How Setting Boundaries Can Heal Your Trauma | Dr. Gabor Maté

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  • @Verawnique
    @Verawnique 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    This is happening to me. My allele burden is almost not perceptible anymore (I have a bone marrow cancer). REAL healing is possible and it happens through becoming whole. That sense of wholeness for me happened in that the illness was a wake-up call to myself. I had to ask myself, "why is this happening to me? What am I to learn here? Once I got past the anger and confusion, the answers were there. I wish this healing for everyone.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm truly touched by your strength and insight. It's inspiring to hear how you've found healing through self-discovery and growth. I wish you continued healing and peace on your journey, and I hope others can find the same strength you have. Sending you lots of positive energy. ❤

    • @maryannribble3254
      @maryannribble3254 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your message gives Hope and Truth to ALL of us 🎉❤ thank you!

    • @Verawnique
      @Verawnique 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks so much!!

    • @Verawnique
      @Verawnique 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@maryannribble3254 Thank-you!!!

    • @ljkoh20052000able
      @ljkoh20052000able 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      May you tell me the answer

  • @Simon0
    @Simon0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    The amazing thing I've found if you respectfully say no you often get a much better response than you thought. It doesn't all go down the drain. Usually the other person understands and says that's absolutely fine

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing your insight! It’s always nice to hear how others navigate these conversations. Your perspective is truly appreciated!

  • @weyounion9112
    @weyounion9112 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I'm watching this video for the third time (and counting). I'm 57 and have partly (too much) accepted my dysfunctional family of origin's rules. I will have barely survived materially, failed a few suicides, always looked for sense, common sense, basic self respect and confidence. I've moved abroad for 18 years (to the antipodes, where further from them could I have gone?). I came back because they were still poisoning my mind. A hellish life in my mind. I recently went back to do zazen, alone, it's hard, but I found a channel to practice alone, beginning with 5 mn sessions (don't laugh! Or do...). And finally I succeeded in doing it alone, not just to respect the other sitters. And I take the habit again, 5 days per week, and now I'm at 10 mn sessions, will tackle 15 seriously when my back (scoliosis) is strong enough, but it's slowly improving. I think the almost daily habit is more important than the length of time. I did practice "seriously"(meaning a few hundreds of hours every year for 3 years) then got pregnant and gave up. The days I don't sit I feel a lack. I'm learning to say no and think of myself first. So hard! And loosing my few friends in the meantime, without too much regret though, I can see why we were friends brfore, and it wasn't positive for me. Luckily I an used to solitude, can handle it. Thank you channel, thank you Gabor Maté. And to watchers who have read my bla bla, I wish you lots of strengh, courage, but know that you are definitely on the right path to healing. Thank you all for being❣

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s truly inspiring to see your resilience and commitment to healing, even through such difficult times. Taking those small steps every day, like practicing zazen, shows incredible strength. Don’t worry about the length of time - the consistency and self-compassion you’re showing yourself are what truly matter. I’m so glad this channel and Gabor Maté’s work have been helpful to you. You’re definitely not alone on this path, and we’re all here cheering you on. Wishing you strength, courage, and peace on your journey. Thank you for being here. ❤

    • @oceanaoushn8803
      @oceanaoushn8803 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Good morning :)
      (It is 11 a.m.here. SE Europe).
      Being alone is really better than having toxic "family" and "friends" around.
      Eventually you will find some true friends.
      Wishing you the best 💕

    • @Johanne-o8g
      @Johanne-o8g 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ❤❤❤⚘🙏🏻🕊🌞💕👏👏👏

  • @dawnhopkins5495
    @dawnhopkins5495 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Builds resentment when we don't say no when we really want to

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for sharing this insight! It’s a valuable reminder that we need to advocate for ourselves and our feelings.

  • @sarojanidoddapaneni9734
    @sarojanidoddapaneni9734 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I learnt in my 80th th yr.
    Everyone should learn to develop humility Compassion gratitude Forgiveness with Healthy Relationships and Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience HONESTY with Integrity and coordination Cooperation with Oneself Primarily and ONE Another in parents Carers Teachers day 1 of every child Obeying the COMMAND
    "LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF"
    "DISCERN"

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing your valuable insights! Your journey and reflections are a wonderful reminder for all of us to embrace these important qualities.

