Ladies, we are not alone.... if u are ghosted by a guy that u really love, no need to feel bad and lost....this is actually a gain instead!! Gain yourself back!!!! Gain self-respect back!! Gain your precious time and heart back!!!! The man that doesn't know how to treat u well and even disappear suddenly is only creating a new opportunity for u to place yourself in a right place with a right guy again!!!! The lost of him would just bring u Real Gain in life!!!!! Believe that and walk on the right path!!!! We should be even thankful a lot for his disappearance, Amen!!!!
I am here in this situation and now am setting a boundaries between us, its hard and tough because i missed him everyday but i should take back my power and starting to move on. I will be okay, not now but soon. Whoever on this kind of situation right now always think about yourself "I deserve someone better".
Lady B just Monday he was saying he wants to give me a hug etc and now he’s not looking at my Instagram stories and didn’t reply to my texts and when he did it was kinda not into it.. smh
He ask me come over I've never let him I know what he wants until he proves he cares like I want put my self in the situation to just be a freind with benefit
Oh, wow! I didn't want to hear this! I was hoping that it would get better with time/ age/ wisdom/ maturity. Hopefully, it's just the quality of those guys, and not men in general. I wish you the very best. I hope that you find someone wonderful. xx
Ladies don’t initiate. And when he reaches out be sweet. Don’t act distant. And be playful in a sexy way from time to time. Give him something to think about while you are both busy. Be busy. Be happy. Be social.
I really prefer to initiate. I dont like the traditional roles. I really dislike the feeling of being chased and saying yes, feels like I lost something. Especially because in this traditional role model, as a woman you only "win" in the first months, by receiving attention etc. The man is expected to initiate the relationship and the woman to maintain it. Not buying it. Both need to initiate, both need to take the risk of rejection. Both need to maintain, both need to take the work load.
Yes I received mixed messages, he kept me a secret, he did not want to go out, he was chatting to his ex (involved with her family, running errands for her), he was receiving intimate pictures from other women. I walked away from him after a month, I deserve better!
After 2 wonderful years my boyfriend stopped making me his priority. It took me almost 1 year to break up, I finally made it this week, cause I deserve better. 😊
He pursued me in the beginning and I wasn't that interested but once I started liking him and wanting him, he changed. He also plays mind games now that he know's he has me where he wanted me in the first place. We had a bit of a rocky start as well, so maybe he doesn't fully trust me. He does all the things that someone who cares about you does but also a couple things that make me think otherwise and I don't know if I should keep giving my effort. At this point I love him and want him to realize what he has before it's to late.
Most men are only looking for a booty call yet pretend they are into you for a relationship. It’s kinda easy to figure this out when you ask questions and pay attention to what he says versus his behavior. Taking things real slow and continue to ask questions and pay attention to his answers. If you really like him, be honest with yourself and accept the fact that he’s not serious about you if that is what he is showing you otherwise you will set yourself up for rejection, heartache and pain. If he is really into you, continue to take things slow and really get to know him.
Most men want a women to love and be loved. If someone gave you Candy when ever you wanted it ,would go You go out, spend your money and buy some. Men don't want their candy unwrapped make him earn it and pay for it before he unwraps it.
Thank you! I now believe I was being played. He strung me along for far too long. I do know what I have to offer. Unfortunately I haven’t set my boundaries up. But I am walking away. I wished him the best
What about dating yourself for a little while 🤔🤔🤔it’s safe your self to have a broken heart to amend at later stage ... Ladies show yourself some love and love
Thats a magnificent idea. You know quite already who will treat you well all the time reconnect with you its a sad thing how some let guys that treat them this way cause them to lose touch with not just their inner self. People get stuck here and all the while don't remember who they are its like they recognize this but don't consider this matter enough to get to the point where they begin to do something about it. How could i expect a guy to do something i don't even do they are but reflection in treatment to you how you treat yourself. Think about this if you treated yourself well and gave yourself that quality time you want how you turn around and find out all the guys have flocked to you like that. On the flip side its questionable how can she give me so much genuine attention and care when i treat her so badly its ridiculous. If i could do this doesn't that mean that others can. They learn how to treat you its only becoming appearant the best way to treat you is with the bare minimum of respect because all you do is let them know thats really what you want so rescue all this time don't go spying on him and his life given your emotions reflect he hasn't earned it well maybe he has but hes also unearned that care in the meantime of him meaning that much to you. That person ready to do for you what he won't, the thing he absolutely positively refuses to do for you should be moreso worth it. Don't let this love be one to dismiss your validity and sanity and life and love you have for you to keep you going. You do need love, but it doesn't mean you need them. Why need them and they don't need you. Investment for Investment whatever it shall be is how it goes. So you try harder, no you have been trying more than as hard as you need to be. They are acting like parasites now tell me do you really want to keep such a thing in your life, is it still really truely that much worth it. They don't spend the day with obsession for you and nights crying their heart out with thoughts of you on their brain, yet somehow you do these things for them if they doo concern theirself so much with you really its only testing you to see if you got the nerve to try even harder when bottom line they dont deserve all this effort they don't even deserve any of it. Yes theyll straight up mock and laugh at and make a fool of you you give them permission to, but who could you really expect to love and Respect you and you dont. The bar is set really low and you decide to keep it this way? With all that you've done,and all the effort YOU put in, don't you think you should have a little more effort than what they give to sell your beautiful love so short with nothing to show nothing of it is painful is it not. Its nonsense because all the real offering is your own but people who are like this have a serious lack of consideration and what is this to be rewarded for. To go out like hey if you don't youre replacable to me ill go ahead and find myself a brand new chick to trick and then when i have diiscarded her and shes about as furious as you ill be on search for yet another. Its just all of idiot to pursue
currently going through this with a guy who has done the first two points in the video. Now I am to the point of being annoyed and now I am moving on. This summer I will focus on hanging out with friends and having fun
If a man doesn't keep calling and texting every day or slow down on calling and texts, I will know when I have to walk away. If I don't see "good morning ' or " how are you" or "good night" every day anymore, I will drop him, block him or just ignore him. I am not looking for a man who plays games. I'd wait for a week if he doesn't answer back at all, then time is up. I am "dating" two men in long distance relationships, one lives in Louisana and one lives in Georgia. I think both are slowing down on communications or stopping. I don't care if I lose them, I can always date other men.
