1 : Never turn the conversation into an argument 2 :Never say/ force anybody to say "i am wrong" 3 : Get the other person sayin "Yes" as fast as possible 4 : Let the other person do a great amount of talking 5 : Let the other person feel that the idea is their Extra tips 6 : Dont try to prove things 7 : If u r disagree with something that they r sayin never interrupt them
@@Medietos you lead them so near to solution that they have to get it, they're the first one to say it out loud then you pretend you didn't realize and praise them
My brother took my phone because he saw some pics which he shouldn't have. And now he thinks I'm bad and he is so closeminded that he isn't even listening to the real thing.
I have found more people are likely to come to reasonably terms when approaching a softer two way present your case. When you call them out on anything people tend to build a wall to defend not only their opinions, but their honor as well and this can lead to a very bias outlook on their part, because they are no longer trying to make a good argument, but rather trying to defend their honor and they mistake trying to defend themselves with trying to come to terms with the debate. I have caught myself building irrational walls to an argument merely because I was insulted and I can even notice my logical reasoning, being replaced with emotional defense. For people un-familiar with their own psychology, this can be nearly impossible to spot in your own thinking. Like trying to spot your own logical fallacies. Another thing is that, even if you know they're wrong and you can even predict what the next fallacious thing they are going to say is, you still have to listen like you might learn something new, even if you know you wont. Being honestly engaged in the conversation shows people that you are taking note of their points and listening as oppose to calling them out before they even finish the sentence. That never ends well as that wall of defense will immediately come up. There is one problem that this approach can have however and that's where your the one whos wrong and your interlockuter is in fact right. When you put all factors on the table, no amount of technique of approach is going to make an irrational argument become rational. Unless in the case where the person who's right doesn't understand their position well enough and they don't know why they're right, they just guessed lucky and the irrational argument seems more persuasive to them. Here all the factors are not on the table of course. This is an example of how a normal person can be persuaded by a flat earther and change their mind. At some point in their life they happened to land on the right answer or were brought up believing something true, but never had good enough information about it to begin with and a false argument in that case can appear to seem more reasonable that whats actually true that's backed up by better information that was never addressed.
I kinda doubt it man, I've lived my life following that and I'm a lonely person, my life is going to work and come back home to eat and sleep... Maybe sometimes people doesn't like to be given the reason or being convinced of things.
It seems to me if you can master "likeability" and "rapport" you have more chance of convincing someone; that said some people have their mind made up. I once had a customer argue over 1 cent, so pointless...
The problem with 3 is that it’s a shallow type of convincing strategy, it also happens with salesmen, the customer thinks about their decision more and then regrets it. It will happen in conversation too
"I forgive you for your ignorance", I think most would perceive that as massively passive aggressive. Maybe "I understand that different people have different experiences, so can come to different views." Unless that's starting nothing. What'd you think?
*My freind will understand what i said him in future. Huh* When I try to convince my friend to think in my way he says - Everyone have different perspective . But what I am trying to convince him is mere facts , and its true for everyone . So its like he is saying "No , 1+1 is not 2 . Everyone have different perspective" Maybe he don't want to accept facts and bitter truth . And when I try to convince him he says - You are such an aggresive guy ,always debating . Well, he will understand that I was right , in future .
On Number 4: It is very wise to let the other person talk and to let them know you respect their opinions. BUT, this is followed up by "never interrupt" and "Encourage them (to talk more)." I have talked to my fair share of people and when you meet someone who is good with discussion and debate, these are not a very good idea. People who are good at discussion could talk for hours, and can talk circles around you. Encouraging them to talk more is a bad idea since you are not putting your own thoughts into the equation and they could dismiss them before you ever brought them up. Some people are very aggressive with speaking and may not give you the chance to talk. How can you persuade someone when you never get the chance too? You can't. Instead of "Never Interrupt" try "Interrupt politely. Instead of "Encourage them" try "Letting them speak is a good idea, but establishing that your opinion has value is important." That one is just a little bit longer. Listening patiently is a good idea, so stick with that one. Just remember that peer to peer persuasion is discussion, not a stage performance!
More or less depends on the person, people who are intrigued in learning( you want them to talk more) in a debate u are correct. It is important to not make the opponent feel like they are winning, especially with spectators and judges
Because he never said it to the people he was trying to convince. He said it to Liberals and they dislike him even more than they dislike other republicans, he said it to other republicans, and he had a unprecedented lack of support from them.
