How I lost my husband | Becoming a widow and a single mom of two

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  • @tararimer8745
    @tararimer8745 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +883

    I lost my husband to a massive cerebral aneurism when he was 24. I had a 6 month old baby boy. My life ended as I knew it. But I knew that I was all he had so I was determined to be the best mom that I could be. I raised him alone for 10 years. God then sent someone into our lives who has taken care of me my son and our son. It has been almost 27 years. My husband was the father that he didn't have to be. He never missed a baseball, basketball or football game the next 8 years. We now have a beautiful granddaughter and another on the way. With my 1st son. All that to say that God is awesome. He blesses when we think it's not possible. Prayers for you and your family.

    • @michellefury12345
      @michellefury12345 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      🥺❤️🙏

    • @SerendipitySoulFluidArt
      @SerendipitySoulFluidArt 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      💔🙏🏻💔

    • @people_watcher
      @people_watcher 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      My father passed away when I was 5 he was 33 . He also suffered a cerebral aneurysm and it took him instantly. This made my mom a widow at age 29 with 3 small little girls to raise. We also had a special man enter our lives and help our mom to raise us. Congratulations to you for beating the challenge laid upon you. God bless you and God keep you.

    • @Lutifah
      @Lutifah 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Hope you’re doing ok💕

    • @Hello-ze1sd
      @Hello-ze1sd 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Sending you so so much love and hugs I’m so so sorry for everything that you’ve been through and are going through 🩷🩷🩷💕💕🩷

  • @mpraiser-592
    @mpraiser-592 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +462

    Thank you for sharing. I am a widow as well. My husband died in a motorcycle crash 7 months after we got married. We had 2 kids 2 and 6 at the time. That experience led me back to God and He has been my rock through it all.

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      So sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @shaylacrossland1475
      @shaylacrossland1475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Amen God can get us through anything as long as we kee0 our faith in him.

    • @saltycat662
      @saltycat662 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I'm so very sorry. Idk how people get through hardships without God. Every single time I have dealt with a tragedy or something very difficult, God has helped me through. He is the rock I cling onto. He's given me something no human being ever could.
      May God keep you and your family protected and in peace.

    • @tarras3292
      @tarras3292 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Sorry for your Lost.. Hopefully you can recover And Remember the Memories Y’all Shared and Prayers 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @marylampman3481
      @marylampman3481 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Well said. I lost my husband in 2020 to cancer. This is the loneliest I have been in my life. God walks with me every day and holds me up when I am to week to stand.

  • @NovemberRain007
    @NovemberRain007 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +419

    My husband was killed overseas in 2011; we were teen parents, as soon as he graduated high school, we got married and he joined the Marines so he could provide a home for our baby and the the both of us. He was such a dedicated military man, he loved his country but mostly he loved his baby and me. My beautiful husband, my best friend… I still miss him everyday. I had just turned 17 when he was killed; our baby just turned 17 a few weeks ago… the other day, my son pointed out that I can finally talk about his dad without sobbing; it’s true, I don’t cry nearly as much, but I still long for him and the life we should have had😔💔

    • @Smari.realtor
      @Smari.realtor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Im so sorry! You just made me Hug my man a little tighter! I don’t know how we would go on without him

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      So sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @leanneadams2549
      @leanneadams2549 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Oh sweetie I’m so sorry for the pain you still feel !! I can’t wait for God to call us home and I truly believe you will see your husband again threw Jesus and there will be no more tears ! Until then… I pray for healing for you ! ❤️🙏💯

    • @Sabaally202
      @Sabaally202 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I love the name @November rain I had friend who lost his gf and he call him slef November rain all the time .❤

    • @thewreathmeshine
      @thewreathmeshine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Prayers for strength and peace. 🙏

  • @constanceslacum6479
    @constanceslacum6479 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +323

    I lost my husband December 30th, 2023. There is a huge emptiness in me. I am a private person who doesn’t share my grief. I do a lot of crying alone. I know God loves me but really don’t understand where his path is leading me. I pray for you and your children and all your family. God Bless you and yours. Thank you for this video! Sincerely, Connie

    • @AlM5378
      @AlM5378 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I’m so sorry. 🥺

    • @cstorres8243
      @cstorres8243 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Bless you Connie. Trust that God will walk with you and show you the way out of the emptiness. I felt so much of what you're feeling. I closed myself off from the world. The first few months are so hard, near-crippling, to be honest. But you'll come through. Take care and remember to give yourself grace.

    • @em77775
      @em77775 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I'm so sorry. I'm private too and I understand not saying much to others. For me, I started with only my mom and sister, and eventually told others about what I went through little by little. Maybe take it in baby steps with those you can trust so they can handle you with care.

    • @alejandracontreras446
      @alejandracontreras446 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I am so sorry 😞 for your loss

    • @susiew3563
      @susiew3563 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I know how you feel .I lost my husband in December 4th.we were together for 48 years it has been hard.but thru the grace of God I will make it.we have 2 grown boys I have to carry on for them .God bless

  • @saraklassen2080
    @saraklassen2080 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +263

    I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 11 weeks ago. We were married for 13 years and have 4 children together ages 11-2. He was only 35 years old. I can't imagine that I will ever get to a place where I'm even close to okay again. But I know with God it is possible. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @hannahjolene3333
      @hannahjolene3333 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      oh my gosh 😢 i’m keeping you and your children in my thoughts that’s so heartbreaking

    • @thelnmiller
      @thelnmiller 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I’m truly sorry for your loss. My husband, same age and we had littles, was in a coma and I just feel for you so much.

    • @laurieann1536
      @laurieann1536 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Get in therapy asap... it will save ur life.. and help u not spiral out of control like I did

    • @patriciawade-smith1087
      @patriciawade-smith1087 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      God is watching over you...He states in His Word that He bottles our tears. God is a sweet but masculine God who is present in every area of our loves. I'm a widow of 8 yrs this august from the pink sand beaches of Bermuda. May you trust in our God He will raise your children with you...just reach out and talk to Him about EVERYTHING your feeling...even your anger.❤

    • @rockythetalkingparrot2465
      @rockythetalkingparrot2465 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I was where you were ten years ago. I promise you it will get better. One day at a time, just keep doing your thing. I never could have imagined the beautiful life God had waiting for me. Now, I even have guilt that things are so good. It’ll be ok, just focus on the kids and the day.

  • @tinacollins2055
    @tinacollins2055 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +187

    You are not alone! I, too, am a widow. My husband dropped dead in our kitchen from a massive heart attack. April 5th will mark 29 years since he died. When he died, a part of me died too. I have accepted that I will never recover from the grief of losing him. I know he is still with me because he sends me love songs. Out of the blue my head will receive a beautiful love song letting me know how much he loves me and how he misses me too.

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      So sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @beingkitschroeder2507
      @beingkitschroeder2507 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Mine also sends me a song. It's always "Who Knew" by Pink, and it always plays on the anniversary of his death, or our anniversary; somehow, someway. In a grocery store, in an elevator, in the car. We were married for three years when he passed, so it's very apropos, if you know the lyrics.

