12 going on 21: The End of the Tween Era
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changing my name to film tamales
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You need to try tamales dulces though, they will change your world.
Maybe we're all just hungry and need some tamales
im waiting
The new Netflix and chill is film and tamales
Society makes it seem like that 12-17 is the peak age of attractiveness and that 20/30 is already old LIKE WTF- 😭
No society doesnt think that, nobody thinks that outside of TikTok.
Like you get the age of majority, the majority of people, are above the age of 21 right?
@@dylankennedy4539 you do realize that has been pre existing with apps like amino, tumblr and more when I was younger online I thought the perfect age for looks and attractiveness was the age 16.
@@dylankennedy4539 thats not what the age of majority means but yes
@@dylankennedy4539 exactly
“I’m just sexually liberated” no baby you’re being taken advantage of…
😵😵😵
Speak on it
You need a microphone because people can't hear you.
Yep, very much so
THIS
Glad that I had a 'cringe phase' in my life like a normal child.
I’m still going through the cringe phase💪
can't believe i'm saying this but i'll be in my 20s starting this year but still cringe with the stuff i did like 1 year ago? and I don't think it'll be ending any soon😭
@@Benmemon same
Yesss!!! Everyone one is cringe at 12-17. If you don't, there is something wrong with you. Lmao
In the normal way
So glad that i was cringe and wwird in a good/better way
I’m 14 and get made fun of because I still collect, play with, accessorize, and dress Monster High and Ever After High dolls, I’m literally in the demographic.
Girl it’s okayyyy . The rest of them are miserable and unhappy . do you babes
I love monster high and ever after high dolls. I was forced to store some away to make room :( and I'm sad they canceled eah
@@Iamthelizardqueenddaddy Girl I still play with them and I’m about to turn 17 😂. I treasure the little parts about my childhood .
Mamas I’m 26 and I still collect my Bratz, My Scene Dolls, Barbie Dolls and etc. You name it. What you do at home, That’s nobody’s business! DO YOU! 💅🏼
Y’all I’m doing great I literally have doll account on TikTok with almost 5k followers, I’m living the dream
the split between early gen z and late gen z is so significant that they're both like their own generations imo.
Hell yeah
Im glad its not just me
I feel that way too. I'm slightly too young for Millenials and too old for Gen Z. I think one key difference is also the AGE at which we were able to bathe in Internet with almost no restriction. If you're around my age, that was already when i began proper adolescence. So i think we did not grow up with the Internet in the same sense Gen Z has.
100% late gen z are extremely different
Exactly, I feel so separated from the teens of today.
The idea tiktok has promoted that 22 year olds are OLD is so toxic. We shouldn't be made to feel like we peaked in attractiveness at 16-19 years old
I'm 19 and I've never been on TikTok, but that's super shocking to hear.
@@Casxa well, good to know it's isolated to tiktok then
@@marzybarx I'm not on any other social media either cuz I'm trying to avoid that kind of toxicity so I'm probably not the best judge here 😂 I feel like if I was born a few years later I would definitely be on the train of Tiktok and such
I feel like I’m too old for TikTok (I’m 32 and it’s targeted for teens) but I feel that in my 30’s I’m at my most attractive and I feel more alive and younger now than I did in my teens.
I'm 16 and I feel like Im in the ugliest stage of my life. Like how do you not get eye bags when staying up till 2 am?
I’ll never forget this one comment I had seen of a woman telling the story of when she was wearing club clothes for her 30th birthday and somebody telling her she’s too old for a halter top and a mini skirt. She talked about how it was such a weird thing to hear because why is it more appropriate for a teenager to wear what she was wearing as a grown woman? The standard of beauty for women being youth is astoundingly disgusting
SUCH A GOOD POINT!
We should talk more about this.
It makes more sense to showcase your body as a mature woman
Hardcore I'm 26 and when I wanted a new pair of shorts, like a cute short pair that makes my butt look good... I went to the teens section of the store because the women's section didn't have anything like that! If you want short shorts you've gotta be a teen?? It really weirded me out that all the sexy and revealing/tight clothing isnt in the women's section it's in the teens
They don’t mean children should wear revealing clothes they mean like late teens/early 20s is when you should be wearing shit like that, after a certain age if you wear that type of stuff it just looks like you’re tryna be young.
@@iiii12345 “it just looks like you’re tryna be young”
I think you proved the issue with the whole thing by that sentence alone. Did you ever think about why people say revealing clothing is for the youth, and get weirded out by “older people” wearing the same thing? It’s because youth is sexualized, especially for women, and anyone above the ages of 25-28 is seen as decrepit waste already. The beauty standards - for women especially- is pedophilic, which should never be seen as sexy. A mature body wearing revealing clothing should be considered the norm for being sexy far more than minors wearing the same thing.
And you may read this reply and think I’m trying to police younger women, I’m not. The issue is a societal problem, in which “beauty” should not automatically mean “youth”. Policing ANYONE’S body won’t solve that problem the way society thinks it would. This will be a difficult issue to tackle, but not one that should be ignored.
im 16 and some classmates made fun of me for spending time with my mom saying i don't have a life 💀
Bro don’t listen to them-they probably scroll mindlessly in TikTok all day.
@@ceres.77 they re so stupid
they're gonna be crying when their momma dies bro💀 THEY ARE mad weird
I spend time with my mom I’m 14 and I feel pressured to act and look older I genuinely notice I’m treated differently and laughed at by other girls who are more older mature looking with there clothes and makeup and grown “look” im not immature looking but I definitely don’t go out of my way to cake myself up to look like an “insta baddie” I’m jus normal
girl i’m seventeen and i love going out with my mom 🤝
Kids can’t be sexually liberated because they aren’t sexually oppressed but media makes kids feel as if they are and it’s gross
Well, the media does have predators in it and predators like jeffrey Epstein are trying to normalize it
This is an amazing quote
@@giannamason9848 It's not just the men. Radical feminists do it, too. Look at the Big Mouth, fancy red bra scenes, where Jessie actually gets her mom to buy her the bra... It's so not just the men enjoying being the issue, it's also women making mountains out of mole hills.
@@antithoughtpolice7497 yes, exactly there’s women predators
@@giannamason9848 What's worse/weirder is they aren't doing it specifically because they're p3dos, they're doing it because they think "0ppression" begins at a young age...
It’s so ironic how Jojo Siwa is seen as a child even though she is more mature than Bhad Bhabie will ever be.
Agreed
If you can't say something nice without simultaneously bashing someone else, don't say the nice thing either tbh. Danielle would need some really strong support to get outside of this groomed mindset and yes, we should criticize her for actively being a part of the problem but also... How can you blame a victim of grooming for her choices? She has her whole formative years to deprogramm from. All I'm trying to say is pls don't bash a young girl for being preyed upon and giving in
@@kam-lw4ez i got confused and thought you were talking about Danielle Cohn for a moment, but then realized they got the same names
Antway you're right
i feel for danielle tho bc her childhood must have been fucked up beyond belief, what w her own mother broadcasting her trauma on dr phil, having the entire internet mock her, all the abuse at turnabout... i wouldn't be surprised if she was pressured to grow up really quickly.
@@bora3859 I think it was mentioned that she was hanging out with older guys when she was still a young teenager. Thats a really messed up situation. Her parents definitely failed her.
as a 14-year-old, I feel so immature compared to my classmates. besides Pinterest and youtube, I don't have social media, I spend my weekends with my mum and sometimes pretend to be a mermaid when I go swimming. my SEVEN-year-old brother has TikTok and shames women, mainly my little sister and calls her fat. Whenever I call him out my parents say that he's just a kid and doesn't know what he's saying. makes me so mad.
a SEVEN YEAR OLD shaming women??? omg what is happening to this generation :(
You're not immature, don't be ashamed to be yourself because of cringe culture & this ideal that you need to be sexually liberated.. im 19 and i still play episode, and binge watch the dolan twins hahah.. you're perfectly fine, don't let the media and these people tell you otherwise!
you are not immature, you are normal for your age. Its your classmates who are abnormal
@@oncewithtwice lmfao and parents dont do.. anything?? X_X
You need better parents. A 7 year old does not need social media. He should be playing with play dough or something. I’m guessing he adopted his misogyny by watching podcasters or influencers who exploit the naivety of insecurities of young boys and sell misogyny as a solution to this. This will incredibly negatively affect him in the long run.
I'm 13 and I just realized how fast my friends are growing. One of them just turned 10 and wears crop tops, does makeup, and is all in Tiktok. Another one is 13 and is practically an adult now. Someone told me I'm 13 and I act like a 10 year old. I guess having fun and being happy is too childish now.
Yes… im witnessing my 13 yo cousins already posting about their bf like they are married already and she brags about her body (having a big chest, small waist etc.) im not close to them but it is not okay to post that, i feel like they just want to fit in with the social media community. FYI, never follow or trust the internet
me too, im also 13 and is honestly kind of tiring always being the ''boring friend'' just because I don't want to grow fast
Tiktok is indoctrinating these people I swear
Girl no, they're not adults at all. Ask every grown man and woman who interacts with these girls. Just because they look older doesn't mean they have a brain well developed enough to be considered mature. My sister who's a young teen looks 22 but she behaves like she's 14 and you can TELL because no grown adult behaves in such a childish way. And there is nothing wrong with it, take ur time to enjoy youth
@@sin3358 nah there are adults who act like that.
I work for one.
She talks to the customers about whether or not they all think I'm pregnant or on drugs when I'm not around.
I don't even work with her more than twice a month either.
There are absolutely adults who never left highschool and they especially shouldn't be trusted around children.
Here's how i've explained it to some teenagers I know: telling young women not to post suggestive content because there are predators isn't blaming them for being attacked in the shark-infested pool, it's warning them that there are sharks before they jump in. We're working on getting rid of the sharks, and they shouldn't have been there in the first place, but they are.
that's a great way of putting it
@@SpidermanUndercover don't tell your sister not to wear certain clothes, warn her that people will be shitty to her if she does
@@snem9381 well yea that’s what I meant. Worded it wrong I guess.
i fully agree with you & this is a amazing / easily understandable analogy ! :)
but ... what about this case : a 16 year old is told not to wear a crop top bc there may be creeps.
should the same analogy be applied, or is the teen being overly controlled / blamed for what may happen ?
@@shaina8947 There's a huge difference between just wearing a crop top and a crop top paired with a provocative pose and half-lidded eyes staring at the camera, posted to a public instagram. I'm not talking about Just Wearing Clothes, I'm talking about exploring your sexuality in a public, online setting.
i think shows like euphoria set such unrealistic portrayals and standards for young girls… and also why are grown adults playing teenagers??
It is quite disturbing.
Labor laws probably. But still, teens do not look like that. Shows like these would be fine and nice if they were set in college, but no, it had to be a teen show.
Yes!!! Set the shows in college!!!
fr !!
