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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 พ.ค. 2024
- How to romanticize your life and become the man you want to be.
What I'm wearing in this video:
Brooks Brothers tweed blazer go.shopmy.us/p-3385389
J Crew Oxford shirt - go.shopmy.us/p-3342961
Otaa tie - go.shopmy.us/p-3867013
Tie bar pocket square - go.shopmy.us/p-3342969
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:56 Why?
2:15 Create your player
3:46 Man on a mission
4:31 Building a routine
5:46 Style & aesthetics
6:58 Feel stuck?
8:21 Examples
9:17 What next? - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
“Viewing your own life as art…”. That’s a great take on anything and everything.
As a 16 year old, your videos have helped me figure out the sort of man I want to strive to become. Great quality and ideas as always! Keep up the fantastic work and cheers from Italy.
That’s very encouraging for me to hear, thank you for your comment and good luck with your journey. I’m glad to be a part of it
Good Sir,
I applaud you on your grasp of the English language, you use it better by far than many native speakers seem to be capable of doing. Your parents must also be applauded for raising you to become the gentleman you very clearly are on the path to becoming. My advice to you, as a man who’s always strived to be a gentleman in thought, speech, and action: Know that you, like everyone else in existence, are human-we all fail, men and women alike.
You will have your heart utterly shattered at some point in your life, more likely by a woman than anything else. This is natural, and as catastrophic as it is in the moment-it is both formative and survivable. You will find a vast amount of information and advice from others that does you no good whatsoever-propaganda, you could call it. Let me tell you here and now, you must choose your own path in this life, at the end of the day, you are inseparably linked to your own mind and your own thoughts. Always be a man that can be at home in his own mind, separate from the pressures and influences of those that you cannot be certain of them having your best interests at heart when they speak with you. Cultivate a small, but trustworthy number of friends around you, but always know that they are human and fallible as well. The loss of a brother or best friend can be at least as destructive to your heart as that of any woman, so steel your heart and mind for this as well, it will happen, sooner rather than later.
A woman should *never* be your focus in life. However beautiful, kind, loving or supportive of you she may be, she is still human, like anyone else, and she will be just as flawed, as are all of us.
I’ll leave you with this poem from the American poet, Max Ehrmann, it’s been a great comfort to me over the years, I hope it has some value for you as well:
DESIDERATA
Go placidly amid the noise & haste, & remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly & clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story. 🌿 Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain & bitter; for always there will be greater & lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. 🌿 Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. 🌿 Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity & disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. 🌿 Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue & loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. 🌿 You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees & the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. 🌿 Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors & aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. 🌿 With all its sham, drudgery & broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy 🌿🌿
~Max Ehrmann, 1927
I'm 17. It sounds absurd, but after seeing a movie (Kingsman) I began to notice that my generation is quite lost and confused with what it means to be a man. I very much appreciate the information you provide us online, thank you. /Cheers from Mexico.
My day job is sales. This year, I began to think of what I wear to work like my uniform, paying attention to details, the fit, conscious effort to always present an impeccable professional image no matter what. My sales have noticeably increased, I'm making connections. I feel like I've gone from being an average grunt in the trenches to a Fighter Ace. Details matter guys. Wear the right clothes for your body type. You'd be amazed what that'll do for your mindset and performance. You'll believe in yourself more.
Glad you are experiencing these benefit for yourself, and I'm grateful to you for sharing that with us all
I‘m getting closer to my 40s and let me tell you that a man of my age also appreciates your type of content. For 6 years I’m working in the middle management of a company that’s 275 years old. I’ve noticed a lack in style ever since all of us returned to the office after Covid. Watching your videos to get a bit of a fresh wind to my style was very satisfying. Thank you and keep up with your good work. Cheering for you from France
I am 15 years old and l live in Greece, l love art, fashion and every better thing in life. I feel alone as there are not that many people around me who can understand me. I hide my personality as l will be made fun of for being different. However, knowing that people like you and like the ones in the comments exist, give me hope that there are still others like me and that someday l will be more able to be my self, thank you sir
There are more people like yourself out there than you might imagine. I started this channel to build a community of like-minded men, and I'm glad to have you here!
