I have discovered that the best way to: Attract, keep and make a man miss you is acting with so much self love and self confidence that he doesn't have any power in our lives. We just let them participate
Making him miss you is fine. But don't reach out first. If he misses you so much he can contact you first. Stay in your power. Be strong. Don't be needy.
@Patricia That's true. And if they do contact and claim that they miss you, it just means that they're lonely and have no supply to fulfill their needs at that moment.
Exactly. And why to waste time on such men who needs to be played games with to get them back. If, by playing tricks suppose he comes back he will definitely repeat his previous behaviour because actually he doesn't have genuine feelings for u.
I appreciate Matt's concluding comments indicating that if the original relationship was truly meant to be, he will miss you and want to reconnect, but if it was not meant to be, moving forward in this fashion may very well lead to meeting a new guy who is genuinely drawn to the upbeat, dynamic you. I think this distinction is so vitally important to recognize because perhaps your ex and you really aren't right for each other, no matter how nice/awesome you may both be as individuals.
If you're watching this video to try to get your ex back, do yourself the favor and stop, breathe, and love yourself enough to walk away. You'll be alright. The universe will provide you with the right person in due time. Trust, hope, and have faith :)
1. Absence: I moved out after he confessed to dating another woman for the last two years. 2. Advancing My Life: Enrolled in college full time while holding down a full time career. I make time to travel and meet new and interesting people. 3. I don't make myself available for his needs when he's looking to fill in the week days anticipating the weekend he'll spend with her during the day and night. 4. I'm not ready to reach out to him. I need time to heal.
@@hurryupnow1 dude move on, it's over with him. Why would you wanna jump back on that wagon when he proved himself to be deceitful and banged another chick for 2 years???
Oh honey... He doesn’t deserve you. Just move on. Focus on yourself and your life and then when you less expect someone nice will come along and you won’t even remember the original scumbag.
My husband cheated on me and divorced me for the other women. After the divorce, I stopped all communication with him, I lost 30 pounds, changed my hairstyle, have dinner parties, go to karaoke evenings and simply rebooted my life. My ex now contacts me about random stuff, and he even told me he misses me. The best part is? I don't want him anymore!
This does work! When my bf And I broke up for 6 months. I tried these steps and more on a book I read... I focused on myself, gained independence and worked out 3-5x a week. I sent him a bday card saying I want all his dreams to come true and he was a great influence to youths (he is in education). He texted me, said he loved the card and he missed me. We went out on a date the next weekend-As I was busy this weekend plans with friends (wink wink* keep that mystery). We went to a county fair and had a blast. It was carefree and we laughed alot. We were like kids again. I wore an outfit that showed my curves and had no jacket. Yes ladies I did the "its cold out" he gave me his jacket. The rest is history. We are going on strong today-6 years together. Tips: Taking Classes, Part Time Job builds Confidence, Growth, Adventure and Meeting Others.
Just a quick note: even if you do all these and some ex of yours contacts you saying that they miss you, it doesn't mean that they have real, genuine feelings towards you. They might just want to feel wanted again and who are they gonna call to give them that feeling of reassurance again? An ex!
If I can do without you for thirty days, you already taught me I can do without you. If you need thirty days to figure out what your emotional health is, don’t date.
@favorite stark. I have a best friend from high school. Was her rule of thumb When a relationship would end. She would give her self 30 days of alone time to recoup. Before moving on to the next relationship. She would call it her "alone time". I on the other hand. I wouldn't waste any time moving on. I wouldn't sleep with them. I would just use these men to buffer out the hurt I was going through. Then when I was ok. I would keep them as friends. I would just make myself scarce. I didn't see myself hurting them. I just didn't think men had feelings and would be hurt. When I got older it wasn't the same. Men do have feelings. I've had some who had no filter telling me how I made them feel. Then I felt bad. However. I miss my younger self thinking men didn't have feeling. I then had sons. Saw them going through range of emotions. When someone had emotionally hurt them. I guess thus was my karma. Thank you for letting me vent.
@@mmww9293 of course men have feelings, playing them like that was kinda cruel...unless you made it clear from the start to them that you Judy wanted to be f$ck buddies...
Yep, always like that. Stop caring, move on with your life and they will miss you. By the time they regret and want to get back, it’s too late. If he doesn’t know what he wants while he has it, he’s not for me.
With my ex boyfriend, I remember after 6 months of seeing each other he "freaked out" as i like to see it and sent a text saying he essentially needs some space and time to think and be on his own. I never responded and moved on with my life - focusing on friends, work and improving my life. It was a painful first 3 days initially as we talked almost everyday but i knew my value and wanted to be strong. So I didn't text him and gave him what he was asking for. After about 2 weeks (basically enough time for me to be okay without him in my life and not think about him) he texted me a "Hi, how are you going?" message. The rest of the story isn't important but me allowing him the time and space to come back to me and not chasing him and making him miss what we had was the effective part. So definitely agree with a lot in this video.
I did not even know I have practiced those three steps... I am living proof that everything you just said has happened. and we are working on the future plans to be together
my bf and i broke up for three weeks and i felt like he was not gonna come back to me.... i couldnt move on and he came back to me. the relationship is amazing now because we both know how it felt trying to move on and just missing each other. True love ... my baby came back to me.
Let's see how long it takes for the new one to turn out to be another version of the old one. You can then go back to the old one, since you already know him, his ways won't come as a surprise to you, you won't expect better and can't be disappointed. Hope it turns out better for you.
Sara Johansson I would ignore the neysayers (did I spell that right lol) Say it with me " you never miss your water until your well runs dry" it could be male ego but it could also be the fact that you are a good person and he realizes now that the person he thought would always put up with him has moved on. 😊
Personal experience, no contact does work. It is hard but so worth it. I would even eliminate myself from social media so my man would wonder what I was up to. lol We recently reconnected and so far so good :) Great advice.
the no contact started on 1/16 and I held out and he contacted me on 2/27. we are still not seeing each other but i am not desperate to see him like i used to be. we are chil n going with the flow. and if we are to b than grreat but if not thats okay too...im not afraid of losing him anymore. does that make sense? im happy with me.
