Dearest Coach Lee. I was just a few days ago left by my new fiance. But thanks to you he already took me back. I just took all my stuff and left right after talking to him. Then I left him alone. Ive had a similar experience earlier where I used your advice but then I did the mistake of not making boundaries for taking him back. That is a big nono. But this time I did exactly as you said and it worked. I think its important to just feel confident that things will work out either way. Always be ready to walk away. But you saved my new relationship with the sweetest man and Im so gratefull. Thank you ❤thank you ❤ thank you❤.
I just almost had panic attack..and I started watching your videos on loop..I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart...you are helping me with my worst days and anxiety... my heart is filled with gratitude towards you❤
hodanbille, I have seen and heard so many stories about people like that. We receive questions about getting their spouses back after marrying a rebound. They say, "I still love my wife, but I married my mistress." HELP!! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN...
People will not understand the irreplaceable value and support these videos from coach Lee have brought unless they got their heart ripped out. I had a breakup a month ago and I made all the mistakes Coach Lee mentioned. I’m gonna try the NC rule both for myself and for her. Whether it will work or not, it probably doesn’t even matter when I come out as a better person. Keep up the good work. You saved me from my anxieties and suffering.
Trust NC like the gospel. This might sound funny but NC has worked 3 times for me with the same person. Always disrespected me..The longest I went was 62 days before she cracked. Second time it took a month. She kept dying inside coz I went absolutely radio silent. Third time she took two weeks. Now she's learnt alot. NC is the best way guys.
hope it works because my ex blocked me right after i refused her friendzone as i told her i needed time to heal and move on. i don't think she liked this not going her way. it's been a month and i am still blocked.
@@itchman2 Yeah I think that's really what NC does. It either gets the person back, or teaches you that they weren't worth it. I do believe though that people can reset things after a year or so apart. In a years time a lot of changes can happen. This obviously depends on if they still want to try after a year.
Going on 3 months of crickets between I and wife of 7 years. I'm blocked on everything and she's halfway across the world with her family. Only verbal divorce, nothing official yet. I thought she was going on vacation, little did I know she was going on permanent vacation from me. Not even courtesy of a video call or phone call. Just simple , short text msg that shes done. Didnt even get chance to respond, blocked. I'm learning a lot about myself, about her too, about everything that happened in all these years. Working and bettering myself. Dropped 55lbs, doing powerlifting and mma. Think im gonna take this entire 2023 just to work on myself. I'd be lying if I said the heart doesnt beat for her still but also, it beats less and less with each passing day that we are not together. Good luck to all going thru bs like this. Dont build your home in other people, all you are doing with that is giving them power to make you homeless.
Definitely relate, my ex said she was going on vacation as well but never said anything about it then blocked me then two years later.. recently liked and followed me but did not reach out directly , I only liked one of hers in return and left it there.
I would rather she has you blocked. Honestly it's a good thing because right now you are bound to make mistakes and push her further away if you would communicate. Let her be. She probably is in the relief period having fun. But have it from me it's a mirage. Time is your best friend right now. Give it time.. Keep working on yourself (congrats you dropped 55lbs by the way.). Have patience like nature.. Been there bro...
I'm not doing NO Contact to get my Ex back, but I'm doing No Contact to move on with my life & for my inner peace. Always remember what's meant for you will always return back to you. Pray, live life, enjoy every moment of life, read books, do your own thing, stay happy & positive & love yourself more & people around you.. GOD has His own ways to do things & if your Ex meant to be with you then only Nature will bring them back to you. Hope everyone that going through alot atm find peace & love. STAY STRONG EVERYONE💖💖
@Jann Lewandowski That's what I'm doing, at the end of the day my inner peace, my mental health, my Spirituality is way more important. Plus life's too short to sit back & thinking too much about someone. You have a good day😊
Out of curiosity, why do you watch these video's then? I've seen other people make similar comments. If you don't want them back, no contact is easy. block their number, and social media accounts, and move on with life. No contact is hard for the people who want their ex back and have to suffer during the separation hoping that the ex reaches out.
@@RickySpanish12344 just because someone says inner peace and moving on is their priority, doesn't mean they wouldn't also welcome their ex back into their lives. A big part of moving on is understanding what you're going through and what the other person might be going through, and Coach Lee's videos provide that in spades. Coach Lee's videos aren't JUST about getting your ex back, nor are they barred from anyone who doesn't want their ex back. Use your brain, you fool.
Coach Lee is one of the BEST relationship coaches in the World...His teaching has guided me to fix my broken relationship...I was outlawed by my girlfriend but after I came into direct contact with his teachings and applying the NO CONTACT RULE...my EX started contacting me and now we about to have our wedlock....Thanks so very much Coach Lee...God bless always 💯❤️
If you want your ex back yes haha but if you want to move on listening to coach Lee is not the best he works more on helping you stay away and reconciliation which is not a good ideal in most cases why would you ever want someone you left you for another person
You are of the most genuine people, along with coach Ken, I have gotten to follow online. If fact. You two are the only ones I trust. Yes. No contact doesn’t not always mean them coming back. But most often, no contact means you getting yourself back. I don’t believe in solid relationships anymore but I do believe in hope and love for a better life. Thank you for showing a path towards a better life. Thanks for all of your videos so far. God bless..
Is actually quite easy to recover an ex...if you had a solid lengthy relationship...if they are not in love with someone else...if your mistakes are not extremes...its easy to recover...you just have to improve...no contact or be indifferent..give jelous...and above all...CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS ALWAYS. The sooner your ex feels is lossing you...the sooner will come back as long as they see you are getting better
Problem is we tend to make decisions based on our feelings True love is selfLESS and action. A healthy relationship is based on mutual trust, respect , mindfulness . I have fallen out of attraction with numerous women . Unfortunately, I didn’t understand commitment and unconditional love . We all grow and go through changes and attraction can fade but be built again. Note: IF in an abusive relationship, leave . Seek help and leave. As always , Coach Lee nailed it again. Thank you for your insight and genuineness.
I log in to say thank you to coach lee I've been doing no contact for 6 months without talking and stalking thier social media. Only focus on myself. After six months he contact me and ask for a chance. We slowly reconnect. now we been together for 2 months more stronger. However I cannot get through difficult time and stick with no contact rule without you!!! Just really thank you!
@Every eye - Way to stay in No Contact for so many weeks. I just passed the 5-month mark and couldn’t have done so without watching Coach Lee. No more taking crumbs.
This man helped me understand the dynamic of break up but listening to some other made me move on which is a good combination, she came back I told her no . Is never a good ideal to take back someone who tried to destroy you . Coming across this videos now I just smile . I’m currently dating a super model a cabin crew and a beautiful damsel I fucking moved on
Trust the process! I did no contact on a man that really mistreated me! I never reached out to him after he ghosted me. A year later he reached out to me . I had already met a beautiful man and did not want him back !!😊😊
Thank you, Coach Lee, for your guidance and wisdom. He did come back, after 55 days of no contact, but then after two days of texting pulled away. I’m giving him more space but would love to see some content on this mixed signal dynamic. I hope everyone finds better luck in their processes - felt so good during no contact, and now, just feel even more confused, but focusing on myself 🤲🏼
It's been 6 months since this comment. Has no contact continued to work or are the signals still mixed? Did either you get the closure you needed? Moved on?
@@Darkchylde50 He came back fully but I definitely still needed the patience to navigate through those mixed signals and meditate on the feeling of letting the old relationship die. Now we’ve rekindled our relationship and it’s better than ever. It’s cliche but no contact is for you, to determine if you want to rekindle things, if you want to start again, or more importantly, what the hurt you’re going through tells you about what you want in life. It was a very spiritual process, getting him back, but the best part about it has been being able to handle uncertainty and ambiguity better. Not assuming everything everyone tells you, and a bit of faith. It takes time and hurts like a b***, but I promise, if you let the universe guide you into how you’ll be healing - use your pain as a catharsis to better yourself - you will be gifted with what you want most: them, closure, or a fresh start.
@@Darkchylde50I’m super bad at replying! We got back together fortunately - almost immediately after this incident. We’re celebrating almost one year reunited 🥹💝
@@sabrinaelouardi9032 Congratulations! my ex is going to come back to me in the future. I know it and I'm feeling it. Thank you for sharing your inspiring experience! I understand my ex is coming back 🙏🏻🤍💚🍀💯
For me at this point it’s kind of a “well if she does come back great! and if she doesn’t, that’s fine with me me” I’ve grown an indifference to the break up and it’s only been 3 weeks so far. Sure no contact can get your ex back, but it also helps you too. That means not checking their social media, that was a big one so I just deleted instagram all together.
@@Goku19170 Yeah I honestly haven’t thought about it all that much until I saw this youtube notification. Best advice, move on with your life like they will never reach out again. Since then I’ve been more involved with my hobbies, and got a job offer from the Army.
@@Goku19170 Honestly best advice is to move on, or atleast strive in that direction slowly everyday. You got to trust that new and better things will come after. It’s been a year now and it still hurts a little bit, but better things have come my way since. I recently got a job offer from the Army and i’m leaving next month.
Thank you coach Lee for your amazing inspiration. It is so practical and realistic. I have listened to many coaches who advised that I should date many girls tomake my ex jealous. But that's not me. NC didn't work for me; as far as bringing my ex back. She did make an effort to come back after almost two years of breaking up with me. She said she dreamt about me often. She even went to an extent of faking her death in order to get my attention. I was no longer interested; although I still miss her a lot. I moved on with my life. NC did work for me in the sense that I became a strong person [in her eyes, at least]. I took my power back - that she had diminished over the years.
I feel like the point of NC is to get them to realize what they lost and miss it, and the sign that has been successful is that they reach out. If this is the goal, why would you NOT give them some sort of response? I really don't understand these other “coaches” who say to ignore them when they reach out. That presumes the goal of NC is to get them to suffer, not to come back.
Mom hacks, what Coach Lee is saying is the person who dumped you MUST be the one to call you. If you were dumped, DO NOT CALL THEM. If he dumped you and calls you, answer the phone. He has to call you, and you can decide what you want to do. You may not want him anymore if he broke up with you. See, it's in your favor. Take care of YOU! ⚘️⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 i’m not sure you understood my comment lol. There are other coaches who tell you not to respond to any reach out unless it is “ significant“ Coach Lee says in this video that that is BS and I agree with him
There are other coaches, who say that unless they reach out declaring their undying love for you, and that they want you back, that you ignore them. Coach Lee’s advice to respond, but match their energy, makes way more sense.
5 months NC. He’s reached out so many times with literally just breadcrumbs. I would casually respond but by the time he reached out with a Merry Xmas I gave him a “you too” out of frustration. He got the message & I haven’t heard from him since. Miss him like crazy but just continuing working on me. Maybe one day I will move on, but just don’t have it in my heart to do so yet. Thanks Coach Lee for all of the support.
Your doing the right thing. Don’t fold for breadcrumbs. I did and regretted it. I should have been more stern like you so they can give a sincere apology.
@@shawny979 Bro I’m so livid with myself. Probably pushed her away again. But bro - I just secured a date for valentines with a new fish so I’m chuffed. I know I’m rushing a bit and should rest a bit before dating again because I’m not trying to repeat same mistakes, but man needs this.
@@bbc20231 By dating someone else SO SOON is really not the way to do this. You're rebounding! You should take time to concentrate on your relationship, and that doesn't include another woman. Think about this because this can hurt your chances, and make things worse with your girlfriend.