Μην μασάς λεβέντη!
16 year old here. I can relate, I also love old movies, old music, and things that aren't really common among people our age these days, and I don't really share it with others either
@@internetperson8638 welcome to the community
@@thanosmylonas9781 Δεν μασάω ευχαριστώ! Χαχαχαχαχα
A really Well Done Chanel! Always Watch every video! Greetings from Sweden 🇸🇪
Thank you, sir!
Nice take on "the hero's journey". Well done!
Indeed, thank you!
I'm so happy I found your videos! I'm 78 years old and a lady but I love listening to your great advice and, besides, you are eye candy, too! You, go, James!!!!!! Train those sloppy people out there!!!!!!
Thank you, Alexandra, for such a lovely comment
As a 61 yo 0:29 man totally agree.
Speaks volumes to me. 80 years of age and I can still work on becoming the Most Interesting Man in the World!
Always take a moment before you react to think about how you want your character to act. I think our characters, who we strive to become, are more careful and less reactionary than we are. This pause and discipline leads us to become better men.
Loving theses videos on how to be a more well-rounded man you've been doing lately. It's a great breath of fresh air from the typical "manosphere" content on TH-cam!
Thank you very much, that's exactly my intention. I'm glad that expanding the scope of this channel has gone down well
You are really impressive for your age. Keep it up. You are on your way, and are inspiring even the elder amongst you!
Thank you very much, sir
Good advice, as usual. As for goals, I would like to lose quite a lot of fat and I do want to read more. Some things I want to *continue* doing are doing my skincare every morning and evening, drawing, and dressing sharp especially when I go out almost anywhere. Right now, in particular, I am focused on hopefully graduating soon. Well, it's always a pleasure!
They all sound like great goals to have. Good luck, Jeremiah!
This is an excellent video. I love the reference to King Solomon, and I think we do well to think of ourselves as characters: What traits do we have? What traits do we long to have? What adversity holds us back? And how do we overcome that adversity as we proceed on our quest to become the men we long to be?
It’s a very valuable perspective to take!
Probably my favorite video you have put out so far beside the James Bond attire videos. Keep quality coming!
Thank you, sir
This is my first time watching. Amazing channel. I am focused on growing my businesses and this video is gold.
Thank you, Gent Z.
Great content and presentation…Thanks from New Zealand.
Superb content and presentation. Kudos and many thanks.
Very relaxing, helpful, beautiful and inspiring
To answer your question of what we are currently focusing on... I'm trying (more like struggling) lately to avoid getting in a rut of routines (be it work, family/friend obligations, daily errands, cleaning/organizing/paperwork/bills) and finding time to smell the roses. Some of my roadblocks can be procrastination or feeling like I have to get all of the To-Do list out of the way first before I can take the time to smell the roses. But the To-Do list never seems to have an ending.. which in reality it won't. There will always be something new that pops up. Would love to see some tips and strategies video on this area. In the movie Shawshank Redemption there's the line, "I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living, or get busy dying." Lately I feel I've lost the get busy living part. Not losing sight of it per se, but struggling to have time for it with so many obligations. There's a line in the Lord of Rings in which Bilbo tells Gandalf, “I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.” That's how I'm feeling of late.
What I find to be more effective than to do lists is to schedule my time. So I set aside time in the week to work and do whatever must be done, but also dedicated time to have fun. So that way I always give myself the chance to smell the roses without feeling guilty about it
Great advices gentlemen!
Solomon is one my favorite bible characters , Awesome TH-cam Channel You Got Going On FYI..
Thank you very much
Good one! Bible wisdom completes people & teaches how to be a man. Psalms can be quick fix scriptures for the day.
Love this video, high quality. Incidentally it is for precisely this reason that I am attracted to the style videos: the symbolic power our appearance and style has to positively influence our minds and refine our character. Benefitting everyone around us. Wonderful to have insight into your ‘why’ and your dream. Bravo!
You’re killing it!
Thank you, sir!
love your videos!!
