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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ธ.ค. 2021
- I KNOW A LOT OF YOU ARE HURTING RIGHT NOW.
I SEE it in your messages. I HEAR it when I talk to people. And SOCIAL MEDIA and the NEWS are filled with stories every day of people struggling to stay afloat.
So often, we find ways to compromise as a means of living with our psychological pain and deep-seeded trauma. Many of us have been doing it for years.
But collectively, I don’t think we’re doing enough HEALING.
Especially lately, as the pandemic has turned our entire world upside down. We’ve done our best to cope amid loved ones getting sick or dying, losing our jobs and identity, battling isolation, and an all-consuming fear of the future.
This week’s guest, DR. FRANK ANDERSON is a psychiatrist who has extensively studied pain and trauma. He has made it his lifelong quest to help others heal by integrating his knowledge of neuroscience and trauma treatment with Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.
His new book, TRANSCENDING TRAUMA, explores a unique, compassionate, and evidence-based approach to resolving dissociative trauma.
ARE YOU READY TO HEAL?
Do you want to regain the ability to CONNECT WITH and LOVE OTHERS on a deeper level?
Are you ready to help others UNDERSTAND why they’re traumatized and what you can do to help them?
Aside from the obvious BENEFITS of why it’s important to heal, until you learn to do so and take active steps to heal from trauma, there’s no way you can be the BEST POSSIBLE spouse, parent, friend, co-worker, or achieve the HIGHEST DEGREE OF SUCCESS in your career or personal life.
TIME SPENT HEALING IS TIME WELL SPENT.
And as Dr. Anderson reveals to us, it’s a WORTHY INVESTMENT in ourselves.
0:48 Intro
0:19 Show book TRANSCENDING TRAUMA
1:39 Why is there a high percentage of unhappy people?
3:40 How would Dr. Frank describe PTSD?
5:40 What happens to us when trauma happens
8:25 Can spaces also be triggers of trauma?
10:01 Why there's a stigma around therapy
11:59 Evaluating your own trauma
13:12 The 8 C's of self-energy
18:38 Does forgiveness fall under self-compassion?
20:46 The gifts and burdens of our coping mechanism
24:48 How do you know if you have PTSD?
29:37 How to interact with someone with PTSD
33:39 What is a corrective emotional experience?
37:00 How to give yourself corrective emotional experience
40:24 Having anxiety & fear when making decisions
43:22 Dealing with negative people in unavoidable gatherings
50:48 When people attach their identity to their trauma
#trauma #healing #emotions #selflove #changeyourlife #childhoodtrauma #healyourlife
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“Each time you treat yourself kindly, you’re giving yourself a corrective experience”. ❤
This hits home for me..the cycle of “Trauma blocks Love, but Love heals Trauma!” That is POWERFUL. Thank you Ed and Dr. Frank Anderson. Really appreciate you guys!
Yes, me too! Simple but packed with healing wisdom and insight!
Powerful and from the heart!! 😍
I agree love heals all, but I try to please everyone and get overwhelm
Every family has a person who breaks the chain of poverty. *I hope you will be that person!*
“Our wounds are looking for redemption unless they’re healed.” 😳 Wow!! Let THAT soak in and the series of events/patterns will make sense. HUGE!!
Ed, thank you for doing what you do! Be blessed while you bless!
Nailed it with “ people are so afraid of feelings - theirs and others! Most fear is inability to tolerate emotions ..” so true! With childhood trauma it’s probably because we weren’t taught to accept , process and manage feelings- especially strong ones or “ negative” ones! I came from a stoic family - feelings weren’t validated or even really allowed!
Wow I don’t think it’s an accident I found you this morning, I needed to hear this
Pleasure's always mine
SAME HERE! This was wonderful, thank you 🙏
This is absolutely profound! I can’t tell you how many times I “rewound” this. Especially when it comes to how we act/react and it’s often done in a way to protect our own wounds. Wow.
Agree. That's exactly why relationships don't work - all the voids.
As said, one 'wants a partner not a project'. When ppl come in with their baggage, they're 'projects ... not partners.'
Attraction is the similarity of wounding. Interesting...
Great interview
This might be one of the most important podcasts you have ever produced. Thank you for bringing Dr. Anderson's important message to the world.
Appreciate the support... make sure to share with family and friends!
Wow, Ed. Perfect timing. As I was praying and asking for help. Exactly what I need. Thank you for loving us and presenting relevant content for folks like me.
Friends, BE HEALED.
Glad this reached you brother... what was your favorite part?
@@EdMylettShow The introduction clobbered me. He's exactly right. Some of us walking wounded look for others, usually romantic relationships, to make us whole.
