Rehoming Your Dog Without Guilt
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ม.ค. 2022
- Rehoming your dog has such a damaging stigma. Rehoming a dog that doesn't work in the confines of your life is not wrong. Sometimes things just don't work out, and you have to do what's best for the both of you.
Exactly!! Sometimes a dog’s personality and needs aren’t a good fit
I had to rehome a dog that I only got 4 days ago from a nice lady. Ive been goign through a lot of things the past 2 years I thought a dog would lift my spirits but instead it became an EXTREME and immediate source of anxiety. Crippling anxiety that made my brain numb out and I was an emotional wreck. I found a nice home for him, thats almost exactly like the home he came from - single older lady living alone with no pets. Has some young granddaughters and a son living next to her. I feel guilt but also a TON of relief. My 12 year old 'soul' dog died only 3 weeks ago and I made a decision based on reaction rather than rationality. I was grieving for my dog and I incorrectly thought that bringing another dog into my life would relieve that. I realizd my mistake and tried to correct it as best I could. I feel like I did what was best for the dog and for myself. Ill always remember Brody even though I only had him just 4 days. I hope he has a great life with his new family.
I’m in the process of trying to rehome my dog and it is not easy but a lot is changing in our lives and I just cannot keep up. I just want him to go to a better home.
Best of luck to you and your pup.
Same
I feel the Same and going through the same
I so needed this video, thank you. I am so sad that I have to. I've developed allergies and he needs more open space and dogs to be companions with. I don't think he's happy here. I'm trying to find families and even farms for him right now because it hurts to think of taking him back to the shelter. Thank you again ❤
Same here
Despite of my parents agreement.. I adopted a Labrador puppy when she was just 45 days. I have fallen in love the moment I saw her, shes an incredible pup. Since I'm still living under my parents roof I can't really offer everything that my oreo(dog) need. On top of that my dad HATES her so I have no other option but to rehome her.. I hope her new family loves her and offers her everything she needs.
Doing that is so sad ! But I do not think that it should be considered mean. It is worse to keep a dog in an environment that isnt making it as happy as it could be. I have a dog that we got 1 year ago from our neighbors and we saw her be born. A little after, they told us that we can have her for free! We thought that it would be perfect but we were wrong. She is extremely hyper, stubborn, overly reactive and just a naughty dog. We also dont have the money to pay for surgery when she swallows a sock and cant throw it up. And we HAVE tried for a year but she doesnt respect us or submit to us because she is larger than us. So we are giving her to a family with her other sibling! She WILL be happier and it is better than having to keep her with us. I am extremely sad but its for the best and I will probably get another dog on the smaller side 😊😢
@@Idkrlly_rlly thank you so much for sharing your story I hope you’ll find a perfect dog for yourself
@@Idkrlly_rllythis sounds similar to my doggo that wr have just rehomed - can I ask, do you have children? - if you do how are they coping? Mine seem okay but then I catch them seeing a little sad and kept help but feel riddled with guilt x
@@megan27274 Yeah! I have 4 children and they are coping perfectly. They understand that our dog was not happy and neither were they. After we got rid of her we felt very guilty but relieved that she was happier. The family that gave her to us was also the one that recommend removing her from us. Soon after, a stray kitten came to our house and wanted to come in. So now we have a cat! I guess everything happens for a reason.
Today was the day I rehomed my pitbull lab that was only 2 months old. I was super sad and I could tell by looking at her face she was super nervous and sad as well. But both of us know it’s for the best and I really hope her new owners take care of her better than I did. 😓
About to rehoming my little dog and I’m heartbroken but this is a nice way to see it, thanks!
Currently rehoming my dog and I don’t feel the same anymore we got her at 6 months and I grew a bond with her, moving out will be difficult and soon my parents will leave the province to somewhere else so they wouldn’t be able to take care of her a new family saw her and fall in love with her despite the pain of letting her go I really hope the new family will treat her with love
Thank you. I’m struggling with this decision and today is the day I’m bringing her back to her foster home. She needs more dogs to play with and she’s not good with any human besides me. Not fair to my daughter or family.😢
We empathize with you. These decisions are always tough.
I'm in a bad living situation and can't bring my dog with me when I leave. I've had my dog for almost 8 years and I have a very strong bond with her, but I know that I won't always be the one to give her love, support, care, and treats here and there. My living situation is affecting my mental health in a negative manner and I can't handle it anymore. My partner is helping me on trying to get out of my living situation, but neither of us can afford to have my dog with us when I move.