Every single word you say Dr Borello, is true! Change comes from within. The choice is ours no matter where we find ourselves unless we are in some way mentally, intellectually or physically compromised. Thank you.. Your depth of understanding into human psyche and behaviours and the way you communicate this knowledge is Par Excellence👏..Please keep sharing
Gosh I feel relieved after watching this video, I have been passing through emotional breakdown for long now. For loving a guy who don't care or even love me but always call when he want me.
Thanks for sharing, just wish I could have heard this a year ago. I was in a relationship with someone that did this but I was in such an emotional turmoil that I couldn't see it but everyone else could but I just didn't want to loose what I thought I had. I finally trusted God with the direction of opening my eyes to see the REAL jerk that he is. Thank God I have moved on and a real gentlemen has come into my life. He spoils me to no end. Flowers & gifts for no particular reason. He also made a big deal about us being together for 1 month. Now our 2nd month anniversary is coming up & he plans to fly to see me. I pray this is the real deal. I'm trusting in God as always. Bless you Antonio, thanks again.
Well, that onewasnt real either. He just ghosted me & moved on even to the point of going by a different name. He showed up on POF date site. I'm done. It's just not for me anymore. God bless you all that find love from a true partner.
@@cwsewez4 It may have been a fake account to start with, or photos stolen, re the other account you saw. 'Report' it to POF etc. Don't be despondent. Take Heart. Don't allow this to have you give-up. Keep going! xx
Redfather you r right they have videos for men that r being done the same way, I'm going threw I think an emotional user now he's playing me n what both sexes don't understand is there is alot of guys n girls out there that wouldn't care, they shouldn't hurt good 1ns just for their satisfaction, women give their heart,soul n everything n noone should hurt people like that
I just needed to hear these again, so thanks a lot Antonio :) The issue is I am a very outgoing and extrovert person and I am tired of being taken for granted so yeah I will keep these points in my mind from now on.
Walking away, is easier said then done. I tried it many times and it was killing me...I would cry at a drop of a hat...he said he felt the same....we know each other many years BUT he fell for a female younger to his 73 years...so I am going to try again...like I did with smoking...now I don't smoke
Very correct info! I had a guy last summer and we were both so attracted to each other, in his case, he wanted to get my attention cause I was a bit too cool with him, and I knew what he was doing! But guess what, I eventually got tired of his childish behavior and unnecessary mind games so ended it and that really shocked him...it’s a shame cause we both very much liked each other but he had to learn the lesson somewhere!
This solutions were totally success for me! I was in an “open relationship” and this guy was allergic to cats and I have two cats, that was the excuse. But legit the 3 point was my case and I just communicate like you said. Thank you very much Antonio.
I think you're right Antonio. I had a number of women that I dated that I thought were great -- but not so great that I'd be upset if they saw other people. I had at least three of these scenarios 1) We're dating and it's going great 2) She tells me she's dating other people, it doesn't upset me really 3) She tells me she slept with the other person 4) I break it up 5) they say they made it up and that I should take them back (which I didn't). The reason you're right Antonio is that they should have realized at step 2 that I wasn't really into them that much. I was never playing games, they just weren't really a big deal to me.
I have been watching many vdos of yours and you made me see that I actually have met the man of my dream. I’ll keep you posted. Thank you for everything, I appreciate you and your time. Happy new year
If he doesn’t text you or call you that means he is not into you or looking for other women. That’s my experience . It hurt but gotta love myself and know my worth. B
Best advice. I’ve been dealing with a man like this. I’m 69 and he’s 61 years old . I am a widow but I have been married 43 years. I have no dating experience.
I am so absorbed of your videos Dr Anthony! Its really nice and guiding me well with dating life. I just ended things with a confused man. He doesnt want to commit yet. He is not ready but I know what I want. Thanks for making me realize that! Wish you the best Dr Anthony!
I am always having trouble figuring out if I really like someone or not and this video helps also if you're on the other side - if I catch myself doing all those stuff I now consider ending the relationship
Hey. Dr Antonio can you do a video on men going back and fourth to the ex while in a relationship with someone...and telling each women he's not with the other.
Hey Antonio! Thank you a lot, your videos help me feel better now :) I was so in pain this past 6 months... but now I SEE CLEARLY! Thank you for opening my eyes. God Bless you all, much love from Montreal!.
Thank you! Such great advice and you seem like such a wonderful person!! I personally also recommend waiting for sexual intimacy until marriage. It’s Biblical and protects a woman and lets her see his true commitment. Also, it allows the relationship to grow and develop (unless of course you get married too quick)! It allows for a special type of intimacy to develop that can be so much more meaningful than just sex. And I believe that God wants us to do this to Honor marriage and protect ourselves !! Thank you again!! God bless you and your viewers who would like this prayer in Jesus’s Holy Name, Amen!!
I have a baby to my boyfriend but one minute he wants me to live with him and the next he tells me to leave and it’s a cycle that never ends so I don’t know what to believe any more
Totally in this situation now with a guy I’ve known for a decade. He wants me around when it’s on his terms, makes plans, doesn’t come through, but wants advice from me and that security. Has even mentioned us going out together to spend the day with each other (he lives far away). Yet, I keep hearing about his ex’s & a current person he’s interested in he’s never met (through a game). And I’m very loyal, never left, and I know he’s real insecure. Idk what to do to be honest. Ive backed off, like suggested, & he does seem to send messages more. It’s just a lot of mixed signals.
im a new subscriber ... i just can't stop watching ur vids ... im not okey Now .. but ur vids makes me realized everything what's happening now ... 😭 Godbless you .. thank you so much ...