@@Shanspeare literally! in most cases it makes no difference whatsoever 😭😭
a sickening trend on tiktok was the question, "what's the oldest you've pulled?" and all these minors were saying they'd romantically engaged with 20-somethings. even more horrifying is the fact that some girls had even mentioned 30, 40 and even 50 year olds.
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Also they want to look like Kim K at a young age. Like wtf girl let your body develop the correct way. Another thing i heard among the tweens and teens is that they use birth pills to develop their body. Its fucking crazy they wanna be old but once they hit the age they desire i know for a fact they want to be 14 yo again
Damn this world really ending 😢 That’s sad
as an 18 year old, it sucks seeing girls as young as 12, 13 years old rush their childhood. the more you reach adult age, the more you realize just how much you want to be 13 all over again.
Meeee. I miss being 10 years old
as a 14 year old (turning 15 in january) i definitely don’t want to be 13 again lol but now i am getting older and seeing how much i changed as a person it broke my heart how much my 11 year old self tried so hard to be “less innocent” and a “hot baddie”, because that made me almost completely lose myself. this is very true. i’m still young but i sometimes imagine me saying to my 9 year old self “i’m sorry”
@@meme-ih1wbme too
though at the same time i do understand why i did what i did. along with me wanting to fit in, i’m not the most hopeful when it comes to the future (i’m still not) and i was scared of adulthood so i just wanted to do everything as soon as possible
I am like that age range right now and people look at me weird for talking and laughing a lot at school. They all expect me to wear crop tops and be silent the whole class, but none of them act their age they all try to be like 16 but were not. If i laugh too hard people will stare at me weird even though im just having fun. And they call me weird for just talking but again i feel it would be so boring to just not talk at all or laugh at school.
My nephew wanted a spacejam back pack for school, but he was worried he'd get made fun of for it being a kids backpack. He's 9.
What the fuck is happening to these kids?
As a child of 13 myself I get frowned upon for still playing with toys and stuffed animals. This shouldn't be happening. Tell your nephew to not even care
i hope u buy him a space jam back pack fuck those trendy shit having a childhood is better than none but make sure to watch guidance over him tho if he get fun at
@@Moonxsta trendy stuff for young young children shouldn't even be what they are interested in
This is what happens when people start dressing their kids like mini adults for likes on social media. 😣
My brother is 8 and he thought he would get made fun of because he had a Star Wars backpack /:
Cringe culture has negatively affected the way children view themselves. Having a “childish” style will get you ridiculed, having an “adult” style will get you sexualized. There is no winning. You have any interests and you will be ridiculed for them. It’s awful to see how people have been influenced by cringe culture
EXACTLY!! I’m in high school and I can’t be myself or I’ll get bullied, but if I dress how everyone else does I get comments about my body. It’s not even a choice anymore because nobody WANTS to be outcasted so you just have to follow everyone else..
not related AT ALL to ur comment but...i cant help myself...
*hey adora*
I know that it’s hard for all of you to stand for yourselves, but please dress the way you like and don’t mind all those people cuz they ain’t important. You’ll probably never meet them again, so why should you waste 4 or 8 yrs of your youth entertaining them
exactly. also did you know that some of those people say that people should be bullied because they're acting "cringe"? it astounds me that people can say stuff like that.
Not to lessen the struggle but this isnt new/due to "cringe culture". Only difference is now the internet plays a role so rather than getting made fun of by ten or twenty people, it's thousands of people you dont even know. This is how you find the real friends; they won't laugh at you for the interests you have.
personal anecdote. I had a friend I watched Naruto and Yu-gi-oh with. He started hanging out with two other people and started making fun of me for watching "Narutard and yu-gay-oh". I stopped hanging out with him but I never felt hurt because I know he wanted to be accepted by those two bullies and probably got ragged on for his interests causing him to flip hard and take it out on me. This was about 14 years ago.
My little sister is 12, and she gets picked on by her peers for having unicorn merch and wearing frilly dresses. I recently discovered that the girls who bully her all look and dress like they are 10 years older. It's honestly terrifying to see little children have their childhoods stripped away from them. I'm 18 myself and I remember witnessing this "revolution" with my own peers. My "friends" would try to pressure me to wear crop tops and over-the-top makeup all the way back in 6th grade.
Teen influencers on social media are a big factor that are responsible for this. Girls like Piper Rockelle, Elliana Walmsley, Danielle Cohn, and a few others have been influencing young girls to act much older.
Wait is wearing crop tops bad as a teen?
@@gustavus0013 In my opinion, kinda yes. I mean I guess wearing one at the age of 16 isn't too bad, but at 13, it is wrong in my eyes.
Piper rockelle doesn't act older than she is, oh is it because she wears belly tops and low rise jeans? I'm pretty sure 14-15 is a normal age to be wearing that stuff. Unlike other channels alot of the time these days she doesn't say inappropriate stuff in her videos and she may be a bad person but I don't think her videos influence anyone because she's losing all her fans because of her actions. Plus, the only people who went to her concert are children and they all dressed fine..
@@maplemaple626 wearing crop-tops at 13 is not bad?? This video is about sexualisation and you’re sexualising crop tops?
@@maplemaple626but at the same time, yall see a 7yo wearing a crop top on social media, its the ppl who think its wrong for a 7yo to wear a crop top that r the p3do’s. 13 is a perfect time to start wearing crop tops (that dont show a lot ofc) this is exactly what she was talking abt in the video. Girls clothing is beyond s3xualized these bc of ppl like yall that criticize us. There r crop tops for younger teens not the gross shi ur thinking of
bruh I just realized why as a 23 year old, I still relate to a lot of the teen fashion, trends, culture etc...IT'S BECAUSE TEENS ARE ACTING LIKE ADULTS THAT'S WHY.
I thought I was just childish, but really it's the shift everything.
Exactly!!! I've worn a cropped shirt with a skirt to go out and people actually thought I was a teen because of what I wore and here I am like??????
My sister does this at 15 once she hit 13 she stopped acting like a child. She began wearing revealing clothing you’d see a 20 year old women wear; started speaking differently. It was like a switch went off and she changed her personality. She started getting attention from older guys I’ve had to step in because she didn’t tell them her age. It’s sad to see young teens trying to act like adults when they should be enjoying it.
Acting like adults in what sense though?
@@gustavus0013 they want to appear as a “20 yo” when in reality most of them are immature. They shouldn’t act like that bc it is not okay
@@gustavus0013 young teens are trying to appear older specifically girls because that’s what they see on social media a lot
People don’t let kids be kids anymore. When I was ten I acted my age and got made fun of for being ‘baby-ish, then got more ‘mature’ interests and got called a pick me girl. There’s no way to win and i know I wasn’t the only one :/
Dude one of my friends always got picked on for having immature intreset and not knowing what certain innaporiate things meant its ridiculous because we were only in middle school.
i relate but im in highschool
when i was 10 i got deadass bullied by kids my age at the time for...simply acting my age. then by middle school my mindset completely changed and my personality CHANGED due to all the tourment i been through at 5th grade.
update: by the time i got to middle school, i didn't had any REAL friends which caused me to be left out especially when the class is playing sports. the "friends" i had also think i was old to play roblox in 7th grade but many teenagers play it i- wtf- (i still play it at 16 and don't talk to users there anyways)
after middle school i never really like talking to people anymore and became asocial :/ but however i'm glad i have friends that like the same things that i like at my new school that i've been for about 3 years
update: im 17 and me and my friends still play it
Yes
Everyone loves to put girls in " personallity boxes" and make fun of everything around young girls. I hate it.
People always hate on Jojo siwa but in my opinion she was the only influencer who encouraged kids to stay kids
(edit) ITS NOW 2024 AND THIS COMMENT AGED AWFULLY feel free to hate on jojo guys 😭😭
not rlly lol imo
@@hydrofrolicwildflower3393 good point lemme change the thing to say it's just my opinion
You can't sell "necessities" to children that their parents aren't already buying.
Love your name
jojo is a national treasure
My younger cousin (14) told me she lost her virginity at 13 and didn't stop sleeping around with a kid from her school for several months. She said she "was having a self confidence issue/personality crisis" and had sex because she "thought it would fix" her. She says she'll stop sexualizing herself, but wears the tightest clothes and shortest skirts because she feels like she needs to in order to feel pretty. We need to have more media encouraging kids to BE kids. It's disgusting children her age and younger need to do these kinds of things.
Adding on, we need to stop calling girls my age (16) women. It feels like I'm being aged up too quickly. I had a 42 year old man start flirting with me and told my mom (who was right next to me) that she needed to "watch out" and "protect me from all those guys" who want to have me. I wasn't wearing anything revealing, either. It was a long sleeved white sweater and jeans. I still had braces at the time. I hate everything about today's society.
At 13?! How did nobody find out?! Wtf are your cousin’s parents doing?! Society is de-evolving holy shit
@@puppydogs68 She said it was at school behind a classroom. She told her parents not that long ago, are still doing a really shitty parenting job (both sets of parents, bio parents got divorced and remarried. How can double the amount of parents raise a kid and still fail?). Literally a few weeks ago I had to convince my cousin to break it off with a boy who lived down the street from her
Broo I f ing hate when people my age (15 but it started 14) call girls women it is just soo disgusting like wtf
@@magi5842 Same. People should only call a girl a "woman" if they're 25 or older. That seems reasonable.
Disagree. You're a woman, legally, when you turn 18. We aren't going to fix this crap by infantilizing the actual adults.
when my 7 year old sister did the "model face" while taking a selfie, i FREAKED out on the inside, i explained to her calmly to take selfies in a "normal" fun way instead of a weird way. *without knowing she's taking pictures in a sexual appeal way, and that looked like grooming somehow* i hope children enjoy their childhood
have you told your parents about her behaviour? that’s really scary and it should be addressed as soon as possible
what's the model face?
What’s a model face?
@@Alxie_e like uk the hot looking pose where you dont smile and open your mouth slightly to make that siren pose
When I was 7, I had no idea what a "selfie" was. I would just stand in random poses while someone else would take photos of me. The world really has changed a lot in the span of only 10 years, and that's pretty terrifying.
yeah…i’m 14 and I was on the bus one day and these kids were arguing about sum stupid, then all of a sudden I heard this girl say, “You think I don’t get guys? I’m out here pulling 18 and 20 year old guys!” and in my head i’m just like…girl, that’s not a flex, YOU’RE A VICTIM-
You have a good head on your shoulders and good for you for recognizing how messed up that situation is
Oh god I feel bad for her. That's so terrifying.
I remember when I was in middle school and a girl bragged about her 18 year old bf and how they had sex or something. She's known to lie a lot for attention, so I hope she's lying about it, but it's still scary that she thinks that's something to brag about.
YEEESSSSS even though I’m 17 lmao my friend brags that this guy in the military he is messaging is 23 im like
Gross.
