’t fix. During that time I watched your videos religiously and went no contact taking tips, a couple days ago she reached and we met up and felt our love and passion rekindled. Thank you coach lee. I truly appreciate your videos and info. Wether we work out or not you helped me through this.
@@rewhiteconsulting thanks a lot I appreciate your input.
Bonezella, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit myexbackcoach.com/ebk
So you fixed the situation? You said you clearly couldn’t fix it
@@joev7014 ended up fixing the situation but at the time it felt clearly like it was impossible. I was wrong.
I'm really happy for you and thrilled it worked out. I commend you for following Coach Lee's tips, it sounds like you pulled it off smoothly! Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
89 days NC after a 4 year relationship, and i have found a new crush. Man it feels great!!!
Michie, GOOD FOR YOU! 👍
That's great and I'm really happy to hear that. Breakups can be a blessing in disguise for real. I wanted to let you know about Coach Lee's live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's seriously amazing and I can't stress enough how valuable it is. The focus is on saving a relationship from a breakup or separation and then keeping it strong afterwards. The workshop includes a coaching call every month for 6 months. You can reach out to Coach Lee's team, specifically Johnny, to set up an appointment and discuss it further at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I believe it's an eye-opening and incredibly helpful experience that you won't want to miss out on.
5 months folks. Stone cold silence from me. Listen to Coach Lee friends. It either works or it works. Work on you.
S**t man 8 months for me. Most days I'm good. Other days I catch myself blaming myself for the breakdown of our relationship, and I also think about all the words that went unsaid on my part. I've done more for myself during these last 8 or 9 months then I have over the last few years. I don't need a woman like her who is extremely clingy and passive aggressive . She was broken when I met her and she was broken when we departed from one another. Our relationship was only a year. How about yours?
I had an entire essay typed out on my phone and Never sent it. Just looked at it for a few days then deleted it and deleted the entire thread and moved on with my life. From that point on, I knew I started a new growth process of my life.
@@brandonohara4122 5 years brother
@@davidchristian2368 wow
Hope all is well with you now bro
@@brandonohara4122 doing well sir
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Wilson Mathews, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific and it has strategies for all situations.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
did you get back together with her?
At first I was really upset and didn’t want her to go but now I’m glad this all happened because if we are going to be together again long term there was a lot I needed to learn about her fearful avoidant attachment style. I was secure and she was making me more anxious because her hot and cold actions. I think a lot of it was her childhood traumas being triggered and not necessarily all things I did so I am hopeful with time she will realize that and want to work on things.
I’m going through the exact same situation right now, and it’s hard to deal with. This is the best way to handle it though, she will hopefully have a realization and come back, for the both of us
Same here. But i Broker up because she involved her narzistic exboyfriend that abused here. Sad story
Good for you, my situation is the same. FA ex, she broke up with me 9 months ago over a small mistake. She reached out several times in a very hot and cold manner over the next few months, but due to her confusing actions and volatility, we never actually got together. She's recently unblocked me and made some attempts at reaching out, but I'm over the games. She can either come out and say she wants to try again or we can just be done. So tired of breadcrumbing.
@@ryanmccarter9859 from a lot of the things I have read FAs probably won't just outright say that. You may have to take the initiative if you think that would be a good idea and you would be able to handle them doing those things again. If they open to healing with you and working on their FA tendencies.
@@bobbydigital9371 fair enough. Maybe I will at some point. It would be nice for her to at least be the one to suggest meeting in person though.
My ex contacted me after a year. It was a tough journey. I loved him dearly. I chose to say good bye. I am never planning to contact him back. You turned the page, I burned the book.
So he broke up with you initially then he decided to reach out?
@@brandonohara4122 we never officially broke up. He never asked for a break up. He had a very controlling behavior. He would control my phone and if any of my guy friends (from school, childhood friends ) writes me to know how i was doing , he would assume there is more to it. He wanted me to stop contact with every guy friends, i couldn’t with everyone because they were my friends. My ex would give me silence treatment for months, happened very often. It affected me psychologically . We were living together , he asked for help financially to buy a car etc , which he never returned. I tried to communicate and solve the problem until the end. I realized when I tried to have a talk , communicate , solve the issue , like passive forms of begging and pleading, which made his decision even stronger. After 4 years of relationship,I realized how I have been dragging myself through Gutter. I decided to leave one day, when i realized he never loved me. He just wanted the Control. I might have stayed if he asked me to but he didn’t. Then I realized that he was just waiting for me to leave. It was very tough journey for me. I went through depression for months,went to therapy for months after break up. I had very low self esteem, felt like I got no dignity and self respect for long time ( still working on it). But Now I am feeling better. I am proud of myself. Yeah I might have begged and pleaded but I lay all my cards on the table and revealed my vulnerability. It is the bravest thing anyone can do. I would do it again towards the people who are important to me. But I also learned how naive i was and got my lesson.
He reached out after a year, i felt no obligation to reply him. At first I was thinking what should I reply, but then realized deep down I don’t want to . Not after all that manipulation, psychological violence and wounds.
@@freezyrachel5974 how are you now, i think you made the right desicion there :)
@@freezyrachel5974 what would you say about your attachment style after the breakup? And how are you doing now?
Would be nice if you reach out 😊
It’s been two months no contact and I gave up hope after a month but I just enjoy watching your videos to gain confidence and knowledge!
Marcus, you have to give it more time.
@@jannlewandowski5540 - it's ok to give up on hope and be content. Best to you Marcus.
No contact really works guys ! my ex contacted me after 49 days of NC ,he started with a watsapp text ' how are you ? we are not enemies ! later on he noticed I wasn't replying because I was busy on that day,he thought I wasn't going to reply and after an hour he gathered the confidence to call finding out how i'am and if am still in the same town because we stay an hour drive from each other ,fast forward I responded in a casual way to all questions he initiated because he was very curious could tell from the conversation ,waiting to see whats next,otherwise as coach Lee has always been saying to 'take it slow' it's what am doing now.Going in NC wasn't easy at first but I tried to remain strong despite having sleepless nice in the early stages of it ,thanks coach Lee continue helping the broken hearted.
