Day 355 - The Difficult Decision to Rehome Your Dog
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 มิ.ย. 2024
- Rehoming your dog can be one of the most agonizing decisions you may ever have to make. However, the decision to rehome your dog can also be one of the most unselfish and considerate acts you could ever perform for your dog, family, and friends. Today is part one of a two-part series that will help you make the difficult decision to rehome your dog should the need ever arise. I’m Bryan Bailey, and today is day 355 of my 365-day journey to help make dog ownership an incredible experience. For more videos related to dog training and behavior, don't forget to subscribe!
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Thank you so much for this video. I had the hard decision to re home my female doberman. I tried my hardest for 3 years and it just is not working. I have ptsd and she can pick up on my nerves and she out powers me . I found a retired animal control officer who has always wanted a doberman. He has a big yard and 30 years of experience with training.
I've been crying everyday. I had to let our dog go because he deserved so much more and I found him the most unbelievable amazing home with anamazing family and I still feel guilty.
Same here. It’s been 5 days and I can’t stop crying. Her new family loves her and she gets so much attention.
omg yes same here. She is living her best life and I am still crying
I just rehomed my baby today and I'm having such a hard time🥹
I just cannot stop crying and the day hasn't even come. It really really hurts knowing that they'll never wake you up with kisses anymore, you'll never walk them again, stay on schedule BECAUSE of them, their favorite treat doesn't even matter anymore because you won't be able to give it to them and see their cute little spins oh my god
Yes exactly how I feel right now…but I know he will be better off in a big back yard with a big family. maybe we just weren’t the right fit for them and they will be better off.. I keep telling myself this.
@@hopeconway4764 Exactly this. I hope this is where my dog is going.
@@hopeconway4764 I wish you the best, it's rlly hard :(
I also feel this way… I had to rehome my beautiful Dobermann 1 year ago… at first I cried every single day, but now I cry like every 10 days or 15 days… I usually get tears in my eyes for even the tiniest things like going grocery shopping and looking at the pet aisle. This was so far the hardest desition of my life but I can tell you it does get better with time…
The day hasn’t come for me and I’m afraid of all of the things I took for granted.
this is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
but it’s not about my feelings it’s about what’s best for him.
This has helped put everything into perspective for me. My elderly mother’s health is declining and I cannot manage a young dog and take care of her at the same time. I found an amazing home for our little baby and I know he will be loved and well taken care of. Thank you!
Thank you. 😢 my dog has always been aggressive from time to time. He got aggressive with my child. I will have to rehome him.
OMG, you did save my life, I was in tears due to a "mistake". Here is the case: I have a sheltie for 15yrs, I love her, she is my perfect dog but like all of us, she is towards the end of her life span... Someone told me to get a puppy so would "cheer" her up. WRONG! I got a Carolina dog puppy crazy energetic I did not know about the breed! Now my old dog had a stroke, I need to take care of her, the puppy, and myself ( I am disabled, and I suffer from RA, Lupus and a bunch of other medical conditions) I cried and cried, I even got sick so I decided to rehome/ relocate the puppy. 1- I live in an sm apartment, 2- the puppy needs someone with the space and energy to deal with her, 3- I recognize that I was WAY over my head, dreaming that the transition would be smooth and that I could train her to be my service dog, or at least would be "the bridge dog"!
Thanks for helping me, not to feel ashamed or guilty about it, I really was thinking about how amazing the Carolina dog is and that I was not a good match for her, that I could not give the other things she needs besides food and shelter, there is more in life than that. She has a new home with a big yard and an experienced DC owner... Also, I decided to focus on my old dog's last days, make her comfortable, and not stressed with a puppy on her face.
