A Good man was my husband of 32 years. Life is difficult. A farmer. A father, who stuck to the job even when it was tough. And through drought, and family tragedy, he stood beside me and held my hand, staunch in the face of the storm. He was my rock. He was my love. He is my hero.
Can't imagine a sociologist going around asking women what it means to be a "good woman". That says a lot. And "man up" is what someone who is trying to manipulate a man into doing something to their benefit, whether on the individual or national level. Like how young women in WWI England would walk up to healthy looking young men and hand them the white feather to shame them into the trenches. Of course, the joke was on the younger women when after the Armistice they discovered there were not enough "good men" left to marry.
@@artis-x9c"love yourself" "validate your experiences" "demand the best from those around you". "Know your worth". These are the answers you would be given. Unfortunately, women did not evolve and are not raised to take care of people. Instead, women are taken care of. Women dont give af about being a good woman. Women really don't care. Women just wanna be taken care of.
The motto of my high school used to be ‘esto vir’ (‘be a man’ as it was an all boy school). Then it was changed to ‘be the best that you can be’, almost implying to be a man is not always a good thing. The original intention as school students grow from boys to men is to take up the responsibilities, courage, integrity, wisdom, strength and many other good qualities that differentiates men from boys, to be upstanding citizens, husbands, fathers, coworkers, neighbours etc. The recent damaging union of two ideas: masculinity and toxicity negates all of that goodness and confuses certain types of behaviour, like aggression, competitiveness, even stoicism as polar opposites to compassion, cooperation and sensitivity, which men can also apply, but which are more often attributed to women or as described as ‘weakness’ in men. The worst vices can appear in both genders hence we encourage the ‘better angels of our nature’ not assume one or either gender is inherently evil.
Being a good man is loving and caring about others not just yourself. Manning up or being toxic seems to be just selfishness. But note that loving someone is not just doing what they tell you they want. It's also doing what is best for them in the long term. That's where self control, determination and patience are required. See fruit of the spirit.
I pray that society will re-think their rejection of Judeo-Christian morals and ethics. Putting belief in God aside for just a moment, consider the overall goodness a structured society with high morals provides to each individual. Keeping freedom of and freedom from religion is essential. Not everyone will be a believer and they should not be forced to believe or ostracized for not believing. Violent and oppressive zealotry must not be allowed in open society. It is a fallacy to think religion has caused more deaths than political ideology so let’s just put that ridiculous notion to bed.
I've wrestled with this question for a long time, like people who she mentioned were asked, I too said the same things. But I hit something of a snag in my thought, is a good man the sum of his actions or instead rather his temperament? You see life, is ... well complicated and men are not devoid of emotion despite the fact we do not show it when we should (perhaps). A good man, can act poorly or make bad choices, but those acts themselves do not inherently destroy the good man that has always existed within them. An example would be, a good man cheats on his wife, now on the surface that is immediately "well hes not a good man", yet the feelings he gained for another woman are not born of maliciousness or spite, but simply she is providing things to him his wife does not. Perhaps his wife is abusive, doesn't appreciate him, doesn't care for him as she should, treats him poorly. Does a good man stick it out regardless and suffer through it just because he is married to her, or does he allow himself to feel some joy for once? The point I am making is that, what makes a good man is not inherent to the failure to act purely good, what makes a good man is his general nature towards life and how he approaches and treats others. It is not a check list of never do's or how dare you's. A good man will do bad or terrible things, when the good man feels there is nothing else left but to do those things. This is why I view a good man through the lens of temperament primarily and not acts. Because someone of good character can be driven to bad acts, but their temperament would still remain the same.
The Auckland (NZ) Art Gallery had a similar message in what was their once classical section. Title of the show, 'Man Power, Myth of Masculinity'. Was installed for a very long time.
The Lord Jesus Christ died for our sins, was buried and rose again the third day (1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV). We are saved by grace through faith, not works (Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV). Getting water baptized DOESN'T save us (1 Corinthians 1:17 KJV).
Somebody has to do it. I'm not looking to black America to protect us! Or Latin Ametixans either! .... or perhaps you think we're undeserving of any protection....I think I answered my own question on that.
A Good man was my husband of 32 years. Life is difficult. A farmer. A father, who stuck to the job even when it was tough. And through drought, and family tragedy, he stood beside me and held my hand, staunch in the face of the storm. He was my rock. He was my love. He is my hero.
What a blessing. A gift from Above imo.
Can't imagine a sociologist going around asking women what it means to be a "good woman". That says a lot.