Merriam. I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome! myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Did you finally get back together? 😊
@@Carla-ku7es not yet, taking things one step at a time
Hey Coach Lee, I don’t know if you’ll see this but your channel changed my life. My ex came back after more than a year after he dumped me. At that point I had already grieved and moved on but we reconciled for a few weeks to get closure. I ended things with him when we reconciled and he wants to be with me again to this day.
I couldn’t have grieved him fully and be ready for him to return without this channel. Your channel is amazing 💜
It's been around 3 and a half months and we are meeting this weekend. I'm not counting my blessings yet, but I will try make the meet fun and light hearted like we are getting to know each other again. I just wanted to extend my gratitude to you Lee. Not only do your methods seem to work but your videos were very comforting to me especially a few months ago when I was really struggling mentally
Haven’t you been doing your best since day 1 ?
It’s really time for her to get the job done
You don’t always have to prove everything
You are the prize remember that
If you fear to loose her….you’ve already lost her.
@@l.franfort6340we had a great meet up, but I realised I still had feelings and the situation was making me suffer so I explained, cut contact and blocked on social media for my own wellbeing. It's been probably 3 weeks now and I feel so much better in myself and accepting of the situation already. Just if you wanted an update :)
It’s a fact that NC could make your ex come back (it’s happened to me many times, guys came back) however unfortunately NC has a similar effect on the person who’s been broken up with, in that they also miss their ex more and more and can get further depressed as time goes on 😢 too bad though that there’s no option for us to reach out
I am fine with not knowing him. I am no longer motivated to have a relationship with him. He is not really an ex, just someone I spoke to through videos once in a while. He told me we were twin flames, etc. I am no longer interested in him either. Thank you for this video.
I remember being the one who initiated the breakup (dumper) and the guy who wouldn't let up, or the guy who didn't seem to get that the breakup was all for the best turned me off at least for a little while. Coach Lee is right when he describes the psychology of no contact.
I have seen lot of videos on all these topics but your videos sir makes more sense and very logical to understand. Thank you , 🙏 you're so helpful.
I love you coach lee. Your videos puts me in peace.
Point #4 is huge lol guilty thanks coach!
Hey , coach Lee very insightful video as all your others are. Thanks for the videos and the information.😊
I've been watching these videos the last week it makes me feel better thinking there's hope she might comeback when I know in reality she wont.
Accepting is the last stage of grieving
Hope brings healing, even if it’s false.
Probably they won't but you will feel much better, trust me its already 1 yr.
I’m in the same boat bro. We were only together 3 months. It’s been 3 weeks no contact. I feel the same way though, she’s probably gone but show her you can uplift yourself and become even better than you ever imagined. Stay strong.
After 5 months i didn't hope anymore, she even didn't answer my couple messages, she was with another guy.. i stopped contact her in december, didn t send her messages for christmas and new year. Few days later I Heard she had been dumped by her new guy (for his ex..) i wanted contact her but didn't do it.. few days later she reached me out.. she wanted apologize for her silence and wanted we stay Friends.. we Saw each other several weeks and finally get back together.. i couldn't believe it, it was so good.. but it didn't last
Coach Lee you are simply AMAZING!!! Thank you for the advices!
I completely agree with you, I've always loved Coach Lee's advice and videos. The best coach that I know! I just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
Coach Lee. Thank you for your words of wisdom and for your wonderful explanation.
I always have the wrong ex reach out the one i dont care about at all lol
Lol that's how it goes usually
Coach Lee, I just want to say thank you for the advices. Although I have not gotten my ex back, the no contact advice is a step forward for a better me. 2years passed and I am happily married to a man who values and appreciate me and we are now expecting for our first child next year.
And Btw, my ex and I remained as friends 😁
Hey coach, you are amazing. It works !
We bow you with your words ❤️ what a speech boss
Coach Lee, my husband kept contact even after he and the Co worker officially got together. After two months he told my children that he's over this woman but never told her that. After 5 months I sent him a message to say that it's better that we don't talk anymore because I am not healing. It just felt like I was helping him get over me by keeping in contact even though he messaged me the majority of the time. It's like I can feel that he was withdrawing. I probably did the wrong thing but it's been 27 days of no contact at all now.
Been almost 3 months since my ex gf broke up with me. I still miss her. She was the only girl I ever wanted to marry and have kids with. I know NC works bc my toxic ex of 1.5 years came back after 9 months, but I didn’t want anything to do with her. I want to rekindle my most recent relationship. I know that we can become stronger and better than before. I’m just praying that she comes back 🙏🏼
Great video
. Got another video suggestion. When a ex breaks up and does not make sense. Things do not add up. Still holding on.
Yes! That's been on my list for a bit. Probably will be one of the next few.
Great videos❤️👏But I miss more videos on a more mutual break up, where both really love each other but cannot make it work and one/both feel sad, neglected- and caught in the downward spiral❤️What to do then in relation to 1) No contact 2) Wishing to get back together 3) And why is getting back with an ex such a huge taboo - even exes that weren’t evil/bad/abusive.
I totally understand how tough it is. It makes the situation complicated and hard to figure out by yourself Have been there at one point myself but it's hard to offer a solution. I wanted to let you know about Coach Lee's live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's seriously amazing and I can't stress enough how valuable it is. The focus is on saving a relationship from a breakup or separation and then keeping it strong afterwards. The workshop includes a coaching call every month for 6 months. You can reach out to Coach Lee's team, specifically Johnny, to set up an appointment and discuss it further at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I believe it's an eye-opening and incredibly helpful experience that you won't want to miss out on.