    • @sararichardson279
      @sararichardson279 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So for your loss.. sending prayers and love your way

    • @lisamccullough5150
      @lisamccullough5150 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How old was he? 😢

  • @stanleyhelenchipperfield6638
    @stanleyhelenchipperfield6638 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +181

    You said... "If this can help just one person it is worth it." That one person is me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart my friend. Through your tears you have showed me the most important thing when losing a beautiful husband. Thank you.

    • @Deakybean181
      @Deakybean181 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      She has helped so many! So, even better!

  • @StarlitSoul
    @StarlitSoul 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +271

    I'm a single blind mom of three, I came across your video and my heart aches for you. Here I am in pain for different reasons and struggling, and you're struggles are completely different, but I feel your pain through your voice and your tears. May God wrap his arms around you and your babies And give you strength to keep on keeping on. ❤️🙏

    • @lydiamoore142
      @lydiamoore142 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Much love and support.

    • @sararichardson279
      @sararichardson279 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sending lots of love and prayers

  • @Kristina-rs3pf
    @Kristina-rs3pf 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +264

    Dear Rachel, you’ve reached ME. I am into the tenth month of loosing my husband. I hear you and I feel like you heard me too. Sending you love and strength from UK 🇬🇧 ❤

    • @dewuknowofHyMn
      @dewuknowofHyMn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Please hang on....my hubby passed 11 years ago...
      I will PRAY for you.....
      ❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @Kristina-rs3pf
      @Kristina-rs3pf 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dewuknowofHyMn ❤️❤️❤️🥹

    • @Tigrinnaful
      @Tigrinnaful 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I’m so sorry 💔 Sending love

    • @patriciawade-smith1087
      @patriciawade-smith1087 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Stay with God...He loves you. The Word God states He bottles our tears. God bless you. I'm also a widow of 8 yrs tis august from the Island of Bermuda

    • @gayajega5653
      @gayajega5653 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      God bless you❤

  • @karenharju6919
    @karenharju6919 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    I was widowed in 2000 and had a 12 year old to raise. Most of my support lived 600 miles away. Some days were better than others. Thank for sharing your story.

  • @hupomone0609
    @hupomone0609 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +156

    I lost my husband 16 years ago when I was 33. He just collapsed and died of a heart attack. I was with him, one minute were talking normally, and the next minute he was gone. I’ve been to some very very dark places since then. However it does get better with time. I was left with 2 children, who gave me a reason to get out of bed even when everything inside just wanted me to curl up and die. Many people would say to me that I was strong, but when you have children what choice do you have except to be strong. Falling apart is not an option. Hang in there, it will get better.

    • @Juju-l3o
      @Juju-l3o 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you for sharing, it must’ve been traumatic for you, I’m so sorry😢

    • @lisamccullough5150
      @lisamccullough5150 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How old was he? 😢😢

  • @lianeabeyta4515
    @lianeabeyta4515 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    I am a senior citizen now. have lost my parents, my soulmate from cancer at age 59 and my sister in a car accident , but, like you , I am still here. God does have a plan for us that is hard to see when we are in the depths of sorrow and unthinkable despair. My mother always told me that faith is easy when life is going good and our needs are being met. Its when these tragedies and sorrows and unforeseen obstacles happen that faith takes us to a new level, a new understanding of God's love that we would never have known before. I pray that each day your heart feels a little softer and your burdens are a little lighter.

    • @dusk5956
      @dusk5956 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope you have a nice community. You seem like a nice person to be around. Much love to you

    • @momocandace
      @momocandace 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow i did'nt know i was not alone since i lost my sister 2018 and my fiance to car accident in 2022 with a son from him,his memories drags me every single day its hard but i try and keep trying

  • @melissahawkins5120
    @melissahawkins5120 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    I lost my husband tona drunk driver long ago in1995. We had 4 kids 4 to 14. It's amazing how everything in your life changes with a phone call. I've never remarried. I was 36 and now I'm 66. I hope you find some kind of peace. I learned over years that God is with me thru everyday.

  • @candaceflores1528
    @candaceflores1528 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +103

    I lost my fiance a little over 2 weeks ago from an incurable disease. I am trying to remember when we first met, the love that grew between us and I'm having a hard time. I haven't been speaking to God but I will today. I have a plaque on a wall in our house that says. "The Will of God will never lead you where the Grace of God cannot keep you" and until I heard you today I realized I have not even looked at that for quote a while. Right there on my wall. I'm going home now to give that plaque a kiss. Thankyou so much for sharing...God Bless and much love to you and your children..🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Prayers for you! So sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @manuelavargas8366
      @manuelavargas8366 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Beautiful saying on that plaque that I had to steal and write it down on my journey. I'm going through Stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer, which has now spread to my bones. So, I fight daily to keep my faith and not be angry at God. I've been battling since 2018. But thank you 4 this and prayers 🙏 4 you ladies. ✝️ Keep pushing and moving forward.. God Bless 🙌 y'all.. Big Hugs 🫂

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@manuelavargas8366 prayers for you 🙏

    • @azpersonal
      @azpersonal 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@manuelavargas8366Please join Jerry Eze's Daily Prayer Service 7 am Nigerian Time. People get healed daily

    • @amielawhorn3537
      @amielawhorn3537 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I too lost my fiance’ 3 yrs ago. It feels like yesterday. Nothing but negative has happened since then. Actually 3 months before he passed away I had to put my dog to sleep after having her for 18 yrs😢. I don’t know how I got thru that day. I wouldn’t have been able to without Ken. The world is different.. I am different.. but we just have to remind ourselves that God is still the same! He is there for us not matter what. It’s hard not to understand why he would let such things happen to us.. but I think about when babies pass away. He would never let that happen on purpose.. the reason those things happen all go back to Adam n Eve. People will laugh and joke about that comment but it’s true. He talks about it in the Bible after they ate the apple. That’s the only way I can get thru each day is by keeping my Faith and know that Jesus lives in my heart and I am saved by his blood and will be in Glory one day ❤
      Rachel .. please look for this song on TH-cam… ANGELS AMOUNG US. When you listen to the words you will know why I thought of this song when you were talking about people coming up to you and saying things that would make you stop and think ❤ I will keep you and your little blessings in my prayers and never forget that Jesus loves you ❤❤

  • @BellaJoyeuse
    @BellaJoyeuse 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    I'm so sorry! Thank you for sharing- I lost my husband 8 months ago and I'm still in shock. This really helps!

    • @dewuknowofHyMn
      @dewuknowofHyMn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Oh honey...my hubby passed 11 years sgo...the pain will lessen...in time....look to your creator...HE WILL CARRY YOU !!!

  • @terraranch1459
    @terraranch1459 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +110

    I needed this so much. I am broken by the death of my 16 year old son. I was also mad at God for a few years. I was on antidepressants, had anxiety attacks, counseling, you name it. My diagnosis was complicated grief, which means grief that lasts a long time. I am working again on my spirituality and trying to become religious again like I was before. It is a journey, but I agree with you that God is the only way to peace in grief. Hugs❤

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      So sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @MissMala
      @MissMala 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I am so sorry that you lost your son. 😢 The best healing that you can get is from Jesus Christ. Not a religion. But a relationship with God, through His Son Jesus Christ. John 14:6 I am the Way, the Truth and the Life. No man comes to the Father but by Me. I’ll be praying for you.

