7 things a narcissist despises the most 1- they will help strangers instead of you 2- accountability reveals the truth about them 3- you enjoying their life without them 4- your genuine connections and relationships with other people 5- anything that contradicts their agenda 6- your authentic self, your talents, skills and ability to be yourself 7- when you abandon them. you are proving them wrong. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Because they are users. So they try to catch everyone to use. And strangers don´t know them - so it is easier for a narcissist to trick them. It is also for admiration -- narcissists like to be admired.
My dad was the same way... MR. CHARMING when he HAD AN AUDIENCE. In private, he despised your presence. If narcs cannot use you for supply you are USELESS TO THEM.
You don´t need to wish for that. Because it only seems that way that they treat others better. If narcissists treat people good they always want something from people. They don´t have ,,friends" - they have supplies to use.
Narcissists hate: Kind compassionate independent and strong 💪 people. The only time they love them is when they want to use them to take care of them Ungratefully.
Writing this before watching the video: In my opinion, these are the 7 things a narc despises the most: 1) Old Age 2) Authenticity 3) Being held accountable 4) The word NO 5) Some one being happy 6) Their false image/mask being exposed 7) Mortality - in a way that's ultimate ceding of power and control, which they absolutely hate.
All of you talked to much about me when i say me because i am among narcissist but no one of you tell the way narcissist person could change him self you think that narcissist have not willing to change himself but that is wrong i have will bro
@@nebilesakomedia6283 Are you a self-aware narc who has the will to change? are you partaking in therapy? certain types of therapy work better than others. Normal therapy, no. I forget what it's called... But my understanding is that a type of therapy is more about learning to put the brakes on, rather than trying to "change", bcuz most of you cant. More about learning to pause and consider other people's perspective... before going off on narc rage tantrums, slander or revenge campaigns, bullying, gaslighting or just plain ol' sadistic treatment of others, etc...
Narcissists despise what they cannot control. They shudder at the sight of independence, fear the strength of those they can no longer manipulate. What they hate most is the mirror-one that reflects their own emptiness, their lies laid bare. The moment you see them for what they truly are, the illusion crumbles, and they become powerless. It's not my silence that unsettles them, but my clarity. I no longer seek their approval because I know who I am. And that terrifies them.
They help others because they want always supply and people to use. They have you already so they think they don´t need to do anything for you anymore...
I don´t need to watch this video because I can tell anyone... 1. If you say No. 2. If you set boundaries. 3. If you critizise them in any way (most likely they will also take revenge on you - so be careful!). 4. If you take them in to accountibility. 5. They disklike if you are not controllable - so if you have your own head (you can´t have that with them). Please don´t ask me why I know - I just do...
Exactly true. Thank you. They hate it when you are genuine or sharing information or know something with others. They go crazy. They think to themselves, "Who does she think she is" "She thinks she is so smart" they can't stand it. Almost rageful
It is so painfully true. Narcisists are pain in the neck and if you have anything to do with them you are bound to lose. They are driven by evil and create only lose-lose scenarios. No gain only havoc, confusion, mess and destruction.
First!!! My ex narc told me he has to help women because he has "superman syndrome" and they're all damsels in distress but when I need help I'm an inconvenience. It wasn't until he realized he was being used by these women that he "claims" he's not gonna help anyone anymore.
#1==A very apt description! I wouldn’t give my narc the satisfaction of justifying his lack of contribution to child and household responsibilities; to keep from resenting him, I began thinking of myself as a single parent.
You are describing my brother. After having thought he was "family", I've finally gotten him out of my life. In his absence, I have begun to feel good, after so many years of his emotional abuse. I do not miss him. And would not care if ever in my life I see him again. For, after all, he's not family. What he is, who he is, I'm not at all interested in finding out. He's dead to me.
Hi Danish. This is so true!!!!! They don't like anyone or anyone who reflects a spirit or thought of empathy or integrity. See you on the next one & have a nice one ✌️ peace, love, Miss Janine🙂🙃🫠😉😗😘🥰😍🌴🧸🚘
What about #8? They hate it when you walk next to them instead of 6 to 10 steps behind them. 😝 My ex-husband LOVED to walk ahead of me, and talk over his shoulder in a demeaning way, or ignore me. 😡
The more logic you throw at them, the more guilt they throw back. It's funny now that I see what they are trying to do. This would have shut me up before. I don't know who my mother can smear me to because she's fallen out with all extended family now. I remember back in school, she never liked any of my friends. There was always something wrong with them. She would say things like they are looking at me in a sexual way, but I wasn't getting that at all. She would pick and choose when to care about that one. She handed me off to be SAd, so what a load of BS. I guess she wanted me to be SAd on her terms. She hoped the shame would never go away. Why should a child carry this shame and guilt? I did nothing wrong. I didn't deserve any of that. What is it with these women who help predators? It's so sick. Is it because she is like that too? It's so confusing.