Wow so many ppl in no contact from the 1st of January ...... me to...... I've been so heartbroken through this month. She broke up with me and wanted no contact, I don't think she'll ever reach out, I begged and now I'm blocked on all social media, and she blocked me on her phone. We live around the corner from eachother and its so difficult not to go see her. We've been off and on for 3 year now and felt blindsided by this breakup because I put so much work in bettering myself
This guy really seems to be an emotional and re relationship genius almost every point he brings up my ex has mentioned in arguments or in conversation. He is spot on with how your ex is feeling believe this man he is correct and if I could afford it I would book him in a heartbeat
Something I'm noticing across Lee's videos is that oftentimes he'll pin or favorite a comment success story and it'll push that to the top and all the other people are pushed down, and you'll notice Lee will also talk about those other people too in his vids. Honestly scroll down the comments and you'll see more than enough success stories he hasn't touched. If that doesn't tell you to trust the process, idk what will. Week 2.5 of NC, I was starting to feel pretty good but I opened Badoo and bam my Ex right in my face. Deleted my account, equivalent of just logging off and going home. Dating is just way too soon 1 month from breakup.
Dear Coach Lee It's been 2yrs of NC , chances of my ex returning is slim . And that's ok , I want to thank you for getting me through the break up. Peace
Wanda Yarbrough, After a year, definitely move on and live your life. I know he will never forget you no matter who he us with. Good luck to you. Hugs..⚘️❤️💙
Coach Lee. We have technically been broken up for over a year. Within that year we not been able to stay away from each other. We talk just about every week, still hangout, sometimes be intimate. When one of us goes silent the other one reaches out and wants to get together. I want to get back together, but she is just not ready to jump in. She says “I’m just not ready to date and I don’t want to be with anyone” which then leaves me in an emptiness of confusion because we’re still intimate, she tells me she misses me and wants me to come over and cuddle up on the couch and watch movies. This has been over a year of this and I just don’t know what to do. We argue because I tell her she’s hot and cold and that she doesn’t know what she wants. I have started no contact and it’s been a week now, but I just have zero clue what to do at this point. She still has feelings for me and still is in love with me but just won’t commit. What the hell do I do 😞
Atx, you need a coaching session. I’m not doing individual coaching at the moment but a coach on my staff DOES. He is Coach Rex and you can book a session with him at myexbackcoach.com/coach-rex-breakup-coaching. He is OUTSTANDING at helping people get an ex back. He was a mentor to me when I was younger. I suggest you copy and paste what you said here when you book your call. -Coach Lee
@atxmanimal1913 Why would they commit if they can get what they want with no strings attached ? You have to be strong and cut it off before you get hurt more.
First of all thanks Coach Lee for this video. You’re awesome😍Please help me… He contacted me to say sorry a week ago after almost 90 days. He said he’s the same person no grudges against you and he continued conversation about what he been through and things he had done. The conversation was kind of dying I had to leave it first. Once I I said ok then good bye. I felt a little disappointment on his voice. I hung up. It’s been 7 days he never called again. Should I initiate contact this time? Thanks! Oh one thing I forgot to mention is that he didn’t ask me to come back in his life. Alison he’s an avoidant.
@@jannlewandowski5540 he initiated contact first telling me how much he’s sorry for hurting me and also told me some I stuff that he accomplished during the breakup. It’s been a week since he contained. and coach Lee said do not ignore your ex. That’s where I’m confused at.
Oh Coach Lee!! You gave me some insight regarding what may happen with my ex after he broke up with me. You were so right. He desperately wants me back now, he's in a bad place. He's upset with me because I didn't wait for him to sort his head out. I've moved on and I'm happier but I do care for him. I'm not going back to him but I really didn't think that the situation would turn upside down. You really do know what you are talking about - thank you!
Your videos have kept me sane. Thank you so much, Coach Lee. But does this concept work on a 3-months passionate, intense relationship? We spent every day talking on the phone and when we were physically together it was always sweet, loving, and intimate. He ended it all out of the blue, going from pursuing me relentlessly, telling me how much he needs me and can’t wait to see me, to telling me this is not good for his alcohol recovery - that his therapist and clinicians warned him not to get involved in heavy emotional attachments right now (he is fairly new to recovery) - even though I was very supportive and encouraging of his recovery. He continued to text for a while stating he misses me and wants to run back to me but he has to do this. Part of me believes him, another part of me thinks he is using his recovery as an excuse for something else he’s not telling me. I told him I respect his decision and want what’s best for him, I didn’t beg or plead, but also expressed that I didn’t want the break up. He said he knows I’m hurting, he’s so sorry and that he’s hurting too. We haven’t had any contact in 3 weeks. I doubt I’ll ever hear from him again. But I fell in love and I’m still heartbroken and hoping he’ll change his mind and come back. I have watched your video on short term relationships, but would love and need your take on this please.
That’s tough but respecting his wishes is the best thing you can do for him and yourself. Who knows maybe one day in the future when his recovery allows it he will reconsider things with you. But try not to put your life on hold. 3 months is a short but sweet time.
@VeniceBeachQtpie You're welcome😊 STAY Strong & Stay Positive. When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you, they're sent to promote, increase & strengthen you. Blessings😊💖
Hey Kings never go back to a women who thought she could do better without you , her coming back where she left you dead is like a women window shopping and putting you on a shelf to make you wait while she has fun and looks around for someone better , only reason a women comes back is because no one wanted her and settles for you and if you take her back she will never respect you , dont do it kings ! 3.8 billion women on this planet lol
Thank you, Coach Lee, for your logical advice. I am on day 32 of no contact and my sanity has returned. To everyone watching, it gets better. I don’t care if my ex ever reaches back out. I was present, loving, generous, and patient with someone who couldn’t give me what I needed. He ended things with me after I chose to stay as to not hurt him, but this was just hurting myself . It’s a blessing he ended things even though this has been so, so painful. I don’t want the kind of person he is in my life.
@@ocheerup1324 thanks for the reply that helps me a lot knowing I’m not alone 🙏but it always end up with me never ever being a dumper I’ve always been the dumped lol it’s been 8 years with on and off relationships and I could’ve never seen me dumping the woman in my three past relationships I’ve had I would’ve liked to work things out but I hope this last girl comes back she means alot more than the two before but I can’t force someone who doesn’t want me to want me I have to get in my head that person is not mine anymore
@@GalloVerdesFarms Ugh I'm the same way, loyal to the bitter end. I felt more of a connection with him than I had other people I've dated. But you're right, we can't force people to like us or want us in their life. They have to make changes and come back to us. I started to say out loud or writing in my journal "I don't want someone who doesn't want me". Because that's the truth, as much as it hurts.
@@ocheerup1324 I ended up messaging her for my own closure because I needed to say bye better than that night that she dumped me I was in shock that night but today this morning I was in a better place to text like a person who respected her boundaries I said “don’t repl not “don’t have to” I said don’t becuase I wanted to make it clear that I was just saying bye back to clear the air for me that I don’t get freaked out I can talk normally and understand that she needs to see if she misses me or not and if she doesn’t ….I love her so much I don’t think I’ll get in a relationship again it’s been 8 years on and off and I give up god or whoever controls life has to control my path to marriage I give up not on my self but a relationship with another person but her
Coach Lee, hoping to see a video about this situation (I'm dealing with it now): how can you tell the difference between their reach outs being real interest or if they are just using younger attention to help ween them off you slowly ..
I believe what you're describing is called bread crumbing. Here is my personal advice (I'm not a coach). If they reach out to you, do as Coach Lee says and respond politely. If they however drop off again, ignore their next message unless it's something really meaningful. Some exes are doing as you describe, checking in. They want to see if they could still get you back, to feed their ego and make themselves feel better in the break up. By ignoring them, they can really feel like losing you. This is a risk though as they may give up. I would do this though if they reach out once, and then appear to ignore you after you respond politely... Only when they really reach out to you (apologize, asking you to please respond), or want to talk on the phone or meet up should you respond.
@@jobbemathijssen4303 Honestly,way better at first it seems that the world is going to fall on you,but eventually it gets better,the same way that the hair grows..feelings change aswell (Thankyou for asking and reminding me about this comments)
@@zerefstoica3411 sometimes a reminder helps you to consider how much you’ve grown trough the time. Thanks for replying. I’m 5 weeks in now and I think I’ve left it all behind me. I still work together with my ex. It’s been hard but I’m further than I’ve thought I’d be by now. So yes I agree a lot with what you’ve just said. Keep doing you mate! If you ever need a random person to talk to I’m here for you! Have a blessed day!
Coach Lee, I am wondering how this applies to my situation. I was dating a girl for about a month, and it was a bit of an on again, off again thing. I was always able to talk her back around and when we did meet up, it always went well, and she always initiated post-date messaging. She spoke about future plans with me. Despite some speed bumps it did seem to be progressing. Then one night she called me and told me someone from her past had come back from overseas, and she was looking to pursue that. It was heartbreaking for me. I really liked her and thought we had chemistry. I guess my question is have you ever seen something like that turn back around? I did send messages to the effect of "let me know if anything changes" and that "we may circle back around to eachother" and I left it at that. She sent me a message a few days after and thanked me for being a gentleman and how I handled the situation. I replied reiterating my stance. We havent spoken now for a week and a half as I've gone into no contact. Does the fact that we only dated for a month mean there's not much chance she comes back around?
I know it's only a month, but we never know what's the future holds so be positive & Pray about it. If she really meant for you, she would come back to you.
@@amarino5179 You could say that about anyone who leaves someone else. Fact is they had thin longer than me and her did as much as it sucks. I dont think she was totally over him. Bu maybe realiywill show he she made the wrong choice
@@jarradhurley4866 I understand what you are saying and I truly hope you get what you want.. Having said that, her interest was/is clearly for someone else.. I just hope you do not " wait " around for her. Live your life and move forward and if something happens in the future see how you feel about the situation then. All the best..
@@amarino5179 I think you can be into more than one person at a time, and given her situation and longer relationship with him, she chose him, unfortunately. But I dont think that means there is no hope here. I have no want to wait for her. I do have other dates lined up. But truth of the matter is she really got to me. Every so often you meet someone who feels right, and she did, and I have a feeling if not for her circumstance, this whole situation will be very different. But see what happens, as you said. I think people can make mistakes.
My ex that suffers from bpd left me for her ex that she was with prior to me. I think she saw me as her “rescuer” while he was painted black. She went right back to revaluing him during my devaluation.. She promptly discarded me while blaming all the relationship failures on me while going back to him. Straight heart break…
I dumped my last ex bc we had a baby and miscarried. It was unplanned. After 2 months of silence, we kept bumping into each other at different events. Noticed him stalking my stories. I wasn't angry at him, I was sad I lost my child and he wasn't there. He wasn't really my boyfriend, he was more of a friend with benefit at the time. Now, I'm just as attracted to him as he is to me. I wanna give him all of me but he has to work for it. He has to make up for his mistakes. I think I kept being single because I was grieving and trying to protect him as much as I can from my hurt. Now I'm a lot more ready for him and I'm sure
”so if there was some misunderstanding and you would really like the person back. And you thought you broke up with them and they thought they broke up with you and vise verse. And both of you follow the no contact forever and neither one reaches out how do you get back together ?"
Coach Lee, you've made a video about blocking an ex and why you shouldn't do it. I didn't block this person, but I did unfriend them on facebook. I can't undo what I did as I could with blocking. They can still contact me, but can't see my private stuff. I'm just wondering in the scheme of things how big of a mistake this was? I didn't know about no contact at the time, and did it because of emotion. I wish I could undo it, but I can't. I'm 99% certain this person is a fearful avoidant (based on their history, and things they shared with me). She told me she was having difficulty because of an ex husband being around, and for a couple of weeks she really cut down on communication. Finally she stopped replying to my messages. I took it hard, and unfriended her as seeing her post things while ignoring me was very painful.
Coach Lee, thank you. No contact works. We did get back together with the power shift pulling "my way" this time. (4months process) However, doing the self work in the process of no contact, made me a different person, and very fast i ended the "final push" that we had. She was immature, childish, playing games and yes, liying like a infant. This i did not want to tolerate since i understood my value and i ended it. Funny how life works. You never get what you want, or better, things change fast! I would like to emphisis that your videos have helped me BIG TIME, in the hardest period. You are a very good psyhoterepeut. Thank you sir. All the best to you and your team.