Even though we are an older age group from you guys it’s still not okay Lmaoo
I'm 23 and when I was 16-17 I wanted so bad to date an older guy (because my family didn't had any money so I wanted someone to buy me things) and no one of my friends told me that my mindset was wrong. I never did but I always said that I Wanted.
To me, is extremely important that teenage girls start to acknowledge how bad these type of situations are and not support their friends on this mindset or want it for themselves
Young girls think this is a flex because they think it shows maturity and being a better pick, theyre made to think their “maturity” and “mature looks” are what attracts older and more “quality men”
From young ages we are quietly taught having an older mans attention means you are more worthy. Ever heard “girls mature faster than boys” and “an age gap is normal bc boys mature slower”
Theyre just planting these ideas within us young.
someone PLS tell young girls that being confident and breaking down societal expectations =/= being sexual at a young age
The media has to stop pushing that lie in TV shows, movies and music I feel that is where most of it comes from.
Shows like euphoria encourage this. Specifically speaking of the character kat who is an underaged sex worker. I’ve seen many fan edits praising her for what she does and it’s very concerning that this behavior is being praised. I remember feeling bad about going into high school because I had no sexual experience and I thought I was supposed because of what I seen on tv and how the high school life is represented. It’s gross that I’ve talked to people on the internet who thought this way too.
@@Waituntilyoulikemeagain i completely agree with you, im actually planning on making a whole video talking about it
Wish someone had told me this when I was a teenager :/
@@Waituntilyoulikemeagain on euphoria I think the ppl who praise that stuff our too young too watch it and just don't understand bcs the show is tv-ma but like idk they might do something that storyline in S2
I started developing way earlier than my classmates (for context, I got my first bra in THIRD GRADE), and the amount of comments I got of “You’re finally becoming a woman!” was staggering. Like…I was 8. I still couldn’t use the microwave without help. But because I started having breasts, people decided I wasn’t a kid any more and should be treated like a young adult. I even had a neighbor say I shouldn’t be obsessed with The Little Mermaid anymore because I needed to “grow up”.
This pedo culture needs to end
Sick
That’s honestly disgustingly rude
Omg I’m so sorry- that is disgusting and you deserved better. Being an actively closeted transgirl for most my life I was never entirely immune to the effects of the male gaze, but since coming out I’m just consumed by it. I truly can’t imagine the psychological horror of having to navigate this as an 8 year old
You deserve better like a man like me
Me (19) and my 12 year old cousin were wearing the same exact outfit the other day 🤦♀️it definitely concerned me
Yes!! My (19) 13 year old cousin wears full face of make up and mini dresses and it just boggles my mind how she wears stuff like that at such a young age but when I was 13 I was wearing my little pony shirts
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild I don't know if you know but kids experimenting with makeup isn't anything bad but what's wrong with mini dresses?
@@veronicasecret1251 There is nothing wrong with make-up and experimenting and being creative. It's the fact that she looks completely different and way older than her actual age. There is nothing wrong with a little eye shadow and mascara, its the fact that she looks way different with it on. As for the mini dresses, a 13 year old (imo) shouldn't be wearing reveling clothes. It ties in this the make up as well and the whole idea of trying to appear older than you actually are. You can wear dresses and look cute but not to look older or pretend to be mature.
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild I feel like I really can’t understand what you’re trying to say. Any sort of makeup is going to alter how you look, it’s made and used to enhance features. I think opinions vary when talking about “revealing” clothes because it all depends on what different people consider “revealing” so I can’t disagree with you there although I will say, the way you see someone doesn’t mean that’s what they are it’s a p.o.v. I really want to address the last thing you said only having to wear dresses to look “cute”, why must a tween appear cute to you to be able to wear a dress? From the mini dresses i’ve seen they seem age appropriate with maybe shorts or something underneath. Dresses have always been a little kid/early tween oriented anyway.
@@living_free_and_in_the_wild wtf
I think casting 30 year olds as teenagers has ruined people's perception of aging.
I have people tell me "you're 20? But you look so young!!!!!"
Uh, yeah...
20 *IS* young.
It makes me think of how I say "People are surprised when I say I'm 23" but 23 is not old....yes I look young...I'm 23....when you really think about it it's almost as if saying when you tell people your real age and they say "Oh my God you look so young" when they are young, that's like saying 24, 25, 30, or even 35 is old as shit when it's not, it's as if they told them they're 95 or 102, or 87 and they look decades younger when they're only 37, haven't even hit 40 yet like tf lol
@@nitrofairywing1541
When they say it to me, it's usually in an insulting way, such as "You look like a child, and any man's who's attracted to you must be a creep."
Doesn't help that I don't wear makeup.
I didn’t even think of this until you said it but good point!
@@alexiscormier4059
Despite having a natural petite hourglass shape, I also get "you're shaped like a little boy/you're skin and bones" because I don't have the Instagram standard for a 'curvy' body.
Even if I WAS rectangular, that's just an incredibly rude way to say it.
This is so true!!!
wow it’s really depressing knowing some of these children will never go through a hardcore club penguin phase :(
It’s depressing knowing that they won’t ever experience the real club penguin. There has been online re-runs but those have mainly been taken down due to the -cough cough- abundance of child predators on that…
This makes me want to play that again😢
I remember trying so hard to catch the big red fish :'))
and they wont go through a creepypasta phase :(
I just got my Neopets account back :)
“if youre over 8 you shouldnt be watching bluey” always rubs me the wrong way. god forbid an 11 year old enjoy a kids show! god forbid a 14 year old enjoy kids media!!! the bluey plushies no!!!
Like it’s crazy. Until you’re 18, you’re basically a kid and even in 20s your a young young adult. I think it’s crazy that now kids can’t enjoy kid stuff. Every time I see the other middle schooler wearing those fake lashes and crop tops I feel weird because they dress like they’re finishing college. Like were all still kids
im an American and what i know of bluey is that its for adults as well as children. like the producers actually aimed for all ages. ppl just say shit dont they LOL
I will say as a guy who’s 23 I am getting a little bit eye roll-y and sick to the stomach at the bluey obsession I’m seeing coming from 20 somethings and 30 somethings. Like I just know y’all are covered in a layer of crusty dried food like a man baby huh.
@@mmeggnnit’s not. Producers for small children’s shows will ALWAYS say their show is for “all ages” because they want to harbor a place of childlike wonder and absolute acceptance that can be opened up and enjoyed occasionally in a moment of nostalgia sometimes as an adult, and to make older children less ashamed of enjoying it. Like Mr. Rogers. He would tell you his show was for all ages because Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood was a show that wanted to create a safe space and it would be kind of mean for a character like Mr Rogers to suddenly turn around and exclude adults. But we all know Mr. Rogers Neighborhood was produced for children. But more specifically in the case of Bluey they’re talking about the fact that Bluey was also made for parents to watch with their kids so they can learn together how to problem solve as a family. The demographic of the show is for preschoolers. That’s a fact. But it’s not bad if you watch it. Just don’t. Idk don’t get weird about it.
I’m 16 and I love watching bluey it’s fun and there’s nothing wrong even if your 30+ and enjoy watching bluey is ok
I’m 15, and I find myself being judged so much when I simply just be a kid. I love fashion dolls and every time someone sees I own them I get called childish when I’m literally a child.
You’re not alone. I still liked Bratz dolls when I was 13.
The people who call teens children are desperate to be young again...
That is why I believe they say that, they are jealous...
Yeah, when I was 11, I was told to stop wearing a nightdress because it made my stepdad “uncomfortable” 😬
That's not right. Sounds like mom needs to ditch your step-dad.
@@ah5721 yeah probably. I don’t stay at his house anymore tho, and they’ve not got any plans to move in so I’m good with that
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Have you talked about this to your mom? Does she know?
@@garancebarbier7381 oh yeah she knows. I stopped sleeping over at his house as often. I think that’s all she could really do tho 🥲
Um ew???The hell is wrong with him???
you cannot be sexually liberated if you are a minor, that is illegal.
lol its crazy bc they want to grow up so bada but when they are 25+ they would wish to be young again
@@Zoe-sn9tb I'd argue that legality DOES equal morality as laws reflect the morals of the time and specific societies. So as per your example while today owning slaves is both illegal and mortally wrong, at that time the majority of people (slave owners and the like) saw nothing wrong with it and so the laws reflected it.
@@anunknownperson4018 u talk like 25 isn't young 💀
Then wait for them until they turn 18 to fuck their life's up becuase they want to 'live it'
People rob, steal, murder and so much more but that's illegal too..people will do whatever they want but to stop that people need to be educated or find ways of fixng this issue, so in conclusion yes it is illegal but it still happens and it needs to stop
I'm 14 and my chest has been developing more recently. My mother REFUSES to stop taking about it, how I'm lucky and that she's jealous. I have told her it's weird and even other people in my family have because she'll talk about in front of anyone in family. :(
Thats not good, you need to have a serious conversation with your mother. Sometimes parents aren’t mature either and they will argue/talk about stupid things. It is okay to call them out whenever this happens
Please sit her down and explain that it makes you uncomfortable and it’s inappropriate for her to comment on your body. Regardless of if she’s your mother or not, she does not get to sexualise your body regardless of how jealous she is.
I understand you. One time in my life, I wanted to get a Binder. However, because I'm a minor and I can only get in on online shops, I decided against it. My mother kept talking about how "my chest is big" which made me very, very uncomfortable to the point when I genuinely started crying (though, in her eyes, I was acting like a weirdo)
I absolutely hate how my body looks like and I wish my gender would be just nothing. I only wear hoodies because I know my mom will be talking about my body
@@KouiuoI feel ya, kiddo. I was there too. It does get better, and if you can buy KT tape ( type of fitness tape ) there are ways to /safely/ bind with that. hope you’re okay.
@Kouiuo My mom never talked about my chest or anything, but i also hate my chest. I wish i was born genderless or something
Dang, I’m 17 and in Gen Z and I thought we were still reminiscing about Monster High and Ever After High? Guess not anymore...
well i am. monster high is a cinematic masterpiece
EVER AFTER HIGH 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾
We are
I fucking loved that whole franchise
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"People view a woman hitting 30 as 'too old'"
We're going back to the medieval times, when 30 was, you know, the life expectancy
Well people lived longer but with all the child deaths back then it averaged to 30
In the medieval era, if you lived through childhood you were ahead of the curve and were likely to live into your 50s or longer.
Offa of Mercia (what we now call England) lived in the late 700s and was believed to have lived into his 60s. His wife lived even longer.
Society acts like women expire with their biological clock and its sad. No wonder younger and younger girls are starting to TRY and unfortunately succeed in attracting grown ass men.
“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”
2 Peter 3:9 NIV
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“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.””
