@Gail Everett Very true. That was great to see. 👏♥ I was thinking that she must have told her husband this already, and that was probably largely how they ended up at Joel's, because he heard her. But he probably didn't grasp how the stress affects her and their baby until another man was able to relay that information in a relatable way. Most men learn best by watching and listening to other men. It was neat to see this session.
Love. It is the mothers that want their child to have a better life than what they know they can give. When a dog is rehomed after tremendous research, that is also love.
Anyone who says Joel isn’t real… watch this video. This man knows dogs, knows people, and is real as can be. I love this man. If you ever come to Texas I would love to show you my mini heeler, and show how your videos have made her perfect.
I'd be interested in seeing a video if you have one. If you have footage from before you trained him then I would deff make a before and after video!!!
It'd be hard at first for them, they're going to miss their dog a lot, but honestly I think after a while they'll just be relieved they don't have to live like that anymore.
@@ganvalexposure2163 often if dogs show aggression to one another, they will not towards humans. But they came here with good intentions to learn what to do, that decision in itself seems to disprove ignorance.
I think A LOT of people could benefit from tough conversations like this, dogs just like people mature, and their needs/temperaments change accordingly. I personally have a great deal of respect for any owner who can recognize and accept when it's time to re-home, it's a decision that can literally save lives.
A baby adds completely different dynamic when dealing with problem dogs that issues with fighting. It's certainly a situation where rehoming would nearly always be the best option for the safety and mental health of the baby and mom. Sometimes hard choices need to be made
As much as he loves the dogs, it's not worth the risk. They could start fighting and turn their aggression onto the child, with being in such an heightened state of reactive mindset and triggered impulsive aggression. In this state, they lose all impulse control and rational. They could kill the baby in seconds, it's not a risk to take at all. Your advice was spot on.
A friend had a situation like this client. A dog fight broke out, I think while the baby was sleeping in another room. He intervened, and one of his dogs clamped onto his dominant hand while lunging for the other dog. He re homed his dog the aggressor, and went through surgeries and PT, that injury cost him his hand and his livelihood.
I wouldn’t want to small dogs fighting in my house if I had a new born but certainly these put bulls! I would put my foot down if I were her. One of them has to go. Joel has the best advice.
I re homed a very strong drive border collie that started resource guarding more things as it got increasingly frustrated. Regardless of playing with a groups of dogs, walking regularly and obedience classes. This was the first dog my children ever had in the family. I’m not going to lie this dog could sense the lack of confidence in creating a comfortable situation for everyone. I had a behaviorist come in and after observation and talking for a couple hours she sent back a report. It would take even more time and money to help the situation and I probably would not get to the level of trust I was looking for. Re home would benefit EVERYONE. Dog included, the dog isn’t happy in those situations either. He went to a large animal vet who was retiring his herding dog. I learned something from that dog through that pain. Research your breeders and let the breeder pick a puppy…. a good breeder KNOWS the personalities in those litters from handling and socializing. I was devastated at the loss and had my dog handling confidence was shattered. I got back on the horse… let a different breeder pick the puppy. There’s no shame in doing what is the healthiest for everyone in the house. Especially if you exhaust all avenues at your disposal. The dog is now happy and the kids weren’t living with a negative first dog experience.
@@wtfgoogle3884 Are... you referring to backyard breeders and puppy mills? Because that would actually make logical sense. If you're referencing _legitimate breeders,_ you're either deluded or don't understand what breeders actually do for a living. Breeders breed for predictability with dogs, among a lot of other things. Their dogs have specific purposes. Though adopting a shelter dog is a very noble cause, you cannot accurately predict a shelter dog's temperament in the same way you would be able to with a dog from a good breeder. You simply do not have the same controlled breeding group or the knowledge of the dog's past or lineage, and to fool yourself into thinking otherwise is plain ignorance.
Dogs fighting in the home is almost always 100% on the owners not asserting themselves as the leaders in the house. How you live with your dog dictates almost all of their behavior, and bad habits manifest quickly, especially with working breeds. Dogs fight because no clear leader has been established so it's a constant power struggle between the dogs. If they don't see their owners as someone who will protect them, they have to dictate their own terms. When a dog knows who the leader is and that their owner will protect them, or get after them if they try to initiate an attack, they have no reason to follow through with that kind of aggression. Too often dogs are treated like royalty instead of like dogs. When you constantly let things go in the home the dogs learn more and more they have the freedom to do whatever they want. That includes fighting. If your dog has serious behavior issues, don't let them on the couch or in bed. Don't give them table scraps. Don't let them leave in front of you out the door or lead you on walks. And don't allow any unwarranted barking. Those things alone will shift the dynamic very quickly but consistency is key. This needs to be the new way of life, not a quick fix attempt. There are no quick fixes in dog training.
I totally agree with this opinion I have middle aged pitlab mix who is getting older and is very chill. Under rough circumstances I accepted a small pitbull terrier female into my pack who THOUGHT that she was going to bully my old man. She learned real quick from day one that you will NOT bully my boy and learned who ran the house hold. I love her though, sometimes you have to be tough on these guys these are REAL dogs that can kill it’s okay to raise your voice and not take their crap lol.
At the 14:39 mark, the second approach was a kind of "I'm sorry" approach after being corrected, but the next move was a subtle nip toward Joel's hand. All dogs do these actions, but the repercussions are worsened with a pit. The owner is oblivious to the subtleties needed to house those dogs. Both need to be re-homed.
I think Caesar said if your dog fights in your home you're not in control. These dogs need exercise, rules and boundaries but I know not all owners are capable of this.
A sobering percentage of people would, sadly. There is a growing sentiment that bad pits are the fault of an owner, these people think all they have to do is not abuse their raised-from-puppy pit and things will be a-ok. This is exactly why half or more of the dogs in kill shelters are pits nowadays.
I think it’s heroic that you advocate for the children. The fact that you do it with understanding and compassion without judging the owner is the icing on the cake. I wish his dog could be re-home to Cesar Milan Ranch
The problem is all it takes is one situation where your attention is not there it could end in catastrophe because it doesn't take much for a newborn to get hurt. The owners did their best but sometimes the risk is just too high.
Wonderful video. I am an old 78 yr old women and absolutely love your videos! Your type of training really makes sense and we just got a new Aussie pup (3 months now) so we are watching all your videos Safety is so important!
Very powerful video.. thank you Joel for being so honest and always looking out for what is best for everyone.. thank you to the parents for allowing the video so we can all be educated.. Tough situation.. I hope all works out for your family.. whatever that looks like for you..
I hope this guy does some reflecting, two pits that don’t get along isn’t a good mix for a young family with a new baby… Hope they both get what they need, obviously the guy cares and wants to fix the situation but you have to ask yourself if the fight is worth the risk and stress.
@@Monk-E They used to be back in the 1800’s when the dogs lived inside small huts with the whole family. Any pup showing the slightest aggression towards people, was put down immediately. That’s why they were so trustworthy. Few breeders are so diligent now and there are many unsafe animals out there. For example, the family in Memphis, TN, their pet pitbulls severely mauled the mother who was fighting to defend her children who were found dead at the scene.
@@annmeacham5643 yes, that’s where I live. Someone else commented on that story. There was another lady in 1994 in Memphis that was found in her own yard dead from her neighbors 2 pit bulls. One of them had bitten off the leg of her dog a couple of years before she lost her own life. I still say there is something about this breed. That family had those pit bulls for 8 years, then attack their own family unprovoked, I can’t imagine. I haven’t heard any other breed turning on it’s owners after 8 years and killing them. So sad.
In a Memphis hospital, a mother lies in very serious condition while her two beautiful babies lie in a morgue as the father grieves because the family’s two pitbulls attacked and killed the toddler and the five-month-old baby. They had had the dogs over eight years with no incidents. The mother will live although mauled severely over her entire body, including her face, while desperately trying unsuccessfully to defend her children. The father was not home at the time. 😢😢😢 Just heartbreaking.
Greetings from Montenegro! Just wanted to thank you - I've learned so much from your down-to-earth approach in dealing with my scaredy-cat Lagotto. The "we're over it" phrase has become a mantra in our household and the dog has never been more confident. Cheers!