    • @aleighahumphrey9577
      @aleighahumphrey9577 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Praying for you.

    • @Aida_Key
      @Aida_Key 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have you seen a movie called “the Shack”. Powerful story of healing after losing a child. I pray that God answers some of your questions while watching this movie 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @kathy4451
    @kathy4451 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    Thanks for sharing your story. I got the 4AM knock on the door 2 years ago, by 2 police officers . They told me my son was in a car accident and died on impact. It is definitely God who has gotten me through it all, and shown me how strong I have become with his help...sending love and healing to you Rachel ❤️

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      So sorry for your loss 🙏

    • @angelagrant2943
      @angelagrant2943 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      So sorry for your loss ❤🙏🏼❤️

    • @kathy4451
      @kathy4451 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@simple_naildesigns ❤️ thank you

    • @kathy4451
      @kathy4451 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @angelagrant2943 thank you ❤️

  • @brightenyourcorner951
    @brightenyourcorner951 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +248

    Sweet Rachel, I am also a widow. On august 12, 2018, my 43 year old husband took his last breath. It was sudden and unexpected. My children were 12, 13 , and 16. I am so glad for our loving Heavenly Father. A song that really helped me was by the Afters, “what will it be like”. I felt like it was just for me in that time. I also experienced many God moments. That is so helpful, isn’t it? I choose to trust…

    • @grammyb5216
      @grammyb5216 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Sending Love and hugs from Texas ❤ My sweet sweet hubby got a frightening diagnosis at the end of 23. ♥️ I am so sorry for your pain. So thankful that you know Jesus.

    • @reniawilliams415
      @reniawilliams415 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Praying that God continues to give you strength. I lost my husband 8 years ago, and I'm thankful that my kids and I survived the devastating loss. I cherish the sweet memories and look forward to living life in my new normal. Love & blessings always to you ❤❤

    • @LisaJensen-qw7zf
      @LisaJensen-qw7zf 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      I lost my husband in 2007 unexpectedly and my only son was 2 years old. I went through the same things you discussed in this video. The pain is so awful and I miss him so much.

    • @katylynn12151
      @katylynn12151 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@grammyb5216sass’s 😅😅

    • @connihudson1578
      @connihudson1578 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The Lord Jesus Christ bless you with more and more grace for the moments of grief and sorrow. May you hope in Him and trust Him especially in these hard times. His Word is His love letter to His own. I pray you'll read it and be comforted, encouraged, strengthened in your weaknesses. Love❤

  • @lanelleroper7710
    @lanelleroper7710 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    I’m so sorry for your loss and I know exactly how you feel. It is not easy. I lost my husband this past March to a massive heart attach. We were married for 43 years and I have never lived alone until now. I also lost my 38 year old son two years ago from the same thing. The hardest part of losing them is that it was so sudden and you didn’t get a chance to say goodbye. All I can tell you is that you get better at living without them but sadly you will never get over it. I wake up every morning and it is like it just happened all over again. The only advice I can give you is to keep leaning on God and trust in him. In the beginning I was so angry at him too! But I find that as time goes on I try to draw closer to him and stay in his word. He knows your needs and will take care of you. I also try to stay very busy but they are always right there in the front of my mind. I hope you choose to continue to make videos. It not only helps all of us that has gone through it but, more importantly, it will help you! I find that these type of videos help me so much just by seeing how others are continuing on with their lives. May God bless you and your children. Stay strong and stay close to God❤️

  • @elizabethfclark03
    @elizabethfclark03 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Your video has been suggested for the past few days. I overlooked it because I am not a widow. Something made me watch tonight when your video showed up again. I’m so glad I watched. As I said before, I am not a widow, but I did go through a traumatic experience that led to a painful divorce. I had been married 10 months when my husband was arrested for a crime he committed 10 years before I met him in his home state. My world was turned upside down overnight. It took years to begin to feel “normal” again. I cried myself to sleep many nights. I asked God a lot of questions that I still don’t have answers to. By the grace of God, I am on the other side of that mess. I am sorry for your loss. Thank yo for sharing your journey with us. I hope you make more videos soon.

  • @crobinson6062
    @crobinson6062 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    Thank you Rachel for sharing your story. Your video just popped up on my screen as I was on TH-cam. I needed to hear this and I cried along with you, I lost my hubby of 34yrs July 3rd 2023 early morning hrs from massive heart attack. My heart still hurts from losing him, it was unexpected. I could feel your pain, joy, and love come through. ❤

  • @Persistentdreamer91
    @Persistentdreamer91 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    People that haven’t been through this type of loss will never understand the state of shock and the sounds of the screams. The years go by and things get easier but that initial feeling you will always remember and others will never relate to. Sorry you went through this, but 20 years on I can tell you another life opens up ❤ life gives you a different meaning, and there’s no pain in remembering your loved one. They are at peace and you will be too.

  • @karleem3473
    @karleem3473 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I have no idea why your video came up on my feed! My husband is in hospice care and doesn’t have very long and this video was right what I needed tonight so thank you for this and I think God or your husband brought you to me tonight!! I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏🏻💕🙏🏻

  • @LittleSuzi86
    @LittleSuzi86 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +145

    I’m an isolator also, my husband passed 15 months ago, 32 yrs married and he died at home as we looked into each other’s eyes while holding hands, I miss him every day and feel broken.💔🙏 😢it’s very hard. I understand your pain I’m so sorry to hear your story.💐😭

    • @Mary_Nik1111
      @Mary_Nik1111 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Sending you so much love as only another widow can. Be kind to yourself and never let anyone tell you a timeline on grief or “ moving on”. In time, you deserve to live again tho. Don’t be like me. My husband died of sudden a heart attack 8 years ago, but on life support for only a week. No one allowing me to fight for his life. I was 48 and have never been able to overcome losing my other half or our way of life. My daughter and I lost our home..everything. I made it my mission to get my daughter through high school and college and went into autopilot. Four yrs later and presently, Im 24/7 sole caregiver to my beautiful Mom with dementia. I wish I could do it over and allow others in while I still had youth on my side and my good health. You’re so right… it IS very hard. Its beyond hard. God bless you. ❤️‍🩹🕊💐

    • @jillr759
      @jillr759 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      One day you will be right where you left off.💕💕💕

    • @Mary_Nik1111
      @Mary_Nik1111 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jillr759 🥲🙏❤️

    • @Yaya-tt1vc
      @Yaya-tt1vc 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      About the music God probably sent his angel to play the music to tell you everything it alright and everything is going to be alright

    • @Mary_Nik1111
      @Mary_Nik1111 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@Yaya-tt1vc I totally believe this. ❤️
      One of my husband’s favorite singers was Johnny Cash. He loved the song Ring of fire and Walk the Line…Even though that wasn’t his generation lol As a tribute to my husband, we played Walk the Line at the end of his Memorial. Days later, that song came on the radio in my daughter’s car..when she had a progressive music playing and that song def isn’t progressive ☺️ Few weeks later, Ring of Fire randomly came on in a wonderful German deli here. They normally only play instrumental traditional German music.🥲

  • @ILENENETERER
    @ILENENETERER 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    My daughter lost her husband in the same abrupt way. Thank you for sharing, it has helped me (as her Mom) to understand what she went through.