Coach Lee is the goat. My ex was in a rebound relationship the same night we broke up. He moved in with her the same night so obviously he was cheating. No contact works. I literally changed my ex’s mind about being with me. After 7 months he came back home to me and the kids and it’s been amazing. If they are in a rebound relationship you have a better chance of getting them back. A man has to see you as family (apart of him) in order for this to work.
You actually took him back? Yikes
@@sloanmagnum5009 right.. I don’t think I’d be able to. But! There are kids involved, and the situation described is only a few sentences. No judgment, if it worked out for her favor and he’s gotten help/put in work to be with her and his kids, then kudos to them.
No contact does work. They do think about you, I thought I had no chance, I worked on myself and posted pictures on social media, she was with another man 3 weeks later and 6 months later we are back together, I reached out after 2 months with a "I need your advice question"
Omg! I am currently in this situation...😩
Why would you take him back lol he’ll just do it again 😂😂😂 stop giving bs advice
My ex that broke my heart finally reached out after 2 years.... Its true they always come back even just if they are curious. Within the 2 years I did no contact but cracked only once after 1 year when I messaged her. Then went into full no contact again. I would have done anything to get back with her I was desperate... But it's true time heals everything now I will never ever go back. I never thought I would get past the heartbreak but you eventually do. I listened to everything coach Lee told me. It's so important you listen to his advice.
I broke the no contact today after only 6 days🤦🏿♂️
It’s so difficult to keep up with it.
Even though he was friendly to me,the energy was more like talking to a friend.
He also calledme „ sweetie „ but I don’t know how I should take it
Hey coach i was wondering when your next live will be? Your videos have helped me alot! I just booked a session as well with coach Rex! I cant wait!
Probably next week we will do a live q and a. I will announce it on the community here and at LoveDynamics.com
Hey Michael, if you're interested in more Coach Lee events, I wanted to give you a heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. And guess what... you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
No contact does NOT always work. Sometimes, people make up their mind 100%.
My ex broke up with me and I gave them No Contact. We broke up on good terms. 2 months later I got lucky in the lottery scratchers. 1.2m. and she heard about it.... i was thinking, she'll definitely come back.... It didn't happen.... her mind was made up.
I did no contact for a long time after one of my breakups. He had a rebound that lasted a long time too. I know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Why would you want her to come back just for your money tho??? 😮
It’s so funny. I was in no contact for about a month…I got blocked on Snapchat then Instagram (no reason) and now there’s a fake account stalking my business page and personal account … hmmm strange lol. I’m just sitting back and enjoying the show.
Hi from France ! 8 days of no contact so far after 1 year of relationship. Feels really hard. We were supposed to move out together and he broke up 1 week before. He said he lost feelings and that there was no spark. I begged first and rhen doing no contact hoping he will come back but maybe it's ego. I feel so strong though and empowered, planning holidays by myself. Thank you so much Coach for your help.
Last summer like july 2022 my ex broke up with me and I was depressed about it for like 3 months. It’s rlly the worst feeling ever. I did no contact as soon as we broke up. But my problem was at first I distanced myself from my friends and even my family and spent a lot of time by myself and got a really bad alcohol addiction. Around October I got over her and wasn’t sad anymore and I didn’t miss her. I was focusing on myself and hitting the gym every day and quit drinking. When you break up it’s important for you to not be by yourself too much and spend time with people that you laugh with and make you happy. Anyway around Christmas time 2022 she started absolutely obsessing with me again like way more than the first time even. At first I wasn’t really interested but then I started talking to her and I felt like she was way better towards me and she changed a lot. I started dating her again February 3rd and our relationship is so much better than last time. I really feel happy with her now. But at the same time I’m still focusing on myself more than anything. I’m only 16 so idk about for older people but no contact 100% worked for me. And also now I feel like even if we did break up again I wouldn’t be even as close to as depressed as last time.
Amazing stuff, I loved reading your story and I'm delighted that things are better the second time around. It sounds like you understand how no contact works and have truly felt its effects all around. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
Thank you Coach I purchased your kit and I have been following no contact since Thursday of last week this morning. She came over the house with a cup of coffee. Unfortunately, I could not control myself physically. I’m thinking I just took two steps backwards.
Speed street704, just start NC again..
@@jannlewandowski5540 I guess I will start that now. Took her and her mom out for Cinco de Mayo. And now she ghosted me. Smh. This is too complicated.
@@speedstreet704 Hey, it's never too late!
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I understand it can be incredibly challenging, and I can relate from personal experience. I want to recommend Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." I hate to use this word….but it's really transformative! The workshop is for saving your relationship after a breakup or separation (or if it looks like one is coming). You’ll also have a coaching call every month for 6 months so you won’t be left alone to handle this yourself. Anyway, I suggest getting more information about it. You can schedule an appointment to discuss at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I genuinely believe this experience will be enlightening and immensely valuable for you.
This is the first video I’ve seen where you mention long distance. I vividly remember when it started to seem like the effort he had to put in to see me wasn’t worth it as his communication became less and less frequent, and my anxiety began while we were still dating, even planning an engagement and wedding. I have watched other videos on how to show them you’ve changed, etc but we live 3 hours away from each other and don’t use social media, so I’m a little bit confused and discouraged as to how any of this will work (except for no contact - I understand the psychology of that) for him to see I’ve changed if he literally can’t see me without driving 3 hours.
I feel screwed. Ur advices helped me in the past. But i think this time. It doesn't matter what i do.. 😢
Trust that this work after almost two months of being on no contact with my ex gf now she is making moves towards to me thrue social media.
michaelnicom, do not reply. Stay in NO Contact.
If she leaves, it means she's invested emotionally in another man and her attraction level faded long time ago for you
If a man leaves he's just gone for the new sex and means nothing to him, so he will most likely come back!
Simple as that!
Coach Lee thanks for your advice I always watching your videos can you make a another video about should you be nice when you are around your ex? because I want to do it right...