I have so much respect for you taking into account the mom and her stress. I hope this guy knows he's got to make his baby and partner first priority. I feel like you gave them the right idea of what the right decision is.
This was so real. You can’t have unpredictable fights between big & strong dogs around a newborn! I hope the methods help and they learn to chill or else one of them gets a family without being brothers under the same roof anymore. Sad situation🥺gotta PROTECT THAT BABY THO!
My buddy brought his pit over to play with my pit and they were perfect except when they were barking at strangers through the fence, then their excitement turned to aggression toward eachother. With my young daughter around the house, the dog play dates stopped immediately. No dog in the history of the world is worth risking your kid getting hurt over. Joel's right, that dog would make someone an amazing companion
Exactly! There should not be any discussions. They should put that energy into finding a good home for him. People should stop trying to equal a dog to a human being.
Wow Joel! This is a GREAT video. I mean.. it’s actually terrible.. but I mean great in the sense that there’s gonna be people out there that NEED to see this . This was what I’d feared with my own dog ( a story you’ve come to know by now) but I was VERY lucky that in my case, rehab was a possibility (and subsequent success but still a work in progress) . My heart goes out to the owner :(. His suggestion of basically what I’ve always called the “crate and rotate” routine works when it works but it’s entirely dependent on the humans to not make any mistakes. And that’s not realistic . That’s I how I ended up in the hospital.. One of us took one dog out of the crate not realizing the other had done the same with our other dog in another room. Sorry I missed you in solana!! Gonna catch you next month though! Please keep putting out the amazing content.. you are helping so many people out there . Full disclosure though.. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t laugh at that point when you referred to babies and children as “things”.😂😂 . I see why it came out that way . I know that wasn’t intentional. It was funny though;)
@@BDTraining hahah. I believe that ;). I actually came across a post on that Nextdoor app where this guy was complaining about some kids playing ding dong ditch and he posted his ring video with the caption "does anyone know who owns these things?" lol. I died
That made me laugh, too. In one sense, kids are such things of mystery-so full of potential and you have no idea where it is going to end up displaying. My folks called me and my sister Thing 1 and Thing 2 (of Dr. Seuss fame), and despite our many animals, other responsibilities, and people in their lives, we always knew that we were the most precious "things" in their lives. 😄
I agree that although it is a very difficult decision, sometimes a dog needs to be re-homed. You don't necessarily have to bring the dog back to a shelter. There are non-profit agencies like Doggy Harmony that can help you find a suitable home when the dog is not the best fit for a family. These agencies can also find foster homes until the dog can be matched with the right owner. It's not fair or safe to keep a dog in an environment that keeps it in a perpetually stressful situation. It's not fair or safe to keep an entire family in such a situation either. My rescue that I adopted came from similar circumstance like in this video. With training, exercise, structure and discipline she is now a happy dog. She is my only dog but I have 3 cats that she gets along with just fine. Joel's videos were a great tool in helping me get my dog to where she is today.
So people know, I adopted Rico (blue) and after 2 months he was stolen from me in 2020. A week later I get Roofus (red) as a puppy, 1 month later I give him to a family friend while I contract in Afghanistan for 4 months, 6 months later fall in love and get a job out in California, 2 weeks go by after moving and I get a call the dog has been found. Two months later we get pregnant. And wifey came with a dog as well.
It’s clear you are a man who takes his responsibilities very seriously. Thank you so much for sharing your challenges with us. Your courage in disclosing your difficulties and allowing Joel to address your concerns, will reach farther than you will ever know, and may save lives. Your wife’s anxiety is well founded. In Memphis, TN a father is grieving the loss of his two small children despite the heroic attempts of the mother to defend them. Her condition is now stable. They’d had the dogs eight years without any problems. You have good dogs and I’m sure you can find good homes if you spread the word. Protect the ones you love; they’re your primary responsibility. God bless you, your son & your wife. ❤🙏🥰
Thank you for being so firm and clear in this video, Joel! The situation is already out of control and the dogs have no respect. The mother and baby need to be safe and there can be no hedging the bets with " i love my dog' notions. Too late, the love won't cut it as they have learned their behaviour now and it will take too long and too many risks to train them out of it.
Hey Joe, I want to thank you for this great content again, IMHO still the best dog training channel around. As a helpful tip I have to recommend a video topic about the 4 ways to train a dog, you know the positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, positive punishment and negative punishment stuff. Because when I watched a good video explaining that, which is really hard, all the things I did wrong to my dog suddenly clicked.
This was an excellent video. I really feel for this family, it's a difficult decision to make, but ultimately the baby's safety is paramount. Lovely couple, I wish them the best.
Thank you for covering this type of situation. A lot of people want to demonize anyone who rehomes a dog, or worst case scenario, has to take one to the shelter, over aggression. I think they don't realize that for most people who have to make the choice to rehome an animal, that's the absolute last resort, after spending thousands on training, doing everything they can to change the environment at home to avoid issues, ruling out any kind of underlying health issues that could make them act out, etc. I had to rehome a dog that randomly decided after two years that she just did not want to share space with another dog, period. After thousands in vet bills, training programs, etc over the space of three-four months, the breaking point came when she jumped on our other dog and tried to rip his face off, WHILE HE WAS SLEEPING. He didn't have a favorite toy, wasn't near her food or vying for attention, wasn't in a favored sleeping spot, even. She just walked into the room, crossed the room, and jumped on him. And our other dog, in spite of being the same size, has always done everything possible to not annoy her; he never even fought back, just tried to make himself as small as possible, didn't even make a sound. We kept them separated at all times after that until I could find her a new home with no small children or other pets, and made sure that her new owners were aware that she had been fine with another dog for 2+ years, until she suddenly wasn't, and that there was literally NO trigger, no change, nothing, that set her off, so they would understand it wasn't an issue of them always having butted heads, or he challenged her, or anything like that, and that she was just not a dog that was trustworthy around other dogs. Some dogs are simply like that, for no particular reason. They just decide they don't want to put up with other dogs, and they're not going to, end of.
I did a training session with you and your older dog before you had your pool installed! would love to come back just for a safe socialization place for my dog! not sure if you would remember me & Luna but we learned to advocate for her so much and she has lived such a full beautiful life despite her reactivity!
I remember the name luna. Do you know if he videoed your session? If he did, you could do a TH-cam search. Type in the search bar: Beckmansdogtraining luna
Yo you’re really good at what you do, and prince is a straight beast❤️🔥🔥 I always did find it so dope when a dog is well trained to listen so well as prince does definitely gotta subscribe
I have a highly reactive golden retriever. We got her as an 8 week old puppy and nobody in the house ever took her out for walks or to socialize. Because of this she is highly anxious, has severe separation anxiety with my dad, is very resource protective, and is very anxious in new places. She has bitten me on the hand and bit my little sister once ripping her thumb nail off. I currently live away from home (I was the only one that ever tried to help my dog and her anxiety that leads to aggression) and I've tried getting my parents and other family members to step up and do something. No matter how many times I've thoroughly explained my dogs issues and what my family can do to help her they don't. I really need some help and advice, my fear is the older my dog gets the harder these behaviors will be to fix and my dog is already 3.
Huge congrats for you trying. Also, apart from 'Don't overestimate what you can do in a week..... and don't underestimate what you CAN do in 3 months' - there are some GREAT TH-cam trainers esp with nervous dogs eg Susan Garrett - albeit they are very irritating to those 'Type A' and/or ADHD people. Anyway - you got this IF you/anyone else takes your dog for a 1 hr walk and you/family provides 10-15 mins training per day (usually in 5 min increments). 🙌 to you.
@@dogsenseforu301 Thank you so much for the advice ❤ I will get this information to my parents and other family. I can for sure work with my dog on the weekends because that's when I can see her, other than that I will try my best to get my family to follow through with this. Also question: Do you think that taking my dog out into new places during this training will be good for her to continue to desensitize her to new places and people? And how would I introduce new dogs after she's progressed in her training?
that was amazing, perhaps not the solution they (or the dad) hoped for, but I so do love how you put the mom and human pup first, and the dads health- (how did they end up with two of those bad-ass doggos) I hope that the mom can relax much more in the future with best greetings-a mom of two (with the whole nursing thing and all, I so feel for her)
Is it common in the US that you do not walk your dog? The advice ”walk your dog once a day” seems a bit strange from my perspective (Sweden) were people usually goes on 3-4 walks a day with their dogs.