Luke 19:10
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@@pidgedidge People did not live longer in Medieval times, at least not Medieval Europe. Illiteracy was at like 80% for the adult population and they hadn't even figured out hand washing. There's no way lol
Teens and tweens saying “stop treating me like a kid” but the thing is, we are still kids. We don’t need to sexualise ourselves and grow up so fast. We’re just kids.
but then the getting treated like child is sexualised by others, then not is also sexualised, it’s like we can never win.
Exactly, they shouldn't be treated as babies or adults. They should be treated as their actual age, which is the age of a kid.
Excpecally tweens, they're extremely immature and lack understanding.
Ikr we have so much to learn were still dumb
I agree in this aspect. I would say that it's right to say 'stop treating me like a kid' when you're being babied or demeaned by an ageist person.
The one good thing about musically was that being a tween was THE aesthetic. With all the unicorn, rainbows, moustache aesthetics and kid friendly musers were popular 😕
i know right
I get teased by my friends for being flat-chested and 5’1”. I’m 12. It’s more of a puberty thing rather than a sexual thing. But the real question is, why am I being picked on for not looking like Kim K as a tween?
in 7th grade a boy told me i had small tits. who would have guessed a CHILD doesn’t have the body of an adult
I’m 11 and my friends told me that I’m “the flattest person here” when they all wear extra bra pads.. like what did you expect I was born in 2012💀
You THINK it’s a puberty thing and not a “sexual” thing….
Im 11 but I look like im 13 but it makes sense i am tall and dress nicely but my dressing style is like this because yes , i eat heathly etc . And my first period happend when im just 10. ye bye oh I forgot that im born in 2011
hey girly, its may be because since older girls on social media are the sort of girls your friends may want to look like and idolise. so they probably think thats what they should look like. since you probably aren’t influenced by these girls, which you shouldn’t be considering how much older they are and spending your younger years how you should be, they probably think that you’re not as “cool” or whatever. but in reality you are perfectly normal. but this could not be the reason. either way, if your friends pick on you for your looks they probably are not very good friends and you should consider surrounding yourself with kinder people. i hope this helped :)
My grandpa would say “Parents
should not trust someone just because they're a relative” and I live by that.
What does this have to do with the video? /gen
@@gustavus0013 grooming/abuse
@@gustavus0013 the uncle timmy thing at 17:58
so true
@@Arifumii same💀💀💀
Producers need to stop casting these 25 year olds to be playing 16 year olds. That’s something I never understood.
Oh my god yes this is huge
Kids watch shows like Riverdale and identify with the characters/actors because the story is about them.
Its labor laws. Minors are very limited in what they can do on set
@@danceteacherrlb They could at least make the actors look younger and act age appropriate.
@@danceteacherrlb Probably also so that they can show soft core corn of them onscreen and sexualise characters :/
i'm 22. i didn't start getting male attention until i transferred to my current university. i cannot IMAGINE getting the attention i now get on dating apps and in general as a CHILD. i am so glad i got to really be a kid.
i’m glad i’m getting to be a kid 😂 but it’s only cause i’m ugly LMFAO
OMORI FAN!!
@@tigrispanthera5496that’s how I used to talk man. Ur not ugly I promise. Don’t focus on stuff like that. Growing into a good person is more important
Peer pressure is also a thing. I'm 14 and my friends are all super mature and look older than they are. I feel like a 10 year old playing with my dolls and plushies ://
enjoy your childhood while you can
i love playing with my plushies bro. I'm 14 too. They sometimes get annoying because I'm running out of space on my bed.
Your friends are not mature
The other bad part to mention is that this also affects young boys, making them think at an early age that this is how they're supposed to view women
Also that! We were talking about gender roles in class, and how women are seen as objects in especially german rap music, a guy was basically agreeing with the texts. When asked about what he thinks about that, he just said "Women can't rap", he didn't even seem to have a problem with what was being said about women.
He's 14.
And then the boys get shamed as if they are completely at fault.
The “men are trash” saying is so harmful to young boys.
You cannot pin every sin on one gender, men and women alike need to take responsibility for their learned behaviors and actions.
@@christabellaangel8671 Who’s benefiting from sexism? It sure isn’t women. Men started it, men perpetuate it, and men teach it to boys and other men. It’s benefiting all of them. We don’t need to “take accountability” for something we did not do and that we have no part in. If “men are trash” is the worst gender-based thing you’ve seen, just wait until you see what men say about us lol.
@@haroldharold9042 yeah and any guy who sees themselves as removed from or opposed to that condescendingly sexist view of women is quick to get pegged as a simp or "white knight" by their peers, especially in toxic online movements such as mgtow
@@christabellaangel8671 This is the definition of victim blaming. If men are hurt by they patriarchy, that sucks, but ultimately it is a tool used by men to oppress women. The patriarchy isn’t some cloud of negativity that affects us for no reason, it’s for men, by men, against women. If men want it to be better they have to work on that amongst themselves, god knows they don’t listen to women’s thoughts on it. Why should women take responsibility for this? If men feel bad about mean words being said, maybe they should encourage each other to stop violently oppressing women.
I miss when everything wasn’t seen as “embarrassing” and when young girls could just be young girls without being criticized for being themselves
Before tiktok
@@tonyq854 basically
lol when was that ever the case
@@marriqx I could just be speaking from experience in my own environment but it’s not uncommon to see young girls being tormented or bullied for doing things like wearing bows, dressing young, liking a specific style etc.
I’m not a girl, but yeah, I get really embarrassed when I share my drawings with people my age because it’s a character from an anime 😐 just let people like what they like
I'm 19 at the moment a 03' baby and even at this age I still feel like a child sometimes, I'm so concerned about this topic. My 13 year old cousin looks my age, tbh I'm a bit worried about her as social media standards have a big impact on teenage girls. When I was her age, I kept watching Disney Channel and reading fantasy books, unlike her, who is only on tiktok and instagram 24/7, its so sad because social media don't allow them to be kids anymore and live their stages correctly. The new generations are doomed, more depressed and anxious because of the trends.
She sounds like a lot of girls at my school. I'm 13 entering 8th grade and so many girls are on tiktok and Instagram usually sexualizing themselves and I see older boys and some men comment on their posts 🤢 I worry for these girls. Im more like how you were at 13 and I'm good with that
@@Iamthelizardqueenddaddy I’m also 13 in 8th grade already. Yesterday I literally heard two girls telling two other boys that VAPING is actually not THAT bad. They don’t do it, but that’s what they think of it i guess. I mean what the hell? No idea what made them think that but alright. Also, some of them are dating (or have dated) already. Some girl in my class asked me how it’s going with the boys last time😐😐 I don’t care about boys or anything like that. I’m 13. I want to talk about stuff I actually enjoy. They would just make fun of me for it tho. I don’t really have any friends either and I feel like they don’t care about me at all even if they’re kind to me lol. I can just tell by the way the look at me or the way the talk to me😕
I'm sorry to say, I'm 28...I still feel 14 most days...I'm almost 30!
as an aroace teenager, I tend to stay away from social media because if I don't, society would rub it in my face that the only way to be pretty is to be "sexy" or "hot".
I don't want to be sexualised but I still want to look beautiful, and, according to social media, it's impossible.
You do very well and remember, when you grow up, you can become as much sexy or mature as you want for the rest of your life.
Enjoy your childhood now and don't get affected from the pressure.
Same here (I'm an aro/ace teen too)! We just want to dress in our favourite styles but get judged by others because of how social media has presented being 'beautiful/handsome' if you don't fit into the neat boxes they've drawn for you to be seen as pretty you'll be labelled as 'unfashionable' or 'ugly'. I only have social media for following friends, finding funny videos and trying on filters. I hate how wanting to look pretty is also seen as wanting to be sexual by mostly older people but also other teenagers.
Yea
Aroace adult who didn't use social media in high school. I promise you and your mental health will be better without it. I had to watch as different apps wrecked my classmates and little sister's mental health.
Did the same exact thing except it's because i was so anxious with people in general.
My issue is that this "liberation" always seems be exactly what the male fantasy wants, so at the end of the day the patriarchy often still finds a way to win 😞
Yes! This reminds me of something a french comedian said, it went along the lines of:
"At some point men started to go:
-Yeah #metoo, feminism is good, you do you, you're equal etc.
-Oh okay, so we stop shaving, stop wearing make up, stop wearing high heels?
-No no no. You keep doing that. Except now you're doing it *for yourself* "
People are all for women's rights as long as women still do what's expected of them lmao. If you actually do what you want and it doesn't fit the range of what's "acceptable" then you're a crazy ugly ultra feminist bitch.
I get called an extremist by my not even conservative parents because I don't wear bras and don't shave my body hair. *How extreeeeeeeeme*
Same. When I thought about what actually made me comfortable things like wearing bras, tight clothes (like jeans), high heels, makeup, even extensive skincare was stuff I did for other people. I’d only do hair removal in the summer to be more comfortable. But I still feel ostracised by today’s ‘beauty cultre’ and feel like the ugly/dirty feminist stereotype...even though I feel so much more comfortable with my body and best my self esteem has been since puberty
for real tho. i read somewhere that "if your liberation doesnt upset your oppressor, it means you are not liberated at all." that hits hard
@@athaya2992 damn it
if men weren't in charge i think we'd see a lot more body hair on women...that would be liberating af cuz i'm tired of shaving
it's weird how when a 30-40 year old dies, people be like 'oh no, they were so young' but when they are alive and breathing they are considered old wtf T-T
Well because they were “young” for dying. It’s not that weird :7
its relative
70 is old, 30 ain't old
@@serenitysubs933 everyone has a different definition of ‘old’z
because its not that old
I’m 11 about to be 12 in November and I still play with dolls… I’m a loser bro 😭 I still watch Monster High and some girl tried to make me feel bad about it- WHAT ABOUT IT?!
I did that too at that age lol, don't feel ashamed or embarrassed! It's so worth it.
but the thing is, you aren't a loser. you're a kid doing kid things, which is how its supposed to be.
Honey you are not a loser, you are a CHILD. I'm pushing 30 and one of the things I like most in the world are toys! I love looking through toy websites or listings on eBay and seeing how they are designed. I find them so cute and fun to look at, touch and play with. You should never, ever be shamed for doing what you love, especially "child" things when you are a child; putting age restrictions on things (except ofc adult matters that are not safe for kids, like sexualization) is a cruel social invention. I know it's rough out there, the world is full of bullies and the internet amplifies it. But never give up on your freedom, your childhood and the joy of doing what you love. It is your life!
I literally still own the dolls after 6 years. The hell you saying your too old for it and a Loser come on! That's like a flex saying I still own Monster High dolls.
What are you talking about your not a loser your so cool for that ! I love those same things too it’s amazing just keep doing what you love I don’t have a problem.
3 years ago i was dating a girl called Sarah she was 13 at the time being a year older than me she. she cheated on me with an 20 year old man and before i broke up with her she called me "childish" and a pretty bad slur and told me "that i cant fill her sexual needs" girlie I was twelve anyways its so sad for these young girls to get treated this way :(
Don't date until you're ready for marriage dude.