I understand it can be incredibly challenging, and I can relate from personal experience. I suggest that you look into Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It’s strong guidance and prevents you from feeling lost in this difficult time. It addresses a wide range of scenarios and teaches strategies that may not have even crossed your mind. You can access it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wish only the best for you!
Hey Coach Lee.
Your videos have really helped me during this time. My boyfriend of 8 years broke up with me saying he didn’t love me anymore and he wanted more. At the time of the break up he said if I cried he’d change his mind etc.
It’s since been 6 weeks & 3 weeks NC. He seen me at the gym and came and spoke to me and then came to the house for some of his stuff a few days later. He still keeps all our photos on his Instagram and recently re-activated his Facebook which he deactivated 4 years ago with all our pictures on but he was liking another girls photos on Instagram. We have a gig coming up next weekend and I’m curious if I should ask him still to come…
No Don’t
I know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
I've been in no contact for a month now, and my ex has reached out. Once was a text message asking for the wifi password that is literally in the back of the router. And another to have the same conversation of explaining the break up. I've been with her 13 1/2 years, and this is the 3erd time I've been thru this with her, but I was always the one to reach out to fix their mess. I'm pretty sure that she has BPD and she is going through a cycle. This is the first time I'm going full no contact and seeing that her reach out took less time than before. Thanks for your videos, Lee. Still curious though about why does you're ex find the need to reach out to explain the break up again and the bait you by asking if you have anything to say 🤔
ghostshowcase
I believe you two will get back together and I will help you.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
I know it works but I was the dumpee in December and went into immediate NC after over a year of a good to great relationship. My only misstep was not telling her that I did not want the break up, I responded to her "you're right we're not progressing as much as we should be". That was a mistake but I did not follow up correcting it, and here I sit 3 1/2 months of nothing.
Jeff, since she dumped you, DO NOT CALL HER. If she contacts you, be casual.
@@jannlewandowski5540 Oh no, I know that, I just wanted to vent a little bit about my initial error, all good!
Its not like every little thing would change that much
We want to think we could change that because we are helpless in this situation. Its your way of gaining a bit of control
brilliant
Hey Coach! Please consider no-contact advice for the dumper BUT the break-up was initiated by the dumper finally walking away from an avoidant or non-committal partner. Most of your vids teach the dumpees to give the dumpers the break-up.
I totally get where you're coming from, and I really wish I could offer the perfect solution right here. But honestly, sometimes you need a professional to dive into all your specific details. That's why I strongly suggest you go for a coaching session with Coach Lee or one of his awesome staff coaches. Here is the link: myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/ to book your session. They'll give you the personalized support you need to kick some breakup booty. So don't hesitate to reach out and grab the help you deserve.
Coach Lee, I'm so thankful I discovered your videos, although I wish I would've sooner before I made some big mistakes... I begged, pleaded, and even wrote a hand letter I left at her house. The last text I sent to her was, "her name, I'm so sorry. I panicked and completely disrespected your boundaries. I'm not going to ruin an apology with an excuse. I have nothing to say except I'm sorry, I was terribly wrong, and I hope you can forgive me." Since then, I've gone into no contact... Do you feel this was a sufficient clean slate message? I'm on week 6 of no contact since then.
Caleb Brown, give her TIME. You must have hurt her deeply, and she needs the TIME to think. I wish you the best. ❤
One of my biggest mistakes in the relationship was not being able to fully show my emotions by crying. The biggest change since the breakup is that im crying alot now and showing my emotions more but now she can’t see that im improving because we are in no contact. She doesn’t reach out to me anymore, because every time i tried to make it right i pushed her away even more. My heart and feelings try to trick me into giving up but my mind knows it will only make things worse. we are still legally married but i dont know if i should force myself to file for divorce or just wait and let her do it. Dont reach out guys you will only make it worse trust me.
my girl broke up with me 2 months ago, we still speak here and there, I want her back 100% I need help doing so, I love her and we did speak of a future together...
Laurence, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Breakup Kit.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
No contact has taught me a lesson..i would rather move on with my life..coz its peaceful..no drama no nothing..just 100% peace..❤❤❤
GREAT VIDEO! Point 2 is my personal favorite and seems most often overlooked
Hi Ken!! :D
Someone made a good point once. In most cases if a man dumps you and doesn't get in touch within 6 months, it means he never really loved you. It can be different when the person who left was a women.
Why different ? Cuz women are the prize ? Don’t make me laugh 😂
No it depends there are times men came back even after a year
She told me I did not value her and love her , i spent 4 hours studying psychology every day to have a healthy relationship with her, so when she said that I was like, I am not even going to try to convince you anymore 😂😂😂
17 month's of no contact. Nothing from him at all. I am good. I wish we could have had closure and make amends and end on good terms. But guess not. I am good though because I did nothing wrong to him. Other than love and help him . I guess that was bad.
My ex dumped me on 15 February
At first i begged her, chase her doling melo drama to get back to her.
Then after 1 month I started to no contact and break no contact after 2 weeks before eid day.
Now again i started no contact and enjoy being myself.
I don’t know she will contact me again or not but i want to stick on no contact and grow up alone.
It works, I'm a success story🎉 and she was with another man, I like to thank coach ken and coach Rex, book a call if you can, 2 year relationship, I begged for 2 months and she was with another man for 4, the best thing to do is no contact and work on yourself, go to the gym go out with friends, post pictures every 2 weeks of you amd how happy you are, gotta make the changes, it works
My ex posted pictures of herself every two weeks post breakup. She was seeking validation that's all.
@@rachelwarner1013 but it worked she knew every picture I had MD everything I did, either way it worked for me
For me personally I don't want to get my ex back as a partner, but as a friend. I just like watching this video for educational purpose.
Matt, you can't be friends with an ex..Move on..
@@jannlewandowski5540 That's his choice to do so
No contact is to get a relationship back. You can break no contact to be friends..
Same here watching these videos for educational purposes. Truthfully it’s been a year now since I last spoke with my ex and I’ve been moving on but at the same time I know I will be ok if I never hear from him again. However if we do reconnect sometime down the line it will have to be as friends no more getting romantically involved.
