6:24 It's Too Big - reverse the thought - take something that is big and make it feel smaller (mentally shrink it) - Instead of thinking of the top 10 or top 20, think of the top 3, then critique the idealized outcome. - By deliberately finding the imperfection of something, you reduce the consequentiality and its magnitude 9:07 It's Too Far - Ask yourself, "How will the decision feel in 2 days, 2 months, 2 years, and 2 decades?" - Visualize yourself in that state 11:46 It's Too Hard - Positively Frame the Decision - Instead of looking at it as binary (either/ or), expand optionality - Think about the alternatives you may have - With this, you reduce fear, finality, and foreboding. 14:55 Probability Test - composed of 3 simple questions - If I make this decision, what's the worst thing that will happen? - What is the likelihood of this happening? - If this happens, what will I do next?
My wife and I were unhappy, for most of 12 years. We took a chance, we opened up to each other. About what we want, how we want to be with each other, etc. We set the scene, to be safe, no distractions, focused on each other. We are in a much better place together, still working on it. But doing it together. It so easily could have been, just giving up.
What a brilliant delivery from an educated and successful business woman. No wonder she is so highly thought of internationally. Great delivery with common sense throughout. Would love to have been there to hear Nuala live.
I’ve been very indecisive about my career since I was young. I didn’t know what to major in high school, didn’t know what job I wanted to pursue, so I just chose a major my parents wanted me to study. Now I’m still as lost as ever. I kinda know what I have to do now, but since we only live once, I can’t really go back in time and redo everything…
i am in the same position as you. I am a high schooler and i can't choose a career. it's a conflict between my own interests and what my parents want me to do. i can never excel at what they want me to do. I am certain that i'll end up as a failure no matter which one i choose.
I am so grateful i find this video i am facing issues related to this matter but now i am feeling confident. Thank you so much ma'am 😊😊😊for sharing your technics.
Excellent and insightful talk on indecision. Love the integration of psychology, visualisation and reframing brilliantly delivered by Nuala. I will definitely use these techniques when facing my next ‘big’ decision! Well worth a watch 👏👏👏
Nuala is always the voice of reason, supported by science! Her content is always so inspiring, practical and something you can exercise with immediate effect. She is a thought leader magnet and i always come away looking forward to her next talk.
Wonderful speech, this really helped me with some difficult choices that I had been struggling with for many years. The simple and elegant approach solved the dilemma quite effectively
At the end of the day, it's just a decision, make it smaller, take it easy, zoom out the perspective and roll the wave. Any result will be beneficial for your future!
indecision has often served me well over the years.. It leads to procrastination. Sometimes it happens that not doing anything was the best choice. Other times, new factors enter the equation which put me in the right place at the right time to make the best decision. .Perhaps accepting indecision is a luxury only available to those of us who reside in the slow lane of life.
Absolutely brilliant!👍Superb delivery. Obviously a very educated and experienced person. Powerful, engaging and above all useful for when you can’t decide. 🤷♀️Well worth sharing.
I am indecisive about whether to go back to chicago or to stay in los angeles. The cons of going back would be, its cold in chicago and I would live in strict rules, like curfew. Pro would be I'll have a job waiting for me. Con of living in los angeles: i need a car to get by anywhere. I dont have a license. I'm afraid to drive because of the crazy drivers. Con is I dont have a job yet here. The cost of living is too expensive.
@@tculebra Wasting time is an obvious one. Less obvious risk is taking advice that sounds good, but is actually harmful - tips like that do appear from time to time. There are many "self help gurus" that are more interested in selling their stuff than in helping people or in doing their research. That being said, the original poster was probably joking and we took their comment way too seriously.
Try pressing an EASY button, from Staples? It says, "that was EASY" when you press it. Global EASY buttons are available in the USA. Global buttons have different languages. (Perhaps, pressing an EASY button, over and over, can give us a slight push, forward) ====================================================================
6:24 It's Too Big
- reverse the thought
- take something that is big and make it feel smaller (mentally shrink it)
- Instead of thinking of the top 10 or top 20, think of the top 3, then critique the idealized outcome.
- By deliberately finding the imperfection of something, you reduce the consequentiality and its magnitude
9:07 It's Too Far
- Ask yourself, "How will the decision feel in 2 days, 2 months, 2 years, and 2 decades?"