The notion that our relationships are "50/50" is not right. We each need to be whole individuals.
Anyway, I profoundly realized I have been wanting what I don't want in relationships.
And not getting it was depressing.
I know exactly what I want. It's on my vision list.
Your guest helped me to see I'm wanting something that has been proven unfulfilling for l, well...all my life.
I came to TH-cam today to research PTSD for some self triage / self care
Without typing anything on the search field , this video was populated on my home page
An accident or coincidence ? I think not ....
Thank you Ed Mylett for caring enough about the rest of us - to continue putting out this content .
I am one person whose life is forever changed (for the better) because of your effort.
Much love my brother ❤️
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I was literally praying in the shower about getting help today dealing on this. Not an hour ago. Then bang insight from world class professionals packed with actionable advice. I'm very grateful. Thank you both! I'm off to audible to get the book!
Strong intention !!
Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️
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Thanks Nat, I appreciate your kind and uplifting words 🙏
Thanks!
You too!
I have listened to video after video, podcast after podcast, on and off for years, searching for an answer to why I feel the way I feel. I have never had a message resignate so deeply in me like this video did. I genuinely had an awakening, actually several awakenings in this hour-long video. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this video!
Happy holidays gentlemen!! I just want to say that the BIGGEST challenge and lesson of entrepreneurial ambition is CHANGE. U cannot become something different if u are not willing to outgrow and change the things that hold us in perpetuity and mediocrity. This is the part of the journey I’m on now....✌🏾💜🙏🏾, realizing my scars and my past do NOT define me and actively looking for ways to heal and move forward.
Precisely! Love the insight
Work on yourself daily. Love is the way.#MAXOUT
Amen! #MAXOUT
Brother Ed, this is a parallel narrative to "Agape Love"; which of course is UNconditional love. So many pearls of wisdom spoken and shared there.. thankyou! It's like a manifesto of "Spiritual Economics", I realized upon reflection.. so good Ed!
I love the last pearl of wisdom Frank shared when he commented that everyone has an infinite spirit of infinite possibilities, AND we all have trauma too.
ie: we all bring our good AND our bad with us wherever we go.. that TRUTH that whever you go, there YOU are is universally true, and to the degree we can give ourselves an emotional self correction. Very profound! #Grateful #Thankful
💯FACTS Love makes the World go around!
Our wounds are looking for redemption, unless they are healed. I am getting the book. Self-forgiveness is my greatest challenge. Thank you Ed and Dr. Anderson 😊
This is so good, thanks for having Dr. Frank Anderson on!
*"Don't watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going." - Sam Levenson*
Omgeeee.... can't even BEGIN to tell you how much I appreciated this and how much it all resonated with my life... past and present!! I've become so aware that I want a peaceful life and relationship but have no idea what that truly looks like based on a very chaotic childhood. How do you create something that you don't know what that looks or feels like? It's been a journey. I'm in a good place in my life just ready to uncover the things that keep me pushing myself so hard, overachieving, addicted to work (because THAT'S safe AND productive!!)...I thought I was running from something but Really... I've been recreating the feelings of chaos and nervousness which is totally duplicating my childhood!! Bizarre to finally be seeing this in my life. 🙏💕
Right there with you Ed... very decisive in most all of my life but relationships... I go wonky and don't seem to be as decisive. Ugh.
Thank you so much you guys! Brilliant!! 🙏🥰
Wow, just so many take away's in this video!! This is leading me to look close at my protectors. I can see that when one gets triggered and goes off an anger, it is just a protector stepping inAs a coping mechanism.Also love the part about that the victim is also a perpetrator. I can feel the truth of that. This knowledge will set you free!
Glad you learned some valuable lessons from today's interview!
This interview is especially for me! I love the subject of mental health and have been through a lot of trauma myself and suffer from PTSD. I read up regularly on the subject and have been through a lot of therapy.I think your example of the pumeranians is excellent to explain what PTSD is.Everyone and everything can be triggers even smells and sounds.I am really looking forward to listening to this on my daily walk. Thank you Ed and Dr. Frank Anderson for this interview! I'm looking forward to reading this book "Transcending Trauma" .Trauma blocks love. Love and connection heal trauma.Accessing the ability to heal yourself: The 8 C's of self energy #MAXOUT from Israel
My pleasure... glad you could connect with the interview!
Setfing it in a dog lets wary people see the concerns. I volubteer at the 9/11 Memorial. Dogs play a role.
Ed Mylett !!!
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Probably the richest man on social media .... And also the most polite !!!
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MERRY CHRISTMAS ..... Stay Well !!!