Some girls age fast
@@talalh7247 PARDON?? YOU SAYING PEDOPHILLIA IS OK
@@talalh7247 chile... so...
@@strawbae308 No
Can we stop bashing girls under 18 who are still acting their own age. Like I literally got bashed by girls in my grade for re-doing my room to look a Disney bedroom set from the 2000’s. They said I was too childish. Like why are y’all so pressed that my room looks like that. You’re never gonna love in it, let alone see it, so leave me alone. I’m 17 btw.
Don't pay them any attention. I'm sure they're the type that tries to keep up with the latest trend and has no sense of individuality. Adults will decorate their rooms inspired by their favorite sport teams or anime characters so... do you 😂 you'll lose yourself trying to keep up with everyone else (which I'm sure you're not) Teens can be cruel to one another and, adults aren't much better. Best advice I can give is, only befriend those who love you for you and support you..... And fuck the rest 🤣
Wait that’s so cute tho… the Disney room
I'm going be real with you. There alway going be someone criticizing you about your life choices and hobbies. Doesn't matter how young or old you are. People are just like that. You just stop entertaining these people as you grow older. Don't stop loving something because of someone else. Go find a community that focus Disney culture. Hell, you might make a career out something Disney related. Those same people start wishing they were you.
YES!! Jojo siwa is a very good example of this.
Same like i’m 13 and kids my grade tell me to “grow up” because i still like to play with toys and watch childish cartoons . like we are still kids 😐
Second: you can't have a sexual revolution if you not old enough to vote. And if there is someone there waiting for you to become legal, you better run sis/bro/nb dude
I agree with you
It's simple, if you're "too old" to be generally considered sexy, then the choice to act overtly sexual is a radical one. Aka 30 lmfao. If you are young it is not radical because being sexualized is already happening w/o your consent. I definitely had this idea wrong when I was younger wish I had it figured out then :/ just wanted approval tho.
@@klaratehcoolcat preaching to the choir 😩
@Adafih well said!
The sexual revolution and it consequences have been a disaster for the human race
My little sister (who’s going into 6th grade in August) talks about how the girls in her class always want to be older.
There was a girl in her 5th grade class that said:
“I’m non-binary, demisexual, pansexual and prefer threesomes.”
That girl was 10. Smh
Honestly I'm glad kids can freely express themselves and know how to like knowing you're non-binary or what gender you like but them saying they "prefer threesomes" and speaking like that is what is odd to me (If that makes sense lol)
Jeez, it's one thing to know that you aren't straight and/or experiment with pronouns at age 10, but demisexual is specifically about sexual attraction 😣
@@lilwaffleiron7845 yep, in my case I discovered that i was demisexual when i was in my teens around 16-17 i think (i'm 27 now) but at age 10???? Gurl isnt it too early to think about seggs?? I would be worried to be honest, a 10 year old shouldn't be exposed to adult content and if a kid is talking about such things is because they probable were exposed to inappropriate content :(
@@lilwaffleiron7845 i thought we were over the being asexual as a minor discourse 😭😭
@@thesprawlingdentisteffigy fr dude I didn't know any of that stuff when I was 10. I think she was probably doing that for attention a little to a degree, or she just thinks it's like a cool trend but idk💀
As a 17 year old, really I truly believe my age now, 16-18 are the last of those to get to live out the tween years. It's depressing.
No because can we really just talk about how sexualized teens movies /TVs and teen media in general is like most of us aren’t as hyper sexual as we are portrayed
Bingo. This. Not everyone is living a hyper sexual teenage life. Some of us were regular degular teens.
exactly we have homework, chores and some of have strict parents idk who these people and why they created this stereotype of teenagers for normal teenagers who feel like they are missing out
most likely if the actor is now a 20+ yr old adult playing a teen
@@valart3946 Doesn’t make it less weird
yeah LOL i wasn't attractive enough to be that sexually active wtf. i somewhat related to when characters would like long for the nooki or act out in a sexual way, but dood when i say this is a symptom of sexual abuse i-...
like none of my friends relate but everytime i hear someone relating they're like "yeah but that one time this really weird thing happened [*describes SA*]" like... oh shit using hypersexuality to cope really do be hittin' different.... craving value and attention from people who hold authority over me go burr-
Old fart here, at over 40, and I despise the way that "living her best life" is used to describe sexy or materialistic pictures. The best life in my opinion is being truly happy no matter the goods or likes you have.
I like that view!
Yeah living my best life is watching kids cartoons
those were the kinds of videos that would depress me the most as a poor and typically unattractive teen
Living my best life looks like a nice quiet vacation with those old, comfy PJs after working hard.
I like using it sarcastically. If someone asks how im doing on a rough day, its an exasperated, "Oh you know, livin my best life." Honestly, we all each have only one life so everyone's life is their best life
It’s heartbreaking seeing girls sexualized to a point they ended up at 12-17 years old looking and acting sexual to be mature. Such a shame they won’t let these girls be kids again. It’s already messed up that some of those minors want to date adults without realizing the horrible truth. Cherish your childhood, don’t toss it away to be more mature it will destroy your mindset.
12-17 don’t have childhood teenagehood cause their older and mature
There is a problem with girls sexualizing themselves falling for older predators, but not boys with older women😂.
It's funny because for boys and men they can be tricked by older women and consent with them...
"cherish your childhood" how am I supposed to cherish it? I can't think of anything to possibly do while I'm still a kid, but my childhood ends in 3 months so there's not enough time anyway
@@iiCounted-op5jx get offline for a while, pick up things you can enjoy in person like drawing or writing, id say my "childhood" ended at about 14, and before even then i thought it was over. it isn't, trust me. just treasure moments and don't try to change yourself for anyone
As a teen, (I’m 14 & freshmen ig) I think we need to talk about age stereotypes.
People expect us to watch certain things and act a certain way because of how young we are. For example, watching mlp or play with toys. In a world where society and social media shames us for being teens/tweens and liking those very things, we automatically want to seem more grown up and people TELL us to be more grown up.
I don’t think a lot of ppl know this but almost EVERYONE or every single teen/tween has had an awkward or cringe phase that we grow out as time passes. Ppl want to fit in to be perceived better in society and everything changes once in middle school. Ppl shame us for liking childish things and ppl shame us for liking more mature things, so is there really a right or wrong?
Of course there is nothing moral. Because society was always against people and wanted to control them.
The “right” is that we stop pushing children into labels and boxes. When the media stops, the kids will stop parroting it and bullying their peers for not matching.
They call it " sexual liberation". This is not sexual liberation. You are 14.
The double sexual standard between boy and girls & men and women should be lifted, not how much we should sexualize women vs girls. And I’m not even talking about sexualizing like in clothes and makeup I’m talking about posting exclusively sexual things
There's a great material at Madison Brown's channel about it
@@agatahyra4949 I saw that! This was her title and I loved it.
Pedophiles are pushing this shit
They think itll lead to confidence because adult women who are sexually liberated seem confident. I wish there was more media representation of non-sexual confidence (or just confidence not based around how you look or dress).
I just turned 26 ('old') and the weird thing is, I am now sometimes saying 'no i can't wear such a short dress/skirt/insert whatever because i am too old for that; it is just not appropiate'. I noticed this happening with more of my friends my age. Which is fucked up. How do we think such short clothes ARE appropiate for teens but not for grown ups? I think this shows both the hypersexualised norm for teenagers and also how we get punished for ACTUAL maturity in women. Like, i am NOT old hahaha. We just can't win man...
Omg same and I’m 22 😭
Damn, do any of y'all got advice for a little flower bud like me, from one flower sibling to another? I could use some life advice because I'm fifteen turning sixteen and I still want to enjoy my childhood to the fullest.
@@shonaphakee776 Oooo I’ve always wanted a little sister this is my time to shine! Acne sucks but just bare with it your hormones will stabilize in three years, play a sport, pick up an instrument , do things that make you happy, work out and develop healthy eating habits now, make friends and cut off those who hurt you/make you feel bad, leave those boys alone, no you’re not “mature for your age” he’s just a creep, don’t rush sex-whenever you feel ready and it’s going to suck anyway, embrace the different phases you’re going through- whenever I feel low I look back to my kpop/mermaid era and I can’t help but laugh at how wholesome/cringe it was, and most importantly live in the moment and don’t try grow up to fast-adulthood is great but I’m always tired and I have fiiftyleven bills to pay.
@@Giraffe27 Aww, thank you so much for everything! I really needed this!
@@edn2674 i agree, but i do think that it is mainly a (social) media thing though. I only recently started working a fulltime aftercollege job and there people definitely view me as very young, almost annoyingly so. So i am in this weird place where i feel as if i am not young, beautiful or 'hip' enough by society's standard anymore yet too young and unexperienced to be taken seriously professionally. I wonder how the male experience is in this sense?
I’ve tried really hard to maintain my relationship with my younger cousin as the “cool older sister” vibe so that she feels comfortable telling me things she won’t tell her mom because I know exactly wtf I was doing at her age and it wasn’t good.
I was born in 2005 and I feel like I just BARELY escaped this new wave of sexualization, and I feel so freaking lucky.
If I could summarize my middle school existence with one picture, it would be the one my mom took of me when I got to see Markiplier on tour. My mom had made me save up money to buy my own ticket and I was dressed to the nines in a matching Steven universe beanie and leggings. This was right after my mom surprised me by agreeing to buy me something from the tour merch stand, so I was sporting literally the ugliest piece of merch I've ever owned, and I was BEAMING, braces in full display.
There were definitely girls in my grade who started "growing up too fast" but that was kind of just foreshadowing for how much worse it is now. I'm so greatful to have had a cringey tween era. I was awkward, my hair was horrible, and I thought my fashion was immaculate. I spent my free time watching let's plays on TH-cam and doing sfw Pokemon roleplay online. I was cringey and damn I was so anxious all the time but I was also so happy
Me too I am a 2006 baby.
yeah and some tweens want to wear makeup, go out, party, don’t play games, are very social, etc. yet they’re still happy. everyone should be aloud to do what makes them happy
@@iiii12345 They shouldn't go to adult parties tho.
@@iiii12345 You missed the point
As a fellow 05 liner I agree I was stupid, awkward, idiot& nerd trying to wanna be cool like my classmates who i thought were cool but infact now when I look at it I am so glad I was myself acting like a child nerdy rather than a grown up gurl ✨😊
And this is why JoJo Siwa (annoying as she is) is a GREAT influence. She's what? 18? And she's a tween icon. She spreads the message of just being yourself and not caring - being silly and colourful - standing out for your energy and personality - NOT your looks.