This is a great video, not even for those who want a man to be in a relationship with, but even guy friends can pull away and it can teach them to have gratitude and not take a friend for granted
Thanks Matthew! I read this a little late (I went almost 3 weeks, not 30 days) but it worked... not on purpose but I moved on with my life, did stuff with friends, and he finally reached out. He came over to help me fix something broken *(my compressor) and fixed like 4 things while he was there. Then we talked, and long story short made up and are very happy!
self improvement! Mostly because it makes you you again. We all get a bit lost in coupledom. Finding yourself again is the best part of a break up. Not always to get back with your ex, but to enjoy life being with you again. I have made new friends, found new adventures, discovered lost joys and built up my confidence. To be honest, that isn't to reconnect with my ex, but to reconnect with me. And lets face it, the only person you truly have a lifelong relationship with, is yourself!
No time for games. Totally disagree with this video. Let him go and move on ladies! Let the jerk who left miss you and make room for the real man who knows your worth and will appreciate you! Bye bye ....
Nancy, you're on target. I think Matt's advice is good if you are talking about good quality men. Do not know if I have known any. Narcissist - and Multiple Personality Disorder can not be helped with this advice. If he drops the mask, it's over unless you are the idiot he thinks you are. You may think of yourself as being that, because you have been tricked one more time. Only this time you could recognize the scheme a little sooner, broke your heart even more. Quite scary, but the longer this kind of person is in your life the more painful to you when you have only one chance: get out for dear life. And now again: pick myself up, dust myself off and start all over again...
SOOOOO agree with you. I was thinking of how much BS this is. No time for games people. All this seems good in theory, and if you're young and have the energy for all this, well then okie dokie. Matt seems like a pretty cool guy, but I wonder if this will be his same advice after 20 years and 2 divorces? LOL xoxo C
Depends on the man and situation. Some guys won’t reach out or ask the girl out again if he feels she’s too above him. My ex always asked why I wanted to date him. I wondered why he’d say this. He had shown me his best side. Later, I saw what he was talking about. I guess that goes back to believing them when they tell you who they are.
This stuff would work with normal guys, but when the person you are going for is a player or “fuckboy”, it doesn’t work because no matter how good you are to them, they don’t care
Hi Matt, You are absolutely right. Very interestingly these steps are the same steps that my Bhagavat teacher tells how to solve problems in relationships. Never molest your partner by talking and trying to figure out what's wrong, but disconnect and grow within yourself communicating with friends and achieving power inside you. Once you feel you are calm and powerful only then you can return him. Usually ON THE ENERGETIC LEVEL HE FEELS IT and returns to you. But not when you are begging and feel miserable. THIS IS ANCIENT WISDOM what you just shared, GREAT JOB!
"Never molest your partner by talking and trying to figure out what's wrong,"....communication is not molestation. A good relationship is based on effective communication, if one of you doesn't have those skills or is the 'silent, witholding, stonewalling type', you can bet the relationship is gonna crumble even before it started for some people. I would never be with a flaky man, I learnt my lesson by being very strong and using self-love but it took me a lot to become this way. If he left you standing there, don't take him back. EVER. Unless its within a few days or weeks anything like months, years etc, kick them out of your lives and you find someone who loves, honours and shows you the respect you deserve.
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Huge thank you Matthew. I recently went through a divorce and unexpectedly met a guy in a similar situation. We had instant chemistry and after 17 years of marriage each, it was like the blind leading the blind in dating. We both craved connection, but after a short time, he became wishy-washy. Sent me mixed signals. I realized he wasn't over his wife...and in fact, he told me he was torn (between what I don't know!) - but trying to figure out his head and heart, and didn't want to send me those mixed up signs. At least he was somewhat open, but it was so heartbreaking after being alone in a marriage for so long. Your videos are SO helpful! Can I say, you're my hero? ;-)
if anyone is curious. we are taking things slow and our communication is improving. we give each other space and enjoy each others company when we are together. going with the flow. ☺
I’ve noticed when I tell guys my favorite musicians and songs ..every time that song or that artist comes on the radio I pop into their head. So my personal advice is be sure and mention, while you’re dating, songs that you love and artists that you are into because when you are apart.. and they listen to the radio and that artist pops on the radio you will pop into their head
I love how this is happening to me when I've got two months left in the same town, will leave in January for another country for 5 months. And the 30 days of absence will happen through out Christmas and New years eve. Uhhhhh.... bloody perfect!! Who doesn't love being single during the Holidays?
omg... my new lover is moving to a new country after the new year and i'm crushed-- that first month though is going to be sooo interesting to take all the love i feel more open to and channel it into my business and Self!! How funny we're in a similar boat but paddling in opposite directions! Good luck!
YES, this worked so well! When I eventually asked him for advice he called me almost immediately to catch up and see how I was doing. Then asked me on a date the next day. AMAZING
this took me 30 years of practice to learn all this and I really like how he's not suggesting you be anything other what you are but be yourself respecting yourself loving yourself and the person you are with to try a tried and true method. hey if the man is right for you he'll stick around. works well even if you've been married for 20 years. I take time to be gone the weekend with the girls at the beach, well he knows I'm loyal but he sees fun and laughter and hey he really misses that he's not there, same when he's gone. you rock at explaining things from a mans point of view in words women understand. you rock. I've shared these videos with friends who really need to hear from a man other than my husband. and its a great refresher or reminder.
In all honesty, I hate to make my fiancé feel that way. It hurts me more to see him missing me or putting the fear of my loss in him. But sometimes it is necessary to do what you're suggesting, unfortunately. But too much of that can cause resentment
I LOVE how positive you are Matthew! I mean this advice and the way you put it are phenomenal! All very practical and so positive! Thanks and please keep sharing!
I’m giving him what he wants... A breather- after 5 months of things going really well he wants a breather to make sure I am the one. Not gonna lie, it came from no where but my circumstance is very unique so I get it. He’s truly a good man and so I am using this video as inspiration to remain strong through the process. If it’s meant to be let it go.