I am having the hardest time ever rehoming my Pug. He's easy to find a home for but I had no idea I had gotten this attached to him. He's going to his new home in like 5 hours and I am so torn up balling my eyes out. I know in my mind it's the right thing for Him, my family and myself but I just love him to pieces. I have ms and solo parent 3 girls. I can not keep up with this 8 month old Pug and I know this is the right thing to do but, it's been the hardest thing I've had to do in a long time. One thing that help is when I think about my daughter's lactose intolerance. See, she loves ice cream but it's just doesn't work out for her when she eats it. I think there's nothing wrong with wanting or loving something but also knowing when it's time to move on. Always do the right thing though. Don't give up on the dog, but find it a better place. There is someone out there that will take great care of the dog and love it just as much as you do. Now, I just got to remember this for myself.
Sorry for the delayed response. Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story with me. I have walked in your shoes a few times, brother, and it's not easy. Take solace in knowing that in the end, when we choose a better life for our dogs, we are doing the same for ourselves. - Bryan
Did u get over it?
@@pikachuchishi6182 Life is much easier in many ways but we think about him and talk about him every day (sometimes several times a day). He'll always remine in our hearts. His name is Bubba. I stopped bugging his new parents for updates because I'm sure they wanted to just move forward but we do still miss him often. I had read everything there was to know about my life long dream dog. I was thrilled to finally have my fawn color Pug. The only thing I missed is they are very stubborn at potty training. Most websites on Google said it was the hardest dog to train and could take years if ever they learned. We tried everything the experts told us to try, having watched countless hours of You Tube videos, crate training, dozens of walks, often hours (up to 2+) hours of walking to beat the battle of wills. But he hated the crate and knew he'd get a bath if he crapped in there right away. So he always saves a little just so. We weren't getting any sleep, were holding him all the time, afraid to let him down cuz he's just poop in 2 seconds. It was a nightmare situation in one aspect but he was a blast, goofy, fun and we loved him whole heartedly.
This is one of the hardest things I have had to do in my life. Returned my 9 month old German Shepherd to the breeder, and its been almost 2 months, and still a day doesn't go by where I want to bring him back home, hope he is still there. I don't know why I am struggling with this so much, but it just breaks my heart. I wonder how people who keep their dog for like 5 years can deal with this emotionally. I loved him so much and it feels like it was just the beginning. There were just too many priorities in our lives for it at this time and I realized getting a dog was something I hadn't thought through fully. Its hard to know until you go through it, but this just feels so bad. It sucks, and it made me feel as though I just messed up across the board from getting a dog without being honest with myself about whether other members of my family were on the same page in interest level, etc... The guilt is what really bothers me, but I know I have to be mature, stay strong, and get tougher emotionally. Thank You sir for this video. It is starting to help me a little bit cope with this.
I feel your pain.
I have a 1 year old German shepherd that is making my life really stressful.
It breaks my heart just thinking about giving him away, but I need to do what’s right for him and I.
I’m on the fence about rehoming him, I literally don’t know what to do.
@@Johnny.B995 did you keep him?
Thank you for making this video, today we made the decision that we aren’t the best home, my instincts said exactly the same thing you were saying, but hearing it from you that this isn’t the selfish decision, it reassured me and gave me so much peace. I’m heartbroken but I would rather do what’s right for this dog than try to make him and our family live fearfully and miserably. Especially as I know he would be an amazing fit somewhere else, this is the best choice.
This has given me the fresh perspective I needed. My giving my dog back to the shelter will be very hard, but watching this each day is giving me the strength. I can't be a martyr for a dog no matter how sweet natured it is. My dog has only been here 2 weeks, but I am already at my wits end. Diarrhea multiple times a day. Vet bills. Not potty trained. Pulls on lead. Eats poop. OCD. I can't take it anymore. My emotional constitution doesn't allow it. So thanks for giving me permission. I needed this.
My dog is 16 years old I live in upstairs apartment he has too go up an down the stairs every day, an he needs more potty breaks, I work long 12 hour shifts, I just want more for him he's always inside asleep. It's really hard, for me an him. But I love him .