I get that it’s your opinion, but don’t you think that calling her “annoying” feeds into the idea that acting your age is cringy? Therefore reinforcing cringe culture and how it’s affecting teen girls… I’m not mad or judging, just genuinely asking. I understand that you may not like her content, but the word annoying itself is what many of us girls heard whilst growing up and being kids. Again, I really am not mad and do want to understand where you come from. Perhaps you’re just an adult but yeah, just wanted to know…
The truth is that she's loud, hyperactive, and colourful. Children love that stuff, that's why kids toys are like that. As an adult do I find overstimulation annoying, yes. But it's not meant for me.
@@lostboy587 she does not act her age. She acts like a child (toddler)
@@oro-oluwatoromo-thewordoft7339 no she doesn’t. She’s hyperactive and colorful, cheerful and positive, why do you think those are childish traits? And here we go again with that “she doesn’t act her age” bullshit. Grow up. There isn’t a mold for people to fit into that brands how people should act after a certain age. Especially not when that mold is designed to stop individuality in humans. Some people her age smoke and part, others read and stay inside, some do both, some don’t so none of those. Some people are into the dark academia aesthetic, others are into cottage core. Some people, believe it or not, are just joyful, energetic, and love colours. You’re brainwashed by the media into thinking that certain ages should act a certain way, so I suggest you stop thinking that everybody has to act like a character from euphoria to be a proper teenager. People like you are the reason why people feel ashamed of what they like, because you can’t be bothered to try and fix your shitty life so you go and rain on everyone else. Take that energy and work on yourself mate, and stop saying that people have to act a certain way to fit into their age group.
Lost Boy It’s official, I finally met someone WHO PREACHES WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO SAY FOR YEARS THANKYOU!!
It's actually scary how I'm seeing tweens literally 11 to 13 year old girls in particular, wearing the most suggestive clothing. I'm actually glad I was sort of sheltered so I found my own style whilst still looking my age. I'm going to credit old people for once.
No one is protecting their children anymore. I know what I will do if I ever have a daughter. And tbh, I feel more "liberated" when I wear clothes that cover up my body than when I wear the opposite - for example, a flowy midi skirt is more comfortable to wear (and more feminine even? at least imo) than a tight mini skirt.
Worst part is this being praised by many people and as mentioned in the video, many adults thirst after these teens. It's ridiculous and concerning.
@@Oviraptor10 it's disgusting
@@lo4568 my opinion on it is that some people feel more comfortable in tighter clothes than loose clothes, or the other way around. When the older generations shamed this generation for wearing tighter clothing, it created a rebellious complex. Like... "If you hate that I wear this tight outfit for my own comfort because you think it's being sexualized, then I'll sexualize myself and make it normalized!"
Funny enough, I'm a teenager trying to find my aesthetic because I've been unhappy with what I'm wearing, and despite being older than 14, I still dress younger than those little girls I see everywhere. Even if I'm finding my own style through things I see others wear, I'm definitely not letting my sister have social media when she inevitably gets her own phone.
I'm 24 and work in a high school. It was even more of a nightmare to see this stuff after euphoria bc they kept talking about wanting that kind of life with the parties and stuff. I've seen some kids lose themselves trying to act older than they are and it's really sad
i got told I'm "too old for playing with toys" at *10* by not only my classmates but also kids *a year younger than me*
I'm 14 now and looking back, i don't think i was but all of them were on social media already (i wasn't)
i feel like giving kids access to online spaces under the age of 10 warps their sense of reality quite a lot by allowing them to interact equally with people of all ages
To be honest with you, my mom told me at the age of 10 that I was too old to play with an Ariel doll. Now that I look back, it's pretty fucked up
being to old for toys at 10 is crazyyy 😂😂
YES! Kids are not growing up faster for themselves, they are doing this to appeal to the older generations!
Yeah. It's never the child's fault for being curious; it's the influence, bad examples, & sometimes predatory behavior of the people who came before them. As someone in an older generation (millennial), I'm trying to figure out how we can stop this?? Pushing for more social media regulations/education? Be a better irl example for kids? Cuss out old creeps online?
Not sure, but I don't like the way things are developing and I don't want even MORE kids to lose their childhoods 😕 Social media fks with your head from a very young age
I'm 10 and I act how I like to. I still play with bubbles and play dough. It just makes me happy. I get called immature just fir doing this.
I don't know Gertrude, don't you think it's pretty immature to start pouting if I don't do you homework?
Oh dear, I never relised I can't play with anything at all bc it's "immature". My dearest apologies I'll allow to bring the guillotine if this happens ever again
@@solar_SG I’m 16 and thats exactly how I acted when I was 10 and everyone else my age. But now I see my 11 year old sister trying to do stupid TH-cam workouts to be “thicc” like Meg thee Stallion. I never thought about that when I was 11. Yet again I started using social media at the age of 13 and she started at 9
@@Fatima-hl2qg Wow, that's kind off exactly like my classmates rn. They also only talk about but which I honestly don't get
@@Fatima-hl2qg "Thicc" for whom lmaooo? For herself??? Hope she grows out of that soon.
Sexual liberation means having the right to NOT be sexual as well.
Never thought of it this way
Exactly
PREACH
Yesssss!!!
Yeah and we do have the right to not be sexual, nobody is forcing anybody to post 'sexual' photos of themselves on social it's a completely personal choice
My sister, who is 12, watches shows like Euphoria and has unlimited access to social media. She always has to wear makeup and her social media posts are all filled with photos that are just her in a bra and layered in filters. I watch her do this and it makes me feel a little sad sometimes because she is just a kid, but with 64 hours of TikTok use a week. Once, a classmate asked her for nxdes, and she didn't send them, but I was so shocked they would even ask, let alone what it was. Whenever she gets irritated, she prefers profanities and similar phrases instead of simply talking. It's just unfortunate to watch the tweens of this generation try to stuff themselves into boxes.
where are your parents bro..
No its so sad. My sister is a little older than that she acts older than me. Since she was around 13, she's had this obsession with acting older than what she is, and it's gotten really bad. She's made choices that prove she is not old enough to be acting and dressing like that, and she doesn't understand the problem. A 14 year old sneaking out in the middle of the night to go to random train stations in short dresses then going to a party and get drunk? Like, that is ridiculous. Its really sad too, because if she continues down this path of just not caring and acting in these ways, it could potentially ruin the rest of her life.
I think the oversexualization of the postmodern world in general is problematic. Children are surrounded by sexual things, and the world promotes sexualization while lying about it being "freeing" and "empowering", and it leads so many youth astray, essentially grooming them.
Fr.
But the solution is not to become prudes
@@inthewoods5494yes. That's why you highlight reclamation is for WOMEN not girls or teenagers!
@@heyizz yes I agree with you. I’m just making sure this doesn’t span into slut shaming of women.
@@inthewoods5494 and it isn't. It's about shaming pedophiles and informing young girls about them so they don't give them any content for their sick desires.
and THIS is why I HATED the fact that Jojo Siwa was bashed for acting the way she does. She was an actual good role model for kids, but everybody made fun of her. I swear, it’s like nobody even remembers when everyone bullied her constantly. When she came out, everyone started praising her name and the bullying never came back up. We want kids to be more like Jojo Siwa, but cringe culture completely butchered any innocence these kids have, and to be quite honest, we’re to blame for it.
2023 update: erm what the scallop apparently she’s defending colleen who is a groomer wow!! 😁👍 anywhizzle stop bullying kids for being kids but dont support and defend groomers!!
And it was people at LEAST twice her age bashing her for being a kid and acting like one. The creepyness is deep
Exactly
I actually used to bully her on social media, she once turned off comments on her insta and I was mad.
I feel so ashamed. I'm sorry.
literally! it's always easy to jump on the hate train due to mob mentality. it just really sucks because i'm pretty young and i feel like i've grown up too fast - but i'm glad i'm educatated? but it's people who dislike kids for being kids that make us grow up so fast, or at least try to.
edit: would like to add since someone replied that i wouldn't jump on the hate train unless i had similarities w/ ppl on the train? conformity is very much a thing :'))
I actually still don't like jojo for her action, being lound more than style choices. But i think bhad barbie and others from this are worst role models for kids.
my mother always used to tell me “enjoy your youth because you have your whole life to be grown up” and shes honestly right, these young tweens/teens don’t understand that you have your whole life to be an adult, but not your whole life to be young as you are now
yeah we should be encouraged to embrace our childhood bc childhood innocence is something that you can NEVER get back. it is something that so many people miss when they lose their innocence
Yeah and as soon you turn 18 they expect the most of you..
Being young is so short term.than you have decades to make adult decisions.when there in there 30s they’ll be wishing they were young again
Ayy we have the same name...and honestly I agree
Yes enjoy your childhood because it goes by so fast. You can do all that other stuff when you grown... you're not missing out on anything.
I´ve deleted tiktok and Instagram yesterday. Today I was already contemplating to download it again, but after seeing your vid I´m DETERMINED to not fall victim to this endless cycle. Thank you sm and wish me good luck =.=
I deleted those apps a few hours ago and it’s honestly scary how many times I’ve pressed empty space on my home screen compulsively. I’m gonna try and keep up the habit this time
Trust me, you're better without them
Damn I ever barely use Instagram or Facebook myself as well!😂
I wish you luck fr. I find tiktok is pretty easy to keep deleted, you just have to not fall into peer pressure. Instagram has been a battle for me, I've had it since I was 11 and I'm going on 20 now, the addiction is real :,)
ayy its been 11 months now, how itz going?
I’m only 13 years old and I have always been told I am ‘mature for my age’. When In reality, I was forced to grow up to be a good role model and when I was 9 I was constantly told I was very immature and not being a good role model for my 2 younger sisters. I have been dealing with mental issues since I was 10 years old which is also a factor into why I act more mature ‘for my age’. It really all sucks because it feels as if I no longer have my childhood and I wonder what I missed out on. It’s not a good thing to be ‘mature for your age’ just live your life, be a kid.
i wish you the best !
I totally agree
Honestly, a lot of people who are "mature" have just be traumatized at a young age or have been dealing with issues since they were young.
this ^^ i’m “mature” for my age, but it’s only because i have to be. maturity is supposed to be gained through experiences _all_ throughout your life, not desperately grabbed out of necessity in less than 14 years :/
yes like thanks for saying im mature for my age but i wish o wasnt lol even if it would change who i am i wouldn't be as traumatized as i got to be
@@Yuki-vy4uh same lol I’m 22. And no one believes. That’s why I’m trying to be smaller in my body and do baby face kind of makeup so I look like 22.
i had a bad childhood and people around me believe im mentally 2 or 3 years ahead. yet i never post selfies, talk about my age online, etc. Maturity comes with realising whens the time for the correct things, whether your mentally older or not
@@chaloevibes4355 you dont have to.You are enough just the way you are.They think you are not 22?Well,their problem.