- Visualize yourself in that state
11:46 It's Too Hard
- Positively Frame the Decision
- Instead of looking at it as binary (either/ or), expand optionality
- Think about the alternatives you may have
- With this, you reduce fear, finality, and foreboding.
14:55
Probability Test - composed of 3 simple questions
- If I make this decision, what's the worst thing that will happen?
- What is the likelihood of this happening?
- If this happens, what will I do next?
Reframing
Thanks for this.
An impossible task...😮
Thank you so much 😊
Thanks for summarizing ❤
This video just changed my life forever
Thank you so much. I really hope it helped.
One of few TEDx I've watched where I've learned what to practically do when unsure about a decision.
Thank you very much for your kind words!
4:45 three thoughts - breakdown on first
9:10 breakdown on second
12:00 breakdown on third
14:55 personal test
My wife and I were unhappy, for most of 12 years.
We took a chance, we opened up to each other. About what we want, how we want to be with each other, etc. We set the scene, to be safe, no distractions, focused on each other.
We are in a much better place together, still working on it. But doing it together.
It so easily could have been, just giving up.
That is just fantastic news. I am pleased for you. It’s almost easier to walk away than work it through. I wish you both all the very best.
true love ❤
@@Annndokz Thanks, but it's still not easy. I do want to be touched, and seen, in that special way.
Highly thought provoking and informatic lecture delivered, I appreciate and will continue from still now listening you
Thank you very much. Really appreciated.
9:45 The dilemma. How will it feel in... Visualization. Future self. Positive reframing.
15:00 Probability test
Thanks very much Joyce. Very helpful.
Dont know who this lady is but she delivers smoothly. Thanks TEDX , Uni, and TH-cam for bringing this to us 💟
Thanks so much!
What a brilliant delivery from an educated and successful business woman. No wonder she is so highly thought of internationally. Great delivery with common sense throughout. Would love to have been there to hear Nuala live.
Thanks very much Philip. Appreciated.
An engaging speaker, looking for more of these??
Best Ted Talk I’ve watched in a long time
Thanks very much to you. Seriously your note is appreciated.
Awesome. Am putting these tips into practice already!!!! And they work.
I’ve been very indecisive about my career since I was young. I didn’t know what to major in high school, didn’t know what job I wanted to pursue, so I just chose a major my parents wanted me to study. Now I’m still as lost as ever. I kinda know what I have to do now, but since we only live once, I can’t really go back in time and redo everything…
That’s terrific. I really hope this helped you.
i am in the same position as you. I am a high schooler and i can't choose a career. it's a conflict between my own interests and what my parents want me to do. i can never excel at what they want me to do. I am certain that i'll end up as a failure no matter which one i choose.
@@PariKadyan-u1b If you do something you enjoy, it can by definition not be a failure.
I feel like I can relate to you, at least to a large extent. Is there anything you would advice me that will bring some clarity to me?
Wise words. Hope you have found a path. Most people choose one and then rationales the decision anyway so feel okay about it.
This is a brilliant, inspiring and thought provoking talk on indecision. It is well worth watching.
Thank you. I hope it serves you well with your future decisions.
what makes this a great talk for me is the simple practical tips
Thanks so much. Hope they were useful.
I am so grateful i find this video i am facing issues related to this matter but now i am feeling confident. Thank you so much ma'am 😊😊😊for sharing your technics.
Well thank you very much for taking the time to both listen to it and to comment. You have made my day so I am grateful to you.
This was sent to me, now I see why. Love it.
Much appreciated thanks
Simply gold dust. One of the best I’ve seen in the industry in many years.
Very much appreciated thank you.
Excellent and insightful talk on indecision. Love the integration of psychology, visualisation and reframing brilliantly delivered by Nuala. I will definitely use these techniques when facing my next ‘big’ decision! Well worth a watch 👏👏👏
Many Thanks, Elaine - glad you found it useful! Let us know how you got on.
This TEDx talk is one of the best I’ve seen in years. Well done. 🙏
Huge thanks for that. Much appreciated..
Wish this was even longer!
Nuala is always the voice of reason, supported by science! Her content is always so inspiring, practical and something you can exercise with immediate effect. She is a thought leader magnet and i always come away looking forward to her next talk.
Thanks very much for your kind words Yvonne - you’re a superstar in your world - never forget it!
Congratulations on this talk. Great delivery too.
Appreciated Else. Hope you’re doing well.
