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“You’re not thin enough” are you kidding me... that therapist needs to reevaluate the way she speaks to people who struggle with eating disorders that makes me so angry
Id like to think about it from the other side. As therapist, making a diagnosis is a big responsibility, and while i dont know the details of the story, if i was a therapist id have to be 100% certain before making a diagnosis.
Marko Milojković I agree that you should think carefully before making a diagnosis however what I said was the therapist should re-evaluate how they spoke to a person struggling with an eating disorder I should have generalized this to anyone struggling with their mental health
mm weight is just a side effect of eating disorders , just because someone doesn’t reach the required weight to be diagnosed doesn’t mean they don’t have it. Most of the time when people say that, they make others feel invalid and want to even continue with their eating disorder habits in order to somehow feel valid about their illness.
Im not implying she has to be thin, Just looking at it from another perspective, and understanding the mistake. And a side note: my comment is in the wrong place, sorry for that.
Parents b like u defective Anyone nah g I have your genes mic drop I don't have mental disorder this vedio was very good tho and he almost made me cry they all seemed like really good people
Had a friend who was the most depressed person I ever met. A few assholes really didn’t like him because his illness prevented him from functioning normally
Inebriatd Obviously the point was being respected means being treated like a human being instead of being made to feel subhuman, which often happens with people who struggle with mental illness.
I have a mental illness that brought me physical pain (back and stomach pain for years just to say two) and a lot of people thought i was just making that up. So i get what you are talking about... I'm lucky to have found the right doctor and the right medication to feel better
The worst part is when you have multiple mental illnesses that all feed off of another and just create an endless cycle that you don't know how to break out of. I'm still trying to figure out how
I feel you...but because they add to each other means that if you improve and work on it you can feel more burden off, at least that's how I try to see it
@@komradson7357 Similar for me. Depression, anxiety and social phobia. The social stuff makes it hard to go outside but staying inside just feeds the depression but then the anxiety makes it difficult to try and change anything :(
I literally had my therapist say that to me before. Really sucked. But she still helped me work through it, she just didn't use the word "disorder" when describing it
can someone in the mental health field confirm if this is true for me? I heard that people need to have a certain BMI/weight in order to be officially diagnosed with an eating disorder. I don't know if it's true though
BrendaFOBRocks it isnt true, weight doesn’t determine an eating disorder, it’s the behaviors, patterns, and all the thoughts that go with it. a lot of people don’t know that and think that only extremely thin people or extremely overweight people can struggle with eating disorders but the weight really doesn’t determine it. any person of any size and weight can have an eating disorder
Anorexia can only be diagnosed when the patient is below a certain BMI. The therapist was right to not misdiagnose her. The woman in the video said herself that she was later diagnosed with bulimia and anorexia at different times, meaning her weight was fluctuating around this BMI threshold. She had also mentioned problems with her teeth, directly suggesting that she purges by means of vomiting. This is an excellent example of why laypeople shouldn't self-diagnose; rather, they should do their best to provide the therapist with as accurate a description of their symptoms as possible so an appropriate diagnosis can be made, followed by appropriate treatment.
感覚喪失 but the lady who said she talked to a therapist said she said, as a general term, that she had a eating disorder. Not specifically anorexia. If someone is that concerned the therapist shouldn’t ever just shut down a patient that can ruin the connection that is supposed to be shared between doctor and patient. Even if she didn’t have an eating disorder, it’s a mental state that is unhealthy and very depressive and can hurt a lot of people’s lives. If she had a risk of an eating disorder which she obviously did then the therapist should have tried to understand the root and try to prevent it from progressing.
Yes. My brother has OCD and it physically pains me when I hear people say, "I'm so OCD" because they like to write with color-coded pens or they like to keep their rooms/desks organized. My brother once stood for almost 20 minutes clicking his bedroom light on and off because it "didn't sound right" the first time he clicked it off. He knew while it was happening that his line of thinking was irrational but he couldn't stop it from happening. His clicking lights on and off is a compulsion he has to deal with on a daily basis. OCD is sooooo much more than a hang up about "organization" and I wish more NT people understood this.
@@noraeable It is always good to remind the person with OCD not to comply with certain compulsive thoughts because sometimes the person with OCD doesn't realize that certain thoughts are compulsive and thinks that it's the "normal"
@@noraeable I have ocd but mine is overwashing my hands all the time because I feel like I didn't wash it right or I didn't close the tap properly and I strongly believe my tap is dirty/contaminated. Another huge compulsion is my dermatillomania, which revolves around me picking my skin for hours a day because I want it to look more smooth, causing my skin to lesions/scarring. I have done this since i was 6 but I am managing :// I am currently on sedatives but it still does not completely rid of my ocd compulsions
i love the girl with the glasses, she listens to every person attentively and nods to let them know that she's taking in what they're saying and appreciating their opinions
Erick Rosa lol, I always nod bc my moms the same way you are (that’s not bad lol) but I always felt like she wasn’t listening so now I feel the need to constantly assure ppl I’m listening haha
The guy who said “life is more than just me” broke my heart literally imagine how much empathy he has in his heart despite what he’s been thru :( luv him
The "I trust medical professionals" hit me cause a few months back when I attempted suicide and landed in a hospital a nurse told me I shouldn't have seeked out help (I said goodbye to a friend after swallowing a bottle of pills so she called an ambulance) and that if I wanted to die then why even bother (them), should've just done it. It remains the most painful thing anyone has ever said to me.
signed, Jordan I know it’s going to sound silly, but please don’t let that get to you. They can be ruthless when I was a kid there were multiple occasions where I would call the ambulance for my mother and they would take hours to come and then when we get there they would tell me as a child that I shouldn’t have called and that they would rather be helping people who actually want to live. They would literally say that I should have left her if that’s what she wanted. I honestly believe that it is ignorance and a lack of understanding of mental health since their so used to dealing with physical issues and emergencies. I don’t usually speak about these things, but trust me I don’t truly think they know what they are saying and how much it actually hurts, it left me traumatized as a child hearing them say that. I try not to dwell on those negatives haven’t thought about it in heard and this just struck a cord and had to comment. Anyway wishing you well, stay strong❤️
@@megank3900 oh my gosh I didn't think someone else experienced something like that, everyone I see always has wonderful interactions with medical staff. I'm sorry this happened to you, sending love ❤️ Yeah I also think it's ignorance, I can just hope the situation changes for the better in the future
I'm sorry you went through that. If you have any of her information you should report that nurse. What she did is extremely unethical and is endangering the lives of patients. I'm sure it breaks the hospital's code of conduct. She should be fired and barred from practicing.
@@Trent_-jl8xt I don't even know her name, she walked up to my bed when I was being admitted, filling some form, I was half awake from the pills and she just started talking how I was just bothering everyone, basically that I should just decide and not first swallow pills then call for help. I can't report bc I have no evidence and they would easily disregard it seeing how I just took a bunch of pills. I wrote my story in opinions on google on that hospital and I keep getting notifs that a few thousand people saw it. So I guess that has to be enough to make peace with it.
@@sarahlovesgaga6426 For a bulimia diagnoses or OSFED diagnosis, BMI is actually not part of the criteria to get diagnosed ❤ That was part of why it was such an uninformed thing to say, especially for a therapist! I agree that it shouldn't be part of the criteria for anorexia as well, though, which does currently list BMI as a criteria
@@sparkllerainne4311 my therapist said the same thing...despite having told her i was underweight the previous 2 years...but the thing i dont get is that it starts when something bad happens and stops when im close to dying 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
It shows a great ability to look outside himself and have consideration for the impact on others, but my heart broke for him because everyone has worth and his just seemed broken down, especially since he alluded to his family thinking he was "defective."
I never buy the whole “it made me who I am” because if you had turned out differently, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’d be a worse person. There’s no one way someone needs turn out.
Most of the interviewees’ voices are trembling. That exactly how I would sounds like if I try to communicate my illness. It’s really not easy topic to talk about, I know how painful it is and I want to applaud them for being so brave. This video made me tear up, I wish I’m as brave as they are to face mine..
agreed, i’d be struggling when thinking about the dark parts. i do just when i’m in my head, let alone telling people i’m close with. it’s a ton of pain
I agree with you, a tear did form in my eye while watching this video and watching them talk about their illnesses. It makes me so heartbroken knowing others are dealing with what I have to deal with, I'm not alone and I shouldn't feel like it's a problem but I just wanted to share...
I remember once my mother finally bringing up my depression to my physician. Without even looking up, the doctor immediately waved it off and said to me, “You’re just being dramatic. Be more mature and you won’t have those episodes anymore.” My mother had never tried to be supportive of my mental illness until that moment, and the look of apology she gave me is one I’ll never forget. It took going to a therapist once I became an adult to finally get the diagnosis I knew I had.
I hate when people say those kind of things, you are so strong! thank u for sharing and I`m glad that at least your mom could support you, I wish you the best
SAME, she keep telling i am just acting like a kid and idk if i should keep going or :( bc my family don't believe in mental health, it was so hard to convince them to take me to one and now this happened
Bruh. No one said life was easy. NO ONE. Even celebrities have depression. But only the weak will hurt themselves or QUIT life. The strong will fight through the problems.
They live in a first world country with clothes and food why aren't they grateful for that theyre entitled and feel a missing meaning to life without religion that tells us to feel grateful for every moment
For everyone in the comments mad at Sparklle not standing on the lines: SHE HAS OCD. You don't know how uncomfortable actually standing on the lines may have been for her smh
Jennifer Robinson again... probably OCD... this video was meant to lessen the stigma but u’ve completely overseen that purpose and are bashing at her for hand movements?? Dude...
D3ViL。悪魔 if you don’t believe that these are people why are you watching? And how can you say that? Do you not believe that people can have these mental illnesses?
To everyone commenting about the woman with OCD standing in the middle of the lines, she commented that it made her anxious to stand on the lines and she didn't even notice she was in the middle. Questions solved, go back to meming.
@@evidence7338 Yea, I've still seen some people who are saying "the woman not standing on the lines is pissing me off" and I just want to help with the clarification.
i wish people would understand that getting a diagnosis is a privilege because a lot of people (including me) don't have the money or opportunity to see a professional and get diagnosed
"I think that if I didn't have my disorder I wouldn't be who I am, and I'm okay with that, because life is more than just me" Is no one else going to comment on this quote? I found it so interesting
A lot of people with autism/autistic people embody their diagnosis and wouldn't enjoy not having that piece of them that makes them unique. I guess it depends on the mental illness and the support the person has gotten around it.
@@maju404 hes saying that he hates being that burden for everyone else as well. He doesnt like that his mental illness doesnt only affect him but his family as well because at a young age to get help u can't do anything, u have no money. If I didnt have this mental illness a ton of stress would've been lifted alone from others I know. That's what I'm understanding from it.
@@xMushroomFairy well I think there are huge differences between disorders. Like I said, many people with autism would keep it even if offered the chance to get rid of it. People with OCD, anxiety, depression, antisocial personality disorder, borderline, etc mostly don't want those because of how significantly it affects their lives. Depends on the person.
My heart broke when Edgar told about that is convincing his parents isnt defective, etc.. I would like to hug him. His voice was cracking.. and i totally get his speech as im going through the same.
Yeah people are non appreciative & worried about what they want to see next. Let's be mindful and have a conversation about what this channel worked hard to create for us.
@@erichkaufmann5284 Idk about u but i talked with my ex that if that would ever happeen it would be instant abortion or atleast adoption if she couldnt do abortion.
I started crying when they all moved to the “agree” side after the phrase of therapy and medication. I just recently decided to get help and this video made it easier.
Same,got the balls to call a therapist after 2 years of struggling. The appointment is on monday and I still dont feel ready but I won't survive without so there is no other solution
for the self diagnosing question, they need to consider the fact that getting a diagnosis from a professional is not possible for many people because of cost and accessibility. it is a priviledge to get diagnosed
thank you for this, this question really pissed me off. that one guy's answer felt really "gatekeep-y". not everyone has the mental, financial, or family approval to seek help or proper diagnosis.