Dear Mat! My total respect and gratitude is being sent your way! Thank you for being such an exceptional speaker and public presenter! Your speech just flows deep into my soul!You have gained my trust immediately! What I love about your videos is that they are so juicy and super packed with powerful, sincere and wise relationships advice for us, girls, to deepen the connection with our men! Me being an educator myself... I can just tell how much work, heart and soul you put in! In order to produce such an amazing high quality content!!! Mat!!!! Bravo!!! Fantastic! Magical! You are living your passion!!! Much love and care!!! God Bless you and all of your dear loved ones! 🙏🤗🌞🦄❤️🌈N
I told him ur a real man, a good Preacher and an Awesome Singer. I missed a call from him, and rang back. He was glad. He said "it's good to talk to you, and I said it's good to hear you. He said "yes " then we had a good chat, and said goodbye, God Bless. It's been a week, and no reply. Today I sent him a picture of me Singing on a karaoke.
Great video! So helpful. And point #3 does not make sense to me. Should nt the man be the one reaching out to the woman. To me it will show me the guy is truly interested in me. Instead of me having to chase the guy to get him interested in me.
But by simply asking him a question you are not chasing him. I've done this and it actually resulted in the guy chasing me. I think if he misses you and sees your life is going well he assumes you don't want him anymore. So really you're just hinting that it's okay for him to pursue you!
Mat, thank you so much! I am more than happy to discover your channel! Besides being great advices, you put them briefly, so tired of long videos! I feel like no need to watch any other video on these topics. Your energy and approach are also great. Keep up the good work👏
The best way to make me fall in love even more - is through visible advances in the relationship, like meeting his family, having fun together, feeling his participation in my life... A slow move to the proposal and building a solid connection for the future happy family life with kids
What really has worked with me is the absence. I let them go and I stop pursuing. Then they are finally who reach out. But to me second chances are not worth it. 🤷🏻♀️it’s too late
I've been doing this. Especially the part about growing myself. It's starting to make him want to be around me. It makes me more exciting to him. Great stuff. Really works!
My husband said to me a few weeks ago "I gotta know what you're up to" to which I responded, "I'm not that interesting." and he said... "You are!" I wouldn't have married you if I didn't find you interesting ♥️ I still killed myself laughing 😂😂
Thank you for the time frame, it has been 21 days and I knew I had to make it at least that long. A man who said he was afraid of loosing me, I have no idea what happened. It for sure has been a challenge but I know that to be selfless I have to give him space to choose me on his own without me chasing him.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
I walked away from the love of my life. I never thought I'd hear from him again and got on fully with my life. 11 weeks later he text me to say he missed me and us and commented about stuff he'd seen on my social media (the man who doesn't do social media).
I believe in missing a person but after a while you get used to there absence. Gives you time to realize you are okay without him. I dealt with bipolar Ness 😒 and missed it . Had to 😳 was to toxic
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
If you want him to miss you just have a long distance relationship, then you will always hear him go on about how much he misses you. Swear it works LOL.
Love the weekly clip, great advice as always! I like a guy who offers too much advice & wisdom, I don't need it, it's awkward because I'm independent & more successful, but he can't help but constantly offer advice even when he has no experience or skill. It's like he is programmed to do it! This clip made me realise he really cant help himself! Thanks for your brilliant words & kind sharing! You Rock !!!
Your wife is an amazing woman, I would hate to hear my bf talking about his ex like that. Is that me being jealous? I know you love your wife and educating us. I'm so grateful years of therapy haven't taught me any of this! Thanks to you and your family
Thank you Matt. This helps me a lot! It helps to understand men a little more of why they do what they do. I couldn’t but get upset & cry over the guy, but watching your video gave me some good insight. ☺️
I did that 30 day absence thing with my ex. It worked but only to an extent. I ginuinely repositioned my life to place my self in a good space to move on after our breakup. He texted me after about a month but it was scarce and unmeaningful. He only wanted to visit me at night which clearly showed his intentions and I found out he was dating a coworker of mine. It was a painful experience. I hate that I cared more than he did.
For Me I have a difficulty to play these ”relationship” games. In My opinion He will either Stay or Leave. I believe a Man and a Woman should have the Courage to be who they are always and that should be enough. For Me thinking about Waiting someone to miss You is funny. You will wait forever because intelligent Man and Woman with God given Wisdom do not need these. I understand human nature very Well yet these ”Mind games” mostly irritate Me because we should Always be enough. If we are not special to Our Loved One then let Him/Her go and move on. It needs confidence to see that You are Worthy of True Love.
Working 12 hours on my job is enough before my husband starts missing me after 12 or 24 hours...he showers me with love and attention and I tell him how much I appreciate him and give him love and attention back . Stay productive and when your free give him ur time he will miss u so much when u get home.
That was cool...liked it that presentation Mat... but it has not worked for me so I guess the harsh brutal reality is he don't miss me...C'est La Vie.. It is what it is i guess. Thank God I am a busy Lizzy and have ambitious business goals I am focusing on in conjunction with working , studying on the side, researching on the side, socialising with friends and family and doing a variety of activities I love... thank God I love doing and learning and absorbing knowledge in fields I especially love.... I love doing, being and being productive so that's a blessing, The truth is for me I would rather be on my own than be losing time and energy with the wrong guy... And yes I am always working on myself to be the best i can be to the best of my ability Once again Thank you and Namaste
OMG! guess what he came to see me... hows that he had poor excuse for seeing me it made me laugh... but wow i was totally suprised and he is still attracted to me he said... and yes i think its an ego issue for sure we spent 3 hours chatting and even hugged a few times ... but he is very controlled with his emotions etc... but i was my natural self and presented no BS etc... which encouraged him to relax and be open and honest too,we have established friends for now with the possibility of trying again so that blew me out of the water... so do you think its an ego issue?
stessa kimberli hi i know im not part of this conversation but i think anyone who misses you would should and not just say they miss you. Not that they need to move mountains for you but they would make an effort to reach out to you and check up on you. Whethet someone misses you because they actually miss you or out of their ego i think you would be able to tell. If things quickly go back to the way they were then he probably doesn't miss you. You also need to remember that some people are attracted to success rather than the individual experiencing success because it makes them feel good for whatever reason
Most of these so called "Love Coaches" were only focusing on how to get the love you want but not keeping the love you have... What's really challenging is how to keep a relationship and handle conflict, doubts, fears, these are all real relationship challenges everybody may face with. What is the use to use all these games and tools to get the men or women you want but not able to really keeping or creating a beautiful relationship in a real matter?