They help "Strangers" because they are on a PROPAGANDA campaign.... it is to fool others that they are loving people that care about others... IT IS A SHOW.
Watching this, I got that ad that goes "Bring me the next shiny new thing." Rarely has an ad felt more fitting to the subject of the video. The part about the treatment of strangers hit me especially and I wish I had woken up to this one sooner. Objectively, it should be such an obvious red flag but when you're trauma bonded, you often don't see the obvious.
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7 things a narcissist despises the most
1- they will help strangers instead of you
2- accountability reveals the truth about them
3- you enjoying their life without them
4- your genuine connections and relationships with other people
5- anything that contradicts their agenda
6- your authentic self, your talents, skills and ability to be yourself
7- when you abandon them. you are proving them wrong.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Thanks ! 👍🏻
I always wondered why the admiration of strangers mattered more than the love of those who truly cared.
It means their ability to act still pays off!
Because they are users. So they try to catch everyone to use. And strangers don´t know them - so it is easier for a narcissist to trick them. It is also for admiration -- narcissists like to be admired.
My mom used to say, my dad my mom used to say, strangers thought my dad was such a great guy lol.
My dad was the same way... MR. CHARMING when he HAD AN AUDIENCE. In private, he despised your presence. If narcs cannot use you for supply you are USELESS TO THEM.
They'r still stuck in childhood
I used to tell my husband that I wished I was one of his friends, not his wife because he treated his friends so much better.
I understand that. My husband would always help everyone else. Are you still with him?
You don´t need to wish for that. Because it only seems that way that they treat others better. If narcissists treat people good they always want something from people. They don´t have ,,friends" - they have supplies to use.
@@largefamilychaos1837 he died last year after a long illness.
I always said the same thing to my husband.
Narcissists hate: Kind compassionate independent and strong 💪 people. The only time they love them is when they want to use them to take care of them Ungratefully.
Writing this before watching the video: In my opinion, these are the 7 things a narc despises the most:
1) Old Age
2) Authenticity
3) Being held accountable
4) The word NO
5) Some one being happy
6) Their false image/mask being exposed
7) Mortality - in a way that's ultimate ceding of power and control, which they absolutely hate.
All of you talked to much about me when i say me because i am among narcissist but no one of you tell the way narcissist person could change him self you think that narcissist have not willing to change himself but that is wrong i have will bro
They seem to dislike those happy with themselves!
@simonpegg1196 excellent list! most of which ran parallel to the video. ALL of your mentions are def 100% true in real life.
-cheers, steven
@@nebilesakomedia6283 Are you a self-aware narc who has the will to change? are you partaking in therapy? certain types of therapy work better than others. Normal therapy, no. I forget what it's called... But my understanding is that a type of therapy is more about learning to put the brakes on, rather than trying to "change", bcuz most of you cant. More about learning to pause and consider other people's perspective... before going off on narc rage tantrums, slander or revenge campaigns, bullying, gaslighting or just plain ol' sadistic treatment of others, etc...
Also true
Anyone new to this channel, you're in for a treat. Danish really understands narcissism better than most you will find on TH-cam.
Narcissists despise what they cannot control. They shudder at the sight of independence, fear the strength of those they can no longer manipulate. What they hate most is the mirror-one that reflects their own emptiness, their lies laid bare. The moment you see them for what they truly are, the illusion crumbles, and they become powerless. It's not my silence that unsettles them, but my clarity. I no longer seek their approval because I know who I am. And that terrifies them.
I personally believe they are always afraid that people see through them. And with time it will happen. They can´t hide the truth forever.
@JamesNGames great comment! very eloquently and truthfully told.
-cheers, steven
A pinnacle point to regain full control of oneself and to take their life back. Maybe a bit of sweet justice as well.
This is so my husband. I could never understand how he wouldn't help me and the kids but if someone else needed help he would help them.
They help others because they want always supply and people to use. They have you already so they think they don´t need to do anything for you anymore...
He already has you where he wants you.
I don´t need to watch this video because I can tell anyone... 1. If you say No. 2. If you set boundaries. 3. If you critizise them in any way (most likely they will also take revenge on you - so be careful!). 4. If you take them in to accountibility. 5. They disklike if you are not controllable - so if you have your own head (you can´t have that with them). Please don´t ask me why I know - I just do...