@@zb5436 time will heal things. Secondly, it is little different for man and woman.... if you partner reaches out, and ghost you again, it is over for sure i think. You dont need stupid games, life is short. Emphasizing i am always for love and for relationship to last, but playing stupid infant games is a reflection of immaturity and insecurity. She did not reach out, and even dough we live in a same building(what are the odds), i was simply walking by her when i see her, and i have looked in other direction. I was respecting the no contact rule. And it did payed off, but she didnt progress at all, with time she was more and more insecure. She contacted me first, and this time around i was controling the situation 100%, trust me, but i did found out some stupid things she did in the process of no contact, and being that i am a old fashion guy, i simply ended it very ruthlesly. I am not happy with the outcome, but i didnt want to lose my musculanity for a person that does not value me at all. Long story short, stay firm, stay strong, have a "military kind attitute", and work on yourself. God will arange you to be happy again. I wish you all the best.
@@nephastgweiz1022 she went out on a coffe with a guy, ex friend of mine, to get some stupid favor from him, behind my back. This "nobody" was an ex "friend of mine", that literally used to fix my car and stuff around the house for free. I used to make him a coup of coffe, because this guy is a bum, junkie, alcoholic, a divorced 50 y.o. etc... since this guy also used to live in my building, i was seing him a lot since i walk my dogs a lot. We were never friends, more a guy from "the hood" i knew. He also was fixing my and her laptop's, and when she "dumped me", she called him and asked him to fix her laptop again. But here is the catch, she knows me! She know that i would never tolerate this! I found out one day, a month after we got back together. Out of the blue, when things were "great", i asked to see her phone. She gave me the "dog and pony show" for 2 hours streight, and finally when she gave me the phone, i found text.... this bum was hitting on her, and she was playing him as well. I dont think she slept with him, but dude, she went to his crib alone. She knows that this is a RED CARD with a guy like me, and she still did it. Since this guy is a joke, he was coming on to her, and she was playing him. But in some paragraph of the text, he wrote her:"(my name) is crazy, you should dump him, and she replyed - EXACTLY!". Once i saw this, i just slowly gave her the phone back and told her to leave my life for ever! She then tryed to fight me and since i am an very serious amateur boxer, i just calmly "escorted her out of my apartment", and closed the door. Later she text me "screw you", because she was humiliated, which was well deserved. Now, if she came to me after we got back together and said: "baby, in laste 4+ months i did this and this, i saw this and this guy, etc", i would respect her and i would said i have to think about it. Since i am and old fashion man, i would never tolerate this, but i would respect the situation. Trying to do things behind my back, is a red card. End of story. This woman have recieved life changing(!) favors for me, and her whold family have financial benefit from this. She also gave her hand, and promiced her self to me in front of the Isus Christ(in Church she promiced that she will marry me), but todays society is insaine. People are saying one thing, talking the other, and thinking the third. Long story short, let the good lord repay her by her deeds, and me by mine. I will rather ba alone and a MAN, than a married wimp PU**Y guy which will be "happy to have a woman". Que sera sera....
@@natalijabatricevic6765 Straight up. She was entertaining this man's sexual attention. Women are kinda fucked up now. They will act innocent, submissive and perfect, then one day dump you to jump on other dicks out of nowhere. Anyway, I'm glad you had the balls to save your dignity. Deep down, she will always respect you for being a man, even if it means you can't be together. There are other women out there that won't ever even dream to do you like that. But it's very hard to vet them properly. I thought I did, and I still got bit in the ass.
This is what I needed to hear. She broke NC and said she wanted me in he life but she doesn't want talk about our issues or anything from the break up 4 months ago. I think I need to disappear. But she has stopped me twice from doing so while also showing me no interest.
Coach I’m broken 💔again. NC worked ….however I guess I moved too quickly and out of no where she wants space. I should have listened to what you said and kept her at NC until she apologised for her disrespectful behaviour . Shame on me this time but I will heal and get stronger.
Coach Lee doesn't say that you have to wait for an apology. You may not have done anything wrong at all. Just go back to the plan and if she contacts you be polite and friendly, but let her take the lead romantically. It's normal, I believe, for the ex to go back and forth, especially at the start of returning. Show her that you can handle all that with strength.
I went into no contact for 2 weeks . She reached out once . Then disappeared. I sent her flowers a month after the breakup because i thought she was still interested after she texted me …. She told me she is not . This is my third and last breakup in life . I prefer to be alone.. until i die . I cant tolerate that pain again
@@lucap6211 my man ! Omg this comment is so old . I completely forgot about her . She eventually reached out and i rejected her . Whoever walks out of your life hold the door open for them
@@KingoftheJuice18 in the beginning and then after it ended But for whatever reason I cant remember the points the last few years of the relationship where I had doubts or why Its like, time heals but its also made me forget all the bad and only remember the good so its become easier and harder at the same time. That and I just havent connected with anyone like that, probably been on over 70 dates and nothing has come close. But I guess its hard to compete with someone you knew since childhood and dated almost 6 years Doesnt help that the dating scene is absolute garbage either
@@fnord_lander I agree that dating is a kind of hell. I really commend you for going out on all those dates....It can be hard to stay clear about the person's faults and limitations, but everyone has them. Their main fault? Not appreciating your awesomeness (joking/not joking). Stay true to what you feel is right--whatever it may be (holding onto your hopes for them, or moving forward). Don't let others tell you what to do or what to feel.
My ex and I had been together for about 4 years. We broke up 3 days ago, unofficially we broke up 5 days ago but I told her the minimum was to at least meet up. She agreed. We met at my house, we talked. We understood what we were feeling and cried because it was ending. We ended on good terms. The reason why was she said “she didn’t want to be in a relationship, she wanted to have more time for herself” she studies and works at the same time. When we met she said, she wasn’t deleting any convos, photos, or blocking me at all. She even still keeps my initial in her Insta bio. I’m confused, what do I do? So far I’m doing the no contact. And my closest friend said my ex asked her how I was doing? Do you think there’s a possibility here?
I really messed up. We where together for a long time and she felt like we didn't communicate well and that I wasn't interested. I really was and i really loved her, I just let depression and things get in the way of that. I wanna do no contact but idk if that would make her feel like she was right that I don't care.
This will work fine, because I have no way of contact with him. I am blocked on everything for 2 months. I been slowly moving on taking care of self, self care getting compliments from guys In public. I’m on a dating app, my feelings are slowly fading away from him someone who cares isn’t gonna do me like that.
paulmac3176, Paul, if you are living together and have children, you treat each other with respect. Be casual, and most of all, be civil. If you are separated/divorced, you just pick them up/drop them off, and of course, be casual and civil. I hope this answers your question. There are quite a few couples going thru this. Good luck to you always.
He went nc 6 months and then I contacted him which lead to him blocking me 3 months ago and he moved in this time. I am beyond heartbroken. We were together for 3 years ❤
I really don't understand why people don't try and work through things when these issues and thoughts start to arise. Say, you do get them back. Will you actually be able to trust them?
Hey Coach, First of all thanks for your videos! Second thing is that, After doing no contact for a day, My ex reached me after 24 hours, Just said "Hi" Nothing more than that, We talked for a few (only 5-6 words though) and i let her lead the convo, I wanted to ask that if she reaches me out again, Should I ask for meeting or just continue texting? Please guide me sir 🙏
Thanks Coach for all your videos, my GF ended our relationship after I moved closer to her (she had to move to study 1500km so I moved to the same city 3 months laterthe prior 3 months it was great) on december 1st, she told me that between study and work she didnt had enough time (and thats true she studies during the morning and after 3pm she works at a restaurant till late at least 1130pm) that felt a lot of pressure and was overwhelmed and needed time and space to sort things out and she didn't want to hurt me, so we broke up. The only thing that I told her is that I was willing to wait for her and she replie "As long as you're happy waiting, I don't want you feeling alone.. and what if you meet someone new? I don't want you to miss out on that if Im still unavailable" should I keep going with NC and mind my own thing? she started liking my posts on social media and I dont know what to do
That’s the same reason my daughter bf broke up with her. They went NC for 2 months then he said he didn’t want to hear or see of her. 😢Not much of contact every now and then she text him. But his never reach out just a simple reply.
But the major point I will preach till I die for everyone is this: if and when you know why they left, and you bring this to their attention, and they act childish or don't even want to try and work on it if the relationship was nothing less than good and faithful, is laziness and lack of respect and drive. Dont settle for someone who has no drive to work on it, that is absolutely unhealthy. Take it from my experience, I learned the hard way and it has only opened my eyes and made me realize what not tolerate and, and the signs of this from now on.
me and my girlfriend argued and we're making a break of 2 weeks, and she tells me that i need to show her that i changed, and empty words won't make her want to come back, she says that i need to something what can i do?
rikybj0276, Hi, go NO CONTACT for at least 45-60 days, which will give you both time to think, and to miss each other. In the meantime, you can get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.
I can't induce a fear of loss in her because I promised to not contact her until she contacts me. It seems she's intent on dragging it out a good 60 days or however long it takes her to get over her feelings for me. At that point she will reach out so we can be "friends", as I accepted and now feel obliged to follow through on. I think I can reignite attraction given enough time with her, but I really doubt she will make much time for me. I also think she will use the flirtatious "friendship" I intend to create as a substitute for a relationship, so she doesn't need to commit anything to one. I'm not sure how to induce a fear of loss within that context.
SoundsSilver, It sounds like you still care for her and she's doing the no contact correctly. That will give you a better chance of reuniting. I have a great idea for you two.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
bilalriaz7609, I'm sorry to say that you weren't contacted. However, you have some extra help coming your way. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.
Coach Lee, I’ve recently learned that I’m needy and smothering and lose my identity in relationships. I vomit emotionally and push them away. I’m actively learning to not be that way, but how do I show that during the no-contact? I’m back into my identity now, I’m working out and building my relationship with my creator and focusing on my passion.
coach. i am still in a no contact with my ex girlfriend. it's been 78 days now. I called her yesterday on the phone but she did not even receive it. It feels hurting and insulting tbh. I really thought she would pick up the call. Her friends told me she had moved on and she is doing fine.
I won’t make any assessments of her true feelings but one thing to know is to NEVER communicate with or listen to her friends. They’re see themselves as these self appointed bodyguards. They’ll always act like they’re protecting their friend and they will go to any length to do so, even if it means treating you like garbage no matter how well the terms you were on with them were
Bruh, no contact means YOU DONT TRY TO CONTACT THEM! Them ghosting you doesnt count lmao. Just coz she doesnt pick up the phone or text you back doesnt mean you are doing no contact. It means you are keep chasing her.
@@alexforce9 Coach Lee has said that after 60 days or so you can reach out because you don't have anything to lose at that point. He still suggests you should wait for them, but if they don't reach out after 60 days, it may require you to reach out if you want them back.
I am doing NC. My ex reached out a day after the break up. Asked me how I was doing. Said I am fine and asked her the same. Told me she misses me and I take care. Told her thank you and take care too. After a day, I was left on READ and she deleted the I miss you message. After that, silence for 3 days and counting. I saw her watching my stories though. Did I blow it when I didn't say I miss you too? Thoughts? reason for break up: we both love and care for each other. the reason for our break us is her parents being against us and she is hurt and exhausted as they torment her over and over again. said they'll never approve us no matter what she says to them. We are in a gay rship.
What if we did reach out, act upset and try to get them back till they ignored you. Obviously going no contact but the chances are probably severely lowered due to chasing? I did it because I feel like she felt I didn’t want her due to actions/arguments. But as you say it was already too late.
He has other videos about this topic. Long story short, yes you likely lowered your chances, but the best option remains no contact. There's still hope and she will soon wonder why the guy who chased her is not chasing anymore. But for your sanity, it's better to lose all hope, it helps tremendously with the healing process and it doesn't change anything on her end, it only gives you more power.