Trump won because Hilary was garbage, the media damaged her while she was going against Bernie and when it became mainstream that Bernie was cheated she somewhat split the party and hurt the Bernie supporters that could have gave her the W. He also won because identity politics is king and that killed off every serious candidate. I would also call that the electoral college played a role but it's role was minor. The US isn't a democracy, it's a representative republic so we all went into this knowing how it works and Obama won against the system twice so i can't blame the EC too much. Trump ran against what could be considered some of the easiest competition he could have had in regard to running for president.
0:18-Never turn your conversation into argument and don't try to involve your feelings into it 1:06-Never say them that you are wrong say that you might be wrong 2:10-Get the other person saying yes as fast as possible and more likely they will say yes in the future 2:47-Let the other person do the talking 3:18-Dont interrupt them even if you might be wrong, listen patiently 3:51-Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs
Heres a better idea, dont be so egotistical that you think you should change someones mind. Just have a healthy discussion about both viewpoints and come to a consensus on what each other believes. The idea that people should go around changing other people is what is wrong with todays society. "When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world."
Yeah ok, so what about my family members who are eating themselves into diabetes and refuse to either diet or even consider any exercise? Are these behaviours that should continue unchallenged, even when it's physically hurting them and will place a burden on the rest of the family/society?
@@blahblahblahblah2837 i personally think that the fat people should go to camps where they learn how to exersize a bit more. or maybe do shots that works too. diabeeties are like, for real a major issue here. who do you blame, the fogs? i dont think so. like, just eat some cabbage and ull be cool dude. if someone wants to eat thems slefs to death who are you to say yes, say no thank you sleep well rabbit boiiiiii. diet coke will do the trick. ;) get some nice chinese training maybe, open a book, die die diesnt tuns wokrs too lolz. try to ciber bully me ill just drink some juse and take a nap lol.
When I try to convince my friend to think in my way he says - Everyone have different perspective . But what I am trying to convince him is mere facts , and its true for everyone . So its like he is saying "No , 1+1 is not 2 . Everyone have different perspective" Maybe he don't want to accept facts and bitter truth . And when I try to convince him he says - You are such an aggresive guy ,always debating . Well, he will understand that I was right , in future .
Number 4 is GOATED!!! I just convinced my friend to play a machine with me after trying for 16 hours, I am so excited I hope we win or else he won’t play machines anymore.
Feels like inception haha, gotta make them feel like its their idea without being too intrusive or agressive. Don't alter the dream too much or the illusion goes away :)
Trying to convince my mom to move to a state with an ocean, I don’t like Colorado especially the ugly, small and smelly town we’re living in. If you know South Park, it actually is “The Exact Opposite of Hawaii”. I’m in Florida right now for vacation and I feel like I’m missing out on life. The beautiful beaches, the vegetation, the rain/thunder, the palm trees!! It’s all so beautiful, meanwhile Greeley is so gloomy and dry. I don’t understand how anyone would want to live in small unknown towns. My mom chose Greeley instead of California and New York(she has lived in these before). I just wanna have fun...it’s so boring over there :(
The best is actually go for "no", don't avoid objections, understand what emotions they convey and figure out why they react with that emotion at that time instead of logically convincing people. Eventually they're going to be more receptive and come to their own conclusions. Read never split the difference. By Chris voss. And getting to no, by Jim camp
-try to look at it from my perspective 1:00 -ever thought of looking at it from that angle? 4:09 in these moments are you implying the speaker's ability to FRAME CONTROL? Could you please make a video about CONTROLLING THE FRAME OF THE CONVERSATION?
I was doing all these to my younger brother..and now he is completely out of hand today..he hates me..i always care him but from my perspective..not from him ..i got to realise by this video..
0:20 - Conversation where you show your Opinion, Data you Colleced. WITHOUT HINDER OR HURT other Opinion 2:10 - Let they talk and listen with open mind 3:51 - Let the feel the Idea is Their. Make suggestion and let OP fullfilly thinking of it.
I've been abused and tortured, I still am in many ways, so you arbitrarily command I should continue being abused and tortured and conform to the standard? Who are you? What are you?