He rarely call or text me first, it's me who starts the conversion.. and i always asking him to meet but he said that he wants to see me but he is busy ..and in the same time he goes out with his friends every day!
@@AntonioBorrello Yes i subscribed, im watching your videos more that year ago.. my problem is: We were friends at college, after graduation we separated for 6 years but connect on social media from time to time. Last August i asked him to help me in my training course, we met and spent a great day.. at the end of the day, he said he wants to see me always. Since that time, when i asks him to meet, he said that he is busy and in the same time he goes out with his friends to watch the game, go to Gym.. about the communication, im the one who starts the conversion.. rarely he does. But when i need him, he is there for me and listens to me even if he is working, driving.. when i stop calling or texting him, he calls to check on me. Once time i told him that i feel that he doesn't want to see me, he said no i want to see you but im busy and waiting to be free so we can spend a long time together. I don't know what to do 😅
so my guy does go out of his way. we’re abt 45 mins apart and if i ever need him to help me with anything, he does and anytime we go out, he always wines and dines me and treats me like a queen yet he doesn’t claim that we’re boyfriend and girlfriend. he says having the title have expectations yet his actions stated the obvious of what a boyfriend does
If only I had seen this 5 months ago. Please make a video about dating men who is getting divorced/separated or recently divorced. That was my experience he was starting his divorced after a relationship of 22 years. Now I’m broken hearted b/c i gave him my power and struggling to move on even though I dont speak to him anymore. Thank u
I'm in this situation. He works all the time. 6 days a week. On his one day off he doesn't try to see me. His idea of seeing me is at 3am before he goes into work. NOT ANYMORE!!
My situation is driving me crazy. I met this really great guy, funny, interesting and very attractive. He put me in the friend zone after our first date. I can feel there is chemistry between us, yet he never flirts with me or is physical in any way. Even his hugs goodbye are awkward. So far we have been out to dinner at least 5 times, went for a country ride, dinner cruise and rock concert....I even took him to his colonoscopy appointment, lol and stayed with him till it was over. Days, weeks can go by before I hear from him or I call him. We have an amazing time together but he says we’re just friends. He talks about other women that he might be interested in but then says I am the only one he’s been out with in 4 months. I have a great time with him but there’s too much chemistry to just be friends. I’m left feeling inadequate and wondering why he doesn’t want me for more than a friend. I am 58 and have never been treated like this. Men usually play games for sex, it’s nice to have a man as a good friend but damn......I’m afraid this guys too appealing for just that.
Today I discovered he is not that into me, and I feel relief!!! Because I’m married and I was conflicting with the idea he might have feelings for me, he invited me for a date and I think I was nervous, I didn’t talk much, he tried again and invited me for lunch, we talked a lot about our life, work and everything! But he didn’t try to do anything, which is good! I now know that he is not pursuing me he just wants a friend and I’m ok with it! 😊🤷♀️
Dr Mark Love spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Mark always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him.
Great advice, appreciate it. I had been seeing this man for nearly 5mos. He told me after we had the conversation and after we admitted we had some kinds of deep feelings for one another. Actually, he told me he loved me first. I believe what he was saying was that his feelings for me was growing, but it came out as, I love you. Anyway, he also added that he had a girlfriend, but he loves her too but Also wants to get out of the relationship but that it wasn't that easy to do so. Now, I can understand that to a degree of course not going for it. For one thing, he lied about his current relationship, but of course had he told me the truth at the time of having the conversation, I would have told him to beat it! And, to see me when he was free to date me because as I told him, I want my own man and I want to be married. And, my children are independent adults and so I don't want any more because he asked if I could get pregnant because he would consider having a child with me. I suppose that was to flatter me 😅. So because I had feelings for him which could have easily turned into love on my part I felt my deceived heart trying to make excuses for me to hang around for a limited time just to see how long he would string me along. As I know you can't build your happiness on the misery of others. I felt bad for his woman because she probably loves him a lot. Well, to make a long story shorter, I text him the following and would have said it all to his face, or at least voice to voice but my calls often goes straight to his voicemail and I have to wait for him to contact me which he usually did a few hours later, or the next day. But this had to be said then because I could see that he was not only trying to string me along, but was also taking me for granted. So if any one wants to use it, please feel free too. And, by the way, this was recently nearly a week ago and I haven't heard from him since. And, you know what? I will continue to live 😜 This is my text to him. Ok. I want a real relationship with my own man who treats me with respect and sees my value as a person and a woman. I know I've said bye several times before. But you keep showing me that you ain't serious about me. It is what it is. Come correct to me as a man with true intentions and not just a desire for sex supply. Or, don't come knocking at my door or ringing my phone. So as I said, it's been nearly a week now and he hasn't contacted me thus far. To be most honest with myself, I do want him. I do miss him. But, I love me, and value me more. It's more important how I look and feel about me in my eyes than it is about having someone who doesn't value, nor shows me much to very little respect. Vibrant on the higher frequency 😋😁
This video helps me so much , cuz in my relationships right now I think I am the only one making effort . Thank you Antonio I will follow your advice .
Emotionally unavailable on a consistent basis = Not that Into You! If you watched this video, it kinda answers your question already! It's the amount of over all effort the person puts forth in the relationship that truly determines whether or not you two are on an equal footing in terms of interest and that it has a chance at lasting! Good luck to everyone as well!