People in the US seem to have a hard time prioritizing their animals’ needs with their busy lives. Two working parents kids that are over scheduled with extra curricular activities it’s ridiculous. There’s an explosion of doggy day cares, dog walkers, dog sitters, even the new thing dog day school drop them off for part of the day training. Dogs of certain income levels really ARE living a life similar to a child. Then there’s the device addiction which I am also guilty of. Although I at least put my phone down when I do get off my lazy rear. I don’t know how devices factor in over there. It’s not unusual to see someone walking their dog leash, bag of poop in one hand looking down at their phone in the other. I keep waiting some dog or a crack in the sidewalk take the person down breaking the phone in one hand and squished doo doo all over the other
Not for me. I walk my dogs 2 hours a day. But you also have to remember, the workweek in the US is not the workweek in Sweden. I walk my dogs after my run/workout. I also work a 60 hour week as a teacher. My contract hours are 7:30-4, and then I do an after school program till 6. People in the US tend to work MORE and have less vacation time granted than those of you in Europe. So consider that.
The other thing is that when you have a new baby, you do not have time for all that extra stuff. A baby is enough of a new job. It is also the most important job you will have in your life!
Joel, you picked up on something you said " he's gotta be more scared of you than he wants to fight that guy" I've always felt like I needed to be in a position where my dog is more scared of me telling him off, in a calm controlled way, than wanting to do his own thing. I think breaking it down to a psychological level that is the only way to get obedience in a negative situation, in that I mean getting them to not do something. Treats are great for getting a dog to do something, but I think dogs are intelligent enough to understand a deterrent for not doing something. Keep em coming, I'm nearly all caught up 👍🐶♥️
Unfortunately it's not easy to just 're-home' a dog. It may be relatively 'easy' in some countries - but certainly not where I live (Phuket, Thailand). Who in their right mind is going to take on an (occasionally) aggressive American Bull Terrier XL??
Unfortunately in my state a mother of two very young children is maimed in the hospital and both of her children were killed when their two dogs attacked. The parents were all about their dogs. Unfortunately they probably should have rehomed the more aggressive dog. The fights can migrate. The jealousy and guarding can become deadly. The dogs were euthanized, the children are dead, and the parents have lost their family. Surrendering a dog can lead to it having a happier life without the stress of children and other dogs they don't like.
@@tiryaclearsong421 yes I live nearby and was sickened by that story. I see the national media picked up this story and see it highlighted People Magazine online from October 10. I read somewhere that pit bulls are the dogs that attack, injure or kill even their owners seemingly without warning. That the reason they are more deadly than other breeds is that they lock their jaws onto you and will not let go. That is why I am now questioning if there should be more laws or at least warnings about this breed if a young family chooses to home this breed of dog. I can’t think of any other breed that would haul off and maul to death it’s owners children and maul it’s owners after 8 years in a loving family setting. Just can’t fathom the agony of the Mother losing her children but moreover the horrid trauma of laying over her children while her own dogs are mauling her. There are no words. At the very least, I think they should the more aggressive one. If it were me, I would remove both dogs from the home, because of the story about those two dead children and injured Mom. I have a GSD rescue, work with him daily 24/7, and he is precious, but knows me and my hubby are the “ boss”. Dogs need boundaries, discipline and love just like children. And lots of walking;)
@@orbitmouf great idea. I think it does have something to do with 2 pit bulls instead of one. I know of another time in 1994, a lady on a nearby street where I grew up, was mauled to death by 2 pit bulls. She was found on the side yard of her home. She had already sued the man because one of the pit bulls had attacked her dog and had bitten his leg off. Then a couple years later she herself was mauled to death in her yard by those same pit bulls. So sad.
Thank you for your experience, commonsense and reality .I'm fed-up with the it's only this or that, or give him a treat ...it doesn't work! I own my dog...he doesn't own me!
When someone has to rehome a dog, it’s a very hard decision. We just had to rehome our pitbull/husky mix dog. She became reactive to people and dogs right after getting spayed, which we found very odd. She bit our son 3 times, each drawing blood. For some reason, she had it in for him. And no, he never provoked her. He’s actually scared of dogs, and right when he was getting comfortable with her, she went and bit him. Now he doesn’t even wanna be bothered with the other dog even though she gets so happy to see him every time he comes home from school. She bit my mother as well. My husband finally rehomed her. Gave her to his friend. It was a rough start because she bit him various times as well, but his cat whooped her ass 2xs and now she’s doing great. I think my husband’s friend is a great match for her. He’s able to give her what she needs physically and mentally and now has a cat friend, which we never thought would happen. Rehoming is tough, but as long as you pick a person that’s gonna be a good match for the dog, it’ll make things easier.
That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen..passing on dogs with bite history onto others. Dogs that become reactive to people should probably be put down. Wtf is wrong with people passing on dogs with human bite history.
The struggle is real, especially for the mother. I am a first time dog owner with a 4 yrs old girl. It took me 1.5 month just to train my golden retriever puppy not to jump on my little girl. The first two months were tough, luckily everything works out now and I have two beautiful, happy daughters.
I have a pitbull terrier and American bully they fought multiple times , I separated them and waited a couple months to get them back together ever since then they’ve been good. U just have to be hard on these type of breeds ain’t no nice way to handle them it’s just the way it is, they have high expectations when comes to dealing with pitbull , Bullys. Got to put in tht work to make sure u come out with a well behaved pitbull or bully. I know how u feel brotha I was on the verge of giving my tri bully away because my older one would pick on him I went thru it got bit and both of my hands and all I can say is patience is key G don’t get discourage keep moving forward ,I still have them both with my two baby nieces and they do wonderful around them ✊🏽
My family had to rehome our 15 month cane corso. I have stage IV breast cancer. While I’m doing very well, I just don’t have the energy to put into him as he needs. During the San Bernardino mountain storm, we were snowed in and we were all under stress. Bruno landed a bad bite on my seven year old daughter. Twice. I tried so hard to work with Bruno. And he has so much potential to be a fantastic dog but we aren’t a good fit for him. I was put into contact with a former coworker of my mom who was willing to take Bruno and have a trainer work with him. She and I talked constantly for a week. I met with the trainer with Bruno, and Bruno’s new mom and dad and we all worked together to make a smooth transition for Bruno. Honestly, it was a weight on our shoulders that was lifted. A cane corso isn’t a dog for everybody. He’s going to a good home.
Excellent video. I'm reviewing your older ones too but only on dominance. Almost a year with my adopted/rescued husky - still working on her dominance. She's fixed but marks and scratches grass at the dog park. I correct her and she doesn't do it for the full duration at the park. Same goes for her being a bully with some dogs, correct her - she gets it. However, go back a few days later - restart. She hip checks other dogs and doesn't get along with poodles. I'm not a fan of poodles either 🤔
"This guy has to be more afraid of you than to fight that guy", ha, ha that's right! Take that you positive reinforcement only dog treat trainers! You should be called "I don't mince my words trainer Joel Beckman"~ and hey I did not know your resume included couples councelling~keep up the blunt honesty~thank you!
Hi Joel, great video once again. The owner obviously overwhelmed and baby's safety always come first. May I ask you how often you handle senior rescue dog with abuse history? Do they behave differently with your training method? (e.g. leash popping) How much they usually improve? Thanks in advance.
He's had a few on video. It's not entirely the same technique when it comes to fear. You have to be slower and more forgiving. The butt-flip method works better I think with these dogs, because then it's a gentle flip (in comparison to the leash pop at least). But at the same time, you have to be the boss, so there's certain behaviors you can't let them get away with. You have to learn and read your dog's body language to understand if it's coming from fear, or from 'I'm gonna do what I want'.
Love how Joel says it is not just about the dog ! Unlike the crazy 24/7/ praise treats people. His outlook makes more sense and more tailored for actual humans with actual dogs.