I think "You might be wrong" is saying "You are wrong" so something like "I have a different opinion for I see and respect your point" is better maybe? I just made a video about that BTW :)
I’m going to use this advice with my mom bcuz at the moment I can’t bring my car to college because I failed pre cal last semester and I know I messed up but I feel like my car shouldn’t be brought into the situation especially since I didnt even have a car last semester I just got it in June prayerfully she can change her mind it’s only been 2 weeks and I miss driving it
If I was your dad...You would be completely free to make your own choices without any punishment or consequences from me. I would never tell you to do anything, Like...if you hate cleaning.. I wouldnt make you....I'd clean everything! If we have a disagreement about something...we both sit down and talk about it. Id get angry or annoyed, I want to know what you have to say. And MOST times Id side with you. Whatever your choice is, IF I can fulfill that choice for to, Id give it to you....its not my place to make choices for you!
Those rules sound great IN THEORY, but anyone who has ever tried reasoning with a close-minded, completely unreasonable person, will tell you the rules don't work in actual practice. Add that to someone who loves to hear him/herself speak, or take forever to make a simple point, and u have the perfect formula for taxing ur patience. Even if u want to end the conversation and leave, they won't stop talking long enough to provide the necessary lull in the conversation. I learned those steps the hard way: experience through trial and error. Still, though, I got some new life skills.
This video in principe says: „most science done only holds the illusion of being powerful. People are emotional, not rational. There can be data as much as humanly possible, if people feel uncomfortable about it for whatever reason… it is going to be rejected“
If you try all above methods of convincing and nothing works , 1) Your friend will understand what u mean ,in future some day . 2)Your friend don't want to accept mere facts and truth .
1) no, you can't tell the future! 2) no, that's only ONE possible scenario of MANY, including that you might be bossy, stupid, corrupt, &/ wrong among many other possibilities!
2:30 Stop using the "yes" ladder...The person you are using it on will resent you for it after giving you the yes you were looking for. It will be counterfeit, and it's a short term win for no long term gain.
I’ve been going to a gymnasium for a few years, it was really fun but my friends made fun of me for going there so about 2 years ago I started going to theirs. But now we have a coach that everyone hates, 2 girls recently moved because their parents didn’t like the way they treated us. I really want to go back but my mom won’t let me and I don’t know how to convince me! If you have any advice please reply!!!!!!
some of those rules are polite and respectful to others opinions but using them feels like u are manipulating them bcs u change their mind without them knowing it sometimes u just gotta convince your gf to stop smoking or your friend to start spending more time studying than being lazy all day but u can also use them to change their ideas into something which is gonna benefit u only
I am trying to convince one of my bi friends that he is allowed to date other men he is very religious and thinks it's a sin and is homophobic but really kind to everyone (I'm trans and pan)
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..Yes the Art of conversation. Great video to start out the month of May. For men, this advice works great when talking to Women especially when they are angry haha
I have zero interest in convincing anyone of anything. Truth speaks for itself. Its impossible to intimidate people to believe lies just because you know have substantial regrets because you falsely believed your lies would have a different effect.
The fact that the other party’s saying “yes” to you can guarantee that he/she will agree with you in the future as well is a nonsense. As mentioned previously one should persuade the other by providing evidence or statistics that his/her claim is true, so believing that people will create habit of saying yes to you is like a back-up thought to which it is hard to believe. The point is that trust should be earned based on evidence and real truthful statements.
Actually, If the point of a discussion is to change someones mind, you are doing something wrong. The purpose of a debate is to find the truth, not to win. So, the real goal is to behave in a way that maximizes the chance of a rational discussion.
Great video, it just that it's harder to use those tricks in a group talk, any advice in that case? also, I think that there is a mistake, is it not "nerver say you're wrong" unstead of "never say I am wrong"? 1:07 and thanks, keep it up :)
Actually u know exactly what the problms we r facing ... onto that u are suggesting the solutions & i am following , i hope u might be knowing more about the solutions .. anyways keep it up . u really really changed my life . thnks 👍✌
I tried this trick i said to her Mom : ITS BECAUSE OF THAT IPAD Me : but ur still cooking Mom : Goes in The kitchen and cooks Me : LOL that was ez /MIND
It doesn’t work with love or friendships unfortunately, I have the evidence I was there for them but she’s so done that she never will say yes. I chose to walk away though that’s hard. Shes gone but I have myself
Well, is it possible to make someone want to have a conversation with you if they say they don't want to? My cousin is an advocate for identity politics and everytime it comes up in a conversation and ask her if she would want to explain her point and have a friendly conversation about it she just keeps putting it down. And then I ask why she doesn't want to talk about it and she says that it's because she feels uncomfortable to talk to me. She is still pretty young though, so maybe that's the reason. Still, she shows no interest in learning about the policies she is voting for, at all, and I think we would both learn a lot from each other if we were to have a conversation.
