From the age of 12 till the age of 19 my mom was not a part of my life I had told my dad that her brother in law molested me and she called me a liar and slapped me. I distanced myself from her and she disappeared from our lives for 7 years during that time I helped my dad care for my siblings. My dad remarried and his wife was not loving to us and I moved out and rarely talked to him once he remarried. My mom defended my child molester till his death. Adapting to trauma was a way of life for me. My sister became an alcoholic and homeless and that was another blow to deal with and she had a accident and ended up with a traumatic brain injury and she passed away in 2018. My parents weren't very helpful after her accident. All this pain was unbearable. I don't think deep trauma goes away.I tried to spare my kids as much as possible.
I'm so sorry for all you've been through. It’s incredibly brave of you to share your story. The pain you've faced, from your mom's actions to losing your sister, is unimaginable. It’s understandable that you feel deep trauma doesn't just go away. Your strength in caring for your siblings and trying to protect your own kids is truly admirable. Please remember, it's okay to seek support and take care of yourself. You deserve healing and peace.
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you I am working through all the negative issues in my life to lighten my heart and mind I feel I am recovering on a daily 💜🌼💐
I tried to tell my ex husband how important it was that he is kind, in front of our child. He would not take it seriously. So now he is my ex husband. Our children are the furture. Safety and love are the bare minimum, not some extra cherry on top for the specially privileged.
This man is the first person whose insight, knowledge and intuitive wisdom has helped me come to know and heal the broken parts of myself ....from my healed heart I thank you Gabor Mate 🙏 💖
This is quite interesting and helpful to me. Thank you. At the same time, it's not really about "how to heal from deep abandonment pain," which is the title. It's about what causes that sort of pain. Is there a video with Dr Gabor that's mostly focussed on how to heal from deep abandonment pain? If so, I'd love to know the name of the video. Thank you.
If you were abandoned as an infant ie. left in your crib for hours alone, not held, touched, rocked or soothed, then this would have been life threatening and you will feel it deeper than 'emotional pain.'
And also he misrepresents narcissism. Narcissists can also be made by overly spoiling the child, putting him/her on a pedestal, not just by neglecting their needs.
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I've heard many talks by Gabor and have learned a lot from him. These insights I've gained make me think that the incident of being given away by his mother when he was a baby cannot be the only traumatic experience that traumatized him and affected his addictions, workaholism, rage and ADHD that he describes (so honestly and openly) in his talks. Did his parents meet all of his needs for bonding and authentic feeling expression during the rest of his growing up? Probably not if they were like the average traumatized members of their community. In his talks about Israel, Gabor mentions that his father threw him out of the house for writing an article that he didn't approve of. Is this unconditional acceptance of Gabor's authentic self-expression? Not exactly. Probably a pattern that operated on some level during Gabor's growing up, not necessarily leading to being kicked out of the house each time. I've learned a lot from listening to Gabor's talk which has helped me to see how my parents limited my own self-expression ... as well as helping me understand them and not resenting them any longer for what they unknowingly did.
Thank you for sharing your reflections on Dr Gabor's talks. It's profound how our upbringing shapes our experiences and understanding. Your insights about parental relationships and self-expression are really valuable.
The past is NOT gone in childhood survivors of neglect/brutality. It's in you, your body and soul until and if you can heal. Yours is a dangerous, naive and trite attitude that gets survivors into a lot of trouble.
From the age of 12 till the age of 19 my mom was not a part of my life I had told my dad that her brother in law molested me and she called me a liar and slapped me. I distanced myself from her and she disappeared from our lives for 7 years during that time I helped my dad care for my siblings. My dad remarried and his wife was not loving to us and I moved out and rarely talked to him once he remarried. My mom defended my child molester till his death. Adapting to trauma was a way of life for me. My sister became an alcoholic and homeless and that was another blow to deal with and she had a accident and ended up with a traumatic brain injury and she passed away in 2018. My parents weren't very helpful after her accident. All this pain was unbearable. I don't think deep trauma goes away.I tried to spare my kids as much as possible.
I'm so sorry...
I'm so sorry for all you've been through. It’s incredibly brave of you to share your story. The pain you've faced, from your mom's actions to losing your sister, is unimaginable. It’s understandable that you feel deep trauma doesn't just go away. Your strength in caring for your siblings and trying to protect your own kids is truly admirable. Please remember, it's okay to seek support and take care of yourself. You deserve healing and peace.
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you I am working through all the negative issues in my life to lighten my heart and mind I feel I am recovering on a daily 💜🌼💐
@@funkibloo3811 thanks for your compassion 💐
I wish you healing and strength.❣️
I tried to tell my ex husband how important it was that he is kind, in front of our child. He would not take it seriously. So now he is my ex husband. Our children are the furture. Safety and love are the bare minimum, not some extra cherry on top for the specially privileged.
What you say is so true!
good job! Priorities.
I appreciate your commitment to ensuring a safe and loving environment for your children. They deserve the best.
Stop calling him psychologist...it is a LIE!@@yourinnerchildmatters
This man is the first person whose insight, knowledge and intuitive wisdom has helped me come to know and heal the broken parts of myself ....from my healed heart I thank you Gabor Mate 🙏 💖
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message! It’s inspiring to see how Gabor Mate’s work resonates with so many people and helps them he
This is quite interesting and helpful to me. Thank you. At the same time, it's not really about "how to heal from deep abandonment pain," which is the title. It's about what causes that sort of pain. Is there a video with Dr Gabor that's mostly focussed on how to heal from deep abandonment pain? If so, I'd love to know the name of the video. Thank you.