I had a similar situation with my two dogs. One is a Pitbull and the other is an English Bull Terrier. The EBT was two when I rescued the Pitbull as a puppy. For two years they got along great and then one day the EBT attacked the Pitbull and the Pitbull released the EBT on my command. Over the following 6 months the EBT attacked the Pitbull two more times and these fights were bloody with the Pitbull finishing both fights latched onto the EBT neck. I was not willing to re-home either dog, so now one dog lives upstairs and the other lives downstairs and they are separated by a gate. I have been using this solution for about 5 years now and both dogs are content with the living arrangement. I believe the advice you gave this couple is the correct advice and one of the dogs needs to be re-homed. Too risky with an infant in the house. Great video!
I wish I had seen this a year ago when we struggled with a year old ACD. We didn't want to give him up with all the time and training invested and how trainable he was. I had this dog so well trained, not only voice but long distance hand commands. But he progressed with random out of nowhere attacks. First bad one my wife got stitches in her hand. He had jumped and gave my 14y.o. daughter a bloody lip and my wife tried to grab him but instead he got her hands. Then he attacked me the day I got him neutered, so bad in the leg and arm that we knew it was time. Luckily we found a rescue that took him. I miss his intelligence, but I don't miss the fear we all lived in that last month.
@@Itsa_Mea good to know. Joel has mentioned before, dogs that had an e-collar used on them at some point will have erratic weird all of a sudden behaviors.
I've had babies and dogs. The stress is real. Great advice from Joel once again. I'd be interested to know if the dogs were rehomed, how did they go in their new homes? Are they ok now?
Structure in the home is the most important thing with aggressive dog. Same sex aggression is the most common dog on dog aggression. Yes you have to keep them separate for a while but you can make it work only some people will have that will. The place command and loose leash walking is where to start with both dogs. Yes with a family I would say the same thing. You don't want that kiddo getting between these two ever. You have to be on your toes
Joel’s teaching method is awesome; I love it! He trained a dog to train other dogs and he trains us bipeds on how to interpret dog behavior, make corrections/give discipline, and give our furbabies the grace & freedom they deserve to still be who they are with their cute personalities. I LOVE this channel!!! Now if only he can teach me how to get my great dane/lab mix to sit up instead of laying on the floor to which he is magnetized.
I have 2 intact males (American bully) (olde english bulldogge) and a 20month daughter who was born into the house with them. We have gates deviding our down stairs, and Kennels. They almost never get to engage one another inside the house(the dogs). And they get multiple walks and flirt pole a day to make sure they get required physical stimulation, with small training sessions as well. When u have big intense dogs many steps r required to make sure the house hold stays safe. We have a nice lil turfed back yard where they get to hang out freely. If things get to intense we tether them apart on the turf. Which is rare.
We have a 10.5mo old dutch shepherd who has been reactive/aggressive towards our 6yr shepherd/collie/lab cross. The Dutch is now bigger than our older dog. Dutch shepherd is currently in heat so we're waiting to see if we can have her settle after hormones go back to normal (we m7ssed fixing her due to goingintoheat 2 days before surgery date). We're trying to correct the growling and rewarding when she's calm. Only an issue in the house (resource guarding of specific spaces and people) out on walks the 2 dogs are fine. We've had discussions on what happens if we can't correct the negative interactions of our younger dog. Possibilities include the older dog moving out with another family member when/if time comes.
Take note of the timestamp ( 14:39 ) after Joel redirects the dog and the dog kinda air nips at Joel's hand. NOT GOOD. If that dog challenges Joel like this, makes me wonder If the wife is home alone with the baby and she attempts to redirect the dog with a point of a finger or wave of the hand as Joel did, I don't believe the dog will submit to her. Most likely from watching this video, the outcome won't be good. Joel said everything that needed to be said. I know this is hard for the guy to hear, and I feel his torn emotions. I only hope for the best for all.
This is a very true statement to make. Pitbulls are great dogs but they can be very territorial, and sometimes they can even fight eachother for dominance. It's a big dynamic to have in a household and it requires a constant control over them. You have to set a standard with them in your house and even with that, it's not 100% if they will be compatible with eachother. It was the question with my 2 pits. It requires my full attention with them and keep the dominance over both, everyday. They are both great dogs, and the training I've given them has helped tremendously.
Re-homing my dog was the hardest thing to do especially because this dog and I went through so much together. Unfortunately because my neighbours kids provoked him and my little sisters were in danger. He is happy and living his best life. But it was a hard choice I had to make.
Pit bulls can be serious dogs. Great use of your discretion here. I seriously think your strength is bringing huge experience and knowledge, than combining an empirical approach to subjective situations. Masterful.
Yes, twopits are too much for moms to handle she cant care for baby and dogs at the same time. And you dont want the dogs jealous over the baby and do anything to baby. Also if you dont walk the dogs forget it and she cant do it or break up fights. Definitely rehome one to someone who can walk the dog and have a better life each one
The wife is scared of the dogs. It shouldn't be a question of what to do.
So much this. I loved that Joel listened to her concerns and turned to her husband and translated how serious this situation is.
@Gail Everett Very true. That was great to see. 👏♥ I was thinking that she must have told her husband this already, and that was probably largely how they ended up at Joel's, because he heard her. But he probably didn't grasp how the stress affects her and their baby until another man was able to relay that information in a relatable way. Most men learn best by watching and listening to other men. It was neat to see this session.
Exactly. And she would need to be seen as leader also, by either dog, and since I doubt that will happen, both dogs need to go.
Obv time for a new wife
JK
I agrer The husband should give him away
As a former pediatric trauma nurse….I greatly appreciate this video and your honesty
And I'll speak for many here we appreciate what you do. 💙
@@charlenelynch6505 Thank you tremendously
Love. It is the mothers that want their child to have a better life than what they know they can give. When a dog is rehomed after tremendous research, that is also love.
save the babies. you rock
You did the right thing. Even if a dog isn't in the slightest bit aggressive it shouldn't be getting into a newborn's cot. Thank God you were there.
Joel on my TV: “HEY!”
My dog watching on the couch: 😮
my terrier loves this channel lol
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I totally feel ya cause all my dogs give a good head tilt like "wth?" Cause Joel is always on my speaker!
@@pittymama4500 " i totally feel ya " ... WOW
Anyone who says Joel isn’t real… watch this video. This man knows dogs, knows people, and is real as can be. I love this man. If you ever come to Texas I would love to show you my mini heeler, and show how your videos have made her perfect.
I'd be interested in seeing a video if you have one. If you have footage from before you trained him then I would deff make a before and after video!!!
Great comment. Joel is the real deal and it’s more than just dog training.
Heelers are great dogs.
Yeah I appreciate his method and his attitude.
@@jacksonmoats3355 I’ve been thinking about making a channel for her. I’m preparing her for agility training
It'd be hard at first for them, they're going to miss their dog a lot, but honestly I think after a while they'll just be relieved they don't have to live like that anymore.
I agree.
Spot On.
I'd rather miss a dog than have to have a funeral for a baby or child because of my own ignorance allowing a violent breed of dogs around a small kid.
@@ganvalexposure2163 often if dogs show aggression to one another, they will not towards humans.
But they came here with good intentions to learn what to do, that decision in itself seems to disprove ignorance.
@@ganvalexposure2163 violent breed? Lol wrong channel to say that, here we know dogs.
I think A LOT of people could benefit from tough conversations like this, dogs just like people mature, and their needs/temperaments change accordingly. I personally have a great deal of respect for any owner who can recognize and accept when it's time to re-home, it's a decision that can literally save lives.
Mr. Stately It hurts like hell to let a dog go. …. until there is time to reflect once you are no longer in a cloud of tension in the home.
@@tryingtotryistrying I have felt this pain firsthand, it's not easy but what in life ever is.
Thank you for being a man who cares about his family, helping another man who cares about his family make good choices for all members of his family.
Thank you. So many idiots tell people to keep their dog even when it is a danger to the family. Crazy
Yes! Disgusting!