Shaun H. This is Danica I have been in that siyuatiin more than once & I have come up to the conclusiom that you should never chase after them let them chase after a cherolet since they are cold callous cowards who don' t care & so therefore why should you care. Just be done with it & move on . Just give the loser your butt and back and think of them as a cigareete butt & butt them out of your life . Don' t iniate no comtact at all. They are Sociopaths & Baiters . There is no way to make so called man (. Baiters) who are emotionally unavailable to be emotionally available . They are ttoo obstinate to want to change for the better because these baiters aret too naraci$tic ( Nasty Naracisstic Nobodies) . Just believe in yourself and just move on. Danica
Dr Antonio, thanks fo r sharing this information. I have been trying to figure out if my efforts were not valid or valued, but it is clear to me that he was not into me.🤷 I can't help feeling foolish and unaware of the signals.
Thank you so much for all of your insight. Recently getting back into the dating world has been hard but your videos have taught me a lot and has made it so much easier to understand who I am dating
It’s my first time listening your video and I find it really helpful I’m sure u will share whit my friends and I’ll recommend thank you for helping a lot of people we needed...God Bless you 🙏
Exactly! Thank you for these videos, you are helping me and many other women a whole bunch! You're smart and you're right! I hope women (not just me) have enough self respect and belief in their value and worth that they will not stand for this type of douchy behavior!
Thank you... This was a great video. I think it applies to new relationships as well as one you've been in for awhile. This certainly is giving me insight to the man I've been seeing for awhile. We are long distance , but it still seems to for in with questions and feelings I have. I love your videos doctor. Thanks again
I met a guy and he is showing that he’s interested. But, - yes there’s always a but 😂 He never admits that he is. He left me clueless. Here is the situation: I am living in Dubai for more than 2yrs now and he went here just for their company projects (that means, he’s only here for a short term) He always tells me that. But hey! We are seeing each other since he came here. I am afraid all the time we’ve spent together will get wasted. What do you think I should do? Should I stop seeing him? I don’t know.
Thanks for your video. Nowadays I feel confused with my relationship with man. He support me to continue my MBa, he paid for it too. He support financially for my new business, but seem his very good friend relationship with his ex GF make me feel unconformable, more so bcos I knew she still want him as a man, not as friend. Sometimes they travel together without me and on the way they share room, share bed. But Everytime I ask to both of them they always said their relationship only just very good friend or brother and sister. Cos I never have those kind of relationship that make me feel weird and uncomfortable. I said to them what I felt but seems they ask me to understand and realized nothing happens between them, only just good friendship.
But he texts every day but rarely calls...and I stopped texting first when I started watching your videos so he texts first but not anywhere near as much ...and he cancels on me a lot too
I somehow find it hard to walk away and have found myself hoping even a friends with benefits situation might become proper, even though in the back of my head that's impossible and would never happen. I've never been on many dates and have been rejected many times, which has knocked my confidence. I've decided to give online a go, but I feel good if I can just get one date, forget filling up my social calendar... I'm not that lucky
Hello Dr. Antonio. I would like to say Thank you so much for your explanation. I had been in uncertainly situations for 2yrs 4 months. Been like a crazy person for that long. I couldnt leave him coz of he is sick (he has a heart problems, pin medicated on hus back and knees ) After I pushed him a lot this 2 weeks to get to my country, finally he left me yesterday. I swear, I feel like no any burden anymore, feelings so good and free. Even though he blocked me on every apps. I dont care. Thank you so so very much Dr. Antonio
Ladies, we are not alone....
if u are ghosted by a guy that u really love, no need to feel bad and lost....this is actually a gain instead!! Gain yourself back!!!! Gain self-respect back!! Gain your precious time and heart back!!!! The man that doesn't know how to treat u well and even disappear suddenly is only creating a new opportunity for u to place yourself in a right place with a right guy again!!!! The lost of him would just bring u Real Gain in life!!!!! Believe that and walk on the right path!!!! We should be even thankful a lot for his disappearance, Amen!!!!
Sze Wan Mak 🌸 beautiful put and very wise words 👍🏼
Thank you for this 😊
Oh. Yeah. You got it right sweety.💕💕
Amen. Thank you for sharing. BLESS you.
Your profile pic, you are just the cutest lady ever! Thanks for the awesome advice
Very wise my heart is being broken now n he's with someone else
I am here in this situation and now am setting a boundaries between us, its hard and tough because i missed him everyday but i should take back my power and starting to move on. I will be okay, not now but soon. Whoever on this kind of situation right now always think about yourself "I deserve someone better".
I am in this type of situation now...and made the decision to bow out gracefully. 😊
Lady B just Monday he was saying he wants to give me a hug etc and now he’s not looking at my Instagram stories and didn’t reply to my texts and when he did it was kinda not into it.. smh
Good for you, girl!
I am 65, never thought I would be dating at this time in my life, older men are just as much as a challenge!
I really feel for you. You think older means wiser, but sometimes it just gets worse. You might want to think about younger men
Don worry I will find someone..have faith.
He ask me come over I've never let him I know what he wants until he proves he cares like I want put my self in the situation to just be a freind with benefit
I am 63 where do you find men near your age?
Oh, wow! I didn't want to hear this! I was hoping that it would get better with time/ age/ wisdom/ maturity. Hopefully, it's just the quality of those guys, and not men in general. I wish you the very best. I hope that you find someone wonderful. xx
Ladies don’t initiate. And when he reaches out be sweet. Don’t act distant. And be playful in a sexy way from time to time. Give him something to think about while you are both busy. Be busy. Be happy. Be social.
tjpm that’s 💯 true 👏🏻
I really prefer to initiate. I dont like the traditional roles. I really dislike the feeling of being chased and saying yes, feels like I lost something. Especially because in this traditional role model, as a woman you only "win" in the first months, by receiving attention etc. The man is expected to initiate the relationship and the woman to maintain it. Not buying it. Both need to initiate, both need to take the risk of rejection. Both need to maintain, both need to take the work load.