  • @yourinnerchildmatters
    @yourinnerchildmatters  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you so much for watching! 🙏💬 Dr. Gabor Maté's message about setting healthy boundaries and healing from within really made me think deeply about how we can all find true peace. ❤ What part of the video resonated with you the most? I'd love to hear your thoughts! Let's share our experiences and support each other on this healing journey. Your insights might help someone else too! 💡✨ #HealthyBoundaries #HealingJourney #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #TraumaHealing

  • @gabrielmackay5749
    @gabrielmackay5749 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Great advice, thank you 🙏

  • @sarojanidoddapaneni9734
    @sarojanidoddapaneni9734 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Every one of us should learn to develop humility Compassion gratitude Forgiveness with Healthy Relationships and Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience HONESTY with Integrity Discipline and Order Discernment Unconditional emotional support with patience FOCUSED COMMITTED attitude patience motivated Appreciate Strengthen Oneself Primarily in one's own life and
    ONE Another Obeying the Command
    "LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF"
    "DISCERN"
    Implemented in all educational institutions including all universities Globally.

  • @nellie...
    @nellie... 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Working on boundaries 🙏

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you for sharing your journey! Setting boundaries is so important, and I’m glad you’re embracing it.

    • @nellie...
      @nellie... 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@nellie... thanks too

  • @mkh2799
    @mkh2799 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Learning to say..🙏

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for engaging with the video! It’s awesome to see you taking the steps to learn something new!

  • @heatherthorley7239
    @heatherthorley7239 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Chapter one in which of your books ? Please

  • @ChrisOgunlowo
    @ChrisOgunlowo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great video.

  • @zeljkotomic8
    @zeljkotomic8 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Doctor Mate is simply amazing. :)

  • @lifewithallahloveislam
    @lifewithallahloveislam 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have a question
    If we say no will it sound mean that other person think we are rude or may be i think that

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you so much for watching my video! I understand it can feel scary to say “no” because we worry about sounding rude. However, you can still be kind and honest at the same time. Explain why you have to say no, and let the other person know it’s not personal. I appreciate your support and hope this helps!

  • @earthcallingfi
    @earthcallingfi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Which of Gabor's books was being referred to in the video?

    • @galebeattie2333
      @galebeattie2333 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      When the body says no

  • @silverlining5796
    @silverlining5796 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    👌🏼

  • @ValentinBrutusBura
    @ValentinBrutusBura 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's a mixture of circumstances. Life's fun, no?

  • @maureenbyrne8951
    @maureenbyrne8951 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

  • @bubublue-j4n
    @bubublue-j4n 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤🎉

  • @maricamaas2326
    @maricamaas2326 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    * The Climate Change myth is what had been, and still is reaping huge financial benefits (for some).
    * Redemption of a community might be a painfully slow process, yet is always rooted in the redemption of individuals.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's important to consider the broader implications of our discussions, and I appreciate you bringing up the connection between community and individual redemption.

  • @kuenringeling
    @kuenringeling 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I love what you are doing for traumatized people but please don't become another social justice warrior! I don't get why it's necessary to bring out your political views!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate your feedback!

    • @lauriemtz8616
      @lauriemtz8616 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Because it’s a free country and people get to say what they want. We have no control over what others say.

    • @kuenringeling
      @kuenringeling 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@lauriemtz8616 yeah of course but I immediately mistrust people from the "healing" business if they think I should stop breathing in order to produce less CO2...

    • @rachelarmel7547
      @rachelarmel7547 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      100% agree..I love Dr Mate's insights but am very much turned off by him getting political. Thank you for pointing this out.

    • @music15myHEARTBEAT
      @music15myHEARTBEAT 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Our collective well being is deeply connected to politics and these outcomes keep trauma cycles entrenched in our society. If he ignored that then his words would remain superficial