A baby adds completely different dynamic when dealing with problem dogs that issues with fighting. It's certainly a situation where rehoming would nearly always be the best option for the safety and mental health of the baby and mom. Sometimes hard choices need to be made
As much as he loves the dogs, it's not worth the risk. They could start fighting and turn their aggression onto the child, with being in such an heightened state of reactive mindset and triggered impulsive aggression. In this state, they lose all impulse control and rational. They could kill the baby in seconds, it's not a risk to take at all. Your advice was spot on.
A friend had a situation like this client. A dog fight broke out, I think while the baby was sleeping in another room. He intervened, and one of his dogs clamped onto his dominant hand while lunging for the other dog. He re homed his dog the aggressor, and went through surgeries and PT, that injury cost him his hand and his livelihood.
I wouldn’t want to small dogs fighting in my house if I had a new born but certainly these put bulls! I would put my foot down if I were her. One of them has to go. Joel has the best advice.
I'm impressed how considerate everyone is here for mom and baby wellbeing. Y'all some stand-up guys.
I re homed a very strong drive border collie that started resource guarding more things as it got increasingly frustrated. Regardless of playing with a groups of dogs, walking regularly and obedience classes. This was the first dog my children ever had in the family. I’m not going to lie this dog could sense the lack of confidence in creating a comfortable situation for everyone. I had a behaviorist come in and after observation and talking for a couple hours she sent back a report. It would take even more time and money to help the situation and I probably would not get to the level of trust I was looking for. Re home would benefit EVERYONE. Dog included, the dog isn’t happy in those situations either. He went to a large animal vet who was retiring his herding dog.
I learned something from that dog through that pain. Research your breeders and let the breeder pick a puppy…. a good breeder KNOWS the personalities in those litters from handling and socializing. I was devastated at the loss and had my dog handling confidence was shattered. I got back on the horse… let a different breeder pick the puppy.
There’s no shame in doing what is the healthiest for everyone in the house. Especially if you exhaust all avenues at your disposal. The dog is now happy and the kids weren’t living with a negative first dog experience.
Or just be a decent human being and don't buy from breeders.
@@wtfgoogle3884 that’s a cheap shot.
@@beautybeyondthebeast9091 it's a stone truth, and it's a change that we need to make in this society.
@@wtfgoogle3884 Are... you referring to backyard breeders and puppy mills? Because that would actually make logical sense. If you're referencing _legitimate breeders,_ you're either deluded or don't understand what breeders actually do for a living. Breeders breed for predictability with dogs, among a lot of other things. Their dogs have specific purposes. Though adopting a shelter dog is a very noble cause, you cannot accurately predict a shelter dog's temperament in the same way you would be able to with a dog from a good breeder. You simply do not have the same controlled breeding group or the knowledge of the dog's past or lineage, and to fool yourself into thinking otherwise is plain ignorance.
@@wtfgoogle3884 Also, that's a non sequitur fallacy and has nothing to do with the topic at hand.
Dogs fighting in the home is almost always 100% on the owners not asserting themselves as the leaders in the house. How you live with your dog dictates almost all of their behavior, and bad habits manifest quickly, especially with working breeds.
Dogs fight because no clear leader has been established so it's a constant power struggle between the dogs. If they don't see their owners as someone who will protect them, they have to dictate their own terms. When a dog knows who the leader is and that their owner will protect them, or get after them if they try to initiate an attack, they have no reason to follow through with that kind of aggression.
Too often dogs are treated like royalty instead of like dogs. When you constantly let things go in the home the dogs learn more and more they have the freedom to do whatever they want. That includes fighting. If your dog has serious behavior issues, don't let them on the couch or in bed. Don't give them table scraps. Don't let them leave in front of you out the door or lead you on walks. And don't allow any unwarranted barking. Those things alone will shift the dynamic very quickly but consistency is key. This needs to be the new way of life, not a quick fix attempt. There are no quick fixes in dog training.
I totally agree with this opinion I have middle aged pitlab mix who is getting older and is very chill. Under rough circumstances I accepted a small pitbull terrier female into my pack who THOUGHT that she was going to bully my old man. She learned real quick from day one that you will NOT bully my boy and learned who ran the house hold. I love her though, sometimes you have to be tough on these guys these are REAL dogs that can kill it’s okay to raise your voice and not take their crap lol.
At the 14:39 mark, the second approach was a kind of "I'm sorry" approach after being corrected, but the next move was a subtle nip toward Joel's hand. All dogs do these actions, but the repercussions are worsened with a pit. The owner is oblivious to the subtleties needed to house those dogs. Both need to be re-homed.
I agree and noticed that too.
I think Caesar said if your dog fights in your home you're not in control. These dogs need exercise, rules and boundaries but I know not all owners are capable of this.
what kind of idiot will even consider keeping two pitties they can't control with a newborn in the house.
A sobering percentage of people would, sadly. There is a growing sentiment that bad pits are the fault of an owner, these people think all they have to do is not abuse their raised-from-puppy pit and things will be a-ok.
This is exactly why half or more of the dogs in kill shelters are pits nowadays.
Someone who's had these dogs and loves them.
@@Flippokid Baby safety first
@@MyriophyllumTuberculatum Vegans and dog lovers hate human beings.
Edit: A generalisation, with exceptions of course.
@@MyriophyllumTuberculatum Yeah of course, but most people would first try to make it work before giving up on their dog.
I think it’s heroic that you advocate for the children. The fact that you do it with understanding and compassion without judging the owner is the icing on the cake. I wish his dog could be re-home to Cesar Milan Ranch
Joel handled this really well, but I feel so bad for the owners, who might have to re-home their dog.
The problem is all it takes is one situation where your attention is not there it could end in catastrophe because it doesn't take much for a newborn to get hurt. The owners did their best but sometimes the risk is just too high.
Wonderful video. I am an old 78 yr old women and absolutely love your videos! Your type of training really makes sense and we just got a new Aussie pup (3 months now) so we are watching all your videos Safety is so important!
Yeah i agree in this situation.. They are good owners but unfortunately they need to make a tough decision
Very powerful video.. thank you Joel for being so honest and always looking out for what is best for everyone.. thank you to the parents for allowing the video so we can all be educated..
Tough situation.. I hope all works out for your family.. whatever that looks like for you..
Yes these people should be commended.
I hope this guy does some reflecting, two pits that don’t get along isn’t a good mix for a young family with a new baby…
Hope they both get what they need, obviously the guy cares and wants to fix the situation but you have to ask yourself if the fight is worth the risk and stress.
Yeah I would definitely suggest re homing that baby
But pits are nanny dogs 🤣🤣🤣🙄
@@Monk-E They used to be back in the 1800’s when the dogs lived inside small huts with the whole family. Any pup showing the slightest aggression towards people, was put down immediately. That’s why they were so trustworthy. Few breeders are so diligent now and there are many unsafe animals out there. For example, the family in Memphis, TN, their pet pitbulls severely mauled the mother who was fighting to defend her children who were found dead at the scene.
@@annmeacham5643 in the UK they are banned because people used them for dog fighting and because generally people who get this breed are shit people
@@annmeacham5643 yes, that’s where I live. Someone else commented on that story. There was another lady in 1994 in Memphis that was found in her own yard dead from her neighbors 2 pit bulls. One of them had bitten off the leg of her dog a couple of years before she lost her own life. I still say there is something about this breed. That family had those pit bulls for 8 years, then attack their own family unprovoked, I can’t imagine. I haven’t heard any other breed turning on it’s owners after 8 years and killing them. So sad.
Such a difficult and heartbreaking decision to have to make. Great advice. But...that sky behind Joel's left shoulder!! ❤❤❤
In a Memphis hospital, a mother lies in very serious condition while her two beautiful babies lie in a morgue as the father grieves because the family’s two pitbulls attacked and killed the toddler and the five-month-old baby. They had had the dogs over eight years with no incidents. The mother will live although mauled severely over her entire body, including her face, while desperately trying unsuccessfully to defend her children. The father was not home at the time. 😢😢😢 Just heartbreaking.
Joel’s dog training, life coaching, and therapy!!!