Agree with you. Yes, it does take effort to implement your recommendations. But, this is the only way to fix the situation if it is fixable. If it's not, the woman is at gain anyway as she would learn how to move on with her life.
i don't think he is suggesting anyone plays with anyone's feelings tho. This a strategy for assessing a man's genuine interest in you and/or a method for helping you to move on if things aren't gonna happen. And let me tell you, when i was single, i used the first two of these methods and it was VERY VERY successful.
Agreed with your points. I was dating a guy for more than 2 yrs. Was dreaming of marrying him and was really loyal to him, u know respect, support, etx. But, he had other plans as per his families wish. So, he let me go. I accepted that. Though badly heart broken, i gathered myself and move on in my life. I climbed up the ladder in my career and also met a guy who treats me like a princess. We have been together now 3 year. So, my ex realized his loss. He never achieved his plan anyways for which he had left me. Plus, his entire life got messed up with huge debt. Funny, he was checking if i still love him. Too bad and sad for him. I have already happily moved on.
This...is true! I have lived it..many many times with my man of 5years..we 've had our share of problems and moved apart a few times and when I'm depressed, it doesn't help me in anyway but when I pick myself up n actually start moving on and having fun he misses me so bad we end up together. He will always say, he is usually hit by fear of actually losing me when he sees me moving on. Men!!!
My ex started contacting me again after about 3 or 4 weeks after I broke up with him. During that time period, I had to be emotionally strong not to be tempted to contact him. I like what someone said, just like working out and hurting afterwards cuz ur muscles will get sore, you also need to work out your "emotional muscles" as well. It's gonna hurt emotionally but you'll get stronger emotionally and will be able to handle any BS that comes your way. If you have a fear of ur ex seeing other people during ur breakup, well people are going to do what they want anyway. And if they really missed u and cared about u their other relationships are probably not gonna last.
And I advise people (ladies especially) is to see what else is out there. Don't just be fixated on ur ex. Once u find a man who respects you, is more financially independent, loves you more, then you wouldn't wanna get back together with your ex.
What if your train starts to move and he thinks if he comes back into your life that he may stop your train and he wants the best for you? So showing him your better off without him, could be a bad thing; that instead of coming back he may resort to backing off even if we wants you.
After 30 days away from him, I realized I didn’t really want HIM anymore
😂 same I’m like that. The more distance I become I’m like eh. I don’t know the hype about them.
Ahahahahahaha!!
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I have discovered that the best way to: Attract, keep and make a man miss you is acting with so much self love and self confidence that he doesn't have any power in our lives. We just let them participate
Most women can’t do that.
Amen!!
Bingo
I LOVE THIS!!!
@@Telegrm-t_OnlyPwr speak for yourself
Making him miss you is fine. But don't reach out first. If he misses you so much he can contact you first. Stay in your power. Be strong. Don't be needy.
Yes! On a small scale, like days or weeks. 30 days as Matt suggested?? That guy is NOT into that girl.
@Patricia That's true. And if they do contact and claim that they miss you, it just means that they're lonely and have no supply to fulfill their needs at that moment.
DO NOT CONTACT HIM!! Men who left and maybe come back will ALWAYS be FLAKY. ALWAYS!!
if he doesn't want you, he's not coming back, no matter what you do
That’s a lie shut up
True.
Amen
Exactly. And why to waste time on such men who needs to be played games with to get them back. If, by playing tricks suppose he comes back he will definitely repeat his previous behaviour because actually he doesn't have genuine feelings for u.
@@Queenofrap2011 lol well damn
That only works, if he is not a cheater. Good luck everyone. And always love yourself. :)
That's what I was just thinking. I suspect that the guy I was with was cheating.
Jazzy Jae tell us why ? Lol
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True
In fact you bless him with more time to heat on you!!!
bomb ass advice cause even if you don't get him back, you hiked the grand canyon
sophie7427 hahahhhaha 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
I trully love your comment😂💚 Wish I lived in the USA
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I like ur way of thinking ..hmmm grand canyon easy place to get rid of a body
I appreciate Matt's concluding comments indicating that if the original relationship was truly meant to be, he will miss you and want to reconnect, but if it was not meant to be, moving forward in this fashion may very well lead to meeting a new guy who is genuinely drawn to the upbeat, dynamic you. I think this distinction is so vitally important to recognize because perhaps your ex and you really aren't right for each other, no matter how nice/awesome you may both be as individuals.
You can't make anyone do anything but you can always love and treat yourself the way you deserve to be loved and treated.
There are no tricks. He will only miss you if he is already in love with you and if you are the only woman in his life.
Truth
I agree
Preach sis that's the truth ❤️❤️❤️ took me a while to realize 😭😭😭
Don't go back to him and love your self ✌🏻
If you're watching this video to try to get your ex back, do yourself the favor and stop, breathe, and love yourself enough to walk away. You'll be alright. The universe will provide you with the right person in due time. Trust, hope, and have faith :)
1. Absence: I moved out after he confessed to dating another woman for the last two years.
2. Advancing My Life: Enrolled in college full time while holding down a full time career. I make time to travel and meet new and interesting people.
3. I don't make myself available for his needs when he's looking to fill in the week days anticipating the weekend he'll spend with her during the day and night.
4. I'm not ready to reach out to him. I need time to heal.
youre a sic bitch for seeing someone who has a boyfriend who told you such a big lie
@@hurryupnow1 dude move on, it's over with him. Why would you wanna jump back on that wagon when he proved himself to be deceitful and banged another chick for 2 years???
Oh honey... He doesn’t deserve you. Just move on. Focus on yourself and your life and then when you less expect someone nice will come along and you won’t even remember the original scumbag.
Dot go back!
I'm late at the party, but I hope you moved on... and found *another* BETTER man. He showed you his true self. You worth more than him.
My husband cheated on me and divorced me for the other women. After the divorce, I stopped all communication with him, I lost 30 pounds, changed my hairstyle, have dinner parties, go to karaoke evenings and simply rebooted my life. My ex now contacts me about random stuff, and he even told me he misses me. The best part is? I don't want him anymore!