  • @gypsydoll14
    @gypsydoll14 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    I’m so sorry! I cried all through this video,absolutely terrible thing to happen. I THOUGHT I was having a bad day, NO it was nothing. I wish you weren’t in this pain ❤

    • @amberarmstrong1311
      @amberarmstrong1311 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It’s got me crying too 😭😭😭

  • @sopranomegs
    @sopranomegs 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    I don’t know how I got here but I find myself crying along with you, a complete stranger. What a horrible thing to go through at such a young age. I cannot even imagine. I still have my husband so I cannot say I know what you’re going through but one thing I know is you are STRONG. It is admirable. Your kids are so lucky to have you as their Mom and your husband is still with you all. ❤

  • @DeAanna-yk1bb
    @DeAanna-yk1bb 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    Oh sweetheart I am so very sorry. I am a mother and a Nanna and I can't even imagine your pain. Hugs is all I can offer!

  • @thehermit1122
    @thehermit1122 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    I'm so sorry for your loss, Rachel. You're so incredibly strong. God bless you ❤🩹

  • @ragnhildhamar2246
    @ragnhildhamar2246 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Thank you so much for this ❤
    I lost my husband one year and one week ago. We don' t have another choice than being strong ❤

  • @sarawilliams9025
    @sarawilliams9025 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I am a new widow. You don’t know how much it helps to hear others speak about this. I feel like it’s a taboo subject, and so many of us grieve in silence. So thank you for sharing your painful truth.

  • @sczemialkowski
    @sczemialkowski 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Thank you Rachel, I feel your pain as I too lost my husband two years ago on February 17th. The flashbacks get to me and the guilt, the regrets and the sadness but as you said, one has to keep moving forward. I really appreciate that you posted this.

  • @gmazone2596
    @gmazone2596 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    This year makes 8 yrs since my husband passed. He died a week B4 our wedding anniversary. By GOD’s Grace, I’m still here, raising our son!

  • @jamiesmith3837
    @jamiesmith3837 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    I lost my husband and then the next day my dad passed away also. I feel all of your tears and pain as if it was also mine! I believe in all the signs you are getting from the other side, I get signs all the time myself!! God bless you and your babies!! 🙏

  • @MaryDiSalvo1
    @MaryDiSalvo1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Rachel, you have taken the unspeakable pain of loss and have chosen to reach out and tell the heartbroken WHO will help them through...some people will never know or choose to surrender the pain and learn of God's presence and His peace. What a beautiful way to honor your husband and the love you two share. God bless you, and may each day bring you new overwhelming incredible revelation of God's love for you and your children. Thank you for this encouragement.

  • @bethdurbin3279
    @bethdurbin3279 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Hello Rachel. My name is Beth, it is nice to meet you. Thank you for sharing your life changing and heartbreaking story with us. I lost my husband and bestest friend 8 years ago. While watching your video, I heard your words and it was almost like déjà vu. Only difference was we didn’t have children and he passed of cancer. I wanted to go be with him.
    Obviously I didn’t. It took me a while but I got a job, I hadn’t worked in a long time because I was taking care of him. I have had a few jobs, but now I’m at a great job, bought my first new car on my own and I can be independent for the first time in my life. I’m proud of myself and he is very proud of me.
    I’m doing just what he wanted for me. I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me and takes care of me. You will find your way in your time. There is no time limit on grieving and don’t let anyone tell you there is. And all the memories you have of the both of you together are so precious because nobody can ever take those away from you and you will have them forever. Smile when you remember because he is smiling when you remember them. Love and prayers from Ohio.

  • @DaisyLovesDerek
    @DaisyLovesDerek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Your story mirrors mine. Twenty years ago, my husband died at age 38. I was 34 with two school-aged sons. I went through the isolating, drinking, anger, hope for my death, etc. I'm so sorry!!! My husband still comes to me in my dreams. But I must tell you, it gets better!! God is so good!!! There are still difficult days, but more than not I remember the good times. I'll be praying for you & your children.

  • @cstorres8243
    @cstorres8243 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Bless you Rachel. I"m in tears after watching you describe your journey. I've lost 2 husbands - one after 17 years, another after 15. You describe the painful road so clearly. I too returned to God after being absent 20 years. Your heart will heal in stages. It sounds like you're already feeling that. Thank you for sharing your story. I've subscribed. ❤‍🩹

  • @SHope-rq1hc
    @SHope-rq1hc 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Seeing strength like this, is why I became a mental health therapist. You Rachel, and all of you out there seeing this, are amazing, strong, resilient and can get through more than you all know. There are also people, just like me, who literally went to school to show you how amazing your brains and selves truly are 😇. Thank you for sharing.

  • @caseynk1
    @caseynk1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    This video popped up on my suggested videos. Thank you for sharing your story. My sister in law just lost her husband to an accident 2 months ago, leaving her with 2 young kids. We are still “in the thick of it” but this video helps give me perspective on what she could be feeling/needing so I can continue to better care her and the kids ❤ so sorry you are going through this never ending tragedy.

  • @bernadinegalvan9597
    @bernadinegalvan9597 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    I'm so glad I came across your video I'm also a Widow I lost my husband of 35 Beautiful years unexpectedly Sept 11th 2014 itd going on ten years soon and it feels like yesterday I losted him I also was hurt with God I still haven't stepped back in church but listening to you talk had me thinking different Thank you I hope to hear from you again !!! ❤🙏

    • @laleitaram8789
      @laleitaram8789 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Hi my sympathy to you, I also lost my husband on the 19 of September 2014. at the age of 51 and i was 46, but thanks be to God who see me through even though i don't understand it all

    • @LizGarza-x9u
      @LizGarza-x9u 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I’m also a widow may husband of 27 yrs died in February 2013 I am still heartbroken 💔 but the pain has lessened so much since then I am so sorry for your loss and pain but I promise it will ❤️‍🩹 get better I promise glad you posted your story it will help many you helped me so Thank You

  • @DeAanna-yk1bb
    @DeAanna-yk1bb 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    I also pray you will let this be your new channel. I am sure others feel the same way that we would follow your page and watch your family grow. I pray for you to find peace!

  • @barbarahilliard5279
    @barbarahilliard5279 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Thanks for sharing. My 51 year old husband died driving home from work 3 years ago. He went off road due to cardiac arrest. I know that shock! It took 2 years before I thought I would live.

    • @suestephan3255
      @suestephan3255 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Grief is definitely compounded by sudden death. Keep close to Jesus who is the healer. He binds up our wounds and heals the broken hearted.

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So sorry for your loss 🙏

  • @bessieeanes4377
    @bessieeanes4377 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    My husband passed away April 20 2023 after a 6 year battle with cancer.we were told he only had a few months when he was diagnosed. For 6 year we lived fighting for his life.Wondering if this was going to be our last Christmas, birthday etc but each day was a blessing. When he passed away he was in his bed asleep here at home. But I wasn't ready to let him go,as you said when he went my heart went with him

    • @RMdar01
      @RMdar01 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      April 15 2023 I lost my sister aged 40 to cancer so I understand.