I needed this so bad. I woke up this morning feeling so anxious about a work problem. Feel better now xx
An anxiety-reliever. Great to hear. Thanks very much.
So insightful and well delivered. I rarely watch Ted talks to the end but I couldn't keep my focus off this one for the entirety of the video
Thanks so much Jay. Really appreciated. Hope you are doing well. Nuala
definitively the best and most useful TED talk I have ever seen
Really appreciate that kind comment. Thank you very much.
"making the wrong mistake"? Love this concept.
Great attention to detail Harold! Hope you enjoyed it.
Wonderful speech, this really helped me with some difficult choices that I had been struggling with for many years. The simple and elegant approach solved the dilemma quite effectively
What terrific news. Thank you so much for sharing and glad it was of help.
I'm recommending this as it totally helped me.
Terrific Mara. Would love to hear in what way when you can.
Thanks for your wonderful presentation, its help me lot with insights. I would definitely apply in my work.
Thanks a lot Lawrence. Delighted to hear it.
A very impressive talk. A speaker who knows what she's talking about.
Thank you very much.👌 Appreciated.
This is very well presented. Thank you, Nuala
Thanks very much Saul. Appreciated.
A simple but effective presentation on how to approach indecision - will use this!
Hope it's useful to you in your personal and professional life Annette
Thank you. This came at the right time
Glad to hear it. 👍
Delighted to hear it thanks.
My first ted talk and definitely something I needed to watch I think this will help me a lot thank you.
Thank you so much. I hope it makes a difference to your decisions. Feel free to share with friends. Best regards to you.
Classy and classic, will rewatch over and over
Thanks very much for this 👍 Hope it resonates as much second time!!
Funny, sassy and brilliant. I'm sending this to everyone in my office!!!.
Hope they get something from it. Thank you.
At the end of the day, it's just a decision, make it smaller, take it easy, zoom out the perspective and roll the wave. Any result will be beneficial for your future!
Nicely summarised! Thanks
indecision has often served me well over the years.. It leads to procrastination. Sometimes it happens that not doing anything was the best choice. Other times, new factors enter the equation which put me in the right place at the right time to make the best decision. .Perhaps accepting indecision is a luxury only available to those of us who reside in the slow lane of life.
Great points. Thank you very much for sharing these.
Worth listening to if you’re unsure about ANYTHING!!
Thanks very much. Appreciated. It has various applications to be fair.
Absolutely fabulous!!!!!!!!
Most kind. Thank you.
Was sent this and am not disappointed. 🤞Captivating from end to end.
Thanks a lot. Realiy glad you enjoyed it.
thank you so much Nuala…You help remove my fear of making decisions.
Phil. I am genuinely delighted. I wish you the best. You’ve got it! Things are never as good or as bad as you think! Nuala
Absolutely brilliant!👍Superb delivery. Obviously a very educated and experienced person. Powerful, engaging and above all useful for when you can’t decide. 🤷♀️Well worth sharing.
Most kind. Thank you very much Joan. Hope it helps you make the right call when it matters!
Not that you will ever need it of course!
this is really insightful and worth hearing repeatedly . 🙏
intriguing, nice mixture of examples, theory and advice
Thanks 🙏 a lot
Go Nuala. well done . particularly like the frames
Thanks very much Murillo
Languish:
-To be or become weak or feeble; lose strength or vigor.
-To exist or continue in miserable or disheartening conditions.
I am indecisive about whether to go back to chicago or to stay in los angeles. The cons of going back would be, its cold in chicago and I would live in strict rules, like curfew. Pro would be I'll have a job waiting for me. Con of living in los angeles: i need a car to get by anywhere. I dont have a license. I'm afraid to drive because of the crazy drivers. Con is I dont have a job yet here. The cost of living is too expensive.
From what you have said, the move to Chicago sounds to be the better decision as there were more cons in LA.
I listened when crazy unsure. 👍 it helped a lot.
Very glad to hear it. Thank you very much.👌
As someone who struggles to decide about what coffee to buy, thanks for this.😎
Have this speaker for your events. Top class!!!
Thanks very much!
Loved this TEDx talk!
Thank you very much!
✔️ Highly recommended. You’ll never be stuck again.
Terrific ✅ Very useful tips to help overcome the pitfalls caused by indecision 👏
Very useful. U should decide to watch this.