Trying to re-home a dog we rescued. Totally believe that he would be better off in a home with another dog and also with a fenced in yard. Don't want to dump him back into the shelter, but finding foster and adoption organizations unresponsive and not very compassionate. Struggling to find a solution... We have had him for 6 weeks
My Pomeranian was in an abusive situation with too many dogs. The lady running a puppy mill. She neurotic to begin with.. afraid of everything/ everyone. That got better over time. My spouse was a covert narcissist and trained her with some very unhealthy habits. Then my narc spouse died.
Left me with a friend g that had Stockholm SS. She miss him and still very neurotic behaviors. Then my mother died of COVID. Then I was Dx with breast cancer. I'm walking insane with grief and having very hard time. I can barely take care of myself
now. I love my dog but her antics trigger anger against my abusive husband now for making her to his way. I cry a lot but circumstances have led me to make the decision to re-home her. She will be Happy and I will know that at this time it was absolutely the right thing to do for her as well as myself. Thank you for your intelligent and empathic video. Thank you😢
Thank you for this video. Gives me so much peace with my decision. I know my boy is happier in his new home.
Thank you, my gut feeling tells me it’s for the best for both of us. My dog will go on and adjust, experience something different :)
I had 3 standards and had to rehome/relocate one today. She had become very dominate and aggressive. She came from an abusive situation at 6 months. She is 2 yrs and 1 month now. She came a long way from how she was. And learned it is okay to be loved and give love. I did all I could for her.
Thank you for doing this video
Thank you for this!! I needed to hear this today.
You are so welcome! I hope my message helped you in some way. All the best, Bryan
I really needed to hear this. She's not my dog. I temporarily took her in, but the owner doesn't want her back anymore. She's been with me for 7 mos because they kept postponing when they'd pick her up. This means, I have to bring her to the shelter and I feel so guilty. I'd keep her but she's too aggressive and territorial towards my other three dogs. 😔
Has she been spayed? If she is spayed she may not be so territorial. If you can walk all of your dogs together. Let them walk besides each other so they understand they are in a pack with each other. ❤
My dog of 12 years passed away . Best dog god ever made. I was sad so made a post saying I was looking for a senior dog bc I can’t handle an energetic puppy . Someone commented saying their dad passed and he had 2 , 10 year old dogs . One is a chihuahua one is a lab mix. Long story short I am going to have to find a home for the chihuahua. She barks constantly. And gets the lab barking . She cries when I go to the bathroom . She is always under my feet and she made me fall last week and hurt my hip . She whines 24 hours a day unless I am holding her and even then she shakes so bad and it gives me anxiety bc she is so anxious . I am constantly having to yell at her to stop barking bc my nerves can’t take it and then I feel like a piece of crap . I can’t give her what she needs . I feel bad but I don’t . My mental health is declining and I constantly feel overwhelmed and on edge
Really struggling with rehoming my Saint. This helps, but it’s just not the same as giving him a big hug and scratching his big butt.
Thank you so much for this video!! Very much needed! I am full of guilt but I know this is the right thing for my dog….
This is amazing. I only just found you and watched Part 1 of Aggression ep. 65 and I was hooked. This video appeared and seems just what I was looking for. This is profound to start thinking with my head rather than my heart and put myself in the dog's point of view. Wow, where have you been this past year..... I will be watching, learning, listening and really hearing you from a different space. Thank you so much.
Thank you Liz for your kind words. It is wiser to think with one's head than one's heart, but much more difficult when it comes to decision-making regarding those we love. Tough videos for me personally because I have lived every difficult video I have produced. Thank you again for your kind words and your support. - Bryan
Thank you 😊.
Getting ready to rehome my Rottweiler to amazing people and this 2 part series helped me put everything in perspective and helped me so much with the guilt I was feeling. I appreciate you.
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Thank you!
You're welcome! - Bryan
Thank you so much for this video.
I needed to hear this. I took on too many puppies at one time and I have to rehome 2 of them. I love them so much but it’s to much on me and my family.