  • @ColleenF30
    @ColleenF30 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Isolater here as well. Husband passed in 2006 while I was 24 weeks pregnant. I send you hugs. In time we learn this "new normal" but grief comes in waves. *hugs again*

    • @colleenw8483
      @colleenw8483 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      In 2008 I went through the same. Stay strong.

  • @janehavens3086
    @janehavens3086 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    Oh dear girl...what you have been through!! After a painful divorce, I met the most beautiful man.We were SO happy. He got a pain in his leg and 7 weeks later he was dead of cancer. Everything in my life changed immediately.As a person of faith I screamed and raged at God. As humans we want to know "why". But God never gives the why..,he just gives blessings to replace the loss. In my raging I asked God to show me what I should do with the rest of my life and he has done that. I pray that you will meet people of faith that will surround you with love, that you will lean on God. He does have your back but It is so hard to see and feel in the moment. As time passes and you experience blessings, you will look back even as you are looking forward, and realize he was there all the time. Blessings will come to you dear girl and your little ones just by waiting on God.

    • @jolie3548
      @jolie3548 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Beautiful Words That I Needed to hear Thank You, xox God Bless...

    • @BeautyMeetsDIY
      @BeautyMeetsDIY 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m so so very sorry for your loss 🙏🏼 Life can be so unfair, so uncertain and unforeseen. But I want to give you hope. Did you know that God promises in his word the Bible that in the very near future we will be able to reunite with our dead loved ones again! God does not lie! God never intended for us humans to just be born, get sick, grow old, suffer in any kind of way and/or die for any reason. He created us humans to live forever in a peaceful paradise, HERE ON EARTH NOT IN THE HEAVENS. From the beginning God created myriads of angels to reside alongside him in the heavens. He created the Earth with a purpose, so that we humans can reside in it forever. His purpose has not changed, it’s only been interrupted! But he will make it a reality soon! Psalms 37:29 says: “The righteous will possess the earth, And they will live forever on it.” But you may ask yourself: why does God allow suffering? Well, God Is Not responsible for our sufferings. If God is not responsible for our sufferings, then Who and What is? Please visit us at JW.ORG to find the answers to these questions and many more such as: “What really happens when we die?” “What does the Bible REALLY teach”, “What does the future hold?” and so much more. God promises in his word the Bible in Revelation 21:4: “And he, Jehovah (that’s God’s name found in Psalms 83:18) will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” Also too, in John 5:28 it says: “Do not be amazed at this. The hour is coming when all in the memorial tombs (the graves) will hear his voice and come out". Aren’t these wonderful truths, hopes and promises! We can hardly wait till that time! 🙏🏼 My sincerest and heartfelt condolences, thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! May he rest in peace and may we meet again real soon in an earthly paradise. Psalms 34:18 says: “Jehovah God is close to the brokenhearted; He saves those who are crushed in spirit”. May God continue to give you strength, hope and comfort! 🙏🏼💕

  • @arthouse2030
    @arthouse2030 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank God for your loving, perceptive dad! I am also in H-town & went through the same sudden loss, the same year you met your sweet guy. There are no words... Only you will be there to teach your babies the depths of their dad's love for them. All your loved ones will surround you for all their days, & yes, God will show up even though it may not seem so. He & Matt will keep you on your feet. So much love to you & all the family.

  • @Pamela-el9yv
    @Pamela-el9yv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I can't even pretend to know what you've been through, Rachel, but I do know the love of God!! He is always there for us!! When you have those low points, just talk to him, he's always there to help!! God Bless you and your two kids!!!

  • @potpiez1
    @potpiez1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I lost my dad when I was a young child 35 yrs ago. My mom was too heartbroken to talk about him so I really never knew him, which hurt growing up but looking back I understand now as a mother myself. You will be ok. Your kids will be ok just give yourself time and space to heal, take all the time you need. And please don’t stop sharing the wonderful/beautiful memories you have of your husband ❤ Praying for you and your family.

  • @jeanhanner9407
    @jeanhanner9407 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I had a friend who lost her husband when she was 24 years old. He died in a motorcycle accident. You narrating your story reminded me so much of what she went through. The phone call to the best friend, me driving over at 2 am in the morning, thinking she was going to hurt herself. Her calling all the family, friends, his job, etc. The funeral..... she was so sad, yet so beautiful in her braveness. I remember her standing on his grave as we all gave her some time alone. I looked back and it was an image that has stayed with me for almost 30 years now.
    She went through a lot of the things you went through. It's the process of mourning. Denial, Anger, Acceptance, etc.... there is no order of how they will come about. Those steps are just an 'idea' of how our minds process grief. After more than a decade she now has a seemingly stable and happy life.
    I recall my experience as I saw it through my eyes from the outside looking in. You remind me so much of her.
    - I commend you for realizing that the universe was giving you signals.
    Yes, we have a promise of a resurrection. This promise is that all of the suffering, illnesses, death, wars, etc will end. All will be resurrected and we will be united again. Also... we won't have any memories of the pain we went through this period of trial and tribulation. One could tell you all about it. However, the best is for you to read it yourself. The scriptures have a way of 'opening' themselves to you, if your heart is ready for it.
    -- I for some reasons that don't relate to this, also turned against God... for 16 years I completely turned my back on him (he never did on me though). I didn't do it quietly either! After my 1 1/2 year old daughter's cancer cells suddenly died.... I decided then to try to learn who this God was. Why was he giving me a miracle when I didn't want anything to do with him. I got my answers. I learned things that I never knew and never even knew I needed to know. However, it was because I studied this manual of life our creator left for us; The Bible. Only then was I able to get the knowledge of who God truly is. Then I understood the meaning of life and the reason for death.
    .... I will leave it at this.
    I wish you all the best Rachel. Keep moving forward. Truly do. There will be hard days, there will be good days. Maybe even much better days ahead. Live a good life. Live a full life. Live your best life. Do it for Richard. Do it for your children... do it for you! This would be the highest form of honoring Richard. Honoring your children, your parents, your loved ones..... Honoring yourself.
    Wishing you the best!!