Just my opinion but things can still work, but it may require more no contact time. There are a lot of people who have messy breakups, and get back together. Time will allow the memories of the chasing to fade.. I heard a story recently where a husband basically did everything wrong. He got blocked on everything, even begged her outside her house. He broke no contact several times. Finally it took 6 full months of no contact before she agreed to meet for coffee after reaching out to him. They have been together for 3 years now and happier than ever.
@@RickySpanish12344 thanks for sharing, I’m working on healing my issues that I brought to the relationship. I don’t want to stay hung up on someone who doesn’t want me. But if she saw changes and were open to talking that would be interesting. I’ll try to remember to follow up on this thread in 6 and 12 months
@@vtchevalier I'd love to hear about your success in that time. Either by moving on happily, or a happy reunion. Out of curiosity how long were you two together?
My ex is being cold to me and told me she doesn't want to fix things with me and told me that she moved on.....we had a loving relationship of 2 years....do I have chances?
Lol, I saw your "success story" about no contact on another video of coach Lee, he pinned your comment. Looks like it's not really a success story. Maybe it would be time and energy better spent on another prospect than spent on this girl with whom it doesn't seem to work. And judging by your story on the other video, it seems like you have to work on yourself to make yourself more attractive.
Im single right now, not dating as well. 🥰☺️ dont have a feelings for my ex either. But still watching your videos, Coach Lee. Liking and always the notif squad. 💖☺️ i am always present as well, Coach! 🙋🏻♀️ 🇵🇭
My ex regretted the break-up just 17 days later but said that he will just have to move on with the wrong choice he made. He did not even try to ask for us on getting back. Would that mean we don’t have any chance at all?
Hmmm.... According to Coach Lee, the feelings of missing someone get strongest between days 45-60. It could be that around that time he will reach out to you.
Gem, he is full of it. It he *really* thought it was a mistake and wanted you back, he would ask and try. Don’t fall for the “it’s complicated and mysterious” BS. It’s simple.
@@RealCoachLee After NC, he reached out to me at dawn today that he misses me when he is feeling depressed (due to family matters and other stuff) as I was the only one who could pull him out of his loop. By the way, he went back to Scotland and I still live in our place in Spain. He sounded suicidal so I called him to make sure he will not do anything stupid. He said that it's good that we are friends but told him that I don't want that as it's a low blow. He still wants to get in touch to know what is going in my life and if it's OK for him to reach out when he feels depressed or down and I said that it's alright. He did say sorry for hurting me and making his bad choice of letting me go. However, still no indication that he wants us to get back. I am still planning to move to Scotland by next year and start a new life there as Spain reminds me of us after 8 years and 2 months (engaged for 6 years and 3 months). I binged watch your videos everyday and night to help me get through the cycle. Sometimes, I give up but your words kept me going. I am so ever grateful for your advice.X🙏❤️ Coach Lee, did I mess this up? Have I made a huge mistake for letting him contact me when he feels down?
@@RealCoachLee My ex finally got the balls to decide. He reached out and sent me this message. “ I don’t know what I want. I’m happy with the way my life is right now. I can do what I want and talk to other people.(he admitted to have dates in Tinder last week). I am not sure about having a relationship right now. (after I told him that I’m still in love with him but I am not chasing him as I don’t force myself if I’m not welcome). I still want us to be friends, though. You’ll never know what will happen in the future.” I did not reply. I am continuing my NC again. However, I’m sure he will contact me again sometime soon when he will be having “depression episodes” with suicidal thoughts. How do I deal with this if he will keep on contacting me but no longer wants to be with me? There seems NO CHANCE at all that my ex is coming back to me. 💔💔💔
@@gem.17.71 I think coach lee is right. him saying that he messed up and it's too late is basically a cop out. It's not "too late" if you want him back. It's too late for him if he came back and you didn't want him back. So he's either playing games or just trying to make himself feel better.
Was in a 2 years relationship. Broke up . 1 month of strategic contact due to living together and now no contact. Got a letter when she moved out saying she can't be in a committed relationship till she works on herself first. Thoughts? Been sticking with no contact unless she text me first
On Module 2 - watched it twice. this is great info. i don't know if I have the new modules or the old Working the NC rule right now and she txted me this morning and called. I ignored both .....then I blocked her. I am going to see how far I can take the NC ..... have to finish the modules Coach.....I would have paid $157.00 for these modules. jusk kidding
Coach Lee, I left cos of negative experiences. It's been two and a half months now on no contact. The mother of my child has since played a sorts of mind games and tricks for me to break no contact. I'm now learned to do a modified no contact because of our daughter. I'm stil in no contact though. She's constantly tricks me to contact her. I'm not sure if now it's the tym to reach out. She also shows all the signs that warrant me to contact her.
Its been a month and a half.... I reached out to say sorry for her family passing 3 weeks ago. An ex reached out to her they talked about me. Just a disaster. Its over moving on just sucks
My ex broke up with me in April of 2022, we attend the same church and have the same group of friends, she didn’t want to tell anyone at the church that we where dating but we told people outside of church like family and other friends, she broke up with me the day before Good Friday, fast forward no we message/talk every week, she asked me last weekend if she could borrow a game that I have for PS5 to play and yes I still have feelings for and I do care for her, her reasoning for breaking up when she told me a while back was that she felt pressured with people asking questions at the church, since we are talking almost every week what should I ask/say to her?
My ex lift me saying that u control me and trying to talk to her manager but she said she hasn't give him chance to be in relationship with him or anyone..but she daily check up on me she is calling me and trying to indirectly connect with me. But she says I can't see you sad and motivates me to be strong and get another gf. She calls me but she says I don't want to be in relationship again with you. I am in no contact period but she is the one who checks up on me. What shall I do?
Coach Lee need some advice. My ex of more than 2 years, texted me after 12 days of no contact. He also called me twice after I Ignored his messages ("can you pick me up?" and "you know where") I didn't text back and I didn't pick up. But I eventually did pick up on the third call while I was already sound asleep. This all happened in one day When I said "hello?" He was just listening and dropped the call after a few seconds. I just went back to my no contact state. Do you think I lost my power by picking up? Appreciate your thoughts about it. Thank you
I definitely don't think Coach Lee would say that you did anything wrong. He's very clear in his videos that you're not supposed to ignore your ex if they reach out. That might make them give up altogether. Just be polite and friendly if they contact, but not romantic and let them take the lead.
Hello Coach, I'm in no contact with my Ex but she's literally messaging me, Short texts before but now she's chatting casually more, What do i do sir? Should i keep responding her? (Short replies only) I'M IN NO CONTACT
I think this Is the 8th month of no contact, my ex has fully moved on and is in a new relationship since 3 month, I trying the best to be my best version, but I Lost all hopes and unfortunally I have some breakdown often. Idk how to exit from this situation
I have a question I want to know if she’s lying about her feelings or is this how she truly feels? I have been a no contact for 52 days and recently I saw on her social media with a quote talking about absence and that my absence doesn’t affect her no more and that she doesn’t need me. Am I losing her?
It's a coin flip. She may be doing that to get your attention, hoping you reach out to her (don't do it). Sometimes ex's act out, hoping you saw the message and you reach out. It's a way of boosting their ego if you do. Then when you don't, they get anxiety and feel like they are going to lose you, and then they reach out....... Or.... She's posting it to send a message to you that she doesn't want you back.... Either way, no contact is probably best for now.
I was married 11 years and my husband was cheating the whole time. We divorced and 9 months later after the woman he cheated on me with got her divorce from her second husband they got married. They have been married about as long as me and him was married now but they did separate for about a year but now they are back together. I really was hoping he would come back but he didn’t. I know they don’t really get along well but I still find myself wanting him back. Should I just give up on thinking he’ll come back? I mean it’s been at least 13 years now or do some ex’s come back after being gone this long? I’m heartbroken.
My bf broke up with me on dec 24 2022 I reached out a couple times broke NC .day 1 NC again don’t reach out he was annoyed and said he couldn’t make it any more cleared he doesn’t want me back ouch
Hello my baby, When someone breaks up with you, THEY are the ones who are to contact you. You do NOT contact them. However, it sounds to me like it's over, so let him go and move on. Take care of YOU, and you'll be fine. Time heals..
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Dearest Coach Lee. I was just a few days ago left by my new fiance. But thanks to you he already took me back. I just took all my stuff and left right after talking to him. Then I left him alone. Ive had a similar experience earlier where I used your advice but then I did the mistake of not making boundaries for taking him back. That is a big nono. But this time I did exactly as you said and it worked. I think its important to just feel confident that things will work out either way. Always be ready to walk away. But you saved my new relationship with the sweetest man and Im so gratefull. Thank you ❤thank you ❤ thank you❤.
I just almost had panic attack..and I started watching your videos on loop..I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart...you are helping me with my worst days and anxiety... my heart is filled with gratitude towards you❤
"People don't leave what they have unless they believe what they are going to is better."
hodanbille, I have seen and heard so many stories about people like that. We receive questions about getting their spouses back after marrying a rebound. They say, "I still love my wife, but I married my mistress." HELP!! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN...
Not true. I left because I was treated badly. No promise next guy is better, just alone is less damaging
People will not understand the irreplaceable value and support these videos from coach Lee have brought unless they got their heart ripped out. I had a breakup a month ago and I made all the mistakes Coach Lee mentioned. I’m gonna try the NC rule both for myself and for her. Whether it will work or not, it probably doesn’t even matter when I come out as a better person. Keep up the good work. You saved me from my anxieties and suffering.
Thank you for such kind words and I’m thrilled I could help.
@@RealCoachLee thanks again, should I also block my ex on instagram as well? Cuz I do post some stories every week.
@tianhanwang2541 how are you doing now pal?
Trust NC like the gospel. This might sound funny but NC has worked 3 times for me with the same person. Always disrespected me..The longest I went was 62 days before she cracked. Second time it took a month. She kept dying inside coz I went absolutely radio silent. Third time she took two weeks. Now she's learnt alot. NC is the best way guys.
hope it works because my ex blocked me right after i refused her friendzone as i told her i needed time to heal and move on. i don't think she liked this not going her way. it's been a month and i am still blocked.
Yeah NC has showed me her intentions. Three years NC has showed me moving on is the best thing. I have found I don't want her back.
@@francispellerin5093 Keep silent... Trust me she will unblock you sooner rather than later..The cake is only just beginning to bake
@@itchman2 Which is exactly why NC is a double edge sword. You won
@@itchman2 Yeah I think that's really what NC does. It either gets the person back, or teaches you that they weren't worth it. I do believe though that people can reset things after a year or so apart. In a years time a lot of changes can happen. This obviously depends on if they still want to try after a year.
Going on 3 months of crickets between I and wife of 7 years. I'm blocked on everything and she's halfway across the world with her family. Only verbal divorce, nothing official yet. I thought she was going on vacation, little did I know she was going on permanent vacation from me. Not even courtesy of a video call or phone call. Just simple , short text msg that shes done. Didnt even get chance to respond, blocked. I'm learning a lot about myself, about her too, about everything that happened in all these years. Working and bettering myself. Dropped 55lbs, doing powerlifting and mma. Think im gonna take this entire 2023 just to work on myself. I'd be lying if I said the heart doesnt beat for her still but also, it beats less and less with each passing day that we are not together. Good luck to all going thru bs like this. Dont build your home in other people, all you are doing with that is giving them power to make you homeless.
Amel, Best of luck to you always. Take care of yourself.
Definitely relate, my ex said she was going on vacation as well but never said anything about it then blocked me then two years later.. recently liked and followed me but did not reach out directly , I only liked one of hers in return and left it there.
I would advise you Not only go NC but go Radio silent. It's like you disappear off the face of the world.... Completely
@@rapchasceropol8648 Well kinda did, she blocked me on everything so, its the same thing literally
I would rather she has you blocked. Honestly it's a good thing because right now you are bound to make mistakes and push her further away if you would communicate. Let her be. She probably is in the relief period having fun. But have it from me it's a mirage. Time is your best friend right now. Give it time.. Keep working on yourself (congrats you dropped 55lbs by the way.). Have patience like nature.. Been there bro...