This does work! When my bf And I broke up for 6 months. I tried these steps and more on a book I read... I focused on myself, gained independence and worked out 3-5x a week. I sent him a bday card saying I want all his dreams to come true and he was a great influence to youths (he is in education). He texted me, said he loved the card and he missed me. We went out on a date the next weekend-As I was busy this weekend plans with friends (wink wink* keep that mystery). We went to a county fair and had a blast. It was carefree and we laughed alot. We were like kids again. I wore an outfit that showed my curves and had no jacket. Yes ladies I did the "its cold out" he gave me his jacket. The rest is history. We are going on strong today-6 years together. Tips: Taking Classes, Part Time Job builds Confidence, Growth, Adventure and Meeting Others.
Stephanie Molina Yaaaaaaaaas honey!
Stephanie Molina thank you for the advice
Better make sure he doesn’t read this! Lol
I may just move on if he gives me 6months being by myself lol great advice!
Hope is very important in our lives, trust, faith but FREDOOM is the best! I like the way you handle your situation.
Just a quick note: even if you do all these and some ex of yours contacts you saying that they miss you, it doesn't mean that they have real, genuine feelings towards you. They might just want to feel wanted again and who are they gonna call to give them that feeling of reassurance again? An ex!
They miss you until they meet someone else.
Ladies!! Have confidence in yourself because you are amazing. When you truly believe you are amazing, this will be a piece of cake.
#1 is so true, but then again, it also gives you a chance for you to know if there worth it or not
If I can do without you for thirty days, you already taught me I can do without you. If you need thirty days to figure out what your emotional health is, don’t date.
Yes 30 days is really long to make up your mind if you want someone!
@favorite stark. I have a best friend from high school. Was her rule of thumb
When a relationship would end. She would give her self 30 days of alone time to recoup. Before moving on to the next relationship. She would call it her "alone time".
I on the other hand. I wouldn't waste any time moving on. I wouldn't sleep with them. I would just use these men to buffer out the hurt I was going through. Then when I was ok. I would keep them as friends. I would just make myself scarce. I didn't see myself hurting them. I just didn't think men had feelings and would be hurt.
When I got older it wasn't the same. Men do have feelings. I've had some who had no filter telling me how I made them feel. Then I felt bad.
However. I miss my younger self thinking men didn't have feeling.
I then had sons. Saw them going through range of emotions. When someone had emotionally hurt them.
I guess thus was my karma.
Thank you for letting me vent.
@@mmww9293 No reason why we can’t take her advice now!!! 😀
Lol
@@mmww9293 of course men have feelings, playing them like that was kinda cruel...unless you made it clear from the start to them that you Judy wanted to be f$ck buddies...
Yep, always like that. Stop caring, move on with your life and they will miss you. By the time they regret and want to get back, it’s too late. If he doesn’t know what he wants while he has it, he’s not for me.
With my ex boyfriend, I remember after 6 months of seeing each other he "freaked out" as i like to see it and sent a text saying he essentially needs some space and time to think and be on his own. I never responded and moved on with my life - focusing on friends, work and improving my life. It was a painful first 3 days initially as we talked almost everyday but i knew my value and wanted to be strong. So I didn't text him and gave him what he was asking for.
After about 2 weeks (basically enough time for me to be okay without him in my life and not think about him) he texted me a "Hi, how are you going?" message. The rest of the story isn't important but me allowing him the time and space to come back to me and not chasing him and making him miss what we had was the effective part. So definitely agree with a lot in this video.
Andrea,You deserve better
I did not even know I have practiced those three steps... I am living proof that everything you just said has happened. and we are working on the future plans to be together
my bf and i broke up for three weeks and i felt like he was not gonna come back to me.... i couldnt move on and he came back to me. the relationship is amazing now because we both know how it felt trying to move on and just missing each other. True love ... my baby came back to me.
Anna Maria YAAAAAAAAAAY! Keep up the good work always, guys!
Ann Marie happy for you
How long did it last this time? Still together? I agree this works, but it's usually only temporary
1) absence 2) advance in life (without him) 3) reach out to him to open an invitation, asking him for advices
"Trust the process" is what he always tells me. Thank you for shedding some light to this connection 💕
Such a challenge sometimes when anxiety gets triggered 🌀
I got a new boyfriend.. my ex truly missed me then hahah
Let's see how long it takes for the new one to turn out to be another version of the old one. You can then go back to the old one, since you already know him, his ways won't come as a surprise to you, you won't expect better and can't be disappointed.
Hope it turns out better for you.
Sara Johansson I would ignore the neysayers (did I spell that right lol) Say it with me " you never miss your water until your well runs dry" it could be male ego but it could also be the fact that you are a good person and he realizes now that the person he thought would always put up with him has moved on. 😊
Sara Johansson yes.always the case 😆
Sara Johansson ll
Sara Johansson I bet 🤣😂😂💁🏽♀️
Personal experience, no contact does work. It is hard but so worth it. I would even eliminate myself from social media so my man would wonder what I was up to. lol We recently reconnected and so far so good :) Great advice.
miriam deltoro interesting!
miriam deltoro how long did it take?
miriam deltoro yes thats a much better idea..why should he know your every move 😆
I'm also curious to how long the no contact went on
the no contact started on 1/16 and I held out and he contacted me on 2/27. we are still not seeing each other but i am not desperate to see him like i used to be. we are chil n going with the flow. and if we are to b than grreat but if not thats okay too...im not afraid of losing him anymore. does that make sense? im happy with me.
damp it !!!! when you give him 30days of absence and he gives you 60days lol
Angela bel lol right?
Angela bel lol give him 6 months of absence 😂
Wtf lolllll
I unfollowed him on twitter, he unfollowed me then deleted all his 😘❤️😍 tweets at me. I guess we’re both losing. Lmao
@@bellachao3903 updates on this?
This is a great video, not even for those who want a man to be in a relationship with, but even guy friends can pull away and it can teach them to have gratitude and not take a friend for granted
You are wonderful! Your ADVICES are unique! I ALWAYS adore the way you are speaking! Thanks a lot from Athens Greece!
There is literally nothing unique at all about his video.
@Mathew what if we are working together , same place ?
If a man betrayed me, I won’t want him anymore.
EXACTLY! No other way to handle it.
Exactly 💯
Thanks Matthew! I read this a little late (I went almost 3 weeks, not 30 days) but it worked... not on purpose but I moved on with my life, did stuff with friends, and he finally reached out. He came over to help me fix something broken *(my compressor) and fixed like 4 things while he was there. Then we talked, and long story short made up and are very happy!