I’ve been crying all day since we are rehoming our dog tomorrow. Sadly he wasn’t the right fit our house since we have little dogs and he attacks them. He is a Doberman very playful very sweet it’s just we would’ve kept him if he got along with our dogs. I wish we could afford a school but with my family’s crisis we can’t. I know he can find a better home and will be much happier and those people would take a big commitment. If those people that adopt him rehome him again after he was rehomed once we are gonna take him back to our house.
Even though it’s tough, glad you made the best decision for your fam.
I just very recently rehomed my dog😔 I regret it so much. I feel like I let her down. I can’t stop thinking about it. My anxiety is at its worst I can’t even leave the house because people will expect to see me with my dog . The guilt is literally taking over my life.
Think you have to look back at your initial reason for rehoming and take some comfort in that you felt like you were doing the best thing for you and the dog.
We rehomed our blue heeler. She was much better off. We loved her but she went to a vet tech who owned a farm. She finally had more freedom then a city being walked 3 times a day
Dude I'm in the same boat. I have a ACD and we cannot keep up her high energy
Just rehomed our dog for the same reason & also to a couple who own acres of land. Was definitely tough but she deserved a lot more freedom than we could give her.
I've had 2 mental breakdowns due to stress on various levels, all relating to our dog and our current life situation. I feel like such an asshole for choosing to rehome our dog. He's a great shelter dog, but we can't keep up. We aren't able to meet his needs and its hard.... God I hate this....
I so needed this video, thank you ♥️🙏
Thank you
So I’m a 15 year old kid, and we bought 2 dogs, a brother and sister, a year and a half ago. They are the best dogs I will ever have but they misbehave all the time. And tonight was the breaking point for my mom. They ran upstairs and peed everywhere in her bedroom and she snapped and is looking for someone to take them. It’s my fault because I went upstairs to take a nap and I forgot to put them in their cage and close the gate. If my dumbass just hadn’t forgotten to do that, I’d still have them. So I feel guilty as hell because now it’s my fault if they end up in a shelter. And they’re both 8 so they don’t have a lot of time left, so if they pass away in a shelter I would never be able to forgive myself. I feel like a piece of shit right now.
We just Rehomed our 8 month old gsp pup lastnight and we are all in pieces. But we work full time (I wasn’t when we got him but situation changed) and these breeds need a lot of human interaction and are hound dogs so constant stimulation and exercise. He would get two walks a day but that still wasn’t enough and it was breaking our hearts leaving him in a cage or pen all day whilst we went out to work. He had separation anxiety and hated been alone and he wasn’t getting the attention even when we got home baceause we had to sort kids ect. His gone to a owner who has another gsp so he has a friend and who does hunting fishing and takes the dogs to hunt (clay pigeons) his going to get a fulfilled life now and that makes me happy but we miss him so much. I feel like a family member has just passed away. I’m feeling extremely guilty because it was my idea and my husband and son are heartbroken and I feel I have done this. It’s killing us all. I feel like I have gave my baby away. But I knew what was best for him and us as a family. He is an amazing dog so loving great with the kids, he seen them as his siblings. It’s a very hard decision and heart breaking. You will feel like you have lost a member of your family but I know it’s the right decision for the dog and he will be happy. I’m also feeling guilty about what he must be thinking and not been able to console him. 😢
Gemma, we are in the same situation. We just drove cross-country to bring our almost 2 year old boy to his new family this morning . We spent months attempting to find a good match and we ultimately did. That being said, we are crushed. We love him dearly. As I write this to you from the hotel room we’re staying in tonight I just want to say I pray you have peace about your selfless decision. Its not easy, but it’s the decision that will lead him to fulfill his purpose. It’s the same for our boy George. Love & Hugs from the US, Abby
My health is getting bad, and I work all day..I hate that my dog has to be kept inside so much…he deserves and needs better.😢
Super sorry to hear that
I am currently in the process of Rehoming my dog due to the reason we can not give her the active life that she needs she is not happy with the life we have and that’s fine we are going to find her a good home with a active family and yes it is hard but she is not happy in our home and out other dog is not happy with her I can only hope that we can find the right family for her one with a big yard and the time to take care of a super active love bug of a dog. I found your video after having a break down about having to say goodbye to her but watching this video made me understand that is is not my fault that she needs more then what I can give.
Writing this kinda helped me understand that it is not my fault nor my dogs fault she is not happy in this home so I can only pray that her nowt home os her forever home and that she is 100% more happy then she would ever be in this home. Thx for doing this video it help me more then you would ever now.
🙏🙏 it’s a hard choice, but it sounds like you’re doing what’s best for everyone.