If you could make a person do what you say, but ONLY ONCE in the entire timeline, what would you tell that person to do? I would make Waluigi into a Smash Character that transcends and aces (pun intended, because Mario Tennis Aces) even Melee Fox!
1. Call them by their name. 2. Smile. 3. Be a good listener 4. Compliment. 5. Have calm body language 6. Give them credit 7. Don't harshly criticise them
It sucks that you have to learn how to manipulate people just to get things done. It sucks that people are so emotional as well, I’m only 23 and I feel I have decent control over my emotional responses, I’m definitely open to being wrong, but I look around at all these people older then me who haven’t given any thought to their emotional state at all, rather they let it drive their “logical” side instead
Getting people to say yes often times backfires greatly. Read Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. PS I also love when you cite your sources. When you don't it seems like you're just making up these thoughts in your head without research. I stopped watching when I noticed the lack of research for this video. You're typically incredible and I'm still a fan. I want to enjoy all your videos.
“Our emotions play a much larger impact on our decisions then what our brain logically decides are facts” so true
Facts
Facts are facts no way around it
It depends on the person bro! Logical people don't mix feelings with facts!
@@TrueSpeak-TS That's what people tell themselves to make themselves feel good
@@TrueSpeak-TS how do you know if someone is logical
1 : Never turn the conversation into an argument
2 :Never say/ force anybody to say "i am wrong"
3 : Get the other person sayin "Yes" as fast as possible
4 : Let the other person do a great amount of talking
5 : Let the other person feel that the idea is their
Extra tips
6 : Dont try to prove things
7 : If u r disagree with something that they r sayin never interrupt them
Thankfull for your comment
If you keep all these points , then you will be the one gonna get convinced by the other persons points😂
5 works so well 😏
@@sonias9722 I've heard so too, but how o earth do you do that? If the idea is not theirs, won't they notice ...?
@@Medietos you lead them so near to solution that they have to get it, they're the first one to say it out loud then you pretend you didn't realize and praise them
They won't work if someone is extremely closeminded and do not even accept making a conversation
Λάζαρος Μαγιόπουλος yes. Many if not all people are mentally ill to some degree these days.
I’m open minded, but.. there are some factors out of my control that determine how shit goes in those situations, but hey
I agreee
Wow Greek I know some greek
My brother took my phone because he saw some pics which he shouldn't have. And now he thinks I'm bad and he is so closeminded that he isn't even listening to the real thing.
"Just because your correct, doesn't mean you're right!"
-Emiya Shirou
Practical Psychology would you dare to try "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene?
One of the hundreds of anime I've watched
Just because your bad doesn't mean you are evil
-me
Um actually it does
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I started w Jesus.
You will get there.
I’m 40 and blessed w 2 boys.
Money isn’t everything.
Options Specialist Can't feed those boys and can't pay the rent with religion
JesusIsMyLife LoveIsAllYouNeed Lol funny
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@Options Specialist,
1.7 million [currency?] doing it right!
Nice work!
These tips sound like HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE :)
Great points!
Yes, glad you noticed ;D
I have found more people are likely to come to reasonably terms when approaching a softer two way present your case. When you call them out on anything people tend to build a wall to defend not only their opinions, but their honor as well and this can lead to a very bias outlook on their part, because they are no longer trying to make a good argument, but rather trying to defend their honor and they mistake trying to defend themselves with trying to come to terms with the debate. I have caught myself building irrational walls to an argument merely because I was insulted and I can even notice my logical reasoning, being replaced with emotional defense. For people un-familiar with their own psychology, this can be nearly impossible to spot in your own thinking. Like trying to spot your own logical fallacies.
Another thing is that, even if you know they're wrong and you can even predict what the next fallacious thing they are going to say is, you still have to listen like you might learn something new, even if you know you wont. Being honestly engaged in the conversation shows people that you are taking note of their points and listening as oppose to calling them out before they even finish the sentence. That never ends well as that wall of defense will immediately come up.
There is one problem that this approach can have however and that's where your the one whos wrong and your interlockuter is in fact right.