Thank you, sir
Archibald Leach...to...Cary Grant.
You're right...Visualize the life you want..and model your personal life to fit that life.
What's that old adage?..."You've got to fit in to get in".
You must make yourself ready for the life you want.
All of this demands your commitment and dedicated action.
I write this...as I'm making my own changes to live the life I want.
And...I'm 70. It never really ends...it is the journey.
Your channel is the best out there. Thanks a lot. Do a lot more! I’m loving it and doing it!
Thank you very much. I am uploading videos every day
I love your videos, thank you.
Instructions unclear, I’m now the protagonist of a Kung Fu movie
I wnna give you many compliments i wnna say much more but i’d say thank you thank you so much ❤️🙏🏼 you have improved my life
I like this, I play your videos in the background as I prepare for the day and it’s very therapeutic and motivating. Keep being great!
It makes me very happy to know that's how you are watching these videos, thank you for your comment!
This your best video yet. Exactly what I have been trying to articulate in my brain.
Thank you, sir
"Imagining your life as art" that is such a god damn good way of putting it, even though I have always thought very similarly to this video (secretly) I never thought to articulate it that way. Amazing video that is actually perfect for the Literally Me generation(s)
Absolutely spectacular video, per usual. I am working on getting my business up and running. Keep up the great work!
Good luck Jonathan, that’s great to hear
Excellent video. I have thought about the character I built my whole life. I think it's an important part of becoming a better version of you.
Inspiring...TY
Wow, there are not enough thumbs up for this video. Great topic and so very well done! Lots to think about here.
I find that being open to reinventing yourself from time to time ads more color and texture to your life. And keeps you young. I learn everyday from young and old people alike. Never give up a child-like curiosity. I’ve really enjoyed your videos, you have a very sound head on your shoulders.
This is absolutely encouraging advice, please do more videos like this! Avidly enjoying your content, I heard you recommended by RMRS and that’s what brought me here.
Thank you, sir! Antonio is a great guy - had dinner with him in Chicago just this weekend
The music is a little loud but a fantastic video. LOVE the concept and your content has helped me a lot. Thank you!
Great video, thanks :) would you mind giving me info about the music? Really enjoyed it
Very inspiring
Great advice. Keep up the good work. You are so right style is key. Love your advice on Rituals have quite a few rituals . And life is a journey. I never thought about it before but I have always tried to be the main character. Thanks. cheers Ron
Thank you Ron. This can indeed by a subconscious process too
Great perspective and content. Might I suggest a series on how set up an apartment for a gentleman along with what kind of activities should be done there.
I'm currently working on this myself because I moved into a new apartment a week ago and I'm furnishing it from scratch. So I will definitely make some content about this as it starts coming together!
You are so right. I'm 71 and I've based my life on Cary Grant with a little Jerry Lewis mixed in. And yes dressing the part it put you there. Thanks for putting the message out there
Biggest area of current focus is my body - I’m probably in better shape than the average 35 year old man, to be fair, but I’m looking to go completely Beast Mode and hit the highest peak of all-round health and fitness of my life.
Good for you!
Love your videos! But turn down the music a bit, music should be on the background and not battle with your voice for attention
thank you for the feedback - I will implement that in my next videos
@@jheagy1234567890 The music is ok but sometimes is louder than the voice
The music was a tiny bit loud compared to the voice, but I really like the music, very relaxing
@@Gent.ZJust like a tad, but the music is a nice touch.
Good video.
Please keep it up
I got a lot out of this video, thanks
What are thoughts on Charles Trywhittt and on Hawes & Curtis ? Specifically, for buying shirts. Thanks
They’re both good value for money. The fit of their clothes doesn’t work great for me but many of my subscribers love them
CT has a lot of choice in their shirts: fit, fabric, collar style, sleeve length... I own 20 shirts and have never been disappointed.
Everyone seems to be invested in you as a character. I’d like to see videos about you as a person and a day I’m the life of a gentleman
I just discovered you, but great quality content, and amazing delivery man.