Exactly true. Thank you. They hate it when you are genuine or sharing information or know something with others. They go crazy. They think to themselves, "Who does she think she is" "She thinks she is so smart" they can't stand it. Almost rageful
I can tell you straight away. Your happiness, your success, your calmness and your peace
All I can say is Narcissist is evil ,EVIL !!!!!!!
It is so painfully true. Narcisists are pain in the neck and if you have anything to do with them you are bound to lose. They are driven by evil and create only lose-lose scenarios. No gain only havoc, confusion, mess and destruction.
They are miserable..and misery loves company
First!!! My ex narc told me he has to help women because he has "superman syndrome" and they're all damsels in distress but when I need help I'm an inconvenience. It wasn't until he realized he was being used by these women that he "claims" he's not gonna help anyone anymore.
Both were narcissistic. My mother had that complaint about my father. 😅
Wow! I could never understand when he would do this. I can't believe I married a narcissist.
Wow!, so true! They hate my talents and gifts! I guess I am a threat to them!
Danish, I enjoy your thoughts. I am very concerned about you losing so much weight. We don’t want to lose you.
Darkness flees and scatters at the presence of light because light is sovereign and cannot co-exist with darkness.
soooo true shine bright and give youre best 😊
So true…I learn the hard way. But now I’m moving on. No more help.
#1==A very apt description! I wouldn’t give my narc the satisfaction of justifying his lack of contribution to child and household responsibilities; to keep from resenting him, I began thinking of myself as a single parent.
Thanku Danish 🎉🎉
Saving this in my narc healing favorites Playlist to watch again. Thank you Danish.
Amen you are 100% right
My ex narc went on Dec 24 to help someone move house instead of staying w his family. They are the sorest losers ever.
You are describing my brother. After having thought he was "family", I've finally gotten him out of my life. In his absence, I have begun to feel good, after so many years of his emotional abuse. I do not miss him. And would not care if ever in my life I see him again. For, after all, he's not family. What he is, who he is, I'm not at all interested in finding out. He's dead to me.
Love your work.. Danish❤❤🎉🎉
Hi Danish. This is so true!!!!! They don't like anyone or anyone who reflects a spirit or thought of empathy or integrity. See you on the next one & have a nice one ✌️ peace, love, Miss Janine🙂🙃🫠😉😗😘🥰😍🌴🧸🚘
Im thinking how they continue life knowing that destroyed someone's life. How? How can change so quickly in saints.
Because they have no conscience and zero emotional empathy. They live only for themselves (so to speak).
@@IsabellaPiesch💯 True!
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Thank you!
Good grief. Right down the line 100% correct. Every. Day. Ugh
Hire help house cleaners, tutors etc. Then save money for divorce!❤
So true!
Pregnancy!!!! They hate pregnancy and childbirth
So is the only way to divorce them?
The person is outside . The demon is in that human shell.. Pray for the human. Don't argue or try to love the demon 😈
@@TanyaRadic he told me something like that before. That he had something bad inside
Is there any other way around evils? Living with them is drinking a small shot of poison every single day.
Yes, this is over a 100 💯 true
Amen Danish
What about #8? They hate it when you walk next to them instead of 6 to 10 steps behind them. 😝
My ex-husband LOVED to walk ahead of me, and talk over his shoulder in a demeaning way, or ignore me. 😡
Absolutely
Down with jp and ic 😮
They are also egotistical.
The more logic you throw at them, the more guilt they throw back. It's funny now that I see what they are trying to do. This would have shut me up before.
I don't know who my mother can smear me to because she's fallen out with all extended family now.
I remember back in school, she never liked any of my friends. There was always something wrong with them. She would say things like they are looking at me in a sexual way, but I wasn't getting that at all. She would pick and choose when to care about that one. She handed me off to be SAd, so what a load of BS. I guess she wanted me to be SAd on her terms. She hoped the shame would never go away. Why should a child carry this shame and guilt?
I did nothing wrong. I didn't deserve any of that. What is it with these women who help predators? It's so sick. Is it because she is like that too? It's so confusing.
❤
Does narcissistics adults suffer bpd?
If talking to much about narcissist is pleased you why you dont try the way they may over came their behavior
They help "Strangers" because they are on a PROPAGANDA campaign.... it is to fool others that they are loving people that care about others... IT IS A SHOW.
This sounds like every right wing grifter both man and women to be honest.
Hi may I have your contact number as I need to take advice I am going through this narcissistic pain please help me
Watching this, I got that ad that goes "Bring me the next shiny new thing." Rarely has an ad felt more fitting to the subject of the video.
The part about the treatment of strangers hit me especially and I wish I had woken up to this one sooner. Objectively, it should be such an obvious red flag but when you're trauma bonded, you often don't see the obvious.