Nice comparison to romantic relationships, seriously. Every Dog/Owner scenario isn't going to end up like a Disney movie
With heavy hearts and deep sadness we decided to rehome our puppy as our adult cats just can’t cope with the new lifestyle, our puppy is so energetic and wants attention 100% of the time and it is not fair to our cats. We believe she needs a home where they can provide all of these 💔
Understood.
I never though about it that way
Yeah, most ppl don’t.
I have a Doberman and he is INSANE!!! he sheds A LOT, he cries all the time for absolutely no reason, his energy is never ending, he destroys things all the time, he has huge ADHD problems. & before people start talking shit, yes I do take him out alot for walks and also to the park regularly to play but he is like 30 dogs in 1. I can’t keep up with him. I wish I could keep him but. I have to start looking for alternatives because I not have 2 jobs & I am about to also look into starting school again. If your thinking about owning a Doberman but u can’t afford to watch & entertain him 24/7 then don’t get one. They are extremely needy & will lash out if they don’t have your attention every second of the day.
Thank you so much. I had 4 Bichons and the boy love my mom. He want to live there. But feb we got the beautiful dog she was not happy here, he didn’t like my husband and it was very difficult for 3 months I could be with my husband. To feed the dog I I need to send my husband outside or she wouldn’t eat it was stressful. She was scared of everything and everyone I need to be the 24-7. I’m sick with lupus. I feel Ed so powerless to the job. She was 9 months she never been outside or see people. I’m so depressed I feel so bad guilty 😢 it is so painful. Ohhh god it hurts!!
Definitely sorry to hear that.
Thank you!!!
You're welcome!
Thank you 🙏
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i have my dog two years now and its looks like i might have to do this and it's playing with my mind
Thank you!!! Really good video; well put.
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I adopted a beagle puppy, he's 8 moths old now, and I failed at crate training him, I have lost all my social life because he barks a lot when left alone :((( I feel so ashamed to rehome him. This is my first pet and I'm trying to make this reslationship works, but I have failed so far
You can still do it. Head over to our sister company’s TH-cam. We have a good crate training video there. th-cam.com/video/NWI7LLlXMy8/w-d-xo.html
It depends on why you're rehoming
If it's a bad fit it's guilt free
But if it's the right fit but bad times we're going to mourn the loss
Yeah. Sometimes you can make it work if it’s just timing.
I am going to to re home my borgi to someone who has a ranch , I’m in a condo and don’t think my dog is getting enough stimulation, and taking it out on my older dog , she even has attacked me , I do play time ball frisbee long walks hiking but it’s not enough , she has some alpha syndrome
If we get in her personal space she can go off , I had to take the older dog to the vet to get her ear glued back together, and the dog is scared of her 😢
I’m sick to my stomach right now during this process of rehoming my dog… my baby.. I feel like I’m dying..I don’t want to rehome him but he has behavioral issues that I’m not equipped to handle at this time in my life with my poor mental health. Can’t stop crying… I think I’m about to throw up.. the guilt is eating me alive because I don’t know if it’s the right decision or if he’ll ever forgive me..
Sorry to hear that. Always a tough decision.
Oh my goodness I'm so sorry...I hope you're doing better now
how are u doing now?
Litterally same. it’s so heartbreaking.
Sadly we are rehoming our dog,we’ve had him for a year and due to our new living situation we can no longer give him the exercise and socialization he needs and he has separation anxiety because of it.He has to stay in my grandparents sunroom because he almost knocked them over several times and there’s nowhere to socialize him so he’s just anxious all the time.I wish we didn’t have to but it’s causing us a lot of stress with the constant barking that comes when we have to leave the room and it’s stressful on him.
Have you looked into getting him trained?
I've been thinking about rehoming my dog since I got her, no one would ever think that. She is HIGH energy and i AM NOT. I'm old, I'm tired and i'm eling everything I am supposed to. She has no behavioral problems, everyone lives her, but I am exhausted. I just keep picturing her around a big family with a lot going on, lot's of action,... But is that a good enough reason?
That tough… but you have to do what’s right for you.