@@elrunts exactly. i’ve had severe anxiety all my life and my parents refused to acknowledge or believe me. when i finally got a psychologist i had also developed depression from having untreated anxiety for so long. being diagnosed is such a privilege
@@kou4875 the problem is that in the modern day it became cool to have mental illnesses and too many people self diagnose themselves with disases they dont have, you know. Even though every other person says they have depression, many of them dont and thats a fact.
i appreciate how much they all listened to each other however different their opinions were. a lot of times on these episodes people shut each other down or argue because they don’t share the same opinions, but that didn’t happen here. i think it’s because... mental illness is something that’s so personal and it both shapes AND IS shaped by our life experiences, so we’re more likely to hear each out and empathize with each other and accept that not everything is going to be the same for everyone. a lot of the time it creates more of that empathy inside of us that people without these experiences don’t have. thank you for making this episode.
Yeah this was the 'nicest' episode I've seen in which i felt everyone was listening to each other and respectful and empathising and not one person constantly cutting accross others with their opinion
Honestly it sounds terrible to say but I usually prefer people who have gone through fucked up things over people who haven't. People who have lived good lives have a tendency to not take any struggle seriously and put it on laziness or exaggeration.
A lot of my friends are mentally ill and I used to be too. I might still be, not sure to be honest. They're the best listeners and the wisest people I know
This video, teen moms, and suicide survivors. I think when people who share a deep struggle like these, they know what it's like to have feuds and they want to do what they can to avoid it. They also are generally more kind-spirited based off what they've been through
When Edgar was tearing up while speaking, you could hear how deep his pain is. Wish I could give him a hug. I hope things get better for him and everyone else
the girl with the tattoos and the guy in the red blazer, the tone and waver of the voice during the last question shot so much personal empathy through my heart
@@cassandrawright5202 I don’t think the commenter actually believes this statement, but they’re saying that healthcare is so expensive (in the USA at least) that mostly people with higher income are able to get diagnosed. It’s different in some states though. I was able to get help because I’m a foster kid in California (idk how it is in other states for foster care,) but her point still stands for all the lower income people who don’t have any guidance on resources, or people who don’t have insurance. Also depends on guardians and their mindset (mindset in general I guess.). Of course their mental illness is still valid (it is hell going through mental illness undiagnosed) but I’m assuming her point is that healthcare needs to be readily available for everybody
@@mz9057 yes it does depend on your state. I’m currently low income but my gov insurance allows me to see a doctor and therapist and that’s how I received my diagnosis’s.
that’s not true at all. i’ve been diagnosed with mmd & social anxiety and i’m not rich at all. i’m lucky i got diagnosed, but not only/all rich ppl get diagnosed
The thing is we are only talking from our current perspectives and our current experiences. Make the best out of a bad situation, but we can't assume we'd what a life without the illness would be like.
VoidX depression didn’t make you creative lmao unless you mean by killing yourself then maybe but like talent wise... nah sis Depression don’t give you any benefits 😂
Yeah, it was so raw. When he said that 'life is more than just me', it was an interesting perspective because it's a very selfless way of thinking. Like he would get rid of his mental disorder not to rid himself of the burden, but to make it easier for the people who care about him. It's very sincere and I really hope he continues to stay strong.
The guy saying "having to figure out, in your 20's, if your life is worth it" that hit me. I felt it. I hate living everyday feeling like I don't know what the point of still living is.
Jayden keep on breathing! if you ever need a talk you can hit me up on instagram, it's ole.1410. I mean it you can rant or anything. Also, I agree with the person above me. It got much easier for me when I accepted that there isn't really a point and it's just about enjoying yourself and your lifetime.
something my therapist said that helped me was to focus on human connection. there are people out there who care about you, and connecting with them and getting to know other people, and letting them get to know you, is such a special thing about living
I'm in my 20s and have mental health struggles. Jesus fills the hole and gives me purpose and hope in this life and ultimately for salvation in the next. He is the way, through the hard times and the good. Keep on keeping on. God Bless.
I wondered every single day what my purpose for being alive is until the very first time I attempted suicide. I have "I love you" in my siblings handwriting tattooed on each of my wrists as a reminder of why my life is worth it. I have decided that my purpose in life is to just love those beside me with all that I have, to love freely and unconditionally. You will find yours. (-:
The black guy was incredibly inspireing, "using his voice for the voiceless" and "spreading awareness on his community"... Not all heroes wear capes. Great video.
As someone with anxiety and has panic attacks.. i would like to announce.. that I performed infront of my class in drama without having a panic attack or crying on Thursday. Edit; THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of this support 💜💜💜 I don’t think I’ve ever received this much support on anything 😂😂so thank you I love you all 💜💜💜💜💜
Amazing job, as someone who has panic attacks and possibly anxiety this is amazing and it’s always good to run off stage and feel somewhat accomplished (for me at least)
Mental illness can be so horrible, but after 6 years of therapy i have asked a questiin infront of 100+ people during lecture and i didn't get any smyptom from my social anxiety. Three years ago i couldn't even breath infront of people. Today everyone's always confused when i mention i have social anxiety. I'm so proud of myself. I hope everyone here is doing Well! You can do it! Things are going to be better!
I have really bad mental health I’ve got, GAD, PTSD, autism, epilepsy, social anxiety, panic attacks and a bunch more. So life is really hard I can’t go out the door without having anxiety and I feel no one apart from my family can really understand what I’m going through and I feel like I’m all alone.
Miguel Melo There is a weight component when diagnosing anorexia though. They have to be extremely underweight, but that doesn’t change the fact that even if they don’t meet that weight requirement they are still dealing with dangerous thoughts and behavior and shouldn’t be dismissed.
that’s why they introduced EDNOS, which is a condition in which you in fact have an eating disorders but don’t have all the symptoms required to be categorized as either anorexic or bulimic (sorry for my English, it is not my first language)
It's so sad that things like these happen! When I was at a really low point in my ED, I wanted to talk to someone, but always told myself that I need to lose some more weight before I can do that. I felt like I was not sick enough or that no one would actually believe me...
"I wish I didn't have my illness" - Would someone actually *wish* to _have_ it? If I could snap my fingers and get rid of them all, I would. In a heartbeat - no question about it. They are a part of me, and a result of/caused by the things that I've gone through, but they are not who I am. I don't need them to be me; and they do not add to my life, they take from it. Impede me. Who would want that? I sure as hell wouldn't.
I think my depression and anxiety actually helps with my creative process. When you have something that you can't really fix, you use it as a tool instead.
Marcia Osullivan What does it sound like? I put all my raw, depressing thoughts into works. You'd clearly see how messed up I am if you'd ever read my stories.
I'm a cashier and one day a woman with touret syndrome was my client. She left and the next client told me "you saw that ? I hope it wasn't Corona !" Not enough education about mental illnesses in France :/
I have severe anxiety to the point where I'll shake/twitch when I'm anxious (especially in social situations) and I had a customer once ask if I had Parkinson's disease 😡 like, first of all, do you think that's an appropriate question in general? Second, what the fuck?
I feel like the episodes would be about stuff most people don't think about. Like this one, it's hard to think about if it would. But when it comes to people who have abortions, or even guys who suffered through the abortion, you can kinda think about how some would be happy or fine with it, and some would be devastated. Y'know what I mean? But I could be wrong, it could be a good episode
There are so many different reasons people have abortions I think it would offend some of the participants like maybe those who had medical complications compared to people who just couldn’t afford a child mentally or economically I’m not saying one reason is more valid than the other just it’s such a broad situation it’s like saying do all people who receive food stamps think the same
That’s a good one. Because I’ve seen a couple of people who had an abortion in the past (And their education/careergreatly benefited from it) but they are pro life.
Salsabeel oooh, I hope they do the same with NPD (my diagnosis). Would be great to have people with extremely stigmatized disorders. There are so many different types of narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths and their symptoms all manifest differently.
“if I didn’t have my disorder I wouldn’t be who I am but I’m okay with that because life is more than just me” 11:58 Wow. I know for myself I’d have all my issues gone in a heartbeat but it’s still moving in many ways to hear how others have suffered.
@@killerrobots9 You seem like a great dude. As a bipolar/Manic depressant, many people don't understand my mood swings and aggression. It gets in the way of alot of relationships.
the self diagnosing question made me so mad! yes i definitely agree that self diagnosing can be extremely harmful to yourself and cause you to not get the proper care you need, but a lot of people don’t have access to free health care! and so when they notice something is wrong with them they can’t get the help they need and end up self diagnosing to try and figure out what is wrong with them and deal with it on there own.
I am not diagnosed because people scare me and I dont like talking about it but I know that I do have depression and an eating disorder I definetly think that some things dont need to me diagnosed like yes I am sure after Self Harming and starving myself for months that I have depression and an eating disorder lol
@@vanyacheney2229 oh my gawd, i was legitimately about to right the EXACT same paragraph, like it’s freaky how much i would have written word for word of what u put. i’m not kidding our stories line up exactly... btw i’m 13, idk about u?
"You are not thin enough?" I can't believe someone said that. But my daughter went to a therapist, who told her, that she was too pretty to be depressed.
karend169 it’s actually a criteria in the DSM to diagnose anorexia nervosa that the individual must have a low BMI. I definitely don’t agree with it though there should just be evidence of a weight loss in general
Grace S i don’t think it should even be weight loss that determines whether you get a diagnosis or not, drastically unhealthy eating habits should be enough of an indicator imo
@@tamtamr9081 Who me? It is true. Unfortunately, my daughter went to this woman for a summer, and didn't tell us about this, until summer was over. Part of the disease.
id love to see a "do all people who self harm think the same" i'm 19 now and i've struggled with self harm since the age of 10. it really makes me happy to see how much mental health has been addressed in the media in recent years, but it seems like self harm is still something that people prefer to turn a blind eye too. it makes outsiders so uncomfortable which causes those who suffer from it to feel intense shame. my legs are so horribly scarred everybody can tell i struggle with self harm just by lookin at me, but it's something people are far too uncomfortable to mention or ask about. some of my closer friends and family have asked me before why i never talk about it when it is such a huge part of my physical appearance, and i think it's because it's so "hush hush" in the media and public eye. i would love to see a channel like Jubilee shine some light on this issue. i'd love to one day live in a world where people don't even think twice about it when they see the scars on my legs.
I understand where you're coming from, to both of you. Personally I'm somewhere in between--I've gotten more comfortable showing my arms and legs (mostly arms) in public, but that took quite a while because I was so afraid of people noticing and subsequently judging. It has probably happened, but thankfully no one has mentioned it in a negative way; the only person outside of my family and therapist who has brought it up was a teacher worried about my well being, which I appreciated on the one hand, but it did make me very uncomfortable. I'm sure there will be times in my life where I have to answer questions, or brush off judgments, but my way of coping with the anxiety is to try to stop being so obviously afraid of showing my scars. My scars are quite pale nowadays, so I do realise it gets a lot harder when the scars are fresh. At the end of the day, my scars are a part of me and I've grown to accept them without shame for the most part: can't guarantee on my worst days I won't be anxious over them, especially if they are new additions. Ultimately, it really does help to have a safe person to open up to. If my loved ones had have judged me for it (especially at the beginning), it would have taken me a lot longer to accept them and other people potentially seeing them.
lyndsay Yeah I totally agree with you! I also struggled with self harming in the past and sometimes I feel really left out because nobody ever talks about it. That would be such an important video for me personally.
I, myself punsch me sometimes and that's visible in the summer with short clothing. But If i see that somebody has harmed himself i won't ask exept we were close friends. I just accept it like it is, if I can't see too much. I just feel like, it would be like going to a stranger or person you don't know well and asking him if he got nightmares every night and what they are about. Bit I would mention it like "Are you sure that you can go swimming? These scars look like they could get worse."
2:04 - 2:17 OCD is so underestimated, the fact that Sparkle could’ve died without treatment is a reason why it should be taken more seriously. I feel for her 😢😰
Yes the word crazy is very offensive. I’m no longer depressed. But I had post pardum for 3 years. That word definitely would trigger. But at the time of the depression you are raw with emotions. Anything can trigger.
Calling someone insane or crazy for having mental illness is just as ridiculous as telling someone they have terminal illness for having a fever. No. Having OCD doesn't make me a crazy person. That's why its called disorder.
my sister calls me problematic and crazy almost everyday because of my anxieties, misophonia and eating disorder. It's a trigger for me and I continuously tell her I don't like it, but she still does it because it's a joke for her
6:02 "I told my therapist I think I have an eating disorder but she said I'm not thin enough, it's not a problem until I get thinner" This pisses me off so much.