When you put all factors on the table, no amount of technique of approach is going to make an irrational argument become rational. Unless in the case where the person who's right doesn't understand their position well enough and they don't know why they're right, they just guessed lucky and the irrational argument seems more persuasive to them. Here all the factors are not on the table of course. This is an example of how a normal person can be persuaded by a flat earther and change their mind. At some point in their life they happened to land on the right answer or were brought up believing something true, but never had good enough information about it to begin with and a false argument in that case can appear to seem more reasonable that whats actually true that's backed up by better information that was never addressed.
Dr.StickFigure I love that book my dad made me read it the summer before 7th grade and in the past 1 1/2 years it's helped a lot
I kinda doubt it man, I've lived my life following that and I'm a lonely person, my life is going to work and come back home to eat and sleep... Maybe sometimes people doesn't like to be given the reason or being convinced of things.
It seems to me if you can master "likeability" and "rapport" you have more chance of convincing someone; that said some people have their mind made up. I once had a customer argue over 1 cent, so pointless...
The problem with 3 is that it’s a shallow type of convincing strategy, it also happens with salesmen, the customer thinks about their decision more and then regrets it. It will happen in conversation too
Forgiveness is kind of my mindset. Ever thought of telling them, "I forgive you for your ignorance."?
"I forgive you for your ignorance", I think most would perceive that as massively passive aggressive.
Maybe "I understand that different people have different experiences, so can come to different views."
Unless that's starting nothing.
What'd you think?
*My freind will understand what i said him in future. Huh*
When I try to convince my friend to think in my way he says - Everyone have different perspective . But what I am trying to convince him is mere facts , and its true for everyone . So its like he is saying "No , 1+1 is not 2 . Everyone have different perspective"
Maybe he don't want to accept facts and bitter truth . And when I try to convince him he says - You are such an aggresive guy ,always debating . Well, he will understand that I was right , in future .
I think people usually jump to saying "you are wrong" way too fast. patience is key.
On Number 4:
It is very wise to let the other person talk and to let them know you respect their opinions.
BUT, this is followed up by "never interrupt" and "Encourage them (to talk more)." I have talked to my fair share of people and when you meet someone who is good with discussion and debate, these are not a very good idea. People who are good at discussion could talk for hours, and can talk circles around you. Encouraging them to talk more is a bad idea since you are not putting your own thoughts into the equation and they could dismiss them before you ever brought them up.
Some people are very aggressive with speaking and may not give you the chance to talk. How can you persuade someone when you never get the chance too? You can't. Instead of "Never Interrupt" try "Interrupt politely. Instead of "Encourage them" try "Letting them speak is a good idea, but establishing that your opinion has value is important." That one is just a little bit longer.
Listening patiently is a good idea, so stick with that one. Just remember that peer to peer persuasion is discussion, not a stage performance!
I agree.
Yep.
More or less depends on the person, people who are intrigued in learning( you want them to talk more) in a debate u are correct. It is important to not make the opponent feel like they are winning, especially with spectators and judges
What a big commenting. Short and sweet is the best
Non-stop talkers are best avoided for multiple reasons.
But if saying "wrong" is useless how did Trump win?
WRONG
He won the public vote and didnt change his opponent's minds.
His case is very different.
Because he never said it to the people he was trying to convince. He said it to Liberals and they dislike him even more than they dislike other republicans, he said it to other republicans, and he had a unprecedented lack of support from them.
Trump won because Hilary was garbage, the media damaged her while she was going against Bernie and when it became mainstream that Bernie was cheated she somewhat split the party and hurt the Bernie supporters that could have gave her the W. He also won because identity politics is king and that killed off every serious candidate. I would also call that the electoral college played a role but it's role was minor. The US isn't a democracy, it's a representative republic so we all went into this knowing how it works and Obama won against the system twice so i can't blame the EC too much. Trump ran against what could be considered some of the easiest competition he could have had in regard to running for president.
Russia lol
Narcissistic person watches thill end: "how am I the wrong one?"
Great as always! ;)
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Thanks for watching!
This is by far your best video ever Practical Pshology. Thank you SO MUCH! I will send it to all my contacts!
Oh wow, awesome! Thanks :)
0:18-Never turn your conversation into argument and don't try to involve your feelings into it
1:06-Never say them that you are wrong say that you might be wrong
2:10-Get the other person saying yes as fast as possible and more likely they will say yes in the future
2:47-Let the other person do the talking
3:18-Dont interrupt them even if you might be wrong, listen patiently
3:51-Let the other person feel that the idea is theirs
Heres a better idea, dont be so egotistical that you think you should change someones mind. Just have a healthy discussion about both viewpoints and come to a consensus on what each other believes.