Keep it up - Ill follow your progress and apply some tips :)
Let me also answer your question then:
I moved to Italy recently (well 1 year ago) with my wife and kids, after having built my life and whole new identity in Spain (I am originally Dutch).
Now Im looking to (re)build a group of friends, but with interest and passions that I have now developed. Looking to create a club of likeminded people around investing/ starting business, building treehouses for our kids and planning long cycling trips.
Main focus: male companionship.
I live and totally agree with this. Great men have done this since the dawn of time. Caeser romanticized hus life in the image of Alexander the Great and Hemingway did the same with Lord Byron.
Great work!
Indeed! I'm also a big fan of Byron
Books probably say the stripes and the herringbone work. But, imho the stripes should be of a different gauge (I'll go with broader) from the jacket pattern. In other words, I feel this is too much busyness overall. But that a middle segue between the solid tie and the herringbone, would be with a shirt with somewhat broader stripes.
Would it be possible to turn down the music a bit?
Absolutely love your works, i have seen a few by now and i highly appreciate them - just tge music pls
Suit supply was amazing btw! Signed up for their custom made program. Picking up my jacket after alterations in a week👌
Do u have any personal recs for pockets squares and ties?
Great work! If you're asking about styles, I find knit ties in solid colors and plain linen pocket squares with border edges to be the most versatile. Suit Supply is also great for these, but it can be expensive. Tie Bar is a good inexpensive resource
What kind of music is used in this video?, I love it!
Fitness and diet.
Gonna fit into that 007 suit and tie. :)
Now I'm trying to be more confident. See, I have a huge problem with it for example I'm scare of little conversations and meeting new people seem impossible for me. I'm actually don't know what to do with this, I tried many metodics, but nothing works for me. Although in my 15 I'm pretty confident to put on a suit or dress shoes, I am a big fan of ties (I have big collection of about 30 or more), but I don't know what to do with hands during a conversation (as an example).
I'm 32 fresh out a toxic relationship with a bipolar/borderline partner. I like the idea of a fresh start and upscaled style, but my personality is more laid back and I look at my home and job as both ankleweights and a starting point for getting back out there before I get much older. I am willing to change, and have, but am timid about major life decisions at the moment, and hate the idea of dating and most experiences just reinforce that opinion.
oh yes this is the heaven of youtube, i've founded it 😮
The music plays a bigger role than your words.
To mine imaginary best of my self i want to improve enveromental buisnes, helping to save the planet but non been a hippie whit no style or etiquet and your chanel helps me to much to refine miself and be a genttleman in this modern life.
What type of Jazz is in the background?
A Brilliant vid mine, is a Business. but clothes and accessories are still up there
Good luck with the business, sir!
what's the movie at 0:15 ?
I love these video series, but I gotta say your BGM around the "why" section of this video was very distracting. 😄
FYI The saxophone and music is drowning your audio out.
I'm still experimenting with the levels but a couple of people have said that so I will turn it down in future videos
It's important not to go into cartoon mode. I've seen too many young men playing at being James Bond. We need to drill down to the real character not just the surface image.
Nothing wrong with using the character of James Bond as a template and aiming to be a realistic version of that.
@@chimpanzeeenjoyer4667 Absolutely! I'm just saying that Bond is a lot more than Martinis and Walther PPKs.
How to deal with difficult people, and keep your dignity
1:25 brother i love the sax but next time please, prioritize your voice when adding background music
to explain it a bit more, usually in jazz you´ll never heard a sax playing while there is a singer singing, the sax poses a bit like the second vocal, same as the singer never sings when the sax is playing. i dont mean it in a bad way, i really fuckin love jazz and sax too, its just that i had to turn captions on to actually hear what you were saying in that part of the video. the piano is great, but for next time, dont use the sax
music a bit to loud
That music is too loud
Are you British? What's your accent?
hope you are not becoming patrick bateman ;)
That is a narcissistic way to view life.
How?
I only discovered G Z a few days ago. I am truly looking forward to the struggle and transformation, this is what we live for as real men. When people (men in particular),look back on their achievements, it is this that we relish. Everything that follows is a bonus.
We need to be challenged, it is vital.