@Professor0reo Well it depends. It depends if you were friends before the relationship. Me and my ex met online so we were never friends so we couldn't go from breaking up to just being "friends." In my situation, it wouldn't have worked, but every situation is different, obviously.
Dear Coach Lee, and everyone reading this. A month ago I made the biggest mistake of letting the loml go, it's a mistake I regret but forced me into changing myself for the better. We both had our problems and I've learned to acknowledge mine, but not to hang in the past and move forward. We've started no contact because she told me she needed time to grow as a person, just like I should. I love her and I want to fight for her. Here is my question, in the beginning of the break-up I was so desperate to show her my change that I've bought a notebook where I wrote the things I've done to change and to write my thoughts out loud without confronting her face to face for it. Now, 3 weeks later we started no contact and I've been good at it for a week (it's not a lot but god it's hard) and she told me that she'd still like to read what I write in that notebook. What should I do? Should I show her my writings (we avoid seeing each other face to face or being in direct contact through messages) or is that an absolute no-go for being in no contact.
TJ. Go NO Contact for now. If and when you get back together, then tell her about the "notebook." NOT NOW, only IF you get back together
Give it TIME..
Blablabla
She’s gettin smashed dude
Just move on and stop thinking too much bout strategy
She’s being the male and you’re becoming the female 😢
I can see you care deeply about her and wanting to make the relationship grow. It takes two to tango, and I love that you're both committed to making it work. If she reached out it might be worth showing her those changes. I really wish I could offer the perfect solution right here. But honestly, sometimes you need a professional to dive into all your specific details. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Oh coach. She’s on her way here to get her things. I want so badly to fight for us but I’m staying strong and will let her get them with no hassle. I fucking hate this.
AlphaUnlimited, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I went no contact a week ago because she said she needed space and time to think I did it for 2 days broke and bought flowers and pleaded and begged and made myself look foolish. 2 more days went bye and she texted me at 7:30 am and said "I didn’t forget about you. I’m still thinking everything trough” I simply texted back-Ok
I really think she texted me because maybe she feels sorry for me not because she is thinking things trough but I’m not sure but I’m gonna be okay either way
It sounds like something is still there. I'm not sure if she has made any movement toward you since you commented here but I get the feeling she is still fond of you. Getting back together is a fragile time after a breakup and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Wish I would’ve seen this sooner. Gone through all of this and now that I’m not contacting. I’ve noticed her watching my TikTok stuff. But I’m staying quiet
So this is very helpful. But my ex broke up with me by ghosting me. At this point I understand I probably don’t want her back. But I still want some conversation to officially end the relationship. I’m going to try this no contact. I was trying to make contact quite often. I just don’t think it will help because this whole thing is so different than the person I thought she was while we were together. With her ghosting me I don’t think she’ll really notice
My ex is 3 months pregnant (DA) and we are in no contact. I recently broke for strategic contact by keeping it just to hoping her health and stress and anxiety is well for her health and babies health
This was our second time back together. I have him another chance cause I missed him and wanted to be with him so badly. After us getting back together about almost a year into it he became distant, lied to me about still talking to his ex which he was still doing behind my back and meeting up with her. It drove me crazy! I went full psych mode! Begged, chased, stalked, cried, all of the above so he just ghosted me and made a fool out of me in front of his family. I was so hurt and felt worthless like I wasn't good enough for him. These videos helped me get thru NC and as hard as it was I knew that I deserved better. So after about 5 months he reached out saying Hey how have you been. I ignored and blocked didn't respond and since he hasn't responded back either, but I'd like to think he misses me and still thinks about me. Still with that being said I don't want him back and now it's like we're strangers. 😢
I'm so sorry to hear that it's been difficult. I really feel for you and how much it can be a struggle! I completely understand what you've been facing. I want to recommend Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." I hate to use this word….but it's really transformative! The workshop is for saving your relationship after a breakup or separation (or if it looks like one is coming). You’ll also have a coaching call every month for 6 months so you won’t be left alone to handle this yourself. Anyway, I suggest getting more information about it. You can schedule an appointment to discuss at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I genuinely believe this experience will be enlightening and immensely valuable for you.
If you're not the ONE, then you're not the TWO.
Great vid, Coach! 💖
My ex broke up with me 1 week ago it’s been 4 days NC. We dated for 2.5 years and did so much together. She told me she’s been thinking about breaking up for months. I miss her so much I can’t stop thinking about her. Over the phone she told me she loved me and cared about me but needed to make herself a priority in her life. I’m not sure how to take that. Her mom just unfriended me on FB. She deleted all but 1 photo of us on Instagram and changed all of her profile pictures so that I am no longer in them. I battle every day to not break NC. I have dreams she will reach out to me but I think she has too big of an ego to ever reach back out to me. Trying to remain strong. Not sure weather to keep hope or just move on.
It's interesting that people breakup in different ways - it's true that much of the time it is something they think about months in advance. There's a little bit of psychology behind it which you can learn more about at Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's a big game-changer. This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. You'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months after so you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. It will blow your mind and give you the support you need during this time.
keep strong man
It’s been 6 days of NC. 2 1/2 weeks of inital break up. Almost 3 years of long distances. She broke things off after our views on certain people. She told me stop talking about it and I just kept talking about it. Just day before we talk about rings, marriage, the future. She said I changed her life throughout the relationship and showed her that she is so comfortable in her own skin.
I’m feeling hopeless right now bc the way she text my mother and sisters “thank you and goodbye” message. I want to break NC so bad bc I feel like she will never come back
A therapist with her masters in psychology keep telling me. Don’t text and call her for 30 days. In 30 days of NC will be my birthday …. My ex also said she won’t text me for my birthday… I love her so much but I’m trying so hard NC.