"If I didn't have my disorder I wouldn't be who I am and I'm ok with that because life is more than just me". Man, that's heavy, but also beautiful I think. I am SO impressed that all of you guys are willing to share so much in this video. You really are making the world a better place, and I believe you help others be brave about these kinds of things. Loved this video so much.
When he said that, I teared up. What a beautiful person. I hope his family sees how wonderfully empathetic he is. Despite his pain and trouble, he’s only concerned for their pain.
foreverandayear technically speaking a therapist can’t diagnose you with an eating disorder unless your bmi subpasses a certain point but she still could and should have offered support
While it’s a horrible thing to say, it may have been a miscommunication. Technically in order to be diagnosed with anorexia nerviosa there needs to be significant low weight (DSM-V). If that aspect is not present, an individual can definitely still be diagnosed with an eating disorder, but not anorexia nerviosa. This may have been where a comment like “you’re not thin enough” may have come from, but that doesn’t excuse that that’s a really reckless and ignorant thing to say to someone who may have an ED
@@freddi1404 yaa i was just about to say, they cant diagnose everyone with eating disorders who throw up a lot unless almost everyone would have an eating disorder; it would have to get so bad that you lose a lot of weight; but i thinks thats a fault system because the person would be a;ready too far gone to properly heal and recover from ti
@@freddi1404 This is not true. Sparklle was talking about purging, which is a typical bulimia habit. In order to be diagnosed with bulimia, you can be at any weight. The decisive factors are how long and how often you've been bingeing and purging, whether you think about food and related issues more than a normal person and stuff like that. Being underweight does not have anything to do with that, bulimic people can have any weight.
As a person with an anxiety disorder, when I was diagnosed by a doctor, i felt a sense of relief because I finally had the answer to why I felt the way I felt.
I have PTSD and for 3 years they told me it was depression anxiety and ADD. The medication they put me on to treat those things put me in the hospital and almost killed me. I knew they weren't treating the right things but they wouldn't listen to me. (I've been officially diagnosed now)
some answers, let us feel peace, because you know that it is a thing, it has treatment, there IS a way.. you don't feel so lost about your own emotions
Same. I have been suffering from depression for 13 years now, because of severe bullying. I have been constantly told by peers that maybe I was convincing myself of it for attention. It really made me feel insane and as if my suffering wasn't valid or real. I've been in therapy for over a year now and it's changing my life.
PTSD Severe anxiety Severe depression And borderline personality disorder. I can say from someone who's been fighting with mental health problems that it takes alot of courage to be able to stand up and talk to the world about what's going on in your head and thank you.
Everyones saying "i wouldn't be stronger or who i am today without my mental illness" but am I the only one who would 10000% get rid of their own mental illnesses if they had the chance? It's made many of my days unbearable and I don't think ill be looking back at my 20s as fondly as I should be because of it. I don't remember the last time i felt genuinely happy or without any sort of a dark cloud over my head. I can't appreciate the present because I'm always busy hoping the future will be a lot better. A lot of the reasons I cant enjoy life are because of my mental illnesses, i dont care if its "shaped me" in what ever way. Even being in therapy, I feel like I wont ever get better.
i would too, its my biggest wish in life. i dont think my mental illnesses have affected who i am that much, i would still be kind, still be funny, creative, loving, understanding. i dont think i have those attributes because of my mental illness. i dont even care if i cant get rid of the memories of my trauma and what i have went through, if you could just take away my struggles right now in life i would be so happy
Yeah i completely agree with you, I'm 13 and iv been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I don't think I'll ever look back and think it made me strong becuase all its done is negative. I can't experience things other 13 year olds can heck I can't even go into a shop or out my house without having a panic attack or mental breakdown. It's not fun and it doesn't make me strong what so ever. All it's doing is taking away my childhood I guess.
I think people can actually think that when things are better, when the treatment is going well, when they healed. I remember year ago when i was struggling and when it was really hard that I used to think why me or I wish this would dissapear but when I started to get better I realized how much I've grown, things I didn't realize before about people, the world and myself. Things to improve in myself etc. Is not like thank God I went through this but like hey this teached me things and I know I'm stronger now, that took part on who I am today .
the whole “i wouldn’t wish my mental illness away” ideal is definitely something that comes with recovery and time. no one in the thick of it is going to feel that way.
It broke my heart hearing all of those people who tried to hold back tears and hearing their voice crack while they were speaking 💔 I wanted to hug them all
mine cracked too and i wasn't even speaking., my uncle has schizophrenia, it is haaaard to deal with his condition. most of immediate relatives have gone to therapy because of the burden of his illness.
When people found out I Had depression they where like "You dont look depressed you are always smiling" I was "My bags under my Eyes beg to differ" (Bc Insomnia is a heavy thing on me that comes bc of my depression) Sad enought my Family said "You have no reason to be depressed"
Honestly same my mom always says that she feels like she failed me because of my depression and my social anxiety. That just makes me feel worse. And it feels like I let her down. 😭
@@me-yeahcar-oh8668 I feel you my dude, she will say "I feel like Im a Bad mother" or "Im sorry I cant understand I, I was raised in other times" and is like "Gee... Thanks I guess.."
@@kaidouhottopicgiftcard I have 2 Friends that have also their mothers as Psycologist and they are both (their mothers) really Fast to pick up sings in their mood, Altough one is a bit more harsh, the Other is really open to talk with my friend about whats bothering her. Mine likes to avoid the talk, she will ask how I am only when I just cant hold it together anymore, Uses some Gaslighting, Emotional manipulation, everytime something bad Happens is my fault, and even turned tables during 3 Emotional Breakdowns making me look like a bad Daughter. So I was always envious about kids with caring Psicologist parents UnU
When my father found out I had suicidal ideation, one of the first thing he said to my mum was "but she was joking with us". Who is going to explain to him that I joke to not think about my problems?
When Edgar said “life is more than just me” I felt that. I’m not Hispanic but I come from a similar culture that focuses a lot on the family, on a community. And sometimes it’s really hard to show your own vulnerabilities when it’s not just tied to you- but to your whole family/tribe. This was a great video thank you.
On the “I wish I didn’t have my illness” one I immediately started finishing Edgar’s sentence and crying with him I know exactly how it feels and I felt every word he said wholeheartedly and my heart breaks that there’s others that have to contemplate whether their life is worth it so young because of the illness we have and the affects our illness have on ours and everyone else’s lives around us when he said “now that I’m convincing my parents that I wasn’t just making it up” “they still have to deal with me” “ being in your 20s and to question if your life is worth living” and “if I didn’t have my disorder/illness I wouldn’t be who I am today and I’m okay with that” broke my heart and I started bawling because everyone always talks about how everything they’ve been through makes them stronger and they wouldn’t change it for the world but they are who they are because of what they’ve been through I’ve never heard anyone out loud besides my own thoughts feel or say those things and I’m so sorry and I want to just give him a long hug and tell him he’s not alone and I truly understand him!😩🥺💔❤️
I get where they're coming from but I think it might be conjecture in order for people to feel better about themselves. It's important to make the best out of a bad thing and recognise the genuinely valuable insights you might have gained, but when people have suffered so much because of mental illness I think there is an aspect of denial surrounding that sort of question. We can't assume that we would live a less fulfilled life without mental illness by using the perspectives gained in a life with mental illness, but we can assume that we'd suffer less.
Thank you for hearing me out 💕 I’m not an expert on the subject but I can truly say that the things I put out in this video are true to the best of my ability. It’s far from a conjecture. This opinion formulated during my darkest times. I believe that the aftermath of my suicidal ideation led to this alternative ideology rather than ending my life. We came on this platform to tell our story and I know mine is not as positive. I do feel we can assume a better life when we get rid of mental illness. This whole situation reminds me of when people say “some need to be poor in order for others to be rich.” Mental illness is a disease that impedes. There is a ‘disabilities’ under my name that I don’t consider as a mental illness but rather a difference in ability. So to go back to the question, I think my answers were conclusive and based on critical thought. And believe me, we’ve asked ourselves that question countless times. That’s why so many people are able to relate without feeling like any of us are taking precedence.
@@killerrobots9Mental illness suppresses the person. I don't think we just glamorise it my treating is as solely a 'difference' in ability. Certainly, I would not describe a person with a mental illness as 'deficient', but I have seen the harmful effects it has on everyone. The question is not so much getting rid of mental illness, but never experiencing it. My point is that although we may value the insights in our lives with mental illness, we certainly can't assume we'd miss them in another, making the aspects of a happier and healthier life ever more important. Mental illness is complex, aggravated by a mix of genetic and environmental factors. One part of the story is how our modern lives affect our mental health. Let's accept our problems, but we should not be complacent. Fight the causes and fight the dangerous symptoms. Don't attempt to normalise it as some sort of social trade, or something you put in your bio as a sign of being 'different'. I'm not sure what you're trying to get at. Of course I value the insights as they pertain to my current self, but why would that supersede a healthier, happier and more functional life?
The guy with the shorts is telling people not to be negative when some are solely sharing how they feel. That angered me. Not everyone is positive about their mental illness because it has robbed them from so many things. I’m glad some feel positive and are coping well but he shouldn’t insert himself on how others feel.
🌻 “DO ALL INTROVERTS THINK THE SAME?” 🌻 I think there’s still a stigma that all introverts are antisocial and that they only like being alone... it’s so not true in my opinion and it would be very interesting to see how these people think differently about the topic. also thank you Jubilee for making these kinds of videos. it’s always difficult to question certain things and have conversations about issues that are considered “taboo” but it is SO important and the world really needs to have more of these❤️
I would love to see this too! Everyone thinks introverts hate talking to people ever and are shy and are bookworms, but introverts can be friendly and do other things like watch movies, play video games, etc. Literally an introvert is just someone who needs alone time to recharge, but somehow it's turned into something more. So I'd love to see a video on this!
So apparently, there may be 4 types of introverts; social, thinking, restrained and anxious. As a social and thinking introvert, I likely won't have the same experience as an anxious one. I'm an introvert but also very solitary, so I require tremendous down/alone time, perhaps more than you, OP? All introverts aren't shy, that much is worth saying! Most of us are quiet and reserved, but that's because our inner life is so rich, and we also very much loosen up with close friends. It'd definitely be interesting to have an introvert episode, thanks for suggesting it!
As many have said before, "You are more than your diagnosis." Living with any disability can be hard, but the mental strain that mental illnesses put on people can make it seem that their illness is all that there is to them. I know I have felt that before. I just want others to know that their mental illnesses isn't all of who you are. Just like the one man mentioned his husband, family, and chihuahuas. Mental illness is very hard to deal with, but there is so much more than that to who someone is.
I think it varies from person to person. My depression and anxiety have negatively affected my life so much that I would pay to to get rid of them. It's ruined relationships and friendships because they don't understand how my depression works, and they get offended when I become distant. My anxiety is almost debilitating at times. I've passed up on opportunities because of it. If I had the choice to get rid of my mental health issues, I definitely would in a heartbeat.
Today I was in a good mood all day. I woke up smiling. These kinds of days are so rare for me that whenever I even have some moments where I genuinely enjoy my life it means something.
I feel the guy in the red cardigan so much. We are not defective. Maybe one day my parents will understand that hyperventilating crying isn't me just being dramatic. Maybe they'll understand that just because I don't have money issues, I can still find things difficult. They don't see the hearts we have and it's sad for everyone in the situation.
Leyla Picou Leyla Picou Thank you 💕 Its hard for anyone to understand, undergo and explain the conditions. I found myself constantly in a dialectic as I opened up to my family but ultimately the biggest communication barriers were within myself. As I obsessed over my impression I began to compulsively elicit overexcited vocalization behaviors. You’re right. We are not defective! And explaining this to the world should always be and feel like an option. Sometimes you gotta write it down so you can have a reminder. Whatever it takes. :)
"Do all Rich people think the same" that would be interesting to see especially seeing how most people aspire to be rich. Did they change because of money or are they still the same.
Seeing how perspectives change according to where that money has come from would also be interesting. Like would lottery winners, self-made millionaires and people with familial wealth have the same opinions
@@managersejinstan1523 That would make a good Middle Ground episode "self made vs generational wealth" or however it's phrased but point remaining though.