You as well brother!
This is so powerful!! There are so many take aways. I think the most profound take away for me was the conversation about identity. Not realizing that no matter how much work you do to move forward, if you are still identify with that past reality or event that is what you will attract more of. Learning how to detach from that identity and embody a new. While I have heard different versions of this before, it really hit me in a different way today. I felt my brain shift somehow. Thank you so much for providing us with so many amazing conversations!
So good! Each of us plays the part of victim and perpetrator.
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and Self-reflection is a worthy activity. Our minds excel at holding onto inaccurate beliefs, and faulty biases stemming from our personal trauma. The apparatus to get unstuck is to intuitively slowing down enough, and like you said Ed, “just take a walk with ourselves”, so we can dial into a healthy frequency and acknowledge who we are, what is healthy, what’s most important to us, etc. A self-connection tactic to be faithful to our authentic nature, so we can compassionately make choices that mirror our interests and our desired outcomes in our personal and business relationships. We were meant to enjoy and connect in healthy relationships with others... looking inward is the first-step.
Thank you Dr. Frank Anderson wisdom in sharing that, “Trauma blocks Love and Connection, and Love and Connection heals Trauma.”
Awesome insight... thank you for sharing today!
This Interview is SPECIAL! Dr. Frank speaks about so many things i had to go through and i am still in the journey to heal my trauma. Thank you so much Ed for this! So many folks need to hear this.
So important!!!
Dr. Anderson you hit the nail on the head!
This is the most eye opening podcast I've watched in a long time. Grateful for having found you.
I have found it difficult to find others with similar mindset of healing, happiness and hope. A mindset of motivation to succeed ~ to set and achieve goals, and overcome setback. So many are stuck. So many have excuses or don't want to TRY. I am alone swimming ahead while the rest of the shoal is treading water or drowning.
Asking for help is a strength... not a weakness !
Precisely brother... perfect takeaway
Yes awesome!!
You two are God sent to me for my PTSD that I am experiencing
Bless you adopting 2 sweet pomeranians!
Loved this beautiful show with Dr. Frank! Both of you do amazing work! I want to come on your show and talk about my childhood trauma, addiction and recovery! I want everyone to know that no matter how old you, what you've been through or what you've done, you CAN change and find your happiness!! I lived a terrible life until I found help almost 4 years ago. My Mom did drugs with me when I was 17 and then we graduated to heroin. I had to break free of my Mom and get the help that I desired and deserved! My life is now amazing! I had to learn how to be a great Mom to my own children and I had to get to know MYSELF! Anxiety and all! I've come so far and I now I would love to show others that they deserve to be happy too! Thank you Ed, I appreciate you! 😊❤️
Thank you for sharing your story... glad today's episode resonated with you.
This was fantastic! I am excited for his return!
"Your wounds are looking for redemption " 🤯🤯🤯
Wow!! That is Huge !! Value .Thank you 😊 💓 🙏
This stuff is golden! So much of it resonated with me. Tomorrow I will listen again just to soak up some stuff I know I missed. Thank you Ed and Frank for such real applicable content. Best 55 minutes of my whole day.
Wow! It's so profound how both of you understand the effect of trauma and how much we are yearning for help but not reaching out for it.. Thank you Dr. Anderson for all what you have shared 🙏Thank you Ed for always showing up and speaking of our voice 🙏.. Power and Blessings for you all ✨
Really great, thank you! I’ll need to listen again and mine as many gems as I can recapture again! What a delightful, wise man! 🙏💙🕊💙🙏
Well that is a WOW moment in my experiences of watching your shows. Still taking mental notes but I also reading the notes I just wrote in my journal. It is like I have a bullet points say yup right oh thats me . oh how do you do that. Your F-----ing Kidding that too. Trauma blocks love Love heals Trauma. Fear of loss issues. I could go on and on . Absolute Best wake up and way to start 2022. SELF ENERGY #maxout Finishing 2021 strong!! Start 2022 New VERSION as I look back I am better today than I was at the beginning of 2021. GREAT Job Ed.
Wow Ed…tears…sincerely. Dr Anderson has no idea how many things hit home for me and hard! I am so grateful as just making me aware of what’s happening can help me take further steps (including getting his book which I am sure it awesome) towards marking some serious positive changes. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Ed, I am hearing this- beautiful!!!
This was fire af. I grew up with so much trauma and today I witness myself bring it up over and over because I’ve been looking for reconciliation through the words and attention from outside of me. I’m going inward. I’m changing the narrative. I appreciate this video so much. 🙏🏾🦾💯
42.17 Tim Ferris talks about keep asking yourself why
Hi Ed my sadness is my.mum passing 2 weeks ago. Heartbroken and lost. Taking life day by day x
You're in my prayers.