I'm not doing NO Contact to get my Ex back, but I'm doing No Contact to move on with my life & for my inner peace. Always remember what's meant for you will always return back to you. Pray, live life, enjoy every moment of life, read books, do your own thing, stay happy & positive & love yourself more & people around you.. GOD has His own ways to do things & if your Ex meant to be with you then only Nature will bring them back to you. Hope everyone that going through alot atm find peace & love. STAY STRONG EVERYONE💖💖
Amen miss
Life without limits, Good for you. Take care of YOU!
@Jann Lewandowski That's what I'm doing, at the end of the day my inner peace, my mental health, my Spirituality is way more important. Plus life's too short to sit back & thinking too much about someone. You have a good day😊
Out of curiosity, why do you watch these video's then? I've seen other people make similar comments. If you don't want them back, no contact is easy. block their number, and social media accounts, and move on with life. No contact is hard for the people who want their ex back and have to suffer during the separation hoping that the ex reaches out.
@@RickySpanish12344 just because someone says inner peace and moving on is their priority, doesn't mean they wouldn't also welcome their ex back into their lives. A big part of moving on is understanding what you're going through and what the other person might be going through, and Coach Lee's videos provide that in spades. Coach Lee's videos aren't JUST about getting your ex back, nor are they barred from anyone who doesn't want their ex back. Use your brain, you fool.
If I get my gf of 2 years back , I will personally come back here to thank u .
Update?
What's up bro
Coach Lee is one of the BEST relationship coaches in the World...His teaching has guided me to fix my broken relationship...I was outlawed by my girlfriend but after I came into direct contact with his teachings and applying the NO CONTACT RULE...my EX started contacting me and now we about to have our wedlock....Thanks so very much Coach Lee...God bless always 💯❤️
If you want your ex back yes haha but if you want to move on listening to coach Lee is not the best he works more on helping you stay away and reconciliation which is not a good ideal in most cases why would you ever want someone you left you for another person
You are of the most genuine people, along with coach Ken, I have gotten to follow online. If fact. You two are the only ones I trust. Yes. No contact doesn’t not always mean them coming back. But most often, no contact means you getting yourself back. I don’t believe in solid relationships anymore but I do believe in hope and love for a better life. Thank you for showing a path towards a better life. Thanks for all of your videos so far. God bless..
Thank you for such beautiful and kind words.
Is actually quite easy to recover an ex...if you had a solid lengthy relationship...if they are not in love with someone else...if your mistakes are not extremes...its easy to recover...you just have to improve...no contact or be indifferent..give jelous...and above all...CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS ALWAYS. The sooner your ex feels is lossing you...the sooner will come back as long as they see you are getting better
Problem is we tend to make decisions based on our feelings
True love is selfLESS and action.
A healthy relationship is based on mutual trust, respect , mindfulness .
I have fallen out of attraction with numerous women .
Unfortunately, I didn’t understand commitment and unconditional love .
We all grow and go through changes and attraction can fade but be built again.
Note:
IF in an abusive relationship, leave . Seek help and leave.
As always , Coach Lee nailed it again.
Thank you for your insight and genuineness.
Thank you Coach Lee! She came back! I did the work and everything you said. It worked! Stick to NC guys!
Will, please email us at myexbackcoach@gmail.com so we can use your story to encourage others!
Hey will, How long did it take for her to come back?
I log in to say thank you to coach lee I've been doing no contact for 6 months without talking and stalking thier social media. Only focus on myself. After six months he contact me and ask for a chance. We slowly reconnect. now we been together for 2 months more stronger. However I cannot get through difficult time and stick with no contact rule without you!!! Just really thank you!
@Every eye - Way to stay in No Contact for so many weeks. I just passed the 5-month mark and couldn’t have done so without watching Coach Lee. No more taking crumbs.
I am approaching the 6th month in 2 weeks and was wondering if it was too late or not. Your comment gives me hope 🤟
Actually I lose hope at month 3 and start to enjoy life again 😂. However it really works just stay strong and focus on yourself 🫶🏻
Congratulations 🎉 I hope to get to that point in no contact going on 2 months with my ex girlfriend.
How long was your relationship before no contact?
This man helped me understand the dynamic of break up but listening to some other made me move on which is a good combination, she came back I told her no . Is never a good ideal to take back someone who tried to destroy you . Coming across this videos now I just smile . I’m currently dating a super model a cabin crew and a beautiful damsel I fucking moved on
Trust the process! I did no contact on a man that really mistreated me! I never reached out to him after he ghosted me. A year later he reached out to me . I had already met a beautiful man and did not want him back !!😊😊
Thank you, Coach Lee, for your guidance and wisdom. He did come back, after 55 days of no contact, but then after two days of texting pulled away. I’m giving him more space but would love to see some content on this mixed signal dynamic. I hope everyone finds better luck in their processes - felt so good during no contact, and now, just feel even more confused, but focusing on myself 🤲🏼
It's been 6 months since this comment. Has no contact continued to work or are the signals still mixed? Did either you get the closure you needed? Moved on?
@@Darkchylde50 He came back fully but I definitely still needed the patience to navigate through those mixed signals and meditate on the feeling of letting the old relationship die. Now we’ve rekindled our relationship and it’s better than ever. It’s cliche but no contact is for you, to determine if you want to rekindle things, if you want to start again, or more importantly, what the hurt you’re going through tells you about what you want in life. It was a very spiritual process, getting him back, but the best part about it has been being able to handle uncertainty and ambiguity better. Not assuming everything everyone tells you, and a bit of faith. It takes time and hurts like a b***, but I promise, if you let the universe guide you into how you’ll be healing - use your pain as a catharsis to better yourself - you will be gifted with what you want most: them, closure, or a fresh start.
@@Darkchylde50I’m super bad at replying! We got back together fortunately - almost immediately after this incident. We’re celebrating almost one year reunited 🥹💝
@@sabrinaelouardi9032 Congratulations! my ex is going to come back to me in the future. I know it and I'm feeling it. Thank you for sharing your inspiring experience! I understand my ex is coming back 🙏🏻🤍💚🍀💯
For me at this point it’s kind of a “well if she does come back great! and if she doesn’t, that’s fine with me me” I’ve grown an indifference to the break up and it’s only been 3 weeks so far. Sure no contact can get your ex back, but it also helps you too. That means not checking their social media, that was a big one so I just deleted instagram all together.
Updates ?
@@Goku19170 Yeah I honestly haven’t thought about it all that much until I saw this youtube notification. Best advice, move on with your life like they will never reach out again. Since then I’ve been more involved with my hobbies, and got a job offer from the Army.
@@Goku19170 Honestly best advice is to move on, or atleast strive in that direction slowly everyday. You got to trust that new and better things will come after. It’s been a year now and it still hurts a little bit, but better things have come my way since. I recently got a job offer from the Army and i’m leaving next month.
@@adamnorthwood1673 hope u doing good just wanna know she ever reached out ?
Thank you coach Lee for your amazing inspiration. It is so practical and realistic. I have listened to many coaches who advised that I should date many girls tomake my ex jealous. But that's not me. NC didn't work for me; as far as bringing my ex back. She did make an effort to come back after almost two years of breaking up with me. She said she dreamt about me often. She even went to an extent of faking her death in order to get my attention. I was no longer interested; although I still miss her a lot. I moved on with my life. NC did work for me in the sense that I became a strong person [in her eyes, at least]. I took my power back - that she had diminished over the years.
That’s true power indeed!!! Wish you the best 😊
After 2 years she reached out??? How long were you two together for?
No contact since July 2022, I think I can assume that it’s done. But no contact helped me to keep my self respect.
Scinerz, good for you. Move on! Good luck.
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I feel like the point of NC is to get them to realize what they lost and miss it, and the sign that has been successful is that they reach out. If this is the goal, why would you NOT give them some sort of response? I really don't understand these other “coaches” who say to ignore them when they reach out. That presumes the goal of NC is to get them to suffer, not to come back.
Mom hacks, what Coach Lee is saying is the person who dumped you MUST be the one to call you. If you were dumped, DO NOT CALL THEM. If he dumped you and calls you, answer the phone. He has to call you, and you can decide what you want to do. You may not want him anymore if he broke up with you. See, it's in your favor. Take care of YOU! ⚘️⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 i’m not sure you understood my comment lol. There are other coaches who tell you not to respond to any reach out unless it is “ significant“ Coach Lee says in this video that that is BS and I agree with him
There are other coaches, who say that unless they reach out declaring their undying love for you, and that they want you back, that you ignore them. Coach Lee’s advice to respond, but match their energy, makes way more sense.
Yes i try everything for her in relationship and after two months no contact i got news now she is happy with family decision of engagement
5 months NC. He’s reached out so many times with literally just breadcrumbs. I would casually respond but by the time he reached out with a Merry Xmas I gave him a “you too” out of frustration. He got the message & I haven’t heard from him since. Miss him like crazy but just continuing working on me. Maybe one day I will move on, but just don’t have it in my heart to do so yet. Thanks Coach Lee for all of the support.
Your doing the right thing. Don’t fold for breadcrumbs. I did and regretted it. I should have been more stern like you so they can give a sincere apology.
@@bbc20231 Right.. I fell for the breadcrumbs too. Pisses me off that I was so vulnerable and let my emotions of being in love blind me.
@@shawny979 Bro I’m so livid with myself. Probably pushed her away again.
But bro - I just secured a date for valentines with a new fish so I’m chuffed. I know I’m rushing a bit and should rest a bit before dating again because I’m not trying to repeat same mistakes, but man needs this.
@@bbc20231 By dating someone else SO SOON is really not the way to do this. You're rebounding! You should take time to concentrate on your relationship, and that doesn't include another woman. Think about this because this can hurt your chances, and make things worse with your girlfriend.
Wow so many ppl in no contact from the 1st of January ...... me to...... I've been so heartbroken through this month. She broke up with me and wanted no contact, I don't think she'll ever reach out, I begged and now I'm blocked on all social media, and she blocked me on her phone. We live around the corner from eachother and its so difficult not to go see her. We've been off and on for 3 year now and felt blindsided by this breakup because I put so much work in bettering myself
Coach Lee, your videos have literally saved my life. I can't thank you enough. God Bless you
This guy really seems to be an emotional and re relationship genius almost every point he brings up my ex has mentioned in arguments or in conversation. He is spot on with how your ex is feeling believe this man he is correct and if I could afford it I would book him in a heartbeat
Something I'm noticing across Lee's videos is that oftentimes he'll pin or favorite a comment success story and it'll push that to the top and all the other people are pushed down, and you'll notice Lee will also talk about those other people too in his vids. Honestly scroll down the comments and you'll see more than enough success stories he hasn't touched. If that doesn't tell you to trust the process, idk what will. Week 2.5 of NC, I was starting to feel pretty good but I opened Badoo and bam my Ex right in my face. Deleted my account, equivalent of just logging off and going home. Dating is just way too soon 1 month from breakup.
Buy the emergency breakup kit! Totally helped me in all areas of life!
Dear Coach Lee
It's been 2yrs of NC , chances of my ex returning is slim . And that's ok , I want to thank you for getting me through the break up. Peace
After over a year later it doesn't matter. I wish him the best I hope he does me.
Wanda Yarbrough, After a year, definitely move on and live your life. I know he will never forget you no matter who he us with. Good luck to you. Hugs..⚘️❤️💙
Coach Lee.
We have technically been broken up for over a year. Within that year we not been able to stay away from each other. We talk just about every week, still hangout, sometimes be intimate. When one of us goes silent the other one reaches out and wants to get together.
I want to get back together, but she is just not ready to jump in. She says “I’m just not ready to date and I don’t want to be with anyone” which then leaves me in an emptiness of confusion because we’re still intimate, she tells me she misses me and wants me to come over and cuddle up on the couch and watch movies. This has been over a year of this and I just don’t know what to do. We argue because I tell her she’s hot and cold and that she doesn’t know what she wants.