My problem is I can’t handle the German shepherd and 2 little kids on my own and that’s a problem because either my kids needs aren’t being met or the dogs aren’t being met, my kids are eating hair and have it in the diaper, the dog is knocking them over and when we travel we have to share a room because NOBODY wants to go near a hyperactive not trained dog that isn’t stimulated meaning she will do anything for you to play with her but my partner doesn’t want to let her go, doesn’t want to rehome her and doesn’t help with the kids but now that it’s a problem he wants to help with the dog only😔 I’m considering separating because I cared for the dog and trained the dog and he would mess up the training so when she got big, nibbling on everyone including the kids, jumping on everyone and knocking us over, I told him I was done and he doesn’t seem to care as long as we keep the dog *he works full time over time if he can* we don’t have the time and we haven’t vaccinated her bc we can’t afford it+ we can’t afford proper training. I hate making her wear a prong collar 24/7. It’s meant for training but my partner doesn’t like to be embarrassed by the dog dragging him. Should I just leave him with the dog and I stay with the kids?🤷🏻♀️
Some dogs are not a good fit and people are going to have to accept that. We all want what’s best for the dog, but some dogs can’t be rehabilitated no matter how hard you try. Yes people make a commitment with a dog. But like every other commitment, they just don’t pan out.
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My dog is a 1-year boxer / Sheppard mix. She has a high prey drive and attacked our kitties. We have 3 senior cats. She sweet, smart, and loves people, but not good with other animals. Is there hope to curb her strong pretty drive with professional help, or are odds slim to break that habit?😢 Thank you for your wisdom!!!
Having never met the dog, I’d say get a professional in there to evaluate the dog and the dynamic. They can give you a better idea of what’s going on.
@@BLACKWOODCANINE Thank you!!! I called in an expert (trainer with aggression expertise) to evaluate and help 🤗🥰
I don't know what to do, I've had my dog for over a year and I still feel no connection to him. He's a sweet little dog and I don't know why I feel like this. For some reason his presence gives me a lot of anxiety and it's hard for me to give him affection. I'm not sure what to do.
Well if he’s a sweet dog, but it doesn’t feel right. Put some feelers out there. See if anyone is looking. Also, a rescue may take him and have an easier time finding someone because of their network.
The other option, is to keep the dog and start doing some training. I’ve seen relationships grow immensely when people take the time to learn how to communicate with their animals.
I would say to re home now before your dog becomes more attached to you. never give your dog to anyone online. use only people you trust or a reputable shelter can help.
People are also so judgemental, when they know nothing going on behind the scenes. I agree you should do what you can to keep a pet, but have some compassion. You don't know what is going on in these people's lives.
If you aren't ready to be in a committed romantic relationship, then you shouldn't have romantic partners. If you aren't ready to be a dog owner, then you shouldn't get a dog. Please consider how much work pets are before buying/adopting.
But sometimes that committed relationship turns out to be toxic and it’s not only OK, but healthiest to find better partners. Honestly. It’s ok.
@@BLACKWOODCANINE I've wanted a dog since I could speak. I have had dogs for a few months, here and there growing up.
I thought I was ready.
The truth is you can never expect it. My dog has serious skin and allergy issues that it drained all my savings. I have to put myself second because I prioritised my dog's health and well-being over me.
Over time, it is not healthy, and I became miserable.
Not everybody can see that far into the future.
I have a quick question….we have a beautiful Siberian Husky but we live in a farm and we do not know if having our Husky at the farm is a good idea since they are hunters….We love him so much and we do not want to re-home him what is the best advice you could give us ? Thank you.
They are not typically “hunting” dogs. They can have some prey drive, but that’s most dogs since they are predisposed to hunt critters to survive. Not sure what kind of animals you have at your farm, but you should be able to manage your Husky just fine on your farm.
@@BLACKWOODCANINE my Siberian Husky is about 5 months old and the animals that we have at our farm are goats, horses, cows and chickens. I was told that once he becomes older he would be more aggressive and it could be dangerous for the farm animals since he does have that prey drive like you mentioned in the text above. He would be outside and I wouldn’t want him to dig himself out and get out of our farm and get hurt. He is very needy and he is very high maintenance and we do have to leave due to work sometimes for like 4-5 hours and he would be alone outside or maybe with another dog but I wouldn’t want my Husky to get into something outside and get hurt. He is super Hyper and he is very curious but he is a very loving puppy too.As a dog trainer what do you recommend we should do?
Impossible.
Well... when you end a relationship, your ex-partner usually goes on to enjoy life without you. Unfortunately what it means for many dogs when their owner gives up on them is death.... and that's not cool at all.
This isn’t true. And we aren’t advocating euthanizing dogs out of inconvenience either. We have worked with rescue groups across the nation, lost dogs groups, animal welfare groups, assisted with client rehoming, and personally rehomed dogs. There are more success stories than there are sad ones, and the narrative needs to change. No one should keep a dog that is a bad fit for their lifestyle or ability out of guilt.
Thank you