Her mother also said what she doing is wrong and I was the only person to show her the love she always deserve …
@@Connor_. I’m trying. NC been hard. I want to believe but she’s giving all the signs of not wanting to get back. The whole relationship she praised me for being the best. She’s been cheated on before and I know for a fact she not talking to anyone else. She had major anxiety from the last relationship and she said I was the only one to ever help her. We talked about future, ring, we saved up so much money and she was suppose to move down end of year. When she left, she ghosted me in a way and called me Tuesday saying she love and miss me and to not hang up the call “pls don’t hang up I miss you” but then say just “pls move on”. During the relationship she never was the first one to apologize and just to forget about it.
Update. Week and 3 days of NC. She didn’t block me on tiktok which had videos of us but. During the night 11pm -7am Today she deleted 4 of our “goofy” one but kept 2 of the sentimental one. One tiktok said “how a tiktok comment turn into a biggest blessing” and the other one is our first ever tiktok when I first met her.
I don’t know why she didn’t just delete all of them if she is moving on. I know it is hard for her but can someone tell me is this a sign to reach out or just her way of playin mind games to get a reaction …?
@@rewhiteconsulting thank you for your reply. This morning she unfriended me on Snapchat. But out tiktok videos our up. Did not block me on there but everything g else. I believe she is really trying to move on and forget me bc that is her. And her mental issue of way to deal with problems like these. I have no contact with her which is hard to believe when she said I was her soulmate and how much she loved me. If y’all knew how much y’all would understand why this is such a hard pill to swallow all over our views which can be easily managed.
I am sticking to No Contact but it’s so hard. I guess knowing I’m block on phone make it easier. But why not delete everything on tiktok ? I don’t understand. I guess it’s my ego trying to figure things out all at once bc I’m heartbroken.
Should I contact her after my birthday with will be 30 days without NC. She did say she won’t text me for my birthday. But I love this girl a lot and She just turned so cold. My therpist friend is telling me she is in the “PISSED STAGE” and want to remove everything. And if I don’t contact her the more she will get pissed and miss me more. Do you believe the same?
Make a video on what goes on your ex mind if they want you back but you reject?
Kentucky Rai, Coach Lee has a Library of videos. The one you're requesting is in there.
Sometimes its not about attraction fell they may have mental issues family issued they can’t manage everything please do videos on that as well
chandananam
Coach Lee has a LARGE Library of videos that were made thru the years. Every topic you mentioned is in his library. Go to Coach Lee Videos, and they will be there.
Hi Coach Lee.....we were together for 13years......We broke up 5 weeks ago.....Last week I received an email from him to ask me about some 3cd's that he cannot get in the house after I moved out.....All my things is in a storich I only have my things with me to servive for now.....Coach Lee do I answer him back on the email ? I really need some urgent advice....Coach Lee.....because he send this morning the same email again......Thanks for all the GREAT VIDEO's were you guide us. Thanks Rosa South Africa
We were in no contact for 2 and half months. Then he found out I was sick and he called me. Then he called me on my birthday. Came once for a signature. Smiled to me when we met(we live in the same apt building). Then one night he invited me over. Said he was looking at me all evening in the garden. He really wanted to know if I have someone. I didn't give any specific answer. I tryed to leave an impression, that I'm not that into him. We were intimate. In the morning he basically told me to go. Because he had an hour to sleep and I had to get up earlier.
Next day he thanked me for something I did for hes mom.
And that's it. He's not contacting me for 5 days after that.
Unfortunatelly I can't afford 1on1 session after my mother died. I really love the man. We've known eachother for 30 years. And in a relationship for 6 months. Yesterday he was with his exgf at his apartment together.
Would You be willing to give me some advice?🙏
Run
elenalimberg7, First of all, he played you, and that is awful. Stay away from him! If he even tries to speak to you, be a lady, and just be very casual and calm. You need to get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely and you will feel better. It's a POWERFUL Kit that has strategies for every situation including yours.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
You take care, and big Hugs for you..❤❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 Unfortunately, I cannot afford it.
Lee can you do a video on no contact advice when you've started no contact late. I mean months late. And what to do if you've been in no contact for many months and they end up in a new relationship with someone?
Rachel,I would highly recommend Coach Lee's breakup kit. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Emotional attraction falling causes the breakup, and much pursuit after the breakup can cause it to drop further. Sometimes to a degree that it may not be recoverable - it's hard to tell. I wish I could fully addresses your specific details, it may be beneficial to seek a more professional approach. I highly recommend booking a coaching session with Coach Lee or one of his staff coaches. They will be able to provide the necessary expertise and devote time to address your unique situation. You can schedule a session by visiting this link: myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/. This way, you'll receive personalised guidance.
it's been 70 days. I'm breaking it on 150 days. Other women just keep disappointing me.
sofiandeclercq1, GO out and have fun! You waited much too long, and you will be fine. Take care of yourself. ⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 I do. That's what I said. Other women just aren't that exciting for me. Thanks.
I get it.
Please listen to this guy i date my boyfriend for almost 2 years then i broke up with me one day like that just like that, i was heartbroken didn't knew what to do i started looking for answers then i found different channes here about getting an ex back i started doing the no contact rule and he called me all the time we got back together after 6 months and now is almost a yeat of regrets for him we love each other and we making things work this time
So me and my ex broke up 6 months ago, tried doing the whole friend thing up to last weekend when i started suspecting she was seeing someone and it triggered me, trying to go full no contact but shes in my head constantly (were together 2 years), dont think she will come back and she left me angrily at the weekend but said on a comment she couldnt block me,
i feel a connection with her but its hard coming to the realization shes probably moved on, i will try and stick with the no contact but i really just wanna reach out and have her back in my life for good
It's been 5 years, 4 1/2 months. I'm starting to think that No Contact isn't working.