OMG ED! The best interview ever!!! Trauma blocks love and love heals trauma. Truly life altering!
Free therapy . Thanks a trillion Ed and Dr Frank . You 2 are heros. Saving lives across the world
This video has HANDS DOWN 🙌🏻 nailed ME & my current season. I’m just so thankful for the confirmations in this video of what I am awakening to. There is no way that I could receive the content of this video if I had not become OPEN to the possibility of transformation. SO GOOD 😊 #Maxout #SavingLives #MyNewLife
Practicing gratitude every day is key!
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Thank you Frank, Thank you Ed. I've lost both parents, been abandoned by my brothers and sister and my wife's family has rejected me to the point where I spend holidays alone as my wife is with her family. I have pushed everyone away accept my wife and daughter. However, my drive has pushed me to complete the start of my journey as I received my patent (10,399,241 B2) but I lack the clarity that I need to push forward to achieve where my soul knows where it belongs. Thank You both for pushing me to seek the therapy that I have always seen as stigmatic. God bless. 🙏
Many prayers
❤You Will Push thru this Sir you are not alone!! Never. Give. Up. Take care have a great one!
Prayers coming your way brother... stay strong, the #MAXOUT community is always behind you
Thank you all. 🙏
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Brother! This content is so NEEDED! This was a GRAND moment. Thanks for this discussion!
This interview was absolutely amazing. What great information coming from a great Doctor. The information was an eye opener to me as a Trauma Survivor turned Certified Coach. I learned some much especially about Redemption and healing so we do not keep making the same mistakes on a higher level. The validation about how there can be misdiagnosis because things can mimic other diagnosis. I cannot wait to share this with my clients.
As always BEAUTIFUL session, love it all the way, again as always. What I find though is that for people like me that struggle with other issues, often the exact opposite of what was discussed here (don't like those familydinners, I just don't go, couldn't care less what they'll think) so more the selfishness/lack of empathy/ lack of being able to oversee(feel) the things I do (or NOT do) or say or not say which might hurt people that genuinely care for me and want the best for me. Thinking too much only of what I want and less about how the other person might feel or want.. I never have stress, anxiety nothing touches me, but that is where it goes too far. For me. I seem to feel too little, empathywise etc. So I feel like almost untouchable emotionally (like only my wife is my Achilles-heel) but now that I'm 45 I found that I am too far and not emotional enough or something.Bet there are many others like me, feeling very strong, untouchable...but struggling like me with what i tried to describe. Seems to me that side of the coin doesnt get adressed as often but can also keep you back very much in life. I always thought everyone is so overreactive, soft, emo, always crying..And I'm not enough of that, I see now.
thank you !!! we're here to heal, and heal others! love to everyone
Anything can trigger PTSD, seeing specific things, touch/feel, smell, memory, location, people, resemblance, scenarios, scenes, sceneries, etc. So the quickest way to clear the whole list is by going moving on asap. This is why in some relationships that break up, one of the partners usually gets into a rebound relationship, or other, and move on so fast as if it never phased them while the other suffers in pain. That person then also has to get physical or in a rebound with someone else to realize there are other opportunities out there and you're not alone. This is usually harder for less attractive people or overweight folks, etc. But that's where it begins. Understand the issues clearly, and work on fixing your problems one by one. Focus on yourself and your destiny.
This was very powerful! Been dealing with some of my past wounds that have been buried a little while ago. Thank you for everything you do Ed! I’ve been listening to everything that you have put out while I’m working and it has been amazing!
This talk has some of the most useful information. 🙏🏼
Thank you, Ed. Best interviews you do. So deep. Growing. Healing
Loved this one🙌🏽
*Believe in yourself*
*You can do it*
*Stay positive*
*&*
*Keep smiling*
*Love from a TH-camr* 💛
I am so grateful for the chance to listen to Dr. Anderson. I have already begun Therapy with an IFS therapist who follows Dr. Andersons methods! Thank you Vivian from Maine
Great points! Yes, many of us are struggling in different ways with so many things going on in the world now.
The sad truth.
"Our wounds are looking for redemption unless they are healed." Wow!
Per usual another another amazing guest and more amazing life changing take aways, I feel so blessed by your channel Ed! I took so many notes I had to keep pausing and replaying.
The mind blowing part for me was to hear that fear and especially fear in decision making for most people was based off their own inability to tolerate emotions! 🤯 I had never looked at it like that but wow, I will now.