  • @beryl9538
    @beryl9538 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I am so sorry Rachel. Life can be so unfair. You have 2 small babies. Stay strong for your kids.❤

  • @leeshc5952
    @leeshc5952 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +111

    I’m praying for everyone reading this who is mourning, in pain, or experiencing any grief. I pray the Lord’s hand is over you, providing you comfort and all that you’re needing. In Jesus name, amen. ❤

    • @MinaxiBhana-py6yi
      @MinaxiBhana-py6yi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Rachel thank you so much. I lost my husband in 2003.l was 29 and he was 30.He died of a heart attack. My daughter was 3 at the time and was pregnant 3 months with our second daughter. I just could not handle it. I still have anxiety. I had to raise both of them alone.He took care of all the things but I had to learn. It is still very difficult and lonely. I have empty nest syndrome after both my daughters left to live there dreams 😢😢😢😢

    • @leeshc5952
      @leeshc5952 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@MinaxiBhana-py6yi I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I pray that the Lord will continue to have His hand over you. I pray for the empty nest, and that he will provide in what you are needing and guide you along the way. You are strong and you are loved. Praise the Lord for always being there, even in the midst of our pains. ❤️

    • @MinaxiBhana-py6yi
      @MinaxiBhana-py6yi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@leeshc5952 I truly have a guardian angel 😇. No words can describe your message to me.But love appreciation gratitude and most of all is courage that you sent to me .Have a blessed future 🙏

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen 🙏

    • @annacaiazza8869
      @annacaiazza8869 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I am in agreement with you and send my heartfelt condolences, love and prayers to all ❤ May God bless you and comfort you and bring peace ❤
      I lost my father in 2007 from Multiple Sclerosis. He was the best ❤

  • @danetteoyama3175
    @danetteoyama3175 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Aloha from Maui, Rachel. I am so sorry for your great loss. Thank you for sharing your story and your faith in Jesus with the world. I have seen His faithfulness in situations like this over and over again. Although my husband is still with me, my parents are not, both of them leaving me before the age of 50. I miss them so much, so I know the pain of having to say goodbye, but I have been reminded that God didn't ask me to understand, He asked me to trust. The peace that passes all understanding can only come from knowing Jesus. I am praying that both of your beautiful gifts will grow up to know Him in a deep and personal way even through the struggles life may bring. God bless you and your family and may your walk with The Lord be even stronger as the days go by. BIG HUGS! Naomi

  • @paularedding9358
    @paularedding9358 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you, Rachel. Your story touched me so much. I too am a widow of 4 years and so grateful that God allowed me to have my children all grown-up but in some ways being alone with no one but my dogs to talk to or take care of is hard. I had some warning because he never recovered from his last cancer surgery 9 1/2 years earlier but it was still a shock that he truly was gone and from another cancer. Hold those babies close!

  • @guenethcorrigan4096
    @guenethcorrigan4096 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    You are a beautiful spirit. I cannot begin to even process all of the pain you have. The sweetest thing that you said, the most selfless thing, was how devastating you knew it would be to tell his parents, they had just lost a child. We lost our son and our reaction was the exact same. I have never heard either of us sound that way, it was a nightmare. I wish you healing. It is never the same😢. Xoxo

  • @cidness85
    @cidness85 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you, Rachel, for sharing your story! I’m in the Houston area as well and my hubby just finished his treatment for Stage 3 oral tongue cancer. Your story touched me and I appreciate you sharing your authentic self with us. Blessings to you and your family, always!

  • @jazzee75
    @jazzee75 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for sharing your story. It popped up on my feed and I believe this was meant for me to watch. This morning my husband got on my last nerve and I called him an idiot and hung up on him. You made me realize it’s not worth fighting over the little things. I love my husband with every piece of my heart! I feel so bad. Im going to call him up right now and express how much he truly means to me! 😢 I pray that you and your family keep healing and are at peace 🙏🏼.

  • @AlenaHarvey
    @AlenaHarvey 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I hear you and feel better having heard your story knowing I'm not alone. My husband died almost 2 years ago and we have 2 beautiful boys one whom knew him and the other who like you was robbed of knowing his father. Our stories are different yet the same. Thank you for sharing and helping me find a little more peace. ❤

  • @naylaleifson9022
    @naylaleifson9022 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love that you changed the cycle of love instead of being a victim to it❤ im so sorry for your loss but those babies are apart of him & you live for & your bright future🙏😞❤️

  • @karlaharvey2623
    @karlaharvey2623 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Rachel, you have a beautiful testimony sweetie. It breaks my heart to hear yet another young person lost their spouse at such a young age. My mom always told me that I have to think of it as Gods way of needing him and allowing this to happen to prevent something worse happening. It warms my heart to hear that you found your way back to our Heavenly Father. He has you in his arms.

  • @JasmineUSA
    @JasmineUSA 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just went through big car accident and my daughter was in the car. It was horrific accident and somehow we walled away alive. Since then I am in this fear what if... I believe our fate is written, but still I can't psychologically recover from the accident. Listening to your story, broke my heart. I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of your children🥺May he rest in peace and may God give you strength to go through this pain... 💔

    • @beaulieuc8910
      @beaulieuc8910 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i am in road safety and we say collision and not accidents ,most road collisions are preventable and it makes me feel better volunteering in prevention

  • @rdavism1
    @rdavism1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Very brave to be so honest and I hope it saves others by giving them hope.

  • @helenbotelho285
    @helenbotelho285 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I'm so sorry for you loss. I lost my husband of 40 years to cancer in November 2022. At least I was blessed to have him for 40 years. His death was so sudden. Your pain must have been unbearable. You're so young and have been through so much. You are helping a lot of people.

  • @laurab7379
    @laurab7379 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My heartfelt symphany for your loss! The hardest thing anyone can go through with 2 littles to raise! May God comfort you! There are no words that will help you but know people care in this thread and are praying for you and the kids! You need time to grive and heal, thiink of those babies, they need you more than ever! Somehow you will find the strength to move forward a day at a time. Wishing you peace and love!

  • @grammyb5216
    @grammyb5216 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Precious Rachel, you truly are amazing at communicating. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Sending lots of Love to you and your babies from a sister Texan. God comes after us because He Loves us so much 🥲

    • @sandrafernandez3839
      @sandrafernandez3839 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I admire that she didn't say how he passed and focused on deep loss of him. She talked about his parents and her family grieving too. Very strong woman

  • @m0m0ntherun
    @m0m0ntherun 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. I want to commend you for having the strength and courage to make this heartbreaking video and for giving God the glory for seeing you through your brighter days. I know you probably didn't see it that way when it happened but he was definitely there with you the entire time and I am glad that you talked about what an impact God has had on your new life. I pray that you continue to heal and that He continues to see you thru each and every day. God bless you!

  • @juliehunter9559
    @juliehunter9559 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I lost my fiancé in February 2023 to a heart attack aged 51 he went to work and never came home most days I just feel lost and just have to try my best to get through the day
    He’s buried with our two little boys 2007 & 2008 which gives me abit of comfort
    I’m very private person and try to deal with this myself but sometimes it all get to much. Love and miss him so much xx

    • @katarinas3361
      @katarinas3361 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I am so sorry 💔🌹

  • @Pittsburghwriter
    @Pittsburghwriter 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    Thank you for sharing your story. I went through a lot of the same things. My son's father was killed by a drunk driver when I was 6 months pregnant with our child. I still have those thoughts of how could I have made things different that night, and a whole lot of "how is this fair" moments with God. Sending you hugs and prayers of encouragement. 💜
    After the tragedy on September 11th, I kept thinking about all the children who were going to bed that night knowing their parent was gone or the ones who just lost their loved one. I sat down and wrote a short piece called "5 More Minutes" about what it feels like to lose someone you love. And when I wrote this it helped me to release a lot of my own pain. I can post it here if you want to read it. Maybe journaling and writing can help you. Just something to think about.

    • @rickgonzalez1218
      @rickgonzalez1218 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Deb here. Please post your piece. Thank you.