Yes! I came across money in a different way, so I’d love to be there. I got it based on how severe my disability is from a car accident, so really each dollar made me more humble as each dollar represented trauma and how much my quality of life changed.
i suffer with mental illness and my heart genuinely goes out to everyone in this video, and everyone struggling in general. you're meant to be here. you have a purpose.
I agree as well! I got diagnosed recently and would like to see an episode of it. Also it would be interesting if they made one of autism and/or neurodivergent people
I was diagnosed with GAD when I was 9. When I was 14 I was diagnosed again with ADD because I couldn't concentrate in school. Later on I was diagnosed with OCD, and then rediagnosed from ADD to bipolar disorder. At 17 things were so bad at home that I tried to jump before a train, but I was stopped and forced into a cab that drove me to the psychiatric emergency where I was hospitalized and for the first time in my life I got the right medication, an antipsychotic substance. I had refused earlier on to take any kind of medication because of my father's substance abuse, which made me stuck in a lot of psychotic and manic episodes. I didn't stay on medication for long but it did bring me out of my rock bottom state. As I had gone through it I more or less forced myself to believe I could have the life I didn't think I could have. I definitely didn't believe I could get better but I forced myself to think I could until I had convinced myself. It took me 6 months to get better and I'm still learning to trust people. But as I got better and my doctors saw me living a normal life without drugs and almost no therapy, I understood for the first time that there was nothing "wrong" with me. I had it explained to me that my parents did not raise me well and I understood that I had not gotten the attention or love a child needs. My mother used to work night shifts when I was a kid so I was basically raised by my alcoholic father. I almost didn't make it through school. But at 18 I opened up to my extended family and my friends and thanks to them I got the support and love I needed to be able to distance myself from my parents. To forgive and maybe in a sense even understand them. I didn't go a day without having panic attacks or throw tantrums, for three years. I had GAD for 8 years. Now I am 20 and I have only had 3 panic attacks during the past two years. My anger and GAD is gone and my doctors have declared me free from those illnesses. If you had told me at 16 that I would be alive today, studying biomolecular science, following my dreams, I definitely would not have believed you. But I am and I do and honestly, I'm genuinely happy for the first time in 10 years.
As someone who just recently got diagnosed with anorexia, bipolar, and anxiety this has helped me feel a little more understood and less alone. This was so refreshing and honestly the most heartfelt video on this channel and i just love this so much. Thank you
shellyloonatic wait really? i major in psychology in uni in germany and we were taught the bmi is still needed to be below a certain point so an eating disorder can be diagnosed
Yeah, most of us have a hard time even leaving the house. Mental illness really isolates you. I might fail my school year because I have to leave half of my classes because of my panic episodes(I also faint). It's really hard and it sucks when people romanticize it
@@kassie9516 thanks for sharing, this is relatable for me. I recently left school to pursue treatment for my illnesses and I just wanted to reach out and say that if you have to leave school for treatment, it is worth it. The decision to prioritize your mental health is a very good long-term decision. Best of luck on your journey.
@@Channel123456789100 thank you. I would love to be able to do that but unfortunately my parents won't let me. We talk and argue a lot about it and they said I need To finish my school year, that treatment can wait. However, they did let me have a service dog so it's not that bad because she really helps.
"I will shake someone's hand sometimes and be like, yeah, I have OCD" And then there's me who has OCD and gets anxiety from thinking about touching someone else's hand.
"I wish I didn't have my illness"? All the time! Sure, it's made me who I am today or whatever, but it's such a struggle to continue to live with it forever.... and it's taken away SO MUCH from my life, YEARS that I will never get back. So hell yes I'd wish to not have it.
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Good video
“You’re not thin enough” are you kidding me... that therapist needs to reevaluate the way she speaks to people who struggle with eating disorders that makes me so angry
Id like to think about it from the other side. As therapist, making a diagnosis is a big responsibility, and while i dont know the details of the story, if i was a therapist id have to be 100% certain before making a diagnosis.
Marko Milojković I agree that you should think carefully before making a diagnosis however what I said was the therapist should re-evaluate how they spoke to a person struggling with an eating disorder I should have generalized this to anyone struggling with their mental health
mm weight is just a side effect of eating disorders , just because someone doesn’t reach the required weight to be diagnosed doesn’t mean they don’t have it. Most of the time when people say that, they make others feel invalid and want to even continue with their eating disorder habits in order to somehow feel valid about their illness.
Im not implying she has to be thin, Just looking at it from another perspective, and understanding the mistake. And a side note: my comment is in the wrong place, sorry for that.
Ksenija Mcfadden yah that’s just anorexia where one is under weight but that’s not nine eating or bulimia disorder
“My parents were convinced i was defective” fuckkkk im gonna cry
we feel, i think all of us, defective, broken, not fit for this world. I'm so glad he voiced that.
My slow and forgetful mind has me feeling worthless sometimes...
😔
@@justmai2476 I don't though. I'm perfect.
Yh
Parents b like u defective
Anyone nah g I have your genes mic drop
I don't have mental disorder this vedio was very good tho and he almost made me cry they all seemed like really good people
It genuinely breaks my heart when people are mean and ignorant towards people with mental illnesses because it’s not as obvious as physical ones.
Amina M even if you don’t have a illness but you act a certain different way you should still be respected
Had a friend who was the most depressed person I ever met. A few assholes really didn’t like him because his illness prevented him from functioning normally
Inebriatd
Obviously the point was being respected means being treated like a human being instead of being made to feel subhuman, which often happens with people who struggle with mental illness.
I have a mental illness that brought me physical pain (back and stomach pain for years just to say two) and a lot of people thought i was just making that up. So i get what you are talking about...
I'm lucky to have found the right doctor and the right medication to feel better
We all have a mental illness
The worst part is when you have multiple mental illnesses that all feed off of another and just create an endless cycle that you don't know how to break out of. I'm still trying to figure out how
I completely relate I'm sorry ☹
I feel you...but because they add to each other means that if you improve and work on it you can feel more burden off, at least that's how I try to see it
Me too....but I would advice u to strictly practice what ur doctor suggested...bcz that's what I am doing
I agree😔
For me that would be social anxiety, panic attacks, and depression usually follows...
@@komradson7357 Similar for me. Depression, anxiety and social phobia. The social stuff makes it hard to go outside but staying inside just feeds the depression but then the anxiety makes it difficult to try and change anything :(
I wondered why there isnt anyone with social anxiety. But then I thought about it
Same tho..
Lmao
Yeah, I'm quite surprised bcs I though it was some of the most common mental disorders, asides from depression
.... I just snorted at this XD
Realest comment I’ve seen for a while
"You're not thin enough." Wow really top notch thing to say to someone with an eating disorder.
Except they didn't have an eating disorder in the therapist eyes
A Duck they did. The therapist was just incompetent
I literally had my therapist say that to me before. Really sucked. But she still helped me work through it, she just didn't use the word "disorder" when describing it
can someone in the mental health field confirm if this is true for me? I heard that people need to have a certain BMI/weight in order to be officially diagnosed with an eating disorder. I don't know if it's true though
BrendaFOBRocks it isnt true, weight doesn’t determine an eating disorder, it’s the behaviors, patterns, and all the thoughts that go with it. a lot of people don’t know that and think that only extremely thin people or extremely overweight people can struggle with eating disorders but the weight really doesn’t determine it. any person of any size and weight can have an eating disorder
I can’t believe the doctor told her it’s not a problem if she’s not thin enough! That comment would cause someone to have an eating disorder
Jazzya oh that’s sadly completely normal .-.
Jazzya they said the same to me
Doctors are crap
Anorexia can only be diagnosed when the patient is below a certain BMI. The therapist was right to not misdiagnose her. The woman in the video said herself that she was later diagnosed with bulimia and anorexia at different times, meaning her weight was fluctuating around this BMI threshold. She had also mentioned problems with her teeth, directly suggesting that she purges by means of vomiting. This is an excellent example of why laypeople shouldn't self-diagnose; rather, they should do their best to provide the therapist with as accurate a description of their symptoms as possible so an appropriate diagnosis can be made, followed by appropriate treatment.
I think this therapist was young and still didn’t know so much. But you are right, this is so wrong.
感覚喪失 but the lady who said she talked to a therapist said she said, as a general term, that she had a eating disorder. Not specifically anorexia. If someone is that concerned the therapist shouldn’t ever just shut down a patient that can ruin the connection that is supposed to be shared between doctor and patient. Even if she didn’t have an eating disorder, it’s a mental state that is unhealthy and very depressive and can hurt a lot of people’s lives. If she had a risk of an eating disorder which she obviously did then the therapist should have tried to understand the root and try to prevent it from progressing.
“Do all people with OCD think the same?” It would be very good to try to explain OCD more than just “the organization disease”
yes and go into what intrusive thoughts really are, people only think of the physical stuff and not always the mental
@@jinkieez so true! there needs to be a reminder that OCD is not just the way it's portrayed in the movies
Yes. My brother has OCD and it physically pains me when I hear people say, "I'm so OCD" because they like to write with color-coded pens or they like to keep their rooms/desks organized. My brother once stood for almost 20 minutes clicking his bedroom light on and off because it "didn't sound right" the first time he clicked it off. He knew while it was happening that his line of thinking was irrational but he couldn't stop it from happening. His clicking lights on and off is a compulsion he has to deal with on a daily basis. OCD is sooooo much more than a hang up about "organization" and I wish more NT people understood this.
@@noraeable It is always good to remind the person with OCD not to comply with certain compulsive thoughts because sometimes the person with OCD doesn't realize that certain thoughts are compulsive and thinks that it's the "normal"
@@noraeable I have ocd but mine is overwashing my hands all the time because I feel like I didn't wash it right or I didn't close the tap properly and I strongly believe my tap is dirty/contaminated. Another huge compulsion is my dermatillomania, which revolves around me picking my skin for hours a day because I want it to look more smooth, causing my skin to lesions/scarring. I have done this since i was 6 but I am managing :// I am currently on sedatives but it still does not completely rid of my ocd compulsions
when some of them nearly started crying and the one guy was stuttering and nearly crying i almost cried myself :(
Maureen Kay I wanted to hug him 😔
It was raw and relatable
I know right?! It’s really a reminder that we all go through some serious mental battles
I DID 😒
These videos are really ruining my emotional balance, man
i love the girl with the glasses, she listens to every person attentively and nods to let them know that she's taking in what they're saying and appreciating their opinions
@Erick Rosa same with me..
Erick Rosa lol, I always nod bc my moms the same way you are (that’s not bad lol) but I always felt like she wasn’t listening so now I feel the need to constantly assure ppl I’m listening haha
It’s really ironic tho that the girl with OCD didn’t standing on the line and it’s bothering my OCD bc she’s not on the line with everyone else lol
@@anissaharlow same, I was getting to anxious through the middle of the video because she wasn't standing on the lines
crazy for mis chinitas i knowwww same here lol
The guy who said “life is more than just me” broke my heart literally imagine how much empathy he has in his heart despite what he’s been thru :( luv him
we tend to have a lot of empathy, and it explains some people's suffering actually. love your comment x
You mean figuratively...
no i mean literally
Love you too 💕
Edgar Meraz omg it’s uuuu the “life is more than just me” omg 🤧🥺 I totally agree with this comment, ur amazing
The "I trust medical professionals" hit me cause a few months back when I attempted suicide and landed in a hospital a nurse told me I shouldn't have seeked out help (I said goodbye to a friend after swallowing a bottle of pills so she called an ambulance) and that if I wanted to die then why even bother (them), should've just done it.
It remains the most painful thing anyone has ever said to me.
signed, Jordan I know it’s going to sound silly, but please don’t let that get to you. They can be ruthless when I was a kid there were multiple occasions where I would call the ambulance for my mother and they would take hours to come and then when we get there they would tell me as a child that I shouldn’t have called and that they would rather be helping people who actually want to live. They would literally say that I should have left her if that’s what she wanted. I honestly believe that it is ignorance and a lack of understanding of mental health since their so used to dealing with physical issues and emergencies. I don’t usually speak about these things, but trust me I don’t truly think they know what they are saying and how much it actually hurts, it left me traumatized as a child hearing them say that. I try not to dwell on those negatives haven’t thought about it in heard and this just struck a cord and had to comment. Anyway wishing you well, stay strong❤️
@@megank3900 oh my gosh I didn't think someone else experienced something like that, everyone I see always has wonderful interactions with medical staff. I'm sorry this happened to you, sending love ❤️ Yeah I also think it's ignorance, I can just hope the situation changes for the better in the future
I'm sorry you went through that. If you have any of her information you should report that nurse. What she did is extremely unethical and is endangering the lives of patients. I'm sure it breaks the hospital's code of conduct. She should be fired and barred from practicing.