Hey Coach Lee, First off all thank you for the videos it helps me a lot most days, My ex broke up with me about a month ago and Is seeing someone else on a rebound i think in the initial week, I got upset and let my emotions take over and I went to her house and we stood there in silence while she was crying and my legs were shaking but I didn’t have words we hugged and went our separate ways, I then reached out to her maybe 3x over the past two months because she wants to be friends. And I could not bare that pain so my question is after pursuing her so much is it too late to do no contact?
Your best chance is to really do it without contacting her at all for at least 2.5 months. You can ask more questions like this at lovedynamics.com.
That sounds like a really difficult experience and I'm sorry that it's been so tough for you. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
8 weeks of NC and yesterday I found out that my ex unfollowed me sometime between eastern and now. Last time we saw (2 weeks after the breakup for closure) she tried to ask for a friendship which I politely declined (since then I startet NC)
I made good progress until now, but the fact that she moved that one step away crushes me, bc there is still sth in me that wants her back. I will still try to focus on myself, do sports, work on myself and my goals and heal. But it feels like hell sometimes, especially in times like that.
I feel you Daniel, 3 months of NC here and it’s challenging times - I personally think one can only truly get over their ex when they find a new love interest, wishing you the best ❤
Thank you @@Summer_chestnut , I am giving myself a couple of days right now to go through the recent pain and then will give it a try. Stay also strong and appreciate every small win you can get through the day, it helps a lot, even if it's just a conversation you had this day or that weather is getting better
Daniel, I would highly recommend Coach Lee's Breakup Kit. It helped mostly everyone! Its: myexbackcoach.com/ebk...
Hit the Gym
Already doing calisthentics since NC💪
“Hope you are well” ex text needs to be addressed please after 60 + days NC
I definitely talk about that. Especially in my Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Ok I have your emergency break up kit. Which video? Bc I did buy it. I hear more about how are you. But hope you are well Is closed ended. Are these phrases about the same? You see how I’m over analyzing it? Lol Ok thanks.
Oh I watched it now. I’m guessing these 2 phrases are about the same.
Move on and be happy
So I have a ridiculous scenario .
We broke up , about 2 months ago. She lost attraction and fell out of love . Same Old.
So the way to get the woman of my dreams back is no contact etc etc, I know this.
But , we have a son together, he’s 2 , we have a business together, and she wants to spend time with me , so far as that she chose to go with me yesterday for Mother’s Day instead of her own family. She also doesn’t want to publicly announce that we broke up , “because the family and friends may see us as one on off again when we get back together”
So, at first when we broke up we wanted to keep our son in mind and not break his routines so we stayed in the same house together, but it soon turned into a shitshow with massive fights and she moved to her parents. I spent about a week in very limited contact (son and work) and went as far as telling her I don’t want her reaching out , I need some space etc etc (remember, SHE broke up with me - I didn’t see it coming) but I wanted it to be either over for good , or at least find myself in the process and not see her and get confused (as she would still kiss me hello etc) side note - we haven’t slept together since the break up.
Now last week has been mental , we spent 4 nights together, no fighting , spent mothers day together (just the three of us) and we have been sharing a bed at night - no sex!
But here’s the thing , I don’t know how to handle this situation , she confirmed this morning she is moving back in. I haven’t brought up any relationship related topics or other guys or anything for at least 2 weeks . So I don’t actually know where she stands and don’t think I should be bringing it up as she spooks quickly.
But I’m also slowly moving on. I’ve worked so hard on myself in the past few weeks that I’ve learned that I don’t need her in my life , as much as I honestly love her with all my heart and care for her in words I can’t describe. But I also know she doesn’t see me in the light that I see her , which was probably the nail in the coffin for me.
So , I want her back , on my terms. But I feel very little options in re attraction? I see her ALL the time . When we initially broke up she gave me the “I don’t want to lose you in my life” speech which I didn’t believe , but she truly is making an effort to see me etc, son and work aside.
So , my question , how the f do I re attract ? How do I create mystery and doubt ?
Or, am I overthinking the whole scenario and we are actually together without being together - a break as such? I’d like to think this but she made it so clear that we aren’t together.
I’m mindblown. And a little bit lost!
Leandro du Toit, since she moved back in, the most important thing is to be CASUAL and be very nice to her. Also, keep it civil. Try NOT TO ARGUE... You never know what will happen. Just keep up the good work.
I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is fantastic! It has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Hey Leandro, I think it would be good for you to get the personalised advice from Coach Lee himself. I wanted to let you know about Coach Lee's live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's seriously amazing and I can't stress enough how valuable it is. The focus is on saving a relationship from a breakup or separation and then keeping it strong afterwards. The workshop includes a coaching call every month for 6 months. You can reach out to Coach Lee's team, specifically Johnny, to set up an appointment and discuss it further at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I believe it's an eye-opening and incredibly helpful experience that you won't want to miss out on.
I think I have ruined it... we broke up 2 months ago and kept talking for some time, I then went into no contact for 2 weeks, broke it and talked to her on the phone and messages for a week, she gave me hope to comeback but today she told me to stop insisting or she would block me, I didn't insist like this.... Have I blown it? I think so....Bu I still love her so much... So much sadness
Ruben motion, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome! It contains many strategies for any situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Threatening to block is a strong boundary that needs to be honoured. From personal experience it's not fun being on the receiving end of that and just causes more preoccupation with the breakup. I want to recommend Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." I hate to use this word….but it's really transformative! The workshop is for saving your relationship after a breakup or separation (or if it looks like one is coming). You’ll also have a coaching call every month for 6 months so you won’t be left alone to handle this yourself. I suggest getting more information about it. You can schedule an appointment to discuss at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I genuinely believe this experience will be enlightening and immensely valuable for you.