I've been doing all of these and it works like a charm! 😂 step #1 is sooo hard! But it truly does make them miss you and want you even more!
what if you don't get a response
Did you stop responding to texts too?
Honestly, step 2 is very hard
self improvement! Mostly because it makes you you again. We all get a bit lost in coupledom. Finding yourself again is the best part of a break up. Not always to get back with your ex, but to enjoy life being with you again.
I have made new friends, found new adventures, discovered lost joys and built up my confidence. To be honest, that isn't to reconnect with my ex, but to reconnect with me. And lets face it, the only person you truly have a lifelong relationship with, is yourself!
Yes I believe true connection always finds its way back when we at least expected...
No time for games. Totally disagree with this video. Let him go and move on ladies! Let the jerk who left miss you and make room for the real man who knows your worth and will appreciate you! Bye bye ....
Nancy, you're on target. I think Matt's advice is good if you are talking about good quality men. Do not know if I have known any.
Narcissist - and Multiple Personality Disorder can not be helped with this advice. If he drops the mask, it's over unless you are the idiot he thinks you are.
You may think of yourself as being that, because you have been tricked one more time. Only this time you could recognize the scheme a little sooner, broke your heart even more.
Quite scary, but the longer this kind of person is in your life the more painful to you when you have only one chance: get out for dear life.
And now again: pick myself up, dust myself off and start all over again...
Nancy-ZumbaRVA Good advice because that's exactly what I did and now I'm with. my true love.
Emily McNamara
Nancy-ZumbaRVA nah keep him dangling.let him think he has a chance..while you date others 😆
SOOOOO agree with you. I was thinking of how much BS this is. No time for games people. All this seems good in theory, and if you're young and have the energy for all this, well then okie dokie. Matt seems like a pretty cool guy, but I wonder if this will be his same advice after 20 years and 2 divorces? LOL xoxo C
Depends on the man and situation. Some guys won’t reach out or ask the girl out again if he feels she’s too above him. My ex always asked why I wanted to date him. I wondered why he’d say this. He had shown me his best side. Later, I saw what he was talking about. I guess that goes back to believing them when they tell you who they are.
This stuff would work with normal guys, but when the person you are going for is a player or “fuckboy”, it doesn’t work because no matter how good you are to them, they don’t care
1) pull up a uhaul
2) say “Bye Bye”
3) drive away
4) never give him access to you again
5) he ponders life FOREVER
Hi Matt, You are absolutely right. Very interestingly these steps are the same steps that my Bhagavat teacher tells how to solve problems in relationships. Never molest your partner by talking and trying to figure out what's wrong, but disconnect and grow within yourself communicating with friends and achieving power inside you. Once you feel you are calm and powerful only then you can return him. Usually ON THE ENERGETIC LEVEL HE FEELS IT and returns to you. But not when you are begging and feel miserable. THIS IS ANCIENT WISDOM what you just shared, GREAT JOB!
"Never molest your partner by talking and trying to figure out what's wrong,"....communication is not molestation. A good relationship is based on effective communication, if one of you doesn't have those skills or is the 'silent, witholding, stonewalling type', you can bet the relationship is gonna crumble even before it started for some people. I would never be with a flaky man, I learnt my lesson by being very strong and using self-love but it took me a lot to become this way. If he left you standing there, don't take him back. EVER. Unless its within a few days or weeks anything like months, years etc, kick them out of your lives and you find someone who loves, honours and shows you the respect you deserve.
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Work on loving and appreciate yourself, build a self confidence! Live your life with a joy ! Be good girl and pray god to find your soulmate ♥️♥️
Yes, become the best you, so you can show him you have confidence, growth and becoming the best you.
Huge thank you Matthew. I recently went through a divorce and unexpectedly met a guy in a similar situation. We had instant chemistry and after 17 years of marriage each, it was like the blind leading the blind in dating. We both craved connection, but after a short time, he became wishy-washy. Sent me mixed signals. I realized he wasn't over his wife...and in fact, he told me he was torn (between what I don't know!) - but trying to figure out his head and heart, and didn't want to send me those mixed up signs. At least he was somewhat open, but it was so heartbreaking after being alone in a marriage for so long. Your videos are SO helpful! Can I say, you're my hero? ;-)
if anyone is curious. we are taking things slow and our communication is improving. we give each other space and enjoy each others company when we are together. going with the flow. ☺
miriam deltoro,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
I’ve noticed when I tell guys my favorite musicians and songs ..every time that song or that artist comes on the radio I pop into their head. So my personal advice is be sure and mention, while you’re dating, songs that you love and artists that you are into because when you are apart.. and they listen to the radio and that artist pops on the radio you will pop into their head
I love how this is happening to me when I've got two months left in the same town, will leave in January for another country for 5 months. And the 30 days of absence will happen through out Christmas and New years eve. Uhhhhh.... bloody perfect!! Who doesn't love being single during the Holidays?
omg... my new lover is moving to a new country after the new year and i'm crushed-- that first month though is going to be sooo interesting to take all the love i feel more open to and channel it into my business and Self!!
How funny we're in a similar boat but paddling in opposite directions! Good luck!
Drawing a man back to you through fear and jealousy is like a band aid on a gaping wound. If anything this is a very temporary fix.
Michelle Livingston Agree!
The best explanation EVER! THANK YOU M LIVINGSTON
YES, this worked so well! When I eventually asked him for advice he called me almost immediately to catch up and see how I was doing. Then asked me on a date the next day. AMAZING
this took me 30 years of practice to learn all this and I really like how he's not suggesting you be anything other what you are but be yourself respecting yourself loving yourself and the person you are with to try a tried and true method. hey if the man is right for you he'll stick around. works well even if you've been married for 20 years. I take time to be gone the weekend with the girls at the beach, well he knows I'm loyal but he sees fun and laughter and hey he really misses that he's not there, same when he's gone. you rock at explaining things from a mans point of view in words women understand. you rock. I've shared these videos with friends who really need to hear from a man other than my husband. and its a great refresher or reminder.
Melissa Gallegos-Holmes yes.n while u r at the beach..rmmm whats he doing.Lol
It really effective: 1, Absence . 2, Advancing life . 3, Attention grabber . Thank you so much
In all honesty, I hate to make my fiancé feel that way. It hurts me more to see him missing me or putting the fear of my loss in him. But sometimes it is necessary to do what you're suggesting, unfortunately. But too much of that can cause resentment
For them and move on. When you don’t think about them anymore, they come back. It works 99% of time, for me.