Thank you very much. N
If you need help to decide just about anything watch this on repeat!!!
Such a powerful message. Love ❤️ it.
Thanks very much for that.
😊 This talk needs to be seen by EVERYONE!!
Thanks for doing this.
Thank you very much.👌
Thank you so much.
You are so welcome. I really hope this was useful to you .
Tells you something you don't know. Brilliantly delivered.
Thank you very much for your kind words! Appreciated.
very good talk on indecision, well worth a listen
Appreciated. Hope it is useful to you.
Thank you 🙏 for this! It’s ace.
Very kind words. Thank you very much.👌
Brilliant talk from start to finish.
Thanks very much Evan! Appreciated.
A fabulous talk about a critical topic .👍
Thank you very much for your kind words! Glad you found it useful,
Thanks very much for that!
This is so helpful! Thank you.
Thank you so much. I hope it serves you well. All the best.
A great approach to indecision.
Thanks a lot. Appreciated.
This changed my perspective in minutes.
Thanks very much. Quicker than I thought. Appreciated.
Great presentation Nuala.
Thanks a lot Martin!
Congratulations to you, the Decisive Ninja
Thanks a lot Jessalyn
A very insightful and informing clip on indecision. Excellent delivery and useful for people of all ages and walks of life!
Thanks Myles. Hope this serves you well in all of your major life decisions!
🙌🙌🙌Very well articulated.
Thank you very much.👌
What an incredible listen! Very inspiring to hear!
Thanks Scott - Hope it serves you well in your career choices.
Really awesome , I like it, looking forward for your next video, keep it up!
Love ❤️ it !! Watch it. Share it.
Thank you very much
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This was helpful, Thank you!
Grat. Thanks for acknowledging that.
I wasn't sure I wanted to watch your video, so I researched you and read the comments. Then I decided to take the risk.
What risk?
@@tculebra Wasting time is an obvious one. Less obvious risk is taking advice that sounds good, but is actually harmful - tips like that do appear from time to time. There are many "self help gurus" that are more interested in selling their stuff than in helping people or in doing their research.
That being said, the original poster was probably joking and we took their comment way too seriously.
Is this her takeaway?
Lol...
85 wonderful people hold a raging intelligent sense of humor...
Yippee ❣
Lol this must be the takeaway
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Positive and very well presented. Gives you a lot to think about. Will help me in the future. For any age…
Glad it gave you enjoyment ! May you never need this advice - at any age!
Engaging talk, with insightful, helpful ideas, and brilliantly presented.
Most kind Craig - hope it helps those tough decisions!
Thank you so much for these advices 😊😊😊
You are most welcome
Try pressing an EASY button, from Staples? It says, "that was EASY" when you press it.
Global EASY buttons are available in the USA. Global buttons have different languages.
(Perhaps, pressing an EASY button, over and over, can give us a slight push, forward)
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thanks much
Interesting idea Harry - thanks a lot
An inspiration on indecision
Hope you find it useful when it comes to a tough decision.
Appreciated Lydiah. Hope all is well with you.
A great talk - well worth watching.
Most kind Jo - Hope you never need it!
If you need more just let me know! N
Love ❤️ it!!
Thank you very much.👌
I don’t often recommend ted talks but this will blow you away
Thanks very much for this 👍
Great Ted Talk Nuala, amazing points!
Many thanks Paula - don't think you'll ever need this one but just in case...
I’m giving this to my team to watch.
Thank you Sibel. Hope your team found it useful.
Yes love it
Thank you very much Kyyndall - Hope its useful to you.
A simple model about a complex problem
I have one question if its not too late to ask: does character influence the decision making process too.
Thanks 🙏 for a great talk.
Delighted you enjoyed it. Thank you.
Easy to listen to, easier to implement.🥳
Thanks very much!
Worth watching. It helped me finally dump my ex. Freedom....
Thank you. I hope everything works out for you.
I’ve watched this several times.
Delighted. I hope it helped.
Brilliant. ? ?implementing it right away .
Brilliant talk!
Just one word- amazing 👌🏻
How terribly kind Basavaraj - thank you very much. Hope it is useful to you.
That’s very kind. 🙏 Thank you very much.
Grateful as it’s painful decision time for me.
Thanks very much. Hope you are doing well with those choices.
👌 insights... Thanks 🙏
Thanks very much Vijay. Glad you liked it!