    • @Pittsburghwriter
      @Pittsburghwriter 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rickgonzalez1218 Sure! This is the piece that I wrote
      5 More Minutes
      As I sat on the edge of my bed watching the news footage on September 11th, I couldn't help but think of all of those who just lost their loved one. I thought about those who were about to receive the news that their loved one died. I thought about all of the children who will go to bed that night suffering the loss of a parent.
      I thought of my son who grew up without a father. His father was killed by a drunk driver when he was a baby. As he grew I witnessed the sadness he felt at baseball games when he saw his teammates with their fathers. I knew the hurt he felt on Father's Day when he said he wished he could buy a present for his dad. I knew the emptiness I felt inside myself.
      His father was the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and when he died, there I stood - all alone. I felt as if I were abandoned on a dirt road, left crying alone and with no idea which direction to go. I thought about all of those who were going to be feeling what my son and I felt.
      Then I thought about all of those who still have their special someone in their life and the ones who don't appreciate them. Sometimes they are cruel to each other and hurt each others feelings out of anger. I wondered if they had any idea how lucky they are to have that person?
      I feel for all of those who lost someone they love in the Attack on America. I know how much it hurts to lose someone you love. It is an incredibly painful feeling that never completely goes away. When someone you love dies you feel as if your heart has stopped beating. You feel numb from the sadness. You feel like time stopped for you at that moment that person died. You walk around in a daze. You exist but you don't really live; not without that person in your life.
      You start to think of all of those things that you never got to say to that someone. You ask yourself, "Why didn't I have that chance?" "Why didn't I tell him how much I loved him?" That is a feeling of guilt that also never completely goes away.
      Then there is that thought of hope in your mind that he will call you on the phone or walk in the door and say "It's OK, I'm alive, it was all a mistake." You know it will never happen but it's a nice thought to keep.
      Not a day will go by that you won't think of that someone. When you are on vacation you will wish that someone was there. When you see a new movie or hear a new song you will wonder if that someone would have liked it. And on every holiday you will cry for that someone because you will want so much for him to be there with you. You may even get angry or jealous at all of those "lucky people" who are fortunate enough to still have their loved one in their life.
      It's easy for people to say, "I'm sorry your loved one died, if there's anything I can do please let me know." The truth is unless they can bring your someone back to you there just isn't anything anyone can do to make you feel better.
      Some of those feelings will stay with you and that empty spot in your heart will always be there. However you will find the strength to carry on and you will be happy again. As difficult as that may seem at the time, I assure you that you can do it. Those days that it hurts you to think about that person will be replaced with days that it helps you to talk about and remember them.
      What I wish for, is for all of those lucky people, who still have their loved ones in their life, to think about that person right now. How would you feel if that person was forever taken away from you....without a moment's notice? Think about what it would feel like to not have that person around anymore. To never have another holiday with that person. To never see that person walk in the door again. To never be able to pick up the telephone and call that person. And to never again be able to look that person in the eye and say, "I love you" and hear "I love you too" in return. Think about how that would feel.
      Now think about all of the time that you have wasted. Never assume that your special someone will always be there for you. When I lost someone I loved; I would have done anything in this world to have five more minutes with him before he died. Five minutes I know I will never have again. Five minutes that you take for granted every day.
      Don't waste any more time that you are fortunate enough to have with your someone. Don't fight over small issues. Seize every moment that you have together. And never again allow yourself to miss the opportunity to say, "I love you." Do it now. Do it often. Do it for all of us who wish we still had that chance.

  • @gr8fullife151
    @gr8fullife151 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    You are an amazing, strong woman and Mother. Thank you for coming out with this, it will help many. I am also a widow, and I find this extremely beneficial. God will carry you on those difficult days. Thanks again.

  • @babsbee4081
    @babsbee4081 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    I lost my husband of 35 years, coming up 7 years ago. He took his own life on his birthday and Father’s Day and the day before our daughter’s birthday. It was horrendous and still hurts. Sometimes it’s like it was yesterday . A death by suicide is very hard to understand and only those who have been through this ordeal will really understand. I thought losing my dad , who was killed crossing a road was traumatic , but it’s very different when it’s your life partner. My life changed literally overnight and I was handed this new life , which I didn’t want or expect. I get angry at him and then angry at myself. All part of the grieving process. The price we pay for loving .
    I feel for anybody who’s lost someone they loved. ❤

    • @Brookeloun
      @Brookeloun 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I can relate. My son took his life. The grief , guilt and unanswered questions can be overwhelming. Even though we had tried everything we knew to help him. I'm so sorry for your loss and those who have experienced the suicide of a loved one.

    • @StudioLifeWithMel
      @StudioLifeWithMel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I am so sorry for what you both have been through. 🙏🤍🙏

    • @Brookeloun
      @Brookeloun 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@StudioLifeWithMel thank you for your kindness

    • @babsbee4081
      @babsbee4081 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@Brookeloun . You will know only too well how devastating a suicide is and all the very mixed emotions. The guilt, anger and sadness. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family. 💜

    • @babsbee4081
      @babsbee4081 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@StudioLifeWithMel . Thank you 💜

  • @lorialicea1709
    @lorialicea1709 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing your story. Our stories are different but grief is there. I lost my dad in 2022 and it has wrecked me. He was my rock. I’ve struggled through the process and have cried a lot. I can’t imagine what you’ve gone through. Sending love your way and praying for you and your children. 🥹

  • @tiarapayton7088
    @tiarapayton7088 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Sorry to hear about your loss of your husband. I pray they God continues to grant you grace and mercy to raise your children and too heal. 🙏🏾❤️

  • @tracyaugustine3588
    @tracyaugustine3588 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you! You helped me- lost my parents and 7 brothers and a dear nephew in the past 20 years and just waiting for the ax to fall again is just too much! You are beautiful soul! God bless you

    • @lisamccullough5150
      @lisamccullough5150 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What happened to all your brothers? 😢

  • @Mygardenspace
    @Mygardenspace 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You are amazing to me to be able to share your grief and pain so that someone else may hear this and be helped by it! I’m thinking you’ve helped many people. God Bless you and your babies!

  • @Prettyneekneek
    @Prettyneekneek 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I’m not sure how I came across this video but thank you so much for sharing your story. Everyday we can easily take people and things for granted, but your story tells us we should not. Tomorrow is not promised. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the courage to make this video. You and your family are in my prayers ❤

  • @lisavanginder9693
    @lisavanginder9693 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for sharing your story. What a blessing this will be to thousands who watch this.
    I’m so thrilled that the Lord is working through you and covering you and your babies as you walk through this journey.
    Praying for continued strength and d comfort ❤

  • @lanelleroper7710
    @lanelleroper7710 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just saw your Thank you video. Please continue with your channel. For me, it lets me see how a widow just survives everyday and it makes me feel not alone❤

  • @trishmcleod4682
    @trishmcleod4682 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Sister in Christ Rachel you have allowed yourself to be used by God and you have helped me immeasurably in doing so. Love and prayers always

  • @alicenoborges8049
    @alicenoborges8049 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I also lost my husband Ina car accident ,and was left with 3 young children 🧒, when the cops came to my house, I felt I lost have of me, I had to force myself to get up for the children, I feel you ,I'll pray for you,and your children.