I have started no contact and it’s been a week now, but I just have zero clue what to do at this point.
She still has feelings for me and still is in love with me but just won’t commit.
What the hell do I do 😞
Atx, you need a coaching session. I’m not doing individual coaching at the moment but a coach on my staff DOES. He is Coach Rex and you can book a session with him at myexbackcoach.com/coach-rex-breakup-coaching. He is OUTSTANDING at helping people get an ex back. He was a mentor to me when I was younger. I suggest you copy and paste what you said here when you book your call. -Coach Lee
Thank you so much 🙏
@atxmanimal1913 Why would they commit if they can get what they want with no strings attached ? You have to be strong and cut it off before you get hurt more.
I don't need my ex anymore i watch your videos because it's makes me feel relaxed
First of all thanks Coach Lee for this video. You’re awesome😍Please help me… He contacted me to say sorry a week ago after almost 90 days. He said he’s the same person no grudges against you and he continued conversation about what he been through and things he had done. The conversation was kind of dying I had to leave it first. Once I I said ok then good bye. I felt a little disappointment on his voice. I hung up. It’s been 7 days he never called again. Should I initiate contact this time? Thanks! Oh one thing I forgot to mention is that he didn’t ask me to come back in his life. Alison he’s an avoidant.
Benitha, NO, do not contact him. He broke it off, so don't contact him at all.
@@jannlewandowski5540 he initiated contact first telling me how much he’s sorry for hurting me and also told me some I stuff that he accomplished during the breakup. It’s been a week since he contained. and coach Lee said do not ignore your ex. That’s where I’m confused at.
funny enough - my ex reached out to me after 3 months 😂 sad thing is - i don’t need him anymore
Oh Coach Lee!! You gave me some insight regarding what may happen with my ex after he broke up with me. You were so right. He desperately wants me back now, he's in a bad place. He's upset with me because I didn't wait for him to sort his head out. I've moved on and I'm happier but I do care for him. I'm not going back to him but I really didn't think that the situation would turn upside down. You really do know what you are talking about - thank you!
Vicky, Coach Lee is the BEST! ALL HIS VIDEOS ARE FANTASTIC!
Your videos have kept me sane. Thank you so much, Coach Lee.
But does this concept work on a 3-months passionate, intense relationship? We spent every day talking on the phone and when we were physically together it was always sweet, loving, and intimate. He ended it all out of the blue, going from pursuing me relentlessly, telling me how much he needs me and can’t wait to see me, to telling me this is not good for his alcohol recovery - that his therapist and clinicians warned him not to get involved in heavy emotional attachments right now (he is fairly new to recovery) - even though I was very supportive and encouraging of his recovery. He continued to text for a while stating he misses me and wants to run back to me but he has to do this. Part of me believes him, another part of me thinks he is using his recovery as an excuse for something else he’s not telling me. I told him I respect his decision and want what’s best for him, I didn’t beg or plead, but also expressed that I didn’t want the break up. He said he knows I’m hurting, he’s so sorry and that he’s hurting too. We haven’t had any contact in 3 weeks. I doubt I’ll ever hear from him again. But I fell in love and I’m still heartbroken and hoping he’ll change his mind and come back. I have watched your video on short term relationships, but would love and need your take on this please.
That’s tough but respecting his wishes is the best thing you can do for him and yourself. Who knows maybe one day in the future when his recovery allows it he will reconsider things with you. But try not to put your life on hold. 3 months is a short but sweet time.
Ma’am, I hate to tell you but this man was just passing through.
It's short term relationship but trust me, if it's meant for you it will find it's own way back to you. Be Positive.
@@barbararomeo9817 Thank you for your kind words. xo
@VeniceBeachQtpie You're welcome😊 STAY Strong & Stay Positive. When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you, they're sent to promote, increase & strengthen you. Blessings😊💖
Hey Kings never go back to a women who thought she could do better without you , her coming back where she left you dead is like a women window shopping and putting you on a shelf to make you wait while she has fun and looks around for someone better , only reason a women comes back is because no one wanted her and settles for you and if you take her back she will never respect you , dont do it kings ! 3.8 billion women on this planet lol
Thank you, Coach Lee, for your logical advice. I am on day 32 of no contact and my sanity has returned. To everyone watching, it gets better.
I don’t care if my ex ever reaches back out. I was present, loving, generous, and patient with someone who couldn’t give me what I needed. He ended things with me after I chose to stay as to not hurt him, but this was just hurting myself . It’s a blessing he ended things even though this has been so, so painful. I don’t want the kind of person he is in my life.
I’m on day 2 lol
@@GalloVerdesFarms hang in there it’s a bumpy road lol ugh
@@ocheerup1324 thanks for the reply that helps me a lot knowing I’m not alone 🙏but it always end up with me never ever being a dumper I’ve always been the dumped lol it’s been 8 years with on and off relationships and I could’ve never seen me dumping the woman in my three past relationships I’ve had I would’ve liked to work things out but I hope this last girl comes back she means alot more than the two before but I can’t force someone who doesn’t want me to want me I have to get in my head that person is not mine anymore
@@GalloVerdesFarms Ugh I'm the same way, loyal to the bitter end. I felt more of a connection with him than I had other people I've dated. But you're right, we can't force people to like us or want us in their life. They have to make changes and come back to us. I started to say out loud or writing in my journal "I don't want someone who doesn't want me". Because that's the truth, as much as it hurts.
@@ocheerup1324 I ended up messaging her for my own closure because I needed to say bye better than that night that she dumped me I was in shock that night but today this morning I was in a better place to text like a person who respected her boundaries I said “don’t repl not “don’t have to” I said don’t becuase I wanted to make it clear that I was just saying bye back to clear the air for me that I don’t get freaked out I can talk normally and understand that she needs to see if she misses me or not and if she doesn’t ….I love her so much I don’t think I’ll get in a relationship again it’s been 8 years on and off and I give up god or whoever controls life has to control my path to marriage I give up not on my self but a relationship with another person but her
Coach Lee, hoping to see a video about this situation (I'm dealing with it now): how can you tell the difference between their reach outs being real interest or if they are just using younger attention to help ween them off you slowly ..
I believe what you're describing is called bread crumbing. Here is my personal advice (I'm not a coach). If they reach out to you, do as Coach Lee says and respond politely. If they however drop off again, ignore their next message unless it's something really meaningful. Some exes are doing as you describe, checking in. They want to see if they could still get you back, to feed their ego and make themselves feel better in the break up. By ignoring them, they can really feel like losing you. This is a risk though as they may give up. I would do this though if they reach out once, and then appear to ignore you after you respond politely... Only when they really reach out to you (apologize, asking you to please respond), or want to talk on the phone or meet up should you respond.
Going trough NC,will keep you updated
How you doing brother?
@@jobbemathijssen4303 Honestly,way better at first it seems that the world is going to fall on you,but eventually it gets better,the same way that the hair grows..feelings change aswell (Thankyou for asking and reminding me about this comments)
@@zerefstoica3411 sometimes a reminder helps you to consider how much you’ve grown trough the time. Thanks for replying. I’m 5 weeks in now and I think I’ve left it all behind me. I still work together with my ex. It’s been hard but I’m further than I’ve thought I’d be by now. So yes I agree a lot with what you’ve just said. Keep doing you mate! If you ever need a random person to talk to I’m here for you! Have a blessed day!
Coach Lee, I am wondering how this applies to my situation. I was dating a girl for about a month, and it was a bit of an on again, off again thing. I was always able to talk her back around and when we did meet up, it always went well, and she always initiated post-date messaging. She spoke about future plans with me. Despite some speed bumps it did seem to be progressing. Then one night she called me and told me someone from her past had come back from overseas, and she was looking to pursue that. It was heartbreaking for me. I really liked her and thought we had chemistry. I guess my question is have you ever seen something like that turn back around? I did send messages to the effect of "let me know if anything changes" and that "we may circle back around to eachother" and I left it at that. She sent me a message a few days after and thanked me for being a gentleman and how I handled the situation. I replied reiterating my stance. We havent spoken now for a week and a half as I've gone into no contact. Does the fact that we only dated for a month mean there's not much chance she comes back around?
I know it's only a month, but we never know what's the future holds so be positive & Pray about it. If she really meant for you, she would come back to you.
She chose someone else... Why would you even want someone like that? Not trying to be mean but really think about that for a second.
@@amarino5179 You could say that about anyone who leaves someone else. Fact is they had thin longer than me and her did as much as it sucks. I dont think she was totally over him. Bu maybe realiywill show he she made the wrong choice
@@jarradhurley4866 I understand what you are saying and I truly hope you get what you want.. Having said that, her interest was/is clearly for someone else.. I just hope you do not " wait " around for her. Live your life and move forward and if something happens in the future see how you feel about the situation then. All the best..
@@amarino5179 I think you can be into more than one person at a time, and given her situation and longer relationship with him, she chose him, unfortunately. But I dont think that means there is no hope here. I have no want to wait for her. I do have other dates lined up. But truth of the matter is she really got to me. Every so often you meet someone who feels right, and she did, and I have a feeling if not for her circumstance, this whole situation will be very different. But see what happens, as you said. I think people can make mistakes.
28th day of no contact, damn I miss her more than in the begining but I'm staying strong..
ShiniX, STAY strong, and give it TIME...
Keep your head up brother. I’m in nearly 7 months no contact and trust me it will get better and better with time.
I’m burning up right now I don’t think I can hold out for very much longer it’s now 4 weeks…
My ex that suffers from bpd left me for her ex that she was with prior to me. I think she saw me as her “rescuer” while he was painted black. She went right back to revaluing him during my devaluation.. She promptly discarded me while blaming all the relationship failures on me while going back to him. Straight heart break…
I dumped my last ex bc we had a baby and miscarried. It was unplanned. After 2 months of silence, we kept bumping into each other at different events. Noticed him stalking my stories. I wasn't angry at him, I was sad I lost my child and he wasn't there. He wasn't really my boyfriend, he was more of a friend with benefit at the time. Now, I'm just as attracted to him as he is to me. I wanna give him all of me but he has to work for it. He has to make up for his mistakes. I think I kept being single because I was grieving and trying to protect him as much as I can from my hurt. Now I'm a lot more ready for him and I'm sure
Managollipop, if you want him back, get Coach Lee's Breakup Kit.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk...
”so if there was some misunderstanding and you would really like the person back. And you thought you broke up with them and they thought they broke up with you and vise verse. And both of you follow the no contact forever and neither one reaches out how do you get back together ?"
Cassius, I suggest you watch this video all the way through th-cam.com/video/hSt7fkPcJsU/w-d-xo.html
Why are your sessions so expensive. Finding a good therapist or coach is hard enough.
Coach Lee, you've made a video about blocking an ex and why you shouldn't do it. I didn't block this person, but I did unfriend them on facebook. I can't undo what I did as I could with blocking. They can still contact me, but can't see my private stuff. I'm just wondering in the scheme of things how big of a mistake this was? I didn't know about no contact at the time, and did it because of emotion. I wish I could undo it, but I can't. I'm 99% certain this person is a fearful avoidant (based on their history, and things they shared with me). She told me she was having difficulty because of an ex husband being around, and for a couple of weeks she really cut down on communication. Finally she stopped replying to my messages. I took it hard, and unfriended her as seeing her post things while ignoring me was very painful.
Hey coach Lee. I was with a narcissist for 3 yrs, after taking a break for a year we were together again for about another year. Nothing changes
Yes, I don’t suggest dating a narcissist.
Hernandez, I was with a narcissist for 5 years! NOTHING EVER CHANGES...I finally left him.
@@RealCoachLee lol
Coach Lee, thank you. No contact works. We did get back together with the power shift pulling "my way" this time. (4months process) However, doing the self work in the process of no contact, made me a different person, and very fast i ended the "final push" that we had. She was immature, childish, playing games and yes, liying like a infant. This i did not want to tolerate since i understood my value and i ended it. Funny how life works. You never get what you want, or better, things change fast!