Oh I love you so much Joel for sharing this heartfelt talk that these clients needed. 🐾❤️🙏🏽
As always, just in awe watching you do your thing Joel. 👏👏
Thank you for you videos ! I love to watch them😍
Greetings from Montenegro! Just wanted to thank you - I've learned so much from your down-to-earth approach in dealing with my scaredy-cat Lagotto. The "we're over it" phrase has become a mantra in our household and the dog has never been more confident. Cheers!
Such great content. Thank you Joel.
I have so much respect for you taking into account the mom and her stress. I hope this guy knows he's got to make his baby and partner first priority. I feel like you gave them the right idea of what the right decision is.
So glad to see this topic addressed! Thank you for the video
You carried this conversation so well. I love your videos and tricks! I pick up my boxer tomorrow!
Wishing the family all the best... 💕
This was so real. You can’t have unpredictable fights between big & strong dogs around a newborn! I hope the methods help and they learn to chill or else one of them gets a family without being brothers under the same roof anymore. Sad situation🥺gotta PROTECT THAT BABY THO!
Powerful video!!! Thank you Joel.
THANK YOU JOEL! Very very hard conversation. You are the best!
My buddy brought his pit over to play with my pit and they were perfect except when they were barking at strangers through the fence, then their excitement turned to aggression toward eachother. With my young daughter around the house, the dog play dates stopped immediately. No dog in the history of the world is worth risking your kid getting hurt over. Joel's right, that dog would make someone an amazing companion
Exactly! There should not be any discussions. They should put that energy into finding a good home for him. People should stop trying to equal a dog to a human being.
Wow Joel! This is a GREAT video. I mean.. it’s actually terrible.. but I mean great in the sense that there’s gonna be people out there that NEED to see this . This was what I’d feared with my own dog ( a story you’ve come to know by now) but I was VERY lucky that in my case, rehab was a possibility (and subsequent success but still a work in progress) . My heart goes out to the owner :(. His suggestion of basically what I’ve always called the “crate and rotate” routine works when it works but it’s entirely dependent on the humans to not make any mistakes. And that’s not realistic . That’s I how I ended up in the hospital.. One of us took one dog out of the crate not realizing the other had done the same with our other dog in another room.
Sorry I missed you in solana!! Gonna catch you next month though!
Please keep putting out the amazing content.. you are helping so many people out there .
Full disclosure though.. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t laugh at that point when you referred to babies and children as “things”.😂😂 . I see why it came out that way . I know that wasn’t intentional. It was funny though;)
Lol, I just rewatched the voiceover, I actually call kids things multiple times, lol.
@@BDTraining hahah. I believe that ;). I actually came across a post on that Nextdoor app where this guy was complaining about some kids playing ding dong ditch and he posted his ring video with the caption "does anyone know who owns these things?" lol. I died
That made me laugh, too. In one sense, kids are such things of mystery-so full of potential and you have no idea where it is going to end up displaying. My folks called me and my sister Thing 1 and Thing 2 (of Dr. Seuss fame), and despite our many animals, other responsibilities, and people in their lives, we always knew that we were the most precious "things" in their lives. 😄
I agree that although it is a very difficult decision, sometimes a dog needs to be re-homed. You don't necessarily have to bring the dog back to a shelter. There are non-profit agencies like Doggy Harmony that can help you find a suitable home when the dog is not the best fit for a family. These agencies can also find foster homes until the dog can be matched with the right owner. It's not fair or safe to keep a dog in an environment that keeps it in a perpetually stressful situation. It's not fair or safe to keep an entire family in such a situation either. My rescue that I adopted came from similar circumstance like in this video. With training, exercise, structure and discipline she is now a happy dog. She is my only dog but I have 3 cats that she gets along with just fine. Joel's videos were a great tool in helping me get my dog to where she is today.
This was an amazing video!!! Thank you
We need a follow up on this video.
So people know,
I adopted Rico (blue) and after 2 months he was stolen from me in 2020. A week later I get Roofus (red) as a puppy, 1 month later I give him to a family friend while I contract in Afghanistan for 4 months, 6 months later fall in love and get a job out in California, 2 weeks go by after moving and I get a call the dog has been found. Two months later we get pregnant. And wifey came with a dog as well.
Dude don't let what people are saying get to you.
It’s clear you are a man who takes his responsibilities very seriously. Thank you so much for sharing your challenges with us. Your courage in disclosing your difficulties and allowing Joel to address your concerns, will reach farther than you will ever know, and may save lives. Your wife’s anxiety is well founded. In Memphis, TN a father is grieving the loss of his two small children despite the heroic attempts of the mother to defend them. Her condition is now stable. They’d had the dogs eight years without any problems. You have good dogs and I’m sure you can find good homes if you spread the word. Protect the ones you love; they’re your primary responsibility. God bless you, your son & your wife. ❤🙏🥰
Thank you for being so firm and clear in this video, Joel! The situation is already out of control and the dogs have no respect. The mother and baby need to be safe and there can be no hedging the bets with " i love my dog' notions. Too late, the love won't cut it as they have learned their behaviour now and it will take too long and too many risks to train them out of it.
The truth and reality can sometimes hurt. Joel tough / direct talk with Dog owners... 💯% Real. Full respect.
I needed this. I have a female that is so hyper and similar. Walking has changed and helped a lot but I still have to get even more stern....
Hey Joe, I want to thank you for this great content again, IMHO still the best dog training channel around. As a helpful tip I have to recommend a video topic about the 4 ways to train a dog, you know the positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, positive punishment and negative punishment stuff. Because when I watched a good video explaining that, which is really hard, all the things I did wrong to my dog suddenly clicked.
This was an excellent video. I really feel for this family, it's a difficult decision to make, but ultimately the baby's safety is paramount. Lovely couple, I wish them the best.
Thank you for covering this type of situation. A lot of people want to demonize anyone who rehomes a dog, or worst case scenario, has to take one to the shelter, over aggression. I think they don't realize that for most people who have to make the choice to rehome an animal, that's the absolute last resort, after spending thousands on training, doing everything they can to change the environment at home to avoid issues, ruling out any kind of underlying health issues that could make them act out, etc. I had to rehome a dog that randomly decided after two years that she just did not want to share space with another dog, period.
After thousands in vet bills, training programs, etc over the space of three-four months, the breaking point came when she jumped on our other dog and tried to rip his face off, WHILE HE WAS SLEEPING. He didn't have a favorite toy, wasn't near her food or vying for attention, wasn't in a favored sleeping spot, even. She just walked into the room, crossed the room, and jumped on him. And our other dog, in spite of being the same size, has always done everything possible to not annoy her; he never even fought back, just tried to make himself as small as possible, didn't even make a sound.
We kept them separated at all times after that until I could find her a new home with no small children or other pets, and made sure that her new owners were aware that she had been fine with another dog for 2+ years, until she suddenly wasn't, and that there was literally NO trigger, no change, nothing, that set her off, so they would understand it wasn't an issue of them always having butted heads, or he challenged her, or anything like that, and that she was just not a dog that was trustworthy around other dogs.
Some dogs are simply like that, for no particular reason. They just decide they don't want to put up with other dogs, and they're not going to, end of.
I did a training session with you and your older dog before you had your pool installed! would love to come back just for a safe socialization place for my dog! not sure if you would remember me & Luna but we learned to advocate for her so much and she has lived such a full beautiful life despite her reactivity!
He has a website where u can sign up or email him 🐾❤️
I remember the name luna. Do you know if he videoed your session? If he did, you could do a TH-cam search. Type in the search bar: Beckmansdogtraining luna
@@User7688.--_ it was many years ago before he started posting I don’t recall anyone filming..
Yo you’re really good at what you do, and prince is a straight beast❤️🔥🔥 I always did find it so dope when a dog is well trained to listen so well as prince does definitely gotta subscribe
Hey Beckman family 🐾💌,
So good to see the videos. This was a hard video to watch but very real.
Well done Joel, straight talking needed.