What if we are sweet and he just ignores the texts? I deleted it all and ignored him
Yes I received mixed messages, he kept me a secret, he did not want to go out, he was chatting to his ex (involved with her family, running errands for her), he was receiving intimate pictures from other women. I walked away from him after a month, I deserve better!
After 2 wonderful years my boyfriend stopped making me his priority. It took me almost 1 year to break up, I finally made it this week, cause I deserve better. 😊
He pursued me in the beginning and I wasn't that interested but once I started liking him and wanting him, he changed. He also plays mind games now that he know's he has me where he wanted me in the first place. We had a bit of a rocky start as well, so maybe he doesn't fully trust me. He does all the things that someone who cares about you does but also a couple things that make me think otherwise and I don't know if I should keep giving my effort. At this point I love him and want him to realize what he has before it's to late.
Sounds exactly like my situation
omg i feel this
What’s where i am
Chris Good literally me
I was in your position and I walked away from him, life's too short for games
Most men are only looking for a booty call yet pretend they are into you for a relationship. It’s kinda easy to figure this out when you ask questions and pay attention to what he says versus his behavior. Taking things real slow and continue to ask questions and pay attention to his answers. If you really like him, be honest with yourself and accept the fact that he’s not serious about you if that is what he is showing you otherwise you will set yourself up for rejection, heartache and pain. If he is really into you, continue to take things slow and really get to know him.
Most women are looking for money
@Jill Whitcomb your old no cares what ya want
Most men want a women to love and be loved. If someone gave you Candy when ever you wanted it ,would go You go out, spend your money and buy some. Men don't want their candy unwrapped make him earn it and pay for it before he unwraps it.
My crush did this to me.
Thank you! I now believe I was being played. He strung me along for far too long. I do know what I have to offer. Unfortunately I haven’t set my boundaries up. But I am walking away. I wished him the best
Yesenia Yanez 👀. Girl I am in the same situation right now. How did it work out for you and what did you do?
What about dating yourself for a little while 🤔🤔🤔it’s safe your self to have a broken heart to amend at later stage ...
Ladies show yourself some love and love
Thats a magnificent idea. You know quite already who will treat you well all the time reconnect with you its a sad thing how some let guys that treat them this way cause them to lose touch with not just their inner self. People get stuck here and all the while don't remember who they are its like they recognize this but don't consider this matter enough to get to the point where they begin to do something about it. How could i expect a guy to do something i don't even do they are but reflection in treatment to you how you treat yourself. Think about this if you treated yourself well and gave yourself that quality time you want how you turn around and find out all the guys have flocked to you like that. On the flip side its questionable how can she give me so much genuine attention and care when i treat her so badly its ridiculous. If i could do this doesn't that mean that others can. They learn how to treat you its only becoming appearant the best way to treat you is with the bare minimum of respect because all you do is let them know thats really what you want so rescue all this time don't go spying on him and his life given your emotions reflect he hasn't earned it well maybe he has but hes also unearned that care in the meantime of him meaning that much to you. That person ready to do for you what he won't, the thing he absolutely positively refuses to do for you should be moreso worth it. Don't let this love be one to dismiss your validity and sanity and life and love you have for you to keep you going. You do need love, but it doesn't mean you need them. Why need them and they don't need you. Investment for Investment whatever it shall be is how it goes. So you try harder, no you have been trying more than as hard as you need to be. They are acting like parasites now tell me do you really want to keep such a thing in your life, is it still really truely that much worth it. They don't spend the day with obsession for you and nights crying their heart out with thoughts of you on their brain, yet somehow you do these things for them if they doo concern theirself so much with you really its only testing you to see if you got the nerve to try even harder when bottom line they dont deserve all this effort they don't even deserve any of it. Yes theyll straight up mock and laugh at and make a fool of you you give them permission to, but who could you really expect to love and Respect you and you dont. The bar is set really low and you decide to keep it this way? With all that you've done,and all the effort YOU put in, don't you think you should have a little more effort than what they give to sell your beautiful love so short with nothing to show nothing of it is painful is it not. Its nonsense because all the real offering is your own but people who are like this have a serious lack of consideration and what is this to be rewarded for. To go out like hey if you don't youre replacable to me ill go ahead and find myself a brand new chick to trick and then when i have diiscarded her and shes about as furious as you ill be on search for yet another. Its just all of idiot to pursue
Thanks pretty..you made me strong...thanks
I alwats tell my friends about your videos. They are very useful.
currently going through this with a guy who has done the first two points in the video. Now I am to the point of being annoyed and now I am moving on. This summer I will focus on hanging out with friends and having fun
Mind games ego fillers back up woman one uppers. Ugh now I know why woman say it's too much work dam
Thank you for helping me understand It's time to move on.
Great advice!
If a man doesn't keep calling and texting every day or slow down on calling and texts, I will know when I have to walk away. If I don't see "good morning ' or " how are you" or "good night" every day anymore, I will drop him, block him or just ignore him. I am not looking for a man who plays games. I'd wait for a week if he doesn't answer back at all, then time is up. I am "dating" two men in long distance relationships, one lives in Louisana and one lives in Georgia. I think both are slowing down on communications or stopping. I don't care if I lose them, I can always date other men.
I think you should dump them already. Dont waste time with them anymore.
You shouldn't go on two roads.
Everday jeez get a life loser
Get a life loser
Don't wait for a week that is too long. Just two days.
Every single word you say Dr Borello, is true! Change comes from within. The choice is ours no matter where we find ourselves unless we are in some way mentally, intellectually or physically compromised.
Thank you.. Your depth of understanding into human psyche and behaviours and the way you communicate this knowledge is Par Excellence👏..Please keep sharing
Gosh I feel relieved after watching this video, I have been passing through emotional breakdown for long now. For loving a guy who don't care or even love me but always call when he want me.