  • @lindsayceara
    @lindsayceara 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I’ve never been married and I’m not even a mom but I cried with you while watching this. I wish there was something I could do to help the pain or to fix everything, but I promise I’ll be praying for you, y’all’s babies and the rest of his family. It is okay to break down and not have it all together all the time. And I’m genuinely SO proud of you for not giving up. You still got this and y’all will see each other again.🤍🤍

  • @Ariesbuddha
    @Ariesbuddha 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    This has to be the most honest, heartbreaking, saddest and tear inducing thing ive ever watched on TH-cam, the bravery and strength you've shown throughout your experiences has blown me away, i wish i could reach out and cuddle you, such a shame you live so far away because id meet you everyday for tea and chats and would be there for you if you ever needed it, your the most amazing wife, mother and human please always know that. Im so so sorry you've had to go through this sweetheart, your husband will forever walk by your side loving you, protecting you and guiding you of this i am 1000⁰% sure, he will bring the most beautiful people, opportunities and journeys your way, he knows you need him.... and he still needs you and he always will. Sending you love and abundance always and forever my lovely. Thankyou for sharing this, i lost my dad afew days ago, then my sister and 2 friends all in the space of 13 weeks the pain i feel now has been unbearable..... then i watched this and it resonated and i drew strength.... from you.... see already your helping people more than you could ever know ❤❤❤❤❤ xxxx xxxx xxxx xxxx

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So sorry for the loss you’ve had 🙏

    • @Ariesbuddha
      @Ariesbuddha 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @simple_naildesigns thank you sweetheart your very kind 🩵🩵🩵 xxxxxxxxxx

  • @MariaMedina-fk5mb
    @MariaMedina-fk5mb 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you Rachel for this video. Many blessings to you and your sweet children. May God continue covering you and your loved ones always. I lost my loving husband almost three years ago and it still feels like it was yesterday. The pain of loosing my best friend, husband and father of my children is excruciating and truly unbearable. It is only by the grace and love of God, and my children that I can keep moving forward with this pain. I am currently attending a widows small group at my church but I am so thankful to God I came across your video this morning. I have lived three years of constant regrets, what if I would’ve done something different, what if I too would’ve called my husband that dreadful night but through this immense pain I have learned that God has always been in control and my husband was His son before he became my husband so I must trust in God and surrender to his will. I trust in his plans for my life and my children no matter how painful it may be at this present time. My heart goes out to you and your family. And I pray this video will reach many widows and widowers that need to hear your testimony.

  • @debbiemurrell3632
    @debbiemurrell3632 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    So very, very sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and the family. 😢🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @TraciHamm
    @TraciHamm 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m so sorry for your loss. God is always there for us. I believe you found a purpose… helping others with their grief. You are now seeing the blessings in living. You were blessed to have him in your life! 🙏

  • @Nnekaokpalefe
    @Nnekaokpalefe 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you Rachel for sharing your story! I have cried…I just want you to know that you are Strong and God has got you and may his beautiful soul rest in eternal peace 🤎🤎🤎🤎Love from Texas.

  • @Kristin54557
    @Kristin54557 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you for sharing Rachel! your testimony will reach so many!!! May God continue to wrap His loving arms around you and your family!!!! God bless you!!!!!

  • @lauriefreeman8547
    @lauriefreeman8547 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I didn't lose my husband , but experienced infidelity after 20 years with him. We have four kids and I feel like I lost what I thought we had. We are still together but it breaks my heart everyday knowing what he has done to me. Thank you because your video really helped me.

  • @floradelossantos6920
    @floradelossantos6920 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I'm so sorry for your loss 😢my deepest condolences and prayers for your family. Psalms 34:18 ' The lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit '

  • @ajxsmine2836
    @ajxsmine2836 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I’m truly sorry. May He Rest In Peace. Sending The love and Prayers, God Bless.🙏🏼💜

  • @cindymckenzie3002
    @cindymckenzie3002 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Been there sister, lost mine at 28 with 2 boys 3&5. I didn't want to live I try to take my life. But God came to my rescue. He can do the same for you. ❤🙏

  • @Shirley-k7x
    @Shirley-k7x 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Omg one of the saddest story I've ever hear soooo sorry for your loss 😢God Bless You and Your kids ❤

  • @user-js9gn2hw9s
    @user-js9gn2hw9s 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Very touching and heartfelt! Death is the hardest thing we will all have to endure. We don't worry about our demise, we worry about the loss of our loved ones. None of us will escape feeling grief at some point, as well as having others grieve for us. This path, we all walk together❤

  • @kristypaul8067
    @kristypaul8067 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Just discovered your channel so sorry for your loss praying for you and your family ❤

  • @tschandraheinze1680
    @tschandraheinze1680 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Sending you love and hugs. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I'm praying for you. I hope that you continue to find strength and support all around you. Being a mother/parent is absolutely so hard let alone being a now single parent. I know for a fact that those babies need you. Your husband would be proud of you. ❤ hugs from Alaska.
    Tschandra

  • @tanyalewis2873
    @tanyalewis2873 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This was an incredible video. I’m watching this video and listening to your heartache and struggles with tears in my eyes. All I want to do is pray for you and give you the biggest hug and great words of encouragement. I admire your strength. May you continue on the journey that God has chosen for you.

  • @DrunkenBanshee7117
    @DrunkenBanshee7117 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I had that premonition feeling exactly 4 times in my life and each time something life changing and terrible happened. Isn’t it crazy how we always know? I pray for peace and love to shower you and your family.

  • @jodeming5088
    @jodeming5088 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Rachel, thank you for sharing your story. It took a lot of strength and honesty to do so. I see a beautiful, loving, strong young lady CD who is going to be ok. Keep your faith and know you are not alone. God and your husband are always with you. I know your message has helped someone., I pray God gives you the strength to heal and find peace. May your husband’s memory be a blessing. Thank you for sharing your story. You and your children have days full of love, adventure, family, friends kindness and happiness to experience. Remember he’s always there just call his name.

  • @chrisf3739
    @chrisf3739 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you ❤ I have been a widow since December 19th 2022. My husband had stage 4 lung cancer that had spread to his bones before we even knew anything was wrong.I have dealt with everything myself, like you, not one to reach out. I believe your video randomly showing up on my feed was a sign for me. I didn't feel alone as I listened to your story. I felt like someone understood and I felt like everything is going to be ok.

  • @debbiemcclure2874
    @debbiemcclure2874 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I don't know how this came across my algorithm but I know one thing, your testimony will help many. I'm so sorry for what you've endured and what you've lost. Im so glad you're making your way back to God. Bless your sweet heart. Tyfs God bless you

  • @carolynhunt499
    @carolynhunt499 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I can not imagine feeling this type of pain. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I felt like I was not breathing while watching. Even though I have lost in different ways, your trust in God and how you literally had to learn that all over again radiates and has touched my heart. It showed me that no matter the situation, God is in control in a different way. I pray your strength. May God bless you and your family.