What I’ve found many kids and teens really mean when they say “Don’t treat me like a kid” is “Please treat me with respect, like a person, and don’t demean me for acting my age”. Kids aren’t often treated like actual human beings who possess thoughts and feelings. Any thought a child expresses is dismissed and not taken seriously, and this leads to them wanting to be “treated like an adult”. Of course, this is not the only reason/problem, just something I’ve noticed.
This.
@@lacrisgarlegit
I’ve always thought of it as meaning allowing them certain privileges and responsibilities.
Exactly
accurate.
As a 13 year old living in today's modern world, it overwhelms me. I just want to live my youth, and not be led into the wrong path. It's all about the clothes you wear, whether you put on make up or not, ect. I feel like society is expecting me to grow up fast. 😕
I'm a young millenial and although I know there's forces beyond our control, it still feels like we've failed your generation. Things seemed to get better when it came to bullying and realistic beauty standards, and it all went to garbage with modern social media....
I'm 15 and a trans boy. Being a boy at 15 there is so much less pressure on me than there was being a girl at 11. When I was 10 a boy in my year started grabbing and pinching my thighs at any opportunity even after I told him to stop. I stopped feeling comfortable in shorts even earlier. I never publicly sexualised myself but looking back it was clear in the way I thought about myself, and the way I tried to teach myself to act. I find it scary that walking down the street I can't tell the difference between a 12 year old and a 20 year old. I miss kids clothes and I miss bouncy castles and playing and not caring what people think, I sincerely wish that I hadn't spent ages 10 - 13 trying desperately to be an adult
@@atlast6913 I know who I am. Shut up and leave people alone. My family are supportive of whoever I am, being a girl was traumatic for me not because of the people around me but because of awful dysphoria and disconnect between my mind and body. Talk to one at least one trans person before you try to comment on other people's identities
@@atlast6913 Also, did you not know your gender at 15? It's perfectly fine not to but based off your comment I can assume you're cisgender - if you knew your gender at 15, why can't I know mine? I strongly suggest you consider the harm comments like yours does to trans people, especially trans youth, and delete it. Comments like yours can cost lives, and they encourage transphobic people to continue thinking the way they do. Transitioning has saved many lives, including mine. Even if I were to change my mind, it will be 3 years at least before I have the opportunity for any permanent medical treatment. Do not disguise your transphobia and lack of education as feminism and as caring about young people. If you care about young people, you will listen when we tell you who we are
@@atlast6913 go away
@@Iamjustabug why are you rude tho? The commenter was sincere in asking the question. They just wanted to know why you became a trans.
@@Iamjustabug why are you rude tho? The commenter was sincere in asking the question. They just wanted to know why you became a trans.
it's funny how America is like the beacon of sexual liberation and yet you can't even say the word sex without fear of demonetization
Oh the hypocrisy. This comes in hand with the poor sex education. Kids understand, understanding is not doing. But I guess society thinks it’s better for them to dress like grown ups and act like grown ups without knowing to what they are headed 🤷🏻♀️
Land of the free sure, right up until the horizontal tango enters the equation then its "everyone should wait until marriage and never speak about it casually"
@@estefyhengja "Without know where they are headed"... This hit me harder that it should. I don't like diving into things headlessly, yet that's what I exactly do most of the time without realizing. The realization of the lack of direction and thinking hit me for a while. I'm thankful for deciding to watch this video. Diving into the unknown is one thing sure, but diving into the unknown knowing there are possibility bombs in the sea is another.
(No one need to read this, but if anyone does, the rest of this will be a rant and the thought process of someone that felt like they need to mature quickly and therefore will be an absolute contradiction that may or may not make any sense whatsoever. I'd like to see someone decode my thoughts for me as I'm not the best at it or maybe any tips cause I need them if I'm honest.)
Just doing without understanding really makes me feel uncomfortable. I'd rather live knowing that I'm doing something stupid rather than feel like I'm smart enough to know fully about something but in reality I don't.
As a minor reading this I feel like I shouldn't be here especially after watching the video. Maybe I'm just tired of people overly shielding me from these types of topics just because "oh you're too young"? I understand that they want to protect me from the harsh reality, but it feels like it would be more dangerous to just go straight into a field without knowing the existence of mines on them the moment I've "grown up". It would protect me more if I had gained at least some proper insight of these things.
I've been the type to ask "why?" to people on why certain things are like that and they just avoid the question. I just don't like the feeling of being brainwashed due to my lack of knowledge and understanding about something and me just... Obeying the thought process. What if something's wrong and I'm just the next person repeating it? If there's no concrete reason other than "just because", why should I fully trust to do what someone else does? I need guidance and maybe a bit of knowledge to at least protect myself, not some just because.
Alright, I get I'm too young to know this, why am I too young to know this then? Should I avoid it? Is it mostly good or bad? There's probably a fine line that I can't see right? At least a proper introduction would be nice instead of you just throwing it out there and leave me hanging on why it's like that. Even just telling me that there is a reason, but you can't say the reasoning due to this or that is good enough. At least I'm aware of the topic and when the time comes I can know more about it.
I think this explains some of the thoughts that go around my head. Because I feel clueless and curious about what someone has mentioned, I want to know more about that thing. The only way to know about that thing is to be older, and so I'm excited for when you gain the right to know this or that. Because I know something, I feel like I'll know everything because that's all you know that exists, when there's something more. Getting older involves maturity a lot of times so I'll try and get mature quickly. I'll act because you feel like you need to do so because of what I know. That's probably just part of the truth though, I know there's probably a lot more behind that.
This is rant is ironic though if I'm honest. The video talks about people acting like grown-ups and that they should slow down and stay like a child if they still can, yet here I am... A minor trying to know more about these types of things and feeling like they've matured even if I have a long way to go and I'm not really mature whatsoever. I need to slow down, heh.
I'm not even sure if this is either a responsibility to know more about it, a necessity or whatever. I don't think it is any of those though. Maybe I'm just a knowledge-starved person after discovering these types of things exist. Maybe I'm just brainwashed by the constant push of modern society moving forward these days. I know it's not my job to know about these things after all. I'm thinking I'm just feel unsafe with everything at this rate so that's why I feel the need to mature quicker. "You're unsafe when you don't know anything" is probably one of the things I need to work on along with "I need to know everything" as the possible roots. Not a 100% sure, but it's worth a shot to see how it goes.
Guess I'm a walking contradiction. I don't know any better than what I understand and that's fine. I can't just correct any of these things to a healthy extent overnight anyways especially when they've become a habit/mentality. I can't undo any of this work I've done to try and mature either, even then I'm thankful for it happening. Just glad I grew up a somewhat decent person.
I'm just rambling at this point so I'll leave it here. If anyone reads it thanks it means a lot to me. I'll just sort myself out for a moment... Take care...!
Tbh I don't see the USA as a beacon of sexual liberation lol ... USA culture is really sex negative and taboo ish in comparison to my country and many neighbouring countries (in europe)
It’s what happens when your country demonizes sex ed but is run by absolute creeps
I’m 18 and even I’m confused by how old these kids look… I was mad back then but I’m glad so wasn’t allowed to use ig when I was a pre-teen
Same. I didnt have a phone until I was 14.
I didn’t actively use Instagram until I was 16 (because I got my first smartphone then) hahahaha. Didn’t save me from a lot of weird stuff on the internet but I can only imagine how it would have impacted me if I started earlier
same I still look 15
Dang I’m 14 and people have mistaken me for an adult a lot.I think it’s just has to do with genetics or time itself maybe🤷🏾
@@Almond.stars666 same but it's because I'm very tall. Even when i was 8 people thought that i was 18!!! Kinda weird but ok
As someone who just now turned 15, I hate telling people what I do in my free time in fear of being called cringe. Namely, I play Fortnite, which I almost never want to say out loud. I wish people would just let us be kids-
I personally don't like Fortnite and I have to admit to silently judging people about it but then again I used to play it recently enough (within several months ago) and I loved it so I regret doing that. I think it's fine if you like fortnite! Just be yourself and do what you like and ignore the haters. The real reason why fortnite players get hate is some of them can be annoying and toxic but as long as you aren't you're fine and if you want to keep it to yourself that's fine as long as you don't feel as if you need to change for others. As a gamer girl who's 14 I wish you the best, also please stay away from creeps in video games online they can be so fucking gross when they find out you're a girl, and don't let randos online put you down. (speaking from experience). You should make the most of being a kid now while you still have it and don't let anyone shame you for that. Anyways please remember this
@@crystalcharofficial im a cod person, and the reason why fortnite is getting hated is bc back then in the xbox days, cod lobbies would be literally toxic to the point it would make a child cry or everyone is just yelling non sense. Ppl say the fortnite game is just sensitive.
not into Fortnite, but I do relate with u about feeling afraid to say what you really enjoy doing...
doesn't help that my fam doesn't appreciate gaming
my friend, i watch employed and paid streamers who are in their 30s play fortnite weekly with friends. they have wives, homes, families, whole lives. my mom still plays video games, and i do too (even kids games) in my mid 20s. gamers will forever and always be gamers. gl hf ss
my sister's friends (all 14 years olds) having 19 years old boyfriends...
truly scary, plus the way they post photos on the internet wearing these teeny tiny bodycon dresses, and constantly posting selfies with filters that put makeup on their faces and make their lips bigger, etc...
it scares me so much, especially when i remember how i was made fun of at 12 YEARS OLD for wearing minnie mouse or hello kitty t-shirts.
im so glad it all went right over my head and i was able to keep acting like the CHILD that i was for how long i wanted. i worry for today's teens /:
i’m 15 and the “tween” demographic is definitely dying. it was really confusing for me when i was younger because it was like a switch flipped among my friends where suddenly everything i liked was too “childish” or “cringe”. not to sound like an old person but young girls really are seeing too much too soon sometimes.
Turned 15 this month, and you put this SO eloquently and with poise!! Even over the last couple of years, the natural abstractness/gaps in development of maturity and interests through the "tween" and teen years have been obliterated by conflicting societal pressures and physical/emotional standards skyrocketing upwards. The actual stage that our minds are in often no longer matches the maze of expectations in our culture, and the various ways in which one our age can be "intelligent," "confident," or "creative" have been reduced, diminished, and matured beyond our scope. I have been told that i'm immature compared to my brother, only because I trust the passage of time and don't want to throw away my interests immediately. My apologies for the lengthy comment!!!!
Yep, 5th grade, normal, 6th, a huge difference, 7th, larger difference
Yeah people don’t even want to play roblox with me anymore they tell me it’s too childish and my brother makes fun of me for liking stuffed animals and other childish things
just because you and your friends grew out of that phase, doesn't mean it's not happening with other kids anymore
im 21. it happened to me too. i got bullied so bad after elementary i started self harming because i really didnt fit in with anyone. i was kinda a girly girly in kid sense when I was 10, but that changed kind of quickly ...