I have a highly reactive golden retriever. We got her as an 8 week old puppy and nobody in the house ever took her out for walks or to socialize. Because of this she is highly anxious, has severe separation anxiety with my dad, is very resource protective, and is very anxious in new places. She has bitten me on the hand and bit my little sister once ripping her thumb nail off. I currently live away from home (I was the only one that ever tried to help my dog and her anxiety that leads to aggression) and I've tried getting my parents and other family members to step up and do something. No matter how many times I've thoroughly explained my dogs issues and what my family can do to help her they don't. I really need some help and advice, my fear is the older my dog gets the harder these behaviors will be to fix and my dog is already 3.
Huge congrats for you trying. Also, apart from 'Don't overestimate what you can do in a week..... and don't underestimate what you CAN do in 3 months' - there are some GREAT TH-cam trainers esp with nervous dogs eg Susan Garrett - albeit they are very irritating to those 'Type A' and/or ADHD people. Anyway - you got this IF you/anyone else takes your dog for a 1 hr walk and you/family provides 10-15 mins training per day (usually in 5 min increments). 🙌 to you.
@@dogsenseforu301 Thank you so much for the advice ❤ I will get this information to my parents and other family. I can for sure work with my dog on the weekends because that's when I can see her, other than that I will try my best to get my family to follow through with this.
Also question: Do you think that taking my dog out into new places during this training will be good for her to continue to desensitize her to new places and people? And how would I introduce new dogs after she's progressed in her training?
that was amazing, perhaps not the solution they (or the dad) hoped for, but I so do love how you put the mom and human pup first, and the dads health-
(how did they end up with two of those bad-ass doggos)
I hope that the mom can relax much more in the future
with best greetings-a mom of two (with the whole nursing thing and all, I so feel for her)
Congratulations JOEL !!!!!!
Great video. I agree with what's been said, it's the better option to rehome in this scenario.
Is it common in the US that you do not walk your dog? The advice ”walk your dog once a day” seems a bit strange from my perspective (Sweden) were people usually goes on 3-4 walks a day with their dogs.
I think so. I live in the US, I walk my dog 2x daily for a minimum of 1.5 hours everyday and when I tell people that they look at me like im crazy
People in the US seem to have a hard time prioritizing their animals’ needs with their busy lives. Two working parents kids that are over scheduled with extra curricular activities it’s ridiculous. There’s an explosion of doggy day cares, dog walkers, dog sitters, even the new thing dog day school drop them off for part of the day training. Dogs of certain income levels really ARE living a life similar to a child. Then there’s the device addiction which I am also guilty of. Although I at least put my phone down when I do get off my lazy rear. I don’t know how devices factor in over there. It’s not unusual to see someone walking their dog leash, bag of poop in one hand looking down at their phone in the other. I keep waiting some dog or a crack in the sidewalk take the person down breaking the phone in one hand and squished doo doo all over the other
Not for me. I walk my dogs 2 hours a day. But you also have to remember, the workweek in the US is not the workweek in Sweden. I walk my dogs after my run/workout. I also work a 60 hour week as a teacher. My contract hours are 7:30-4, and then I do an after school program till 6. People in the US tend to work MORE and have less vacation time granted than those of you in Europe. So consider that.
depends on the neighborhood. low income places youll see dogs chained up on a porch all day and barely interacted with
The other thing is that when you have a new baby, you do not have time for all that extra stuff. A baby is enough of a new job. It is also the most important job you will have in your life!
We should all become doctors to be top notch dog trainers? 🤣 Who knew lactation would be involved 😳
Bravo!!!!!!! Perfectly explained to this couple. Finally someone else that has the onions to tell it how it is on TH-cam.
Goddamn i would love to work/ intern for you. You're so knowledgeable!
Joel, you picked up on something you said " he's gotta be more scared of you than he wants to fight that guy"
I've always felt like I needed to be in a position where my dog is more scared of me telling him off, in a calm controlled way, than wanting to do his own thing. I think breaking it down to a psychological level that is the only way to get obedience in a negative situation, in that I mean getting them to not do something. Treats are great for getting a dog to do something, but I think dogs are intelligent enough to understand a deterrent for not doing something.
Keep em coming, I'm nearly all caught up 👍🐶♥️
Similar situation for me, Watching this helped me out incredibly.
Unfortunately it's not easy to just 're-home' a dog. It may be relatively 'easy' in some countries - but certainly not where I live (Phuket, Thailand).
Who in their right mind is going to take on an (occasionally) aggressive American Bull Terrier XL??
Then, sadly, sometimes it’s in the best interest of the dog and family for the dog to be put down.
Unfortunately in my state a mother of two very young children is maimed in the hospital and both of her children were killed when their two dogs attacked. The parents were all about their dogs. Unfortunately they probably should have rehomed the more aggressive dog. The fights can migrate. The jealousy and guarding can become deadly. The dogs were euthanized, the children are dead, and the parents have lost their family. Surrendering a dog can lead to it having a happier life without the stress of children and other dogs they don't like.
There are pit bull rescue organizations, the dog would need to be rehomed with one owner and no dogs I assume.
@@tiryaclearsong421 yes I live nearby and was sickened by that story. I see the national media picked up this story and see it highlighted People Magazine online from October 10. I read somewhere that pit bulls are the dogs that attack, injure or kill even their owners seemingly without warning. That the reason they are more deadly than other breeds is that they lock their jaws onto you and will not let go. That is why I am now questioning if there should be more laws or at least warnings about this breed if a young family chooses to home this breed of dog. I can’t think of any other breed that would haul off and maul to death it’s owners children and maul it’s owners after 8 years in a loving family setting. Just can’t fathom the agony of the Mother losing her children but moreover the horrid trauma of laying over her children while her own dogs are mauling her. There are no words. At the very least, I think they should the more aggressive one. If it were me, I would remove both dogs from the home, because of the story about those two dead children and injured Mom. I have a GSD rescue, work with him daily 24/7, and he is precious, but knows me and my hubby are the “ boss”. Dogs need boundaries, discipline and love just like children. And lots of walking;)
@@orbitmouf great idea. I think it does have something to do with 2 pit bulls instead of one. I know of another time in 1994, a lady on a nearby street where I grew up, was mauled to death by 2 pit bulls. She was found on the side yard of her home. She had already sued the man because one of the pit bulls had attacked her dog and had bitten his leg off. Then a couple years later she herself was mauled to death in her yard by those same pit bulls. So sad.
Thank you for your experience, commonsense and reality .I'm fed-up with the it's only this or that, or give him a treat ...it doesn't work! I own my dog...he doesn't own me!
When someone has to rehome a dog, it’s a very hard decision. We just had to rehome our pitbull/husky mix dog. She became reactive to people and dogs right after getting spayed, which we found very odd. She bit our son 3 times, each drawing blood. For some reason, she had it in for him. And no, he never provoked her. He’s actually scared of dogs, and right when he was getting comfortable with her, she went and bit him. Now he doesn’t even wanna be bothered with the other dog even though she gets so happy to see him every time he comes home from school. She bit my mother as well. My husband finally rehomed her. Gave her to his friend. It was a rough start because she bit him various times as well, but his cat whooped her ass 2xs and now she’s doing great. I think my husband’s friend is a great match for her. He’s able to give her what she needs physically and mentally and now has a cat friend, which we never thought would happen. Rehoming is tough, but as long as you pick a person that’s gonna be a good match for the dog, it’ll make things easier.
That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen..passing on dogs with bite history onto others. Dogs that become reactive to people should probably be put down. Wtf is wrong with people passing on dogs with human bite history.
@@Godiscoming888 Amen. I also wonder when the dog will take out that cat.
The struggle is real, especially for the mother. I am a first time dog owner with a 4 yrs old girl. It took me 1.5 month just to train my golden retriever puppy not to jump on my little girl. The first two months were tough, luckily everything works out now and I have two beautiful, happy daughters.
You put in the work and effort. The dog owner featured in this video simply doesn't want to - he wants to be the friend, not the master.
I hope the guy listened you completely. He did, if he really loves his family.
It’s beyond me to think that people own multiple dogs that must be kept separate at all times.