@@Trent_-jl8xt I don't even know her name, she walked up to my bed when I was being admitted, filling some form, I was half awake from the pills and she just started talking how I was just bothering everyone, basically that I should just decide and not first swallow pills then call for help. I can't report bc I have no evidence and they would easily disregard it seeing how I just took a bunch of pills. I wrote my story in opinions on google on that hospital and I keep getting notifs that a few thousand people saw it. So I guess that has to be enough to make peace with it.
I am so sorry, your comment is making me cry. You didn’t and don’t deserve that. I’m sorry.
When sparklle said that the doctor said she wasn’t thin enough I felt so bad.
*You don’t have to be thin to have an eating disorder*
Amy Searle unfortunately at one point the DSM had a having certain under weight BMI present as a criteria to be diagnosed
@@sarahlovesgaga6426 For a bulimia diagnoses or OSFED diagnosis, BMI is actually not part of the criteria to get diagnosed ❤ That was part of why it was such an uninformed thing to say, especially for a therapist! I agree that it shouldn't be part of the criteria for anorexia as well, though, which does currently list BMI as a criteria
I have an eating disorder and im a chubby chick so.....
BED (binge eating disorder) exists...
@@sparkllerainne4311 my therapist said the same thing...despite having told her i was underweight the previous 2 years...but the thing i dont get is that it starts when something bad happens and stops when im close to dying 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
“if i didn’t have my disorder, i wouldn’t be who i am, but i’m okay with that because life is more than just me”
very powerful statement
seven as a letter I agree
It shows a great ability to look outside himself and have consideration for the impact on others, but my heart broke for him because everyone has worth and his just seemed broken down, especially since he alluded to his family thinking he was "defective."
seven as a letter indeed
If what you have has hurt other people how do you live with who it made you.
I never buy the whole “it made me who I am” because if you had turned out differently, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’d be a worse person. There’s no one way someone needs turn out.
Most of the interviewees’ voices are trembling. That exactly how I would sounds like if I try to communicate my illness. It’s really not easy topic to talk about, I know how painful it is and I want to applaud them for being so brave. This video made me tear up, I wish I’m as brave as they are to face mine..
Hadiyah Asma Thank you 💕
agreed, i’d be struggling when thinking about the dark parts. i do just when i’m in my head, let alone telling people i’m close with. it’s a ton of pain
Edgar Meraz Hey its you!
Loved you in the video
I completely agree, if I was there I’d be bawling- even just thinking of my anxiety & depression makes my eyes tear up
I agree with you, a tear did form in my eye while watching this video and watching them talk about their illnesses. It makes me so heartbroken knowing others are dealing with what I have to deal with, I'm not alone and I shouldn't feel like it's a problem but I just wanted to share...
I remember once my mother finally bringing up my depression to my physician. Without even looking up, the doctor immediately waved it off and said to me, “You’re just being dramatic. Be more mature and you won’t have those episodes anymore.” My mother had never tried to be supportive of my mental illness until that moment, and the look of apology she gave me is one I’ll never forget. It took going to a therapist once I became an adult to finally get the diagnosis I knew I had.
That one of the reasons I refuse to ask, my doctors don’t listen anyways
I hate when people say those kind of things, you are so strong! thank u for sharing and I`m glad that at least your mom could support you, I wish you the best
Some people in the health/doctor business are only there for the money
SAME, she keep telling i am just acting like a kid and idk if i should keep going or :( bc my family don't believe in mental health, it was so hard to convince them to take me to one and now this happened
What is your diagnosis if you don't mind me asking?
When she said, “Some of us wake up everyday, wishing to god that they can put a smile on their face and it actually mean something.” That hit HARD.
Bruh. No one said life was easy. NO ONE. Even celebrities have depression. But only the weak will hurt themselves or QUIT life. The strong will fight through the problems.
They live in a first world country with clothes and food why aren't they grateful for that theyre entitled and feel a missing meaning to life without religion that tells us to feel grateful for every moment
@@great10toes40 exactly sir
@Kayte Prush it was a motivational quote not a statement
@Kayte Prush so? do you want me to call them strong? Oh so you're saying they aren't weak?
For everyone in the comments mad at Sparklle not standing on the lines: SHE HAS OCD. You don't know how uncomfortable actually standing on the lines may have been for her smh
Holy Butter this is there internet where people don’t do as they’re told...
That didn't bothered me as much as she keeps moving her hands so damn much 😡
Jennifer Robinson again... probably OCD... this video was meant to lessen the stigma but u’ve completely overseen that purpose and are bashing at her for hand movements?? Dude...
D3ViL。悪魔 if you don’t believe that these are people why are you watching? And how can you say that? Do you not believe that people can have these mental illnesses?
Thank you!!! 🙌
To everyone commenting about the woman with OCD standing in the middle of the lines, she commented that it made her anxious to stand on the lines and she didn't even notice she was in the middle.
Questions solved, go back to meming.
We've been addressed....thx tho....
One of the top comments said it, and she also replied on a few comments 😊
@@evidence7338 Yea, I've still seen some people who are saying "the woman not standing on the lines is pissing me off" and I just want to help with the clarification.
@@catrasauce it was before ppl responded ..
Her anxiety's also contributing to her doing it, and she didn't notice.
@@evidence7338 Stuff are being posted after others responded, please do not talk for the whole of youtube.
i wish people would understand that getting a diagnosis is a privilege because a lot of people (including me) don't have the money or opportunity to see a professional and get diagnosed
go cry about it
@Lemickey @lucy gomez - woooow you two are disgusting
@@lking8468 It´s not a human right. For starters, stop portraying yourself as a victim. That helps a lot
@@bitchracula3395 that's not expected from someone who have a thinking brain you're such a shame
it should be a human right! in our country its in our health care so i am really lucky
"I think that if I didn't have my disorder I wouldn't be who I am, and I'm okay with that, because life is more than just me"
Is no one else going to comment on this quote? I found it so interesting
A lot of people with autism/autistic people embody their diagnosis and wouldn't enjoy not having that piece of them that makes them unique. I guess it depends on the mental illness and the support the person has gotten around it.
the "because life is more than just me" part can mean so many things what do you think he meant with that? im kinda confused tbh
@@maju404 hes saying that he hates being that burden for everyone else as well. He doesnt like that his mental illness doesnt only affect him but his family as well because at a young age to get help u can't do anything, u have no money. If I didnt have this mental illness a ton of stress would've been lifted alone from others I know. That's what I'm understanding from it.
Inspire Wolf I totally agree, it’s so interesting and I think it’s true, totally true. I cried when he said that
@@xMushroomFairy well I think there are huge differences between disorders. Like I said, many people with autism would keep it even if offered the chance to get rid of it. People with OCD, anxiety, depression, antisocial personality disorder, borderline, etc mostly don't want those because of how significantly it affects their lives. Depends on the person.
The girl with glasses was so sweet actively listening and nodding
Protect this bean!
Her name is cool too. Sparklle I think is how it's spelled?
My heart broke when Edgar told about that is convincing his parents isnt defective, etc.. I would like to hug him. His voice was cracking.. and i totally get his speech as im going through the same.
Vicky Dionne mine too :(
Hang in there! We’re growing stronger by the day 💞 and you’re not alone
If that's how you feel your parents "perceive" you then those troglodytes you call human parents need to get lost...
My g hope u the best
teddy Field likewise ❕💞
when kimberly started stuttering i just felt my heart completely drop like you could tell she was holding back the urge to cry
The entire comment section is full of "Can you do -insert a video idea here-?" I miss the actual conversation there used to be down here.
exactly man
forreal! Whats the point of asking for a video if when you receive it you just comment on what you want next instead of discussing it?
Same
same!!
Yeah people are non appreciative & worried about what they want to see next. Let's be mindful and have a conversation about what this channel worked hard to create for us.
”Do all virgins think the same”
And obviously not people like in their early teens
I'd love to be part of this one but I live too far😭
@@erichkaufmann5284 Idk about u but i talked with my ex that if that would ever happeen it would be instant abortion or atleast adoption if she couldnt do abortion.
@@erichkaufmann5284 i hope you take care of your child and try to be there for them. All the best.
Дмитрий Лебедев whag was the point of this comment
MrZampo "Instant abortion" with no consideration for the life of the baby. 🤦🏻♂️
I started crying when they all moved to the “agree” side after the phrase of therapy and medication. I just recently decided to get help and this video made it easier.
Same,got the balls to call a therapist after 2 years of struggling. The appointment is on monday and I still dont feel ready but I won't survive without so there is no other solution
I wish you both all the luck!!
You can do it ❤️
i’m looking into getting some help and seeing that part of that video was really encouraging
Kylie Darnell for me it was the best thing i did
Poor Edgar man- you can tell he is trying his hardest to speak at the end :((
fr and he had so much to say but didn’t rlly talk for the whole video
I broke when I heard his voice break.. 💔
Had to watch his part in pieces💔
mhm :(
We need more of the hispanic guy with glasses in the back he has a story
Richard Telles I think he’s black not hispanic
@@skyhikari1310 He said he's a first generation Mexican American, if this comment is referring to the guy in the red.
Billy Eyelash no he is Mexican
All of you are wrong, he’s latino
@@babyyoda6567 hahahhaa Mexico is in Latin America, so he is mexican too
I'd love to see an episode with people on the autism spectrum.
yes! and even those who are non-verbal but capable of understanding the questions. like, we could have them write down their responses (:
Yes
autism is so misunderstood and is made fun of alot
I would love to see a bunch of acoustics as well
I would really like this, or one where there is a comparison between asd and adhd cuz theres so much overlap
I would volunteer to be on the show. I have aspergers syndrome
“It gave me an opportunity to be a voice for the voiceless” I HAVE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT THAT WAY
Silent Wanderer it has nothing to do with race.
@@giannapaga5753 really? Did you actually read what they said or did you just see "black" and have to say that 🙄
@Silent Wanderer completely agree
i like your comment but right now it's at 666 and I don't know if I should ruin it...
for the self diagnosing question, they need to consider the fact that getting a diagnosis from a professional is not possible for many people because of cost and accessibility. it is a priviledge to get diagnosed
yesss!!! I'm so glad you brought that up
thank you for saying this
thank you for this, this question really pissed me off. that one guy's answer felt really "gatekeep-y". not everyone has the mental, financial, or family approval to seek help or proper diagnosis.
@@elrunts exactly. i’ve had severe anxiety all my life and my parents refused to acknowledge or believe me. when i finally got a psychologist i had also developed depression from having untreated anxiety for so long. being diagnosed is such a privilege
@@kou4875 the problem is that in the modern day it became cool to have mental illnesses and too many people self diagnose themselves with disases they dont have, you know.
Even though every other person says they have depression, many of them dont and thats a fact.
i appreciate how much they all listened to each other however different their opinions were. a lot of times on these episodes people shut each other down or argue because they don’t share the same opinions, but that didn’t happen here. i think it’s because... mental illness is something that’s so personal and it both shapes AND IS shaped by our life experiences, so we’re more likely to hear each out and empathize with each other and accept that not everything is going to be the same for everyone. a lot of the time it creates more of that empathy inside of us that people without these experiences don’t have. thank you for making this episode.
It’s because a lot of us with mental health actually care about one or another.
I personally don’t like seeing people go through pain so I try to help
Yeah this was the 'nicest' episode I've seen in which i felt everyone was listening to each other and respectful and empathising and not one person constantly cutting accross others with their opinion
Honestly it sounds terrible to say but I usually prefer people who have gone through fucked up things over people who haven't. People who have lived good lives have a tendency to not take any struggle seriously and put it on laziness or exaggeration.
i feel like this was the most polite video of this series like wow no fights at all, everyone respecting each other’s turn to talk
A lot of my friends are mentally ill and I used to be too. I might still be, not sure to be honest. They're the best listeners and the wisest people I know
Because this was personal and it needs more deeper understanding and they have all experienced mental illness so they know the feeling...