Thanks for sharing, just wish I could have heard this a year ago. I was in a relationship with someone that did this but I was in such an emotional turmoil that I couldn't see it but everyone else could but I just didn't want to loose what I thought I had. I finally trusted God with the direction of opening my eyes to see the REAL jerk that he is. Thank God I have moved on and a real gentlemen has come into my life. He spoils me to no end. Flowers & gifts for no particular reason. He also made a big deal about us being together for 1 month. Now our 2nd month anniversary is coming up & he plans to fly to see me. I pray this is the real deal. I'm trusting in God as always.
Bless you Antonio, thanks again.
Well, that onewasnt real either. He just ghosted me & moved on even to the point of going by a different name. He showed up on POF date site. I'm done. It's just not for me anymore. God bless you all that find love from a true partner.
@@cwsewez4 It may have been a fake account to start with, or photos stolen, re the other account you saw. 'Report' it to POF etc. Don't be despondent. Take Heart. Don't allow this to have you give-up. Keep going! xx
Some men play mind games to boost their pathetic egos. Recognize the signs and keep it moving.
Women do the same
Men do way more as they have biggest ego to feed 🤮🤮
True but if you feel he's a good man, why leave him? What if you feel he's the one. What if you both are incredibly into each other?
Redfather you r right they have videos for men that r being done the same way, I'm going threw I think an emotional user now he's playing me n what both sexes don't understand is there is alot of guys n girls out there that wouldn't care, they shouldn't hurt good 1ns just for their satisfaction, women give their heart,soul n everything n noone should hurt people like that
Facts!
I just needed to hear these again, so thanks a lot Antonio :) The issue is I am a very outgoing and extrovert person and I am tired of being taken for granted so yeah I will keep these points in my mind from now on.
I will never give up on watching your videos Dr thanks alot
I just love how Dr. Antonio takes his time to answer the comments :3
I love that it's great so many people are putting themselves down for others I really do appreciate your videos there dope😊😊😊
Walking away, is easier said then done. I tried it many times and it was killing me...I would cry at a drop of a hat...he said he felt the same....we know each other many years BUT he fell for a female younger to his 73 years...so I am going to try again...like I did with smoking...now I don't smoke
It's not east but it's worth it. Takes strength. Better than being abused or mistreated.
Very correct info! I had a guy last summer and we were both so attracted to each other, in his case, he wanted to get my attention cause I was a bit too cool with him, and I knew what he was doing! But guess what, I eventually got tired of his childish behavior and unnecessary mind games so ended it and that really shocked him...it’s a shame cause we both very much liked each other but he had to learn the lesson somewhere!
This solutions were totally success for me! I was in an “open relationship” and this guy was allergic to cats and I have two cats, that was the excuse. But legit the 3 point was my case and I just communicate like you said. Thank you very much Antonio.
I have men that tell me they want to be with me but then they do the opposite
I think you're right Antonio. I had a number of women that I dated that I thought were great -- but not so great that I'd be upset if they saw other people. I had at least three of these scenarios 1) We're dating and it's going great 2) She tells me she's dating other people, it doesn't upset me really 3) She tells me she slept with the other person 4) I break it up 5) they say they made it up and that I should take them back (which I didn't). The reason you're right Antonio is that they should have realized at step 2 that I wasn't really into them that much. I was never playing games, they just weren't really a big deal to me.
I have been watching many vdos of yours and you made me see that I actually have met the man of my dream. I’ll keep you posted. Thank you for everything, I appreciate you and your time. Happy new year
If he doesn’t text you or call you that means he is not into you or looking for other women. That’s my experience . It hurt but gotta love myself and know my worth. B
Yra says not find no one notvtslking no body is he lying call phones busy he likes white trash
You can mirror the same energy he's giving you or move on.
Agreed .
Yep... mind games appear to be part of the course these days
It has cleared many of my doubts and made me much much stronger. Thanks a ton.
If you wanna jump right into the points , there you go 3:37
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Best advice. I’ve been dealing with a man like this. I’m 69 and he’s 61 years old . I am a widow but I have been married 43 years. I have no dating experience.
Thanks for this video, I now know where I stand in his life
I am so absorbed of your videos Dr Anthony! Its really nice and guiding me well with dating life.
I just ended things with a confused man. He doesnt want to commit yet. He is not ready but I know what I want. Thanks for making me realize that! Wish you the best Dr Anthony!
What I should have done from the start.. Learning for the future..
I am always having trouble figuring out if I really like someone or not and this video helps also if you're on the other side - if I catch myself doing all those stuff I now consider ending the relationship
After hearing all the points in this video, I’m sure that I’ve lost him 😭
This video is an eye opening 👁
I hate being ghosting 💔🙄 thanks for this❣️
Hey. Dr Antonio can you do a video on men going back and fourth to the ex while in a relationship with someone...and telling each women he's not with the other.
Moving forward even though it’s hard.
Hey Antonio! Thank you a lot, your videos help me feel better now :) I was so in pain this past 6 months... but now I SEE CLEARLY! Thank you for opening my eyes. God Bless you all, much love from Montreal!.
Thank you! Such great advice and you seem like such a wonderful person!! I personally also recommend waiting for sexual intimacy until marriage. It’s Biblical and protects a woman and lets her see his true commitment. Also, it allows the relationship to grow and develop (unless of course you get married too quick)! It allows for a special type of intimacy to develop that can be so much more meaningful than just sex. And I believe that God wants us to do this to Honor marriage and protect ourselves !! Thank you again!! God bless you and your viewers who would like this prayer in Jesus’s Holy Name, Amen!!