I have a pitbull terrier and American bully they fought multiple times , I separated them and waited a couple months to get them back together ever since then they’ve been good. U just have to be hard on these type of breeds ain’t no nice way to handle them it’s just the way it is, they have high expectations when comes to dealing with pitbull , Bullys. Got to put in tht work to make sure u come out with a well behaved pitbull or bully. I know how u feel brotha I was on the verge of giving my tri bully away because my older one would pick on him I went thru it got bit and both of my hands and all I can say is patience is key G don’t get discourage keep moving forward ,I still have them both with my two baby nieces and they do wonderful around them ✊🏽
My family had to rehome our 15 month cane corso. I have stage IV breast cancer. While I’m doing very well, I just don’t have the energy to put into him as he needs. During the San Bernardino mountain storm, we were snowed in and we were all under stress. Bruno landed a bad bite on my seven year old daughter. Twice. I tried so hard to work with Bruno. And he has so much potential to be a fantastic dog but we aren’t a good fit for him. I was put into contact with a former coworker of my mom who was willing to take Bruno and have a trainer work with him. She and I talked constantly for a week. I met with the trainer with Bruno, and Bruno’s new mom and dad and we all worked together to make a smooth transition for Bruno. Honestly, it was a weight on our shoulders that was lifted. A cane corso isn’t a dog for everybody. He’s going to a good home.
Well done Joel, well done.
Such a great video!
Excellent video.
I'm reviewing your older ones too but only on dominance. Almost a year with my adopted/rescued husky - still working on her dominance. She's fixed but marks and scratches grass at the dog park. I correct her and she doesn't do it for the full duration at the park. Same goes for her being a bully with some dogs, correct her - she gets it.
However, go back a few days later - restart.
She hip checks other dogs and doesn't get along with poodles. I'm not a fan of poodles either 🤔
wow.U are so right about this.Kids and baby's are so vulnerable.Trust your dog is good but its still an animal..Well said
"This guy has to be more afraid of you than to fight that guy", ha, ha that's right! Take that you positive reinforcement only dog treat trainers! You should be called "I don't mince my words trainer Joel Beckman"~ and hey I did not know your resume included couples councelling~keep up the blunt honesty~thank you!
I would be interested to know what he ultimately decided to do.
Hi Joel, great video once again. The owner obviously overwhelmed and baby's safety always come first.
May I ask you how often you handle senior rescue dog with abuse history? Do they behave differently with your training method? (e.g. leash popping) How much they usually improve? Thanks in advance.
He's had a few on video. It's not entirely the same technique when it comes to fear. You have to be slower and more forgiving. The butt-flip method works better I think with these dogs, because then it's a gentle flip (in comparison to the leash pop at least). But at the same time, you have to be the boss, so there's certain behaviors you can't let them get away with. You have to learn and read your dog's body language to understand if it's coming from fear, or from 'I'm gonna do what I want'.
Great advice.
Love how Joel says it is not just about the dog ! Unlike the crazy 24/7/ praise treats people. His outlook makes more sense and more tailored for actual humans with actual dogs.
He makes me wonder if ANYTHING is about the dog.
I had a similar situation with my two dogs. One is a Pitbull and the other is an English Bull Terrier. The EBT was two when I rescued the Pitbull as a puppy. For two years they got along great and then one day the EBT attacked the Pitbull and the Pitbull released the EBT on my command. Over the following 6 months the EBT attacked the Pitbull two more times and these fights were bloody with the Pitbull finishing both fights latched onto the EBT neck. I was not willing to re-home either dog, so now one dog lives upstairs and the other lives downstairs and they are separated by a gate. I have been using this solution for about 5 years now and both dogs are content with the living arrangement. I believe the advice you gave this couple is the correct advice and one of the dogs needs to be re-homed. Too risky with an infant in the house. Great video!
I wish I had seen this a year ago when we struggled with a year old ACD. We didn't want to give him up with all the time and training invested and how trainable he was. I had this dog so well trained, not only voice but long distance hand commands. But he progressed with random out of nowhere attacks. First bad one my wife got stitches in her hand. He had jumped and gave my 14y.o. daughter a bloody lip and my wife tried to grab him but instead he got her hands.
Then he attacked me the day I got him neutered, so bad in the leg and arm that we knew it was time. Luckily we found a rescue that took him.
I miss his intelligence, but I don't miss the fear we all lived in that last month.
What’s an acd
@@Patrick3183 pretty sure it’s an Australian cattle dog. I could be wrong though 😂
Was he at any point trained with an e-collar?
@@User7688.--_ No.
@@Itsa_Mea good to know. Joel has mentioned before, dogs that had an e-collar used on them at some point will have erratic weird all of a sudden behaviors.
I've had babies and dogs. The stress is real. Great advice from Joel once again. I'd be interested to know if the dogs were rehomed, how did they go in their new homes? Are they ok now?
He doesn’t have a new home yet.
Structure in the home is the most important thing with aggressive dog. Same sex aggression is the most common dog on dog aggression. Yes you have to keep them separate for a while but you can make it work only some people will have that will. The place command and loose leash walking is where to start with both dogs. Yes with a family I would say the same thing. You don't want that kiddo getting between these two ever. You have to be on your toes
Joel’s teaching method is awesome; I love it! He trained a dog to train other dogs and he trains us bipeds on how to interpret dog behavior, make corrections/give discipline, and give our furbabies the grace & freedom they deserve to still be who they are with their cute personalities. I LOVE this channel!!! Now if only he can teach me how to get my great dane/lab mix to sit up instead of laying on the floor to which he is magnetized.
He may lay down instead of sitting because he may have hip issues and the sitting position hurts him.
@@Godiscoming888 negative. Vet says he’s perfectly healthy.
I have 2 intact males (American bully) (olde english bulldogge) and a 20month daughter who was born into the house with them. We have gates deviding our down stairs, and Kennels. They almost never get to engage one another inside the house(the dogs). And they get multiple walks and flirt pole a day to make sure they get required physical stimulation, with small training sessions as well. When u have big intense dogs many steps r required to make sure the house hold stays safe. We have a nice lil turfed back yard where they get to hang out freely. If things get to intense we tether them apart on the turf. Which is rare.
Joel always reminds me of César Millán, i like them both
We have a 10.5mo old dutch shepherd who has been reactive/aggressive towards our 6yr shepherd/collie/lab cross. The Dutch is now bigger than our older dog. Dutch shepherd is currently in heat so we're waiting to see if we can have her settle after hormones go back to normal (we m7ssed fixing her due to goingintoheat 2 days before surgery date). We're trying to correct the growling and rewarding when she's calm. Only an issue in the house (resource guarding of specific spaces and people) out on walks the 2 dogs are fine. We've had discussions on what happens if we can't correct the negative interactions of our younger dog. Possibilities include the older dog moving out with another family member when/if time comes.
Take note of the timestamp ( 14:39 ) after Joel redirects the dog and the dog kinda air nips at Joel's hand. NOT GOOD. If that dog challenges Joel like this, makes me wonder If the wife is home alone with the baby and she attempts to redirect the dog with a point of a finger or wave of the hand as Joel did, I don't believe the dog will submit to her. Most likely from watching this video, the outcome won't be good. Joel said everything that needed to be said. I know this is hard for the guy to hear, and I feel his torn emotions. I only hope for the best for all.
This is a very true statement to make. Pitbulls are great dogs but they can be very territorial, and sometimes they can even fight eachother for dominance. It's a big dynamic to have in a household and it requires a constant control over them. You have to set a standard with them in your house and even with that, it's not 100% if they will be compatible with eachother. It was the question with my 2 pits. It requires my full attention with them and keep the dominance over both, everyday. They are both great dogs, and the training I've given them has helped tremendously.
Re-homing my dog was the hardest thing to do especially because this dog and I went through so much together. Unfortunately because my neighbours kids provoked him and my little sisters were in danger. He is happy and living his best life. But it was a hard choice I had to make.
Wow Joel is doing so well with his subs! 🥳
Great video and information.
Pit bulls can be serious dogs. Great use of your discretion here. I seriously think your strength is bringing huge experience and knowledge, than combining an empirical approach to subjective situations. Masterful.
Yes, twopits are too much for moms to handle she cant care for baby and dogs at the same time. And you dont want the dogs jealous over the baby and do anything to baby. Also if you dont walk the dogs forget it and she cant do it or break up fights. Definitely rehome one to someone who can walk the dog and have a better life each one