The gang episode was wonderful as well! It was a Middle Ground video, but lots of solidarity and compassion between the men.
It’s because we need to be listened to and they all understood that
This video, teen moms, and suicide survivors. I think when people who share a deep struggle like these, they know what it's like to have feuds and they want to do what they can to avoid it. They also are generally more kind-spirited based off what they've been through
“Wishing to god they could put a smile on their face and actually mean something”
That’s the one
When was that?
silverfox 13:14
When Edgar was tearing up while speaking, you could hear how deep his pain is. Wish I could give him a hug. I hope things get better for him and everyone else
the girl with the tattoos and the guy in the red blazer, the tone and waver of the voice during the last question shot so much personal empathy through my heart
She reminds me of my depressive sister..
I mean through all those people I can understand my sister better which I am grateful for
@@luisehahn9969 I hope your sister gets better💓As a depression sufferer at times...it seems to flood my brain, even in seemingly happy moments
Komrad son thank you ❤️❤️
@@luisehahn9969 you're welcome! I just saw this ❤
Depression can often be smiles in the day and tears in the night
I found generally I had no tears until I tried to talk about it to someone
Super Noodles Me either!
Super Noodles true, same. I remember telling my guy friend, “I have depression.” Then I started to tear up and he hugged me for a long time
Agreeable
that's me!
“Let’s wear all black and not tell the boys”
Joy but Eric is wearing all black 🤔
@@jul-ut7sc not just plain black. He has on floral black.
jul2201 but the girls have on solid black/dark jeans
LMAO
Most people with mental illnesses are comfortable in black. Not sure why, that’s just an observation
I'd heard "Depression is for rich people" growing up. It was true tho, only rich people get diagnosed, healthcare is a joke.
That’s not true
@@cassandrawright5202 I don’t think the commenter actually believes this statement, but they’re saying that healthcare is so expensive (in the USA at least) that mostly people with higher income are able to get diagnosed. It’s different in some states though. I was able to get help because I’m a foster kid in California (idk how it is in other states for foster care,) but her point still stands for all the lower income people who don’t have any guidance on resources, or people who don’t have insurance. Also depends on guardians and their mindset (mindset in general I guess.). Of course their mental illness is still valid (it is hell going through mental illness undiagnosed) but I’m assuming her point is that healthcare needs to be readily available for everybody
@@mz9057 yes it does depend on your state. I’m currently low income but my gov insurance allows me to see a doctor and therapist and that’s how I received my diagnosis’s.
that’s not true at all. i’ve been diagnosed with mmd & social anxiety and i’m not rich at all. i’m lucky i got diagnosed, but not only/all rich ppl get diagnosed
@@ava7106 they were referring to a majority.
Kimberly talking about why she doesn’t wish she never had depression made me tear up ngl
I have major depression sometimes, and I disagree. It helps with my creativity.
i literally missed out on a good 5 years due to my depression. in a heartbeat I would take all the pain and trauma away from my life.
The thing is we are only talking from our current perspectives and our current experiences. Make the best out of a bad situation, but we can't assume we'd what a life without the illness would be like.
i know right :( my heart was breaking for her & edgar
VoidX depression didn’t make you creative lmao unless you mean by killing yourself then maybe but like talent wise... nah sis Depression don’t give you any benefits 😂
"without my disorder I wouldn't be who I am and I'm okay with that" rlly broke me. Sending u good vibes man
Yeah, it was so raw. When he said that 'life is more than just me', it was an interesting perspective because it's a very selfless way of thinking. Like he would get rid of his mental disorder not to rid himself of the burden, but to make it easier for the people who care about him. It's very sincere and I really hope he continues to stay strong.
The guy saying "having to figure out, in your 20's, if your life is worth it" that hit me. I felt it. I hate living everyday feeling like I don't know what the point of still living is.
Idk I find that rather than looking for a point it's looking for things that make it worthwhile, which is easier said than done, but still
Jayden keep on breathing! if you ever need a talk you can hit me up on instagram, it's ole.1410. I mean it you can rant or anything. Also, I agree with the person above me. It got much easier for me when I accepted that there isn't really a point and it's just about enjoying yourself and your lifetime.
something my therapist said that helped me was to focus on human connection. there are people out there who care about you, and connecting with them and getting to know other people, and letting them get to know you, is such a special thing about living
I'm in my 20s and have mental health struggles. Jesus fills the hole and gives me purpose and hope in this life and ultimately for salvation in the next. He is the way, through the hard times and the good. Keep on keeping on. God Bless.
I wondered every single day what my purpose for being alive is until the very first time I attempted suicide. I have "I love you" in my siblings handwriting tattooed on each of my wrists as a reminder of why my life is worth it. I have decided that my purpose in life is to just love those beside me with all that I have, to love freely and unconditionally. You will find yours. (-:
Sparklle is an angel that needs to be protected at all costs
Sparkle can't stand on the lines
@@averydavis1943 so?
This is a problem with the diagnostic manual not the clinician
@@averydavis1943 i was thinking this the whole time lmao
@@averydavis1943 sparklle has OCD. it may be due to that i have a friend who refuses to stand on any kind of crack or line.
“being in your 20s.. it’s not easy to question if your life is worth it” YES
i’yana tolliver hhhmkikm this actually made me break down 😭
The black guy was incredibly inspireing, "using his voice for the voiceless" and "spreading awareness on his community"... Not all heroes wear capes. Great video.
I mean, it's an overused bucket list comment. I cringed a bit because of how many times that one line has been mentioned.
It is overused... but depending on the place and circumstance, it makes a big difference and could potentially have a bigger impact.
they all said similar things
Omit the "E", but yes I AGREE
😂😂😂
Langston
As someone with anxiety and has panic attacks.. i would like to announce.. that I performed infront of my class in drama without having a panic attack or crying on Thursday.
Edit; THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of this support 💜💜💜 I don’t think I’ve ever received this much support on anything 😂😂so thank you I love you all 💜💜💜💜💜
Elle's Inspirations i’m proud of you 💛
Amazing job, as someone who has panic attacks and possibly anxiety this is amazing and it’s always good to run off stage and feel somewhat accomplished (for me at least)
Congratz🎊🎉
itskarimarima thank you im proud of you too with whatever you’ve done 💜
Lexi Xox thank you. Afterwards i did quickly run back to my seat 😂
Mental illness can be so horrible, but after 6 years of therapy i have asked a questiin infront of 100+ people during lecture and i didn't get any smyptom from my social anxiety. Three years ago i couldn't even breath infront of people. Today everyone's always confused when i mention i have social anxiety. I'm so proud of myself. I hope everyone here is doing Well! You can do it! Things are going to be better!
way to go!!! I'm so happy for you!
❤️
I have really bad mental health I’ve got, GAD, PTSD, autism, epilepsy, social anxiety, panic attacks and a bunch more. So life is really hard I can’t go out the door without having anxiety and I feel no one apart from my family can really understand what I’m going through and I feel like I’m all alone.
Yes yes yess❤️. That is amazing. Thank you for sharing.
I needed to read this 💛✨ thank you
Therapist: Tells a person with anorexia and bulimia that they're not thin enough
Damn...
exactly!!!!! that had me shook
Miguel Melo There is a weight component when diagnosing anorexia though. They have to be extremely underweight, but that doesn’t change the fact that even if they don’t meet that weight requirement they are still dealing with dangerous thoughts and behavior and shouldn’t be dismissed.
that’s why they introduced EDNOS, which is a condition in which you in fact have an eating disorders but don’t have all the symptoms required to be categorized as either anorexic or bulimic (sorry for my English, it is not my first language)
It's so sad that things like these happen! When I was at a really low point in my ED, I wanted to talk to someone, but always told myself that I need to lose some more weight before I can do that. I felt like I was not sick enough or that no one would actually believe me...
Yeah that the unfortunate reality with ED diagnoses
"I wish I didn't have my illness" - Would someone actually *wish* to _have_ it? If I could snap my fingers and get rid of them all, I would. In a heartbeat - no question about it. They are a part of me, and a result of/caused by the things that I've gone through, but they are not who I am. I don't need them to be me; and they do not add to my life, they take from it. Impede me. Who would want that? I sure as hell wouldn't.
I wouldn't tbh. I would be too scared that everyone would think that I was lying in the past and that I made them worry for no reason ect.
I think my depression and anxiety actually helps with my creative process. When you have something that you can't really fix, you use it as a tool instead.
I heard a youtuber with DID say, that she wouldnt be without it
@@aus-li that doesn't sound like depression
Marcia Osullivan What does it sound like? I put all my raw, depressing thoughts into works. You'd clearly see how messed up I am if you'd ever read my stories.
It makes me so sad to hear their voices quiver...
I'm a cashier and one day a woman with touret syndrome was my client. She left and the next client told me "you saw that ? I hope it wasn't Corona !"
Not enough education about mental illnesses in France :/
I have severe anxiety to the point where I'll shake/twitch when I'm anxious (especially in social situations) and I had a customer once ask if I had Parkinson's disease 😡 like, first of all, do you think that's an appropriate question in general? Second, what the fuck?
@@alliearrigo9246 😂
@@bradshaw036 how is that something to laugh about might I ask?
@@mikabugg funny
I thought tourettes wasn't a mental illness though?
This one would be a bit controversial, but maybe “do all people who have had an abortion think the same?”
I feel like the episodes would be about stuff most people don't think about. Like this one, it's hard to think about if it would. But when it comes to people who have abortions, or even guys who suffered through the abortion, you can kinda think about how some would be happy or fine with it, and some would be devastated. Y'know what I mean? But I could be wrong, it could be a good episode
There are so many different reasons people have abortions I think it would offend some of the participants like maybe those who had medical complications compared to people who just couldn’t afford a child mentally or economically I’m not saying one reason is more valid than the other just it’s such a broad situation it’s like saying do all people who receive food stamps think the same
I would love this video.
That’s a good one. Because I’ve seen a couple of people who had an abortion in the past (And their education/careergreatly benefited from it) but they are pro life.
I would love to see that.
"do all psychopaths/sociopaths (ASPD) think the same?" it would clear up a lot of misconceptions
Salsabeel oooh, I hope they do the same with NPD (my diagnosis). Would be great to have people with extremely stigmatized disorders. There are so many different types of narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths and their symptoms all manifest differently.
@@notfunny1410 exactly
That would be amazing!!!
Yes! This would be interesting
i’m working on a documentary about ASPD right now lol it’s funny you say that haha
“if I didn’t have my disorder I wouldn’t be who I am but I’m okay with that because life is more than just me” 11:58
Wow.
I know for myself I’d have all my issues gone in a heartbeat but it’s still moving in many ways to hear how others have suffered.
made me cry idk why
yes!!
💕 It means a lot to know that I’ve connected with so many. It wasn’t easy being in that video so this payoff is so grand.
@@killerrobots9 You seem like a great dude. As a bipolar/Manic depressant, many people don't understand my mood swings and aggression. It gets in the way of alot of relationships.
Edgar Meraz you broke my heart when you started tearing up.I hope we find peace one day 💜
the self diagnosing question made me so mad! yes i definitely agree that self diagnosing can be extremely harmful to yourself and cause you to not get the proper care you need, but a lot of people don’t have access to free health care! and so when they notice something is wrong with them they can’t get the help they need and end up self diagnosing to try and figure out what is wrong with them and deal with it on there own.
YES!!!
I am not diagnosed because people scare me and I dont like talking about it but I know that I do have depression and an eating disorder I definetly think that some things dont need to me diagnosed like yes I am sure after Self Harming and starving myself for months that I have depression and an eating disorder lol
@@vanyacheney2229 oh my gawd, i was legitimately about to right the EXACT same paragraph, like it’s freaky how much i would have written word for word of what u put. i’m not kidding our stories line up exactly... btw i’m 13, idk about u?
@@working.k9.clover im 15 lol thats funny hope your ok lol
@@vanyacheney2229 mhm, hope ur ok too, and i’m not doing very well today but i’m gonna try and contact a friend about it so ya anyways stay safe!