And "man up" is what someone who is trying to manipulate a man into doing something to their benefit, whether on the individual or national level. Like how young women in WWI England would walk up to healthy looking young men and hand them the white feather to shame them into the trenches. Of course, the joke was on the younger women when after the Armistice they discovered there were not enough "good men" left to marry.
Asking women what it means to be a good woman? That could be interesting.
@@artis-x9c"love yourself" "validate your experiences" "demand the best from those around you".
"Know your worth".
These are the answers you would be given. Unfortunately, women did not evolve and are not raised to take care of people. Instead, women are taken care of.
Women dont give af about being a good woman. Women really don't care. Women just wanna be taken care of.
A good man puts his responsibilities, duty, and commitments before his own wants. Especially when times are hard.
The motto of my high school used to be ‘esto vir’ (‘be a man’ as it was an all boy school). Then it was changed to ‘be the best that you can be’, almost implying to be a man is not always a good thing. The original intention as school students grow from boys to men is to take up the responsibilities, courage, integrity, wisdom, strength and many other good qualities that differentiates men from boys, to be upstanding citizens, husbands, fathers, coworkers, neighbours etc. The recent damaging union of two ideas: masculinity and toxicity negates all of that goodness and confuses certain types of behaviour, like aggression, competitiveness, even stoicism as polar opposites to compassion, cooperation and sensitivity, which men can also apply, but which are more often attributed to women or as described as ‘weakness’ in men. The worst vices can appear in both genders hence we encourage the ‘better angels of our nature’ not assume one or either gender is inherently evil.
As soon as she started with a sociologist said, I stopped giving significant credence to what followed.
Excellent guest, kudos
Being a good man is loving and caring about others not just yourself. Manning up or being toxic seems to be just selfishness. But note that loving someone is not just doing what they tell you they want. It's also doing what is best for them in the long term. That's where self control, determination and patience are required. See fruit of the spirit.
In our gynocentric society a 'good man' is one who does as he's told, never questions The Message and keeps on paying taxes.
That's their opinion.
Very good stuff!!
A Good Man is a respectful kind man. As a Jew we have a moral and ethical code of conduct for HOW to be GOOD.
Thanks
Really good men do not talk to sociologists.
EXACTLY !!!
What is a good man but a bad man's teacher? What is a bad man but a good man's job? - Lao Tzu
God bless
I pray that society will re-think their rejection of Judeo-Christian morals and ethics. Putting belief in God aside for just a moment, consider the overall goodness a structured society with high morals provides to each individual. Keeping freedom of and freedom from religion is essential. Not everyone will be a believer and they should not be forced to believe or ostracized for not believing. Violent and oppressive zealotry must not be allowed in open society. It is a fallacy to think religion has caused more deaths than political ideology so let’s just put that ridiculous notion to bed.
I've wrestled with this question for a long time, like people who she mentioned were asked, I too said the same things. But I hit something of a snag in my thought, is a good man the sum of his actions or instead rather his temperament? You see life, is ... well complicated and men are not devoid of emotion despite the fact we do not show it when we should (perhaps). A good man, can act poorly or make bad choices, but those acts themselves do not inherently destroy the good man that has always existed within them. An example would be, a good man cheats on his wife, now on the surface that is immediately "well hes not a good man", yet the feelings he gained for another woman are not born of maliciousness or spite, but simply she is providing things to him his wife does not. Perhaps his wife is abusive, doesn't appreciate him, doesn't care for him as she should, treats him poorly. Does a good man stick it out regardless and suffer through it just because he is married to her, or does he allow himself to feel some joy for once?
The point I am making is that, what makes a good man is not inherent to the failure to act purely good, what makes a good man is his general nature towards life and how he approaches and treats others. It is not a check list of never do's or how dare you's. A good man will do bad or terrible things, when the good man feels there is nothing else left but to do those things. This is why I view a good man through the lens of temperament primarily and not acts. Because someone of good character can be driven to bad acts, but their temperament would still remain the same.
How about trying to be a real good man?
The Auckland (NZ) Art Gallery had a similar message in what was their once classical section. Title of the show, 'Man Power, Myth of Masculinity'. Was installed for a very long time.
The Lord Jesus Christ died for our sins, was buried and rose again the third day (1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV). We are saved by grace through faith, not works (Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV). Getting water baptized DOESN'T save us (1 Corinthians 1:17 KJV).
Oh look. A woman with an opinion.
Oh look, a man without one
With enough good men, we won't need any real men.
To be a good man is to do as your told. Especially if a woman is doing the telling.
Defender of the white race.
Somebody has to do it. I'm not looking to black America to protect us! Or Latin Ametixans either!
.... or perhaps you think we're undeserving of any protection....I think I answered my own question on that.
Ask a woman to explain men? 😉