Thank you to you both!! So good 😊
P.S. Ed you ask amazing thought provoking questions. A true master coach and I’m so thankful for that.
This is one of the greatest interviews I have ever experienced. I can feel some healing just from being aware of these concepts.
48 min.."Why do we have to get into our differences and not what makes us more alike!"..my view on Christianity....too much 'I am Protestant,I'm Catholic rah,rah...yet wee ALL believe in our Lord Jesus Christ.Another gem of a person brought to us courtesy of the Ed Mylett show.#EdMylett
This is gold!
Thank you, Ed and Dr. Frank, for this conversation. I got a ton of value out of this...watching this to kick off my Monday morning and start to the week here. Thank you for the insights, the tone of the conversation, and the inspiration to self-reflect. All the best fellas!
Giving to ourselves what was never given... what is lacking ❤
All of this was incredible. Especially the part at the end that each and every one of us has both victim and perpetrator parts within us. That is really helpful in getting more people to let go of focusing and getting stuck on blame/fault. Blame requires the victim/perp dynamic. But healing is a responsibility. We can’t take responsibility if we are clinging to blame/victimhood. While what we experience may not be our “fault,” healing our wounds is our responsibility. Thank you so much for this!
This was so good! Wow, I didn't realize how much love plays an important part of us. Ed, when you brought up being decisive. It brought me in awe and tears Dr Anderson explanation and process. Thank you Ed, I love you man.
Appreciate the support brother
Perfect timing for this insightful podcast as I'm going through the challenging part of my marriage relationship. I have learned and gleaned some important things that influence my behavior and know that I have it all inside of me to heal. I believe what the world needs now is love.. Love heals trauma.. Much appreciated Ed..
Thank you Ed & Dr Frank Anderson !! Great interview …many takeaways …the 8 C s …internal therapy…people w/ similar wounds ..tend to be drawn to each other…shifting within …giving to ourselves …what we didn’t get…decisions & underlying fear…every victim is also a perpetrator !!!! Wow !! ⭐️✨
What a powerful video!!! Really got me thinking about my actions and reactions to situations and circumstances. I will be rewatching this again as I know there is more amazing content in this video.
Thank you for all you do! ❤️
Incredible. Thank you for this video.
Such a great interview. I found it helpful to understand myself better as well as those I have relationships with. I am new to the channel and truly appreciating the contend Ed is providing us all.
This interview is mind-blowing! I love it! Thank you Ed and Dr. Frank Anderson. Hope to hear another interview soon.
mind blown ! thank you so much !
Wow. Cant wait to hear this
Let me know your thoughts brother
Your smile brings happiness to me ❤, Ed🎉
Oh my gosh this is amazing !!!
Thank you 🙏
Such a powerful convo. Would love to see Dr Anderson return.
Loved this podcast, look forward to seeing more. Brilliant insights.
Never. Give. Up. I Love it!!
Good man Ed, and Frank,tanx for video.
so powerful!!thank you!
Great interview. I'll be watching again. Thank you.
Me tooo!!!
This was brilliant....TITANS TALK! Genius ❤️
Found it very interesting that inability to make decisions is really inability to feel emotion. This entire interview was very helpful and the timing is perfect. I am struggling right now and am realizing that I need to forgive and I need to heal. I listened once but will be sharing and listening again. I can't thank you enough for sharing this insight with us. I also want to thank you Ed Mylett for providing shows I can turn to when I need a boost, need to feed my need for positive personal development or am feeling kinda lost or down. Your shows lift me up and provide tools to help me become a stronger, more effective person. I am grateful for this and also very happy to be able to share it with others.
This one hit home for me. Thanks again for always bringing us the best content.
Thank you Ed. What a great content!
I’m definitely going to get the book, thank you for sharing this information and also applying examples from your own experiences!
Thank you for talking about “stacking”..how when you experience trauma you then go on to do things and behave in certain ways that “stack”..so dealing with the double edge of traumas and a “stack” of totally shameful experiences after the fact, that when I think about it is so overwhelming, flashbacks and I just cringe. Thank you for this insight and that other people are also experiencing this. Many blessings to you both!
Just ordered the book in audible. So many Gems in this conversation. I’m in a stage of healing so this will definitely help me in my process.
Thank you for this wonderful conversation. The part about having love but no peace really hit home, that was not something I had put together throughout the healing work and it really cleared up another layer. Thank you both for this informative and very healing talk.
Wow this was heavy. Going to listen more than once for sure. Thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you so much ❤️
This show came to me at the very perfect time. I am grateful for the opportunity to do work. I want to do the work and won't waste this moment. Super important to be mindful
Love the determination!