“Do all homeless people think the same?”
Hope you're joking
Chino Scars that would actually be a good conversation.
That might be better done with people who were homeless but currently have stable shelter
no.
So bring them in for a video and then say goodbye?
"You are not thin enough?" I can't believe someone said that. But my daughter went to a therapist, who told her, that she was too pretty to be depressed.
huh?!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u cant be real.
karend169 it’s actually a criteria in the DSM to diagnose anorexia nervosa that the individual must have a low BMI. I definitely don’t agree with it though there should just be evidence of a weight loss in general
Grace S i don’t think it should even be weight loss that determines whether you get a diagnosis or not, drastically unhealthy eating habits should be enough of an indicator imo
@@tamtamr9081 Who me? It is true. Unfortunately, my daughter went to this woman for a summer, and didn't tell us about this, until summer was over. Part of the disease.
@@tamtamr9081 Yes, it is real. I hope they show you my longer answer
id love to see a "do all people who self harm think the same"
i'm 19 now and i've struggled with self harm since the age of 10. it really makes me happy to see how much mental health has been addressed in the media in recent years, but it seems like self harm is still something that people prefer to turn a blind eye too. it makes outsiders so uncomfortable which causes those who suffer from it to feel intense shame. my legs are so horribly scarred everybody can tell i struggle with self harm just by lookin at me, but it's something people are far too uncomfortable to mention or ask about. some of my closer friends and family have asked me before why i never talk about it when it is such a huge part of my physical appearance, and i think it's because it's so "hush hush" in the media and public eye. i would love to see a channel like Jubilee shine some light on this issue. i'd love to one day live in a world where people don't even think twice about it when they see the scars on my legs.
I understand where you're coming from, to both of you. Personally I'm somewhere in between--I've gotten more comfortable showing my arms and legs (mostly arms) in public, but that took quite a while because I was so afraid of people noticing and subsequently judging. It has probably happened, but thankfully no one has mentioned it in a negative way; the only person outside of my family and therapist who has brought it up was a teacher worried about my well being, which I appreciated on the one hand, but it did make me very uncomfortable. I'm sure there will be times in my life where I have to answer questions, or brush off judgments, but my way of coping with the anxiety is to try to stop being so obviously afraid of showing my scars. My scars are quite pale nowadays, so I do realise it gets a lot harder when the scars are fresh. At the end of the day, my scars are a part of me and I've grown to accept them without shame for the most part: can't guarantee on my worst days I won't be anxious over them, especially if they are new additions.
Ultimately, it really does help to have a safe person to open up to. If my loved ones had have judged me for it (especially at the beginning), it would have taken me a lot longer to accept them and other people potentially seeing them.
yes i would really like to see that video be made
lyndsay Yeah I totally agree with you! I also struggled with self harming in the past and sometimes I feel really left out because nobody ever talks about it. That would be such an important video for me personally.
I, myself punsch me sometimes and that's visible in the summer with short clothing. But If i see that somebody has harmed himself i won't ask exept we were close friends.
I just accept it like it is, if I can't see too much.
I just feel like, it would be like going to a stranger or person you don't know well and asking him if he got nightmares every night and what they are about.
Bit I would mention it like "Are you sure that you can go swimming? These scars look like they could get worse."
Yes! As someone who’s dealt with self harm for four years I’d also love to see this.
2:04 - 2:17 OCD is so underestimated, the fact that Sparkle could’ve died without treatment is a reason why it should be taken more seriously. I feel for her 😢😰
Yessss
“Do all people with ADHD think the same?”
THIS
I have ADHD
@@dahlia4144 Same
Would love to see this.
I have it too and I would love to see this!
I wish they’d have asked “do you find it offensive when when the term ‘crazy’ is used”?
Kathryn94 I don’t know if it helps but I deal with anxiety and bipolar disorder and I find it offensive, same with the term ‘broken’
Yes the word crazy is very offensive. I’m no longer depressed. But I had post pardum for 3 years. That word definitely would trigger. But at the time of the depression you are raw with emotions. Anything can trigger.
Calling someone insane or crazy for having mental illness is just as ridiculous as telling someone they have terminal illness for having a fever.
No. Having OCD doesn't make me a crazy person. That's why its called disorder.
I don't find it offensive at all, but some people do, so be careful with that.
my sister calls me problematic and crazy almost everyday because of my anxieties, misophonia and eating disorder. It's a trigger for me and I continuously tell her I don't like it, but she still does it because it's a joke for her
6:02 "I told my therapist I think I have an eating disorder but she said I'm not thin enough, it's not a problem until I get thinner" This pisses me off so much.
She could've just as well said "Go home and get thinner, girl" 🙈
"If I didn't have my disorder I wouldn't be who I am and I'm ok with that because life is more than just me". Man, that's heavy, but also beautiful I think. I am SO impressed that all of you guys are willing to share so much in this video. You really are making the world a better place, and I believe you help others be brave about these kinds of things. Loved this video so much.
When he said that, I teared up. What a beautiful person. I hope his family sees how wonderfully empathetic he is. Despite his pain and trouble, he’s only concerned for their pain.
I hope that "professional" that told Sparklle she didn't have an eating disorder because she wasn't thin enough has lost her license.
foreverandayear technically speaking a therapist can’t diagnose you with an eating disorder unless your bmi subpasses a certain point but she still could and should have offered support
While it’s a horrible thing to say, it may have been a miscommunication. Technically in order to be diagnosed with anorexia nerviosa there needs to be significant low weight (DSM-V). If that aspect is not present, an individual can definitely still be diagnosed with an eating disorder, but not anorexia nerviosa. This may have been where a comment like “you’re not thin enough” may have come from, but that doesn’t excuse that that’s a really reckless and ignorant thing to say to someone who may have an ED
@@freddi1404 yaa i was just about to say, they cant diagnose everyone with eating disorders who throw up a lot unless almost everyone would have an eating disorder; it would have to get so bad that you lose a lot of weight; but i thinks thats a fault system because the person would be a;ready too far gone to properly heal and recover from ti
@@freddi1404 This is not true. Sparklle was talking about purging, which is a typical bulimia habit. In order to be diagnosed with bulimia, you can be at any weight. The decisive factors are how long and how often you've been bingeing and purging, whether you think about food and related issues more than a normal person and stuff like that. Being underweight does not have anything to do with that, bulimic people can have any weight.
peaceblossom8 Exactly
I love the fact everyone is different yet similar
As a person with an anxiety disorder, when I was diagnosed by a doctor, i felt a sense of relief because I finally had the answer to why I felt the way I felt.
I have PTSD and for 3 years they told me it was depression anxiety and ADD. The medication they put me on to treat those things put me in the hospital and almost killed me. I knew they weren't treating the right things but they wouldn't listen to me. (I've been officially diagnosed now)
some answers, let us feel peace, because you know that it is a thing, it has treatment, there IS a way.. you don't feel so lost about your own emotions
Same, have Tourettes
*much earlier on
Same. I have been suffering from depression for 13 years now, because of severe bullying. I have been constantly told by peers that maybe I was convincing myself of it for attention. It really made me feel insane and as if my suffering wasn't valid or real. I've been in therapy for over a year now and it's changing my life.
PTSD
Severe anxiety
Severe depression
And borderline personality disorder.
I can say from someone who's been fighting with mental health problems that it takes alot of courage to be able to stand up and talk to the world about what's going on in your head and thank you.
I have all of those also. Plus intermittent explosive disorder.
Everyones saying "i wouldn't be stronger or who i am today without my mental illness" but am I the only one who would 10000% get rid of their own mental illnesses if they had the chance? It's made many of my days unbearable and I don't think ill be looking back at my 20s as fondly as I should be because of it. I don't remember the last time i felt genuinely happy or without any sort of a dark cloud over my head. I can't appreciate the present because I'm always busy hoping the future will be a lot better. A lot of the reasons I cant enjoy life are because of my mental illnesses, i dont care if its "shaped me" in what ever way. Even being in therapy, I feel like I wont ever get better.
i would too, its my biggest wish in life. i dont think my mental illnesses have affected who i am that much, i would still be kind, still be funny, creative, loving, understanding. i dont think i have those attributes because of my mental illness. i dont even care if i cant get rid of the memories of my trauma and what i have went through, if you could just take away my struggles right now in life i would be so happy
예미나dopamineh exactly. I feel like my good traits would be improved because I’d be able to showcase them more without feeling gloomy.
Yeah i completely agree with you, I'm 13 and iv been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I don't think I'll ever look back and think it made me strong becuase all its done is negative. I can't experience things other 13 year olds can heck I can't even go into a shop or out my house without having a panic attack or mental breakdown. It's not fun and it doesn't make me strong what so ever. All it's doing is taking away my childhood I guess.
I think people can actually think that when things are better, when the treatment is going well, when they healed. I remember year ago when i was struggling and when it was really hard that I used to think why me or I wish this would dissapear but when I started to get better I realized how much I've grown, things I didn't realize before about people, the world and myself. Things to improve in myself etc. Is not like thank God I went through this but like hey this teached me things and I know I'm stronger now, that took part on who I am today .
the whole “i wouldn’t wish my mental illness away” ideal is definitely something that comes with recovery and time. no one in the thick of it is going to feel that way.
It broke my heart hearing all of those people who tried to hold back tears and hearing their voice crack while they were speaking 💔 I wanted to hug them all
mine cracked too and i wasn't even speaking., my uncle has schizophrenia, it is haaaard to deal with his condition. most of immediate relatives have gone to therapy because of the burden of his illness.
Can you do “Do All People with Abusive Parents Think the Same?”
Oh yes
Thats dark asf
Yes.
YES
Yes!
When people found out I Had depression they where like "You dont look depressed you are always smiling" I was "My bags under my Eyes beg to differ" (Bc Insomnia is a heavy thing on me that comes bc of my depression)
Sad enought my Family said "You have no reason to be depressed"
Honestly same my mom always says that she feels like she failed me because of my depression and my social anxiety. That just makes me feel worse. And it feels like I let her down. 😭
@@me-yeahcar-oh8668 I feel you my dude, she will say "I feel like Im a Bad mother" or "Im sorry I cant understand I, I was raised in other times" and is like "Gee... Thanks I guess.."
I feel so bad :( My mom is a child psychologist so she usually recognizes things like that with me.
@@kaidouhottopicgiftcard I have 2 Friends that have also their mothers as Psycologist and they are both (their mothers) really Fast to pick up sings in their mood, Altough one is a bit more harsh, the Other is really open to talk with my friend about whats bothering her.
Mine likes to avoid the talk, she will ask how I am only when I just cant hold it together anymore, Uses some Gaslighting, Emotional manipulation, everytime something bad Happens is my fault, and even turned tables during 3 Emotional Breakdowns making me look like a bad Daughter.
So I was always envious about kids with caring Psicologist parents UnU
When my father found out I had suicidal ideation, one of the first thing he said to my mum was "but she was joking with us".
Who is going to explain to him that I joke to not think about my problems?
Please make "do all autistic people think the same" it would be perfect cause this show is called "Spectrum"
I wish I were there I would so be down to do it 😂
@@FTROOLtheband same
dicedliver THIS
Yeeeeees
@@FTROOLtheband same!
When Edgar said “life is more than just me” I felt that. I’m not Hispanic but I come from a similar culture that focuses a lot on the family, on a community. And sometimes it’s really hard to show your own vulnerabilities when it’s not just tied to you- but to your whole family/tribe. This was a great video thank you.
On the “I wish I didn’t have my illness” one I immediately started finishing Edgar’s sentence and crying with him I know exactly how it feels and I felt every word he said wholeheartedly and my heart breaks that there’s others that have to contemplate whether their life is worth it so young because of the illness we have and the affects our illness have on ours and everyone else’s lives around us when he said “now that I’m convincing my parents that I wasn’t just making it up” “they still have to deal with me” “ being in your 20s and to question if your life is worth living” and “if I didn’t have my disorder/illness I wouldn’t be who I am today and I’m okay with that” broke my heart and I started bawling because everyone always talks about how everything they’ve been through makes them stronger and they wouldn’t change it for the world but they are who they are because of what they’ve been through I’ve never heard anyone out loud besides my own thoughts feel or say those things and I’m so sorry and I want to just give him a long hug and tell him he’s not alone and I truly understand him!😩🥺💔❤️
I get where they're coming from but I think it might be conjecture in order for people to feel better about themselves. It's important to make the best out of a bad thing and recognise the genuinely valuable insights you might have gained, but when people have suffered so much because of mental illness I think there is an aspect of denial surrounding that sort of question. We can't assume that we would live a less fulfilled life without mental illness by using the perspectives gained in a life with mental illness, but we can assume that we'd suffer less.