I have been having panic attacks thinking of the day we have to rehome them but this let me know I making the right decision for all of us. ♥️
Thank you so much ❤️
You’re welcome 😊 A difficult video to shoot, but very much needed. - Bryan
I live in a country where the rights for humans are lacking, so it is not a surprise that animals do not have any rights as well. However, I rehomed my dog without an official contract which is not valid in my country as a legal document. Now the new owner, out of fear that I might steal the dog away from him, does not abide to the rules of our adoption which were two simple things: monthly or yearly pictures of the dog and me visiting my dog before I move to Germany forever ............ NOW HERE I AM MISSING MY DOG IMMENSELY THAT I AM TAKING ANTI DEPRESSANT FOR IT.
P.S I live in fu**ing Iran.
It’s hurts so so much just thinking about rehoming. Could it be those commercials on tv?
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Thank you for this...
I am having the most difficult time trying to figure out what is the right decision and whether rehoming is a harsh reality I'm going to forced to face.
My first rescue, Pete, has been experiencing and showing fear based aggression to my second rescues, littermates Roscoe and Layla, specifically Roscoe. While Pete loves to play with Roscoe and really enjoys play time with Roscoe and Layla, he also often feel uncomfortable and if he doesn't feel he has the opportunity to "walk away" he seems to forced to react after a series of hard stares.
We have what's called a "managed care" household but after 4 years of constant management and ups and downs with scuffles, fights, separation, rotation, etc., I'm wondering if keeping Pete with us has become a selfish decision.
He enjoys his time frames of play time, but the rest of the day he's totally content being alone. BUT! He is very emotional, he and I are bonded in a way that I have never seen in any other animal, and I know rehoming would be extremely difficult on him.
How do I know what to do and when to do it?
Do we continue to work through out multi-dog dynamic? Or do I let him go?
Hello Yanelle, This is a belated response, but I wanted everyone to know that we are attempting a pharmacotherapy approach in solving the compatibility issue with your group before electing to relocate one of the dogs. - Bryan
We had to rehome today, me and my girlfriend had our dog 4 years and he was never a fan of kids, i think he had trauma from early experiences, then me and my girlfriend had a baby and when she started crawling he snapped at her face, it was only a threat to say to back off, but it was enough that we had to made a tough decision, i work all day and my gf cant always keep up with a toddler and an active dog all day, its all well and good people saying well watch over them but there are moments you cant avoid like them coming together, he was only a small chihuahua ( well large for a chi but still a small dog) but small dogs can still do damage if it bites a childs face. I was so torn on it, because really he had a lovely temperament with adults and he could be nice with the little one too but the baby doesnt understand his threats meant he wanted space. Tough decision though but in cases like ours and many others the childs wellfair had to come first
I need your advice. I got a new puppy. I already have a dog who is great but super independent. I really missed cuddling and someone to sit by me. I applied for a puppy from a rescue and got approved. I spoke with the foster mom and she said these puppies do not like to be held or cuddle. So I decided not to adopt and texted the rescue person and she want happy to hear I wanted to cancel. She said to try since it is foster to adopt. I went and got the puppy. Now she only likes to be with the other dog and sleep under the bed. I feel so heartbroken since I really wanted someone to be by my side for emotional support. I want to return him back the the rescue coz it is still in the process to adopt and he got other applications already. But I knw I am gonna be depressed if I return him. I am really alone( far from family) and need someone to be by my side. Any hope or advice? Thanks.
i hope you sorted this out.. i have a rescued puppy who is very aloof when i needed physical and emotional support.. it's best to get rid of the dog no before you get attached. Hold out and wait for that dog that you have a special bond with.
Wow
I'll tell you one thing - if you're someone who's got a dog that's put nine staples in your child's head, relocation is in order for everyone! The dog - six feet under. The child - a safe home environment. And yourself - some facility that treats for INSANITY.