Totally agree
I have a baby to my boyfriend but one minute he wants me to live with him and the next he tells me to leave and it’s a cycle that never ends so I don’t know what to believe any more
Smh
I love the fact your videos came into my life when you did. Thank you
Totally in this situation now with a guy I’ve known for a decade. He wants me around when it’s on his terms, makes plans, doesn’t come through, but wants advice from me and that security. Has even mentioned us going out together to spend the day with each other (he lives far away). Yet, I keep hearing about his ex’s & a current person he’s interested in he’s never met (through a game). And I’m very loyal, never left, and I know he’s real insecure. Idk what to do to be honest. Ive backed off, like suggested, & he does seem to send messages more. It’s just a lot of mixed signals.
I love it seriously this is the best relationship tips ever thanks alot
im a new subscriber ... i just can't stop watching ur vids ... im not okey Now .. but ur vids makes me realized everything what's happening now ... 😭 Godbless you .. thank you so much ...
Wish I saw this about 2 weeks ago. Great advice!
He rarely call or text me first, it's me who starts the conversion.. and i always asking him to meet but he said that he wants to see me but he is busy ..and in the same time he goes out with his friends every day!
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Yes i subscribed, im watching your videos more that year ago.. my problem is:
We were friends at college, after graduation we separated for 6 years but connect on social media from time to time. Last August i asked him to help me in my training course, we met and spent a great day.. at the end of the day, he said he wants to see me always. Since that time, when i asks him to meet, he said that he is busy and in the same time he goes out with his friends to watch the game, go to Gym.. about the communication, im the one who starts the conversion.. rarely he does. But when i need him, he is there for me and listens to me even if he is working, driving.. when i stop calling or texting him, he calls to check on me.
Once time i told him that i feel that he doesn't want to see me, he said no i want to see you but im busy and waiting to be free so we can spend a long time together.
I don't know what to do 😅
Wow I like this its real make a sense thank you so much
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great message, don't have time nor interested in a person like this, especially if someone else is investing in us, like attention😁👍❤️
Hi Dr. Antonio can you please talk about long distance relationship thank you
Yes! My ex was 1.5 hours away.
@Clarita C Barreto it's long enough. 😉
@Clarita C Barreto Idc. It's long distance to me. My opinion. Thank you.
Thank you for ur great words bt I really hate to playing games in relationships
I just posted a video concerning this very subject today on my channel today. I just loved your perspective. Great job!
When he stops calling and texting, I asked what is going on but he keeps avoiding and ignoring me, no more communication again
The problem is bc you care and chasing . Act like you don’t care waiting for he comes back if he came but in mean while date others
Tnx alot 🙌🙌 I really appreciate
so my guy does go out of his way. we’re abt 45 mins apart and if i ever need him to help me with anything, he does and anytime we go out, he always wines and dines me and treats me like a queen yet he doesn’t claim that we’re boyfriend and girlfriend. he says having the title have expectations yet his actions stated the obvious of what a boyfriend does
If only I had seen this 5 months ago. Please make a video about dating men who is getting divorced/separated or recently divorced. That was my experience he was starting his divorced after a relationship of 22 years. Now I’m broken hearted b/c i gave him my power and struggling to move on even though I dont speak to him anymore. Thank u
I met this guy through family friends and he sends me messages. He says he loves me but I haven't told him I love him because I feel he is playing me.
This is the bestest ideas have ever had to listen to
Thank you
Antonio Borrello your video examples are hilarious!
I'm in this situation. He works all the time. 6 days a week. On his one day off he doesn't try to see me. His idea of seeing me is at 3am before he goes into work. NOT ANYMORE!!
My situation is driving me crazy. I met this really great guy, funny, interesting and very attractive. He put me in the friend zone after our first date. I can feel there is chemistry between us, yet he never flirts with me or is physical in any way. Even his hugs goodbye are awkward. So far we have been out to dinner at least 5 times, went for a country ride, dinner cruise and rock concert....I even took him to his colonoscopy appointment, lol and stayed with him till it was over. Days, weeks can go by before I hear from him or I call him. We have an amazing time together but he says we’re just friends. He talks about other women that he might be interested in but then says I am the only one he’s been out with in 4 months. I have a great time with him but there’s too much chemistry to just be friends. I’m left feeling inadequate and wondering why he doesn’t want me for more than a friend. I am 58 and have never been treated like this. Men usually play games for sex, it’s nice to have a man as a good friend but damn......I’m afraid this guys too appealing for just that.
Thank you Dr I really appreciate this one
Today I discovered he is not that into me, and I feel relief!!! Because I’m married and I was conflicting with the idea he might have feelings for me, he invited me for a date and I think I was nervous, I didn’t talk much, he tried again and invited me for lunch, we talked a lot about our life, work and everything! But he didn’t try to do anything, which is good! I now know that he is not pursuing me he just wants a friend and I’m ok with it! 😊🤷♀️
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Great advice, appreciate it.
I had been seeing this man for nearly 5mos. He told me after we had the conversation and after we admitted we had some kinds of deep feelings for one another. Actually, he told me he loved me first. I believe what he was saying was that his feelings for me was growing, but it came out as, I love you. Anyway, he also added that he had a girlfriend, but he loves her too but Also wants to get out of the relationship but that it wasn't that easy to do so.
Now, I can understand that to a degree of course not going for it.
For one thing, he lied about his current relationship, but of course had he told me the truth at the time of having the conversation, I would have told him to beat it! And, to see me when he was free to date me because as I told him, I want my own man and I want to be married. And, my children are independent adults and so I don't want any more because he asked if I could get pregnant because he would consider having a child with me. I suppose that was to flatter me 😅.
So because I had feelings for him which could have easily turned into love on my part I felt my deceived heart trying to make excuses for me to hang around for a limited time just to see how long he would string me along. As I know you can't build your happiness on the misery of others.
I felt bad for his woman because she probably loves him a lot.