Thank you for hearing me out 💕
I’m not an expert on the subject but I can truly say that the things I put out in this video are true to the best of my ability. It’s far from a conjecture. This opinion formulated during my darkest times. I believe that the aftermath of my suicidal ideation led to this alternative ideology rather than ending my life. We came on this platform to tell our story and I know mine is not as positive. I do feel we can assume a better life when we get rid of mental illness. This whole situation reminds me of when people say “some need to be poor in order for others to be rich.” Mental illness is a disease that impedes. There is a ‘disabilities’ under my name that I don’t consider as a mental illness but rather a difference in ability. So to go back to the question, I think my answers were conclusive and based on critical thought. And believe me, we’ve asked ourselves that question countless times. That’s why so many people are able to relate without feeling like any of us are taking precedence.
@@killerrobots9Mental illness suppresses the person. I don't think we just glamorise it my treating is as solely a 'difference' in ability. Certainly, I would not describe a person with a mental illness as 'deficient', but I have seen the harmful effects it has on everyone. The question is not so much getting rid of mental illness, but never experiencing it. My point is that although we may value the insights in our lives with mental illness, we certainly can't assume we'd miss them in another, making the aspects of a happier and healthier life ever more important. Mental illness is complex, aggravated by a mix of genetic and environmental factors. One part of the story is how our modern lives affect our mental health. Let's accept our problems, but we should not be complacent. Fight the causes and fight the dangerous symptoms.
Don't attempt to normalise it as some sort of social trade, or something you put in your bio as a sign of being 'different'. I'm not sure what you're trying to get at. Of course I value the insights as they pertain to my current self, but why would that supersede a healthier, happier and more functional life?
The guy with the shorts is telling people not to be negative when some are solely sharing how they feel. That angered me. Not everyone is positive about their mental illness because it has robbed them from so many things. I’m glad some feel positive and are coping well but he shouldn’t insert himself on how others feel.
The pain in their voices during the last question made tear up. Mental illness takes all you have. You are all strong, capable and resilient ❤
🌻 “DO ALL INTROVERTS THINK THE SAME?” 🌻
I think there’s still a stigma that all introverts are antisocial and that they only like being alone... it’s so not true in my opinion and it would be very interesting to see how these people think differently about the topic.
also thank you Jubilee for making these kinds of videos. it’s always difficult to question certain things and have conversations about issues that are considered “taboo” but it is SO important and the world really needs to have more of these❤️
I would love to see that❤❤❤
I would love to see this too! Everyone thinks introverts hate talking to people ever and are shy and are bookworms, but introverts can be friendly and do other things like watch movies, play video games, etc. Literally an introvert is just someone who needs alone time to recharge, but somehow it's turned into something more. So I'd love to see a video on this!
or the introverts and extroverts common ground thing
So apparently, there may be 4 types of introverts; social, thinking, restrained and anxious.
As a social and thinking introvert, I likely won't have the same experience as an anxious one. I'm an introvert but also very solitary, so I require tremendous down/alone time, perhaps more than you, OP?
All introverts aren't shy, that much is worth saying! Most of us are quiet and reserved, but that's because our inner life is so rich, and we also very much loosen up with close friends.
It'd definitely be interesting to have an introvert episode, thanks for suggesting it!
PLEASE!! WE NEED TNIS VIDEO
As many have said before, "You are more than your diagnosis."
Living with any disability can be hard, but the mental strain that mental illnesses put on people can make it seem that their illness is all that there is to them. I know I have felt that before. I just want others to know that their mental illnesses isn't all of who you are. Just like the one man mentioned his husband, family, and chihuahuas. Mental illness is very hard to deal with, but there is so much more than that to who someone is.
coryxvids tbh I hate having my disorders but if they suddenly disappeared I think I wouldn't know who I was..
I think it varies from person to person. My depression and anxiety have negatively affected my life so much that I would pay to to get rid of them. It's ruined relationships and friendships because they don't understand how my depression works, and they get offended when I become distant. My anxiety is almost debilitating at times. I've passed up on opportunities because of it. If I had the choice to get rid of my mental health issues, I definitely would in a heartbeat.
Thank you.I needed this ❤️
@@antoinettemur I really felt those words !!
7 detectives trying to figure out the mole.But there is no mole.
Lmaooo yesss
This would be perfect
me trying to find comments relating to the video and not just video suggestions: its not even the right series
Today I was in a good mood all day. I woke up smiling. These kinds of days are so rare for me that whenever I even have some moments where I genuinely enjoy my life it means something.
I hope that your having a good life and if not I wish you the best of luck and things we’ll get better eventually
I feel the guy in the red cardigan so much. We are not defective. Maybe one day my parents will understand that hyperventilating crying isn't me just being dramatic. Maybe they'll understand that just because I don't have money issues, I can still find things difficult. They don't see the hearts we have and it's sad for everyone in the situation.
Leyla Picou Leyla Picou Thank you 💕 Its hard for anyone to understand, undergo and explain the conditions. I found myself constantly in a dialectic as I opened up to my family but ultimately the biggest communication barriers were within myself. As I obsessed over my impression I began to compulsively elicit overexcited vocalization behaviors.
You’re right. We are not defective! And explaining this to the world should always be and feel like an option. Sometimes you gotta write it down so you can have a reminder. Whatever it takes. :)
@@killerrobots9 we're growing and getting better everyday. Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us 💕
"Do all Rich people think the same" that would be interesting to see especially seeing how most people aspire to be rich. Did they change because of money or are they still the same.
Seeing how perspectives change according to where that money has come from would also be interesting. Like would lottery winners, self-made millionaires and people with familial wealth have the same opinions
@@managersejinstan1523 That would make a good Middle Ground episode "self made vs generational wealth" or however it's phrased but point remaining though.
Do Rich people vs poor people think alike?
Anna Volp I think a video similar to that was made already
Yes! I came across money in a different way, so I’d love to be there.
I got it based on how severe my disability is from a car accident, so really each dollar made me more humble as each dollar represented trauma and how much my quality of life changed.
I was hoping there would be someone with a social anxiety disorder because that’s what I have. I guess they were too afraid to leave the house Lol
Api lol I swear 😩
I have social anxiety and I would never be able to do this 😥
Same
😂😂
Alyssa Doiron 🤨
I wish I could hug all of them. My girl with ocd is so cute for letting them know they are heard with nods
i suffer with mental illness and my heart genuinely goes out to everyone in this video, and everyone struggling in general. you're meant to be here. you have a purpose.
Julia Haddon thank you
Edgar tearing up on the last question hit really hard...
To Edgar, and anyone who may need to hear this: YOU ARE WORTH IT. You are absolutely worth it. Don't ever think otherwise.
I would really love an episode on ADHD!! There’s so much misinformation about it and it goes severely under diagnosed, especially in women/AFAB.
i agree! i was pretty shocked that adhd wasn’t included in this video
@@mommybloggerlila adhd isn’t considered a mental illness, is why! what we have is considered a condition/disorder :)
I agree as well! I got diagnosed recently and would like to see an episode of it. Also it would be interesting if they made one of autism and/or neurodivergent people
ADHD has alot of misinformation linked to it. The fact that people don't understand our condition even though it's commonly diagnosed, is astonishing
I was diagnosed with GAD when I was 9. When I was 14 I was diagnosed again with ADD because I couldn't concentrate in school. Later on I was diagnosed with OCD, and then rediagnosed from ADD to bipolar disorder. At 17 things were so bad at home that I tried to jump before a train, but I was stopped and forced into a cab that drove me to the psychiatric emergency where I was hospitalized and for the first time in my life I got the right medication, an antipsychotic substance. I had refused earlier on to take any kind of medication because of my father's substance abuse, which made me stuck in a lot of psychotic and manic episodes. I didn't stay on medication for long but it did bring me out of my rock bottom state. As I had gone through it I more or less forced myself to believe I could have the life I didn't think I could have. I definitely didn't believe I could get better but I forced myself to think I could until I had convinced myself. It took me 6 months to get better and I'm still learning to trust people. But as I got better and my doctors saw me living a normal life without drugs and almost no therapy, I understood for the first time that there was nothing "wrong" with me. I had it explained to me that my parents did not raise me well and I understood that I had not gotten the attention or love a child needs. My mother used to work night shifts when I was a kid so I was basically raised by my alcoholic father. I almost didn't make it through school. But at 18 I opened up to my extended family and my friends and thanks to them I got the support and love I needed to be able to distance myself from my parents. To forgive and maybe in a sense even understand them.
I didn't go a day without having panic attacks or throw tantrums, for three years. I had GAD for 8 years. Now I am 20 and I have only had 3 panic attacks during the past two years. My anger and GAD is gone and my doctors have declared me free from those illnesses. If you had told me at 16 that I would be alive today, studying biomolecular science, following my dreams, I definitely would not have believed you.
But I am and I do and honestly, I'm genuinely happy for the first time in 10 years.
Thank you.
I'm very happy for you and hope that you will continue to have more happiness throughout your life.
I’m happy for you!!! 💕
Write a book about it!
This made me shiver
“Do all therapist think the same”
lilyroxs06 🔥🔥
Yassss
yessss
Yes Langston, be the black voice for our brothers and sisters who are too scared of judgement or stigma to feel free to talk!
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As someone who just recently got diagnosed with anorexia, bipolar, and anxiety this has helped me feel a little more understood and less alone. This was so refreshing and honestly the most heartfelt video on this channel and i just love this so much. Thank you
6:15 “you’re not thin enough” EXCUSE ME ????? where tf did she get her diploma from??
alex natalizia technically you cannot be diagnosed with anorexia with a normal or overweight BMI. However, the total dismissal is disgusting
Jamie Hobbs-Mallyon its the same with me in my country. They only treat the severe cases. I am underweight but not severely 🙃
@@spicy_lacroix luckily, that was changed recently and now being underweight is no longer a requirement for the diagnosis.
shellyloonatic wait really? i major in psychology in uni in germany and we were taught the bmi is still needed to be below a certain point so an eating disorder can be diagnosed
shellyloonatic for EDNOS it is not, but for anorexia I think it still is
this is so pure :( people need to stop romanticizing mental illnesses. i cant imagine the pain these people face daily.
Yeah, most of us have a hard time even leaving the house. Mental illness really isolates you. I might fail my school year because I have to leave half of my classes because of my panic episodes(I also faint). It's really hard and it sucks when people romanticize it
@@kassie9516 I feel you I sometimes have high panic where I can't even leave the house for class
@@rinopotata6005 I'm sorry I know it's hard. I hope it will get better ❤
@@kassie9516 thanks for sharing, this is relatable for me. I recently left school to pursue treatment for my illnesses and I just wanted to reach out and say that if you have to leave school for treatment, it is worth it. The decision to prioritize your mental health is a very good long-term decision. Best of luck on your journey.
@@Channel123456789100 thank you. I would love to be able to do that but unfortunately my parents won't let me. We talk and argue a lot about it and they said I need To finish my school year, that treatment can wait. However, they did let me have a service dog so it's not that bad because she really helps.
11:11 why am I crying? that "deal with me" and "question if your life is worth it" hit soo hard
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Marco Sgaggero I just want to hug him so badly.
"I will shake someone's hand sometimes and be like, yeah, I have OCD"
And then there's me who has OCD and gets anxiety from thinking about touching someone else's hand.
"I wish I didn't have my illness"? All the time! Sure, it's made me who I am today or whatever, but it's such a struggle to continue to live with it forever.... and it's taken away SO MUCH from my life, YEARS that I will never get back. So hell yes I'd wish to not have it.
I thought the same thing. I wish I could erase my illness and the time and opportunities that I lost to it.
I agree!
Same
11:30 I've never felt more physically compelled to give someone a hug than at that moment his voice cracked
Agreed
imagine being named Sparklle!! that is such a cool name. i would love that
and crystal too!