No, he hasn't healed himself, so cannot tell us how to heal.
@@robynhope219how do you know
Various therapies and a change needed in society is needed.
If you were abandoned as an infant ie. left in your crib for hours alone, not held, touched, rocked or soothed, then this would have been life threatening and you will feel it deeper than 'emotional pain.'
Thank you for sharing your insight on the deep effects of early childhood experiences.
Emotional pain can feel like life or death
@@PaigeSquared That may be the case but people need to understand the difference btwn. abandonment that IS life threatening vs. that which is not.
That's what happened to me...I had to fight for my survival...and this feeling never goes away.
@@earthsign7568for an infant it would be life threatening
Powerful reminder of attachment needs and the importance of knowing this in my own life been life changing and so healing for me ❤❤
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
thank you for watching
And also he misrepresents narcissism. Narcissists can also be made by overly spoiling the child, putting him/her on a pedestal, not just by neglecting their needs.
Just love gabor . I could listen to him all day 😊
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot to know you’re enjoying Dr Gabor’s insights!
Great insights and profound thoughts right here
your contents are so focusing on the point. SOOOOOO helpful. Thanks, dear.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It means a lot to know the content is making a difference for you!
Thank you for this ❤
Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!
Thank you. ❤
I appreciate your gratitude!
In this powerful video, renowned psychologist Dr. Gabor Maté shares his insights on healing deep abandonment issues. He delves into the root causes of these issues and offers practical techniques for building resilience and finding inner peace. If you or someone you know struggles with abandonment issues, this video is a must-watch. Dr. Maté's expert perspectives on psychology and health education will provide valuable insights and actionable advice for overcoming these challenges. Don't miss out on this transformative discussion!
#DrGaborMaté, #ChildhoodTrauma, #AbandonmentIssues, #AbandonmentTrauma, #InnerHealing, #Resilience, #Mindfulness, #AttachmentTheory, #EmotionalWellBeing, #ImplicitMemories
STOP calling him psychologist..he is a retired GP with an interest in psychology.
This is the story of my life so far🙏🙏 Thank you Dr Mate , i can have a fresh perspective Now ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It's amazing to hear that the video resonated with you and helped you see things differently.
Thanks 🙏
You’re welcome 😊
Thank you!
thanks for watching!
Herzlichen Dank!
❤
Thank you so much!
He didn't said HOW to heal it? Or did I miss it?
I've heard many talks by Gabor and have learned a lot from him. These insights I've gained make me think that the incident of being given away by his mother when he was a baby cannot be the only traumatic experience that traumatized him and affected his addictions, workaholism, rage and ADHD that he describes (so honestly and openly) in his talks. Did his parents meet all of his needs for bonding and authentic feeling expression during the rest of his growing up? Probably not if they were like the average traumatized members of their community. In his talks about Israel, Gabor mentions that his father threw him out of the house for writing an article that he didn't approve of. Is this unconditional acceptance of Gabor's authentic self-expression? Not exactly. Probably a pattern that operated on some level during Gabor's growing up, not necessarily leading to being kicked out of the house each time. I've learned a lot from listening to Gabor's talk which has helped me to see how my parents limited my own self-expression ... as well as helping me understand them and not resenting them any longer for what they unknowingly did.
Thank you for sharing your reflections on Dr Gabor's talks. It's profound how our upbringing shapes our experiences and understanding. Your insights about parental relationships and self-expression are really valuable.
@@yourinnerchildmatters And I appreciate your attention and response!
And how to heal this pain please? This is the important question and not solved in the Video! ???
Of course it isn't. He dances around issues without solving any.
You hold space for the difficult emotion and reparent the inner child by giving it what it needs in that moment.
There are some inner child meditations on here that are really helpful.
@@cabecass thank you so much for your answer !!!
"Memory is energy" -Altered States, the movie.
Thanks for sharing that quote, it's definitely thought-provoking.
I'd like to know if Gabe overcame his abandonment issues...bc if he still talks about it, he didnt.
To help others?
@@bridgetbrown8123 He is not actually helping...he is just talking about issues.
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thanks for watching
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Bessel Van Der Kolk: Your Body Keeps The Score (holds the trauma/shock)
Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤
NOW is the best time
The past is gone
The future is not here
The past is NOT gone in childhood survivors of neglect/brutality. It's in you, your body and soul until and if you can heal. Yours is a dangerous, naive and trite attitude that gets survivors into a lot of trouble.
Thank you for the reminder to live in the present and make the most of every moment.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's important to acknowledge the lasting effects of neglect and brutality and work towards healing.
She is always trite!@@earthsign7568
@@earthsign7568👍👍👍👍👍👍
pls quit the political commentary and stick to childhood trauma!!!!
true!
Who are you talking too?
Seems trauma informed. Nice music going along and then hits you with unnecessary political trauma in min 3. This isn’t enlightenment.
That's untrue I don't trust this man
What are you talking about?
If he is just scroll on and listen to something that's according to your view is true.