I LOVE how positive you are Matthew! I mean this advice and the way you put it are phenomenal! All very practical and so positive! Thanks and please keep sharing!
Lanie Light,You got a lovely smile 😊!!
I’m giving him what he wants... A breather- after 5 months of things going really well he wants a breather to make sure I am the one. Not gonna lie, it came from no where but my circumstance is very unique so I get it. He’s truly a good man and so I am using this video as inspiration to remain strong through the process. If it’s meant to be let it go.
Basically just treat men like shit..everyone wants someone they cant have
deanea jones
They aren't men, they are boys.
wahahaha thats a really cool comment i ever seen ;)
Lol... or be a great kisser and hot...
Lol true
deanea jones
good input; mutual respect, support, love, trjjust, compliments, giving each space, compatibility,
Dear Mat! My total respect and gratitude is being sent your way! Thank you for being such an exceptional speaker and public presenter! Your speech just flows deep into my soul!You have gained my trust immediately! What I love about your videos is that they are so juicy and super packed with powerful, sincere and wise relationships advice for us, girls, to deepen the connection with our men! Me being an educator myself... I can just tell how much work, heart and soul you put in! In order to produce such an amazing high quality content!!! Mat!!!! Bravo!!! Fantastic! Magical! You are living your passion!!! Much love and care!!! God Bless you and all of your dear loved ones! 🙏🤗🌞🦄❤️🌈N
I told him ur a real man, a good Preacher and an Awesome Singer. I missed a call from him, and rang back. He was glad. He said "it's good to talk to you, and I said it's good to hear you. He said "yes " then we had a good chat, and said goodbye, God Bless. It's been a week, and no reply. Today I sent him a picture of me Singing on a karaoke.
Great video! So helpful. And point #3 does not make sense to me. Should nt the man be the one reaching out to the woman. To me it will show me the guy is truly interested in me. Instead of me having to chase the guy to get him interested in me.
But by simply asking him a question you are not chasing him. I've done this and it actually resulted in the guy chasing me. I think if he misses you and sees your life is going well he assumes you don't want him anymore. So really you're just hinting that it's okay for him to pursue you!
This may work for you. It does not work for me I speak form experience.
VeganVintageGeek it's basically opening communication without asking for him back and results in him wanting more of you.
VeganVintageGeek I agree, I would not initiate the contact, I would wait for him to come to me
i like the last text... super smart. u are NOT asking him out. but u asking his opinion. no 1 and 2 also great !!
Mat, thank you so much! I am more than happy to discover your channel! Besides being great advices, you put them briefly, so tired of long videos! I feel like no need to watch any other video on these topics. Your energy and approach are also great. Keep up the good work👏
I like your advice. Not only that, you make good points and aren't so chatty about it. You get to the point. Thank you.
I like u😊 idk what it is But ur so freshing to watch, U give me good positive vibes 👍
The best way to make me fall in love even more - is through visible advances in the relationship, like meeting his family, having fun together, feeling his participation in my life... A slow move to the proposal and building a solid connection for the future happy family life with kids
What really has worked with me is the absence. I let them go and I stop pursuing. Then they are finally who reach out. But to me second chances are not worth it. 🤷🏻♀️it’s too late
I've been doing this. Especially the part about growing myself. It's starting to make him want to be around me. It makes me more exciting to him. Great stuff. Really works!
Unfortunately, everytime this happens the man ends up coming back but too late saying "you were right, sorry"
It's hard especially if Long distance relationship 😭😭
mari glave, I totally agree this is very difficult, I hope matt may put an advice in that special situation
I do agree
mari glave I hate long distance will never do one again.
blackberrybrandy I agree!!!👌👌
mari glave i have long distance relationship and its realy hard 😭😭
Except this doesn’t work with long distance relationships. He can’t see me out and about and we both don’t do social media.
My husband said to me a few weeks ago "I gotta know what you're up to" to which I responded, "I'm not that interesting." and he said... "You are!"
I wouldn't have married you if I didn't find you interesting
♥️
I still killed myself laughing 😂😂
Let.him.go.girl! You deserve better!
This topic is very important for women, Thank you for making this video!
Mathew, just love your advice !!!! I've tried it and it works...BIG time!
Kim Cass,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear
Absent makes the heart grow fonder
Thank you for the time frame, it has been 21 days and I knew I had to make it at least that long. A man who said he was afraid of loosing me, I have no idea what happened. It for sure has been a challenge but I know that to be selfless I have to give him space to choose me on his own without me chasing him.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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I walked away from the love of my life. I never thought I'd hear from him again and got on fully with my life. 11 weeks later he text me to say he missed me and us and commented about stuff he'd seen on my social media (the man who doesn't do social media).
I believe in missing a person but after a while you get used to there absence. Gives you time to realize you are okay without him. I dealt with bipolar Ness 😒 and missed it . Had to 😳 was to toxic
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
Message him on Whatsapp
I did step #1 and that's it, he came back running after a month exactly OMG! lol Now we're trying to work things out :)
If you want him to miss you just have a long distance relationship, then you will always hear him go on about how much he misses you. Swear it works LOL.
Loriana,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀
Love the weekly clip, great advice as always! I like a guy who offers too much advice & wisdom, I don't need it, it's awkward because I'm independent & more successful, but he can't help but constantly offer advice even when he has no experience or skill. It's like he is programmed to do it! This clip made me realise he really cant help himself! Thanks for your brilliant words & kind sharing! You Rock !!!
You make a man miss you by disappearing. Period. Done. It’s that easy.
Your wife is an amazing woman, I would hate to hear my bf talking about his ex like that. Is that me being jealous? I know you love your wife and educating us. I'm so grateful years of therapy haven't taught me any of this! Thanks to you and your family
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Thank you Matt. This helps me a lot! It helps to understand men a little more of why they do what they do. I couldn’t but get upset & cry over the guy, but watching your video gave me some good insight. ☺️
Michelle Finn,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear
I did that 30 day absence thing with my ex. It worked but only to an extent. I ginuinely repositioned my life to place my self in a good space to move on after our breakup. He texted me after about a month but it was scarce and unmeaningful. He only wanted to visit me at night which clearly showed his intentions and I found out he was dating a coworker of mine. It was a painful experience. I hate that I cared more than he did.