I'm 13 right now, but when I was 10 I was desperate to grow up and look older. I hated my eyebrows because my mom never let me make them, and I was crying myself to sleep because my mother wouldn't let me buy certain clothes or do certain things. I've slightly matured now (I'm aware I'm still a kid), and thankful my mom didn't let me grow up too fast. I guess I'm still jealous of the kids who got to do the things I never could, but I know I have plenty of time. I'd rather enjoy my childhood now.
You definitely have plenty of time!! You’re doing great 💜💜
Absolutely! Childhood is one of the shortest parts of your life.
same !!
I grew up in a slightly different time, but I had a similar experience to you. Now as a young adult, I don't feel like I missed out on any important experiences & I'm glad I was able to make those choices when I was more mature & had a better sense of style anyway! I hope you'll feel the same💜
Yes definitely do not grow up too fast. Youth is a blessing and innocence is a beautiful thing! When I was a teen I learned quickly that dressing fashionably and wearing makeup did not make my peers notice me or treat me better. It is all about your confidence and self love.
When I was a kid I was SAd by several family members. When I hit 13 yrs old I started dating several 18/19 yr olds.. it was awful. I didn’t know what was wrong with me. I convinced myself these men couldn’t be predators but the older I get (I’m now 18) I see that they were in fact predators. I’m ashamed I’ve been taken advantage of by so many men. When I was 13 I truly believed I was a grown woman that was sexually liberated. Like no- I was an actual victim
No you weren't if you were 13 you should of known better lmao
@@roseyrosee you should know better to not victim blame
@@furiousmagician5912 Are you dumb? I'm not
@@roseyrosee so are you saying a 13 yr old is old enough to decide to be with a 19 yr old? At 14 I was with 21 yr olds. Is that okay?
@@astralkilla You're 2 months late slow poke 😹
Fun fact! Ankles weren’t actually considered scandalous around the Victorian era. It was women intentionally exposing something that was (that’s why the invention of the hoop skirt caused such waves- women could control how they swished it).
Bruh no because I’ve literally had 15 year old coworkers(the youngest you can be to work where I live) tell me about their 10+ “body count” as if it’s going to impress me or make me think of them as my age. It doesn’t do either of those, it just makes me concerned about them and worry for their safety, mental health development, and for the rest of people their age.
What does body count mean?
That’s fuckrd
@@studypurposes4658 How many people they've had sex with.
14 is the youngest for me
@@studypurposes4658 the amount of people you slept with
As a young person, it’s so hard to wear anything without being sexualised. When i wear something that shows more skin I’m told that it’s inappropriate. For example, my school was having a no uniform day and i wanted to wear a dress that shows my shoulders (this was partially because my friend had been made to wear her jacket all day the previous day because her shoulders were showing despite it being like 25 degrees c) and when i tell my mum she tells me i can’t because it would be too ‘sexy’. But then when i try wearing baggier clothes in a period of time where i had been VERY insecure about my body, i was told that i was a ‘prude’ or a ‘Billie Eilish wannabe’ by my friends and family. Honestly i don’t understand society’s stupid ideals anymore
I think the people who find it inappropriate to show shoulders are the people who are turned on by ut
i think people hate teen girls ngl
it’s like no matter what we do or wear, somebody’s going to criticise it! it’s so infuriating - I had a similar situation recently as well, a teacher said girls shouldn’t show their shoulders because it’s not acceptable in a ‘workplace environment’ (I’m still in school) and I asked what if a guy showed his shoulders and the teacher gave me no reply.
@@afiyazubair2106 pretty much lol
@@screamingbanshee1282 right
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’m 14 and I’ve been mistaken as college age before. I don’t look that old, I still look like a kid. I never really wear anything like crop tops or leggings, mainly just oversized shirts and comfy jeans (not skinny ones haha): stuff I feel comfortable in and still look nice in. I don’t wear makeup either. I still feel like I’m 12, and it genuinely scares me a little that all my friends seem so grown-up. It’s like they forgot that we are /still/ kids.
(though i definitely enjoy ‘childish’ things. they’re super fun! i don’t understand why once you get older people want you to like boring stuff.)
I'm 16, and sometimes I find it so disheartening when people tell me to "grow up"/"stop being so childish". I still love and play with legos, still collect plushies and sleep with a teddy bear, read comic books, like "kid" cartoons and movies - and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Why should I be into adult things? Realistically I'm still a child, and I can and will be mature and responsible when I need to be, so what's the issue?
My own mother and friends have made comments about how strange it is that I still like legos and plush toys, but, my mom will later go on to praise me for not wanting to grow up too quickly. Maybe there's a middle ground I'm missing?
And, while I'm doing this little rant - I find it so strange for people my age and even younger to stay out late, especially after they go out to other towns/cities. For example, some of my friends all took a bus up to a city just a few days ago, to go to a disco, and some of the shit my friend has told me about seeing there is actually insane. I don't wanna go into detail, but she said that there was people just openly having sex. Which, firstly, ew. Second, why? We're too young for that! We have our entire lives to go out, and hook up, and have one night stands, there's no reason for us to waste our childhood years - which we only get to experience once - trying to be adults when 85% of our lives will be spent being adults.
The going out at night doesn’t sound so bad (with reasonable curfew of course). Also idk where you live but riding public transportation is very normal even for kids
This exact same thing happens at ny school its so frustrating, my classmates make fun of ppl who are still virgins like you are 15-16 PLEASE..
Edit: also they do drugs like crazy
Legos are legendary fr, Id kill to meet someone who embraces their childhood this much. I used to have legos but somehow let social media ruin my peace but im back to getting lego cars.
I hate seeing “stop treating us like children”, said by 11-14 year olds.
Edit: yes I do understand the struggles of being underestimated, I’m going on 16 damn near a young adult already. But stop trying to rush it by doing alcohol or drugs, you have plenty of time to wait for that anyway. Be young, enjoy being a kid while you can, whether you’re mentally or physically mature already.
right LMAO like …pls stfu, you are a child. 😭
I also hate how zoomers always act like whatever their parents do or say is wrong. Emotional and physical abuse are a thing. Your mum getting mad at you because you didn’t do the chores she kindly asked you to do is another. Then they’re like “Omg my mum abuses me I cant do this shes such a terrible mum” and TELL HER THAT SHES A TERRIBLE PERSON ignoring how that can very much hurt people. They’re making everything pass off as emotional abuse because they’re too lazy to do anything and will find themselves living alone not knowing how to turn the lights on 💀 REAL emotional abuse should be talked about more
lmao the fact that they can't tell that they're still children is literally proof that they're still kids
@@ccharmolypi as someone who is and knows many other teens my age who are in verbally/physically ab*sive households, as much as I don't want to gatekeep what tr*uma feels like, it gives such a bad name to actual tr*uma survivors, literally spreading misinformation about what ab*se is, using medical/psychology terms incorrectly, and makes people who actually go through these things look like they're doing it for "attention" and it sucks. It's like tumblr all over again
@@worstusernameintheworld9871 exactly. 100% agree!! U guys r so strong but get lost under the stupid fucking tiktoks about hating your mum because she got mad at you after you didnt clean your room when she kindly asked you to and was hoping for it. Like ofc parents should control themselves but they’re human too. Getting mad =/= being abusive. For example “You should’ve cleaned your room!! This is so disappointing!!” Is portrayed as the same as “I hate you so much, I wish you were never born! You’re disgusting and I couldnt be more disappointed in you!!” 😐
Who else was always told by other kids “wow you seem so innocent” literally from 9-14 like????was I not supposed to be
A girl in my class asked if I was “pure” and I was frankly so confused because we are 14 🤨 miss girl do you have something to tell the class
i remember saying i liked the magic school bus in second grade and someone said that the magic school bus is for babies 🤠 THE MAGIC SCHOOL BUS?!?!!?!?
DUDE I CAN RELATE SO MUCHHH I’m currently 13 but I see so many of my peers and even their younger siblings telling me “wow ur so innocent it’s adorable” like ummm
I always got told this. The last time I got told this was 9th grade. Now that you mentioned it I’m like yeah I should’ve been the way I am bc I was super young 😐
@@omelettexmoa2995 some kids in my class would make fun of me for liking mlp and monster high in 2nd grade, like what the hell else was i supposed to be watching/playing with?!
I looked pretty young before I hit puberty, I got my first period at 14 and I’m finally looking like a woman at age 17, almost 18. Which is normal, but im seeing girls up to 4-5 years younger than me, looking 5 years older than me. Im sad that girls are pushed to grow up so fast because of media. I was still playing with Barbie dolls in seventh grade and so were other kids because parents kept us away from media. It’s crazy how much different our childhoods are compared to kids 3 years younger than us.
Tweens are like canvases. They can be painted a certain way based on factors like environment and especially social media. Especially in this era where how you look and act is so important at a young age. I’m 15 and I used to be a lot like this, but not to the extent of trying to. I was sa’d and so it made me extremely hypersexual due to trauma. I’m with a guy I’ve been with for almost 3 years now which is pretty unheard of due to hoockup culture and have grown so much. Due to social media I got into dr*gs and had to go to a mental hospital 2 times at the age of 12 and 13. I was expelled and suspended and so depressed like I was falling into a void. I think these girls are wanting so bad to feel validated.
My brain gets so fried trying to understand what in the scorching hell is so attractive about minor people?! Like the fact that there's people waiting for children to turn 18 is so gross. Please it makes no sense to me!
You’re not someone who finds kids attractive, that’s why it doesn’t make sense. Be happy about that.
I think it has something to do with how children are easily manipulated and how we look up to adults
This has been a thing for a long time sadly and isn't new at all.
I saw this happen back when I was a teen with men waiting just until someone turned 18 to jump on them. Almost literally. I'm glad I was in a relationship with a guy my age back then or rathe the is 6 months younger than me and we are still together at me now being almost 29 and celebrating our 12tg anniversary this December.
People who prey on teenagers like that are disgusting.
It's literally that the girls have somewhat adult bodies, but are definitely more easily influenced and easily impressed. Effectively 'easy pickings'.😳🥺
@@ea7109 they don’t though.
these 12 year olds saying things like "i'm a woman, treat me like a adult!!" While i'm 18 and i sometimes feel like my MLP phase never ended 💀
MLP is bussin
WE LOVE THAT.
I’m 15 and this is me with monster high, I still love watching all the movies. And I still like watching the songs from mlp.
I'm going to be 26 next month and I still love mlp, so 🤷🏼♀️
@@Diiazy don’t misuse aave
I saw a clip of a tiny, sweet, cute, little boy, 6 years old, getting his hair done at a barbers.
He gives this gangsta attitude and says nah I want braids. Then when his hair os done you can clearly see he is holding back a smile.
Its not gangster to smile.
6 years old.
It broke my heart to see this.
This beautiful little child should be comfortable and happy to *be a child* and freakin SMILE and be EXCITED when he enjoys something! It really is heartbreaking 💔