The idea that people should go around changing other people is what is wrong with todays society.
"When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was
difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I
found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I
couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my
family.
Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself,
and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could
have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an
impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I
could indeed have changed the world."
So beautiful. ^-^
What a load of BULLSHIT
Beautiful
Yeah ok, so what about my family members who are eating themselves into diabetes and refuse to either diet or even consider any exercise?
Are these behaviours that should continue unchallenged, even when it's physically hurting them and will place a burden on the rest of the family/society?
@@blahblahblahblah2837 i personally think that the fat people should go to camps where they learn how to exersize a bit more. or maybe do shots that works too. diabeeties are like, for real a major issue here. who do you blame, the fogs? i dont think so. like, just eat some cabbage and ull be cool dude. if someone wants to eat thems slefs to death who are you to say yes, say no thank you sleep well rabbit boiiiiii. diet coke will do the trick. ;) get some nice chinese training maybe, open a book, die die diesnt tuns wokrs too lolz. try to ciber bully me ill just drink some juse and take a nap lol.
When I try to convince my friend to think in my way he says - Everyone have different perspective . But what I am trying to convince him is mere facts , and its true for everyone . So its like he is saying "No , 1+1 is not 2 . Everyone have different perspective"
Maybe he don't want to accept facts and bitter truth . And when I try to convince him he says - You are such an aggresive guy ,always debating . Well, he will understand that I was right , in future .
Nobody is good because we don't know how to agree on things.
Number 4 is GOATED!!! I just convinced my friend to play a machine with me after trying for 16 hours, I am so excited I hope we win or else he won’t play machines anymore.
I'm going to use this for my mother, wish me luck guys 😭
Feels like inception haha, gotta make them feel like its their idea without being too intrusive or agressive. Don't alter the dream too much or the illusion goes away :)
Excellent video. This video is really helpful for those people who are looking for a way to convince someone to their opinion.
"never say i am wrong" . What??? why would you say that during an argument?
MEGAsporg12 conversation*
MEGAsporg12 You missed the first point.
While trying to prove a point, literally no one says "I'm wrong" like wth.
"I slept with your mother,I'm wrong" - That's how you'll say it.
Trying to convince my mom to move to a state with an ocean, I don’t like Colorado especially the ugly, small and smelly town we’re living in. If you know South Park, it actually is “The Exact Opposite of Hawaii”. I’m in Florida right now for vacation and I feel like I’m missing out on life. The beautiful beaches, the vegetation, the rain/thunder, the palm trees!! It’s all so beautiful, meanwhile Greeley is so gloomy and dry. I don’t understand how anyone would want to live in small unknown towns. My mom chose Greeley instead of California and New York(she has lived in these before). I just wanna have fun...it’s so boring over there :(
The best is actually go for "no", don't avoid objections, understand what emotions they convey and figure out why they react with that emotion at that time instead of logically convincing people.
Eventually they're going to be more receptive and come to their own conclusions.
Read never split the difference. By Chris voss. And getting to no, by Jim camp
great points, facts don't always convince people
When my dad and my uncle would have a conversation they would say " what a guy could do" instead of " what you should do".
-try to look at it from my perspective 1:00
-ever thought of looking at it from that angle? 4:09
in these moments are you implying the speaker's ability to FRAME CONTROL?
Could you please make a video about CONTROLLING THE FRAME OF THE CONVERSATION?
Nice points ❤️
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I was doing all these to my younger brother..and now he is completely out of hand today..he hates me..i always care him but from my perspective..not from him ..i got to realise by this video..
I usually don't have a trouble of convincing people but what i learntfrom this video is how to sound polite..
Interesting feedback :)
0:20 - Conversation where you show your Opinion, Data you Colleced. WITHOUT HINDER OR HURT other Opinion
2:10 - Let they talk and listen with open mind
3:51 - Let the feel the Idea is Their. Make suggestion and let OP fullfilly thinking of it.
Be yourself and be normal
I've been abused and tortured, I still am in many ways, so you arbitrarily command I should continue being abused and tortured and conform to the standard? Who are you? What are you?
Christ you straight stole from Dale Carnegies book, im not hating but i think he does at least deserve some credit in your description or something.
I think "You might be wrong" is saying "You are wrong"
so something like "I have a different opinion for I see and respect your point" is better maybe? I just made a video about that BTW :)
I personally think that is stupid. Since most people don't even care about others opinions.