This man is so smart. Fucking hell 😂😂
So I screwed up and broke no contact. Just as a side note she is undiagnosed unmedicated bipolar and on a manic phase and I think is hanging out with the guy that I knew she had a crush on. The day after breaking no contact I told her I needed to get the pictures off my phone onto a card and I asked if she wanted me to send them to her first. Several messages were exchanged and I mentioned that I am self reflecting and also getting insight on what might have happened on her side, I told her that if she wants to reach out I am here. Now I'm watching this video and really paranoid, how bad did I screw up? This was a seven-year relationship
@@Pearlangeldream yea God help me is right. Still haven't heard from her
Pearl, let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific! myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@@paulmackenzie4752 I want to recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent and it has strategies for every situation. Everyone is getting it.
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I feel you and I wish I could offer the perfect response to help you out. Sometimes you need that extra touch of professionalism and attention to cover all your specific details. That's where a coaching session with Coach Lee or one of his staff coaches comes in. Trust me, it's worth it! To book a session, just hit up this link: myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/. They'll give you the personalized support you need for what’s going on. I wish you the best.
Hey coach Lee,
First of all thanks for helping me in a difficult period in my life. Your videos made me learn so much about my relationship and myself. I feel that I'am slowly becoming a better person by using NC. I still use my ex as a motivation to improve myself, but slowly it feels like I could live without her if necessary. But, she contacted me a day ago after a month of no contact. However, she did not ask how I am doing, she asked if I could give her some money back, because she paid more in the relationship. I think this is very childish of her, normally she wouldn't care about such things and also the debt i owe her is quite small. Could it be that she is getting nervous because I haven't contacted her for a month or is this debt excuse never used to provoke a negative response out of me? I feel like she is trying to make me angry with her for asking for money to reassure that I still have feelings for her. Is this a technique that is often used by the dumper or is she completely over me?
Thanks for an answer in advance.
On the surface it sounds like shes mad you went no contact and she needed a reason to get a hold of you but didn't want it to sound like she was doing it for that reason so shes using it as an excuse to make contact. If I were you I would continue to ignore her in no contact. For her, it not about the money, its about controlling the situation. You have control and it sounds like shes trying to take it from you. That of course is assuming she isnt broke at the moment and feels entitled so some money from you.
It's difficult to say for sure, but if I were you, I'd pay her immediately without any note or commentary. Just send her a check or pay her digitally asap. It's the strong thing to do. Be done with it and don't let her think you are trying to use it as an opportunity to speak with her or to try to get her back.
@@RealCoachLee Thanks for the answer, I was already planning on paying her back, because I find my integrity very important.
@Pelle Van Dessel you're doing the right thing
Money and finances is one of the biggest sources of conflicts in relationships, I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need!
She contacted me after 43 days of no contact to apologize for cutting contact with me and say "she's not looking to start anything." Guess it's time for me to move on!
Lol dude move past it not only is there more fish in the sea.. there's BETTER fish in the sea
@coachlee
I took your test it says I have an 82% chance to get my wife back.. Hopefully after applying everything you and coach ken says the 82 will turn into a success story and her and I reunite..
What’s the best response when you are in no contact but they randomly send you a pic of when you were together? I responded “I miss you so much” and then she disappeared again. I believe you referred to that as “bread crumbing”. Now I understand. But…What’s is the correct response to a pic like that cause when I no contact since you advised not to ignore?
TY for what you do. Your videos/advice had been more helpful then my friends and family put together.
Ignore it bud. How old are both of you?
Don't act desperate. Be cool
Day 1, feels horrible
Update, Day 60: I feel the best in the world, I don’t think I need her anymore.I don’t think about her and I feel so powerful. I feel I own the planet. I can’t thank coach Lee enough, no contact worked like magic, she’s been reaching out to my mother and sister, but for me everything is over. She lost an amazing person, that no body in the whole world can replace him. She will always be thinking about the loss and she will always regret it. I wish her nothing but to be healthy and safe.
Coach Lee, you changed my whole life and mentality, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Coach Lee I have a question my girlfriend broke up with me 20 days ago because I forgot her birthday. I have not contacted her. Do I still reach out to her and make things right even though she broke up with me? My barber thinks I should. I have still did no contact. Could you please answer that please?
rodney, Depending on how close you were, forgetting her Bday probably really hurt her. If she broke up with you, SHE must contact you regardless of what your barber says. The dumper must call you. I do hope she calls you.
Hey Coach Lee, should I break No Contact if my friend told my ex I was watching theese "coaching videos" I'm clueless.
Why would your friend do that? That’s why I say not to tell your friends things. Stay away from him. Yes it’s still your best chance.
So what does it mean when you're in no contact. But then she texts me every couple of weeks to see how I'm doing or tells me she misses me and loves me but says nothing about asking me back!
She misses the way I showed her how much I loved her. But we not getting back together. I just don't understand women.
Russell, BLOCK HER..
Hey coach lee. I’ve been in no contact for 5 months and the only progress I’ve seen in terms of her maybe coming back is she now talks to me at work. The last month or month and a half I’ve been doing good with moving on as much as I can but this past week has been non stop thinking of her again. I just want to know if I should keep waiting and hoping no contact works. Is her talking to me in person a good sign? I’d like to think so especially since it was just some catching up kind of stuff. I didn’t bring up our relationship at all (since I don’t think work is an appropriate place for that) but she did mention a new boyfriend twice who she’s been very secretive about until that point (she was never secretive about me). I just need to know if this is all worth it.
Colby, just be casual with her. If that's the game she's playing, act like it doesn't bother you.
No. The other way is to not bother and simply move on with your life.
I've done that, and it "feels so good"
Giving a gift to an Ex it's a bad idea.... ?
For a birthday, Valentine's day, and Christmas holidays?
Coach Lee, how can I reach you, talk or e mail to you? Thank you in advance
You can email myexbackcoach@gmail.com
Coach Lee, do you have any experience on NC results after just a few dates and not a long relationship?
Yes, and the chances aren't as high as they would be if the relationship had lasted at least 3 months. Because of the fact that the relationship hasn't matured much and the other person may or may not have developed strong feelings/attachment....it's difficult to measure and predict. No contact is still best for your own attractiveness.
@@RealCoachLee makes sense, thank you