Well, to make a long story shorter, I text him the following and would have said it all to his face, or at least voice to voice but my calls often goes straight to his voicemail and I have to wait for him to contact me which he usually did a few hours later, or the next day. But this had to be said then because I could see that he was not only trying to string me along, but was also taking me for granted.
So if any one wants to use it, please feel free too. And, by the way, this was recently nearly a week ago and I haven't heard from him since. And, you know what? I will continue to live 😜
This is my text to him.
Ok. I want a real relationship with my own man who treats me with respect and sees my value as a person and a woman.
I know I've said bye several times before. But you keep showing me that you ain't serious about me. It is what it is. Come correct to me as a man with true intentions and not just a desire for sex supply. Or, don't come knocking at my door or ringing my phone.
So as I said, it's been nearly a week now and he hasn't contacted me thus far. To be most honest with myself, I do want him. I do miss him. But, I love me, and value me more. It's more important how I look and feel about me in my eyes than it is about having someone who doesn't value, nor shows me much to very little respect.
Vibrant on the higher frequency 😋😁
absolutely true on my part dr. antonio. ..
This video helps me so much , cuz in my relationships right now I think I am the only one making effort . Thank you Antonio I will follow your advice .
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am so grateful for this video , I have learn something ,,, thanks so much
If he doesn't have any money he should be job hunting, not dating. 💯👍🏾
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Thank you for you advice. My boyfriend only calls when is convenient him. And always said yes .how stupid can I bee so thank you again.
Tips on handling emotionally unavailable men
Yes we need this
Emotionally unavailable on a consistent basis = Not that Into You!
If you watched this video, it kinda answers your question already! It's the amount of over all effort the person puts forth in the relationship that truly determines whether or not you two are on an equal footing in terms of interest and that it has a chance at lasting! Good luck to everyone as well!
Shaun H. This is Danica I have been in that siyuatiin more than once & I have come up to the conclusiom that you should never chase after them let them chase after a cherolet since they are cold callous cowards who don' t care & so therefore why should you care. Just be done with it & move on . Just give the loser your butt and back and think of them as a cigareete butt & butt them out of your life . Don' t iniate no comtact at all. They are Sociopaths & Baiters . There is no way to make so called man (. Baiters) who are emotionally unavailable to be emotionally available . They are ttoo obstinate to want to change for the better because these baiters aret too naraci$tic ( Nasty Naracisstic Nobodies) . Just believe in yourself and just move on. Danica
Situation chevrolat
Handle his ass out the door !
Really helped thank you
Dr Antonio, thanks fo r sharing this information.
I have been trying to figure out if my efforts were not valid or valued, but it is clear to me that he was not into me.🤷
I can't help feeling foolish and unaware of the signals.
Thank you so much for all of your insight. Recently getting back into the dating world has been hard but your videos have taught me a lot and has made it so much easier to understand who I am dating
It’s my first time listening your video and I find it really helpful I’m sure u will share whit my friends and I’ll recommend thank you for helping a lot of people we needed...God Bless you 🙏
Example 2 is so true in my case
Exactly! Thank you for these videos, you are helping me and many other women a whole bunch! You're smart and you're right! I hope women (not just me) have enough self respect and belief in their value and worth that they will not stand for this type of douchy behavior!
I like the video and it's really empowering.
Thank you... This was a great video. I think it applies to new relationships as well as one you've been in for awhile. This certainly is giving me insight to the man I've been seeing for awhile. We are long distance , but it still seems to for in with questions and feelings I have. I love your videos doctor. Thanks again
I met a guy and he is showing that he’s interested. But, - yes there’s always a but 😂
He never admits that he is. He left me clueless. Here is the situation:
I am living in Dubai for more than 2yrs now and he went here just for their company projects (that means, he’s only here for a short term) He always tells me that. But hey! We are seeing each other since he came here. I am afraid all the time we’ve spent together will get wasted. What do you think I should do? Should I stop seeing him? I don’t know.
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Thanks for your video. Nowadays I feel confused with my relationship with man. He support me to continue my MBa, he paid for it too. He support financially for my new business, but seem his very good friend relationship with his ex GF make me feel unconformable, more so bcos I knew she still want him as a man, not as friend.
Sometimes they travel together without me and on the way they share room, share bed. But Everytime I ask to both of them they always said their relationship only just very good friend or brother and sister.
Cos I never have those kind of relationship that make me feel weird and uncomfortable. I said to them what I felt but seems they ask me to understand and realized nothing happens between them, only just good friendship.
I am really going through relationship and emotional street I real want him back like the way we first started
An honest advice. Thank you
But he texts every day but rarely calls...and I stopped texting first when I started watching your videos so he texts first but not anywhere near as much ...and he cancels on me a lot too
This is lovely
Thanks for these great pointers
I don't have this question now but have had this question. Good advice.
I absolutely loved everything in this Video, was going to write a speech 💬, Thank God for you is all that I can say👧🏽❤️
I somehow find it hard to walk away and have found myself hoping even a friends with benefits situation might become proper, even though in the back of my head that's impossible and would never happen. I've never been on many dates and have been rejected many times, which has knocked my confidence. I've decided to give online a go, but I feel good if I can just get one date, forget filling up my social calendar... I'm not that lucky
Hello Dr. Antonio. I would like to say Thank you so much for your explanation. I had been in uncertainly situations for 2yrs 4 months. Been like a crazy person for that long. I couldnt leave him coz of he is sick (he has a heart problems, pin medicated on hus back and knees ) After I pushed him a lot this 2 weeks to get to my country, finally he left me yesterday. I swear, I feel like no any burden anymore, feelings so good and free. Even though he blocked me on every apps. I dont care. Thank you so so very much Dr. Antonio
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Love this one so much
thank you so much for these advice, you are just describing my situation