So useful man, so useful! Keep on! Thanks
I’m going to use this advice with my mom bcuz at the moment I can’t bring my car to college because I failed pre cal last semester and I know I messed up but I feel like my car shouldn’t be brought into the situation especially since I didnt even have a car last semester I just got it in June prayerfully she can change her mind it’s only been 2 weeks and I miss driving it
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Im here trying to convince my strict dad to let me hangout with my friends... he's mad because I've hung out twice since school started.
If I was your dad...You would be completely free to make your own choices without any punishment or consequences from me.
I would never tell you to do anything, Like...if you hate cleaning.. I wouldnt make you....I'd clean everything!
If we have a disagreement about something...we both sit down and talk about it. Id get angry or annoyed, I want to know what you have to say. And MOST times Id side with you.
Whatever your choice is, IF I can fulfill that choice for to, Id give it to you....its not my place to make choices for you!
@@perryh.5306 Parents should support their kids of course,but sometimes you have to gently force them to do certain tasks in order to learn
another issue is the way we codify our ideas into words, what we mean by a word might not be what other people mean
Helpful advices, have a great day, much love
btw i am too lazy to read books so i watch your videos ;-) it really helps thanks
Those rules sound great IN THEORY, but anyone who has ever tried reasoning with a close-minded, completely unreasonable person, will tell you the rules don't work in actual practice. Add that to someone who loves to hear him/herself speak, or take forever to make a simple point, and u have the perfect formula for taxing ur patience. Even if u want to end the conversation and leave, they won't stop talking long enough to provide the necessary lull in the conversation. I learned those steps the hard way: experience through trial and error. Still, though, I got some new life skills.
Exactly. Look at the facts and not opinions.
Thanks really really for making this video
I am watching this video to change the thinking of my friend
This video in principe says: „most science done only holds the illusion of being powerful. People are emotional, not rational. There can be data as much as humanly possible, if people feel uncomfortable about it for whatever reason… it is going to be rejected“
ok thank you we'll keep these in mind
Love this channel!!!
3:53, are we talking inception here?
Hey, sounds like you changed the tone of your voice while talking. Honestly, it sounds better. Good job!
Well, half way the video you started talking a bit faster I notice now. Still, it's better though.
If you try all above methods of convincing and nothing works ,
1) Your friend will understand what u mean ,in future some day .
2)Your friend don't want to accept mere facts and truth .
1) no, you can't tell the future!
2) no, that's only ONE possible scenario of MANY, including that you might be bossy, stupid, corrupt, &/ wrong among many other possibilities!
this is such a fun channel to binge watch keep it up! :)
2:30 Stop using the "yes" ladder...The person you are using it on will resent you for it after giving you the yes you were looking for. It will be counterfeit, and it's a short term win for no long term gain.
Nice vid, keep on giving Tipps 👍🏽
Thanks, glad you enjoyed!
My bigger sis says that we should not allow any one to come up and I say that we should allow other too plz help me what should I do
I’ve been going to a gymnasium for a few years, it was really fun but my friends made fun of me for going there so about 2 years ago I started going to theirs. But now we have a coach that everyone hates, 2 girls recently moved because their parents didn’t like the way they treated us. I really want to go back but my mom won’t let me and I don’t know how to convince me! If you have any advice please reply!!!!!!
Idk if this works im currently trieng to get bethesda to make a ranger from nv to the creation club on ps4
Thanks to your friend Isminof
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some of those rules are polite and respectful to others opinions but using them feels like u are manipulating them bcs u change their mind without them knowing it
sometimes u just gotta convince your gf to stop smoking or your friend to start spending more time studying than being lazy all day but u can also use them to change their ideas into something which is gonna benefit u only
I am trying to convince one of my bi friends that he is allowed to date other men he is very religious and thinks it's a sin and is homophobic but really kind to everyone (I'm trans and pan)
i have 2 dreams i want to become a wealthy artist and an international jewellery designerand have my own jewellery line but i really dont know from where i should start thank u so much for this motivation ❤❤❤
Very smart points!
..Yes the Art of conversation. Great video to start out the month of May. For men, this advice works great when talking to Women especially when they are angry haha
Haha, great comment xD
I didn't realize it was this simple, amazing! Do you think I should use these in my persuasive speech in speech and debate?
No i would not suggest it they are not very good tips. Look up some real tips on google.