I would like to emphisis that your videos have helped me BIG TIME, in the hardest period. You are a very good psyhoterepeut. Thank you sir. All the best to you and your team.
Hi was there ever a time where your partner reached out and then ghosted you again ? ..I’m in this situation and I’m so lost 😞
@@zb5436 time will heal things. Secondly, it is little different for man and woman.... if you partner reaches out, and ghost you again, it is over for sure i think. You dont need stupid games, life is short. Emphasizing i am always for love and for relationship to last, but playing stupid infant games is a reflection of immaturity and insecurity.
She did not reach out, and even dough we live in a same building(what are the odds), i was simply walking by her when i see her, and i have looked in other direction. I was respecting the no contact rule. And it did payed off, but she didnt progress at all, with time she was more and more insecure. She contacted me first, and this time around i was controling the situation 100%, trust me, but i did found out some stupid things she did in the process of no contact, and being that i am a old fashion guy, i simply ended it very ruthlesly. I am not happy with the outcome, but i didnt want to lose my musculanity for a person that does not value me at all.
Long story short, stay firm, stay strong, have a "military kind attitute", and work on yourself. God will arange you to be happy again. I wish you all the best.
@@natalijabatricevic6765 Basically she slept around after the breakup and she lost value in your eyes ?
@@nephastgweiz1022 she went out on a coffe with a guy, ex friend of mine, to get some stupid favor from him, behind my back. This "nobody" was an ex "friend of mine", that literally used to fix my car and stuff around the house for free. I used to make him a coup of coffe, because this guy is a bum, junkie, alcoholic, a divorced 50 y.o. etc... since this guy also used to live in my building, i was seing him a lot since i walk my dogs a lot. We were never friends, more a guy from "the hood" i knew.
He also was fixing my and her laptop's, and when she "dumped me", she called him and asked him to fix her laptop again. But here is the catch, she knows me! She know that i would never tolerate this!
I found out one day, a month after we got back together. Out of the blue, when things were "great", i asked to see her phone. She gave me the "dog and pony show" for 2 hours streight, and finally when she gave me the phone, i found text.... this bum was hitting on her, and she was playing him as well. I dont think she slept with him, but dude, she went to his crib alone. She knows that this is a RED CARD with a guy like me, and she still did it. Since this guy is a joke, he was coming on to her, and she was playing him. But in some paragraph of the text, he wrote her:"(my name) is crazy, you should dump him, and she replyed - EXACTLY!".
Once i saw this, i just slowly gave her the phone back and told her to leave my life for ever! She then tryed to fight me and since i am an very serious amateur boxer, i just calmly "escorted her out of my apartment", and closed the door.
Later she text me "screw you", because she was humiliated, which was well deserved.
Now, if she came to me after we got back together and said: "baby, in laste 4+ months i did this and this, i saw this and this guy, etc", i would respect her and i would said i have to think about it. Since i am and old fashion man, i would never tolerate this, but i would respect the situation. Trying to do things behind my back, is a red card. End of story. This woman have recieved life changing(!) favors for me, and her whold family have financial benefit from this. She also gave her hand, and promiced her self to me in front of the Isus Christ(in Church she promiced that she will marry me), but todays society is insaine. People are saying one thing, talking the other, and thinking the third.
Long story short, let the good lord repay her by her deeds, and me by mine. I will rather ba alone and a MAN, than a married wimp PU**Y guy which will be "happy to have a woman".
Que sera sera....
@@natalijabatricevic6765 Straight up. She was entertaining this man's sexual attention. Women are kinda fucked up now. They will act innocent, submissive and perfect, then one day dump you to jump on other dicks out of nowhere.
Anyway, I'm glad you had the balls to save your dignity. Deep down, she will always respect you for being a man, even if it means you can't be together. There are other women out there that won't ever even dream to do you like that. But it's very hard to vet them properly. I thought I did, and I still got bit in the ass.
ABA works. Trust me. I have a child with autism who recovered after 10 years of therapy
angelsandocca. Thank God. God bless your family. 🙏🙏🌺
This is what I needed to hear. She broke NC and said she wanted me in he life but she doesn't want talk about our issues or anything from the break up 4 months ago. I think I need to disappear. But she has stopped me twice from doing so while also showing me no interest.
Coach I’m broken 💔again. NC worked ….however I guess I moved too quickly and out of no where she wants space.
I should have listened to what you said and kept her at NC until she apologised for her disrespectful
behaviour .
Shame on me this time but I will heal and get stronger.
BBC, whatever you do, DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP! LEARN from what you've done, and move on. You're going to be just fine..👍
Coach Lee doesn't say that you have to wait for an apology. You may not have done anything wrong at all. Just go back to the plan and if she contacts you be polite and friendly, but let her take the lead romantically. It's normal, I believe, for the ex to go back and forth, especially at the start of returning. Show her that you can handle all that with strength.
@@jannlewandowski5540 Thankyou
@@KingoftheJuice18 Thankyou , not me apologise . She because this time I was the dumper because of her rude behaviour,
I went into no contact for 2 weeks . She reached out once . Then disappeared. I sent her flowers a month after the breakup because i thought she was still interested after she texted me ….
She told me she is not .
This is my third and last breakup in life . I prefer to be alone.. until i die . I cant tolerate that pain again
You’re not alone there. I feel the same way.
@@lucap6211 my man ! Omg this comment is so old . I completely forgot about her . She eventually reached out and i rejected her . Whoever walks out of your life hold the door open for them
Been over a year and a half, haven’t heard a peep. I’m in a better place but honestly I’ve given up on ever finding anything like that again…
I understand what you're feeling, if it seemed like the love of your life, the person of your dreams.
@@KingoftheJuice18 in the beginning and then after it ended
But for whatever reason I cant remember the points the last few years of the relationship where I had doubts or why
Its like, time heals but its also made me forget all the bad and only remember the good so its become easier and harder at the same time.
That and I just havent connected with anyone like that, probably been on over 70 dates and nothing has come close.
But I guess its hard to compete with someone you knew since childhood and dated almost 6 years
Doesnt help that the dating scene is absolute garbage either
@@fnord_lander I agree that dating is a kind of hell. I really commend you for going out on all those dates....It can be hard to stay clear about the person's faults and limitations, but everyone has them. Their main fault? Not appreciating your awesomeness (joking/not joking). Stay true to what you feel is right--whatever it may be (holding onto your hopes for them, or moving forward). Don't let others tell you what to do or what to feel.
My ex and I had been together for about 4 years. We broke up 3 days ago, unofficially we broke up 5 days ago but I told her the minimum was to at least meet up. She agreed. We met at my house, we talked. We understood what we were feeling and cried because it was ending. We ended on good terms. The reason why was she said “she didn’t want to be in a relationship, she wanted to have more time for herself” she studies and works at the same time. When we met she said, she wasn’t deleting any convos, photos, or blocking me at all. She even still keeps my initial in her Insta bio. I’m confused, what do I do? So far I’m doing the no contact. And my closest friend said my ex asked her how I was doing? Do you think there’s a possibility here?
Orkos, get Coach Lee's Breakup Kit.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
She loves you man I think y’all just both gotta compromise tho
Update
That apple sauce ugh I’ve been there after NC I reached out even though they dumped me ! Horrible idea ! Now I stop talking to them !
I really messed up. We where together for a long time and she felt like we didn't communicate well and that I wasn't interested. I really was and i really loved her, I just let depression and things get in the way of that. I wanna do no contact but idk if that would make her feel like she was right that I don't care.
How are things now
Your confidence kills me! 😂😂😂😂That smooth shirt shift tho Coach Lee
This will work fine, because I have no way of contact with him. I am blocked on everything for 2 months. I been slowly moving on taking care of self, self care getting compliments from guys In public. I’m on a dating app, my feelings are slowly fading away from him someone who cares isn’t gonna do me like that.
More information on NC with kids? Can only find 1 video. Surely more people in this boat too?
paulmac3176,
Paul, if you are living together and have children, you treat each other with respect. Be casual, and most of all, be civil.
If you are separated/divorced, you just pick them up/drop them off, and of course, be casual and civil.
I hope this answers your question. There are quite a few couples going thru this. Good luck to you always.
He went nc 6 months and then I contacted him which lead to him blocking me 3 months ago and he moved in this time. I am beyond heartbroken. We were together for 3 years ❤
Sienna, after 6 months, let him go! Go out with your friends, keep busy, and listen to Coach Lee's videos. He is the BEST! GOOD LUCK TO YOU..⚘️❤️
Did you dump him?
were you the dumper?
That apple sauce part cracks me up every time lmao. Thanks Coach Lee!
I really don't understand why people don't try and work through things when these issues and thoughts start to arise. Say, you do get them back. Will you actually be able to trust them?
Hey Coach, First of all thanks for your videos! Second thing is that, After doing no contact for a day, My ex reached me after 24 hours, Just said "Hi" Nothing more than that, We talked for a few (only 5-6 words though) and i let her lead the convo, I wanted to ask that if she reaches me out again, Should I ask for meeting or just continue texting? Please guide me sir 🙏
Thanks Coach for all your videos, my GF ended our relationship after I moved closer to her (she had to move to study 1500km so I moved to the same city 3 months laterthe prior 3 months it was great) on december 1st, she told me that between study and work she didnt had enough time (and thats true she studies during the morning and after 3pm she works at a restaurant till late at least 1130pm) that felt a lot of pressure and was overwhelmed and needed time and space to sort things out and she didn't want to hurt me, so we broke up.
The only thing that I told her is that I was willing to wait for her and she replie "As long as you're happy waiting, I don't want you feeling alone.. and what if you meet someone new? I don't want you to miss out on that if Im still unavailable"
should I keep going with NC and mind my own thing? she started liking my posts on social media and I dont know what to do
That’s the same reason my daughter bf broke up with her. They went NC for 2 months then he said he didn’t want to hear or see of her. 😢Not much of contact every now and then she text him. But his never reach out just a simple reply.
Let her go man
@@CiluhStyle1 she started to talking back, it seems like she has got some trust issues with herself.
Not going to happen here. Been almost a year. I just need to move on for good. Her loss.
Kevin, good for you! Proud of you..⚘️
But the major point I will preach till I die for everyone is this: if and when you know why they left, and you bring this to their attention, and they act childish or don't even want to try and work on it if the relationship was nothing less than good and faithful, is laziness and lack of respect and drive. Dont settle for someone who has no drive to work on it, that is absolutely unhealthy. Take it from my experience, I learned the hard way and it has only opened my eyes and made me realize what not tolerate and, and the signs of this from now on.
Thanks!
me and my girlfriend argued and we're making a break of 2 weeks, and she tells me that i need to show her that i changed, and empty words won't make her want to come back, she says that i need to something
what can i do?
rikybj0276, Hi, go NO CONTACT for at least 45-60 days, which will give you both time to think, and to miss each other. In the meantime, you can get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely.
I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.
I can't induce a fear of loss in her because I promised to not contact her until she contacts me. It seems she's intent on dragging it out a good 60 days or however long it takes her to get over her feelings for me. At that point she will reach out so we can be "friends", as I accepted and now feel obliged to follow through on. I think I can reignite attraction given enough time with her, but I really doubt she will make much time for me. I also think she will use the flirtatious "friendship" I intend to create as a substitute for a relationship, so she doesn't need to commit anything to one. I'm not sure how to induce a fear of loss within that context.
SoundsSilver, It sounds like you still care for her and she's doing the no contact correctly. That will give you a better chance of reuniting. I have a great idea for you two.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
60 days no contact, she hasn’t messaged me. Honestly don’t think she will.
bilalriaz7609, I'm sorry to say that you weren't contacted. However, you have some extra help coming your way. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you.
I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.
Coach Lee, I’ve recently learned that I’m needy and smothering and lose my identity in relationships. I vomit emotionally and push them away. I’m actively learning to not be that way, but how do I show that during the no-contact? I’m back into my identity now, I’m working out and building my relationship with my creator and focusing on my passion.