For Me I have a difficulty to play these ”relationship” games. In My opinion He will either Stay or Leave. I believe a Man and a Woman should have the Courage to be who they are always and that should be enough. For Me thinking about Waiting someone to miss You is funny. You will wait forever because intelligent Man and Woman with God given Wisdom do not need these. I understand human nature very Well yet these ”Mind games” mostly irritate Me because we should Always be enough. If we are not special to Our Loved One then let Him/Her go and move on. It needs confidence to see that You are Worthy of True Love.
Working 12 hours on my job is enough before my husband starts missing me after 12 or 24 hours...he showers me with love and attention and I tell him how much I appreciate him and give him love and attention back . Stay productive and when your free give him ur time he will miss u so much when u get home.
I actually did that without knowing when my ex broke up with me. Conclusion: I realized I deserve someone better in my life.
I have two men that miss me and it happened naturally, I didn’t do it on purpose, I’m just independent. They are both campaigning to win me.
That was cool...liked it that presentation Mat... but it has not worked for me so I guess the harsh brutal reality is he don't miss me...C'est La Vie.. It is what it is i guess. Thank God I am a busy Lizzy and have ambitious business goals I am focusing on in conjunction with working , studying on the side, researching on the side, socialising with friends and family and doing a variety of activities I love... thank God I love doing and learning and absorbing knowledge in fields I especially love.... I love doing, being and being productive so that's a blessing, The truth is for me I would rather be on my own than be losing time and energy with the wrong guy... And yes I am always working on myself to be the best i can be to the best of my ability
Once again Thank you and Namaste
Hi do you think it might be an ego issue on his part? That in showing you he misses you he might have felt less of a man?
OMG! guess what he came to see me... hows that he had poor excuse for seeing me it made me laugh... but wow i was totally suprised and he is still attracted to me he said... and yes i think its an ego issue for sure we spent 3 hours chatting and even hugged a few times ... but he is very controlled with his emotions etc... but i was my natural self and presented no BS etc... which encouraged him to relax and be open and honest too,we have established friends for now with the possibility of trying again so that blew me out of the water... so do you think its an ego issue?
stessa kimberli hi i know im not part of this conversation but i think anyone who misses you would should and not just say they miss you. Not that they need to move mountains for you but they would make an effort to reach out to you and check up on you. Whethet someone misses you because they actually miss you or out of their ego i think you would be able to tell. If things quickly go back to the way they were then he probably doesn't miss you. You also need to remember that some people are attracted to success rather than the individual experiencing success because it makes them feel good for whatever reason
stessa kimberli someone worthy will appreciate the special person that you obviously are.😊
stessa kimberli sounds like itm sounds like you handled it v.well.just be careful honey 😆
Thank you for the message. This is a big help for me. my days is not complete without him. Thanks for uploading this video.
Most of these so called "Love Coaches" were only focusing on how to get the love you want but not keeping the love you have... What's really challenging is how to keep a relationship and handle conflict, doubts, fears, these are all real relationship challenges everybody may face with. What is the use to use all these games and tools to get the men or women you want but not able to really keeping or creating a beautiful relationship in a real matter?
Agree with you. Yes, it does take effort to implement your recommendations. But, this is the only way to fix the situation if it is fixable. If it's not, the woman is at gain anyway as she would learn how to move on with her life.
These videos make me feel two things:
1. These tips will improve my mental health and life quality.
2. Men are too high maintenance I am gay.
it hurts differently when you give him absence, time to miss you, and then he never does. But you learn to let go in the process.
playing with someone s feelings is not that good..
i don't think he is suggesting anyone plays with anyone's feelings tho. This a strategy for assessing a man's genuine interest in you and/or a method for helping you to move on if things aren't gonna happen. And let me tell you, when i was single, i used the first two of these methods and it was VERY VERY successful.
DolceVita It worked for yoh? Interesting! Can you elaborate on how is was successful. What happened? if you dont mind aha
scizodd shit happens.i never hurt anyone .people can be bad ...
I agree with you. It is the best way to weed out the bad ones.
Agreed with your points. I was dating a guy for more than 2 yrs. Was dreaming of marrying him and was really loyal to him, u know respect, support, etx. But, he had other plans as per his families wish. So, he let me go. I accepted that. Though badly heart broken, i gathered myself and move on in my life. I climbed up the ladder in my career and also met a guy who treats me like a princess. We have been together now 3 year. So, my ex realized his loss. He never achieved his plan anyways for which he had left me. Plus, his entire life got messed up with huge debt. Funny, he was checking if i still love him. Too bad and sad for him. I have already happily moved on.
I've never ignited any fire in a man.
Sienna Venezia same here buddy😘
Same...especially the ones I liked 😭
Sienna Venezia Me too and not know why.
Yes you all have in some way at some point. There’s beautiful attractive things that you don’t even know are there or that someone appreciates.
🙋🏻♀️
This...is true! I have lived it..many many times with my man of 5years..we 've had our share of problems and moved apart a few times and when I'm depressed, it doesn't help me in anyway but when I pick myself up n actually start moving on and having fun he misses me so bad we end up together. He will always say, he is usually hit by fear of actually losing me when he sees me moving on. Men!!!
My ex started contacting me again after about 3 or 4 weeks after I broke up with him. During that time period, I had to be emotionally strong not to be tempted to contact him. I like what someone said, just like working out and hurting afterwards cuz ur muscles will get sore, you also need to work out your "emotional muscles" as well. It's gonna hurt emotionally but you'll get stronger emotionally and will be able to handle any BS that comes your way. If you have a fear of ur ex seeing other people during ur breakup, well people are going to do what they want anyway. And if they really missed u and cared about u their other relationships are probably not gonna last.
And I advise people (ladies especially) is to see what else is out there. Don't just be fixated on ur ex. Once u find a man who respects you, is more financially independent, loves you more, then you wouldn't wanna get back together with your ex.
So true
What if your train starts to move and he thinks if he comes back into your life that he may stop your train and he wants the best for you? So showing him your better off without him, could be a bad thing; that instead of coming back he may resort to backing off even if we wants you.