These tips are more for casual debates between friends, or acquaintances.
oh ok
One of the best video
I love ur channel keep up the GREAT work
I have zero interest in convincing anyone of anything. Truth speaks for itself. Its impossible to intimidate people to believe lies just because you know have substantial regrets because you falsely believed your lies would have a different effect.
Thank you so much!
Thanks! Have any suggestions for future videos? :D
Hmmmm maybe more videos on relationships between peers
My way is to make people laugh or reflect. And I have no hurry for the answers!
Thanks for the video! :)
Thanks for watching!
The fact that the other party’s saying “yes” to you can guarantee that he/she will agree with you in the future as well is a nonsense. As mentioned previously one should persuade the other by providing evidence or statistics that his/her claim is true, so believing that people will create habit of saying yes to you is like a back-up thought to which it is hard to believe. The point is that trust should be earned based on evidence and real truthful statements.
Thanks
Actually, If the point of a discussion is to change someones mind, you are doing something wrong. The purpose of a debate is to find the truth, not to win. So, the real goal is to behave in a way that maximizes the chance of a rational discussion.
WoW, thanks for the tips I believe they'll help me a lot 👏😃
Great video, it just that it's harder to use those tricks in a group talk, any advice in that case?
also, I think that there is a mistake, is it not "nerver say you're wrong" unstead of "never say I am wrong"? 1:07
and thanks, keep it up :)
my mistake then ^^
the most powerful way to prove somebody wrong is by asking questions
-Socrates
I need to learn how to turn arguements to normal conversations.
Really bro following you ...
changed my life ... the way i used to think of everything . .
Really man thnks ...
This means a lot! Any suggestions for future videos?
Actually u know exactly what the problms we r facing ... onto that u are suggesting the solutions & i am following , i hope u might be knowing more about the solutions ..
anyways keep it up . u really really changed my life . thnks 👍✌
Now these may *seem* like great tips, but try looking at things from this perspective…
You are great buddy.
Good one
I tried this trick i said to her
Mom : ITS BECAUSE OF THAT IPAD
Me : but ur still cooking
Mom : Goes in The kitchen and cooks
Me : LOL that was ez /MIND
It's really helpful
Great tips ❣️😃👍🏽
You are the same channel of caminos al éxito ?
its a very good video. yes i would like see more like this. thanks
thank you😊
Thanks for watching!
It doesn’t work with love or friendships unfortunately, I have the evidence I was there for them but she’s so done that she never will say yes. I chose to walk away though that’s hard. Shes gone but I have myself
Awesome Video 👍
Thanks George :D
Well, is it possible to make someone want to have a conversation with you if they say they don't want to? My cousin is an advocate for identity politics and everytime it comes up in a conversation and ask her if she would want to explain her point and have a friendly conversation about it she just keeps putting it down. And then I ask why she doesn't want to talk about it and she says that it's because she feels uncomfortable to talk to me. She is still pretty young though, so maybe that's the reason. Still, she shows no interest in learning about the policies she is voting for, at all, and I think we would both learn a lot from each other if we were to have a conversation.
If you could make a person do what you say, but ONLY ONCE in the entire timeline, what would you tell that person to do? I would make Waluigi into a Smash Character that transcends and aces (pun intended, because Mario Tennis Aces) even Melee Fox!
Damn it. I Wish I knew this earlier before.
This dudes voice is so nice
1. Call them by their name.
2. Smile.
3. Be a good listener
4. Compliment.
5. Have calm body language
6. Give them credit
7. Don't harshly criticise them
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It sucks that you have to learn how to manipulate people just to get things done.
It sucks that people are so emotional as well, I’m only 23 and I feel I have decent control over my emotional responses, I’m definitely open to being wrong, but I look around at all these people older then me who haven’t given any thought to their emotional state at all, rather they let it drive their “logical” side instead
Hello, how can we close a partnership with you, having the same channel here in Brazil?
Getting people to say yes often times backfires greatly. Read Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. PS I also love when you cite your sources. When you don't it seems like you're just making up these thoughts in your head without research. I stopped watching when I noticed the lack of research for this video. You're typically incredible and I'm still a fan. I want to enjoy all your videos.
Can you suggest book on this topic
Love the vid 👌🏻😍
Glad you liked it! Thanks for your support
any chance you can change the music?
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Let the other talk
Ideas was their
Never argue
Say I may be wrong
Yes yes yes