Bobby, I suggest you watch this video all the way through th-cam.com/video/5TjrjXl4g-w/w-d-xo.html
Thank you sir. I appreciate the feedback.
coach. i am still in a no contact with my ex girlfriend. it's been 78 days now. I called her yesterday on the phone but she did not even receive it. It feels hurting and insulting tbh. I really thought she would pick up the call. Her friends told me she had moved on and she is doing fine.
I won’t make any assessments of her true feelings but one thing to know is to NEVER communicate with or listen to her friends. They’re see themselves as these self appointed bodyguards. They’ll always act like they’re protecting their friend and they will go to any length to do so, even if it means treating you like garbage no matter how well the terms you were on with them were
@@roachofdoom1234 will keep it noted sir
That’s not how no contact works. You contacted! 78 days down the drain!
Bruh, no contact means YOU DONT TRY TO CONTACT THEM! Them ghosting you doesnt count lmao. Just coz she doesnt pick up the phone or text you back doesnt mean you are doing no contact. It means you are keep chasing her.
@@alexforce9 Coach Lee has said that after 60 days or so you can reach out because you don't have anything to lose at that point. He still suggests you should wait for them, but if they don't reach out after 60 days, it may require you to reach out if you want them back.
I am doing NC. My ex reached out a day after the break up. Asked me how I was doing. Said I am fine and asked her the same. Told me she misses me and I take care. Told her thank you and take care too. After a day, I was left on READ and she deleted the I miss you message. After that, silence for 3 days and counting. I saw her watching my stories though.
Did I blow it when I didn't say I miss you too? Thoughts?
reason for break up:
we both love and care for each other. the reason for our break us is her parents being against us and she is hurt and exhausted as they torment her over and over again. said they'll never approve us no matter what she says to them. We are in a gay rship.
What if we did reach out, act upset and try to get them back till they ignored you. Obviously going no contact but the chances are probably severely lowered due to chasing? I did it because I feel like she felt I didn’t want her due to actions/arguments. But as you say it was already too late.
He has other videos about this topic. Long story short, yes you likely lowered your chances, but the best option remains no contact. There's still hope and she will soon wonder why the guy who chased her is not chasing anymore. But for your sanity, it's better to lose all hope, it helps tremendously with the healing process and it doesn't change anything on her end, it only gives you more power.
Victor, check out Coach Lee's videos. They will help you. He really is the BEST!
Just my opinion but things can still work, but it may require more no contact time. There are a lot of people who have messy breakups, and get back together. Time will allow the memories of the chasing to fade.. I heard a story recently where a husband basically did everything wrong. He got blocked on everything, even begged her outside her house. He broke no contact several times. Finally it took 6 full months of no contact before she agreed to meet for coffee after reaching out to him. They have been together for 3 years now and happier than ever.
@@RickySpanish12344 thanks for sharing, I’m working on healing my issues that I brought to the relationship. I don’t want to stay hung up on someone who doesn’t want me. But if she saw changes and were open to talking that would be interesting. I’ll try to remember to follow up on this thread in 6 and 12 months
@@vtchevalier I'd love to hear about your success in that time. Either by moving on happily, or a happy reunion. Out of curiosity how long were you two together?
My ex is being cold to me and told me she doesn't want to fix things with me and told me that she moved on.....we had a loving relationship of 2 years....do I have chances?
Same except 7 yesrs
Lol, I saw your "success story" about no contact on another video of coach Lee, he pinned your comment. Looks like it's not really a success story. Maybe it would be time and energy better spent on another prospect than spent on this girl with whom it doesn't seem to work. And judging by your story on the other video, it seems like you have to work on yourself to make yourself more attractive.
Acash, why did you two break up?
If your ex needed you they wouldn’t have left
Work on yourself emotionally . Read soemthing to have some enjoyable conversation. Work on your exercise and dress nice.
Im single right now, not dating as well. 🥰☺️ dont have a feelings for my ex either. But still watching your videos, Coach Lee. Liking and always the notif squad. 💖☺️ i am always present as well, Coach! 🙋🏻♀️ 🇵🇭
I appreciate that so much! Thank you for your encouragement!
Wow honestly watching ur videos help and my ex is starting to text and ask questions it really work the no contact rule works perfectly
Coach Lee is the BEST!! 👍
How long did it take her?
Buying the course tonight. Quick question though, should I reach out for her birthday?
Jimi, watch this video all the way through th-cam.com/video/gLUJbncTN1k/w-d-xo.html
My ex regretted the break-up just 17 days later but said that he will just have to move on with the wrong choice he made. He did not even try to ask for us on getting back. Would that mean we don’t have any chance at all?
Hmmm.... According to Coach Lee, the feelings of missing someone get strongest between days 45-60. It could be that around that time he will reach out to you.
Gem, he is full of it. It he *really* thought it was a mistake and wanted you back, he would ask and try. Don’t fall for the “it’s complicated and mysterious” BS. It’s simple.
@@RealCoachLee After NC, he reached out to me at dawn today that he misses me when he is feeling depressed (due to family matters and other stuff) as I was the only one who could pull him out of his loop. By the way, he went back to Scotland and I still live in our place in Spain. He sounded suicidal so I called him to make sure he will not do anything stupid. He said that it's good that we are friends but told him that I don't want that as it's a low blow. He still wants to get in touch to know what is going in my life and if it's OK for him to reach out when he feels depressed or down and I said that it's alright. He did say sorry for hurting me and making his bad choice of letting me go. However, still no indication that he wants us to get back.
I am still planning to move to Scotland by next year and start a new life there as Spain reminds me of us after 8 years and 2 months (engaged for 6 years and 3 months).
I binged watch your videos everyday and night to help me get through the cycle. Sometimes, I give up but your words kept me going. I am so ever grateful for your advice.X🙏❤️
Coach Lee, did I mess this up? Have I made a huge mistake for letting him contact me when he feels down?
@@RealCoachLee
My ex finally got the balls to decide. He reached out and sent me this message.
“ I don’t know what I want. I’m happy with the way my life is right now. I can do what I want and talk to other people.(he admitted to have dates in Tinder last week). I am not sure about having a relationship right now. (after I told him that I’m still in love with him but I am not chasing him as I don’t force myself if I’m not welcome). I still want us to be friends, though. You’ll never know what will happen in the future.”
I did not reply. I am continuing my NC again. However, I’m sure he will contact me again sometime soon when he will be having “depression episodes” with suicidal thoughts. How do I deal with this if he will keep on contacting me but no longer wants to be with me?
There seems NO CHANCE at all that my ex is coming back to me. 💔💔💔
@@gem.17.71 I think coach lee is right. him saying that he messed up and it's too late is basically a cop out. It's not "too late" if you want him back. It's too late for him if he came back and you didn't want him back. So he's either playing games or just trying to make himself feel better.
Was in a 2 years relationship. Broke up . 1 month of strategic contact due to living together and now no contact. Got a letter when she moved out saying she can't be in a committed relationship till she works on herself first. Thoughts? Been sticking with no contact unless she text me first
stay in nc, she has to want to be strong for you two and reach out for it to work out in the long run, good luck
On Module 2 - watched it twice.
this is great info.
i don't know if I have the new modules or the old
Working the NC rule right now and she txted me this morning and called. I ignored both .....then I blocked her.
I am going to see how far I can take the NC ..... have to finish the modules
Coach.....I would have paid $157.00 for these modules. jusk kidding
Coach Lee, I left cos of negative experiences. It's been two and a half months now on no contact. The mother of my child has since played a sorts of mind games and tricks for me to break no contact. I'm now learned to do a modified no contact because of our daughter. I'm stil in no contact though. She's constantly tricks me to contact her. I'm not sure if now it's the tym to reach out. She also shows all the signs that warrant me to contact her.
3 Years and still waiting...
kennytheripper2
I'm sorry to hear that. Go out and have some fun. A lot of people have been there. ❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 I guess tommorow she's coming back in my college.....so ig we'll met after 3 years 3 months
Its been a month and a half.... I reached out to say sorry for her family passing 3 weeks ago. An ex reached out to her they talked about me. Just a disaster. Its over moving on just sucks
“You are the apple sauce right now”
😂😂😂😂 it is gross though. And yes I’ve been the apple sauce that hit home.
Great video, Lee.
Grateful 😊
My ex broke up with me in April of 2022, we attend the same church and have the same group of friends, she didn’t want to tell anyone at the church that we where dating but we told people outside of church like family and other friends, she broke up with me the day before Good Friday, fast forward no we message/talk every week, she asked me last weekend if she could borrow a game that I have for PS5 to play and yes I still have feelings for and I do care for her, her reasoning for breaking up when she told me a while back was that she felt pressured with people asking questions at the church, since we are talking almost every week what should I ask/say to her?
My ex lift me saying that u control me and trying to talk to her manager but she said she hasn't give him chance to be in relationship with him or anyone..but she daily check up on me she is calling me and trying to indirectly connect with me.
But she says I can't see you sad and motivates me to be strong and get another gf. She calls me but she says I don't want to be in relationship again with you. I am in no contact period but she is the one who checks up on me. What shall I do?
That shirt keeps changing from blue to purple.
Only the best special effects in my videos.
You are wonderfull. thank you
Coach Lee need some advice. My ex of more than 2 years, texted me after 12 days of no contact. He also called me twice after I Ignored his messages ("can you pick me up?" and "you know where") I didn't text back and I didn't pick up. But I eventually did pick up on the third call while I was already sound asleep. This all happened in one day When I said "hello?" He was just listening and dropped the call after a few seconds. I just went back to my no contact state. Do you think I lost my power by picking up? Appreciate your thoughts about it. Thank you
I definitely don't think Coach Lee would say that you did anything wrong. He's very clear in his videos that you're not supposed to ignore your ex if they reach out. That might make them give up altogether. Just be polite and friendly if they contact, but not romantic and let them take the lead.
Hello Coach, I'm in no contact with my Ex but she's literally messaging me, Short texts before but now she's chatting casually more, What do i do sir? Should i keep responding her? (Short replies only) I'M IN NO CONTACT
R, NO CONTACT AT ALL!
I don't know which one of your programs to use we weren't legally married but have 2 kids and lived together for 10 years
I think this Is the 8th month of no contact, my ex has fully moved on and is in a new relationship since 3 month, I trying the best to be my best version, but I Lost all hopes and unfortunally I have some breakdown often. Idk how to exit from this situation
Francesco,go out with your friends. Have fun, and pick up a hobby. Sports, etc. HUG FOR YOU..❤❤
I have a question I want to know if she’s lying about her feelings or is this how she truly feels? I have been a no contact for 52 days and recently I saw on her social media with a quote talking about absence and that my absence doesn’t affect her no more and that she doesn’t need me. Am I losing her?
It's a coin flip. She may be doing that to get your attention, hoping you reach out to her (don't do it). Sometimes ex's act out, hoping you saw the message and you reach out. It's a way of boosting their ego if you do. Then when you don't, they get anxiety and feel like they are going to lose you, and then they reach out....... Or.... She's posting it to send a message to you that she doesn't want you back.... Either way, no contact is probably best for now.
I was married 11 years and my husband was cheating the whole time. We divorced and 9 months later after the woman he cheated on me with got her divorce from her second husband they got married. They have been married about as long as me and him was married now but they did separate for about a year but now they are back together. I really was hoping he would come back but he didn’t. I know they don’t really get along well but I still find myself wanting him back. Should I just give up on thinking he’ll come back? I mean it’s been at least 13 years now or do some ex’s come back after being gone this long? I’m heartbroken.
My bf broke up with me on dec 24 2022 I reached out a couple times broke NC .day 1 NC again don’t reach out he was annoyed and said he couldn’t make it any more cleared he doesn’t want me back ouch
Hello my baby, When someone breaks up with you, THEY are the ones who are to contact you. You do NOT contact them. However, it sounds to me like it's over, so let him go and move on. Take care of YOU, and you'll be fine. Time heals..